Attract Women Through Congruency, Social Intelligence, And Emotional Impact

Alright, a lot of FREAKY-LEVEL important
things I need to share with you regarding
attracting women and getting a quality
woman, plus a new video to help convey
certain points as well. 

1: CONGRUENCY/CONVICTION

The first VITAL key I want to stress to you
is that there is no point chatting up any
woman if you are not going to do it with
CONGRUENCY and with FULL CONVICTION.

I think of congruency and conviction almost
as one thing because they are so closely
related.  

When dealing with women, congruency means
that you are coming across as CONSISTENT
on every level, and CONVICTION means that
you really FEEL what you are saying or doing.

So, this is one of the big reasons I have,
since day ONE, (check out my first book,
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to SuccessWith Women,
if you don't believe me) focused on teaching how
to approach women and interact with women without
memorizing routines or pick-up lines.

Even the most “brilliant” pick up line or
memorized routines will have almost NO power
or attractive effect if you aren’t genuinely
FEELING it or if you feel weird about using it.

At the same time, the solution to not using
pick up lines is NOT as simple as just saying
ANYTHING.  Just saying ANYTHING is better than
NOTHING, but it doesn’t particularly generate
ATTRACTION.  

You want to COMBINE the power of USING some
THOUGHT (the THINKING part of your brain)
with the power of TAPPING into the right 
COMBINATION of emotional states, such as 
being playful, empowered, turned-on, intrigued, etc.

So, for example, if you REALLY feel a woman
is PARTICULARLY gorgeous, and you were to
approach a woman and let her know something
PARTICULAR about her that REALLY stood out,
and you were totally feeling full CONVICTION
about it, it would work pretty damn well to
get the doors open and to get her receptive.

However, since most of the time, a woman’s
who is attractive is just generating the
general “she is attractive” feeling, it’s
NOT a particularly wise move to go in with
a physical compliment.     

You would do better to start a chat with
her about something ELSE that is emotionally
engaging, whether it’s a really playful
comment about what she has in her grocery
cart, or whether it’s you sharing something
intriguing you read that day that you were
curious to get her thoughts on, it’s important
that you aren’t FAKING.

Don’t talk about yoga if yoga does not interest
you. Don’t talk about fitness or fashion or
whatever if you aren’t interested in those
things.

Don’t try to “win points” for the sake of
winning points with her.

Not only is it weak because it smacks of
lack of self-belief, but it also smacks of being 
UNTRUSTWORTHY since she can tell
it’s not REAL.

Start CELEBRATING the GOOD values that you
have, and use these as the ANCHORS for your
conversations, so that they are rooted in
something MEANINGFUL. 

For example, if you are in line somewhere,
and an attractive woman is standing in
front of you, and you started a chat
with her about how people stand in line
for months or years of their total life,
it makes sense to at least get something
IMPORTANT accomplished in all that time.

She might start speaking with you about
how true that is, and she might ask you
“What could someone do in line”? To which
you might reply ,“Possibly make a human
connection of profound significance
that could alter the course of history”.

And you could deliver that with a touch
of INTRIGUE to your voice, a touch of
a smile, of hint of playfulness, a
whisper of sexuality. 

That’s just ONE example, and it’s powerful,
and it’s all based on the fact that at the
ROOT of it are genuine things that I believe
in, which is the value of TIME, the power
of a great human connection, and the
hope of improving the course of human
history, all with a touch of the right
attitude and even a bit of humor without
turning the thing into a joke.

Catch my drift?
   
You have to really have CONVICTION
in what you say.

And there is no point talking about
things that misrepresent you. In
fact, if you are not congruent, you
only set up problems for later, even
if you DO MANAGE to attract her, it
is sewing the seeds of destruction
for later since when she finds out
you were not being congruent/honest,
she will lose trust and the whole
thing falls apart.

Plus, so often, women can DETECT
IMMEDIATELY when you are not being
congruent, they can subconsciously
sense something is up and not right
just from the way you are breathing,
moving, and speaking.

You probably don’t BELIEVE just HOW
POWERFUL full conviction and congruency
is when it comes to attracting the
women you want, so let me make it
CLEARER:

The human BRAIN is affected so powerfully
by CONVICTION and CONGRUENCE that it will
choose the “LESS COOL” or “LESS DESIRABLE”
THING that seems CONGRUENT than the
“MORE COOL” or “MORE DESIRABLE” thing
that is plagued with  INCONGRUITY, i.e. the
thing that is NOT CONGRUENT.

It’s the reason companies like Coca Cola
are so CAREFUL to make sure their ADS
always are CONSISTENT to the brand,
so much so, that just going a LITTLE BIT
off the mark and not being congruent can
result in MILLIONS being lost in revenue.

It’s the reason that shows such as
American Idol or British Idol or any
other country’s singing competition  
is often won not by the BEST VOICE,
but by the singer who PERFORMS in
a way that seems BELIEVABLE and
authentic and genuine rather than
just “acting”.

And when it comes to women, the man
who is most CONGRUENT wins versus
the guy who seems “cool” on some
levels but also seems FAKE on others.

For more details on congruency and
tapping into your identity to create
a powerful attractive vibe, check out
this important video of a recent

seminar I gave to a great organization:

2: SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE

There’s a great book by Daniel Goleman
on this, but what I am specifically talking
about here is the ability to READ the
CONTEXT of any social interaction.

So, for example, if you joke around
with a girl you know is SMART that
she is a BIMBO, you know she probably
has the CONFIDENCE to laugh at that
joke, and in fact she will take it as a
compliment and proof that you know
she is smart but that you can be playful.

That’s one example of social intelligence.

But if you made that joke right after
she sweated out the last sentence on her
dissertation for her PhD in Neuroscience,
it might be socially STUPID, because
she just worked REALLY HARD on it, and
she would appreciate if you showed that you
UNDERSTOOD how much work went into it.

Similarly, considering that women today

are astronauts and scientists and everything

else, it’s not a big compliment to tell an

intelligent woman that she could be these

things, whereas a generation ago it would
more likely be taken as a compliment.     
 
If a woman tells you she is from some
country far away, and you happened to
visit that country once, a comment
from you that showed you appreciated
the CULTURE would be a lot more meaningful
than speaking about the nice pool they
had at the HOTEL.

And in general, it’s crucial to realize
that most SOCIAL conversation is not

about proving facts to each other or

about giving INFO to each other for

the sake of info, and it’s certainly
not about parading our own egos. 

It’s about actually making the other

person feel good in a genuine way

from a non-ass-kissing perspective.

3: SCREW “FACT-TALK”, IGNITE EMOTIONS INSTEAD 

The only thing any human being cares
about is how they are feeling, and
how they are feeling in that MOMENT.

You think I LIKE this fact?
I'm just saying the truth, which is
that to MOST people, the truth doesn't
matter one BIT.

Trust me, I wish truth mattered, a LOT.

There are the rare individuals out there who
really are interested in the truth, but most
people I can assure you don't care one bit
except in the sense of how it might help them
feel better.

If you REALLY care about the truth, whether
with communicating with a woman or anyone else,
you first have to reach a person emotionally,
or else all is lost.

So, once you realize that the ONLY thing

that counts to the woman you are chatting

to is how you make her FEEL, you COMPLETELY
DROP ALL RATIONAL DISCUSSIONS until she is
so INSANELY IN LUST WITH YOU that you
can AFFORD to get away with some logic.

Most men do the OPPOSITE.
They try to “impress” women with all the
LOGICAL reasons and FACTS of why it would
be a good idea for these women to choose
these men.

This is about as useful as far as attraction
as a woman explaining to you all the reasons
she would provide you with strong healthy
offspring and why she would raise them well. 

It makes sense, it’s very logical, and
at some point you DO want to know this,
but it doesn’t spark your ATTRACTION.

Think about it: When you see a woman who
is attractive, it’s how she is making you
FEEL that is really capturing you, right?

You’re not THINKING clinically about her,
you’re FEELING and only AFTER the feeling
you start to THINK.  

In fact, in most men, when they see a woman
who is attractive, the feeling is so STRONG
that it actually messes UP the way most men
think, i.e.just because she is beautiful, they
start to think all kinds of other things about
her as well which MIGHT be true, but also
might NOT be true, but because she is
BEAUTIFUL, a lot of men think she must be
made from sugar and spice and everything
nice. 

So we can all agree that EMOTION is the
most powerful way to make impact, right?

And HOW do you make a woman EMOTIONAL?
The answer is by EFFECTIVELY displaying
SUPERIOR VALUE TO HER.

But what the hell does this "superior value"
mean?

It means GETTING HER TO EXPERIENCE POWERFUL
EMOTIONS.

And it's REALLY DAMN HARD TO MAKE
ANOTHER PERSON FEEL ANY POWERFUL
EMOTION IF YOU DON'T FEEL IT YOURSELF.

So the REAL question is, how do you get
YOURSELF to experience insanely powerful
emotions?

I'm not talking about just "being positive".

I'm talking EXPLODING WITH EMOTIONS, but

being in CONTROL of them at the same time.

Think of that guy CYCLOPS from The X-Men
when his visor that contains his insane
optic blasts got broken, unleashing his
optic blasts and VAPORIZING everything
in sight to shreds.

You want your reservoir of cool emotions
to have that POWER, but under CONTROL.

When you meet a woman you actually LIKE,
there's nothing better than letting her
GET HEATED UP in the batter of your
personality and watching her enjoy every
second of it.

Then, you channel these emotions into
awesome expressions, whether it is your
exciting lifestyle, your killer sense
of humor, other forms of art if you happen
to be gifted in that way, your truly
intriguing experiences which you can
also talk about, your confidence, your
hobbies.

All of this is "EMOTIONAL CRACK".

And it's even LARGER than just this as
well, it's not just about EXPRESSING
your personality, it's about ENJOYING
THE THRILL of the interaction.

When I walk into a set of women at a cafe
or club, for example, I'm looking FORWARD
to playing off their energy, mixing it up, and
going crazy with it in the moment. No two
interactions are exactly the same, and that's
what makes it FUN.

I don't CARE about not having every detail
worked out in my mind beforehand, because
number one it would destroy the spontaneity,
and number two it's IMPOSSIBLE to predict
an interaction anyway.

And number three it's not rewarding, fun, or
meaningful that way, and I won't do stuff that
I don't find meaningful when I can be having
a blast instead.

You can ENJOY THIS PROCESS.
Who said learning can't be fun?

This leads me to number FOUR:

4: THE PROCESS ITSELF OF APPROACHING WOMEN,
AND OF INTERACTING WITH WOMEN MUST BE
SOMETHING YOU DECIDE TO VIEW AS FUN AND
EXCITING, EVEN IF IT’S ALSO TERRIFYING!

It has to be something that you aren’t just
HO-HUM about, because if it’s that boring
to you, or if it’s all negative to you,
well THOSE vibes will be detected by women
as well.

I've spent the last six years training in the
most state of the art teaching technology with
some of the greatest experts from all around
the world, including the U.S, Canada, Italy,
and the U.K. And guess what? I learned that
teaching is also about me LEARNING.

And l learned that learning can and should
be FUN.

In my bootcamps, my students have a BLAST with
me, and I won't have it any other way.

In my book, I speak in excruciating detail about
developing some of the most critical of these
aspects of your personality, including your
confident sense of humor and playfulness, as
well as developing your lifestyle.

I believe EACH ONE OF YOU HAS THE GIFT TO

BE A GIVER OF AWESOME EMOTIONS TO WOMEN.

You just need to learn to develop it,
harness it, bring it OUT of you.

Listen, some of you guys might be saying
right now:

"But Michael, I feel like CRAP, I'm in a
totally crappy state of mind."

I swear to you, I REMEMBER what it's
like to feel like TOTAL CRAP because
of women.

But I have REALLY GOOD NEWS:

PAIN IS GOOD, WHEN RE-CHANNELED POSITIVELY

It's ENERGY.

The ONLY way to grow as a human being,
the only way to grow as an ARTIST, if
you want to be a ‘pick up ARTIST’ in

the TRUE SENSE and not in the sense

of a sleaze ball who abuses women or
who needs women for validation, is to
EXPERIENCE some crazy emotional torture
as well as the good stuff.

Whether you can create that internally
or whether you have been through it by
force, if you can manage to come out
PSYCHOLOGICALLY INTACT, you will be
insanely powerful. The trick is to
come out intact and not damaged.

To re-frame the crap you went through.

I remember an interview with Stephen King,
who mentioned that where other people will
not go emotionally, he will go. Same thing
with a comedian like Jim Carrey, he will
emotionally go where people are too AFRAID
to go. So you see, horror or comedy, the
bottom line with emotion is to PUSH YOURSELF
into uncharted waters.

This way, you take OTHERS into new waters
as well.

The thing I am most proud of from my work with
guys is that I make them INDIVIDUALS.
I don't make men ROBOTS.

I also don't b.s. about what works and what doesn't.
And unlike guys who used money or connections or
mansions or influence to get women and then wrote
books or courses on how to attract a woman, I
actually proved this stuff live while I was
practically living in my car because I spent
all my time and energy on my art, and had barely
a penny to my name and certainly had no
connections to rock stars, etc.

If you want to know the power of relying on
yourself, look no further.

So pushing yourself emotionally, both with
women, and also internally to experience all
kinds of emotions, is the only way for you
to grow. No different than torturing your

muscles in different ways at the gym to

force your muscles to do things they

have never done before and to grow more
powerful, you must push yourself
emotionally to be able to pull off the
kind of stuff that looks like magic
to others.

Of course, this means DROPPING all
logical stuff with women.

Forget it. If your name is Albert Einstein,
that's awesome, but don't get logical with
women.

Instead, use your Einstein brain to
focus on emotional stuff. Develop your
intriguing side, hobbies, and your
confident sense of humor. Focus on
clothing and accessories that create
awesome emotional impact as well.

You are either GIVING her emotional value
or you are NOT.

It's that SIMPLE.

Now, before you start thinking that this
means acting HYPER all the time, you're
wrong.

5: THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING “CHILLED OUT”

In fact, the reason "being laid back" is
effective is because in her brain it shows
you are SUPERIOR, since you are not reacting
to her so much as everyone else is.

And this SUPERIORITY triggers the
EMOTIONAL button called "attraction".

But you can't be LAID BACK if you are
approaching a group of women together as
friends at a loud club, for example, while
the music is blasting. It ain't gonna work
that way. They won't even HEAR you,
never mind react to you.

You're gonna have to make EMOTIONAL IMPACT

PRETTY DAMN FAST as soon as you open up the

conversation.

In fact, even if you are approaching a
woman at a LIBRARY, the fact is the guy
who has the emotional reserve of all this
other stuff STILL has the superior edge
to the guy who only knows how to be
"laid back". Because interacting with
him has MORE EMOTIONAL RELEVANCE and
to be blunt is more FUN and exciting.

I want to make it clear also just how
powerful this stuff is, and also what
happens in the absence of this stuff:

EMOTIONS ARE THE ONLY THING PEOPLE
CARE ABOUT.

The real truth is worth sh*t.
Don't think I'm happy about this.
But if REAL truth mattered, the world
would be very different.

Things would be fair, for example.
But at the same time, this also means
that things can be UNFAIRLY and INCREDIBLY
INSANELY GOOD for you, giving you much
more than you deserve.

So, for example, a woman will be telling you
how she LOVES YOU so much.

This is because she EMOTIONALLY FEELS THAT
at that second.

And then, if something ELSE feels more
emotionally compelling in the next moment,
you could rot and die and she could not
care less about you at all.

I know I sound horrible for writing this,
but it's the truth.

This is why, by the way, I focus on how to

get a GREAT girlfriend, a quality woman

who has a greater EMOTIONAL connection

to HEALTHY attitudes for a long-term relationship,

so that she does NOT go from "I love you" to

"I love someone else" from second to second.  

And by the way, some men are just as messed
up as some women, so trust me, I'm definitely
not hating on women.

I'm talking about how unfortunately TRUTH means
nothing these days, because people think that
EMOTIONS are TRUTH. But emotions can change
from moment to moment. That's why in the old
days when people were smarter, they based
marriages on things like loyalty, which have
nothing to do with fleeting emotions. 

The loyalty in itself became the most
important value, and thus had plenty of
meaningful emotion attached to it.

One last thing I want to share with you
is that in our current society where many
women use men, and where so many men are
clueless and fall for women's antics,
many women have raised the bar in sneaky
manipulative crap that would make
Cobra Commander barf.

You see, once you get clued in, you can
see the antics from a mile away, but before
that, you would NEVER suspect that any
human being could be so sneaky.

But hey, if you were a woman, who had a
bunch of guys kissing your ass, you might
get spoiled and abuse them too.

6: HOW TO EMPOWER YOURSELF AGAINST THE
WRONG WOMEN WHO PLAY WITH YOUR MIND:

The biggest form of manipulation I find
that some women use on men is doing things
to make the guy feel insecure, so that he
will feel scared of losing her and thus
kiss up some more, but yet the woman will
deny to kingdom come that it is intentional.

What does this mean?
It means something awesome if you are a
guy currently suffering from this:

It means that if you feel like crap right
now because of some woman, chances are she just

WANTS YOU TO FEEL LIKE THIS (crappy), and

therefore she doesn't REALLY feel this way,

she is just trying to make YOU THINK SHE
FEELS THIS WAY.

So you can RECLAIM your self-esteem this
SECOND, knowing that in TRUTH, she feels
you are worth MORE than how she is treating
you, she just wants you to THINK that you
are NOT worth more!!!! 

Now, TAKE this self-esteem, and DROP her,
and go get yourself a GREAT GIRL!!!!!!!!

You see, to a messed-up woman, it's IMPORTANT
for her to make sure that you feel like crap,
ESPECIALLY in regards to how she feels about
you.

So next time you see some woman you are with
trying to make you jealous, or putting you down,
or ignoring you, or making you feel SUICIDAL,
like total serious CRAP, in ANY way, or you are
staying up all night not sleeping because you are
worrying, the truth is she KNOWS WHAT SHE IS
DOING, AND IN FACT HAS THIS ALL PLANNED OUT,
and she is TRYING DAMN HARD TO MAKE SURE YOU
THINK IT'S ALL "NOT INTENTIONAL".

By keeping it appearing "non-intentional" it
has far more EFFECT on you, for you will BELIEVE
it more then. It's all about making you BELIEVE
that you are WORTHLESS for real, not that SHE
wants you to believe you are worthless.

By removing herself from the equation, her weapon
has INFINITELY FAR MORE LETHAL IMPACT.

Yup, she WANTS you to be in hell.
It's to HER benefit.
But that was before you met ME through
the gift of cyberspace.

And I'm here to LIBERATE YOU from EVIL
if it's the last thing I do on earth.

See, for all the talk about women loving
relationships, when was the last time you
heard a woman committing SUICIDE over it?

But I have heard of a few men doing that.

This sh*t is important to me, I take this
stuff SERIOUSLY because this stuff goes way
beyond "picking up" women.

In case you are still with such a sick psycho
woman, and your self esteem is so low, and you
don't believe me, and you are putting yourself
through hell because of her instead of being
a smart guy and getting the hell out of there,
TRY THIS EXPERIMENT:

Leave.

Yup, leave her.
And then see what happens.

Watch, how she will most likely SUDDENLY start

acting nicer to you, making you feel better.

Maybe at first she will be trying even harder
to make you feel pissed, but if you stay gone,
she will then try to get you back.

And if you go back, she will then go back to

her abuse.

I want you to start BELIEVING in your own

dignity and worth and realize that no woman
on earth is worth sacrificing your dignity
over. (Even though you have been brought up
brainwashed to believe that women can do
no wrong.)

Hmmm, but supposedly she had no idea, eh?
THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING.

And the good news is that there are BETTER

women out there, there are women who DON’T

play psychotic games on men.

So if you are a guy reading this and want to
get the hell out of an insane situation but
aren't sure how to meet another woman, or
if you just want to know how to meet and
attract more women than you thought possible,
you owe it to yourself to change your life
THIS SECOND.

I strongly suggest that if you can take off
just TWO DAYS from your entire life to get
CONTROL over this area FOREVER, then you
should book a private BOOTCAMP with me
IMMEDIATELY.

In bootcamp, I will personally ensure you
acquire the skills to approach and attract
women anywhere as I teach you one-on-one
on tons of real women in every type of
location you can think of, from bookstores
to cafes to public transit to lounges to the
street.

It’s at:  

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

If you can’t come out to bootcamp right away,
then DEFINITELY get your hands on my most
powerful, in depth, home-study program for
transforming your inner self for attracting the
highest quality women. 

You will learn to rid yourself of insecurities,
anxieties, and fears, and you will also learn
how to immediately convey the right VIBES to
women INSTANTLY upon meeting them,
and much, MUCH more.

I’ve also made this program EASIER than ever
for you to purchase, by arranging a new
“easy payment” installment option to make
it more convenient for you.

It’s at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And of course, if you haven’t yet got my
latest program, calling Acing The Approach,
then definitely do that now, at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How Good Guys Can Attract Women

Good guys CAN attract women, and what
you’re about to read is of PARAMOUNT
importance if you want to know HOW.

One of the BIGGEST reasons that “jerks” are often
somewhat successful with women is because they
BEHAVE AS IF THEY ARE SO DESIRABLE
that they are then PERCEIVED as desirable by
women. This is the power of CONGRUENCE.

They then get the CONFIDENCE BOOST from
their results with women, which gives them the
confident non-needy state of mind to congruently
“experiment” with all kinds of strategies and tactics,
ranging from behaviours all the way down to fashion
accessories.

The thing is, that these guys that are jerks ultimately
tend to get short-lived results, because the women
eventually wake up and realize that the guy is
untrustworthy, and once a woman cannot trust a guy,
IT’S OVER whether the guy knows it or not.

However, the point here is that these guys HAVE NO
ISSUES PRETENDING TO BE DESIRABLE.

Now, I want to you think about something:
IF TOTAL JERK-OFFS have no problem or issues
with PRETENDING to be desirable, and they are
getting great short-term results from this, even though
from a LOGICAL viewpoint they are NOT desirable,
then why the HELL are YOU, a guy who IS good for
women, not acting as if YOU are THE MOST
DESIRABLE THING ON THE PLANET?

If you are a GOOD GUY, you should be EXPLODING
WITH THE AWESOME BELIEFS ABOUT YOUR OWN
DESIRABILITY, BECAUSE IN FACT YOU WILL
BE GOOD FOR A WOMAN!

It is your DUTY as a good guy to KICK MAJOR
ASS in this department compared to any jerk-off.
Otherwise, you are RESPONSIBLE for women
falling for jerk-offs.

And let me tell you, you absolutely DON’T HAVE
TO BE A JERK-OFF to succeed with women.

You have to understand that the truth is SUPERIORITY
and EXCELLENCE does not at all entail being a sleaze-ball.

These days, there is a huge divide between guys:
There are the “nice guys”, who are often getting nowhere with
women, and then there are the jerk-offs who are getting
temporary success with most of the women. That’s part of
the reason there are so few solid real “bondings” between
men and women these days. The “nice guys” usually spark
too little attraction, the jerks spark too little trust and
connection.

That means that women are GASPING for EMOTIONAL
OXYGEN. For most women, they want more than
ANYTHING a GOOD GUY, WHO ALSO UNDERSTANDS
ATTRACTION and CONNECTION.

You have NO IDEA of how this very situation of
low standards on everything to do with male-female
connections, has made it possible for you as a good
guy to have YOUR CHOICE OF WOMAN if you
can give them the TOTAL EMOTIONAL PACKAGE.

Compared to a guy who can give a woman the FULL RANGE
OF AWESOME EMOTIONS of attraction, connection, and
TRUE understanding of her, the “jerk” is the guy who can
only take her emotionally across the street, while you can take
her ACROSS THE UNIVERSE AND INTO ANOTHER
DIMENSION ENTIRELY.

When I was first learning all this stuff, I first got really
angry when I saw jerks succeeding with women. I had
no idea that these guys were terrible at relationships,
all I knew was they could get girls whereas all the good
guys I knew seemed pretty clueless.

So at first I got pissed off, and I emulated
these guys, and I got even more pissed off
when I saw how it worked. But then I also
learned that trust is destroyed with these
methods.

I learned first hand how women obviously go for guys
who understand how to create attraction, but I also
learned how if you use the “dark side” of the force, you
are planting the seeds of your downfall by destroying her
sense of self around you.

It took a lot of burning heartache to learn that for long
term success you must be a master of creating attraction
and of also making a woman feel TOTALLY ACCEPTED
by you, and TOTALLY UNDERSTOOD BY YOU.

And you can’t fake this forever, because the human brain is
far more advanced than people realize, and if a woman
is around you long enough, she will know if you are real
or not without being necessarily being able to articulate it.

And trust me, women are SICK of creeps, they are SICK of
being manipulated, they are SICK of meaningless relationships,
even if some women DO CONTINUE TO ENGAGE IN THIS.
They do this because they DON’T BELIEVE IN THEIR
OWN POWER TO GET SOMETHING BETTER, and
because they can’t find guys who understand attraction.
They are as sick of creeps as they are sick of boring guys
who kiss up to them.

This is where YOU come in, as a good guy.
The good guy who behaves in a way that is SEXY
AS HELL, a guy who also UNDERSTANDS HER,
and who is INTRIGUING and EXCITING.

Although it all starts with what you BELIEVE and
FEEL about yourself, you have to ALSO learn how to
PROJECT these EMOTIONS OUTWARDS so that
women can FEEL these same awesome emotions
about you.

So for example, if you FEEL you are something
OUT OF THIS WORLD, then why the hell are
you dressing like EVERY OTHER DORK out
there?????

You have to realize this makes EMOTIONAL
IMPACT. The clothing and accessories you
wear provide DATA for a woman’s emotional
sensors. Is that data you are providing giving
her the emotion called BOREDOM? Called
NOTHING SPECIAL? Called YAWN?
CALLED NO-VITALITY?

Have you ever noticed how COMIC BOOK
movies are popular nowadays? THOR
is just the latest, with lots more
coming up this summer.

It's because they have such strong and
unique VISUAL IMAGERY that makes immediate
emotional impact.

In PARTICULAR, the clothing: The COSTUMES!
It's part of their very IDENTITY.

And of course, the costumes are different,
they are CONSISTENT to the character.
Thor, Spiderman, Superman, Batman,
Captain American, Green Lantern all
have very DIFFERENT 'vibes' being given
off by their different 'WARDROBES'.

They all have very different personalities,
and different personal senses of IDENTITY,
and their costumes show this. Yet all
these costumes are CONGRUENT to who they
are.

Now, have you ever noticed how women who
are hot often are ALSO the ones who are the
most INTERESTINGLY dressed??????????

I'm not talking about when they are
in casual mode, but when they are
out on the town.

They don't all dress the same, they are
DIFFERENT, but they all make IMPACT.

I remember once doing a seminar and pointing
out a hottie walking by wearing these bright
red boots that had realistic warning signs all
over them exactly as you'd find on a a jet fighter,
stuff like "Danger" and "Do Not Step" and
HAZARD etc.

Notice the vibes of FUN, of DANGER,
of ADRENALINE, and of SUPERIORITY here.
i.e. "This is TOP SECRET, DANGEROUS,
SUPER POWERFUL ELITE STUFF" here.
"Stay away", WHICH only makes you
want to come CLOSER, right?

Superiority is the essence of attraction.
And this perception is CREATED, through
many things, which INCLUDES the messages
being sent out by your clothing and
accessories.

Again, it's that circular thing in life, because
the women who are hot, know it and are aware
of it and are aware of how to ACCENTUATE
it. They REALIZE the power. So they do
everything they can to OPTIMIZE it. And
this is what makes them seem REALLY
super duper hot. In fact, it's amazing
what getting in shape, and dressing right,
and the right hair style can do for a
person, guy or girl. But it's the women
who seem to be doing this, not the
guys, and the guys need to learn
from this.

Women who are hot do this so often and
have been doing it usually for YEARS
so it's NATURAL to them and they don't even
think about it. That's not to say they don't
ever dress down etc, but when they dress
down, they are doing it consciously, not
because they don't know better. And in
fact, sometimes they dress down to
AVOID too much attention. Kind of like
how super heroes have their civilian
identity lol. Then, they come out at
night to kick some ass! That's what
the women do at night as well, in
their own way.

My point is, women have FUN with this stuff.

The way you dress should be an extension of
your psychology, and your state of mind.
And in fact, it is, whether you like it or not.
If you wear boring stuff, you will feel more
boring, more zombie like, more like just
another brick in the wall of society.

If you wear fun stuff or cool stuff that
YOU find cool, it will help you BE
in that state. Actions and thoughts
go hand in hand.

You get the power of momentum on
your side by STARTING with SOMETHING--
actions, thoughts, clothing, etc.

And you start to make changes both on the
SURFACE and DEEP DOWN INSIDE AS WELL.

Psychological studies have shown that
the mind will RESIST your efforts at
CHANGING your wardrobe, because over
time, you start to ACCEPT the social
pressure that you "DON'T BELONG IN THE
HIGHER STATUS GROUP"--i.e. that you are
not ALLOWED to dress cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But guess what happens when you KICK
YOURSELF to DO IT ANYWAY??

What happens is that you on a fundamental
level CHANGE your SELF-PERCEPTION, that
you now truly feel that indeed you ARE
allowed to be on this HIGHER STATUS.

So it might SEEM like a superficial thing,
but in fact it is causing DEEP CHANGES
that will then manifest themselves in
your BEHAVIORS with women, on all levels
from tonality to body language to even
the WORDS you say to her, all without
you even being CONSCIOUS of all this.

It will SUPERCHARGE your INNER GAME,
which is what the highest quality women
are searching out in you the moment
you approach them.

So it's time you started thinking about how
you can SHAKE IT UP regarding your
wardrobe - your clothing, accessories,
shoes, etc. PUSH the envelope, I say,
wake YOURSELF up out of the slumber
of no emotional impact and of course
this will also WAKE UP the girls
around you as well.

And you don't have to be someone else.
Instead, find the stuff that YOU like but
simply were to afraid to wear because
you thought you needed to conform.
If you have to wear boring stuff because
of your work, then as soon as work ends,
RIP IT OFF AND GET INTO SOMETHING
ELSE!!!! This stuff AFFECTS your mind.

Not sure if you saw the original Batman Begins,
but it’s fascinating how he realistically thinks
about the EMOTIONAL IMPACT of his costume
as he is designing the image it will project. In fact,
the whole IDEA of Batman according to Bruce Wayne
was to create something that couldn’t be destroyed.
It had to be an IDEA, something bigger than any person.
The costume is just one part of his PROJECTED,
YET AUTHENTIC, IDENTITY.

The emotions he strikes in people, both the good citizens
of Gotham, as well as the SLIME, are BY DESIGN.
No accident.

You want to PROJECT AN IDEA into women's MINDS,
about who YOU are!

Being a GOOD GUY is not a PROBLEM.
It’s a good thing.
The problem is being a guy who is UNCOOL.
And all COOL means is being EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT.

You have to learn to create THE EMOTION OF ATTRACTION
by giving off all the messages of superiority excellence
and intrigue through your beliefs, behaviours, clothing,
goals, and lifestyle.

The other thing is that when you ACCOMPLISH
the goal of creating attraction, it is THEN that it
becomes PARAMOUNT to truly connect deeply
with a woman if you want to have long term success.

The good news is, that when your INNER GAME is
truly amazing, when you TRULY feel great about
yourself and you don’t need women’s approval,
you are then able to GIVE emotionally and you are
able to UNDERSTAND women so much better.

The reason for this is that your ego is not in the way
anymore, so you are able to UNDERSTAND what
she is REALLY saying instead of seeing your ego
being threatened. For example, let’s say a woman
calls you the day after a date where you KNOW
she had an AWESOME time. And she suddenly
tells you that she wants you to buy her dinner
next time, or she tells you that she will be unavailable
for this week.

An INSECURE guy will see threats everywhere, he
will think she is starting up with him. He will feel this
need to act all “alpha” and tell her that NO WAY will
he buy her dinner, etc. The guy who truly IS THE MAN,
will read this as the woman feeling that maybe the guy
is PLAYING her, and she is trying to protect her
self-esteem, and that she IS IN FACT TOTALLY NUTS
ABOUT HIM.

So the guy who UNDERSTANDS this will instead NOT
REACT in a major way at all. He will seek to IMPROVE
his understanding without acting like an inferior by
apologizing. Apologizing for something you didn’t
do would be stupid and would not only make you seem
inferior, but also stupid since an apology is not what
she is looking for. All she wants is to know that you
are not there to take advantage of her. She couldn’t
give a damn about the dinner itself, trust me. Not
that buying a woman dinner is NECESSARILY
a problem if you are doing EVERYTHING else
right in such a way that clearly you are not trying
to buy her approval.

The main thing is to address the REAL issue.

THE MAN will use his observation skills to understand
the EMOTION going on as opposed to the words themselves.

Since he already knows she IS attracted, he will show
he CARES by GENUINELY mirroring her emotions
but not making any conclusions or solutions. i.e.
“You must be feeling that you have to really be careful
and you want to make sure you are respected”.

This is JUST an example, in a real situation you would
have tons more info based on all that happened between
you and her, to take the best course of action.

And even this is just the tip of the iceberg. There
are so many more dimensions to the compelling
emotions, from creating intrigue to creating a
feeling in a woman of total validation. For example,
ultimately, the highest level to achieve with a woman
is not only attraction and connection but also to make
her feel TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY ACCEPTED for who
she is. When this acceptance comes from a classy guy
who she is INFINITELY ATTRACTED TO, this is INSANELY
POWERFUL.

Women CRAVE to be rescued and swept off their feet
by a KNIGHT, not by a JERK.

And if you want to BLOW APART the competition of
“jerks” and be able to SEIZE THE MOMENT when
you meet a woman of true quality, then I suggest
you IMMEDIATELY get my WARRIOR WITHIN DVD PROGRAM.

This program goes DEEP, it will show you
all the best ways to spark the FULL SPECTRUM
of attraction in a woman, and it will also
show you the most powerful ways for destroying
any internal barriers holding you back from
taking action with women.

I PROMISE YOU that as powerful as this newsletter
is, it's barely scratching the surface compared
to what you will find in this program.

It's at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks