The Secret Of "The Pick-Up That Wasn't There"

Many years ago, I introduced a revolutionary concept 

regarding how to approach and attract women.

At first, just about every single "pick up artist" on 

the PLANET thought it was a HORRIFYING idea,

but they never TESTED it, so they didn't know the

truth.

Ultimately, however, this concept that I had been 
using and teaching my clients was proven to be 
SO POWERFUL, that over the course of MANY
YEARS ultimately won over practically EVERY 
pick-up artist on the planet, so that by these days 
it has finally been proven as ONE HUNDRED 
PERCENT TRUE. 

So in case you haven't been following my work for years,

allow me to re-introduce this concept that I worked tooth

and nail for and fought an uphill battle for YEARS for

before finally it became clear to everyone that is was

indeed TRUE:

The BEST "pick up" happens in a way that feels NATURAL,

and SUBTLE. There is no feeling of "GAME" happening.

Which is where my years-old saying comes in: 

The best “pick-up” is actually the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

In other words, it is so NATURAL, it is really just a 

CONVERSATION between a MAN and a WOMAN,

that PRESERVES the natural underlying CHEMISTRY 

between man and woman, instead of repressing that chemistry.   

The whole problem stems from overcompensation, which

itself stems from insecurity. So the EXAGGERATION of 

any "game" strategy stems from feeling insecure, which leads

to the belief that "more is better" - which, as you probably 

know, is actually not true- it's not true for attracting women,

and it's not true for most things in life.  

So often, less is more. It's about being WISE in the 

APPROPRIATE use of "game" as opposed to just

pouring it on thick.  

So, with that in mind, let's begin the article:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
my Bootcamps is that I’m constantly seeing
the TRUTH of what works and what doesn’t
with attracting the women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop, it
may be a good idea to let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.

The purpose of this is not to hide your approach,
but the opposite in fact, it's to actually give her
a moment to recognize that you are there, instead
of jolting her with a "surprise" out of nowhere.

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.

And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
you might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

And if you are reading this right now, you
can probably see that I am all about giving
you the steps for taking action with women,
no matter where you meet them.

No hype, no gimmicks, just solid CONTENT.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

If You Think She's OUT Of Your League................ Or You Think She Is IN Your League............. You're RIGHT Either Way

Today, I want to remind you of one of the most

important PILLARS of attracting women, and

this becomes even more important when

you're trying to attract a woman who you

find to be extraordinarily beautiful.

When it comes to attraction, as men, we can

BUILD attraction in women.  And yet, rather

than building attraction, we often DO THINGS

ON OUR OWN to HARM our own attractiveness.

There's a film, I've mentioned it before, called

"She's Out of My League", where this dude meets

this knockout, and the one thing he has about

himself is that he doesn't try to impress the

woman by being someone ELSE.  That's what

he has going for him.

Also, he has a bit of a sense of humor and he can
OWN his own lack of perfection, he can talk about
his own flaws in a way that takes out the steam
from them because once he's said it, it takes away
the power from that flaw since it's already been
expressed by him himself.   He can speak about
"the elephant in the room" which gets rid of the
POWER of that "elephant".

This is a strong quality, that if you have any flaws
that are massively evident, rather than trying to hide
them, let them be exposed by yourself, it shows
a lot more social intelligence that way, especially
if you aren't going on a rant about it, and you
seem pretty calm about it.

HOWEVER, the one DISASTROUS thing he does,
is that he CAN'T BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN AS
ATTRACTIVE AS HER CAN REALLY WANT TO
BE WITH HIM.

So, based on this belief, he interprets EVERYTHING
as a reason why this girl will not want to be with him.

Your self-concept is CRUCIAL here. So, if you believe
a woman is out of your league, your behaviors that follow
as a result of that belief will ensure she is repulsed.

On the other hand, if you believe a woman is "IN your league"
so to speak, then you will continue to do the behaviors that
keep on attracting her more and more.

Either way, your beliefs will become reality for those
reasons.  

The story in the film is a great illustration of the point.

While the girl is slowly getting more attracted to him
as the movie goes on, there is a point where his FEARS
start to screw things up with her, and one of the biggest
examples is when he SERIOUSLY HOPES she has
some MAJOR FLAW of her own, so that this way
he can feel she will more likely want to stay with him.

Think about that for a second- why on earth would
a man who is attracted to a woman who is treating
him RIGHT, and who is a KNOCKOUT, why
would he WISH that she actually had to have
some kind of DEFECT to her?

The answer is INSECURITY and NEEDINESS.
The insecurity says, "Well, if she has a flaw, then
maybe she will accept my flaws."

The NEEDINESS says that, "I can't feel good without
her, so I must find some way to KEEP her regardless
of what's good for her or not, in fact let's start WISHING
she had some problems, some DEFECT in fact!!
YEAH, that would be perfect!"

And this is not just a movie thing, it's very common
to REAL LIFE.  When feeling insecure and needy,
it's quite HUMAN to almost wish there was SOME
flaw to the "perfectness" of the other person, the
woman who we think is "OUT OF OUR LEAGUE".

Now, think about it from the woman's point of view:
How can she love a man who SERIOUSLY WISHES SHE
HAS OR WILL GET SOME DEFECT????????????????

Just because HE is afraid that he is not good enough for her.

The point of all this, is that INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS
can turn a guy who is slowly growing on a woman into being
a guy who went from being a 5 or 6 into being an 8, 9, or 10,
and then this INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS constantly
CUTS HIM DOWN BY ANOTHER "POINT".

Self-Esteem
She's Out of My League at MOVIECLIPS.com

Each time you RESIST the urge to give into insecurities,
you GAIN a point on the attraction scale.

But in this movie, he does the opposite, and each time he
allows himself to give IN to his insecurities, he LOSES another
point on the attraction scale to the woman.

And THAT is how he ends up as a "5", when he was
at one point more of a 9 on his way to being a TEN.

That is, until near the end of the movie, when he realizes
how SCREWED UP his own thinking has been and
how he IS indeed a "10"!

And here's the OTHER major news:  EVEN THE GUYS
EVERYONE THINKS HAVE IT "ALL" ACTUALLY
VERY OFTEN HAVE MAJOR INSECURITIES AS WELL!!!!!!!!!!

And the movie actually reflects this reality, as the very
guy he is jealous of, who used to date the knockout
in the past, did JUST AS MANY INSECURE THINGS
as well!!!!  He just puts on a show in front of the rest
of the world that he is really secure, but when it came
to being with the knockout, he screwed things up
just as bad, all because he thought the woman
would ultimately dump him.

This happens in real life all the time!!!

It doesn't matter if you're an "A LIST" ACTOR,
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE A MODEL OR
BILLIONAIRE, the bottom line is that EVERYONE
has insecurities, and if you let those insecurites and
neediness affect your ACTIONS, it will harm the
attraction a woman feels for you.

Yet the crucial thing to remember is that if you
RESIST the urge to give in to those insecurities,
you keep on RISING on the bar of attraction.

Now, speaking of MASTERING ATTRACTION
and beating insecurity and neediness, as well as learning
practical and super effective ways of attracting women,
you're going to LOVE my 'Attraction Accelerators'
instant download program which goes into FULL
EXPLICIT DETAIL on this!

You will learn some of the most effective,
hard-core insights and strategies that I teach
to men in my live Bootcamp programs, where
we approach and attract real women in person
in every venue and situation you can think of.

Here are just  SOME of the powerful and
immediately-applicable REAL WORLD
strategies and insights you will learn. Remember,
ALL of what you are going to learn in this
program is going to be IMMEDIATELY
useful when you see a woman you’d like
to approach and attract anywhere:

*You’ll learn the mistakes men make when
“scoping” out a room to check out the women
there, and you’ll learn the RIGHT way to do this.

Doing this WRONG ends up causing you to lose
the woman BEFORE you even say a word to her.

*How to avoid the number 1 mistake that makes
you PROCRASTINATE from taking action- if you
don’t stop this mistake, chances are you will
keep procrastinating when it comes to approaching
women forever, because of the addictive nature
of this type of procrastination.

*The RIGHT way to go about walking toward a woman
you see in a club or food court, and the WRONG WAY
THAT YOU MUST AVOID. (Most guys take the wrong
“route” and it comes across as very insecure and
REPULSIVE.)

*The proper DISTANCE you should actually be when
chatting to a woman you find attractive. It’s a lot
closer than most guys think!

*I’m going to answer all questions related to:
"I hear that you're supposed to let the woman
speak about herself! If I just listen to her, how
will she know anything cool about me?"

*You’ll also learn how to START the conversation
in a way that is compelling, unique, and a proper "FIT"
for your own personality- this way, you will have
no competition because no one can match your
unique "personality DNA", and you will also
feel comfortable since you will not be
doing an artificial "act".

*You’ll ALSO learn the most effective things to be doing
in any social or party situation you find yourself in where
you can meet women. In a party/lounge/club atmosphere,
there is a certain “sequence of things” that will really help
you get much farther than doing the typical “Hi, let’s
stand and talk for as long as possible and hopefully this
will lead to getting your phone number or something more”.

I’ll show you a way of handling these kinds of environments
in a way that is AT LEAST TEN TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE
at creating attraction and also at making her see you as
someone she would like to know beyond just this party
or club, etc.

*You’ll also learn how to make the environment of
a party, lounge, or social situation work in your favor.
So the fact there are lots of people there walking around,
the fact that she may be going for a drink and walking
away, the fact she may be looking for her friends,
ALL THESE THINGS can actually be turned around
and work in your FAVOR- I’LL SHOW YOU HOW!!!

*When it’s CRITICAL that you tell a woman that you LIKE
her, really FAST! This has absolutely nothing to do with
“kissing up”, and in fact not telling her you like her will
be seen by her as you being massively insecure or even
worse, clueless about sexuality.

*How to say what’s on your mind (rather than
Just talking about “safe” topics that are boring)
in a way that gets women filling in the rest of
the conversation for you!

This way, you not only lead the conversation,
which gets the woman to become more feminine
in your presence and follow you, but it also
sets up the best sexual dynamic between the
two of you.

It ALSO allows you to do less work, because
since you started the conversation, that in
itself shows you have plenty to say, but it
also allows you to chill out and lean back
and now just listen to what she has to say—
Which of course gives you tons more things
to talk about and gives you the ability to
also give her a genuine compliment which
she will value!

I’ll show you exactly how this all works!

*You’ll learn the RIGHT amount of body contact
to have with a woman you just met, and how
to do it.

*Ever wonder if a woman is into you or not?
Do you let this stop you from taking action?
Here’s what to do in all those situations!

*How to build ACTION MOMENTUM in your
overall PLAN for getting the woman of your
dreams, so that you are taking ACTION
every day on this and not getting swept
up in all the obstacles to you achieving this
goal.

*How to use a proven principle from psychology
that will TAKE OVER YOUR MIND AND MAKE
SURE YOU BECOME FAR MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
no matter what you do otherwise!

This principle is PROVEN, again and again, to WORK.
A top university in the United States has proven
this principle to be very effective, and I’m going
to show you how to apply it on yourself with women.

*You’ll also learn to bring yourself to a higher level
of “skill” when it comes to everything you do with
women, from first seeing her, to chatting, to getting
her laughing, to getting under the sheets, to even
getting into a relationship and keeping things going-
by adopting a subtle yet crucial distinction for yourself:

Most people say they will “try” to succeed.
That’s not good enough.

However, we also know that lying to ourselves
isn’t good either.

There is something else, a different mindset, that
is based on TRUTH, that is more empowering,
and I’ll share that with you as well.

*If a woman contacts you with voice mail, email,
or text, I’ll show the best way to RESPOND to these
particular modes of communication in a way that
puts you in the driver’s seat, so to speak.

*I’ll show you one of the most powerful things
you can do to a woman to get her to say to
herself ‘THIS GUY IS THE FULL PACKAGE’.

I’ll show you the GENUINE way to truly “qualify”
a woman in a way that is a HUNDRED times
more effective than the trivial, “Oh you like
chewing gum? So do I! That’s awesome! ”

Qualifying a woman in a MEANINGFUL way is the
final stage before getting physical with her, and
99% of men out there are STILL doing this wrong.

This is why most of the guys who follow pick up
artist advice end up confused, because they got
the woman’s attention, but then she flaked out
later on. There’s a reason she flaked out, and
it’s called lack of meaningful qualifying.

*You’ll also learn how to get the very women
that seem “difficult” at first, and you’ll realize
how most guys are LOSING out on these
supposedly difficult women by abandoning ship
for easier pastures….but the thing is, these
women who seem “difficult” initially are often
the BEST KINDS OF WOMEN because they know
they have high worth and self esteem, and they
don’t sleep around much.

Now, there is a fine line between difficult and
being a spoiled b****. I’ll show you how to
get those “difficult” women.

*I’ll also show you how to PROPERLY give women
the DOMINANCE polarity they crave so badly.

Attractive women especially crave this, as every
man they meet kisses up to them so badly, these
women have never felt what it’s like to be with
a man who can truly be DOMINANT at the right
times.

*You’ll also learn the art of “VIBING” with a woman,
which is probably the single most important overall
skill with women, and can be the easiest, yet our
brainwashing makes us FORGET this again and
again. I’ll show you the things that help for
making “vibing” with women come easily to you.

If you’d like to get this special program
that is jam packed with GOLDEN insights,
strategies, and tips to get you the kind of women
you want, then you need to go here NOW:

http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html

And the NEXT step is to take my BOOTCAMP and

learn it all IN PERSON on women in real time.

BOOTCAMP is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Truth About Attracting A Woman Who Is A "Ten"

When it comes to attraction, as men, we can
BUILD attraction in women.  And yet, rather
than building attraction, we often DO THINGS
ON OUR OWN to HARM our own attractiveness.

There's a film called "She's Out of My League",
where this guy meets this knockout, and the
one thing he has about himself is that he
doesn't try to impress the woman by being
someone ELSE.  That's what he has going
for him.

Also, he has a bit of a sense of humor and he can
OWN his own lack of perfection, he can talk about
his own flaws in a way that takes out the steam
from them because once he's said it, it takes away
the power from that flaw since it's already been
expressed by him himself.   He can speak about
"the elephant in the room" which gets rid of the
POWER of that "elephant".

This is a strong quality, that if you have any flaws
that are massively evident, rather than trying to hide
them, let them be exposed by yourself, it shows
a lot more social intelligence that way, especially
if you aren't going on a rant about it, and you
seem pretty calm about it.

HOWEVER, the one DISASTROUS thing he does,
is that he CAN'T BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN AS
ATTRACTIVE AS HER CAN REALLY WANT TO
BE WITH HIM.

So, based on this belief, he interprets EVERYTHING
as a reason why this girl will not want to be with him.

So, while the girl is slowly getting more attracted to him
as the movie goes on, there is a point where his FEARS
start to screw things up with her, and one of the biggest
examples is when he SERIOUSLY HOPES she has
some MAJOR FLAW of her own, so that this way
he can feel she will more likely want to stay with him.

Think about that for a second- why on earth would
a man who is attracted to a woman who is treating
him RIGHT, and who is a KNOCKOUT, why
would he WISH that she actually had to have
some kind of DEFECT to her?

The answer is INSECURITY and NEEDINESS.
The insecurity says, "Well, if she has a flaw, then
maybe she will accept my flaws."

The NEEDINESS says that, "I can't feel good without
her, so I must find some way to KEEP her regardless
of what's good for her or not, in fact let's start WISHING
she had some problems, some DEFECT in fact!!
YEAH, that would be perfect!"

And this is not just a movie thing, it's very common
to REAL LIFE.  When feeling insecure and needy,
it's quite HUMAN to almost wish there was SOME
flaw to the "perfectness" of the other person, the
woman who we think is "OUT OF OUR LEAGUE".

Now, think about it from the woman's point of view:
How can she love a man who SERIOUSLY WISHES SHE
HAS OR WILL GET SOME DEFECT????????????????

Just because HE is afraid that he is not good enough for her.

The point of all this, is that INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS
can turn a guy who is slowly growing on a woman into being
a guy who went from being a 5 or 6 into being an 8, 9, or 10,
and then this INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS constantly
CUTS HIM DOWN BY ANOTHER "POINT".

Self-Esteem
She's Out of My League at MOVIECLIPS.com

Each time you RESIST the urge to give into insecurities,
you GAIN a point on the attraction scale.

But in this movie, he does the opposite, and each time he
allows himself to give IN to his insecurities, he LOSES another
point on the attraction scale to the woman.

And THAT is how he ends up as a "5", when he was
at one point more of a 9 on his way to being a TEN.

That is, until near the end of the movie, when he realizes
how SCREWED UP his own thinking has been and
how he IS indeed a "10"!

And here's the OTHER major news:  EVEN THE GUYS
EVERYONE THINKS HAVE IT "ALL" ACTUALLY
VERY OFTEN HAVE MAJOR INSECURITIES AS WELL!!!!!!!!!!

And the movie actually reflects this reality, as the very
guy he is jealous of, who used to date the knockout
in the past, did JUST AS MANY INSECURE THINGS
as well!!!!  He just puts on a show in front of the rest
of the world that he is really secure, but when it came
to being with the knockout, he screwed things up
just as bad, all because he thought the woman
would ultimately dump him.

This happens in real life all the time!!!

It doesn't matter if you're an "A LIST" ACTOR,
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE A MODEL OR
BILLIONAIRE, the bottom line is that EVERYONE
has insecurities, and if you let those insecurites and
neediness affect your ACTIONS, it will harm the
attraction a woman feels for you.

Yet the crucial thing to remember is that if you
RESIST the urge to give in to those insecurities,
you keep on RISING on the bar of attraction.

Now, speaking of MASTERING ATTRACTION
and beating insecurity and neediness, as well as learning
practical and super effective ways of attracting women,
you're going to LOVE my 'Attraction Accelerators'
instant download program which goes into FULL
EXPLICIT DETAIL on this!

You will learn some of the most effective,
hard-core insights and strategies that I teach
to men in my live Bootcamp programs, where
we approach and attract real women in person
in every venue and situation you can think of.

Here are just  SOME of the powerful and
immediately-applicable REAL WORLD
strategies and insights you will learn. Remember,
ALL of what you are going to learn in this
program is going to be IMMEDIATELY
useful when you see a woman you’d like
to approach and attract anywhere:

*You’ll learn the mistakes men make when
“scoping” out a room to check out the women
there, and you’ll learn the RIGHT way to do this.

Doing this WRONG ends up causing you to lose
the woman BEFORE you even say a word to her.

*How to avoid the number 1 mistake that makes
you PROCRASTINATE from taking action- if you
don’t stop this mistake, chances are you will
keep procrastinating when it comes to approaching
women forever, because of the addictive nature
of this type of procrastination.

*The RIGHT way to go about walking toward a woman
you see in a club or food court, and the WRONG WAY
THAT YOU MUST AVOID. (Most guys take the wrong
“route” and it comes across as very insecure and
REPULSIVE.)

*The proper DISTANCE you should actually be when
chatting to a woman you find attractive. It’s a lot
closer than most guys think!

*I’m going to answer all questions related to:
"I hear that you're supposed to let the woman
speak about herself! If I just listen to her, how
will she know anything cool about me?"

*You’ll also learn how to START the conversation
in a way that is compelling, unique, and a proper "FIT"
for your own personality- this way, you will have
no competition because no one can match your
unique "personality DNA", and you will also
feel comfortable since you will not be
doing an artificial "act".

*You’ll ALSO learn the most effective things to be doing
in any social or party situation you find yourself in where
you can meet women. In a party/lounge/club atmosphere,
there is a certain “sequence of things” that will really help
you get much farther than doing the typical “Hi, let’s
stand and talk for as long as possible and hopefully this
will lead to getting your phone number or something more”.

I’ll show you a way of handling these kinds of environments
in a way that is AT LEAST TEN TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE
at creating attraction and also at making her see you as
someone she would like to know beyond just this party
or club, etc.

*You’ll also learn how to make the environment of
a party, lounge, or social situation work in your favor.
So the fact there are lots of people there walking around,
the fact that she may be going for a drink and walking
away, the fact she may be looking for her friends,
ALL THESE THINGS can actually be turned around
and work in your FAVOR- I’LL SHOW YOU HOW!!!

*When it’s CRITICAL that you tell a woman that you LIKE
her, really FAST! This has absolutely nothing to do with
“kissing up”, and in fact not telling her you like her will
be seen by her as you being massively insecure or even
worse, clueless about sexuality.

*How to say what’s on your mind (rather than
Just talking about “safe” topics that are boring)
in a way that gets women filling in the rest of
the conversation for you!

This way, you not only lead the conversation,
which gets the woman to become more feminine
in your presence and follow you, but it also
sets up the best sexual dynamic between the
two of you.

It ALSO allows you to do less work, because
since you started the conversation, that in
itself shows you have plenty to say, but it
also allows you to chill out and lean back
and now just listen to what she has to say—
Which of course gives you tons more things
to talk about and gives you the ability to
also give her a genuine compliment which
she will value!

I’ll show you exactly how this all works!

*You’ll learn the RIGHT amount of body contact
to have with a woman you just met, and how
to do it.

*Ever wonder if a woman is into you or not?
Do you let this stop you from taking action?
Here’s what to do in all those situations!

*How to build ACTION MOMENTUM in your
overall PLAN for getting the woman of your
dreams, so that you are taking ACTION
every day on this and not getting swept
up in all the obstacles to you achieving this
goal.

*How to use a proven principle from psychology
that will TAKE OVER YOUR MIND AND MAKE
SURE YOU BECOME FAR MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
no matter what you do otherwise!

This principle is PROVEN, again and again, to WORK.
A top university in the United States has proven
this principle to be very effective, and I’m going
to show you how to apply it on yourself with women.

*You’ll also learn to bring yourself to a higher level
of “skill” when it comes to everything you do with
women, from first seeing her, to chatting, to getting
her laughing, to getting under the sheets, to even
getting into a relationship and keeping things going-
by adopting a subtle yet crucial distinction for yourself:

Most people say they will “try” to succeed.
That’s not good enough.

However, we also know that lying to ourselves
isn’t good either.

There is something else, a different mindset, that
is based on TRUTH, that is more empowering,
and I’ll share that with you as well.

*If a woman contacts you with voice mail, email,
or text, I’ll show the best way to RESPOND to these
particular modes of communication in a way that
puts you in the driver’s seat, so to speak.

*I’ll show you one of the most powerful things
you can do to a woman to get her to say to
herself ‘THIS GUY IS THE FULL PACKAGE’.

I’ll show you the GENUINE way to truly “qualify”
a woman in a way that is a HUNDRED times
more effective than the trivial, “Oh you like
chewing gum? So do I! That’s awesome! ”

Qualifying a woman in a MEANINGFUL way is the
final stage before getting physical with her, and
99% of men out there are STILL doing this wrong.

This is why most of the guys who follow pick up
artist advice end up confused, because they got
the woman’s attention, but then she flaked out
later on. There’s a reason she flaked out, and
it’s called lack of meaningful qualifying.

*You’ll also learn how to get the very women
that seem “difficult” at first, and you’ll realize
how most guys are LOSING out on these
supposedly difficult women by abandoning ship
for easier pastures….but the thing is, these
women who seem “difficult” initially are often
the BEST KINDS OF WOMEN because they know
they have high worth and self esteem, and they
don’t sleep around much.

Now, there is a fine line between difficult and
being a spoiled b****. I’ll show you how to
get those “difficult” women.

*I’ll also show you how to PROPERLY give women
the DOMINANCE polarity they crave so badly.

Attractive women especially crave this, as every
man they meet kisses up to them so badly, these
women have never felt what it’s like to be with
a man who can truly be DOMINANT at the right
times.

*You’ll also learn the art of “VIBING” with a woman,
which is probably the single most important overall
skill with women, and can be the easiest, yet our
brainwashing makes us FORGET this again and
again. I’ll show you the things that help for
making “vibing” with women come easily to you.

If you’d like to get this special program
that is jam packed with GOLDEN insights,
strategies, and tips to get you the kind of women
you want, then you need to go here NOW:

http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Secrets of Sparking Attraction In Women

A lot of people wonder if there are
secrets to sparking attraction in women.

The answer is YES, there are actually
MANY secrets. The reason they are secrets
is because most men will never learn the
SUBTLETIES about attracting a woman.

The subtleties, the DETAILS, do in fact matter.
But most men can't be bothered with them,
so they remain a secret.

Men hear things like "don't be needy".

True enough, and this kind of thing is PART of the BIG PICTURE.

But no one statement is enough to explain
all about attraction that a man needs to know.

It's kind of like telling a guy who
wants to learn how to lift weights,
"You have to lift heavy".

But this is just a broad stroke,
it doesn't include the important
DETAILS, the subtleties of success.

HOW heavy?
How many times?
How often?
Which way?
How slow or fast?

While it's true that lifting something
heavy as opposed to lifting a feather
is important, it's really not enough info.

When it comes to attracting a woman,
especially women who are the cream
of the crop, success is the result
of a man who understands the FULL
PICTURE, especially the SUBTLETIES
involved with the actions he must take.

Most guys will NOT ever make it to this
newsletter, instead they will be seduced
by the easy oversimplifications promised
by many wannabe "experts" out there.

Obviously though, those oversimplifications
don’t work, otherwise EVERY GUY would be
getting results!

So you’re in for a treat, as I share with you now
some of the most ESSENTIAL QUALITIES of these
actions, including the important SUBTLETIES.

NUMBER 1: THE TRUTH ABOUT LISTENING

The idea of listening to a woman is NOT
some kind of passive listening, but  rather
PAYING ATTENTION to her so that
you can learn more about WHAT ACTUALLY
EXCITES HER and what actually helps
her feel comfort, trust, etc.

You learn these things not by ASKING her
as a total stranger, because doing that would
just freak her out and make a guy look weird.

Instead, you must hone your skills of listening
without bias (you may have noticed I really
emphasize listening skills) so that you can
LEARN these things by OBSERVING AND
LISTENING and making intelligent inferences,
a bit like Sherlock Holmes.

This is why it’s CRUCIAL to PAY ATTENTION
to what is going on when she’s talking,
including what is happening with her
body language as well as the actual
words she is saying to you.

This way, you can discover not only what
values are REALLY important to her and
which ones she is just paying LIP SERVICE to,
but also so that you can learn what things
she requires to experience different states
of mind, from comfort and arousal to love
and trust.

This is ALSO why if you know how to WORK
with this super powerful instrument called
“her mind”, she will give you complete
instructions on how to attract her.

NUMBER 2:
THE PROFESSIONAL IS EFFICIENT -
AND HOW THIS TRIGGERS MYSTERY,
INTRIGUE AND HER DEEPER DESIRE
TO BE WITH YOU.

The more you hone your listening skills,
the LESS you will need to talk, because
every single WORD you say will be
with a specific INTENT and not
just GUESSWORK.

So every word you say is actually getting
her MORE and MORE interested in you.

And yet, because you are saying very LITTLE,
you come across as a guy who is clearly NOT
trying hard.

This in itself is attractive, but what makes
it DOUBLY attractive is that she now wants
to UNDERSTAND YOU MORE, because you haven’t
provided her all that much info, so there
is SO MUCH she wants to ASK YOU ABOUT,
as opposed to the guy who talks so much
that she knows EVERYTHING about him and
can also infer even MORE things about him,
leaving nothing mysterious or intriguing
LEFT about himself for her to dream about.

That’s ROBBING a woman of the JOY of falling
in deep love and passion as she stays up at night
dreaming about who you may be, and as she
works hard enjoying the process of getting to
KNOW YOU!

Do you want to know part of the reason that
being mysterious is so powerful?

It’s because what a woman does NOT know,
she will IMAGINE. And if the little she DOES
know about you so far is attractive, she will
create an INSANELY CHARISMATIC IDENTITY
of you in her mind that will stay with her FOREVER
unless you work HARD to really SCREW IT UP.

She WANTS this fantasy, and you can so easily
GIVE IT TO HER.

In other words, you DO need to have a strong
inner and outer game, but the idea is that a
perfect approach, a perfect attraction, is actually
accomplished with very few, yet very perfect,
“moves”, which then allow HER to fill in
all the rest as she FANTASIZES.

The EXPERT does very little because he
knows so MUCH, he chooses ONLY what’s
PERFECT for the situation.

No different than how a great chess player requires
less moves than an amateur.

You need LESS because it’s being done RIGHT.

When you do the wrong things, you need a lot
of it, and then it’s still often useless.

It’s not uncommon, certainly in a club, when
running high level expertise, to be talking to a
girl and her friends for only two minutes, and
then already be going off alone with the girl
you want. The girl is attracted fast, so what
happens is she now WANTS a normal conversation
to get to know you, so she starts to do all the work
at that point.

The problem with clubs though is that it is usually
hard to find the kind of woman that would make
for a great girlfriend there.

The other problem with clubs is that so many women
are often drunk or tipsy there, that the whole idea
of interacting with them becomes ridiculous, because
they are not in their right minds, which is yet another
reason why I don't suggest focusing on clubs.

And when approaching women in places like
coffee shops, you certainly can ignite attraction
instantly, but you must slow the intimacy down
to an extent, because the environment is not intended
nor designed to speed up the "man meets woman"
process the same way a club is designed for that.

Women care a lot more about these kinds of
social conventions than most men do.  Most
men just care about getting the woman and
that's it. 

And so, if you try to speed things up in a non-club
environment, you are actually being unaware of the
social context of the situation and showing a lack
of social intelligence, which is not cool at all to
most women.

Nonetheless, wherever you meet a woman, when
you are doing it RIGHT, a LOT gets done quickly,
and in fact the LONGER an approach takes you
to strike attraction, usually the worse it is.

I REPEAT:
In general, less is always more, but this does
not mean you should KNOW less, it means
you should know it ALL so that you can
take the BEST course of action and ONLY
that action.

By doing only what is EXACTLY needed, and
leaving the rest a mystery, you are giving
a woman a chance to create her own fantasy
about you that ultimately will become her
reality, her picture of you, and it
will stay that way no matter what unless
you screw it all up by going against
everything I’ve ever taught you.

It's actually HARD for a guy to screw
things up once she has created this
fantasy of the guy for herself.

This is because FIRST IMPRESSIONS
are EXTREMELY POWERFUL, especially
an impression that SHE CREATED about you!

She will WORK HARD ON HER OWN to
REFRAME anything "negative" about
you as a POSITIVE, since her feelings
about you will be so strong from her
INITIAL IMPRESSION that she created
in that fantasy.

All done with zero lies, zero games,
zero manipulation. All you are doing
here is giving yourself the BEST
POSSIBLE REPRESENTATION OF YOURSELF,
AND SHE IS THE ONE DOING IT FOR YOU.

This doesn’t mean NOT TO TALK, it just means
to only apply what is BEST, and once you see you
have accomplished your goal at each stage, i.e.
opening her up as you approach, attracting her,
building up the connection, you SHUT UP once
it’s done and then wisely move at the right moment
to the next stage.

Any more talk and now you are usually coming
across as trying too hard and also you are
saying things that are chipping away at the
image she has painted of you, you are ruining
her own joy of imagining the rest of your reality.

Let me give you a great example of how just
speaking a LITTLE about something ended up
creating something an entire GENERATION
dreamed about. You know how in Star Wars,
the original movie, ("Episode IV") we learn
about something called the "Clone Wars",
but we barely get ANY info about it?

All we know is that Luke's heritage is
wrapped up in it somehow very strongly,
and that the whole event was a massive
epic struggle that somehow affected
everything, including even what is going
on in the current moment.

The how, the why, is NOT given to us.
In fact, we NEVER SEE ANY OF IT!

But it's the PERFECT way to make us want
to know MORE, so much so that even DECADES
LATER, people came out in DROVES to find
OUT the answer in the sequels.

We barely know anything about the actual
"Clone Wars" from all this, but yet, the
effect is SOOOO powerful.

Our IMAGINATIONS conjure up some pretty
powerful dramatic visuals in our minds,
and we create story lines in our own
heads, since everything ELSE in the story
is so awesome.

We figure it MUST have been something
INCREDIBLY DRAMATIC.

And so the net effect is psychologically far greater
than if they had gone on to actually show us billions
of dollars worth of scenery and special effects.

In fact, when George Lucas many years later decided
to make the movies that actually SHOW us the
“Clone Wars”, it was a huge disappointment, even
though he was applying the most advanced special
effects ever created at that point in time. (There are
actually a LOT of things there that were messed
up, but the fact is, even if he had tried to visually
show us the Clone Wars in as emotionally compelling
a way as possible, NOTHING could match what we
felt in our IMAGINATIONS from just hearing a BIT
about it and NEVER actually SEEING it.)

So often, when it comes to the power of emotions,
using less is more.

A woman can form a powerful impression of
you when you are a stranger, since she
has no HISTORY of you, so anything
you do gets AMPLIFIED subconsciously
in her mind to fill the void and make
up for that lack of information.

Do the BEST things and none of the
WRONG actions, and the fact you are
a stranger now works in your FAVOR.
(More on this in Number 6.)

It's best to allow her to "simmer and cook"
those thoughts and feelings she has about you,
and not interfere with them.

Think of these tools of attraction as possessing
the power of INFINITE COSMIC ENERGY.

You need to use these tools intelligently and ACCURATELY.

THIS is how you operate in the big leagues.

NUMBER 3:
SMILE LESS WHEN MAKING THAT FIRST IMPRESSION

It’s amazing when studies tend to prove
what years of experience approaching women
EVERYWHERE, including going right up to
women walking along the sidewalk, or
in cafes, clubs, lounges, buses, trains,
bookstores, parks, and just about
everywhere else, has already shown me:

“Women find smiling men less attractive
than those with brooding expressions.”

This comes not from some caveman or
Neanderthal report, but is fresh from
Vancouver’s University of British Columbia.

Guess what else it confirmed?
That MEN find women who DO smile to
be MORE attractive.

Which makes sense, as men want FEMININE
women, and women want MASCULINE MEN.

Guess what else?
This study was not even done by MEN!
It was done by female researchers.

So you know this is not exactly the kind
of thing that fits "political correctness",
and is certainly nothing that women would
publish for self-serving purposes, as it actually
goes AGAINST the stereotypical "politically-
correct" agenda.

Guess what else?

A large percentage of the men and women
in these studies were undergraduates who
are clearly in the dating scene and who
experience raging young hormones –
these were NOT a bunch of people in
their 90s saying, “Ohh chemistry does
not matter at all, it’s all about being nice
and compatible and being FRIENDS and just
watching the stars at night”.

These results reflect the PRIMAL preferences
of men and women, which are far more powerful
than just the logical preferences.

We could argue forever about WHY men and
women prefer the opposite gender this way, but
the fact is, these ARE the preferences.

The subtleties, though, are crucial as well.
This does not mean not to laugh, or to never smile.

What it means is that, given ONE expression
amongst all, smiling is NOT the one you
should be focused on, because 99% of the
time, this smile tends to come from a lack
of CONFIDENCE.

Think about classic icons in film who women
LOVE: Whether it was Han Solo, or James Bond,
these guys aren’t known for their SMILES.

The reality is that these characters
occasionally DO smile.

The DIFFERENCE is that when they smile,
it’s a result of coming from their OWN
terms, because they are in the superior
position, they are NOT smiling in order
to seek approval or to get on someone’s
good side---ESPECIALLY NOT TO WIN APPROVAL
FROM THE VERY PERSON THAT HAS THE VALUE
THEY SEEK, WHETHER IT IS A WOMAN WHO
IS GORGEOUS OR ANY PERSON WHO HAS
SOMETHING OF VALUE TO THEM.



Most guys instantly see their confidence
MELT in front of a woman who is a knockout
and THIS is the cause of the smile.

To be perfectly honest, if you could pull off a smile as
a result of feeling EMPOWERED and comfortable,
it would be fine, especially when approaching
women as opposed to just showing a picture, because
of all the messages you convey through your tonality and
body language when you are LIVE IN PERSON in front
of her.

There really IS an important difference between an
approval seeking smile, and a smile of being in
a great state of empowerment and inner peace.

But that’s not 99% of the smiling done by
guys around women- most of it comes from
feeling zero confidence and from guys putting
women in the superior position of value in their
own minds.

This is all the tip of the iceberg about
how to use facial expression, voice tonality,
and how to best apply it to also affect your
EMOTIONAL STATE, that I delve into full detail
for you in my Warrior Within DVD program.

The great news for you, is that although
this might SEEM to confirm that women
fall for "bad boy" types, as you can see
you don’t have to be a BAD BOY to do this,
you just have to be ASSERTIVE.



There is a shortage of GOOD GUYS who understand
how to do things RIGHT, so if you learn these
skills, you will RULE!

Women would rather meet a guy who is
BOTH a good guy AND who understands
attraction, but usually they can't
find such a man.

This leads me to:

NUMBER 4:
LEADERSHIP/ASSERTIVENESS/CLASSY

You must LEAD the conversation towards the
"MALE-FEMALE"  natural vibe without mentioning
it directly.

What I mean here is the flirtatious vibe, i.e. playfully
teasing her, as well as building a connection, getting
the coffee with her, etc.

Yes, you DO have to do this smoothly, but
you can’t AVOID it either.

The MAIN thing to realize about “smooth” in this
respect is not to make her feel cheap. So you have
to be TACTFUL of how you lead this interaction.

She KNOWS what’s going on, but she needs to
ALSO know you are classy.

Otherwise you are making her feel as if you think
she is ‘easy’, which is a DEATHLY BLOW to her
self-esteem, and thus one of the worst things you can
do to a woman.

Along with coming across as INFERIOR, making
a woman feel cheap for being with you is the
biggest mistake you can make. Of course,
coming across as inferior makes her feel low
self esteem as well, for only an inferior woman
would be with an inferior man, right?

So how do you avoid tripping her “defenses”?
Well, you make sure to NOT bring up the physical
stuff DIRECTLY at all in the early stages.

It’s not cute, and it’s not funny.
Sure, sometimes a guy gets away with it, but that’s
IN SPITE of doing it, NOT BECAUSE of it.

And, all along the way, as you LEAD the interaction,
you are making her feel the awesome presence of
being with a confident, masculine guy who is unlike
any other, who is an ORIGINAL.

You show that you KNOW where to take the
interaction, you don’t ask HER.

You bridge the gap from the conversation to the
‘instant date’ by saying something like “this
is an intriguing conversation, let’s continue this over
a tea at the Starbucks across the street, etc”. Your
tonality, your body language, the expression on your
face makes it clear that you MEAN IT, but at the same
time that this is not a big deal for you, that you in fact
EXPECT her to say yes.

NUMBER 5:
VOLUME AND SPEAKING FROM INSPIRATION

Listen, if you have something to say to her, you
may as well say it LOUD AND CLEAR.

Doesn’t matter if it’s going up to a group of women
in the mall who are walking together, or whether
it’s in a club or book store or coffee shop.

I see guys kind of mumbling or talking low so that
they won’t be taken for arrogant. This is where nice
guys get SHAFTED. Because, you see, this mumbling
and quiet talk is hitting the emotional part of her
brain that says “LOSER who knows he is WASTING
my time and who KNOWS he is not worth my time.”

People who DO BELIEVE that what they say is WORTHY,
make sure to make themselves HEARD.
Because it’s important.
So they DON’T MUMBLE.

An EXCELLENT film that shows this is “The King’s Speech”,
particularly the scene where the King is intentionally made so
upset by his coach, till the point he becomes ANGRY that he
finally speaks with the RIGHT power, and utters the words
“BECAUSE I HAVE A VOICE!”



Magnificent film.

Can you imagine a President or Prime Minister mumbling
his or her address to a nation?

Getting into the subtleties, this does not mean
that the whole conversation should sound like
an announcement.

Rather, it should be driven by INSPIRATION or PASSION-
if you feel nothing inside of you, I can assure you that
she will feel nothing from your delivery of what you
say as well. On the other hand, if you FEEL the
inspiration or passion inside, you will be compelling to
her as well.

NUMBER 6:
DEALING WITH HER CONCERN ABOUT THE SITUATION

In those first few seconds of the chat, especially
if you are approaching her as a “cold approach”
a complete stranger, and especially if this is
NOT a dance club or lounge and is not a place
designed for approaching women, you don’t
want to give ANY signs of being “weird”.

There is very little room for error here, because
in these situations, women who are very attractive
have had to develop quick ways to get rid of the
wrong guys—even if this means in the process
they end up accidentally also shutting down
some of the RIGHT guys.

This is not some kind of evil conspiracy against
men, it’s simply the ONLY way for her to deal
with supply and demand- too many of the WRONG
guys interested in her.

Most guys are concerned with not coming across
as a psycho or dangerous person, but the reality
is that this is more of a fiction created in guys
minds than what women are actually worried
about. Usually, most guys could BENEFIT
from being far more forward, assertive, and
decisive in their approaches with women.

The REAL ‘danger’ to a guy’s approach is if he
comes across as NEEDY or SOCIALLY
CLUELESS.

You have many options for starting the conversation
and you don‘t have to rely on some funny teasing
comment that might take you forever to come up
with. Instead, you can often start your interaction
in a very “innocent” way that allows the woman to see
you aren’t insane, but you must then IMMEDIATELY
start REVVING THE ENGINES OF HER EMOTIONS,
you must get her senses and imagination going BIG TIME.

Whether it’s being playful, intriguing, inspiring, or a
combination of these things above, you have to get
to the interesting stuff FAST.

Remember, she has no idea who you are, so every
SECOND you spend with her is ALL the information
she has to UNDERSTAND YOU, which means that
every SECOND is as if it’s a WEEK of real life
time being spent with you.

So if you have gone 90 seconds and it’s been
boring all along, that to her feels like if she
were to spend two YEARS WITH YOU,
it would probably all be exactly like those
90 seconds.

Remember, you’ve given her nothing ELSE
to base her decision or feelings on.

This is why, even if you feel the situation requires you
to start the conversation in a very “innocent” way,
at least make sure your body language and the
non-verbals from tonality to expression are all
delivering the right message of power, intrigue,
and fun, so that she can tell you are about
more than your actual words.

For example, is your voice showing playfulness,
intrigue, mystery, or is just robotic/mumbling/monotone.

You don’t need to spend an hour talking to her about
directions or asking for directions, even if that is what
you used to START the conversation.

NUMBER 7:
THE VIBE OF THE INTERACTION

You DON'T want the vibe to feel anti-septic and
boring and formal.

During the interaction, in a playful, non-invasive way,
whether it’s an instinctive touch as a reaction to
something powerful she said, or to emphasize
something you said, or whether it’s a playful
“high 5”, you can find the right moment to make
contact SPARINGLY.

Of course, don’t be a fool, if a woman
is resisting your advance, you take a step
back metaphorically and wait to see if
this is just a matter of her requiring more
connection with you, i.e. getting to know
you, etc.

Then, it is up to YOU to get you both some
privacy. DON’T expect her to get things
rolling in this direction, although sometimes
women DO give massive hints and so often
guys don't SEE that the women are trying to
give them massive signals.

And when in private, again, it will usually
be up to YOU to get things rolling again,
although, to be honest, if you've done
things extremely well, she will start to
to make "moves" on you.

When you are progressing the interaction,
find a way to do this TASTEFULLY. For
example, you should have a REASON for why you
should both be there, i.e. your incredible photo collection
that you were chatting about over coffee.

And if you would like IGNITE your internal
engines of attraction and UNLEASH your
TRANSFORMATION with women, then
I suggest you get my WARRIOR WITHIN
program immediately.

In this program, you’ll discover how to do
EVERYTHING RIGHT with women, from
first approaching her, to developing deep
rapport and connection, to KEEPING her
attracted, to OBLITERATING all the internal
blocks, anxieties, and doubts, and transforming
them into EMPOWERMENT. And the best
part of all of this, is that you will learn this
in a way that has nothing to do with playing
GAMES on women.

That might sound impossible, but I promise you
that in this program you will see EXACTLY
why and how this is true, and in fact why this
is the MOST POWERFUL way to go with
attracting a woman.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

You can even check out samples of the program
as well as testimonials on this page as well.

You will find that this program contains no
manipulative tactics at all.

Trust really IS the central premise of
human society and all relationships.

I promise you, you can take my word
for it, that when you approach a woman,
who is thinking of considering you for
REAL, the LAST thing on earth you want
to do is make her think you are playing
some kind of GAME on her.

This is a HUGE reason why I believe
Warrior Within is such an important
program, it has NOTHING to do with
games, and everything to do with
BEING the kind of man who understands
and who is the very ESSENCE of attraction.

Again, it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Right now, at this very moment, are fantastic
women that are within 5 MINUTES of where
you live, who are single, gorgeous, and WISHING
they could find the right man.

Now, you can BE that man. The most powerful
step you can take in ENSURING that is right HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Easy Ways To Get Women CRAVING You

Do you want to approach women in a super-easy way?
Then just follow my recipe, it’s called
‘DISARM and CHARM’.

Unless you're talking in a nightclub, where
the atmosphere is already very social, when
you're in normal places like the bus or coffee
shop, women have been conditioned to be a little
cautious for good reasons, after all there are
some men out there who are "less than virtuous",
just as there are some women out there who
are "less than virtuous".

So one of the BEST ideas that WORKS is for
you to draw upon POSITIVE VIBES that she
herself can IMMEDIATELY recognize, feel,
and relate to.

In the same way you wouldn't be able to relate to
a woman talking to you about the finer applications
of lipstick, you shouldn't expect most women to 
identify with demolition derby, Star Trek, or some
obscure Bruce Lee movie. Also, there is no point
in starting a conversation with a woman about
anything BORING, even if she can relate to it.

You can STILL totally be yourself and disarm her
and charm her, and you can do this by playfully
bringing up topics that are both INNOCENT and
FUNNY, and you can give these topics a
flirtatious TWIST.

One idea I love and that works with fantastic
consistency, is to bring up TV SHOWS from
childhood that chances are you both liked,
and then offer a playful sexual perspective
on the show, or even a playful perspective
on the show from the standpoint of male and
female gender roles.

I call it "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV!"

It's important to remember that it must still be
INNOCENT, and yet ALSO be ADULT.
This is a fine line that most people overlook.

I mean, who CAN'T like The Flintstones?
Who CAN'T like Cookie Monster, Oscar the Grouch,
and Ernie and Bert???????????????

Okay fine, maybe some people can't, but
I don't want anything to do with those
people, that's for sure!

If a woman does not "get this", it immediately
screens her OUT, as you don't want a woman
without a sense of humor, or a woman who is
bitter and no fun.

So here's just one EXAMPLE of how "Innocent Adult
Views On Childhood TV" works to disarm her and
charm her:

"Excuse me, I have a very serious question
I need the answer to. Could you help me out?"

(This SERIOUS tonality at the start is done
on purpose because it makes it all the more
FUNNY when she finds out in about three seconds
from the topic that actually this is NOT serious
at all!)

So she nods to you, or says, "Ok sure", etc.

You then go on with:

"See, I was wondering, if you were to choose
one of the two, would you marry Fred Flintstone
or Barney Rubble? This is very serious."

As she starts to crack a smile, you keep a
straight face and give her a sec to answer.

If she laughs, you continue to let her know
this is very important and serious and that
you need the answer.

If she then says that she would choose Fred, you
tell her "Oh man, this would never work out with
you and me, Fred is far too normal, goes to work
every day, very reliable good guy, far too much
pressure for me. I'm more of a Barney Rubble
type dude, I just go for a drive in the morning
but don't actually work anywhere, and I need
a woman like Betty who is more cool and
who can help me in my underground illegal
businesses!"

Chances are, she WILL be laughing by now, and
that is not only because this stuff is funny, but
because the MEMORIES of childhood and of
that show are triggering POSITIVE EMOTIONS
in her, and it's hard to view you as a THREAT
if you are being associated in her mind with
Barney or Fred or the Flintstones.

By the way, if she says she would choose Barney,
you could high-five her and tell her she is SUCH
a cool girl. (Totally over exaggerate, which only
HEIGHTENS the humor because even though she
knows you are kidding, it still feels GOOD for her,
since she feels, even if just playfully, that she
EARNED this respect because of her choice, she
didn't just get this high-five for nothing, but
rather because of her great taste in choosing a
man- BARNEY RUBBLE! People appreciate what they
EARN!)

And you could then go on to tell her why she
is so cool, because she is like Betty, who
was cool with Barney not having a real job
all day and that you plan to do the same
thing and just watch TV all day!

Then you can add the final kicker and say that
you two are TOTALLY GETTING MARRIED asap!

She will NOT think you are needy, she will KNOW
you are being playful.

So there, all at once, you have DISARMED her,
and you have CHARMED her.

This is just ONE example, there about
a BILLION other versions that you could
create, (and you could make them
even MORE powerful by incorporating
into your examples all the OTHER skills
I teach in my programs and materials.)

The first key to remember is to use something
from CHILDHOOD TV, something that is FAMOUS
so that she ALREADY is very familiar with it
so that you don't have to waste time explaining
all the details. You want her to GET IT immediately,
so it's key you use something that she will KNOW.

The second key to remember about this idea is to
give the whole discussion an ADULT twist.

The third key is to remember to NOT GO
OVERBOARD with the adult twist. In other
words, KEEP IT ALL INNOCENT. I see
so many guys going wayyyyyy too far into
the land of the VULGAR and that totally
RUINS the whole effect, the whole point
of the idea in the first place.

And remember to be CONGRUENT with your
own personality. If you never watched the
Flintstones, then don't use that example.
There are so many shows that you could
choose from, it's ridiculous. And the truth
is that it doesn't even have to be TV. It
could be some kind of popular SNACK
that was famous for kids back when you
were a child.

Maybe the snack came with some really LAME
gift, or some offer for a free gift if you
sent in about a "thousand" proofs of purchase,
(exaggerate for effect) that at the time
seemed REALLY cool, that you could discuss
and twist in playful way. For example, you
could tell her that you only like adventurous
girls, and that you are looking for a partner
in crime, to steal the toys from the cereal
boxes in the supermarket. And you can
tease her that she is too much of a wuss
to be up for it, etc. Or you can tease
her that you know she would do it for
some prize from the Strawberry Shortcake
cereal!

From there, now that you have her disarmed and
charmed, it's going to be MUCH easier to get
into rapport with her and to get into a real
conversation of getting to know each other,
now that you both have your "guard" down.

You've displayed guts, humor, charm, and you've
taken her into a receptive state of mind.

Get the idea?
It's gold, and I guarantee you IT WORKS.

As you might guess, I love using TV and MOVIES
because it’s on all over the world, and gives
you a chance to DRAW UPON the emotions and
the times associated with those experiences,
so she feels all THOSE cool emotions as well!

Let’s get into some DEEPER stuff too so
that you can take things to an even
higher level with that hottie!

Let me say, first, that I used to get
EMOTIONALLY DECIMATED by the effects of
many movies on my perception of women.

I would watch as the hero went through
emotional torture and finally got the girl
through PERSISTENCE and LONGING and
PATIENCE and LOYALTY and DEDICATION.

So I figured THAT was what women LIKED, since
after all, not only did I feel, at the time, that this
was "right"- i.e. that women were naturally more
innocent and more virtuous than men, and that
men had to "earn" women's interest, but it
ALSO seemed to me that women LOVED
these movies.

That's how I USED to think.
Now, don't get me wrong.
I was not ONLY into these kinds of movies.
I was all into RAMBO, ROCKY, and all that
stuff. But I ALSO would get affected by
romantic movies.

Then, after YEARS, of finally figuring out the
TRUTH about attraction, and what DOES
work, I HATED all those chick-flicks.

But there was still one question left:
Why the heck do women even LIKE these
movies, if in FACT, women are NOT
attracted to guys that act like that?????

And then one day it finally HIT me:
Even though guys and girls might see the
SAME movie, they are actually seeing two
TOTALLY DIFFERENT movies.

You see, the truth is that once you GET IT
TOTALLY, you actually SEE the full picture.

Let me give you a PERFECT EXAMPLE:
The movie "The Notebook".

Women looooooved this movie.
And in fact it was written by a guy.
And it's actually a pretty well made movie,
even for guys, IF you are ALREADY in
the KNOW. If you are NOT informed about
women and what works, you will NOT
get it AT ALL.

If you are a typical good guy, the story seems
to be about some old guy telling this old lady
about a story about a guy without much money
who falls for a cute girl from a richer
social class and who REALLY DIG each
other but then end up in a fight.

They split, she moves away and eventually
meets some other dude and gets engaged,
and the original guy is depressed for years
till they meet again and the passion reignites
and she realizes HE was the one all along.

We then find out that the old guy and old
lady ARE the characters, and that she has
memory loss and he tells her the story every
day till for a few minutes she remembers who
he is, then forgets him all over again.

It breaks him up to see her forget him,
but it's okay, since he loves her.

SO, if you are a good guy, you get all
the WRONG lessons:

KISS UP, and pine for a girl for your
whole life, and be willing to give up
EVERYTHING even for a FEW SECONDS of
having a woman REMEMBER you.

And get DEPRESSED and DON'T MOVE
ON properly with any other woman.

And you are taught that this is
ROMANTIC and that women LIKE
this stuff, and appreciate such
behavior, since after all the movie
was a MASSIVE HIT.

And the movie shows you that if you just
MOPE AROUND LONG ENOUGH,
the WOMAN will come back, she will
be crazy about you, etc.

DISASTROUS, I say.

BUT!

And there's a BIG but here:
HOW COME THIS FLICK IS A ONE OF THE
BIGGEST BLOCKBUSTERS of all time,
especially considering it’s not a
big ACTION flick?

How come women get all choked up and excited by this???

I'll TELL you why, because they saw a
TOTALLY DIFFERENT MOVIE.

Now, let me tell you the movie they saw, from
the perspective of ATTRACTION:

In practically the first couple of MINUTES of
this movie, the GUY of the movie shows
GUTS, COURAGE, CONVICTION, A
SENSE OF HUMOR, AND EVEN
SHOWS JUST THE RIGHT TOUCH
OF "VULNERABILITY".

Basically, while at the town carnival,
(this story is set during the Second World
War in a small town) he sees this beautiful
girl having the time of her life on the bumper
cars, she seems so totally free and full of
spark. As she gets off the cars and joins
her date for the evening as well as her
girlfriend and the guy she is with,
(so you get the feeling that this is not
something too serious, and more of
a social thing) the guy who is the main
character comes STRAIGHT UP TO HER,
and asks her if she'll dance with him.

He says it relaxed, a confident smile,
and NOT like a jerk at all. He is practically
in her face, yet his demeanor is so calm,
it doesn't seem crazy.

She tells him no.
He calmly says why not, NOT in an
argumentative way, but in a DISARMING
way. She tries to act like "a lady" that
she is not one to just be "taken" especially
while she is OUT with some dude and
her friends, so she tells him she doesn't
WANT to.

He is TOTALLY unaffected, and smiles
as she walks off.

As she goes off with her friends, she
remarks to her girlfriend she can't
BELIEVE the guts the guy had.

She also finds out that this guy is not
NORMALLY like that, so that he
must REALLY like her.

DECODING:
He had GUTS.
He had CLASS.
He was not treating her like a slut, because
he ACTUALLY liked her as opposed to
just her being another woman to use and
discard.
He was SPONTANEOUS and acted on
his OWN desire the way he felt was right.

Allow me to continue:

Minutes later, he sees her on the Ferris wheel
as it's about to start. He hurries over to it
and jumps and grabs her car as it begins to
rise, and he sits himself DOWN beside her
and the dude!

He is very straightforward, introducing
himself again, giving his name, handshake
etc. The girl and the guy think he is nuts.

He wants to know if she'll go out with him.

She says no.
He calmly gets out of car as it is
WAY UP HIGH now above the ground,
hanging on to the rails by his HANDS
only. He asks her again, and she
says no, but then he lets go of the
rails with one arm and is now only
hanging on by ONE HAND.

She yells to him that's she'll go out
with him. He tells her to say it again.

He calmly tells her something like,
"don't do me any favors if you don't
REALLY want to" and she yells back
she "REALLY wants to"!!

So he gives back a COCKY, PLAYFUL
RESPONSE and says "okay okay, I'll go
out with you" as if SHE begged for it.

Then, as he is hanging there, she tries to
MAKE FUN of him and undoes his
pants so he is hanging on by his arms
and his pants are down with only
his underwear on.

He takes it all IN STRIDE, it all SLIDES
OFF HIS BACK, and he tells her he's
going to get for her it, but you know
he is NOT pissed.

Can you say "PASSING THE TEST"?

Then, the next day, he sees her walking by
his work and tries to set the date, she tells
him she changed her mind. He doesn't
ARGUE with her, he DISARMS her
by being CHARMING and giving her
a GENUINE compliment that he likes
her.

But REMEMBER, he has already shown
VALUE through his behaviour and style.

So the COMPLIMENT is FLATTERING.
She then tries to test him again, to see
if he is REALLY serious or not. She tells
him he's a good player. He tells her that's
not it at all, which is the truth, it's not.

At one point, she tells him he's dumb, but
you can tell she LIKES him, from her
TONALITY. He doesn't ARGUE with
her, he even says he can be dumb, it's
something he does too as well as dance, etc.

You see, most guys would only focus on
what he is saying that is self-deprecating, but
they would IGNORE THE REAL STUFF
he did that GOT HER ATTRACTED.

They get a low level "double date" where he
goes to see a flick with her, and his buddy
is there as well accompanying her girlfriend.

He CALIBRATES right, because he can
tell she is enjoying the movie, and he LIKES
THE FACT she is the kind of person who
enjoys life. He likes her not just for her
body, but for her personality as well.

Then something happens after the flick:
He takes her for a walk and DISPLAYS
MORE MASSIVE AWESOME PERSONALITY
and CONNECTS WITH HER AS WELL.

He READS her correctly, even though she
tells him how busy she is with all kinds of
"serious" things, and how every second of
her day is planned, mostly by her parents,
he tells her that it's strange because he
always sensed she was FREE.

She says she IS free, but he senses that she
WANTS to be free, she is the kind of person
that really loves doing her own things, but
that she is NOT doing that for most of her
life.

He UNDERSTANDS HER BETTER than
she understands herself.

He is giving her the GIFT of greater self
awareness and leading her to the path of
inner peace and feeling better about herself.

And then he does something REALLY GOOD:

He doesn't just TALK, he DEMONSTRATES.

He lies down on the STREET, which is empty
and pretty much free of traffic at night in this
small town in those days. He chills out and
enjoys watching the street light change from
red to green etc.

She doesn't want to join him, it's too
socially unacceptable and "crazy".
He tells her that's her problem,
that she's too worried about
what everyone else thinks.

She feels CHALLENGED by this.

HE CHALLENGES HER GENUINELY.

So she joins him, on the ground, looking
up. He also teases her when she asks
what happens if a car comes, playfully
and casually saying "we die".

In that moment, as she chills out and
just enjoys the colors of the lights
changing and TOTALLY chilling out
there at night on the street, she has
NOW ENTERED HIS WORLD.

She is feeling the peace, the joy of it.
And it is PRICELESS even though it costs
nothing.

Then suddenly, they hear a car SPEEDING
so they MAKE A MAD RUSH AWAY FROM
THE STREET onto the sidewalk, and she is
laughing hysterically, because she HAS
NEVER HAD SO MUCH FUN IN HER LIFE.

From here he offers her to dance again, right
there on the street, and they do, and it's
the perfect time for real physical contact.

ATTRACTION has been earned.
RESPECT has been earned.
CONNECTION has been achieved.

He has STOOD OUT.

And it was all done in a NATURAL WAY.
No manipulation.

THIS is the kind of stuff that WOMEN are
seeing in the movie.

And the movie is EMOTIONALLY true as
well, because the dude is not perfect.

He screws up when he LOSES HIS OWN
SELF-ESTEEM when he repeatedly hears
how OTHERS in her social circle look
DOWN on him, including her mom, the
family, the family friends, etc.

Even though SHE STANDS UP FOR HIM,
it's not enough for him, because
HE HAS ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE AFFECTED
BY THEIR STATEMENTS and this has made
him FEEL UNWORTHY of her. He can't stand
to FEEL like HE may be holding her back
from being as great in her social setting
as she could be without him. (This is
his own massive error in thinking,
the result of his damaged self-esteem).

He can't stand to see her parents
yelling at her because of HIM.
He feels UNWORTHY of her, as if
there is no way on Earth she
could want to be with him if it
means all this stress for her.

So HE breaks up with her.

And yet, she gets PISSED at him for
wanting to break up with her. She
tries to convince him not to worry
about what others think, that they
can make it, but he is TOO WEAK to
LEAD THE SHOW OF HIS OWN LIFE, AND
THIS SERIOUSLY PISSES HER OFF even
though she is sad at the same time.

It pisses her off that HE doesn't believe
strongly enough in the GREAT TIMES
that they had and that they can CONTINUE
to have it.

The EMOTIONAL TRUTH of this is
OVERWHELMINGLY ACCURATE.

The biggest enemy most guys have is
THEMSELVES.

Well, I'm not going to go into the ENTIRE
movie here, but let me just say that the way
they DO end up back together is only
AFTER he does the SAME THING that
got HER into him in the FIRST PLACE:
by being THE MAN.

When he first met her, he was operating from
an INTERNAL PLACE OF GOOD VIBES
and a place of EMOTIONAL ABUNDANCE.

He LIKED HER, he wasn't NEEDY FOR HER.
In fact, he ENCOURAGED HER TO ENJOY
LIFE BEING HERSELF.

By encouraging greater INDEPENDENCE
in her, she FLEW FASTER TO HIM.

And it wasn't like he was doing this to be
MANIPULATIVE, it was because he
LIKED her personality, it was about
the JOY for life he saw she had deep
in her that needed to get out and be
free.

And in the end, he does this again, in a
more INTENSE way, when he tells her
regarding her confusion over what to
do, since in her own words the other
guy is a "good man" too, he tells her
to do for once what SHE feels, not
what her PARENTS feel, not what
HE feels, not what the other guy
feels. He practically YELLS at
her. Once again, this is a guy who
is NOT desperate to have a woman.

A woman can only be with him if HE
likes her and if SHE really WANTS
to be there. And also, he really IS
the kind of guy who believes in being
FREE to do what you really believe.

So his words are CONGRUENT
with his personality and actions.
They thus have MAXIMUM EMOTIONAL
IMPACT.

And he DOES get her back.
But really, that's not the point, the point is
HIS IDENTITY, the kind of PERSON he is.

So ALL THE ABOVE ELEMENTS that I've
discussed are what must happen in the
REAL WORLD as well for a guy to get
RESULTS with QUALITY women. I'm
not saying the exact same EXAMPLES
have to happen, but the exact same
PRINCIPLES must be there:

The bringing her into YOUR world, the
enriching HER life, the desire without
the neediness, the connection, challenging
her in a genuine yet heartfelt and good
way, the ability to walk away, the true
level of understanding her world as good
or better than she does herself, and ALL
the other elements above as well.

Some of that is very advanced stuff.

And ALL THOSE EMOTIONS are what women
emotionally get ADDICTED to.

It's UNCONSCIOUS.
It's INSTINCTIVE.
It's NATURAL.

It's not cerebral, women do NOT
go around articulating it.

It's totally something they feel
emotionally and immediately
and NOT consciously or
cerebrally.

And the emotions are true to life, it all
makes perfect sense; in fact women had
no choice. It was HARDWIRED that they
would love this flick.

These are the kinds of things that create in
women when they watch the flick, the emotions
of ROMANCE, TEARS, PASSION, AND THE
TORRID SEXY LOVE SCENE when they reunite.

And you can APPLY ALL THESE THINGS TO
YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN AS WELL!

What you've just read is a GLIMPSE into a
whole different UNIVERSE that no one
else on EARTH is giving you. It's the
FULL TRUTH on the EMOTIONAL DYNAMICS
OF ATTRACTION.

Understanding this universe is the key to
genuinely improving yourself in this area
naturally, and it's also definitely the ONLY
way to attract the true QUALITY girls.

If you'd like to enter this universe, I've

created a special resource over the last

several YEARS, designed to take you there

as quickly as possible:

The Warrior Within Program DVD Set.

This program is massively comprehensive:

You will learn to spontaneously create

the EMOTIONS in women that make LIFE

worth LIVING for them. You will learn

to create MASSIVE attraction, trust,

connection, AND you will learn to do all

this naturally because it will become a

product of who you are, and not just

something you "do".

This program is the only one of its kind

that truly will make you an expert at

EMOTIONAL DYNAMICS especially as it

relates to ATTRACTION.

And it's ALSO got EXPLICIT DETAILED

info on how to smoothly perform pickup

ANYWHERE, from FIRST seeing a woman

all the way to getting physical and beyond,

even long-term if you so desire.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Allow me to also state at this time, that

if you are thinking of BOOTCAMP, then this

is a fantastic time to do it.  It's summer,

and there are more women out and about than

ever, which means more opportunities for

you to hone your skills.

Plus, the good weather means not freezing

your butt off when meeting women outdoors.

Bootcamp goes all year, but this is a damn

fun time to do it.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks