You Must Set The Vibe ASAP

Before we even get started today, I want
to share some INSTANT GOLD with you,
that you can apply TODAY when you see
a woman you want to approach:

TRY TO KEEP YOUR WORDS TO AN ABSOLUTE MINIMUM!

Force yourself to convey as much as you
can using everything ELSE besides words,
and also, use every OTHER element in
your communication to make EACH WORD
COUNT AS MUCH AS IT CAN.

What I mean specifically, is to use things like:

1.PAUSES

2.SLOWING DOWN YOUR WORDS

3.USING THE RIGHT EMOTION AND TONALITY FOR EACH WORD

4.MAKING THE RIGHT EXPRESSION, OR TOTAL LACK OF EXPRESSION ON YOUR FACE SHOWING TOTAL CALM.  

It depends on what you're talking about, obviously.

By the way, the pauses are excellent, as they allow
the WOMAN some time to digest what you are saying
and offers HER a chance to come up with something
to say back to you, PLUS it shows that you are
not insecure and that you don't need to keep
on trying to "sell" yourself.

You'll see that doing the above will make
a WORLD of difference in your interactions
with women.

Next: One of the most common pitfalls when it
comes to making "cold approaches" on women, is
that guys rely on talking to women who are
EMPLOYEES at stores, shops, etc.

It's very EASY to fall into this trap, and I've seen
it a lot in my work with clients in my one-on-one
consultations and coaching. The reason why it's
easy to fall into this trap is because the guys know
that the woman will RESPOND to them, because
these women are clerks and are paid to interact
with the customers.

This does not mean that you can't get the
clerks, employees, etc. But, if you are only
pursuing these women in your approaches,
it's usually a sign that you are avoiding the
REAL SKILL DEVELOPMENT.

When you have the REAL SKILL, you can
chat to ANY woman, ANYWHERE.

In fact, when you have these skills developed,
you will actually do far better with these
female clerks, employees, etc.

So, that being said, if you ARE going to try to
'pick-up' the "hired" help, keep the following
things in mind:

ONE:
DON'T "PERUSE" THE ITEMS IN THE STORE
FOR A WHILE, AS IF YOU ARE TRYING TO
"ACT LIKE A CUSTOMER"

I notice that most of the time, guys are trying to
avoid being shut down. So, of course, the best
thing to avoid ALL PROBLEMS is to do
NOTHING, right?

So then what most guys will do is just kind of
look around the store for a while, as they think
of something to say.

The problem with this, of course, is that all this
ends up doing is CATEGORIZING yourself
clearly in HER mind as a CUSTOMER.

The more you ACT like a customer, the more she
will put you into the "customer" category in her
brain. And she will thus TREAT you like a customer.

So, it's off with viewing you as a man or potential
mate, and it's ON with viewing you as a possible
CASH TRANSACTION.

And you can't blame her, either, since what else
is she supposed to think?

The OTHER problem with acting like a customer
and spending a few minutes looking at things
in the store, is that by ACTING like a customer,
you yourself kind of feel a PRESSURE to
BEHAVE like a customer.

The mind and body are massively linked together,
and by adopting the PHYSIOLOGY of a customer,
you will FEEL like a customer, and you will
ALSO therefore feel CREEPY inside when you
even THINK of trying to approach her, never
mind turning her into your girlfriend!

You start to feel like you are having to "fake
her out" and as if you are manipulating her.

And because you will feel this way, it will SHOW
in your body language and tonality, and the bottom
line is that you will therefore be INCONGRUENT in
terms of giving off the sexual, fun, social VIBES.

Your vibe will be a weird inconsistent mixture
of things that don't mix well - a sort of weird
mishmash of "I need to buy something but
I don't really and I want to talk to you but
I don't know how really and I'm not
THE MAN!" etc etc.

So, what you should do instead is...

TWO:
IMMEDIATELY GET INTO THE 'NITTY GRITTY'!

Now, you can and SHOULD slightly adapt your
approach to the fact she is working in the store,
but you should in NO WAY try to act as if you
are seriously a CUSTOMER.

It is not a crime for you to be INTERESTED in her.

So you can start with a story, you can start with
a playful tease, you can start with anything FUN
or interesting, just make sure you DON'T ask
her questions like: "How much is this?" or
questions about the merchandise, etc.

If you get into customer questions, you are just
going to DIG YOURSELF DEEPER INTO A
HOLE where you keep on REINFORCING
THE WHOLE CUSTOMER VIBE.

And if you THEN try to SHIFT GEARS into
"flirting mode" after doing this customer
mode for too long, it seems as if you are
MANIPULATIVE, as if the whole thing was just
a SNEAKY RUSE designed to cloak the fact
you wanted to chat to her, and THAT seems
very UNCOOL, in so many ways.

It says lack of honesty and it says lack of confidence.
And the crazy thing is that it can even be a GOOD GUY
who is doing this, but he just doesn't realize the
negative effect he is creating.

So, when dealing with clerks, salesgirls, employees of
any sort, it's important to quickly CHANGE the subject
from clothing or anything that a CUSTOMER would be
talking about and that you switch over to FUN flirting
mode.

This is why, for example, if you DO ask for advice on
clothing or whatever you are buying, that you switch
modes FAST by, for example, playfully TEASING
HER on the very advice she gave you.

OR, you could AVOID the customer/employee vibe
to begin with by IMMEDIATELY going into an
interesting story that happened to you.

You could even go up to her and say, "you don't belong
here" and she will ask "what do you mean"???? Then
you can playfully say "you belong at the head branch"
...and then TEASE her by saying "where they straighten
out naughty employees!!" etc.

So, my main point is avoid getting TOO DEEP into
the whole asking the employee for too much advice,
or you can get into a situation where the VIBE is all
about customer/employee rather than MAN/WOMAN,
flirting, giving off vibes, etc.

So avoid asking "how much is it", avoid asking about
the merchandise, instead turn the whole thing into a
playful thing, by for example saying that you were
thinking of buying the store and how much the store
would cost to own, and if you could set up a cafe in
the middle for guys who are with their girlfriend
and are bored as hell so they could at least watch
the sports channel while their girlfriends are
shopping, etc.

And then, based on her reply to you, you could
have a conversation going back and forth, and
then you could bridge into more rapport type
conversation where you are both asking
more "real" types of questions about each
other and you get to know each other a bit
before you take her number or email, etc.

And if you are reading this right now,
you can see that I am all about how to
take the most EFFECTIVE action IMMEDIATELY
in any and every situation where you find
a woman you seriously want to attract.

If you haven't yet got your hands on
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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Real Life Example: Approaching A "10"

Just wanted to share a quick but important
letter on approaching a hottie before we get
into the article today:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
STILL didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women.

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence.

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach.

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new CD Set- I wish I had heard of
you ten years ago, I could have
had a great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool.

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the comment about the crowded train
and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshipping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way
that you have MASSIVE worth and that you
aren't arrogant about it.

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
bigshot he is.

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in Actions For Attraction,
which is using "MINIMUM GAME":

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is
too much of a good thing and works
against you) you then seem cooler and you
also leave some awesome MYSTERY about you.

So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
bootcamps is that I’m constantly seeing
the TRUTH of what works and what doesn’t
with attracting the women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show you
they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE.

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.
This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as it’s
putting the cart before the horse and triggers
her alarms that this guy seems to be only
interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality. For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. I get into full details of this in
my materials.

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is sexual.

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual. In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop,
don’t go directly up to her which might
surprise her, instead let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS

NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment. NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the opportunity
for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you. She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well. Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

They say that Bill Clinton was (and probably still is)
a fantastic listener, and could make EVERY person
in the room feel like they were totally understood,
even if he disagreed with them.

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact
as you hold her hand for slightly longer
than normal, when saying “nice to meet you”,
etc.

And you can now FLIRT big time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach. A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR, the standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club. The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you GET this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good. However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever.

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise.

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say “That’s awesome you got that! High five”
and then high five her and CONTINUE to
keep the fun conversation going on, i.e.
“Barney is the kind of guy that doesn’t show
off, yet he masterminds EVERYTHING, and
you know BETTY is having the wild nights
with him, that’s what they don’t show
on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

A feeling of you holding status is another thing
that many women require in order to be with a
man.

Status has to do with a great many variables,
from the way you HOLD yourself, body language,
confidence, your career, salary, the social circle
you belong to, your ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.

And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
You might reply with “I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself.

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value. Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

And if you are reading this right now, you
can probably see that I am all about giving
you the steps for taking ACTION with women,
no matter where you meet them.

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concepts, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S.
To learn IN PERSON, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

How A "No Club" Dude Gets The Girl!

>>>>LETTER FROM A DUDE WHO 'DOESN'T DO CLUBS'<<<<

Hey Michael,

Just thought I should send you a message,
something interesting happened to me
two nights ago (Friday night). A friend
of mine was having a birthday party at
a club. He’s a decent guy, but I’m not
into the “clubbing” thing, and yet birthdays
are only once a year, and I figured it would
be rude not to attend.

The other thing is that after getting your
Warrior Within materials about a week ago,
I figured this might be a chance to practice,
even though you’ve made it pretty clear that
clubs aren’t usually the best place to find
a compatible great girl, especially if a guy
is not into drinking.

I don’t do clubs so I don’t have any “club gear”,
so for this party I figured I’d hit the mall and jazz
up the wardrobe a bit.

Without giving you a speech, I’ll just say that it
was a black, felt-like material for my shirt,
with a small blue embroidered design on the left
chest area, and one very thin, metallic-silvery stripe
that stretched down each sleeve. I saw it in the store
and knew this would rock.

By the way, this was the fourth store I went to,
the first three just didn’t have anything that
measured up!

Coupled it up with a pair of black jeans, an emblem
stylized buckled belt, and a pair of low cut black
boots. (All from separate stores!)

Now, at the store, trying them on, I honestly felt
that this was somehow morally wrong.

I know this sounds crazy, but I actually felt,
exactly like what the “hidden” guy describes
in your Warrior Within seminar. Remember
how you were both explaining how we as
humans begin to associate certain status with
certain ways of dressing, and that we actually
feel that we are not allowed to change groups,
to move up in status?

Well that’s how I felt, when I was trying
on these cool clothes. I felt like if I did
wear these, someone would come over
and say “Who do you think you are?
Don’t you realize you are not part of
the cool crowd? Go back where you
come from!”

The thing is, that I actually really loved
these new clothes! I just figured that I
wasn’t “cool” enough to wear them.
I have nothing in common with the
people who tend to usually wear the
‘cool’ clothing.

Mike, if it wasn’t for your coaching, I
would have never forced myself to
go along with all this.

So, there I am next, walking up to the
club, feeling like probably everyone
is saying “that guy is a faker, that guy
doesn’t belong with the cool people”.

This is also where your teachings on
“it’s okay to be freaked out” came in!

I just continued right on, feeling all
the anxieties and accepting it all, and
not trying to force myself to feel
all perfect before taking action- because
that perfect feeling will never come,
and thanks to you, I’m not waiting
around for it, I’m taking action now.

So there I am, inside the club, saying
happy birthday to the dude, hi to a few
friends, and then I noticed something.

*Girls were checking me out!*

This does not usually happen to me.
I’m not a bad looking guy, but I’m no model.

Could this Michael dude really have known
this was going to happen???

I felt very weird in the club, as I don’t drink,
and I don’t tend to fit the typical lifestyle of
the girls who tend to live the club life-you
know what I mean –the tanning, the drinking,
the smoking, the partying, the sleeping around,
etc.

But I remembered what you said, and that
the greatest form of ‘social proof’ begins
with the self- that I must claim my own
value and take every action forth that is
consistent with one who believes in their
value, even if I felt anxiety about it.

So I was at the bar, getting a juice,
when I hear this distinctly feminine
voice.

“I love your shirt!”

Was somebody talking to me?

I turn around and I see this physically perfect
little package of feminine gorgeousness has
stepped in beside me.

She was about 5”4 blond with brown
highlights and green eyes, wearing
a blue short dress, and what looked
like diamond studded heels.

Probably 24-25 years old.

Let me tell you what went through my mind:
*&^%! (I know you’ll have to censor that.)

This chick was hotter than anything I’ve
seen in months!

Here’s what I wanted to do, Michael:

I wanted to melt like butter and I
wanted to say nothing, just freaking
stand there and just take in all her
beauty and I would have been pretty
happy with that.

Seriously, it was that intense of an experience.

Pathetic? Maybe. True? Completely.

Still though, your words from the seminar echoed
in my mind:

“How nice is it really for me to be feeling this way?”

These feelings are all about me taking, I would
not be feeling this way if I felt I could give value.

And more importantly, I wasn’t thinking about
how to give.

And how just as I am enjoying her, she would probably
enjoy this interaction if I would live up to who I know
I can be.

So rather than melt, I instead became less selfish.

Rather than jumping for joy like a little boy,
I stayed pretty calm, partially because I
already knew that most of these girls would
have very little in common with me, and
are probably not what I’m looking for.

Rather than gushing at the compliment, I just
said “Thanks, and I know that’s not a line
you say to all the men”.

I’m not sure what came over me, with that
remark, as it was a cross between sarcasm
and the truth. I meant the thanks, but I
also figured to myself that yes the shirt
was cool, but that also this girl is so
beautiful that anything she says at first
is enough to bowl over most men,
and so I honestly was curious if she
was just drunk and playing around
or whether she really wanted to chat.

So there was a bit of sarcasm in my voice,
as if maybe indeed she did say that to all
the guys.

This turned out to be a great move, because
she immediately poked her finger into my
chest, smiling but a bit surprised, saying
“No, I don’t say that to all the guys!”

You know Michael, this got me thinking,
that it seems to me that maybe it’s a rare
thing for any man to challenge any beautiful
woman, because this woman really seemed
to react to my statement as if no man has
ever questioned her before.

And then I remembered that just a few
seconds before, I myself wanted to melt
like butter, and that’s with having your
training!

So I can see how most men, it’s sheer biology,
the reaction the power of having a beautiful
woman right in your face.

And that’s the thing, Michael, this woman
being right in my face now, I could drink
in the flowery scent of her perfume, I
could just see her in my mind completely
naked, and again, for a second, there was
that old guilt as if I was doing something
wrong.

But I pushed on, remembering your coaching
and remembering that these women WANT
me to see them otherwise they wouldn’t
‘dress to impress’ in a public place!

Then, I actually verbalized what was on my mind,
as I leaned into her and said something like:

“I have to tell you something- to be perfectly
honest with you, I’m not really into the club
scene! I’m here for a party!”

She responded with something like “It’s
interesting you say that, because I’m not
really a club girl!”

Now, this got a bit of a rise out of me,
because I was being honest, and just
wanted her to know that I’m not looking
for the old “shag for the night” thing,
but then it clicked that all I ended up
doing by this was actually “disqualifying”
her, by making her think that I thought
that she must be a club girl, and that
because I am not a club guy, she is
not right for me.

So this just raised the level of the challenge,
right Michael?

Now she was more into me, and trying to
tell me how she doesn’t take most guys
who she meets at clubs seriously, which
is why she rarely goes to clubs, but that
her friend from out of town came in and
there was nothing else to do that night.

I’m thinking to myself, that at this point,
just having a great conversation with
a gorgeous creature like this, is already
way better than sitting at home watching
tv!

And because I was already feeling like I
was “ahead” because of that, now my mood
really was picking up, because I was enjoying
myself and the enjoying the social stimulation
with this woman.

So then I playfully took her hands, and pulled
her into me, close. I said to her “You know,
if you’re trying to get my attention with all
this high class talk, it might be working.”

She goes, “Might?????”

So I told her “Well, I need to know what
you’re like!”

So then she pulls the final card up her sleeve,
Er, skirt, er, panties, er, you know what I mean:

She turns around, her back to me, and
then turns her face toward me and gives
this sultry look, as if she is about to get
all erotic.

Man, if it was not for your teachings,
I would have screwed this up so bad.

I would have totally gone for this, thinking
this is my open door.

But I knew what was really going on,
I knew that if I went for this, that if
she was the kind of woman that I
really do want, she would get turned
off immediately.

Thanks to you, I realized that this was
actually a built-in habit that a lot of
attractive women exhibit when they
sense that a man is not under their
control, especially a man that they
actually want.

So I just motioned “no” with my head,
and gave her the “come hither gesture”
that she should come over to me.

In a playful, but genuine voice, I told her:
“I’m sure that works with every other guy,
but no, with me, I really do want to know
what you’re like. I want to know what
will happen after the bed stuff.”

We ended up chatting for a good half-hour!
This letter would take too much time for
me to explain all the ways I connected to
her and vice versa, using your materials,
but I can tell you that the more she spoke,
the more I learned about her, and the more
I could connect to her and speak to her
about the things that matter to us.

I learned a ton about her, and indeed this
woman seems like she’s got a lot of
important traits that I am looking for
in a woman, besides the superficial.

And then, I took her to a sofa to sit down,
and held her hands as I looked deep in
her eyes, just like a good soap opera,
but I already knew it was on between us,
and we did some serious good old
fashioned kissing and making out.

I ended up leaving the club with her and
her friend, and we already have plans
to meet up Tuesday after her friend
leaves to go back to her hometown.

What was pretty cool before we
parted, was that her friend
came up to me and told me that
I better call her friend, and
that I better not take her
friend for granted.

I thought this was cute, because
it was as if they thought that
I must be some guy who has lots
of women around and might forget
her!

But what clicked in my head when this
happened, is the realization that it's
this behavior and these ways of being
that create the massive abundance
of choices with women.

I realize that if I keep this up,
this is exactly what my situation
will be, and in fact I will have to
remind myself not to forget to call
up women.

None of this could have happened if
it wasn’t for your teachings. Had I
pushed for the sexual too fast, I would
have seemed like every other guy.
Had I worn boring clothing, I would
have not stood out and would have
not have made the same powerful
first impression. Had I tried to pretend
that I was a “club guy” she would
have ultimately found out I was
being dishonest, which would have
shown that I was insecure.

Instead, my behavior built attraction,
built intrigue, it built trust since I
clearly was not interested in forcing
anything to happen (ironically, this
ended up making it all happen), and it
allowed her to feel free to be herself since
I made sure to “lead the way” in this regard,
as you explain that we must do in order
for women to feel comfortable doing the
same.

I know this is a long letter, but I wanted
to write to you because I myself can
hardly believe that all this almost never
happened and could have been just
another night watching TV.

Also, I think it’s important that your
readers understand that when you say
that your material is for getting a
great girlfriend, I actually think it
would work on any woman!

After this experience, I feel like
meeting even more women, everywhere now,
cafes, bookstores, and even going back to
the club (I know, I know, I should
be happy with what I already got! But
your program is like a new toy and I
want to try it out in many new situations!)
because I can already see how I would
apply it on any woman!

I think the important distinction with your
material is that it goes farther than is
required for women who are only looking for
a ‘one night stand’ or ‘friends with benefits'
thing.

In other words, it will work on all women,
but for men who are just looking for the
ONS or FWB, then they should still use
your materials, but they should tone
everything DOWN, since these women
are not looking for such a strong
connection.

Thanks again...

Jack T., Texas

***MY COMMENTS***

Well, first of all congratulations on doing
so many things BANG ON perfect, and ALSO
thanks for sharing what you learned and
how you applied it.

It’s always fascinating to me, how on the
highest level of skill, what is really
happening is the most noble level of
communication.

For example, you really WERE trying to see
if this woman met your standards or not, and
this ended up triggering the challenge for her
and raising her attraction.

You also rewarded her at the perfect moment,
after she had earned it by trying to convince
you. You also made sure to use physical
contact, but in a non-creepy way, and holding
hands in a club is extremely innocent yet
still has sexual undertones.

I also LOVED how you remembered the
“final card” that is played by so many
women who are attractive, which is the
sexual innuendo/hint, etc, but is really
something that they expect to use to
DOMINATE THE interaction over the
man, or to throw him for a loop.

They don’t even do this to be bad.
It’s just a good feeling for a woman to
know she HAS the guy, (it's a good
feeling for a MOMENT for her, until
it sinks in a second later that
this guy should not have fallen
for pure lust -- at which point,
she is DISAPPOINTED that he DID
fall for it) and usually this
last card will do the trick for
these women.

Of course, when women see that every
guys falls for this, it’s not a cool
thing for the guy.

And again, this ultimately is NOT a game
when you don’t fall for it. Why SHOULD
a man suddenly now think that this woman
is now perfect, just because she flashed
a pseudo-promise of sexual goodies to come?

Pardon the unintentional pun, of course.

Also, there's nothing wrong with wanting
to meet a lot of women with your new
skills and 'powers'! You can use your
skills to meet and screen women for the
best ones, and if you like, choose the
best of the best from those women you
attracted, to be your girlfriend.

All in all GREAT stuff!

And if you’re reading this now, I want
you to understand that all this success
starts with a SINGLE step, and that
step leads to MORE momentum,
and MORE steps, each step helping
you gain more and more momentum
and skill to you start to improve at
EXPONENTIAL SPEED.

What’s the first step?
Write down RIGHT NOW, all your fears
about approaching women, going out alone
toa party or club or bookstore or café
or anywhere else, to meet women.

For every fear you have about approaching
women, I want you to write down the
WORST CASE SCENARIO.

It might make you SHUDDER.
It might make you NAUSEOUS.

But, DO NOT try to butter up the image
and do not try to make it all feel good.

Of course, if it DOES feel good, that’s great.
If thinking about approaching women feels
great, then by all means, feel great.

But if it felt so awesome, you probably
would be doing it, right?

So I’m saying that the yucky feeling is OKAY.

In fact, if you spend enough time with
the actual FEAR, instead of RUNNING
from that fear, you will actually get
a HOLD over it- instead of IT holding
YOU.

Now, write down ALL your excuses for
not approaching.

In fact, next time you see a woman you
want to approach, and you DON’T do it,
write down WHY you didn’t do it.

Not just the IMMEDIATE why of
“I felt freaked by it”, but the WHY you
felt freaked, what was the BIGGEST
concern underneath it all?

And then, for all the situations that you don’t
approach women, I want you to write a
MORE POWERFUL ANSWER for why
you MUST approach.

You must be PREPARED PSYCHOLOGICALLY
in ADVANCE of the moment, or it will be
TOO LATE if you start only getting into state
once you see a woman you want to approach.

You need to be prepared to approach women
EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT FEELING SO
AWESOME ABOUT IT.

In fact, even if you feel FREAKED OUT,
go approach anyway.

Once you see a woman you want to approach,
you must be already PREPARED to QUASH
the excuses.

So have those “excuse-destroyers” ALREADY
FIGURED OUT, long in advance.

What you are reading is just the BEGINNING
of the success with women you can be having
RIGHT NOW! To get the FULL PICTURE
on how to attract the women of your CHOICE,
I suggest you get my ‘Warrior Within’ program
immediately.

This program will destroy your excuses, and
give you the FASTEST AND MOST POWERFUL
SOLUTIONS for meeting, attracting, and keeping
the women you WANT.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book,
‘Get A Great Girl’, do that now. This book
will give you a great foundation for meeting
and attracting quality women, and is the place
to start.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Charisma Is MADE, Not Born

Although there are many ways to meet women,
including building up your social circle, or
through going online, my personal favorite is
the good ol' fashioned PRIMAL style:

SEE WOMAN, APPROACH WITH SKILL, GET WOMAN.

Does it always work?
Of course not, that's why MOST GUYS never DO it.

It's also why the guys who not only DO it,
but do it WELL, tend to get pretty awesome
results, ESPECIALLY if they do it a LOT.

To be blunt, it makes a pretty big statement
to a woman when you show her through this
kind of ACTION that you are DIFFERENT
from most men.

And hey, I'm NOT knocking the other ways
of meeting women, and in fact I've DONE
those ways as well, and they're totally
cool and fine!

But the thing is, the skills you get from
having to master REAL LIFE APPROACHES
end up making ALL THE OTHER WAYS seem
like CHILD'S PLAY.

But the reverse is not true.
Being confident while behind a screen
on the internet does not mean you will
be feeling as confident actually making
a real life approach to a woman who is
a total stranger.

Being witty when in the company of your
FRIENDS who happen to have invited a couple
women they know to a party is not the same
as being able to be witty and empowered and
on the ball when you suddenly must do it
on CUE when you see a woman on the train
in middle of a bunch of total strangers.

See what I mean?

And if a guy DOES meet a great woman using ANY method,
well then that is AWESOME SUCCESS, because as long as
you get what you want it IS success.

I'm just saying that I PERSONALLY find the
idea of making approaches to women to be
quite the DRAMATIC experience, and also
I have seen how the skills involved in
making a successful approach in real life
HELP you in meeting and attracting women
in every OTHER method such as online or
through your social circle, etc.

Some people like video games, some people
like to play poker. I think approaching
women is awesome.

And, it's not only the END result that
I like, it's the RUSH, it somehow feels
like one of the few POSITIVE things that
we can still do as men and women that harkens
back to the GOOD ELEMENT of our ANCIENT
SELVES.

There's something very INSTINCTIVE in
humans that AWAKENS when you take this
step.

When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are entering into the
'FORBIDDEN ZONE' in a cool way, that
society STILL seems unable to "modernize"
and I LOVE THIS, it's one of the only
ways to get in touch with who we are
as humans in the most EVOLUTIONARY
yet POSITIVE sense.

No twitter, no tv, no computer,
no technology to cover up or
to diminish the RAW EXPERIENCE.

This is about MAN and WOMAN coming TOGETHER.

It's what we were all BORN to do!!!!

And the fact that most people DON'T do this,
is what makes it even cooler, not just for YOU,
but for the WOMAN as well.

You're giving the woman that rare chance
for HER to experience this adventure that
brings out her most instinctive drive.

Now, doing it right involves a few skills,
it doesn't have to take forever, but it
does take a few skills, and the truth is
in a few weeks most men could get the
basics and do TEN TIMES BETTER with
women than they could before- IF they
actually kept up the practice.

But most guys don't get to the point of
developing the SKILL because they don't
even APPROACH in the first place.

Which brings me to Albert Ellis:

"Legendary psychologist Albert Ellis pioneered the
"shame-attacking exercise" in 1933 at age 19, when
he decided to approach every woman who sat down
alone on a bench at the New York Botanical Garden.

"Thirty walked away immediately," he told the
New York Times. "I talked with the other 100, for
the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was.
Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops."

And Ellis learned he wouldn't die from rejection.
Of the first 130 women he went up to, he got only
one date, he said, but "with the second 100, I got
good and made a few dates"--and, eventually, got
to be "one of the best picker-uppers of women in
the United States."
- Psychology Today Magazine, by Erika Casriel

Now, this is a guy who had ZERO information on
pick-up, and strictly worked on GUTS alone.

When I started out, I had no one to really
learn from, so I had to do the same thing,
learning it all the HARD way. If I could go
back in time, I could help his results MASSIVELY
by letting him know GUARANTEED ways to get
into the conversation without getting shut down
so that he buys himself the required two or three
minutes to actually SPARK attraction.

I would teach him various ways to disarm her
and charm her that would at least give him a
fighting chance, ways to take her automatic
responses she gives all guys to shut them
down and slip right by those statements.

For example, if she says that she is in a rush,
then the best thing to say is to actually NOT
ask her for a favour for a second, but to actually
let her know that you're in a rush as well, (so that
she can relax and not feel this is going to take
forever). If she says anything that is defensive,
the best way to diffuse it is to use warm
humor (i.e. if she says that she doesn't talk to
guys because guys are jerks, you should say
something like "I agree! That's why I'm talking
to you and not them" with a smile.) because you
need to change her emotional state not even
TRY to engage her actual argument or her
logic.

If she's smiling, she's no longer going to WANT
to shut you down.

The fact of the matter is that there are MANY
factors involved in a successful pick-up, and
KNOWING these in advance will HELP you
get more consistent results.

And one factor IS getting over your anxiety, yet at the
same time, it's important to realize that a BIT of anxiety
and fear is actually a GOOD thing!

It can work in your favor. Ask any martial artist
or any performer of anything and they will tell
you that fear, when controlled, can actually
ENHANCE your performance. It can help
you stay alert and be on the ball. For example,
if you are interacting with a woman and
you start showing off without realizing it
and she starts to roll her eyes, it's GOOD
that you feel a bit of discomfort at this, as
it MOTIVATES YOU to STEER THIS
PICK-UP PROPERLY and change gears
to showing that you are not full of yourself,
for example, by making a joke that is
SELF-DEPRECATING.

i.e. You're accidentally showing off about your
prestigious education and you then see her roll
her eyes, so you then say something like
"And of course, I then got my PhD in useless facts,
as we all know we learned more about real life
outside school."

This actually shows that you are far cooler and also
far more understanding and that you have more
empathy as well, all in one swift move.

Again, normally you wouldn't have to engage in
self-deprecating behavior, but in such as situation
it would be the right thing to do and would actually
make you seem cooler.

Now, if you have suffered major abuse yourself (and
I know what that is like, so I am absolutely NOT
makng light of this) then the anxiety of a social
interaction may be overwhelming, in which case you
should first work on building UP your desensitivity
to your fears so that you can take the anxiety of
a social interaction.

If we never felt ANY discomfort in a social interaction,
then we'd think we were PERFECT and never adjust
our behavior to help make the other person feel the
good vibes, and our social life would then SUCK.

Also, don't try to be PERFECT.
Don't try to build Rome in one day, or you will
feel that much FARTHER from progress and
you will feel even MORE anxiety.

Instead, keep taking STEPS, gradually
taking bigger and bigger steps, and
taking on more and more 'daring'
approaches with women.

I put 'daring' in quotes because you
will eventually see that this is FUN.

But just take it STEP by STEP for now.

When you are first learning these skills, you should
each day push your envelope a little farther. Start by
chatting up the clerks at stores, then work to starting
conversations anywhere with anyone, then work to
short conversations with women you're interested
in, then longer conversations, then to first dates,
then to getting physical, etc, etc.

THE KEY IS MOMENTUM.
DON'T STOP THE DAY TO DAY PROGRESS.

And if you don't believe me that great CHARISMA
is MADE and not BORN, let me give you some
examples from that same article:

"Conan O'Brien has said he knew that performing
live comedy was what he had to do because there
was nothing in the world that terrified him more.
But when he first debuted as host of NBC's Late Night
in 1993, ratings were abysmal and reviews were even
worse. Washington Post TV critic Tom Shales wrote
that O'Brien was "a living collage of annoying nervous
habits" and implored him to "get the heck off TV."
But he stuck it out, and years later, the critics ate
their words. Shales himself wrote that O'Brien became
"one of the greatest examples of a self-makeover in
television history"

Cool, isn't it.
By the way, Conan is happily married,
(a pretty cool feat in today's society) but
if he wasn't, I assure you, his confidence,
his humor, his wit, his rapport skills,
his social intelligence, would KICK ASS!

Here's some more:

"Comedic superstar Will Ferrell, who once
considered himself painfully shy, forced
himself to do crazy things in public. "In
college, I would push an overhead projector
across campus with my pants just low enough
to show my butt," Ferrell told People. "Then
my friend would incite the crowd to be like,
'Look at that idiot!' That's how I got over
being shy."

When I first started practicing, one of the
places I forced myself to go to were nightclubs.
I HATED it at first, and couldn't understand
how ANYONE could meet anyone in a place where
the music was so loud that you could barely
HEAR a word a woman said to you, plus it
was so dark, you could barely SEE anyone.

But, all these things are just ILLUSIONS,
they are NOT barriers at all, and learning
this helped me realize that ALL the "social
taboo of making approaches" was ALSO an
illusion.

Once I started teaching, some people even thought
that I must have ALWAYS been this "nightclub" guy.
That was a real compliment, because nothing could
be further from the truth.

At one time, the idea of going to MARS seemed more
comfortable than going to a club.

Now, I STILL don't think that nightclubs are the
best place for meeting a long term girlfriend,
HOWEVER, it was still useful to see how the
ILLUSIONS of "challenges" of meeting women
in a nightclub were a total JOKE.

Please believe me, that most women DO enjoy
being approached, even if they DON'T show it.

The thing is, it really helps a lot if you
do it RIGHT.

This stuff CAN be learned and MASTERED to the
point that it becomes effortless and natural.

Again, getting back to the NIGHTCLUBS lesson for me:
Not only was I not interested in that type of environment,
but I had no clue how the heck you can have a conversation
with all that noise and all those distractions and how
you can go from that to having not only a conversation
but to getting a real interaction and taking it to
a physical level all very fast. There was a time
you couldn't pay me a million dollars to be in
that environment.

So, if I could get over that, I knew that normal
environments would feel VERY comfortable me.

That motivated me to get good at this stuff,
and the reality is that it does NOT take that long,
but it DOES take MASSIVE DESIRE to succeed.

So DON'T THINK FOR A SECOND that "picking up women"
is beyond your ability, or beyond your personality.

Don't think that your anxiety is a BLOCK, because
even THAT can be controlled.

YOU can be the guy that OTHERS will say, "He's
a NATURAL at this" because from their perspective,
you will have improved THAT MUCH that others will
think this must have ALWAYS been something you
were great at.

And if YOU want to learn the DEEPEST levels of how
to be successful at 'pick-up' and how to attract the kind
of woman you are really interested in, then I suggest
you take advantage of my programs.

Years ago, I was training guys to not rely
routines, even as a bestselling author had
written a book that swore by the value of
memorized routines for picking up a woman.

This same author now agrees with what I said
YEARS ago that routines are actually not
necessary and that is very possible and in
fact PREFERABLE to not rely on them.

I've never resorted to manipulation or
abuse of women and I have always been
repelled by that idea, as well as repelled
by the idea of guys selling their self-esteem
just to get any "action" from a woman, because
they refused to learn how to actually spark
ATTRACTION.

I don't think I'm God, and I don't think I
have ALL the answers. However, I DO believe
that we must understand the deepest levels of
psychology and apply it to creating HARMONY
between men and women for a better world for
all of us. And we must learn from REAL
practice, as knowledge and theory without
practice is not enough.

This is about so much more than "getting action"
- it's about creating attraction on all levels
in the most powerful and meaningful way possible,
for the most lasting results with the kind of
woman you truly want in your life.

Somewhere, right this very moment, the
woman of your dreams is out there,
WISHING that you knew all this stuff
so that you could take effective action
and MEET her and enjoy life together!

So I suggest you take advantage of my
WARRIOR WITHIN PROGRAM for the most
IN-DEPTH understanding on Earth of how
to SKYROCKET your results with women.

Make that reality happen NOW.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This entire package for SKYROCKETING your
success with women can be delivered to your
door within DAYS.

And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', do it IMMEDIATELY at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Revealing The Deeper Aspects Of Attraction

Today I'd like to give you some crucial
tips for attraction that actually DEFY
what is commonly "accepted knowledge".

And I'll prove it, too.

The first thing is that attraction is NOT
an "absolute" thing that exists in a vacuum,
but rather is affected by TONS of factors.

What humans DESIRE, in ALL things, depends
on MANY things that are TOTALLY made-up.

Cults, for example, have transformed highly
educated people into believing that their
souls are about to be taken to a comet to a
higher plane of existence and as such the
followers all committed suicide with a sense
of peace and pleasure.

In the 1960's oral sex was in many circles considered
a bigger deal than intercourse, and more taboo. A
couple of years ago, Britney kissing Madonna made
headlines, it was something that one wouldn't DREAM
would happen on mainstream tv.

Now those things are a joke, it would
never make the news.

In Africa, there are places where women put plates
in their lips and are considered more attractive
because of it.

In other places, if a woman does NOT have a
mustache, she must PAINT one on to look
more attractive.

Do you see what I'm saying?

This attraction stuff is massively influenced by
culture, and yet BIOLOGY is also a massive factor.

So for example, the woman with the big plate in
her lip if she acts desperate, will seem less
attractive even to those who normally would be
attracted to it.

Her behavior will affect her perceived level of worth.

Once you start to realize just how FLEXIBLE
this idea of attraction is, you actually have
made the FIRST step toward something
massive: Since attraction is NOT carved
in stone, YOU can USE this to your
advantage, by taking advantage of all
the VARIABLES that are actually
WITHIN your control.

And there are a LOT of variables that are
under your control, if you are willing to
LEARN the skills that you need to control
those variables.

And of course, it helps if you learn these
skills from someone who knows what they
are talking about.

So, for example, studies have shown it's hard
to dislike someone who has made you laugh.
So if you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, but get her laughing, she is now
MORE OPEN to being "picked up' by you.

And if you convey the attractive qualities
about yourself SIMULTANEOUSLY in your
humor, you are getting her not only RECEPTIVE
but also ATTRACTED.

But it's important to realize what effective
humor actually IS.

A lot of people think that humor is related mostly
to two things that don't seem to belong together,
but somehow do belong, or vice versa. In other
words, the incongruence, the theory goes, creates
a discomfort which is then relieved through laughter.

WRONG.

This is NOT what triggers laughter.
What triggers laughter is the SAME thing that
triggers ALL emotions on one level or another,
and that is SELFISHNESS.

The more we GAIN, the better we FEEL.

This is why the guy who suddenly finds out he won
the lottery starts laughing his head off.

Is this "funny"?
To HIM, it is!
It's better than funny, it's ECSTATIC, it's
ecstatic laughter.

There's a famous joke that people like to
use as an example of the "pacing" theory
of humor, where you have three examples,
or three individuals, and each one has their
own perspective, action, and the final one
is the "funny" one.

So for example, three guys land on an island.

They are captured by cannibals.
The cannibals tell each guy privately that he must
go his own separate way and find ten of some fruit
and return with it.

So the first guy comes back with ten apples.
The cannibals tell him he must put all ten in his
arse without making a face. After the first one,
the guy grimaces and they tell him they will kill
him.

The second guy then returns with ten cherries.
He is told to do the same with all ten. He begins
and is on the ninth one when he starts laughing.

In heaven, the first guy asks the second guy,
"Why did you start laughing, you were almost
free!"

The second guy says "I saw the third dude returning
with Pineapples."

What makes this funny is not so much the pacing,
the fact he is the third one, or that it's
incongruent, but MOST OF ALL it's the fact
that from the SECOND GUY'S perspective, he
is SOOO LUCKY and SOO MUCH AHEAD of the
POOR BASTARD who is with the pineapples!!!

He is in the SUPERIOR position.
And since we see the visual from his perspective
as he says it, WE experience his emotion of
superiority, and we laugh.

And I'm here to tell you that it's ALL about
SUPERIORITY, EVERY emotion, every
shade of every emotion. This is why the
greatest acts of kindness come from you
when you feel MASSIVELY BLESSED
and you feel VERY "RICH" IN THE MOST
IMPORTANT SENSE AND VERY
HIGH UP ALREADY.

And it's also why the worst nasty behavior
comes from people who feel very LOW
and INFERIOR.

So, the key with effective humor, especially
since attraction is about feeling excellent
and conveying excellence and abundance
and superiority, (not "you're a loser, I'm
superior but rather "I have abundance,
excellence, in SPADES, and have a lot
to GIVE and am not needy or desperate")
is to highlight how YOU are this person.

AND, you must then, for attraction, ALSO
confirm HER worth to you.

This is known as CONFIRMING FEEDBACK.

So, when a guy with massive value, confirms
HER value, it makes HER FEEL SUPERIOR
AND EXCELLENT AND BLESSED as well.

In the entire field of "seduction" nobody has
talked about this. I know, because I was
inside of it, for years. All I heard was endless
talk about NEGATIVELY slamming women's egos,
memorized routines, or just "being confident",
OR slogans of "be manly" without explaining the
real HOW and WHY.

What it IS about is EFFECTIVELY giving a
woman confirming feedback about her own
value, but in order to do this, you must first
come across as someone who is desirable.

The problem is that most guys will say
"I want her to like me for who I am" but
if you believe you really have the value,
then it makes sense to learn the skills
and the insights to COMMUNICATE that value.

So for example, how strongly do think you show
your belief in your value if a woman doesn't
JUMP to do cartwheels for you right away,
and you act HURT or DISAPPOINTED or you get
angry?

It's amazing, I know that right now Arnold
Schwarzenegger is going through a hard time,
and people can come to all kinds of conclusions.

But let's for a second just examine the facts.
The facts are, this guy wasn't only looking
and acting like a winner when things were
GOOD for him.

In fact, if you ever check out his early days,
and you see his facial reaction to when he
LOST his first bodybuilding contest, you
will see ZERO look of disappointment in his
face even in the HEAT OF THE IMMEDIATE MOMENT
of seeing that some other guy won the contest,
a contest that takes gruelling months if not
years of training and dieting.

By the way, he never lost again, after that.

The test is not how one reacts when all is
great, but how one reacts when all is NOT
so great.

This is the same guy that took a name nobody
could pronounce and made it a household name.

The same guy that took a sport that was considered
"freaky" and helped make it a part of popular culture.

Oh yeah, and his behavior with women, from
day one, was FUN and DIRECT and not worrying
about their reactions to him.

What's also interesting is that not a single
woman complained about him until he ran
for governor. In other words, women loved
him, and it was all politics that tried to
defeat him.

And his reaction to all that stuff at the time?
He reacted PERFECTLY.
He said "Yeah, I did some stuff with women
that I regret".

BOOM, over.
He didn't act defensive.
He didn't act worried.
He just acknowledged it, and moved right on
to winning two more elections.

So I'm not saying the guy is a saint or perfect.
And nobody is perfect.
But I AM saying that this behavior WORKS.

If a woman doesn't jump up and down
to your approach, that's the PERFECT
chance to SHOW just how awesome you are,
by the way you REACT.

How strongly do you think you show your
belief in your value if you take the
words she said and spin them around in a way
that interprets her words as a compliment to you
and you are totally congruent with it?

So if a woman says something to you like
"I almost never date guys who live uptown"
and you say, "You know, I never date girls
who live downtown, this way I avoid the
psychos" it's a lot different than saying
"ohhh but it's only a short distance".

Saying "it's only a short distance implies that
your value is beneath hers, and so therefore
you are trying to EASE THE DISCOMFORT
FOR A PERSON WHO IS ACCEPTING
A LESSER VALUE.

But if you are the superior value, then there IS
no discomfort for her, in fact, she would even
be willing to EMBRACE with PLEASURE
some discomfort to get the HIGHER value,
which is you.

And, as you get better at this skill, you'll
instinctively say things like like "Oh, you
never date guys who live uptown because
they're so sexy that you end up staying
the whole night and then in the morning
it's a pain getting back home."

And of course, on TOP of the words, is the
tonality in which it's all being said. Your
voice is like the DNA to your thoughts
about yourself, your value, etc, and women
can read this DNA with billion per cent
accuracy.

With total honesty, I can tell you that all this
is the TIP of the ICEBERG of what I want to
show you. I know a lot of people may SAY
things like that, but I have a feeling you can
tell that in this case, it's actually the TRUTH.

You can MASSIVELY IMPROVE your life with
women, if you are willing to LEARN and are
willing to PRACTICE. It doesn't have to take
forever, but it does take commitment. 99% of
men will NOT do this, they will NOT undertake
this challenge.

I'd like to SHOW you how it all works in your
interactions with women - from walking right up
to her to getting her home to keeping her wild
for you long term.

And the best way I can do that is through
my WARRIOR WITHIN program. For around a
decade now, I've been obsessed with pushing
the envelope regarding what actually works
to successfully approach a woman, to then
attract this woman, and to then smoothly
progress the interaction to an intimate,
physical level that is mutually rewarding,
and then retain that passion as well.

Warrior Within is my ADVANCED program
that builds upon the material in my
book "Get A Great Girl".

Warrior Within is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then do that now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

Have a great weekend!

Cheers,

Michael Marks

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How To Stand Out From Every Other Guy

One of the things women are attracted to in a
man is not how ACADEMICALLY smart he is,
but rather how STREET-SMART he is.

If a man is STREET SMART, he can protect
himself and her, he can make the right decisions
in life and in the moment as well.

She knows when she is with a STREET-SMART
man, she’s with no fool.

And here’s the craziest, wackiest thing:
As individuals in our societies, we ain’t getting
any better when it comes to STREET-SMARTS.

In fact, I’d wager that the typical man from
several generations BACK had FAR, far
more street-smarts.

Why is this?
It’s because there was LESS MEDIA!

In fact, the farther back you go,
the more men could rely on their
instincts when it came to what to
do to attract a woman.

Kind of ironic, huh?

I can hear the voices of protest now:

"But isn’t the MEDIA an EDUCATIONAL THING?
Don’t we LEARN from MEDIA?
Aren’t newspapers, computers, tv’s, the internet
a source of INFORMATION??????"

Yes, they are!
They are sources of TRUE INFORMATION but
also MASSIVE SOURCES OF MISINFORMATION!

In fact, the MISINFORMATION is far, FAR
greater in output than the INFORMATION.

To be blunt, the LIES are far, FAR more numerous
than the TRUTHS.

Hey, I love the fact that I live in a free society, and
I would not change it for the world.

It comes with a price, though- this “freedom”
also allows any idiot or nutcase or ignorant
person to say all kinds of HOGWASH.

And what’s even worse, is it also allows
PEOPLE WHO ARE SMART BUT DISHONEST
the opportunity to say things they KNOW people
will pay attention to, even if those things are NOT true.

And these people are much more dangerous than
the idiots.

And the media, they’re too BUSY churning out
more and more PRODUCT and more and more
MEDIA, so they really don’t care TOO MUCH
about ACCURACY, if they even care at all.

Some are better than others, and there are even
a few who take accuracy seriously, but these
are VERY FEW.

The bottom line for any media organization is the
same as any other business: SALES.

Though people DO want the truth, they don’t
understand how easy it is to MASK something
as truth, especially when the lies cater to the
EMOTIONS.

It’s kind of like telling someone to eat a salad
because it’s good for them. There’s no FUN
in that.

But some greasy FRIES, hey you hardly have
to convince anyone and they’ll STILL buy ‘em!

Sure, you can talk all you want about long term
effects, no one cares all that much except the
people who already cared BEFORE you told
them anyway.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with some
fries now and then, but there’s something
VERY WRONG when your entire LIFE
is the product of LIES that you BELIEVE
to be true, and these LIES are controlling
just about EVERY decision you make,
from your health, to the kind of woman
you meet, to the financial decisions you
make, all the way to even your political
beliefs and beliefs about spirituality and
even the environment.

For most people, they will go their ENTIRE
LIVES making decision that OTHER people
are basically making for them since they
controlled the MESSAGES that went INTO
people’s minds.

But this is still just the BEGINNING.

Because it goes BEYOND the media.
The media is just another business, no
different than a big pizza chain or bookstore.

Not only are we getting bombarded with
stories and information that is not true but
that is designed to grab us by the emotions
and control our decisions, but entire corporations
and political movements that are only interested
in THEMSELVES are ALSO bombarding
us with all kinds of messages that really
only serve them.

However, we’re so bombarded that we end up
actually fighting for our chance to be “so lucky”
to be a VICTIM of these forces, we actually
think we are LUCKY to be part of it, even if
it costs us our entire lives and we get nothing
from it!

And no, this is NOT a conspiracy theory.
I hate conspiracy theories, and they’re
pretty much all wrong.

This is NOT a conspiracy theory, it’s actually
RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF EVERYONE,
it’s not a secret at ALL.

However, it’s a bit like “The Matrix”, in the
sense that you have to SEE IT FOR YOURSELF
and then you realize it’s all around you and always
has been and really was never hiding! It was just
US that was hiding from IT!

So there’s no CONSPIRACY here.
This is why SOME people who SEE it are able
to RISE ABOVE it and make IT work FOR THEM
and not the other way around.

This affects EVERYTHING- your job, your
popularity, your choices of women, your
relationships, it even affects your ability to
IMPACT THE PLANET IN A WAY YOU
WANT!

So what does all this have to do with girls?

Let’s see now:

1. Girls like men who are STREET-SMART.
(It’s one of the reasons they like bad-boys.
Bad-Boys aren’t part of “the system”, and
women know it. But you don’t have to be
a BAD boy to do this, it’s a shame that
usually it’s only the BAD BOYS who are
smart enough to SEE all this!)

2. Girls also like men who can talk about
more than just the WEATHER or where
to take them and spend MONEY on them
as if that were going to ATTRACT her,
when in reality spending money on a woman
before she’s spending her energy on you is
a waste of time and a form of qualifying
yourself.

In fact, one of the most awesome things
you can do when chatting with a woman is
teach her things about her world, her self,
her entire reality that she would never
EVER be able to see on her own.

You always hear about leading the way
as a man, and with this knowledge,
you are not only leading the way,
but you are also taking her into
a world she has never EXPERIENCED
before- and you will be the only man
to ever do so.

And when you finally understand and see
the WHOLE PICTURE of the WHAT, the
WHY, the HOW, and the WHAT YOU
SHOULD DO ABOUT IT part of reality,
that’s going to make EVERY SECOND
of your interaction and conversation with
a woman COMPELLING AND INTRIGUING
AS HELL.

3. The side-effect of all this is that you are
ALSO going to be able to design the life
you want and structure your life so that
you have the HIGHEST CHANCE of
actually getting what you want rather than
just falling into someone else’s plan.
Now, here’s the thing:
Every program I create ends up revolutionizing
the field.

It’s the reason you don’t hear about pick-up lines
from pick up artists anymore.

And what happens then, is that every competing
company tries to imitate me in various forms.

Flattering, yes, it’s the reason that Get A Great Girl
has earned the reputation of having the most integrity
and the most focus in this field. Get A Great Girl
is all about one thing: The full truth on getting a
quality woman.

You don’t need to “see the matrix” in order
to just get a date with a woman.

You don’t need to ‘see the matrix’ to get in bed
with a woman.

But if you want to SEPARATE YOURSELF
FROM THE PACK, when a million guys
are already HITTING on a woman, there’s
no better way than to actually BE the kind
of man who KNOWS THE FULL PICTURE.

“Street-smart” is just the beginning, because
it is insufficient of a term to describe knowing
the full reality of how things work and what’s
actually going on.

It’s GLOBAL now.
It’s about being GLOBAL SMART.

I really mean this, and it’s not just because
people regularly travel across the planet
these days, it’s because BILLIONS OF
BITS OF MISINFORMATION are also
spread throughout the planet in a
BILLIONTH OF A SECOND.

I cannot possibly emphasize how important
knowing all this is. It even affects things like
the FIDELITY of the typical woman these days.

And here’s the final straw, that for me
personally, was the most important of all:

ALL THIS INSANITY AND DECEPTION
AND LIES ARE ALL BEING MASKED
IN SUGAR AND HONEY TO APPEAR
LIKE IT’S GOOD FOR YOU, GOOD FOR
ME, GOOD FOR THE WORLD.

I’m going to show you IN PERSON how to
NOT BE A VICTIM to these lies, and how to
make it all work FOR YOU.

I’m holding a ONE DAY-ONLY EVENT,
JUNE 19TH, 2011, in TORONTO.

THE GLOBAL-SMARTS LIVE SEMINAR

This seminar will NOT be listed on any
page on my website. It will also soon
be removed from this blog. There will
be NO further details given out.

This is the ONLY way to protect the integrity
of the content and to prevent theft of
the intellectual property.

I know you’re going to love this seminar, and
I’m so confident of its value, that as always,
you have my word that if you aren’t certain
that you got ten times MORE value than you
expected, you’ll get every penny back.

This seminar will most likely not be repeated
again, and will not be taped or recorded in
any way.

And there’s only one way to register.
Follow this link:

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Best,

Michael Marks

How To Approach Women In A Sexual Way That WORKS

Approaching women in a sexual way is actually
the most important FIRST thing you should be
doing with women, but the problem is that
most guys end up doing this WRONG in a way
that gets them the proverbial "slap in the face".

Getting things rolling in a sexual direction
from the very OUTSET is crucial because it
keeps you in the SEXUAL zone in her mind,
and keeps you out of the "let's just be
FRIENDS" zone.

The first thing to get to IMMEDIATELY because
it's so important for success in this area
of getting sexual with women right away is
to master the CORRECT use of HUMOR, and to
understand the whole POINT of humor- especially
when it comes to approaching women.

POINT NUMBER 1: THE LAST BASTION OF FREEDOM

What I mean by this, is that humor allows
us to actually EXPRESS OURSELVES with women
without being REPRESSED by the brutal stupidity
and evil of 'political correctness'.

I'm very careful about making GUESSES when
it comes to extrapolating from evolution
or evolutionary psychology, so I stick to
what is FACT- and it's a FACT that human
beings evolved to be able to mate in a way where
a man and woman are FACING each other -
something we don't see happening in the
ANIMAL world.

The REASON for this is that COMMUNICATION
is a BIG DEAL in human relations, human
development, human EVERYTHING- and yup,
in human SEXUALITY.

The fact of the matter is that the
humans who have the greatest power
of EXPRESSION over the greatest number
of people tend to have the MOST choice
in reproductive MATES.

Modes of human expression like MUSIC,
DRAMA, POETRY, HUMOR, and ART,
have dated back throughout the centuries
as tools men have used to woo women-
it's not just today's modern rock stars!

These are all just METHODS OF HUMAN
EXPRESSION AND COMMUNICATION.

On the most PRIMAL and powerful level,
a woman is affected by the way you communicate
with her.

NOW, here’s the thing: In our politically-correct
society, the one thing that counts MOST for being
successful with women- the one thing that should
be like BASIC OXYGEN- is actually FORBIDDEN
or “taboo”.

What is this “verboten” (forbidden) thing?
It is bringing sexuality into REGULAR LIFE.

Sure, no one tells you what to do in PRIVATE,
but society sure tells you what to do in PUBLIC
and in your “public discourse” with women who
are strangers.

And when you meet women out in the world
as total strangers, which is what really gives
you the most choice and is the most fun and
exhilarating way to do it anyway if you ask me,
SUDDENLY YOU’RE NOT ALLOWED TO
BE SEXUAL IN YOUR COMMUNICATION
IF YOU SUBSCRIBE TO POLITICAL
CORRECTNESS!

By the way, this is why so many guys try
to meet women in clubs, because a club
gives you SOME permission---but just
wait till you read on, and find out how
you can approach women ANYWHERE
and do it SUCCESSFULLY!

Also by the way - when I say political correctness
is evil, I mean EVIL. My best friend and I were
discussing this, and he made a fantastic point
about how political correctness actually is the
OPPOSITE OF GOOD INTENTIONS, it’s all
motivated by APPEARANCES to “look nice”
while actually accomplishing the OPPOSITE GOAL
of BEING “correct/nice/good/noble”.

Ever notice how the people who are telling
everyone else to NOT be sexual, to NOT
look at girls, to NOT QUESTION things,
and basically to REPRESS all the
NORMAL HUMAN FUNCTIONS, are
almost ALWAYS later found out to be
the very WORST PERPETRATORS OF
WHATEVER IT IS THEY TELL EVERYONE
NOT TO DO???????????????????????

The crazy thing is also, the REVERSE is
often true! The people who are the most
RELAXED about being sexual, about
making jokes, about allowing freedom
of expression, about ALLOWING you
to question things, are almost ALWAYS
the most CHILLED OUT PEOPLE who
almost NEVER abuse ANY of these
freedoms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guess what else?
WOMEN KNOW THIS!

Particularly the ones who are KNOCKOUTS.

They know this because they HAVE the
sexual goods, so to speak, and they want
to ENJOY life with them, not be REPRESSED
as a result of them! So these women have
learned early on WHICH MEN ‘get it’ and
which men are still CLUELESS as how to
DEFEAT the repressive society.

The CHALLENGE is getting SEXUAL in your
communication with a woman who is a TOTAL
STRANGER- because of all the above that I
described, and the SOLUTION to the challenge is:

SOLUTION: HUMOR, USED IN THE RIIIIIGHT WAY

Again, it’s not that you should be a CLOWN
to attract a woman, it’s that to approach a woman
who is a total stranger, in our society, you need to
SMASH DOWN THE ‘POLITICALLY CORRECT’
BARRIERS, and HUMOR is a brilliant tool for
THIS goal!

You see, once you’re in the world of HUMOR,
you suddenly SUSPEND THE RULES OF
OUR POLITICALLY CORRECT INSANE
UNIVERSE, and now you have a ‘LICENCE’
to do all kinds of things – because, after all,
“YOU’RE JUST BEING PLAYFUL!!!!”

P.S. On the topic of humor, and how powerful
it is in BATTLING just about any force of society,
notice how if you ever look at the Bible, the one
attribute that is never given to God, is a sense
of HUMOR.

For some reason, it’s okay to describe this
OMNIPOTENT BEING as having “ANGER
that GLOWS”, or having “JEALOUSY”, etc, etc:
Anger is a human emotion.
Jealousy is a human emotion.

We of course also hear how the Biblical God
LOVES people.
Love is also a human emotion.

In fact, just about EVERY human emotion is
used to describe the Biblical God.

Why is a sense of HUMOR NEVER MENTIONED???

Everyone’s free to take a guess, but something
tells me that if You or I were making RULES
you wouldn’t want people JOKING AROUND
about them. You’d want to punish them for
disobedience or reward them for obeying.

By the way, don’t get me wrong, there is
a ton of GOOD about religion, like promoting
ideas of charity and equality, I’m just
saying the power of HUMOR is so great
at OVERTHROWING CULTURAL FORCES
that it’s OUTLAWED regarding many things
in MANY societies till this DAY.

But, in our politically correct culture, they
still have NOT OUTLAWED or made criminal
the POSESSION or the USE of a sense of humor!

POINT NUMBER TWO:
SEXUAL COMMUNICATION WITH WOMEN

So USE it!
Use it so that you can get away with APPROACHING
WOMEN ANYWHERE!

And not just APPROACHING THEM, but also
to get sexual in your communication and in your
vibes, and women will LOVE you for it –
because you allow women to then feel GOOD
about feeling sexual, and about being approached
by you, since you have done it all in a way that is
still “okay” since it’s all “playful” – which allows
them to NOT have to worry about being labeled
a “slut” or anything like that.

Not only can you APPROACH women who are
total strangers by using humor, you can even get
into sexual communication!

This way, you also avoid getting trapped into
the “let’s just be FRIENDS zone”.

Instead of going on and on about this point
right here, you’ll see exact examples of this
in some of the letters below!

POINT NUMBER 3: HUMAN-DYNAMICS INTELLIGENCE

Now, here’s where it gets even BETTER:

Not only does humor allow you “license” to be
sexual with women in our politically correct
society, and not only do women appreciate it
because it gives them permission to enjoy
being sexual as well, but HUMOR is one
of the most POWERFUL WAYS OF
SHOWING THE MOST IMPORTANT
KIND OF INTELLIGENCE OF ALL:

THE MASTERY OF HOW HUMANS INTERACT!

Think I’m kidding? The reality is that this
intelligence, which is linked with emotional
intelligence, is actually the NUMBER ONE
WAY THAT HUMAN BEINGS BECOME POWERFUL.

Do you think that women have NOT evolved
to be attracted to men who DISPLAY this trait????

Women have ABSOLUTELY EVOLVED
TO BE ATTRACTED TO THIS TRAIT.

It’s wacky in fact, the kind of ABUSE that
men can do to themselves in terms of
destroying all the OTHER attractive elements
of themselves, and STILL get MASSIVE
success with women if they convey this
kind of humor that shows this particular
type of intelligence.

It makes sense, as applying this intelligence
allows you to build massive friendships and
teams and loyalty- these come through mastery
of this particular intelligence.

And, back on a very FUNDAMENTAL level,
the fact that men and women evolved to be
able to have intercourse facing each OTHER,
face-to-face, is absolutely not a coincidence,
the HUMAN element is the EXPRESSION and
COMMUNICATION that is increased by this
compared to the animals- which ends up increasing
the BOND, the ATTRACTION, the TRUST, everything
is boosted by this extra ability that humans have
that animals don’t.

Humor allows you to convey this special
kind of INTELLIGENCE!

Mastering this intelligence means you
understand the full depth of how people
are emotionally affected by all the
dynamics in any interaction.

So, now, so far, we see how it FREES you in
our politically correct society, and how it
allows you to be SEXUAL with women and make
women feel sexual as well, and how it also
conveys a special form of intelligence
that is highly attractive to women.

Let’s get to some letters that show guys
USING all this stuff the RIGHT way!

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Dear Michael,

I've undergone such a massive transformation
in the past few months, I'm not sure where
to start. First, I was in a hellish relationship
that fits your description to a "T" in your
program of what happens to a guy once he falls
into the "abyss" as you say. This woman had
absolute power over me, and I now realize after
your program that it was me who basically handed
every last bit of my value over to her and it
was me who basically chopped my own perceived
value down to zero.

At the time, I felt that I had no choice, that
giving it all over was the only chance I had.
I worked harder and harder to try to prove
to her how "good" I was, and she became
more and more distant, less passionate, less
appreciative of anything. Which just made
me work harder and as you describe in your
program, the cognitive dissonance worked
against me, making me feel that she must be
worth it if after all I was busting my ass so
hard for her.

It's crazy, but true, because the harder I
worked for her, the more I let myself get
abused, the more it made me feel that
she must be worth it, since after all
why else would I be trying so hard,
so I tried even harder, and of course this
cognitive dissonance, as you explain, had
the opposite effect on her, for the very
same reason! i.e. "If he is trying so hard
for me, then he can't be worth that
much."

And I realize that all this is so subconscious.
And I realize as you say that in a healthy
relationship, people appreciate and give a
lot, but this relationship was clearly not
healthy and I had fallen in deep.

Your material saved me. It made me realize
what was actually going on in my head
and that in fact I was not in love with
this woman, but that I myself had allowed
my brain to be tricked into it, and that
I could just as easily wash the illusion
away. I cannot believe that your program
is not on doctor's shelves.

Your program showed me how to get back
my self-esteem. And to any guys
reading this, that is no easy feat for a
guy being smashed to pieces by a woman
he loves. And more than that, your program
showed me how to leave that reality
and change my life around and meet
and attract more women than I could
ever have time for.

I totally changed my approach to women,
taking on a far more challenging and
playful (the playful is very important
otherwise you just seem like an insecure
dolt) attitude and also not jumping
into a "how can I please you" mentality
just because a woman is showing interest
in me. I now ***expect*** women
to show interest, and this makes
the moment when I do show some
affection that she has actually
earned from me, well it makes
it that much more sweet for her.

Right now, I'm dating a striking
woman I met while parking my
car! It would never have happened
if not for you. As I was pulling in
to my spot, I noticed this tall
redhead in a business suit
(damn I love it when leggy
women wear those "business"
style skirts that really are too
short for anything but sexy
business) slamming her trunk
door down again and again,
only to have it pop back up.

My heart was racing, but I knew
this was a golden opportunity.
I gave her a look and gesture
with my head - a playful "no no no,
not like that", my hands on my hips.

She looks at me, (giving me an
even better view of her beautiful
angles on her face) her expression
first a bit pissed, then she smiles
with a "I can't believe you just did
that" look and says "thanks a lot"
sarcastically, but I could feel that
vibe that you talk about--
she was liking it, which I would
never have guessed could
EVER happen before.

So after she said "thanks" sarcastically,
I replied "anytime", and told her
that I was enjoying the show! Again,
this was done playfully, not in
a mean way. I came over and
figured out what the problem was,
even though I wasn't sure I could
solve it, but I figured at worst
I could always tease her some
more that her car was cursed.

I figured it out and got the trunk
shut, to which I then blew on
my fingers as if they were magic
and said "that'll be 100 bucks".
She told me she wished she had
the money, and I told her that
I bet she did wish that! After
a brief chat about where we
both worked, I teased her that
she didn't really have a real
job or she would have the
100 bucks!

Once I knew she was loving it,
I told her that I had to go and
took her number and email.
I kept up the energy on the
first couple of dates but
didn't let it get out of hand
to "dorky" level, and let's
just say she's now passionately
making it up to me in more
ways than one.

Far be it from me to not help a
damsel in distress...

And before I forget, let me just
say this woman is just as attractive
if not more than the woman who totally
took advantage of me, and she's
treating me about a million times
better, including taking ME out
to dinner next week!

To any guy reading this right now who is
in a slump:
There are millions of women right outside
your door, and you can meet them right
now, but you need to learn to incorporate
far more dominance, leadership, fun,
and sexuality, and you need to learn to
obliterate the neediness in you to pull
this all off.

Blair T.
Ohio

***MY COMMENTS***

It's always cool to hear from the
"good guys" who have been given
BACK the power to live their lives with
DIGNITY. Every guy deserves to have
this area of his life under CONTROL.

Thanks for the props, and yes, one of
the biggest things for guys in bad relationships
is to realize the massive impact of
cognitive dissonance playing on their
emotions, and how this can be STOPPED
and in fact REVERSED to work in their
favor. And it all starts with first being
AWARE of what's going on in the first
place, which is something I go into
detail in my Warrior Within DVD program.

And I'm glad you also raised the point
of how this is not about manipulating
women but rather incorporating important
characteristics into our personalities that
every man already has but has repressed
because of our crazy culture that labels
all good men as evil for living and breathing
and wanting a decent life with a woman
where he has DIGNITY. Even though
the reality is that women actually WANT
you to be a real man! No wonder so many
guys get so messed up.

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael!!!!! It almost hurts to write this
letter, as I'm giving away so much, but
I remember you saying how abundance
thinking is critical and also how teaching
this stuff is a great way of proving your
own mastery, so after getting your DVD
Set last October, and putting it to use
and getting insanely powerful results,
I'm now to going to share what I think are
crucial factors that I've learned from your
DVD program:

Your E-Books took me out of the gutter and
into a different reality, but your DVD program
has actually changed the way I feel, I am simply
no longer that sad quiet guy I once knew.

You've got me addicted to this whole approaching
women thing, it's too much fun!

One of the important distinctions I got from
your DVD Set is that the entire process from
A to Z with a woman can either be drudgery
for both you and the woman or it can be a
fantastic emotional experience at every
moment, with emotions ranging from
massive adrenaline to laughter to peaceful
calm to raw sexuality to a million other
emotions in infinite blending combinations.

For example, when you teach about role-playing
with a woman and allowing a woman to play
the role of you being the ultra cool guy, and
yet the way you taught me to also keep her
self-esteem high, it's genius. What you are
doing is allowing her to live her fantasy,
through role-play, because when you are
playing, you are still experiencing the same
emotion as if it's real.

So for example, I have role played with
women that I meet, and I am talking about
within seconds of first meeting them, that
I am Bond and that she is a Bond girl, usually
the evil Bond girl!!!!

They looooooooooooove it!
The girl I am now dating is a wonderful
person who I really dig in every way and
I met her using your principles.

I met her at the library, she was working there,
helping me find a book, and she just seemed
like a really well behaved girl, and so after
she helped me find some stuff, I playfully
teased her on being the opposite, specifically,
"an evil Bond girl with a library fetish" lol.
And I told her that she only helped me
so she can "have new prey".

With a smile, she asks what I mean, so I tell
her I know she really just lives for torturing
guys with overdue books, and that I know
where she takes them.

She totally eats it up, a glint in her eye as
she goes along with it and points to a little
room in the back to me, telling me that is
where she takes them to for the torturing.

Because of your DVDs, I now realize why
it makes total sense for a nice girl to eat
this stuff up, because she is such a "nice"
girl for real, that she doesn't get to be "naughty",
and I'm allowing her to be bad now in a way
where it's totally fun. As you explain,
this is all about emotions, giving women
awesome emotions, and as you explain
you have to give a woman what she
does not have, and this nice girl needed
some more playful naughty in her life lol.

I tell her that the room doesn't scare me
like it does other guys.

She goes back to me with a mischievous smile:
"And you'd like to see this room, wouldn't
you?"

To which I responded, in total Bond calm
and Bond tonality:
"That depends on the view."

At about the same time, she was being called
to take care of something by some woman
who worked there, so I told her in a playfully
suspicious tone that I had to get going as well
but that I would be "investigating this further"
and that she must leave her contact info, which
she immediately did with a smile and she
even told me when she's in so that I would
for sure reach her! Following the other
concepts you explain, the rest went equally
smoothly. She didn't even give me any
"cruel" tests, just the stuff that I now realize
from your materials that any girl does to
show she is not easy - I respected that actually,
makes me like her more.

As you say, this truly is not about being
some creepy guy, it's about allowing her
to live out the most amazing experience
possible, that's full of sexuality and anticipation-
it’s not about “not handing over all the power"
to her, it’s about being so much more of an
exciting man. And you are allowing her to be
who she really wants to be.

And of course, if she was more of "naughty girl"
to begin with, I would calibrate for this and allow
her to be more of a good girl!

Thanks to you, I give them not only what they
don't have, I give them what no man has ever
given them- an entire range of emotional
“climaxes” that she really can’t help but
be happily addicted to! I really am a giver,
it's awesome, and I feel great about it.

For any guys reading this, this is not only
about me being "Bond", but also about her
being the evil Bond girl, which is just as
important to the experience, so that she
can totally release herself sexually and
go wild with me.

And I could easily play with this in
a million other ways, for example me
being any type of cool role, for example,
I could be Clyde and she could be Bonnie
from the infamous "Bonnie and Clyde"
bank robbers! (Which I've done too,
and it's fantastic stuff!)

This vibe enables you to both have so
much more fun and to bypass boring
and restricting social conventions so
that you can both be far more sexual
and adventurous and still have total
respect for each other.

And that's just one part of one thing that
I got the far bigger picture on from your
DVDs. Here's another big thing I got from
your DVDs:

Everything I do is up to me and only me.
It's my decision. I think most guys don't
take an active part in their own decision
making process. For example, if I want
to allow a woman to be a certain way
in terms of more sexual and more fun,
then my clothing should be more fun
and more sexual and alive. I am
kind of saying "this is my perspective
on life and therefore I accept others
with it" so a woman doesn't have to
worry about being judged negatively
by being more forward with me.

She immediately knows she is with
the kind of man she will probably
never meet again anywhere, she knows
it from the way she feels when she is
around me- a way I make sure she
indeed does feel!

The way I move, the way I dress,
the tonalities I apply, the type of
conversation and interaction I
am having with her. She knows.

Your DVDs really go into detail on
how to take advantage of everything
in your power to give off the right
messages and vibes about yourself,
and even how to find the unique
parts of your personality and
highlight those as well.

Before this letter turns into a scroll,
lol, I'll say one last thing:
Your DVDs really hit home on
how to create just the right amount
of sexual tension so that she is
enjoying the maximum anticipation
without pushing it over the edge and
making her feel bad either.

This is something that has made a total
night-and-day difference in my interactions
with women - I really look at the entire
process, from the first second I see a woman
all the way to the hot and heavy stuff and
of course the deeper bonding (which is the
entire reason I came to your material in the
first place), I see it all as a rollercoaster now:

This is a roller coaster that I can enjoy because
it’s mine, I even steer it, and I bring her on board
my coaster! It has some intense moments of pure
adrenaline and drops, (this is where I am being
playful or doing some intense role-playing or
being really intriguing as you explain) but also
has some "valleys" that are calmer, (this is
where I will be giving her a sincere compliment
or just holding her hands in a warm but not intense
way, or where I will seriously be learning about
her and her background or her day, etc).

Achieving the right amount of sexual
tension is so important, I think most
guys tend to go to one extreme or
the other. Your DVDs helped clarify
this a lot.

Hope this helps your readers,

Craig S.
NYC

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for that awesome letter, it really
helps others when guys explain what's
working for them rather than just saying
"it's great".

It's obvious you are really getting this
now, you are employing so many of
the principles at once it's fantastic.
One of the great things about these
concepts are that they work well
independently and also work even
BETTER together. And using one
of the concepts will often help
you better understand another
concept, so the learning goes
in a never ending cycle of
improvement.

The role-playing situation you gave
is an excellent example of proper
role-playing, where not only are
YOU being Bond like, which of course
is always cool and gives her the DESIRE
to be naughty with you, but you are
ALSO, through this role-play, giving
her the LICENSE to be naughty,
since in HER new role it would
be totally EXPECTED. So this is
a great way of her getting over any
internal "obstacles" she may have
had with it. After all, it's just a
role, right? ;) A role that ends
up in your bed.

In this vein, I love how you hit home
how the point of all this is ultimately about
giving women an awesome emotional
experience from the FIRST moment
you meet her till the rest of your life
with her. And this is actually FUN
for YOU too.

Thanks again for your letter, great stuff.

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Hey Mike,

Just wanted to give you a shout on my
progress since I completed your Real
World Bootcamp a couple of months
back.

Ever since your Bootcamp, I've been
focusing on your “efficiency principle”
which reminds me of the “economy of
movement” principle- where you get
maximum results from doing the most
efficient actions, so no energy or time
is wasted.

And I've been pulling off some crazy
**** lately with it. I'm now able to
be "direct" with girls and yet it's as if
they often open up immediately
upon me starting to interact.

I think the analogy that's best for this
is that when you are a race car driving
at 200 miles per hour, you don't make
huge turns with the steering wheel,
rather you make fine adjustments-
and the better you get at this game,
the more "speed" and power you have
from the get-go, from anything you
do, including your body language,
your sense of humor, your dominance,
etc, all this stuff become super-charged.

And so therefore the focus is
more on fine calibration rather
than anything extreme. But this
doesn't mean it takes less skill,
rather it takes more.

Every word you said about the way
human beings behave in these dynamics,
the power of the tiniest of subtleties
in timing, in body language and tonality
and thoughts, it's true.

Seeing is also believing, as you showed
me when you went direct for that girl
in middle of her friends at that trendy
lounge. You really converted the friends
from being women defending their friend
from some 'stranger' to insisting that
you call her and not to disappoint her
by losing her number!

You really broke apart the "maze" for
me and showed me exactly how to see
the entire interaction for what was
really going on, and how each woman
there simply had a goal and a need,
and a fear, and you simply went about
handling these specific things efficiently-
till they had only one choice- to help
you get their friend!

What's really a learning experience for
me is also seeing how the girl herself
increased her attraction upon seeing
the way you handled her own friends!
She went from being all formal to
getting giggly and girly, just like
you predicted always happens when
things go right!

The funniest thing though is that your
efficiency principle is more than efficient,
the way I see it, because doing any more
than that seems like the guy is trying too
hard, it would be the equivalent of a girl who
is a knock out stripping for you all day, you'd
start to think something is wrong with this person,
she's so sexy but never stops, never chills out.

The less you need to do, the more cool you
must be, even on a subconscious level in
her mind, she will think this since she is
feeling attraction to you based on the least
you did, - so she just becomes hungrier and
hungrier for more of you, since she is
getting a lot of ‘bang for her buck’ – and
I promise that pun was not intentional!

This is definitely where your bootcamp has helped
me, because it's allowed me to experience and witness
the frame of "not trying to be the entertainer" while
still being the most dynamic guy she has ever met.

It's a very subtle difference that makes all the
difference between being the clown and being
successful with women- but it's the most important
difference in the world.

Also, simply by becoming so damn
comfortable with physically escalating,
women are disarmed as well, it's as if
because it's so natural to me now, it's
natural to them too, it's similar to how
a dog can sense comfort or fear in the
owner, and like another reader wrote
to you, I mean this not in a disrespectful
sense, but a basic sense of human
nature. The comfort level you
feel yourself is a massive turn on
for women in this area. All I can say
is, for any guy who doubts how
physical and sexual women are,
they are more sexual than I could
have ever imagined, and this in
itself makes me more calm about
escalating without making a
"big deal" about it.

I think guys really need to realize
that the way to get sexual is to
start off sexual from the get-go,
the sexuality should be there in
your voice, your humor, your
proximity to her, without
being needy- and by playfully
pushing her away now and then,
you show that you are not needy.
Whenever I do this, I find that
women flip around from being in
"hard to get" mode to being in
"chase this guy" mode.

They begin to get touchy feely with
me, they start asking me what my
name is, they start smiling and just
getting all girly. It becomes clear
that I'm making her day and that
she wants more. It's awesome and
of course it puts your confidence
into high gear.

Also, regarding the efficiency principle,
I can definitely see how being the
opposite at first, for beginners, - being
in fact even a little over the top - as you
first had me going at the beginning of
bootcamp was important for my development,
because at first I was too concerned with what
other people thought, I was too introspective,
too quiet, too afraid to even begin to "unleash"
my dominant and my fun side!!!

After getting me over this hump, it was only
then that I could appreciate the refinements
to "efficiency principle".

Peace,

David S.
Calgary, Canada

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for the props, man. The bootcamp
is a very personal experience, as each guy
is different and the program is tailored
specifically for his needs and goals.

That's one of the reasons the bootcamp
is One-On-One, this way my entire time
is spent with you and only you, so that
you can get the benefit of complete
personal attention for every second
of the bootcamp.

And I love your comments and analogies
on using the "efficiency principle" - they're
BANG-ON!

And if you are reading this right now
and would like to bring YOUR ‘game’
up to par so that women are CHASING
you rather than playing hard to get,
then it's time you TOOK ACTION by
getting my Warrior Within DVD Set.

What you read in these newsletters, as
powerful as they are, really IS just the
tip of the iceberg.

You will find that this program gets you RESULTS.
Listen to it ALL, and APPLY it. You’ll find that this
program is light years ahead of traditional dating advice.

I spent 2 YEARS developing this program, to really
figure out on the deepest levels what women actually
respond to, and to then distill this information in a way
that ANY guy can both UNDERSTAND and also USE
to GET the woman or women he desires INTO his life
and INTO his bed.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

To find out about all my programs for skyrocketing
your success with women, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks