Why Women Aren't Attracted To INNOCENT Guys - And What To Do About It

Getting past certain old beliefs is
one of the keys to attracting an
amazing woman, but for most men,
these beliefs are rooted so deep,
they NEVER get past them- and
never get the woman they want.

It took me many years (and many women
that slipped through my fingers!) to realize
just how FREAKY POWERFUL you can become
if you can just get PAST these old beliefs
about what is "good" behavior to a woman
and what is "bad".

Allow me to share with you a recent email
that will show you exactly what I mean:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Hi Michael Marks,

I don’t know what the hell I’m doing wrong
but it seems that when I’m out and about,
I make eye contact with a female and I’m
not looking too hard, just an innocent look,
and for some reason they shoot a “OMG why
the hell is he looking at me?”,or the “What
the hell you looking at?” look!

I know I’m not an ugly guy so what am I
doing wrong and what books or CD's/DVDs
do you have that deal with this subject
matter?

>>>MY REPLY<<<

First of all, thanks for sharing your story
and being so up front.

Guess what?
You keep thinking, like most men, that
this should not happen because you
are giving a look that is so “INNOCENT”.

However, the REASON this is happening
is actually BECAUSE your look was so
“innocent”.

“Say WHAT Michael??????”

Stay with me here, and let’s look at all
this from the perspective of a woman
who is attractive, and has a lot of choice,
and ALSO has high standards in terms
of personality:

Every single time she steps out into the
public eye, ANYWHERE, guys are giving
her “innocent” looks.

The thing is, these looks, although quite
normal and an instinctive reaction from
most guys, are not exactly as “innocent”
as they seem.

For one thing, 99% of these “innocent”
looks would all like to do some very
naughty things with her.

And that’s still all fine and good, except,
INNOCENT is not NAUGHTY.

And so, it’s kind of being DISHONEST!
And WHY is it that 99% of men are
being this way that is less than honest?

Because of FEAR that it’s “inappropriate”.
Because of FEAR that if she knows that
we are thinking NAUGHTY thoughts, then
she’s gonna get upset or something and
we’re going to lose her approval.

On a subconscious level, she can SENSE
all this.

And this is all a massive DESTROYER of
attraction.

Instead of being a turn ON, it’s a turn OFF.

Again, this is where guys get confused about
why some JERKS do well with women.

It’s not the JERKINESS part of him, it’s the
CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM AND ZERO
GUILT IN HIS OWN SEXUALITY AND IN
BRINGING OUT HER SEXUALITY.

There is no reason on earth why any GOOD
guy cannot or should not do this.

And in fact, the good guys who know this,
are the guys who get the BEST women,
because they are giving the ultimate
combination that ignites ATTRACTION
in a woman.

If only more GOOD GUYS knew how to radiate
sexuality withOUT being a jerk, it would
be the end of jerks. But I know that day
will never come, because just like
'the dark side of the force' being a
jerk is the easier way- even thought
of course the 'jerk' method is a timebomb
and ends up CRASHING and causing the girl
to LEAVE as she loses TRUST in him.

Try it as an experiment to prove what
I’m saying:

Try going out and getting RID of the
INNOCENT look when checking out
and approaching a woman, vs. the
“innocent” look.

You can still have a warm smile and not
look so antiseptic, so innocent, so sterile
of masculinity. Or you can even not smile
at all. Yup, no smile at all.

You can look “NOT SO INNOCENT” because
in fact, you really want to be a little more
NAUGHTY, right?

It’s was pretty mind-blowing for me to first
discover all this, but from a “certain point of
view”, to quote Obi Wan Kenobi, this is
actually more TRUE, more HONEST, more
SEXUAL, more MASCULINE, and more
ATTRACTIVE, and it also shows more
INTEGRITY!

And it’s a billion times more of a TURN-ON
for her!

It’s really a form of FEAR that makes us
act all “squeaky anti-septic clean” around
women, mixed with a brainwashing that
tells us it’s “polite” to be this non-sexual
man.

And of course, FEAR is not attractive to
a woman, and not believing you have the
VALUE is also not attractive either, and
acting non-sexual is also BORING.

And what really makes my blood boil is
when virtually the ONLY GUYS that get
this and understand it intuitively and
apply it and get any results are the
JERKS!

If only the GOOD GUYS would understand
this and apply it, good guys would RULE.

This is why in real life there are so few
JAMES BONDS and so many STIFFLERS!
(if you remember the guy from the movie
"American Pie" who just wants to get into
women’s pants using ANY means)

Stiffler has ZERO GUILT about ANYTHING
he does to get into women’s pants, even
if he DOES have to lie, but BOND is so
EXPLODING with confidence and self-esteem
that he EXPECTS women to want to be with
the REAL him no matter what.

This is why the Stiffler’s of the world at least
get some SHORT-TERM results, but of course
they never get to KEEP a woman attracted.

It’s the BOND type confidence that keeps a
woman craving a man LONG TERM.

Now, there’s yet ANOTHER level to all this:

When you act or look all “innocent”, you
are actually making a woman feel LESS
feminine.

This is because since you are acting so
“innocent”, she knows the only way this
could ever lead to the sexual is through
HER having to make it all happen, and
that is simply NOT the role that 99% of
women prefer.

She wants YOU to be THE MAN, and HER
to be THE WOMAN.

In her mind, a desirable woman does not
have to plead with a man to act masculine,
and does not have to tell him to have
confidence, and does not have to help him
to approach her, and to create sexual vibes,
and to have to make up for the lack of his
comfort with being sexual by HER being
overtly sexual, unless SHE feels she is a
tramp or desperate for attention!

By being THE MAN, and a little less “innocent”
(and you know that this is really not a
bad thing, as I explained above) you allow
her to fall into the role of being “the woman”
and you into the role of being “the man”
who just “made it all happen” so she feels
it wasn’t like she was this desperate tramp.

Women are still socially programmed to
feel awkward about being the ones to
LEAD the show when it comes to the
whole sexual thing.

By you behaving more as THE MAN, she
can be more of THE WOMAN.

This goes even DEEPER, by the way, all the
way into the sex part of a relationship.
Specifically, what I mean is that it's
CRUCIAL that you make a woman feel FREE
to be A WILD ANIMAL in bed.

You see, this is one of the crazy things
nobody talks about, and it's a real tragedy.

The NICEST girls out there, you think they
aren't INFINITELY SEXUAL??????????????????

It's a CRIME that 'nice girls' who don't want
a CREEP often get guys that are so 'innocent'
and 'nice' that the guy never really makes
her feel like it's OKAY AND GOOD IN FACT
to be a total sex wild crazy fun person!

And to be honest, sex is the most powerful
fun drug there is, without side effects.

So it's really very MEAN to be so 'innocent'
and deprive a woman of the psychological
FREEDOM to feel GOOD about being 'bad'
in the fun sex sense.

Too much 'innocence' on your part makes her
feel like you will JUDGE HER IN A BAD WAY
if she gets sexual with you to the maximum
extreme.

Being too 'innocent' reeks of LACK of sexuality,
or even worse, GUILT about sexuality.

And there’s yet ANOTHER level to all this:

When a guy checks her out looking “all
innocent”, it’s telling her that he feels he
isn’t good enough, because if he KNEW
HE WAS THE “REAL DEAL”, then he wouldn’t
need to cover his tracks, cover up his desire
to flirt, cover up his masculinity, etc.

So why on earth would a woman want
to get involved with a man who HIMSELF
thinks he’s not good enough? How is
SHE supposed to feel about him if
HE doesn’t feel he has value himself?

Notice how so much of this problem is
INTERNAL, it’s all part of the “inner game”.

In fact, even things like wearing COOL
CLOTHING and accessories, the reasons
they can help your success with women
are more to do with the MESSAGES being
sent to your mind and to hers about how
YOU PERCEIVE YOURSELF than to do with
the clothing actually having such a great
“look”.

For example, you might even be in
a store that has COOL clothing, but
you figure it’s not for you, because
you aren’t COOL ENOUGH to wear
that kind of clothing.

This, by the way, is one way that SEPARATES
different groups in society- the people who
feel COOL about themselves and the people
who DON’T.

And the irony is that it’s this self-fulfilling
prophecy, because if you haven’t ever been
wearing cool stuff, you start to feel that you
are not ALLOWED to, as if you simply don’t
have the RIGHT to be a cool guy.

So it’s not only the way it makes you LOOK,
it’s the MESSAGE you are giving off to yourself
and to women that says whether you do NOT
or whether you DO HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE
DESIRABLE.

When you give yourself PERMISSION
to be THE MAN, the world of women
opens up at your feet.

Until then, the doors remain SHUT.

Try it- try going to the mall, to the
coolest clothing stores, and notice
how it even FEELS when you try on
clothing and accessories that are
“cooler” than you think is really
“you”.

Your mind will say “this is not my thing.”

That is your MIND playing games on you.

WEAR it long enough, and you start to
think DIFFERENTLY of yourself INTERNALLY.

It’s not so much the clothes, it’s what the
clothes did to your MIND, to your 'inner game'
as they say.

And one of the biggest elements to success
with women is your 'inner game', what is
happening deep WITHIN yourself and your
thoughts regarding women, dating, approaching
women, and getting sexual, getting intimate,
and more.

This 'INNER' game is a big part of what’s
calling the shots in the 'OUTER' world.

And if you want to take your “Inner Game”
with women to a whole new DIMENSION
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This program goes DEEP into your “inner game”.

A great woman sizes up your inner game
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has so much experience with guys constantly
trying to get her, and so she must QUICKLY
deal with men who are approaching her:

She does this by sensing whether your
INNER GAME is really ROCK-SOLID or not.

It tells her EVERYTHING she needs to know
about you.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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What To Say On The Spur Of The Moment & How To Take Things To A Deeper Level

One of the most important things to realize when
you meet a woman on the spur of the moment
is that you must be ready to respond to the situation
IMMEDIATELY, otherwise the moment will be
gone and so will she.

In order to do this, you have to already be
READY.  You can't start trying to "figure
it out" in the moment.  This is where having
the skills mastered truly makes the biggest
difference.

Here’s a real life example written by a man
who posted to the Get A Great Girl Forum:

QUESTION

“So tonight, I was walking into my dorm when
this cute girl holds the door open for me. I told
her it was nice to see somebody who actually
holds the door open for people and she smiled
and said that people still do that. I replied with
a sarcastic "yeah, right" and could not think of
anything else. She said goodnight and walked away.

I really think that I could have expanded on this
and made a real conversation and connection.
Any advice for next time in a situation like this?"

RESPONSE FROM ANOTHER MAN ON THE FORUM
WHO IS USING THE GET A GREAT GIRL MATERIALS

“Yo man! We all get into a situation where we react
in a way that is "routine" to us, whether that is a
routine way of approaching the situation or whether
it's something we always say every time something
like that happens, but it's these routines that aren't
helping us get anywhere with a girl, and we need to
break out of that routine. The brilliant thing about
this is it takes practice, and that was one girl...so
you could try that again with another girl! GREAT!

From reading what you have said, there are quite a
few angles that you could have covered I feel. Quite
a few are done by READING THE SITUATION. Basically
when you read the situation you are pretty much trying
to find a topic from something that is around you - in
this case it could be something she's wearing or just
the fact that she's opening a door for you (like you've said),
could even be about the fact it's night time even.

I think the problem started because you opened with
a sentence that doesn't require a lot of thought for the
other person to answer i.e. if you asked her if the sky
was blue she would say yes, but instead if you asked
her why is the sky blue there would be much more to
talk about.

So how would you first speak to this girl if you knew that
you were the guy that portrayed the best qualities? You
wouldn't try and say anything that would at first qualify her
(unless you were complimenting on how she has a good
vibe to her, that's different), but would maybe say
something that can show a few things about you. Sure
you would definitely say thanks to her for holding
the door open for you but you wouldn't stop there,
you'd say something like "Thanks, but honestly,
you could just say Hi to me if you wanted to talk
to me, you don't need to open a door to start talking
to me" or something along the lines of you conveying
your superiority in a playful manner...I say that
cause the scenario is greatly set up!

It's at night, people actually get scared at night,
she could think you're someone that's about to
kill her at night but instead you're going to be that
awesome guy she wishes she could have every
time she thinks of it!

That's all I can think of just now but I hope this helps :)"

MY COMMENTS

It's great to see people using this place exactly as it was
designed for! Good question and great reply!

One of the biggest principles I teach is: “Think to yourself
what would you say if you KNEW she liked you and you
genuinely wanted good for her?”

At the same time, you want to make sure that what
you say creates a playful vibe where she will likely
WANT to participate as opposed to just answering
you to be polite.     

For example, you might say, in a friendly "dignified" voice:
"Why thank you, it's refreshing to see some chivalry...oh
wait, that's what men do for women, well you should see
what it's like when ***I*** open the door for a lady....
care to see?"

And then you could playfully get her to go behind you, and
demonstrate a really classic chivalrous KNIGHT IN SHINING
ARMOR style of opening the door for her.

The KEY to making this work of course is that you are having FUN
being playful in this way, and at the same time really going all
the way in role-playing the classic chivalry.

By doing this, you are totally conveying MANLY
qualities in all the BEST senses of the word,
you are also conveying PLAYFULNESS, and
you are ALSO allowing HER to fall into her
role of being FEMININE since you are playing
your role of being MASCULINE.

Humans naturally want to know the ROLE they should be
playing, and this way you make it FUN and EASY for her
to get to know you and to truly relax and allow the
sexy vibes to flow between the both of you.

This kind of thing will get her giggling in a GOOD WAY,
and truly break the ice so that you can now go into
"normal" kind of talk about yourselves, because now
you are both going to be relaxed and feeling you can
both truly "vibe" with each other.

Another point I want to make about meeting women
is that you want to show a woman that you see her
as an INDIVIDUAL.

THIS IS A HUUUUUUGE THING, and is really the
SECOND part of any successful approach.

So, first, you need to find a way to bridge that
gap from total stranger to actually HAVING
some kind of conversation, but then the
goal is to actually make that conversation
POWERFUL in a CONNECTING sense.

The irony is that you can’t go STRAIGHT into
connecting, because it would come across
as too serious, and just plain weird.

So FIRST, you convey good qualities about yourself,
and you should also get her feeling relaxed.

THEN, you go into learning about HER and
CONNECTING.

And to CONNECT best, you need to learn how
to CONFIRM her UNIQUE sense of identity.

To do this, you must LEARN MORE ABOUT HER.

Having our UNIQUE individual identities CONFIRMED
by another is one of the biggest things in terms of actually
CONNECTING two people.

A woman is going to feel a trillion times more connected
to you if you see her as an INDIVIDUAL, if you are
genuinely interested in learning about her and if
you are not being presumptuous to think you know
her.

This is, by the way, ANOTHER reason why putting
a woman on a pedestal before you even know her
is not attractive.

For example, let’s say you meet a gorgeous woman
and you are clearly infatuated with her, and telling
her how much you adore her.

Well, she KNOWS that you don’t KNOW her, so
whoever it is you are ADORING, from her perspective
is NOT her, you can’t POSSIBLY adore HER since
you don’t even KNOW her, it’s some FANTASY
in your MIND that you are adoring.

So all this "nice" stuff, from her perspective, isn't
being given to HER, it's being given to this construct,
this concept of who you think she is, which is based
on zero actual knowledge of her.

You can see from here, that it's not that women
don't like being treated well, it's that this kind of
infatuation, or "nice treatment" is actually kind of
creepy.

The idea that you THINK you know her when
in reality it’s just all the things you’ve dreamed up
in your subconscious mind played up by the halo
effect in your mind about her, is all something that
she finds UNCOOL and repulsive.

So, once she is giggling or relaxed and a bit
impressed with your initial opening, then it’s
time to truly pour on your LISTENING skills,
and make no mistake about it, listening
properly requires SKILLS. Most people THINK
they know what it means to listen, but that
is usually just HEARING, not LISTENING
and not understanding.

In fact, to truly listen WELL, we often must
work on improving our OWN ‘filters’ that
affect the way we see and understand others
as well as the world in general.

Having the wrong “filter” can totally screw up
our ability to connect to women because the
wrong filter ends up distorting our perception
of what women are saying or doing to us.

So, for example, if I have the wrong filter, a woman
might say something totally innocent to me, but I
interpret in a way that is insulting to me. Now, I
am going to probably say something defensive back,
which will make her see me as insecure or having
a chip on my shoulder, or she might just think I
don’t understand her- none of these things are cool.

Or, on the opposite extreme, if my filter is wrong,
I might think that a certain woman who actually
is NOT a very good person is GREAT, because I
can’t see the full picture since my filter is wrong.

This is why REAL success with women involves the
BIG PICTURE, it’s not just about a pick-up line, it’s
not just about one thing.

And yet, it doesn’t have to be HARD, IF YOU
GET THE RIGHT INSTRUCTION.

This is where my WARRIOR WITHIN program comes in:
It will make sure you not only know what to SAY to a
woman, it will ALSO make sure you know how to
CONTINUE the interaction with her in a way that
actually LEADS to genuine success and a genuine
relationship.

Warrior Within goes in DEPTH into making sure
you master all the things you've read about in this
newsletter.

This program is not some kind of gimmick.
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Be Sexual With Women

POINT NUMBER 1:
THE LAST BASTION OF FREEDOM AND SEXUALITY

Humor is the last bastion of freedom and
sexuality.

What I mean by this, is that humor allows
us to actually EXPRESS OURSELVES with women
without being REPRESSED by the brutal stupidity
and evil of 'political correctness'.

I'm very careful about making GUESSES when
it comes to extrapolating from evolution
or evolutionary psychology, so I stick to
what is FACT- and it's a FACT that human
beings evolved to be able to mate in a way where
a man and woman are FACING each other -
something we don't see happening in the
ANIMAL world.

The REASON for this is that COMMUNICATION
is a BIG DEAL in human relations, human
development, human EVERYTHING- and yup,
in human SEXUALITY.

The fact of the matter is that the
humans who have the greatest power
of EXPRESSION over the greatest number
of people tend to have the MOST choice
in reproductive MATES.

Modes of human expression like MUSIC,
DRAMA, POETRY, HUMOR, and ART,
have dated back throughout the centuries
as tools men have used to woo women-
it's not just today's modern rock stars!

These are all just METHODS OF HUMAN
EXPRESSION AND COMMUNICATION.

On the most PRIMAL and powerful level,
a woman is affected by the way you communicate
with her.

NOW, here’s the thing: In our politically-correct
society, the one thing that counts MOST for being
successful with women- the one thing that should
be like BASIC OXYGEN- is actually FORBIDDEN
or “taboo”.

What is this “verboten” (forbidden) thing?
It is bringing sexuality into REGULAR LIFE.

Sure, no one tells you what to do in PRIVATE,
but society sure tells you what to do in PUBLIC
and in your “public discourse” with women who
are strangers.

And when you meet women out in the world
as total strangers, which is what really gives
you the most choice and is the most fun and
exhilarating way to do it anyway if you ask me,
SUDDENLY YOU’RE NOT ALLOWED TO
BE SEXUAL IN YOUR COMMUNICATION
IF YOU SUBSCRIBE TO POLITICAL
CORRECTNESS!

By the way, this is why so many guys try
to meet women in clubs, because a club
gives you SOME permission---but just
wait till you read on, and find out how
you can approach women ANYWHERE
and do it SUCCESSFULLY!

Also by the way - when I say political correctness
is evil, I mean EVIL. My best friend and I were
discussing this, and he made a fantastic point
about how political correctness actually is the
OPPOSITE OF GOOD INTENTIONS, it’s all
motivated by APPEARANCES to “look nice”
while actually accomplishing the OPPOSITE GOAL
of BEING “correct/nice/good/noble”.

Ever notice how the people who are telling
everyone else to NOT be sexual, to NOT
look at girls, to NOT QUESTION things,
and basically to REPRESS all the
NORMAL HUMAN FUNCTIONS, are
almost ALWAYS later found out to be
the very WORST PERPETRATORS OF
WHATEVER IT IS THEY TELL EVERYONE
NOT TO DO???????????????????????

The crazy thing is also, the REVERSE is
often true! The people who are the most
RELAXED about being sexual, about
making jokes, about allowing freedom
of expression, about ALLOWING you
to question things, are almost ALWAYS
the most CHILLED OUT PEOPLE who
almost NEVER abuse ANY of these
freedoms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guess what else?
WOMEN KNOW THIS!

Particularly the ones who are KNOCKOUTS.

They know this because they HAVE the
sexual goods, so to speak, and they want
to ENJOY life with them, not be REPRESSED
as a result of them! So these women have
learned early on WHICH MEN ‘get it’ and
which men are still CLUELESS as how to
DEFEAT the repressive society.

The CHALLENGE is getting SEXUAL in your
communication with a woman who is a TOTAL
STRANGER- because of all the above that I
described, and the SOLUTION to the challenge is:

SOLUTION: HUMOR, USED IN THE RIIIIIGHT WAY

Again, it’s not that you should be a CLOWN
to attract a woman, it’s that to approach a woman
who is a total stranger, in our society, you need to
SMASH DOWN THE ‘POLITICALLY CORRECT’
BARRIERS, and HUMOR is a brilliant tool for
THIS goal!

You see, once you’re in the world of HUMOR,
you suddenly SUSPEND THE RULES OF
OUR POLITICALLY CORRECT INSANE
UNIVERSE, and now you have a ‘LICENCE’
to do all kinds of things – because, after all,
“YOU’RE JUST BEING PLAYFUL!!!!”

P.S. On the topic of humor, and how powerful
it is in BATTLING just about any force of society,
notice how AUTHORITY FIGURES tend to stay AWAY
from HUMOR?

Everyone’s free to take a guess, but something
tells me that if You or I were making RULES
you wouldn’t want people JOKING AROUND
about them. You’d want to punish them for
disobedience or reward them for obeying.

The power of HUMOR is so great at OVERPOWERING
just about ANYTHING that it’s OUTLAWED regarding
many things in MANY societies.

But, in our politically correct culture, they
still have NOT OUTLAWED or made criminal
the POSSESSION or the USE of a sense of humor!

So, it would be CRAZY to NOT USE this tool in
overcoming the "politically correct", boring,
sterile, anti-septic style approach that
most men use to approach women.

POINT NUMBER TWO:
SEXUAL COMMUNICATION WITH WOMEN

So USE it!
Use it so that you can get away with APPROACHING
WOMEN ANYWHERE!

And not just APPROACHING THEM, but also
to get sexual in your communication and in your
vibes, and women will LOVE you for it –
because you allow women to then feel GOOD
about feeling sexual, and about being approached
by you, since you have done it all in a way that is
still “okay” since it’s all “playful” – which allows
them to NOT have to worry about being labeled
a “slut” or anything like that.

Not only can you APPROACH women who are
total strangers by using humor, you can even get
into sexual communication!

This way, you also avoid getting trapped into
the “let’s just be FRIENDS zone”.

Instead of going on and on about this point
right here, you’ll see exact examples of this
in some of the letters below!

POINT NUMBER 3: HUMAN-DYNAMICS INTELLIGENCE

Now, here’s where it gets even BETTER:

Not only does humor allow you “license” to be
sexual with women in our politically correct
society, and not only do women appreciate it
because it gives them permission to enjoy
being sexual as well, but HUMOR is one
of the most POWERFUL WAYS OF
SHOWING THE MOST IMPORTANT
KIND OF INTELLIGENCE OF ALL:

THE MASTERY OF HOW HUMANS INTERACT!

Think I’m kidding? The reality is that this
intelligence, which is linked with emotional
intelligence, is actually the NUMBER ONE
WAY THAT HUMAN BEINGS BECOME POWERFUL.

Do you think that women have NOT evolved
to be attracted to men who DISPLAY this trait????

Women have ABSOLUTELY EVOLVED
TO BE ATTRACTED TO THIS TRAIT.

It’s wacky in fact, the kind of ABUSE that
men can do to themselves in terms of
destroying all the OTHER attractive elements
of themselves, and STILL get MASSIVE
success with women if they convey this
kind of humor that shows this particular
type of intelligence.

It makes sense, as applying this intelligence
allows you to build massive friendships and
teams and loyalty- these come through mastery
of this particular intelligence.

And, back on a very FUNDAMENTAL level,
the fact that men and women evolved to be
able to have intercourse facing each OTHER,
face-to-face, is absolutely not a coincidence,
the HUMAN element is the EXPRESSION and
COMMUNICATION that is increased by this
compared to the animals- which ends up increasing
the BOND, the ATTRACTION, the TRUST, everything
is boosted by this extra ability that humans have
that animals don’t.

Humor allows you to convey this special
kind of INTELLIGENCE!

Mastering this intelligence means you
understand the full depth of how people
are emotionally affected by all the
dynamics in any interaction.

When Dave Chappelle makes the joke about
how it’s not right to judge a woman as being
promiscuous just because she is dressed that
way, and then says, with the perfect timing,
that it’s confusing, and gives the analogy
of him dressing up as a cop, and when
someone comes running up to him asking
for help, he says to the guy “no, I’m just
DRESSED as a cop”, and then saying that
a woman who is dressed like a 'ho' is not
a 'ho', but it sure it CONFUSING...well then
EVERYONE LAUGHS,including all the women.

The same message, if NOT given in humor
format, and if not delivered PERFECTLY,
which is ALSO a sign of this intelligence,
would get the guy thrown in the politically
correct “phantom zone” banishment!

So, now, so far, we see how it FREES you in
our politically correct society, and how it
allows you to be SEXUAL with women and make
women feel sexual as well, and how it also
conveys a special form of intelligence
that is highly attractive to women.

Let’s get to some letters that show guys
USING all this stuff the RIGHT way!

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Dear Michael,

I've undergone such a massive transformation
in the past few months, I'm not sure where
to start. First, I was in a hellish relationship
that fits your description to a "T" in your
program of what happens to a guy once he falls
into the "abyss" as you say. This woman had
absolute power over me, and I now realize after
your program that it was me who basically handed
every last bit of my value over to her and it
was me who basically chopped my own perceived
value down to zero.

At the time, I felt that I had no choice, that
giving it all over was the only chance I had.
I worked harder and harder to try to prove
to her how "good" I was, and she became
more and more distant, less passionate, less
appreciative of anything. Which just made
me work harder and as you describe in your
program, the cognitive dissonance worked
against me, making me feel that she must be
worth it if after all I was busting my ass so
hard for her.

It's crazy, but true, because the harder I
worked for her, the more I let myself get
abused, the more it made me feel that
she must be worth it, since after all
why else would I be trying so hard,
so I tried even harder, and of course this
cognitive dissonance, as you explain, had
the opposite effect on her, for the very
same reason! i.e. "If he is trying so hard
for me, then he can't be worth that
much."

And I realize that all this is so subconscious.
And I realize as you say that in a healthy
relationship, people appreciate and give a
lot, but this relationship was clearly not
healthy and I had fallen in deep.

Your material saved me. It made me realize
what was actually going on in my head
and that in fact I was not in love with
this woman, but that I myself had allowed
my brain to be tricked into it, and that
I could just as easily wash the illusion
away. I cannot believe that your program
is not on doctor's shelves.

Your program showed me how to get back
my self-esteem. And to any guys
reading this, that is no easy feat for a
guy being smashed to pieces by a woman
he loves. And more than that, your program
showed me how to leave that reality
and change my life around and meet
and attract more women than I could
ever have time for.

I totally changed my approach to women,
taking on a far more challenging and
playful (the playful is very important
otherwise you just seem like an insecure
dolt) attitude and also not jumping
into a "how can I please you" mentality
just because a woman is showing interest
in me. I now ***expect*** women
to show interest, and this makes
the moment when I do show some
affection that she has actually
earned from me, well it makes
it that much more sweet for her.

Right now, I'm dating a striking
woman I met while parking my
car! It would never have happened
if not for you. As I was pulling in
to my spot, I noticed this tall
redhead in a business suit
(damn I love it when leggy
women wear those "business"
style skirts that really are too
short for anything but sexy
business) slamming her trunk
door down again and again,
only to have it pop back up.

My heart was racing, but I knew
this was a golden opportunity.
I gave her a look and gesture
with my head - a playful "no no no,
not like that", my hands on my hips.

She looks at me, (giving me an
even better view of her beautiful
angles on her face) her expression
first a bit pissed, then she smiles
with a "I can't believe you just did
that" look and says "thanks a lot"
sarcastically, but I could feel that
vibe that you talk about--
she was liking it, which I would
never have guessed could
EVER happen before.

So after she said "thanks" sarcastically,
I replied "anytime", and told her
that I was enjoying the show! Again,
this was done playfully, not in
a mean way. I came over and
figured out what the problem was,
even though I wasn't sure I could
solve it, but I figured at worst
I could always tease her some
more that her car was cursed.

I figured it out and got the trunk
shut, to which I then blew on
my fingers as if they were magic
and said "that'll be 100 bucks".
She told me she wished she had
the money, and I told her that
I bet she did wish that! After
a brief chat about where we
both worked, I teased her that
she didn't really have a real
job or she would have the
100 bucks!

Once I knew she was loving it,
I told her that I had to go and
took her number and email.
I kept up the energy on the
first couple of dates but
didn't let it get out of hand
to "dorky" level, and let's
just say she's now passionately
making it up to me in more
ways than one.

Far be it from me to not help a
damsel in distress...

And before I forget, let me just
say this woman is just as attractive
if not more than the woman who totally
took advantage of me, and she's
treating me about a million times
better, including taking ME out
to dinner next week!

To any guy reading this right now who is
in a slump:
There are millions of women right outside
your door, and you can meet them right
now, but you need to learn to incorporate
far more dominance, leadership, fun,
and sexuality, and you need to learn to
obliterate the neediness in you to pull
this all off.

Blair T.
Ohio

***MY COMMENTS***

It's always cool to hear from the
"good guys" who have been given
BACK the power to live their lives with
DIGNITY. Every guy deserves to have
this area of his life under CONTROL.

Thanks for the props, and yes, one of
the biggest things for guys in bad relationships
is to realize the massive impact of
cognitive dissonance playing on their
emotions, and how this can be STOPPED
and in fact REVERSED to work in their
favor. And it all starts with first being
AWARE of what's going on in the first
place, which is something I go into
detail in my Warrior Within DVD program.

And I'm glad you also raised the point
of how this is not about manipulating
women but rather incorporating important
characteristics into our personalities that
every man already has but has repressed
because of our crazy culture that labels
all good men as evil for living and breathing
and wanting a decent life with a woman
where he has DIGNITY. Even though
the reality is that women actually WANT
you to be a real man! No wonder so many
guys get so messed up.

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael!!!!! It almost hurts to write this
letter, as I'm giving away so much, but
I remember you saying how abundance
thinking is critical and also how teaching
this stuff is a great way of proving your
own mastery, so after getting your DVD
Set last October, and putting it to use
and getting insanely powerful results,
I'm now to going to share what I think are
crucial factors that I've learned from your
DVD program:

Your E-Books took me out of the gutter and
into a different reality, but your DVD program
has actually changed the way I feel, I am simply
no longer that sad quiet guy I once knew.

You've got me addicted to this whole approaching
women thing, it's too much fun!

One of the important distinctions I got from
your DVD Set is that the entire process from
A to Z with a woman can either be drudgery
for both you and the woman or it can be a
fantastic emotional experience at every
moment, with emotions ranging from
massive adrenaline to laughter to peaceful
calm to raw sexuality to a million other
emotions in infinite blending combinations.

For example, when you teach about role-playing
with a woman and allowing a woman to play
the role of you being the ultra cool guy, and
yet the way you taught me to also keep her
self-esteem high, it's genius. What you are
doing is allowing her to live her fantasy,
through role-play, because when you are
playing, you are still experiencing the same
emotion as if it's real.

So for example, I have role played with
women that I meet, and I am talking about
within seconds of first meeting them, that
I am Bond and that she is a Bond girl, usually
the evil Bond girl!!!!

They looooooooooooove it!
The girl I am now dating is a wonderful
person who I really dig in every way and
I met her using your principles.

I met her at the library, she was working there,
helping me find a book, and she just seemed
like a really well behaved girl, and so after
she helped me find some stuff, I playfully
teased her on being the opposite, specifically,
"an evil Bond girl with a library fetish" lol.
And I told her that she only helped me
so she can "have new prey".

With a smile, she asks what I mean, so I tell
her I know she really just lives for torturing
guys with overdue books, and that I know
where she takes them.

She totally eats it up, a glint in her eye as
she goes along with it and points to a little
room in the back to me, telling me that is
where she takes them to for the torturing.

Because of your DVDs, I now realize why
it makes total sense for a nice girl to eat
this stuff up, because she is such a "nice"
girl for real, that she doesn't get to be "naughty",
and I'm allowing her to be bad now in a way
where it's totally fun. As you explain,
this is all about emotions, giving women
awesome emotions, and as you explain
you have to give a woman what she
does not have, and this nice girl needed
some more playful naughty in her life lol.

I tell her that the room doesn't scare me
like it does other guys.

She goes back to me with a mischievous smile:
"And you'd like to see this room, wouldn't
you?"

To which I responded, in total Bond calm
and Bond tonality:
"That depends on the view."

At about the same time, she was being called
to take care of something by some woman
who worked there, so I told her in a playfully
suspicious tone that I had to get going as well
but that I would be "investigating this further"
and that she must leave her contact info, which
she immediately did with a smile and she
even told me when she's in so that I would
for sure reach her! Following the other
concepts you explain, the rest went equally
smoothly. She didn't even give me any
"cruel" tests, just the stuff that I now realize
from your materials that any girl does to
show she is not easy - I respected that actually,
makes me like her more.

As you say, this truly is not about being
some creepy guy, it's about allowing her
to live out the most amazing experience
possible, that's full of sexuality and anticipation-
it’s not about “not handing over all the power"
to her, it’s about being so much more of an
exciting man. And you are allowing her to be
who she really wants to be.

And of course, if she was more of "naughty girl"
to begin with, I would calibrate for this and allow
her to be more of a good girl!

Thanks to you, I give them not only what they
don't have, I give them what no man has ever
given them- an entire range of emotional
“climaxes” that she really can’t help but
be happily addicted to! I really am a giver,
it's awesome, and I feel great about it.

For any guys reading this, this is not only
about me being "Bond", but also about her
being the evil Bond girl, which is just as
important to the experience, so that she
can totally release herself sexually and
go wild with me.

And I could easily play with this in
a million other ways, for example me
being any type of cool role, for example,
I could be Clyde and she could be Bonnie
from the infamous "Bonnie and Clyde"
bank robbers! (Which I've done too,
and it's fantastic stuff!)

This vibe enables you to both have so
much more fun and to bypass boring
and restricting social conventions so
that you can both be far more sexual
and adventurous and still have total
respect for each other.

And that's just one part of one thing that
I got the far bigger picture on from your
DVDs. Here's another big thing I got from
your DVDs:

Everything I do is up to me and only me.
It's my decision. I think most guys don't
take an active part in their own decision
making process. For example, if I want
to allow a woman to be a certain way
in terms of more sexual and more fun,
then my clothing should be more fun
and more sexual and alive. I am
kind of saying "this is my perspective
on life and therefore I accept others
with it" so a woman doesn't have to
worry about being judged negatively
by being more forward with me.

She immediately knows she is with
the kind of man she will probably
never meet again anywhere, she knows
it from the way she feels when she is
around me- a way I make sure she
indeed does feel!

The way I move, the way I dress,
the tonalities I apply, the type of
conversation and interaction I
am having with her. She knows.

Your DVDs really go into detail on
how to take advantage of everything
in your power to give off the right
messages and vibes about yourself,
and even how to find the unique
parts of your personality and
highlight those as well.

Before this letter turns into a scroll,
lol, I'll say one last thing:
Your DVDs really hit home on
how to create just the right amount
of sexual tension so that she is
enjoying the maximum anticipation
without pushing it over the edge and
making her feel bad either.

This is something that has made a total
night-and-day difference in my interactions
with women - I really look at the entire
process, from the first second I see a woman
all the way to the hot and heavy stuff and
of course the deeper bonding (which is the
entire reason I came to your material in the
first place), I see it all as a rollercoaster now:

This is a roller coaster that I can enjoy because
it’s mine, I even steer it, and I bring her on board
my coaster! It has some intense moments of pure
adrenaline and drops, (this is where I am being
playful or doing some intense role-playing or
being really intriguing as you explain) but also
has some "valleys" that are calmer, (this is
where I will be giving her a sincere compliment
or just holding her hands in a warm but not intense
way, or where I will seriously be learning about
her and her background or her day, etc).

Achieving the right amount of sexual
tension is so important, I think most
guys tend to go to one extreme or
the other. Your DVDs helped clarify
this a lot.

Hope this helps your readers,

Craig S.
NYC

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for that awesome letter, it really
helps others when guys explain what's
working for them rather than just saying
"it's great".

It's obvious you are really getting this
now, you are employing so many of
the principles at once it's fantastic.
One of the great things about these
concepts are that they work well
independently and also work even
BETTER together. And using one
of the concepts will often help
you better understand another
concept, so the learning goes
in a never ending cycle of
improvement.

The role-playing situation you gave
is an excellent example of proper
role-playing, where not only are
YOU being Bond like, which of course
is always cool and gives her the DESIRE
to be naughty with you, but you are
ALSO, through this role-play, giving
her the LICENSE to be naughty,
since in HER new role it would
be totally EXPECTED. So this is
a great way of her getting over any
internal "obstacles" she may have
had with it. After all, it's just a
role, right? ;) A role that ends
up in your bed.

In this vein, I love how you hit home
how the point of all this is ultimately about
giving women an awesome emotional
experience from the FIRST moment
you meet her till the rest of your life
with her. And this is actually FUN
for YOU too.

Thanks again for your letter, great stuff.

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Hey Mike,

Just wanted to give you a shout on my
progress since I completed your Real
World Bootcamp a couple of months
back.

Ever since your Bootcamp, I've been
focusing on your “efficiency principle”
which reminds me of the “economy of
movement” principle- where you get
maximum results from doing the most
efficient actions, so no energy or time
is wasted.

And I've been pulling off some crazy
**** lately with it. I'm now able to
be "direct" with girls and yet it's as if
they often open up immediately
upon me starting to interact.

I think the analogy that's best for this
is that when you are a race car driving
at 200 miles per hour, you don't make
huge turns with the steering wheel,
rather you make fine adjustments-
and the better you get at this game,
the more "speed" and power you have
from the get-go, from anything you
do, including your body language,
your sense of humor, your dominance,
etc, all this stuff become super-charged.

And so therefore the focus is
more on fine calibration rather
than anything extreme. But this
doesn't mean it takes less skill,
rather it takes more.

Every word you said about the way
human beings behave in these dynamics,
the power of the tiniest of subtleties
in timing, in body language and tonality
and thoughts, it's true.

Seeing is also believing, as you showed
me when you went direct for that girl
in middle of her friends at that trendy
lounge. You really converted the friends
from being women defending their friend
from some 'stranger' to insisting that
you call her and not to disappoint her
by losing her number!

You really broke apart the "maze" for
me and showed me exactly how to see
the entire interaction for what was
really going on, and how each woman
there simply had a goal and a need,
and a fear, and you simply went about
handling these specific things efficiently-
till they had only one choice- to help
you get their friend!

What's really a learning experience for
me is also seeing how the girl herself
increased her attraction upon seeing
the way you handled her own friends!
She went from being all formal to
getting giggly and girly, just like
you predicted always happens when
things go right!

The funniest thing though is that your
efficiency principle is more than efficient,
the way I see it, because doing any more
than that seems like the guy is trying too
hard, it would be the equivalent of a girl who
is a knock out stripping for you all day, you'd
start to think something is wrong with this person,
she's so sexy but never stops, never chills out.

The less you need to do, the more cool you
must be, even on a subconscious level in
her mind, she will think this since she is
feeling attraction to you based on the least
you did, - so she just becomes hungrier and
hungrier for more of you, since she is
getting a lot of ‘bang for her buck’ – and
I promise that pun was not intentional!

This is definitely where your bootcamp has helped
me, because it's allowed me to experience and witness
the frame of "not trying to be the entertainer" while
still being the most dynamic guy she has ever met.

It's a very subtle difference that makes all the
difference between being the clown and being
successful with women- but it's the most important
difference in the world.

Also, simply by becoming so damn
comfortable with physically escalating,
women are disarmed as well, it's as if
because it's so natural to me now, it's
natural to them too, it's similar to how
a dog can sense comfort or fear in the
owner, and like another reader wrote
to you, I mean this not in a disrespectful
sense, but a basic sense of human
nature. The comfort level you
feel yourself is a massive turn on
for women in this area. All I can say
is, for any guy who doubts how
physical and sexual women are,
they are more sexual than I could
have ever imagined, and this in
itself makes me more calm about
escalating without making a
"big deal" about it.

I think guys really need to realize
that the way to get sexual is to
start off sexual from the get-go,
the sexuality should be there in
your voice, your humor, your
proximity to her, without
being needy- and by playfully
pushing her away now and then,
you show that you are not needy.
Whenever I do this, I find that
women flip around from being in
"hard to get" mode to being in
"chase this guy" mode.

They begin to get touchy feely with
me, they start asking me what my
name is, they start smiling and just
getting all girly. It becomes clear
that I'm making her day and that
she wants more. It's awesome and
of course it puts your confidence
into high gear.

Also, regarding the efficiency principle,
I can definitely see how being the
opposite at first, for beginners, - being
in fact even a little over the top - as you
first had me going at the beginning of
bootcamp was important for my development,
because at first I was too concerned with what
other people thought, I was too introspective,
too quiet, too afraid to even begin to "unleash"
my dominant and my fun side!!!

After getting me over this hump, it was only
then that I could appreciate the refinements
to "efficiency principle".

Peace,

David S.
Calgary, Canada

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for the props, man. The bootcamp
is a very personal experience, as each guy
is different and the program is tailored
specifically for his needs and goals.

That's one of the reasons the bootcamp
is One-On-One, this way my entire time
is spent with you and only you, so that
you can get the benefit of complete
personal attention for every second
of the bootcamp.

And I love your comments and analogies
on using the "efficiency principle" - they're
BANG-ON!

And if you are reading this right now
and would like to bring YOUR ‘game’
up to par so that women are CHASING
you rather than playing hard to get,
then it's time you TOOK ACTION by
getting my Warrior Within DVD Set.

What you read in these newsletters, as
powerful as they are, really IS just the
tip of the iceberg.

You will find that this program gets you RESULTS.
Listen to it ALL, and APPLY it. You’ll find that this
program is light years ahead of traditional dating advice.

I spent 2 YEARS developing this program, to really
figure out on the deepest levels what women actually
respond to, and to then distill this information in a way
that ANY guy can both UNDERSTAND and also USE
to GET the woman or women he desires INTO his life
and INTO his bed.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

To find out about all my programs for skyrocketing
your success with women, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Changing Your BRAIN & Attracting Women

As you probably know by now, I am not
a big believer in pick-up lines, because
pick up lines tend to MASK the real issue,
which is actually BEING a cool guy on
a deeper level in the first place, instead
of trying to put on an ACT.

And to become a cool guy on the most
important level, the level that actually
attracts a woman, it’s crucial to take the
HARD-CORE internal steps to make
you a much stronger man.

And one of the biggest WEAKNESSES that
must be obliterated if you want to attract
women is INSECURITY.

Now here’s the thing- the word “insecurity”
sounds really bad, it almost sounds as if
being insecure is some kind of CHOICE
and therefore if you behave or feel insecure,
you are somehow inferior or have less
will-power, etc, etc.

The truth is, it has NOTHING to do with
that at all. Rather, feeling insecure around
women has to do with the CHEMICALS
in your brain, PLUS it has to do with
NOT KNOWING HOW TO BEST DEAL
WITH THOSE CHEMICALS.

That’s it.
So if you feel insecure around women, as I did
for many years, it has NOTHING to do with
your WILL POWER and it has NOTHING to
do with how HARD you have tried.

It has to do with your chemical composition, and
it has to do with learning how to MASTER and
CONTROL it.

What is SO AWESOME is that you CAN learn
to control and to BEAT insecurity, to the point
that in fact your brain PHYSICALLY CHANGES.

THIS is the ultimate level of success, where
it has NOTHING to do with ACTING, it
has nothing to do with MANIPULATING
women, it ONLY has to do with YOU
improving yourself through applied
KNOWLEDGE.

If you want to feel more EMPOWERED
with women, with dating, with getting
physical and intimate with women, with
approaching women, and any other related
element of success with women, then
the first ACTION step you must take
is to ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES
OF YOUR ACTIONS.

So, for example, one reason a lot of guys
will NOT approach a woman is because
although on one hand it would be great
to ATTRACT her, on the other hand
there is the fear of REJECTION.

So, by NOT ACCEPTING THE POSSIBILITY
OF REJECTION, a guy will NEVER approach.

And here is the worst part of it all:

By NOT approaching a lot, or ever, he will never
get to the point that his brain CHANGES and
STOPS WORRYING ABOUT REJECTION!

You see, if you CONFRONT your fear, again
and again and again, your brain, by it’s evolutionary
design, decides it has to SPARE ENERGY for
OTHER ISSUES.

However, if you DON’T ACTUALLY approach
women, the issue remains SPECIAL in your
brain, and so it feeds you FULL FORCE FEAR
AND FULL FORCE INSECURITY.

As long as that fear remains “untouched” and
unconfronted, your brain gives it SPECIAL
status, and therefore FULL INSECURITY.

If you KEEP ON CONFRONTING THE ACTUAL
FEAR BY ACTUALLY APPROACHING, your brain’s
internal mechanisms have no choice but to
start DOWNGRADING the PRIORITY of this fear,
as it becomes a kind of pain in the neck
who is constantly seeking attention and
starts to BORE the hell out of your brain.

Kind of like watching a scary movie again
and again, it becomes kind of dull after
a while.

This is not just me joking around, it’s
the PHYSIOLOGICAL TRUTH about the way your
brain works and it alters the chemical
releases in your brain that control these
states of mind:

YOU ACTUALLY CHANGE YOUR BRAIN BY DOING THIS.

You already know you can change your
MUSCLES, well now you know that you
can change your BRAIN, in a way that
will make you far, far more successful
with women.

It involves EMBRACING the fears rather
than running from them.

And part of this EMBRACING the consequences
of your actions, including your worst fears,
ALSO includes the embracing of being able
to WALK AWAY from a woman who is
NOT treating you well.

Most men, if they are with attractive
women, if the women are not treating
the men right, most of the men will
still stay with these women, and the
women KNOW it.

It’s interesting, how so many times, when
a woman who is really attractive meets a
man who is NOT ACTING but is genuinely
WILLING TO WALK AWAY from her,
no matter how gorgeous she is, if he senses
she is not treating him right, her feelings of
attraction suddenly SKYROCKET for him.

But the thing is, in order to GET to this point,
you have to also be willing to APPROACH
her in the FIRST PLACE. You can’t say
to yourself “Oh I’m willing to walk away”
before you even APPROACH her.

It’s by having the strength on BOTH sides-
to APPROACH her even if it means accepting
the POSSIBILITY of it not going like you wanted,
and to ALSO be able to walk away once you
HAVE her interested, if you sense she is
interested but not truly respecting you, etc.

It’s not about PRETENDING to be hard to get,
it’s not about ACTING tough or ACTING like
a player, it’s about TRULY BEING ABLE TO
ACCEPT ALL POSSIBLE CONSEQUENCES
of your actions, whether it means that she
does NOT go for your approach, or whether it
means she DOES decide to NOT pursue you
if you walk away from her once you are in
a relationship, if she is not treating you well.

THERE IS NO FAKING.
A WOMAN CAN SENSE WHEN YOU
REALLY MEAN IT.

Also, this is not about attracting and
changing a woman who is disrespectful
and making her so attracted that she
now starts to treat the guy right.

Even though this DOES often work, I
don't like the idea of being with
a woman who NEEDS to be manipulated.

INSTEAD, what is MUCH cooler, is to
be this kind of SUPER COOL STRONG MAN
who is with a woman who is ALREADY
a great woman, who finds herself
MASSIVELY attracted to this man who
is so strong internally.

And really, there is NO LOSS to taking this
path of embracing the risk of her indeed
NOT going for you or for your approach.

The reason there is no loss, no downside,
is because THIS is the pathway of the
MAN, THE MAN WHO OVERALL IS
THE MOST ATTRACTIVE KIND OF
MAN TO WOMEN.

If you take the other route, the route of
trying to find perfection with zero risk,
if you try to FAKE that you are willing
to walk away, or if you try to take a
different strategy altogether, i.e. of
tolerating disrespect or of kissing up,
you will ULTIMATELY ALWAYS
END UP LOSING.

Whereas if you take the path I have suggested,
you will ALWAYS ULTIMATELLY END UP
WINNING, because any “success” you get
from FAKING or from avoiding all rejection
will NEVER last, because that type of
“avoiding all pain” behavior only makes
you WEAKER and MORE insecure, which
are going to ensure failure with women
in the big picture.

As you can tell from these newsletters,
I am only interested in CONCRETE
strategies that actually WORK to get you
attraction from women, in ways that
actually LAST long term.

For the ULTIMATE “internal training”
I suggest you get my DVD program
called WARRIOR WITHIN. I think it’s aptly named,
because it’s about making your “inner game” with
women as POWERFUL as possible.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

For any specific dating questions you have,
there is coaching over the phone or via email:

http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

And to learn directly from me in BOOTCAMP,
on tons of actual women in real life places, how
to MASTER the skills of approaching and attracting
women ANYWHERE, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

To find out about ALL my programs and materials,
go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Get A QUALITY Woman For A Fantastic Relationship

For some reason, before "Get A Great Girl"
existed, the PICK UP ARTIST focus was on:

"HOW TO GET A SMORGASBOARD OF WOMEN!!!"

"WHY WOULD YOU WANT JUST ONE WOMAN?"

"THE DESIRE FOR ONE WOMAN IS THE RESULT
OF SCARCITY THINKING!"

These days though, some of them
seem to ALSO be saying that what
they teach not only gets guys the
"playa" lifestyle, but ALSO gets
a guy a QUALITY WOMAN FOR A GREAT
LONG TERM EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Now here's the thing:
I want everyone to be happy and successful.
Really, I do.
Happy people make a better world.

And I even think that the general "have
fun and be confident" message is cool
no matter what kind of interaction
or relationship a guy is seeking
with a woman or with many women.

But that's where it ends.
You can't mix oil and water, and you can't
mix player strategies with the strategies
for being the kind of man who attracts and
keeps a woman for a long term relationship.

Getting "L-A-I-D like a PLAYA!" has virtually
nothing to do with keeping a woman attracted
long term in a great relationship.

That's because the players are concerned
with immediate 'ACTION', and guys seeking
relationships are concerned with long
term ATTRACTION.

A woman looking for long term attraction
is concerned with far more things than a
woman who is just looking for immediate
'action'.

Now, the reason for the existence of
'Get A Great Girl' is truly what it says-
a GREAT girl, the kind of woman who is
not only beautiful but is also a GREAT
person who does not play GAMES on you.

A woman who is HONESTY and LOYAL
and TRUSTWORTHY and KIND.

And ALSO the kind of woman who is
still STRONG and WISE and who can
see a sleazeball from a mile away.

And also, she is a woman who is
playful and has that SPARK of
fun and vitality to her.

Getting a great girl is very DIFFERENT
from just trying to get "l-a-i-d" by
many different women.

It's different because the truth is,
that no matter WHAT you do on a first
approach to a woman, it will NOT BE
ENOUGH to get her, if she is a quality
woman.

She has TOO MUCH AT STAKE to make an
instant decision on whether this will
be the man for her.

When it comes to a real long term relationship,
there are MORE emotions that must be met,
including far deeper levels of trust and
rapport.

See, this is part of why I am not limited
to the "pick up artist" view of attraction.

Pick up artists who are mostly concerned
with getting l-a-i-d by quantities of women
really tend to focus on a lot of nighttime
clubbing or other girls where they can
basically get physical fast.

This is not a sin or anything, as long
as both parties are being honest.

I've tried it myself. It can be fun if you're
in a certain stage, really, it's fine.

What's NOT cool though, is giving advice
to men and telling them that what works
to get physical fast with certain women
is the SAME thing as what it takes to
actually get and attract a great long
term girlfriend.

This is simply NOT THE CASE, because a woman
who is giving herself in a relationship is
giving FAR, FAR more of herself, her time,
her energy, her FUTURE, her EMOTIONS, when
it is something long term, perhaps a union
for life!

She needs to see the BIG PICTURE about a guy,
and although a FANTASTIC first impression is
IMPORTANT AS HECK, it's ALSO important that
the guy shows he indeed IS the man for her
over the course of the REAL "courtship"
which takes days, weeks, and months.

Even as a FIRST impression, the things you
want to convey if you are trying to attract
a woman who is looking for IMMEDIATE gratification
are very different than if you are looking
to attract a woman who is seeking the greater
picture long term.

And of course, ultimately, attracting a woman
long term is a WAY OF LIFE, the same way that
if you want to keep your PHYSIQUE, you can't stop
going to the gym.

So let me tell you:
First of all, you have to be SCREENING the
women you meet to make sure THEY are the
right women.

And when you DO meet a woman who IS the
right woman, you must not only behave
in a way that is ATTRACTIVE and sexy,
but you must ALSO show her that you are
TRUSTWORTHY, and that you have not been
corrupted by warped beliefs about all
women.

You have to be unshakeable in your noble
convictions. You have to be a leader.
You have to be calm. You have to be
passionate. You have to stand apart
from the crowd, yet you have to be
able to DRAW the crowd in as well.

Another thing you need are THE FACTS.

You see, once guy KNOWS a woman is no good,
usually he has no problem passing her by and
going on to the next woman to find someone better.

But because guys are so brainwashed, they
actually end up accepting into their lives
the kind of women that actually end up
messing them up. All because the guy
believes the hogwash the woman says,
who herself is often just repeating the
brainwashed messages she has had
implanted into her.

The woman is treating him horribly,
but the guy still doesn't get it, because
she has robbed him of any self-esteem,
so he can't even SEE how badly she
is treating him. It's as if he thinks
that life with her is soooooooo
IMPORTANT that it's worth
selling his SOUL AND HIS
DIGNITY to her.

I get TONS of email from guys about
"this one special woman" that in reality
is probably not so special. And the reason
I say this is because usually the man is pining
over her and she has done nothing for him.
So what makes her so special?

I feel like SHAKING THE GUY out of his
DELUSIONAL state.

This is why I say, "Get a GREAT girl!".

You have to get out of the "soup" of NEEDINESS
and jump into the other mode, which is more along
the lines of "I'm a man, and although I am a sexual
being, and although I fully understand the power of
a great relationship, and I can be the greatest guy on
earth in one, there's no way in hell I'm going to
settle for some woman who doesn't treat me as
I deserve and as well as I treat her."

Again, don't get me wrong:
It's GREAT to meet a woman who IS all
those good things, but the fact is, men are
being held HOSTAGE to a MYTH. The
MYTH that they NEED a woman's approval
so badly that they are wiling to be with the
WRONG woman.

And man, let me tell you something BIG:
SOME women are using this MYTH
to MILK guys for everything the guy has-
emotionally, financially, and taking all
the guy's TIME and ENERGY as well.

What these women are doing is PRETENDING
to be innocent and good, all the while
NOT being such a person. You see, it's
IMPORTANT for them to pretend, because
they know that a GOOD guy is not a STUPID
guy. They know that if the guy knew she
was no good, the guy WOULD in fact
dump her.

And not only would the guy dump her,
but he would then realize that a lot of
women are like this and he would
stop being such a target.

If all men did THIS, then you can bet your
assets that most women would be busting
their gut trying to EARN men's interest
rather than EXPECTING to get it for
NOTHING.

Of course, there are ALSO a LOT of really
warped GUYS out there. In fact, this is one
reason why I DESPISED much of what was
being taught as "advice for men" out there, because
the advice made a lot of GOOD MEN think
that all women were nuts, and that therefore
ALL women MUST be dealt with in GAMES
and manipulation.

This, in turn, led to a lot of INNOCENT women
being hurt by INNOCENT men who were really
thinking that this was the only way to communicate
with women!

These innocent women then became just as embittered
as the men, and these women probably started to think
that all MEN were nuts, and probably starting to act
in MANIPULATIVE ways to more men, creating
yet MORE embittered men in a never ending
DESTRUCTIVE cycle.

I WANT TO STOP THIS VICIOUS CYCLE.

At the same time, you cannot rationalize away
a woman's bad behavior. Just like a woman
should not rationalize away a guy's bad
behavior. You have to recognize a problem
and not think it's going to change, because
it won't, not unless the person owns up to
it and changes it themselves.

So what I'm going to do right here is
give you a few TIPS on how to know
if you're with a quality woman or not.

Because really, if a woman is not treating
you right, there's no reason on earth to
be with her.

1. If you constantly feel bad around a
woman, and she constantly claims to
not have a clue about what she's doing
to make you feel that way, chances
are that in REALITY she knows
EXACTLY what she's doing.

If your self-esteem was high enough,
you'd see it from a million miles away,
but since she has hacked away your
self-esteem since you met her, you
can barely recognize when someone
is abusing you anymore.

WAKE UP, my friend, if this is happening
to YOU.

If you ACCEPT this into your life, all
you will do is activate cognitive dissonance
in your own head and start to believe that
in fact somehow she is WORTH the abuse,
and that you are NOT worth more than this.

2. Here's another thing to beware of:
Abusive women ACCUSING YOU of what in
fact is THEIR "Modus Operandi".

Dishonest people love to accuse others
of what THEY are doing themselves, to
deflect attention off of their own guilt.

When a woman is doing something wrong
to you, and she knows it, and you bring
it up with her, the number one tactic that
all abusers to their victims is accuse them
of the very thing THEY ARE DOING TO THE VICTIM.

So, for example, if she is dishonest, she
will accuse YOU of dishonesty. If she
is making you feel confusion, she will
accuse you of making her feeling
confusion. Etc, etc.

So, if you see this kind of thing going
on a lot, it's not some kind of coincidence,
it's very much a part of her METHOD.

3. INCONGRUENCIES in their behavior.

You know how I always talk about actually
BEING "The Man" rather than faking it?

How I focus on your ACTUAL development
instead of on memorizing a pick up line?

It's because if you aren't REAL, it shows
anyway!

Similarly, if a woman isn't REALLY a
good person, it will SHOW no matter
WHAT she says about how great she
is as a person.

A lot of people lie to themselves and they
accept the excuses that another person
gives them, but ultimately, your GUT
tells you a lot about a person. Your
"gut" is really all the things you have
registered about the woman but that
you may not have formally recognized
or observed consciously.

Plus, if you look to see if she is consistent
or not, you will see if she is a good person
or not. Do her words really match her
behaviors? Forget about who she SAYS
she is "deep down". Does a good person
REALLY do and say the kind of things
she does and says?

By the way, words DO matter, they reflect
what's going on in her head. So words
AND actions count. But those words
really only count if the actions match
up.

Regarding her behaviours, ask yourself,
"Would a good person do this"?

4. Do they only respond to CONSEQUENCES?
If a woman only responds to CONSEQUENCES,
she's no good.

You are not there to be her kindergarten teacher
teaching her how to be a decent human being
and giving her "hard lessons".

FORGET such a woman, even if she RESPONDS
to your consequences.

When I meet a woman, the best thing she can
have going for her is the vibes she gives off
in the department of human respect RIGHT
FROM THE GET GO. And of course, she
gets it in return.

Any woman who has to be "punished" in
order for her to behave, is a woman who simply
is trying to get away with AS MUCH AS SHE CAN.

It's a woman who KNOWS what
good behaviour is, but will only
do it from CONSEQUENCES,
not from her own natural desire
to be decent.

5. If the only reason you are with a
woman is because she says she wants
to be with you, it's NOT enough. Plenty
of women can want to be with you
but still have no desire to treat you
right. Some women want to be with
a guy because they feel they can
control him. Not cool at all.

Okay, so those are some important
red flags to watch out for with a
woman, but as always, it's CRUCIAL
to me to be as ACCURATE as possible
about how things work and what's
going on.

There ARE some QUALITY women out there,
but they are as rare as it is for a great woman
to meet a QUALITY GUY. It may damn well
be even HARDER for women to meet a guy
that really has his act together and is cool
and is still a GOOD guy.

And before you can even KNOW if a woman
is good or not, you're going to have to MEET
her and ATTRACT this woman.

And that means while you can't be NAÏVE,
you also can't go around with a chip on your
shoulder. A lot of guys will hear the things
I have to say above, such as how so many
women can be so horrible, and then feel
like acting like TOTAL A-HOLES to
women.

But that's NOT going to work.

You can't have a chip on your shoulder, or
you will turn OFF even the women out
there who have great values and great
personalities.

But at the same time, acting TOO smiley
makes you seen NAÏVE, as if you are
easy prey for a woman to take advantage
of. Not cool.

This is part of the reason why going into an
interaction TOO "smiley" makes a woman
figure that you are either naïve or crazy.
Especially when you approach a woman
in a low key environment, i.e. a bookstore
as opposed to a dance club. The overly
smiley approach can make you seem
pretentious as well.

But you can't go in with a chip on your
shoulder either. Your past experiences
with women, if not positive, still do
NOT equal your future experiences
or the CURRENT experience that
you are having in the pickup at
that moment.

If you're looking to meet women, one way to
be in the right frame of mind is to focus on the
vibe of the MOMENT and totally forget about
thoughts of "Is this going to be my WIFE" or
anything extreme like that, because those kind
of thoughts will ruin any spontaneity and rob
your interaction of the natural fun that it
would normally be.

AFTER the interaction is OVER, then
at THAT point you can go over what
happened and see if you think she
has potential.

But in the moment of the interaction,
go in with FUN.

It doesn't have to add up to anything
beyond the moment, and that attitude
actually makes it more likely for that
moment to be a GOOD one, leading to
ANOTHER good moment.

Which leads to the next step, such
as having a coffee together and finding
out more about each other, and laughing,
which leads to holding her hands, which
leads to kissing, which leads to making
out hardcore, which leads to sex, which
leads to more sex, which may lead to
a relationship, etc etc.

Get the picture?
Step by step, as opposed to worrying
about the massive and often emotionally
overwhelming goal.

And, if at any point, she raises RED
FLAGS in your mind, you can STOP the
"courtship" in its tracks.

And by the way, when you do the 'pickup',
NEVER qualify yourself. It's sooooo
sucky. Most of the time, what happens
is that you feel the PRESSURE to
show her you are COOL and that
you have value. So you give into
temptation and you try to show
her you are cool by mentioning
things about yourself as if you
are selling yourself to her.

But in addition to understanding these
'strategies', you yourself have to become
the kind of man that IS what a great woman
is looking for.

And the FIRST place that you have to focus on
is INSIDE yourself, the BELIEFS you have about
women.

One of the MAJOR beliefs promoted by pick up
artists are that ALL women CHEAT.

Now, although it's important for guys who are
"nice guys" who are too naive and who think
all women are made from sugar and spice
(I myself used to think this, I used to think
that ALLwomen just really wanted to meet
a good guy) to WAKE UP TO THE REALITY
that there are many women who DO cheat,
it's important not to EXAGGERATE.

Believing that ALL women cheat pretty much
DESTROYS the chance of having any peace
of mind or any successful long term relationship.

If one believes that ALL women cheat, now even
the HONEST LOYAL WOMEN will be viewed
as the ENEMY who must be manipulated.

Since Get A Great Girl has been on the scene,
this message of "all women cheat" hasn't been
SHOUTED as loudly by them. It might be because
of my work, I can't prove it, but I think it
has something to do with it.

Before my work and Get A Great Girl came out,
where was ANYONE who was giving my message????
There was NO ONE, there was only the "nice guys"
advice, and the "pick up artist" advice, there
was nothing that really sought to see the
big picture for men who really wanted to
meet a great woman and keep her.

Who knows if this is a coincidence, but with
a quick search on google, you CAN prove that
the belief that 'ALL women cheat' is DEEP within
pick up artist history.

I myself got brainwashed by this belief,
and it wreaked havoc on my interactions
and relationships with women.

There was NO "attraction coach" dealing
with the TRUTH on how to get a girlfriend
for something LONG term. So I had to
learn it the hard way.

I was brainwashed to believe the lie that
"all women cheat", because it seemed to FIT
with all my experiences with women, but what
I didn't realize is that it only SEEMED this
way--not because it was REALITY--- but because I
MYSELF HAD CREATED A VIEW OF WOMEN THAT FIT INTO
SUCH A DESCRIPTION OF REALITY.

Ultimately, my own anxieties and experiences
made me VULNERABLE to believing these lies.

And it didn't help that I really WAS with
a woman who was pretty abusive and deceptive,
but that did not mean that ALL women were
this way!!!

However, our early experiences, just like
FIRST IMPRESSIONS, tend to really AFFECT
OUR EMOTIONS and really make us think
that our first impression IS the truth
about ALL of that reality.

Guess what else, though?
Most pick up artists these days will like to
cover their tracks and their image, especially
to the newspaper or media, by saying that they
are just about "self-development", and they
will sprinkle in recommendations of some
genuinely awesome authors such as Wayne Dyer,
or other great thinkers.

This is kind of how tobacco used to advertise
and sponsor FITNESS and SPORTS events, to link
cigarrettes with all these good things. This
is now illegal in many places.

But with the "bait and switch" tactics of
fooling people, even the New York Times will
get fooled.

Most journalists at newspapers unfortunately tend to
be more concerned with selling papers or with
promoting their own agenda, than with journalistic
integrity.

If you really DO want a great girlfriend
that is trustworthy as well as many other
good things, you simply CANNOT also believe
that all women are cheaters.

The belief that all women can be made
to cheat so easily will CORRUPT your
views on women and will make you feel
the need to PLAY GAMES on them.

These games will slowly RIP APART the fabric
of trust and playfulness that are so essential
in a healthy relationship.

This does NOT mean that all women are great!
Absolutely NOT!
That's why I created GET A GREAT GIRL, because
it's not only a METHOD, it's also a MISSION
to alert guys all over the world that they
should GET AWAY from the women who are abusing
them and move on to a BETTER woman!

Once the wrong woman gets a hold of your mind
and of your emotions, it can be TORTURE to
break free.

And then, once you finally do, you certainly
don't want to make the same mistake again,
and you certainly don't want to get caught
up with the WRONG woman.

Getting a fantastic LONG TERM girlfriend,
requires a VERY DIFFERENT approach than
being a player. In fact, it's two different
worlds.

If you want a fantastic relationship, then you
need to meet the right woman. You also need
to have the right INFORMATION about how to
attract and KEEP a great woman.

That's where I come in, and that's where
my book Get A Great Girl comes in.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

The ADVANCED level, what I like to call
the "sequel" to that book, is my program
WARRIOR WITHIN, which can be found here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

By the way, I really did learn the hard way,
and I really do believe with all my heart that
the material I teach is essential for any
man who really does want to get a great girl,
for something long-lasting.

Sincerely,

Michael Marks

Charisma Is MADE, Not Born

Although there are many ways to meet women,
including building up your social circle, or
through going online, my personal favorite is
the good ol' fashioned PRIMAL style:

SEE WOMAN, APPROACH WITH SKILL, GET WOMAN.

Does it always work?
Of course not, that's why MOST GUYS never DO it.

It's also why the guys who not only DO it,
but do it WELL, tend to get pretty awesome
results, ESPECIALLY if they do it a LOT.

To be blunt, it makes a pretty big statement
to a woman when you show her through this
kind of ACTION that you are DIFFERENT
from most men.

And hey, I'm NOT knocking the other ways
of meeting women, and in fact I've DONE
those ways as well, and they're totally
cool and fine!

But the thing is, the skills you get from
having to master REAL LIFE APPROACHES
end up making ALL THE OTHER WAYS seem
like CHILD'S PLAY.

But the reverse is not true.
Being confident while behind a screen
on the internet does not mean you will
be feeling as confident actually making
a real life approach to a woman who is
a total stranger.

Being witty when in the company of your
FRIENDS who happen to have invited a couple
women they know to a party is not the same
as being able to be witty and empowered and
on the ball when you suddenly must do it
on CUE when you see a woman on the train
in middle of a bunch of total strangers.

See what I mean?

And if a guy DOES meet a great woman using ANY method,
well then that is AWESOME SUCCESS, because as long as
you get what you want it IS success.

I'm just saying that I PERSONALLY find the
idea of making approaches to women to be
quite the DRAMATIC experience, and also
I have seen how the skills involved in
making a successful approach in real life
HELP you in meeting and attracting women
in every OTHER method such as online or
through your social circle, etc.

Some people like video games, some people
like to play poker. I think approaching
women is awesome.

And, it's not only the END result that
I like, it's the RUSH, it somehow feels
like one of the few POSITIVE things that
we can still do as men and women that harkens
back to the GOOD ELEMENT of our ANCIENT
SELVES.

There's something very INSTINCTIVE in
humans that AWAKENS when you take this
step.

When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are entering into the
'FORBIDDEN ZONE' in a cool way, that
society STILL seems unable to "modernize"
and I LOVE THIS, it's one of the only
ways to get in touch with who we are
as humans in the most EVOLUTIONARY
yet POSITIVE sense.

No twitter, no tv, no computer,
no technology to cover up or
to diminish the RAW EXPERIENCE.

This is about MAN and WOMAN coming TOGETHER.

It's what we were all BORN to do!!!!

And the fact that most people DON'T do this,
is what makes it even cooler, not just for YOU,
but for the WOMAN as well.

You're giving the woman that rare chance
for HER to experience this adventure that
brings out her most instinctive drive.

Now, doing it right involves a few skills,
it doesn't have to take forever, but it
does take a few skills, and the truth is
in a few weeks most men could get the
basics and do TEN TIMES BETTER with
women than they could before- IF they
actually kept up the practice.

But most guys don't get to the point of
developing the SKILL because they don't
even APPROACH in the first place.

Which brings me to Albert Ellis:

"Legendary psychologist Albert Ellis pioneered the
"shame-attacking exercise" in 1933 at age 19, when
he decided to approach every woman who sat down
alone on a bench at the New York Botanical Garden.

"Thirty walked away immediately," he told the
New York Times. "I talked with the other 100, for
the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was.
Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops."

And Ellis learned he wouldn't die from rejection.
Of the first 130 women he went up to, he got only
one date, he said, but "with the second 100, I got
good and made a few dates"--and, eventually, got
to be "one of the best picker-uppers of women in
the United States."
- Psychology Today Magazine, by Erika Casriel

Now, this is a guy who had ZERO information on
pick-up, and strictly worked on GUTS alone.

When I started out, I had no one to really
learn from, so I had to do the same thing,
learning it all the HARD way. If I could go
back in time, I could help his results MASSIVELY
by letting him know GUARANTEED ways to get
into the conversation without getting shut down
so that he buys himself the required two or three
minutes to actually SPARK attraction.

I would teach him various ways to disarm her
and charm her that would at least give him a
fighting chance, ways to take her automatic
responses she gives all guys to shut them
down and slip right by those statements.

For example, if she says that she is in a rush,
then the best thing to say is to actually NOT
ask her for a favour for a second, but to actually
let her know that you're in a rush as well, (so that
she can relax and not feel this is going to take
forever). If she says anything that is defensive,
the best way to diffuse it is to use warm
humor (i.e. if she says that she doesn't talk to
guys because guys are jerks, you should say
something like "I agree! That's why I'm talking
to you and not them" with a smile.) because you
need to change her emotional state not even
TRY to engage her actual argument or her
logic.

If she's smiling, she's no longer going to WANT
to shut you down.

The fact of the matter is that there are MANY
factors involved in a successful pick-up, and
KNOWING these in advance will HELP you
get more consistent results.

And one factor IS getting over your anxiety, yet at the
same time, it's important to realize that a BIT of anxiety
and fear is actually a GOOD thing!

It can work in your favor. Ask any martial artist
or any performer of anything and they will tell
you that fear, when controlled, can actually
ENHANCE your performance. It can help
you stay alert and be on the ball. For example,
if you are interacting with a woman and
you start showing off without realizing it
and she starts to roll her eyes, it's GOOD
that you feel a bit of discomfort at this, as
it MOTIVATES YOU to STEER THIS
PICK-UP PROPERLY and change gears
to showing that you are not full of yourself,
for example, by making a joke that is
SELF-DEPRECATING.

i.e. You're accidentally showing off about your
prestigious education and you then see her roll
her eyes, so you then say something like
"And of course, I then got my PhD in useless facts,
as we all know we learned more about real life
outside school."

This actually shows that you are far cooler and also
far more understanding and that you have more
empathy as well, all in one swift move.

Again, normally you wouldn't have to engage in
self-deprecating behavior, but in such as situation
it would be the right thing to do and would actually
make you seem cooler.

Now, if you have suffered major abuse yourself (and
I know what that is like, so I am absolutely NOT
makng light of this) then the anxiety of a social
interaction may be overwhelming, in which case you
should first work on building UP your desensitivity
to your fears so that you can take the anxiety of
a social interaction.

If we never felt ANY discomfort in a social interaction,
then we'd think we were PERFECT and never adjust
our behavior to help make the other person feel the
good vibes, and our social life would then SUCK.

Also, don't try to be PERFECT.
Don't try to build Rome in one day, or you will
feel that much FARTHER from progress and
you will feel even MORE anxiety.

Instead, keep taking STEPS, gradually
taking bigger and bigger steps, and
taking on more and more 'daring'
approaches with women.

I put 'daring' in quotes because you
will eventually see that this is FUN.

But just take it STEP by STEP for now.

When you are first learning these skills, you should
each day push your envelope a little farther. Start by
chatting up the clerks at stores, then work to starting
conversations anywhere with anyone, then work to
short conversations with women you're interested
in, then longer conversations, then to first dates,
then to getting physical, etc, etc.

THE KEY IS MOMENTUM.
DON'T STOP THE DAY TO DAY PROGRESS.

And if you don't believe me that great CHARISMA
is MADE and not BORN, let me give you some
examples from that same article:

"Conan O'Brien has said he knew that performing
live comedy was what he had to do because there
was nothing in the world that terrified him more.
But when he first debuted as host of NBC's Late Night
in 1993, ratings were abysmal and reviews were even
worse. Washington Post TV critic Tom Shales wrote
that O'Brien was "a living collage of annoying nervous
habits" and implored him to "get the heck off TV."
But he stuck it out, and years later, the critics ate
their words. Shales himself wrote that O'Brien became
"one of the greatest examples of a self-makeover in
television history"

Cool, isn't it.
By the way, Conan is happily married,
(a pretty cool feat in today's society) but
if he wasn't, I assure you, his confidence,
his humor, his wit, his rapport skills,
his social intelligence, would KICK ASS!

Here's some more:

"Comedic superstar Will Ferrell, who once
considered himself painfully shy, forced
himself to do crazy things in public. "In
college, I would push an overhead projector
across campus with my pants just low enough
to show my butt," Ferrell told People. "Then
my friend would incite the crowd to be like,
'Look at that idiot!' That's how I got over
being shy."

When I first started practicing, one of the
places I forced myself to go to were nightclubs.
I HATED it at first, and couldn't understand
how ANYONE could meet anyone in a place where
the music was so loud that you could barely
HEAR a word a woman said to you, plus it
was so dark, you could barely SEE anyone.

But, all these things are just ILLUSIONS,
they are NOT barriers at all, and learning
this helped me realize that ALL the "social
taboo of making approaches" was ALSO an
illusion.

Once I started teaching, some people even thought
that I must have ALWAYS been this "nightclub" guy.
That was a real compliment, because nothing could
be further from the truth.

At one time, the idea of going to MARS seemed more
comfortable than going to a club.

Now, I STILL don't think that nightclubs are the
best place for meeting a long term girlfriend,
HOWEVER, it was still useful to see how the
ILLUSIONS of "challenges" of meeting women
in a nightclub were a total JOKE.

Please believe me, that most women DO enjoy
being approached, even if they DON'T show it.

The thing is, it really helps a lot if you
do it RIGHT.

This stuff CAN be learned and MASTERED to the
point that it becomes effortless and natural.

Again, getting back to the NIGHTCLUBS lesson for me:
Not only was I not interested in that type of environment,
but I had no clue how the heck you can have a conversation
with all that noise and all those distractions and how
you can go from that to having not only a conversation
but to getting a real interaction and taking it to
a physical level all very fast. There was a time
you couldn't pay me a million dollars to be in
that environment.

So, if I could get over that, I knew that normal
environments would feel VERY comfortable me.

That motivated me to get good at this stuff,
and the reality is that it does NOT take that long,
but it DOES take MASSIVE DESIRE to succeed.

So DON'T THINK FOR A SECOND that "picking up women"
is beyond your ability, or beyond your personality.

Don't think that your anxiety is a BLOCK, because
even THAT can be controlled.

YOU can be the guy that OTHERS will say, "He's
a NATURAL at this" because from their perspective,
you will have improved THAT MUCH that others will
think this must have ALWAYS been something you
were great at.

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to be successful at 'pick-up' and how to attract the kind
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Years ago, I was training guys to not rely
routines, even as a bestselling author had
written a book that swore by the value of
memorized routines for picking up a woman.

This same author now agrees with what I said
YEARS ago that routines are actually not
necessary and that is very possible and in
fact PREFERABLE to not rely on them.

I've never resorted to manipulation or
abuse of women and I have always been
repelled by that idea, as well as repelled
by the idea of guys selling their self-esteem
just to get any "action" from a woman, because
they refused to learn how to actually spark
ATTRACTION.

I don't think I'm God, and I don't think I
have ALL the answers. However, I DO believe
that we must understand the deepest levels of
psychology and apply it to creating HARMONY
between men and women for a better world for
all of us. And we must learn from REAL
practice, as knowledge and theory without
practice is not enough.

This is about so much more than "getting action"
- it's about creating attraction on all levels
in the most powerful and meaningful way possible,
for the most lasting results with the kind of
woman you truly want in your life.

Somewhere, right this very moment, the
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WISHING that you knew all this stuff
so that you could take effective action
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Till next time,

Michael Marks