Get ready for this- I'm sure you've heard
how women TEST men.
Well guess what?
STOP WORRYING ABOUT ALLLLLLLL OF THAT.
The REAL one doing any TESTING here should
be YOU, of HER.
All this insane obsession with passing women's
tests, something I used to be preoccupied with
myself many years ago, all stems from INSECURITY.
As if, as a man, you have to go AGAINST your own
instincts and impulses. The very WORRY about
passing a woman's tests makes you MORE NERVOUS
when you are interacting with a woman or
out on a date with her.
Instead, FLIP THE FREAKING SCRIPT.
YOU should be TESTING HER.
How is SHE respecting YOU????????
What is SHE doing to earn YOUR interest????
How is HER behavior measuring up????
Unless you are some dude who has no idea
how to be DECENT to a person, the LAST thing
you need is yet ANOTHER thing to worry about.
And the FREAKING CRAZY IRONY about all this
is that women actually will WANT YOU MORE
when they see that YOU are not jumping so
fast and trying so hard to get THEM and to just
say whatever it is they want to hear.
Now, I'm not telling you to be a creep or mean-
I'm just telling you to be AUTHENTIC and to
RETAIN your dignity and self-respect.
So if a woman, for example tells you that her
last boyfriend was a jerk, MOST guys would
probably JUMP to saying OHHHHH BUT I AM
NOT A JERK, I AM NOT LIKE THAT.
Well, guess what? It might be a better idea to
actually FIND OUT whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy that
guy might have behaved like that.
Maybe, just maybe, that guy wasn't perfect,
but maybe SHE did things to make him react.
Well, now you have a far more AUTHENTIC
conversation with the woman, and you might
even provide her with USEFUL insight into the
way MEN are, as opposed to just reinforcing
her THIRD WAVE FEMINIST BRAINWASHING
that all men are jerks.
And now that she sees you are NOT kissing up,
and that you are not being a jerk but that you
are truly being authentic in wanting to know
if she has the right values and personality,
she will probably be a lot more interested in you
because you are AUTHENTIC.
And guess what?
THAT was probably the TEST she really cared about
anyway!!! She wants to know what you are REALLY
like.
So cut out the acts, and the trying to figure women
out, and instead focus on being THE MAN you were
BORN to be, without having to play some kind of
MINDREADING DESPERATE CIRCUS ACT that no
real man should have to do, and no man NEEDS
to do.
What you have just read is the freaking TIP of
the ICEBERG.
My advice comes from REAL LIFE.
If all I cared about was making money I could SO EASILY
sell a HUNDRED times more by just making ridiculous
videos of make-outs with promiscuous women- as
that seems to impress a lot of foolish men out there.
Instead, I focus on what REALLY MATTERS- how to
get a woman WITHOUT doing dumb insane below
your dignity antics, and how to get a woman by
ASSERTING YOUR FULL MASCULINITY WITH PRIDE
AND NOT TRYING TO HIDE IT AND FIGURE OUT
HOW TO READ WOMEN'S MINDS AS IF WOMEN
ARE SO FRAGILE THAT WE AS MEN MUST NOT
BE OURSELVES AND KISS UP AND PASS ALL
THEIR TESTS.
Let women pass YOUR tests, and if they DON'T,
it's time to say NEXT.
To learn more, including about my bootcamps,
consultations, Forum, and all my other programs,
go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
If you want to learn EVERYTHING regarding
attracting women from A to Z, including the
approach, book a BOOTCAMP with me now.
I promise you that you will learn FASTER than
through any other bootcamp out there, because
I have ZERO TOLERANCE for b.s.
Over the years, I've picked apart the entire process
of the pick-up and was always only concerned with
TRUTH rather than with making flashy scenes.
What you will learn does not look flashy, but it
is by far the most effective method out there.
Email me if you want to book a bootcamp NOW.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Wednesday, July 29, 2015
What NO ONE Told You About Women's Tests, That You MUST KNOW
Sunday, April 26, 2015
The Unspoken Truth About Being A Man And Attracting Women
I have a very, VERY important newsletter
today, but before we start, I just want to
mention that if you would like to take a
bootcamp with me this summer, (bootcamp
is where you learn how to approach women
in real life with me as your exclusive instructor)
it's a good idea to book it NOW, to ensure you
get the weekend of your choice.
Bootcamp is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
The following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.
Once you learn the skills of how to do things
properly with women, any guy who knows the
skills for REAL can tell you that the far greater
priority quickly becomes how to screen out
the wrong women.
Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.
And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.
Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.
If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.
Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.
And now, I will begin the main part of this article:
It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.
This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.
For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.
So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.
The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.
I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man.
The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.
The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.
Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.
In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.
So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.
All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do.
In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction.
So, getting women can be EASY.
The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.
And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.
A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.
What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.
Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.
Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.
Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:
ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU
When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.
Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….
And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.
It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.
They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.
Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.
So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.
But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo.
Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance. And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are
not attractive.
And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.
I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.
A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.
Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.
And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.
This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman,
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.
But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.
The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.
Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.
Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.
Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.
The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.
J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.
Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.
My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.
Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.
Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.
The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.
Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.
That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.
Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.
Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.
As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.
My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.
For my most FAMOUS program on
ATTRACTING WOMEN, a program that
is being used by men from all
over the world, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I URGE YOU to get this program, because
I KNOW how powerful it is.
Just promise me that you will be SELECTIVE
and not just hook up with ALL the women you
meet from using this program.
I went ALL OUT on this program.
It contains over TEN HOURS of PRISTINE
STUDIO-RECORDED AUDIO that you can
listen to anytime, anywhere.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I spent YEARS on the development of this
program, and it is JAM-PACKED with TONS
of pure GOLD on what you need to know
about women for success.
If even just ONE of those things you learned
in this program made the difference, would it
not be WORTH IT? Would it not be worth
spending even TEN TIMES the cost??????
GET this program, including the special
E-Book that comes along with it, and USE it,
AND let me know your success story.
You can download the program IMMEDIATELY
and start using it in MINUTES from now, by
going HERE:
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For a PERSONAL consultation with me,
go HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
And for a private BOOTCAMP with me, go HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
today, but before we start, I just want to
mention that if you would like to take a
bootcamp with me this summer, (bootcamp
is where you learn how to approach women
in real life with me as your exclusive instructor)
it's a good idea to book it NOW, to ensure you
get the weekend of your choice.
Bootcamp is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
The following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.
Once you learn the skills of how to do things
properly with women, any guy who knows the
skills for REAL can tell you that the far greater
priority quickly becomes how to screen out
the wrong women.
Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.
And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.
Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.
If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.
Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.
And now, I will begin the main part of this article:
It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.
This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.
For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.
So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.
The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.
I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man.
The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.
The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.
Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.
In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.
So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.
All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do.
In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction.
So, getting women can be EASY.
The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.
And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.
A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.
What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.
Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.
Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.
Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:
ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU
When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.
Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….
And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.
It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.
They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.
Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.
So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.
But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo.
Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance. And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are
not attractive.
And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.
I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.
A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.
Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.
And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.
This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman,
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.
But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.
The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.
Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.
Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.
Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.
The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.
J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.
Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.
My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.
Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.
Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.
The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.
Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.
That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.
Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.
Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.
As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.
My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.
For my most FAMOUS program on
ATTRACTING WOMEN, a program that
is being used by men from all
over the world, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I URGE YOU to get this program, because
I KNOW how powerful it is.
Just promise me that you will be SELECTIVE
and not just hook up with ALL the women you
meet from using this program.
I went ALL OUT on this program.
It contains over TEN HOURS of PRISTINE
STUDIO-RECORDED AUDIO that you can
listen to anytime, anywhere.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I spent YEARS on the development of this
program, and it is JAM-PACKED with TONS
of pure GOLD on what you need to know
about women for success.
If even just ONE of those things you learned
in this program made the difference, would it
not be WORTH IT? Would it not be worth
spending even TEN TIMES the cost??????
GET this program, including the special
E-Book that comes along with it, and USE it,
AND let me know your success story.
You can download the program IMMEDIATELY
and start using it in MINUTES from now, by
going HERE:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
For a PERSONAL consultation with me,
go HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
And for a private BOOTCAMP with me, go HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Saturday, May 31, 2014
The Truth About Being A Man And Attracting Women
The first thing I want to say here is that the
following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.
Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.
And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.
Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.
If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.
Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.
And now, I will begin the main part of this article:
It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.
This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.
For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.
So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.
The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.
I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man.
The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.
The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.
Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.
In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.
So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.
All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do.
In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction.
So, getting women can be EASY.
The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.
And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.
A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.
What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.
Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.
Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.
Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:
ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU
When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.
Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….
And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.
It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.
They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.
Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.
So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.
But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo.
Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance. And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are
not attractive.
And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.
I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.
A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.
Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.
And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.
This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman,
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.
But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.
The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.
Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.
Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.
Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.
The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.
J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.
Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.
My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.
Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.
Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.
The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.
Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.
That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.
Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.
Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.
As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.
My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.
For my most FAMOUS program on
ATTRACTING WOMEN, a program that
is being used by men from all
over the world, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I URGE YOU to get this program, because
I KNOW how powerful it is.
Just promise me that you will be SELECTIVE
and not just hook up with ALL the women you
meet from using this program.
I went ALL OUT on this program.
It contains over TEN HOURS of PRISTINE
STUDIO-RECORDED AUDIO that you can
listen to anytime, anywhere.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I spent YEARS on the development of this
program, and it is JAM-PACKED with TONS
of pure GOLD on what you need to know
about women for success.
If even just ONE of those things you learned
in this program made the difference, would it
not be WORTH IT? Would it not be worth
spending even TEN TIMES the cost??????
GET this program, including the special
E-Book that comes along with it, and USE it,
AND let me know your success story.
You can download the program IMMEDIATELY
and start using it in MINUTES from now, by
going HERE:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.
Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.
And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.
Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.
If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.
Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.
And now, I will begin the main part of this article:
It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.
This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.
For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.
So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.
The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.
I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man.
The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.
The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.
Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.
In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.
So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.
All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do.
In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction.
So, getting women can be EASY.
The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.
And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.
A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.
What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.
Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.
Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.
Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:
ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU
When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.
Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….
And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.
It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.
They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.
Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.
So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.
But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo.
Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance. And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are
not attractive.
And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.
I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.
A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.
Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.
And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.
This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman,
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.
But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.
The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.
Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.
Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.
Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.
The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.
J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.
Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.
My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.
Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.
Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.
The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.
Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.
That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.
Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.
Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.
As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.
My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.
For my most FAMOUS program on
ATTRACTING WOMEN, a program that
is being used by men from all
over the world, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I URGE YOU to get this program, because
I KNOW how powerful it is.
Just promise me that you will be SELECTIVE
and not just hook up with ALL the women you
meet from using this program.
I went ALL OUT on this program.
It contains over TEN HOURS of PRISTINE
STUDIO-RECORDED AUDIO that you can
listen to anytime, anywhere.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
I spent YEARS on the development of this
program, and it is JAM-PACKED with TONS
of pure GOLD on what you need to know
about women for success.
If even just ONE of those things you learned
in this program made the difference, would it
not be WORTH IT? Would it not be worth
spending even TEN TIMES the cost??????
GET this program, including the special
E-Book that comes along with it, and USE it,
AND let me know your success story.
You can download the program IMMEDIATELY
and start using it in MINUTES from now, by
going HERE:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Answering Your Dating Questions, Plus Learning How "The Assertive Man" Attracts Women
There's a VERY important newsletter that
I want to get to, it gets to the HEART
of what is so important for attracting
women, and it has nothing to do with
pick-up lines or any other gimmicks.
Before we get to that, there's a VERY
quick bit of news that I need to mention:
So here's the situation:
I've been getting a LOT of emails asking
me for advice, and I do appreciate it.
Here's the thing, though: There's no way
I can answer all of them in a quick time
frame. Even at just 1o minutes per email,
that would be about 10 STRAIGHT NON-STOP
HOURS a day of me doing NOTHING but
answering emails, leaving me with
absolutely zero time to do anything
else at all.
So, I have a new service, it's called
the TEN service. I will spend ten minutes
personally reading and answering your email,
for only ten bucks. This way, you will get
a response WITHIN 24 hours.
If you're interested, just email me your
question AFTER you have ordered your 'TEN'
at:
http://tinyurl.com/9hgjv7a
Got a question about dating, attraction,
or relationships? Order your 'TEN' and
get your questions solved FAST.
Alright, let's get to this newsletter, it's
an extremely important one:
THE ASSERTIVE MAN:
HOW HE ATTRACTS WOMEN
One of the key traits that defines a
MAN as opposed to a player or to a
“nice guy” is that a MAN is assertive,
a player is manipulative, and a nice
guy is submissive.
The nice guy tends to only get the
few women who happen to feel sorry
for him in a poor puppy kind of way.
The manipulative player type ends up
showing some form of confidence compared
to the nice guy but ultimately his true
colors show and he loses a quality woman.
The MAN however, he’s an expert at driving
through life in the ASSERTIVE lane.
Here’s where people get confused though:
They think that the only way to be assertive
is to be “in your face” or “nasty”, and this
makes it really hard to consistently be
assertive for them.
And yet, being assertive is a MASSIVE factor
in what turns on women, and it’s not only
your being assertive with women, but when
women seeing you being ASSERTIVE with
everyone in your life- including at the workplace,
with your friends, family, associates, etc.
What tends to happen with a lot of good guys
is that at some point in our lives a long time
ago, we learned that it’s better to NOT be
assertive, this way we wouldn’t be considered
a “threat” to the bullies, we wouldn’t get
any undue attention, and we would be more
“submissive” just to get along.
Unfortunately, we often eventually EXPLODE
after years and years of bottling up our own
self-esteem and repressing our own dignity
and even repressing our own desires.
Which ends up causing us to go to the OPPOSITE
extreme and blowing up on the people we feel
are being unfair to us. And when we explode,
our behavior is not seen as assertive, it’s seen
as imbalanced and irrational and nasty.
The real answer is to more ASSERTIVE in general,
which solves so many problems and prevents the
build up that can explode later otherwise.
Let me give you an example of a technique
of being more assertive:
THE BROKEN RECORD
In “the broken record” technique, you simply
make sure you know what you want, and you
keep on repeating that every time you hear
the other person saying they want you to do
something else.
This also involves another strategy called
using the “I” statement, because you are
saying it’s YOU who wants or feels something,
thereby taking on full responsibility for how
you feel, and this actually is empowering
because it means you have the right to
express yourself and not have to blame
anyone else for it, and that others should
respect the way you feel.
So here’s how the broken record and the
I statement could work together in a situation:
Let’s say you approach a woman and you chat
and you want to see her again.
Now, you know what you want- you want to
see her again.
Watch how being assertive is actually attractive
here:
You say:
“I enjoyed meeting you. We should meet up.
How’s Tuesday night for some Starbucks and
wonderful conversation with yours truly?”
She says: “Oh, Tuesday night I tutor piano lessons.”
The non assertive guy already feels REJECTED
and then, maybe but not likely, says something,
but it’s very UNSPECIFIC at best, like, “Maybe we can
meet up sometime”.
Being more assertive, he would say:
“I want to see you again. How about before your lesson”
Or even:
“I want to meet up. How about after?
Tuesday is a great day for me, but if it doesn’t
work by you, then let me know what day does.”
If she says a day that does NOT work for you,
like for example Monday, a non assertive man
might AGREE to it just because he doesn’t want
to displease the woman or lose her, and of course
the fear shows up in subtle ways, so even when
he says “yes” he has actually LOST the woman
because she can tell in his body language that
something has just been given up in terms of
his own dignity.
This PERSISTENCE with a relaxed demeanor
shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you believe
you have value, it shows also on a subtle level
that you get what you want in life, which is
another sign of a winner. And none of this
is being a jerk.
Similarly, when a woman sees how you deal
with pressure from OTHER people in your
life, it can be a turn on for her to see that you
are assertive with them as well.
So let’s say at work everyone is used to taking
advantage of you helping them with their work,
and asking you to do an unfair amount of work.
One of the things you can do here is again
the broken record
Example:
“Ted, I need you to help me this weekend again
with completing the project”
You: “I can’t do that, as I have a major family
engagement this weekend”.
“But this is really important, I don’t know what’s
going on”
“I understand, and I really have a major engagement
this weekend that is going to take all my time.”
You’ll notice that after you keep on STICKING
to your “broken record that keeps repeating”
they will eventually BREAK and give in.
They may say something like:
“Okay, but can you at least sign these forms
That allow me to use the resource centre this
Weekend?”
You: “Yes, I can do that.”
Then they will say thank you, and you’ll say
“you’re welcome.”.
Notice how in the above statements, you
Were using *I* statements and repeating
like a broken record, sticking to your point.
Here’s another thing:
Once you’ve stated your assertive position,
don’t EXPLAIN it for a half hour.
Instead, seal your lips.
By going on and on explaining yourself, you
are actually WEAKENING the entire assertive
core to your message.
This INCLUDES of course in your interactions
with women when you are in a RELATIONSHIP
as well!
Being assertive never ends, from the moment
you meet her, to long after you are having
wild nights together and beyond.
But the thing is, it’s important to realize that
this is a TRANSFORMATION that must come
GRADUALLY and consistently, with an intelligent
ROAD-MAP for how to go about all this so that
you STICK to the path of becoming The Assertive
Man.
Now unlike all the hype out there for everything
from bodybuilding magazines that feature steroid
injected men who claim they got their results
from some workout routine, or the hype out
there from folks who sell pick up artist tactics
and claim they got supermodels from using
pick up artist tactics instead of the real truth
which is that they got nothing of the sort,
what I am teaching you here, as you can see,
actually makes SENSE.
It’s not HYPE.
It’s based on REAL RESEARCH in the real world.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
I have MOUNTAINS-FULL of effective strategies
and insights on this topic, including explicit
clear examples of how to apply ALL the
different strategies for skyrocketing your
assertiveness with women all without
coming across as a jerk or arrogant,
and all in a way that feels it’s consistent
with your personality.
To get this important program for success
with women, go here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/the-assertive-man.html
And to check out ALL my programs for getting
and keeping a fantastic woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
For now, tomorrow, and for always, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
I want to get to, it gets to the HEART
of what is so important for attracting
women, and it has nothing to do with
pick-up lines or any other gimmicks.
Before we get to that, there's a VERY
quick bit of news that I need to mention:
So here's the situation:
I've been getting a LOT of emails asking
me for advice, and I do appreciate it.
Here's the thing, though: There's no way
I can answer all of them in a quick time
frame. Even at just 1o minutes per email,
that would be about 10 STRAIGHT NON-STOP
HOURS a day of me doing NOTHING but
answering emails, leaving me with
absolutely zero time to do anything
else at all.
So, I have a new service, it's called
the TEN service. I will spend ten minutes
personally reading and answering your email,
for only ten bucks. This way, you will get
a response WITHIN 24 hours.
If you're interested, just email me your
question AFTER you have ordered your 'TEN'
at:
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Got a question about dating, attraction,
or relationships? Order your 'TEN' and
get your questions solved FAST.
Alright, let's get to this newsletter, it's
an extremely important one:
THE ASSERTIVE MAN:
HOW HE ATTRACTS WOMEN
One of the key traits that defines a
MAN as opposed to a player or to a
“nice guy” is that a MAN is assertive,
a player is manipulative, and a nice
guy is submissive.
The nice guy tends to only get the
few women who happen to feel sorry
for him in a poor puppy kind of way.
The manipulative player type ends up
showing some form of confidence compared
to the nice guy but ultimately his true
colors show and he loses a quality woman.
The MAN however, he’s an expert at driving
through life in the ASSERTIVE lane.
Here’s where people get confused though:
They think that the only way to be assertive
is to be “in your face” or “nasty”, and this
makes it really hard to consistently be
assertive for them.
And yet, being assertive is a MASSIVE factor
in what turns on women, and it’s not only
your being assertive with women, but when
women seeing you being ASSERTIVE with
everyone in your life- including at the workplace,
with your friends, family, associates, etc.
What tends to happen with a lot of good guys
is that at some point in our lives a long time
ago, we learned that it’s better to NOT be
assertive, this way we wouldn’t be considered
a “threat” to the bullies, we wouldn’t get
any undue attention, and we would be more
“submissive” just to get along.
Unfortunately, we often eventually EXPLODE
after years and years of bottling up our own
self-esteem and repressing our own dignity
and even repressing our own desires.
Which ends up causing us to go to the OPPOSITE
extreme and blowing up on the people we feel
are being unfair to us. And when we explode,
our behavior is not seen as assertive, it’s seen
as imbalanced and irrational and nasty.
The real answer is to more ASSERTIVE in general,
which solves so many problems and prevents the
build up that can explode later otherwise.
Let me give you an example of a technique
of being more assertive:
THE BROKEN RECORD
In “the broken record” technique, you simply
make sure you know what you want, and you
keep on repeating that every time you hear
the other person saying they want you to do
something else.
This also involves another strategy called
using the “I” statement, because you are
saying it’s YOU who wants or feels something,
thereby taking on full responsibility for how
you feel, and this actually is empowering
because it means you have the right to
express yourself and not have to blame
anyone else for it, and that others should
respect the way you feel.
So here’s how the broken record and the
I statement could work together in a situation:
Let’s say you approach a woman and you chat
and you want to see her again.
Now, you know what you want- you want to
see her again.
Watch how being assertive is actually attractive
here:
You say:
“I enjoyed meeting you. We should meet up.
How’s Tuesday night for some Starbucks and
wonderful conversation with yours truly?”
She says: “Oh, Tuesday night I tutor piano lessons.”
The non assertive guy already feels REJECTED
and then, maybe but not likely, says something,
but it’s very UNSPECIFIC at best, like, “Maybe we can
meet up sometime”.
Being more assertive, he would say:
“I want to see you again. How about before your lesson”
Or even:
“I want to meet up. How about after?
Tuesday is a great day for me, but if it doesn’t
work by you, then let me know what day does.”
If she says a day that does NOT work for you,
like for example Monday, a non assertive man
might AGREE to it just because he doesn’t want
to displease the woman or lose her, and of course
the fear shows up in subtle ways, so even when
he says “yes” he has actually LOST the woman
because she can tell in his body language that
something has just been given up in terms of
his own dignity.
This PERSISTENCE with a relaxed demeanor
shows CONFIDENCE, it shows that you believe
you have value, it shows also on a subtle level
that you get what you want in life, which is
another sign of a winner. And none of this
is being a jerk.
Similarly, when a woman sees how you deal
with pressure from OTHER people in your
life, it can be a turn on for her to see that you
are assertive with them as well.
So let’s say at work everyone is used to taking
advantage of you helping them with their work,
and asking you to do an unfair amount of work.
One of the things you can do here is again
the broken record
Example:
“Ted, I need you to help me this weekend again
with completing the project”
You: “I can’t do that, as I have a major family
engagement this weekend”.
“But this is really important, I don’t know what’s
going on”
“I understand, and I really have a major engagement
this weekend that is going to take all my time.”
You’ll notice that after you keep on STICKING
to your “broken record that keeps repeating”
they will eventually BREAK and give in.
They may say something like:
“Okay, but can you at least sign these forms
That allow me to use the resource centre this
Weekend?”
You: “Yes, I can do that.”
Then they will say thank you, and you’ll say
“you’re welcome.”.
Notice how in the above statements, you
Were using *I* statements and repeating
like a broken record, sticking to your point.
Here’s another thing:
Once you’ve stated your assertive position,
don’t EXPLAIN it for a half hour.
Instead, seal your lips.
By going on and on explaining yourself, you
are actually WEAKENING the entire assertive
core to your message.
This INCLUDES of course in your interactions
with women when you are in a RELATIONSHIP
as well!
Being assertive never ends, from the moment
you meet her, to long after you are having
wild nights together and beyond.
But the thing is, it’s important to realize that
this is a TRANSFORMATION that must come
GRADUALLY and consistently, with an intelligent
ROAD-MAP for how to go about all this so that
you STICK to the path of becoming The Assertive
Man.
Now unlike all the hype out there for everything
from bodybuilding magazines that feature steroid
injected men who claim they got their results
from some workout routine, or the hype out
there from folks who sell pick up artist tactics
and claim they got supermodels from using
pick up artist tactics instead of the real truth
which is that they got nothing of the sort,
what I am teaching you here, as you can see,
actually makes SENSE.
It’s not HYPE.
It’s based on REAL RESEARCH in the real world.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
I have MOUNTAINS-FULL of effective strategies
and insights on this topic, including explicit
clear examples of how to apply ALL the
different strategies for skyrocketing your
assertiveness with women all without
coming across as a jerk or arrogant,
and all in a way that feels it’s consistent
with your personality.
To get this important program for success
with women, go here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/the-assertive-man.html
And to check out ALL my programs for getting
and keeping a fantastic woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
For now, tomorrow, and for always, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
Saturday, February 18, 2012
To Get A Quality Woman, Be A Real MAN, Not A Bad-BOY
Today, I thought I would just touch on
some MAJORLY important points as a
kind of "refresher" on what is crucial
if you want to not only succeed in
attracting women, but actually
attracting a quality woman, and
in a way where it sets up a strong
foundation for her becoming a great
girlfriend:
1. You Can't be a BADBOY if you
plan to actually have a long-term
relationship with a woman.
This is where many men get messed-up.
The "bad-boy" route might very well
work to INITIALLY attract SOME women,
but it will DEFINITELY screw up things
in the LONG term with a woman.
This is not a problem for men who
are not interested in having a
woman actually BE a girlfriend,
which is why the idea of being
a bad-boy became popular amongst
the seduction community, which is
interested not in love mixed with
sex, but just in sex alone.
If you don't believe me, just try
being a bad-boy in a relationship.
See how far you can go using backhanded
compliments, jealousy tactics, being
completely unreliable, and playing
hard-to-get.
These games are played by PLAYERS.
So here's how it goes:
Players play GAMES that manipulate women.
Nice guys are submissive and desperate for women.
But REAL MEN are ASSERTIVE.
That's why I created "The Assertive Man"
program, which you can download right now at:
Become The Assertive Man
On a related note:
2. 'Getting Women' Is Different Than Getting
A Great Girlfriend. Quantity Ain't The Same
Thing As Quality.
This is a fact that goes back to the beginning of time.
From Adam and Eve to Shakespearean times,
till today, the wrong woman brings a man DOWN,
the right woman helps bring out the BEST in him.
For more details on getting a great woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
3. To Get A Great Girl For A Long-Term
Relationship, TRUST Is Paramount
Most quality women know they can't be foolish
if they are going to invest their emotions in a
man, ESPECIALLY if these women are seeking
a long-term relationship.
There is too much at stake, and so therefore
it becomes of PARAMOUNT importance
that a woman feels she can TRUST a man
in every way.
For a fantastic video that explore this,
please check this out:
How To Build Trust With A Woman
For my most advanced program on getting
and keeping a great woman go here:
How To Get And Keep A Quality Woman
Till next time,
Michael Marks
*Focused on helping men get a great girlfriend since 2003*
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/
"One of Michael's passions is not only just
how to attract women but also how to find
a great woman who would make a fantastic
girlfriend, and also how to create attraction
in a way that creates and builds trust, rather
than create attraction in a way that hurts trust
which a lot of guys do." -David DeAngelo,
best selling author.
some MAJORLY important points as a
kind of "refresher" on what is crucial
if you want to not only succeed in
attracting women, but actually
attracting a quality woman, and
in a way where it sets up a strong
foundation for her becoming a great
girlfriend:
1. You Can't be a BADBOY if you
plan to actually have a long-term
relationship with a woman.
This is where many men get messed-up.
The "bad-boy" route might very well
work to INITIALLY attract SOME women,
but it will DEFINITELY screw up things
in the LONG term with a woman.
This is not a problem for men who
are not interested in having a
woman actually BE a girlfriend,
which is why the idea of being
a bad-boy became popular amongst
the seduction community, which is
interested not in love mixed with
sex, but just in sex alone.
If you don't believe me, just try
being a bad-boy in a relationship.
See how far you can go using backhanded
compliments, jealousy tactics, being
completely unreliable, and playing
hard-to-get.
These games are played by PLAYERS.
So here's how it goes:
Players play GAMES that manipulate women.
Nice guys are submissive and desperate for women.
But REAL MEN are ASSERTIVE.
That's why I created "The Assertive Man"
program, which you can download right now at:
Become The Assertive Man
On a related note:
2. 'Getting Women' Is Different Than Getting
A Great Girlfriend. Quantity Ain't The Same
Thing As Quality.
This is a fact that goes back to the beginning of time.
From Adam and Eve to Shakespearean times,
till today, the wrong woman brings a man DOWN,
the right woman helps bring out the BEST in him.
For more details on getting a great woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
3. To Get A Great Girl For A Long-Term
Relationship, TRUST Is Paramount
Most quality women know they can't be foolish
if they are going to invest their emotions in a
man, ESPECIALLY if these women are seeking
a long-term relationship.
There is too much at stake, and so therefore
it becomes of PARAMOUNT importance
that a woman feels she can TRUST a man
in every way.
For a fantastic video that explore this,
please check this out:
How To Build Trust With A Woman
For my most advanced program on getting
and keeping a great woman go here:
How To Get And Keep A Quality Woman
Till next time,
Michael Marks
*Focused on helping men get a great girlfriend since 2003*
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/
"One of Michael's passions is not only just
how to attract women but also how to find
a great woman who would make a fantastic
girlfriend, and also how to create attraction
in a way that creates and builds trust, rather
than create attraction in a way that hurts trust
which a lot of guys do." -David DeAngelo,
best selling author.
Monday, February 13, 2012
What Superior Means When Attracting Women
Just wanted to share an important email that came in
that I think has a lot of relevance for your dating success
both IMMEDIATELY as well as LONG-TERM.
LETTER:
Hi Michael,
First I would like to thank you for sharing your knowledge
about dating, relationships and that stuff with the rest of
the world. After I broke up with my ex girlfriend, my
friend who read your book advised me to buy it and
read it. So I did so.
It was great! I just could not believe how "stupid" of a
nice guy I was. Being THE MAN is the most powerful
thing that could have happened to me.
And it is only because of you. I broke up with my ex
girlfriend with whom I was almost two years because
I was a nice guy.
I used to buy her things, dinners... everything that nice
guys do. How stupid :)
7 days after we broke up I found a new girl. During those 7
days I read your book, of course.
First I decided to act as THE MAN, as you said, and then it
sank in finally, I actually become THE MAN.
I just can't explain how she is crazy about me. How much I
am desirable to her... sexy... and so on.
And not just that about her... there is so much good about me.
I became stronger! And it is so wonderful.
However... during this time, almost 3 months in this new
relationship, I talked to my new girlfriend about her
relationships, but discreetly. And she told me everything
about that. I also asked her if she ever had a f*&k friend...
and her answer was NO. At least she said so.
But I clearly let her now that if she ever lied to me, it is over.
She is just nothing to me.
Also, indirectly I explained to her that she should be happy
because I am with her....
And what happened now...
Last night some of my friends told me that before
me she had a f**k friend. WTF?
Of course, I didn't believe him because I KNOW her and
we talked about everything, and especially because I know
the girl who told that to my friend and that girl is a b*(ch.
But anyway a small seed of doubt is right now in me.
So I need your advice! Of course even if there was a
f(*k friend, it is just a part of her history. But what is
s(*t about that is that potential f*&k friend is my friend
who didn't tell me anything about that. It even doesn't
look like as my girlfriend and he were ever together...
I am just thinking to ask her to tell me the truth while
I am just totally cool and calm...
Suggest my what to do, please.
Thank you for your time!
Sincerely,
Len K.
MY ANSWER:
Thanks for the props on my book and my materials.
I'm going to get right to the point here:
First of all, you have to watch out what other people say,
because they could just be jealous and trying to ruin what
you have.
Second, you yourself mention that the girl who said this
stuff is a b**ch.
The MOST important thing to understand though is that
even if she DID, it is just a part of her history, exactly as
you said.
This is what often happens in real life. Most girls
are not exactly into ffs, because sex is far too
easy for them and therefore it becomes all about
find a guy who is really cool, and THEN they want
him for a relationship. So if you're a cool guy,
you can get a relationship no problem, and the
irony is that the cooler you are, the less needy
you are for one.
But anyway, my point is that what happens is if
the girl feels that her relationship is sinking,
she feels mixed emotions, i.e. bonding emotions
are still there, chemistry might be there but it's
way lower due to things such as lack of trust or
other issues, i.e. the guy NOT being the MAN.
The part of what you say about the potential
"f**k friend" being your friend who didn't tell
you anything about it might be because he feels
weird about talking about it, and like you say it
might not even be true.
I suggest you don't worry about it as long as
your chick is treating you right, and you will find
out ALL the truth anyway in time, ESPECIALLY if
you DO NOT MAKE HER EVER FEEL JUDGED IN
ANY WAY. That way, she can feel that even if
she DID have the guy as a FF, it's cool to tell you
about it. Then, with a smile one day, you can ask
about it in a way that shows you will not get
upset if it is true.
Because in fact, if you are the man, then you
REALLY DON'T CARE, because you KNOW that
YOU are all that she cares about anyway!!!
Remember, what counts is that she is into YOU.
And THIS is the way to KEEP her into YOU.
GETTING a great girl is PART of the challenge,
but then KEEPING her is ALSO part of the skill
as well, and you must not LET anything or
ANYONE screw with your MIND to make you WEAK
or INSECURE.
I'm not saying that you should walk around
with rose-colored glasses, but you should
definitely not walk around with INSECURITY
glasses that end up ruining your LIFE with
women.
And by the way, it's not like people are
always INTENTIONALLY trying to hurt you
or to screw with your mind.
Sometimes, they are just projecting their own
thoughts, and sometimes may GENUINELY
be TRYING to HELP you.
But in the end, YOU have to be the judge,
and it's important to be coming from a place
of STRONG belief in your value and in the
fact that OTHERS see this value, rather than
the REVERSE.
The more you feel your own value, the more you
see how a woman actually feels your value as well.
The more you experience this, the more cool
and more fun you are around women. The more
attracted they get, the better they treat you,
and then you get even MORE secure, and this
starts a never-ending cycle that makes you
infinitely powerful with women.
But alas, if you take the OTHER path,
you start an infinitely NEGATIVE cycle.
So you have to be careful about which
emotional path you want to take.
She got attracted to you because you are
THE MAN, you don't give into insecurities.
VERY few men are like this, ESPECIALLY when
it comes to women, that it really makes
a woman feel LUCKY to be with such a man.
It makes her feel you are super attractive,
because that can be the only explanation
for why you are so secure.
And this is what I mean by being the SUPERIOR one.
The cold hard truth is that we all want someone
BETTER than we feel we 'deserve', and we certainly
don't want LESS than we feel we deserve.
A woman wants the man who is a SUPERIOR 'deal'
than she feels that SHE is worth.
So if a woman feels she is worthy of "x" type
of guy, she wants MORE than she feels she is
worthy of. And she CERTAINLY doesn't want
a guy who is INFERIOR to her.
If you want a woman to be NUTS about you,
you must ensure she feels you are SUPERIOR
to her.
All this is GOOD, not bad or mean and it doesn't
have ANYTHING to do with acting abusive.
In fact, the best couples on earth are the ones
where BOTH the man and the woman are super high
self-esteem and they STILL feel that they somehow
got LUCKY.
They BOTH feel that somehow even though they are
so awesome, they somehow attracted someone who
really is MORE than they expected.
THAT'S going to make for a happy relationship.
And the first MAJOR step to making a woman
feel SHE is the lucky one is to be MORE
secure than her, and ESPECIALLY being a
MAN, there is ALSO the bonus element of
being more DOMINANT as well which is a
masculine quality that turns ON a woman.
This dominance is not about pushing her
around, it's about taking initiative, it's
about approaching HER and not waiting for
her to approach YOU, etc, etc.
When a woman meets a man who GETS all this,
and still knows how to treat her RIGHT,
she MELTS in all the right ways.
And if you are reading this right now, and
haven't yet downloaded my very first book,
"The Dating Wizard", then do that now.
That's the book that this man is speaking
about that changed his life.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my latest
program, "The Charismatic Man", then you'll
want to do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/charismatic-man.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
that I think has a lot of relevance for your dating success
both IMMEDIATELY as well as LONG-TERM.
LETTER:
Hi Michael,
First I would like to thank you for sharing your knowledge
about dating, relationships and that stuff with the rest of
the world. After I broke up with my ex girlfriend, my
friend who read your book advised me to buy it and
read it. So I did so.
It was great! I just could not believe how "stupid" of a
nice guy I was. Being THE MAN is the most powerful
thing that could have happened to me.
And it is only because of you. I broke up with my ex
girlfriend with whom I was almost two years because
I was a nice guy.
I used to buy her things, dinners... everything that nice
guys do. How stupid :)
7 days after we broke up I found a new girl. During those 7
days I read your book, of course.
First I decided to act as THE MAN, as you said, and then it
sank in finally, I actually become THE MAN.
I just can't explain how she is crazy about me. How much I
am desirable to her... sexy... and so on.
And not just that about her... there is so much good about me.
I became stronger! And it is so wonderful.
However... during this time, almost 3 months in this new
relationship, I talked to my new girlfriend about her
relationships, but discreetly. And she told me everything
about that. I also asked her if she ever had a f*&k friend...
and her answer was NO. At least she said so.
But I clearly let her now that if she ever lied to me, it is over.
She is just nothing to me.
Also, indirectly I explained to her that she should be happy
because I am with her....
And what happened now...
Last night some of my friends told me that before
me she had a f**k friend. WTF?
Of course, I didn't believe him because I KNOW her and
we talked about everything, and especially because I know
the girl who told that to my friend and that girl is a b*(ch.
But anyway a small seed of doubt is right now in me.
So I need your advice! Of course even if there was a
f(*k friend, it is just a part of her history. But what is
s(*t about that is that potential f*&k friend is my friend
who didn't tell me anything about that. It even doesn't
look like as my girlfriend and he were ever together...
I am just thinking to ask her to tell me the truth while
I am just totally cool and calm...
Suggest my what to do, please.
Thank you for your time!
Sincerely,
Len K.
MY ANSWER:
Thanks for the props on my book and my materials.
I'm going to get right to the point here:
First of all, you have to watch out what other people say,
because they could just be jealous and trying to ruin what
you have.
Second, you yourself mention that the girl who said this
stuff is a b**ch.
The MOST important thing to understand though is that
even if she DID, it is just a part of her history, exactly as
you said.
You have to understand that for girls, it's REALLY hard in
our society for them to be honest because society judges
them for this stuff like "f**k friend".
ALSO, it may very well have been that she considered
it MORE than a f**k friend but it ended up BECOMING
a "ff" situation.
This is what often happens in real life. Most girls
are not exactly into ffs, because sex is far too
easy for them and therefore it becomes all about
find a guy who is really cool, and THEN they want
him for a relationship. So if you're a cool guy,
you can get a relationship no problem, and the
irony is that the cooler you are, the less needy
you are for one.
But anyway, my point is that what happens is if
the girl feels that her relationship is sinking,
she feels mixed emotions, i.e. bonding emotions
are still there, chemistry might be there but it's
way lower due to things such as lack of trust or
other issues, i.e. the guy NOT being the MAN.
The part of what you say about the potential
"f**k friend" being your friend who didn't tell
you anything about it might be because he feels
weird about talking about it, and like you say it
might not even be true.
I suggest you don't worry about it as long as
your chick is treating you right, and you will find
out ALL the truth anyway in time, ESPECIALLY if
you DO NOT MAKE HER EVER FEEL JUDGED IN
ANY WAY. That way, she can feel that even if
she DID have the guy as a FF, it's cool to tell you
about it. Then, with a smile one day, you can ask
about it in a way that shows you will not get
upset if it is true.
Because in fact, if you are the man, then you
REALLY DON'T CARE, because you KNOW that
YOU are all that she cares about anyway!!!
Remember, what counts is that she is into YOU.
And THIS is the way to KEEP her into YOU.
GETTING a great girl is PART of the challenge,
but then KEEPING her is ALSO part of the skill
as well, and you must not LET anything or
ANYONE screw with your MIND to make you WEAK
or INSECURE.
I'm not saying that you should walk around
with rose-colored glasses, but you should
definitely not walk around with INSECURITY
glasses that end up ruining your LIFE with
women.
And by the way, it's not like people are
always INTENTIONALLY trying to hurt you
or to screw with your mind.
Sometimes, they are just projecting their own
thoughts, and sometimes may GENUINELY
be TRYING to HELP you.
But in the end, YOU have to be the judge,
and it's important to be coming from a place
of STRONG belief in your value and in the
fact that OTHERS see this value, rather than
the REVERSE.
The more you feel your own value, the more you
see how a woman actually feels your value as well.
The more you experience this, the more cool
and more fun you are around women. The more
attracted they get, the better they treat you,
and then you get even MORE secure, and this
starts a never-ending cycle that makes you
infinitely powerful with women.
But alas, if you take the OTHER path,
you start an infinitely NEGATIVE cycle.
So you have to be careful about which
emotional path you want to take.
She got attracted to you because you are
THE MAN, you don't give into insecurities.
VERY few men are like this, ESPECIALLY when
it comes to women, that it really makes
a woman feel LUCKY to be with such a man.
It makes her feel you are super attractive,
because that can be the only explanation
for why you are so secure.
And this is what I mean by being the SUPERIOR one.
The cold hard truth is that we all want someone
BETTER than we feel we 'deserve', and we certainly
don't want LESS than we feel we deserve.
A woman wants the man who is a SUPERIOR 'deal'
than she feels that SHE is worth.
So if a woman feels she is worthy of "x" type
of guy, she wants MORE than she feels she is
worthy of. And she CERTAINLY doesn't want
a guy who is INFERIOR to her.
If you want a woman to be NUTS about you,
you must ensure she feels you are SUPERIOR
to her.
All this is GOOD, not bad or mean and it doesn't
have ANYTHING to do with acting abusive.
In fact, the best couples on earth are the ones
where BOTH the man and the woman are super high
self-esteem and they STILL feel that they somehow
got LUCKY.
They BOTH feel that somehow even though they are
so awesome, they somehow attracted someone who
really is MORE than they expected.
Both parties to the relationship feel that
THEY are the one getting the superior deal.
THAT'S going to make for a happy relationship.
And the first MAJOR step to making a woman
feel SHE is the lucky one is to be MORE
secure than her, and ESPECIALLY being a
MAN, there is ALSO the bonus element of
being more DOMINANT as well which is a
masculine quality that turns ON a woman.
This dominance is not about pushing her
around, it's about taking initiative, it's
about approaching HER and not waiting for
her to approach YOU, etc, etc.
When a woman meets a man who GETS all this,
and still knows how to treat her RIGHT,
she MELTS in all the right ways.
And if you are reading this right now, and
haven't yet downloaded my very first book,
"The Dating Wizard", then do that now.
That's the book that this man is speaking
about that changed his life.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my latest
program, "The Charismatic Man", then you'll
want to do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/charismatic-man.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Monday, October 19, 2009
Fear:F-alse E-vidence A-ppearing R-eal
A deeper look today, into the concept of conquering
the illusions of fear. A quote I heard long ago, that
I once mentioned before, (I honestly don't remember
the source, or if there is one specific one) was:
FEAR=
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
There is an important distinction, though, to
make this realization PRACTICAL in your
everyday life.
You see, the whole problem is that it DOES
appear real, so how can you TELL if it's
real or not? This is the key question.
And the answer is to realize the RELATIVE
AMOUNT OF EVIDENCE.
See, there will ALWAYS be SOME "evidence"
for ANYTHING.
This is how some people abuse statistics to
prove whatever they want.
The solution is to see HOW SOLID THAT
EVIDENCE IS, HOW MUCH EVIDENCE
THERE IS, for something.
So, for example, just like some versions of
feminism went way too far with portraying
men as evil, when really there was no major
evidence for that, (there were SOME male
jerks, but that in no way is evidence for
ALL men being jerks), so too many of the
"get guys laid" gurus went way too far
with making it seem like all women
are actually nuts and are actually attracted
to jerks, etc, etc.
Again, no major EVIDENCE for this.
Sure SOME WOMEN may have gone out
with jerks, but was it because the guy was
a jerk, or was it because he was confident?
Was it because he was a jerk, or he had
some OTHER thing going for him, i.e.
looks, status, etc, etc.
So, too, when you see a woman you want
to approach, and you start saying to yourself
"oh, she would probably not want to talk
to me" WHAT IS THE EVIDENCE?
Is it that ONE woman once said something
rather unfriendly?
Is that that you heard that some OTHER guy
got "rejected" and you don't want that to happen
to you?
Is that you are projecting onto all women your past
experience with some other woman?
See, that's not enough evidence for making
a decision to never approach women again.
So from now on, don't just say "Is there any
real evidence for why I should be afraid?",
because if you ask that, you might very well
find A SHRED of what you might call
"evidence" for being "afraid", but when
balanced against the OCEANS of evidence
to the CONTRARY, you THEN realize that
there it's actually not evidence at all, no
more than seeing a few RAINDROPS is
"evidence" that you need to build an Ark.
And if you'd like to get the BEST training
to develop your "inner game", to go
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
IMMEDIATELY.
the illusions of fear. A quote I heard long ago, that
I once mentioned before, (I honestly don't remember
the source, or if there is one specific one) was:
FEAR=
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
There is an important distinction, though, to
make this realization PRACTICAL in your
everyday life.
You see, the whole problem is that it DOES
appear real, so how can you TELL if it's
real or not? This is the key question.
And the answer is to realize the RELATIVE
AMOUNT OF EVIDENCE.
See, there will ALWAYS be SOME "evidence"
for ANYTHING.
This is how some people abuse statistics to
prove whatever they want.
The solution is to see HOW SOLID THAT
EVIDENCE IS, HOW MUCH EVIDENCE
THERE IS, for something.
So, for example, just like some versions of
feminism went way too far with portraying
men as evil, when really there was no major
evidence for that, (there were SOME male
jerks, but that in no way is evidence for
ALL men being jerks), so too many of the
"get guys laid" gurus went way too far
with making it seem like all women
are actually nuts and are actually attracted
to jerks, etc, etc.
Again, no major EVIDENCE for this.
Sure SOME WOMEN may have gone out
with jerks, but was it because the guy was
a jerk, or was it because he was confident?
Was it because he was a jerk, or he had
some OTHER thing going for him, i.e.
looks, status, etc, etc.
So, too, when you see a woman you want
to approach, and you start saying to yourself
"oh, she would probably not want to talk
to me" WHAT IS THE EVIDENCE?
Is it that ONE woman once said something
rather unfriendly?
Is that that you heard that some OTHER guy
got "rejected" and you don't want that to happen
to you?
Is that you are projecting onto all women your past
experience with some other woman?
See, that's not enough evidence for making
a decision to never approach women again.
So from now on, don't just say "Is there any
real evidence for why I should be afraid?",
because if you ask that, you might very well
find A SHRED of what you might call
"evidence" for being "afraid", but when
balanced against the OCEANS of evidence
to the CONTRARY, you THEN realize that
there it's actually not evidence at all, no
more than seeing a few RAINDROPS is
"evidence" that you need to build an Ark.
And if you'd like to get the BEST training
to develop your "inner game", to go
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
IMMEDIATELY.
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