Charisma Is MADE, Not Born

Although there are many ways to meet women,
including building up your social circle, or
through going online, my personal favorite is
the good ol' fashioned PRIMAL style:

SEE WOMAN, APPROACH WITH SKILL, GET WOMAN.

Does it always work?
Of course not, that's why MOST GUYS never DO it.

It's also why the guys who not only DO it,
but do it WELL, tend to get pretty awesome
results, ESPECIALLY if they do it a LOT.

To be blunt, it makes a pretty big statement
to a woman when you show her through this
kind of ACTION that you are DIFFERENT
from most men.

And hey, I'm NOT knocking the other ways
of meeting women, and in fact I've DONE
those ways as well, and they're totally
cool and fine!

But the thing is, the skills you get from
having to master REAL LIFE APPROACHES
end up making ALL THE OTHER WAYS seem
like CHILD'S PLAY.

But the reverse is not true.
Being confident while behind a screen
on the internet does not mean you will
be feeling as confident actually making
a real life approach to a woman who is
a total stranger.

Being witty when in the company of your
FRIENDS who happen to have invited a couple
women they know to a party is not the same
as being able to be witty and empowered and
on the ball when you suddenly must do it
on CUE when you see a woman on the train
in middle of a bunch of total strangers.

See what I mean?

And if a guy DOES meet a great woman using ANY method,
well then that is AWESOME SUCCESS, because as long as
you get what you want it IS success.

I'm just saying that I PERSONALLY find the
idea of making approaches to women to be
quite the DRAMATIC experience, and also
I have seen how the skills involved in
making a successful approach in real life
HELP you in meeting and attracting women
in every OTHER method such as online or
through your social circle, etc.

Some people like video games, some people
like to play poker. I think approaching
women is awesome.

And, it's not only the END result that
I like, it's the RUSH, it somehow feels
like one of the few POSITIVE things that
we can still do as men and women that harkens
back to the GOOD ELEMENT of our ANCIENT
SELVES.

There's something very INSTINCTIVE in
humans that AWAKENS when you take this
step.

When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are entering into the
'FORBIDDEN ZONE' in a cool way, that
society STILL seems unable to "modernize"
and I LOVE THIS, it's one of the only
ways to get in touch with who we are
as humans in the most EVOLUTIONARY
yet POSITIVE sense.

No twitter, no tv, no computer,
no technology to cover up or
to diminish the RAW EXPERIENCE.

This is about MAN and WOMAN coming TOGETHER.

It's what we were all BORN to do!!!!

And the fact that most people DON'T do this,
is what makes it even cooler, not just for YOU,
but for the WOMAN as well.

You're giving the woman that rare chance
for HER to experience this adventure that
brings out her most instinctive drive.

Now, doing it right involves a few skills,
it doesn't have to take forever, but it
does take a few skills, and the truth is
in a few weeks most men could get the
basics and do TEN TIMES BETTER with
women than they could before- IF they
actually kept up the practice.

But most guys don't get to the point of
developing the SKILL because they don't
even APPROACH in the first place.

Which brings me to Albert Ellis:

"Legendary psychologist Albert Ellis pioneered the
"shame-attacking exercise" in 1933 at age 19, when
he decided to approach every woman who sat down
alone on a bench at the New York Botanical Garden.

"Thirty walked away immediately," he told the
New York Times. "I talked with the other 100, for
the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was.
Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops."

And Ellis learned he wouldn't die from rejection.
Of the first 130 women he went up to, he got only
one date, he said, but "with the second 100, I got
good and made a few dates"--and, eventually, got
to be "one of the best picker-uppers of women in
the United States."
- Psychology Today Magazine, by Erika Casriel

Now, this is a guy who had ZERO information on
pick-up, and strictly worked on GUTS alone.

When I started out, I had no one to really
learn from, so I had to do the same thing,
learning it all the HARD way. If I could go
back in time, I could help his results MASSIVELY
by letting him know GUARANTEED ways to get
into the conversation without getting shut down
so that he buys himself the required two or three
minutes to actually SPARK attraction.

I would teach him various ways to disarm her
and charm her that would at least give him a
fighting chance, ways to take her automatic
responses she gives all guys to shut them
down and slip right by those statements.

For example, if she says that she is in a rush,
then the best thing to say is to actually NOT
ask her for a favour for a second, but to actually
let her know that you're in a rush as well, (so that
she can relax and not feel this is going to take
forever). If she says anything that is defensive,
the best way to diffuse it is to use warm
humor (i.e. if she says that she doesn't talk to
guys because guys are jerks, you should say
something like "I agree! That's why I'm talking
to you and not them" with a smile.) because you
need to change her emotional state not even
TRY to engage her actual argument or her
logic.

If she's smiling, she's no longer going to WANT
to shut you down.

The fact of the matter is that there are MANY
factors involved in a successful pick-up, and
KNOWING these in advance will HELP you
get more consistent results.

And one factor IS getting over your anxiety, yet at the
same time, it's important to realize that a BIT of anxiety
and fear is actually a GOOD thing!

It can work in your favor. Ask any martial artist
or any performer of anything and they will tell
you that fear, when controlled, can actually
ENHANCE your performance. It can help
you stay alert and be on the ball. For example,
if you are interacting with a woman and
you start showing off without realizing it
and she starts to roll her eyes, it's GOOD
that you feel a bit of discomfort at this, as
it MOTIVATES YOU to STEER THIS
PICK-UP PROPERLY and change gears
to showing that you are not full of yourself,
for example, by making a joke that is
SELF-DEPRECATING.

i.e. You're accidentally showing off about your
prestigious education and you then see her roll
her eyes, so you then say something like
"And of course, I then got my PhD in useless facts,
as we all know we learned more about real life
outside school."

This actually shows that you are far cooler and also
far more understanding and that you have more
empathy as well, all in one swift move.

Again, normally you wouldn't have to engage in
self-deprecating behavior, but in such as situation
it would be the right thing to do and would actually
make you seem cooler.

Now, if you have suffered major abuse yourself (and
I know what that is like, so I am absolutely NOT
makng light of this) then the anxiety of a social
interaction may be overwhelming, in which case you
should first work on building UP your desensitivity
to your fears so that you can take the anxiety of
a social interaction.

If we never felt ANY discomfort in a social interaction,
then we'd think we were PERFECT and never adjust
our behavior to help make the other person feel the
good vibes, and our social life would then SUCK.

Also, don't try to be PERFECT.
Don't try to build Rome in one day, or you will
feel that much FARTHER from progress and
you will feel even MORE anxiety.

Instead, keep taking STEPS, gradually
taking bigger and bigger steps, and
taking on more and more 'daring'
approaches with women.

I put 'daring' in quotes because you
will eventually see that this is FUN.

But just take it STEP by STEP for now.

When you are first learning these skills, you should
each day push your envelope a little farther. Start by
chatting up the clerks at stores, then work to starting
conversations anywhere with anyone, then work to
short conversations with women you're interested
in, then longer conversations, then to first dates,
then to getting physical, etc, etc.

THE KEY IS MOMENTUM.
DON'T STOP THE DAY TO DAY PROGRESS.

And if you don't believe me that great CHARISMA
is MADE and not BORN, let me give you some
examples from that same article:

"Conan O'Brien has said he knew that performing
live comedy was what he had to do because there
was nothing in the world that terrified him more.
But when he first debuted as host of NBC's Late Night
in 1993, ratings were abysmal and reviews were even
worse. Washington Post TV critic Tom Shales wrote
that O'Brien was "a living collage of annoying nervous
habits" and implored him to "get the heck off TV."
But he stuck it out, and years later, the critics ate
their words. Shales himself wrote that O'Brien became
"one of the greatest examples of a self-makeover in
television history"

Cool, isn't it.
By the way, Conan is happily married,
(a pretty cool feat in today's society) but
if he wasn't, I assure you, his confidence,
his humor, his wit, his rapport skills,
his social intelligence, would KICK ASS!

Here's some more:

"Comedic superstar Will Ferrell, who once
considered himself painfully shy, forced
himself to do crazy things in public. "In
college, I would push an overhead projector
across campus with my pants just low enough
to show my butt," Ferrell told People. "Then
my friend would incite the crowd to be like,
'Look at that idiot!' That's how I got over
being shy."

When I first started practicing, one of the
places I forced myself to go to were nightclubs.
I HATED it at first, and couldn't understand
how ANYONE could meet anyone in a place where
the music was so loud that you could barely
HEAR a word a woman said to you, plus it
was so dark, you could barely SEE anyone.

But, all these things are just ILLUSIONS,
they are NOT barriers at all, and learning
this helped me realize that ALL the "social
taboo of making approaches" was ALSO an
illusion.

Once I started teaching, some people even thought
that I must have ALWAYS been this "nightclub" guy.
That was a real compliment, because nothing could
be further from the truth.

At one time, the idea of going to MARS seemed more
comfortable than going to a club.

Now, I STILL don't think that nightclubs are the
best place for meeting a long term girlfriend,
HOWEVER, it was still useful to see how the
ILLUSIONS of "challenges" of meeting women
in a nightclub were a total JOKE.

Please believe me, that most women DO enjoy
being approached, even if they DON'T show it.

The thing is, it really helps a lot if you
do it RIGHT.

This stuff CAN be learned and MASTERED to the
point that it becomes effortless and natural.

Again, getting back to the NIGHTCLUBS lesson for me:
Not only was I not interested in that type of environment,
but I had no clue how the heck you can have a conversation
with all that noise and all those distractions and how
you can go from that to having not only a conversation
but to getting a real interaction and taking it to
a physical level all very fast. There was a time
you couldn't pay me a million dollars to be in
that environment.

So, if I could get over that, I knew that normal
environments would feel VERY comfortable me.

That motivated me to get good at this stuff,
and the reality is that it does NOT take that long,
but it DOES take MASSIVE DESIRE to succeed.

So DON'T THINK FOR A SECOND that "picking up women"
is beyond your ability, or beyond your personality.

Don't think that your anxiety is a BLOCK, because
even THAT can be controlled.

YOU can be the guy that OTHERS will say, "He's
a NATURAL at this" because from their perspective,
you will have improved THAT MUCH that others will
think this must have ALWAYS been something you
were great at.

And if YOU want to learn the DEEPEST levels of how
to be successful at 'pick-up' and how to attract the kind
of woman you are really interested in, then I suggest
you take advantage of my programs.

Years ago, I was training guys to not rely
routines, even as a bestselling author had
written a book that swore by the value of
memorized routines for picking up a woman.

This same author now agrees with what I said
YEARS ago that routines are actually not
necessary and that is very possible and in
fact PREFERABLE to not rely on them.

I've never resorted to manipulation or
abuse of women and I have always been
repelled by that idea, as well as repelled
by the idea of guys selling their self-esteem
just to get any "action" from a woman, because
they refused to learn how to actually spark
ATTRACTION.

I don't think I'm God, and I don't think I
have ALL the answers. However, I DO believe
that we must understand the deepest levels of
psychology and apply it to creating HARMONY
between men and women for a better world for
all of us. And we must learn from REAL
practice, as knowledge and theory without
practice is not enough.

This is about so much more than "getting action"
- it's about creating attraction on all levels
in the most powerful and meaningful way possible,
for the most lasting results with the kind of
woman you truly want in your life.

Somewhere, right this very moment, the
woman of your dreams is out there,
WISHING that you knew all this stuff
so that you could take effective action
and MEET her and enjoy life together!

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Be A "Star" With Women

There are a lot of famous people out there.
They're not STARS though.

A star is both LOVED and FEARED at the same
time. That's because they are so cool and
inspirational that they are loved, and yet
their POWER to affect people in their own
way is so massive, it even stirs FEAR.

If Superman were to exist for real, you
can be sure people would love him and
also fear him.

There IS a thing that is REAL though,
that exists very much in your grasp,
that makes you stand out from other guys,
that compensates for ANY lacking you might
think you have, and that absolutely DOES
draw women to you, and it does it FAST.

This thing is called CHARISMA.

Lots of people out there who say they can
teach it, but then when it comes right down
to it, they give you get the same old thing-
some of them specialize in pick up lines,
others just lots of talk about confidence, etc.

But then the moment of truth comes-
the girl of your dreams is right in
front of you:

Now what?!

Suddenly, all that advice feels far
away, hard to translate into reality.

How the heck do we really UNLEASH charisma?

By REMOVING our own BARRIERS to it.

So let’s DETONATE this volatile force
called CHARISMA.

Charisma is often a double-edged sword,
because in real life, charismatic people are
usually both LOVED and they are also HATED.

The most famous and powerful people you
know are all loved and hated, guaranteed.

If you are a nice NOBODY, then you
will not be disliked by ANYBODY.

The MOMENT you start to succeed at
ANYTHING, you will notice that some
people like you and others are jealous,
or spiteful, or they fear you for being
different, etc, etc, etc.

Have you noticed that?

If you improve your body at the gym,
some people will want to congratulate
you, learn from you, other people you
know might make fun of you for being
a muscle-head, or they might even try
to tell you how unhealthy it is to
exercise!

If you improve yourself in any way,
including the action of approaching women,
you will notice some people love this
and others will dislike you for this.

And therein lies the contradiction that is
the KEY to charisma.

Charisma is born when you FREE YOURSELF
to truly EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE.

And that means accepting the fallout of this.

Most people are afraid of criticism, afraid of
failure, afraid of rejection.

Hey, it’s human.

However, there is something far WORSE to
fear- and that is a life of you not being YOU.

That’s like not living at all, but most people
don’t think about this.

Instead, they try their damn hardest to FIT IN.

And fitting in means not being made FUN OF.

Now, if you make sure to never do anything
to made fun of, you will succeed in this, and
always be SAFE.

You’ll wear the normal jeans everyone is wearing.

You’ll take up the hobbies that are normal.

You’ll have normal friends.

You’ll say the normal things.

You’ll spend your time thinking about normal things.

If anyone seems STRANGE, you’ll push them
away lest you be associated with a possible
weirdo.

You’ll find out what’s popular in music,
what’s popular and normal everywhere,
and get a normal job, etc.

You’re safe from being labeled as the weirdo.

The thing is, there is a very FINE line between
being the COOLEST guy around and being
a supposed “weirdo”.

The coolest people usually are considered weird
by a LOT of people, on the surface anyway, but
deep down these same people often actually WISH
they could be like this person, and of course everyone
else ADMIRES this person and gets inspired by
this person.

Now, if think about some of the coolest people that
come to mind, you’ll find that they defy the normal
rules but they are so cool that for some reasons it’s
“okay” for them to do this.

And the thing is, they never ASKED for this
permission, and nobody ever really GAVE
it to them either! They just DID it, and
eventually people accepted and admired!

Have you ever seen the show “American Idol”?
Unknown singers from across the country
compete to win a recording contract.

Most of the singers want to WIN so badly,
they LOSE for an ironic reason:

It’s because they try so hard to be
what they think everyone else WANTS!

A little while ago, a singer named Chris Daughtry
was REJECTED by Simon Cowell, who is the
most outspoken judge on American Idol.

Simon thought Daughtry "lacked charisma".

Did Daughtry change up his method?
Change his style?

NOPE.

So when one of the biggest names and most influential
people in the music biz told him he did NOT think
he had talent, Daughtry just IMMERSED HIMSELF
in being EVEN MORE HIMSELF.

And even though he may have lost the show, he won
in the real world- record sales and concerts, selling
millions of records.  And his first hit song was all
about being true to himself and his roots- "HOME":



And last year was an even more extreme example
of someone who DEFIED the temptation to fit in,
in just about every way you can imagine possible-
and he wasn't doing it to piss anyone off, he was
just being HIMSELF in every way:

Adam Lambert TOTALLY defied criticism
from Simon, who said he was “too theatrical”
and "not current" with what is popular, and
what did Adam do?

He POURED on MORE theatrics- from his
presentation to the way he dressed and of
course the style in which he sang.

Now, I totally know he is not straight, but
the fact is he is a fantastic example of
being fearless in being yourself and
letting that be expressed in a cool way.

He truly cared more about expressing
HIS style of performing music, rather
than just WINNING.  And that is
actually the ironic truth about
winning, you often win the most
when you are passionate about
the thing itself and not just about
the winning that comes from being
great at that thing.

This fearless attitude in expression
took his performances on the show
THROUGH THE ROOF- it’s not just his
voice, you could tell he was drawing on
his own pain, his own history, his own
perspectives, and it came through in
everything he was doing. If this guy
was straight, he’d have more girls than
a thousand harems could hold.

It's extremely rare that an artist can do a
cover from an already famous song
and truly do it justice and give it his
own spin that feels authentic.



He was FEARLESS in being himself.

That makes a man very powerful and dangerous
in a GOOD way- because it gives you the confidence
to really LET YOU RELEASE YOUR PERSONALITY
IN FULL FORCE, COME HELL OR HIGH WATER.

People say ‘be yourself’ but it’s NOT EASY.

Most people who say it are not even doing it themselves.

When you really BECOME yourself, as ironic
and weird as that sounds, you become something
EXTRAORDINARY, and this is the charisma
that exudes from your every pore when this happens.

It shows in everything you do, even the subtle
expression on your face.

So, the FIRST way to apply this when it comes
to your interactions with women and when it
comes to “approaching a woman” is this:

1. ASK YOURSELF IF YOU ARE INTERESTED,
AND IF THE ANSWER IS YES, ACCEPT ALL
CONSEQUENCES.

So if you see a woman you’d like to approach,
and you don’t see a wedding ring or something
like that, then just ask yourself- are you attracted?

If you ARE, then ACCEPT all the consequences
that you FEAR might happen.

ACCEPT them all, because the alternative is WORSE.

So whether you think you’ll be arrested for
talking to her (you won’t but you might still
fear that you will- accept it and move ahead),
whether you fear that she will make fun of you,
whether you fear that everyone else is looking,
ACCEPT IT ALL, because there is one thing
that matters MORE than all that- and that is
you being YOURSELF.

If you don’t go up to her, you are actually
DENYING your own IDENTITY.

See, the way I look at it, it’s not about
WINNING THE GIRL, it’s about
BEING ME.

And THAT is the irony, because the more
it’s about you doing your thing and NOT
seeking approval, the BETTER
she will like you, because you will not be
trying to impress her, you will not be trying
to be somebody else, you will not do the
same old thing that everyone else is doing.

And you will be more genuine and authentic.

STEP TWO: MOVE AHEAD

The second step is CONTINUING to talk
to her in a way that is consistent with your
values, perspectives, sense of humor, etc.

So for example, if you are at the gym
and you see a woman you want to chat to,
you can just go over to her and say ‘Hey
instead of staring at you a thousand times,
I figured I’d just come over and say hi”
and from there you can talk about
working out, you can ask her about her
workout, the main thing is keep it AUTHENTIC.

You can even say that you don't have
time to chat much since you have to
get back to your workout.

In your brain, the moment you ACCEPT
all the potential NEGATIVE FALLOUT
of you being yourself, is the moment you
are FREE to really EXPRESS YOUR
AUTHENTIC IDENTITY- you will then
start to say the right things, do the right
things, you’ll be funnier, more charming,
more dominant, in an authentic way she
can feel a million times more than
she would from a guy trying his luck with
some pick up lines or other equally
false approaches.

Forget all this talk about “winning”, instead
let everyone ELSE worry about trying to fit
into YOUR paradigm of the world rather than
the other way around.

This is why it’s so important that you HAVE
a point of view.

I’m not talking about ignorant opinions, but
rather informed, educated, passionate thoughts
about things.

THIS is contagious, this is cool, this is
what wakes her UP and is like a breath
of fresh air in a world of boring CLONES.

Don’t be afraid to ROCK THE BOAT, but
don’t rock the boat JUST FOR THE SAKE
of rocking the boat. That looks “try hard”
and it in fact IS “try-hard” because it’s not
authentic.

A woman will be able to tell rather quickly
when a guy is not being authentic, because
any time you FAKE something, that thing
you are doing actually requires many other
things for it to seem REAL, so for example
if a guy tries to act like he’s a martial arts
master when he isn’t, he’ll end up doing
something that just doesn’t “vibe”- i.e.
he might be acting all macho when in
fact most martial arts masters don’t act
that way at all, BECAUSE they are
so secure.

The thing is to EMBRACE who you are
and to EMBRACE whatever it is you want
to learn and do, and not fear it.

This includes approaching and chatting to
a woman you’re interested in!

THREE: COMMIT TO IT FULLY

Again, if you REALLY believe in yourself, then
you don’t suddenly SOFTEN UP on being your
HARD CORE SELF just because she starts to
LIKE you.

This often happens when a guy starts to learn
about being successful with women, and then
he starts to show his confidence, and charisma
and he really BECOMES the “man” as I say,
but then at the very moment it starts to WORK,
and the woman starts to show interest in him,
he is SO HAPPY he is GETTING somewhere
with her that he is now TERRIFIED OF LOSING
HER.

So what does he do?

He gives UP all this cool stuff about him, he gives
UP his conviction in himself and his identity, and
now he starts to become a kiss-ass.

And you already know I don’t advocate being
a jerk at all, I actually think being a good guy
is where it’s at, but this good guy must come
from CONVICTION in himself, not from kiss ass!!!!!!

By the way, the very SAME thing happens
sometimes to STARS, whether they’re actors
or singers, or rock stars, etc. They start to
get famous, and they get huge deals and the
companies promoting them or the studios now
want to ENSURE success, so they STOP
taking chances and only pursue ‘safe’ type
music and movies for the masses.

This kind of thing happened to Stallone, to Eddie Murphy,
and several other stars, where the ORIGINAL QUALITY
about themselves that made them SUPERSTARS got faded
as they strayed from their identities- Stallone was never
supposed to just be some “action star” - he was a genius
who wrote ROCKY that won best picture.

Eddie Murphy was a raw, cutting edge comedian, he wasn’t
just doing kids flicks and remakes of famous movies for
Disney. When Stallone finally went back to his roots, he
started to slowly regain his identity as an actor.

Don’t allow yourself to stray from who
you really ARE, not even for the most
attractive woman on the planet.

The irony of course is that trying that hard to "please"
a woman will only push her away because it was
the REAL you she was attracted to, not the you
that was seeking to remake yourself in her image!

If you have a wild sense of humor, don’t
HIDE it from her, instead SHOW IT.

A lot of guys who are actually very
cool people suddenly CHANGE in front of
women and they become different entirely-
and it's a shame because actually women
DO want the real you, but most guys never
show the real them, only the weak version
of themselves, and they show the same boring
version of a guy that every OTHER guy is showing,
and every other guy is doing this for the same
reason- to fit in, to not be made fun of, to be cool.

It’s very ironic, but the more you try to be
someone, the worse it will be. This doesn’t
mean you can’t change and evolve and
grow as a person with time, in fact that
kind of change is good, because it comes
from YOU.

FOUR: REMOVE PRESSURE

The other great thing about you truly
committing to who you really are
and embracing all the crazy possibilities
that your imagination fears will happen
from being yourself – is that the woman
can SEE you are not “chasing” her,
you are not being mean, but you are not
chasing her either, which means she
can RELAX and make the decision
of whether she wants to talk to you
on her own.

And as every great salesman knows, the
best sales are NOT THE “HARD SELL”
but rather the sell that comes from the
customer herself wanting and making
the decision – and the irony is that
by not chasing her, she now must face
the possibility of LOSS.

This is not a tactic to manipulate her, it’s
the TRUTH, she may very WELL lose you if she
doesn’t do something here as well- she knows
she can’t just let it be ALL you, because you
aren’t willing to go THAT FAR, i.e. you are
not willing to keep on chasing approval from
someone who doesn’t already appreciate you.

When you try too hard to be what SHE wants,
you actually push her away, because she can
sense this decision is not something you want
HER to make, and she feels the pressure
she might have to do something she doesn’t
WANT to do.

But when you simply go nuts on being YOURSELF,
you not only do a better job making a cool impression
but you also allow her to create her OWN pressure
on herself to want you, as opposed to running from
YOUR pressure.

The best way to remove resistance is to create
no FORCE. Instead, let your force flow from
you being YOU- not the you that kisses up,
but the you that you would be with women
if you were willing to ACCEPT even the WORST
FEARS you had about you being yourself.

Again, the rock star comparison, think about
how totally UNCOOL it would be if
Guns'nRoses had been sitting around all
day doing press conferences and trying
to figure out what would sell and what
everyone wanted to hear! Imagine Axl Rose
doing “market research”.

The “market” whether it’s music lovers or
WOMEN LOOKING FOR MEN, they ALWAYS
want SOMETHING COMPELLING AND
UNIQUE.

How much do you believe in yourself if
what you do is based on a survey seeking
her approval?

Now, when you DO GENUINELY want
to give a compliment to a woman and it’s
not because you need her to give you
something BACK, then it’s perfectly
fine, when it’s not coming from worshipping
her or with a need to get something back.

FIVE: MIX IT ALL WITH PASSION/LOVE

This is VERY DIFFERENT from having this
submissive smile that comes really from fear and
the need to seek approval.

They say “love conquers all” but it’s misunderstood.
It’s not just about relationships, it’s about LOVE
in all its forms, including SELF-LOVE.

Let the LOVE flow ENDLESSLY, for yourself,
for your IDENTITY, FOR WHO YOU ARE,
for the things you love, and YES, for the
woman as well!

When you do things you LOVE, your entire
body language changes.

So for example, if you have a wacky sense of
humor, but are afraid women won’t get it,
TRY IT ANYWAY on them!

If you have some passionate love for something
that you fear others will find “weird”, who cares
if some might find it weird???? It’s who you
ARE, and chances are if you really are passionate
about it, you will SPARK that passion in women
as well at the very least to the point of them finding
you INTRIGUING AND DIFFERENT.

SIX: LARGER THAN LIFE

Now, the reality is that ‘reality’ can SUCK- it all
depends on which reality you want to focus on.

When you meet a woman, it’s not a cool thing
that you just REINFORCE in her mind that
life can be cruel, boring, unfair, tough, painful,
sad, etc.

However, if YOU can bring more FUN, MORE
COURAGE, MORE PLEASURE, MORE HUMOR,
MORE ADVENTURE, into your OWN perspectives
of things, then you can SHARE this with women.

Some people might argue that this is just a FANTASY
rather than living in reality.

But reality is whatever you are EXPERIENCING,
and if you spend a lifetime laughing and loving
and having great adventures, is that less real
than a life where you allowed yourself to
be bored, tired, upset, depressed, etc?

Learn to make a woman FEEL cool emotions
by focusing on the cool side of things that YOU
see, and you will have her eating out of your hand.

Let me illustrate the power this way:

The movie AVATAR has adventure, has romance,
has exotic locations, forests, wilderness, excitement,
danger, and ultimately a happy ending that within
the movie all feels REAL.

This movie has made over 2 BILLION dollars.

Now, there is another movie, it's more serious and
deals with grim REALITY, and it’s called The Hurt Locker.

It's won tons of Academy Awards, including best picture.

But it hasn't earned even 2% of what Avatar has.
Now, these movies are very different, it's apples
and oranges, I'm not judging one over the other-
I'm just saying one thing:

If you want to get a chance with a woman, take her
to an emotional place that is AWESOME, not depressing
or disturbing. 

This doesn't mean you have to always
IGNORE reality, sometimes in the midst of the
most GRIM realities is the most inspiring and
AMAZING emotional moments we can have
in life, IF you know how to see it.

The point is though, to take a woman somewhere
INTOXICATINGLY EMOTIONALLY POSITIVE.
Take her there by focusing the conversation on
the awesome perspectives you have, whether they
be funny, intriguing, or that help inspire or become
more at peace, or that are sensual without being vulgar.

And if you would like to learn the FULL picture on
how to do this and how to approach and attract a
GREAT woman, then I suggest you download
my book, ‘Get A Great Girl,’ at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

This book will show you how to SKYROCKET
your results with the best kind of woman, and it
has nothing to do with pick-up lines or sleazy
tactics.

It will show you the way to really meet the
best kinds of women, spark attraction in them,
as well as how to build a SUPER STRONG
foundation from the beginning so that things
STAY SMOOTH long term as well.

For my ADVANCED program on meeting
and approaching women ANYWHERE,
you need my SEDUCTION MASTERY
program. This program goes in-depth
into every detail of the approach, INCLUDING
mastering your ‘inner game’ as well.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Unleash Your Charisma With Women

What makes women tick is a man who makes
them feel ALIVE in the fullest sense- and the
only way for her to feel that is to have as many
awesome emotions being pumped through
her system as possible: Adrenaline rushes,
laughter, love, romance, adventure, to name
a few.

Once you have done THAT, you have become
DESIRABLE, at which point it THEN makes
sense to truly VALIDATE her and give her
the kind of genuine compliments to take her
self-esteem to an even higher level, because
ultimately the greatest high is feeling infinite
self-esteem.

Most guys though, rather than turning women’s
emotions ON, are actually shutting them DOWN.

The reason for this is because they themselves
submit to various FEARS.

The key to DESTROYING fears is to
DO the thing you fear, not just once but
again and again, that's what makes
it eventually go away.

Initially, when doing what you fear,
your anxiety will actually INCREASE.
But then it will go DOWN, massively.

We don't live forever, which is a damn good
reason to stop wasting TIME on fears and
instead to ENJOY LIFE, which includes
being with a great woman.

The fear of approaching women you'd like
to talk to will only get MORE INTENSE if
you give into that fear.

Fear is the most paralyzing emotion of all-
it shuts down every other cool emotion in yourself-
it shuts down your sense of humor, it shuts down
your sense of adventure, it shuts down even your
sex drive, it shuts down your self-esteem.

You can never get rid of ALL fear, and
you shouldn't, or you'd do stupid things,
but the problem is that fear usually gets
OUT OF HAND and begins to CONTROL
people.

All the empowering, fun, cool emotions, are
all intricately RELATED to each other, even
if you aren’t conscious of it, they are TOTALLY
related and being able to tap into any ONE of
these cool emotions helps you ALSO tap into
the other empowering emotions as well.

See, the REAL secret to, for example, a great
comedian’s talent is not “his sense of comedy”,
but rather his ability to NOT SUBMIT TO
THE FEAR OF CRITISISM.

So the FIRST key to charisma is:

1. STOP CATERING TO YOUR FEAR OF CRITISISM

Imagine now, a scenario where you see a
woman you’d like to approach, maybe she’s
on the train, or in the bookstore, but there are
OTHER PEOPLE AROUND HER.

I used to let this kind of thing BOTHER me,
as if these OTHER people were going to
suddenly open an official BOOK of
“How to behave” where it says “Though
shall not approach women you are
attracted to” and “Though shalt remain
BORED rather than EXCITED.”

But then the coolest thing was that I
started to get ADDICTED to the
DRAMA of this “danger” and I
enjoyed the PROCESS of approaching
women almost as much as the end
result of getting a date, a number, or
whatever else – in fact, sometimes
I enjoyed the process even MORE
than the end result- and you can too!

And you can push the envelope so much
FURTHER than just making the approach,
by doing it in a way that is FUN
and CONFIDENT.

Confidence is a sign of LIFE AND
THRIVING, and flips on her emotional
switches to ATTRACTION.

If she's working in a store and you
chat her up, rather than being all
apologetic, it's cooler and more fun
to turn things around, as if she
was trying to pick YOU up.

So you can tell her to stop staring at
you like you are piece of meat, that you
feel uncomfortable only being desired
physically and not also for your MIND.

This is fun, playful, confident, and
allows her to flirt back with you because
you have set it up as PLAYFUL which means
she can enjoy the process without worrying
too much if it has to MEAN SOMETHING SERIOUS
or not- and the irony is that by not having
the pressure on, she is free to actually
ENJOY your interaction, and she feels
much more free to show her sexuality,
since after all, it's just "playful".

This playfulness is a license to do
almost ANYTHING, allowing you to break
through the barriers of what is considered
"proper" behavior- and "proper" behavior
is boring, brainwashed behavior, it is
the ANTI-ATTRACTION! Do not follow
"proper" behavior unless you want
to chase women away.

By enjoying the process, by the way,
you also tend to not give up, which
makes you practice a LOT and that
makes you even better.

All because rather than giving IN
to the fear, you can learn to ENJOY
the fun and adrenaline of it!

This means rather than looking for
reasons why everything has to be
safe from risk of rejection, you
actually DON'T look for this and
instead you ENJOY the rush of the
"risk". (Of course, there IS no
physical risk - it's all a mindgame,
and the way to win is to stop
trying to find ways OUT and
rather EMBRACE the process.)

Think about it, the best comedians tell us things
that most other people are AFRAID to talk
about, because it’s somehow ‘inappropriate’
to speak about certain topics or issues or
realities, and the more we REPRESS these
things as a society, the more we APPRECIATE
HAVING SOMEONE LIBERATE US
from these things.

So, tip number TWO:

2. OBSERVE THE IMBECILITY OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR

If you go back and think even to kindergarten,
someone had to make fun of someone else or
be cruel for no reason at all – it was just
insecurity, and this continues through
grade school, into adulthood and all
their lives for some people.

Observing the TRUTH and not being
afraid to say it, especially if the truth
is something IMPORTANT that helps
us become BETTER people by becoming
more AWARE of ourselves, is COOL
because it liberates us from that fear.

Here’s the THIRD key to charisma:

3. IF IT DOESN’T TAKE ANY GUTS TO SAY,
THEN IT WON’T TRIGGER ANY EMOTION!

So for example going back to the idea
of turning things around, and implying
that a woman is chasing you and how
you want to be appreciated for your mind,
it's funny and it's confident and takes
guts.

It’s not about being mean-spirited, it’s
about not being held back by FEAR.

Another key to making women feel
ALIVE is to realize that all fears are
really pathetic, since life is far too
short to waste time on getting DOWN
when you can be spending that same
time ENJOYING THE HELL OUT OF
LIFE.

So this brings me to key number FOUR:

4. CHANGE THE PERSPECTIVE

If you are chatting with a woman and
she brings up something negative, turn
it around – i.e. if she mentions some
female co-worker of hers that’s a
pain in the ass, rather than get all
serious you might try putting a
REFRAME on the entire perspective
by making a PLAYFUL remark,
such as “Well, I am a hitman and
I could take care of her for you, but
it will cost about 500 bucks, plus
tax.”

All emotions are about perspectives,
so if you change the perspective, you
change the emotion.

This is true even for small things, like for
example let’s say you are out with a woman
at a restaurant and you get a steak that is
done too rare, and before you send it back,
you tell her, "This thing needs BANDAGES!"
(courtesy of comedian Arie Kizel)

The great news when it comes to being skilled
at attracting a woman, is that the bar is not
very HIGH since so FEW guys practice at ALL!

Also, this is a skill that you can learn the
core skills relatively FAST, kind of like
learning to ride a bicycle.

At first you might very well feel
LACK OF CONFIDENCE, and that’s fine.

This is not a reason NOT to go up to a woman,
in fact, it’s the best reason to actually DO IT,
because doing that which you fear is what
makes you GROW and become more charismatic.

Courage is a cool thing, women are attracted
to it, so the next time you see a woman in
a situation like she’s working in a lingerie
store and you think it’s too weird to enter
to talk to her, just realize that the very
fact it takes more guts is what will give
you more points in her eyes.

The coolest thing of all is that after a while,
approaching women will become so easy
for you that you will WANT the adrenaline
rush and you will start to push the
envelope further and further in terms of
your humor, wit, and the kinds of situations
you enter regarding your approaches, all
of which will make you more and more
attractive to women.

You will stop worrying about failure or
rejection and instead be thinking of how
you can RAISE the bar for YOURSELF.

This is similar to how people who are great
at any skill, be it acting, music, writing, a sport,
or anything else, will strive to reach higher
and higher, because they enjoy the RUSH
of out-doing THEMSELVES and breaking
through to the next level of what was
previously unknown territory to them.

And if you’re reading this right now,
and you are serious about attracting
the woman you want, then I suggest
you get my book, ‘Get A Great Girl’
RIGHT NOW.

It will show you what to do to make
her a REALITY in your life rather than
just a fantasy. It will show you what
to do from the very first moment you
SEE her.

It’s at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

For my ADVANCED program that will
take you to MASTERY level, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Best,

Michael Marks