Attract Women Through Congruency, Social Intelligence, And Emotional Impact

Alright, a lot of FREAKY-LEVEL important
things I need to share with you regarding
attracting women and getting a quality
woman, plus a new video to help convey
certain points as well. 

1: CONGRUENCY/CONVICTION

The first VITAL key I want to stress to you
is that there is no point chatting up any
woman if you are not going to do it with
CONGRUENCY and with FULL CONVICTION.

I think of congruency and conviction almost
as one thing because they are so closely
related.  

When dealing with women, congruency means
that you are coming across as CONSISTENT
on every level, and CONVICTION means that
you really FEEL what you are saying or doing.

So, this is one of the big reasons I have,
since day ONE, (check out my first book,
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to SuccessWith Women,
if you don't believe me) focused on teaching how
to approach women and interact with women without
memorizing routines or pick-up lines.

Even the most “brilliant” pick up line or
memorized routines will have almost NO power
or attractive effect if you aren’t genuinely
FEELING it or if you feel weird about using it.

At the same time, the solution to not using
pick up lines is NOT as simple as just saying
ANYTHING.  Just saying ANYTHING is better than
NOTHING, but it doesn’t particularly generate
ATTRACTION.  

You want to COMBINE the power of USING some
THOUGHT (the THINKING part of your brain)
with the power of TAPPING into the right 
COMBINATION of emotional states, such as 
being playful, empowered, turned-on, intrigued, etc.

So, for example, if you REALLY feel a woman
is PARTICULARLY gorgeous, and you were to
approach a woman and let her know something
PARTICULAR about her that REALLY stood out,
and you were totally feeling full CONVICTION
about it, it would work pretty damn well to
get the doors open and to get her receptive.

However, since most of the time, a woman’s
who is attractive is just generating the
general “she is attractive” feeling, it’s
NOT a particularly wise move to go in with
a physical compliment.     

You would do better to start a chat with
her about something ELSE that is emotionally
engaging, whether it’s a really playful
comment about what she has in her grocery
cart, or whether it’s you sharing something
intriguing you read that day that you were
curious to get her thoughts on, it’s important
that you aren’t FAKING.

Don’t talk about yoga if yoga does not interest
you. Don’t talk about fitness or fashion or
whatever if you aren’t interested in those
things.

Don’t try to “win points” for the sake of
winning points with her.

Not only is it weak because it smacks of
lack of self-belief, but it also smacks of being 
UNTRUSTWORTHY since she can tell
it’s not REAL.

Start CELEBRATING the GOOD values that you
have, and use these as the ANCHORS for your
conversations, so that they are rooted in
something MEANINGFUL. 

For example, if you are in line somewhere,
and an attractive woman is standing in
front of you, and you started a chat
with her about how people stand in line
for months or years of their total life,
it makes sense to at least get something
IMPORTANT accomplished in all that time.

She might start speaking with you about
how true that is, and she might ask you
“What could someone do in line”? To which
you might reply ,“Possibly make a human
connection of profound significance
that could alter the course of history”.

And you could deliver that with a touch
of INTRIGUE to your voice, a touch of
a smile, of hint of playfulness, a
whisper of sexuality. 

That’s just ONE example, and it’s powerful,
and it’s all based on the fact that at the
ROOT of it are genuine things that I believe
in, which is the value of TIME, the power
of a great human connection, and the
hope of improving the course of human
history, all with a touch of the right
attitude and even a bit of humor without
turning the thing into a joke.

Catch my drift?
   
You have to really have CONVICTION
in what you say.

And there is no point talking about
things that misrepresent you. In
fact, if you are not congruent, you
only set up problems for later, even
if you DO MANAGE to attract her, it
is sewing the seeds of destruction
for later since when she finds out
you were not being congruent/honest,
she will lose trust and the whole
thing falls apart.

Plus, so often, women can DETECT
IMMEDIATELY when you are not being
congruent, they can subconsciously
sense something is up and not right
just from the way you are breathing,
moving, and speaking.

You probably don’t BELIEVE just HOW
POWERFUL full conviction and congruency
is when it comes to attracting the
women you want, so let me make it
CLEARER:

The human BRAIN is affected so powerfully
by CONVICTION and CONGRUENCE that it will
choose the “LESS COOL” or “LESS DESIRABLE”
THING that seems CONGRUENT than the
“MORE COOL” or “MORE DESIRABLE” thing
that is plagued with  INCONGRUITY, i.e. the
thing that is NOT CONGRUENT.

It’s the reason companies like Coca Cola
are so CAREFUL to make sure their ADS
always are CONSISTENT to the brand,
so much so, that just going a LITTLE BIT
off the mark and not being congruent can
result in MILLIONS being lost in revenue.

It’s the reason that shows such as
American Idol or British Idol or any
other country’s singing competition  
is often won not by the BEST VOICE,
but by the singer who PERFORMS in
a way that seems BELIEVABLE and
authentic and genuine rather than
just “acting”.

And when it comes to women, the man
who is most CONGRUENT wins versus
the guy who seems “cool” on some
levels but also seems FAKE on others.

For more details on congruency and
tapping into your identity to create
a powerful attractive vibe, check out
this important video of a recent

seminar I gave to a great organization:

2: SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE

There’s a great book by Daniel Goleman
on this, but what I am specifically talking
about here is the ability to READ the
CONTEXT of any social interaction.

So, for example, if you joke around
with a girl you know is SMART that
she is a BIMBO, you know she probably
has the CONFIDENCE to laugh at that
joke, and in fact she will take it as a
compliment and proof that you know
she is smart but that you can be playful.

That’s one example of social intelligence.

But if you made that joke right after
she sweated out the last sentence on her
dissertation for her PhD in Neuroscience,
it might be socially STUPID, because
she just worked REALLY HARD on it, and
she would appreciate if you showed that you
UNDERSTOOD how much work went into it.

Similarly, considering that women today

are astronauts and scientists and everything

else, it’s not a big compliment to tell an

intelligent woman that she could be these

things, whereas a generation ago it would
more likely be taken as a compliment.     
 
If a woman tells you she is from some
country far away, and you happened to
visit that country once, a comment
from you that showed you appreciated
the CULTURE would be a lot more meaningful
than speaking about the nice pool they
had at the HOTEL.

And in general, it’s crucial to realize
that most SOCIAL conversation is not

about proving facts to each other or

about giving INFO to each other for

the sake of info, and it’s certainly
not about parading our own egos. 

It’s about actually making the other

person feel good in a genuine way

from a non-ass-kissing perspective.

3: SCREW “FACT-TALK”, IGNITE EMOTIONS INSTEAD 

The only thing any human being cares
about is how they are feeling, and
how they are feeling in that MOMENT.

You think I LIKE this fact?
I'm just saying the truth, which is
that to MOST people, the truth doesn't
matter one BIT.

Trust me, I wish truth mattered, a LOT.

There are the rare individuals out there who
really are interested in the truth, but most
people I can assure you don't care one bit
except in the sense of how it might help them
feel better.

If you REALLY care about the truth, whether
with communicating with a woman or anyone else,
you first have to reach a person emotionally,
or else all is lost.

So, once you realize that the ONLY thing

that counts to the woman you are chatting

to is how you make her FEEL, you COMPLETELY
DROP ALL RATIONAL DISCUSSIONS until she is
so INSANELY IN LUST WITH YOU that you
can AFFORD to get away with some logic.

Most men do the OPPOSITE.
They try to “impress” women with all the
LOGICAL reasons and FACTS of why it would
be a good idea for these women to choose
these men.

This is about as useful as far as attraction
as a woman explaining to you all the reasons
she would provide you with strong healthy
offspring and why she would raise them well. 

It makes sense, it’s very logical, and
at some point you DO want to know this,
but it doesn’t spark your ATTRACTION.

Think about it: When you see a woman who
is attractive, it’s how she is making you
FEEL that is really capturing you, right?

You’re not THINKING clinically about her,
you’re FEELING and only AFTER the feeling
you start to THINK.  

In fact, in most men, when they see a woman
who is attractive, the feeling is so STRONG
that it actually messes UP the way most men
think, i.e.just because she is beautiful, they
start to think all kinds of other things about
her as well which MIGHT be true, but also
might NOT be true, but because she is
BEAUTIFUL, a lot of men think she must be
made from sugar and spice and everything
nice. 

So we can all agree that EMOTION is the
most powerful way to make impact, right?

And HOW do you make a woman EMOTIONAL?
The answer is by EFFECTIVELY displaying
SUPERIOR VALUE TO HER.

But what the hell does this "superior value"
mean?

It means GETTING HER TO EXPERIENCE POWERFUL
EMOTIONS.

And it's REALLY DAMN HARD TO MAKE
ANOTHER PERSON FEEL ANY POWERFUL
EMOTION IF YOU DON'T FEEL IT YOURSELF.

So the REAL question is, how do you get
YOURSELF to experience insanely powerful
emotions?

I'm not talking about just "being positive".

I'm talking EXPLODING WITH EMOTIONS, but

being in CONTROL of them at the same time.

Think of that guy CYCLOPS from The X-Men
when his visor that contains his insane
optic blasts got broken, unleashing his
optic blasts and VAPORIZING everything
in sight to shreds.

You want your reservoir of cool emotions
to have that POWER, but under CONTROL.

When you meet a woman you actually LIKE,
there's nothing better than letting her
GET HEATED UP in the batter of your
personality and watching her enjoy every
second of it.

Then, you channel these emotions into
awesome expressions, whether it is your
exciting lifestyle, your killer sense
of humor, other forms of art if you happen
to be gifted in that way, your truly
intriguing experiences which you can
also talk about, your confidence, your
hobbies.

All of this is "EMOTIONAL CRACK".

And it's even LARGER than just this as
well, it's not just about EXPRESSING
your personality, it's about ENJOYING
THE THRILL of the interaction.

When I walk into a set of women at a cafe
or club, for example, I'm looking FORWARD
to playing off their energy, mixing it up, and
going crazy with it in the moment. No two
interactions are exactly the same, and that's
what makes it FUN.

I don't CARE about not having every detail
worked out in my mind beforehand, because
number one it would destroy the spontaneity,
and number two it's IMPOSSIBLE to predict
an interaction anyway.

And number three it's not rewarding, fun, or
meaningful that way, and I won't do stuff that
I don't find meaningful when I can be having
a blast instead.

You can ENJOY THIS PROCESS.
Who said learning can't be fun?

This leads me to number FOUR:

4: THE PROCESS ITSELF OF APPROACHING WOMEN,
AND OF INTERACTING WITH WOMEN MUST BE
SOMETHING YOU DECIDE TO VIEW AS FUN AND
EXCITING, EVEN IF IT’S ALSO TERRIFYING!

It has to be something that you aren’t just
HO-HUM about, because if it’s that boring
to you, or if it’s all negative to you,
well THOSE vibes will be detected by women
as well.

I've spent the last six years training in the
most state of the art teaching technology with
some of the greatest experts from all around
the world, including the U.S, Canada, Italy,
and the U.K. And guess what? I learned that
teaching is also about me LEARNING.

And l learned that learning can and should
be FUN.

In my bootcamps, my students have a BLAST with
me, and I won't have it any other way.

In my book, I speak in excruciating detail about
developing some of the most critical of these
aspects of your personality, including your
confident sense of humor and playfulness, as
well as developing your lifestyle.

I believe EACH ONE OF YOU HAS THE GIFT TO

BE A GIVER OF AWESOME EMOTIONS TO WOMEN.

You just need to learn to develop it,
harness it, bring it OUT of you.

Listen, some of you guys might be saying
right now:

"But Michael, I feel like CRAP, I'm in a
totally crappy state of mind."

I swear to you, I REMEMBER what it's
like to feel like TOTAL CRAP because
of women.

But I have REALLY GOOD NEWS:

PAIN IS GOOD, WHEN RE-CHANNELED POSITIVELY

It's ENERGY.

The ONLY way to grow as a human being,
the only way to grow as an ARTIST, if
you want to be a ‘pick up ARTIST’ in

the TRUE SENSE and not in the sense

of a sleaze ball who abuses women or
who needs women for validation, is to
EXPERIENCE some crazy emotional torture
as well as the good stuff.

Whether you can create that internally
or whether you have been through it by
force, if you can manage to come out
PSYCHOLOGICALLY INTACT, you will be
insanely powerful. The trick is to
come out intact and not damaged.

To re-frame the crap you went through.

I remember an interview with Stephen King,
who mentioned that where other people will
not go emotionally, he will go. Same thing
with a comedian like Jim Carrey, he will
emotionally go where people are too AFRAID
to go. So you see, horror or comedy, the
bottom line with emotion is to PUSH YOURSELF
into uncharted waters.

This way, you take OTHERS into new waters
as well.

The thing I am most proud of from my work with
guys is that I make them INDIVIDUALS.
I don't make men ROBOTS.

I also don't b.s. about what works and what doesn't.
And unlike guys who used money or connections or
mansions or influence to get women and then wrote
books or courses on how to attract a woman, I
actually proved this stuff live while I was
practically living in my car because I spent
all my time and energy on my art, and had barely
a penny to my name and certainly had no
connections to rock stars, etc.

If you want to know the power of relying on
yourself, look no further.

So pushing yourself emotionally, both with
women, and also internally to experience all
kinds of emotions, is the only way for you
to grow. No different than torturing your

muscles in different ways at the gym to

force your muscles to do things they

have never done before and to grow more
powerful, you must push yourself
emotionally to be able to pull off the
kind of stuff that looks like magic
to others.

Of course, this means DROPPING all
logical stuff with women.

Forget it. If your name is Albert Einstein,
that's awesome, but don't get logical with
women.

Instead, use your Einstein brain to
focus on emotional stuff. Develop your
intriguing side, hobbies, and your
confident sense of humor. Focus on
clothing and accessories that create
awesome emotional impact as well.

You are either GIVING her emotional value
or you are NOT.

It's that SIMPLE.

Now, before you start thinking that this
means acting HYPER all the time, you're
wrong.

5: THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING “CHILLED OUT”

In fact, the reason "being laid back" is
effective is because in her brain it shows
you are SUPERIOR, since you are not reacting
to her so much as everyone else is.

And this SUPERIORITY triggers the
EMOTIONAL button called "attraction".

But you can't be LAID BACK if you are
approaching a group of women together as
friends at a loud club, for example, while
the music is blasting. It ain't gonna work
that way. They won't even HEAR you,
never mind react to you.

You're gonna have to make EMOTIONAL IMPACT

PRETTY DAMN FAST as soon as you open up the

conversation.

In fact, even if you are approaching a
woman at a LIBRARY, the fact is the guy
who has the emotional reserve of all this
other stuff STILL has the superior edge
to the guy who only knows how to be
"laid back". Because interacting with
him has MORE EMOTIONAL RELEVANCE and
to be blunt is more FUN and exciting.

I want to make it clear also just how
powerful this stuff is, and also what
happens in the absence of this stuff:

EMOTIONS ARE THE ONLY THING PEOPLE
CARE ABOUT.

The real truth is worth sh*t.
Don't think I'm happy about this.
But if REAL truth mattered, the world
would be very different.

Things would be fair, for example.
But at the same time, this also means
that things can be UNFAIRLY and INCREDIBLY
INSANELY GOOD for you, giving you much
more than you deserve.

So, for example, a woman will be telling you
how she LOVES YOU so much.

This is because she EMOTIONALLY FEELS THAT
at that second.

And then, if something ELSE feels more
emotionally compelling in the next moment,
you could rot and die and she could not
care less about you at all.

I know I sound horrible for writing this,
but it's the truth.

This is why, by the way, I focus on how to

get a GREAT girlfriend, a quality woman

who has a greater EMOTIONAL connection

to HEALTHY attitudes for a long-term relationship,

so that she does NOT go from "I love you" to

"I love someone else" from second to second.  

And by the way, some men are just as messed
up as some women, so trust me, I'm definitely
not hating on women.

I'm talking about how unfortunately TRUTH means
nothing these days, because people think that
EMOTIONS are TRUTH. But emotions can change
from moment to moment. That's why in the old
days when people were smarter, they based
marriages on things like loyalty, which have
nothing to do with fleeting emotions. 

The loyalty in itself became the most
important value, and thus had plenty of
meaningful emotion attached to it.

One last thing I want to share with you
is that in our current society where many
women use men, and where so many men are
clueless and fall for women's antics,
many women have raised the bar in sneaky
manipulative crap that would make
Cobra Commander barf.

You see, once you get clued in, you can
see the antics from a mile away, but before
that, you would NEVER suspect that any
human being could be so sneaky.

But hey, if you were a woman, who had a
bunch of guys kissing your ass, you might
get spoiled and abuse them too.

6: HOW TO EMPOWER YOURSELF AGAINST THE
WRONG WOMEN WHO PLAY WITH YOUR MIND:

The biggest form of manipulation I find
that some women use on men is doing things
to make the guy feel insecure, so that he
will feel scared of losing her and thus
kiss up some more, but yet the woman will
deny to kingdom come that it is intentional.

What does this mean?
It means something awesome if you are a
guy currently suffering from this:

It means that if you feel like crap right
now because of some woman, chances are she just

WANTS YOU TO FEEL LIKE THIS (crappy), and

therefore she doesn't REALLY feel this way,

she is just trying to make YOU THINK SHE
FEELS THIS WAY.

So you can RECLAIM your self-esteem this
SECOND, knowing that in TRUTH, she feels
you are worth MORE than how she is treating
you, she just wants you to THINK that you
are NOT worth more!!!! 

Now, TAKE this self-esteem, and DROP her,
and go get yourself a GREAT GIRL!!!!!!!!

You see, to a messed-up woman, it's IMPORTANT
for her to make sure that you feel like crap,
ESPECIALLY in regards to how she feels about
you.

So next time you see some woman you are with
trying to make you jealous, or putting you down,
or ignoring you, or making you feel SUICIDAL,
like total serious CRAP, in ANY way, or you are
staying up all night not sleeping because you are
worrying, the truth is she KNOWS WHAT SHE IS
DOING, AND IN FACT HAS THIS ALL PLANNED OUT,
and she is TRYING DAMN HARD TO MAKE SURE YOU
THINK IT'S ALL "NOT INTENTIONAL".

By keeping it appearing "non-intentional" it
has far more EFFECT on you, for you will BELIEVE
it more then. It's all about making you BELIEVE
that you are WORTHLESS for real, not that SHE
wants you to believe you are worthless.

By removing herself from the equation, her weapon
has INFINITELY FAR MORE LETHAL IMPACT.

Yup, she WANTS you to be in hell.
It's to HER benefit.
But that was before you met ME through
the gift of cyberspace.

And I'm here to LIBERATE YOU from EVIL
if it's the last thing I do on earth.

See, for all the talk about women loving
relationships, when was the last time you
heard a woman committing SUICIDE over it?

But I have heard of a few men doing that.

This sh*t is important to me, I take this
stuff SERIOUSLY because this stuff goes way
beyond "picking up" women.

In case you are still with such a sick psycho
woman, and your self esteem is so low, and you
don't believe me, and you are putting yourself
through hell because of her instead of being
a smart guy and getting the hell out of there,
TRY THIS EXPERIMENT:

Leave.

Yup, leave her.
And then see what happens.

Watch, how she will most likely SUDDENLY start

acting nicer to you, making you feel better.

Maybe at first she will be trying even harder
to make you feel pissed, but if you stay gone,
she will then try to get you back.

And if you go back, she will then go back to

her abuse.

I want you to start BELIEVING in your own

dignity and worth and realize that no woman
on earth is worth sacrificing your dignity
over. (Even though you have been brought up
brainwashed to believe that women can do
no wrong.)

Hmmm, but supposedly she had no idea, eh?
THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING.

And the good news is that there are BETTER

women out there, there are women who DON’T

play psychotic games on men.

So if you are a guy reading this and want to
get the hell out of an insane situation but
aren't sure how to meet another woman, or
if you just want to know how to meet and
attract more women than you thought possible,
you owe it to yourself to change your life
THIS SECOND.

I strongly suggest that if you can take off
just TWO DAYS from your entire life to get
CONTROL over this area FOREVER, then you
should book a private BOOTCAMP with me
IMMEDIATELY.

In bootcamp, I will personally ensure you
acquire the skills to approach and attract
women anywhere as I teach you one-on-one
on tons of real women in every type of
location you can think of, from bookstores
to cafes to public transit to lounges to the
street.

It’s at:  

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

If you can’t come out to bootcamp right away,
then DEFINITELY get your hands on my most
powerful, in depth, home-study program for
transforming your inner self for attracting the
highest quality women. 

You will learn to rid yourself of insecurities,
anxieties, and fears, and you will also learn
how to immediately convey the right VIBES to
women INSTANTLY upon meeting them,
and much, MUCH more.

I’ve also made this program EASIER than ever
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It’s at:

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And of course, if you haven’t yet got my
latest program, calling Acing The Approach,
then definitely do that now, at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

THE "WARRIOR WITHIN" LIVE SEMINAR

Getting a great woman attracted
to you has nothing to do with pick-up
lines or methods of attacking a woman's
self-esteem, and it has nothing to do
with becoming a performer,
entertainer, or clown who tries
to make women laugh

When all is said and done, and
the smoke clears and the TRUTH
is revealed, the best kind of
women don't want a "player" or
pick up artist.

The best kind of women want a MAN.
And by a MAN, I mean the kind of
man that flourishes when the going
gets rough.

The kind of man that sees the truth
when everyone else falls for the lie.

The kind of man that is calm when
others are freaking out.

The kind of man that knows how to
add LIFE to any situation.

Women want the man who has the
WARRIOR heart.

Life throws just about everything
your way when you least expect it,
and there's nothing better to a
woman than knowing she has a
real man in her life that is
strong enough, wise enough,
secure enough, and mature
enough to handle whatever
is going on around him.

Women FANTASIZE about
finding such a man.

And now, for the first time EVER,
you can MASTER this part of your
life in my "Warrior Within" LIVE
Seminar.

In the same way that even the most
powerful computer becomes frozen,
sluggish, and ineffective if a virus is
planted into the central processing
unit, so too your infinite, natural
charisma which can charm any woman
will become sluggish, frozen-up, and
ineffective if "bad programming" has
been allowed to seep in over the years.

This "bad programming" is toxic to your
masculinity, to your natural charisma, and
to your emotions and thoughts. And yet,
just as fast as your computer suddenly
starts working at light-speed efficiency
and power the moment the virus is
removed, so too your full "warrior"
state kicks RIGHT BACK IN the
moment this toxic internal
programming is removed.

The "Warrior Within" Live Seminar will be
held in Toronto, April 25th-26th.

This event will change your life, and I suggest
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Best,

Michael

Succeed Or Fail - It's Up To You

It's incredible when you realize that
the people who GET somewhere awesome
in this world, without exception, all
seem to have the same characteristic-
they know deep deep down that in fact
they CAN do it, no matter how "illogical"
it might seem.

A few years ago, I was lucky enough
to see James Cameron in person, as
he received an honorary degree at
Ryerson University for his achievements
in film. This was just after "Titanic"
had broken all records.

James Cameron is the man responsible
for creating such classics as The Terminator,
Aliens, and Titanic. Not only did he direct
these films, but he also conceives the
very story idea, he usually writes the
entire script, he edits the films, and
has a major hand in just about EVERY
element of his movies- this is what gives
his movies that "look and feel" that
is uniquely his.

Guess what?
James Cameron never even went to film school.
He was driving a truck at the time, and
devoured the books on filming from the
university library.

And he took apart every camera he could
get his hands on to learn how they worked.

Guess what else?
Just about EVERY film he has ever done
started out with all the "experts"
predicting the film was going to be
a failure, because it would be too
costly, too experimental, too this
or too that.

I still remember his speech at Ryerson,
where he explained that when it came to
Titanic, while the film was still in
production, the "experts" all predicted
it was going to be a total failure,
because, after all:

1. "The film is a historical period
piece- nobody wants to see those
kinds of movies".

2. "Everybody already knows the story
of the Titanic- they already know how
it's going to end! No one wants to see
that!"

3. "The film is too long- nobody
wants to sit through a movie that
is about three hours long- especially
a historical period piece!"

4. "The film has no major movie
stars, nobody is going to want
to come see it". (This was
before Leonardo DiCaprio was
famous.)

And then at the speech, James
Cameron said, "Well, I guess
they didn't know everything!"

Cameron was so dedicated to making the
movie and getting it done properly
that when the studio wanted to cut
the funding of the film because it
was going over schedule and over
budget, he gave up his OWN director's
salary! He was willing to use his
OWN money to ensure he could get
the movie made the exact way he
envisioned it.

Now THAT is congruency.

And now, almost a decade later,
he is again revolutionizing film:



My point is this:
Congruency is everything.
You have to be COMPLETELY committed
to your goal.

Congruency means that every level
of your behavior is alligned and
consistent:
Your thoughts, your goals, your
actions, your lifestyle, your words,
EVERYTHING.

If you want a great woman, then you have
to STOP any type of actions that are
INCONSISTENT with this goal.

A great woman is looking for a great man,
and she will spot the inconsistencies-
be it a negative attitude, be it a lazy
attitude, be it hatred against women,
be it a closed-minded attitude, be it
lack of conviction in your self-worth,
be it a lack of sense of purpose, etc.

It really is up to you, no matter
what anyone else says, no matter
how good your excuse is for
failing.

The key though is to find out what
YOU are passionate about, and do that.

James Cameron didn't try to "fit in"
with everyone else so that he could
get a "normal" job. He found his
passion, and pursued that, no matter
how illogical it seemed.

It's not like he was 19 and in film school
with no 'adult' major responsibilities on
his mind.

At the time he made the decision to make
movies, he was 31 and a truck driver.

So, not having money is not an excuse
either for not pursuing your passion.

The next time someone says "you can't"
just remember the words of Mr. Cameron:
"I guess they didn't know everything."

Till next time...

Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com

The Truth About "Inner Game"

INNER GAME is another word for your
internal strength of emotional state
and your ability to enter the right
states of mind at the right moment.

The truth is that inner game is the most
important part of your development, and
it's the secret that enables you to do incredible
at not only pick-up without using memorized
pick up lines, but it also helps you at every
stage of an interaction including even
relationships.

The best part of all this is that it's not
a game. It's the real you.

Women will respect this development and
be attracted to you because they simply
can't NOT be attracted to it. It's too
rare, too precious, too liberating and
empowering even just to WITNESS
somebody like this, for anyone to
be able to IGNORE it.

The irony of course though is that you
can't really do this just to get a woman,
as that in itself is kind of weak.

The FIRST thing to become aware of is
all the TRASH in your mind that is holding
you back from being as powerful as you can be.

99% of this trash is all FEAR based.

And the craziest part of all, is that 99% of these
fears are ABSURD.

We've just become so damn good at brainwashing
ourselves that these fears are IMPORTANT.

For example, when you see a woman you'd like
to talk to, and you don't approach her, it's not
because you are going to go to jail if you talk
to her.

And you don't avoid her because you think she
will attack you, or hurt you.

The biggest reason for avoidance is to avoid
having our EGO damaged.

We don't want to RISK damaging something
that doesn't even EXIST.

Our ego is our own ARTIFICIAL CREATION.

We create it, and we arbitrarily decide what's
good for it, and what's bad for it. As if we
KNOW what's good for us.

But the truth is, the BEST thing you can do
is banish that ego, because all it does is set
up limiting options for your life, because
you won't do anything that might damage
that ego. And that means you won't ever
GROW as a person, and worst of all, you
will never be free of fear.

Because you will always be living with the
fear of "what if something comes along that
might damage might ego?""

But if you throw your ego out, then you
can EMBRACE whatever the hell you need
to do to grow and learn.

This is why it's actually good to NOT get
fantastic success with women right away,
because if you never "fail", then you will
be TERRIFIED of it happening, as you
have no clue what it might be like, and
your imagination will make it far worse
than it is.

Life is nothing but a bunch of short moments.
None of these moments is something to be
afraid of, but we arbitrarily decide to create
FEARS based on our own artificial GROUPING
of moments. So for example, seeing a beautiful
woman is not a thing to fear.

It's actually pretty cool, right?
Okay, now, walking UP to a woman is also
nothing to fear, you do this all the time
without even THINKING about it, let's
say if she happens to be on the bus or
train or whatever and you are walking
past her. Or if you are in a crowd,
and you don't even notice her there.

So, clearly walking near or up to a
woman is nothing to fear.

Now, TALKING to woman who is beautiful
is nothing to fear either. We do it all the time
and think nothing of it if it's not about doing
an actual "pick-up".

It all only becomes a problem or FEAR
when we attach EGO to it. So we decide
to make it a fear when we want to get her
APPROVAL of our own worth.

We think, "Damn, if only she would LIKE
me, then things would be AWESOME!"

Then I would feel GREAT!

Now, this actually isn't true though, it's
actually YOU allowing YOURSELF to
feel that way, but you are only giving
yourself permission to feel this if SHE
says you are great, or desirable, etc.

Do you see how we are the ones making
the problem? We are the ones creating
the pain?

And the truth is, how do you explain the
stars in Hollywood who have all the
most beautiful women, and yet who are
all depressed and end up in rehab or
worse, committing suicide or destroying
themselves in other ways?

Do you think these people are somehow
DIFFERENT? They are the same like
anyone else, and the truth is that no THING
brings any emotion to anyone unless we
ALLOW it. As soon as you get the thing
you thing will bring you happiness, the
moment lasts for a brief moment, and then
it's GONE, and you start to feel a LACK
again--unless you start looking at the
JOURNEYS OF LIFE as the actual
joy and not the destination.

Sure, enjoy the destination when you are there,
but realize it's the journey that's the bigger
deal. This is why the coolest people constantly
challenge themselves with new cool things.

But we ALLOW this thing called EGO to
TAKE OVER and all it does is try to CONTROL
everything so that it doesn't get hurt- and yet
THIS is what causes us all the pain. So
it avoids challenges and avoids any potential
ego risk.

And yet here's the thing- if you can just
FORGET about what you can GET from
a woman, including even just her approval,
and you instead just live in the MOMENT,
and stop focusing on the past pain, and
stop thinking about how GOOD things
would be in the FUTURE if you "just had her",
you would do SOOOOOO much better
in the actual pick up with her!

The reason for this, is because your mind
and emotions are INFINITELY powerful
when they are not being driven in opposite
directions.

Your mind is the most UPDATED model of
a SUPER POWERFUL tool that has helped
your ancestors come up with all kinds of
brilliant ways to triumph against challenges
like hunger, horrible weather, traveling
across wild oceans, surviving life amongst
dangerous beasts and animals, surviving
against enemies, a mind that has been
resourceful enough to come up with
creative ways to also win friends and
allies and to attract a female mate to
continue your genes from generation
generation.

The thing is, this mind that is more
sophisticated than the greatest computer
gets all JAMMED and screwed up when
it's being given OPPOSITE messages-
i.e. GET THAT GIRL, vs. DON'T
GET YOUR EGO HURT!

It's like having your foot on the brake
and the accelerator at the same time.

So how do you get rid of all these ego-based
FEARS?

Well, one powerful thing you can do is to
learn to STOP thinking about anything other
than the MOMENT.

This doesn't mean to start acting like an
impulsive idiot, what it means is to start
focusing on the PRESENT and to stop
doing things out of the PAIN of the PAST,
and to stop doing things for some type
of FUTURE "NIRVANA".

The truth is that the past doesn't exist,
the future doesn't exist, they are only
in your MIND, and also NO "THING" will
bring you some type of 'NIRVANA',
however the JOURNEY is what is the
JOY in things. So learning to enjoy
the PROCESS is what will make
your entire LIFE meaningful and
rewarding.

So when you see a woman you like,
let THAT in itself be the motivation
to just TALK to her, stop thinking
what it will LEAD to, because that
is the FUTURE, and thinking about
things other than the present will only
DETRACT from your ability to DEAL
with the present.

And the whole POINT of this training
of your mind, is to realize anyway that
there is no such thing as the past or future,
and that the joy is in the MOMENT.

Of course, by being in the PRESENT,
you will chat with her in a way that
SHOWS you are in the PRESENT,

You will, for example, take note of the
MOMENT, and make a comment that is
IN THE PRESENT. She, in turn, will
respond by being in the moment-
for example, if you are both at the
supermarket counter line-up, and it's
taking forever for the person at the
front to find his wallet, cash, or
coupon, etc, and you say "I'm so
hungry, I think I'll eat this loaf
of bread right here and pay for
it when I get up to the front"
the woman will SENSE that you
are in the present and it will disarm
her.

She will not feel the need to resist you,
because there is nothing TO resist, you
are simply being in the PRESENT, which
is exactly where you ALL are.

And, more importantly, because you are
not worried about the past or future, your
DELIVERY of these words will show
in your voice, your body language, your
expression on your face a certain type of
strength, a certain type of humor that also
shows you are secure and that you are
not so fragile that you need to be so
serious about everything, that it will
CHARM her.

This is just a TINY SPECK of the
MASSIVE POWER that exists by tapping
into the skill of being in the PRESENT.

And let me ask you something:
Even if this DOESN'T lead to always getting
her in BED with you, you know for SURE
that this INCREASES YOUR CHANCES
ABOUT A BILLION TIMES MORE
with women in general by adopting this
attitude than by being focused on anything
EXCEPT the present.

If you start thinking too much about the future
and past, you will come up with a BILLION
reasons NOT to take action, your ego will
start interfering with things, and you will
also sound WAY WORSE when you do
finally decide to take action, because you
will be emotionally coming from a place
of confusion and that weakness will be
conveyed in your every subtlety, from
your voice, to your mannerisms, to your
smile or lack of it.

When you can finally let GO of your
EGO and let go of anything but the
PRESENT, you will start to see a
friggen whole other UNIVERSE
open up for you, and you are going
to have more women, of higher quality
as well, than you will possibly have time
for. I mean this, every word, it's not
an exaggeration.

Your ego is like a EMOTIONAL POLLUTION
MAGNET for your mind - it stores all kinds
of emotional TRASH that does NOTHING
for you. It's a tricky sucker, because it
makes you think it's protecting you,
it makes you think it IS you, it makes
you think that you are your current
emotions or thoughts even if they are
totally destructive and negative and
weak.

And it makes you think that the REWARD
is in the destination, rather than in the
PROCESS and in the ATTITUDE.

Here's a great exercise for you:
Next time you see a woman you'd like
to chat to, see how much INSPIRATION
YOU CAN PACK INTO THE MOMENTS
YOU SPEND TALKING TO HER.

I PROMISE YOU, that there is magnificence
in every single thing that you currently think
is MUNDANE or BORING.

I don't care if you are in the line at the
supermarket, or if you are on the bus
and she is reading the newspaper,
there is something AWESOME
or FUNNY or INSPIRING or
BEAUTIFUL in it.

Don't let the brainwashed world turn YOU
into a brainwashed person who is zombie
with his most empowering and awesome
emotions turned off.

The trick is to be in the PRESENT.
The reason you find it hard to "come up"
with cool stuff to say is because you are
trying to be PERFECT, because you don't
want to fail. Trust me, I understand this,
I'm human and once in a rare while, this
happens to me too, even after training
for years. But if it happens, it's only
because I've let myself get wrapped
up in something other than the MOMENT.

So the trick is to work into your life
a way of BREAKING this habit.

For years, I used to every morning and
every night go out and pour cold water
buckets over me, and it TOTALLY got
me out of "thinking" state and into
BEING IN THE MOMENT!!!!!

The name of that moment is
"WHOAHHHHHHHHHHHH!"

You may want to try this, after consulting
with your doctor, or you can come up with
something equally state-changing.

One final message I want to say is that
PERSPECTIVE is your greatest friend.

So often, the greatest PAIN we experience
is also the ONLY thing that allows us to
truly LEARN and to GROW.

Think about it- how often did you ONLY
learn a great lesson the HARD WAY?

This is why the guys who get the greatest
success are usually the guys who had the
greatest amount of "failures"- so it starts
to make you realize that actually "failures"
are the only way to learn the MOST.

So is it really failure, if failure is the ONLY
way to great success? It's actually pretty
CRAZY that we live in a society that
calls "not getting what you want" as
"failure" when it REALLY should be
called ONE MASSIVE STEP CLOSER
TO SUCCESS.

Chances are, that if you really suffer
"failure", you are ready to LEARN
from it.

And regarding PERSPECTIVE, I want you
to start letting go of any HATE AND PAIN
that you are storing inside of you regarding
ANY woman who has EVER hurt you.

This was the hardest thing for me to do,
and once I did this, I started to TAKE
OFF.

And guess what, those people who hurt you,
very often are the ones who actually need
the love the most. So of course if you are
being abused by any woman, then you should
get the HELL out of there, but there's no
reason to let this person bring YOU down
by making you have to carry all that negativity
with you for life. And when you realize that
these people who hurt others are the ones
who are hurting the most, it's much easier
to LET GO of those negative emotions.

Again, it's the EGO and it's being in the
PAST or the FUTURE that holds us back.
All these things don't even EXIST, and
they hold us back from the only thing
that DOES exist- the PRESENT.

Till next time...

Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com

The Truth About How To Get A Quality Woman

If you wanted to meet a fantastic woman, would you
want to learn from someone who only knew how to
get the half-drunk women at the night clubs?

If you wanted to meet the kind of woman that you could
TRUST WITH YOUR LIFE, if you wanted to meet a woman
with total integrity, a woman who would never think of being
with you as something TRIVIAL, would you want to learn
from a guy who focused on how to "SCORE" to get
QUANTITY of just ANY girls???????

Would you trust your FUTURE with someonewho one day
is all about selling "getting ALL the girls"and the next day
pretends to be about "getting QUALITY"?

Maybe the next day it will be about selling kitchen sinks
and frisbees and toilet cleaners. This road I have taken
started when I was17 years old, and all I wanted then
was agreat woman for something real.

It took almost TWO DECADES to sift throughall the
TOTAL BULLCRAP out there, ESPECIALLY from the
guys who call themselves dating gurus and pick up artists.

This meeting a great woman thing is not a joke to me.
I know that there are some people who really don't
want to meet a great woman, they'd rather just
have emotionally low level relationships, i.e.
"friends with benefits" or even less than that,
and that's fine, in fact there are hundreds of
guys out there who seem to be focused on
teaching guys how to get that.

Whether their stuff works or not to get the one night
stand with the promiscuous girl is really not my concern,
because it's not my goal.

My mission is to help that guy who wants to get a
GREAT girl for a fantastic relationship. That's what
I know, that's what I care about.

That's what I do.

And one of the most MASSIVE lessons I learned was that
I was being told ABSOLUTE LIES by the supposed
dating gurus and pick up artists.

Yes, LIES. Not just "half-truths" but absolute lies that will
DESTROY your success with a woman if you are looking
for something REAL.

It will destroy your future even if you only use that advice
in the BEGINNING, as an ICE-BREAKER, because it sets
things upon the WRONG TRACK, the wrong angle, and as
every day goes by with that woman, the trust she has in
you erodes further and further, and you keep getting
FARTHER and FARTHER from her, till it's HOPELESS
and lost FOREVER.

The truth is the most powerful thing on earth.
And the distortion of truth is what blocks you from progress.

So let me share with you SEVEN LIES the pick-up artists
and wannabe "dating gurus" tell you, and what the TRUTH
is on that topic.

LIE NUMBER 1:
"IF A WOMAN SEES YOU AS RELATIONSHIP OR
MARRIAGE MATERIAL, THEN YOU WILL BE
CONSIDERED A PROVIDER, A BETA MALE, AN
"INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" THAT IS ONLY
GOOD FOR PROVIDING MONEY FOR HER.

Much better to be seen as the male who would NEVER
settle down, who is "hard to get",who is a slick and a
COCKY "player" type-THAT is what triggers
ATTRACTION."

And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE. A lie that has
DESTROYED the future that millions of men could
have had with thewomen they have met so far.

The truth is that you will only be considereda "BETA"
male if you SEE YOURSELF AS A "BETA" MALE.

And the irony is that by following the pick up artist
advice that teaches you to learn to MASK your real
identity with a series of wierd tactics, pick-up lines,
cocky and arrogant personas, and all kinds of other
masks, it actually makes you feel that YOU yourself
are not good enough to meet and attract a woman.

It ERODES self-confidence because it forces you
to rely on something EXTERNAL. And then,
any positive reaction that a guy gets from a woman,
he then will think it was because of the TACTIC,
and not because of HIMSELF.

This sets him up for feeling massive pressure, including
when he and if he gets into a relationship with her-
he is always going to have to worry if she will catch
him being "weak" in his real identity.

And THIS type of fear is what makes a guy actually
show his fear unconsciously through his body language,
through his overall vibe. This is because it's very hard
to fake your body language, the subtle expressions on
your face, etc.

You'd have to be CIA trained to have even a REMOTE
chance of learning how to fake out your body language,
and it's not even neccessary to torture yourself like that-
when you can instead learn to unleash your NATURAL
charisma, by UNLEARNING all the crap not only from
those supposed "masters" but also all the other
messages you were bombarded with since childhood
that filled you with fear rather than empower you.

Unleashing the most pure and charismatic and
cool essence that is already in you, THIS is what
it's all about. Learning how to do THAT and how
to teach this to other guys is what I have spent
almost two decades on.

And like attracts like, once you learn how to do this,
you find yourself attracting the SAME kind of woman.

If a man has a self-concept of himself where he feels
he is BETA, then a guy will be viewed by woman as
a "BETA", even if he has a huge SIGN on his forehead
that says "WILL NEVER MARRY" or says
"WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".

If YOU think that you are SETTLING for someone, if
YOU think that you are only in a relationship because
you can't get better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc., THEN you are a
beta male.

But when you LOVE someone and they LOVE you back
and you both WANT to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some "dating guru" or
"pick up artist" told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you be a "beta" male.

Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN EXTERNAL source is
what makes one WEAK and BETA. And THAT is what
makes a woman feel REPULSED from a man and feel ZERO
attraction for him and not want to spend the NIGHT or even
one MINUTE with him, never mind her LIFE.

The irony again is that it's the pick up artist advice that
makes you weak and THAT is the kind of thing that attracts
the very WORST kind of women, who will like to TAKE
ADVANTAGE of that weakness and see what they can
take out of you.

And then we wonder why the pick up artists tell men to
"WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!" and "Watch out
for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"

Their advice creates weakness, which attracts the vulture type
women rather than the VIRTUOUS ones. A great woman will
simply leave you alone and not be interested, but a horrific
woman will GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick up
artist advice actually makes men WEAK.

What I mean is that having to learn pick-up lines, it makes
you think that the "magic" is in the pick-up line, and not in
YOU.

So it prevents you from learning that YOU can have the
power, not the LINE. If you just learn how to develop
your internal SELF for REAL.

THIS is what I am about, this is what I teach.

Your state of mind is what gives your voice and mannerisms
all the attributes that show you are a cool, fun, charismatic
guy.

Sure, if you ALSO have the literary skills of Shakespeare,
that will make you even more powerful, in COMBO with
all the right states of mind, but even the GREATEST LINE
ever is CRAPOLA if delivered with weak delivery.

And the very fact the guy is being trained to rely on lines
prevents him from reaching his potential and believing in
HIMSELF.

The other way it makes men weak is the general attitude
prevalent among the pick up artist community which is
that ALLLLLLLLLLLLL women are the same if they are
attractive, and that ALLLLLLLLLLL men unless they are
models have no hope of getting chicks unless they learn the
"pick up artist tactics" etc etc.

And whenever a guy who is a "natural" gets results, the
pick up artist guys have to keep on telling their clients
that the natural guy doesn't get CLOSE to the same results
as mr. pick up artist.

As if the real life James Bond types don't come close to
the guy who memorized a cheesy pick up line.

And of course, the only kind of women they DO get
with this stuff is the party girls, and the "dating guru"
and pick up experts know this, so they tell the guys
that party girls are the REAL prize girls, because they
have no "issues" they just like to have sex, they are
sooo much better than those "normal" girls with
"issues" that make them not want to sleep with
every guy on earth, those "normal" girls are
sooooooo "repressed" etc etc.

Finally, their advice makes guys weak because their
advice is never congruent. One day they are talking
about Eckhart Tolle and other fantastic people
who teach about inner development and inner
beauty (these pick up artists do this to mask the
fact that really they are NOT about this type of
thing at all) and the NEXT day they post how really
it's all about having the Hugh Hefner Playboy lifestyle.
(since this is what will really grab instant attention)

Confusion is weakness, as are inconsistency and
incongruency.

And when a woman senses incongruency in a man,
it's the number one way for her to know that something
is sketchy and shady and not right.

Hence, the destruction of trust, which destroys the
potential for any significant future connection or
relationship.

You have to know what you want and then make sure
that all your channels of personal power, from your
thoughts to your actions to your goals all MATCH UP.

That's the way to get a great woman as fast as possible
and keep things working well for as long as you want.

LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN, YOU HAVE TO
MAKE SURE TO LEARN X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"

This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must first respect
YOURSELF.

Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath your dignity,
and you will get RESPECT froma woman.

The IRONY, again, is that the things the pick up artists tell
you to do actually strip you of your dignity because THEY
worship women simply for a woman's looks- the OBSESSION
with havingto get QUANTITY rather than quality.

And it truly is an obsession, almost a cult.
They make you feel that if you want a relationship, then
you are somehow not being a "real" man. You are
a "provider" type, a "sissy" compared to being a
ROCKSTAR. Which is ironic again, because most
rock stars get married! Tommy Lee, Kid Rock,
Gene Simmons, and the list goes on and on.

As if having any type of emotional bond with a woman
was NOT natural. In fact, they create a truly "un-natural"
environment by FORCING men to ANNIHILATE their
emotions. Look, if a woman is not reciprocating at all,
then she is NOT the right woman, end of story.

Not all women are the same.
And if a guy only wants to be with a supermodel,
and he is not willing to work on his own looks at
all, and will only eat big macs and learn pick up
lines and expect a supermodel to slobber all over
him because he learned to negate her self-esteem,
he is going to find out that it doesn't WORK.

Anyway, the obsession with having to FAKE YOUR
IDENTITYwith all kinds of absurd tactics actually
makes you ASHAMED of who you are.

Rather, the key is LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE
IN WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Women want a man who has DIGNITY and will not SELL
his dignity for ANYTHING.

LIE NUMBER 3:
"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO THE "FRIENDS' ZONE",
YOU BETTER MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!

The reality is that this is NONSENSE. A great woman is not
NEEDY to get into bed with anyone, no matter WHO you are.

And if she DETECTS that you are trying to get her into bed
QUICK, she will only feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.

Now, of course, if you are with a woman who sleeps around with
tons of guys, it might beanother issue.

I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.
I don't even like the term "pick up" anymore, as
you pick up the trash.

Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pickup artists
NEVER give you a serious talk about things like STD's.

NO, of course not. It's just like the movies, and it's
NOT REAL LIFE.

But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about this stuff.
The REAL WORLD is not the DISNEY world of NO STDs
that the pick up artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.

They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE. Why would
you want to RUSH sleeping with a woman? There are
BILLIONS of women on this earth.

More than you could ever sleep with.
Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH spending time
with.

The IRONY again is that you can't lose this way, as even if
you WERE the type of guy that didn't care about quality,
you could always get to know a lot of women this way and
not rush, and THEN have a HUNDRED women at your
fingertips if you so wanted.

AND those women would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and not feeling needy to
get them into bed-it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!

LIE NUMBER 4:
"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS FOR LOSERS WHILE
ALL WOMEN SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEING
WITH A COCKY, ARROGANT, HARD-TO-GET TYPE"

This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY UNTRUE,
and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties of the entire
dating guru and pick up CULTURE that I would need
to devote an entire BOOKto explain how HORRIFIC
THIS ADVICE IS, and how totally false it is.

It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not attractive, it's
when you are being EXTRA NICE to a woman who has done
NOTHING to earn that treatment from you.

Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?

Of course you do, and they do for you.
And that's a COOL thing.

Same thing with a woman- if she's good to you, then if you
are NOT good to her, THEN you will be considered an
INSECURE LOSER.

And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about players that
are so scared to really be good to a woman and so scared to
DROP the "masks"they wear in the form of fake memorized
lines, and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to NEGATE
her self-esteem. (notice the word ATTEMPT in capitals,
because it's doesn't work. A great woman will just ignore it or
CHEW the guy up and spit him out for even trying)

LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT HER PROBLEMS EVER--
OR YOU WILL BE SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"

The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her about
her things, stuff that she is going through,you will
DUMPED fast and rightly so for not giving a rat's ass
about her.

The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a woman is
always talking about her problems to you and is not
BALANCING that with also having FUN with you and is
not willing and happy to listen to YOUR stuff too.

The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you should not be a
cry-baby but you DEFINITELYare not considered weak
for having emotions and for expressing them- this kind of
bullshit lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating gurus
probably gives more men heart attacks from stress than
anything else.

If you can't confide at all in the woman you are with, what
the HELL is the point of being with her?

And if a woman feels she can't ever confide in you about
emotional stuff, she will simply GET THAT CONNECTION
from someone ELSE.

And again, THIS is why these "experts" often talk unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken party girls
and THEN they wonder why theyare getting less than CREAM
OF THE CROP inner qualities in the women they meet!

The truth is that the stuff that these guys"teach" you will
PUSH AWAY the RARE and BEST kind of women and will
attract the very WORST type of woman.

LIE NUMBER 6:
"YOU CAN ONLY MEASURE YOUR REAL SKILL
IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK UP A WOMAN IN
A CLUB"

Another massive lie. The reality is that meeting a woman
in a club is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached.

The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a great woman
with high standards who is not drunk and who is not
looking to just play around, who is looking for something
meaningful, and CONNECT with such a woman on a DEEP
level, and then to easily and naturally KEEP THIS UP so
that three weeks later she is just as into you and three
months later as well, etc.

So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if you want to,
and if you want practice TALKING to women, you'll find
a LOT of women in clubs,but if you are looking to meet a
GREAT woman where you will have to also form a great
connection, clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.

LIE NUMBER 7:
"MAKE SURE TO NEVER SPEAK ABOUT ANYTHING
MEANINGFUL OR SERIOUS WITH WOMEN"

This is good advice for meeting a bimbo, and that's cool
it's just NOT the advice for meeting a QUALITY woman.

If you are looking to attract a SUPERFICIAL woman who
is only interested in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.

But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's CRUCIAL to
connect on a greater level!

She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see if you can do this.

The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes AS WELL, so that
a woman can see that you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be about one channel!

To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being able to meet,
attract, and keep a great woman, I am reminded of something
YODA told Luke Skywalker in "The Empire Strikes Back":
"Unlearn, young one, unlearn".

You see, getting a great woman is not about learning HYPNOSIS
or pick up LINES, or learning TACTICS, but rather to UNLEARN.

To get "DE-hypnotized" as opposed to hypnotized.

Underneath all the layers and layers of BADPROGRAMMING you
have received from all kinds of external sources, including the
horrific advice from the supposed "experts", you actually are
more CHARISMATIC than you can possibly imagine right now.

Everything about you from your body language to the intonations
in your vocal tone to your sense of humor will ATTRACT, and there
will be NO EFFORT required to do it at all, it will all flow naturally.

The road to mastery is the road of UNLEARNING.

And if you want to get there as fast as possible, go to:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/

Till next time...

Michael Marks