The Secret Of "The Pick-Up That Wasn't There"

Many years ago, I introduced a revolutionary concept 

regarding how to approach and attract women.

At first, just about every single "pick up artist" on 

the PLANET thought it was a HORRIFYING idea,

but they never TESTED it, so they didn't know the

truth.

Ultimately, however, this concept that I had been 
using and teaching my clients was proven to be 
SO POWERFUL, that over the course of MANY
YEARS ultimately won over practically EVERY 
pick-up artist on the planet, so that by these days 
it has finally been proven as ONE HUNDRED 
PERCENT TRUE. 

So in case you haven't been following my work for years,

allow me to re-introduce this concept that I worked tooth

and nail for and fought an uphill battle for YEARS for

before finally it became clear to everyone that is was

indeed TRUE:

The BEST "pick up" happens in a way that feels NATURAL,

and SUBTLE. There is no feeling of "GAME" happening.

Which is where my years-old saying comes in: 

The best “pick-up” is actually the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

In other words, it is so NATURAL, it is really just a 

CONVERSATION between a MAN and a WOMAN,

that PRESERVES the natural underlying CHEMISTRY 

between man and woman, instead of repressing that chemistry.   

The whole problem stems from overcompensation, which

itself stems from insecurity. So the EXAGGERATION of 

any "game" strategy stems from feeling insecure, which leads

to the belief that "more is better" - which, as you probably 

know, is actually not true- it's not true for attracting women,

and it's not true for most things in life.  

So often, less is more. It's about being WISE in the 

APPROPRIATE use of "game" as opposed to just

pouring it on thick.  

So, with that in mind, let's begin the article:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
my Bootcamps is that I’m constantly seeing
the TRUTH of what works and what doesn’t
with attracting the women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop, it
may be a good idea to let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.

The purpose of this is not to hide your approach,
but the opposite in fact, it's to actually give her
a moment to recognize that you are there, instead
of jolting her with a "surprise" out of nowhere.

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.

And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
you might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

And if you are reading this right now, you
can probably see that I am all about giving
you the steps for taking action with women,
no matter where you meet them.

No hype, no gimmicks, just solid CONTENT.

My programs are about meeting and attracting women of QUALITY.

If you want to know how to how to meet and attract 
a fantastic woman, DEFINITELY go HERE:

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If you are looking for my LATEST proven strategies
on approaching and attracting women, then I suggest
you download my "specialization series".

These programs are PACKED with strategies
that you can use INSTANTLY to attract women
no matter WHERE you see them.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Attract The ULTRA HOT Ones

You know how people tell you that success
with women is just about "CONFIDENCE"?

The fact of the matter is, just hearing the words
"be confident" doesn’t help a guy when a gorgeous,
mouth-watering, smoking-hot woman is right in
front of him... 

Just telling a guy to “be confident” doesn’t help
EXPLAIN how to actually get a gorgeous woman
from being a total stranger to being in your bed
“begging you for more” and screaming your name
out in ecstasy.

And just telling a man to “be confident” doesn’t
explain how to actually make a woman want
to be the greatest girlfriend in the world to you.

That's why I created my latest program, "Attracting The Ultra-Hotties: Raising Your Game On Attraction, Humor, Screening, And Deep Connections."
 
Attracting Women Is About A Lot MORE Than Just Having Confidence

Plus, even if a man DOES have confidence, there
is MORE to attracting a woman than just being
CONFIDENT.  Mastering the conversation skills,
the skills of humor, of style, of HOW to physically
escalate, and of HOW to build a deep connection
all require SPECIFIC knowledge, training, and
insights.

These areas of success with women involve a lot
more than JUST “being confident”.

There is KNOW-HOW and there is IGNORANCE.

When the moment of truth arises, and that gorgeous
woman is right in front of you, just thinking "be confident"
is not enough. 



Plus, even learning just how to truly UNLEASH the
FULL extreme of one’s confidence is ALSO a
skill in itself.

The ULTIMATE level of success with women comes
when you learn how to COMBINE all these different
skills.

A Real-Life Example Of A COMBINATION Of Attractive Skills

In just a few moments, I’m going to give you a REAL LIFE example of how to COMBINE confidence, wit, humor, and social intelligence when interacting with a bona fide HOTTIE.

This comes from a real life example where SNOOP
DOGG was teasing a beautiful woman who is an
actress and a comedian. Her name is Whitney
Cummings. By the way, I have no idea if Snoop
himself wrote what he said or if he had a writer,
but there is no denying that he delivered it perfectly.

Now, keep in mind, when it comes to interacting
with women, everything is about ADJUSTING to
the SITUATION and to the WOMAN you are with.

Why You Must "Raise The Bar" With The Hotties

So, in general, when dealing with women who are
SUPER HOT, and who are CONFIDENT, you
MUST RAISE THE BAR in terms of IMPACT.

Although it is true that for the really gorgeous women,
most men won’t even approach them,  the fact also
is that these women, over the course of their lives,
have had just about EVERY TYPE OF "PICK UP"
attempt thrown their way.

They are DESENSITIZED to most approaches.
They have seen so many pathetic attempts at
FAKING confidence, that to really convey
confidence to a woman you have to go
BEYOND what you think is confidence.

So, right now, IMAGINE what a confident and
playful statement to a woman might be.

I’m here to tell you that if you are like most guys,
what you just imagined is NOT enough.

You have to take it UP by a THOUSAND notches.

Try to IMAGINE what MASSIVE CONFIDENCE
these super hot women feel in terms of their LOOKS.

If you can really imagine this, you will start to realize
that what is perceived as a PLAYFUL TEASE for these
women might NOT be fun for a less confident woman.

If you’re THE HULK, you need a little more of a
challenge than if you’re a "mere mortal" and 
these SUPER HOTTIES are like HULKS when
it comes to their CONFIDENCE.

And the TRUTH is, that just TELLING A MAN
TO BE CONFIDENT, is not enough, because
most men have no CLUE what this level of
BALLS and CONFIDENCE actually is supposed
to SOUND LIKE and how to MANIFEST that
confidence through WORDS and through tonality.

The reason why it’s so tough to even FATHOM
how much CONFIDENCE these women have
is because unless a man EXPERIENCES what
life is like for these women, it’s very difficult to
just IMAGINE it.

That’s why I’m going to give you a real example.

I’m going to give you an idea of just HOW
confident these ULTRA HOTTIES really are,
and what kind of EQUAL CONFIDENCE you
must exert in order to be on the SAME emotional
WAVELENGTH that they are on.

            Here Is The Detailed Example:

So here we go, this is a playful TEASE that
Snoop Dogg said to this gorgeous actress who
is ALSO a comedian:

“Whitney Cummings, look at your fine little skinny
ass sitting up there.  I’ve rolled blunts fatter than you!
But you’ve been passed around a little bit more.”

Now, I must explain also that the EMPHASIS
ON THE RIGHT WORDS is of PARAMOUNT
significance if you are going to make the most
IMPACT. 

      The Analysis Part I: It's SEXUAL
 
Before I even say one more word, let's point out
the fact that this is SEXUAL humor, used in a
brilliant way.  

If you can get a woman feeling COMFORTABLE 
about sexual things to the point she is actually
LAUGHING  about something DIRECTLY 
sexual regarding HERSELF, you are ALREADY 
well on the way to success.

Compare THAT to a guy who spends three
dates with a woman and is still trying to just
get the KISS!!!!!

So that's the first thing immediately to keep
in mind, which is using humor to break the
SEXUAL barrier ASAP.

This is a great way to ensure you stay OUT
of the "friends zone" and that you stay on her
mind in a very explicit, sexual, and enjoyable
way that she can't help but keep thinking about.

By the way, she was laughing her HEAD OFF
at all this, and clearly ENJOYED IT LIKE CRAZY.

And I'm not saying that every guy has to do the
SAME thing, or use the SAME kind of jokes; it
is important to be congruent to yourself, but
it is ALSO important to understand just how
INSANELY confident most attractive women
really ARE about all this stuff.

The PRINCIPLE here is RAISING THE BAR
in terms of CHALLENGING and CONFIDENT
humor when interacting with women who are
ULTRA CONFIDENT with men, and who are
DESENSITIZED to the style of most men's 
approaches. 
  
  The Analysis Part II: The PAUSE
 
In the tease above, the emphasis was:

“Whitney Cummings.
(PAUSE).

By taking a PAUSE, he shows he is not in a RUSH
to just get the words over with.

He shows he KNOWS he has VALUE to his words.
He wants to make sure everyone is LISTENING.

Instead of saying verbally "I'm confident", he is
actually SHOWING it through his BEHAVIOR.

Plus, by taking a PAUSE after saying her name, he
builds up ANTICIPATION.

He gets her MORE EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED
in his statement.

This is what she’s wondering:
"What the HECK is he going to say about me?"

And getting her more involved takes MORE CONFIDENCE because it shows he feels that his message is going to totally WORK on her.

So just in that one move, he has shown confidence,
AND he has increased her emotional involvement
by building anticipation.  
 
                The Analysis Part III:  
Adjusting The Tease For The Specific Woman, And COMBINING Emotions For Greater Impact

“Look at your fine little skinny ass up there”.

The bottom line is that being SLIM is something
that is more POSITIVE than negative, so this isn’t
mean.

It’s VERY IMPORTANT that your teases to a woman
are never MEAN-SPIRITED, otherwise you just come
across as a guy who is bitter and who is NOT cool
and who is not already “in demand” by women.

Yet, at the same time, he is STILL TEASING her
on being SUPER slim, as if to say she’s TOO slim,
by saying:

“I’ve rolled BLUNTS fatter than you!”

Upon hearing this, she is simultaneously SHOCKED
at the guts it takes to say this and she is also LAUGHING hysterically at the HUMOR at the SAME time.

COMBINING emotions makes for GREATER
EMOTIONAL IMPACT!

It’s not just true with humor, but actually is true
for ALL emotions.  This is why great movies, by
the way, are very COMPLEX.  The situation the
hero is in is often a COMBINATION of emotions,
including being exciting, dangerous, humorous,
passionate, intriguing, romantic, etc.

Music does this as well, i.e. the song lyrics
“I’ll KISS you when it’s DANGEROUS”, the
love, the lust, the danger, when mixed together,
makes each of those separate emotions feel even
MORE powerful than each emotion would feel
on its own. 

Back to our example with Snoop, this is a great
example of combining shock from experiencing
this comment that takes GUTS to say, yet it is
also FUNNY as heck.

And of course, it’s obvious from her reaction that
she is this combination of IMPRESSED and she
LIKES it.

Remember, for the most part of her LIFE, she only
meets men that BORE HER TO SLEEP.

                      The Analysis Part IV:
The Humor Has It's Own LOGIC, Plus The
Humor Creates A Powerful IMAGE In Her Mind

But Snoop isn’t finished, he’s just warming up
with that one.

He goes on to FURTHER floor her with:

“BUT YOU’VE BEEN PASSED AROUND
A LITTLE BIT MORE!”  

This is the kind of thing that you can ONLY
get away with because it’s a COMBINATION
of being CLEARLY UNTRUE (so it’s not mean)
yet also insanely FUNNY because it’s such an easy
INSTINCT to THINK that she is that type because
of the fact she is not only super hot but also a
comedian who jokes about sex all the time.

Plus, the obvious connection to a blunt that is
“passed around” is a potential for humor that is
BEGGING to be expressed.  It also creates a
VISUAL of her being just an object like a blunt,
and the joke is that she is viewed and used in a
similar way for similar purposes of sheer pleasure,
which, in a crazy way, is STILL to some extent
an actual COMPLIMENT, because it means she
is DESIRABLE. 

This is POWERFUL stuff all crammed into a
BRIEF couple of sentences of humor!

Again, she was laughing so hard, her sides were
splitting from laughter.

                    The Analysis Part V: 
The Humor Is UNPREDICTABLE, And Yet It
All Makes PERFECT SENSE In Its Own Way

Then, he goes for the close with:

“But right now, things are popping for Whitney y’all.
Everybody in HOLLYWOOD is talking about her,
and they’re all saying the same thing:

I think that b*&^% gave me HERPES!”

And to this, he has delivered the KNOCKOUT,
she is almost hysterical with laughter, not in
SPITE of, but BECAUSE of the fact he is busting
on her BIG time.

Again, NOT ONLY does this take GUTS to say,
but it also takes SKILL to come up with this.

First, Snoop takes the comment in one direction,
saying all these NICE things about her, i.e. that
she’s popular, that everyone is talking about her,
and THEN he says something that we DON’T
expect. It’s the complete OPPOSITE direction
when he says that the thing they’re all saying is:

“I think that b*&^% gave me HERPES!”

To be specific, the reason this works so well,
is because it MIXES five things together:

                                ONE:
                           The Truth

He says the truth, that she is super popular.
So we find ourselves believing and our
minds ACCEPTING what he says.

                                  TWO:
         He Says What Is NOT Predictable

When he says, "I think that b*&^% gave me HERPES!"
there is no way for her to see that comment coming,
so it takes her by surprise.

Most women are totally DESENSITIZED by all the
things that most men say to them again and again
a billion times a day.

The key is to say something women are NOT expecting,
that is still PLAYFUL and not MEAN, but is also
CHALLENGING at the same time.  

                                   THREE:
The “Twist” At The End Is Not Just A Surprise,
It’s Actually The PERFECT Conclusion To The
PREVIOUS Line He Said To Her!  

The best 'twist' with humor almost always obeys the
following rule:

It's not only a "surprise", but it's a surprise which makes
PERFECT SENSE from the humor perspective.

So the humor doesn't feel forced, it feels like a perfect fit.

It's the PERFECT Conclusion To The PREVIOUS
Line That Was Said, Even Though It Was NOT
What She Expected!  

His final line, even though at first it seems to go
completely in the OPPOSITE direction to what he
said before, ends up still being PERFECTLY
CONSISTENT with what he first said before.

In other words, everyone IS talking about her,
her name IS popping up all over Hollywood,
it’s just NOT in a GOOD WAY!

                            FOUR:
      He Creates A Powerful Visual

It’s also FUNNY because theoretically
this is the kind of thing that CAN happen in
real life, but more importantly the VISUAL
of all these guys who got SCREWED by her
and are now paying for it, but who at least
are also all finding comfort in sharing
their misery with each other.

You can picture a bunch of guys at a bar all
sharing their misery about her.

                             FIVE: 
It’s Never MEAN, Because It Is Perfectly
Customized For A Woman Of HER Looks
And HER Wit, And HER Confidence  

We also realize that this whole story
is actually NOT the truth, that she did not
give anyone herpes or anything, which makes
the whole thing FUNNY and not MEAN.

It’s OBVIOUS that it is a JOKE, but it’s
a joke that still takes GUTS.

Plus, most importantly, she is a woman who
is HOT and WITTY and who is likely to
ENJOY this kind of communication.

                            SIX:
      It Takes INTELLIGENT Risks

Saying this tease STILL required an
element of RISK, it still took GUTS, and
COURAGEOUS jokes are always funnier
than jokes that take ZERO risks, jokes that
are totally purely safe and anti-septic.

Part of what MAKES a woman react so strongly
to the joke is that it TOOK courage and balls
to say it.  Just remember that it’s not ONLY
about the guts, it’s ALSO about the WIT
and everything else I explained above.

The key with humor is to take INTELLIGENT
risks and to use STRATEGY as outlined above.
 
By the way, this is just 1% of what you will learn
in this program that is JAM-PACKED with pure
gold on attracting women. In fact, it’s only one
small part of ONE section on HUMOR.

This program ALSO goes into TONS of OTHER vital skills for ensuring success in getting the most fantastic women, skills that have nothing to do with humor, as you will see below.
 
Here Is ANOTHER Sample On Mastering Humor From The Program:

Before going on, allow me to give ONE more example and analysis regarding HUMOR with women:

At the same event, Seth MacFarlane also demonstrated
super wit, teasing Whitney as well with the following
comment:

“She’s got the body of a crack whore, BUT
she’s got the razor sharp wit of a crack whore.”

So, again, he FIRST says something that is mostly a
compliment, as being SLIM is mostly a COMPLIMENT
in our society, especially with women, and he also
uses the PAUSE to build anticipation when he says
the word “BUT”.

So again, we have the confidence and the use of
anticipation.

The next thing, after his pause, is PERFECT calibration
considering she IS INDEED VERY ATTRACTIVE:

“But she’s got the razor sharp WIT of a crack whore!”

So it’s PERFECT symmetry, it’s consistent, it’s NOT WHAT WE EXPECT, so we DON’T SEE IT COMING which is what makes it more powerful as a SURPRISE.

And yet, even though it’s a SURPRISE, we
TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THE HUMOR.

And, because she is in fact CONFIDENT about her
looks and is sharp and witty herself, like most
hot women, there is no big dumb risk of the
comments HURTING her feelings, because
she KNOWS those things said about her are
NOT TRUE!!!

These particular skills with attracting women
include SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE, so that you
can quickly UNDERSTAND what level of confidence
and self-esteem a woman is at so that you can make
things EXCITING and challenging for her without
HURTING her feelings.

In this special, jam-packed 1-hour audio program, I go into this topic FAR MORE with greater detail and explanation and more examples of how to actually MASTER these skills that make women for you.

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But there’s MORE, and I mean WAY MORE
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This program is NOT a rehash of my other programs, it contains TONS and TONS of ALL-NEW material. 

Here are just SOME of the OTHER crucial strategies, insights, and concepts for attracting fantastic women that you will learn from this important audio program: 

The EFFECTIVE Way To "Make Something Happen" 

Most men are trying to “make something happen”
when they see a woman they want to meet. Ironically,
this is the WORST strategy to take, because it puts
far too much pressure on yourself and ruins your
vibe.

I’ll show you a FAR MORE POWERFUL alternative
that allows you to succeed with something as CASUAL
as, “How are you doing?”

At the same time, this program will show you
MORE SOPHISTICATED ways of capturing
a woman’s interest, but by having this super
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NEVER miss out another opportunity to
meet any woman you see.

New Strategies For Humor That Swallow Women Up Into Your World And Keep Them Chasing You

I’ll also show you TONS of new powerful insights
for using HUMOR with women in a way that
SWALLOWS WOMEN UP into your “vibe” and
makes them want to STAY in your presence.

What you’ve read about humor in this column
barely scratches the SURFACE of what you
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What’s especially great about this style of humor
is that you are not only getting a woman laughing,
but you are also simultaneously SHOWING your
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Remember, in this program, I don’t “tell you” to be
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anything else. Instead, I actually SHOW YOU
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TO WOMEN.

I need to repeat something: When humor is used
PROPERLY with women, it’s not just effective
for rapport and for starting conversations. It
ALSO is actually massively effective for
ATTRACTING a woman in the most powerful
and primal way, because it SHOWS POWER,
WIT, INTELLIGENCE, and much MORE.

How To Avoid "Messing Up" When It Comes To Humor
 
I’ll also show you how to AVOID the mistakes
that most men make when it comes to humor,
because there’s nothing worse than a guy who
is TRYING to be funny but is just coming across
as LAME.    

    How To Use Humor To "Neutralize" Jerks  

Plus, I’ll even show you how to use HUMOR to
effectively NEUTRALIZE anyone who ever tries
to be NASTY to you with a MEAN joke.

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to detect a woman's values and personality traits
as quickly as possible so you don’t waste time
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my most powerful new strategies for "screening"
women and for detecting a woman’s character, 
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women.

WARNING: These “ultra-juicy” topics are so
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WON’T STOP TALKING once you get them started
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but they also will allow you the perfect chance to use
these SAME topics to actually BUILD a deep connection!

These topics work GREAT as playful conversation
STARTERS and yet their very nature ALSO is extremely
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that allows you to build a DEEP CONNECTION with
any woman.  

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Approaching A Woman Who Is A "10": An Example From Real Life

Just wanted to share a quick but important
letter before we get into the article today:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
the "Real World Bootcamps" is that I’m
constantly seeing the TRUTH of what works
and what doesn’t with attracting the
women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop,
don’t go directly up to her which might
surprise her, instead let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.  

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.
And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
You might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

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