impression on a woman. In fact, there is a way
to INSTANTLY let her know in the most powerful
way that you are everything she is attracted to
in a man.
The first thing to understand before I go further is this:
Every time you SPEAK to a woman, no matter
what words you say, it’s as if you just gave that
woman a ‘DNA sample’ of your entire personality,
and she subconsciously either RESPONDS with
attraction or she is getting REPELLED.
In that little bit of time that passed, she was
given a MASSIVELY DETAILED REPORT
ON EVERY NUANCE SHE NEEDS TO
KNOW ABOUT YOU.
It’s because she is FEELING OUT YOUR
IDENTITY and your PERSONALITY through
your body language, which includes way more
than the words you said!
In fact, the words are the least important thing!
What REALLY counts are the emotions she detects
in your TONALITY, and the expressions on your
face- and those emotions say EVERYTHING she
needs to know about you!
And all those expressions on your face
can actually be traced back to your
TONALITY, and controlled by your
TONALITY.
For example, ever notice how even on the PHONE
you call tell if the other person is smiling, if they
are feeling confident, happy, upbeat, angry, dominant,
submissive, etc.
I’m going to show you how to unleash the right
combination of emotional states in yourself,
and in your voice, because if you can do this,
you will do INSANELY WELL with women.
The particular combination of emotional
states for attraction include feeling UPBEAT,
DOMINANT, SEXUAL, SECURE and
PLAYFUL- and almost all of them at ONCE.
If you can feel these things at ONCE,
simultaneously, you are ARMED
for massive success with women.
Now the other thing is that, for
example, things like learning
how to unleash effective humor
in any situation with women,
(something I’ll touch on below
s well), if you are IN the playful
STATE OF MIND, well that in
ITSELF will cause you to do many
of the RIGHT THINGS THAT ARE FUN
without even THINKING!
Now, one of the most POWERFUL ways
I have discovered for getting INTO this
combination of states of mind, is to actually
CONSCIOUSLY ADJUST YOUR VOICE,
layering in EACH emotion one by one, until
they are ALL present in your voice.
Let me prove to you how awesome this is:
It barely matters what you even SAY!
In fact:
IT DOESN’T EVEN MATTER WHAT
LANGUAGE YOU SPEAK!!!!!!!!!!!
Ever see a performance by a great actor
in a foreign language? You can totally
detect if he is charismatic or not even
if you don’t understand a word he
is saying.
If a woman SENSES all these emotions
present in your TONALITY, she is going
to respond VERY POWERFULLY
WITH ATTRACTION TO YOU.
And yes, I DO MEAN even the most
insanely gorgeous feminine creatures,
yes I do.
This stuff is “field tested” in the real world.
Women DETECT the “DNA” of your
personality/identity subconsciously from
listening to your TONALITY.
Your voice is like a blueprint of your
current emotional state at that moment.
And yet, the first time you meet a woman
is going to make the BIGGEST impression
on her, so if you reveal to her the WRONG
“DNA” statement about your identity/personality,
she’s most likely going to think that’s who
you are ALWAYS.
All humans do this instinctively- first
impressions COUNT.
On the show “American Idol”, when
Andy Garcia made his first appearance
with a great version of a Paula Abdul
song, he created massive impact with
this FIRST IMPRESSION:
This first impression is what made everyone
IGNORE the fact that every week AFTER THAT,
his performances never matched his original.
In fact, people KEPT ON VOTING FOR HIM-
it took FOREVER for him to get voted OFF!
All because of the power of a FIRST impression.
By the way, I'm not knocking the guy, I think he
actually IS massively talented, and maybe the pressure
undermined his later performances.
What’s important to LEARN from here also,
is that when he DID sing well that first time on
the show with his performance of "Straight Up",
it wasn’t because his NATURAL VOICE was
BETTER or WORSE there, it was the same guy
with the same voice later and before!
The KEY to his success in that first performance
was the BOATLOAD OF INTENSE COOL EMOTIONS
THAT YOU COULD DETECT **IN** HIS VOICE!!!
Which again is further proof of the
power of it’s not so much about the
words you are saying, it’s giving
EMOTIONAL JUSTICE TO THOSE
WORDS in your TONALITY!!!
Every great actor knows that even the WORST
line of dialogue can still sound pretty good if
performed with brilliant technique- which
really means that the TONALITY behind
the words is expressing all the right emotions.
And it doesn’t matter the actual PITCH
you were born with or if your voice is
naturally low or high, it’s the EMOTIONS
PRESENT IN YOUR VOICE!
So coming across with the right
VOCAL TONALITY on the
FIRST time you approach a
woman is MAJOR.
And if ON TOP of all this, you ALSO
manage to actually SAY some COOL
stuff that is funny, witty, intriguing, etc,
well then ALL THE MORE POWER
is going to come to you, absolutely.
It then takes everything to the NEXT
level, the level where women have to
actually control themselves not to act
too forward with you.
The reason it works is the same reason people
get addicted to anything- it’s because there is an
INSTANT SHOT OF PLEASURE coming from
a source, that gives that feeling RIGHT AWAY.
So basically, because emotions are
catchy, a woman is getting to
feel turned ON, is getting to feel
LAUGHTER, is getting to feel
ADRENALINE from the fact you
are being dominant and manly,
and from the fact she is feeling
several other emotions from all
this as well—from talking to YOU.
When YOU are the source of
feeling this MULTI-PACK
OF AWESOME EMOTIONS,
a woman just wants more and
more of you.
Especially in a crazy world that is
always bombarding us with bad
news in the media and with a media
that likes to make people feel FEAR.
Meanwhile, YOU roll in and it’s
GOOD TIMES ARE HERE AGAIN!
If you think of the strongest drives, they are all
related to EUPHORIA, the release of tons of
ENDORPHINS internally that just FEEL
AMAZING. So powerful are these feelings
that some people resort to DRUGS to feel
these emotions. They can become physically
and psychologically ADDICTIVE.
In experiments with mice, that were hooked
up to a wire that stimulated the sex regions
of their brain, they would keep on TAPPING
the button that stimulated this region,
they would keep on tapping it to get that
EUPHORIA. They wouldn't STOP tapping
it even when they were STARVING and
dying also of THIRST, even though they
had water and food available! They
just "sexed" themselves to DEATH!
Now, I know that actually sounds very morbid,
and it's sad what happened to those mice, but
it's a CRUCIAL lesson that we learn- we will
do ANYTHING for PLEASURE and that
FEELING GOOD is more important to us
than ANYTHING ELSE, INCLUDING
logical things like food, shelter, and
life itself!!!
So the BOTTOM LINE in attraction, is PLEASURE.
Sex is only MEANINGFUL because it gives pleasure.
And, in FACT, the pleasure of sex depends on MANY
other factors besides the act itself- it depends on the
STATE you are already in BEFORE you engage in
it. If you are feeling emotionally shut down, then
sex won't feel like all that much either.
The question then is:
How do you make YOURSELF the source of PLEASURE?
And the answer to that is that you have to be able
to give women the only gift that REALLY counts:
The gift of an AWESOME PERSPECTIVE THAT
MAKES AS MANY THINGS AS POSSIBLE
INSANELY PLEASURABLE!
Yes, I said INSANELY pleasurable.
Do you know how much PLEASURE you can pack
into almost ANYTHING? Any activity? Any where?
This stuff is INFINITE, there are INFINITE levels.
TONALITY is a major KEY to doing this right!
So are YOUR reactions to things!
This is about soooooo much more than
just "being nice" or "being not nice".
Most guys due to brainwashing of what life is
supposed to be end up get messed up at the very
FIRST level- the level of how he perceives himSELF
and his own life!
I got a letter from a client who was attempting
a pick-up of three girls at a subway train station-
he was getting them LAUGHING their heads off
talking about shows that women watch, when a
vagrant kicked my client's hockey stick onto
the tracks and started yelling at him.
Instead of getting PISSED, my client rolled
with the situation, laughed, then continued
the interaction, which only got the girls not
only attracted but also feeling more bonded
to him (they were actually trying to find ways
to get back the hockey stick!) and impressed
with the fact he was not shaken out of state and
sympathized with the guy.
Even though they had phones and paper and pens,
they ended up writing down their phone numbers
right on my client's hand, as an excuse to
touch him!
Ever see guys who get all angry in traffic and all
road raged? NOT cool, it shows that someone
ELSE is in control of their lives, and it also
simply creates a bad kind of atmosphere that
ruins any potential for feeling GOOD. It's NOT
pleasurable or cool. Imagine how cool it
would be if some dude was HONKING and
yelling like crazy at you and at others and
a chick was with you in your car -- and you
were TOTALLY COOL and calm and you
made a little joke to her like "somebody forgot
to take their laxative today".
What I want you to do is to adopt a totally NEW
FILTER for "REALITY". The truth is that
there are BILLIONS of things going on at any
time, so there is no "one" reality anyway--
you might as well choose the one that best
SERVES you and the reality of the chick
you are interacting with or picking up.
The reality that FEELS AWESOME.
So, as you can see, you ALSO convey this
through your behaviors AND your tonality.
And there’s MORE levels as well, such as
through the flair you use in your humor,
or the INTRIGUE you incorporate into
your conversations with women.
And, of course, when you are conveying
the right emotional states and feeling
them as well, your PLAYFUL comments
will never seem nasty, because the tone
of voice will make it CLEAR that it
is playful.
In fact, a professional actor I once
interviewed, who had over twenty years
experience, once explained how actors
will take the SAME LINE of dialogue
and practice saying it MANY DIFFERENT
WAYS, giving it completely different
meaning.
How do they do this?
By changing up the TONALITY, changing
the emphasis, changing the timing, changing
the delivery, not changing the words!
The subtle intonations of the tonality of
your voice reveal a TON OF THINGS
about you to a woman.
Your tonality reveals whether you feel you
are desirable, and when YOU give off the
vibes that YOU feel that way, women feel
that everyone ELSE must also feel this way
about you, or how else could you possibly
feel this way so strongly???
The first form of "social proof" comes from the
proof that YOU convey about yourself from your
OWN feelings about yourself.
Your tonality also reveals whether you feel CONFIDENT,
SECURE, DOMINANT, PLAYFUL, ETC.
All these things are ATTRACTIVE to women.
And of course, your tonality ALSO reveals
if you feel the OPPOSITE of all cool things
above as well! Things like feeling inferior,
feeling too serious all the time, feeling
submissive, and all the other emotional
states that will REPEL WOMEN instead
of attracting them!
That’s why psychologists say that the way you
deliver the words in your tonality and body language
are 90% of communication!
Now, the great news is that inside
you right now are ALL THE
AWESOME EMOTIONS, it’s
just a question of bringing them
OUT – and you can do this by
CONSCIOUSLY layering in
each emotional state into your
voice, one at a time.
You can practice this right now-
TAKE A BASIC STATEMENT,
let’s imagine you see a woman at
the supermarket, and you see her
looking at the packaged cashews,
and it's one of those packages that
has some happy character drawn
on it :
In your mind, you know you need to
make an approach NOW, she might
be gone in a second, and you also
know from my teaching and from
what I learned from Malcolm Gladwell
that if you have been studying and
practicing for a long time, then the
LESS TIME YOU WAIT, the better
you will do, because your SUBCONSCIOUS
actually is far wiser than you consciously know,
(because your mind has indeed been
thinking about approaching women
for a long time, and it has recorded
TONS of data into your brain,
you just can't ANALYZE or
RECALL it all consciously in
the moment).
Once you have studied my materials and
you have had lots of practice, the best thing
is to approach her RIGHT AWAY without
thinking about it.
So let's say you see her at the supermarket,
with those cashews, you should say the first
thing that comes to mind, which might be
something like this:
“Hey, those are REALLY GOOD,
I mean like REALLLLLY GOOD.”
PACK in the emotional JUICE
into the words “really good”.
Like “REALLLLLLLLLY GOOD.”
The sentence is said not only with
DOMINANCE but the words
“realllllly good” are said with an
almost sexual/sensual sound- yeah
I know it sounds weird TO DESCRIBE
IN WRITING, but the fact is YES THIS
IS THE WAY TO DO IT.
Is this a really ADVANCED sentence?
Is it SHAKESPEARE?
It is a long memorized PICK UP ROUTINE?
No.
It’s EASIER!
However, your TONALITY must give
AUTHORITY AND DOMINANCE TO THIS,
and sexuality, and upbeatness, and you must
OWN this sentence tonality wise.
So, right now, you can practice that.
Then, say this and practice again, but this time
LAYER IN just a touch of MOCK SERIOUS,
into your tonality, to the degree it’s so serious
that there’s no way you could be TOTALLY
SERIOUS for real!
I know this might sound a bit strange,
but it’s the way it works in real life,
trust me.
She won’t even at FIRST totally consciously
realize you are joking, which is cool, because
the DOMINANCE gets her ATTENTION,
so she will probably say:
“Really???? Are they really???”
And then a split second later, she might even
start to smile if it sinks in you’re joking, but
even if she DOESN’T get it yet, she will at
the very least get that you are chatting her
up with something a lot better than “Can
I have your number?” (“Can I have your number”
is just TAKING from her without GIVING)
You can then say “Actually, I never even
tried those! Did you really believe that!?”
This just sets up the VIBE for things to
be playful.
Here’s the other thing- the more attractive
a woman is, the HIGHER THE CHANCE
that she actually is SOCIALLY VERY
SAVVY and she GETS WHAT YOU
ARE DOING IN A GOOD WAY, if
you’re doing it right.
In other words, she ENJOYS this kind
of playful conversation, and she will
most likely GO WITH IT, rather than
against it, so don’t be surprised if she
totally rolls with what you are saying
and she says:
“Yeah, but I don’t trust anything where
the food or the wrapper looks too fun!”
So at this point, she is already SETTING
THINGS UP FOR YOU, if you are
awake to what’s going on here, she is
giving you a TOPIC to talk about-
the topic now being FUN FOOD
AND FUN WRAPPERS ARE NOT
TRUSTWORTHY, THEY ARE
PROBABLY TOO MUCH FUN
AND NOT HEALTHY.
Great comedy performers ALWAYS GO
WITH THE FLOW rather than against it.
So you can either just chill out and
let her talk or perhaps play a little more,
i.e. you can point to whatever is in your
cart that is CONSISTENT with the idea
of food that is too much FUN rather
than serious:
So for example you might notice
the colorful CEREAL BOXES
in your cart, and go “OH MAN,
I’M REALLY BAD, check out
all the COLORS I got goin’ on
here!!!”
Now, the incredible thing with
layering in the right EMOTIONS
into your tonality of voice, is that
these same EMOTIONS not only
reveal the right things about YOU,
but they also help you yourself
come up with COOL THINGS
TO SAY!
This is because the way the
brain works is that when it’s
in a particular state of mind,
it will come up with all the things
that are CONSISTENT with that
emotion- or with those EMOTIONS!
So you will now suddenly be able
to magically come up with all the
FUN, WITTY, DOMINANT,
INTRIGUING, and SEXUAL BUT
CLASSY things to actually SAY
as well, making you even COOLER.
The right emotions are inside of you
right now, and you can call them UP
by CONSCIOUSLY infusing your
VOICE with them- it doesn’t matter
the voice you were born with, just
the EMOTIONS present in your
voice.
It’s CRUCIAL that you make this
process of meeting and approaching
women FUN for you, I like to compare
the whole thing a bit to SHERLOCK
HOLMES going into a situation like
this, where he is SEARCHING THE
ENVIRONMENT for things that he
can use IN the conversation, whether
it be things he has inferred or can
use to deduce other things, yet the
whole POINT here is that it’s all
in the name of FUN!
Here's another thing that's important to
creating PLEASURE even in the initial
pick-up: Show her that you don't have
any sexual hang-ups or issues.
So don't shy away from a dirty joke or
comment, as long as it's FUNNY and
not MEAN spirited!!!!
Don't shy away from having some sexual
topics in your conversation, as long as
it's all in the spirit of GOOD TIMES and
not in terms of being controlling, feeling
guilty or bad or not good enough (from
either a man or woman's perspective) or
anything like that.
And if you are reading this right now, and want to
MASTER these skills so that you can have the kind
of CHOICES with women that most men will NEVER
have, I suggest you get my Warrior Within program
immediately.
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about getting massive results with women.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
