Getting A Woman Who Is 'Da Bomb' Vs. The TIME BOMB

When it comes to dating advice, there sure
is a lot out there, especially the dating guru
pick up artist advisers. And of course,
everyone says they are different and
special.

So what really makes me different from
all that stuff?

Well, the bottom line is whether you
want a woman who is faithful or not,
a woman who will treat you right or
not, a woman who will give you
headaches or not.

That’s really the bottom line.

Most of the advice out there thinks
that confidence must contain arrogance.

So for example, the ever-popular
backhanded compliment, which is
basically a subtle insult, such as
“You have a nice smile, it reminds
me of my aunt” where the whole
thing is made to make her feel as
if she doesn't have sexual appeal.

This is aimed at depriving a woman
of her self-esteem in the hopes this
will make the man seem of higher
status in relation to her.

Similarly, statements that are made
to indicate that it’s your way or the
highway, etc, to show that you are
“high status”.

Well, here’s the deal with all that stuff,
it often DOES get some initial attention,
because it’s a bit unusual (although
so many guys are copying that arrogance
that it's not really standing out much
anymore) but here’s what guys don’t know:

The kind of stuff that works on, are
women who THEMSELVES deep
down relate to that kind of language.

The better the woman is, the more RESOLUTE
she is in NOT treating people that way
HERSELF, the more she will ABHOR that
kind of communication, that kind of treatment.

The more such arrogant behavior will repel
her from you.

On the other hand, the more spoiled,
the more messed up, the more selfish,
a woman is, well then, now THIS
is the kind of language she HERSELF
can identify with, it’s speaking her
lingo.

So I ask you, which kind of woman do
you want?

Not only that, but the fact is, even the
selfish women or the low self esteem
women who respond to the abusive
approach, the reality is that it’s just
a matter of time before SOMEONE
gets really pissed off, you or her,
from this method of communication
and behavior, and that means it’s
going to be a time-bomb waiting
to happen.

That means it’s going to cost you a lot
of emotional drama in your life.

Here’s the even more important point:

There IS a way to get the attention of
a GREAT GIRL, a girl who is truly ‘DA BOMB’,
fantastic inside and out, but it’s not about
subtle insults, and it’s not about showing
what a “big shot” you are. (In fact, a great
girl actually sees arrogance as insecure
behavior.)

It’s about making EMOTIONAL IMPACT
and NOT being a douchebag.

It’s not about being a submissive weak guy.
It’s not about being a douchebag.

It’s about making emotional impact in
a POSITIVE way.

This takes a bit more ARTISTRY, which
is ironic considering that pick up artists
should know this, considering they call
themselves artists, but then again,
they aren’t concerned with quality of
women, so I guess this doesn’t matter
to them.

The communication you have with a great
woman should have subtle signs of charm,
of being abundant with love for LIFE, with
passion, AND with confidence.

So for example, in my “Disarm and Charm”
method, you’ll notice there are ZERO
insults, zero “backhanded compliments”,
and instead a lot of FUN, and when fun
is delivered in a confident vocal TONALITY,
you are also conveying CONFIDENCE.

For EXAMPLE, in a supermarket:

Accusing a woman you met in the supermarket
of wanting to steal the cereal box prizes is
funny, but it’s not mean-spirited. Playfully
and mischievously getting her to ROLE-PLAY
with you the idea of plotting together to raid the
supply in the back of the store is not only
FUN, it’s also a form of BONDING that
brings you both together QUICKLY.

Doing this role-play in a way where YOU
are behaving like CLYDE and she gets
to be BONNIE (of Bonnie and Clyde,
the male and female robber team of fame)
makes you seem like THE MAN, and
ALSO allows her to experience ADVENTURE.

All this in a span of 60 seconds!!!!

And you can even give her a COMPLIMENT
if she played along really well, telling her that
she is the kind of person that knows life
is not to be taken too seriously, and that’s
the only kind of person you roll with!

From that point, it’s EASY to get into
“normal” conversation, except it’s not
“normal” anymore, because now she
is EXCITED to get to KNOW you more,
to talk to you, and to then find out your name
and give you her NUMBER, and to build
more connection.

All this built on a foundation where there
was NO abuse, no arrogance, and thus
you LEAD THE WAY TRULY AS A MAN
showing that YOUR way involves treating
people with RESPECT, so she now knows
the RULES for behavior in your life.

As opposed to starting the interaction,
the very first impression of your world,
as being one of abuse and arrogance-
to which of course the only kind of
person who will respond is either going
to be a woman of super low self-esteem
or more likely, a woman who is abusive
herself- either way, a problem waiting
to happen.

So if you want to get a GREAT girl,
what you have read is just the tip
of the ICEBERG. The qualities
that make you stand out in the
RIGHT way go beyond just
the initial ice-breakers and
first conversation. 

It also includes how you handle
things all the way to the bedroom
and into your relationship. 

To get the FULL picture, I suggest you
download my book ‘Get A Great Girl’
immediately at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

This book is CRUCIAL if you want
a quality woman in your life NOW.

And to find out about ALL my programs
for meeting, attracting, and keeping
the women of your dreams, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html

Have a great weekend,

Michael Marks

How To Get Your Dream Girl

Since day one, I have always been consistent-
getting that dream woman- this is what it's
all about.

I'm talking about the kind of fantastic
woman who is a total package and would
make for an incredible girlfriend.

This is very different than just getting
numbers of drunk girls at bars and clubs.
This is about the REAL THING.

Whereas party girls are all about you
acting over the top, getting a quality
woman is all about you developing
deeper and deeper levels of connection,
starting from the light fluff stuff
and then working your way to a
deeper connection than anything she
has had with anyone before.

So let's cut straight to the chase on some
GOLDEN insights on how to get that dream woman.

ONE:
Have you ever heard that EYE CONTACT is important?

Well, it is, but if you don't understand the REASON
for why it's important, then you will not do it properly,
and when it comes to attracting a woman, HOW you
do something counts just as much as WHAT you do.

So the problem is that many men have heard that eye
contact with a woman is important, but they have
been told it's because this shows CONFIDENCE,
it shows that you are not afraid, etc, etc, etc.

Well, this is only the TIP of the iceberg actually.

The FULL TRUTH is that a woman wants to be
SEEN FOR WHO SHE REALLY IS, not just
for her superficial self. And the eyes are the
windows to the soul, so to speak. If you don't
look her in the eyes when you speak, you are
NEVER truly allowing yourself to see her
for who she is.

Before you think this is just a superficial thing,
think about this: Ever notice how hard it is to
LIE to someone when you are looking them
straight in the eyes?

There is a feeling of HONESTY when two people
are truly seeing "eye to eye" - this is why the
phrase "seeing eye to eye" to describe two people
in harmony, developed over the years.

So the reality is that by giving a woman eye contact,
and looking deep into her eyes, you are not just
SHOWING YOUR OWN value and confidence,
but you are also GIVING so much more as well.

See? You are actually GIVING in a way that
is SEXY and ATTRACTIVE and CHARISMATIC.

The OTHER element here that makes the eye
contact even MORE powerful is your ability to
be able to ABSORB the eye contact she is giving
YOU. When you feel unworthy, you tend to look
away, and yet that makes a woman feel that you
are somehow UNTRUSTWORTHY.

She is feeling "why is this guy looking away from me?"
and "What is he hiding?"

So lack of eye contact also disrupts the flow of
TRUST, which is sooo important in creating
that all important CONNECTION with a woman
so she can unleash her sexuality and let go with
you. Without that trust and connection, it's never
going to be a strong sexual connection, that's for
sure. She will be very limited, because she can't
truly let go of her inhibitions with you.

So, now that you understand the REAL reasons
for eye contact, you will do it not in a HARSH
way, but in a GIVING, and LOVING WAY.

Yes, this is TRULY the way of the confident,
MAN, the man who is flowing with ABUNDANCE
of charisma, confidence, who knows he has value.
THIS is the way to behave. Do NOT think of
eye contact just as some type of display of your
ability to show that you can confront her, eye
to eye. Instead, think of it as your ability to
show that you want to see DEEP INTO HER
IDENTITY, for who she really is.

Remember, emotions are not logical- and though
this looking into her eyes thing might not TOTALLY
seem logical, the reality is that it FEELS very
powerful, just think of how it feels when a woman
looks deep into YOUR eyes, and how hard it is
to not look away when she is sooooooo amazingly
beautiful, if you are not used to it. So get USED
to it, and start learning to keep eye contact.

If you are new to all this, practice when walking
on the street, keep eye contact with a woman,
and let HER be the first one to look away.

When you look into a woman's eyes, you make
her feel like you are looking into her for who
she really is, beyond just her body, and the
reality is that you will FEEL this way too,
so you really are helping BOTH of you
to see each other on an emotionally deep
level as well. So be a GIVER and do this.

In our crazy culture, we're conditioned to do
anything EXCEPT make eye contact, as if
was WRONG to develop this powerful of
an emotional connection to another person,
when in reality if we all did this we might
have a more CONNECTED society, but
you can take advantage of the fact that
no one ELSE does this and be the man who
is that much more SPECIAL and charismatic
with a woman because you are one of the
few men who actually DO make that eye
contact.

TWO:
And here's ANOTHER important distinction
to make--the whole idea of making cocky
jokes with a woman, it's not necessary, and
when it DOES work, it ONLY works when
you are doing it through the FILTER of
being a GIVER, not a taker...A woman senses
this as TRUE confidence...

Let me give you an example- if I make fun
of a woman, I will do it in a way where it
is absolutely clear that what I am saying
CANNOT BE TRUE. So if she is an
A+ student and gorgeous, then I can tease
her for having no future, and she will
LAUGH and love it.

Because it shows that I am just playing with
her. But to actually say things that ENDANGER
a woman's sense of self-esteem is INSANE
and will ALWAYS lead to problems, because
even if a woman doesn't IMMEDIATELY
strike back at you for this, eventually she
WILL. GUARANTEED.

And the few times she doesn't strike back at you?
That's because she has already determined that
the "tactic" was a result of insecurity and low
self-esteem, that the guy felt he needed to do
that, so she ignores it, makes the guy feel
like he said something brilliant or she ignores
it, (out of pity for the guy with low self esteem)
then goes on to another man and forgets
the guy with the insult forever.

Having to resort to insults to a woman to show
that you are not "under her thumb" would be
a very PRIMITIVE way of showing that she
is not controlling your thoughts or emotions
and that she is not "all that"...

This is why I am totally against the idea of
doing this, contrary to dating television shows
that suggest that these insults are the way to
get a woman's interest. This kind of info
is almost like a conspiracy, as it SOUNDS
interesting, but actually HARMS guys'
results with women.

THREE:
And here's ANOTHER golden tip- the
whole idea of WOMEN TESTING MEN--
is completely misunderstood.

If women so naturally create tests, to determine
if you are "man enough", then does it make sense
to try to FAKE your way through her testing
system by learning "lines" or learning how
ACT arrogant or trying to be arrogant????
Well, that's what most "experts" suggest
You do, to act arrogant or to show you
are in power.

Do you really think that such a powerful primal
tool that has lasted for millions of years in a
woman's brain could so easily be overpowered??

NO, the REAL way to pass a woman's test is
to actually BE the man.. not how to PRETEND
to not be "under her spell" etc,

And how do you do this? You do this by
understanding first of all what REAL confidence is,
what the REAL reason behind all these
"attractive behaviors" is...so for example
the EYE contact for is not to so much to
show that you are NOT AFRAID of her,
but to show that you are confident enough
to want to TRULY UNDERSTAND her, that
you want to see her for who she really is...
and the eye contact is also extremely
impressive in a culture that says "no
eye contact" a culture that says you
should just "leave me ALONE..."
when deep down people CRAVE
a feeling of a special CONNECTION,
and almost NO ONE is getting that
connection!!!

So, when you actually DO all these things,
that are actually a form of GIVING, guess
what happens? You got it--a woman then
sees there is NO NEED to test you in the
FIRST place!!!!! If a woman is testing
You all the time, then either she is the
Wrong woman, or you are DOING things
to MAKE her need to test you!!!!!

And definitely, following the "give her
the arrogant behavior" and "sugar coated
insults" and other behaviors that show
untrustworthiness and shady character
will all make her feel the NEED to test
you for all sorts of things, from your
manliness to your sense of integrity
and honesty.

What you have just read is just a GLIMPSE
into a whole other dimension that you can
be living in with the woman of your dreams.

This isn't about immature pick-up lines.
It's about becoming a stronger man, and
showing that in your interaction with
her, from the moment you approach her
till long after physical intimacy as well.

If you want to get a fantastic woman,
and get started TONIGHT, then I suggest
you download my book, "Get A Great Girl",
IMMEDIATELY, at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

For the in-depth advanced levels on how
to approach women anywhere and how to
take things to an intimate level and
beyond, I suggest you get my Mastery
Program at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

For my Real World Bootcamp, go to:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Be The Man, Not The Manipulator

I'm not sure if you have ever been hurt along the
way to trying to meet a fantastic woman, but if
you have, then I can share some awesome news
with you, and some really powerful tips for
getting a great woman.

Let's get right to it:

1. THE PAST DOES NOT EQUAL THE FUTURE

If a woman in the past treated you horribly, this
does not mean that all women are this way. In our
human desire to AVOID pain, we often learn the
WRONG lessons from the past.

So for example, if a woman mistreated us, then
we as men often try to get the 'upper hand' by
learning 'player' or 'pick up artist' tactics or
'control' tactics that boil down to things like
pretending you are not interested or even
being cold or cruel, or by alternating between
being 'hot' and 'cold', showing interest then
showing lack of interest, etc.

This same 'game' is often played by women who
have been hurt by men as well.

The bottom line is that these games boil down
to MANIPULATION. This is the very OPPOSITE
of being THE MAN, because "The Game' is the
product of INSECURITY and the product of
FEAR.

The key is to become a better MAN, not
a better MANIPULATOR.

All manipulative tactics ultimately results in
something called MUTUALLY ASSURED
DESTRUCTION, or MAD.

So manipulating a woman will result in the
nuclear destruction of your relationship
or attraction between each other.

So too, a woman manipulating you will result
in MAD - Mutally Assured Destruction.

It's too bad that so many men and women
are ignorant of this, but the wise men and
women who appreciate this fact are able
to APPRECIATE the power of trust and
integrity and love, and no matter how
badly they have been hurt in the past,
they have learned that the answer is
NOT to manipulate each other- for
it always leads to MAD in the end.

You will find love again, you will find
a fantasic woman, but you must take
this giant step of maturity and emotional
growth and courage.

You must become THE MAN in the
most true and deep sense.

2. THIS DOES NOT MEAN TO BE A DOORMAT

Of course, being good to a woman does not mean
that you should allow any woman to abuse you.

In fact, if you accept abuse, you have to take
responsibility for it, since no one but you allows
yourself to be abused. You have to be strong
enough to move ON from the wrong woman
so that you can find the RIGHT woman.

This leads me to my NEXT point:

3. THE POWER OF NO

The power of NO is actually the title of a book
as well. What it means is that you have to
realize that NO can often be a very POSITIVE
thing.

So, saying NO to the WRONG woman, means
the chance to say YES to the RIGHT woman.

If you say YES to the wrong woman, you are
going to be wasting your energy and focus
and this means you will be in effect saying
NO to the RIGHT woman.

So, learn to say NO to the things that are
NOT what you want.

Don't let WEAKNESS make you say YES
to the WRONG things. Saying yes to the
wrong things means you will be distracted
and not even SEE the opportunities for the
RIGHT things, the right woman, the right
life, etc.

This also includes YOUR development
as a man who is truly congruent and who
is strong, passionate about integrity, and
who is inspiring- so this means saying
NO to the WRONG types of music,
NO to the wrong types of MOVIES,
NO to the wrong types of MESSAGES.

If you bombard yourself with the message
that women are all a certain negative way,
that will filter your perception and make
you see things in a very distorted way.
So you can see how certain types of
music might not be productive.

But if you say NO to the pick up artist
messages, if you say NO to the manipulator
stuff, you are saying YES to being a
better MAN, the kind of man that attracts
a great WOMAN.

If you bombard yourself with messages
that say you are not worthy or that you
are not enough, you will FEEL that way,
so you can see how certain men's
magazines that try to constantly make you
feel insecure would only harm you.

On the other hand, by saying NO to this
stuff, you can then make CONSCIOUS
choices to see the RIGHT movies,
the right music, the right books,
etc.

I saw a FANTASTIC film at the theatre
called "Earth" and it was inspiring, it was
a documentary about nature and how
majestic the natural beauty of Earth
is, including the natural struggle of
how animals go about their daily
survival.

I'd way rather listen to "Scarborough
Fair" than 99% of what is on the
radio. I'm not telling you what
to watch or listen to or read, but
I am saying that YOU should
be conscious and make informed
decisions of what you take into
your mind- it's no different and
no less important than what you
take into your stomach as food.

It's the food of your MIND.

In life you will constantly have CHOICES,
but most people don't even REALIZE this.
They end up DOING things and ACCEPTING
things because they aren't even AWARE of
what is going on- for example, they have
no idea how harmful the wrong messages
and wrong entertainment and wrong
environments are.

But the reality is that no one is FORCING
you to do things, or accept things, or listen
to the wrong messages.

In religion, myth, and folklore, you ever
notice how there is a certain common thread,
which is that nobody MAKES you do
anything- sure there may be the "villain"
the "snake" the "seductress" etc, etc,
but the lesson they keep on trying to
hammer home is that it is WE ourselves
who must make the right decisions.

The fact that every culture on Earth and
every civilization has come up with very
similar stories and mythologies (see
Joseph Campbell's "The Hero With
A Thousand Faces") is a hint to a universal
truth: To live a better life, we have to learn
what to say NO to, and what to say YES to.

So, for example, any time you feel the temptation
to do something that goes against your principles
just to impress a woman, realize this is TEST
for YOURSELF- this is your chance to prove
to YOURSELF that you are the MAN.

Realize that doing ANYTHING that goes against
your principles, just to impress a woman, will
only attract the WRONG woman. And by
NOT giving into this, you will become even
STRONGER in the right ways, which will
make you stand out that much clearer from
all the other wrong guys when you might
the RIGHT woman.

She will see that you are absolutely clear on
your values and that you are exactly the kind
of man she has been looking for.

This leads to my next point:

4. SCREEN FOR THE RIGHT
QUALITIES IN A WOMAN

To me, it's never been about dating tons of
women, or getting "notches" on bedposts.
It's always been about searching for that
super high quality, magical combination of
traits that makes for a great woman.

If you allow tons of the WRONG women
into your life, you will pollute your mind
and emotions and you will require a longer
emotional detox process to clean it all
up so you can be READY for the right
woman.

Too many guys are so focused on getting a woman
into bed, it's as if these women are already perfect
without even being checked out personality-wise.

When "checking out" a woman, don't just check
out her body, check out her personality and her
values. Check out how kind she is, check out
her compassion, check out her strength of values,
check out how disciplined she is, check out
how strongly she is committed to doing the
right thing, check out if she is willing to
be a true PARTNER or just looking for
you to do everything.

Check out how strongly she is able to
RESIST the pressure of the crazy values
preached by many people out there.

Dating is important, so that you PREVENT
yourself from getting into a relationship
with the wrong woman. Think of
dating as a SECURITY check where
you are SCREENING to prevent the
wrong woman or women from getting
into your MIND and your EMOTIONS.

Dating is about finding out who this woman
is INTERNALLY and emotionally.

5. GET INTO THE RIGHT STATE

There are all kinds of ways of getting into
the right emotional state so you can be
at your best when approaching a woman
and having a conversation with her.

The best way for you to get into the right
emotional state is to physically DO something,
because when your body MOVES, you actually
change your emotions. Motion creates emotion.

And to be even more precise, the best actions
to do are the things that you BELIEVE in.

So let's say you believe in charity, then
go out and FIND someone to give a buck
to. You will FEEL better and you will
also be CONGRUENT to the right values,
on a subconscious lever you will be showing
this stuff through tiny subtleties in your
demeanor. It's almost as if a woman will
be able to read your mind and know what
kind of person you are--all because you
will be in the congruent emotional state
to what you just DID recently.

If you believe in HEALTH and vitality,
you can go WORK OUT and approach
women after.

If you love music, then listen to your favourite
music and MOVE to it. It will change your
STATE, there is no way you can be in
a negative state when moving to music
you love. You don't have to even call
this 'dancing' what counts is the
NATURAL MOVEMENT that it
inspires in you.

You can do all the above, you can do
something different, but the key is to
take PHYSICAL action and DO it.

Ever notice how the best singers don't just
say the words but truly put their heart and
soul into the song? They make the words
dance on their tongues, they make the
words soar with emotion into the air.
They aren't just trying to get the song
over with, they are milking every last
word and syllable and having pleasure
and fun with it.

And when you talk with a woman,
don't talk about things that you don't
care about- it will be lifeless and boring.
And don't fake it either- instead, talk
about positive things and fun things
that you really DO care about. And
even MORE importantly, LISTEN
with genuine INTEREST in wanting
to know more about this person
rather than just wanting to get this
person's number or anything else.

6. GET A LIFE YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT

Too many guys are just trying to learn to
FAKE being a cool guy with women.

It's not about being anything with women,
it's about being the best MAN you can be.

So when I hear about guys who are learning
from "pick up artist" types who teach them
to pretend they are busy, i.e. "after you
get the woman's number, make sure you
tell her you can't meet her that night
because you have plans- this will show
her you have a life and that you are hard
to get" it really makes no sense, since
the truth is you really SHOULD be a
man with a plan, a man with things on
his plate, with meaningful goals.

This way, you never have to PRETEND
you are busy with things, and you also
actually DO have things to talk about
that you care about, that are positive
and interesting, and these things also
help give you perspectives that you
can lend to helping HER perspectives
widen as well.

So for example, if you are talking to
her about some book she is reading,
and she tells you something about
ancient history or the character in
the book or the story or whatever,
you will have RICH PERSPECTIVES
and thoughts that you can SHARE
with her as well on the very thing
she is talking about, and you can
also help her see that you UNDERSTAND
her and that you can relate to what
she is saying.

Learning 'pick up lines' and learning to
pretend things like the dating gurus and
pick up artists like to do, is no way to develop
a powerful connection and a powerful
attraction from a woman to you.

7. HOW WOULD YOU BEHAVE IF
YOU RESPECTED YOURSELF TO
THE MAX?

I say this because it's so easy to think
that you are LESS than you really are.

Forget about women for one sec- this
has to do with YOU, not women:

How would you behave and speak and
carry yourself if YOU knew you were
worth a BILLION BUCKS?

Would there be DOUBT in your voice?
Would there be weakness and apology
constantly in your voice?

How would you respect your own TIME
if you knew it was DAMN VALUABLE?

How would you WALK and hold yourself
if you knew you TRULY MATTERED on
this Earth?

Start walking, breathing, and making
DECISIONS in your life based on the
fact that you ARE worthy.

If you DON'T do this, you will NEVER
even GET to the point where you can
SEE just how MASSIVELY this affects
your actual RESULTS in the real world
in every way- in business, with women,
with friends, family, etc.

And if you are reading this right now, and
are serious about meeting and attracting
the RIGHT woman, a woman you are nuts
about who is also nuts about you, then
I seriously suggest you take advantage
of my live coaching- whether you want
coaching on how to approach women,
how to make the date go smoothly,
or how to improve the relationship,
I can help you get there in the fastest
most efficient way possible.

To find out about my live coaching, go to:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl,' then definitely do that now.
This book will lay down the foundation you
need for meeting and attracting a woman
who is the 'real thing', and it's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

Till next time.

Michael Marks

P.S. To check out all my programs on meeting
and attracting the RIGHT woman, go to:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

7 Lies "The Dating Gurus" Told You

Let me share with you SEVEN LIES the
pick-up artists and dating gurus tell you.

LIE NUMBER 1:
"If a woman sees you as relationship
or marriage material, then you will
be considered a "BETA MALE", a provider,
an "INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" that is only
good for providing money for her.

Much better to be seen as the male who would
NEVER settle down, who is "hard to get",
who is a slick and COCKY "player" type-
THAT is what triggers ATTRACTION."

And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE.
A lie that has DESTROYED the future that
millions of men could have had with the
women they have met so far.

The truth is that you will only be considered
a "BETA" male if you SEE YOURSELF
AS A "BETA" MALE.

If your self-concept is BETA, then I assure
you that you will be taken as a BETA male
even if you have a huge SIGN on your
forehead that says "WILL NEVER MARRY"
or says "WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".

If YOU think that you are SETTLING for
someone, if YOU think that you are only
in a relationship because you can't get
better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc etc,
THEN you are a beta male.

But when you LOVE someone and they
LOVE you back and you both WANT
to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some
moronic "dating guru" or "pick up artist"
told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you
be a "beta" male.

Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN
EXTERNAL source is what makes
one WEAK and BETA. And THAT
is what makes a woman feel REPULSED
from a man and feel ZERO attraction
for him and not want to spend the
NIGHT or even one MINUTE with
him, never mind her LIFE.

The irony again is that it's the pick up artist
advice that makes you weak and THAT
is the kind of thing that attracts the very
WORST kind of women, who will like
to TAKE ADVANTAGE of that weakness
and see what they can take out of you.

And then we wonder why the pick up artists
tell you to WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!
And "Watch out for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"
Their advice creates weakness, which attracts
the vulture type women rather than the VIRTUOUS
ones. A great woman will simply leave you alone
and not be interested, but a horrific woman will
GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick
up artist advice actually makes you WEAK.

LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN,
YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE TO LEARN
X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"

This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must
first respect YOURSELF.

Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath
your dignity, and you will get RESPECT from
a woman.

The IRONY is that the things the pick up artists
tell you to do actually strip you of your dignity
because THEY worship women simply for
a woman's looks- the OBSESSION with having
to get QUANTITY rather than quality, the
obsession with having to FAKE YOUR IDENTITY
with all kinds of absurd tactics actually makes
you ASHAMED of who you are, rather than
LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE IN
WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's INSANE!
And I will STOP this insanity.

Women want a man who has DIGNITY and
will not SELL his dignity for ANYTHING.

LIE NUMBER 3:

"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO
THE FRIENDS ZONE, YOU BETTER
MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!"

The reality is that this is NONSENSE.

A great woman is not NEEDY to get into bed
with anyone, no matter WHO you are.

And if she DETECTS that you are trying
to get her into bed QUICK, she will only
feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.

Now, of course, if you are with a woman who
sleeps around with tons of guys, it might be
another issue.

I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.

Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pick
up artists NEVER give you a serious talk
about things like STD's.

NO, of course not.
It's just like the movies, and it's NOT REAL LIFE.

But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about
this stuff. The REAL WORLD is not the
DISNEY world of NO STDs that the pick up
artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.

They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE.

Why would you want to RUSH sleeping with
a woman?

There are BILLIONS of women on this earth.
More than you could ever sleep with.

Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH
spending time with.

The IRONY again is that you can't lose this
way, as even if you WERE the type of guy
that didn't care about quality, you could
always get to know a lot of women this
way and not rush, and THEN have a
HUNDRED women at your fingertips
if you so wanted. AND those women
would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and
not feeling needy to get them into bed-
it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!!!!!!

LIE NUMBER 4:

"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS
FOR LOSERS WHILE ALL WOMEN
SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT
BEING WITH AN ARROGANT AND
COCKY PLAYER"

This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY
UNTRUE, and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties
of the entire dating guru and pick up CULTURE
that I would need to devote an entire BOOK
to explain how HORRIFIC THIS ADVICE
IS, and how totally false it is.

It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not
attractive, it's when you are being EXTRA
NICE to a woman who has done NOTHING
to earn that treatment from you.

Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?

OF COURSE YOU DO.
And there's nothing wrong with it, it's
COOL actually.

Same thing with a woman- if she's good to
you, then if you are NOT good to her, THEN
you will be considered an INSECURE LOSER.

And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about
players that are so scared to really be good to
a woman and so scared to DROP the "masks"
they wear in the form of fake memorized lines,
and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to
NEGATE her self-esteem. (notice the word
ATTEMP in capitals, because it's doesn't work,
A great woman will just ignore it or CHEW
the guy up and spit him out for even trying)


LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT ANYTHING
EMOTIONAL REGARDING HER OR
YOU OR YOU WILL BE ABUSED
OR SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"

The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her
about her things, stuff that she is going through,
you will DUMPED fast and rightly so for not
giving a rat's ass about her.

The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a
woman is always talking about her problems to
you and is not BALANCING that with also having
FUN with you and is not willing and happy to listen
to YOUR stuff too.

The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you
should not be a cry-baby but you DEFINITELY
are not considered weak for having emotions
and for expressing them- this kind of bullshit
lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating
gurus probably gives more men heart attacks
from stress than anything else. If you can't
confide at all in the woman you are with,
what the HELL is the point of being with her?

And if a woman feels she can't ever confide
in you about emotional stuff, she will simply
GET THAT CONNECTION from someone
ELSE.

And again, THIS is why these "experts" are
always talking about cheating and unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken
party girls and they put Playboy and Hugh Hefner
on a pedestal, and THEN they wonder why they
are getting less than CREAM OF THE CROP
qualities in the women they meet!!!!

INSANE.

The truth is that the stuff that these guys
"teach" you will PUSH AWAY the BEST
kind of women and will attract the very
WORST type of woman.


LIE NUMBER 6:

"YOU CAN MEASURE YOUR REAL
SKILL IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK
UP A WOMAN IN A CLUB"


ANOTHER LIE.

The reality is that meeting a woman in a club
is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached. I
can get any guy results in a club in 1 HOUR
of training.

The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a
great woman with high standards who is not
drunk and who is not looking to just play
around, who is looking for something meaningful,
and CONNECT with such a woman on a
DEEP level, and then to KEEP THIS UP
so that three weeks later she is just as into
you and three months later as well, etc etc.

So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if
you want to, and if you want practice TALKING
to women, you'll find a LOT of women in clubs,
but if you are looking to meet a GREAT woman
where you will have to also form a great connection,
clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.

LIE NUMBER 7:

"ONLY TALK ABOUT POP CULTURE
AND NOTHING ELSE DEEP. MAKE SURE
TO NOT GET INTO ANYTHING DEEP
WITH A WOMAN, ESPECIALLY IN A
PICK-UP"

Another MASSIVE LIE.
The truth is, if you are looking to attract a
SUPERFICIAL woman who is only interested
in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.

But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's
CRUCIAL to connect on a greater level!

She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see
if you can do this. So for all you guys out
there who have a lot of GREAT INTERESTS
and who are intelligent, this is GREAT NEWS.

The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes
AS WELL, so that a woman can see that
you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be
about one channel!

To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being
able to meet, attract, and keep a great woman,
I am reminded of something YODA told
Luke Skywalker: "Unlearn, young one, unlearn".

You see, the greatest masters have realized
that the REAL key is not to learn HYPNOSIS
or to learn LINES, or to learn TACTICS, but
rather to UNLEARN. To get DE-hypnotized
as opposed to hypnotized.

Underneath all the layers and layers of BAD
PROGRAMMING you have received from
all kinds of external sources, including the
HORRIFIC advice from the supposed "experts"
you have something PERFECTLY POWERFUL,
something magnificently CHARISMATIC,
something UNSTOPPABLE that will PULL
IN A GREAT WOMAN with INFINITE
EASE.

 There will be NO EFFORT required
once you learn this.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

http://www.getagreatgirl.com

The Truth About "Inner Game"

INNER GAME is another word for your
internal strength of emotional state
and your ability to enter the right
states of mind at the right moment.

The truth is that inner game is the most
important part of your development, and
it's the secret that enables you to do incredible
at not only pick-up without using memorized
pick up lines, but it also helps you at every
stage of an interaction including even
relationships.

The best part of all this is that it's not
a game. It's the real you.

Women will respect this development and
be attracted to you because they simply
can't NOT be attracted to it. It's too
rare, too precious, too liberating and
empowering even just to WITNESS
somebody like this, for anyone to
be able to IGNORE it.

The irony of course though is that you
can't really do this just to get a woman,
as that in itself is kind of weak.

The FIRST thing to become aware of is
all the TRASH in your mind that is holding
you back from being as powerful as you can be.

99% of this trash is all FEAR based.

And the craziest part of all, is that 99% of these
fears are ABSURD.

We've just become so damn good at brainwashing
ourselves that these fears are IMPORTANT.

For example, when you see a woman you'd like
to talk to, and you don't approach her, it's not
because you are going to go to jail if you talk
to her.

And you don't avoid her because you think she
will attack you, or hurt you.

The biggest reason for avoidance is to avoid
having our EGO damaged.

We don't want to RISK damaging something
that doesn't even EXIST.

Our ego is our own ARTIFICIAL CREATION.

We create it, and we arbitrarily decide what's
good for it, and what's bad for it. As if we
KNOW what's good for us.

But the truth is, the BEST thing you can do
is banish that ego, because all it does is set
up limiting options for your life, because
you won't do anything that might damage
that ego. And that means you won't ever
GROW as a person, and worst of all, you
will never be free of fear.

Because you will always be living with the
fear of "what if something comes along that
might damage might ego?""

But if you throw your ego out, then you
can EMBRACE whatever the hell you need
to do to grow and learn.

This is why it's actually good to NOT get
fantastic success with women right away,
because if you never "fail", then you will
be TERRIFIED of it happening, as you
have no clue what it might be like, and
your imagination will make it far worse
than it is.

Life is nothing but a bunch of short moments.
None of these moments is something to be
afraid of, but we arbitrarily decide to create
FEARS based on our own artificial GROUPING
of moments. So for example, seeing a beautiful
woman is not a thing to fear.

It's actually pretty cool, right?
Okay, now, walking UP to a woman is also
nothing to fear, you do this all the time
without even THINKING about it, let's
say if she happens to be on the bus or
train or whatever and you are walking
past her. Or if you are in a crowd,
and you don't even notice her there.

So, clearly walking near or up to a
woman is nothing to fear.

Now, TALKING to woman who is beautiful
is nothing to fear either. We do it all the time
and think nothing of it if it's not about doing
an actual "pick-up".

It all only becomes a problem or FEAR
when we attach EGO to it. So we decide
to make it a fear when we want to get her
APPROVAL of our own worth.

We think, "Damn, if only she would LIKE
me, then things would be AWESOME!"

Then I would feel GREAT!

Now, this actually isn't true though, it's
actually YOU allowing YOURSELF to
feel that way, but you are only giving
yourself permission to feel this if SHE
says you are great, or desirable, etc.

Do you see how we are the ones making
the problem? We are the ones creating
the pain?

And the truth is, how do you explain the
stars in Hollywood who have all the
most beautiful women, and yet who are
all depressed and end up in rehab or
worse, committing suicide or destroying
themselves in other ways?

Do you think these people are somehow
DIFFERENT? They are the same like
anyone else, and the truth is that no THING
brings any emotion to anyone unless we
ALLOW it. As soon as you get the thing
you thing will bring you happiness, the
moment lasts for a brief moment, and then
it's GONE, and you start to feel a LACK
again--unless you start looking at the
JOURNEYS OF LIFE as the actual
joy and not the destination.

Sure, enjoy the destination when you are there,
but realize it's the journey that's the bigger
deal. This is why the coolest people constantly
challenge themselves with new cool things.

But we ALLOW this thing called EGO to
TAKE OVER and all it does is try to CONTROL
everything so that it doesn't get hurt- and yet
THIS is what causes us all the pain. So
it avoids challenges and avoids any potential
ego risk.

And yet here's the thing- if you can just
FORGET about what you can GET from
a woman, including even just her approval,
and you instead just live in the MOMENT,
and stop focusing on the past pain, and
stop thinking about how GOOD things
would be in the FUTURE if you "just had her",
you would do SOOOOOO much better
in the actual pick up with her!

The reason for this, is because your mind
and emotions are INFINITELY powerful
when they are not being driven in opposite
directions.

Your mind is the most UPDATED model of
a SUPER POWERFUL tool that has helped
your ancestors come up with all kinds of
brilliant ways to triumph against challenges
like hunger, horrible weather, traveling
across wild oceans, surviving life amongst
dangerous beasts and animals, surviving
against enemies, a mind that has been
resourceful enough to come up with
creative ways to also win friends and
allies and to attract a female mate to
continue your genes from generation
generation.

The thing is, this mind that is more
sophisticated than the greatest computer
gets all JAMMED and screwed up when
it's being given OPPOSITE messages-
i.e. GET THAT GIRL, vs. DON'T
GET YOUR EGO HURT!

It's like having your foot on the brake
and the accelerator at the same time.

So how do you get rid of all these ego-based
FEARS?

Well, one powerful thing you can do is to
learn to STOP thinking about anything other
than the MOMENT.

This doesn't mean to start acting like an
impulsive idiot, what it means is to start
focusing on the PRESENT and to stop
doing things out of the PAIN of the PAST,
and to stop doing things for some type
of FUTURE "NIRVANA".

The truth is that the past doesn't exist,
the future doesn't exist, they are only
in your MIND, and also NO "THING" will
bring you some type of 'NIRVANA',
however the JOURNEY is what is the
JOY in things. So learning to enjoy
the PROCESS is what will make
your entire LIFE meaningful and
rewarding.

So when you see a woman you like,
let THAT in itself be the motivation
to just TALK to her, stop thinking
what it will LEAD to, because that
is the FUTURE, and thinking about
things other than the present will only
DETRACT from your ability to DEAL
with the present.

And the whole POINT of this training
of your mind, is to realize anyway that
there is no such thing as the past or future,
and that the joy is in the MOMENT.

Of course, by being in the PRESENT,
you will chat with her in a way that
SHOWS you are in the PRESENT,

You will, for example, take note of the
MOMENT, and make a comment that is
IN THE PRESENT. She, in turn, will
respond by being in the moment-
for example, if you are both at the
supermarket counter line-up, and it's
taking forever for the person at the
front to find his wallet, cash, or
coupon, etc, and you say "I'm so
hungry, I think I'll eat this loaf
of bread right here and pay for
it when I get up to the front"
the woman will SENSE that you
are in the present and it will disarm
her.

She will not feel the need to resist you,
because there is nothing TO resist, you
are simply being in the PRESENT, which
is exactly where you ALL are.

And, more importantly, because you are
not worried about the past or future, your
DELIVERY of these words will show
in your voice, your body language, your
expression on your face a certain type of
strength, a certain type of humor that also
shows you are secure and that you are
not so fragile that you need to be so
serious about everything, that it will
CHARM her.

This is just a TINY SPECK of the
MASSIVE POWER that exists by tapping
into the skill of being in the PRESENT.

And let me ask you something:
Even if this DOESN'T lead to always getting
her in BED with you, you know for SURE
that this INCREASES YOUR CHANCES
ABOUT A BILLION TIMES MORE
with women in general by adopting this
attitude than by being focused on anything
EXCEPT the present.

If you start thinking too much about the future
and past, you will come up with a BILLION
reasons NOT to take action, your ego will
start interfering with things, and you will
also sound WAY WORSE when you do
finally decide to take action, because you
will be emotionally coming from a place
of confusion and that weakness will be
conveyed in your every subtlety, from
your voice, to your mannerisms, to your
smile or lack of it.

When you can finally let GO of your
EGO and let go of anything but the
PRESENT, you will start to see a
friggen whole other UNIVERSE
open up for you, and you are going
to have more women, of higher quality
as well, than you will possibly have time
for. I mean this, every word, it's not
an exaggeration.

Your ego is like a EMOTIONAL POLLUTION
MAGNET for your mind - it stores all kinds
of emotional TRASH that does NOTHING
for you. It's a tricky sucker, because it
makes you think it's protecting you,
it makes you think it IS you, it makes
you think that you are your current
emotions or thoughts even if they are
totally destructive and negative and
weak.

And it makes you think that the REWARD
is in the destination, rather than in the
PROCESS and in the ATTITUDE.

Here's a great exercise for you:
Next time you see a woman you'd like
to chat to, see how much INSPIRATION
YOU CAN PACK INTO THE MOMENTS
YOU SPEND TALKING TO HER.

I PROMISE YOU, that there is magnificence
in every single thing that you currently think
is MUNDANE or BORING.

I don't care if you are in the line at the
supermarket, or if you are on the bus
and she is reading the newspaper,
there is something AWESOME
or FUNNY or INSPIRING or
BEAUTIFUL in it.

Don't let the brainwashed world turn YOU
into a brainwashed person who is zombie
with his most empowering and awesome
emotions turned off.

The trick is to be in the PRESENT.
The reason you find it hard to "come up"
with cool stuff to say is because you are
trying to be PERFECT, because you don't
want to fail. Trust me, I understand this,
I'm human and once in a rare while, this
happens to me too, even after training
for years. But if it happens, it's only
because I've let myself get wrapped
up in something other than the MOMENT.

So the trick is to work into your life
a way of BREAKING this habit.

For years, I used to every morning and
every night go out and pour cold water
buckets over me, and it TOTALLY got
me out of "thinking" state and into
BEING IN THE MOMENT!!!!!

The name of that moment is
"WHOAHHHHHHHHHHHH!"

You may want to try this, after consulting
with your doctor, or you can come up with
something equally state-changing.

One final message I want to say is that
PERSPECTIVE is your greatest friend.

So often, the greatest PAIN we experience
is also the ONLY thing that allows us to
truly LEARN and to GROW.

Think about it- how often did you ONLY
learn a great lesson the HARD WAY?

This is why the guys who get the greatest
success are usually the guys who had the
greatest amount of "failures"- so it starts
to make you realize that actually "failures"
are the only way to learn the MOST.

So is it really failure, if failure is the ONLY
way to great success? It's actually pretty
CRAZY that we live in a society that
calls "not getting what you want" as
"failure" when it REALLY should be
called ONE MASSIVE STEP CLOSER
TO SUCCESS.

Chances are, that if you really suffer
"failure", you are ready to LEARN
from it.

And regarding PERSPECTIVE, I want you
to start letting go of any HATE AND PAIN
that you are storing inside of you regarding
ANY woman who has EVER hurt you.

This was the hardest thing for me to do,
and once I did this, I started to TAKE
OFF.

And guess what, those people who hurt you,
very often are the ones who actually need
the love the most. So of course if you are
being abused by any woman, then you should
get the HELL out of there, but there's no
reason to let this person bring YOU down
by making you have to carry all that negativity
with you for life. And when you realize that
these people who hurt others are the ones
who are hurting the most, it's much easier
to LET GO of those negative emotions.

Again, it's the EGO and it's being in the
PAST or the FUTURE that holds us back.
All these things don't even EXIST, and
they hold us back from the only thing
that DOES exist- the PRESENT.

Till next time...

Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com