The Secret Of "The Pick-Up That Wasn't There"

Many years ago, I introduced a revolutionary concept 

regarding how to approach and attract women.

At first, just about every single "pick up artist" on 

the PLANET thought it was a HORRIFYING idea,

but they never TESTED it, so they didn't know the

truth.

Ultimately, however, this concept that I had been 
using and teaching my clients was proven to be 
SO POWERFUL, that over the course of MANY
YEARS ultimately won over practically EVERY 
pick-up artist on the planet, so that by these days 
it has finally been proven as ONE HUNDRED 
PERCENT TRUE. 

So in case you haven't been following my work for years,

allow me to re-introduce this concept that I worked tooth

and nail for and fought an uphill battle for YEARS for

before finally it became clear to everyone that is was

indeed TRUE:

The BEST "pick up" happens in a way that feels NATURAL,

and SUBTLE. There is no feeling of "GAME" happening.

Which is where my years-old saying comes in: 

The best “pick-up” is actually the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

In other words, it is so NATURAL, it is really just a 

CONVERSATION between a MAN and a WOMAN,

that PRESERVES the natural underlying CHEMISTRY 

between man and woman, instead of repressing that chemistry.   

The whole problem stems from overcompensation, which

itself stems from insecurity. So the EXAGGERATION of 

any "game" strategy stems from feeling insecure, which leads

to the belief that "more is better" - which, as you probably 

know, is actually not true- it's not true for attracting women,

and it's not true for most things in life.  

So often, less is more. It's about being WISE in the 

APPROPRIATE use of "game" as opposed to just

pouring it on thick.  

So, with that in mind, let's begin the article:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
my Bootcamps is that I’m constantly seeing
the TRUTH of what works and what doesn’t
with attracting the women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop, it
may be a good idea to let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.

The purpose of this is not to hide your approach,
but the opposite in fact, it's to actually give her
a moment to recognize that you are there, instead
of jolting her with a "surprise" out of nowhere.

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.

And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
you might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

And if you are reading this right now, you
can probably see that I am all about giving
you the steps for taking action with women,
no matter where you meet them.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Be A "Star" With Women

There are a lot of famous people out there.
They're not STARS though.

A star is both LOVED and FEARED at the same
time. That's because they are so cool and
inspirational that they are loved, and yet
their POWER to affect people in their own
way is so massive, it even stirs FEAR.

If Superman were to exist for real, you
can be sure people would love him and
also fear him.

There IS a thing that is REAL though,
that exists very much in your grasp,
that makes you stand out from other guys,
that compensates for ANY lacking you might
think you have, and that absolutely DOES
draw women to you, and it does it FAST.

This thing is called CHARISMA.

Lots of people out there who say they can
teach it, but then when it comes right down
to it, they give you get the same old thing-
some of them specialize in pick up lines,
others just lots of talk about confidence, etc.

But then the moment of truth comes-
the girl of your dreams is right in
front of you:

Now what?!

Suddenly, all that advice feels far
away, hard to translate into reality.

How the heck do we really UNLEASH charisma?

By REMOVING our own BARRIERS to it.

So let’s DETONATE this volatile force
called CHARISMA.

Charisma is often a double-edged sword,
because in real life, charismatic people are
usually both LOVED and they are also HATED.

The most famous and powerful people you
know are all loved and hated, guaranteed.

If you are a nice NOBODY, then you
will not be disliked by ANYBODY.

The MOMENT you start to succeed at
ANYTHING, you will notice that some
people like you and others are jealous,
or spiteful, or they fear you for being
different, etc, etc, etc.

Have you noticed that?

If you improve your body at the gym,
some people will want to congratulate
you, learn from you, other people you
know might make fun of you for being
a muscle-head, or they might even try
to tell you how unhealthy it is to
exercise!

If you improve yourself in any way,
including the action of approaching women,
you will notice some people love this
and others will dislike you for this.

And therein lies the contradiction that is
the KEY to charisma.

Charisma is born when you FREE YOURSELF
to truly EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE.

And that means accepting the fallout of this.

Most people are afraid of criticism, afraid of
failure, afraid of rejection.

Hey, it’s human.

However, there is something far WORSE to
fear- and that is a life of you not being YOU.

That’s like not living at all, but most people
don’t think about this.

Instead, they try their damn hardest to FIT IN.

And fitting in means not being made FUN OF.

Now, if you make sure to never do anything
to made fun of, you will succeed in this, and
always be SAFE.

You’ll wear the normal jeans everyone is wearing.

You’ll take up the hobbies that are normal.

You’ll have normal friends.

You’ll say the normal things.

You’ll spend your time thinking about normal things.

If anyone seems STRANGE, you’ll push them
away lest you be associated with a possible
weirdo.

You’ll find out what’s popular in music,
what’s popular and normal everywhere,
and get a normal job, etc.

You’re safe from being labeled as the weirdo.

The thing is, there is a very FINE line between
being the COOLEST guy around and being
a supposed “weirdo”.

The coolest people usually are considered weird
by a LOT of people, on the surface anyway, but
deep down these same people often actually WISH
they could be like this person, and of course everyone
else ADMIRES this person and gets inspired by
this person.

Now, if think about some of the coolest people that
come to mind, you’ll find that they defy the normal
rules but they are so cool that for some reasons it’s
“okay” for them to do this.

And the thing is, they never ASKED for this
permission, and nobody ever really GAVE
it to them either! They just DID it, and
eventually people accepted and admired!

RELEASE YOUR PERSONALITY IN FULL
FORCE, COME HELL OR HIGH WATER.

People say ‘be yourself’ but it’s NOT EASY.

Most people who say it are not even doing it themselves.

When you really BECOME yourself, as ironic
and weird as that sounds, you become something
EXTRAORDINARY, and this is the charisma
that exudes from your every pore when this happens.

It shows in everything you do, even the subtle
expression on your face.

So, the FIRST way to apply this when it comes
to your interactions with women and when it
comes to “approaching a woman” is this:

1. ASK YOURSELF IF YOU ARE INTERESTED,
AND IF THE ANSWER IS YES, ACCEPT ALL
CONSEQUENCES.

So if you see a woman you’d like to approach,
and you don’t see a wedding ring or something
like that, then just ask yourself- are you attracted?

If you ARE, then ACCEPT all the consequences
that you FEAR might happen.

ACCEPT them all, because the alternative is WORSE.

So whether you think you’ll be arrested for
talking to her (you won’t but you might still
fear that you will- accept it and move ahead),
whether you fear that she will make fun of you,
whether you fear that everyone else is looking,
ACCEPT IT ALL, because there is one thing
that matters MORE than all that- and that is
you being YOURSELF.

If you don’t go up to her, you are actually
DENYING your own IDENTITY.

See, the way I look at it, it’s not about
WINNING THE GIRL, it’s about
BEING ME.

And THAT is the irony, because the more
it’s about you doing your thing and NOT
seeking approval, the BETTER
she will like you, because you will not be
trying to impress her, you will not be trying
to be somebody else, you will not do the
same old thing that everyone else is doing.

And you will be more genuine and authentic.

STEP TWO: MOVE AHEAD

The second step is CONTINUING to talk
to her in a way that is consistent with your
values, perspectives, sense of humor, etc.

So for example, if you are at the gym
and you see a woman you want to chat to,
you can just go over to her and say ‘Hey
instead of staring at you a thousand times,
I figured I’d just come over and say hi”
and from there you can talk about
working out, you can ask her about her
workout, the main thing is keep it AUTHENTIC.

You can even say that you don't have
time to chat much since you have to
get back to your workout.

In your brain, the moment you ACCEPT
all the potential NEGATIVE FALLOUT
of you being yourself, is the moment you
are FREE to really EXPRESS YOUR
AUTHENTIC IDENTITY- you will then
start to say the right things, do the right
things, you’ll be funnier, more charming,
more dominant, in an authentic way she
can feel a million times more than
she would from a guy trying his luck with
some pick up lines or other equally
false approaches.

Forget all this talk about “winning”, instead
let everyone ELSE worry about trying to fit
into YOUR paradigm of the world rather than
the other way around.

This is why it’s so important that you HAVE
a point of view.

I’m not talking about ignorant opinions, but
rather informed, educated, passionate thoughts
about things.

THIS is contagious, this is cool, this is
what wakes her UP and is like a breath
of fresh air in a world of boring CLONES.

Don’t be afraid to ROCK THE BOAT, but
don’t rock the boat JUST FOR THE SAKE
of rocking the boat. That looks “try hard”
and it in fact IS “try-hard” because it’s not
authentic.

A woman will be able to tell rather quickly
when a guy is not being authentic, because
any time you FAKE something, that thing
you are doing actually requires many other
things for it to seem REAL, so for example
if a guy tries to act like he’s a martial arts
master when he isn’t, he’ll end up doing
something that just doesn’t “vibe”- i.e.
he might be acting all macho when in
fact most martial arts masters don’t act
that way at all, BECAUSE they are
so secure.

The thing is to EMBRACE who you are
and to EMBRACE whatever it is you want
to learn and do, and not fear it.

This includes approaching and chatting to
a woman you’re interested in!

THREE: COMMIT TO IT FULLY

Again, if you REALLY believe in yourself, then
you don’t suddenly SOFTEN UP on being your
HARD CORE SELF just because she starts to
LIKE you.

This often happens when a guy starts to learn
about being successful with women, and then
he starts to show his confidence, and charisma
and he really BECOMES the “man” as I say,
but then at the very moment it starts to WORK,
and the woman starts to show interest in him,
he is SO HAPPY he is GETTING somewhere
with her that he is now TERRIFIED OF LOSING
HER.

So what does he do?

He gives UP all this cool stuff about him, he gives
UP his conviction in himself and his identity, and
now he starts to become a kiss-ass.

And you already know I don’t advocate being
a jerk at all, I actually think being a good guy
is where it’s at, but this good guy must come
from CONVICTION in himself, not from kiss ass!!!!!!

By the way, the very SAME thing happens
sometimes to STARS, whether they’re actors
or singers, or rock stars, etc. They start to
get famous, and they get huge deals and the
companies promoting them or the studios now
want to ENSURE success, so they STOP
taking chances and only pursue ‘safe’ type
music and movies for the masses.

Don’t allow yourself to stray from who
you really ARE, not even for the most
attractive woman on the planet.

The irony of course is that trying that hard to "please"
a woman will only push her away because it was
the REAL you she was attracted to, not the you
that was seeking to remake yourself in her image!

If you have a wild sense of humor, don’t
HIDE it from her, instead SHOW IT.

A lot of guys who are actually very
cool people suddenly CHANGE in front of
women and they become different entirely-
and it's a shame because actually women
DO want the real you, but most guys never
show the real them, only the weak version
of themselves, and they show the same boring
version of a guy that every OTHER guy is showing,
and every other guy is doing this for the same
reason- to fit in, to not be made fun of, to be cool.

It’s very ironic, but the more you try to be
someone, the worse it will be. This doesn’t
mean you can’t change and evolve and
grow as a person with time, in fact that
kind of change is good, because it comes
from YOU.

FOUR: REMOVE PRESSURE

The other great thing about you truly
committing to who you really are
and embracing all the crazy possibilities
that your imagination fears will happen
from being yourself – is that the woman
can SEE you are not “chasing” her,
you are not being mean, but you are not
chasing her either, which means she
can RELAX and make the decision
of whether she wants to talk to you
on her own.

And as every great salesman knows, the
best sales are NOT THE “HARD SELL”
but rather the sell that comes from the
customer herself wanting and making
the decision – and the irony is that
by not chasing her, she now must face
the possibility of LOSS.

This is not a tactic to manipulate her, it’s
the TRUTH, she may very WELL lose you if she
doesn’t do something here as well- she knows
she can’t just let it be ALL you, because you
aren’t willing to go THAT FAR, i.e. you are
not willing to keep on chasing approval from
someone who doesn’t already appreciate you.

When you try too hard to be what SHE wants,
you actually push her away, because she can
sense this decision is not something you want
HER to make, and she feels the pressure
she might have to do something she doesn’t
WANT to do.

But when you simply go nuts on being YOURSELF,
you not only do a better job making a cool impression
but you also allow her to create her OWN pressure
on herself to want you, as opposed to running from
YOUR pressure.

The best way to remove resistance is to create
no FORCE. Instead, let your force flow from
you being YOU- not the you that kisses up,
but the you that you would be with women
if you were willing to ACCEPT even the WORST
FEARS you had about you being yourself.

As a rock star comparison, think about
how totally UNCOOL it would be if
one of the REAL hard rock bands sat
around all day doing press conferences
and trying to figure out what would sell
and what everyone wanted to hear!

The “market” whether it’s music lovers or
WOMEN LOOKING FOR MEN, they ALWAYS
want SOMETHING COMPELLING AND
UNIQUE.

How much do you believe in yourself if
what you do is based on a survey seeking
her approval?

Now, when you DO GENUINELY want
to give a compliment to a woman and it’s
not because you need her to give you
something BACK, then it’s perfectly
fine, when it’s not coming from worshipping
her or with a need to get something back.

FIVE: MIX IT ALL WITH PASSION/LOVE

This is VERY DIFFERENT from having this
submissive smile that comes really from fear and
the need to seek approval.

They say “love conquers all” but it’s misunderstood.
It’s not just about relationships, it’s about LOVE
in all its forms, including SELF-LOVE.

Let the LOVE flow ENDLESSLY, for yourself,
for your IDENTITY, FOR WHO YOU ARE,
for the things you love, and YES, for the
woman as well!

When you do things you LOVE, your entire
body language changes.

So for example, if you have a wacky sense of
humor, but are afraid women won’t get it,
TRY IT ANYWAY on them!

If you have some passionate love for something
that you fear others will find “weird”, who cares
if some might find it weird???? It’s who you
ARE, and chances are if you really are passionate
about it, you will SPARK that passion in women
as well at the very least to the point of them finding
you INTRIGUING AND DIFFERENT.

SIX: LARGER THAN LIFE

Now, the reality is that ‘reality’ can SUCK- it all
depends on which reality you want to focus on.

When you meet a woman, it’s not a cool thing
that you just REINFORCE in her mind that
life can be cruel, boring, unfair, tough, painful,
sad, etc.

However, if YOU can bring more FUN, MORE
COURAGE, MORE PLEASURE, MORE HUMOR,
MORE ADVENTURE, into your OWN perspectives
of things, then you can SHARE this with women.

Some people might argue that this is just a FANTASY
rather than living in reality.

But reality is whatever you are EXPERIENCING,
and if you spend a lifetime laughing and loving
and having great adventures, is that less real
than a life where you allowed yourself to
be bored, tired, upset, depressed, etc?

Learn to make a woman FEEL cool emotions
by focusing on the cool side of things that YOU
see, and you will have her eating out of your hand.

If you want to get a chance with a woman, take her
to an emotional place that is AWESOME, not depressing
or disturbing. 

This doesn't mean you have to always
IGNORE reality, sometimes in the midst of the
most GRIM realities is the most inspiring and
AMAZING emotional moments we can have
in life, IF you know how to see it.

The point is though, to take a woman somewhere
INTOXICATINGLY EMOTIONALLY POSITIVE.
Take her there by focusing the conversation on
the awesome perspectives you have, whether they
be funny, intriguing, or that help inspire or become
more at peace, or that are sensual without being vulgar.

Now, if you would like to apply EVERYTHING you
just read IMMEDIATELY in your approaches with
women, I suggest one or all of these three steps:

ONE: ONE-ON-ONE PRIVATE BOOTCAMP

In bootcamp, everything you learn is CUSTOMIZED
for your needs.  Bootcamp is exclusive and private,
that means you are getting ALL my focus, so I can
make sure that everything I am showing you is being
TAILOR-MADE for your personality, for your learning
style, for your needs, for your goals.

And of course, in case you didn’t already know,
BOOTCAMP is all about me taking you into the real
world to learn how to approach and attract women
ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE. 

You will learn through my demonstration, you will learn
through following my instructions and from receiving
my feedback as you do the approaches so you can
improve with every single woman you approach.

I have been doing this for over ten years, and there is
simply no one else out there who matches my level
of expertise.  My work has been so advanced in this
area, that many of the concepts that I was teaching
TEN YEARS AGO are JUST BEGINNING TO
be employed by so called “experts”.  And since
ten years ago, I have continued to push further
and further ahead, because it is a passion of mine.

You will get to benefit from all that experience and
all that knowledge, and you will get to put it all into  
ACTION in BOOTCAMP.  And again, remember, this
is PRIVATE instruction, so you don’t have to split
your time between yourself and others, ALL the
time is spent on YOU to ensure the absolute most
EFFICIENT learning curve for you.

Contact me by email NOW if you are interested
in signing up for bootcamp.My email is on my
website, just click the "contact" button at the
bottom of the menu at  http://www.getagreatgirl.com

TWO: PRIVATE PHONE CONSULTATION

If you are currently working in a job where you just
can’t take off the weekend, then book a private
phone consultation with me.

A private phone consultation allows you to get
an immediate solution from me to your current
situation.

Contact me by email immediately if you are interested
in signing up for bootcamp. Again, my email is on my
website- just click the "contact" button at the
bottom of the menu at  http://www.getagreatgirl.com 

THREE: WARRIOR WITHIN DVD SET

This is my most powerful and advanced home
study program.  As you know, I have never been
about focusing on gimmicks like pick-up lines
or any other superficial tactics. 

Instead, I have focused on UNLEASHING the
parts of you INTERNALLY that are ATTRACTIVE
to women but that have been SUPPRESSED by all
kinds of forces over the years.

In this program, called “Warrior Within”, I teach you
HOW to unleash this INFINITELY ATTRACTIVE
and powerful force within you that women can’t
help but feel INTENSE ATTRACTION toward.

Get this program now at:

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 Till next time,

Michael Marks

Answering Your Dating Questions, Plus Learning How "The Assertive Man" Attracts Women

There's a VERY important newsletter that
I want to get to, it gets to the HEART
of what is so important for attracting
women, and it has nothing to do with
pick-up lines or any other gimmicks.

Before we get to that, there's a VERY
quick bit of news that I need to mention:

So here's the situation:
I've been getting a LOT of emails asking
me for advice, and I do appreciate it.

Here's the thing, though: There's no way
I can answer all of them in a quick time
frame. Even at just 1o minutes per email,
that would be about 10 STRAIGHT NON-STOP
HOURS a day of me doing NOTHING but
answering emails, leaving me with
absolutely zero time to do anything
else at all.

So, I have a new service, it's called
the TEN service. I will spend ten minutes
personally reading and answering your email,
for only ten bucks. This way, you will get
a response WITHIN 24 hours.

If you're interested, just email me your
question AFTER you have ordered your 'TEN'
at:

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Got a question about dating, attraction,
or relationships? Order your 'TEN' and
get your questions solved FAST.

Alright, let's get to this newsletter, it's
an extremely important one:

THE ASSERTIVE MAN:
HOW HE ATTRACTS WOMEN
 
One of the key traits that defines a
MAN as opposed to a player or to a
“nice guy” is that a MAN is assertive,
a player is manipulative, and a nice
guy is submissive.

The nice guy tends to only get the
few women who happen to feel sorry
for him in a poor puppy kind of way.

The manipulative player type ends up
showing some form of confidence compared
to the nice guy but ultimately his true
colors show and he loses a quality woman.

The MAN however, he’s an expert at driving
through life in the ASSERTIVE lane. 

Here’s where people get confused though:
They think that the only way to be assertive
is to be  “in your face” or “nasty”, and this
makes it really hard to consistently be
assertive for them.

And yet, being assertive is a MASSIVE factor
in what turns on women, and it’s not only
your being assertive with women, but when
women seeing you being ASSERTIVE with
everyone in your life- including at the workplace,
with your friends, family, associates, etc.

What tends to happen with a lot of good guys
is that at some point in our lives a long time
ago, we learned that it’s better to NOT be
assertive, this way we wouldn’t be considered
a “threat” to the bullies, we wouldn’t get
any undue attention, and we would be more
“submissive” just to get along. 

Unfortunately, we often eventually EXPLODE
after years and years of bottling up our own   
self-esteem and repressing our own dignity
and even repressing our own desires.

Which ends up causing us to go to the OPPOSITE
extreme and blowing up on the people we feel
are being unfair to us.  And when we explode,
our behavior is not seen as assertive, it’s seen
as imbalanced and irrational and nasty.

The real answer is to more ASSERTIVE in general,
which solves so many problems and prevents the
build up that can explode later otherwise.

Let me give you an example of a technique
of being more assertive:
 
THE BROKEN RECORD

In “the broken record” technique, you simply
make sure you know what you want, and you
keep on repeating that every time you hear
the other person saying they want you to do
something else.

This also involves another strategy called
using the “I” statement, because you are
saying it’s YOU who wants or feels something,
thereby taking on full responsibility for how
you feel, and this actually is empowering
because it means you have the right to
express yourself and not have to blame
anyone else for it, and that others should
respect the way you feel.

So here’s how the broken record and the
I statement could work together in a situation:

Let’s say you approach a woman and you chat
and you want to see her again.

Now, you know what you want- you want to
see her again.  

Watch how being assertive is actually attractive
here:

You say:
“I enjoyed meeting you.  We should meet up.
How’s Tuesday night for some Starbucks and
wonderful conversation with yours truly?”
 
She says: “Oh, Tuesday night I tutor piano lessons.”

The non assertive guy already feels REJECTED
and then, maybe but not likely, says something,
but it’s very UNSPECIFIC at best, like, “Maybe we can    
meet up sometime”.

Being more assertive, he would say:
“I want to see you again. How about before your lesson”

Or even:

“I want to meet up. How about after?
Tuesday is a great day for me, but if it doesn’t
work by you, then let me know what day does.”

If she says a day that does NOT work for you,
like for example Monday, a non assertive man
might AGREE to it just because he doesn’t want
to displease the woman or lose her, and of course
the fear shows up in subtle ways, so even when
he says “yes” he has actually LOST the woman
because she can tell in his body language that
something has just been given up in terms of
his own dignity.

This PERSISTENCE with a relaxed demeanor
shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you believe
you have value, it shows also on a subtle level
that you get what you want in life, which is
another sign of a winner.  And none of this
is being a jerk.

Similarly, when a woman sees how you deal
with pressure from OTHER people in your
life, it can be a turn on for her to see that you
are assertive with them as well.

So let’s say at work everyone is used to taking
advantage of you helping them with their work,
and asking you to do an unfair amount of work.

One of the things you can do here is again
the broken record

Example:
“Ted, I need you to help me this weekend again
with completing the project”

You: “I can’t do that, as I have a major family
engagement this weekend”.      

“But this is really important, I don’t know what’s
going on”

“I understand, and I really have a major engagement
this weekend that is going to take all my time.”

You’ll notice that after you keep on STICKING
to your “broken record that keeps repeating”
they will eventually BREAK and give in.

They may say something like:
“Okay, but can you at least sign these forms
That allow me to use the resource centre this
Weekend?”

You: “Yes, I can do that.”

Then they will say thank you, and you’ll say
“you’re welcome.”.

Notice how in the above statements, you
Were using *I* statements and repeating
like a broken record, sticking to your point.

Here’s another thing:
Once you’ve stated your assertive position,
don’t EXPLAIN it for a half hour.

Instead, seal your lips.

By going on and on explaining yourself, you
are actually WEAKENING the entire assertive
core to your message.

This INCLUDES of course in your interactions
with women when you are in a RELATIONSHIP
as well!

Being assertive never ends, from the moment
you meet her, to long after you are having
wild nights together and beyond.

But the thing is, it’s important to realize that
this is a TRANSFORMATION that must come
GRADUALLY and consistently, with an intelligent
ROAD-MAP for how to go about all this so that
you STICK to the path of becoming The Assertive
Man.

Now unlike all the hype out there for everything
from bodybuilding magazines that feature steroid
injected men who claim they got their results
from some workout routine, or the hype out
there from folks who sell pick up artist tactics
and claim they got supermodels from using
pick up artist tactics instead of the real truth
which is that they got nothing of the sort,
what I am teaching you here, as you can see,
actually makes SENSE. 

It’s not HYPE.
It’s based on REAL RESEARCH in the real world.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg. 
I have MOUNTAINS-FULL of effective strategies
and insights on this topic, including explicit
clear examples of how to apply ALL the
different strategies for skyrocketing your
assertiveness with women all without
coming across as a jerk or arrogant,
and all in a way that feels it’s consistent
with your personality. 

To get this important program for success
with women, go here IMMEDIATELY:

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For now, tomorrow, and for always, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

Approaching A Woman Who Is A "10": An Example From Real Life

Just wanted to share a quick but important
letter before we get into the article today:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
the "Real World Bootcamps" is that I’m
constantly seeing the TRUTH of what works
and what doesn’t with attracting the
women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop,
don’t go directly up to her which might
surprise her, instead let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.  

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.
And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
You might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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The Craziest Secret Of All About Attracting Women

99% of guys think that if they don't look
like male models or if they aren't rich,
then the hottest of women are somehow
"off limits". And I can't BLAME most
guys for thinking this, as I used to
think it myself in the biggest way,
because it SEEMS that why on earth would
such a woman be INTERESTED, right?

But here is SECRET: The emotion of feeling
SEXUAL, and of feeling ATTRACTION is nothing
but an emotional state that is ALWAYS there
in a woman, it's just sometimes sleeping
and it's up to YOU to BRING IT OUT.

You and no guy is ever CREATING
that sexual emotion in her, it's just
that some guys are able to WAKE
IT UP in her and others can't.
In fact, 99 percent of guys CAN'T.

Most guys will NEVER learn how to
do this, because they are focused on
how to memorize ridiculous tactics
that are supposed to get a certain
RESPONSE from a woman.

But, trying to GET something from
a woman will ALWAYS destroy your
charisma, because the very act of
NEEDING TO TAKE is in itself UNCOOL.

And besides, if you feel ROBOTIC doing
something, you will COME across as robotic
and you will lack any ounce of charisma.

By the way, if you look around, you
will notice that most of the men with
the super female hotties seem like
average guys- but the personality that
attracts these women is so much MORE
than average, it's CHARISMATIC.

And that is something that a woman
EXPERIENCES from INTERACTING with
a charismatic man, not from looking
at his picture or from looking at
his wallet. 

They key is to get women into an EMOTIONAL STATE that FEELS SO DAMN GOOD that the woman could not give a RAT'S ASS about anything ELSE about the guy.

In order to get women into
an emotional state where logic
gets thrown out the window and
all they want is to be with you
and to get naughty with you,
you have to BECOME A WIZARD
OF ALL THE MOST FANTASTIC
EMOTIONS WITHIN YOURSELF.

This sounds deceptively simple,
but it's not.

Let me tell you a bit of the way
you have to be thinking if you
want to actually get somewhere
with the most incredible of the
female gender: 

ONE:
"I LOVE ALL TYPES OF WOMEN SO
MUCH THAT I AM WILLING TO ABANDON
ALL MY FEARS AND INSTEAD EMBRACE
EVERY "SCARY" CHANCE TO INTERACT
WITH THE WOMEN I AM ATTRACTED TO
AND MAKE THEM FEEL AMAZING."

TWO:
"I do this because I love
how sexy and beautiful they
are and it's worth it to me
and I feel zero guilt about
it."

THREE:
"When I interact with women,
I will let my joy of women,
my sexuality as a man, my
vibe, totally come through
and I will not be APOLOGETIC
for it, and I also will not
be so serious as seriousness
comes from FEAR."

FOUR:
"I will behave with the expectation
that a woman loves me."

Notice how these thought patterns have
nothing at all to  do with how you are
going to CONTROL a woman, or how
you are going to "TAKE THE POWER"
- all that stuff comes from FEAR, and
fear will rob your most S-E-X-Y emotions
of their intensity.

Notice this has nothing to do with
showing off, it has nothing to do
with "out-alpha-ing" any guy.

It has far more to do with you taking
back the only TRUE power you have-
and that is the power of your OWN
emotions. THIS is the secret to
unleashing the dam to a woman's
INFINITE ATTRACTION TO YOU.

By PROVING that your own emotions
are on super-charge no matter what,
you now are showing her the way to
do the same for herself, and
that simply feels too incredible
for a woman to ignore.

There is so much crap and negativity
in our society, and it brings everyone
down, including the women you think
have it made. They want to feel
amazing just as much as anyone
else, and you are giving them
that gift with this ability.

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What I teach is NOT a game.
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It's your choice- the women you want,
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Till next time

Michael Marks

Charisma Is MADE, Not Born

Although there are many ways to meet women,
including building up your social circle, or
through going online, my personal favorite is
the good ol' fashioned PRIMAL style:

SEE WOMAN, APPROACH WITH SKILL, GET WOMAN.

Does it always work?
Of course not, that's why MOST GUYS never DO it.

It's also why the guys who not only DO it,
but do it WELL, tend to get pretty awesome
results, ESPECIALLY if they do it a LOT.

To be blunt, it makes a pretty big statement
to a woman when you show her through this
kind of ACTION that you are DIFFERENT
from most men.

And hey, I'm NOT knocking the other ways
of meeting women, and in fact I've DONE
those ways as well, and they're totally
cool and fine!

But the thing is, the skills you get from
having to master REAL LIFE APPROACHES
end up making ALL THE OTHER WAYS seem
like CHILD'S PLAY.

But the reverse is not true.
Being confident while behind a screen
on the internet does not mean you will
be feeling as confident actually making
a real life approach to a woman who is
a total stranger.

Being witty when in the company of your
FRIENDS who happen to have invited a couple
women they know to a party is not the same
as being able to be witty and empowered and
on the ball when you suddenly must do it
on CUE when you see a woman on the train
in middle of a bunch of total strangers.

See what I mean?

And if a guy DOES meet a great woman using ANY method,
well then that is AWESOME SUCCESS, because as long as
you get what you want it IS success.

I'm just saying that I PERSONALLY find the
idea of making approaches to women to be
quite the DRAMATIC experience, and also
I have seen how the skills involved in
making a successful approach in real life
HELP you in meeting and attracting women
in every OTHER method such as online or
through your social circle, etc.

Some people like video games, some people
like to play poker. I think approaching
women is awesome.

And, it's not only the END result that
I like, it's the RUSH, it somehow feels
like one of the few POSITIVE things that
we can still do as men and women that harkens
back to the GOOD ELEMENT of our ANCIENT
SELVES.

There's something very INSTINCTIVE in
humans that AWAKENS when you take this
step.

When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are entering into the
'FORBIDDEN ZONE' in a cool way, that
society STILL seems unable to "modernize"
and I LOVE THIS, it's one of the only
ways to get in touch with who we are
as humans in the most EVOLUTIONARY
yet POSITIVE sense.

No twitter, no tv, no computer,
no technology to cover up or
to diminish the RAW EXPERIENCE.

This is about MAN and WOMAN coming TOGETHER.

It's what we were all BORN to do!!!!

And the fact that most people DON'T do this,
is what makes it even cooler, not just for YOU,
but for the WOMAN as well.

You're giving the woman that rare chance
for HER to experience this adventure that
brings out her most instinctive drive.

Now, doing it right involves a few skills,
it doesn't have to take forever, but it
does take a few skills, and the truth is
in a few weeks most men could get the
basics and do TEN TIMES BETTER with
women than they could before- IF they
actually kept up the practice.

But most guys don't get to the point of
developing the SKILL because they don't
even APPROACH in the first place.

Which brings me to Albert Ellis:

"Legendary psychologist Albert Ellis pioneered the
"shame-attacking exercise" in 1933 at age 19, when
he decided to approach every woman who sat down
alone on a bench at the New York Botanical Garden.

"Thirty walked away immediately," he told the
New York Times. "I talked with the other 100, for
the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was.
Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops."

And Ellis learned he wouldn't die from rejection.
Of the first 130 women he went up to, he got only
one date, he said, but "with the second 100, I got
good and made a few dates"--and, eventually, got
to be "one of the best picker-uppers of women in
the United States."
- Psychology Today Magazine, by Erika Casriel

Now, this is a guy who had ZERO information on
pick-up, and strictly worked on GUTS alone.

When I started out, I had no one to really
learn from, so I had to do the same thing,
learning it all the HARD way. If I could go
back in time, I could help his results MASSIVELY
by letting him know GUARANTEED ways to get
into the conversation without getting shut down
so that he buys himself the required two or three
minutes to actually SPARK attraction.

I would teach him various ways to disarm her
and charm her that would at least give him a
fighting chance, ways to take her automatic
responses she gives all guys to shut them
down and slip right by those statements.

For example, if she says that she is in a rush,
then the best thing to say is to actually NOT
ask her for a favour for a second, but to actually
let her know that you're in a rush as well, (so that
she can relax and not feel this is going to take
forever). If she says anything that is defensive,
the best way to diffuse it is to use warm
humor (i.e. if she says that she doesn't talk to
guys because guys are jerks, you should say
something like "I agree! That's why I'm talking
to you and not them" with a smile.) because you
need to change her emotional state not even
TRY to engage her actual argument or her
logic.

If she's smiling, she's no longer going to WANT
to shut you down.

The fact of the matter is that there are MANY
factors involved in a successful pick-up, and
KNOWING these in advance will HELP you
get more consistent results.

And one factor IS getting over your anxiety, yet at the
same time, it's important to realize that a BIT of anxiety
and fear is actually a GOOD thing!

It can work in your favor. Ask any martial artist
or any performer of anything and they will tell
you that fear, when controlled, can actually
ENHANCE your performance. It can help
you stay alert and be on the ball. For example,
if you are interacting with a woman and
you start showing off without realizing it
and she starts to roll her eyes, it's GOOD
that you feel a bit of discomfort at this, as
it MOTIVATES YOU to STEER THIS
PICK-UP PROPERLY and change gears
to showing that you are not full of yourself,
for example, by making a joke that is
SELF-DEPRECATING.

i.e. You're accidentally showing off about your
prestigious education and you then see her roll
her eyes, so you then say something like
"And of course, I then got my PhD in useless facts,
as we all know we learned more about real life
outside school."

This actually shows that you are far cooler and also
far more understanding and that you have more
empathy as well, all in one swift move.

Again, normally you wouldn't have to engage in
self-deprecating behavior, but in such as situation
it would be the right thing to do and would actually
make you seem cooler.

Now, if you have suffered major abuse yourself (and
I know what that is like, so I am absolutely NOT
makng light of this) then the anxiety of a social
interaction may be overwhelming, in which case you
should first work on building UP your desensitivity
to your fears so that you can take the anxiety of
a social interaction.

If we never felt ANY discomfort in a social interaction,
then we'd think we were PERFECT and never adjust
our behavior to help make the other person feel the
good vibes, and our social life would then SUCK.

Also, don't try to be PERFECT.
Don't try to build Rome in one day, or you will
feel that much FARTHER from progress and
you will feel even MORE anxiety.

Instead, keep taking STEPS, gradually
taking bigger and bigger steps, and
taking on more and more 'daring'
approaches with women.

I put 'daring' in quotes because you
will eventually see that this is FUN.

But just take it STEP by STEP for now.

When you are first learning these skills, you should
each day push your envelope a little farther. Start by
chatting up the clerks at stores, then work to starting
conversations anywhere with anyone, then work to
short conversations with women you're interested
in, then longer conversations, then to first dates,
then to getting physical, etc, etc.

THE KEY IS MOMENTUM.
DON'T STOP THE DAY TO DAY PROGRESS.

And if you don't believe me that great CHARISMA
is MADE and not BORN, let me give you some
examples from that same article:

"Conan O'Brien has said he knew that performing
live comedy was what he had to do because there
was nothing in the world that terrified him more.
But when he first debuted as host of NBC's Late Night
in 1993, ratings were abysmal and reviews were even
worse. Washington Post TV critic Tom Shales wrote
that O'Brien was "a living collage of annoying nervous
habits" and implored him to "get the heck off TV."
But he stuck it out, and years later, the critics ate
their words. Shales himself wrote that O'Brien became
"one of the greatest examples of a self-makeover in
television history"

Cool, isn't it.
By the way, Conan is happily married,
(a pretty cool feat in today's society) but
if he wasn't, I assure you, his confidence,
his humor, his wit, his rapport skills,
his social intelligence, would KICK ASS!

Here's some more:

"Comedic superstar Will Ferrell, who once
considered himself painfully shy, forced
himself to do crazy things in public. "In
college, I would push an overhead projector
across campus with my pants just low enough
to show my butt," Ferrell told People. "Then
my friend would incite the crowd to be like,
'Look at that idiot!' That's how I got over
being shy."

When I first started practicing, one of the
places I forced myself to go to were nightclubs.
I HATED it at first, and couldn't understand
how ANYONE could meet anyone in a place where
the music was so loud that you could barely
HEAR a word a woman said to you, plus it
was so dark, you could barely SEE anyone.

But, all these things are just ILLUSIONS,
they are NOT barriers at all, and learning
this helped me realize that ALL the "social
taboo of making approaches" was ALSO an
illusion.

Once I started teaching, some people even thought
that I must have ALWAYS been this "nightclub" guy.
That was a real compliment, because nothing could
be further from the truth.

At one time, the idea of going to MARS seemed more
comfortable than going to a club.

Now, I STILL don't think that nightclubs are the
best place for meeting a long term girlfriend,
HOWEVER, it was still useful to see how the
ILLUSIONS of "challenges" of meeting women
in a nightclub were a total JOKE.

Please believe me, that most women DO enjoy
being approached, even if they DON'T show it.

The thing is, it really helps a lot if you
do it RIGHT.

This stuff CAN be learned and MASTERED to the
point that it becomes effortless and natural.

Again, getting back to the NIGHTCLUBS lesson for me:
Not only was I not interested in that type of environment,
but I had no clue how the heck you can have a conversation
with all that noise and all those distractions and how
you can go from that to having not only a conversation
but to getting a real interaction and taking it to
a physical level all very fast. There was a time
you couldn't pay me a million dollars to be in
that environment.

So, if I could get over that, I knew that normal
environments would feel VERY comfortable me.

That motivated me to get good at this stuff,
and the reality is that it does NOT take that long,
but it DOES take MASSIVE DESIRE to succeed.

So DON'T THINK FOR A SECOND that "picking up women"
is beyond your ability, or beyond your personality.

Don't think that your anxiety is a BLOCK, because
even THAT can be controlled.

YOU can be the guy that OTHERS will say, "He's
a NATURAL at this" because from their perspective,
you will have improved THAT MUCH that others will
think this must have ALWAYS been something you
were great at.

And if YOU want to learn the DEEPEST levels of how
to be successful at 'pick-up' and how to attract the kind
of woman you are really interested in, then I suggest
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Years ago, I was training guys to not rely
routines, even as a bestselling author had
written a book that swore by the value of
memorized routines for picking up a woman.

This same author now agrees with what I said
YEARS ago that routines are actually not
necessary and that is very possible and in
fact PREFERABLE to not rely on them.

I've never resorted to manipulation or
abuse of women and I have always been
repelled by that idea, as well as repelled
by the idea of guys selling their self-esteem
just to get any "action" from a woman, because
they refused to learn how to actually spark
ATTRACTION.

I don't think I'm God, and I don't think I
have ALL the answers. However, I DO believe
that we must understand the deepest levels of
psychology and apply it to creating HARMONY
between men and women for a better world for
all of us. And we must learn from REAL
practice, as knowledge and theory without
practice is not enough.

This is about so much more than "getting action"
- it's about creating attraction on all levels
in the most powerful and meaningful way possible,
for the most lasting results with the kind of
woman you truly want in your life.

Somewhere, right this very moment, the
woman of your dreams is out there,
WISHING that you knew all this stuff
so that you could take effective action
and MEET her and enjoy life together!

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Till next time,

Michael Marks