"You Say He's Just A Friend"

If you are looking for a real, long-term,
exclusive, serious relationship, you
need to find out if the woman you
are dating thinks it is okay for her to
have "guy friends" even when she is in
a relationship.

And to make a long story short, if she
DOES think it is okay for her to have
"guy friends" even when she in a relationship,
then she will be a DISASTER if you choose
her to be your girlfriend.

Does this mean that a woman in a relationship
with you cannot have any association with
any man besides you?

OF COURSE NOT.
She may have male colleagues at work.
She may have male relatives.
She may have some rare emergency situation
that requires her to have some guy call
her or to meet some guy.

But in GENERAL, if a woman is having men
calling who are her "friends" who call her
up, who email her, who text her, it is
ultimately going to be DISASTROUS for the
relationship.

Now, here is the BIG thing to understand.
A lot of women will defend this "friendship"
B.S. by saying that if someone, be it a guy
or a girl, will not accept their partner
having an opposite-sex friend, then it must
be a sign of JEALOUSY.

This statement is not only wrong, it is actually,
in some (not all) cases, quite devious and disrespectful.  

The bottom line is that human beings have
REASONS for doing things.  They don't do
things for NO REASON.  They might not always
be CONSCIOUS of the reasons, but they damn
well do have reasons.

There's a saying that "nobody does anything for free."
Well, I agree, but I also think nobody SHOULD.
It's irrational. Even if the thing that motivates
someone is simply a FEELING, that too is a thing.

So, when a guy calls a woman, he WANTS something
from her.

And the vast, VAST, VAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAST
majority of guys are NOT looking for FRIENDSHIPS
from women, ESPECIALLY not super attractive women,
and especially not as their ORIGINAL reason for
wanting to get to know the woman.

So it MIGHT be that a guy tried to get a woman
interested in him, and it did not work out,
so he sort of remained FRIENDS with her, but
this is ONLY as a result of REALLY being interested
in her for a very PHYSICAL reason, which still has
some vestiges of that desire whether or not he
admits it in his "friendship" stage with that woman.

It's important to remember a study made on a university
campus, where basically a guy went up to a TON of women,
and propositioned them for sex, and the vast VAST
majority of the women said a clear NO.

The study also reversed the roles, and had a woman
go up to a bunch of men, and TONS of men said YES.

Now, of course, both men and women have very
strong physical desires, but men are ready
to get physical IMMEDIATELY with almost
ANY attractive woman, and sometimes she
does not even have to be attractive.

So, just on that level alone, any woman who
thinks that some guy is JUST calling her for
friendship, is actually DENYING THE PHYSICAL
REALITY that the guy would JUMP into bed
with her given the chance.

So, again, just on that level alone, the very fact
a woman will think it is OKAY to have guys who
are "friends" in her life while she is in a
relationship with another guy, is being
DISRESPECTFUL to that guy who is her boyfriend,
even if she NEVER plans to sleep with that guy
friend.

She is basically encouraging the "guy friend"
to keep on trying.

The whole "friend" thing when it comes to
women having "guy friends" is a crock of
horseypoo.

It assumes that, unlike a situation at work,
where a woman may have a male boss or employee
or co-worker, where there is a REASON for
having an association with that person within
the limits of the workplace, there is almost
NO legitimate reason for having a "friendship"
with some guy JUST FOR THE SAKE OF BEING
FRIENDS--WHEN ALSO IN AN ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP
WITH A BOYFRIEND.

It is one thing when a woman is single, and
just trying to meet guys. In that situation,
she may very well have guy friends because
even though she knows the guy friends may
very well be interested in her, at least
she is not disrespecting her boyfriend
since she does not HAVE a boyfriend.

But in a relationship, it is different.
Noboby does anything for no reason.
There HAS to be something they are
getting out of it, and the VAST majority
of guys are NOT trying to get FRIENDSHIP
from some attractive woman.

It is FAR, FAR easier to get a genuine friendship
with a member of the SAME sex, because you share
so many more commonalities by the very fact you
are NOT interested physically in another guy.

The ONLY things left to be interested in, are the
COMMONALITIES, including of course, the common
interest in WOMEN.

And even in the ODD chance that a woman has
some MALE FRIEND who really has so much in
common with her, it STILL is not a good enough
reason to KEEP THE SAME LEVEL OF INTENSITY
IN THE FRIENDSHIP once that woman is in a
serious relationship with a guy.

And the REASON for this is because if you
TRULY AND MASSIVELY VALUE a relationship, you
do not do things to COMPROMISE that relationship.

And one of the BIGGEST compromising things
a man or woman can do to a relationship is
to FOSTER intimate friendships with members
of the opposite sex that have the SERIOUS
potential of turning into something romantic.

So, this is why the LESS ACTUAL reasons
that are NOT friendship are part of the
equation, i.e. relatives, work, emergency,
the GREATER the potential for damage.

So, for example, someone who is a WORK
colleague may very well be limited to
only interacting in a way that is directly
tied to WORK.  So the interactions are all
WORK-RELATED, in the WORK-ENVIRONMENT, unless
of course the person decides to intentionally
betray that understanding and actually turn
it into a cheating situation.

But that would at least mean it was CLEAR
AND INTENTIONAL cheating.

What makes the "friendship" stuff much
more dangerous is that it is NOT regulated
by any other force, it has nothing to do
with work, nothing to do with being a
relative, etc.  It is this airy undefined
b.s. called "we're just friends" which
really means it could be ANYTHING.

And, because MEN understand other MEN,
any man who RESPECTS another man will
NOT call that man's girlfriend up to
be "good friends" with her without
FULLY REALIZING how disrespectful that
is to the GUY.

And, any woman who RESPECTS her boyfriend
will not allow that to happen, so she will
mostly SHUT DOWN the "friendship" with that
guy who is "just a friend".

Sure, she might SEE the friend by sheer
ACCIDENT somewhere, and say hello to him,
but she will not FOSTER some kind of regular
ongoing "friendship" with that guy.

But allow me to get to the MOST IMPORTANT
part of all of this.

The real truth is, that I do believe
that most women who have this "guy friend"
thing going on while still being in a relationship
with another guy, are not TRYING to cheat.

However, every relationship will have its
ups and downs over the course of its duration,
which, hopefully, lasts a lifetime and is a
happy one.

But during those DOWNS, the relationship is
more VULNERABLE.  Just like NOTHING in life
is always PERFECT and at its BEST, so too
relationships are not always PERFECT and
at their BEST.

But just because something is not always
PERFECT does not mean that we don't value it.

We don't all just go and KILL OURSELVES
because life is not perfect, right?

No, instead, we TRY to fix situations,
we try to PREVENT problems.

We don't THROW out our TV sets because
we don't always get PERFECT reception, right?

And we don't PLAN on disaster, but we
DO buy INSURANCE, right?

And we tend to put ON seat-belts even though
we are not EXPECTING disaster, right?

In fact, ALL of the things that we DO
value, we put in an EFFORT to protect
those things against situations where
things might not go perfectly.

So, too, with RELATIONSHIPS, we VALUE
them, so SMART people try to PROTECT
them, long term, by NOT putting themselves
in situations that may COMPROMISE the
relationships.

So even if 99 times the "platonic" interaction
is safe, is it worth it if the 100th time
she meets that "platonic" friend, something
fishy happens that DOES screw up the relationship?

Of course it is then not worth it.

And over the span of a LONG TERM relationship,
if a woman thinks it's fine for her to have
these "platonic friendships with guys" there
will then be HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of
such interactions with those guys, which
actually makes the chance of something bad
eventually happening a mathematical and
ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY.
 
If a woman VALUES her relationship,
her marriage, her children, and having
her children raised in a cohesive family,
she will GLADLY turn down the DIAL on
the B.S. "platonic friendships" from
other guys.

And if she CAN'T do this, it is a message
she is saying LOUD AND CLEAR, and the
message is THIS:

"RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT SACRED TO ME."

And that is all you need to know about her
in order to DUMP her IMMEDIATELY.

Also, I must remind you, that the STRONGER
you become in your convictions about this,
the MORE a woman will pursue you, and you
will start to DOUBT yourself when a beautiful
woman tries to convince you why you should
be okay with all her platonic guy friends.

It won't be easy as you see her gorgeous
body, and you drink in the scent of her
perfume, and you gaze at her beautiful
lips.

YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG.
Do NOT give in to the LOW-HANGING fruit
just because it is there.

CONTINUE THE SEARCH and get yourself
a GREAT woman who already UNDERSTANDS
every last word of this message.

And if you're serious about finding and
keeping the RIGHT woman, I suggest you get
start with two of my books:

The first is THE DATING WIZARD.

This book is the foundation for ATTRACTION,
and it's at:

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The other book is GET A GREAT GIRL,
which is all about understanding the fine
nuances of getting and keeping a truly
great girlfriend. 

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Samples.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

When To Be CLEAR With A Woman

Just a quick message today.  A lot
of people dismiss the attractive quality
of being a GOOD man.  People think
it is the anti-attractor, but the truth is
WEAKNESS is not cool, but GOODNESS
when it is backed up with confidence
IS attractive.

So attractive, in fact, that a lot of women,
including the WRONG WOMEN, will
want you so badly, that they will pretend
to be GOOD WOMEN even though they
are dishonest and disloyal.

Why do they do this? Because they want
good men so badly.  They just aren’t
prepared to be good women in return.

So, for this reason, it is IMPERATIVE
that you watch a woman’s initial behavior
with you like a hawk.  Not with negativity,
not with bias, but with ACCURACY.

If a woman shows a pattern of dishonesty
with you during the initial few dates you
have with her, or if she shows a pattern of
disrespect or anything else like that, you
MUST end the relationship then and there.

Do NOT believe a woman’s protests when
she starts telling you how she did not mean
to lie, she did not mean to be disrespectful,
how she won’t do it again, etc.

As a good man, it can be HARD to believe
that anyone would engage in such nasty
behavior, so you WANT to believe that
indeed the woman you met is just like you,
that she shares the same concept of how to
behave with other people, that she shares
the same sense of horror at dishonesty and
disrespect, etc.

The more of a good guy you are, the more
CAREFUL you have to be, BECAUSE of
the fact that EVERY woman wants a good
guy and wants to be treated right- even the
the women that don’t treat OTHERS right
still want to be TREATED right.

So those wrong women are going to want
you too, and they are going to be sneaky
in how they try to get away with their
own selfish and abusive behavior while
trying to KEEP YOU.

The solution to ALL OF THIS is to be
EXTREMELY CLEAR about your values
and your expectations from DAY ONE.

Too many guys are so worshiping women
just because they are SO attracted to
these women that they are AFRAID of
doing anything to compromise the chances
of BEING with these women.

Well guess what? Women SENSE that,
including the WRONG women, and the
wrong women will take advantage of that
and abuse you.

And it all stems from scarcity thinking, thinking
that goes along the lines of, "But I will never
get another woman as good as her!"

When you feel scarcity thinking come over you,
you need to BEEYOTCH slap yourself to
your senses.

So, again, the solution to ALL OF THIS is
to be EXTREMELY CLEAR about your values
and your expectations from DAY ONE.

If you are REALLY DAMN CLEAR
from the beginning, then the wrong women
will STEER CLEAR FROM YOUR PATH
because they will KNOW it is a hopeless
endeavor to try to screw you over.

This then allows you to focus your time and
energy on the RIGHT WOMEN who will
treat you with RESPECT.

And if you would like to learn how to meet,
approach, and attract women, sign up for
BOOTCAMP now.

It’s at:

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By the way, if you don’t already have my
ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM, then I seriously
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After the foundation set down in my book
The Dating Wizard, this program forms the
NEXT LEVEL OF ADVANCEMENT.

It goes into DEPTH and gives you the SPECIFICS
you need to know from A to Z, it even goes so
far as to instruct you on the EXACT, DETAILED
steps to take from SEEING A WOMAN ANYWHERE all
the way TO GETTING PHYSICAL.

And much, MUCH more.

Check out ALL the details at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Truth About Being A Man And Attracting Women

The first thing I want to say here is that the
following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.

Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.

And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.

Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.

If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.

Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.

And now, I will begin the main part of this article:

It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.

This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.

For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.

So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.

The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.

I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man. 

The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.

The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.

Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.

In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.

So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.

All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do. 

In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction. 

So, getting women can be EASY.

The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.

And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.

A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.

What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.

Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about  “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.

Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.

Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:

ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU

When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must  
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.

Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….

And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.

It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.

They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.

Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.

So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.

But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo. 

Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance.  And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.  
 
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are 
not attractive.

And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.

I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME  WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.

A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.

Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.

And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.

This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman, 
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.

But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.

The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.

Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.

Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.

Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.

The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.

J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.

Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.

My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.

Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.

Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.

The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.

Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.

That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.

Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.

Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.

As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.

My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks