Can You Attract Women By Being Yourself?

Have you ever wondered if it's possible to
truly attract a woman by being yourself?

This was always very important to me,
because I hated the idea that I would
have to pretend to be something other
than who I really am, in order to
attract a woman.

Well, the good news is that there IS
a way to attract women and to still
be yourself.

And this is how to do it:

Success with getting a true quality woman
inside and out requires that you destroy
any behaviors in you that are a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.

These overcompensation behaviors are in
fact MISREPRESENTING who you REALLY are,
and the tragedy is that when guys perform
these overcompensation behaviors, they
end up pushing women AWAY.

Today, I want explain this in detail and
share with you how a man has used the
Get A Great Girl materials to change his
LIFE in this way.

One crucial thing to keep in mind is that
when you actually start to GET results,
you will find that it comes from
TRUE DEEP LEVEL change-- something far
greater and deeper than learning superficial
"pick up lines" and "tactics."

Suddenly, you start to notice that you are
getting incredible reactions and results
from the highest quality women, without
even TRYING. But to GET to this level,
you have to get the knowledge, the insight,
and the maturity first.

Here we go:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael, it's a rare occasion when I decide to
sit down and share how my life has changed
because of some of your material.

When I was younger and inexperienced girls
actually flocked to me...before they knew
any better. I hit college bright-eyed and
thinking the world was my oyster. Then
I started getting rejection, after rejection,
and then started looking in the wrong places
and attracting girls that most would claim to
be less than virtuous.

I developed an attitude that women were
scandalous, indecisive game players. It was
like they had all the control, and there was
no such thing as a good woman left.

The one word that would sum up my behavior
during this time is OVERCOMPENSATION.

I tried to act so cool that it seemed I wasn't even
excited to talk to a nice girl. I held my cards so
close to my chest that eventually they lost interest.

It was a vicious cycle. I found material of other
"dating experts" that honestly caused me go
into a downward spiral, but then I found yours.

There is so much to say, and not sure where to
start, but one MAJOR thing I need to mention
is that your material allowed me to relax, to stop
pressuring myself, and I started to focus on having
a good time and meeting new people. And at the
drop of a hat girls really started noticing me.

I'm no longer getting blown off, at all. So now
I can do the choosing. It's almost so simple that
it makes me nauseated to look back at how
incorrect my previous approach was.

Being masculine is just natural for a guy, but
I was pushing it to ridiculous levels, and the
women could smell it from a mile away.

I also want to recommend something else that
has helped me immensely. Burt Goldman has a
website www.theamericanmonk.com, which
involves almost one hundred meditation exercises
that can help you overcome fears, become motivated,
view others as equals, and just gain a positive
outlook on life.

You both come from the set of ideals. There are
good people left in the world and like attracts like.
The only person who ever held me back was myself.
You and Burt have helped me realize this.

Specific examples of what I learned: The best example
is that I reached a point of desperation. Which women
certainly smell on you like a foul odor.

After having my heart ripped to shreds a few times
I decided to change my ways, so I read a few ebooks
from different people about dating. They said, in so
many words, to become Mr. Cool. I became a robot.
Never showing emotion. I overcompensated for my
own insecurities.

Every girl I approached could tell I was approaching
her for a reason. There was awkwardness dripping off
me. I was fearful in every approach, obviously because
I just knew I was about to face another rejection.

I really hit rock bottom. I found your material and
realized that I needed to work on myself first. Number
one was to stop being so hard on myself. Number two
was to learn how to have a good time and take as
many people with me as possible. Trying to be the best,
or funniest, or best looking, or smartest, is just plain BS.

I am who I am, and now I'm perfectly okay with that.
It's not about what you say to a woman, within reason
of course, but more about being sure of yourself and
comfortable with yourself. Being open and honest,
because THEN you gain the confidence to make
eye contact and say things with conviction.

The greatest part of all is that my once huge EGO
is now just a tiny voice. I don't approach women
anymore, things just sort of happen. Single women
are always scanning and they notice me and my
friends having a great time, relaxed and free.

One specific example is at a wedding reception I
got to the bar at the same time as one of the bride's
maids and said "Paper, rock, scissors" to see who
would get to order first. We've had several dates
since then. She has never blown me off, and never
will because I have hidden nothing from her.

She trusts me. When a woman trusts you it really
opens up a whole other realm of connection that
I never got to with women before, because in the
past I was too busy hiding my feelings from them.

My attitude has become very positive and it radiates
from me. I've noticed at work and among friends that
people pay more attention to me when I speak and
laugh more when I'm around. I no longer concentrate
on the details of an encounter with a woman, I just
let myself go, because honestly it's about NOT
GIVING A F&#@ what anybody thinks about you,
but not in an angry way, in a peaceful way.

I think I've rambled on enough michael. I apologize
if I didn't give you enough details, but I honestly just
changed my entire perspective, my entire paradigm
of reality. It's not so important that the next girl I meet
is the one I marry, or is my girlfriend because everyone
else around me has one.

It's about meeting new people and enjoying the
experience. You would be surprised how many people
will give you the reassurance you need just by the
look in their eyes when they are around you.

It's important to remember that we are all equals as
humans, just because you are the new cool guy
on the block doesn't make you any better than
anyone else. Cocky is fake, cocky is crap, arrogant
is just plain retarded. A woman wants to be
loved by a real man who knows that it's just
plain alright to be himself.

Thanks, J.M.
Louisiana

>>>MY COMMENTS<<<

Thank you for sharing your experiences in
applying the materials- what I love best
is how now you are truly CHANGED on
a massive, DEEP level, a level that is truly
YOU that has changed, so that everything
you do now flows from who you have
BECOME, and it all comes out PERFECT.

So you don't need lines, you don't need
to fake, you don't need to do anything
now. You have gone through the
TRUE transformation.

And this makes you extremely RARE.
And of course, this makes you more
VALUABLE.

Women are even better than men at reading
body language, and this ESPECIALLY applies
to a quality woman who is on the lookout for
a REAL MAN who has all the right personality
traits as well.

This is backed up by evidence in a book called
"The Definitive Book of Body Language" by
Allan and Barbara Pease. One very revealing
and interesting point stated inside the book is
that women are much more perceptive about
body language than men. He reasons that this
is so because women have a much more heightened
awareness about body language and facial
expressions because it is a necessary skill for
mothering.

Because infants obviously cannot speak, their
mothers have to be able to read them to know
whether they are happy, cranky, or in distress.
The author goes on to state that this skill is
inherent with women and is used also in
general socializing situations as well, whereas
men tend to be more oblivious to this skill.

So you can see just how MASSIVELY important
it is that you are not a "player" who PRETENDS
or "plays" that he is some type of person that
he is really not, or who is anything other than
an real man of strength, of integrity, of courage.

Human beings follow COURAGE, and women
ESPECIALLY so.

And it takes courage to tell a woman how you
feel, just as it takes courage to also stand up
for what is the RIGHT thing to do, to calmly
SHOW a woman the RIGHT way to behave,
and it takes courage to WALK AWAY from
the WRONG woman, no matter how tempting
it might seem to be.

And yet, you MUST be this type of man, if
you want to attract a woman of EQUAL
courage, of equally strong character, of
true integrity. She is TESTING you to
see how much of a man you are in the
most MEANINGFUL sense of the word-
and this has nothing to do with learning
cheesy lines, magic tricks, or "pick up
artist" routines.

Learning how to have the right body language
has nothing to do with learning "body language"
moves, contrary to popular belief.

It has to do with the way you LIVE, the way you
THINK, the way you FEEL. ONLY by doing it
this way will your body language TRULY show
that you are THE MAN in the greatest sense.

I also want to say a big thanks to Alex regarding
this point- you know who you are!

And another thing she is testing for is to see
how DEVELOPED you are in your ability to
actually listen and understand another person-
not just her but people in general.

It really is amazing how AWFUL most people's
listening skills are- without even realizing it,
most of us are not even properly HEARING other
people's sentences, because we subconsciously
allow our own biases to BLOCK out the words.

There is an incredible experiment where people
in white shirts and black shirts are passing a
basketball, and the group watching is told
to watch for how many passes the white shirted
people are making. Because they are so busy
watching the white shirts, at least 50% of the
people don't even NOTICE that a guy in a
GORRILA suit is walking right AMONGST
the people passing the ball!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Most people have no clue of how biased their
perception is and how they have "tunnel vision".
Now, factor in things like fear, and fear of being
burned by a woman, and things like a bad
experience with one or two women, and now
imagine how MASSIVELY that will distort
your communication with a woman, even if
she is AWESOME.

And imagine now much that will cause you to
REPEL just about all women, but ESPECIALLY
the very best of women who have worked on
this part of themselves and who realize how
damaging this is to any future relationship!!!!
Such a quality woman will have zero tolerance
for this lack of communication skill.

I also want to quickly zero in on an important
insight regarding that total destroyer of
chemistry: OVERCOMPENSATION.

Yes, overcompensation is EXACTLY what most
people and most guys tend to do for any
insecurity, and the irony is that it actually
INCREASES the chance that that very fear
will come true, because overcompensation
behavior tends to attack the other or to
attack yourself:

So by not showing a woman any emotion, you
are showing that you don't trust her, and she
feels this, and now senses that therefore she
shouldn't trust you either.

And if you overcompensate in the other direction,
i.e. "kissing up" well then you are showing that
you have no value, and you are delivering that
message to your own mind and that makes you
very insecure and that leads to you destroying
your natural charisma. And that destroys
your ability to generate humor, to be cool
on every level.

In, fact, black and white thinking, which I
describe in detail in my book, is a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.

In order to create SIMPLICITY and to protect
ourselves from pain and risk, we come up with
these crazy OVER-SIMPLIFICATIONS, that
i.e. "all women are like this" or "all women
are like that". "If you don't learn pick up
artist tactics, then all women will abuse
you and she will cheat with a pick up artist"
which is a favorite FEAR TACTIC the
pick up artist and "dating gurus" love
to use on innocent men--of course,
this FEAR that is bred into men by
these supposed experts actually
DESTROYS these men's charisma.

Black and white thinking is ALWAYS a sign
that a person is OFF the right track. Real life
is never black and white.

And in fact, a great woman will RECOGNIZE
"black and white" thinking patterns in you
if you are exhibiting them- whether they be
black and white perspectives on religion,
on women, on ANYTHING.

All this is a part of MATURITY and of having
the courage to not need to hide under a
psychological blanket of lies that pretends
you can protect yourself if you just tell
yourself "all women are the same" and
thus supposedly avoid all risk.

In real life, there are all kinds of women,
and if you want to get a GREAT woman,
then you have to become a GREAT man,
and you have to be able to detect who is
a quality woman and who isn't.

And if you want to do that, then I suggest
you get my "Inner Game" program on how
to attract the best quality women without
having to 'fake' or put on an 'overcompensation
act'.

This program will show you the things you
need to know to actually GET a quality
woman, and nothing less. And it will
do all this by actually enriching who
YOU are. It has nothing to do with
changing women at all, it has nothing
to do with learning "tactics" to get
a woman to change - that never works.

It has to do with making you about a billion
times more powerful in understanding her,
in unleashing your natural charisma, in
your ability to instantly get people to feel
FANTASTIC in your presence. As the man
who wrote in says, it's about taking
as many people WITH you psychologically
UP to a fantastic place where the truth is,
EVERY HUMAN WANTS TO BE.

And it's all at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my
"Obliterating Approach Anxiety" program,
do that now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/obliterating.html

And I'll see you again here soon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Be A "Star" With Women

There are a lot of famous people out there.
They're not STARS though.

A star is both LOVED and FEARED at the same
time. That's because they are so cool and
inspirational that they are loved, and yet
their POWER to affect people in their own
way is so massive, it even stirs FEAR.

If Superman were to exist for real, you
can be sure people would love him and
also fear him.

There IS a thing that is REAL though,
that exists very much in your grasp,
that makes you stand out from other guys,
that compensates for ANY lacking you might
think you have, and that absolutely DOES
draw women to you, and it does it FAST.

This thing is called CHARISMA.

Lots of people out there who say they can
teach it, but then when it comes right down
to it, they give you get the same old thing-
some of them specialize in pick up lines,
others just lots of talk about confidence, etc.

But then the moment of truth comes-
the girl of your dreams is right in
front of you:

Now what?!

Suddenly, all that advice feels far
away, hard to translate into reality.

How the heck do we really UNLEASH charisma?

By REMOVING our own BARRIERS to it.

So let’s DETONATE this volatile force
called CHARISMA.

Charisma is often a double-edged sword,
because in real life, charismatic people are
usually both LOVED and they are also HATED.

The most famous and powerful people you
know are all loved and hated, guaranteed.

If you are a nice NOBODY, then you
will not be disliked by ANYBODY.

The MOMENT you start to succeed at
ANYTHING, you will notice that some
people like you and others are jealous,
or spiteful, or they fear you for being
different, etc, etc, etc.

Have you noticed that?

If you improve your body at the gym,
some people will want to congratulate
you, learn from you, other people you
know might make fun of you for being
a muscle-head, or they might even try
to tell you how unhealthy it is to
exercise!

If you improve yourself in any way,
including the action of approaching women,
you will notice some people love this
and others will dislike you for this.

And therein lies the contradiction that is
the KEY to charisma.

Charisma is born when you FREE YOURSELF
to truly EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE.

And that means accepting the fallout of this.

Most people are afraid of criticism, afraid of
failure, afraid of rejection.

Hey, it’s human.

However, there is something far WORSE to
fear- and that is a life of you not being YOU.

That’s like not living at all, but most people
don’t think about this.

Instead, they try their damn hardest to FIT IN.

And fitting in means not being made FUN OF.

Now, if you make sure to never do anything
to made fun of, you will succeed in this, and
always be SAFE.

You’ll wear the normal jeans everyone is wearing.

You’ll take up the hobbies that are normal.

You’ll have normal friends.

You’ll say the normal things.

You’ll spend your time thinking about normal things.

If anyone seems STRANGE, you’ll push them
away lest you be associated with a possible
weirdo.

You’ll find out what’s popular in music,
what’s popular and normal everywhere,
and get a normal job, etc.

You’re safe from being labeled as the weirdo.

The thing is, there is a very FINE line between
being the COOLEST guy around and being
a supposed “weirdo”.

The coolest people usually are considered weird
by a LOT of people, on the surface anyway, but
deep down these same people often actually WISH
they could be like this person, and of course everyone
else ADMIRES this person and gets inspired by
this person.

Now, if think about some of the coolest people that
come to mind, you’ll find that they defy the normal
rules but they are so cool that for some reasons it’s
“okay” for them to do this.

And the thing is, they never ASKED for this
permission, and nobody ever really GAVE
it to them either! They just DID it, and
eventually people accepted and admired!

Have you ever seen the show “American Idol”?
Unknown singers from across the country
compete to win a recording contract.

Most of the singers want to WIN so badly,
they LOSE for an ironic reason:

It’s because they try so hard to be
what they think everyone else WANTS!

A little while ago, a singer named Chris Daughtry
was REJECTED by Simon Cowell, who is the
most outspoken judge on American Idol.

Simon thought Daughtry "lacked charisma".

Did Daughtry change up his method?
Change his style?

NOPE.

So when one of the biggest names and most influential
people in the music biz told him he did NOT think
he had talent, Daughtry just IMMERSED HIMSELF
in being EVEN MORE HIMSELF.

And even though he may have lost the show, he won
in the real world- record sales and concerts, selling
millions of records.  And his first hit song was all
about being true to himself and his roots- "HOME":



And last year was an even more extreme example
of someone who DEFIED the temptation to fit in,
in just about every way you can imagine possible-
and he wasn't doing it to piss anyone off, he was
just being HIMSELF in every way:

Adam Lambert TOTALLY defied criticism
from Simon, who said he was “too theatrical”
and "not current" with what is popular, and
what did Adam do?

He POURED on MORE theatrics- from his
presentation to the way he dressed and of
course the style in which he sang.

Now, I totally know he is not straight, but
the fact is he is a fantastic example of
being fearless in being yourself and
letting that be expressed in a cool way.

He truly cared more about expressing
HIS style of performing music, rather
than just WINNING.  And that is
actually the ironic truth about
winning, you often win the most
when you are passionate about
the thing itself and not just about
the winning that comes from being
great at that thing.

This fearless attitude in expression
took his performances on the show
THROUGH THE ROOF- it’s not just his
voice, you could tell he was drawing on
his own pain, his own history, his own
perspectives, and it came through in
everything he was doing. If this guy
was straight, he’d have more girls than
a thousand harems could hold.

It's extremely rare that an artist can do a
cover from an already famous song
and truly do it justice and give it his
own spin that feels authentic.



He was FEARLESS in being himself.

That makes a man very powerful and dangerous
in a GOOD way- because it gives you the confidence
to really LET YOU RELEASE YOUR PERSONALITY
IN FULL FORCE, COME HELL OR HIGH WATER.

People say ‘be yourself’ but it’s NOT EASY.

Most people who say it are not even doing it themselves.

When you really BECOME yourself, as ironic
and weird as that sounds, you become something
EXTRAORDINARY, and this is the charisma
that exudes from your every pore when this happens.

It shows in everything you do, even the subtle
expression on your face.

So, the FIRST way to apply this when it comes
to your interactions with women and when it
comes to “approaching a woman” is this:

1. ASK YOURSELF IF YOU ARE INTERESTED,
AND IF THE ANSWER IS YES, ACCEPT ALL
CONSEQUENCES.

So if you see a woman you’d like to approach,
and you don’t see a wedding ring or something
like that, then just ask yourself- are you attracted?

If you ARE, then ACCEPT all the consequences
that you FEAR might happen.

ACCEPT them all, because the alternative is WORSE.

So whether you think you’ll be arrested for
talking to her (you won’t but you might still
fear that you will- accept it and move ahead),
whether you fear that she will make fun of you,
whether you fear that everyone else is looking,
ACCEPT IT ALL, because there is one thing
that matters MORE than all that- and that is
you being YOURSELF.

If you don’t go up to her, you are actually
DENYING your own IDENTITY.

See, the way I look at it, it’s not about
WINNING THE GIRL, it’s about
BEING ME.

And THAT is the irony, because the more
it’s about you doing your thing and NOT
seeking approval, the BETTER
she will like you, because you will not be
trying to impress her, you will not be trying
to be somebody else, you will not do the
same old thing that everyone else is doing.

And you will be more genuine and authentic.

STEP TWO: MOVE AHEAD

The second step is CONTINUING to talk
to her in a way that is consistent with your
values, perspectives, sense of humor, etc.

So for example, if you are at the gym
and you see a woman you want to chat to,
you can just go over to her and say ‘Hey
instead of staring at you a thousand times,
I figured I’d just come over and say hi”
and from there you can talk about
working out, you can ask her about her
workout, the main thing is keep it AUTHENTIC.

You can even say that you don't have
time to chat much since you have to
get back to your workout.

In your brain, the moment you ACCEPT
all the potential NEGATIVE FALLOUT
of you being yourself, is the moment you
are FREE to really EXPRESS YOUR
AUTHENTIC IDENTITY- you will then
start to say the right things, do the right
things, you’ll be funnier, more charming,
more dominant, in an authentic way she
can feel a million times more than
she would from a guy trying his luck with
some pick up lines or other equally
false approaches.

Forget all this talk about “winning”, instead
let everyone ELSE worry about trying to fit
into YOUR paradigm of the world rather than
the other way around.

This is why it’s so important that you HAVE
a point of view.

I’m not talking about ignorant opinions, but
rather informed, educated, passionate thoughts
about things.

THIS is contagious, this is cool, this is
what wakes her UP and is like a breath
of fresh air in a world of boring CLONES.

Don’t be afraid to ROCK THE BOAT, but
don’t rock the boat JUST FOR THE SAKE
of rocking the boat. That looks “try hard”
and it in fact IS “try-hard” because it’s not
authentic.

A woman will be able to tell rather quickly
when a guy is not being authentic, because
any time you FAKE something, that thing
you are doing actually requires many other
things for it to seem REAL, so for example
if a guy tries to act like he’s a martial arts
master when he isn’t, he’ll end up doing
something that just doesn’t “vibe”- i.e.
he might be acting all macho when in
fact most martial arts masters don’t act
that way at all, BECAUSE they are
so secure.

The thing is to EMBRACE who you are
and to EMBRACE whatever it is you want
to learn and do, and not fear it.

This includes approaching and chatting to
a woman you’re interested in!

THREE: COMMIT TO IT FULLY

Again, if you REALLY believe in yourself, then
you don’t suddenly SOFTEN UP on being your
HARD CORE SELF just because she starts to
LIKE you.

This often happens when a guy starts to learn
about being successful with women, and then
he starts to show his confidence, and charisma
and he really BECOMES the “man” as I say,
but then at the very moment it starts to WORK,
and the woman starts to show interest in him,
he is SO HAPPY he is GETTING somewhere
with her that he is now TERRIFIED OF LOSING
HER.

So what does he do?

He gives UP all this cool stuff about him, he gives
UP his conviction in himself and his identity, and
now he starts to become a kiss-ass.

And you already know I don’t advocate being
a jerk at all, I actually think being a good guy
is where it’s at, but this good guy must come
from CONVICTION in himself, not from kiss ass!!!!!!

By the way, the very SAME thing happens
sometimes to STARS, whether they’re actors
or singers, or rock stars, etc. They start to
get famous, and they get huge deals and the
companies promoting them or the studios now
want to ENSURE success, so they STOP
taking chances and only pursue ‘safe’ type
music and movies for the masses.

This kind of thing happened to Stallone, to Eddie Murphy,
and several other stars, where the ORIGINAL QUALITY
about themselves that made them SUPERSTARS got faded
as they strayed from their identities- Stallone was never
supposed to just be some “action star” - he was a genius
who wrote ROCKY that won best picture.

Eddie Murphy was a raw, cutting edge comedian, he wasn’t
just doing kids flicks and remakes of famous movies for
Disney. When Stallone finally went back to his roots, he
started to slowly regain his identity as an actor.

Don’t allow yourself to stray from who
you really ARE, not even for the most
attractive woman on the planet.

The irony of course is that trying that hard to "please"
a woman will only push her away because it was
the REAL you she was attracted to, not the you
that was seeking to remake yourself in her image!

If you have a wild sense of humor, don’t
HIDE it from her, instead SHOW IT.

A lot of guys who are actually very
cool people suddenly CHANGE in front of
women and they become different entirely-
and it's a shame because actually women
DO want the real you, but most guys never
show the real them, only the weak version
of themselves, and they show the same boring
version of a guy that every OTHER guy is showing,
and every other guy is doing this for the same
reason- to fit in, to not be made fun of, to be cool.

It’s very ironic, but the more you try to be
someone, the worse it will be. This doesn’t
mean you can’t change and evolve and
grow as a person with time, in fact that
kind of change is good, because it comes
from YOU.

FOUR: REMOVE PRESSURE

The other great thing about you truly
committing to who you really are
and embracing all the crazy possibilities
that your imagination fears will happen
from being yourself – is that the woman
can SEE you are not “chasing” her,
you are not being mean, but you are not
chasing her either, which means she
can RELAX and make the decision
of whether she wants to talk to you
on her own.

And as every great salesman knows, the
best sales are NOT THE “HARD SELL”
but rather the sell that comes from the
customer herself wanting and making
the decision – and the irony is that
by not chasing her, she now must face
the possibility of LOSS.

This is not a tactic to manipulate her, it’s
the TRUTH, she may very WELL lose you if she
doesn’t do something here as well- she knows
she can’t just let it be ALL you, because you
aren’t willing to go THAT FAR, i.e. you are
not willing to keep on chasing approval from
someone who doesn’t already appreciate you.

When you try too hard to be what SHE wants,
you actually push her away, because she can
sense this decision is not something you want
HER to make, and she feels the pressure
she might have to do something she doesn’t
WANT to do.

But when you simply go nuts on being YOURSELF,
you not only do a better job making a cool impression
but you also allow her to create her OWN pressure
on herself to want you, as opposed to running from
YOUR pressure.

The best way to remove resistance is to create
no FORCE. Instead, let your force flow from
you being YOU- not the you that kisses up,
but the you that you would be with women
if you were willing to ACCEPT even the WORST
FEARS you had about you being yourself.

Again, the rock star comparison, think about
how totally UNCOOL it would be if
Guns'nRoses had been sitting around all
day doing press conferences and trying
to figure out what would sell and what
everyone wanted to hear! Imagine Axl Rose
doing “market research”.

The “market” whether it’s music lovers or
WOMEN LOOKING FOR MEN, they ALWAYS
want SOMETHING COMPELLING AND
UNIQUE.

How much do you believe in yourself if
what you do is based on a survey seeking
her approval?

Now, when you DO GENUINELY want
to give a compliment to a woman and it’s
not because you need her to give you
something BACK, then it’s perfectly
fine, when it’s not coming from worshipping
her or with a need to get something back.

FIVE: MIX IT ALL WITH PASSION/LOVE

This is VERY DIFFERENT from having this
submissive smile that comes really from fear and
the need to seek approval.

They say “love conquers all” but it’s misunderstood.
It’s not just about relationships, it’s about LOVE
in all its forms, including SELF-LOVE.

Let the LOVE flow ENDLESSLY, for yourself,
for your IDENTITY, FOR WHO YOU ARE,
for the things you love, and YES, for the
woman as well!

When you do things you LOVE, your entire
body language changes.

So for example, if you have a wacky sense of
humor, but are afraid women won’t get it,
TRY IT ANYWAY on them!

If you have some passionate love for something
that you fear others will find “weird”, who cares
if some might find it weird???? It’s who you
ARE, and chances are if you really are passionate
about it, you will SPARK that passion in women
as well at the very least to the point of them finding
you INTRIGUING AND DIFFERENT.

SIX: LARGER THAN LIFE

Now, the reality is that ‘reality’ can SUCK- it all
depends on which reality you want to focus on.

When you meet a woman, it’s not a cool thing
that you just REINFORCE in her mind that
life can be cruel, boring, unfair, tough, painful,
sad, etc.

However, if YOU can bring more FUN, MORE
COURAGE, MORE PLEASURE, MORE HUMOR,
MORE ADVENTURE, into your OWN perspectives
of things, then you can SHARE this with women.

Some people might argue that this is just a FANTASY
rather than living in reality.

But reality is whatever you are EXPERIENCING,
and if you spend a lifetime laughing and loving
and having great adventures, is that less real
than a life where you allowed yourself to
be bored, tired, upset, depressed, etc?

Learn to make a woman FEEL cool emotions
by focusing on the cool side of things that YOU
see, and you will have her eating out of your hand.

Let me illustrate the power this way:

The movie AVATAR has adventure, has romance,
has exotic locations, forests, wilderness, excitement,
danger, and ultimately a happy ending that within
the movie all feels REAL.

This movie has made over 2 BILLION dollars.

Now, there is another movie, it's more serious and
deals with grim REALITY, and it’s called The Hurt Locker.

It's won tons of Academy Awards, including best picture.

But it hasn't earned even 2% of what Avatar has.
Now, these movies are very different, it's apples
and oranges, I'm not judging one over the other-
I'm just saying one thing:

If you want to get a chance with a woman, take her
to an emotional place that is AWESOME, not depressing
or disturbing. 

This doesn't mean you have to always
IGNORE reality, sometimes in the midst of the
most GRIM realities is the most inspiring and
AMAZING emotional moments we can have
in life, IF you know how to see it.

The point is though, to take a woman somewhere
INTOXICATINGLY EMOTIONALLY POSITIVE.
Take her there by focusing the conversation on
the awesome perspectives you have, whether they
be funny, intriguing, or that help inspire or become
more at peace, or that are sensual without being vulgar.

And if you would like to learn the FULL picture on
how to do this and how to approach and attract a
GREAT woman, then I suggest you download
my book, ‘Get A Great Girl,’ at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

This book will show you how to SKYROCKET
your results with the best kind of woman, and it
has nothing to do with pick-up lines or sleazy
tactics.

It will show you the way to really meet the
best kinds of women, spark attraction in them,
as well as how to build a SUPER STRONG
foundation from the beginning so that things
STAY SMOOTH long term as well.

For my ADVANCED program on meeting
and approaching women ANYWHERE,
you need my SEDUCTION MASTERY
program. This program goes in-depth
into every detail of the approach, INCLUDING
mastering your ‘inner game’ as well.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks