Approaching a woman who is a total stranger
in some random place that is not where
she is expecting to meet a man, can seem
like a daunting task, especially when you're
not sure what to even say.
The answer, however, to the most effective
approach is not to memorize a pick-up line,
but rather to learn to use the particulars
of the moment and the environment so that
you can truly customize your approach to
make it the most appropriate for that
situation.
So, let's say some woman is doing some
exercise beside you at the gym, or let's
say she is in line reading a book at the
bank, or let's say she is scrambling to
find her ticket as she boards the bus,
ANY of these things are true spontaneous
events that you could easily comment on.
And here's the thing: Even if your first
comment is not AMAZING, you STILL have
an opportunity to do AMAZING because there
are almost INFINITE opportunities that
can follow INSTANTLY after that.
And, women aren't expecting the first words
out of your mouth to be Shakespeare - it's
more important to not creep a woman out
than it is to come across like Mr. Ultra Smooth
Pickup Artist who has the most hilarious
or cool story or comment to say from the
first moment he opens his mouth.
In fact, the 'not creeping out a woman'
is ACTUALLY one of the BIGGEST skills
when it comes to meeting a woman in
random places that are not designed for
socializing- this is actually more important,
in the first moment, than saying something
that sounds cool but somehow is being
delivered in a way that is still creeping
her out- i.e. using nervous tonality,
being too in her face, seeming too
eager/desperate, not being chilled out
enough, etc.
Now, don't get me wrong, it IS GOOD
IF YOU CAN SLOWLY BUILD UP THE TEMPERATURE
of the interaction, and by that I mean
if you can start to pick up steam where
you and her are both really getting
comfortable and enjoying the vibe of
the conversation, and here is how you
can do that:
Rather than having some detailed plan
memorized for the conversation, you
actually treat the conversation more
like you would with a REAL friend-
in the sense of you wouldn't PLAN
ahead of time the details of what
you are going to chat about with
your FRIEND, right????
You would just HAVE A GOOD TIME
chatting to your friend, right?
About whatever- it might be some
movie you saw, it might be just to
joke around, it might be some
comment on something you learned,
it might not even be much talking
at all, but rather just chilling
out- and ALL these things are good
things to apply in the interaction
with the woman you approached!
You're probably wondering how this
is possible, since you don't know
the woman, you might figure that
you can't KNOW what to talk about-
but that's just IT- if you keep
the conversation a positive experience,
you really CAN'T go wrong.
AND, all you really need at any moment
is about a MINUTE'S worth of conversation!
THIS IS THE COOLEST THING.
You see, if you can get the conversation
going for even ONE MINUTE, during that
minute a WHOLE UNIVERSE opens up of
opportunities for you.
One thing that happens is that she can
COMMENT on what YOU said during that minute
where you were talking, and YOU can then
comment on what SHE just said, and so on
and so forth.
But even if she doesn't say anything
back after your first MINUTE of conversation,
that still gives you an entire MINUTE to
create a MILLION possible conversation threads
related to YOUR conversation topic.
The best analogy I can give of this is
what happens when you view a YouTube
video- you will notice that at the end
of the video, are a TON of related videos,
plus of course on the side of the screen
are the related videos.
So, for example, if you are chatting
with a woman at the gas station as
she is filling up or paying for gas,
you can playfully chat about how
you have a billion points in whatever
rewards program the store has, and
how that is good for about one pack
of gum, and this might prompt a
playful reply from her along the
same lines, to which you might
respond that the two of you could
pool your points together and then
you could get half a sandwich together.
Even if it doesn't prompt a response
from her, you might continue with
talking about how driving in snow
should require a special license,
or the talk about the sandwich
could lead to a conversation about
cooking instead of eating on the run,
which could prompt you to ask if she
is a good cook, and you can joke
about whether you would marry her
or divorce her right on the spot
based on that.
The more conversation THREADS you
have at your disposal, the more
opportunities you have and the more
likely it is that she is going to
instinctively engage in the conversation
with you.
And then, when you combine THAT
with what SHE contributes to the
conversation, you then have exponentially
MORE options on where to take the
conversation.
So all you really need is just a few
moments, perhaps a MINUTE as I said
earlier, and usually it's not even
a whole minute that you need.
This method works BETTER than memorizing
a whole pick up line and a whole pick up
routine, because it allows you to be more
REAL in the moment, and women can sense
that you are not just practicing some
rehearsed line, they can sense that you
are actually engaging them very much
in the moment, that you are being what
is known as 'PRESENT' with them.
Being present means you are not on auto-pilot
with your mind distracted on something else.
You are, instead, fully in the moment as
you communicate with her.
This method takes a lot of guts in the
beginning, because it FEELS like you
are jumping out of a plane withOUT
a parachute, without a safety of
having a whole speech memorized,
but this method is much, MUCH
better than the memorization
method because it allows you
to do all that I described above.
What you have just read is the tip
of the iceberg. I LOVE this stuff,
I love doing it, I love teaching it,
I love demonstrating it.
The fastest way for you to learn these
skills is to learn from me as I teach
you in PERSON, in real life, in my
BOOTCAMP program. I can teach you
anywhere in the world, or you can
take my bootcamp where I conduct
bootcamps most of the year, which
is in Toronto.
Don't push off learning this skill-set.
The right woman will give you TEN TIMES
the energy you currently have, so if
it's time or money you are concerned
about, just remember that this is an
investment that will pay dividends
for you for the rest of your life.
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
For a full list of my home-study programs,
go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Thursday, September 27, 2012
How To Get A Woman To Chase You
If you get a woman to chase you, you know
she's attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you start to chase HER,
you usually tend to LOSE the woman, as she
loses the attraction she felt for you.
The question though, a question I spent YEARS
figuring out the hard way, is:
How do you START a conversation with a woman
WITHOUT making it obvious that you are “chasing her”?
After all, the fact you started talking to her
makes it clear you have at least some interest
in her.
Well, some people like to think the answer is
to give women a series of backhanded
compliments, which is really a series of subtle
insults. For example, the guy will say something
nice to the woman, like, “nice smile” and then say
something like. “but you have weird hair” or
whatever other insult they could come up with.
The idea behind all this, is that this way supposedly
you don’t validate her, so now she will pursue you in
her quest to get validated.
Unfortunately, this is NOT ENOUGH, for the simple
reason that a woman has to feel some ATTRACTION
to begin with, before she will care about whether you
are validating her or not.
So the REAL ANSWER to, “How do I approach
a woman without making it seem that I am chasing her?”
is to get her MESMERIZED with you as fast
as possible so that she stops THINKING about
the fact you approached her, and is instead more
more concerned with her OWN interest in YOU
and how to ensure that she gets YOU!
In her mind, the fact you approached her
only means that you are CONSIDERING her,
not necessarily CHASING her.
Now, at that point, of course you can lean back and
chill out and let her chase you.
If she's attractive, you can be sure she will
enjoy chasing you, (don't go overboard, and
don't get abusive, ever, of course) since she
usually gets things too easily and that bores her.
So, instead of looking at value from a negative standpoint,
and giving women insults and then hoping they
will want to get validated by you, the best way to
go is to actually CONVEY REAL VALUE –
so that she WANTS to chase you.
By “real value” I mean getting her FEELING
A SERIES OF INTOXICATING EMOTIONS
THAT GET HER HEART PUMPING.
That’s the highest form of value you can give
a woman.
So now, I’m going to give you some of the WAYS
to convey value and attract her, all of which have
nothing to do with slamming her self-esteem or
any other negative stuff.
ONE: THE PARTY IS WITH YOU
This was one of the first “holy *&^%” moments
when I discovered this. Basically, what this is,
is that you adopt the mentality that there IS
a party going on, a GREAT PARTY in fact, and
that you are the CENTER of this party!
And you do this no matter what the heck is
“really” going on- you behave like everyone
around you is VISITING this party or has
just arrived, and as if they are all
super-friendly and admirers of you- wishing
that you would chat them up too, in addition
to all the other cool people who you were
chatting to before them.
This means ANYWHERE you are, you now
have the LICENSE to do all kinds of fun
playful and even risqué stuff, because it’s
all perfectly fine in the name of the PARTY.
You could get away with more sexual comments,
you could make fun of anything, you could make
any joke, you could SAY anything, if you are really
FEEELING THIS PARTY VIBE.
The key to making this work, is to not even
leave your ROOM or the house or building
until you have gotten yourself into this PARTY
state of mind.
You need to do whatever it takes to get the
PARTY inspiration, but don’t use alcohol
or drugs obviously as that is not only not
healthy but will screw up your performance –
so I suggest you listen to PARTY MUSIC
that you love instead.
The other thing to making this work is that
you have to anticipate BEFOREHAND that
you might meet a woman ANYWHERE
and so this way you are READY for the
moment when the moment comes- whether
it be in the coffee shop, bookstore, elevator,
bus, or school, ANYWHERE.
You have to be ready BEFORE it happens,
not just when it happens, or it’s too late.
Say you’re getting off the elevator and a
gorgeous creature happens to be right in
front of you- you can do something like this:
Give her this look, up and down, and
DON’T DO IT WITH SHAME, do it
like a MAN, and then give her a bit of
a nod, as if you’ve just given her your
stamp that she qualifies, and you could
even say, “The party is this way”, and
gesture toward where you’re going,
or you could even say, "The party is
HERE", and point to yourself.
Again, this stuff requires you to be
in FULL party state, the reason it works
is because since YOU are in that state
and showing it, it makes it EASY for her
to join this state as well, because the reality
is that EVERYONE wants to be having
MORE FUN, no one wants to get more
depressed and formal and official, and
here you are having a great time ALREADY
and just inviting her to playfully join.
Again, the key is that you are ALREADY
in this state of mind BEFORE you meet her,
so this way she gets to actually feel MORE
comfortable to join your “party” since she
doesn’t have to feel it’s all about HER,
rather it’s about the chance to FEEL GOOD.
And guess what?
If a woman is feeling good and sexual around
you, and feeling bored and depressed around
everyone ELSE, guess who she’s going to
BE with? YOU.
This feeling GOOD stuff is so powerful, and
yet 99% of people prevent themselves from
feeling this by getting caught up in all kinds
of horse-crap, because as long as you are alive,
there’s really nothing you can control, so you
might as well have FUN!!!!
Make yourself the one guy on earth who IS
her drug, the source of feeling intoxicatingly
awesome.
And the irony is that you will do this best by
NOT doing it for HER, but by already being
In this state yourself.
You don’t have to be in this state 24/7, but you
definitely want to be in this state if you are out
trying to meet and attract the women of your choice.
TWO: CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE
Clothing is something we all have to wear most
of the time – and it covers us from almost head
to toe- it’s LIKE AN ADVERTISING BILLBOARD,
but the “ad” that most guys are wearing is saying
“I’m boring and not social and not looking to
have any fun, ever.”
So you should definitely be pushing the envelope
to find clothing that has STYLE, and that reflects
some of your OWN personality as well- whether
it’s leather with some shiny metallic on it,
whether it’s an unusual but cool denim,
you want to be STANDING OUT and not
wearing the thing that makes you blend in
as one of a billion other guys.
This is a huge topic in itself, but the key
Is to remember that no matter what your
environment, whether it’s work or a club
or a party, you can always find the thing
that you can get away with that pushes
the envelope without being ridiculous
in each environment.
Another thing to remember is that most guys
tend to avoid upbeat colors, and it’s a good idea
to incorporate some more color, even if it’s just
a BIT of bright color to offset what is mostly
dark colors. This was the hardest thing for me
to do at first, because I actually felt so gloomy
and angry, I liked dressing like Batman, so it
took a while for me to have some more range
with some color as well. No one is saying you
have to wear pink and yellow, or look “gay”,
there are a lot of other options besides that.
You may want to ask the most attractive female
clerk at the clothing store for her help, and while
you’re at it, go for her number as well.
THREE: USE YOUR VOICE
Start things off RIGHT.
When you initially say the first WORD (and after
as well, but especially when you start, to get her
attention the first time) to a woman who is a total
stranger, it’s important that you don’t come across
as weak or without conviction in your decision to
talk to her.
Say it with FULL AUTHORITY in your voice,
whether it’s “Hi” or “Hey” or “I’m on my
way to the King Tut exhibit at the museum”-
SAY IT WITH TOTAL AUTHORITY.
This way she won’t question WHY you are
talking to her and it will also get her
attention in a receptive way, so that
now you can actually get into the more
juicy fun or interesting stuff you were
going to talk about to her.
FOUR: SET THE RIGHT TONE FROM THE GET-GO,
AND HAVE IT STAY THAT WAY
Now, it’s important to realize regarding the above
things, that whatever you do in the beginning will
set up the DYNAMIC of how things will go till the
END.
If you set up the dynamic as highly sexual but without
any deeper connection going on, then your relationship
will likely become sexual but then explode and self-destruct
quickly.
If you tease a woman too much, she will end up
teasing you back hardcore as well, and this might
get out of hand and become annoying after a while.
If you keep the dynamic too “anti-septic” and safe
and free of sexual vibe, you will end up as friends only,
and you don’t want that.
If you play games too much in the beginning, the relationship
will end as a result of these games as well.
So you must strike the right BALANCE in your
interactions with women, and you must do this
right especially at the BEGINNING, so that
things are established immediately and flow
in the direction you want.
What you have read is just the tip of the
iceberg of ALL the things you can do to increase
your actual ATTRACTIVE POWER.
If you would like to take your success
with women to an even HIGHER level, then
DEFINITELY get my program "Acing The Approach"
by going here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
I also seriously suggest you check out ALL my
powerful programs for skyrocketing your success
with women by going HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
I assure you that each and every single one of
these programs will give you TONS of VITAL new
insights and strategies for attracting women
of exceptional quality.
If you have any questions about any of my
programs, including the live bootcamp,
just email me.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
she's attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you start to chase HER,
you usually tend to LOSE the woman, as she
loses the attraction she felt for you.
The question though, a question I spent YEARS
figuring out the hard way, is:
How do you START a conversation with a woman
WITHOUT making it obvious that you are “chasing her”?
After all, the fact you started talking to her
makes it clear you have at least some interest
in her.
Well, some people like to think the answer is
to give women a series of backhanded
compliments, which is really a series of subtle
insults. For example, the guy will say something
nice to the woman, like, “nice smile” and then say
something like. “but you have weird hair” or
whatever other insult they could come up with.
The idea behind all this, is that this way supposedly
you don’t validate her, so now she will pursue you in
her quest to get validated.
Unfortunately, this is NOT ENOUGH, for the simple
reason that a woman has to feel some ATTRACTION
to begin with, before she will care about whether you
are validating her or not.
So the REAL ANSWER to, “How do I approach
a woman without making it seem that I am chasing her?”
is to get her MESMERIZED with you as fast
as possible so that she stops THINKING about
the fact you approached her, and is instead more
more concerned with her OWN interest in YOU
and how to ensure that she gets YOU!
In her mind, the fact you approached her
only means that you are CONSIDERING her,
not necessarily CHASING her.
Now, at that point, of course you can lean back and
chill out and let her chase you.
If she's attractive, you can be sure she will
enjoy chasing you, (don't go overboard, and
don't get abusive, ever, of course) since she
usually gets things too easily and that bores her.
So, instead of looking at value from a negative standpoint,
and giving women insults and then hoping they
will want to get validated by you, the best way to
go is to actually CONVEY REAL VALUE –
so that she WANTS to chase you.
By “real value” I mean getting her FEELING
A SERIES OF INTOXICATING EMOTIONS
THAT GET HER HEART PUMPING.
That’s the highest form of value you can give
a woman.
So now, I’m going to give you some of the WAYS
to convey value and attract her, all of which have
nothing to do with slamming her self-esteem or
any other negative stuff.
ONE: THE PARTY IS WITH YOU
This was one of the first “holy *&^%” moments
when I discovered this. Basically, what this is,
is that you adopt the mentality that there IS
a party going on, a GREAT PARTY in fact, and
that you are the CENTER of this party!
And you do this no matter what the heck is
“really” going on- you behave like everyone
around you is VISITING this party or has
just arrived, and as if they are all
super-friendly and admirers of you- wishing
that you would chat them up too, in addition
to all the other cool people who you were
chatting to before them.
This means ANYWHERE you are, you now
have the LICENSE to do all kinds of fun
playful and even risqué stuff, because it’s
all perfectly fine in the name of the PARTY.
You could get away with more sexual comments,
you could make fun of anything, you could make
any joke, you could SAY anything, if you are really
FEEELING THIS PARTY VIBE.
The key to making this work, is to not even
leave your ROOM or the house or building
until you have gotten yourself into this PARTY
state of mind.
You need to do whatever it takes to get the
PARTY inspiration, but don’t use alcohol
or drugs obviously as that is not only not
healthy but will screw up your performance –
so I suggest you listen to PARTY MUSIC
that you love instead.
The other thing to making this work is that
you have to anticipate BEFOREHAND that
you might meet a woman ANYWHERE
and so this way you are READY for the
moment when the moment comes- whether
it be in the coffee shop, bookstore, elevator,
bus, or school, ANYWHERE.
You have to be ready BEFORE it happens,
not just when it happens, or it’s too late.
Say you’re getting off the elevator and a
gorgeous creature happens to be right in
front of you- you can do something like this:
Give her this look, up and down, and
DON’T DO IT WITH SHAME, do it
like a MAN, and then give her a bit of
a nod, as if you’ve just given her your
stamp that she qualifies, and you could
even say, “The party is this way”, and
gesture toward where you’re going,
or you could even say, "The party is
HERE", and point to yourself.
Again, this stuff requires you to be
in FULL party state, the reason it works
is because since YOU are in that state
and showing it, it makes it EASY for her
to join this state as well, because the reality
is that EVERYONE wants to be having
MORE FUN, no one wants to get more
depressed and formal and official, and
here you are having a great time ALREADY
and just inviting her to playfully join.
Again, the key is that you are ALREADY
in this state of mind BEFORE you meet her,
so this way she gets to actually feel MORE
comfortable to join your “party” since she
doesn’t have to feel it’s all about HER,
rather it’s about the chance to FEEL GOOD.
And guess what?
If a woman is feeling good and sexual around
you, and feeling bored and depressed around
everyone ELSE, guess who she’s going to
BE with? YOU.
This feeling GOOD stuff is so powerful, and
yet 99% of people prevent themselves from
feeling this by getting caught up in all kinds
of horse-crap, because as long as you are alive,
there’s really nothing you can control, so you
might as well have FUN!!!!
Make yourself the one guy on earth who IS
her drug, the source of feeling intoxicatingly
awesome.
And the irony is that you will do this best by
NOT doing it for HER, but by already being
In this state yourself.
You don’t have to be in this state 24/7, but you
definitely want to be in this state if you are out
trying to meet and attract the women of your choice.
TWO: CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE
Clothing is something we all have to wear most
of the time – and it covers us from almost head
to toe- it’s LIKE AN ADVERTISING BILLBOARD,
but the “ad” that most guys are wearing is saying
“I’m boring and not social and not looking to
have any fun, ever.”
So you should definitely be pushing the envelope
to find clothing that has STYLE, and that reflects
some of your OWN personality as well- whether
it’s leather with some shiny metallic on it,
whether it’s an unusual but cool denim,
you want to be STANDING OUT and not
wearing the thing that makes you blend in
as one of a billion other guys.
This is a huge topic in itself, but the key
Is to remember that no matter what your
environment, whether it’s work or a club
or a party, you can always find the thing
that you can get away with that pushes
the envelope without being ridiculous
in each environment.
Another thing to remember is that most guys
tend to avoid upbeat colors, and it’s a good idea
to incorporate some more color, even if it’s just
a BIT of bright color to offset what is mostly
dark colors. This was the hardest thing for me
to do at first, because I actually felt so gloomy
and angry, I liked dressing like Batman, so it
took a while for me to have some more range
with some color as well. No one is saying you
have to wear pink and yellow, or look “gay”,
there are a lot of other options besides that.
You may want to ask the most attractive female
clerk at the clothing store for her help, and while
you’re at it, go for her number as well.
THREE: USE YOUR VOICE
Start things off RIGHT.
When you initially say the first WORD (and after
as well, but especially when you start, to get her
attention the first time) to a woman who is a total
stranger, it’s important that you don’t come across
as weak or without conviction in your decision to
talk to her.
Say it with FULL AUTHORITY in your voice,
whether it’s “Hi” or “Hey” or “I’m on my
way to the King Tut exhibit at the museum”-
SAY IT WITH TOTAL AUTHORITY.
This way she won’t question WHY you are
talking to her and it will also get her
attention in a receptive way, so that
now you can actually get into the more
juicy fun or interesting stuff you were
going to talk about to her.
FOUR: SET THE RIGHT TONE FROM THE GET-GO,
AND HAVE IT STAY THAT WAY
Now, it’s important to realize regarding the above
things, that whatever you do in the beginning will
set up the DYNAMIC of how things will go till the
END.
If you set up the dynamic as highly sexual but without
any deeper connection going on, then your relationship
will likely become sexual but then explode and self-destruct
quickly.
If you tease a woman too much, she will end up
teasing you back hardcore as well, and this might
get out of hand and become annoying after a while.
If you keep the dynamic too “anti-septic” and safe
and free of sexual vibe, you will end up as friends only,
and you don’t want that.
If you play games too much in the beginning, the relationship
will end as a result of these games as well.
So you must strike the right BALANCE in your
interactions with women, and you must do this
right especially at the BEGINNING, so that
things are established immediately and flow
in the direction you want.
What you have read is just the tip of the
iceberg of ALL the things you can do to increase
your actual ATTRACTIVE POWER.
If you would like to take your success
with women to an even HIGHER level, then
DEFINITELY get my program "Acing The Approach"
by going here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
I also seriously suggest you check out ALL my
powerful programs for skyrocketing your success
with women by going HERE:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
I assure you that each and every single one of
these programs will give you TONS of VITAL new
insights and strategies for attracting women
of exceptional quality.
If you have any questions about any of my
programs, including the live bootcamp,
just email me.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Friday, August 31, 2012
How To START And KEEP A Conversation Going With A Woman
Have you ever approached a woman,
managed to work up the guts to SAY
something, and then the conversation
didn't LAST? Maybe you said some
comment about the book she was
holding, or the drink she was having,
or maybe it was a compliment.
She smiles, and then you have nothing
really POWERFUL to get her hooked
into wanting to talk to you more.
If this has happened to you, you are not
alone, it's one of the most common issues
when trying to approach a woman and get
her number, email, etc.
So let me show you how to solve this
problem.
Step One.
1. The first thing you want to do is to
realize that about 99% of the conversation
material can often come not from YOU but
from HER!
Step Two.
2. Yes, and the way this works is by truly
LISTENING to what she says in REPLY
to you. Listening not only with open
ears, but also with an open heart, meaning
that you GENIUNELY are listening to
hear her.
Step Three.
3.Now, the thing is, in order to prompt
a meaningful reply from her to your
original statement, you want to make an
opening statement that actually has some
MEAT in it, something that is worthy of
actually getting a reply.
The key for this to work BEST is to NOT
be FAKE about the topic you choose to open.
Choose something that YOU are genuinely
interested in, that is also upbeat, inspiring,
or meaningful.
You can go in with MANY different angles,
and there is absolutely an angle that is consistent
with your personality so that you are not acting
like someone else.
So, for example, if you were the kind of guy
who is very interested in living an inspired
life, in feeling that your life has meaning,
in making the MOST of everyday, etc,
then you might say something like this
to a woman in a bookstore: "Hi there,
can you answer this question- what
do you think of the phrase 'Don't die
with the song still in you' "?
NOW, if she asks you what you mean,
this is FANTASTIC, because it gives
you another chance to talk MORE but
more importantly it is you giving value
to HER, which is the name of the game.
So, you can continue with something like
this: "What if we all spent our lives doing
things that we didn't really love but we
thought we had to do, and then right
at the end we found out that all those
things were just LIE and we never let
our "song" out, the thing we were meant
to do?"
Now, THIS is meaty stuff, it's got tons
of potential. She can not only reply to
this in detail, but you can LISTEN to
what she is saying and really pay
attention and then be able to give
BACK meaningful conversation as
well.
The genius behind this is that now
you are LISTENING to HER, which
makes HER feel awesome, and yet
she is talking to you about something
that you care about, so none of this is
fake. You can can go on an on about
this for hours.
And this leads to DEEP connection,
which means mo more FLAKY number or
emails- girls only flake because
they don't feel a sense of connection.
That's why they don't answer emails
or phone calls or don't give out
numbers.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE WITH A DIFFERENT
TYPE OF PERSONALITY:
Now, let's say you are more of just
a happy go lucky guy that isn't really
that "deep" at least not in that way.
That's fine, it's all good. You can
THEN go in with a more humorous angle,
i.e. if you are in the supermarket
and you notice the same woman twice,
i.e. let's say you saw her in the fish
dept., then you see her in the cereal
aisle, you can give her this mischievous
look and say, "Hey, are you following me?
I'm getting nervous!"
And if she says, "Noooo, what makes you
say that??" You can reply with,"Well
for all I know you want to raid my
grocery cart here, I got all the low-fat
yogurt on special today and you just
want to take one out of my cart!"
Even here, in this situation though, the
key is to open with something that is
MEATY in the sense that you must light
the switches in her mind called
"INTERESTING and POSITIVE."
You can tell her that you bet she is one
of those healthy type women who is
all about good fitness and nutrition,
etc, which will either prompt her to
say that she IS or she ISN'T.
If she says she IS, then you can now
give her a sincere compliment for
that and tell her that with work or
school taking up so much time, it
takes a lot of discipline to do that.
And if she says she DOESN'T work
out or eat healthy, you can tease
her for not being honest, or you can
say she is being modest, and that she
can just open up with you, you are
just the official supermarket public
relations guy, and if she takes you
SERIOUSLY on that, that's even
MORE reason for you to have fun
and then you can pretend you are
asking her a serious survey question,
and then let her know you are totally
joking.
And THEN you can both get into
a "normal" conversation about things
like "what's your name" what do
you do, etc, because NOW she is
interested and you are interested
in knowing more about her.
As I'm sure you can see, this stuff is
what WORKS, and I'd LOVE to see YOU get
ALLLLL the results you deserve. What's
more, I know I can GET YOU to where you
want to be in this area of your life,
and I LOVE the thrill of making that
happen.
If you haven't yet downloaded my programs,
"Acing The Approach" and "Attraction Accelerators"
then definitely do that NOW.
These two programs are LOADED with pure GOLD
on how to approach ANY woman absolutely
ANYWHERE and get her attracted.
"Acing The Approach" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
"Attraction Accelerators" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
These two programs are an absolute STEAL
at only $19.97 each. I'm not kidding.
The way I look at it, I have made cost
a NON-ISSUE. If I gave these materials
away for FREE it would be an INSULT
to the quality of these programs.
At 20 bucks, it's just enough to
prevent ABUSE of the system.
Trust me, these programs are AMAZING
and they WORK. If you don't AGREE
with me, just let me know and I
will refund your cost and you
don't have to EVER buy a thing
from me again EVER. Seriously,
I don't even WANT any orders
from guys who aren't THRILLED
with the quality of my programs.
Use these programs to SMASH through
ANY obstacles that are holding you
back from AMAZING success with women.
You will be getting at least a HUNDRED
times the value of your investment in
these programs, and you will start to
see the results with women IMMEDIATELY.
"Acing The Approach" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
"Attraction Accelerators" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
managed to work up the guts to SAY
something, and then the conversation
didn't LAST? Maybe you said some
comment about the book she was
holding, or the drink she was having,
or maybe it was a compliment.
She smiles, and then you have nothing
really POWERFUL to get her hooked
into wanting to talk to you more.
If this has happened to you, you are not
alone, it's one of the most common issues
when trying to approach a woman and get
her number, email, etc.
So let me show you how to solve this
problem.
Step One.
1. The first thing you want to do is to
realize that about 99% of the conversation
material can often come not from YOU but
from HER!
Step Two.
2. Yes, and the way this works is by truly
LISTENING to what she says in REPLY
to you. Listening not only with open
ears, but also with an open heart, meaning
that you GENIUNELY are listening to
hear her.
Step Three.
3.Now, the thing is, in order to prompt
a meaningful reply from her to your
original statement, you want to make an
opening statement that actually has some
MEAT in it, something that is worthy of
actually getting a reply.
The key for this to work BEST is to NOT
be FAKE about the topic you choose to open.
Choose something that YOU are genuinely
interested in, that is also upbeat, inspiring,
or meaningful.
You can go in with MANY different angles,
and there is absolutely an angle that is consistent
with your personality so that you are not acting
like someone else.
So, for example, if you were the kind of guy
who is very interested in living an inspired
life, in feeling that your life has meaning,
in making the MOST of everyday, etc,
then you might say something like this
to a woman in a bookstore: "Hi there,
can you answer this question- what
do you think of the phrase 'Don't die
with the song still in you' "?
NOW, if she asks you what you mean,
this is FANTASTIC, because it gives
you another chance to talk MORE but
more importantly it is you giving value
to HER, which is the name of the game.
So, you can continue with something like
this: "What if we all spent our lives doing
things that we didn't really love but we
thought we had to do, and then right
at the end we found out that all those
things were just LIE and we never let
our "song" out, the thing we were meant
to do?"
Now, THIS is meaty stuff, it's got tons
of potential. She can not only reply to
this in detail, but you can LISTEN to
what she is saying and really pay
attention and then be able to give
BACK meaningful conversation as
well.
The genius behind this is that now
you are LISTENING to HER, which
makes HER feel awesome, and yet
she is talking to you about something
that you care about, so none of this is
fake. You can can go on an on about
this for hours.
And this leads to DEEP connection,
which means mo more FLAKY number or
emails- girls only flake because
they don't feel a sense of connection.
That's why they don't answer emails
or phone calls or don't give out
numbers.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE WITH A DIFFERENT
TYPE OF PERSONALITY:
Now, let's say you are more of just
a happy go lucky guy that isn't really
that "deep" at least not in that way.
That's fine, it's all good. You can
THEN go in with a more humorous angle,
i.e. if you are in the supermarket
and you notice the same woman twice,
i.e. let's say you saw her in the fish
dept., then you see her in the cereal
aisle, you can give her this mischievous
look and say, "Hey, are you following me?
I'm getting nervous!"
And if she says, "Noooo, what makes you
say that??" You can reply with,"Well
for all I know you want to raid my
grocery cart here, I got all the low-fat
yogurt on special today and you just
want to take one out of my cart!"
Even here, in this situation though, the
key is to open with something that is
MEATY in the sense that you must light
the switches in her mind called
"INTERESTING and POSITIVE."
You can tell her that you bet she is one
of those healthy type women who is
all about good fitness and nutrition,
etc, which will either prompt her to
say that she IS or she ISN'T.
If she says she IS, then you can now
give her a sincere compliment for
that and tell her that with work or
school taking up so much time, it
takes a lot of discipline to do that.
And if she says she DOESN'T work
out or eat healthy, you can tease
her for not being honest, or you can
say she is being modest, and that she
can just open up with you, you are
just the official supermarket public
relations guy, and if she takes you
SERIOUSLY on that, that's even
MORE reason for you to have fun
and then you can pretend you are
asking her a serious survey question,
and then let her know you are totally
joking.
And THEN you can both get into
a "normal" conversation about things
like "what's your name" what do
you do, etc, because NOW she is
interested and you are interested
in knowing more about her.
As I'm sure you can see, this stuff is
what WORKS, and I'd LOVE to see YOU get
ALLLLL the results you deserve. What's
more, I know I can GET YOU to where you
want to be in this area of your life,
and I LOVE the thrill of making that
happen.
If you haven't yet downloaded my programs,
"Acing The Approach" and "Attraction Accelerators"
then definitely do that NOW.
These two programs are LOADED with pure GOLD
on how to approach ANY woman absolutely
ANYWHERE and get her attracted.
"Acing The Approach" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
"Attraction Accelerators" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
These two programs are an absolute STEAL
at only $19.97 each. I'm not kidding.
The way I look at it, I have made cost
a NON-ISSUE. If I gave these materials
away for FREE it would be an INSULT
to the quality of these programs.
At 20 bucks, it's just enough to
prevent ABUSE of the system.
Trust me, these programs are AMAZING
and they WORK. If you don't AGREE
with me, just let me know and I
will refund your cost and you
don't have to EVER buy a thing
from me again EVER. Seriously,
I don't even WANT any orders
from guys who aren't THRILLED
with the quality of my programs.
Use these programs to SMASH through
ANY obstacles that are holding you
back from AMAZING success with women.
You will be getting at least a HUNDRED
times the value of your investment in
these programs, and you will start to
see the results with women IMMEDIATELY.
"Acing The Approach" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
"Attraction Accelerators" is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Friday, February 10, 2012
The Charismatic Man
When it comes to attracting women, most men
take FOREVER trying to learn all that is required
to get women to notice them, or into learning
"how to impress women" to go out with them,
"how to impress women" to go out with them,
and into learning how to "get physical."
A lot of men ask the following question:
"Is there a SHORT CUT to attracting women?"
The answer is, it depends on whether a man has
CHARISMA or not.When a man has CHARISMA, he can “break every rule”
about attraction and STILL attract fantastic women.
He can be nice, or he can not be nice.
He can give compliments, or not.
He can be great looking, but he can also be
way LESS than average looking.
He can dress like a regular dude, or dress like
a vagrant. He can even get away with tons of
self-deprecating remarks.
When a man has charisma, he can have a way
less-than-regular job, and even be looked at by
MANY as some kind of “loser”.
And yet, with all this, he will STILL get way MORE
options, with SUPER ATTRACTIVE women, than
most men will EVER have.
In the INSTANT that a charismatic man approaches
a woman, she SENSES his personality immediately,
she gets "that feeling" inside, and she KNOWS that
she is going to soon end up in bed with him.
Why Charisma Is So Powerful In Attracting Women
There is ONE reason for her overwhelming
"surrender" to such a man: It’s because
UNDERNEATH it all, he gives off a PRIMAL
VIBE that he is PURE SEX, that he is raw lust,
that he is beyond CONTROL, and in fact that
he is beyond HUMAN.
Such is the ESSENCE of charisma.
I know that sounds crazy, but it IS the truth.
It's not that he IS beyond human, it's that he
gives off that VIBE, he makes a woman
FEEL that he is all these things.
Here's An Example Of How Charisma Works To
Make A Woman Sexually ADDICTED To A Man
Let me illustrate with one quick point:
Women are just as sexual as men, but we as
men have been made to believe that they aren’t.
So men try to appeal to women with things like
MONEY.
So what this ends up doing is making a woman
SLOW down the flow of the “milk” so to speak,
to any man that seems willing to PAY to be with her.
She will NOT provide the sex because she can see
that her value will only go DOWN since there is
nowhere but DOWN for her value to go, since
the guy is ALREADY paying to impress her!
It’s not like he is going to pay MORE once
he GETS what he wants!
If anything, he will get LESS impressed with her
after that, and pay LESS for being with her.
Now, meanwhile, women are just as sexual,
and WANT sex.
And they can’t give it to the guy who is PAYING
them, or they LOSE that flow of cash!
So who do they go to?
While Most Men Work In Vain To "Impress" Women,
The Man That Women ACTUALLY Go To Is...
Women go to the man who KNOWS women are
sexual, who doesn’t PRETEND that women
need presents and kissing-up and money and
all these other things.
They go to the man who also doesn’t make
them feel GUILTY for having sex with them.
They go to the man who does all this while
being totally RELAXED about it, because
it’s no big DEAL to him, since he knows
the TRUTH about reality and women.
He is calm about it, he doesn’t need to be
OVERT about the sexuality, because it is
such a part of him, it’s like breathing.
If he DOES give a compliment to a woman,
it’s not because he is trying to get SEX from
her. It’s just part of a human conversation.
He can get sex without compliments.
The fact he has no money or no prestige or fame
doesn’t mean jack-squat, because women don’t
NEED those things!
They NEED a guy who takes care of their NEEDS!
Their sexual and emotional NEEDS.
Now, most men have been brainwashed to believe
they need to be all these OTHER things to women,
things that women really DON'T need!
Men have been conditioned to think that men must
also HAVE all these other things, in order to be
“allowed” into the land of sex with women.
That’s all HOGWASH!
It Actually Goes FURTHER Than All This!
"Working To Impress A Woman" Actually
Makes Her Repulsed!
Once you are already in a relationship with a woman
who has truly earned your affection, it's different, but
as far as ATTRACTING a woman in the FIRST place,
doing what most men do is the WORST thing you can
do for attraction.
The very fact that most men try so hard to impress
women with all the wrong things makes women
feel, on a deep subconscious level, that these men
are somehow INFERIOR in some way, and therefore
need to “compensate” a woman for being with them.
So the women subconsciously feel those guys
are LESS attractive. And now, the charismatic
guy, on a PRIMAL level, seems all that much
MORE ATTRACTIVE.
As you can see, it’s not just that women see him
as more SEXUAL, women ALSO feel he is
MORE attractive than all the other guys.
PLUS, for most women life is stressful enough as
it is, so one of the big things when approaching
any woman, ESPECIALLY a woman who is a total
stranger, is the ability to RELAX her.
Not through compliments, not through buying
her things, which can actually make a guy
seem CREEPY as if he lacks the HUMAN
touch, but through his PERSPECTIVES on
things that make life intriguing, exciting,
inspiring, and fun, rather than stressful,
boring and mundane.
It’s easy to get CAUGHT UP in the CONDITIONING
by society to think you NEED all these other things
to enter the land of women, and that is why so many
men fall into this trap.
The Charismatic Man Stands Out In All The Right Ways
In CONTRAST, the man who DOESN’T fall into this
trap seems so RARE, so COOL, that he actually
seems to have a touch of the SUPERNATURAL.
She is thinking:
“WHAT IS IT ABOUT THIS GUY THAT DOESN’T
GIVE A F*&^ ABOUT SOCIAL PRESSURE AND
SOCIAL CONDITIONING?”
“BEING WITH THIS GUY IS LIVING!!!
BEING WITH OTHER GUYS IS BORING!”
So when you are THIS type of guy, there
are no RULES you need to follow, because
EVERYTHING you do passes through the
CHARISMATIC filter and ends up saying
the RIGHT things about you.
So if a guy happens to look like a cross
between Oscar the Grouch and the Loch Ness
Monster, it STILL doesn't matter, because
now she thinks that he’s CUTE and that his
looks are charming and ENDEARING.
If he happens to be BROKE, now she lovingly
calls him, begging him to visit her for a romp
in bed and calls him “a bum-bum” in a LOVING
way.
If he happens to be unkempt, now she enjoys
running her hands through his messy hair.
When you are charismatic, she turns EVERYTHING
about you into PERFECTION.
Why does she do this?
BECAUSE YOU TAKE CARE OF HER
REAL NEEDS.
You make her feel good about sex.
You are chilled out and you don’t allow
her own emotional reactions to her own
stresses get YOU down.
You stay CALM through her STORMS.
In a nutshell, you are her MAN.
Where The "Other Guys" End Up
Meanwhile, the other guy is still stuck on
buying her a thousandth present, and she
is still keeping him in the ULTRA FAR
DISTANT ‘FRIEND’ zone, where she
WANTS to keep him and, ironically, would
feel GUILTY about if she brought him to
anything CLOSER than the friend zone!
This is because she has now created this
NON-SEXUAL dynamic with the other
dude, where the only sexual dynamic is
some kind of distant dream that the guy
has, but she definitely does NOT.
So Let’s Get Back To Square ONE Here:
Success with women, and being able to
BREAK all the rules, boils down to having
that magical quality called CHARISMA.
The charismatic man is the man who has
the ULTIMATE in choice with women.
And now, in my special 1-hour JAM-PACKED
MP3 instant-download audio program called
‘THE CHARISMATIC MAN’, you will learn
how to make women feel your INFINITE
CHARISMA from the very first moment you
APPROACH them all the way to being in bed
and beyond.
Here Are Just SOME Of The Powerful CHARISMA
Strategies For Attracting Women That You Will
Learn From This Crucial MP3 Audio Program:
REMOVING THE "LOOKS" LIMITS
How to make being “average” looking
rather than having “model” looks actually
HELP you in making successful ‘COLD
APPROACHES’ going up to women who
are total strangers!
PREVENTING THE WRONG VIBES
How to avoid the ‘creepy vibes’ that
so many men involuntarily send out
when approaching women who are
total strangers!
THE "WHIRLWIND" EFFECT
You’ll also learn how to develop the
“WHIRLWIND EFFECT”, which is a
natural way to capture her interest while
simultaneously releasing her from any
sexual inhibitions.
The greatest part of this “Whirlwind Effect”
is that the longer she speaks to you, the
more she becomes drawn to the emotions
she is getting from you, and in the process
becomes ADDICTED to being with you.
CAPTURING HER INTEREST IMMEDIATELY
WITH COMPELLING CONVERSATIONS
How to use the power of PERSPECTIVE to
spark COMPELLING conversations with women
in a way that conveys ALL THE RIGHT
ATTRACTIVE THINGS about you!
This strategy immediately distinguishes you in
a powerful and positive way from the masses
of other men out there, and shows a woman that
you are a force that to be reckoned with and a
man who is respected by ALL.
ENSURING YOU FOLLOW THROUGH WITH CHANGE
Plus, you’ll also discover the most effective way
to ENSURE that you TAKE ACTION on making
the CHANGES required to become MASSIVELY
SUCCESSFUL with women.
The steps that need to be taken for changing yourself
are NOT hard, but due to HABIT, most men will
never even make the SMALLEST changes! I’ll
show you a way to ENSURE you make the right
changes NO MATTER WHAT.
I’ll also reveal to you how to use the power of
MOMENTUM to take ANY successes you make
with women and SNOWBALL them into MASSIVE
successes in just DAYS.
PREVENTING "FREEZE OUTS"
You’ll also find out how to prevent yourself from
ever “FREEZING OUT” at any opportunity where
you find women that you want to approach. This
way you will never back down from any
opportunity to meet a fantastic woman!
THE SOLUTION TO CONFUSION
A crucial RULE to follow if you ever happen to feel
CONFUSED at what to do in ANY situation with a
woman.
This rule will ensure you NEVER “screw up”.
WHEN TO USE HUMOR, WHEN TO GO "SERIOUS"
You’ll also learn when you should be using humor to
get a conversation going, and when to be using a more
“serious” approach such as being INTRIGUING.
Knowing this makes the difference between a
woman MELTING for you versus pushing her
AWAY and making her want to run for the hills!
A FOOL-PROOF WAY FOR GETTING INTO "STATE"
A GENIUS strategy for getting yourself into the
PERFECT state of mind before going out to meet
and attract women.
The great thing about this strategy is that it’s actually FUN
to use and will not only get you in the right STATE but will
also get a WOMAN into a FANTASTIC emotional state so
that she is TOTALLY RECEPTIVE to your approach!
HOW TO GET WOMEN TALKING TO YOU
I’LL also show you one of the most POWERFUL
strategies to get a woman talking to you, a strategy
that most men would NEVER be able to guess,
figure out, or come up with!
This strategy is so easy that literally ANY man could
use it. The other great thing about this strategy is that
it takes ZERO “thinking”, ZERO “memorizing”, and
ZERO time, AND it gets a woman to put MORE
energy into chasing YOU!
PLUS, this strategy also shows her that you are totally
secure AND it makes a woman feel you are already
very experienced and successful with women.
DETECTING A WOMAN'S "PERSONALITY DNA"
You’ll ALSO learn a way to detect a woman’s ENTIRE
personality- her “PERSONALITY DNA” in just SECONDS!
Use this strategy to save yourself from the wrong women
and only deal with the absolute CREAM OF THE CROP!
CREATING THE SUPERNATURAL VIBE
How to create a “SUPERNATURAL” vibe about
yourself that sucks a woman into your reality to
the point she can’t think of any other man!
SPARKING DEEP INTRIGUE
How to quickly make yourself the most INTRIGUING man
that she has ever met. You will separate yourself from all those
men out there who only know to say, "Hey what's up?"
Plus much, MUCH more that you will be able to
use IMMEDIATELY to attract women in this most
powerful charismatic way, right NOW.
You Can Be Using This Program In Minutes From Now!
In order for you to be able to get results IMMEDIATELY,
I have made this program available for you through
INSTANT DOWNLOAD.
I could EASILY get away with charging HUNDREDS
for this special program.
Think about it. How much would this program be
worth if even just ONE of the strategies in it helped
you GET the next woman you really wanted?
And I promise you, this program is PACKED with
TONS of golden strategies for SKYROCKETING
women's attraction to you in the most sexual way.
women's attraction to you in the most sexual way.
I've decided to go ALL OUT:
I'm charging only $19.97 for this program that is worth at
least TEN times that price.
So get this program and get the women you want
NOW by going here immediately:
http://getagreatgirl.com/charismatic-man.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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