How To Be The Man Women Fantasize About

The only path to ultimate attraction when it comes
to a woman is to open the floodgates of her imagination
and fantasy and then help her live that fairy tale. 

This might sound impossible, but it's
not, because once you have sparked
her fantasies, she will do HER best to
go along with the fantasy version of you,
because we are all starving to get out
of this mundane existence and we will
suspend our disbelief to EXPERIENCE
a more intoxicating and higher
emotional plane of existence. 

So if you do YOUR part, a woman
will GLADLY do her part, and this
allows her to, for all intents and
purposes, LIVE her fantasy, for the
mind does not distinguish between
an emotion that is experienced
through fantasy or through reality,
as long as it is EXPERIENCED.

That is why, right now, if you recall a
specific happy memory in explicit and
full detail, you will EXPERIENCE the
emotion. It is not "fake". The emotional
experience is REAL.

The thing about all this, is that some
of these fantasies and types of
personalities are extremely powerful
and are not necessary nor always even
smart for attracting a woman for a
casual sexual relationship or a one-night
stand kind of thing. 

This stuff is about massive attraction, and
you don't want to hurt a girl by creating
this level of attraction and then jumping
ship.  In fact, a girl that's looking for
something casual might get emotionally
freaked out by this stuff since she knows
it will lead to HER feeling massive intense
emotions, and she's obviously not ready
for that or she wouldn't be only looking
for the casual thing. 

If you just want the one night stand
thing, go in there, tease the girl, get
her laughing, then lean back some
more and chill out and make small talk
and physically escalate.

And in fact, that is solid game for
starting off with just about any
woman. You can often also escalate
to this other stuff as she gets to
find out more about you.

Okay, so more on this whole
other DIMENSION of attraction.

How do you open up the floodgates
to her sexual fantasies and imagination?

The best thing to first do is realize that not
every woman is the SAME in this department.

You're better off to first figure out which
type of fantasy your REAL character
would most naturally fall into, and then
CULTIVATE that.  And then BE that
person always, and the women who are
INTO that will certainly be drawn to you.

For example, if you are a brooding,
tormented soul, that might not be the
best match for being the wild bad boy. 
And if you are a wild party guy at heart,
then trying to turn yourself into the
tormented artistic soul might not be
the best match.

The dark soul, the brooding artist, attracts
many women because he is UNAFFECTED
by her beauty since he is so far beyond
that into his OWN world, his own emotional
creations, etc.

Also, when he DOES connect with her
emotionally, his passion is INTENSE and
he also has an uncanny ability to pace
her emotional reality, so he knows
EXACTLY what to do when, because
he is brilliant at understanding
emotion. He can be in sexual sync
both physically and mentally with her
at a level that no other guy has ever
done.

You have to choose your identity, who you
are going to be, and it makes sense to choose
who you most closely fall into and POLISH
that. It's far more natural that way, and far
less work for you as well.

Are you the Donald Trump type? The
go getter who THRIVES in that environment?

Are you more the passionate artist type?
Distant, brooding, moody, yet emotionally
brilliant and on FIRE in that environment?

Are you the adrenaline junkie, the race car
driver skydiving bad boy type?

The party animal who just breathes that
and loves that scene?

An adventurer, outdoor type who builds
his own cabin, does his own hunting, etc.?

And so many more.

These categories can sometimes overlap, but
can also totally cancel each other out, so
common sense prevails here.

One thing though about ANY of these
identities, you can still never break any
of the "laws of physics" of attraction.
Giving her the EMOTIONAL sensation of
you as BEING EXCELLENT, as being COOL,
is still PARAMOUNT, and so is the
importance of you creating that connection
so that when she DOES get the pay-off
of your validation she feels BOOSTED
by it. 

Think about which type of identity you most
closely resemble personality-wise, and then
polish it up.  Dress the part. 

Look, the reality is that we are ALL constantly
just PLAYING different roles.  The question is, is the
role you are playing serving YOU?

We play the role of a father, son, brother,
employee, supervisor, boss, citizen, and we
act different in all these roles.  We don't
behave the same with our friends as we
do with our parents, as we do with
grandma or with the bus driver or your
brother or sister or the police etc. And
yet these are all still TRUE dimensions
of ourselves.

So why not choose the ROLE that turns
women on the MOST, and that most
closely suits YOU anyway, and
cultivate it?

If you're not sure of who you are, think
of what your passions are. Develop yourself
in that direction.

I could write infinite material on this, but let
me just state right here, that clearly, the different
identities I outlined briefly above in terms of
attractive identities that capture a woman's
imagination, each persona speaks differently,
dresses differently, spends their free time
differently, etc.

I'm going to now transition to a slightly different
topic now, but it's still related. 

In 1971, a Stanford university professor
conducted an experiment observing the
effects of prisoner and guard behavior and
the effect of taking on these roles.

15 students took part, and a section of
the basement of the university was
turned into a prison, complete will
cells. 7 students took on the role of
guards, 7 took on the role of prisoners.

One student was the warden. The guards
were not  allowed to physically harm the
prisoners, but were allowed to do just
about anything else to show them who
was "in charge".

The experiment was supposed to
last 2 weeks.

They had to end the experiment after

6 DAYS, because the guards had become

outright PSYCHO and cruel beyond belief.

And every student, before the experiment

was started, was checked out to make sure

they were mentally and emotionally sound

and fine.

Also, virtually NO ONE challenged the
ethics of the experiment. Not the parents,
not the minister who visited them, no one.

They all SIMPLY ACCEPTED THEIR
"ROLES" and the thought that this was
just "not real" was not even existent anymore.

What does this have to do with your success
with women?        

Plenty.

If PRETENDING to be a role for only SIX

DAYS is enough to get you to change your

concept of REALITY, how MASSIVE do

you think the impact would be to you if

you REDEFINED your OWN "role", your

own identity? 

For example, instead of taking on the role 
of the guy who does NOT approach
women, take on the role of a guy who
does.  You will BELIEVE you ARE
what you CONTINUOUSLY do.

Second, another point I need to bring up

is the fact that WOMEN have been given

a massive ROLE in society to act HARD

to get. But it's just a ROLE!  A role,

however that is RARELY challenged,

because MOST GUYS TAKE ON

the ROLE of the SUBMISSIVE!

They kiss up, buy women things for
no good reason except out of hope
the woman will stay with them because
of it, etc.  I can honestly say that it's
been SEVERAL YEARS since I
ever bought a woman ANYTHING
in the hope that she would like
me more because of it.  The only
time I buy a woman anything is
AFTER it's clear she is into me
with no money-strings attached.

There have been times when this ROLE
that I took on was challenged by some
women, but I TRULY believe it is
crazy for a guy to BUY a woman's
affection, it's absurd and an insult,
so I REALLY AM CONGRUENT
with my role. 

And THAT leads to me giving the woman
I am with a NEW role, the role of RESPECTING
a guy who doesn't take b.s. 

Most people have weak mindsets, and so they
just follow the masses.  They take on any role
they are given if it comes from "the matrix"
i.e. "it's what you are SUPPOSED to do"
EVEN if it makes no sense.  But by the
same token, if they meet someone who
has a STRONGER frame of reality, and
who will give them a DIFFERENT role
and totally believe that it is the right thing,
then people will ACCEPT the NEW role.

i.e. If YOU have a strong enough frame
of YOUR REALITY, you can then give
a woman a DIFFERENT role with YOU
than the one she has with OTHER guys.

YOU are the guy that she RESPECTS.
The OTHER guys are the guys that she
plays for money, favors, and emotional
abuse.

I'm being a little harsh here, because not
all women are like that, and in fact "Get
a GREAT Girl" is all about being very
SELECTIVE in which woman you go
out with.  However, definitely, most
women are USED to the role that society
has given them of getting gifts and being
the ones to screen the guy, and not the
other way around.

This was a joke back in the day 50 years ago,
because men had infinitely more power than
women then.

Not now though, now with women's equality,
which is a cool thing, it only makes sense
that if men kiss ass, men are actually now
in an INFERIOR position.  Before, it was
charming, now it's self-destructive.

Finally, I'd like to answer another email.

Before we start the letter, I just want to
make it clear that the "look-up" mentioned
below was something I was doing without
REALIZING it, until a reader who was
generous enough wrote in about it, and
shared it with everyone.  In brief, the
"look-up" is where you calmly look a
girl's entire body up and down, but don't
make it clear right away what you think. 
You are sizing her up, and it's a turn on
for her. Nice sexual tension.  

>>>LETTER<<<
  
Hi Michael,

I was hoping you can enlighten me with
your wizardry...

You probably hear this allot but I'm sure it
doesn't bother you to hear it again :)  

I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT
your e-BOOK and NEWSLETTERS and soon your
Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program!!!

I won't get too much into details but I really just
wanted to get your opinion on this situation. 
My friends and I got together at somebody's
house to do some pre-drinking and these
3 girls were invited to join, when the girls
came in I noticed this one girl who I just
wanted to get to know...

I used your famous stare up and down move
and look away - it worked like a charm!!
She came over and introduced herself to me,
we got pretty close at the club and then one of
my friends came to me and told me to watch
out for her she's a 'gold digger and a tease'
(I wanted to find out for myself). 

The next day she got her girlfriend to get my
number and called me to set up a date with
me (I thought it was so sexy when girls do
that) I still wanted to test her by wearing so
so clothes and driving a whatever car to see
if she has a weird reaction to it. 

Throughout the date I kept the conv. light
and very easy going, when the bill came for
like $10 she reached to her purse but I said
don't worry about it (at least she reached). 

The next day she text' me all day and then all
of a sudden she stops!  I didn't think much of
it so the next day I decided to give her a call
and ask her out for that same night she agreed
and we went out to a bar and grabbed some
drinks, again, I kept the facial expression
to a min. and I played it as cool as possible
using teasing and getting her to the 'right' state. 

The bill came and she decided to go to the
bathroom (how convenient)...so I ended
paying for the bill, that kind of bothered
me specially when I don't really remember
her thanking me either.  I get to the car
and I turn her around and plant a nice soft
one on her then I drop her off at home and
through another kiss at her and goodnight.  

As of today I am a little confused at what
I should do next....should I keep pursuing
her even though I have other prospects I
am looking at? should I wait until she text/call
me or should I do it after a certain number
of days?  how should I handle a woman like
that?? should I even bother?

You can post this if you wish....maybe
somebody else out there is going through
the same s*&%$

Regards,

Brett T..

>>>MY REPLY<<<

Thanks for the props on the programs
and these newsletters, it's kinda cool
to hear from guys that are out there
USING it and taking action. So props
to you, and you're going to LOVE
the new killer stuff in the Mastery
program.
 
Sounds like you were damn CONGRUENT
off the bat with the look up, as she responded
immediately and came to YOU.  Nice.

You were sexual, confident, playful,
and chilled out.

It also sounds to me that your friend(s) might
be a bit of a party pooper, no offense.  I
could be wrong.  But when a bunch of guys
are DRINKING, and 3 CHICKS come in,
and one of the chicks is damn into you,
it's not like this is a marriage proposal
going on.  So why ruin the fun? Gold
digger, shmold digger! She's into you
and you are a smart guy who knows
not to give your gold away so fast, right?

Methinks maybe your friends were
perhaps feeling that frustrating feeling
known as "wanting to shag the living
daylights out of her, but also not having
a clue how to get there".  But this doesn't
mean your friend are bad, they might
just be typical guys locked into the
matrix, it's all good.  

The problem might just be that you
let them ruin your entire INNER
game and your vibe. 

You went from the fun sexual guy
who attracted her, to the worried guy
focused on not losing.  Stop focusing
on NOT LOSING and get back into
the ORIGINAL vibe you had, of
being a MAN who LOVES women
and goes for it, focused on the
GOOD stuff.

That other vibe, that these guys were
giving you, is all wrong.  Even if the
chick IS a gold digger,  you can easily
find out yourself, and if she's NOT
a gold digger, your negative vibes
about this whole thing will turn her
off.  So taking the negative route will
sabotage even the best of possibilities.

So, the whole thing was wrong after that.

She got her girl to get your number, and she
set up a date with you.

No reason for you to try to act less than you
are.

You can always find out damn fast if she's
a gold digger anyway.  Especially since you
are already IN THE KNOW from all the
cool stuff you got from the book and
the newsletter!

The negative focus changed the entire
emotional dynamic, the entire atmosphere,
the air between you two.

And still, she did reach for her purse.
I would have playfully got her to split the bill
and turned it into how I'm all for women's
independence.  This actually sets up a
great sexual dynamic, because the woman
then KNOWS she certainly isn't going
to get free dinners out of this, so she
may as well get some awesome and
serious sex.  That's all you're good for!
   
Anyway, it wasn't over  yet, as SHE
texted you ALL day the next day.

Methinks you continued to act a bit
suspicious and overly hard to get.

Now, a girl isn't crazy.
She was seriously ATTRACTED to you,
so she even PUT HERSELF OUT THERE,
waaaaaaaaaaaaaay out there.

When she got the negative vibes, she still
gave you a chance.  She even texts you
the next day. A lot.  But all the time, she
keeps getting INSECURE vibes that
TOTALLY contradict the sexy fun
guy she THOUGHT she met.

You made a GREAT first impression,
but then made a total reverse, thanks
to your "friends". Now, don't get all
angry at your friends. Maybe they
meant well, maybe she is a gold digger,
but seems to me that most guys who
go round saying this to guys who
HAVE "game", i.e. a guy like you
who HAS "game", are just trying
to vent out their OWN insecurities
and they hope that if YOU accept
their version of reality, then it's
a good excuse for them to also
be in that miserable insecure
reality.  Rather than stepping out
and GOING for what you want
in life.

And then she STILL agreed to go out
again. But from the negative vibes your
friends gave you, it sounds like you were still
in the negative vibe, that the "facial expression
to a min" was not being used to show
RELAXED STATE but rather to show
her you that are not going to get USED.
And that's again focusing on insecurities.

So she goes to the bathroom.  Yes, maybe
she is avoiding the bill, but many women
do this because they're so brainwashed
for the man to pay. Which is why I stay
away from any places that cost money
on the initial first meetings. Or I do
go, but the chick still splits the cost.
It's not something that makes a girl
particularly bad by going off to the
bathroom, you can deal with that
stuff and give her the scoop on how
you don't pay for any chicks' company.

You're now in the damage control zone.
I recommend going for other chicks and
forgetting her for a while.  If you really
want to call her, do it and tell her, with
a NON-"APOLOGETIC" VOICE, (in other
words, say it like a STATEMENT rather
than a plea, or a question for her
forgiveness, you catch my drift?)
that you were being a bit of a jerk lately
because your cat died or something.
Then immediately get her laughing
about something i.e. tease her,
and meet her up again, and get
into some PRIVATE location
asap with her, and SERIOUSLY
get physical, man! 

And FORGET ANY advice that comes from
guys who aren't getting TEN TIMES better
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Till next time,

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The Charismatic Man

When it comes to attracting women, most men

take FOREVER trying to learn all that is required

to get women to notice them, or into learning 
"how to impress women" to go out with them,

and into learning how to "get physical."

A lot of men ask the following question:

"Is there a SHORT CUT to attracting women?"

The answer is, it depends on whether a man has

CHARISMA or not.

When a man has CHARISMA, he can “break every rule”
about attraction and STILL attract fantastic women.

He can be nice, or he can not be nice.
He can give compliments, or not.

He can be great looking, but he can also be
way LESS than average looking.

He can dress like a regular dude, or dress like
a vagrant. He can even get away with tons of
self-deprecating remarks.

When a man has charisma, he can have a way
less-than-regular job, and even be looked at by
MANY as some kind of “loser”.

And yet, with all this, he will STILL get way MORE
options, with SUPER ATTRACTIVE women, than
most men will EVER have.

In the INSTANT that a charismatic man approaches
a woman, she SENSES his personality immediately,
she gets "that feeling" inside, and she KNOWS that
she is going to soon end up in bed with him.

Why Charisma Is So Powerful In Attracting Women

There is ONE reason for her overwhelming
"surrender" to such a man: It’s because
UNDERNEATH it all, he gives off a PRIMAL
VIBE that he is PURE SEX, that he is raw lust,
that he is beyond CONTROL, and in fact that
he is beyond HUMAN.

Such is the ESSENCE of charisma.

I know that sounds crazy, but it IS the truth.
It's not that he IS beyond human, it's that he
gives off that VIBE, he makes a woman
FEEL that he is all these things.

Here's An Example Of How Charisma Works To

Make A Woman Sexually ADDICTED To A Man

Let me illustrate with one quick point:

Women are just as sexual as men, but we as
men have been made to believe that they aren’t.

So men try to appeal to women with things like
MONEY.

So what this ends up doing is making a woman
SLOW down the flow of the “milk” so to speak,
to any man that seems willing to PAY to be with her.

She will NOT provide the sex because she can see
that her value will only go DOWN since there is
nowhere but DOWN for her value to go, since
the guy is ALREADY paying to impress her!

It’s not like he is going to pay MORE once
he GETS what he wants!

If anything, he will get LESS impressed with her
after that, and pay LESS for being with her.

Now, meanwhile, women are just as sexual,
and WANT sex.

And they can’t give it to the guy who is PAYING
them, or they LOSE that flow of cash!

So who do they go to?

While Most Men Work In Vain To "Impress" Women,

The Man That Women ACTUALLY Go To Is...

Women go to the man who KNOWS women are
sexual, who doesn’t PRETEND that women
need presents and kissing-up and money and
all these other things.

They go to the man who also doesn’t make
them feel GUILTY for having sex with them.

They go to the man who does all this while
being totally RELAXED about it, because
it’s no big DEAL to him, since he knows
the TRUTH about reality and women.

He is calm about it, he doesn’t need to be
OVERT about the sexuality, because it is
such a part of him, it’s like breathing.

If he DOES give a compliment to a woman,
it’s not because he is trying to get SEX from
her. It’s just part of a human conversation.

He can get sex without compliments.
The fact he has no money or no prestige or fame
doesn’t mean jack-squat, because women don’t
NEED those things!

They NEED a guy who takes care of their NEEDS!

Their sexual and emotional NEEDS.

Now, most men have been brainwashed to believe
they need to be all these OTHER things to women,
things that women really DON'T need!

Men have been conditioned to think that men must
also HAVE all these other things, in order to be
“allowed” into the land of sex with women.

That’s all HOGWASH!

It Actually Goes FURTHER Than All This!

"Working To Impress A Woman" Actually

Makes Her Repulsed!

Once you are already in a relationship with a woman
who has truly earned your affection, it's different, but
as far as ATTRACTING a woman in the FIRST place,
doing what most men do is the WORST thing you can
do for attraction.

The very fact that most men try so hard to impress
women with all the wrong things makes women
feel, on a deep subconscious level, that these men
are somehow INFERIOR in some way, and therefore
need to “compensate” a woman for being with them.

So the women subconsciously feel those guys
are LESS attractive. And now, the charismatic
guy, on a PRIMAL level, seems all that much
MORE ATTRACTIVE.

As you can see, it’s not just that women see him
as more SEXUAL, women ALSO feel he is
MORE attractive than all the other guys.

PLUS, for most women life is stressful enough as
it is, so one of the big things when approaching
any woman, ESPECIALLY a woman who is a total
stranger, is the ability to RELAX her.

Not through compliments, not through buying
her things, which can actually make a guy
seem CREEPY as if he lacks the HUMAN
touch, but through his PERSPECTIVES on
things that make life intriguing, exciting,
inspiring, and fun, rather than stressful,
boring and mundane.

It’s easy to get CAUGHT UP in the CONDITIONING
by society to think you NEED all these other things
to enter the land of women, and that is why so many
men fall into this trap.

The Charismatic Man Stands Out In All The Right Ways

In CONTRAST, the man who DOESN’T fall into this
trap seems so RARE, so COOL, that he actually
seems to have a touch of the SUPERNATURAL.

She is thinking:
“WHAT IS IT ABOUT THIS GUY THAT DOESN’T
GIVE A F*&^ ABOUT SOCIAL PRESSURE AND
SOCIAL CONDITIONING?”

“BEING WITH THIS GUY IS LIVING!!!
BEING WITH OTHER GUYS IS BORING!”

So when you are THIS type of guy, there
are no RULES you need to follow, because
EVERYTHING you do passes through the
CHARISMATIC filter and ends up saying
the RIGHT things about you.

So if a guy happens to look like a cross
between Oscar the Grouch and the Loch Ness
Monster, it STILL doesn't matter, because
now she thinks that he’s CUTE and that his
looks are charming and ENDEARING.

If he happens to be BROKE, now she lovingly
calls him, begging him to visit her for a romp
in bed and calls him “a bum-bum” in a LOVING
way.

If he happens to be unkempt, now she enjoys
running her hands through his messy hair.

When you are charismatic, she turns EVERYTHING
about you into PERFECTION.

Why does she do this?
BECAUSE YOU TAKE CARE OF HER
REAL NEEDS.

You make her feel good about sex.
You are chilled out and you don’t allow
her own emotional reactions to her own
stresses get YOU down.
You stay CALM through her STORMS.

In a nutshell, you are her MAN.

Where The "Other Guys" End Up

Meanwhile, the other guy is still stuck on
buying her a thousandth present, and she
is still keeping him in the ULTRA FAR
DISTANT ‘FRIEND’ zone, where she
WANTS to keep him and, ironically, would
feel GUILTY about if she brought him to
anything CLOSER than the friend zone!

This is because she has now created this
NON-SEXUAL dynamic with the other
dude, where the only sexual dynamic is
some kind of distant dream that the guy
has, but she definitely does NOT.

So Let’s Get Back To Square ONE Here:

Success with women, and being able to
BREAK all the rules, boils down to having
that magical quality called CHARISMA.

The charismatic man is the man who has
the ULTIMATE in choice with women.

And now, in my special 1-hour JAM-PACKED
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Here Are Just SOME Of The Powerful CHARISMA

Strategies For Attracting Women That You Will

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REMOVING THE "LOOKS" LIMITS

How to make being “average” looking
rather than having “model” looks actually
HELP you in making successful ‘COLD
APPROACHES’ going up to women who
are total strangers!

PREVENTING THE WRONG VIBES

How to avoid the ‘creepy vibes’ that
so many men involuntarily send out
when approaching women who are
total strangers!

THE "WHIRLWIND" EFFECT

You’ll also learn how to develop the
“WHIRLWIND EFFECT”, which is a
natural way to capture her interest while
simultaneously releasing her from any
sexual inhibitions.

The greatest part of this “Whirlwind Effect”
is that the longer she speaks to you, the
more she becomes drawn to the emotions
she is getting from you, and in the process
becomes ADDICTED to being with you.

CAPTURING HER INTEREST IMMEDIATELY

WITH COMPELLING CONVERSATIONS

How to use the power of PERSPECTIVE to
spark COMPELLING conversations with women
in a way that conveys ALL THE RIGHT
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Attracting Women Through "Cold Approaches"

There is a TON of pure GOLD I want to
share with you today, when it comes
to attracting the woman you want. 

1. THE 'MAGIC COMBO' OF STATES OF MIND

The first is regarding the state of mind
you need to be in for maximum success.

When you are in the RIGHT state, which
is a combination of sexuality, dominance,
playfulness, confidence and security,
and relaxed with pep, what happens is that
a woman feels that YOU are this superior guy,
and it's then A SELF-ESTEEM boost to her
when she THEN sees that YOU have chosen HER
to spend your time with.

SHE feels BETTER about herself because
she FEEEELS that YOU have superior value,
and that YOU have chosen HER, so therefore
SHE must be worth more than she thought
before. She feels BETTER. So the idea is
to be SUPER SECURE and feeling great
YOURSELF, or she cannot possibly feel
better about herself when she finds that
you have chosen to be with her.

This is all subconscious, she does not
go around articulating this to herself
consciously at ALL.

Also, states are catchy, so being in
these states helps HER also enter
these fun, flirty, states of mind.

2. CLEARING UP WHAT IS MEANT BY
'LEARNED FROM THE FIELD'.

The 'field' is the real world where approaching
women happens. It's not a theory, it's reality.

It's where things are proven.

The PROBLEM though is that a lot of the
things written about the "field" are only
coming from certain PARTS of the field, and
certain types of women in those venues.

i.e. promiscuous women who are drunk in a bar

This can cause mass confusion for guys who may
be operating or trying to meet women in completely
different environments, or with guys who are
interested in a very different kind of woman.

On that note, let me share with you some
CRITICAL things that have been learned
IN THE FIELD, things that I have seen
OVER AND OVER again from being out there
not only for myself, but also from doing
hundreds of bootcamps personally:

Number one:

ALWAYS USE MINIMUM GAME

This was a huge thing for me, because I actually
HAD this going for me when I first started out,
but then got caught up in all the guys swearing
about all their "cool routines" and "tactics".
It took a few weeks for me to get back to my
OWN conclusions and get results again.

I used to open up girls with something interesting,
perhaps a tease, perhaps something intriguing,
but INTERESTING always, then would as soon
as possible go to NORMAL mode of just kicking
back and chilling out and developing a connection
and rapport.

Then I started doing all kinds of crazy other stuff
that was "cool and in vogue among pick up artists",
and it got greater IMMEDIATE REACTIONS from
women but then backfired, because it caused them to
feel the whole thing was a bit too MUCH to be natural,
which caused me to have to pull out all the stops on
reestablishing rapport so that the trust was there
again. When I could have just avoided the whole
problem to begin with by using MINIMUM game.

What do I mean by minimum game?
I mean you should use the LEAST effort you need
to get the job done, your face expressions need
to convey emotion, but only the LEAST amount
necessary. The LESS you use, the more CALM
you seem, the more COOL you seem, the less
you seem to be TRYING, the easier it is for her
to not only feel greater trust, but also the more
attracted she can feel since you are obviously
so confident in your value because you are not
trying. Which is how it SHOULD be in the
first place!

If you are chatting up a woman, and your eyebrows
are constantly furrowed, your face always very intent,
it's not good.

Regarding minimum energy, obviously in a
loud club, where the awesome music is playing
and the girls are laughing, etc, it just makes
SENSE that you would be in a good mood
too and in higher e-n-e-r-g-y yourself, so
the face expressions would NATURALLY
be more intense, in fact it you should have
just a bit more pep than the girls have
themselves, so that you are raising the
level of electricity and good times
instead of lowering them and being a
party pooper.

In a bookstore, you would obviously
be more laid back.

However, in BOTH ENVIRONMENTS, your INTERNAL
STATE needs to be tip top, you need to be in
a good state, yet also feeling the
DOMINANCE as well.

Okay, next:

Number two:

START WITH RAPPORT IN "EXCLUSIVE" ENVIRONMENTS

When you are in the more exclusive environments
and venues, it often comes across as TRY HARD
if you don't just open up with something very
low-key, rapport related, etc. The reason is
because it's ASSUMED you already have VALUE
walking in, because it's an exclusive environment.

So you in fact have a free pass for OPENING,
and putting in more "game" simply seems like
you are weird, you are trying hard, etc.

However, this is just for your OPENING.
Everything else is the same.
There's no excuse for weak 'game' or
boring 'game'.

Your delivery, your body language, all count
just as much as always.

And you can still tease too, in fact if you DO
have your inner game down as explained
above, it's a great idea AFTER you have
opened with rapport.

Also, remember that teasing is NOT to come
from an ANGRY or INSECURE place inside, but
from a genuinely PLAYFUL place that is
full of goodwill mixed with confidence.

And all the other emotional stuff like being
intriguing is still a great idea.

So for example, you could open with
a bit of rapport and then attract and
then go into deeper rapport. And of
course this is just an example, in real
life there is always overlap between
attract and rapport/connection. In fact,
many times you will be doing both at
once, because for example your body
language is so good that you are attracting
even as you are chatting rapport stuff.
And that's just one example.

Number three:

ENDURANCE IS CRITICAL

Endurance in every respect is IMPORTANT
when it comes to success in approaching
and attracting women. Clients have
seen just how much I mean this in real
life as they watch me demonstrate. So
many guys will EJECT out of an interaction
just because the woman is not initially
doing CARTWHEELS for them.

If you can't endure a little heat, you can't
expect to really develop any of the various
skills involved in mastering these skills or
in getting long-term attraction.

For example, many times, a woman simply
needs MORE TIME and MORE QUALITY
rapport before she is ready to progress
the interaction to a higher level.

So for example, she might question your
motives, or, she might be comfortable but
not sure if you are THE MAN or not, and
she might test to see how confident you
actually are. Or she might just be testing
to see if you are a fun and playful guy
as opposed to a guy who takes everything
so seriously.

If she is doing any of these things, instead
of wanting to eject, you should WELCOME
the situation, because once you recognize
these things for what they are, you can easily
address them and then progress the interaction
with her.

Another important point about endurance
is that you must not get lazy. Sometimes
a guy will finally develop the attitude of
being indifferent toward the outcome,
but he then uses this to become lazy
and sloppy in his interactions because
he doesn't care what happens.

Just because you are no longer insecure
about getting a woman's approval does mean
you can run a sloppy interaction with a woman
because you are tired or feeling silly.

It doesn't matter if you've had a long day
or if it's your first approach of the day
or your hundredth.

If you are going to do it, then get yourself
together and do it RIGHT. Be a professional.

Think of it like lifting weights:
Even if you are tired, you still have to
watch your FORM or you can do more
damage than good. Don't give in to
the temptation to get sloppy on your
form in your pick-ups either.

Next point!

Number four:

DO YOU WANT IT? THEN DO IT.

This is my basic philosophy regarding
approaches in all supposedly "weird"
situations, and in fact ALL situations.

On a related note, when I say "DO IT",
I mean really COMMIT to it.

Don't just do it weak "namby pamby" style,
you know what I mean?

An example of  namby-pamby style, is when
you see a woman, or a group of women that
you'd like to approach, and due to fear, you
end up speaking too QUIETLY, or you
don't REALLY give the eye contact, you
just give them eye contact for a sec and
then you look away to give yourself an
exit strategy.

I say SCREW the exit strategy, and instead
actually DO IT, and COMMIT to your
decision to SPEAK to her or to the group
of women.

You can't do it HALF way, or the women
will likely NOT notice you or they will
IGNORE you, because attractive women
HAVE to have strategies to deal with the
endless guys who ogle them.

If you want to succeed then you have to
follow what I say and not just do it
namby-pamby, but do it for REAL.

There's really no excuse NOT to approach.

It costs you NOTHING.

It takes very little TIME, unless it's going
WELL, in which case that' exactly what you
WANT.

It's FUN.  Seriously, this stuff is FUN.
It wouldn't be fun if there was no drama
or excitement. I think this is just one
of the reasons I prefer real life rather
than online, because it's actually FUN.

Even if let's say your approach requires
you to do something "weird" like going
into a store where only women go, like
a makeup store, who cares? Although
it is true that these environments require
that you calibrate your approach for
the environment, i.e. "you are there
waiting for someone (not girlfriend)
to get something", it's not as strange
to the women as you might think.

Moreover, if you are doing a proper approach,
they won't care much, because you will have
them emotionally compelled and the logical
stuff of what the heck you are doing there
will be irrelevant.

They are still women who still want to meet men.
The location is not as big a deal as most men
THINK it is.

And it costs you NOTHING.

It's just that you THINK "oh my gosh
my big fat ego might not be able to
take it if it doesn't go well" or "what
will they DO to me if I get "caught"
trying to pick them up"? And this
is the funniest thing of all if you
think about it, because you are
falling for what women have
CREATED as an illusion:
The idea that they don't want
men to approach them.

By creating this illusion, women are
able to "raise the cost" of being with
them. After all, if they don't want
men and sex, etc., and you DO want
it, then THEY are in the driver's seat.
I don't blame women for creating this
illusion, because it was a way women
were able to survive in an old society
where women had little power, but
today it's RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!!

And yet STILL men are falling for it!!!!

Women aren't forcing any man to follow it,
but most men think that somehow women
are the ones in the superior position,
even though women tend to be culturally
pressured to be more passive about
meeting men, when men can in reality be
active and choose which women they speak to.

Women want to be approached by guys, but
it has to be by guys who understand all
this stuff and don't use it to make
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How To Use Your Identity To Attract Women

Behold, there is a way to trigger attraction
without sacrificing who YOU are.

It's called, get ready for it:

DROP THE "I'M SO COOL" ACT.

Don't kiss up.
But don't try to be so "cool" either.

Almost every “system” out there attempts to
remold you into a supposedly “alpha male”
stereotype that is often too simplistic to
PRACTICALLY apply in real life.

For example, you are told to “be alpha”.
Then you see this girl on the street you’d like to
chat up. So you think, “be alpha”.
Okay, now what?
What are you supposed to do?
Drag her by the hair to your cave?
Frown at her?
Just tell her you want her number?
And what if you have nothing at the moment
to tease her playfully on?
Are you suddenly up a creek without a paddle?

What if you didn’t have to worry about
what you said to open up the conversation
because YOU UNDERSTOOD things about
women and human beings, including yourself,
on such a high level, that you could EASILY
come up with a thousand things that felt
perfectly NATURAL to say that would work
just fine? And how would you feel if a huge
part of the reason this all worked was because
of the way YOU naturally are, the person behind
the words, instead of the learned technique?
And how would you feel if you knew you
had it all under control, in terms of how to
lead the situation from one stage to the next?

One of the critical components to making all
this work without having to be somebody else,
rests in learning to revel in and unleash your
IDENTITY, including the times that you
feel the desire to MASK it with everything
you’ve got.

I’m not a particularly huge fan of Woody Allen
movies, but there is one very interesting dynamic
to all his movies that has a lot of relevance to
attraction. His character doesn’t change, regardless
of the film, regardless of whether he’s with some
friend or talking to some gorgeous woman, he
doesn’t change. He may be neurotic as hell about
a lot of other things, (and he may do things otherwise
that are counter to attraction) but he doesn’t
mask his personality to any of the other characters.

That says in a very EFFECTIVE, EMOTIONALLY
STIMULATING WAY, that he has VALUE.
That he is desirable enough that he DOESN’T
HAVE TO HIDE HIS PERSONALITY,
EVEN IF IT HAS SOME FLAWS.

(Which isn’t to say that a guy shouldn’t work
on improving himself, and in fact this is
part of the whole point of being your best
self.)

There is coolness in this trait.
Ironically, a guy who keeps trying to “act cool”
comes across as far more of a dweeb than a guy
who at first glance may dress as a dweeb but
when he opens his mouth and he talks and interacts,
is clearly allowing his personality to shine through
without fear.

Now, of course, there is a difference between
being yourself based on IGNORANCE and
being yourself based on KNOWLEDGE.

In my programs, I work on providing you the
KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE so that
you can apply it in a way that you can still be
YOURSELF.

I believe that every person has tons of cool things
about them. You can’t help it, being a human being
is a pretty cool thing because we are constantly learning
things even if we aren’t trying. Now, some things
are more practical than others, but if you’ve been
on the planet for a bit, even for only 18 years, that’s
18 years of soaking in experiences, like school,
bullies, friends, disappointment, people who are
creepy, heartbreak, joy, helping others, etc, etc.
All stuff which makes you grow character.

And of course if you’ve been around longer,
that’s more experience to enhance your personality.

One of the elements I work on with clients is bringing
out the infinite power of their buried identities.

It is CRUCIAL FOR ATTRACTION to unleash
the identity that is HIDING behind the MASK.

Ever notice one of the elements that is common to
just about every truly great movie character?

The character’s FLAWS are not hidden.
They make his or her strengths seem more special.
More real. More admirable.

In the original movie, Rocky isn’t a rocket scientist,
and he made quite a few mistakes in his life.
But when he got the chance to make something
out of his life, and to fill up the gaps in his life,
damn he put his heart and soul into it, and was
determined to “go the distance".

His “going the distance” is more attractive
because of his other flaws.

No one is perfect, no one.
And deep down, we all know this.
So guys who try too hard to be perfect are
CLEARLY covering something up.

And THAT is uncool.

But guys get so caught up on wanting to make
a great impression, that their impression is
so sterilized, so anti-septic, so devoid of
“potentially damaging” content, that there is
NOTHING left. No “juice” left to the vibe.

It’s important to give people the chance
to see your flaws. Give them a chance
to REJECT you. Don’t go out of you way
to screw yourself up, but a flaw can often
be your best friend if it came out naturally.

More importantly, if you’re “in” and accepted
with your flaw, you will feel so much more
connected to the woman you are with. As
opposed to hiding it and living that kind
of attitude of fear.

This is not just about HOW to get women.
It’s about HOW to get the RIGHT women.

For this is the only way to truly give a chance
for REAL acceptance.

Of course, you need to be your BEST,
but that does not mean trying to come
across as perfect or fake or hiding
things about yourself.

And think about it:
If you give a woman a chance to reject you,
let’s say, by allowing your crazy sense of
humor to come through, or your personal
ideas about something else intriguing,
you are actually saying that you have enough
self worth to be prepared to accept someone’s
else’s rejection of you. And THAT actually
effectively, EMOTIONALLY, INDIRECTLY,
says that you DO have value.

This is very powerful stuff, and has implications
on many levels of communication.

Almost every song or movie in many ways one
can say has been done before, but what HASN’T
been done before, the part that actually IMPACTS
people, is the part where the artist REVEALS
VULNERABILITIES and yet is NOT AFRAID
TO REVEAL THEM, (thus a “proof” of their
OVERALL value that they can absorb the
impact of this flaw) and the WAY those
vulnerabilities are presented.

Again, this actually attests to being SECURE AND
HAVING VALUE. But it has to be done in a
non-apologetic way.

This is a very deep topic, but I hope I have
given some insight into it here.

Only if you have enough self-security in your
identity can you even go to the point of allowing
yourself to be embarrassed.

The other day I was having a conversation with
someone who told me about a quote from
Quentin Tarantino. Tarantino said something like,
“If you haven’t written something that embarrasses
you in your writing, then you haven’t done your job”.

EVERYONE TRIES TO ACT SO COOL, THAT WE ALL
KNOW THIS 'COOL' STUFF IS AN ACT, AND IT'S
A SIGN OF INSECURITY.

So, to a woman, if you are willing to put yourself
out there, it says EMOTIONALLY, INDIRECTLY, in
a powerful way, that you believe you have worth.

And the thing is, it’s because you are NOT saying
anything about your worth, in fact you are
SO COMFORTABLE AND RELAXED you don’t mind to
“screw up” or possibly reveal that you are
“not so perfect” and THAT actually makes you
come across as the REAL DEAL.

The truly superior deal.
Unlike every guy who tries to sell themselves as “special”.

And you can’t fake “being real”.
You can’t fake it any more than you can fake a great
movie, a great song, a great work of art.

When it’s really great, everyone feels it,
and when it’s imitation stuff, everyone
feels it as well.

Often, in bootcamps, I will do some pretty spontaneous
things, that I’m NOT SURE WILL “WORK”.  I will do
these things because I’m really not trying to be somebody
else. I'm being honest to my  thoughts and feelings, and
sometimes that might involve doing things like singing
not-so-professionally, etc.

One of the keys to this is to make sure that you
are not in the wrong state of mind, otherwise
all the honest stuff in the world will just reveal
that you honestly are not any fun to be around. 

This is one of the powerful benefits to your
training that you get from taking BOOTCAMP
with me, because you get to EXPERIENCE
it all LIVE.  I ensure that you actually LIVE
these words and don't just read them.

Once you EXPERIENCE results, it's easy
to DUPLICATE your results again, because
your mind now has a powerful MEMORY
of success rooted deeply inside of it,
making it easy to empower yourself
again and again in the future.

Plus, you remember the exact DETAILS
subconsciously, the exact subtle things
that helped you succeed, and you
instinctively APPLY them without
even thinking the next time you need
to when you see a woman you'd like
to approach.

On the topic of pushing your own comfort zone
and being comfortable conveying your identity,
there was once a movie with Cameron Diaz,
where her character is being set up to look like
a fool through singing karaoke.

The movie is called “My Best Friend’s Wedding”.

Yeah, yeah, I know it’s a 'chick flick'.
I enjoyed it.
(Hint, hint, do I try to pretend I only watch
RAMBO, even with women? Am I trying to be
ultra-COOL???)

Anyway, the thing is, Julia Robert’s character
wants to make Diaz’s character look bad.
But when Cameron’s character gets up there
on stage, even though she is not a great singer,
she TOTALLY GOES FOR IT, she gives it
her best and ENJOYS IT, she isn’t afraid of
screwing it all up. She is a real sport about her
own flaws and doesn’t hide from them.

Very cool, whether you are a guy or gal.

In fact, I’ve learned a TON about how girls act
comfortable, and realized how much GUYS can learn
from this. I’ve seen girls do all kinds of silly
things, from singing badly to dancing badly
and it was clear that they couldn’t sing better
and that they couldn’t dance better, and yet
they did it all anyway on purpose to just
be comfortable and relaxed and be themselves
and also they were “putting themselves out
there” being a bit vulnerable. It says a lot
of subtle things, good things.

And it’s actually quite an attractive trait
when done right.

This goes hand in hand with not being focused
on rejection, because you are actually GIVING
PEOPLE THE CHANCE TO REJECT THE REAL YOU.

If you give a woman a “chance to reject you”,
(I’m NOT saying to TRY TO SCREW THINGS UP)
you are REALLY actually stating that rejection
isn’t a big deal.

And THAT says value, and it also is pretty
cool in the sense that you’re not making such a
big deal about HER.

Because if you WERE making her the entire
focus of your life, you wouldn’t allow the
chance for rejection, would you?

Cool guys allow themselves to get rejected.
The irony is, they rarely see things as them
being rejected, which in itself causes women
to do a double take, and actually DESIRE the guy.

Are you comfortable with your own identity?
If YOU are comfortable with it, it stirs a reframe
even on things that supposedly AREN’T cool.

Think that Star Wars is a turn off to women?
(Never mind the "prequels", although the
last prequel had some cool moments).

It's only a turn-off if you go around trying
to IMPRESS women with it, or EXPECTING
women to be into it as if YOU would be
interested in soap operas. (And I have known
several women who just happen to be
STRIKINGLY gorgeous and who happen
to dig Star Wars quite a bit.)

In fact, if you are a cool guy (which means secure in
your identity) and a woman knows you are into
something like Star Wars, you’d be surprised at how
much she might even get into it all on her own.

A powerful identity strikes a REFRAME on any
supposed negative aspect of one’s self.
It is part of the larger picture of charisma.

If you want to learn how to PUSH your own
COMFORT ZONE so that you can truly be your
most comfortable self even in the presence
of the most beautiful feminine creatures
on the planet, I have a program that will
help you do exactly that.

In this program, I interview a man who used
to be so anxious around women that he literally
was a virgin until 26 and thought he would never
become good with women EVER. He then learned
to open up his personality to women, which
included his off-the-wall sense of humor,
to the point he became so good with women he
was featured in a New York Times best-selling
book on the subject of being good with women.

Sometimes, it's important to reach for the
stars in order to reach for the moon. This
man REALLY pushes the comfort zone, far BEYOND
what you will EVER have to do, and this is
why listening to my interview with him will
ENSURE that you at LEAST learn to push your
own comfort zone to the level that you NEED
to do in order to succeed with women.

This is a very powerful program on becoming
SUPER COMFORTABLE with your identity, and on
increasing your confidence, especially on
improving your confident sense of HUMOR with
women, which is IMMENSELY helpful at ALL stages
of interacting with a woman, from 'breaking the ice'
with her when you approach her, all the way to
making her enjoy being with you in a relationship.

This important program is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/confident-humor.html

I want to also remind you about my LIVE
bootcamp training program. Be efficient
in how you learn about dating! Attending
a bootcamp allows me to make specific
calibrations to your individual character
which makes a HUGE difference.

These one-on-one coached 'individualized tweaks' to
both your inner confidence and your 'outer game'
allow you to make the kind of SERIOUS progress
with women that you might very well men NEVER
make otherwise.

Learning this all on your own is often too time
consuming and difficult. Having me deliver
exactly what YOU need as opposed to what
anyone ELSE needs, will ensure that you
obtain full, fast, and lasting success in
dating and relationships.

My bootcamp program is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Take Over The Frame To Attract Women

Here's a CRUCIAL point to keep in mind if you want to know how to attract a woman and especially if you want to know how to get a girlfriend:

To attract a woman, ANYWHERE, you must "TAKE OVER THE MENTAL FRAME".

Allow me explain exactly what I mean by this. The perspective that most men have about approaching and attracting women, is that the women are supposed to give men some clear SIGNALS that it’s okay to approach them, and that the approach will be wanted, etc.

But these "signs of her interest in you" often only happen AFTER you take action, not BEFORE.

So men are looking for women's "signals" and women's signs of APPROVAL before the men even get STARTED into a real interaction with the women.

This ‘frame’ of reality is WRONG, and what's WRONG with it, is that it's allowing a man to get SWALLOWED UP by the WOMAN'S "FRAME", also known as "the woman's perspective"!

Men THINK that this is appreciated by women, but actually in truth, this is NOT the way attraction works. In fact, if a woman KNOWS that you need her APPROVAL to come over and talk to her or to know if what you say to her is "what she wants to hear", well THAT is what turns her OFF!

Your "frame" of the situation needs to weigh more of YOUR value in it, and YOUR needs, and less of you being swallowed up into HER FRAME and being so concerned about her reality and concerned about getting her approval before you have even spoken a single word to her.   

And it goes further, in the sense that if, during the conversation, you are overly concerned with making sure you ‘fit’ into what she thinks is "cool" or what she wants, THAT will destroy attraction as well!

This doesn’t mean to TRY to argue with her, or anything like that, it means to truly let your OWN identity be FREE, and in fact to let that identity be so strong that OTHERS get sucked into YOUR "frame".

Women want men who are able to CONTROL their own "frame" over their own reality.  They want man men who don't worry so much about getting the approval of others and making sure that they fit into everyone ELSE'S frame.    

For example, most men, let's say they are at a party, and they see a woman they would like to talk to.

The FIRST thing that goes through their mind is, "Hmmm, I bet she is here with someone..." Or, if the woman is talking to someone, most men are looking for the perfect entrance to get into that conversation.

Or, if they DO start a conversation, and the woman isn't doing cartwheels of enthusiasm RIGHT AWAY, or if the other people in the conversation (let's say she's in a group) don't seem to be too excited by the new guy's entrance into the conversation, well most of the time this is enough to MELT "the new guy" and make most guys EJECT and leave the situation.

I say,  f*** that!!!

ALL this kind of attitude comes from thinking that you need to have PERMISSION and APPROVAL not only to TALK to these women, but even in order to FEEL OKAY about talking to these women!!!

FORGET THAT ATTITUDE, IT'S 'KRYPTONITE' TO ATTRACTION!

There's a great little movie, called 'Take Me Home Tonight', and in it, there's this scene where this guy feels all uncomfortable approaching women who are strangers, even at a situation like a PARTY, which is actually even EASIER because a party is a social license to chat with people.

He ALMOST starts to chat with this one girl at this party, he goes close to her, looks at her, and she looks back at him.

And it’s amazing, because his look, even in that split second, is clearly ‘innocent’ but also it is clearly NOT DECISIVE about taking action.

And the girl he was looking at? Well, just like in the real world, she doesn't have a MEAN look on her face, but she doesn’t give him a “please talk to me” look either.

In the real world, women do NOT have sirens blaring off, flashing red, saying "PLEASE TALK TO ME".

If they DID behave that way, it would be NUTS with the amount of attention they would get from every single guy.

So anyway, in that split second, he then CONTINUES walking by her, and he loses the moment.

This is so typical of what happens for MOST men, and I know for sure this is what used to happen with me.  I would be LOOKING for the ‘invitation to talk’ from a woman’s face.

But this is NOT the way it really works most of the time, for MANY reasons, including the fact that women are conditioned to not be ‘easy’ since men punish women by labeling them as ‘sluts’.

Now, here’s the part of the movie that really was important.

Because he feels so PISSED OFF at his own lack of ability to CONTROL THE FRAME that he ends up taking COCAINE and then coming BACK to the party minutes later.

Now, it’s just a movie, and OBVIOUSLY I think cocaine is destructive, but just stick with me here for a second:

When he comes BACK to the party, he is now CONTROLLING THE FRAME, not only in his OWN mind about who is "THE MAN" (he now feels HE is great, powerful, and cool, and that the party is definitely where HE is, that HE is the life of the party), but he completely OVER-RIDES and TAKES OVER the perspective, i.e. the ‘frame’, of everyone ELSE at the party as well.

He sees the same girl from before, and not only dances right up in her face, but he is so absolutely full of total conviction in his actions, that he is basically TELLING her to party with him, and there is zero doubt, not one milligram of doubt, in his tonality and his body language.

He is COMPLETELY RULING the place, in the sense of having fun, of dancing, of being confident, etc.

In the first second he goes up to her, for that BRIEF MOMENT, that INSTANT, once again, just like before, she had the SAME look, she wasn’t sure how she felt or not, but THIS TIME HE WASN’T LOOKING FOR HER DAMN APPROVAL!!!!!!!!!

And so, just like in REAL LIFE, she FLIPS over from mental state of “not sure about this guy”, to very quickly, “Let’s PARTY with this guy!”.

It all happens so FAST, yet it is a MASSIVE transition! In that INSTANT, that micro-second, there is that moment of NOT GETTING APPROVAL, and if you WAIT for the approval, it NEVER COMES.

However, if you TAKE OVER THE FRAME, then THE WOMEN COME TO YOU.

It’s as simple as that.

Now, the thing is, the ‘cocaine’ route is the WEAK path, and the path that doesn’t LAST. And he pays for it as we see in the film. But in REALITY, you don’t NEED cocaine. The reality, in fact, was that the woman didn’t CHANGE because of his cocaine, and HE didn’t change because of the cocaine.

The cocaine just made it EASY for him to temporarily LET GO OF ALL THE B.S. and all the artificial behaviors he was showing.

Yes, artificial, because he was NOT showing himself before, he was trying to make sure he fit into HER world. The irony is that he was taking the cocaine to actually let loose who HE really was all the time, and not just let loose, but to truly REVEL in his identity and to allow OTHERS to experience his presence at full force.

You have to have CONVICTION in yourself with complete force. You must not allow something like a woman not doing cartwheels for you at first glance to be a reason to EJECT from a conversation.

If you've approached a woman, and you're at the point about talking about meeting up or getting her number or whatever,and she says she can't because she's busy for the next few days or whatever, do NOT eject or think it's over.

Just tell her, "You're busy? Me too, so you understand I can't spend all my time with you. Now, give me your number."

THIS is the kind of attitude that sparks ATTRACTION and that makes a woman feels she now WANTS to know you.  It's also crucial to understand that this comment of being busy, etc, is to be coming from a place of EMPOWERMENT, SELF-BELIEF, AND PLAYFULNESS, and not from some kind of needy desperate frame.

In other words, the desire to meet up with her is coming from a belief that you BOTH will enjoy it.

Now, if you don't believe me, that this is how attraction works, start asking around and you'll see that the MAJORITY of the time, the women who are with guys, especially if the women are attractive, were not so sure at first glance if they really wanted to be with this guy or not. 

If you eject too fast, if you allow the frame of OTHERS to dictate your reality, you won't get ANYWHERE with women, especially the really gorgeous ones.

And if you're reading this right now, I SERIOUSLY suggest you download my "ATTRACTION ACCELERATORS" program IMMEDIATELY.

This program is PACKED with pure GOLD on what to do to attract women ANYWHERE you see them.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Can You Attract Women By Being Yourself?

Have you ever wondered if it's possible to
truly attract a woman by being yourself?

This was always very important to me,
because I hated the idea that I would
have to pretend to be something other
than who I really am, in order to
attract a woman.

Well, the good news is that there IS
a way to attract women and to still
be yourself.

And this is how to do it:

Success with getting a true quality woman
inside and out requires that you destroy
any behaviors in you that are a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.

These overcompensation behaviors are in
fact MISREPRESENTING who you REALLY are,
and the tragedy is that when guys perform
these overcompensation behaviors, they
end up pushing women AWAY.

Today, I want explain this in detail and
share with you how a man has used the
Get A Great Girl materials to change his
LIFE in this way.

One crucial thing to keep in mind is that
when you actually start to GET results,
you will find that it comes from
TRUE DEEP LEVEL change-- something far
greater and deeper than learning superficial
"pick up lines" and "tactics."

Suddenly, you start to notice that you are
getting incredible reactions and results
from the highest quality women, without
even TRYING. But to GET to this level,
you have to get the knowledge, the insight,
and the maturity first.

Here we go:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael, it's a rare occasion when I decide to
sit down and share how my life has changed
because of some of your material.

When I was younger and inexperienced girls
actually flocked to me...before they knew
any better. I hit college bright-eyed and
thinking the world was my oyster. Then
I started getting rejection, after rejection,
and then started looking in the wrong places
and attracting girls that most would claim to
be less than virtuous.

I developed an attitude that women were
scandalous, indecisive game players. It was
like they had all the control, and there was
no such thing as a good woman left.

The one word that would sum up my behavior
during this time is OVERCOMPENSATION.

I tried to act so cool that it seemed I wasn't even
excited to talk to a nice girl. I held my cards so
close to my chest that eventually they lost interest.

It was a vicious cycle. I found material of other
"dating experts" that honestly caused me go
into a downward spiral, but then I found yours.

There is so much to say, and not sure where to
start, but one MAJOR thing I need to mention
is that your material allowed me to relax, to stop
pressuring myself, and I started to focus on having
a good time and meeting new people. And at the
drop of a hat girls really started noticing me.

I'm no longer getting blown off, at all. So now
I can do the choosing. It's almost so simple that
it makes me nauseated to look back at how
incorrect my previous approach was.

Being masculine is just natural for a guy, but
I was pushing it to ridiculous levels, and the
women could smell it from a mile away.

I also want to recommend something else that
has helped me immensely. Burt Goldman has a
website www.theamericanmonk.com, which
involves almost one hundred meditation exercises
that can help you overcome fears, become motivated,
view others as equals, and just gain a positive
outlook on life.

You both come from the set of ideals. There are
good people left in the world and like attracts like.
The only person who ever held me back was myself.
You and Burt have helped me realize this.

Specific examples of what I learned: The best example
is that I reached a point of desperation. Which women
certainly smell on you like a foul odor.

After having my heart ripped to shreds a few times
I decided to change my ways, so I read a few ebooks
from different people about dating. They said, in so
many words, to become Mr. Cool. I became a robot.
Never showing emotion. I overcompensated for my
own insecurities.

Every girl I approached could tell I was approaching
her for a reason. There was awkwardness dripping off
me. I was fearful in every approach, obviously because
I just knew I was about to face another rejection.

I really hit rock bottom. I found your material and
realized that I needed to work on myself first. Number
one was to stop being so hard on myself. Number two
was to learn how to have a good time and take as
many people with me as possible. Trying to be the best,
or funniest, or best looking, or smartest, is just plain BS.

I am who I am, and now I'm perfectly okay with that.
It's not about what you say to a woman, within reason
of course, but more about being sure of yourself and
comfortable with yourself. Being open and honest,
because THEN you gain the confidence to make
eye contact and say things with conviction.

The greatest part of all is that my once huge EGO
is now just a tiny voice. I don't approach women
anymore, things just sort of happen. Single women
are always scanning and they notice me and my
friends having a great time, relaxed and free.

One specific example is at a wedding reception I
got to the bar at the same time as one of the bride's
maids and said "Paper, rock, scissors" to see who
would get to order first. We've had several dates
since then. She has never blown me off, and never
will because I have hidden nothing from her.

She trusts me. When a woman trusts you it really
opens up a whole other realm of connection that
I never got to with women before, because in the
past I was too busy hiding my feelings from them.

My attitude has become very positive and it radiates
from me. I've noticed at work and among friends that
people pay more attention to me when I speak and
laugh more when I'm around. I no longer concentrate
on the details of an encounter with a woman, I just
let myself go, because honestly it's about NOT
GIVING A F&#@ what anybody thinks about you,
but not in an angry way, in a peaceful way.

I think I've rambled on enough michael. I apologize
if I didn't give you enough details, but I honestly just
changed my entire perspective, my entire paradigm
of reality. It's not so important that the next girl I meet
is the one I marry, or is my girlfriend because everyone
else around me has one.

It's about meeting new people and enjoying the
experience. You would be surprised how many people
will give you the reassurance you need just by the
look in their eyes when they are around you.

It's important to remember that we are all equals as
humans, just because you are the new cool guy
on the block doesn't make you any better than
anyone else. Cocky is fake, cocky is crap, arrogant
is just plain retarded. A woman wants to be
loved by a real man who knows that it's just
plain alright to be himself.

Thanks, J.M.
Louisiana

>>>MY COMMENTS<<<

Thank you for sharing your experiences in
applying the materials- what I love best
is how now you are truly CHANGED on
a massive, DEEP level, a level that is truly
YOU that has changed, so that everything
you do now flows from who you have
BECOME, and it all comes out PERFECT.

So you don't need lines, you don't need
to fake, you don't need to do anything
now. You have gone through the
TRUE transformation.

And this makes you extremely RARE.
And of course, this makes you more
VALUABLE.

Women are even better than men at reading
body language, and this ESPECIALLY applies
to a quality woman who is on the lookout for
a REAL MAN who has all the right personality
traits as well.

This is backed up by evidence in a book called
"The Definitive Book of Body Language" by
Allan and Barbara Pease. One very revealing
and interesting point stated inside the book is
that women are much more perceptive about
body language than men. He reasons that this
is so because women have a much more heightened
awareness about body language and facial
expressions because it is a necessary skill for
mothering.

Because infants obviously cannot speak, their
mothers have to be able to read them to know
whether they are happy, cranky, or in distress.
The author goes on to state that this skill is
inherent with women and is used also in
general socializing situations as well, whereas
men tend to be more oblivious to this skill.

So you can see just how MASSIVELY important
it is that you are not a "player" who PRETENDS
or "plays" that he is some type of person that
he is really not, or who is anything other than
an real man of strength, of integrity, of courage.

Human beings follow COURAGE, and women
ESPECIALLY so.

And it takes courage to tell a woman how you
feel, just as it takes courage to also stand up
for what is the RIGHT thing to do, to calmly
SHOW a woman the RIGHT way to behave,
and it takes courage to WALK AWAY from
the WRONG woman, no matter how tempting
it might seem to be.

And yet, you MUST be this type of man, if
you want to attract a woman of EQUAL
courage, of equally strong character, of
true integrity. She is TESTING you to
see how much of a man you are in the
most MEANINGFUL sense of the word-
and this has nothing to do with learning
cheesy lines, magic tricks, or "pick up
artist" routines.

Learning how to have the right body language
has nothing to do with learning "body language"
moves, contrary to popular belief.

It has to do with the way you LIVE, the way you
THINK, the way you FEEL. ONLY by doing it
this way will your body language TRULY show
that you are THE MAN in the greatest sense.

I also want to say a big thanks to Alex regarding
this point- you know who you are!

And another thing she is testing for is to see
how DEVELOPED you are in your ability to
actually listen and understand another person-
not just her but people in general.

It really is amazing how AWFUL most people's
listening skills are- without even realizing it,
most of us are not even properly HEARING other
people's sentences, because we subconsciously
allow our own biases to BLOCK out the words.

There is an incredible experiment where people
in white shirts and black shirts are passing a
basketball, and the group watching is told
to watch for how many passes the white shirted
people are making. Because they are so busy
watching the white shirts, at least 50% of the
people don't even NOTICE that a guy in a
GORRILA suit is walking right AMONGST
the people passing the ball!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Most people have no clue of how biased their
perception is and how they have "tunnel vision".
Now, factor in things like fear, and fear of being
burned by a woman, and things like a bad
experience with one or two women, and now
imagine how MASSIVELY that will distort
your communication with a woman, even if
she is AWESOME.

And imagine now much that will cause you to
REPEL just about all women, but ESPECIALLY
the very best of women who have worked on
this part of themselves and who realize how
damaging this is to any future relationship!!!!
Such a quality woman will have zero tolerance
for this lack of communication skill.

I also want to quickly zero in on an important
insight regarding that total destroyer of
chemistry: OVERCOMPENSATION.

Yes, overcompensation is EXACTLY what most
people and most guys tend to do for any
insecurity, and the irony is that it actually
INCREASES the chance that that very fear
will come true, because overcompensation
behavior tends to attack the other or to
attack yourself:

So by not showing a woman any emotion, you
are showing that you don't trust her, and she
feels this, and now senses that therefore she
shouldn't trust you either.

And if you overcompensate in the other direction,
i.e. "kissing up" well then you are showing that
you have no value, and you are delivering that
message to your own mind and that makes you
very insecure and that leads to you destroying
your natural charisma. And that destroys
your ability to generate humor, to be cool
on every level.

In, fact, black and white thinking, which I
describe in detail in my book, is a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.

In order to create SIMPLICITY and to protect
ourselves from pain and risk, we come up with
these crazy OVER-SIMPLIFICATIONS, that
i.e. "all women are like this" or "all women
are like that". "If you don't learn pick up
artist tactics, then all women will abuse
you and she will cheat with a pick up artist"
which is a favorite FEAR TACTIC the
pick up artist and "dating gurus" love
to use on innocent men--of course,
this FEAR that is bred into men by
these supposed experts actually
DESTROYS these men's charisma.

Black and white thinking is ALWAYS a sign
that a person is OFF the right track. Real life
is never black and white.

And in fact, a great woman will RECOGNIZE
"black and white" thinking patterns in you
if you are exhibiting them- whether they be
black and white perspectives on religion,
on women, on ANYTHING.

All this is a part of MATURITY and of having
the courage to not need to hide under a
psychological blanket of lies that pretends
you can protect yourself if you just tell
yourself "all women are the same" and
thus supposedly avoid all risk.

In real life, there are all kinds of women,
and if you want to get a GREAT woman,
then you have to become a GREAT man,
and you have to be able to detect who is
a quality woman and who isn't.

And if you want to do that, then I suggest
you get my "Inner Game" program on how
to attract the best quality women without
having to 'fake' or put on an 'overcompensation
act'.

This program will show you the things you
need to know to actually GET a quality
woman, and nothing less. And it will
do all this by actually enriching who
YOU are. It has nothing to do with
changing women at all, it has nothing
to do with learning "tactics" to get
a woman to change - that never works.

It has to do with making you about a billion
times more powerful in understanding her,
in unleashing your natural charisma, in
your ability to instantly get people to feel
FANTASTIC in your presence. As the man
who wrote in says, it's about taking
as many people WITH you psychologically
UP to a fantastic place where the truth is,
EVERY HUMAN WANTS TO BE.

And it's all at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my
"Obliterating Approach Anxiety" program,
do that now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/obliterating.html

And I'll see you again here soon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks