Two Of My Most POWERFUL Secrets On Attracting Women

Today, I want to share with you two EXTREMELY
powerful and positive strategies for attracting
women, and the great thing is that BOTH of
these techniques are EASY to apply on just
about ANY woman you find ANYWHERE.

These are strategies that have come in really useful
for my clients, including clients in my bootcamp programs.

In my bootcamps, I teach men how to do
everything for real, in real time, in real life,
as they approach women just about
everywhere you can imagine, from bookstores
to cafes to public transit and tons of other
everyday normal places you find women
all the time.

I also am adamant about my students having
the absolute highest standards of skill.  Skill
means actually mastering the ability to approach
and attract women who are mature, intelligent,
and who have great morals, instead of women
who are drunk out of their minds or who are
promiscuous, immature, etc.

It's a whole different level of skill when you
are dealing with quality women.

Here we go:

1. GET HER INVOLVED IN GETTING YOU!

What this means is that no matter where you
first happen to see a woman, you should try
to get her ACTIVELY involved in the act
of winning you over.

This is NOT hard to do.

For example, let’s say you see her sitting at
a table next to you at a coffee shop.

Get her to HAVE to say something positive about you.

So, you might say the following to her:

“Hey there, I’m curious about something.
If I were playing a bad guy in a movie, that
has ONE redeeming positive quality, what
is ONE THING that my face or mannerisms
seem to imply that is positive about me?

I realize this is just totally superficial, but
based just on what you see about me, just
like a casting director in a movie, what
might that ONE positive thing be?”

So now, by doing this, you’ve ALREADY
 set a TON of cool things in motion.

For one thing, you mentioned that you
were playing the BAD GUY.

This is a fantastic move, because it shows that
you aren’t all arrogant that you have to be the
hero.

It also gets rid of the “nice guy” weak vibes
and has the sexy bad boy vibes going for you.

It also does NOT engage her negative reverse
psychology, i.e. if you said you were the big
shot hero, then the first thing she would think
is “riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight, you WISH you were the
big shot”.

So her mind is not going to RESIST this, since
you are saying you are the BAD GUY.

The other cool thing here is that you are only
asking for her to think of ONE positive thing,
so it’s not a big jump in her brain.

PLUS, you are allowing her to now use her
EMOTIONS AND MIND as she PERCEIVES
you in greater depth, instead of just hearing
the same stuff from you that she hears from
every other guy.

The human mind is trying to constantly figure
out how to HANDLE the infinite data coming
in all the time, and how to edit it, because there
is too much sensory input to handle it all.

So, for a woman, when every guy tells her the
same thing, she naturally ends up becoming
desensitized to it, and it's not her fault.

It's like hearing the same song over and over
again, a person just can't get the same emotional
response to that song if it is played a million
times a day.

So if she hears the same thing from you that
she hears from every other guy, especially if
she hears it in the same way, she is more likely
to have become desensitized to it.  She is not
likely to become mentally and emotionally
ENGAGED in whatever is being said to her. 

But when you use the strategy I suggest that
you use instead, you then ENGAGE her mind.

And the more she WORKS at thinking about you,
the more she will feel that indeed there IS something
worthy to be thinking about when it comes to you!

This automatically triggers and combines a whole
RANGE of complex forces,  helping to make her
perceive you in a sexy, cool and meaningful way.

Plus, the more she WORKS for getting your
attention, the more she WANTS to claim her
REWARD for what she worked for!

And that reward is GETTING YOU!

Now, this is just a newsletter, and I promise
you this is just the tip of the iceberg on
what you can do with this concept, and
again, this so far has all happened in just
15 seconds of talking to her!!!!!!!!!!

Imagine what you can do using ALL the
strategies and principles I teach!!!

What I love about this also is that it has NOTHING
to do with trying to put a woman down, nothing to
do with harming her self-esteem. Instead, it’s
about how to simply make her see YOU in the
absolute most powerful sexy way, and what’s
AWESOME about it all, is that it’s HER who
is coming up with the sexy picture of you,
it’s all happening in HER mind, and NOTHING
can compete with the fantasy she creates of
you for herself.

And I promise you this as well: When a woman
starts to even IMAGINE a fantasy that is so
perfect, she will then RECREATE and re-interpret
EVERYTHING else in her reality so she can
ENJOY AND LIVE THE FANTASY FOR REAL.

She will re-frame any “flaws” you have as positive
things, simply because she WANTS it to be true,
she WANTS you to be that what she has in her
mind so badly, that she will do the same work
in her own mind to MAKE you that fantasy.

2. POSITIVE SOCIAL PROOF!

This is another super-easy and powerful strategy.
Anytime you are at a party and there’s a lot of
women you want to meet who you don’t know,
simply go up to any group and have a super
BRIEF chat, then tell them:

“Hey it was great meeting you all, I’m just
going to say hi to some friends!”

Then proceed to do this EXACT SAME THING
on the ENTIRE place.

In a very quick time, you will have actually
‘SOCIALLY PROOFED’ yourself by mingling
with the entire crowd, which now automatically
makes every woman feel even stronger about
you.

And indeed, these people ARE your friends, at
least now they are since you have met them all!

You can then return to ANY group of women
that you want and focus on attracting the woman
you are particularly interested in, and SHE will
be far more attracted to you before you even say
another word to her, simply because she sees
you now as being “socially proofed”.

‘Social Proof’ is a very, VERY powerful force,
it means that when OTHER people give you
“proof” that you are “worthy” then everyone
ELSE also starts to see you as ‘worthy’.

Now, you don’t HAVE to use this all the time,
but it works PERFECTLY when you are in big
social situations where the truth is you would
WANT to meet a lot of the women first before
focusing on just one.

These are just TWO super-easy and IMMENSELY
powerful strategies that you can use to attract
the women of your choice. The first strategy
is actually many strategies combined into one,
and there is much, MUCH more.

It is for this reason that I want to bring your attention
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and easy-to-use strategies for attracting women: It is the
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The Attraction Mastery Program gives you TONS
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lounges, trains, buses, libraries, or anywhere else!

I put in YEARS into the making of this program, so
that it would be the very best of its kind, anywhere.

It’s a HUGE program, with over TEN HOURS
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Right now, at this very moment, are TONS of
single women around you. There has never
been more single women in history than now.

At the same time, if you don’t take the right
ACTION, nothing will happen, and you leave
the field wide open for the REAL jerks to
take over and get all the women by default,
since no good guys even showed UP to
take the right action!

The power to attract the woman of your choice
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Time in life is precious, and there is no man
on Earth who ever wants to look back on life
with REGRET at not doing what he could
have done in order to get the kind of woman
who adds ZEST to his life.

It’s up to you though to take action. No one
will ever tell you how important this is, mostly
because they don’t know what to do. Instead
of taking the right action, they hope in vain
to impress women with cars, jewelry, and
compliments, all of which have NOTHING
to do with ATTRACTION.

They spend their entire LIVES, emotions, and
often fortunes on these useless efforts to impress
women, when if they just learned how to actually
reach a woman’s EMOTIONS and make her
actually feel ATTRACTION they could save
themselves all the hassle and actually get women
to chase THEM, the men, instead of the other
way around!

When it comes to anything else in life, you go
to an expert, right? Whether it’s a doctor,
dentist, mechanic, etc.

So when it comes to your interactions with women,
leave it to ME. For over ten years, I have been
the leader when it comes to teaching men the
skills it takes to meet and attract authentic women
who are just as attractive on the inside as they are
on the outside.
  
Without resorting to sensationalism or exaggerations,
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women as a result of what you learn from my
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Proof Of "Social Proof" In Attracting Women

When it comes to women, all I care
about are two things and those are:

1. What WORKS to attract women.

2. How to apply all this on getting
the best QUALITY women.     

Today we are going to focus on the FIRST thing:
What WORKS to attract women.

And even though I have been teaching
this field for over ten years, and even
though I conduct REAL LIFE bootcamps
where men actually get to PROVE it
on women in front of their own eyes,
I STILL understand that if you’re new
to all this, it might STILL seem HARD
to believe.

So today, I am going to share with you
a MASSIVE proof of just ONE of the
techniques that I teach men to apply
on women in many different ways.

This technique is based on a proven
concept in psychology known as,
believe it or not, SOCIAL PROOF.

The word PROOF is actually part of the
NAME because that is how strong we FEEL
the power of social endorsement IS.

In a nutshell, SOCIAL PROOF means that
an individual will be INFLUENCED by
the opinions of OTHERS.

Those others can have power either through
being a LARGE group, or through simply
being even ONE other person, but a person
who is already RESPECTED by others.

So, for example, if a million OTHER people
say that person A is COOL, then it’s highly
likely that any random individual will be
highly INFLUENCED to FEEL that indeed
person A is COOL.

Similarly, if a person who is already well
RESPECTED endorses person A as being
cool, or if someone who is already considered
“cool” says that person A is also cool, then
most people will feel highly INFLUENCED
to GENUINELY feel that person A IS
indeed “cool”.

Now, I use this principle all the TIME in
bootcamps with guys as I teach them to
approach women in just about every
place you imagine.

Let me share with you a real-life example:
 
An attractive young woman was waiting for
the train at the subway station and I
mentioned to my client that he might
want to apply what he had been learning
earlier in terms of approaches for this
situation.

He asked for me to demonstrate, so I
approached her using all the detailed
concepts I speak about, but my main point
here is not to focus on me or that but
rather to focus on what happened.

She seemed to be a bit less relaxed, as
English was not her first language, and
it can be a bit intimidating sometimes
when two guys are so close to one woman
depending on the time of day, the amount
of other people there, etc.

Anyway, she was slowly getting more into the
conversation, laughing, but I could tell she
was still a bit uncomfortable, so I made it
clear that I was not there to take advantage
of the situation that she was by herself and
I let her walk in the train as she was still
smiling, and I did not follow her.

As my client and I got in the train, I sat down
beside this other attractive girl, totally laid
back and began a conversation with her, again
using all the principles I speak about.

Now this girl was totally relaxed with it,
smiling and laughing and having a great time.

Well guess what happened next?

Suddenly, from HALFWAY ACROSS THE TRAIN,
the original woman from the subway platform
starts leaning in toward us from her seat
and joins in the conversation, giving her
opinion about something I had been talking
to her about five minutes earlier!

Normally that would have been a dead
conversation by now. But no, there she is,
smiling and speaking loudly as if we had
never stopped chatting, even though the
whole train could probably hear her. And
trust me, she was not some psycho. She
had just gone from being a shy slightly
nervous woman to wanting to GET WITH
THE PROGRAM!

Pretty soon, we had both women in conversation
with us, competing playfully for our attention,
going from complete strangers to discussing
things like who would be the better girl to
marry depending on which girl was a better
cook and had more money or ambition and was
better with kids had the better education
and who was just more fun to hang with. LOL.

ALL BECAUSE SHE SAW THAT WE
WERE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF
HER, THAT WE WERE NOT DESPERATE,
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, THAT
ANOTHER WOMAN THOUGHT WE
WERE COOL AND FUN TO BE WITH.

This is the power that comes from both
YOU knowing that you have choices, and
from WOMEN knowing that you have choices.

In the example above, by seeing another
woman feel comfortable and trusting us and
having a great time, the original woman felt
a SURGE in all those emotions of attraction
and trust.

And by the way, if getting two women who are
total strangers not only to you but to each
other, can all be having a great time with you
within 5 minutes, think about what can be done
in a longer time frame in malls, bookstores,
cafes, and don't even get me started about
the massive ease of what to do in a club!!!!

I also use social proof all the time when I
or a buddy of mine happen to be the first
one to approach a group of women.

So let’s say I approach the group of women
first, and I get things revved to high power,
and then my buddy rolls up, often all I have to
do is say  “this is my friend, he’s a great guy”
and that’s IT, he’s TOTALLY IN and he really
doesn’t have to do ANYTHING anymore
because I’ve already "socially proven" him.

All he has to do is not screw it up.

And vice versa, if he opens up the group and
does a great job attracting them, all he has to 
say if I roll up, is, "This is my friend”, and
by process of being SOCIALLY PROOFED
by him, I’m already in, I don’t have to DO
anything except not royally screw it up.

Here’s another element of social proof:
A lot of times, guys get insecure, and they
actually try to somehow put DOWN the
other guys they are with when they are
in front of women, because the guys
feel they are COMPETING with each
other.

This is really sad, because as far as the
women are concerned, on a subconscious
level all that is happening is they are feeling
you are getting NEGATIVE social proof
from these guys who you keep implying are
NOT cool, so then why are YOU in their
circle? If you say they are uncool, and they
are part of your circle, that must make you
uncool as well. 

So NEVER do that.

In fact, the smartest way to apply social proof,
if you are ever with your buddies, is to socially
proof EACH OTHER and say great things about
each other.

Here’s ANOTHER way to use social proof,
if you are ever at a massive party with tons
of women you don’t know.  Just approach
individual groups and have MINI chats
with them, and then say, “Hey, it was
nice meeting you, I’m going to say
hi to some friends!”

This way, you can not only approach the
ENTIRE place and chat with every woman
in the joint, but since the place is so busy
NO ONE will know that you didn’t
ALREADY know everyone!

Instead, they will feel you must be THE MAN
because every woman is chatting with you!

Plus, because you are keeping each chat
BRIEF at the beginning, you also show
that you are not needy and that you are
there to have FUN, which in itself is a
sign of a guy who is not NEEDY or
desperate, it’s a sign of a guy who
ALREADY HAS tons of women
at his fingertips.

Now, once you have ALREADY circulated
and met EVERYONE including EVERY
woman in the place,  you can then GO
BACK to whichever woman you wanted
to chat to in the first place, but now you
are ENRICHED with MASSIVE social
proof, which will make things go INSANELY
easy at this point!
 
And remember, that initial brief chat could
Have been as casual, as, “Hey, what’s up!
Isn’t this party awesome!!??”

When at a party, it’s THE VIBE that counts,
the fact that you are in a great FUN mood.

Let me share with you YET ANOTHER
massive proof of the power of social proof:

Just DAYS AGO, a dude in New York City
put this principle into PRACTICE for himself.

It’s important to remember, this was a REGULAR
DUDE and there is filmed proof of what happened
as well, and I will provide the link for you so you
can see it for yourself.

In a nutshell, all he did was WALK around Times
Square with two bodyguards, two assistants, and
photographers pretending to be paparazzi.

From the original source, I quote:
“While the assistants and photographers waited
for Brett to exit the 49th street marquee at NBC
Studios, they started a buzz that a "big star" was
about to walk out, thus making it worth their while
to wait and get a picture.”

They NEVER actually said he was ANYONE
in particular. He wasn’t pretending to be
Tom Cruise, Robert Pattinson, or anyone else.

All they said was that he was a BIG STAR.

In other words, all they said was that he was,
in essence, someone who was POPULAR and
SOCIALLY PROOFED.

What is AMAZING is how the crowds just
kept getting BIGGER and BIGGER.

How girls suddenly were so HAPPY to get
their picture with him.  Even totally STRAIGHT
GUYS were saying that he was a cool guy with
talent.

By the way, I don’t blame girls for being
ATTRACTED to him, and guys for thinking
he is a cool guy with talent, because this stuff
gets to the HARD WIRING of the human psyche.

If it wasn't for the fact that this just happens to be
an area that I have specialized in for over ten years,
I would probably have the SAME reactions as all
these other people.

In fact, social proof still works on me in many ways,
and I have to CONSCIOUSLY REMIND myself of
what is actually happening to stop it from taking over
my emotions.

And that's WITH already knowing about how social
proof works and with spending so many years in this
field, I STILL need to work hard to remind myself
to not let it take over!

This stuff is HARD-WIRED.
A woman can’t HELP but feel attraction
when the right switches are pushed.

It attracts women.
It wins the respect of men.

It’s UNIVERSALLY powerful.

Check out this video for PROOF of how SOCIAL PROOF works to get women MADLY attracted:



Make sure to check out the GROUP
of women surrounding him at 2:15,
including the woman who KEEPS
ON TRYING to kiss him!

And at 2:17, how the girls are so excited
about him, you’d think this guy was FOR
SURE the next SUPERSTAR that makes
women melt. 

Remember, this dude is a REGULAR DUDE,
he’s doesn’t actually HAVE anything that any
other dude doesn’t have. 

And of course, social proof ITSELF builds
even MORE social proof, as each time
people joined the CROWD, the crowd got
LARGER and created even MORE powerful
social proof, making the crowd even LARGER
and larger in a never ending cycle of growth,
until he HIMSELF decided to end the experiment.

Here’s one final point I want to add:
When you ATTRACT women, they don’t
ASK questions, they ALREADY are attracted
and they THEMSELVES fill in the answers
with whatever answer FEELS right to them
based on what they are FEELING about you.

So, for example, if a woman feels you must
be the most talented, confident guy who is
a great lover and who all women want, they
aren’t going to ASK you if you are these
things, they will just want to know how to
GET a chance to be with you.

Plus, when a woman is ATTRACTED, anything

YOU say to her about yourself gets FILTERED

through the most ATTRACTIVE prism.

What I mean by this is let’s say you tell her
that you are unemployed, that you are a jerk,
and that you are not interested in spending
money on women.

Well, now that she is ALREADY attracted,
she may just figure that you are either so
desirable that you are trying to GET RID
of her because you already have too many
women, so she will now just work even
HARDER to get you.

Or, she might figure you are some type of
genius who is too good for regular boring
jobs, or she might figure you are loaded
and just trying to test to see if she is
a gold-digger, or she might just figure
that she is so lucky to have a chance to
have met you when you are still POSSIBLE
to get before you become IMPOSSIBLE due
to you being too PERFECT and her feeling
too insecure and feeling that a perfect guy
like you would never truly love her.

BOTTOM LINE is that it doesn’t matter
what you SAY,  because she is ATTRACTED
and everything you do now gets interpreted
in some sort of POSITIVE way.

Now, what you have just read is just the
TIP OF THE ICEBERG of what you will learn
in my programs.

My ATTRACTION MASTERY program not only
goes into SOCIAL PROOF, but it also shows
you TONS of other PROVEN strategies for
attracting women ANYWHERE you see them.

And not only does it show you how to
approach women, but it even gives you
EXACT INSTRUCTIONS on how to take
things from the very first moment you walk 
up to her, all the way to a relationship.

This isn’t just hyperbole here.

This program is going to be one of the greatest
investments you’ve ever made in your LIFE.      

This program is absolutely vital if you want
to get the experience under your belt with
women before going on to settle down with
one fantastic amazing woman for life. 
  
Get the women you want by downloading this
important program NOW at:

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And if you haven’t yet downloaded my very first
book, ‘The Dating Wizard’, then do that now at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Serious Tips For Success With Women (From Attraction To Faithfulness)

Alright, there are MANY important things

I need to get to today regarding attracting

women and success with women in general, 

including selecting the right woman, so I will 

get straight to the CORE  of each of them.

1: The Internet And Meeting Women

You will notice that over the years I have

spent only a little time talking about internet

dating. The reason for this is because the

internet tends to attract the wrong women

and also because you have MORE power

in PERSON to show your body language,

your tonality, your sense of humor, and

to prove that you are “real” than when

you are on the internet.

Also, some guys tend to get tricked by the

convenience of the internet, thinking how

easy it would be to just meet women online.

Now, it COULD work, and I have met SOME

decent women off the internet in my own    

life, but overall I find that meeting women

by just approaching them DIRECTLY in

real life is a trillion times more efficient.

So if you aren’t already meeting women by

approaching them in person, it’s time to

definitely START. 

2: REGARDING FIDELITY

Human beings vary in their physical looks, and

this is obvious, but what is not so obvious even

though it is true is that human beings vary in

their methods of dealing with things.

To get right to the point, I’m talking about being

FAITHFUL versus CHEATING.

So, if you are the kind of person who is loyal

and who would never cheat, it is too easy for

you to think that this makes so much sense,

so why wouldn’t everyone feel this way.

So you have to start to look at women’s behaviors

very OBJECTIVELY.

If a woman’s eye wanders while you are dating her,

if her phone is blowing up with guy’s numbers while

you are dating her, if she admits she has had a PATTERN

of cheating in past relationships, (people can learn from

their mistake, but if they have a PATTERN OF MAKING

THE SAME MISTAKE, they are going to most likely

CONTINUE THE PATTERN) and if she shows irreverence

for loyalty in relationships, then I can pretty much

ASSURE YOU that she will CONTINUE to do this

in her FUTURE.

It has NOTHING to do with you.

You could be the BEST catch in the WORLD, and

if she has cheated in the past, she will most likely

cheat again, and this time, it will be with you.

Before you get into a serious relationship with a

woman, you have to OBSERVE her carefully and

you have to do this while NOT putting her under

any pressure.  You want to see what she is like

when she is being HERSELF. 

Get her feeling relaxed by NOT coming across as

JUDGEMENTAL.  You want to see the REAL her.

3. SOCIAL PROOF TIP

Now, after all that, I want to talk about something

really POSITIVE, because, after all, there are SOME

great women with great values out there, and this

is the whole point behind Get A Great Girl.

Also, what is awesome about the following tip is

you can use it to INCREASE a woman’s attraction

to you whether you have just met someone NEW or

whether you have been in a relationship for a long time.

What you do is, invite a woman in a casual way to

see you in an environment where you are getting

SOCIAL PROOF. 

What I mean by this, is an environment where OTHER

people are clearly interested in you, like you, respect

you, etc.

It doesn’t just have to be an environment where

WOMEN are ogling you or giving you their attention.

The fact simply is, that the human mind is VERY

INFLUENCED by the power of what other people

THINK.

So, for example, let’s say you have a group of friends

that think you are awesome, well it would be a good

idea to invite the woman you like out to a night where

she meets these friends who laugh at all your jokes,

who give full respect to you, etc, etc.

Or let’s say you for real are a public speaker, then

invite the woman out to see you speak! Let her

see how everyone is clapping for you, giving you

their undivided attention, etc.

If you happen to know everyone who works at a

certain restaurant, and they all give you special

attention, then take the woman you met to this

place! 

And there’s another touch to this as well.  When she

DOES SEE other women giving you their attention,

it DOES help spark her interest as well.

Now, the key here is NOT to raise jealousy, but just

to help get the SPARK going.

If you are in a long-term relationship, this can be

very important, but you have to be careful to know

where to draw the line.  You are NOT trying to

start a war of jealousy. 

But sometimes what happens in a long-term relationship

is that it gets too easy for each person to start to lose

appreciation for what they have.

When a couple sees OTHER people suddenly give more

attention to their partners, it sparks a desire for the actual

COUPLE to give more attention to each other.

The reason for this is SOCIAL PROOF.  We figure if

OTHER people like our partner so much, then actually

our partner IS even better than we realized.

Again, the key here is to use this wisely, and it can

work for both the man and the woman in the relationship,

the woman can do the same thing.

 

A little goes a long way.

By the way, there’s a tiny percentage of the human

population that does not need this, because they

appreciate things so much already.  (I happen to

be one of them, but I realize this is not the

majority of people.) 

4. INSTANT ANSWERS TO YOUR DATING QUESTIONS

   

Okay, so I want to get your input here for

something I want to provide for you.

How would you feel if you could get almost

INSTANT ANSWERS to your dating questions?

Imagine you just got a text from a girl you

met, and now you’re wondering how to

reply in the best way?

Or maybe you just spotted a woman, and

she’s browsing through the bookstore,

and you’re wondering what to say?

So I want to provide all this and more for you,

but I need your help in making it the best

coaching service for your needs.

Please let me know EXACTLY what you

would like for a coaching service like this,

in terms of how fast of a response you would

like, what kind of questions you would want

answered, and how much you feel is a price you

would be HAPPY to pay.

Email me at: michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

And if you’re reading this right now and would

like to SKYROCKET your success with women,

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Greatest SECRET On Getting A Quality Woman

This is one of the most important
newsletters I have ever written on
the topic of getting a truly great
girlfriend who is the total package
inside and out.

In order to get a great woman, it is
imperative that a man become the
greatest version of himself as well.

The CHALLENGE, however, is that
almost the exact INSTANT that you
make the commitment to improving
yourself, you will be faced with a
barrage of situations that TEST your
COMMITMENT to truly improving
yourself.

And the single GREATEST source of these
tests will usually come from SOCIAL PRESSURE.
So, for example, let’s say you decide to spend your
time NOT gossiping, and you happen to be having
dinner with friends one evening and one of them
or all of them are really going HEAVY on the
juicy gossip stuff.

Now, by the way, I am not judging people, as
people in general are only trying to do what
they think makes sense, and not everyone is
fortunate to have the right leadership and
guidance.

Back to our example above, in this situation
you will feel the pressure to JOIN IN  and
be gossipy and to start focusing on other
people’s lives rather than how to improve
your own.

Or, let’s say, you decide to start exercising,
and the current group of friends you have  
never exercise, they will for example invite
you out to watch TV, eat junk food, or something
during the time you wanted to go exercise.

And the above examples are not even where
people INTENTIONALLY are trying to
screw you up because they are jealous
of you or they are feeling insecure because
they are too lazy to change and they want
you to be on the same “level” as them.

Then, of course, there is the general social
pressure to just “fit in” with society rather
than EXCEED the “average”, because
in general, people only like the average
person, since the person above average
raises jealousies and the person below
is someone people either feel sorry for
or sometimes mocked.

The SECOND you want to actually IMPROVE
yourself, you will be BOMBARDED with
these situations, and MOST PEOPLE will
then FAIL, because it is so damn HARD
to CHANGE one’s path because of the
power of MOMENTUM. 

As humans, we just don’t like to CHANGE.
And if we decide to change, it doesn’t take
MUCH for most people’s commitment to
be SHATTERED.    

And, as I said above, the greatest CULPRIT
is the power of SOCIAL PROOF to make
sure you don’t rise much above or below
the SOCIAL or societal average.

We are affected by SOCIAL PROOF because
of our HARD-WIRING.  This is BIOLOGY
and EVOLUTION in FULL EFFECT.

It is important to understand that social proof
DOES have its uses.  For example, very often
in life, and in human history, making decisions
based on what the GROUP believed helped
individuals save TIME. 

So if for example, in ancient times, there was
a PATHWAY through the jungle that was
considered efficient or safe by the majority
of people, then it might very well save an
individual time to take that path rather than
search out every path or try to create a new
one.

So over the course of human history, feeling
INFLUENCED by social proof usually was
a GOOD thing.

However, social proof can BACKFIRE, as
if the social group is WRONG about something,
an individual will still feel very INFLUENCED
and sometimes emotionally compelled to follow
the suggestion of the GROUP.

This is ONE of the reasons that taking a bootcamp
with me is SO powerful.  It is because you are
truly being taken into a completely different
SOCIAL FORCE than the ones you tend to
meet in regular life. 

Since I have dedicated YEARS of my life
toward the training of men in how to attract
and keep quality women, I am EXTREMELY
CONGRUENT to this in every way. 

When someone else is truly CONGRUENT to something,
you FEEL the social pressure effect of that trait on a
DEEP level and you can more easily INTERNALIZE
that trait for yourself. 

It’s not just a cerebral event; it is EMOTIONALLY
COMPELLING AND OVERWHELMING in a
POSITIVE WAY.

It sinks in DEEP and becomes INTERNALIZED.
You become CONFIDENT about the new behaviors.
 
Make no mistake about it, CONGRUENCY is
EVERYTHING.

Congruency is so powerful, that you can go up
to a woman and tell her something like
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and actually have
it WORK if you are truly FEELING her
beauty in a way that is EMPOWERING
and ENERGIZING for you.

So the woman feels that you are not FAKING.
The woman can tell you mean BUSINESS.

Similarly, when you are in my Bootcamp, the
things I am telling you and teaching you
suddenly take on a whole new level of
MEANING and of EMOTIONAL IMPACT.

That means that you are now being influenced
in a POSITIVE way through the POSITIVE
“social pressure” that you feel from me.

I myself experienced this a few times in my life,
when I met some rare individuals who were
true EXCEPTIONS in a POSITIVE way to the
GENERAL NORMS of society. 

The mere experience of BEING IN THAT
ENVIRONMENT had an even GREATER
effect on me than ALL the specific strategies
that they taught me, put all together!  And
they taught me some GREAT strategies,
it is just that the EFFECT of INTERACTING
with these people was even GREATER than
the actual awesome strategies that they taught.

The power of SOCIAL PRESSURE is so great,
that every powerful group, company, or organization
on EARTH uses it to MASSIVE extremes. 

If you want to CHANGE yourself for the BETTER,
be prepared to BATTLE against the social forces
that want to INFLUENCE you to NOT improve
yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.

Most people give UP and give IN.
Will you?

And here’s where it all comes full circle.
Most men want a woman who will treat them
RIGHT.

A woman who is INTELLIGENT but who is
not arrogant or spoiled.

A woman who works HARD but who is not
selfish.

A woman who is FAITHFUL but is not insecure.

A woman who is health conscious but not
addicted to the gym.   

A woman who is fun in bed but who is not
promiscuous.

A woman who is friendly but not naïve.

If a woman is all these things, she is DAMN RARE.
She has REBELLED, so to speak, against the
social norms.

She can RESIST social proof, and probably in
fact has formed a POSITIVE social group of her
OWN, where the groups fuels each other with
POSITIVE social pressure, where they socially
proof healthy ideals and values.

And LIKE attracts LIKE.
The right kind of quality woman can DETECT
the INCONSISTENCIES in a man who is just
PRETENDING to be similar to her in order
to get her into bed.
   
She knows what the right values LOOK like
because she HAS them in HERSELF.     
 
The first thing you can do to change yourself
into the kind of man that quality women want
is to start choosing the RIGHT way to spend
your time, the RIGHT way to behave, the
RIGHT goals in your life.

I am not a preacher so I cannot tell you
what these RIGHT goals are for you, but
I can tell you that usually LAZINESS
make most people actually THINK that
the goals that take LESS work, the values
that take LESS discipline are the RIGHT
ones, when in fact they are usually the
WRONG ones.

Develop an attitude that does NOT look
for the easy way out.  Learn to see the
POSITIVE side of INTELLIGENT
and HARD work.  Learn to appreciate
the result of SWEATING it out to
IMPROVE yourself.  Learn to enjoy
the PROCESS of self-improvement.

Be HAPPY to learn from good people
who are KIND when they want to teach
you something rather than just being
arrogant.

Learn to try to UNDERSTAND people
rather than dismiss them right away.
You will notice that even though I have
standards that are higher than the average
in society, I do not BLAME people so fast,
because blaming is very easy and it ignores
the reality that most people aren’t TRYING
to do the wrong thing. 

However, UNDERSTANDING people does
not mean LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS.
It does not mean accepting a woman who
mistreats you.

When you INTERNALIZE these IMPROVED
attitudes, when you SHOW on the EXTERNAL
side as well that you are LIVING these ideals,
you will notice a MASSIVE improvement in
your ability to detect the RIGHT kinds of
women QUICKLY as well as how to detect
and avoid the wrong types of women, AND
you will also start to attract the right kinds
of women with far greater ease than before.

This is because you will be CONVEYING
all these things through all the subtle
nuances in your tonality, your body language,
your vocabulary, the expressions on your
face, the way you are able to listen and
understand and connect and inspire, etc.

Now, this newsletter has drawn some of the
BROAD STROKES that are ESSENTIAL
for your success.

It’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty and
put it all into ACTION.

The FASTEST way to get it all into action
is through BOOTCAMP, where I will
instruct you live as you approach women
EVERYWHERE. 

Keep in mind BOOTCAMP is not only about
gaining CONFIDENCE, it is also about
MASTERING the TECHNICAL skills and
gaining the know-how regarding how to
take action and approach women even in
all those "hard to approach" situations.

Learn more about what Bootcamp is and
when the next sessions are being held by
going HERE immediately:

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You will LOVE what you GAIN from Bootcamp.
The experience is PRICELESS and it is
something most men will NEVER do, because
it requires the internal MOTIVATION to
get success BEYOND what is the average
social NORM for a man when it comes to
his success with women. 

Most men GIVE IN to the desire to just
FIT IN and be AVERAGE.

You can REBEL against the FORCE of that
social pressure and EXCEED what is
the AVERAGE for most men.

And if you are still not SERIOUSLY
approaching women yet, you MUST download
my “Acing the Approach” program now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html

And to learn the FULL PICTURE on how to
get yourself a FANTASTIC quality woman
for a great relationship, go HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The PROOF Of "Social Proof" In Attracting Women

When it comes to women, all I care
about are two things and those are:

1. What WORKS to attract women.

2. How to apply all this on getting
the best QUALITY women.     

Today we are going to focus on the FIRST thing:
What WORKS to attract women.

And even though I have been teaching
this field for over ten years, and even
though I conduct REAL LIFE bootcamps
where men actually get to PROVE it
on women in front of their own eyes,
I STILL understand that if you’re new
to all this, it might STILL seem HARD
to believe.

So today, I am going to share with you
a MASSIVE proof of just ONE of the
techniques that I teach men to apply
on women in many different ways.

This technique is based on a proven
concept in psychology known as,
believe it or not, SOCIAL PROOF.

The word PROOF is actually part of the
NAME because that is how strong we FEEL
the power of social endorsement IS.

In a nutshell, SOCIAL PROOF means that
an individual will be INFLUENCED by
the opinions of OTHERS.

Those others can have power either through
being a LARGE group, or through simply
being even ONE other person, but a person
who is already RESPECTED by others.

So, for example, if a million OTHER people
say that person A is COOL, then it’s highly
likely that any random individual will be
highly INFLUENCED to FEEL that indeed
person A is COOL.

Similarly, if a person who is already well
RESPECTED endorses person A as being
cool, or if someone who is already considered
“cool” says that person A is also cool, then
most people will feel highly INFLUENCED
to GENUINELY feel that person A IS
indeed “cool”.

Now, I use this principle all the TIME in
bootcamps with guys as I teach them to
approach women in just about every
place you imagine.

Let me share with you a real-life example:
 
An attractive young woman was waiting for
the train at the subway station and I
mentioned to my client that he might
want to apply what he had been learning
earlier in terms of approaches for this
situation.

He asked for me to demonstrate, so I
approached her using all the detailed
concepts I speak about, but my main point
here is not to focus on me or that but
rather to focus on what happened.

She seemed to be a bit less relaxed, as
English was not her first language, and
it can be a bit intimidating sometimes
when two guys are so close to one woman
depending on the time of day, the amount
of other people there, etc.

Anyway, she was slowly getting more into the
conversation, laughing, but I could tell she
was still a bit uncomfortable, so I made it
clear that I was not there to take advantage
of the situation that she was by herself and
I let her walk in the train as she was still
smiling, and I did not follow her.

As my client and I got in the train, I sat down
beside this other attractive girl, totally laid
back and began a conversation with her, again
using all the principles I speak about.

Now this girl was totally relaxed with it,
smiling and laughing and having a great time.

Well guess what happened next?

Suddenly, from HALFWAY ACROSS THE TRAIN,
the original woman from the subway platform
starts leaning in toward us from her seat
and joins in the conversation, giving her
opinion about something I had been talking
to her about five minutes earlier!

Normally that would have been a dead
conversation by now. But no, there she is,
smiling and speaking loudly as if we had
never stopped chatting, even though the
whole train could probably hear her. And
trust me, she was not some psycho. She
had just gone from being a shy slightly
nervous woman to wanting to GET WITH
THE PROGRAM!

Pretty soon, we had both women in conversation
with us, competing playfully for our attention,
going from complete strangers to discussing
things like who would be the better girl to
marry depending on which girl was a better
cook and had more money or ambition and was
better with kids had the better education
and who was just more fun to hang with. LOL.

ALL BECAUSE SHE SAW THAT WE
WERE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF
HER, THAT WE WERE NOT DESPERATE,
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, THAT
ANOTHER WOMAN THOUGHT WE
WERE COOL AND FUN TO BE WITH.

This is the power that comes from both
YOU knowing that you have choices, and
from WOMEN knowing that you have choices.

In the example above, by seeing another
woman feel comfortable and trusting us and
having a great time, the original woman felt
a SURGE in all those emotions of attraction
and trust.

And by the way, if getting two women who are
total strangers not only to you but to each
other, can all be having a great time with you
within 5 minutes, think about what can be done
in a longer time frame in malls, bookstores,
cafes, and don't even get me started about
the massive ease of what to do in a club!!!!

I also use social proof all the time when I
or a buddy of mine happen to be the first
one to approach a group of women.

So let’s say I approach the group of women
first, and I get things revved to high power,
and then my buddy rolls up, often all I have to
do is say  “this is my friend, he’s a great guy”
and that’s IT, he’s TOTALLY IN and he really
doesn’t have to do ANYTHING anymore
because I’ve already "socially proven" him.

All he has to do is not screw it up.

And vice versa, if he opens up the group and
does a great job attracting them, all he has to 
say if I roll up, is, "This is my friend”, and
by process of being SOCIALLY PROOFED
by him, I’m already in, I don’t have to DO
anything except not royally screw it up.

Here’s another element of social proof:
A lot of times, guys get insecure, and they
actually try to somehow put DOWN the
other guys they are with when they are
in front of women, because the guys
feel they are COMPETING with each
other.

This is really sad, because as far as the
women are concerned, on a subconscious
level all that is happening is they are feeling
you are getting NEGATIVE social proof
from these guys who you keep implying are
NOT cool, so then why are YOU in their
circle? If you say they are uncool, and they
are part of your circle, that must make you
uncool as well. 

So NEVER do that.

In fact, the smartest way to apply social proof,
if you are ever with your buddies, is to socially
proof EACH OTHER and say great things about
each other.

Here’s ANOTHER way to use social proof,
if you are ever at a massive party with tons
of women you don’t know.  Just approach
individual groups and have MINI chats
with them, and then say, “Hey, it was
nice meeting you, I’m going to say
hi to some friends!”

This way, you can not only approach the
ENTIRE place and chat with every woman
in the joint, but since the place is so busy
NO ONE will know that you didn’t
ALREADY know everyone!

Instead, they will feel you must be THE MAN
because every woman is chatting with you!

Plus, because you are keeping each chat
BRIEF at the beginning, you also show
that you are not needy and that you are
there to have FUN, which in itself is a
sign of a guy who is not NEEDY or
desperate, it’s a sign of a guy who
ALREADY HAS tons of women
at his fingertips.

Now, once you have ALREADY circulated
and met EVERYONE including EVERY
woman in the place,  you can then GO
BACK to whichever woman you wanted
to chat to in the first place, but now you
are ENRICHED with MASSIVE social
proof, which will make things go INSANELY
easy at this point!
 
And remember, that initial brief chat could
Have been as casual, as, “Hey, what’s up!
Isn’t this party awesome!!??”

When at a party, it’s THE VIBE that counts,
the fact that you are in a great FUN mood.

Let me share with you YET ANOTHER
massive proof of the power of social proof:

Just DAYS AGO, a dude in New York City
put this principle into PRACTICE for himself.

It’s important to remember, this was a REGULAR
DUDE and there is filmed proof of what happened
as well, and I will provide the link for you so you
can see it for yourself.

In a nutshell, all he did was WALK around Times
Square with two bodyguards, two assistants, and
photographers pretending to be paparazzi.

From the original source, I quote:
“While the assistants and photographers waited
for Brett to exit the 49th street marquee at NBC
Studios, they started a buzz that a "big star" was
about to walk out, thus making it worth their while
to wait and get a picture.”

They NEVER actually said he was ANYONE
in particular. He wasn’t pretending to be
Tom Cruise, Robert Pattinson, or anyone else.

All they said was that he was a BIG STAR.

In other words, all they said was that he was,
in essence, someone who was POPULAR and
SOCIALLY PROOFED.

What is AMAZING is how the crowds just
kept getting BIGGER and BIGGER.

How girls suddenly were so HAPPY to get
their picture with him.  Even totally STRAIGHT
GUYS were saying that he was a cool guy with
talent.

By the way, I don’t blame girls for being
ATTRACTED to him, and guys for thinking
he is a cool guy with talent, because this stuff
gets to the HARD WIRING of the human psyche.

If it wasn't for the fact that this just happens to be
an area that I have specialized in for over ten years,
I would probably have the SAME reactions as all
these other people.

In fact, social proof still works on me in many ways,
and I have to CONSCIOUSLY REMIND myself of
what is actually happening to stop it from taking over
my emotions.

And that's WITH already knowing about how social
proof works and with spending so many years in this
field, I STILL need to work hard to remind myself
to not let it take over!

This stuff is HARD-WIRED.
A woman can’t HELP but feel attraction
when the right switches are pushed.

It attracts women.
It wins the respect of men.

It’s UNIVERSALLY powerful.

Check out this video for PROOF of how SOCIAL PROOF works to get women MADLY attracted:



Make sure to check out the GROUP
of chicks surrounding him at 2:15,
including when the HOTTEST one of
them all is kissing him!

And at 2:17, how the girls are so excited
about him, you’d think this guy was FOR
SURE the next SUPERSTAR that makes
women melt. 

Remember, this dude is a REGULAR DUDE,
he’s doesn’t actually HAVE anything that any
other dude doesn’t have. 

And of course, social proof ITSELF builds
even MORE social proof, as each time
people joined the CROWD, the crowd got
LARGER and created even MORE powerful
social proof, making the crowd even LARGER
and larger in a never ending cycle of growth,
until he HIMSELF decided to end the experiment.

Here’s one final point I want to add:
When you ATTRACT women, they don’t
ASK questions, they ALREADY are attracted
and they THEMSELVES fill in the answers
with whatever answer FEELS right to them
based on what they are FEELING about you.

So, for example, if a woman feels you must
be the most talented, confident guy who is
a great lover and who all women want, they
aren’t going to ASK you if you are these
things, they will just want to know how to
GET a chance to be with you.

Plus, when a woman is ATTRACTED, anything

YOU say to her about yourself gets FILTERED

through the most ATTRACTIVE prism.

What I mean by this is let’s say you tell her
that you are unemployed, that you are a jerk,
and that you are not interested in spending
money on women.

Well, now that she is ALREADY attracted,
she may just figure that you are either so
desirable that you are trying to GET RID
of her because you already have too many
women, so she will now just work even
HARDER to get you.

Or, she might figure you are some type of
genius who is too good for regular boring
jobs, or she might figure you are loaded
and just trying to test to see if she is
a gold-digger, or she might just figure
that she is so lucky to have a chance to
have met you when you are still POSSIBLE
to get before you become IMPOSSIBLE due
to you being too PERFECT and her feeling
too insecure and feeling that a perfect guy
like you would never truly love her.

BOTTOM LINE is that it doesn’t matter
what you SAY,  because she is ATTRACTED
and everything you do now gets interpreted
in some sort of POSITIVE way.

Now, what you have just read is just the
TIP OF THE ICEBERG of what you will learn
in my programs.

My ATTRACTION MASTERY program not only
goes into SOCIAL PROOF, but it also shows
you TONS of other PROVEN strategies for
attracting women ANYWHERE you see them.

And not only does it show you how to
approach women, but it even gives you
EXACT INSTRUCTIONS on how to take
things from the very first moment you 
walk up to her, all the way to making out, 
and all the way to all-out wild times in bed.

This isn’t just hyperbole here.

This program is going to be one of the greatest
investments you’ve ever made in your LIFE.      

This program is absolutely vital if you want
to get the experience under your belt with
women before going on to settle down with
one fantastic amazing woman for life. 
  
Get the women you want by downloading this
important program NOW at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my very first
book, ‘The Dating Wizard’, then do that now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Ten Biggest Mistakes Men Make With Quality Women

Get ready to discover the ten biggest mistakes men make with the real quality women- women who are not only attractive, but also FAITHFUL and  intelligent:

1. TRYING TO KEEP HER INSECURE

So much of the "pick up women" advice out there for men on the internet is all about how to make a woman feel LESS about herself, which stems from the fear that the woman feels she is too good for a guy. 

Those strategies believe that if SHE feels insecure around a guy, then that GUY will then seem to her to be of more value than she feels SHE has, so supposedly she will now want him and be attracted.

Well, the reality is that this "make her feel less than you" concept not only usually fails to work even on the mean-spirited women who may very well DESERVE to be told off, but it is TOTALLY INSANE to use this type of tactic on a QUALITY woman who did nothing bad to you to begin with.

It's counter-productive because she will
usually catch on IMMEDIATELY.

Then, she will wreak vengeance and havoc
with your emotions to teach you a lesson. 

At best, she will just immediately shut you
down and leave.

Even worse, what happens is that you
destroy your inner power this way,
because you are in effect telling
yourself that you don't have the
worth to keep her on your own,
and that you have to resort to
putting her down. 

This actually makes you feel worth LESS
than you did before you ever used any
tactic like that, and the reality is
that your inner game ALWAYS shows
through, and she can detect how you
feel about your own worth.

She can detect it through your body
language that you display without
even thinking about it.

It's a result of how you are feeling
internally, and guess what? How you
feel internally ALWAYS ends up showing
in your mannerisms, in your expressions,
and in your vocal tonality.

I have a much BETTER solution to
all this- instead of putting her
down, you can bring BOTH OF YOU UP!

Just make sure you are NEVER doing this
from a weak, "KISSING UP" perspective,
which leads to my NEXT point:

2. THE MUTUAL COMPLIMENT

Most men NEVER use this, and that's
a HUGE mistake.

The mutual compliment is pure GOLD.

The mutual compliment means that
your message is saying something
cool and genuine about BOTH of you-
the woman AND yourself.

For example, let's say you are chatting with a
woman you just met, and you tell her that you
can see she has great taste in men.  This is
saying something positive to her, but it's
also pretty damn confident of yourself to
say this as well, and it's funny too.

So you've done 3 things at once, all in a span
of just a few seconds and few words.

This is similar to, before kissing a woman, telling
her that  you can tell a lot about a woman from the
way she kisses.  When she asks "what do you mean"
you say, "Well, for example, you can tell if she
is really passionately into you, or if it's just about
the money."   

Then, you proceed to kiss her, and when you pull away, you give her a mischievous grin and say, "Definitely, you're not about the money." 

So again, you've said something cool about her,
and about yourself.

3. DON'T ACCEPT A SHRED OF DISRESPECT 

This is a big one too.  As soon as you play even
a BIT of the "head games" with a woman, or as
soon as you ACCEPT even a bit of this, it's
the beginning of the end of the whole connection.

The single greatest factor behind ALL these
head games is INSECURITY. Giving into it,
whether you decide to give her a taste of her
own medicine, or you accept it from her, it
all just FEEDS more of this insecurity.

There is no way to WIN with someone who
plays these games, the only way to WIN is
to get the heck out.

In my relationships, I NEVER play any games.
There's nothing like the TRUST that is built
upon this foundation.  And any woman who
doesn't APPRECIATE this is going to be
a serious problem that you are best off
AVOIDING to begin with.

I learned these lessons the hard way because
my wrong behaviors and perspectives wreaked
HAVOC with my relationships.

And of course, the flip side to all this, is that
the lack of games is INSTANTLY appreciated
by the RIGHT kinds of women, because they
know how RARE this is.

And it's understood by these women as a sign
of your STRENGTH, because all games are
a sign of insecurity, and the lack of games is
a sign of massive strength and conviction in
yourself. 

4. KEEP INITIAL COMMENTS ONLINE BRIEF BUT PERSONAL

I personally prefer to approach women
in the real world from regular life,
be it women you see at the bookstore,
coffee shop, supermarket, or anywhere
else, because this opens up the entire
UNIVERSE of women to you,
(http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html)
but if you are doing online dating,
then make sure to keep your initial
email BRIEF but PERSONAL.

Think about it from her perspective:
If she's an attractive woman, she probably
gets TOO MANY emails from guys, including
a lot of desperate guys.

She DOES want to meet the right guy, but the
first signal that goes off in her head from a
huge long email from some random guy is
that this guy is somehow desperate and can't
meet women in real life, so he's putting all
his eggs in one basket.

The other problem is when the email he sends
is not PERSONALIZED at all. It doesn't
indicate anything unique about his personality and
it doesn't indicate he actually read her profile
at all either.  By the way, don't spend TOO
much time reading her profile unless it
really stands out herself, chances are she
said things like she enjoys traveling, and
other things that every single girl on the
planet says, that don't indicate anything
really important about her individuality.

And when I say to indicate your personality,
that means to create the FEELING of
what you are, don't just say you're a
funny guy, if you are funny, then make
a damn good joke.  If you are a very
creative guy, then make your email
creative, don't just send a generic
email.  From your subject line to
the description of yourself, to
all the rest of the profile, DEFY THE
STANDARD CONVENTIONS OF ONLINE DATING
while STILL getting the point across:

For example, you can write something as
a joke, i.e. writing that you were just
released from jail and not interested in
re-hooking up with your ex-wives and your
30 grand-kids, then say "just kidding",
and then write about who you really are,
etc.
   
5. TAKE ACTION RIGHT AWAY

This is another thing that seems to defy normal
logic. I'm not saying you have to sleep with women
right away, (in fact, I advise AGAINST it) but
rather the key is not to think, "Hmmm, I know
this girl, I'll chat to her for a few weeks, then
ask for her number, then, wait a week, then
call her, then maybe talk some more for a
few months, then maybe get to bed, then
maybe a relationship", etc, etc.

Reality doesn't work like that.
It's based on MOMENTUM.

So if you like a woman, GO FOR IT NOW,
get her number, go out for coffee THIS
WEEK, and if you like her and you share
things in common on a deep level, then
go to the next level.

If you meet a woman at a party, don't think,
"I chatted to her for a few minutes, so let's
not ruin this, I'll come back later for her
and then I'll ask for her number".

If you like her and she likes you, then get
her number NOW.  If you're on a date
with her, and the vibe is great, then don't
wait till LATER to kiss her, you can kiss
her NOW.

Keep in mind, all this is coming NOT from
a needy sense, but from a sense of CONFIDENCE.

If you are truly delaying something because
you KNOW it will be better if you wait, that's
one thing, but 99% of the time, I see guys
HESITATING out of lack of belief, rather
than out of a true sense of making greater
impact by perfect timing.

A quality woman wants a man who TAKES
ACTION.

6. THINGS ARE NOT "ALL OR NOTHING"

To make things EASIER on ourselves, and to
spare ourselves from having to feel like we
need to take action, we LIE to ourselves by
painting things as "all or nothing."

"All or nothing" thinking is often
a sign of insecurity.

For example: "That party is stupid. House
parties are stupid. I'm not going to that
party, you can't meet ANYONE there."

This is also similar to how some people like to paint all women as being the same- i.e. that "ALL WOMEN WILL CHEAT ON YOU unless you do everything you can to control women."

Those kinds of MASSIVE over-generalizations, destructive beliefs, and false statements will prevent you from meeting and attracting quality women who DON'T cheat. 

If you go to the bookstore one day and there
weren't a lot of women there, that doesn't mean
you can't meet women at the bookstore- it might
mean that you went to the WRONG bookstore
in a deserted area of town, or that you went at
the wrong time.  Because you absolutely can
meet women at the bookstore.  But telling
ourselves lies is a great way to rationalize
why we aren't doing anything to actually
take ACTION.

Things are also not always all or nothing
in your interactions with a woman - if she
said something that hurt your feelings, maybe
it's not exactly like you think.  Maybe it is,
but maybe it's not.  So remember, emotions
are dangerous, and when we feel we might
be hurt, we take ACTION to prevent that
pain.

That's what emotions do- they prompt us
to take ACTION. 

Think about it- almost every time you actually
TAKE any action, it's EMOTIONALLY
fueled.  Watching TV, feels good.  Feeling
hungry? You go eat.  Tired? You want to
go sleep. Feeling horny? You want sex.

What happens if you are feeling like
you might get REJECTED?

Then you make sure to take the action
that will SPARE you that rejection,
and the action that will spare you that
rejection is saying things like:
"All women are gold-diggers."
"You can't meet women anywhere."
"It's all a waste of time."

That way, you can make sure to never
take any action and be spared any
emotional pain. 

So beware of how emotions are leading to
ALL OR NOTHING thinking, (also known
as "Black Or White" type thinking) because
it's one of the silent DESTROYERS, since
we don't even realize we are brainwashing
ourselves and telling lies to ourselves.

A quality woman also KNOWS full well
just how much strength it takes to
be the kind of man that does not
jump into black and white thinking.

It's one of those signs of being
a truly strong man in the greatest
sense of the words 'being a man'.

7. IF YOU'RE ONLINE, COME UP WITH A COOL NAME

The first thing besides your picture they'll
see, and if you have no pic then it's DEFINITELY
the first thing they'll see, is your online NAME.

So you need to stand out in a cool way.

One trick is to think of some good music albums
that haven't been OVERPLAYED recently in pop
culture, and then be a bit creative with that.

So for example:
"NO JACKET REQUIRED."

You might take that and go serious with that,
and follow with a profile that is all about
being  yourself and being comfortable with
who you are and how you want a woman who
is the same, or you might take a comedic
route if that is your nature and jokingly
write:

"NO CLASS REQUIRED."

And then proceed to have a quick, but funny profile
saying what a caveman you are, that totally shows
you are NOT trying to qualify yourself, which
will get a lot of women laughing.

Then, after the playful bit, you might have a
few brief but powerful sentences that actually
gets down to business with what you like
and what you don't. i.e. You might say that
the one thing that IS required is HONESTY.
That you learned in cave-man school that
being HONEST is the one thing that counts,
in between sessions of eating mud-pies.

Another cool name would be something like "Spiritual Badboy" that combines two opposite yet attractive qualities that are so rare to find together.  

The idea here is not that she will think
you are some kind of truly BAD person,
but rather she will get the playful
message that you are a man who has
depth AND who is also a fun, exciting
guy who she can picture herself with 
in bed.

Just calling yourself a "bad boy" may very well just make a lot of women nervous, but a "spiritual bad boy" sounds intriguing and attractive at the same time.
 
8. IF YOU'RE INSECURE ABOUT SOMETHING,
DON'T BRING ATTENTION TO IT, AND DON'T
OVERCOMPENSATE.

For example, let's say you feel you are
too "old" for a certain woman.

Well don't try to pretend you're 18, and
don't lie about your age. 

Doing those things would only make
you feel WORSE about yourself, because
you will feel the need to HIDE who you
are.  And that emotion will ruin your
charisma.

Rather, be the coolest version of who you are
and use it to your advantage and don't act like
you have to hide who you are. 

Don't obsess on it either, so for example,
a guy who keeps on saying he is young
at heart, etc, sounds similar to a guy who
has a non-prestigious job who keeps on
saying all the time that that money is
not a big deal.

If he wouldn't have brought it up, the woman
might not have even thought about it, but the    
fact the guy is bringing this topic up shows
that it's clearly on HIS mind, it's clearly
an insecurity in HIS mind.

The first form of "social proof" you provide of how cool you are to a woman, is the social proof you provide from YOURSELF. 

If you don't think you're cool, that's GUARANTEED to make sure the woman doesn't think you're cool either.
  
9. PLAYFUL CHILDHOOD REGRESSION

Natural primal communication is actually quite
CHILD-LIKE.

And the kind of communication that sparks attraction
and emotion often stems from allowing her to
enter this CHILD-LIKE STATE. 

When we are in all ADULT AND FORMAL mode,
we BLOCK ourselves from actually feeling GOOD.

We're in LOGICAL mode.

But when you start to chat about FUN stuff that
links back to CHILDHOOD, it's an INNOCENT
way to actually get her to be more of an ADULT
in a flirty sense.

Devious, huh?
But all in a good way, when done responsibly.

You have to understand that you are trying to
achieve a lot in a little time with a woman who
is a total stranger, and to bypass all the logic
barriers that are normally in place.

So, for example, asking her who she'd rather
marry, Fred Flintstone or Barney Rubble,
and to give you the reasons why, or chatting
with her in the supermarket about how you
two can steal the cereal boxes and get all
the toys inside, will get her imagination
and mind into a more PLAYFUL state
and instead of looking at you as the next
psycho, you are now both playing.

And the reality is that great sexual chemistry is very much linked to playing as well, even when it gets aggressive, it's like aggressive playing.  

It's saying the heck with all the "serious" stuff of the world and let's just enjoy and relax what comes naturally.

Of course, I get into all this on a way
deeper level in my materials.   

In fact, you could playfully say to a woman
that if she doesn't know who Cookie Monster
is, or if she doesn't watch Sesame Street,
that she's too advanced for you. 

This is a heck of a lot cooler than what
most guys do, trying so damn hard to
show how "cool" they are and how much
money they make, and what societies
they belong to, etc.

The great thing about being playful is
that it allows you to say things that are
true and yet not have to be completely
taken seriously.  So it keeps the vibe
fun and honest rather than formal and
pretentious.

10. A WORD ABOUT ACTING "HARD TO GET."

The reality is that you shouldn't ACT.

Instead of trying to think, "Hmm, should
I do this "hard to get" behavior now?", you
should rather think to yourself why the
"hard to get" behavior became linked to
being attractive in the first place.

So for example, rather than thinking,
"Hmm, should I end this conversation with
her first so that she sees I'm not desperate?"
just realize where this behavior of ending
the conversation first came from for REAL.

It comes from KNOWING that you truly have
tons of choices with women.

Well, then, rather than play GAMES with
women, you should actually IMPROVE your
skills so that you DO have more choices.

THAT way, you can actually talk to her
for as long as you GENUINELY have time
for, without playing ANY games, and
then you will ALSO attract her rather
than playing games that sow the seeds
of mistrust.

Think of this as lifting weights- rather than
trying to LOOK like you're lifting weights
by getting FAKE weights that LOOK like
they weigh a lot, it's better to actually
TRAIN in the gym and BECOME stronger.

And if you're reading this right now and
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Till next time,

Michael Marks 

Attraction And Conquering JEALOUSY

Don’t let the brevity of today’s “one concept”
fool you, as this concept goes right to the
CORE of one of the MOST powerful forces in
ALL of human nature and in ALL of sexual
attraction.

I’m talking about JEALOUSY:



Everyone knows that one of the quickest ways
to make someone interested who wasn’t showing
interest before is to make them JEALOUS.

How many times have you noticed that a woman
who was ignoring you before suddenly took a great
interest in you when she saw that ANOTHER woman
was interested in you?

Or how many times have you not been interested
in a woman, but suddenly felt a pang of loss of
potential when some OTHER guy showed interest
in her?

The thing is, I’m NOT a fan at ALL of using
jealousy as a method of attracting a woman
once you are ALREADY in a relationship with
her, because I feel it is a very NEGATIVE
way to go about things, and it also can very
easily become a destructive tool that backfires.

What I REALLY want to focus on here is
how to prevent one’s SELF from being
overwhelmed by jealousy and how to
CONQUER jealousy before it gets out
of control.

I learned all this because I myself used to be the
absolute WORST SLAVE to this destructive emotion
when it came to women.  I would get jealous
EXTREMELY easily and I would also do all the
WRONG things as a result of feeling jealous.

I would feel extremely needy and then do all the
NEEDY type behaviors in order to desperately
try to win back a woman or to try to win her
attraction in the first place.

If screwing up with women was a sport, I
would have been the ALL-TIME CHAMPION.

I drove myself to the edge of insanity
with frustration.

The BIGGEST lesson I learned is that jealousy
is actually NOT what most of us think it is.

We think that if we are so super-jealous when it

comes to some woman, that it must mean  that

we are super crazy in love or in lust  with  her.

As if we have such intense desire for a woman, that
we get “jealous” by something like some dude talking
to her, etc.
  

Jealousy is also NOT even so much the fear that she

likes someone else MORE than ourselves.

What REALLY makes jealousy BURN is NOT

our desire for some woman, but RATHER is

how we FOOLISHLY give a woman the power

to ‘SOCIALLY PROOF’ some other dude!

In other words, our DESIRE for a woman, if
we are not CAREFUL, quickly starts to
GEL with our own SELF-CONCEPT.

We start to see OUR OWN VALUE through HER
behavior toward us versus other guys.

So, the fact she is sleeping with us, for example,
makes us FEEL higher self-esteem.

It’s not JUST the physical act of having hot

times with a woman.  It’s the fact that this

HOTTIE is with US and how it makes us

FEEL.

As I have said MANY times: 

VALIDATION is greater than sex.

Due to instinct, and to world-wide mass ignorance
on this topic, it's almost IMPOSSIBLE to separate
sexual attraction from self-validation.

The two entities are INEXTRICABLY bound

for all of eternity

And lo and behold, this is not just true for
women, but also for men.

But it doesn’t HAVE to be this way, it just
IS because we ALLOW it.

It’s EASY to allow it.

That’s the almost “auto-pilot” thing to do.

So, what is happening is that because we VALUE
a certain woman SO MUCH, we are subconsciously
giving her the POWER to "SOCIALLY PROOF"
some OTHER dude.

"Social proof" is a term I picked up from studying
attraction, it is a term used in psychology normally
referring to how the human mind is influenced
by the behavior of others.

So for example, if a lot of people are doing something,
or if someone we really LIKE or RESPECT is
doing something, then the assumption is that
it must be the right thing to do.

The thing is, that even though our emotions, or
FIRST INSTINCTS are hardwired to feel it is
is the RIGHT thing, it might in reality be the
WRONG thing.

So, to be SPECIFIC, when it comes to jealousy,
 by "social proof", I mean the fact that her possible
INTEREST in some guy is able to “prove”  to us
the DESIRABILITY of some other dude.

Since SHE has super high value in our mind, she
ALSO has the potential power, if we let her, to
"prove" that some OTHER dude is super valuable.

And here’s the PROOF that this is the case:

If you REALLY felt that some other dude was
NOT even REMOTELY as cool as you, as
desirable as you, then even if she had wild
MONKEY sex with him, you would not
really feel JEALOUSY.

You might feel shocked, you might feel she is
crazy, you might feel you can’t ever trust her
again, you might feel the relationship is OVER,
but you wouldn’t feel JEALOUSY.

It’s ALLLLL about the VALUE you think that
other guy HAS.

And that GUY is getting a VALUE boost in your

mind, because of the very fact YOU have put

so much WEIGHT on valuing what SHE feels

when it comes to these things.

Because of your desire for her, she suddenly has
the power in your mind to "socially proof" other guys.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.
You can be crazy about a woman, and yet STILL
not be prone to unwarranted jealousy.

I say unwarranted, because it’s not realistic to say
that there is NO SITUATION on earth where you
can’t be made to feel jealous.  But what I’m talking
about is when jealousy becomes a big PROBLEM,
when the emotion is something you feel a lot and
not for very solid reasons.

Jealousy is such a destructive emotion, it can make
the smartest guy become a total idiot when it comes
to attracting the woman he wants or wants to keep.

It doesn’t even matter if a guy is Hollywood celebrity
with TONS of women falling all over him, even these
celebrities ALSO have to deal with this problem, you
see it on the news all the time.

Always remember, that jealousy is ultimately not
about how you feel regarding a woman,  but
rather about how you feel about YOURSELF,
and that you must NEVER allow ANY woman,
no matter HOW crazy you are for her, to EVER
get the power to control how YOU feel about
YOURSELF.

You have to KICK YOURSELF sometimes, but
it's WORTH it in order to REMIND yourself that
jealousy is not the proof of how much you love
some woman, but rather is the proof of how
much  you doubt your OWN worth.

This is a lesson that took me MANY years to
learn, jealousy used to only make me WANT
a woman MORE.  I interpreted my feelings
of jealousy as a sign of how AWESOME
some woman must be, so I would do the
CRAZIEST, most insane, needy, obsessive,
endless and supplicating behaviors in my
efforts to WIN her over.

Of course, all this would just DRIVE women
away, and that would just make me even
more sure that these women must have
been ‘special’ since I mistook scarcity for
a sign of VALUE.

So I did ALL the wrong things, ALL out of
simply feeling the wrong EMOTION, an
emotion called jealousy.

Meanwhile, if you go in the OPPOSITE

direction, if you take on the behaviors and

actions of a man who feels INFINITE value,

then you will do all the RIGHT things that

attract a woman...

AND...ironically enough, will also often 
make HER jealous even though that is not 
your goal, and hopefully she will soon learn
to not feel that destructive emotion and you
two can just live in mutual attraction rather
than soap-opera style drama.

So, for example, rather than trying to keep
a woman on a tight leash out of the fear of
losing her to someone else, you encourage
her to live her own life.  Rather than try to
keep her away from every guy, you give
her every chance to EARN your trust.

And of course, if she does NOT show the
maturity to be worthy of your trust, you
dump her, you DON’T become jealous,
you don’t try to “win her” with more
effort!  The irony again, is that as you
show ZERO jealousy, what happens SO
OFTEN is these women come RUNNING
back to you before you can even blink.

However, I suggest not giving women a
second chance when it comes to TRUST
issues,  and just move on to a GREAT
girl who is insanely in love with you,
and who WILL be as a result of all
the things you are, including being
a man who does NOT get jealous.

What you have just read is VITAL information
for both immediate AND long term success
with women.  And yet it is a TINY fraction
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Till next time,

Michael Marks