Two VITAL Keys To Approaching Women

I’m going to share with you two of the

absolute most important PRACTICAL

tips on how to actually approach women.

The reason I’ve spent so much time in

previous newsletters discussing the issue

of finding the kind of women who are

honest, respectful, faithful, not promiscuous,

etc., is because in reality THAT is the

harder part, the part that takes more

persistence and effort.

However, I also realize that unless you know

HOW to meet women in the first place, none

of that will make any difference, since you

have to have the women in the first place

in order to choose from them.

So here we go:

NEVER QUALIFY YOURSELF

What this means is when you approach a

woman, don’t try to EXPLAIN yourself,

and don’t try to “prop yourself up” by

alluding to or referring to REASONS

why she should talk to you.

I’ll give some specific examples:

Let’s say you are not wearing your favorite

shirt, coat, jacket, boots, or whatever it is

that you think gives you “good luck” or or

somehow improves your chances with women.

Let’s say you are coming home from work and

you think your hair is not perfect, or that there

may be a stain on your coat, or maybe there in

fact is a stain, etc.

Or let’s say you are feeling tired, and you think

you look terrible because of it. Or you are rough

shaven since you didn’t have time to shave, and

you think you might look homeless.

In all the above cases, you may feel a NEED

to EXPLAIN yourself, so that the woman

should give you a CHANCE.

You may feel you need to say something like

“I don’t normally look like this”, or “This

drink spilled on me earlier”, or “Please excuse

the way I look, I haven’t had a chance to sleep

because I was working through the night”etc,

etc, etc.

 

ALL THAT STUFF IS QUALIFYING YOURSELF.

And it NEVER helps, and in fact often ends up

RUINING the whole thing when in fact there would

have been NO PROBLEM had you just not  gone

into the whole QUALIFYING yourself.

The reason QUALIFYING is so destructive is that

it REEKS of NOT BEING SURE OF YOUR VALUE.

Have you ever heard of the term “social proof”?

It means the fact that human beings are affected

by the perceptions of others regarding just about

anything.  So if a person finds out that millions

of people like some product, or some person, or

some service, there is a big chance that now that

person will IMMEDIATELY think “Well that

thing, person, or service MUST be great!”.

But guess what?

THE NUMBER ONE SOCIAL PROOF YOU

HAVE IS THE “PROOF” THAT YOU PROVIDE

ABOUT YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So if YOU seem to think that there is

SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU JUST

APPROACHING HER AS YOU ARE WITHOUT

SOME QUALIFYING/JUSTIFICATION/EXPLANATION,

then YOU are exerting a NEGATIVE SOCIAL PROOF

on YOURSELF.

After all, she will INSTINCTIVELY think, if

YOU don’t think you are CLEARLY AND OBVIOUSLY

THE RIGHT PERSON TO BE TALKING TO HER,

then why should SHE think you are the right person?   

This all happens SUBCONSCIOUSLY.

Just like people react subconsciously to other

forms of social proof.          

By the way, the OTHER reason qualifying yourself

is so bad is that so often the whole problem is only

an issue in your OWN mind, but now that you have  

drawn ATTENTION to the damn stain, or not perfectly

brushed/combed hair, or that you didn’t get a perfect

8 hours of beauty sleep, well NOW you’ve put THAT

under the MAGNIFYING glass, so of course that is

now going to be the FOCUS and she will NOW possibly

actually start to think that maybe there IS an issue.

So instead of drawing attention AWAY from that

thing you were concerned about, you have actually

drawn attention TOWARD it in a MASSIVE way,

so massive in fact that it is a DISTORTED and

OVERLY NEGATIVE portrayal of yourself.

Plus, HERE’S the final kicker:

By NOT qualifying yourself, and just TOTALLY

being “THE MAN” in all senses of the word, not

only do you come across as far more confident,

masculine, and far more as a WINNER, but even

in the TINY chance that she somehow DOES notice

whatever it was you were concerned about, she might

actually end up interpreting it in a POSITIVE SENSE!

This is because, since you didn’t feel the need to

bring it up, and since you came across as so confident,

she will now subconsciously interpret EVERYTHING

about you in a way that is CONSISTENT to her impression

of you being AWESOME.

So if it’s a scar, she might figure you are the kind of

man that hasn’t been overly sheltered and that isn’t

too DELICATE.

If you hair is not perfect, she might figure you are

TOO BUSY getting things DONE to keep every last

hair perfectly coiffed. 

This can go on and on, the main point is that once

you deliver the impression that you don’t doubt

yourself, she will then instinctively give all the

REST of you the very BEST interpretation as well.

The NEXT thing I want to let you know about

is the whole SMILE thing.       

DON'T SMILE IN THE INITIAL APPROACH

Yes, you heard me correctly.

I suggest you DON’T SMILE when you approach women.

This flies in the fact of all the typical advice

that tells men to SMILE when they approach

women to somehow show they are not threatening

or happy or something.

But REAL WORLD TESTING has shown me

that smiling initially in the approach never HELPS,

and sometimes HURTS your chances.

In a nutshell, it’s NOT attractive on a man to

START with the whole smiling thing, PLUS

it tends to give off the impression that you are

some kind of CLOWN who spends his whole

day goofing around trying to meet women,

and who clearly doesn’t know much about women

or why is he goofing around so much since women

don’t like goofy behavior in men.

Of course, if you read feminist advice,

(which does NOT represent most women)

the general advice from them would be for

you to give her a three-hour dissertation

explaining why you are not a psycho who

is bent on raping her.

In fact, the whole QUALIFYING thing and the

whole SMILING thing probably stem from growing

up in a society where you are made to feel as if

TALKING to a woman who is a stranger is EVIL,

or as if all women were TERRIFIED of a man

talking to them, when in REALITY women,

especially attractive women, are SUPER CONFIDENT

and SUPER COMFORTABLE since they KNOW

they have the POWER over most men when it comes

to these dynamics- in other words, the woman knows

SHE is the desired party in this equation, from the

GET GO.

So, if you want SUCCESS when you approach

women, do NOT qualify yourself, and do NOT

start off with a smile, and in fact try not to smile

too much in the whole interaction.

Think about it, how much do you need to SMILE

when around friends that you are COMFORTABLE

with?  Sure you may smile when something funny

is happening, but do you go around forcing a big

smile? Of course not. Because you don’t feel a

need to treat your friends like they are fragile little

CHILDREN.

Well guess what? Women aren’t fragile little

children either, and in fact adult women actually

want their men to be MEN.  There’s a reason

Bond, Dirty Harry, and Han Solo aren’t particularly

SMILING around women, unlike most men who

are doing it out of APPROVAL SEEKING and

SUBMISSIVE behavior.

Do you want to know more?

Then here’s what I suggest:

Take a BOOTCAMP with me.

Why is BOOTCAMP so effective?

It’s because SEEING is BELIEVING.

And BELIEF is such a huge part of success.

If you don’t BELIEVE you can do something,

if you believe that the whole thing is just not in

your reality, it can be pretty hard to pull it off.

In BOOTCAMP, you will see results right before

your EYES, all happening in real time. First, you

will see demonstrations of approaches on real women,

and then you will perform the approach yourself, and

you will SEE the results for yourself.

SEEING the results makes it easier for you to

INTERNALIZE your new beliefs, and then take

them with you forever for all the women you 

will ever encounter for the future.

I  have been doing this for over TWELVE YEARS.

I know my stuff inside out.

To learn more about bootcamp, you can email me

or go HERE:

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If you have a serious question about any matter related

to attracting women, dating, or relationships, then you can

arrange a private consultation with me by going here:

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I also SERIOUSLY suggest you get my

ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM

that gives you the ADVANCED insights

on approaching and attracting women

ANYWHERE. 

One of the great advantages of this program

is that it is a professionally recorded audio

program, which means you can also listen to

it while doing something like driving or when

working out. So as you get to your destination,

or finish a workout, or get other chores done,

you are also enhancing your mastery when it

comes to attracting women. 

Think of this program as your REFERENCE

resource on all aspects of attracting women.

It’s at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting Women Of Quality: Hard-Core Tips From The Real World

You're about to learn how to attract
the highest-quality women. I'm talking
about women who are not only beautiful,
but who also are actually serious about
meeting the right guy.  This is about
actually getting a GREAT girl:

So let's get straight into the nitty-gritty,
the real "HOW-TO" of how to meet, approach,
and attract a woman of true quality,
inside and out.

Now, the very FIRST rule is SO important,
I'm going to make it VERY SIMPLE so you
NEVER forget it:

ONE: NEVER GIVE IN TO THE DESIRE TO "QUALIFY" YOURSELF.

You ever notice how when you meet a woman
who is beautiful, the first thing you want
to do is PROVE yourself to her?

You want to say something that SHOWS you
are cool, that you are worthy, that you
have value.

This is something just about ALL MEN do
when they want to impress a woman for
whom they feel massive attraction.

And it's something you want to make sure
you NEVER do.

So whether it's trying to "casually" drop
into the conversation that you have a cool
job, a cool car, a cool connection, cool
friends, or anything ELSE that you think
is something that will "prove" your worth,
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The REASON is that this IMPULSE is driven
by INSECURITY, and a woman SENSES this.

It ends up creating the OPPOSITE effect
of attraction.  It actually ends up
making a guy seem LESS worthy, since
it's clear he HIMSELF feels the NEED
to have to PROVE something.

If you think about it, whenever somebody
is SECURE about something, they DON'T
feel the need to bring that thing up
immediately in a conversation.

On a subconscious level, women KNOW that
if a man is secure, he will NOT feel the
need to have to "qualify" himself to her.

So not only does is it FEEL better for you
to NOT have to feel the need to prove
yourself, but it actually is MORE ATTRACTIVE
to women when you don't qualify yourself.

PLUS, when you don't qualify yourself, you
are actually showing that you are more
interested in finding out if SHE meets
YOUR standards.

This helps you come across as something
MASSIVELY ATTRACTIVE- it makes you come
across as THE SELECTOR and not the "selectee".

And by the way, for the FULL PICTURE
on BEING THE SELECTOR, then definitely
go HERE immediately:

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Plus, by not qualifying yourself, you ALSO
increase the sense of INTRIGUE and wonder
about yourself as she IMAGINES all that
you are and she enjoys trying to figure
out the MYSTERY of who you are.

By allowing her to IMAGINE and think and
enjoy the mystery, she CREATES the perfect
fantasy of who you are, and once she spends
some time immersed in these thoughts about
you as she creates the ultimate fantasy of
who you are, it then CRYSTALLIZES in her
MIND.

Once it CRYSTALLIZES in her mind, her
primal image of you is SO POWERFUL that
it reaches a point where no matter WHAT
the reality is about you, she will INTERPRET
it in a way that MATCHES her fantasy about
you that she has created.

She will INSTINCTIVELY do the work subconsciously
to INTERPRET everything about you so that it
FITS her fantasy perfect IMAGE of you- all because
the FANTASY is so powerful that she WANTS it so
badly she will MAKE it happen in her own mind-
and ALL THIS because you didn't rob her of the
opportunity to CREATE the initial fantasy since
you didn't try to PROVE  yourself and take away
her chance to create the perfect picture of you
all by herself.

PLUS, by not qualifying yourself, not only do
you seem COOLER, but you also seem like a
MORE MORAL person at the SAME TIME!!!!

This is because it's clear you are not trying to
SHOW OFF, so you don't come across as arrogant,
and you don't come across as trying to pressure
her!

This is especially attractive to the quality women
who have fantastic character traits in addition to their
gorgeous looks.

PLUS, not qualifying yourself ALSO allows you to
focus more on LISTENING to her, which allows you
to UNDERSTAND her better on a deeper level and
this means you can then CONNECT to her on a
more powerful level.

AND, you can even be a lot more WITTY as well,
since you are not worried about trying to prove
yourself but rather your mind is free to genuinely
enjoy the conversation, and ONLY when this happens
are you truly "in the moment" and "fully present". 

This means you will be ALERT to the opportunities
in the conversation for having the best responses
to things she is saying, whether you decide to be
intriguing, inspiring, humorous, witty, or a
combination of the above.

When you are worried about trying to prove yourself,
you are so busy trying to come up with the next thing
to say, that you MISS all the important things SHE
is saying!

The things she is saying will allow you to learn so
much more about her so you can not only connect
to her, but also you can then easily NOTICE all the
perfect moments for when you can say the right
response to a particular thing she SAYS,  since
your mind was focused on listening rather than on
worrying about what to say. 

Being able to LISTEN is what allows you to have
tons of the right things to SAY.  Trying to prove
yourself through qualifying yourself ends up
destroying your ability to listen.
    
Plus, one more point about being the SELECTOR
and not qualifying yourself:

On a very subtle level, by NOT qualifying
yourself, you are implying that you feel
VERY confident, and that this is because
TONS OF OTHER WOMEN are already attracted
to you.

So, to her, when she sees you are not qualifying
yourself, she starts to think that OTHER WOMEN
are into you as well, and this on a very primal
level that is HARD-WIRED, ends up making her
even MORE attracted to you.

So again, for MORE on BEING THE SELECTOR,
I seriously suggest you go HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/selector.html     

Alright, I promised you even MORE, and here
we go with the NEXT powerful tip for success
in approaching and attracting women anywhere:

NUMBER TWO: STOCK UP ON THE BACK-UP!

There's nothing more frustrating than seeing
a woman you'd like to approach and not
knowing what to say, right? Even if you've
done it successfully before, but then you've
been out of it for a few days, it can seem
tough if you aren't experienced.

The key to solving this is to either practice
approaching women every day, OR to build
up a repertoire of things to say to a woman
through the following exercise:

For one entire week, don't even worry about
actually APPROACHING a woman, instead,
every time you see a woman you would like
to approach, WRITE DOWN on paper something
you could say to her.

Even if takes you ten minutes to figure out
what to say, or what you could have said,
WRITE IT DOWN on PAPER.

And then take it a step UP by writing down
ALL THE DIFFERENT THINGS you could say
to her.

This might happen while going grocery shopping,
it may happen while you're at school, it may
happen while in line at the bank, while at the
post-office, it can happen ANYWHERE.

And EACH TIME you see a woman in a different
situation, you should write down what you
could have said to her.

So, for example, if she is filling up her car
with gas, and you're just walking by, you
can tease her for polluting the environment
instead of being a good citizen like you who
walks to save the earth.

WRITE IT DOWN, so next time you know
what to say in that kind of situation.

In fact, WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING, all
the different things you could have
said to her.

Keep the things interesting, playful, and upbeat.

If you're at the post office, waiting in line
and you want to chat to the woman in front
of you or behind you, etc, then you can
say something like:

"With the line up this long, by the time we get to the clerk, the cost of postage is going to go up".

Or you can say something like this:

"Not sure if the person I'm sending this letter to will have moved by the time I get to the clerk handling my letter here."

Then you can ask her if she can hold your
place in line for a sec as you get a
drink from the store.

The key is to write all this stuff down, and
to make it CONSISTENT with your personality.

In a week, you will have DOZENS of perfect
things to get a conversation started, all that
make sense for the situation and that are
consistent with your personality.

THREE: LISTEN INTENTLY TO HER

Here's the cool side-effect of doing this-
by writing down all these conversation
starters as back up in case you don't know
what to say, you will actually be training your
mind to come UP with MORE stuff on the
SPOT, because you are stimulating the
creative flow of your mind in this way.

Also, because you will have things to say,
you will be able to RELAX even more so
you can focus more on what REALLY
COUNTS to successfully attracting a
woman: Focusing on the way you
DELIVER the words you say more
than the words themselves, and
focusing on LISTENING to HER
more than on what you SAY to
get the ball rolling.

Yes, LISTENING to the woman's
responses to what you are saying is
far more important than most guys
will EVER realize- this is a huge key
in having a great conversation that
actually ATTRACTS a woman rather
than just getting a polite response.

Instead of having to worry about 'picking-up'
a woman, by listening well you can pick up
ON what she's saying, so you can truly have
a more effective and meaningful conversation
where you actually understand her better
and can give better feedback to what
she says to you.

FOUR: FOCUS ON THE EMOTIONAL CORE
OF THE CONVERSATION

When a woman tells you something, she wants
to feel understood. However, too often, as guys
we think that all we have to do is say, "Yeah,
me too, I did that too" to show we understand
it.

Let me illustrate with an example:
When a woman tells you that she was
born in a really tough country where
poverty was everywhere, the best thing
you can do is probably be quiet and just
let her keep explaining things.

If you just interrupt her before she's finished
and you interject that you had the same experience,
you're almost taking away from the pain of her
experience by making her feel like it's not special.

Now, this doesn't mean that you should not explain
what you went through, if you went through something
similar, it just means that you shouldn't JUMP to
saying something like that right away, because too
often that type of thinking comes from ego and
from self-validation rather than trying to make
the other person feel special.

So let her truly express herself, and ask
questions to try to understand.

And those questions should get to the emotional
core. Let's take a more happy example, let's
say she says she used to be a singer- don't say:

"Oh, I used to be a singer too"

Or:

 "Oh, I used to play the drums in a band"

Instead you should truly seek info to understand, so for example a good question to ask might be the following:

"What did it FEEL like to do sing?"

Or:

 "What made you want to sing?"

Or:

 "What were some of the most powerful emotional songs that you ever sang- the ones you really felt ALIVE on???"

All this is way better than superficial questions
such as, "Where did you perform?" or "What
kind of money did you get paid", "Did you
tour on a bus?" or "Did you get a lot of fan
mail?" etc etc. You want to get to the
emotional CRUX of the situation.

FIVE: INTERPRET EVERYTHING AS A COMPLIMENT

Too often, we are our own worst enemies.
Our own insecurities make us see insults and
pain and mean behavior where it doesn't even
exist.

So for example, you might start a conversation
with a woman, the woman might say, "I can't
believe they let you in this store with that
shirt you're wearing", and you might feel
the woman is making fun of you, when in
reality she might be saying that your
shirt takes so much guts to wear because
the message or logo or picture or
WHATEVER was too much for most people.

So you AGREE with whatever she said
and INTERPRET this as a compliment-
by saying, for example:

"Yeah, with this shirt on, no girls will
read any books, they'll just be eyeing
me instead!"

And then give her a mischievous wink and smile.

The wonderful thing about this 'interpret
everything as a compliment' is that you
can NEVER go wrong with it- if the woman
was truly being innocent and good to you,
then you come across as a guy who with
a great sense of humor, and if the woman
was being a little nasty with attitude it
will make her get that "deer in headlights"
look that comes from being shocked that
you are so UNTOUCHED and completely
unaffected by her- and THIS IN ITSELF
will often attract her, and that's always
nice to have the choice on what you
would like to do there as well.

SIX: CONGRUENCY AND CONVICTION

The reason most guys fail in their initial
conversations with women is NOT because
they aren't so funny or exciting, as a first
conversation doesn't always have to be
a big spectacle - a woman will sometimes
forgive all that, knowing that it's just
a first conversation, and that maybe she
needs to get to know you better.

HOWEVER, what you MUST do right away,
and do well, is be absolutely CONGRUENT.

This means don't pretend to be something
that you're NOT. If you don't have a healthy
lifestyle, don't pretend that you work out
everyday- she'll notice the cigarette box
in your pocket. If you are a health nut,
don't try to act "cool" like you drink at
parties a lot and that you are at all the
latest smoky clubs, just to show you
are cool.

If you are going to say something, then
make sure you MEAN it, because if
you say stuff you don't really feel
in your heart, it will often SHOW up
as false from your body language
and from inconsistencies in your
stories, etc.

Be consistent with who you are, and if
you don't like who you are in terms of
the things you are doing, then CHANGE
those things.

You have no idea of the power of delivering
EVERY WORD you say with CONVICTION.

This is one reason why you should also
speak SLOWER and utter every syllable
of your words, don't swallow them or
rush them.

SEVEN: STOP ALL FIDGETY MOVEMENTS

When we are nervous, our body movements
are jittery. So take a deep breath and
consciously control your arms from
dangling around, stop tapping your
fingers nervously, stop your foot from
tapping nervously.

We are all created by the same God, so
realize that you have every right and
every bit of worth to stand your ground,
you don't have to be 'ready' to run away
off for dear life.

EIGHT: GIVE RICH PERSPECTIVES INSTEAD
OF ASKING LEACHING QUESTIONS

Too often, when trying to have a conversation,
guys ask leaching questions- questions that
just TAKE info, questions that almost feel like
an interrogation:

"What is your name?"
"Do you live around here?"
"What are you doing here?"
"How often do you come here?"

Why should a woman want to give this info
away when she has received nothing on
an emotional level?

Instead, start a conversation with GIVING
statements or comments that are EMOTIONALLY
RICH - statements that are funny, that are intriguing,
that are exciting, mysterious, etc.

You can comment playfully on what she is
reading. You can tell her a really interesting
thing that just happened to you a few moments
ago and THEN ask her for her opinion on why
these things keep happening to you.

The time to ask questions is once a woman
is already interested in you, because then
your questions are welcomed, and even then
your questions should be as described above,
they should help you understand her emotional
core much better.

And if you're reading this right now, you can
already see that this is REAL LIFE relevant
advice for attracting women ANYWHERE you see
them. This isn't just telling you to have a
positive attitude, as important as that is.

The reason I can give you real life advice
on this topic is because I have been doing
it for real for longer than just about anyone,
including at my "Real World" BOOTCAMPS for
over ten YEARS and my work has been documented
by TONS of major news organizations and respected
journalists: 

http://getagreatgirl.com/Michael_Marks_Newspaper.html

Helping you get the results you want with women is something I take very seriously.

And if you are serious about getting the ULTIMATE level of success, both short-term and long-term with women, then I suggest you get my program called "WARRIOR WITHIN".

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This is because this program is about TRANSFORMATION
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As you know, I don't believe in PRETENDING to be
someone else in order to attract women.  Instead, I
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In this program, you will go through a 
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One of the BIGGEST things for attracting
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you didn't have choices and that she is
doing you a FAVOR by being with you.

Instead, when a woman feels that you have
TONS of choices with women and that you
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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The Deepest Levels Of Attraction

Attraction is not a static thing.  That's the truth.
A woman is either feeling more and more of it
for you, or she is feeling less and less. 

It NEVER stays the same.

So you have to ask yourself a question:
Which do you prefer, a woman feeling she is
"settling" for you for "practical" reasons and
her attraction thus eroding for you day by day,
or a woman feeling that she MUST HAVE you?

In the real world, attraction doesn't care about
the politically correct b.s. definition of it.
Ultimately, REAL attraction feels like a NEED,
it's not some kind of thing that is "nice" to
have.  It feels as if you NEED it.

THAT'S what attraction is.

When you feel MASSIVE ATTRACTION for
a woman, it's not some kind of, "oh that is
nice" feeling.  It's A HECK OF A LOT
more than that. And THAT'S what you want
women to feel for you.

So, if you are going to actually make a woman
FEEL this level of attraction, you have to first
understand just where the BAR is in terms of
what IS a confident secure fun intriguing guy.

Because of the ocean of guys who still kiss
up to women, her mind's default setting is set
to politely and quickly vaporize all guys who
approach her.  The only way you are going
to overpower that setting is if your behavior
and style clearly and immediately indicate that
there is something very different about you,
in a cool way.

I want to put an END to any notion that you
can get the kind of results you want with only
a half-assed attitude about this stuff.   

It's really important to realize the full REALITY
of an attractive woman.

The REALITY of having infinite guys WORSHIP
her and willing to SERVE her and TAKE abuse
from her.  And the EFFECT that has on a woman
in terms of what is attractive to her.  You have to
be in the same reality to understand it, which is
what actually ultimately happens when you get
good at this stuff.

Guys keep giving WOMEN what GUYS
would want, in the typical guys' frame of
scarcity and desperation.

Bu this is like giving SALTY PRETZELS
instead of water to a man dying of THIRST,
and then wondering why he doesn't seem
to appreciate it.  

Women are EMOTIONALLY DYING OF THIRST
for some masculine confidence, wit, humor, and
leadership, as well as for some sexual tension,
unpredictability, intrigue, fun, and excitement.

Instead, guys are giving women the opposite,
because as guys they want assurance, permanence,
and reliability, since they have been dunked in
the matrix illusion of "scarcity of women" and
the matrix illusion that as men they don't have
the same intrinsic worth in society as women.    

And even when guys DO hear solid advice,
such as "be like women" in the sense of being
hard to get, guys do it wrong, because they are
doing it with the wrong INTENT.

They are doing it almost with a sense of
ANGER. As if they are "getting back"
at women, as if it's tit for tat.

IT'S NOT ABOUT THAT AT ALL.
When you do it like that, you are totally
INCONGRUENT with what attraction
IS.

Attraction is about SUPERIORITY.

How the heck can someone who is
SUPERIOR get UPSET at someone
INFERIOR?

Does the GENERAL worry about the
remarks of some guy ranked as just
a private?

That's why although attraction ultimately
IS about perceived superiority, the irony is
that to ACHIEVE this EFFECTIVELY,
you have to not even FEEL there is a power
gap between you and a woman to begin with. 

Otherwise, your emotions will give you away
in infinite micro expressions and forms
of body language, and your emotions will
betray you by the way you live your life.

She will see that you are actually bitter, etc.

Remember, the REAL power of attraction
rests in its SUBTLETIES, from the way you
dress, to the comfort you have with being
sexual, to the sense of humor you have,
to the way your voice projects, to the very
way you MOVE. 

Think about it: When you are totally under
control and relaxed and confident, you
speak and move with less hurried rush
and you never run out of "things to say" .

In fact, it seems bizarre to even worry of
"having things to say".  You start to realize
that your secure, inspired, or fun mood is
what is fueling your ability to have a great
conversation, enabling you to access all
the parts of your mind that give you infinite
"material".
  
You also start to realize that this vibe you
are giving off results in "energy-return"
from the woman, as you and her ping-pong
the energy/vibes/conversation back and
forth, each of you enjoying this interaction.

So if you saw a woman you were interested
in, you wouldn't feel it's some kind of
RACE or some kind of CONTEST.

You would roll up casual and laid back, and
your conversation wouldn't be about trying
to MAKE anything happen, but rather about
reflecting your inner vibes, mood, state, etc.

One of the most important elements of high level
"game" is simply a byproduct of who you ARE. 
Once you are ARE in the right state, quality "game"
is the uninterrupted flow of your own mood and
energy outwards.

Quality "game" however is ALSO about
understanding some important things about
women and female culture.

This way, you can understand the critical 
issues they need to know that you are 
aware of, and quality "game" is ALSO 
about understanding HUMAN EMOTION 
in general, including YOUR OWN emotions.

The result of quality "game" is that you
wouldn't be afraid to say something
NICE to a woman when you FELT it, but
you would also not be NEEDY for a woman
who was hot, so complimenting her on her
LOOKS would instinctively not be the first
thing that you did. This idea of not kissing
up to a woman based on her looks would 
be instinctive to you, you would not even
feel the emotional desire or impulse to
focus too much on her looks.  It's the
neediness and scarcity and lack of
perspective that creates these wrong
behaviors in the first place.

And if you saw she was really into you, which
she most likely would be as a result of all this,
you wouldn't feel the need to ROB HER
of the pleasure of WONDERING about you,
(which is what needy guys do out of their fear
of losing her) of the pleasure of not knowing
everything about you, and of the pleasure
of wondering if she "had" you or not. 

You would UNDERSTAND that once you are
secure in your own value, it's actually FUN
to not know right away that you "have" someone,
and yet you would also know how far to push
this and not to push this into the realm of the
absurd, cruel, or the just plain dorky.

In fact, ALL of attraction FLOWS from the
way you THINK, which is based on the way
you see yourself and the world.  Even
HUMOR if massively affected by this.

Let me give you a real life example, of
how REAL CONFIDENCE in your
value is reflected POWERFULLY
and instinctively.

This example actually took YEARS for me
to fully realize the full effect of.

I remember a girl from many years ago,
before I got into this stuff. A girl who
I felt I was "lucky" to be with at the time.

Even though I was getting mistreated,
I thought I was "lucky" because I had fallen
under the brainwashing spell of society
to believe that a woman who was attractive
was scarce, (which isn't even true at all) and
that men had to "work" to "prove themselves"
to women, because women were "innocent"
while men were just sex-hungry animals.

Anyway, not to get into a whole life-story
here, I remember once waking up a BIT
to the reality of what was going on,
but still not GETTING it enough to
rise from the ashes of that life. But I
had managed to come to the conclusion
that her behavior wasn't very good,
even though I thought I was still "lucky"
to have her because most guys I knew
couldn't get an equally hot woman
EVER. 

Anyway, I basically confronted her with
the fact her behavior was pretty
atrocious, and politely told her that
after I stripped away the attraction
I felt for her, I honestly couldn't think
of one reason I was with her. I
WANTED to have a reason, and I
even said something like "what are
the good things about you?"
(And of course, by this time, she
had already taken the power for
granted, so this was interpreted
by her not as challenging her, but
as me HOPING for goodness.) 

Well, her response was this, calmly:
"Not much."

This had a profound effect on me,
causing reverberations of learning
that lasted with me for years.

I remember at the time, feeling all this
ANGER, and yet, there was NOTHING
I could do, for, after all, she was not
trying to resist my argument that she
was no good.

In fact, by DOING THIS, she was actually
INDIRECTLY saying "I don't NEED to
prove myself, and I don't CARE to either.
And, in fact, I AM good for nothing
EXCEPT the ONE THING THAT
COUNTS: ATTRACTION."

And it was very spontaneous.
When was the last time a woman asked
YOU something about yourself and your
reply was that you weren't good for much?

You see, on the SURFACE it sounds like
self-deprecation.  And I don't recommend
it for beginners, because beginners are usually
SO congruent with INFERIOR beliefs, that
when they say a self-deprecating comment,
it will be taken SERIOUSLY to mean
inferiority.  

But once you GET IT, internally, and your
body language, tonality, lifestyle, and
BEHAVIORS show that you know that
indeed you are VERY desirable, well 
if you THEN were to say you were worth
"nothing much" in RESPONSE to
a woman TRYING to get you to
prove your worth to her,  the results
would be powerful as hell.

Because you are saying all the right things
qualifying yourself.  It's the ultimate in
NOT QUALIFYING YOURSELF.

In fact, it's so powerful, that in a few days
or weeks from now, this specific example
will start to pop up in different ways in
just about every "seduction" place on
the planet.  

Now, this example of "nothing much" doesn't 
mean to be abusive, i.e. if a woman is REALLY
feeling HURT by you, and she asks you what
 is the good side of you, etc. Don't be a bastard
at a time like that.

But you have to understand the UNDERLYING
message here, which is your BELIEFS about
yourself create your BEHAVIORS.

The answer of "nothing much" was an
EMOTIONAL communication.

The kind that is EFFECTIVE.

Not the useless kind that is LOGICAL.

At the time, I honestly felt that she really
couldn't help it, i.e. that this was her REAL
personality, but that she still had value. 

And I couldn't figure this out at the time.
I figured this was just her personality. 

Until one day I couldn't take it anymore.
I finally came to the conclusion that
NO WOMAN on earth was worth
being with if I couldn't get some
basic level respect.  Even if "wasn't
her fault".

So I didn't get angry, I actually
REALLY thought that this girl
was useless to me, because her
attractiveness was no longer
worth it, and even though she
"couldn't help it" I figured that
it wasn't my job to be her therapist,
and that I had already tried for years
to "rehabilitate" her cold ways.

Well, the interesting thing is that,
because I TOTALLY BELIEVED
that this woman was of NO USE
to me, and because I TOTALLY
BELIEVED it was not her fault, I was
TOTALLY CONGRUENT when
I told her, "This is over, and I don't
hate you either."

The thing is, this is actually ATTRACTIVE.

Because it implies that she has no worth
to you, and it robs her of her sense of
superior value.  How can she have value
if she is worthless to you?  Your relative
value to hers becomes superior. 

Boom.
Attraction is born.

I didn't realize it at the time, but I had
GROWN internally, my beliefs about
my own value and hers had changed. 

My beliefs had become more ATTRACTIVE.
It wasn't a "technique" I learned, it was how
I really felt.

Within 48 hours, suddenly  YEARS of supposedly
INGRAINED behaviors in her had TOTALLY
REVERSED themselves.

To say the least, she started behaving the way
a person who respects another person behaves.

I won't go into the details, but suffice to
say, apparently she COULD "help it" a lot
all those years.

She proved she could be the warmest, most
giving woman on the planet, most dedicated,
most COMMITTED woman to making
it WORK.

In fact, I couldn't find a place to HIDE
from her, she found me wherever I was.

This actually didn't make me happy.

What it did do was prove to me that I had
wasted YEARS of my life ACCEPTING
substandard behavior and heartache and
indignity because I thought that was
"just the way it is",  when in reality a woman
could be TOTALLY capable of being every
bit as perfect as a SAINT.

The only thing that made it NOT a waste
was the super powerful learning experience
that it was for me.

For the next several YEARS, I totally
started doing WHATEVER I wanted
to with women.  My new my beliefs
were cemented, and consequently, my
new behaviors were repeated with
tons of different women, with the same
powerful results, ad infinitum.

Most women were great RIGHT OFF THE BAT,
since my frame was solid before they could possibly
have a chance to doubt it. 

But even the few who started off
as trying to be "challenging" in return
to me, eventually melted pretty fast,
if I had repeated chances to interact
with them.  My frame took over,
because I REALLY believed
in it, it was not some type of act.

This is NOT ego here.
This is just a FACT.

Go and try it in the real world
and you can confirm this.
  
I approached women however *I* wanted to,
never giving them ANY privileges, never
for a SECOND thinking any of them were
"special".  I made ALL the decisions,
teased them, didn't take them overly
seriously.

I didn't smile like an approval-seeking
geek around women, because I honestly
didn't think they had superior opinions,
I thought of them as primarily being very
smart and feisty when it came to feigning
superiority, mystique, innocence and value,
and in getting men to chase them because
of this. 

But I slowly let go of the bitterness as I
realized that this was just the way women
learned to work their way through the world
since time immemorial, and that it was men
who had given the extra power to women
without adjusting to this change themselves. 

Instead of thinking of what gift to buy
a woman, I focused on my own goals,
my own things, FIRST, and I also
dumped women at the slightest thing,
which ALWAYS resulted in them only
chasing me HARDER. 

I ENTERED the same level of reality that
I thought was exclusively reserved for women,
but the power of that reality had become
MY REALITY.

I learned some pretty crazy stuff too, such
as if you REALLY want to stop a woman
from being with you, the best way is to kiss
UP to her. 

I also started to see how most guys really
act around women, and I could SENSE
the vibe that they were creating, because
I could finally see how RIDICULOUS and
REPULSIVE their behaviors was to
a woman who NEEDED a challenge,
who needed something COMPELLING,
something more emotionally powerful,
something more FUN, as opposed to
all these guys who were so serious!

The only thing that all that serious stuff
ends up doing for a guy, if done in the
early stages at least, is making a woman
think the guy is inferior.      

The reality is that, if you think about
it, women have in a way given men a
GIFT in terms of the erotic joy that comes
about from actually GETTING a woman
who behaves sexy, hard to get, who is
playful, fun, confident, etc.   

It's just gotten a little out of hand these days,
but the reality is that how sexy would it
be if it were the opposite, i.e. if women just
ripped off their clothes for you within minutes
of meeting them, if they acted like typical
desperate GUYS????

The fact of the matter is that women are
damn smart, and throughout history they
trumped the men who thought they could
control women.  Men figured they were
in power, but women learned to use sexuality
as the ULTIMATE power.  They were
slow to give it away, they knew how to
cloud the secrets to female sexuality in
mystery, making it more appealing and
desirable and adding all kinds of illusions
about it to make it seem more special.

And men FELL for it ALL, they fell for
it GOOD, they fell for it BIG TIME.

And women are not so stupid as to give
all that power away in a world of
"equality".  It's more like "yeah,
thanks for making us equals now
but we'll keep the sexual power
superiority thank you very much".

And it's not even CONSCIOUS totally.
It's been INTERNALIZED.
So they are totally CONGRUENT.

The idea of being called a "slut" in public
(it's different in private sometimes!) is
such a negative thing because it strips
away their entire power, i.e. that they
have a "special" sexuality that is only
given to a "rare" guy who "earns" it.

And AGAIN, I repeat, these ideas are
INTERNALIZED to most women, so
they BELIEVE it, so they are
CONGRUENT with it.  It's not like
women feel they are using a "technique".  

And THIS is what you must pick up
from women, the fact that the beliefs
are INTERNAL. AND you must learn
from women how to present your
entire reality in the most attractive
light, otherwise the reality is that
you are portraying yourself as
INFERIOR, and perception is
reality when it comes to these
things.

Now, for YOU to get to that point where
it ALL feels totally instinctive, I'm not going
to bull*&^% you, you are going to
have to WORK at it for a while.

It takes some effort to debrainwash
yourself, to reset the internal wiring
back to the way it is meant to be.

You're going to have to go out and
APPLY the things I teach you, and at
first it might not be easy. You might
have a fragile ego and it might get hit
emotionally by women, and yet you
are only going to get TOUGHER and
emotionally stronger if you follow
through in the way I suggest, ultimately
leading you to the point where your WORDS
match your FEELINGS. 

Your "GAME" will become so tight that in
fact it will not be much of a GAME
at all, it will be INTERNALIZED.

It's WORTH it.
It's the ONLY way.

If you don't put in your dues, and you don't
work on INTERNALIZING your game,
and if you don't work on your ability
to create COOL EMOTIONS in women,
well then YOUR uncool emotions will
ruin your game no matter how cool your
"lines" are or your memorized "tactics".

Incongruity is always evident to people,
even if they are not consciously aware
of it.  So the incongruity in a guy who
is SAYING cool things but hasn't paid
his dues developing the internal stuff,
will never fool most women. 

You have to get to the point that your
EMOTIONS really ARE feeling the
same stuff ABOUT YOURSELF that
a hot woman feels regarding HER
intrinsic value.

In my life, I keep only the best people
around me, (although it's hard at times
to find the time to just "hang out") we
all make each other's FOUNDATIONS
stronger by pushing each other,
encouraging each other, and reminding
each other to stay on track when we veer
off the right MENTAL FRAME for a
situation.

Now, believe it or not, all this stuff should
be considered part of FOUNDATION LEVEL
understanding.  You NEED to have this
understanding to create SOLID and
CONSISTENT attraction with the kind
of women that make your heart pound. 

Beyond this level, rests an even DEEPER
level of understanding and skill.  This
level is part of what I like to call the
INFINITE BEYOND.  It includes an
understanding of the deepest recesses
of a woman's desire and in fact ALL
her emotions.  This is the level where
you are able to understand the nuances
and subtleties of a woman's behavior
in a way that will give you such power
that you genuinely feel EMPATHY
for the woman in front of you, no
matter who she is.  

And you will be congruent with it,
because it will come from your
knowledge that you can give her
the GREATEST gift she has ever
experienced- which is EMOTIONAL
fulfillment.  When you KNOW you
have something AWESOME to GIVE,
you are bathed in an infinite sense of
calm and security.       

This is MORE than just losing any neediness,
it's about also being able to GIVE a woman
what she EMOTIONALLY NEEDS, for REAL.

This will enable you to not only create attraction,
but also a DEEP sense of connection that most
QUALITY women are looking for.  Most guys
don't realize how important it is for a woman
to have both, because they don't understand that
SEX is easy for a woman to get.  Therefore
ultimate sexual desire in a woman can only
be unleashed when you ALSO know how
to satisfy her other emotions, because they
are ALL connected.  One unlocks the door
to the other.
  
Emotions are the ONLY truth that matters
in this arena.
 
And you are going to be the biggest GIVER
she ever had, because you are going to be
GIVING her EXACTLY what she NEEDS
to feel INSANELY GREAT. 

And believe me, when you can do
THAT to a woman, she won't just
be attracted to you.

She will be OBSESSED with you.

So this is responsibility that you must
take with great sincerity.

This is not just about how to get women HORNY.

Several years ago, I started to realize
that ATTRACTION is a far more complex
emotion than people believed.  The problem
is that all the dating gurus think that if you get sex,
then you must have attraction.  But it's just
not true.  If a woman is horny, drunk, or
lonely, or any of a host of about a thousand
other things, she may very well have sex with
a guy she is NOT attracted to.  Heck she
may even not CARE much about the guy,
never mind feel ATTRACTED to him.

This is why guys wonder how come their
results are not CONSISTENT or why the woman
suddenly acted weird and took off.  That's because
some of the women they "got" were not actually
ATTRACTED on a deep level in the first place.   
The ones that WERE stuck around, the ones
that weren't took off.

To me it was crucial to unlock the FULL picture,
the deepest aspects of female sexuality and attraction.
Years of passion and mind-blowing learning went into
my work, and I would not trade it for anything.

CREDENTIALS matter to me.  Not only
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with women, their testimonials recorded not by me,
but by themselves and by totally independent
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Put simply, what I teach is the most advanced,
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Michael Marks

A Cardinal Rule For Attracting Women

I don't like to boil down the art of attracting women into rules, because it can make it seem as if it must be memorized rather than understood. However, when first learning how to attract women, to save you time, it sometimes helps to know WHAT to do, and then learn the WHY later.

So one of the biggest "WHAT to do's" is really what NOT to do:

DO NOT QUALIFY YOURSELF.

In a nutshell, the reason WHY is because the more comfortable you REALLY feel, the less of a need to qualify yourself you would ever feel. Thus, the act of qualifying yourself shows a woman that you feel you are NOT worth her time, that you feel you are NOT on her "level".

The reverse is also true, the more you show you ARE comfortable, the more you show you ARE on her level.

Ultimately, when you inner game is top-notch, all this comes naturally.

Interestingly, in that famous pub/bar scene in Good Will Hunting where Ben Affleck's character is trying to pick up a girl in a college pub where he is not part of that college or anything, the main reason his character isn't successful is because it's obvious he's trying too hard to pretend that he is part of the college.

He's trying to qualify himself.

And this is something that 99% of ALL men do with women, I did it myself CONSTANTLY before learning this stuff.

Instead, if he had NOT tried to pretend that he was part of the college (which doesn't mean that he should focus on mentioning that he is NOT part of the college- as this would be showing that in his mind, he thought this was such an important thing as if he had to 'confess' a sin) and if he had INSTEAD just focused on vibing and enjoying the moment with the girl, he would have done much better.

The clip here shows the whole thing, and also it's cool how Damon's character wins the day and also destroys the "status" of the jerk by doing the ultimate thing- showing how the jerk is TRYING TO GET STATUS! Trying to show worth is the ultimate in proving lack of worth.

It's also clear that Will (Matt Damon's character) is not trying to show off (he's not even trying to get the girl) or qualify himself, but rather is just trying to defend his friend from this jerk.

This is a great scene that is realistic in its portrayal of how trying to 'act' like you're someone else, in the effort to gain approval, is the opposite of cool.

So don't worry at ALL about not being part of any "club" or "circle" or "college" or "clique", instead just focus on being comfortable and never qualify yourself.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks