Have you ever wondered why so many
women who are stunning and absolute
“knockouts” are with guys that don’t
seem “nice” to women?
It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.
And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.
It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING HER a lot more
than most guys.
In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.
So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?
It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.
And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!
You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!
What do I mean by “abundance?”
What I mean is this:
YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL
This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.
And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?
All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.
It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.
And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.
Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!
It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.
To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.
So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:
“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”
This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:
“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.
The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman, that’s not the problem,
it’s that this NICE BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.
Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.
There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem, there is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.
Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at ‘full tank’.
And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’. In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up.
He just has a desire to PLAY.
When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman.
Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.
And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:
It's CLEAR to a woman that it's
coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place
of needing to control her or
take from her.
THAT'S why she melts for such
a man.
Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.
And she's not "scared into submission"
by the malicious teasing or "hard to get"
obnoxious games/behavior of many men.
She's WAY too confident to be fooled
by that kind of behavior, and she
doesn't see the obnoxious behavior
as a sign of value or of guts, but
rather as a sign of over-compensation
and insecurity.
What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.
The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.
On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”
In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.
This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.
Let me give you an example:
If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!
That means when you see a woman that
strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I make sure that I WIN?”
but rather “LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”
By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting physical and intimate with
a woman. ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED
AS PART OF THE PROCESS AND FUN.
This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not so focused
on how to make sure you don't 'lose'.
Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.
These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful, feeling aroused,
feeling empowered, masculine,
and dominant.
Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and
playing games on women.
However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.
It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.
I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:
I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.
His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.
He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school, “Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?”
I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.
Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!
This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.
His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.
He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.
He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!
On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.
However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE and the fact that he was
ASLO a genuinely GOOD GUY, who actually
CARED about people.
THIS combo of 'abundance', mixed with being
genuinely caring, is a CRUCIAL KEY to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.
It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant, AND to be GENIUNELY
giving from an emotional place.
There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.
It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.
In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.
Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp.
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:
Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.
Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!
It is true that women have “issues”
in some areas of their lives, such
as their perception of their own bodies.
And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN ARE SOMEHOW
LESS CONFIDENT.
Men tend to think that because of those
issues, that women have LESS confidence
than men, and this results in men being
NAMBY PAMBY AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.
Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.
They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.
Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!
You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED.
You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.
I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.
But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.
When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you
don’t NEED her, and that you are only
interacting with her because you ENJOY
it.
She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you
NEED her too much.
The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.
I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your “game” developed to
the MAX is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL for getting
the kind of women that most men will NEVER
have.
And if you want to meet and attract a
FANTASTIC woman, and have more choice than
most men will EVER have in getting the
kind of woman YOU want, then I suggest you
go HERE immediately:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
This program is ESPECIALLY for men who are looking
to find and keep a fantastic woman to be their
girlfriend for a long term relationship.
Now, if you're just getting 'back into the scene'
of dating, or if you are just STARTING out when it
comes to dating, then you should get experience
dating several DIFFERENT women BEFORE getting
into a long term relationship- and for the best
program on getting this experience with women,
I suggest you get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program is all about mastering ATTRACTION
so that you have CHOICE with women.
To find out about ALL my programs for skyrocketing
your success with women, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
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Vibes Of Abundance & Attracting A Knockout
Have you ever wondered why so many
women who are stunning and absolute
“knockouts” are with guys that don’t
seem “nice” to women?
It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.
And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.
It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING HER a lot more
than most guys.
In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.
So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?
It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.
And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!
You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!
What do I mean by “abundance?”
What I mean is this:
YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL
This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.
And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?
All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.
It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.
And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.
Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!
It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.
To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.
So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:
“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”
This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:
“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.
The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman, that’s not the problem,
it’s that this NICE BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.
Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.
There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem, there is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.
Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at ‘full tank’.
And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’. In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up.
He just has a desire to PLAY.
When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman.
Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.
And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:
It's CLEAR to a woman that it's
coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place
of needing to control her or
take from her.
THAT'S why she melts for such
a man.
Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.
And she's not "scared into submission"
by the malicious teasing or "hard to get"
obnoxious games/behavior of many men.
She's WAY too confident to be fooled
by that kind of behavior, and she
doesn't see the obnoxious behavior
as a sign of value or of guts, but
rather as a sign of over-compensation
and insecurity.
What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.
The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.
On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”
In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.
This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.
Let me give you an example:
If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!
That means when you see a woman that
strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I make sure that I WIN?”
but rather “LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”
By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting physical and intimate with
a woman. ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED
AS PART OF THE PROCESS AND FUN.
This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not so focused
on how to make sure you don't 'lose'.
Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.
These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful, feeling aroused,
feeling empowered, masculine,
and dominant.
Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and
playing games on women.
However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.
It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.
I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:
I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.
His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.
He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school, “Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?”
I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.
Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!
This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.
His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.
He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.
He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!
On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.
However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE and the fact that he was
ASLO a genuinely GOOD GUY, who actually
CARED about people.
THIS combo of 'abundance', mixed with being
genuinely caring, is a CRUCIAL KEY to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.
It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant, AND to be GENIUNELY
giving from an emotional place.
There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.
It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.
In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.
Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp.
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:
Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.
Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!
It is true that women have “issues”
in some areas of their lives, such
as their perception of their own bodies.
And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN ARE SOMEHOW
LESS CONFIDENT.
Men tend to think that because of those
issues, that women have LESS confidence
than men, and this results in men being
NAMBY PAMBY AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.
Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.
They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.
Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!
You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED.
You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.
I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.
But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.
When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you
don’t NEED her, and that you are only
interacting with her because you ENJOY
it.
She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you
NEED her too much.
The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.
I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your “game” developed to
the MAX is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL for getting
the kind of women that most men will NEVER
have.
And if you want to meet and attract a
FANTASTIC woman, and have more choice than
most men will EVER have in getting the
kind of woman YOU want, then I suggest you
go HERE immediately:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior
This program is ESPECIALLY for men who are looking
to find and keep a fantastic woman to be their
girlfriend for a long-term relationship.
Now, if you're just getting 'back into the scene'
of dating, or if you are just STARTING out when it
comes to dating, then you should get experience
dating several DIFFERENT women BEFORE getting
into a long term relationship- and for the best program
on getting this experience with women, I suggest you
get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program is all about mastering ATTRACTION
so that you have CHOICE with women.
Till next time, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
women who are stunning and absolute
“knockouts” are with guys that don’t
seem “nice” to women?
It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.
And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.
It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING HER a lot more
than most guys.
In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.
So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?
It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.
And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!
You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!
What do I mean by “abundance?”
What I mean is this:
YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL
This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.
And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?
All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.
It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.
And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.
Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!
It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.
To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.
So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:
“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”
This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:
“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.
The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman, that’s not the problem,
it’s that this NICE BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.
Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.
There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem, there is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.
Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at ‘full tank’.
And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’. In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up.
He just has a desire to PLAY.
When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman.
Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.
And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:
It's CLEAR to a woman that it's
coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place
of needing to control her or
take from her.
THAT'S why she melts for such
a man.
Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.
And she's not "scared into submission"
by the malicious teasing or "hard to get"
obnoxious games/behavior of many men.
She's WAY too confident to be fooled
by that kind of behavior, and she
doesn't see the obnoxious behavior
as a sign of value or of guts, but
rather as a sign of over-compensation
and insecurity.
What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.
The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.
On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”
In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.
This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.
Let me give you an example:
If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!
That means when you see a woman that
strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I make sure that I WIN?”
but rather “LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”
By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting physical and intimate with
a woman. ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED
AS PART OF THE PROCESS AND FUN.
This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not so focused
on how to make sure you don't 'lose'.
Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.
These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful, feeling aroused,
feeling empowered, masculine,
and dominant.
Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and
playing games on women.
However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.
It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.
I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:
I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.
His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.
He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school, “Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?”
I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.
Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!
This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.
His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.
He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.
He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!
On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.
However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE and the fact that he was
ASLO a genuinely GOOD GUY, who actually
CARED about people.
THIS combo of 'abundance', mixed with being
genuinely caring, is a CRUCIAL KEY to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.
It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant, AND to be GENIUNELY
giving from an emotional place.
There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.
It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.
In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.
Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp.
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:
Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.
Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!
It is true that women have “issues”
in some areas of their lives, such
as their perception of their own bodies.
And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN ARE SOMEHOW
LESS CONFIDENT.
Men tend to think that because of those
issues, that women have LESS confidence
than men, and this results in men being
NAMBY PAMBY AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.
Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.
They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.
Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!
You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED.
You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.
I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.
But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.
When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you
don’t NEED her, and that you are only
interacting with her because you ENJOY
it.
She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you
NEED her too much.
The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.
I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your “game” developed to
the MAX is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL for getting
the kind of women that most men will NEVER
have.
And if you want to meet and attract a
FANTASTIC woman, and have more choice than
most men will EVER have in getting the
kind of woman YOU want, then I suggest you
go HERE immediately:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior
This program is ESPECIALLY for men who are looking
to find and keep a fantastic woman to be their
girlfriend for a long-term relationship.
Now, if you're just getting 'back into the scene'
of dating, or if you are just STARTING out when it
comes to dating, then you should get experience
dating several DIFFERENT women BEFORE getting
into a long term relationship- and for the best program
on getting this experience with women, I suggest you
get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program is all about mastering ATTRACTION
so that you have CHOICE with women.
Till next time, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Creating The Vibe And Passing The Tests
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey Michael,
You know how when a pebble hits the water,
ripples wave out? Well, my story is a bunch
of ripples, the ripple effect if you will.
It's been a few months since I completed the
Real World Bootcamp with you, and I wanted
to let you know how things are going, feel free
to use this for your newsletter if you think
other guys can benefit from it.
I'm gonna be honest with you. I read
your site, last year, and figured, this
guy is funny. He goes out and teaches
guys how to get the chicks. I mean,
it sounds funny, you have to admit.
Every guy wants a girl, and the idea
of simply going to a guy to solve
this problem forever seems almost
like a fantasy. It seems too good
to be true.
Then I read your newsletters, and it
kinda made sense to me, on a logical
level, and even on an emotional level,
to a degree. Still, though, I was skeptical.
But I believed there had to be something
to what you were saying, since it made
so much sense. You have a way of
explaining things that simply is
remarkable.
Ripple ripple ripple.
So, at first, I just stuck to your
awesome free newsletters for a while.
It's amazing how for some reason, I
thought I would gain more by just
getting your free stuff. I used to
be proud of, it was part of my identity,
I thought it was "cool" and "funny",
and "alpha", but I realize now that
the way I was doing it anyway, it was
not cool because I was coming from
the "taker" perspective.
It was the opposite of what you so clearly
showed in Bootcamp, where I saw how you
were giving women awesome emotions in a
natural way that wasn't about needing
anything in return. Kind of like what
you were talking about with that woman
in that video recently.
And the effect that had on the women,
how they become giggly, happy, alive,
etc.
And I realized how ultimately, attraction is
really about what you are ***giving***,
but most guys probably will never learn
this.
And, that not only does the "taking" attitude
repel others but it sends the wrong message
back to my own mind that I have to resort
to being creepy to get any value out of life,
which is pathetic. I have changed this area
of my life, I actually find I have more energy
in me with this attitude of emotional abundance,
in fact the neediness is our own illusion that
we create.
But for then, I just read your awesome free
newsletters for a while.
I didn't really "get" it totally, but I started
to slowly at least go through the motions.
I started to change what I wanted
from girls.
It wasn't that I changed internally so fast,
but my goal, from reading your newsletters,
had become "pumping up the vibe"
with chicks rather than on trying to get
them to mother me, give me compliments,
give me love, give me ***anything***.
I focused on leading the show with a
capital "L", leading the interaction, even
if I did not feel much "love" coming from
the chicks. When I say "love" I mean
that old fashioned kind of feeling of
the chick being really "nice".
That "love stuff" was what the old me
wanted, before even proceeding with
a girl at all. I wanted confirmation
up front. I wanted guarantees.
I wanted security. I wanted to
avoid all potential pain.
It would have made me feel "safe"
emotionally. That's what I used to
want, but I stopped focusing on that,
because clearly you suggested that
taking that path was all wrong and
that instead we must become stronger
versions of ourselves that lead the
whole show with a woman.
Anyway, I started to get some results. Met
one girl, did as you say, and got her through
the phases, and after we did get physical,
she DID start to warm up, it was as if she
was hiding her full personality before.
I ended up though reverting to my old self,
because I refused to believe in what you
wrote. I felt that I had kinda lucked out
on a great girl, and that it was not really
your stuff that helped me.
In fact, I felt like a bit of an a-hole
because she complained about some of
it. And she became super meltingly
warm while convincing me that she wanted
me to be "nicer". And I felt guilty, so I
did, and for a brief moment, (literally,
like hours only) she was this "mothering"
kind of love, she was sweet, loving,
telling me how much she loved me,
blah blah blah.
And then almost immediately after,
she started becoming colder to me.
Like the very next day.
Ripple ripple ripple.
For a second, I remembered some
of your advice, but my heart told
me no, don't do that. So I gave
in, and tried harder to give her
more of what she said she wanted.
But the problem got worse.
Well, we had some huge fights as I
got angry, and it was pretty much
over.
It hurt, but I'm not going to waste your
time with a story I'm sure you've heard
and experienced a lot.
So after I finally got myself together again,
I figured, time to get your eBook.
Man, so clearly written, so easy to understand,
yet such a wonderful and MASSIVE paradigm
shift. It's like going back to the 60s in a way,
like Austin Powers almost, but in a real way:
Having an abundance of security, dominance,
fun, and even "love" but never ever turning
yourself into a woman by playing her game.
And training your mind to adapt
to this reality.
And man, you were right. Women
absolutely **will** test you.
Not to be cruel, not to be mean.
But to see if you are made of
"strong manly stuff".
The soft lovey stuff they do is sometimes nothing
but a test. I didn't want to believe you,
it's scary, because these super sweet
women, they will give you the "look"
of softness lovey dovey etc., they will
give you sex and be all warm over you
and be all loving, and you just want to
lose yourself totally in the haze of "p***y
heaven" to be blunt.
But I was smarter this time around,
I didn't give up my masculinity, emotional
frame, etc. Yes, I totally got the vibe down
of teasing coming from a frame of superiority,
and yes it **is** superiority, thank you for not
mincing words. And thank you also for
explaining that true superiority is never cruel.
How about sharing this with readers:
If women were **not** attracted to
superiority, if women were only so
warm and fuzzy, then why do they
test so ruthlessly?
Okay, so the Dating Wizard eBook helped
me to actually get results consistently,
but it was hard for me to like women
at all, as I basically saw the whole
thing as "stimulus and response"
and felt like all these chicks were
robots who simply responded when
I put in the right recipe of behavior
and gave me nothing when I veered
off course.
This would piss me off and I would
usually end up showing it and ruining
everything.
Ripple ripple ripple.
So then I figured your Bootcamp sounded
like it was fun. Intense, but fun. The way
you described things, and some of the
stuff that happened on bootcamp that
was in your newsletters, well I wanted
to be that way, I wanted to enjoy this
whole thing, enjoy the process, and not
feel like women are only these robots.
Eventually I made the call to you.
Signed up and came out to the next
available bootcamp a few weekends
later:
One of the most important things I
experienced and internalized from
the bootcamp is that the "testing"
that women do is to be treated as
something good! It's a sign of
progress. The old version of myself
looked at it as a sign of will vs. will
and a confrontation before, but now
from actually experiencing it over
and over and over again in bootcamp,
and watching you, and then seeing
it happen again and again recently,
I realize that you were not acting,
that you truly ***were*** more
relaxed when chicks started doing
this stuff to you, and it finally sunk
in that this testing stuff has so many
purposes, including:
1. It's to make you go away, so they
can feel they did their job to not
be a "slut".
2. They do it to see if you can handle
them, because most guys are so insecure
around a woman who is hot, that the
guys are horrible to be around for all
kinds of reasons, i.e. he will call her
ten times a day, he will try to tell
her what to do, he will ask for her
approval for ridiculous things instead
of being the dominant masculine one,
etc.
3. And another thing that I learned on
bootcamp, from meeting so many girls,
is that some of these girls, as they revealed
to me later, they act like b*****s because
they have had bad experiences with other
guys who were "imposters" cool but who
also tore their heart apart, or dumped them,
etc., or some of them had just been through
a breakup and were getting out their anger,
etc.
But the fact of the matter is that it's still
only this type of "awesome vibes guy"
that actually attracts a girl like her in
the first place.
She knows that you have the power to
create attraction in her, and it kinda
makes her alert to the dangers of actually
falling for you, and she immediately
shows her angry/scared feelings.
And if you were not the kind of guy that
actually sparks this chemistry in her,
then she wouldn't do anything to you,
she'd just move on and dismiss you.
Of course, not all this is great behavior on
her part, but the fact is, the chick is not
necessarily like this all the time, she is
just in a bad mood at that moment, and if
you can let this stuff slide off your back
and actually **enhance** the good vibes,
while keeping the frame of your dominance
and superiority, her armor will often break
down for you and she will fall for you hard.
This truly is the real world, and I thank you
for opening my eyes to it.
Of course, there's a ton more I learned
from you in person, but even had I just
come and learned that, it would have
been worth it still, in fact worth ten
times time the price. It's simple-
there is simply no "bad" reaction
a woman can give a guy, if the guy
knows how to turn it around in his
favor. And so many many many
times, he can. I know I have.
This stuff changes the way I feel about
women. It makes me understand them
rather than view them as the opposition.
And that understanding shows me more
than ever that women want men who
are strong emotionally.
It's really important that guys are not
looking for someone to be their mom
when they are looking for women.
Yes, kindness is key, but don't expect
a woman to share her warmth with
you if she feels you are not a man
who can handle her.
So that sunk in to me.
Ripple ripple ripple.
And then after taking your Bootcamp,
I figured that being a cheapskate and
wanting something for nothing was
the dumbest thing I ever did, and even
when I did "get" I actually ended up
losing far more, because that attitude
of something for nothing sends the
message back to myself that I have
nothing to give and that I can only
get by screwing other people over,
which is horrifying for inner game.
So when your latest programs came out,
I didn't wait.
Having your latest home study programs available
relatively quickly (a month) after the bootcamp
was a lucky stroke for me, because there
was so much going on at bootcamp, that
even months after, there are still things
that I'm thinking about from back then,
things I'm still learning from: And
the programs prevent me from forgetting
anything that I learned and also has
even given me some new insights
into elevating my game as well -
even putting things from the bootcamp
into new perspectives.
I know this was a long letter, but hopefully
helps guys, especially the testing stuff.
Guys, believe me, handling tests from
women properly is probably the most
serious skill you can learn in this game.
Once you're past that, you're pretty much
if you don't do anything stupid and if
you can physically escalate and not
chicken out.
I guess what you teach isn't "funny" after
all. When it's fake, it's funny, when it's real,
it's awesome.
So thanks for the awesome experience.
Later,
Nathan L.
Kentucky
***MY REPLY***
Ahhh, the tests, the tests, yes.
First of all, thanks for that heartfelt,
honest letter and for the props as well.
Your letter also really hits home on
that super-important topic.
In a way, yes, handling tests is the most
important skill. I also want to say right
HERE that not ALL women test consciously,
and also men test as well, and most men aren't
aware of it.
ANOTHER thing I want to say is that
there are actually a lot of tests
that women do to see if you are a
JERK or not. Contrary to popular
belief, the tests are not all about
to see if you are only confident,
but also to see if you are two-faced,
genuine, etc.
You see, a lot of guys act "nice" until
they don't get what they want, and then
become total sleazebags in the blink of
an eye. In a way, this is not nice at
all of the guy, it was all just neediness.
REAL niceness is a very sexy thing, but
there are almost no GENUINE nice guys,
there are the rather needy clingy guys
and then there are emotionally empty
cold jerks. There are very few guys
who really have the complete spectrum.
For any guys who don't believe that
you can be a good guy and MOP UP THE
supposed "COMPETITION" of JERKS and
get the best, most sought after women
out there, and get them on fire for
you, allow me to prove it to you
in person through Bootcamp or my
upcoming Seminar.
ALSO, I want to say that the best way to pass
tests is to be of such stellar sexy character
that you don't even have to THINK about
what to do, you simply just do what comes
naturally, but this takes a certain amount of
DEVELOPMENT before you can be at this level.
Now, although learning to be playful, funny,
dominant, and learning how to dress right is
crucial as well, and actually is often a part of
getting through the tests, the fact is that this
area is where most guys stumble. Again, many
times it's not that the woman is consciously
testing, but that she is simply on a more secure
frame of reality (at least in this particular element
of her life called dating) than most guys are,
and when the guy encounters her reality, he
can't handle it, he sees it all through jaded
insecure perspectives that result in very
negative, insecure, and unattractive behaviors.
A lot of guys can get a little momentum,
perhaps even a number, (if it's real), but
when you successfully deal with the hardcore
"tests", or "women's realities" well then
what happens is that it's also almost as if
a girl can tell that other girls have "endorsed you",
since your ability to pass a test is proof itself of
your value. In other words, your secure behavior
is a sign that you already could easily have all
the women you could ever ask for, or perhaps
even better, the BEST quality woman that any
man can ask for.
That's how you actually end up in bed with her.
If you can't pass the "test" with her, she figures
you probably haven't passed the "test" with
any other girl either, and that you're probably
a bad choice.
This is especially with women who are
stereotypically "hot".
Most women will test, but for SURE a
hottie will. She's subconsciously learned
to create these tests as a way to control
the incessant flow of guys, OR what she
is doing is simply behaving in a way that
you would also behave if you were as secure,
but since most guys do not have the same
validation being given to them, they see
the worst possible interpretation of things
when they are interacting with women.
If you are dealing with a woman who
is hot, on a cold pickup, she will test
you. It's as simple as that. Whether
it's a nice soft test or hard-core
test, intentional or not, she WILL
do things that will TEST your sense
of security. Sometimes right off the
bat, sometimes later in the game.
And often, you can't blame her for what
she is doing, as long as she is not being
nasty or disrespectful. (There's never an
excuse for that, that's just a b***ch.)
This is the most CHALLENGING time
to control your own emotions. It's as
if NASA is putting the prototype of
some SUPER COMPLEX MACHINERY
into the big daddy of all wind tunnels and
the wind tunnel is now going to BLAST it
with THOUSANDS OF TONS OF
HORRIFIC WIND PRESSURE, from
EVERY ANGLE.
That machinery is your MIND, your EMOTIONS.
Those blasts are her TESTS.
Any insecurity you have may be HIT,
and it may be HIT HARD. It might
get SLAMMED.
Can you TAKE IT????
And not only can you TAKE IT, but
can you STAY IN YOUR GREAT
FRAME????
Can you have fun with it?
Can you KEEP UP THE DESIRE?
Or do you feel "ahh forget this" and
WUSS out?
Can you STILL be playful?
And if she DOES go too far, can you
call her on her sh** in a way that clearly
shows she is socially retarded and that
you are still cool as a cucumber and
in fact still feeling good and playful
and that you could easily switch
to another girl not out of bitterness
but because your belief in your own
value is still intact?
Yes, it's very important stuff, this.
And if you COME OUT of the wind
tunnel, or her tests, and you are intact,
her attraction will skyrocket and you can
then just lead her easily, since she ALREADY
has been FUELED now, she just needs
you to guide the rest of the show, she
now has become a very willing participant.
Thanks, and there's a ton of other great stuff
in your letter, I'll let it speak for itself.
***LETTER/QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hey man,
I have read quite a few of your articles.
They are realizations about women and
people that I began to develop in the past
year. My question for you: It seems like
the process that you promote is borderline
manipulative. This attitude of "superiority"
and being comfortable with your "self" is
completely antithetic to everything
about our terrestrial society.
In other words, if you always have to
think and be aware of everything, then
is it possible to truly meet your true love.
Or is it this attitude that allows for true
love to materialize?
Please address my question on manipulation.
Thanks,
T.Y.
Pompano Beach
***MY REPLY***
Hey man,
I always love a letter that has the word
terrestrial in it.
Okay, here's the deal, there IS a huge
amount of MANIPULATION involved
in this! There's a huge amount of
CONTROL involved in getting the
girls who are super fine-ass hot things.
Muuhaaaaaa!
Can you hear my evil laughter?
The only thing is, this CONTROL
stuff, is about learning to CONTROL
YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NOT about controlling the chick!!!!!
It's the opposite of "evil".
When you can conquer your OWN
emotions, you can get just about
any awesome chick you want.
For example, CONTROLLING THE FRAME
and being DOMINANT, well you can't do
this if you are TAKING.
And the reality is that this "controlling the frame"
is really more of a concept that you must use
as a beginner to intermediate. At the advanced
level, honestly, you actually FEEL that there
IS NO BATTLE, because the truth is, there
ISN'T. But for most guys, it's impossible
to truly jump to this level on instinct, because
undoing YEARS AND YEARS of brainwashing
and insecurities cannot be undone in one second.
So, at first, it DOES seem like a battle of
controlling the frame, and it IS a battle,
a battle that you must confront in yourself,
because at first you keep on seeing and feeling
yourself as UNWORTHY, as UNABLE, as
in an inferior position of power.
You think chicks are stupid?
You can only be SUPERIOR if you are
GIVING her superior feelings, if SHE is
feeling AWESOME and SEXY and CHALLENGED
in a FUN and NOT malicious way .
Giving from the standpoint of VIBES.
And, and this is the BIG "and", when
you learn to CONTROL your own
emotions instead of being controlled
by FEAR, by SOCIETY, by women's
tests, and by anything ELSE, you
are then TRULY LIBERATED as
well. You are only THEN truly
free.
It's...completely antithetical to being
manipulative! In fact, you no longer
have to even do much to control yourself
after a while, because it becomes quite
natural to be feeling the right states
after you finally get used to tossing away
all your dependencies on society's approval,
women's approval, etc.
You learn to not NEED those approvals,
which makes you far more able to GIVE OFF
awesome emotions to women and actually
anyone. So you don't NEED TO TAKE i.e.
you don't need them to give you anything.
Nope, YOU'RE the big giver, because
you are giving off great vibe without
needing some kind of contract from
them saying "I will give you good vibes
only if you in return give me your female
approval first. In fact, I NEED you to
give your approval first, in order for me
to feel like a man, to feel dignity, because
right now I feel like I am NOT a man,
not worthy, not desirable."
When you experience this for real, you see
that you are MAKING a woman's DAY
when you grow and develop these skills.
And you make her nights, too ;)
YES, this IS about superiority.
You are DEVELOPING YOURSELF, you
are making yourself BETTER in a way that
COUNTS to a woman. You are the SUPERIOR
value, plain and simple.
Does anyone actually think a woman wants
the INFERIOR VALUE??????
It takes WORK to be giving off superior
vibes. It takes growing as a person. Dare
I say it, it takes SKILLS.
It's far EASIER to be the inferior, approval
seeking, thumb-sucking, needy baby that
it sometimes seems our society wants men
to be.
And it's not about "faking it" because the
bottom line is making woman FEEL it.
If a woman is FEELING it from you, it's
REAL.
Ultimately, this stuff is not even about the
CHICK, it's about who you BECOME.
And regarding this true love stuff, the truth
is that all this true love business is coming
at attraction totally from the wrong angle:
When most guys say "true love" they usually
mean something along the lines of a woman
who is going to be their mom or something.
We get these crazy ideas of what a girl is
supposed to be, this true love concept seems
to imply that she is going to be truly madly
deeply genuinely blah blah blah blah just
because we exist, just because we "need"
it. But that "needing" is actually the barrier
to "getting" it. We don't "need" it in
that desperate negative way.
A chick is not your mom.
Just like you are not her dad.
Her daddy, maybe, but not her dad. ;)
And the irony of course is that when
you DO become the kind of guy that
has developed these skills, these internal
dimensions of himself, you DO tend
to get these "true love" behaviors from
a girl. This true love stuff though is really
her TRULY LOVING the warmth and
power she is feeling emanating from
you.
That's what it really is.
So when you are "attractive" in the sense
of all the things that learn from my materials
and programs, you then get the "loving
behavior" from chicks.
Do you know that when you go for a chick
who you feel is NOT attractive to you, that
THAT is the real manipulation? Yes, it
is, because what you are saying is that you
feel you don't have the value, so instead
you are going to try to get a freebie from
a chick who has no choice since she is
low value and inferior to you or at most
equal. (That's the message you are indirectly
giving her through all the subtleties in
your communication.)
"Hey chick, I'm not desirable, but then again
neither are you, so maybe you'll hang out
with me".
That doesn't sound nice and genuine and
giving to me.
You can't give when you have nothing
to give. Or when you feel that you have
nothing to give.
Teasing, for example, is not about making
her feel BAD, it's about making her feel
GOOD that she is with a guy who GETS
it. Who is confident enough in his value
and her value, who also knows how to
make things fun, to create the right amount
of sexual tension that can later be released
and thus more appreciated.
i.e. If I see a woman cleaning her car
frantically from the snow on it, and I
tease her that she missed a spot and
give her a hard time about it, she
GETS it that I am not there to TAKE
from her, not there to NEED from her,
but rather just there for the VIBE.
I'm giving off good vibes, and the very
FACT that I approached her says that
I'm giving, otherwise why the heck did
I approach her??????? Because I really
felt she missed a spot???????????????
Because I'm trying to make her feel
BAD???????
I'm not saying to base your choice of women
on society's magazines, I'm saying rather
to go for women you LIKE.
I've always gone for women I actually
LIKE, and I feel great about giving them
some "quality time" with me. It's a
two way giving street, and it's awesome
for all involved.
When you feel low value and go for women
you don't like, they feel the low value as
well, and that makes them feel worse, and
they've probably had that from a million
other guys with the same negative vibe,
it's no wonder so many chicks who are
not attractive on the outside are so miserable
on the inside as well.
In fact, I'm willing to bet that part of what
makes them not APPEAR as hot is the fact
they ACT so low self-esteem and miserable,
which translates into the way they behave, dress,
etc. And of course, low self-esteem people
feel the need to ruin OTHER'S self-esteem
as well, so often these chicks that you
thought you were "settling" for are actually
going to DESTROY your self-esteem
if you stay with them.
Don't get me wrong, not every girl who
is physically hot is high self esteem, not
at all. I'm just saying not to go for a girl
you feel is not attractive, because you
are then in very subtle but powerful way
communicating all the wrong things
about yourself, and communicating all
the worst messages to her, it's an insult
to both of you really.
This brings me to HUGE point:
Do you know what the highest sign of
SUPERIOR status is?
It's not needing ANY status.
Remember, the only point to any of this
"value" stuff is the value it gives
EMOTIONALLY.
Everything I talk about is from the perspective
of FEELING that emotion called attraction
and other awesome emotions.
When YOU feel no need for having to have
STATUS, etc, then you create a world where
a woman can ALSO drop the need for status.
You see, the biggest thing that holds us all
back from feeling amazing and from feeling
as sexual as possible is brainwashing thoughts
of being not good enough in some way for
society. Almost everyone suffers from this,
including even the most beautiful of women.
But, people are social creatures.
They are affected by their human environment.
This is why people who are in a good mood
want to go to a party, and stay there, and
stay away from negative people, because they
know that the mere PRESENCE of party-pooopers
will AFFECT their own emotions as well, and
ruin things.
For some reason, girls who are hot know all
this intuitively. When you go into a group
of girls, and start the chat and the vibe,
the worst thing you can do is TRY too
hard, especially any kind of SHOWING
OFF.
It's not just that you seem like an a-hole,
but it also ruins the vibe of FEELING
GREAT, because you are saying that
THESE KINDS OF THINGS LIKE
HAVING STATUS MATTER!!!
And that RUINS the vibe, because the truth
is NO ONE enjoys that concept, not even
Bill Gates, not even the biggest movie star,
not even the hottest supermodel. It's a
sucky idea. The idea of being a slave to
someone else's concept of value.
When people finally feel good for a moment,
and are free of that, the LAST thing they
want is some DUMBASS LOSER DORK
who goes in and BREAKS the vibe by
being an INSECURE person.
So you see, insecurity can be a very SELFISH
thing. It RUINS THE GOOD VIBES.
Listen, the greatest sexual chemistry you
can feel happens when you feel you are
FREE of all that validation stuff, when
you FEEL as if you ALREADY ARE
validated internally. So that you don't
CARE about validation. You feel good,
and that's it, you don't need a "reason
of validation" for it.
CHICKS "get" this, especially the hot ones.
This is why so often the guys who are great
with women are not obsessed only with
LOOKS. Sure, we love women who are
hot, but we tend to also love women who
may not fall exactly into the category of
magazine hot, because we are way more
FREEE from the need for validation, so
our choices are based on how we feel,
and that's it. We trust ourselves, we
don't need society's approval to find
out if a girl is attractive to us or not.
And girls sense this, they LOVE it,
because we are our own men, we
are not slaves to the grind. And, it's
more....VALIDATING even to the
HOT ones, to see that they got our
interest because they know that being
hot is not enough for us, it's just a
good start.
When a woman feels free of the need for
herself to be validated, this actually frees
her to unleash her sexuality.
But you can't expect a woman to not need
all this validation stuff unless YOU YOURSELF
don't need it either. If YOU clearly don't
need it, you make HER feel comfortable
about not needing it either, thereby putting
her in a DELIRIOUSLY awesome state that allows
her SEX DRIVE to HIT THE ROOF. With YOU.
And if you STILL feel like a slave to the
validation grind, then at least take the
following frame until you get beyond
this stuff- the following frame was
something I took on early on, about ten
years ago, before I got this all
sorted out completely, but it was still
a big jump in the right direction:
THE MAN MAKES THE WOMAN.
I remember the FIRST TIME I told a
chick this, years ago, when I first
started to internalize a lot of the
TRUTH about this whole reality.
Whoah, she got a bit pissed at first, but
the thing is, I started to really believe it
by that point, so I didn't apologize for it.
She was like "No, the WOMAN makes the man".
And I was like, "Ummm, that's what everyone
SAYS, but my experience shows that's simply
not true." (Which was true, as I had learned
the hard way that a woman does not make
the man, and if you believe that she does,
you are weakening yourself.)
In retrospect, I realize that without trying to
play any game, I had flipped the frame, reversed
it totally, and stripped her of her power to
manipulate me with her "status".
And because I really believed it, I was congruent,
I felt that it was the MAN who made the woman,
so my self-esteem didn't depend on her, in fact
I felt that I was giving HER the bigger benefit,
but it was cool by me, I ENJOYED giving,
and I liked her anyway.
I only started to screw up later, when I started
to fall for the b.s. version of romance that
society preaches. Hey, I believe in romance,
but it ain't Valentine's Day style. It's more
like 9 1/2 weeks but without the psycho stuff.
So, THE MAN MAKES THE WOMAN.
Hey, it's AT LEAST as true as the
"woman makes the man" axiom.
In fact, I would say that in our society
today, more than ever, the RIGHT man
DEFINITELY makes the woman.
Use that for starters if you need to.
And on that note, I must say, if you
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
Hey Michael,
You know how when a pebble hits the water,
ripples wave out? Well, my story is a bunch
of ripples, the ripple effect if you will.
It's been a few months since I completed the
Real World Bootcamp with you, and I wanted
to let you know how things are going, feel free
to use this for your newsletter if you think
other guys can benefit from it.
I'm gonna be honest with you. I read
your site, last year, and figured, this
guy is funny. He goes out and teaches
guys how to get the chicks. I mean,
it sounds funny, you have to admit.
Every guy wants a girl, and the idea
of simply going to a guy to solve
this problem forever seems almost
like a fantasy. It seems too good
to be true.
Then I read your newsletters, and it
kinda made sense to me, on a logical
level, and even on an emotional level,
to a degree. Still, though, I was skeptical.
But I believed there had to be something
to what you were saying, since it made
so much sense. You have a way of
explaining things that simply is
remarkable.
Ripple ripple ripple.
So, at first, I just stuck to your
awesome free newsletters for a while.
It's amazing how for some reason, I
thought I would gain more by just
getting your free stuff. I used to
be proud of, it was part of my identity,
I thought it was "cool" and "funny",
and "alpha", but I realize now that
the way I was doing it anyway, it was
not cool because I was coming from
the "taker" perspective.
It was the opposite of what you so clearly
showed in Bootcamp, where I saw how you
were giving women awesome emotions in a
natural way that wasn't about needing
anything in return. Kind of like what
you were talking about with that woman
in that video recently.
And the effect that had on the women,
how they become giggly, happy, alive,
etc.
And I realized how ultimately, attraction is
really about what you are ***giving***,
but most guys probably will never learn
this.
And, that not only does the "taking" attitude
repel others but it sends the wrong message
back to my own mind that I have to resort
to being creepy to get any value out of life,
which is pathetic. I have changed this area
of my life, I actually find I have more energy
in me with this attitude of emotional abundance,
in fact the neediness is our own illusion that
we create.
But for then, I just read your awesome free
newsletters for a while.
I didn't really "get" it totally, but I started
to slowly at least go through the motions.
I started to change what I wanted
from girls.
It wasn't that I changed internally so fast,
but my goal, from reading your newsletters,
had become "pumping up the vibe"
with chicks rather than on trying to get
them to mother me, give me compliments,
give me love, give me ***anything***.
I focused on leading the show with a
capital "L", leading the interaction, even
if I did not feel much "love" coming from
the chicks. When I say "love" I mean
that old fashioned kind of feeling of
the chick being really "nice".
That "love stuff" was what the old me
wanted, before even proceeding with
a girl at all. I wanted confirmation
up front. I wanted guarantees.
I wanted security. I wanted to
avoid all potential pain.
It would have made me feel "safe"
emotionally. That's what I used to
want, but I stopped focusing on that,
because clearly you suggested that
taking that path was all wrong and
that instead we must become stronger
versions of ourselves that lead the
whole show with a woman.
Anyway, I started to get some results. Met
one girl, did as you say, and got her through
the phases, and after we did get physical,
she DID start to warm up, it was as if she
was hiding her full personality before.
I ended up though reverting to my old self,
because I refused to believe in what you
wrote. I felt that I had kinda lucked out
on a great girl, and that it was not really
your stuff that helped me.
In fact, I felt like a bit of an a-hole
because she complained about some of
it. And she became super meltingly
warm while convincing me that she wanted
me to be "nicer". And I felt guilty, so I
did, and for a brief moment, (literally,
like hours only) she was this "mothering"
kind of love, she was sweet, loving,
telling me how much she loved me,
blah blah blah.
And then almost immediately after,
she started becoming colder to me.
Like the very next day.
Ripple ripple ripple.
For a second, I remembered some
of your advice, but my heart told
me no, don't do that. So I gave
in, and tried harder to give her
more of what she said she wanted.
But the problem got worse.
Well, we had some huge fights as I
got angry, and it was pretty much
over.
It hurt, but I'm not going to waste your
time with a story I'm sure you've heard
and experienced a lot.
So after I finally got myself together again,
I figured, time to get your eBook.
Man, so clearly written, so easy to understand,
yet such a wonderful and MASSIVE paradigm
shift. It's like going back to the 60s in a way,
like Austin Powers almost, but in a real way:
Having an abundance of security, dominance,
fun, and even "love" but never ever turning
yourself into a woman by playing her game.
And training your mind to adapt
to this reality.
And man, you were right. Women
absolutely **will** test you.
Not to be cruel, not to be mean.
But to see if you are made of
"strong manly stuff".
The soft lovey stuff they do is sometimes nothing
but a test. I didn't want to believe you,
it's scary, because these super sweet
women, they will give you the "look"
of softness lovey dovey etc., they will
give you sex and be all warm over you
and be all loving, and you just want to
lose yourself totally in the haze of "p***y
heaven" to be blunt.
But I was smarter this time around,
I didn't give up my masculinity, emotional
frame, etc. Yes, I totally got the vibe down
of teasing coming from a frame of superiority,
and yes it **is** superiority, thank you for not
mincing words. And thank you also for
explaining that true superiority is never cruel.
How about sharing this with readers:
If women were **not** attracted to
superiority, if women were only so
warm and fuzzy, then why do they
test so ruthlessly?
Okay, so the Dating Wizard eBook helped
me to actually get results consistently,
but it was hard for me to like women
at all, as I basically saw the whole
thing as "stimulus and response"
and felt like all these chicks were
robots who simply responded when
I put in the right recipe of behavior
and gave me nothing when I veered
off course.
This would piss me off and I would
usually end up showing it and ruining
everything.
Ripple ripple ripple.
So then I figured your Bootcamp sounded
like it was fun. Intense, but fun. The way
you described things, and some of the
stuff that happened on bootcamp that
was in your newsletters, well I wanted
to be that way, I wanted to enjoy this
whole thing, enjoy the process, and not
feel like women are only these robots.
Eventually I made the call to you.
Signed up and came out to the next
available bootcamp a few weekends
later:
One of the most important things I
experienced and internalized from
the bootcamp is that the "testing"
that women do is to be treated as
something good! It's a sign of
progress. The old version of myself
looked at it as a sign of will vs. will
and a confrontation before, but now
from actually experiencing it over
and over and over again in bootcamp,
and watching you, and then seeing
it happen again and again recently,
I realize that you were not acting,
that you truly ***were*** more
relaxed when chicks started doing
this stuff to you, and it finally sunk
in that this testing stuff has so many
purposes, including:
1. It's to make you go away, so they
can feel they did their job to not
be a "slut".
2. They do it to see if you can handle
them, because most guys are so insecure
around a woman who is hot, that the
guys are horrible to be around for all
kinds of reasons, i.e. he will call her
ten times a day, he will try to tell
her what to do, he will ask for her
approval for ridiculous things instead
of being the dominant masculine one,
etc.
3. And another thing that I learned on
bootcamp, from meeting so many girls,
is that some of these girls, as they revealed
to me later, they act like b*****s because
they have had bad experiences with other
guys who were "imposters" cool but who
also tore their heart apart, or dumped them,
etc., or some of them had just been through
a breakup and were getting out their anger,
etc.
But the fact of the matter is that it's still
only this type of "awesome vibes guy"
that actually attracts a girl like her in
the first place.
She knows that you have the power to
create attraction in her, and it kinda
makes her alert to the dangers of actually
falling for you, and she immediately
shows her angry/scared feelings.
And if you were not the kind of guy that
actually sparks this chemistry in her,
then she wouldn't do anything to you,
she'd just move on and dismiss you.
Of course, not all this is great behavior on
her part, but the fact is, the chick is not
necessarily like this all the time, she is
just in a bad mood at that moment, and if
you can let this stuff slide off your back
and actually **enhance** the good vibes,
while keeping the frame of your dominance
and superiority, her armor will often break
down for you and she will fall for you hard.
This truly is the real world, and I thank you
for opening my eyes to it.
Of course, there's a ton more I learned
from you in person, but even had I just
come and learned that, it would have
been worth it still, in fact worth ten
times time the price. It's simple-
there is simply no "bad" reaction
a woman can give a guy, if the guy
knows how to turn it around in his
favor. And so many many many
times, he can. I know I have.
This stuff changes the way I feel about
women. It makes me understand them
rather than view them as the opposition.
And that understanding shows me more
than ever that women want men who
are strong emotionally.
It's really important that guys are not
looking for someone to be their mom
when they are looking for women.
Yes, kindness is key, but don't expect
a woman to share her warmth with
you if she feels you are not a man
who can handle her.
So that sunk in to me.
Ripple ripple ripple.
And then after taking your Bootcamp,
I figured that being a cheapskate and
wanting something for nothing was
the dumbest thing I ever did, and even
when I did "get" I actually ended up
losing far more, because that attitude
of something for nothing sends the
message back to myself that I have
nothing to give and that I can only
get by screwing other people over,
which is horrifying for inner game.
So when your latest programs came out,
I didn't wait.
Having your latest home study programs available
relatively quickly (a month) after the bootcamp
was a lucky stroke for me, because there
was so much going on at bootcamp, that
even months after, there are still things
that I'm thinking about from back then,
things I'm still learning from: And
the programs prevent me from forgetting
anything that I learned and also has
even given me some new insights
into elevating my game as well -
even putting things from the bootcamp
into new perspectives.
I know this was a long letter, but hopefully
helps guys, especially the testing stuff.
Guys, believe me, handling tests from
women properly is probably the most
serious skill you can learn in this game.
Once you're past that, you're pretty much
if you don't do anything stupid and if
you can physically escalate and not
chicken out.
I guess what you teach isn't "funny" after
all. When it's fake, it's funny, when it's real,
it's awesome.
So thanks for the awesome experience.
Later,
Nathan L.
Kentucky
***MY REPLY***
Ahhh, the tests, the tests, yes.
First of all, thanks for that heartfelt,
honest letter and for the props as well.
Your letter also really hits home on
that super-important topic.
In a way, yes, handling tests is the most
important skill. I also want to say right
HERE that not ALL women test consciously,
and also men test as well, and most men aren't
aware of it.
ANOTHER thing I want to say is that
there are actually a lot of tests
that women do to see if you are a
JERK or not. Contrary to popular
belief, the tests are not all about
to see if you are only confident,
but also to see if you are two-faced,
genuine, etc.
You see, a lot of guys act "nice" until
they don't get what they want, and then
become total sleazebags in the blink of
an eye. In a way, this is not nice at
all of the guy, it was all just neediness.
REAL niceness is a very sexy thing, but
there are almost no GENUINE nice guys,
there are the rather needy clingy guys
and then there are emotionally empty
cold jerks. There are very few guys
who really have the complete spectrum.
For any guys who don't believe that
you can be a good guy and MOP UP THE
supposed "COMPETITION" of JERKS and
get the best, most sought after women
out there, and get them on fire for
you, allow me to prove it to you
in person through Bootcamp or my
upcoming Seminar.
ALSO, I want to say that the best way to pass
tests is to be of such stellar sexy character
that you don't even have to THINK about
what to do, you simply just do what comes
naturally, but this takes a certain amount of
DEVELOPMENT before you can be at this level.
Now, although learning to be playful, funny,
dominant, and learning how to dress right is
crucial as well, and actually is often a part of
getting through the tests, the fact is that this
area is where most guys stumble. Again, many
times it's not that the woman is consciously
testing, but that she is simply on a more secure
frame of reality (at least in this particular element
of her life called dating) than most guys are,
and when the guy encounters her reality, he
can't handle it, he sees it all through jaded
insecure perspectives that result in very
negative, insecure, and unattractive behaviors.
A lot of guys can get a little momentum,
perhaps even a number, (if it's real), but
when you successfully deal with the hardcore
"tests", or "women's realities" well then
what happens is that it's also almost as if
a girl can tell that other girls have "endorsed you",
since your ability to pass a test is proof itself of
your value. In other words, your secure behavior
is a sign that you already could easily have all
the women you could ever ask for, or perhaps
even better, the BEST quality woman that any
man can ask for.
That's how you actually end up in bed with her.
If you can't pass the "test" with her, she figures
you probably haven't passed the "test" with
any other girl either, and that you're probably
a bad choice.
This is especially with women who are
stereotypically "hot".
Most women will test, but for SURE a
hottie will. She's subconsciously learned
to create these tests as a way to control
the incessant flow of guys, OR what she
is doing is simply behaving in a way that
you would also behave if you were as secure,
but since most guys do not have the same
validation being given to them, they see
the worst possible interpretation of things
when they are interacting with women.
If you are dealing with a woman who
is hot, on a cold pickup, she will test
you. It's as simple as that. Whether
it's a nice soft test or hard-core
test, intentional or not, she WILL
do things that will TEST your sense
of security. Sometimes right off the
bat, sometimes later in the game.
And often, you can't blame her for what
she is doing, as long as she is not being
nasty or disrespectful. (There's never an
excuse for that, that's just a b***ch.)
This is the most CHALLENGING time
to control your own emotions. It's as
if NASA is putting the prototype of
some SUPER COMPLEX MACHINERY
into the big daddy of all wind tunnels and
the wind tunnel is now going to BLAST it
with THOUSANDS OF TONS OF
HORRIFIC WIND PRESSURE, from
EVERY ANGLE.
That machinery is your MIND, your EMOTIONS.
Those blasts are her TESTS.
Any insecurity you have may be HIT,
and it may be HIT HARD. It might
get SLAMMED.
Can you TAKE IT????
And not only can you TAKE IT, but
can you STAY IN YOUR GREAT
FRAME????
Can you have fun with it?
Can you KEEP UP THE DESIRE?
Or do you feel "ahh forget this" and
WUSS out?
Can you STILL be playful?
And if she DOES go too far, can you
call her on her sh** in a way that clearly
shows she is socially retarded and that
you are still cool as a cucumber and
in fact still feeling good and playful
and that you could easily switch
to another girl not out of bitterness
but because your belief in your own
value is still intact?
Yes, it's very important stuff, this.
And if you COME OUT of the wind
tunnel, or her tests, and you are intact,
her attraction will skyrocket and you can
then just lead her easily, since she ALREADY
has been FUELED now, she just needs
you to guide the rest of the show, she
now has become a very willing participant.
Thanks, and there's a ton of other great stuff
in your letter, I'll let it speak for itself.
***LETTER/QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hey man,
I have read quite a few of your articles.
They are realizations about women and
people that I began to develop in the past
year. My question for you: It seems like
the process that you promote is borderline
manipulative. This attitude of "superiority"
and being comfortable with your "self" is
completely antithetic to everything
about our terrestrial society.
In other words, if you always have to
think and be aware of everything, then
is it possible to truly meet your true love.
Or is it this attitude that allows for true
love to materialize?
Please address my question on manipulation.
Thanks,
T.Y.
Pompano Beach
***MY REPLY***
Hey man,
I always love a letter that has the word
terrestrial in it.
Okay, here's the deal, there IS a huge
amount of MANIPULATION involved
in this! There's a huge amount of
CONTROL involved in getting the
girls who are super fine-ass hot things.
Muuhaaaaaa!
Can you hear my evil laughter?
The only thing is, this CONTROL
stuff, is about learning to CONTROL
YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NOT about controlling the chick!!!!!
It's the opposite of "evil".
When you can conquer your OWN
emotions, you can get just about
any awesome chick you want.
For example, CONTROLLING THE FRAME
and being DOMINANT, well you can't do
this if you are TAKING.
And the reality is that this "controlling the frame"
is really more of a concept that you must use
as a beginner to intermediate. At the advanced
level, honestly, you actually FEEL that there
IS NO BATTLE, because the truth is, there
ISN'T. But for most guys, it's impossible
to truly jump to this level on instinct, because
undoing YEARS AND YEARS of brainwashing
and insecurities cannot be undone in one second.
So, at first, it DOES seem like a battle of
controlling the frame, and it IS a battle,
a battle that you must confront in yourself,
because at first you keep on seeing and feeling
yourself as UNWORTHY, as UNABLE, as
in an inferior position of power.
You think chicks are stupid?
You can only be SUPERIOR if you are
GIVING her superior feelings, if SHE is
feeling AWESOME and SEXY and CHALLENGED
in a FUN and NOT malicious way .
Giving from the standpoint of VIBES.
And, and this is the BIG "and", when
you learn to CONTROL your own
emotions instead of being controlled
by FEAR, by SOCIETY, by women's
tests, and by anything ELSE, you
are then TRULY LIBERATED as
well. You are only THEN truly
free.
It's...completely antithetical to being
manipulative! In fact, you no longer
have to even do much to control yourself
after a while, because it becomes quite
natural to be feeling the right states
after you finally get used to tossing away
all your dependencies on society's approval,
women's approval, etc.
You learn to not NEED those approvals,
which makes you far more able to GIVE OFF
awesome emotions to women and actually
anyone. So you don't NEED TO TAKE i.e.
you don't need them to give you anything.
Nope, YOU'RE the big giver, because
you are giving off great vibe without
needing some kind of contract from
them saying "I will give you good vibes
only if you in return give me your female
approval first. In fact, I NEED you to
give your approval first, in order for me
to feel like a man, to feel dignity, because
right now I feel like I am NOT a man,
not worthy, not desirable."
When you experience this for real, you see
that you are MAKING a woman's DAY
when you grow and develop these skills.
And you make her nights, too ;)
YES, this IS about superiority.
You are DEVELOPING YOURSELF, you
are making yourself BETTER in a way that
COUNTS to a woman. You are the SUPERIOR
value, plain and simple.
Does anyone actually think a woman wants
the INFERIOR VALUE??????
It takes WORK to be giving off superior
vibes. It takes growing as a person. Dare
I say it, it takes SKILLS.
It's far EASIER to be the inferior, approval
seeking, thumb-sucking, needy baby that
it sometimes seems our society wants men
to be.
And it's not about "faking it" because the
bottom line is making woman FEEL it.
If a woman is FEELING it from you, it's
REAL.
Ultimately, this stuff is not even about the
CHICK, it's about who you BECOME.
And regarding this true love stuff, the truth
is that all this true love business is coming
at attraction totally from the wrong angle:
When most guys say "true love" they usually
mean something along the lines of a woman
who is going to be their mom or something.
We get these crazy ideas of what a girl is
supposed to be, this true love concept seems
to imply that she is going to be truly madly
deeply genuinely blah blah blah blah just
because we exist, just because we "need"
it. But that "needing" is actually the barrier
to "getting" it. We don't "need" it in
that desperate negative way.
A chick is not your mom.
Just like you are not her dad.
Her daddy, maybe, but not her dad. ;)
And the irony of course is that when
you DO become the kind of guy that
has developed these skills, these internal
dimensions of himself, you DO tend
to get these "true love" behaviors from
a girl. This true love stuff though is really
her TRULY LOVING the warmth and
power she is feeling emanating from
you.
That's what it really is.
So when you are "attractive" in the sense
of all the things that learn from my materials
and programs, you then get the "loving
behavior" from chicks.
Do you know that when you go for a chick
who you feel is NOT attractive to you, that
THAT is the real manipulation? Yes, it
is, because what you are saying is that you
feel you don't have the value, so instead
you are going to try to get a freebie from
a chick who has no choice since she is
low value and inferior to you or at most
equal. (That's the message you are indirectly
giving her through all the subtleties in
your communication.)
"Hey chick, I'm not desirable, but then again
neither are you, so maybe you'll hang out
with me".
That doesn't sound nice and genuine and
giving to me.
You can't give when you have nothing
to give. Or when you feel that you have
nothing to give.
Teasing, for example, is not about making
her feel BAD, it's about making her feel
GOOD that she is with a guy who GETS
it. Who is confident enough in his value
and her value, who also knows how to
make things fun, to create the right amount
of sexual tension that can later be released
and thus more appreciated.
i.e. If I see a woman cleaning her car
frantically from the snow on it, and I
tease her that she missed a spot and
give her a hard time about it, she
GETS it that I am not there to TAKE
from her, not there to NEED from her,
but rather just there for the VIBE.
I'm giving off good vibes, and the very
FACT that I approached her says that
I'm giving, otherwise why the heck did
I approach her??????? Because I really
felt she missed a spot???????????????
Because I'm trying to make her feel
BAD???????
I'm not saying to base your choice of women
on society's magazines, I'm saying rather
to go for women you LIKE.
I've always gone for women I actually
LIKE, and I feel great about giving them
some "quality time" with me. It's a
two way giving street, and it's awesome
for all involved.
When you feel low value and go for women
you don't like, they feel the low value as
well, and that makes them feel worse, and
they've probably had that from a million
other guys with the same negative vibe,
it's no wonder so many chicks who are
not attractive on the outside are so miserable
on the inside as well.
In fact, I'm willing to bet that part of what
makes them not APPEAR as hot is the fact
they ACT so low self-esteem and miserable,
which translates into the way they behave, dress,
etc. And of course, low self-esteem people
feel the need to ruin OTHER'S self-esteem
as well, so often these chicks that you
thought you were "settling" for are actually
going to DESTROY your self-esteem
if you stay with them.
Don't get me wrong, not every girl who
is physically hot is high self esteem, not
at all. I'm just saying not to go for a girl
you feel is not attractive, because you
are then in very subtle but powerful way
communicating all the wrong things
about yourself, and communicating all
the worst messages to her, it's an insult
to both of you really.
This brings me to HUGE point:
Do you know what the highest sign of
SUPERIOR status is?
It's not needing ANY status.
Remember, the only point to any of this
"value" stuff is the value it gives
EMOTIONALLY.
Everything I talk about is from the perspective
of FEELING that emotion called attraction
and other awesome emotions.
When YOU feel no need for having to have
STATUS, etc, then you create a world where
a woman can ALSO drop the need for status.
You see, the biggest thing that holds us all
back from feeling amazing and from feeling
as sexual as possible is brainwashing thoughts
of being not good enough in some way for
society. Almost everyone suffers from this,
including even the most beautiful of women.
But, people are social creatures.
They are affected by their human environment.
This is why people who are in a good mood
want to go to a party, and stay there, and
stay away from negative people, because they
know that the mere PRESENCE of party-pooopers
will AFFECT their own emotions as well, and
ruin things.
For some reason, girls who are hot know all
this intuitively. When you go into a group
of girls, and start the chat and the vibe,
the worst thing you can do is TRY too
hard, especially any kind of SHOWING
OFF.
It's not just that you seem like an a-hole,
but it also ruins the vibe of FEELING
GREAT, because you are saying that
THESE KINDS OF THINGS LIKE
HAVING STATUS MATTER!!!
And that RUINS the vibe, because the truth
is NO ONE enjoys that concept, not even
Bill Gates, not even the biggest movie star,
not even the hottest supermodel. It's a
sucky idea. The idea of being a slave to
someone else's concept of value.
When people finally feel good for a moment,
and are free of that, the LAST thing they
want is some DUMBASS LOSER DORK
who goes in and BREAKS the vibe by
being an INSECURE person.
So you see, insecurity can be a very SELFISH
thing. It RUINS THE GOOD VIBES.
Listen, the greatest sexual chemistry you
can feel happens when you feel you are
FREE of all that validation stuff, when
you FEEL as if you ALREADY ARE
validated internally. So that you don't
CARE about validation. You feel good,
and that's it, you don't need a "reason
of validation" for it.
CHICKS "get" this, especially the hot ones.
This is why so often the guys who are great
with women are not obsessed only with
LOOKS. Sure, we love women who are
hot, but we tend to also love women who
may not fall exactly into the category of
magazine hot, because we are way more
FREEE from the need for validation, so
our choices are based on how we feel,
and that's it. We trust ourselves, we
don't need society's approval to find
out if a girl is attractive to us or not.
And girls sense this, they LOVE it,
because we are our own men, we
are not slaves to the grind. And, it's
more....VALIDATING even to the
HOT ones, to see that they got our
interest because they know that being
hot is not enough for us, it's just a
good start.
When a woman feels free of the need for
herself to be validated, this actually frees
her to unleash her sexuality.
But you can't expect a woman to not need
all this validation stuff unless YOU YOURSELF
don't need it either. If YOU clearly don't
need it, you make HER feel comfortable
about not needing it either, thereby putting
her in a DELIRIOUSLY awesome state that allows
her SEX DRIVE to HIT THE ROOF. With YOU.
And if you STILL feel like a slave to the
validation grind, then at least take the
following frame until you get beyond
this stuff- the following frame was
something I took on early on, about ten
years ago, before I got this all
sorted out completely, but it was still
a big jump in the right direction:
THE MAN MAKES THE WOMAN.
I remember the FIRST TIME I told a
chick this, years ago, when I first
started to internalize a lot of the
TRUTH about this whole reality.
Whoah, she got a bit pissed at first, but
the thing is, I started to really believe it
by that point, so I didn't apologize for it.
She was like "No, the WOMAN makes the man".
And I was like, "Ummm, that's what everyone
SAYS, but my experience shows that's simply
not true." (Which was true, as I had learned
the hard way that a woman does not make
the man, and if you believe that she does,
you are weakening yourself.)
In retrospect, I realize that without trying to
play any game, I had flipped the frame, reversed
it totally, and stripped her of her power to
manipulate me with her "status".
And because I really believed it, I was congruent,
I felt that it was the MAN who made the woman,
so my self-esteem didn't depend on her, in fact
I felt that I was giving HER the bigger benefit,
but it was cool by me, I ENJOYED giving,
and I liked her anyway.
I only started to screw up later, when I started
to fall for the b.s. version of romance that
society preaches. Hey, I believe in romance,
but it ain't Valentine's Day style. It's more
like 9 1/2 weeks but without the psycho stuff.
So, THE MAN MAKES THE WOMAN.
Hey, it's AT LEAST as true as the
"woman makes the man" axiom.
In fact, I would say that in our society
today, more than ever, the RIGHT man
DEFINITELY makes the woman.
Use that for starters if you need to.
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