How To Be The Calm Man Women Want

In the last newsletter, I discussed a LOT

on the importance of CALM and the deep

attraction power it has in drawing women

into you.

I received some questions asking if I could

get more into the HOW to become this kind

of person, how to get into that state, how to

stay in that state of mind, and also how to

not crack, especially under pressure from

a woman.

So there are a few things I need to say about all

this. Obviously, I get into the DETAILS in my

program, called ‘Warrior Within’, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

At the same time, I can introduce some of the

important “HOW TO’s’ here, but keep in mind

this is low-level detail here, and my actual

programs go into true depth.

Also, my programs go into depth on how to

DETECT the right and wrong kind of women

in the first place, as well.

If a woman is constantly making you feel like

you are about to crack and lose your sense of

calm, then either one of two things is happening:

Either she is the wrong woman, or you need to do

more work on yourself to stay in the calm state of

mind so that you are not distorting things she

is doing or saying to mean something bad when she

is actually not doing or saying anything bad.

So, for example, and by the way I am not judging

anyone as I used to make the same mistakes, for

example, if one is in the insecure state of mind,

then it will INTERPRET everything a woman does

in a negative and distorted way.

If, for example, a woman says something like.

“You’re crazy” to you, depending on how she says it,

it COULD mean a compliment in the sense of you are

so above average, or work so much harder than

others, or are so GOOD, that you are CRAZY GOOD,

CRAZY AWESOME, CRAZY AMAZING.  However, it COULD mean

an insult, but only when you are CALM and SECURE

can you see the TRUTH. 

When feeling INSECURE, all actions and statements

will be interpreted in a way that seems HARMFUL,

NASTY, MEAN, OR THREATENING.  

On the other hand, when feeling SECURE, you will

see the GOOD STUFF when a woman means good,

and even if some woman is sick in the head and

saying something mean, you will see through it

and often INTERPRET IT as a compliment, which

is such a powerful sign of security and strength

and calm on your part, it will actually ATTRACT

that woman even more, although I suggest staying

away from women that are not treating you with

respect, no matter how attracted those women are.

The whole idea of CALM is actually more vital so

that you don’t screw things up with a GOOD WOMAN,

a woman that is feeling attraction to you and that

wants to be with you long-term, etc.

So here are some ways to GET CALM, and STAY CALM.

ONE: BREATHING

Yup, let’s start with something vital and basic.

Take long, slow, deep breaths.

Hold the breath for a few seconds.

Then, let the breath out sloooowly for a few

more seconds, till you have expelled all the air.

Regarding the breathing, breathe in deeply and
slowly through your nose.
Hold that breath for a few moments.

Then, exhale slowly through your mouth.

Repeat this for about a minute or two.

If you actually TRY this, you will see how

powerful this is.

The tragic truth is that most people will NOT do this,

this simple, basic, and effective strategy, because

the problem is that when people are not feeling

calm, they tend to NOT WANT TO FEEL CALM, they

are so brainwashed by their own emotions, that

they think they actually SHOULD NOT BEEEEEE CALM!

But the truth is, that being calm is essential for

success in attracting women, because it says so  

much about who you are, and it also helps the

woman feel calm around you, and it also helps

you take the right actions, because your actions

and thoughts tend to flow from how you FEEL,

so that is why it is so important that you focus

on feeling calm.

So that’s a super-effective EASY strategy, that

is more for IMMEDIATE use.

There are other, longer-term strategies that go

DEEPER into changing and improving your

HARD-WIRING, and take more practice, and

are a little more advanced.

TWO: MINDFULNESS

Mindfulness is a practice that has been in

existence for thousands of years,  and only

in recent years has science actually caught

up and proven as well as documented the

effectiveness of it in achieving superior states

of mind, especially the calm state.

The key to mindfulness is to learn to zero in

on the present experience in a non-judgmental

and open  way that allows for acceptance.

What this means is that rather than having

emotional reactions to things, you instead

go DEEP INTO THE ACTUAL SENSATION

of whatever it is that you are experiencing and

you actually simply EXPERIENCE IT AS A

SENSATION, rather than INTERPRETING

IT AS NEGATIVE. (or even positive, because

the whole point of mindfulness is to focus

on the sensation and accept it without judgement,

experience it for what it IS, which is simply

a sensation, it does not have to MEAN

anything else, it is JUST a sensation, no

matter how powerful it might FEEL.)

This is DEEP stuff, it goes DEEP within,

and is something I delve into in my program

(along with other deep strategies) called

‘Warrior Within’, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

THREE: REFRAMING/CHANGING THE

WAY YOU THINK ABOUT IT

The third strategy I want to mention is

REFRAMING and changing your PERCEPTION

of a moment or experience.

This is also extremely powerful, and it’s also

not like the various strategies can’t work together

in some ways as well.

One KEY aspect of changing the way you think

about things involves  FINDING the DISTORTIONS

in your INTERPRETATION of things.

So, for example, if you approach a woman and she

responds, but doesn’t respond with a huge smile, 

you MIGHT be thinking “Oh, she for sure doesn’t

want to talk to me, she’s probably thinking I’m

psycho, or weird, and she probably wants me to leave”.

So, you have to realize that this type of thinking is

probably a distortion of truth, and the result of

something called “all or nothing” thinking, also

known as “black and white” thinking, (which is in

itself another important area to understand) where

the ONLY good response to you is if a woman goes

ECSTATIC for you, and anything other than ECSTATIC

in the first moment is interpreted as DISASTROUS.

In reality, a woman may VERY WELL BE INTERESTED

in you, or getting to know you, but she might

simply be trying to show she is not promiscuous,

that she is not easy, that she is not open to

just talking to every single guy.

She may want you to continue, but also want

you to realize that she needs you to take it

slowly with her, before she can open up more.

What you have just read here is the TIP of

the ICEBERG of what you will find in my

DVD program, called WARRIOR WITHIN.

You will find TONS MORE on the most POWERFUL

strategies for getting over internal obstacles

that stop you from being your BEST with women,

your most CONFIDENT, your most SECURE, your

most POWERFUL version of yourself, and you

will find super-effective strategies for

getting yourself to TAKE ACTION with women

as well.

You will also find the most effective ways to

DETECT a woman’s personality and values so

that you only put your energy into the RIGHT

women who will ENHANCE your life.  

Don’t wait for the YEARS to go by without

taking the MOST EFFECTIVE ACTIONS you can

for SKYROCKETING your success with women.

Get my WARRIOR WITHIN program NOW, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Deepest Levels Of Attraction

Attraction is not a static thing.  That's the truth.
A woman is either feeling more and more of it
for you, or she is feeling less and less. 

It NEVER stays the same.

So you have to ask yourself a question:
Which do you prefer, a woman feeling she is
"settling" for you for "practical" reasons and
her attraction thus eroding for you day by day,
or a woman feeling that she MUST HAVE you?

In the real world, attraction doesn't care about
the politically correct b.s. definition of it.
Ultimately, REAL attraction feels like a NEED,
it's not some kind of thing that is "nice" to
have.  It feels as if you NEED it.

THAT'S what attraction is.

When you feel MASSIVE ATTRACTION for
a woman, it's not some kind of, "oh that is
nice" feeling.  It's A HECK OF A LOT
more than that. And THAT'S what you want
women to feel for you.

So, if you are going to actually make a woman
FEEL this level of attraction, you have to first
understand just where the BAR is in terms of
what IS a confident secure fun intriguing guy.

Because of the ocean of guys who still kiss
up to women, her mind's default setting is set
to politely and quickly vaporize all guys who
approach her.  The only way you are going
to overpower that setting is if your behavior
and style clearly and immediately indicate that
there is something very different about you,
in a cool way.

I want to put an END to any notion that you
can get the kind of results you want with only
a half-assed attitude about this stuff.   

It's really important to realize the full REALITY
of an attractive woman.

The REALITY of having infinite guys WORSHIP
her and willing to SERVE her and TAKE abuse
from her.  And the EFFECT that has on a woman
in terms of what is attractive to her.  You have to
be in the same reality to understand it, which is
what actually ultimately happens when you get
good at this stuff.

Guys keep giving WOMEN what GUYS
would want, in the typical guys' frame of
scarcity and desperation.

Bu this is like giving SALTY PRETZELS
instead of water to a man dying of THIRST,
and then wondering why he doesn't seem
to appreciate it.  

Women are EMOTIONALLY DYING OF THIRST
for some masculine confidence, wit, humor, and
leadership, as well as for some sexual tension,
unpredictability, intrigue, fun, and excitement.

Instead, guys are giving women the opposite,
because as guys they want assurance, permanence,
and reliability, since they have been dunked in
the matrix illusion of "scarcity of women" and
the matrix illusion that as men they don't have
the same intrinsic worth in society as women.    

And even when guys DO hear solid advice,
such as "be like women" in the sense of being
hard to get, guys do it wrong, because they are
doing it with the wrong INTENT.

They are doing it almost with a sense of
ANGER. As if they are "getting back"
at women, as if it's tit for tat.

IT'S NOT ABOUT THAT AT ALL.
When you do it like that, you are totally
INCONGRUENT with what attraction
IS.

Attraction is about SUPERIORITY.

How the heck can someone who is
SUPERIOR get UPSET at someone
INFERIOR?

Does the GENERAL worry about the
remarks of some guy ranked as just
a private?

That's why although attraction ultimately
IS about perceived superiority, the irony is
that to ACHIEVE this EFFECTIVELY,
you have to not even FEEL there is a power
gap between you and a woman to begin with. 

Otherwise, your emotions will give you away
in infinite micro expressions and forms
of body language, and your emotions will
betray you by the way you live your life.

She will see that you are actually bitter, etc.

Remember, the REAL power of attraction
rests in its SUBTLETIES, from the way you
dress, to the comfort you have with being
sexual, to the sense of humor you have,
to the way your voice projects, to the very
way you MOVE. 

Think about it: When you are totally under
control and relaxed and confident, you
speak and move with less hurried rush
and you never run out of "things to say" .

In fact, it seems bizarre to even worry of
"having things to say".  You start to realize
that your secure, inspired, or fun mood is
what is fueling your ability to have a great
conversation, enabling you to access all
the parts of your mind that give you infinite
"material".
  
You also start to realize that this vibe you
are giving off results in "energy-return"
from the woman, as you and her ping-pong
the energy/vibes/conversation back and
forth, each of you enjoying this interaction.

So if you saw a woman you were interested
in, you wouldn't feel it's some kind of
RACE or some kind of CONTEST.

You would roll up casual and laid back, and
your conversation wouldn't be about trying
to MAKE anything happen, but rather about
reflecting your inner vibes, mood, state, etc.

One of the most important elements of high level
"game" is simply a byproduct of who you ARE. 
Once you are ARE in the right state, quality "game"
is the uninterrupted flow of your own mood and
energy outwards.

Quality "game" however is ALSO about
understanding some important things about
women and female culture.

This way, you can understand the critical 
issues they need to know that you are 
aware of, and quality "game" is ALSO 
about understanding HUMAN EMOTION 
in general, including YOUR OWN emotions.

The result of quality "game" is that you
wouldn't be afraid to say something
NICE to a woman when you FELT it, but
you would also not be NEEDY for a woman
who was hot, so complimenting her on her
LOOKS would instinctively not be the first
thing that you did. This idea of not kissing
up to a woman based on her looks would 
be instinctive to you, you would not even
feel the emotional desire or impulse to
focus too much on her looks.  It's the
neediness and scarcity and lack of
perspective that creates these wrong
behaviors in the first place.

And if you saw she was really into you, which
she most likely would be as a result of all this,
you wouldn't feel the need to ROB HER
of the pleasure of WONDERING about you,
(which is what needy guys do out of their fear
of losing her) of the pleasure of not knowing
everything about you, and of the pleasure
of wondering if she "had" you or not. 

You would UNDERSTAND that once you are
secure in your own value, it's actually FUN
to not know right away that you "have" someone,
and yet you would also know how far to push
this and not to push this into the realm of the
absurd, cruel, or the just plain dorky.

In fact, ALL of attraction FLOWS from the
way you THINK, which is based on the way
you see yourself and the world.  Even
HUMOR if massively affected by this.

Let me give you a real life example, of
how REAL CONFIDENCE in your
value is reflected POWERFULLY
and instinctively.

This example actually took YEARS for me
to fully realize the full effect of.

I remember a girl from many years ago,
before I got into this stuff. A girl who
I felt I was "lucky" to be with at the time.

Even though I was getting mistreated,
I thought I was "lucky" because I had fallen
under the brainwashing spell of society
to believe that a woman who was attractive
was scarce, (which isn't even true at all) and
that men had to "work" to "prove themselves"
to women, because women were "innocent"
while men were just sex-hungry animals.

Anyway, not to get into a whole life-story
here, I remember once waking up a BIT
to the reality of what was going on,
but still not GETTING it enough to
rise from the ashes of that life. But I
had managed to come to the conclusion
that her behavior wasn't very good,
even though I thought I was still "lucky"
to have her because most guys I knew
couldn't get an equally hot woman
EVER. 

Anyway, I basically confronted her with
the fact her behavior was pretty
atrocious, and politely told her that
after I stripped away the attraction
I felt for her, I honestly couldn't think
of one reason I was with her. I
WANTED to have a reason, and I
even said something like "what are
the good things about you?"
(And of course, by this time, she
had already taken the power for
granted, so this was interpreted
by her not as challenging her, but
as me HOPING for goodness.) 

Well, her response was this, calmly:
"Not much."

This had a profound effect on me,
causing reverberations of learning
that lasted with me for years.

I remember at the time, feeling all this
ANGER, and yet, there was NOTHING
I could do, for, after all, she was not
trying to resist my argument that she
was no good.

In fact, by DOING THIS, she was actually
INDIRECTLY saying "I don't NEED to
prove myself, and I don't CARE to either.
And, in fact, I AM good for nothing
EXCEPT the ONE THING THAT
COUNTS: ATTRACTION."

And it was very spontaneous.
When was the last time a woman asked
YOU something about yourself and your
reply was that you weren't good for much?

You see, on the SURFACE it sounds like
self-deprecation.  And I don't recommend
it for beginners, because beginners are usually
SO congruent with INFERIOR beliefs, that
when they say a self-deprecating comment,
it will be taken SERIOUSLY to mean
inferiority.  

But once you GET IT, internally, and your
body language, tonality, lifestyle, and
BEHAVIORS show that you know that
indeed you are VERY desirable, well 
if you THEN were to say you were worth
"nothing much" in RESPONSE to
a woman TRYING to get you to
prove your worth to her,  the results
would be powerful as hell.

Because you are saying all the right things
qualifying yourself.  It's the ultimate in
NOT QUALIFYING YOURSELF.

In fact, it's so powerful, that in a few days
or weeks from now, this specific example
will start to pop up in different ways in
just about every "seduction" place on
the planet.  

Now, this example of "nothing much" doesn't 
mean to be abusive, i.e. if a woman is REALLY
feeling HURT by you, and she asks you what
 is the good side of you, etc. Don't be a bastard
at a time like that.

But you have to understand the UNDERLYING
message here, which is your BELIEFS about
yourself create your BEHAVIORS.

The answer of "nothing much" was an
EMOTIONAL communication.

The kind that is EFFECTIVE.

Not the useless kind that is LOGICAL.

At the time, I honestly felt that she really
couldn't help it, i.e. that this was her REAL
personality, but that she still had value. 

And I couldn't figure this out at the time.
I figured this was just her personality. 

Until one day I couldn't take it anymore.
I finally came to the conclusion that
NO WOMAN on earth was worth
being with if I couldn't get some
basic level respect.  Even if "wasn't
her fault".

So I didn't get angry, I actually
REALLY thought that this girl
was useless to me, because her
attractiveness was no longer
worth it, and even though she
"couldn't help it" I figured that
it wasn't my job to be her therapist,
and that I had already tried for years
to "rehabilitate" her cold ways.

Well, the interesting thing is that,
because I TOTALLY BELIEVED
that this woman was of NO USE
to me, and because I TOTALLY
BELIEVED it was not her fault, I was
TOTALLY CONGRUENT when
I told her, "This is over, and I don't
hate you either."

The thing is, this is actually ATTRACTIVE.

Because it implies that she has no worth
to you, and it robs her of her sense of
superior value.  How can she have value
if she is worthless to you?  Your relative
value to hers becomes superior. 

Boom.
Attraction is born.

I didn't realize it at the time, but I had
GROWN internally, my beliefs about
my own value and hers had changed. 

My beliefs had become more ATTRACTIVE.
It wasn't a "technique" I learned, it was how
I really felt.

Within 48 hours, suddenly  YEARS of supposedly
INGRAINED behaviors in her had TOTALLY
REVERSED themselves.

To say the least, she started behaving the way
a person who respects another person behaves.

I won't go into the details, but suffice to
say, apparently she COULD "help it" a lot
all those years.

She proved she could be the warmest, most
giving woman on the planet, most dedicated,
most COMMITTED woman to making
it WORK.

In fact, I couldn't find a place to HIDE
from her, she found me wherever I was.

This actually didn't make me happy.

What it did do was prove to me that I had
wasted YEARS of my life ACCEPTING
substandard behavior and heartache and
indignity because I thought that was
"just the way it is",  when in reality a woman
could be TOTALLY capable of being every
bit as perfect as a SAINT.

The only thing that made it NOT a waste
was the super powerful learning experience
that it was for me.

For the next several YEARS, I totally
started doing WHATEVER I wanted
to with women.  My new my beliefs
were cemented, and consequently, my
new behaviors were repeated with
tons of different women, with the same
powerful results, ad infinitum.

Most women were great RIGHT OFF THE BAT,
since my frame was solid before they could possibly
have a chance to doubt it. 

But even the few who started off
as trying to be "challenging" in return
to me, eventually melted pretty fast,
if I had repeated chances to interact
with them.  My frame took over,
because I REALLY believed
in it, it was not some type of act.

This is NOT ego here.
This is just a FACT.

Go and try it in the real world
and you can confirm this.
  
I approached women however *I* wanted to,
never giving them ANY privileges, never
for a SECOND thinking any of them were
"special".  I made ALL the decisions,
teased them, didn't take them overly
seriously.

I didn't smile like an approval-seeking
geek around women, because I honestly
didn't think they had superior opinions,
I thought of them as primarily being very
smart and feisty when it came to feigning
superiority, mystique, innocence and value,
and in getting men to chase them because
of this. 

But I slowly let go of the bitterness as I
realized that this was just the way women
learned to work their way through the world
since time immemorial, and that it was men
who had given the extra power to women
without adjusting to this change themselves. 

Instead of thinking of what gift to buy
a woman, I focused on my own goals,
my own things, FIRST, and I also
dumped women at the slightest thing,
which ALWAYS resulted in them only
chasing me HARDER. 

I ENTERED the same level of reality that
I thought was exclusively reserved for women,
but the power of that reality had become
MY REALITY.

I learned some pretty crazy stuff too, such
as if you REALLY want to stop a woman
from being with you, the best way is to kiss
UP to her. 

I also started to see how most guys really
act around women, and I could SENSE
the vibe that they were creating, because
I could finally see how RIDICULOUS and
REPULSIVE their behaviors was to
a woman who NEEDED a challenge,
who needed something COMPELLING,
something more emotionally powerful,
something more FUN, as opposed to
all these guys who were so serious!

The only thing that all that serious stuff
ends up doing for a guy, if done in the
early stages at least, is making a woman
think the guy is inferior.      

The reality is that, if you think about
it, women have in a way given men a
GIFT in terms of the erotic joy that comes
about from actually GETTING a woman
who behaves sexy, hard to get, who is
playful, fun, confident, etc.   

It's just gotten a little out of hand these days,
but the reality is that how sexy would it
be if it were the opposite, i.e. if women just
ripped off their clothes for you within minutes
of meeting them, if they acted like typical
desperate GUYS????

The fact of the matter is that women are
damn smart, and throughout history they
trumped the men who thought they could
control women.  Men figured they were
in power, but women learned to use sexuality
as the ULTIMATE power.  They were
slow to give it away, they knew how to
cloud the secrets to female sexuality in
mystery, making it more appealing and
desirable and adding all kinds of illusions
about it to make it seem more special.

And men FELL for it ALL, they fell for
it GOOD, they fell for it BIG TIME.

And women are not so stupid as to give
all that power away in a world of
"equality".  It's more like "yeah,
thanks for making us equals now
but we'll keep the sexual power
superiority thank you very much".

And it's not even CONSCIOUS totally.
It's been INTERNALIZED.
So they are totally CONGRUENT.

The idea of being called a "slut" in public
(it's different in private sometimes!) is
such a negative thing because it strips
away their entire power, i.e. that they
have a "special" sexuality that is only
given to a "rare" guy who "earns" it.

And AGAIN, I repeat, these ideas are
INTERNALIZED to most women, so
they BELIEVE it, so they are
CONGRUENT with it.  It's not like
women feel they are using a "technique".  

And THIS is what you must pick up
from women, the fact that the beliefs
are INTERNAL. AND you must learn
from women how to present your
entire reality in the most attractive
light, otherwise the reality is that
you are portraying yourself as
INFERIOR, and perception is
reality when it comes to these
things.

Now, for YOU to get to that point where
it ALL feels totally instinctive, I'm not going
to bull*&^% you, you are going to
have to WORK at it for a while.

It takes some effort to debrainwash
yourself, to reset the internal wiring
back to the way it is meant to be.

You're going to have to go out and
APPLY the things I teach you, and at
first it might not be easy. You might
have a fragile ego and it might get hit
emotionally by women, and yet you
are only going to get TOUGHER and
emotionally stronger if you follow
through in the way I suggest, ultimately
leading you to the point where your WORDS
match your FEELINGS. 

Your "GAME" will become so tight that in
fact it will not be much of a GAME
at all, it will be INTERNALIZED.

It's WORTH it.
It's the ONLY way.

If you don't put in your dues, and you don't
work on INTERNALIZING your game,
and if you don't work on your ability
to create COOL EMOTIONS in women,
well then YOUR uncool emotions will
ruin your game no matter how cool your
"lines" are or your memorized "tactics".

Incongruity is always evident to people,
even if they are not consciously aware
of it.  So the incongruity in a guy who
is SAYING cool things but hasn't paid
his dues developing the internal stuff,
will never fool most women. 

You have to get to the point that your
EMOTIONS really ARE feeling the
same stuff ABOUT YOURSELF that
a hot woman feels regarding HER
intrinsic value.

In my life, I keep only the best people
around me, (although it's hard at times
to find the time to just "hang out") we
all make each other's FOUNDATIONS
stronger by pushing each other,
encouraging each other, and reminding
each other to stay on track when we veer
off the right MENTAL FRAME for a
situation.

Now, believe it or not, all this stuff should
be considered part of FOUNDATION LEVEL
understanding.  You NEED to have this
understanding to create SOLID and
CONSISTENT attraction with the kind
of women that make your heart pound. 

Beyond this level, rests an even DEEPER
level of understanding and skill.  This
level is part of what I like to call the
INFINITE BEYOND.  It includes an
understanding of the deepest recesses
of a woman's desire and in fact ALL
her emotions.  This is the level where
you are able to understand the nuances
and subtleties of a woman's behavior
in a way that will give you such power
that you genuinely feel EMPATHY
for the woman in front of you, no
matter who she is.  

And you will be congruent with it,
because it will come from your
knowledge that you can give her
the GREATEST gift she has ever
experienced- which is EMOTIONAL
fulfillment.  When you KNOW you
have something AWESOME to GIVE,
you are bathed in an infinite sense of
calm and security.       

This is MORE than just losing any neediness,
it's about also being able to GIVE a woman
what she EMOTIONALLY NEEDS, for REAL.

This will enable you to not only create attraction,
but also a DEEP sense of connection that most
QUALITY women are looking for.  Most guys
don't realize how important it is for a woman
to have both, because they don't understand that
SEX is easy for a woman to get.  Therefore
ultimate sexual desire in a woman can only
be unleashed when you ALSO know how
to satisfy her other emotions, because they
are ALL connected.  One unlocks the door
to the other.
  
Emotions are the ONLY truth that matters
in this arena.
 
And you are going to be the biggest GIVER
she ever had, because you are going to be
GIVING her EXACTLY what she NEEDS
to feel INSANELY GREAT. 

And believe me, when you can do
THAT to a woman, she won't just
be attracted to you.

She will be OBSESSED with you.

So this is responsibility that you must
take with great sincerity.

This is not just about how to get women HORNY.

Several years ago, I started to realize
that ATTRACTION is a far more complex
emotion than people believed.  The problem
is that all the dating gurus think that if you get sex,
then you must have attraction.  But it's just
not true.  If a woman is horny, drunk, or
lonely, or any of a host of about a thousand
other things, she may very well have sex with
a guy she is NOT attracted to.  Heck she
may even not CARE much about the guy,
never mind feel ATTRACTED to him.

This is why guys wonder how come their
results are not CONSISTENT or why the woman
suddenly acted weird and took off.  That's because
some of the women they "got" were not actually
ATTRACTED on a deep level in the first place.   
The ones that WERE stuck around, the ones
that weren't took off.

To me it was crucial to unlock the FULL picture,
the deepest aspects of female sexuality and attraction.
Years of passion and mind-blowing learning went into
my work, and I would not trade it for anything.

CREDENTIALS matter to me.  Not only
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covered by major independent journalists as I've
taken even total BEGINNERS out into the REAL WORLD
to meet women, at bars, clubs, bookstores, cafes,
and the street, and helped them get MASSIVE results
with women, their testimonials recorded not by me,
but by themselves and by totally independent
journalists.

Put simply, what I teach is the most advanced,
effective understanding of attraction and ALL
its critical components.  It is DEVASTATINGLY
effective for the initial approach and initial
attraction, and is ALSO CRITICAL to your success
with women LONG TERM.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Modeling Strategy Of Attraction

One of the most powerful methods of attraction
is what is known as the “modeling” strategy.

In essence, what this means is that you find
a person who is getting success with women,
and you model what this person does.

Modeling is an aspect of “NLP”, which stands
for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. When NLP
was first making waves, I got into it, and I found
that some of it is great, and some of it is not.

Of all the various elements, I think modeling is
definitely one of the best concepts out there.

If you truly BEHAVE like something,
then other people can't help but
FEEL you ARE this thing.

If something walks like a duck, sounds like
a duck, and acts like a duck, we tend to feel
it IS a duck.

Well, when it comes to attracting a woman,
there are many different ways of behaving
with her. And the most important behavior
that should be conveyed is the behavior
of a person who feels they are INFINITELY
desirable and infinitely secure.

The greatest irony in the world is that the vast
majority of pick-up artist advice preached
about the importance of conveying high value,
and yet the method of conveying high value
was through trying to PUT DOWN a woman
who was very attractive, since “after all,
she’s so desirable, she knows it, so it’s
important to bring her back down to earth.”

However, the very THOUGHT of needing
to bring someone down comes from an
insecure FEELING.

And body language almost ALWAYS ends up
showing EXACTLY how you feel whether you
want to be showing this or not.

And that’s just the start, because ACTIONS
that flow from insecurity tend to make the
insecurity even WORSE, since we are what
we think and do, and if we DO insecure
actions, it makes us FEEL more insecure.

This is not just me saying this, this is backed
up by tons of studies into psychology.

Here’s the PROOF:

Let’s take a good look at how people who
KNOW they have value tend to behave for
REAL.

The reality is, that if you were to approach the
most ATTRACTIVE woman in a club, you’d
notice that most of the time, these women are
actually surprisingly FRIENDLY.

Not all the time, but most of the time.

I give a club as an example because approaching
a woman in a club takes less skill since it’s pretty
common for a woman to expect a guy to chat her
up there, so it’s an experiment any guy can do,
including a total beginner who hasn't even read
any of my materials, whereas approaching
a woman who is equally attractive and in  middle
of walking in the mall might take a bit more
skill to make the whole approach smooth,
and if it’s not done right, the woman might get
a bit startled or creeped out.

But again, even not in a club, the reality is that
you’ll find that women who are very attractive
tend to be friendly and also quite positive in
general. Sure, they might be a bit “spoiled”
by all the attention, but they’re definitely
not interested in making innocent guys feel
BAD.

Now, on the other hand, and I’m not blaming
them, you’ll see that a lot of times the most
hostile reactions come from women who
are not all that attractive. Which makes sense,
because maybe they’ve been fooled or tricked
or mistreated by some guys in the past.

So they’re more defensive, they’re trying
to protect themselves from getting HURT.

It boils down to the self-concept.

When a person feels they have value, they tend
to feel GOOD. When you feel GOOD, you
want the PARTY to get even BIGGER,
you want MORE good times.

When you feel BAD, you want to be the
PARTY POOPER.

Now, how do you think a woman who is
STRIKINGLY beautiful would react to
a negative comment about her?

Most women of this level of beauty will
SEE the behavior for what it is, (an attempt
at manipulating their self-esteem- to lower
it) and at the very least will NOT be attracted
to it.

The reason they won’t be attracted to it, is
because unlike the pick up artist advice b.s.,
these women don’t see it as a sign of the
guy being confident, powerful, and secure,
but rather as the guy being somewhat
damaged in self-esteem.

Now, this doesn’t mean that a guy who IS
feeling secure and high self-esteem has to
kiss UP either, absolutely not. “Kissing up”
means that it’s out of balance, the guy is
behaving in a certain way out of neediness
that he doesn’t even realize is neediness.

What a cool guy does, is he simply IS BURSTING
WITH COOL AWESOME VIBES he is feeling within.

So, what this means is that he’s feeling PLAYFUL,
sexual, feeling the rush of his own testosterone,
his natural masculinity, and he’s not focused on
what SHE thinks of him all that much.

Sure, he ENJOYS the validation but that’s not
his STARTING point internally for why he is
saying the things he is saying to her. He wants
to have FUN, which is far higher up the
ladder of human needs than validation,
he already has the validation taken care of,
as that’s the fundamental rung of the ladder
at the bottom, the foundation.

The reason he’s not focused on how to get
her validation is because he’s already feeling
pretty good, so he’s not needy for her validation.

So what he focuses on is just connecting
who he IS to HER, and who he is…is the
sum total of whatever COOL VIBES/THOUGHTS/
EMOTIONS are going on in inside of him.

In other words, he’s just EXPRESSING
himself, quite randomly the same way
you might with your friends.

So he might be chatting to her about anything
from a cool song or a great tasting slice of pizza!

It’s conveyed through his tonality and his
body language without, but it’s FUELED
by his emotions.

Now, I know that FEELING this is the
challenge in the first place—and the key
to FEELING this way is to start taking
the ACTIONS of how such a person
behaves.

It’s NOT the path “how to negate her self-esteem”,
which comes from insecurity.

Rather, attraction comes from the taking the path
of destroying one's OWN insecurities, and from
not acting upon insecure impulses. 

This leads to your new frame on the situation,
which is:
   
“WELCOME TO MY AWESOME VIBES
REALITY”, and the fact that you know that
your ALREADY cool emotional state is
simply even FURTHER ENHANCED when
the party goes from just one (you) to two (you and her).



At this point, she now wants to also do the
same for YOU, to welcome you to HER world.

So it’s a mutually rewarding experience.

Getting down to brass tacks, what this means
is that you want to be MODELING the way
the most desirable person on the planet would
behave.

Notice how the most attractive women, when
it comes to dealing with negative comments
to them, tend to be the KINDEST. So gentle,
in fact, that an entire generation of guys
actually thought that it was the being a JERK
part that got the women friendly, when in
reality it was the woman sensing the guys
INSECURITY and FORGIVING this
and STILL giving the guy a chance!!!!

The PROOF that it’s not attractive is that
if a guy keeps up the jerk act, he ALWAYS
loses the girl. Even the most secure of
women eventually will get fed up with
a guy who just can’t get over his own
insecurities.

So, ironically, some of the best MODELS
to “imitate” so to speak, in terms of
CONFIDENCE, SECURITY, AND
FEELING ‘HIGH VALUE’ are the
knockout women!

I’m not saying that these women are secure
about everything ELSE in their lives, some
are and some aren’t, but when it comes to
their perspective of value and how this is
reflected in the way they behave when
interacting with men, it’s a GREAT
psychological frame to learn from.

Notice how these women find socializing
FUN in and of itself, for the fun of it,
not because they “need to get phone numbers”
or prove a point.

Notice how these women let crude remarks
made to them usually slide right off their back,
and they will often have a natural impulse to
respond either playfully if they thought it was
a joke, or they will either laugh it off anyway
even if not, or they will just move on to someone
more fun.

They don’t carry a chip on their shoulder
about men, even if some men DID treat
them not so great.

Notice how to a woman who is attractive,
her sense of playfulness is not about seeing
who can lower the other person’s self-esteem,
and notice how their concept of being a
challenge is always FUN, never nasty.

I.E. She might say something like:
“You LOOOOOVE me, I know it!”

As OPPOSED to:
“You’ll never find a girl as good as me”

And as opposed to other negative ways
of interacting, such as when some guys
try to make a woman feel insecure by
pointing out flaws she might have.

There are FINE SUBTLE DETAILS that
make all the difference between being
the man, and being a player, or being
a “nice guy”.

The ultimate sign of high value is when
you take the behavior that ONLY a guy
who really feels he is the best could take,
which is often the LAST thing his IMPULSES
are telling him to DO!

To learn the FULL PICTURE of how to attract
the women of your choice and how to not only
CONVEY your value to women, but also how
to RE-WIRE your impulses so that you get
all the RIGHT instincts with women, I suggest
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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