Breaking Past The "Stranger Factor" When Meeting Women

Today’s newsletter really should come with
a huge orchestra to introduce it, because it’s
THAT monumental, it’s THAT crucial to
your success with women, ESPECIALLY
when it comes to approaching and attracting
women who are total strangers that you
might happen to see ANYWHERE.

The good thing for you from all this is that
what you read here comes from the real world,
where something either WORKS or DOESN’T,
and I only give you what has been tested to
WORK.

So here is the first thing for today:

When Approaching Women Who Are Strangers
In Places That Are NOT Clubs, Lounges, Or
Otherwise “Officially” For Socializing, You
Can BREAK THROUGH The “Stranger-Barrier”
By Starting With ULTRA SERIOUSNESS.

The EXCEPTION to this is if you KNOW you
have something to say that is a SURE-FIRE way
to get her LAUGHING.

So why is this the case?
The reason starting off ULTRA SERIOUS in your
TONE is important, is because the fact is that women
are subconsciously a bit WEARY of talking to total
strangers in places that are not especially “APPROVED”
as places for socializing with strangers, i.e. a club
or lounge or whatever i.e. a party somewhere.

So her MIND-SET is “watch out for strangers”.
Is this the case EVERY SINGLE time?
No, but it OFTEN is, and even when it ISN’T,
this “caution alarm” can STILL go off even
AFTER you’re already in a conversation if
you seem untrustworthy or creepy in some way
which is usually the product of somehow seeming
as if you are not telling her the truth.

But back to the very FIRST MOMENT, the first
thing you say to her.  Her “caution” alarm is ON.

So, by starting the conversation with ULTRA-SERIOUS
voice tonality and facial expression, you are subconsciously
sending the message to her that this is URGENT, and you
bypass the “caution alarm”.

This has to be done right.  Don’t start with a huge long
speech that is serious.

Keep it BRIEF.
If you've studied my "Chats From Scratch"
program, you know that I teach that LESS is more.
You should always do the MINIMUM that needs to
be done to get the job done.     
  
So even if you were to start with the words:
“Excuse me”, this would be FINE, even though
I’m not the biggest fan of having to excuse yourself
with anything, but the fact of the matter is that your
TONALITY is more important than the words
when it comes to this especially.

So it’s not like you are saying these words in
some kind of weak, submissive way, but rather
you are saying them with AUTHORITY and
GRIM SERIOUSNESS.

“But Michael, don’t you talk about being upbeat
and all those other things”?  I can hear you saying
this possibly right about now.

And the answer is YES, because your MINDSET
WHEN YOU SAY i.e. “Excuse me” to her in fact
is NOT bitter, upset, or depressed.  You CAN feel
good about all this.

Plus, this entire SKILL of approaching and attracting
women really has different PARTS to it, and in those
first few MILLISECONDS a LOT  happens just from
your TONALITY alone.

This is why I LOVE teaching guys this IN PERSON on
REAL WOMEN, so they can SEE IT to BELIEVE IT.
It all is very subtle and happens very fast, so it helps
to see it AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN.

Plus, since I’ve been teaching this for over ten YEARS,
I understand not only how to do it, but how to TEACH
it, I have sifted through the THOUSANDS of action-reactions
to see which ACTIONS are actually the ones that get
the results with women, and which actions are superfluous
and are simply wasting your energy or time so that you
ONLY do what works.

So in that first INSTANT, your tonality is GRIM
serious, it’s authoritative, it may even be almost
ACCUSATORY. (I said ALMOST, remember.)

THIS is what’s important to BREAK through her
“shield”.

Now, PLEASE get me right here, when I say that I think
women SHOULD INDEED HAVE A SHIELD!

I do NOT think that most women are bi*&^es!!!!
They MUST protect themselves, otherwise they
will spend every friggen’ SECOND of their day
dealing with the WRONG guys.

From THERE, you can then go on with whatever
you were going to say, whether it’s getting her
perspective on some recent topic in popular culture
from rock stars to movie stars to some other
fun entertainment news, or you could be even
just tell her anything really interesting that
just happened to you or even that you read
in a magazine or book lately.

So this leads to part TWO:

The idea here in part TWO is REALLY to build toward
getting FEEDBACK from her.

And, more importantly, not just getting FEEDBACK,
but LISTENING so damn, damn WELL to her that
you start to learn a lot about HER.
And this leads to part THREE:

Part THREE is about finding something that you
truly RESPECT and/or ADMIRE in her deepest
sense of IDENTITY, and then VALIDATING
that identity.

One thing I can’t understand is laziness when it comes
to getting something AMAZING.

To me, personally, women that I find attractive is
really not just “nice”, it’s FREAKIN' AMAZING.

I freaking LOVE it.

And whether people want to admit it or not, the
truth is, sex, love, and connection COMBINED
are what make the world go ROUND.

When it comes right down to it, most people
couldn't give a rat’s ass about money for it’s
own sake of the "things" it could buy for
themselves.

If a guy thought he could have a thousand of the
most gorgeous women on earth including the one
he loved the most, ALL of whom were all totally
IN LOVE with him and couldn’t get enough of him,
and who all TRULY FELT THAT HE WAS "THE MAN",
would he really be feeling "down in the gutter"
because he didn’t wear a Rolex or live in a castle?

I mean, the fact is, these women are with him,
and think that HE is the man, not anyone ELSE.

Most men want power simply because they want
to REASSURE themselves that THEY are “the man”,
and of course getting the WOMEN is the ultimate
way for most men to know they are the man.

I’m not saying whether this is HEALTHY, I’m
just saying what actually IS for the most part.

So, if a guy doesn’t want to LEARN how to do
this stuff, that is FINE, it simply means that
either he doesn’t believe it will work, or he
simply doesn’t REALLY want to get good
when it comes to attracting women.

And as far as believing, the proof is as simple
as SEEING it with his own eyes.  And to be
honest, I have had clients in the past who
were blind who ALSO did amazing with
women, so FEELING that woman on you
is probably the ULTIMATE proof, or having
that woman communicate her passion for you
is the ultimate proof.

So, the proof is there.  The only thing that
remains is whether you really WANT to
get good at this skill or not.

Now, back to the point about VALIDATING
her identity.

This is a HUGE topic.  In fact, my program
called Attraction MASTERY begins with the
words "If you can give a woman the gift of
self-esteem, she will be yours FOREVER".

(It's at http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html )

I seriously suggest you get my Attraction
Mastery program if you want to master this
topic.  

The idea of validating her identity is NOT
about just complimenting her, but rather it
is about validating what she feels is an
INTEGRAL part of who she is.

This is why it’s so important to LISTEN to
what she is saying, and to PROPERLY read
between the lines as well.

The truth is, you ALREADY do this kind of
thing with your BEST friends, you understand
them beyond just what they are SAYING, you
also understand what they MEAN from every
slight detail in their tonality, expression, etc.

But with your friends, it’s EASY, because you
already have become an EXPERT over time
at the art of UNDERSTANDING THEM.

But I can hear many of you saying that you
don't just want to be FRIENDS with a woman,
and I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND that!  But if you
are meeting a woman who is a TOTAL STRANGER
and you want to get her to go from being
TOTAL STRANGER to being with you on the most
intimate physical and emotional level, it
is damn important to learn this skill.  

You have to learn to get to know a woman
who is a total stranger, and get to know
her in just a few MINUTES.

The good news is that if you are listening
CAREFULLY, you will often get right to her
CORE in just a few MOMENTS.

And women will NOT be creeped out by this,
they will instead by APPRECIATIVE on the
most POWERFUL level.

PLUS, doing this also allows YOU to figure out
if a woman is the RIGHT match for you or if
would be better off spending your time on
ANOTHER woman.

Many men spend MONTHS or even YEARS
with a woman until they find out she was
the WRONG match.

These skills will allow you to SAVE all that
energy, emotion, and TIME.
   
But again, I want to stick to the MAIN point
of this newsletter, which is the SUCCESSFUL
start of the chat with a woman who is a
TOTAL stranger.

Just because a woman who is a stranger doesn’t tell
you to get out of her sight right away, does not mean
you are doing the approach RIGHT.

She could be just tolerating it out of courtesy,
but the ticking on the countdown has already
begun as she looks for a way out, IF you
are doing it WRONG.

So starting it off serious, allows you to immediately
bypass her “Guy who is a goofball” ALARMS.

A lot of men start conversations with women in
ways that are PURPOSELY “goofy” and laughable
but not really funny.  The reason for being intentionally
goofy is because this way, there is now an EXCUSE
for “rejection”.

Being GOOFY, a guy can say to himself:

“Well, I was OBVIOUSLY being goofy, that was not
really ME she rejected, she doesn’t know the REAL me,
she rejected me because I WANTED to get rejected
by acting GOOFY and just having “fun”.

This is, obviously, all the product of INSECURITY.

And insecurity always ends up looking much worse
than just insecurity.  It looks DUMBASS.  It looks
JUVENILE.  It looks UNCOOL and reeks of being
a boy, and NOT of being a MAN.

So that’s ANOTHER reason for the grim serious
opening to the chat.

Plus, by delivering it with AUTHORITY, you also
command more immediate respect and attention.

The key is to then SMOOTHLY shift gears a bit,
to a SLIGHTLY more laid back “normal” state
of mind, because at THIS point, you have already
BROKEN through the STRANGER-FACTOR,
but you have to still exude confidence, and some
fun or at least some intrigue.  

Now, if you remember, earlier in this article I did
say that if you have something that is guaranteed
to get her LAUGHING IMMEDIATELY, that is
cool too.

The reason this works is because emotions are
more powerful than logic,  and if she is laughing,
she is NOT holding up her “SHIELD”, and she
is automatically going to be RECEPTIVE to some
chatting.

The thing is, that I know from experience that you
won’t ALWAYS have something perfect to say
for every situation, that is always funny.

And that’s why I developed the ULTRA-SERIOUS
opening style for places that are NOT clubs, lounges,
etc.

Please keep in mind, that this is ONE part of a larger
skill set for attracting women, but it is DEFINITELY
a part of that set of skills that deserves RESPECT
AND ATTENTION to do it RIGHT.

Think of how a race car driver of the Indy 500 or Formula 1
who is racing at about 200 miles per hour, and how every
TINY little movement on the steering, on the accelerator
is actually ULTRA refined, and the result of MASSIVE skill.

SUBTLETIES are where it’s all at, otherwise every
idiot would be AMAZING at this stuff, whether it’s
racing cars or attracting women.

Now, I want to slightly change topics, but it’s still
related quite a bit: BEING CONGRUENT is KEY.

What do I mean by congruent?
You’ve heard me say this before, right?
But I KNOW it needs to be said again,
and I want to take it further this time:

Congruent means that ALL your behaviors, mannerisms,
tonalities, expressions, etc., are all CONSISTENT in
your approach, in your interaction with her.

You often hear the advice of “be yourself” when
it comes to women, but most guys THINK they
are being themselves and then they wonder why
they are NOT getting the results they want.

This is because being YOURSELF actually takes
PRACTICE and INSIGHT when it comes to anytime
you are NOT alone, and this goes QUADRUPLE
when it comes to interacting with and attracting women.

This is NOT a joke.
When it comes to wanting to attract women, we
ALL start out thinking that maybe we are NOT
good enough. So we start to try to DO things
to MAKE us SEEM COOLER.

You’ll notice that in my teachings, when it comes to
your actual CONNECTION with a woman, it’s
all about developing the skills to get to know the
REAL her, and to help communicate to HER
who is the REAL YOU, and how to do this
QUICKLY.

It’s not about memorizing pick up lines from
someone else to make you SEEM to be cool.

Plus, it’s about actually developing your
INNER CONCEPT to make it unbreakable.

And, on top of all that, I ALSO teach you the
strategies for BREAKING THROUGH the 
REAL LIES, which is the LIE that we are
NOT SUPPOSED TO TALK TO WOMEN
UNLESS GIVEN SPECIAL PERMISSION
FROM SOCIETY.

The REAL lie, the REAL fakery, is the EVERYDAY
SO CALLED ‘NORM’ of SEEING WOMEN
EVERYWHERE AND PRETENDING THEY
ARE NOT THERE!!!!

And vice-versa as well, women have to put on an
ACT of not being interested, in order to protect
themselves from all the dumbasses out there.

Women will actually APPRECIATE the fact that
you learned a way PAST all this b.s. because you
are actually a great guy.

So back to my main point here, which is how not
feeling good enough about our own value to women
makes us either SABOTAGE our results with women,
or makes us give into insecurity which makes us act
in all kinds of ways that destroy attraction, or whether
not feeling good enough about ourselves makes us
put on an ACT because we don’t think we are good
enough, all this stuff is one MAJOR issue.

Being great with women involves mastering
a UNIQUE set of skills as well as a unique
form of self-development.

And the IRONY is that most men on Earth
only WISH for those other things so they
can GET the women of their dreams!

If you want to get great with women, then it’s
time to master the REAL SKILLS and self-development
that actually WORKS for attracting women.

My Attraction Mastery program contains over
ten HOURS of absolute GOLD for mastering
these skills on attracting women:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

To check out ALL my programs, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

I know that you will find ALL of these
programs to be worth at least TEN TIMES
your investment. You'll see how these
programs are the most genuine, powerful
resources on the planet for attracting
women of the highest quality.  

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Truth About How To Get A Quality Woman

If you wanted to meet a fantastic woman, would you
want to learn from someone who only knew how to
get the half-drunk women at the night clubs?

If you wanted to meet the kind of woman that you could
TRUST WITH YOUR LIFE, if you wanted to meet a woman
with total integrity, a woman who would never think of being
with you as something TRIVIAL, would you want to learn
from a guy who focused on how to "SCORE" to get
QUANTITY of just ANY girls???????

Would you trust your FUTURE with someonewho one day
is all about selling "getting ALL the girls"and the next day
pretends to be about "getting QUALITY"?

Maybe the next day it will be about selling kitchen sinks
and frisbees and toilet cleaners. This road I have taken
started when I was17 years old, and all I wanted then
was agreat woman for something real.

It took almost TWO DECADES to sift throughall the
TOTAL BULLCRAP out there, ESPECIALLY from the
guys who call themselves dating gurus and pick up artists.

This meeting a great woman thing is not a joke to me.
I know that there are some people who really don't
want to meet a great woman, they'd rather just
have emotionally low level relationships, i.e.
"friends with benefits" or even less than that,
and that's fine, in fact there are hundreds of
guys out there who seem to be focused on
teaching guys how to get that.

Whether their stuff works or not to get the one night
stand with the promiscuous girl is really not my concern,
because it's not my goal.

My mission is to help that guy who wants to get a
GREAT girl for a fantastic relationship. That's what
I know, that's what I care about.

That's what I do.

And one of the most MASSIVE lessons I learned was that
I was being told ABSOLUTE LIES by the supposed
dating gurus and pick up artists.

Yes, LIES. Not just "half-truths" but absolute lies that will
DESTROY your success with a woman if you are looking
for something REAL.

It will destroy your future even if you only use that advice
in the BEGINNING, as an ICE-BREAKER, because it sets
things upon the WRONG TRACK, the wrong angle, and as
every day goes by with that woman, the trust she has in
you erodes further and further, and you keep getting
FARTHER and FARTHER from her, till it's HOPELESS
and lost FOREVER.

The truth is the most powerful thing on earth.
And the distortion of truth is what blocks you from progress.

So let me share with you SEVEN LIES the pick-up artists
and wannabe "dating gurus" tell you, and what the TRUTH
is on that topic.

LIE NUMBER 1:
"IF A WOMAN SEES YOU AS RELATIONSHIP OR
MARRIAGE MATERIAL, THEN YOU WILL BE
CONSIDERED A PROVIDER, A BETA MALE, AN
"INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" THAT IS ONLY
GOOD FOR PROVIDING MONEY FOR HER.

Much better to be seen as the male who would NEVER
settle down, who is "hard to get",who is a slick and a
COCKY "player" type-THAT is what triggers
ATTRACTION."

And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE. A lie that has
DESTROYED the future that millions of men could
have had with thewomen they have met so far.

The truth is that you will only be considereda "BETA"
male if you SEE YOURSELF AS A "BETA" MALE.

And the irony is that by following the pick up artist
advice that teaches you to learn to MASK your real
identity with a series of wierd tactics, pick-up lines,
cocky and arrogant personas, and all kinds of other
masks, it actually makes you feel that YOU yourself
are not good enough to meet and attract a woman.

It ERODES self-confidence because it forces you
to rely on something EXTERNAL. And then,
any positive reaction that a guy gets from a woman,
he then will think it was because of the TACTIC,
and not because of HIMSELF.

This sets him up for feeling massive pressure, including
when he and if he gets into a relationship with her-
he is always going to have to worry if she will catch
him being "weak" in his real identity.

And THIS type of fear is what makes a guy actually
show his fear unconsciously through his body language,
through his overall vibe. This is because it's very hard
to fake your body language, the subtle expressions on
your face, etc.

You'd have to be CIA trained to have even a REMOTE
chance of learning how to fake out your body language,
and it's not even neccessary to torture yourself like that-
when you can instead learn to unleash your NATURAL
charisma, by UNLEARNING all the crap not only from
those supposed "masters" but also all the other
messages you were bombarded with since childhood
that filled you with fear rather than empower you.

Unleashing the most pure and charismatic and
cool essence that is already in you, THIS is what
it's all about. Learning how to do THAT and how
to teach this to other guys is what I have spent
almost two decades on.

And like attracts like, once you learn how to do this,
you find yourself attracting the SAME kind of woman.

If a man has a self-concept of himself where he feels
he is BETA, then a guy will be viewed by woman as
a "BETA", even if he has a huge SIGN on his forehead
that says "WILL NEVER MARRY" or says
"WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".

If YOU think that you are SETTLING for someone, if
YOU think that you are only in a relationship because
you can't get better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc., THEN you are a
beta male.

But when you LOVE someone and they LOVE you back
and you both WANT to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some "dating guru" or
"pick up artist" told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you be a "beta" male.

Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN EXTERNAL source is
what makes one WEAK and BETA. And THAT is what
makes a woman feel REPULSED from a man and feel ZERO
attraction for him and not want to spend the NIGHT or even
one MINUTE with him, never mind her LIFE.

The irony again is that it's the pick up artist advice that
makes you weak and THAT is the kind of thing that attracts
the very WORST kind of women, who will like to TAKE
ADVANTAGE of that weakness and see what they can
take out of you.

And then we wonder why the pick up artists tell men to
"WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!" and "Watch out
for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"

Their advice creates weakness, which attracts the vulture type
women rather than the VIRTUOUS ones. A great woman will
simply leave you alone and not be interested, but a horrific
woman will GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick up
artist advice actually makes men WEAK.

What I mean is that having to learn pick-up lines, it makes
you think that the "magic" is in the pick-up line, and not in
YOU.

So it prevents you from learning that YOU can have the
power, not the LINE. If you just learn how to develop
your internal SELF for REAL.

THIS is what I am about, this is what I teach.

Your state of mind is what gives your voice and mannerisms
all the attributes that show you are a cool, fun, charismatic
guy.

Sure, if you ALSO have the literary skills of Shakespeare,
that will make you even more powerful, in COMBO with
all the right states of mind, but even the GREATEST LINE
ever is CRAPOLA if delivered with weak delivery.

And the very fact the guy is being trained to rely on lines
prevents him from reaching his potential and believing in
HIMSELF.

The other way it makes men weak is the general attitude
prevalent among the pick up artist community which is
that ALLLLLLLLLLLLL women are the same if they are
attractive, and that ALLLLLLLLLLL men unless they are
models have no hope of getting chicks unless they learn the
"pick up artist tactics" etc etc.

And whenever a guy who is a "natural" gets results, the
pick up artist guys have to keep on telling their clients
that the natural guy doesn't get CLOSE to the same results
as mr. pick up artist.

As if the real life James Bond types don't come close to
the guy who memorized a cheesy pick up line.

And of course, the only kind of women they DO get
with this stuff is the party girls, and the "dating guru"
and pick up experts know this, so they tell the guys
that party girls are the REAL prize girls, because they
have no "issues" they just like to have sex, they are
sooo much better than those "normal" girls with
"issues" that make them not want to sleep with
every guy on earth, those "normal" girls are
sooooooo "repressed" etc etc.

Finally, their advice makes guys weak because their
advice is never congruent. One day they are talking
about Eckhart Tolle and other fantastic people
who teach about inner development and inner
beauty (these pick up artists do this to mask the
fact that really they are NOT about this type of
thing at all) and the NEXT day they post how really
it's all about having the Hugh Hefner Playboy lifestyle.
(since this is what will really grab instant attention)

Confusion is weakness, as are inconsistency and
incongruency.

And when a woman senses incongruency in a man,
it's the number one way for her to know that something
is sketchy and shady and not right.

Hence, the destruction of trust, which destroys the
potential for any significant future connection or
relationship.

You have to know what you want and then make sure
that all your channels of personal power, from your
thoughts to your actions to your goals all MATCH UP.

That's the way to get a great woman as fast as possible
and keep things working well for as long as you want.

LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN, YOU HAVE TO
MAKE SURE TO LEARN X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"

This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must first respect
YOURSELF.

Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath your dignity,
and you will get RESPECT froma woman.

The IRONY, again, is that the things the pick up artists tell
you to do actually strip you of your dignity because THEY
worship women simply for a woman's looks- the OBSESSION
with havingto get QUANTITY rather than quality.

And it truly is an obsession, almost a cult.
They make you feel that if you want a relationship, then
you are somehow not being a "real" man. You are
a "provider" type, a "sissy" compared to being a
ROCKSTAR. Which is ironic again, because most
rock stars get married! Tommy Lee, Kid Rock,
Gene Simmons, and the list goes on and on.

As if having any type of emotional bond with a woman
was NOT natural. In fact, they create a truly "un-natural"
environment by FORCING men to ANNIHILATE their
emotions. Look, if a woman is not reciprocating at all,
then she is NOT the right woman, end of story.

Not all women are the same.
And if a guy only wants to be with a supermodel,
and he is not willing to work on his own looks at
all, and will only eat big macs and learn pick up
lines and expect a supermodel to slobber all over
him because he learned to negate her self-esteem,
he is going to find out that it doesn't WORK.

Anyway, the obsession with having to FAKE YOUR
IDENTITYwith all kinds of absurd tactics actually
makes you ASHAMED of who you are.

Rather, the key is LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE
IN WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Women want a man who has DIGNITY and will not SELL
his dignity for ANYTHING.

LIE NUMBER 3:
"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO THE "FRIENDS' ZONE",
YOU BETTER MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!

The reality is that this is NONSENSE. A great woman is not
NEEDY to get into bed with anyone, no matter WHO you are.

And if she DETECTS that you are trying to get her into bed
QUICK, she will only feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.

Now, of course, if you are with a woman who sleeps around with
tons of guys, it might beanother issue.

I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.
I don't even like the term "pick up" anymore, as
you pick up the trash.

Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pickup artists
NEVER give you a serious talk about things like STD's.

NO, of course not. It's just like the movies, and it's
NOT REAL LIFE.

But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about this stuff.
The REAL WORLD is not the DISNEY world of NO STDs
that the pick up artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.

They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE. Why would
you want to RUSH sleeping with a woman? There are
BILLIONS of women on this earth.

More than you could ever sleep with.
Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH spending time
with.

The IRONY again is that you can't lose this way, as even if
you WERE the type of guy that didn't care about quality,
you could always get to know a lot of women this way and
not rush, and THEN have a HUNDRED women at your
fingertips if you so wanted.

AND those women would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and not feeling needy to
get them into bed-it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!

LIE NUMBER 4:
"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS FOR LOSERS WHILE
ALL WOMEN SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEING
WITH A COCKY, ARROGANT, HARD-TO-GET TYPE"

This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY UNTRUE,
and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties of the entire
dating guru and pick up CULTURE that I would need
to devote an entire BOOKto explain how HORRIFIC
THIS ADVICE IS, and how totally false it is.

It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not attractive, it's
when you are being EXTRA NICE to a woman who has done
NOTHING to earn that treatment from you.

Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?

Of course you do, and they do for you.
And that's a COOL thing.

Same thing with a woman- if she's good to you, then if you
are NOT good to her, THEN you will be considered an
INSECURE LOSER.

And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about players that
are so scared to really be good to a woman and so scared to
DROP the "masks"they wear in the form of fake memorized
lines, and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to NEGATE
her self-esteem. (notice the word ATTEMPT in capitals,
because it's doesn't work. A great woman will just ignore it or
CHEW the guy up and spit him out for even trying)

LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT HER PROBLEMS EVER--
OR YOU WILL BE SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"

The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her about
her things, stuff that she is going through,you will
DUMPED fast and rightly so for not giving a rat's ass
about her.

The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a woman is
always talking about her problems to you and is not
BALANCING that with also having FUN with you and is
not willing and happy to listen to YOUR stuff too.

The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you should not be a
cry-baby but you DEFINITELYare not considered weak
for having emotions and for expressing them- this kind of
bullshit lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating gurus
probably gives more men heart attacks from stress than
anything else.

If you can't confide at all in the woman you are with, what
the HELL is the point of being with her?

And if a woman feels she can't ever confide in you about
emotional stuff, she will simply GET THAT CONNECTION
from someone ELSE.

And again, THIS is why these "experts" often talk unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken party girls
and THEN they wonder why theyare getting less than CREAM
OF THE CROP inner qualities in the women they meet!

The truth is that the stuff that these guys"teach" you will
PUSH AWAY the RARE and BEST kind of women and will
attract the very WORST type of woman.

LIE NUMBER 6:
"YOU CAN ONLY MEASURE YOUR REAL SKILL
IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK UP A WOMAN IN
A CLUB"

Another massive lie. The reality is that meeting a woman
in a club is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached.

The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a great woman
with high standards who is not drunk and who is not
looking to just play around, who is looking for something
meaningful, and CONNECT with such a woman on a DEEP
level, and then to easily and naturally KEEP THIS UP so
that three weeks later she is just as into you and three
months later as well, etc.

So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if you want to,
and if you want practice TALKING to women, you'll find
a LOT of women in clubs,but if you are looking to meet a
GREAT woman where you will have to also form a great
connection, clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.

LIE NUMBER 7:
"MAKE SURE TO NEVER SPEAK ABOUT ANYTHING
MEANINGFUL OR SERIOUS WITH WOMEN"

This is good advice for meeting a bimbo, and that's cool
it's just NOT the advice for meeting a QUALITY woman.

If you are looking to attract a SUPERFICIAL woman who
is only interested in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.

But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's CRUCIAL to
connect on a greater level!

She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see if you can do this.

The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes AS WELL, so that
a woman can see that you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be about one channel!

To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being able to meet,
attract, and keep a great woman, I am reminded of something
YODA told Luke Skywalker in "The Empire Strikes Back":
"Unlearn, young one, unlearn".

You see, getting a great woman is not about learning HYPNOSIS
or pick up LINES, or learning TACTICS, but rather to UNLEARN.

To get "DE-hypnotized" as opposed to hypnotized.

Underneath all the layers and layers of BADPROGRAMMING you
have received from all kinds of external sources, including the
horrific advice from the supposed "experts", you actually are
more CHARISMATIC than you can possibly imagine right now.

Everything about you from your body language to the intonations
in your vocal tone to your sense of humor will ATTRACT, and there
will be NO EFFORT required to do it at all, it will all flow naturally.

The road to mastery is the road of UNLEARNING.

And if you want to get there as fast as possible, go to:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/

Till next time...

Michael Marks