What Most Men Don't Know About Attracting Women

There are a TON of super-important ALERTS
that I need to let you know about when it comes
to attracting women and also when it comes to
making the most of your life as a man.

It’s been a while, because I’ve been really busy,
and rather than giving advice, I’ve been busy
following my own advice and practicing what
I preach. 

So here we go.  The following points are ALL
equally vital, and are in no particular order:

ONE: THE TRUTH ABOUT INSECURITY

One of the greatest misunderstandings that men
have when it comes to attracting women is regarding
their ideas of confidence, and why confident men
attract women.

So let me focus on one of the big reasons that tends to
NEVER get publicity, but is in reality probably the
BIGGEST reason why confidence is important.

Insecurity is destructive because it actually makes a
guy come across as THREATENING.

In the same way a dog sniffs fear and starts BARKING,
so too human beings can sense (not with their noses,
but with all the other human senses, including the
ability to observe body language including tonality)
fear in others.

When someone around us is feeling NEGATIVE, it
makes the people around that person feel UNEASY,
and feel THREATENED.

Now, considering that a woman ALREADY is somewhat
cautious before allowing a man who is a TOTAL STRANGER
into her life, it sure doesn’t help when this total stranger is
DOING THINGS that make the woman actually FEEL MORE
UNEASY AND FEEL THREATENED.

So many guys think that they come across as a “nice guy”
and come across as “weak” if they don’t show confidence,
but the irony is that they may not EVEN being coming
across as “weak” or “nice” but rather as DOWNRIGHT
CREEPY.

And what hurts me most is that I know how some of the
NICEST and BEST guys end up doing this, giving off
the very OPPOSITE message of who they are, and thereby
letting the JERKS win with women, the jerks who don’t
SEEM like jerks initially to the untrained eye!!!!!!!!

Remember, my specialty is meeting women in completely
NORMAL places that are not associated with “pick-up”.
I like these kinds of places because the attractive women in
night clubs and other pick-up joints tend to not make for
good long-term girlfriends, as they are usually just seeking
adventure and partying and novelty, and not the long term
building of a relationship.

So, in these NORMAL places, such as bookstores, coffee shops,
supermarkets, and just about anywhere else that is not specially
designed for “picking up”, it REALLY COMES ACROSS AS
DESTRUCTIVE if you are not exuding confidence.

You don’t have to be a millionaire. You don’t have to be
male model. But when you approach a woman who is
in a regular place that is not a nightclub or some other
pick-up joint, it becomes VERY IMPORTANT that you
give off the right VIBE that says you are VERY CALM
and VERY RELAXED and NOT NEEDY FOR IMMEDIATE
SEX AT ALL.

It is of PARAMOUNT importance to understand a woman’s
perspective about all this “pick up” stuff.

There was a study done on a university campus where one
average looking young  woman (not super attractive, not ugly,
not dressed with revealing clothing, just dressed normal)
approached about 100 men, propositioning them for instant
sex right then and there in a room not far away on campus.

The VAST MAJORITY of the men ALL SAID YES.
In fact, the one man who said no, APOLOGIZED, saying
he was married, and one other man wanted to do it, but
he wanted to request it for later.

That’s the basic sum total of the study.

They then reversed the study, where a man on campus
went up to about 100 women, propositioning them for
sex on campus right then, right on campus in a room
not far away. 

And guess what?
NOT ONE WOMAN GAVE HIM A YES.

From alllllllll those women, he got ONE phone number.
That’s it.

This should go to PROVE to you that women and men
do NOT react the same to a proposition that CLEARLY
entails an immediate physical intimate element as part
of it.

In fact, to go even FURTHER, they REPEATED the study
with the man propositioning the women.  They thought
that maybe the man was “not good looking enough”, so
they went and got some “good looking guy” to do the
SAME experiment, and even THEN, STILL, the vast
majority of the women STILL rejected the guy!!!!!!

So, I am NOT saying that having GOOD LOOKS DOESN'T HELP.
GOOD LOOKS DO HELP, but they are FAR from the whole
picture when it comes to attracting women.

And, as indicated above, even a guy with MODEL
level looks STILL can't get a woman to sleep
with him if he point blank proposes such a
thing to a woman!

IT'S JUST NOT THE SAME THING FOR MEN AND WOMEN.

So let me save you from having to spend ten years
reading all the studies.  When a man sees a woman who
is HOT, that is ALL HE NEEDS TO KNOW to already
go into SUPER-PURSUIT mode on a genetic level.

I’m not saying he wants to MARRY her, but he is already
going FULL BLAST in terms of desire.

On the other hand, when it comes to what a WOMAN
thinks when a man approaches her, it actually is FAR
more complicated.  What a man who wants to succeed
with her should convey are the following things:

ONE. Convey SAFETY. 

This is one of the reasons I suggest that you do NOT
start the conversation with too much flirtation at all.

I prefer giving a voice that is DEAD SERIOUS.

Remember, a woman has been told since the day she
was born that men are not to be trusted, that men
only want to get physical, that men are the evil
of this earth.

Soooo, rather than playing it up all happy and fun,
in a place that is NOT A PARTY ZONE, (e.g.
that is NOT  a club or disco or popular social
hangout) you actually show that you are NOT
pushing for something that is not being offered.

You therefore ALLOW for her to NOT be perceived
as “cheap” or “low morals” or “low class” if she
talks to you, since OBVIOUSLY from your tonality
you are NOT flirting.

Getting too fast into the flirting actually triggers
her alarms.

This DEAD SERIOUS tonality for the first opening
part of the conversation also does something ELSE
very positive:

TWO: IT SHOWS STATUS

Now, it IS true that SOME women are far, FARRR
LESS into status than other women are.

Often,  the women who are LESS into a man's "status" are
MORE into having raw carnal pleasure with him, but
this is not always the case.  So, yes, it is true, there
are some women who don't care that much about
a man's STATUS.

But all women care about it to at least a SMALL degree.
And when you are starting with a woman who is a total
stranger, you want every honest advantage you can get.

Whether it’s being captain of the football team or
head of the music club, or even just manager
of the store, women LIKE men with status.

Women don’t want to be with a guy who seems to
be on the BOTTOM of the totem pole.  It reeks
of laziness, lack of work ethic, lack of ambition,
lack of zest for life, etc.

In HER mind, if a guy is getting flirty too fast, it
SEEMS to be the actions of a guy who CAN’T GET
WOMEN EASILY so he must RESORT to desperately
hitting on women he finds ANYWHERE.

And THAT reeks of LOW STATUS.

So you DON’T want to go flirty too fast.
And this means not showing such happy vibes in your
voice at the beginning of the conversation, because
chances are, you wouldn’t be that happy talking
about whatever it is, from the produce in the supermarket,
to the magazines at the rack at the bookstore, etc, etc,
if she was NOT a really major knockout to you.

It is HER who is giving you that energy and making
you flirty, and yet you should NOT show it, as it
will come across as desperate and of low status and of
creepiness and possibly danger.

THREE: CREATE A SENSE OF FAMILIARITY

The truth is, we all feel better when there is
something FAMILIAR to the NEW.

Yes, we all like something new if it is good,
but we don’t want it to be so new that it is
something we can’t CONNECT to or relate
to at all.

We like new flavors of ice cream, but
PICKLED ONION ICE CREAM is a little
TOO unfamiliar.

This is where your conversation must create
CONNECTION so you and her can RELATE
to each other on at least some things with which
she is FAMILIAR to.

To achieve this, I prefer to do a bit of   Sherlock
Holmes style detective work on a woman.  I
will notice something she is reading, doing,
or wearing, that may reflect deeply on her
personality, and then I will ask her about that
thing.

If she is reading a book on military history,
I know she is going to be unlike most women,
and I can ask her about that and definitely have
a great conversation. 

If she is in line buying a protein powder, I know
I can talk about working out and how important
nutrition is, and the emotional high you experience 
from a great workout.

There are always TONS of things to speak about
if you train your mind to see them.

THEN, when she speaks and talks about something
that I’ve prompted her to speak about, she then
reveals MORE about herself, allowing me to have
MORE to connect with to her.

And I do not lie, I use things from my own experiences
that in fact DO connect to what she is saying, and so
should you.  If you can’t find ANY connection, then
let her go and try again on another woman.

You MUST connect.  This way, she can establish
you in her mind with something POSITIVE and
FAMILIAR.

I’ve even had fun with women in the cereal section of
the supermarket and pretended what it would be like
to be a kid again and yet have the power to get ANY
CEREAL YOU LIKED.  So this connects familiar
pleasant childhood fantasies with you in real life.

OR, you can take it up a notch to a more adult level
by making an adult innuendo, but do this only after
the conversation has been going smoothly for at
least a few minutes, so that you aren’t starting
out with flirtation.  So for example, if she says
she really craves a certain cereal, you can wink
and say once you get to know me, you may crave
other things…  Use your judgment, it all depends
how well things are going at that point if you are
going to go the adult route.

But once again, if you think for one second that
CONNECTION is not important, you are wrong.

CONNECTION is so important on ALL human
levels. In fact, there was a recent big budget movie
featuring ROBOTS called PACIFIC RIM.

Great effects. But it didn’t do big box office.
Then, for all the haters out there who say they
dislike TRANSFORMERS, which is also about
robots, the fact is TRANSFORMERS has made
BILLIONS of dollars.

The difference between the two stories, is that
the ROBOTS have PERSONALITIES in
Transformers. Whether it’s kids or adults or
whether it’s men trying to get women, if you
DON’T SHOW PERSONALITY, there is
NO FEELING FOR A WOMAN TO LATCH
ONTO.

There has to be an emotional CONNECTION.

It is almost EVERYTHING, especially for getting
the wheels ROLLING in the right direction at the
outset of a conversation with a woman who is a
total stranger.  

FOUR: CONVEYING IT WILL BE PLEASURABLE

This is a strange one, because it doesn’t follow
male logic at all.

For a man, if a woman is attractive, he isn’t worried
about if she is not going to be good in bed.

At least not in the beginning. He is focused on
GETTING to that point, and he’ll worry later
if she was no good in bed.

But women are not the same.  Women are actually
subconsciously THINKING about whether you will
be GOOD in BED completely separate from all the
other things she is subconsciously thinking about
regarding whether or not she is attracted.

What’s also interesting here is that for women,
what makes a man good in bed can depend on many
things, and what may have turned on one woman like
wild may not work at all to turn on another woman,
and in fact if a woman knows you used a certain
move on another woman, that in itself might turn
her off.

So the best things you can do to convey that you
are good in bed is at some point in the conversation
having a PLAYFUL attitude about sex, and also
making it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR that you don’t
judge a woman on her freaky side. 

Don’t be afraid to work in some humor that incorporates
sex into the conversation, just don’t START the conversation
with it.

So, if at one point in the chat, the woman says to you,
“It’s late, I can’t believe I’ve spent so long talking
to you”, you might reply with, “Just imagine how long
things will go for when we aren’t talking”, said with
a mischievous grin.

Or you might say something like, “Yeah, foreplay can
sometimes go on and on, but sometimes you really have
to just get down to business”, again with a mischievous
smile, or you can even say “Yeah, well I was going to
just get your number, but I like to get to know a woman
first, know what I mean?”, which of course she will
appreciate.

Okay, so those are HUGE things on the actual pick-up.

There are a few more things I want to share with you,
about making the most of your life in general, which
of course also makes you a more attractive man to
women as well.

STRATEGIC PLANNING

You can achieve some MASSIVE things if you like. 
And all it requires is STRATEGIC PLANNING.

You don’t have to spend 12 hours a day on it to begin with.
NO ONE is able to start out spending 12 hours a day on the
thing they love.

But you CAN start spending a few MINUTES each day.
And these MINUTES are the DIFFERENCE between
those who stay MEDIOCRE and those who attain
AWESOME goals.

This is because the minutes gain MOMENTUM, in terms
of the quality of the improvements you make, which then
motivates you with the confidence, accomplishments, and
the fuel to spend MORE time each day on those goals.

NEVER underestimate the power of a few MINUTES a day.

This is true, by the way, when it comes to APPROACHING
women as well.

When I started off, it was just a few MINUTES in the morning
and at lunch.  I did this and had A BLAST of FUN approaching
women anywhere I saw them.  My heart felt like it was going
to EXPLODE from the pressure, but I LOOOOOVED doing it.

MEETING WOMEN IS THE MOST AWESOME THING.

And so too, ACHIEVING GREAT GOALS is an AWESOME
THING, AND YOU CAN START WITH JUST MINUTES A DAY.

Then, you can increase the amount of time as you start to
fall in love with your progress, you will suddenly find the
time and energy to spend MORE time on your goals without
sacrificing your job or anything like that.  You may even
IMPROVE at your job because of your sense of self-esteem
and because of what you are learning about your own
potential to perform.

SLEEP

I have to put this in here, because it’s so under-rated.
SLEEP is a big thing.

There’s very little money in sleep aside from selling beds
and sleeping pills, (which could be addictive and dangerous),
so you don’t hear about it a lot.

But the truth is, sleep is crucial for your mind and your body.
You are not getting further ahead by getting less sleep.

Go to bed early, and get up early.

There’s a great movie out there called Rush, a true story
about two race-car drivers, and the guy who keeps on winning
is the guy who is less showy, less flashy.  He talks about
winning the race, going home early to get to sleep and training
to win for the next race. He goes through enormous hell
and punishment in the movie, and his determination keeps
him sharp.

So forget about the late-night partying or late-night anything.

PHYSICAL WORK-OUTS

There is so much INSANITY spread on the internet
about this.

Keep it SIMPLE.

GET TO THE GYM.
Now before starting any new exercise or diet
program, consult with your doctor. So do that
first.

Okay, here we go:

Do 5 sets of 10 reps of the following exercises.
Start with a light weight for your first set, then
work your way up with more weight each set,
until you reach your fifth and heaviest set where
you could barely complete the final rep.

If any of these exercises bother your
back or joints, then you may use another
similar exercise as a replacement.

DAY ONE
Flat Bench Barbell Presses
Incline Dumbbell Presses
Dips (body weight)
Pec-Deck Machine

DAY TWO
Full Squats
Leg Curls

DAY THREE
Military Presses (Dumbbells)
Wide-Grip Chin-Ups
Bent-Over Rows
Shrugs
Lateral raises

DAY FOUR
Barbell Curls
Standing French Presses (Triceps)    
Leg raises and incline sit-ups
(Use body weight for leg raises
and incline sit-ups, 3 sets each
for as many reps as possible)

Every day, do cardiovascular activity as well.
That means, use one of the cardiovascular machines
like treadmills or cycles for at least 20 minutes.

After working out with weights for four days, take
one to two days off, and begin the cycle again.

DIET

You will need to eat at least 5 small meals a day.
Stick to lean protein for your proteins at every meal.
Lean chicken, turkey, egg whites, skim milk, lean cheeses.
Carbs such as whole grains, whole pastas, sweet potatoes,
plenty of salads, moderate on the fruits.

Get plenty of water, at least 8 glasses a day.
If you can afford organic, get organic, but also learn
about the politics of organics, as not all organics are
equal.   

And one last MASSIVE thing:  You hear plenty about how
too much sugar and fat is not a good thing, right?

But you barely EVER hear about how DESTRUCTIVE
too much SALT or sodium is. 

Most packaged foods are INSANELY high in salt.
A lot of places and products that like to
portray themselves as HEALTHY alternatives
because they have choices that are low in
fat are actually ENORMOUSLY HIGH in sodium.

In fact, just ONE SERVING of many processed foods
contains MORE SODIUM than any human being on earth
should consume in an entire DAY.

TOO MUCH SODIUM IS DANGEROUS.

Ask questions, read labels, and be selective.

Okay, so I’ve given you some MASSIVE pointers
in the right direction to get you STARTED on the
path to GREAT SUCCESS with women. 

If you would like to get all the details figured out
regarding ANYTHING mentioned in this newsletter, in
a way that is perfectly CUSTOMIZED for your
situation, then it makes sense that you should get
a PRIVATE CONSULTATION with me, either in person
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Private coaching allows me to apply all my years
of experience toward helping you in the most
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To learn more about this service go here:
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I need to mention something else at this point.
The RIGHT WOMAN changes EVERYTHING in your life.

Stephen Hawking has written that he was at a
very low point in his life, when he started
to realize the extent of his physical condition
as a young man.  But meeting the right woman
actually CHANGED his entire outlook, and according
to his own words, GAVE HIM A REASON TO LIVE.

You don't have to even LIKE Stephen Hawking
to realize the effect that one good woman
can have on one man, and by extent, on
all of HUMANITY itself.

Man was MEANT to be with woman, but not with the
WRONG woman.

The wrong woman will DESTROY a man, but the RIGHT
WOMAN will set a man to LIFE, he will be EXPLODING
with energy and creativity and a sense of calm as well.

I have focused my mission to helping men get GREAT
women.  

I do this, in a world where there are so many LIES out
there.  In fact, the BIGGER the lie, sometimes the MORE
likely that lie is going to be BELIEVED.

Whether it’s how to get in shape, or how to get women,
there are going to be some OUTLANDISH theories
out there that sound absolutely ridiculous, but because
of the very RIDICULOUS nature of them, SOME
folks are going to assume that it MUST be true,
because, they think, “How can someone make up
a lie that is THAT outrageous???”

And the answer is because it WORKS to SUCK SOME
PEOPLE IN.

I also am not criticizing the victims of these schemes,
as I myself may have been a target of these schemers
at one time myself.

The world has a lot of sleazebags in it, and that includes
salespeople, it includes people in all professions and jobs,
and include a lot of men and a lot of women.

Most people are okay, but there are still a  LOT of
sleazebags with ZERO remorse for the lies and
pain they cause in giving advice that does not
help.

Some of these people who spread lies can't even be called
"sleazebags" because they do not even KNOW they are
spreading lies.

Some of these people actually BELIEVE in the lies they
are spreading, because they refuse to use a scientific
approach requiring EVIDENCE to assess the value or
lack of value of their advice.  

And while all this is going on, there are also SOME 
people out there who are AMAZINGLY helpful and
ethical as well.

I saw a study where people were told they were involved
in an experiment where everyone volunteered, and where
the people were supposed to hit a button that administered
an electric shock to a person in another room, a person
who was also a volunteer and who supposedly signed up
for this experiment.

The experiment was designed to see if people will stand
up to authority.  In reality, no electric shocks were
administered, but the participants did not know this.

When told by a person in charge, they were to turn a
knob that would give an electric shock to a person
in the other room.  

Most of the participants had no problem giving
ELECTRIC SHOCKS to others, EVEN when the people
in the other room could be heard SCREAMING from
the pain (the ones receiving the “shocks” were
actors pretending, but the people in the experiment
who were administering the “shocks” did NOT
know that in fact there was no electricity. The
people turning the knobs indeed believed that
they WERE giving a faceless stranger in another
room a series of electric shocks).

But there were SOME people who DID resist
AUTHORITY and REFUSED to administer
more “shocks” until they could see that the
person was okay in the other room.

So my point is this:

Just like there are differences amongst men, there
are also differences amongst women; SOME
women are made of better moral fiber than others.
You CAN detect a woman’s personality with the
skills I teach as well, which is something I get into
in my program called “Warrior Within”, which you
can check out by going HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This special program also goes into a TON of other
absolutely VITAL insights for getting and
keeping a woman of incredible quality.
 
Finally, I want to make it clear that there are
SOME things that women find UNIVERSALLY
attractive among men: These things include being
the kind of man who is a GO GETTER, who gets
things done, who is not afraid to calmly put a woman
in her place if she gets out of hand no matter how
beautiful she is, and it includes a man who knows
how to make things FUN and sensual when it comes
down to that side of things in the bedroom.

Also, women universally are attracted to men who know
how to handle themselves in any social environment,
and with my programs, your social skills will skyrocket
in ALL environments with ALL people, and of course,
you will also learn the best ways to approach and attract
women no matter WHERE you find them.

Many of my programs are less than 20 bucks!!!!
That is INSANE.  If cost is an issue, then definitely
start with those programs; you are going to get
ten times your investment in terms of results
with women from ANY of the programs that you
purchase from me.

Check out ALL my programs now at:

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You will notice one thing about my programs,
though.  And that is there is NO "get rich
quick" scheme or "how to get women without
actually putting in any effort."

In REAL LIFE, there are no short cuts.
There is no "great body" in 3 minutes of
workout a day with eating pizza and fries
and drinking lots of beer, NO MATTER WHAT
THE BIG MARKETING LIARS TELL YOU.
 
However, staying in IGNORANCE can lead
to NO RESULTS, EVER.

What I will show you is the KNOW-HOW.
THE ULTIMATE IN REAL-WORLD RESULTS.

When you come to my trainings, you are
NOT coming to some playground to just
pretend you are doing something.
  
You are coming to face reality and put
in the work that needs to be done to
CHANGE your reality.

And for the ultimate in training, I offer you
PERSONAL LIVE COACHING ONE ON ONE,
in person, or via phone or email.

Get the life you want, with the woman you want, NOW.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Use Humor To Succeed With Women

In a world of confusion and lies, I would
like to spread some TRUTH when it comes
to attracting women.  I’m on a break right
now, so I only have a few minutes before
I have to get back to the real thing, so
this is going to be “short and sweet” today.

Have you ever heard women say they like
a guy who is FUNNY?

This is one of those things you have to be
careful of, because there are plenty of guys
who are funny that don’t seem to get the
women, but then again there are other
guys who are funny who seem to get
incredible women. 

So allow me to explain what is going on.

Humor can be used to convey different things.

For example, it can be used to convey
CONFIDENCE.

If a woman asks you about where you live,
or what you do, and you can tell she is asking
it just to make conversation and not because
it really is a serious question, or if you can
tell how most guys try so hard to qualify
themselves and try to impress women
with their answers, you can instead say
something like:

“I live in a cardboard box and I am very
ambitious, as I plan to move into a huge
cardboard box as soon as I get one from
someone throwing out their cardboard box for
a big-screen TV.”

So you are being funny and you are simultaneously
showing you don’t feel a need to qualify yourself,
so you are showing confidence.

At the same time, humor of ANY sort can be
powerful when you are trying to break through
the barriers of being a TOTAL STRANGER when
you see a woman out in public somewhere that
you would like to meet.

If you can get a woman LAUGHING, you
OVER-RIDE the part of her brain that plays
the TOO-CAUTIOUS role and in general works
to shut DOWN the guys who approach her.

But since you got her LAUGHING, she
can’t help but feel DIFFERENTLY and
feel more POSITIVE about this whole
situation.

So humor does not always have to be about
ATTRACTION or even CONFIDENCE in
order to be of MASSIVE VALUE when
meeting and approaching women, especially
women who are total strangers.

With all the stories on the news regarding
psychos, it sure helps if you can get a woman
RELAXED when you are approaching her.

Studies have shown that it is hard to NOT LIKE
someone who had just made you laugh three times.

A lot of men worry about coming across in some
creepy  way to women.  Well, one SIMPLE answer
to this problem is to get her laughing, because if
she is laughing, she SIMPLY CANNOT HELP
BUT FEEL MORE POSITIVE ABOUT YOU.

So now, at that point, you can NOW unleash
ALL of your skills that you have learned on
attracting women, because she is now OPEN
to the DISCUSSION with you. 

So humor can OPEN THE DOORS for you
to allow you to work your magic.

By the way, there's one last element
regarding humor that I didn't mention
here, that is in a way the most
IMPORTANT of all, and it is something
that just about all women realize:

Powerful humor also conveys INTELLIGENCE.

So, in a world where so many men seem to
only be able to whistle cat-calls at women,
and who seem to only have the one-dimension
of being interested in the physical, it
is EXTREMELY POWERFUL to be able to CONVEY
to women that in addition to having a
PHYSICAL INTEREST IN HER (which she
already knows if she is attractive),
you also have OTHER ELEMENTS TO YOUR PERSONALITY,
including INTELLIGENCE.

Intelligence is one of those things that
you don't want to convey in a dry CEREBRAL
way, but rather in a JUICY EMOTIONAL WAY.

And powerful humor allows you to do
exactly that- it PROVES your intelligence
and it does it without sounding BORING
and without sounding as if you are insecure
and have to explain it directly.

INDIRECT and EMOTIONAL is the way to
CONVEY what you want to convey, and
HUMOR conveys intelligence in an
INDIRECT and EMOTIONAL way.

And if you would like to learn MORE about
humor, I suggest you check out a special
audio program I conducted with a man who
I personally met several times, and who I
can verify is fantastic with women and who
even once served as a guest instructor and
speaker at one of my bootcamps.

He had no real experience with women until
he was 26 years old, and then he decided to
change everything around for himself when it
came to women.  He learned it all from scratch,
and his story is even described in a best-selling
book.

One of the big things about this man is that he
also happens to be INCREDIBLY FUNNY.

In fact, just about everything regarding his style
with attracting women involves humor.  

I got a chance to conduct a special interview with
him where all we did was focus on one topic, and
that topic is HUMOR.

I HIGHLY SUGGEST YOU LISTEN TO THIS PROGRAM.

It is very rare to get a chance to get “into the mind”
of a guy like this, who really “gets it” when it comes
to humor.

Download this special program IMMEDIATELY and
you can be using it in just MINUTES from now.

It’s at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Dealing With "Flaky" Women And Approaching "Moving Targets"

Sometimes the answers to guys' questions
about "pick up" and attracting women can be
VERY useful to many OTHER guys.

That's the case today, so here we go:  
    
***LETTER FROM A READER***

"Hi Michael,

On Sunday I met this gorgeous girl from
south Africa. I managed to get her email
by being THE MAN. Unfortunately we have
a very limited time frame because she's
leaving on wednesday. So, it's most
likely sex or nothing.

I'm from Berlin and she only speaks a
little German. So, we communicate in
English using email. This is cumbersome
because she's only online in pubs and
internet cafes.

However, I think she's playing games
(gorgeous and probably used to lots
of ass kissing). On sunday she mentioned
that she would like to go to a museum
today (Monday). So I proposed to visit
a museum together via email.

First she agreed and then canceled the
date in a second email ten minutes later
claiming she just met a friend.

She said she would get back later today
to fix a date for tomorrow (tuesday).
She didn't. So currently I'm thinking
about waiting till Tuesday noon until
I send her the following mail:

-------------8<---------snip------------->
Hi xxxx,

This is the second time you kind of stood
me up. So, I think your playing games.
However, I don't like being played with.

Please think about it. If you agree that
this is inappropriate behavior I'll accept
an apology and we should go out tonight.
Otherwise, enjoy your trip and good luck
with your internship.

x
-------------8><---------snip------------->

Is this appropriate or should I just ignore
her and see if she gets back? Is the
language OK? Am I too rude?

It's also possible that she's just hung over
from Sunday night. But then she should say so.
What do you think?

Thanks for any advice and your excellent programs.

Ronnie"

***MY REPLY***

Hi xxxxx,

Thanks for contacting me and for the kind words.

Regarding your question, I think the best
thing to do is NOT to IN ANY WAY let her
know she is pissing you off until you have
LEVERAGE in the situation.

And since she has just met you, there isn't
much leverage in your situation right now.

Showing frustration at this point to her,
or telling her that you think she is standing
you up, etc, will just come across as her
being the prize.

Also, as you mention, it's possible that
there are reasons, i.e. hung over, etc.

I would just PERSIST, but in the way that
a man who HAS OPTIONS and is ALREADY in
a great mood would persist.

And I would keep it ALL playful. 

Tell her to get her ass to the museum or
anywhere else, in a PLAYFUL confident way
that shows NONE OF THIS is bothering you
because you are the kind of man who
UNDERSTANDS the reality of a hot woman
and that until she knows you better
it's simply hard for her to know who
you really are and how awesome it is
to be with you. 

And think how you would behave as the
MAN WHO IS IN A GREAT MOOD with tons
of options who just happens to also
find her attractive.

One of the great ironies is that until
you EXPERIENCE the amount of choice that
a hottie gets, it often seems almost
IMPOSSIBLE to understand things from
that perspective, and yet it is THAT
perspective that is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important for success.

Think and behave like a HOT woman who
is on CLOUD NINE when it comes this
part of her life (dating)!

Then, when you behave THAT way, you automatically
become a BILLION times more attractive in your
BEHAVIOR and your mannerisms reflect the right
level of confidence, fun, and sensuality.

Also, when you understand her perspective, you
understand that nothing is meant by her maliciously,
and that in fact she probably DID enjoy meeting you,
it's just not an EMERGENCY to have to meet up again
in so little time, especially when she really does
not know you and how awesome you are.

The irony is that as you adopt this attitude,
you start to get so many women in your life
who are actually the ones chasing you, and
you find yourself behaving just like this
chick and without being malicious at all,
in fact you would think that if a chick
who was almost a stranger got upset at you
for not being able to meet up, you might
start to wonder why on earth is she
getting upset.   

By the way, I want to say that I learned
all this the hard way, but it made a
MASSIVE difference once it sunk in
and will make a massive difference
for you too, I am sure.

And now, let's move to our next reader's questions:

***ANOTHER LETTER FROM A READER***

"Good day Michael,

I want to ask your help regarding cold approaches.

In your Dating Wizard ebook, you mention that
the very first step in making approach is to
"Establish eye contact and walk right up
to her".

But from my decent experience, I noticed most
of the time, she would rather talk to her
friends (if she’s in a group) or tend to be
busy/pre-occupied to noticed a stranger like
me if they are alone ie. Phone-calling,
shopping, reading books etc.

Sometimes, they are walking way too fast before
I even have time to make my move.

So, my question is, does the approach always
have to start with eye contact?
What are the exceptions?

And how do I get started if she just keeps
busy doing her things?

Ever since I started out, I do get polite
responses from women, (sometimes their number)
but hardly get a date.

But that’s okay. I am still trying to get
the hang of it.

Now I am currently living near  my capital city.

And on the weekend, I do go out to public places
which are normally crowded with people (shopping
mall, train stations etc) and have a high chance
to meet some hotties.

But the problem is, I have several difficulties
in approaching women in such places.

I noticed at first that whenever I screen for her
looks (face, body, dress, or anything particular
that fills my taste), most of the time, I take
way too long to figure out whether she’s my
taste or not.

By the time I decide to do something, the women are
probably halfway down the escalators or far enough
that requires me to chase just for the sake of the
approach, which later on, I decided to stop halfway
since…

1. It burns a lot of my energy to chase her
around like that.

2.It looks creepy especially if she noticed me,
which tend to make her walk even faster.

3.It changes my positive state from being playful
or intrigue to just a tired exhausted guy.

It happens A LOT  that sometimes I feel that
this style of approach is just too much for me.

Where did I messed up?

How do I approach a moving target without affecting
my inner state, and make that SPLIT-SECOND decision
to check her out and approach before she was long gone?

How can I improve and develop the right skills to
approach women in such a tough environment?

Michael, I need your help right now, because deep
down inside I know you are the BEST advice that
I can get.

Feel free to share this if you want to. Maybe
the good guys out there can benefit from this
information too

Thanks for your time.

Sincerely,

A., Malaysia"

***MY REPLY***

First of all, congratulations on taking ACTION
and not just being an observer of attractive women.

Also, I think it's cool how the art and skill
of approaching and meeting women and attracting
them is often so similar even halfway across
the world. In other words, getting these skills
will get guys women ANYWHERE they go.

ABOUT EYE-CONTACT:

Onto your first question regarding eye-contact
and how it seems so many women have their
attention on a book, phone call, or talking
to their friends, shopping, etc.

If you can't make eye-contact right away,
DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, and GO RIGHT AHEAD
with the approach anyway.

The real point behind the eye-contact is that
eye-contact is VERY important.

The Dating Wizard book is an important
FOUNDATION for any man's success with
women, so that is why I stress the
CORE FOUNDATION concepts in that book.

Giving eye contact right away shows that you
aren't a creepy guy, that you aren't afraid
of revealing your interest in her.

Giving eye contact also says you are
interested in learning more about HER,
as the expression goes, "the eyes are
the window to the soul".

And giving eye contact and maintaining it
instead of looking away when she looks
back shows you are CONFIDENT because you
are implying that you feel you have
the value and that you are ready to
PROCEED with her rather than EJECT. 

So eye contact is IMPORTANT.

You should be making steady eye-contact and
not darting your glance all around the place
instead of focusing it on her.

Being able to look right into the eyes of
a woman who is super hot, and MAINTAIN
eye contact is sometimes a challenge if
a guy is new at this thing, because she
is so hot that it almost feels like
you're being COOKED in her hotness, but
this is GOOD, as the longer you force
yourself to stay in there, the easier
it gets in the future, and the more
your mind calibrates itself and
perceives yourself as being the
kind of guy that has these women
in his everyday reality.

So again, if you can't make eye contact
BEFORE speaking, then just go right ahead
and START speaking and she will then
TURN toward you and THEN you will easily
make eye contact, which you should maintain.

This is where using the RIGHT voice tonality
for opening is even MORE important, so that
whatever she was doing PRIOR to your approach
becomes VAPORIZED in her mind and all her
attention immediately goes toward YOU.

Remember, the right tonality is often a
combination of SEVERAL states of mind,
being upbeat, being in touch with your
sensual side (imagine the slow delivery
of the way a person might say that
"the chocolate cake was sinnnnnnnnfully good,
it was friggen awwwwwwwwwwwwwwsome"),
and being dominant. 

These EMOTIONAL STATES can be CONVEYED in
your TONALITY, and they help like crazy
to open your conversations with women
successfully.

So from now on, you no longer will be held
back from taking action just because you
can't immediately make eye contact, right?

Now, regarding your other point:

WOMEN WHO ARE MOVING TARGETS

You mentioned that by the time you finish
screening the women they are usually out
of reach, i.e. "halfway down the escalators"
or that the situation would then require
you to chase after them, which would
burn your energy, get you out of the
right state of mind, and that it looks
CREEPY.

EXACTLY, I agree TOTALLY.
This is why, as you notice in the beginning
of the book, I mention how the skill of
attracting women is a skill that you spend
time practicing so that when the skill is
required you can go into action IMMEDIATELY.

This INCLUDES the ability to quickly make
a decision on whether to make the approach
or not.

In fact, this is a HUGE, HUGE, HUUUUUUUUUGE
thing that will make a MASSIVE difference
for you in the future.

And, if you CAN'T make the decision fast enough,
then I ALWAYS believe you SHOULD make the approach.

There is NOTHING to lose, because at WORST
if the woman is not exactly your interest,
you can always decide that LATER, i.e.
during your chat with her.

If you notice while chatting to her that she
is NOT what you are interested in, you can
just treat the chat as a social interaction
and let her go without leading her on.

AND, the practice will just make you better
anyway for the NEXT approach.  

There's no DOWN side to making the approach.

I do agree that CHASING after women in terms
of PHYSICALLY trying to catch up with them
is bad strategy for all those reasons, it
gets you out of the right frame of mind
and puts you into a more desperate one
by the very nature of the act of running
after these women, plus it can be exhausting
if you do this all day, plus it can look
creepy.

Save yourself from ALL that by taking action
IMMEDIATELY.  Get yourself into the habit
of taking immediate action, and this will
ALSO help you speed up your ability to know
whether you are physically attracted or not
to where it only takes a split-second.

When you get good at this skill, it only
takes a SPLIT-SECOND to know if you are
interested or not in a woman.

I also want to add one little comment here:
To any guy that thinks this all seems like
a lot of WORK to get a chick, let me PLEASE
make one thing SUPER DUPER-FRIGGEN DUPER
CLEAR:

Until you are actually IN THE ACTUAL MOMENT
of doing this stuff, I can't possibly describe
to you with enough justice just how much
EXCITEMENT is sparked by the knowledge that
WOMEN WHO ARE TOTAL STRANGERS RIGHT IN FRONT
OF YOU CAN SOON BE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS OR LOVERS
OR WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH THEM by simply
TAKING THE RIGHT ACTIONS.

All the entertainment in the world, and believe
me I absolutely LOVE movies, and I used to be
addicted to video games, all these things are
still NOTHING compared to the EXCITEMENT of
not only MEETING women, but MEETING THEM
AS TOTAL STRANGERS out in the REAL WORLD.

On a very basic primal level, this is really
what we are all HARDWIRED to do, even more
than enjoying video games or watching movies,
the idea of GETTING WOMEN is in fact a huge
part of a lot of movies and video games!

And the action and skills and strategies
of meeting women out there for real
actually forces your mind to use just
about ALL it's resources, it uses your
sense of timing, your social skills, your
wit, your humor, your passion, your empathy,
your courage, it uses ALL OF YOUR EMOTIONS.

To be honest with you, for a while I was
ADDICTED to this as well, it was an escape
I used for some personal issues which I have
since worked on for years. I still believe that
meeting women is a great POSITIVE motivator
for making progress in many OTHER important
areas of life as well.

When the right woman or women are in your life, you are ON.
When the right woman or women aren't in your life, it almost feels like being ASLEEP.

The key of course is balance, and meeting
the kind of women who give you great
emotions and not negative ones.

So again, if anyone thinks that meeting women
this way is some kind of challenge, the answer
is that it is the most exciting, fun, rewarding
and PRIMAL challenge there is, it's what we
were all BORN to do.

And if you're reading this right now,and would
like to get these skills for attracting women
out there who are total strangers and turning
them into the women who are crazy about you,
crazy about getting naked with you, crazy
about driving you wild in bed, and who can't
wait to be with you again, I would LOVE to be
the guy who serves you as your most dedicated
coach all in REAL TIME on tons of real women.

I will teach you in an EXCLUSIVE private bootcamp,
one-on-one, for two entire days as you learn the
skills for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE.

To sign up for the Real World Bootcamp go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

I'd also like to mention a very important program
of mine, called the Attraction Mastery Program.

For many men, before they are ready to meet
that special girl who is THE ONE, they need
to DATE a lot of women.  That makes sense,
you get experience with women before you
know exactly what you want.

In my Attraction Mastery Program, I focus on
ONE THING, and that thing is ATTRACTION.

And by attraction, I also mean the attraction
that makes a woman want to get "down and dirty"
with you, if you know what I mean.

This program ANSWERS all the "nitty gritty"
questions guys have, it EVEN shows you exactly
how to walk right into a club, get a woman
seated privately with you in seconds, and
be hard-core making out with her in just
moments from then, even if she is NOT drunk
or tipsy at all.

This program also shows you how to do "pick up"
ANYWHERE you meet a woman.
  
This program is so powerful, that I personally
think that you are going to have to be CAREFUL
about which women you decide you WANT in your
life and which ones you don't, because this
program is not particularly designed for
any ONE kind of woman, it is going to get
you TONS of women, and it's up to YOU to
decide what kind of woman you want after that.
    
This program was professionally recorded in
the studio and contains TWELVE HOURS of pure
GOLD on how to attract women no matter WHERE
you find them.

You can take what you learn from this program and
be using it on women IMMEDIATELY.

Download it NOW, at:
     
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks