One of the great TRAGEDIES of modern
times is that actually BEING A GOOD MAN
is not as celebrated as it used to be,
and this in itself has caused a lot of
good guys to actually be good QUIETLY
AND SECRETLY so as not to get labelled
UNCOOL, or simply because they think
it is wrong to have this pride.
Well, if you are one of those good
guys with good values, and you seek
a woman with good values as well,
you REALLY need to be PROUD AS
HELL ABOUT THEM!
I sure hope you are feeling the
PRIDE that you should be experiencing,
because not only of course is it just a
cool thing on its own, but science has
shown that women find PRIDE in men
to be attractive.
What is insane is that the SLEAZY
guys seem to have no problem high-fiving
each other for being sleaze bags and
screwing around and promoting things
like infidelity and cheating, while
the GOOD GUYS are so good, they think
they need to be good quietly.
Not only does having more pride in being
who you are end up inspiring OTHER people,
but it actually helps you with WOMEN
big-time.
A while ago, I sent out an important
newsletter regarding how women find
men with PRIDE to be more attractive,
as well as how, in a study on these
matters, men smiling seemed to
be less attractive to women than
men who were not smiling.
Also, in that newsletter, I mentioned
how for women, it was actually reversed,
that in fact smiling INCREASED a woman's
attractiveness, and PRIDE actually
DIMINISHED her attractiveness.
I thought it was important to not only
resend out that newsletter, but to make
it clear that none of this means that
the solution is to go around with a
FROWN on your face or being all upset
or negative.
If you remember, in another recent newsletter,
I mentioned how HAPPINESS is actually
an attractive quality and makes you
more likely to succeed with women.
Yet the key to remember, is that happiness
can take many forms. It does not have
to only take the form of a big smile
on one's face.
So, for example, a runner who has just
completed a marathon, or a leader who
works exhausting hours but is impacting
many people in a positive way, may not
have smiles on their faces, but they may
very well be experiencing a deep sense of
inner joy/peace/meaning/contentment/inspiration.
In the book, The How Of Happiness, this
definition of happiness is explained, and if
you study my actual programs and materials,
you will see how these ideas are integrated,
for example in my book "Get A Great Girl" I
discuss how having CONVICTION in your
values, your beliefs, is attractive, as opposed
to just doing them to make SOMEONE
ELSE happy.
Being a quality man is not about just
having good values because it attracts
women, it is because they are what
give you a sense of meaning no matter
WHAT. INCLUDING a sense of PRIDE.
And of course, the irony, is that THIS
is super attractive, when a woman knows
this is your CORE.
And by the way, these are all GENUINE
studies conducted by a respected university.
So here we go:
Since day one, the biggest thing to me has
been to stay AWAY from all gimmicks.
I ONLY CARE ABOUT EVIDENCE.
BOATLOADS of solid EVIDENCE.
And MAN, do I have a BIG one for you today.
In fact, if you read my very first book,
The Dating Wizard, which was published
in 2003, you can see that I was against the
use of all sorts of gimmicks back then, and
that this book teaches how you can truly
BECOME the man that women want instead
of how to put on an "act".
One of the biggest things I have been teaching
throughout the years are things that fly in the
face of "accepted practice", and that’s because
"accepted practices" such as smiling at women
and showing them how NICE I could be got me
NOWHERE with women.
On the other hand, as I started to become far
LESS NICE, and did a LOT LESS SMILING, I
noticed way, way, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY
better results.
This used to drive me nuts, and I couldn’t figure
it out, as I used to think women loved MEAN men.
Then, I finally realized that it was all about a
tiny SUBTLETY – it was about the SUBTLE
messages being given off by all that smiling
and niceness.
The message was:
"I HAVE LOW VALUE AND STATUS AND WILL
KISS YOUR BUTT JUST FOR THE CHANCE
TO BE WITH YOU."
And women, across ALL cultures and geographic
regions of the PLANET, are not attracted to men
who behave with LOW confidence, men who
behave as if they have no POWER.
In other words, men with no PRIDE.
So, you COULD smile at a woman, but the fact
is, the way MOST men smile at women who
are hot is a SUBMISSIVE smile.
It is not the kind of smile that says YOU want ME.
It’s a smile that says the following:
"I want YOU but I don't have the value to be
WORTHY of you. Therefore, I am going to SHOW
you through this smile how much I will SERVE
you, be submissive to you, and do whatever
you want, because I feel that is a fair deal
since YOU have the value and I don't'."
And there's MORE.
The "MORE" is the fact that CHANGING YOUR
PHYSIOLOGY, i.e. TAKING ON THE FACIAL
EXPRESSIONS OF CONVICTION, PRIDE,
CONFIDENCE, ETC, ACTUALLY END UP
MAKING YOU FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL
THOSE EMOTIONS AS WELL!!!!!!
And when you FEEL something, you end up
showing it even MORE CONVINCINGLY
SINCE IT IS NOT AN ACT.
And, ultimately, a woman feels far more DESIRABLE
when the desire is coming from a man who KNOWS
he is wanted and who ALSO wants HER.
After all, if a man feels he has no value, then his
desire for her is NOT as flattering as it would be
if he KNEW and FELT and BEHAVED like he
was the ULTIMATE man.
Yes, women DO want to be lusted after, but it has
to be by a man who isn't behaving as if HE has
no worth.
So, for example, you could even TELL a woman
a compliment IF that compliment is delivered
in a way that shows you BELIEVE she will be
FLATTERED by it, rather than if you believe
you NEED to do those kinds of things to
get her to "agree" to be with you.
And I have received an important email from a cool guy
with yet even MORE RESEARCH that PROVES
every thing I have been saying.
In fact, not only is MALE PRIDE something that is
viewed by women as making men MORE attractive,
but FEMALE PRIDE is viewed by men as making
women seem LESS attractive, and also men SMILING
seems to HURT men's "attractiveness" while WOMEN
SMILING seems to IMPROVE women's attractiveness.
So much for the B.S. advice that boys have been brainwashed
to believe by politically correct forces of how women just
want a "SMILING NICE guy".
This doesn't mean that you should never smile.
That would be insane advice for me to give.
What it means is that men should stop TRYING SO HARD
TO SMILE SO MUCH TO MAKE WOMEN HAPPY,
SINCE WOMEN DON'T EVEN LIKE IT ANYWAY!
There is a REASON that in all of CLINT EASTWOOD'S
MOVIES, he almost NEVER smiles, and it is not a
COINCIDENCE that he was (and probably still is by
many women) considered so absolutely DESIRABLE.
His characters were NOT the SMILEY types
His characters DID have TONS of pride.
He DID have a sense of conviction, meaning,
contentment, and of course pride, to his
demeanor.
Same thing with the BOND character.
He doesn't smile much, but he sure has LOADS of PRIDE.
Not smiling does not mean not happy
or not feeling good about one's self.
If you think of the character of ROCKY,
in all those matches, his face is bloodied,
but UNBOWED, and his expression oozes pride.
And also, when you think of the WOMEN that men have
been CRAZY ATTRACTED TO, the most COMMON
stereotype is a woman who SMILES GENUINELY
and who does NOT come across as having too much
pride or arrogance.
Think of, for example, MARILYN MONROE.
This is UNIVERSAL across cultures.
It is HOGWASH when SOME feminists say that
"it’s just a matter of "culture" and environment that
makes men prefer women who DO smile, who DO
behave friendly."
Men do NOT get turned on by the same behaviors
in women as women get turned on by in MEN.
It makes SENSE, that men, who have more TESTOSTERONE,
won't be SMILING as much as women. It makes sense, that
a man with PRIDE in fact WOULD be more attractive to
a woman, because it would mean he is a man who is an
ACHIEVER/PROTECTOR/PROVIDER or all THREE.
It makes SENSE that a man would find a woman who seemed
GENUINELY FRIENDLY to be ATTRACTIVE, because
she would be WARM to him, she would be TRUSTWORTHY
to be the MOTHER of his children and to be a CARING
MOTHER and more than just a sexual companion but
rather a sexual companion that would be loyal.
Men should exhibit PROUD expressions and
women should exhibit FRIENDLY expressions
IF they want to be at their "sexiest".
Here are some quotes from the study by
Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall from the
University of British Columbia concerning
"The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual
Attraction."
"Across two studies using different images
and samples ranging broadly in age (total N _ 1041),
a large gender difference emerged in the sexual
attractiveness of happy displays: happiness was
the most attractive female emotion expression,
and one of the least attractive in males.
In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern;
it was the most attractive male expression, and
one of the least attractive in women."
The study also goes on to say that while smiling
may be SOCIALLY the right thing to do for
both men and women, it HARMS men’s initial
attractiveness to women, but it INCREASES
women’s attractiveness.
This is why for MEN, not exactly trying to "fit in"
is often PART of what makes a man attractive, even
though it costs him some social points with the
rest of society.
So now you can understand why so many women
LOVE "bad boys" but why most men don't find
"bad girls" to be sexy.
But you don’t HAVE to be a "bad boy", you just
have to behave with DOMINANCE.
Going too far with being a "bad boy" will
DESTROY your relationships. Ultimately,
if your behavior makes her feel WORSE
rather than better, then you're going
too far.
And if you haven't yet got my E-Book called
"Get A Great Girl" then do that NOW.
A lot of guys out there take the "don't
be a nice guy" advice OUT OF CONTEXT
and end up destroying their chances with
women.
If you plan on actually getting a quality
girlfriend, and KEEPING her, you NEED to
get this book IMMEDIATELY.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
I also suggest you subscribe to my important
new monthly program on attracting quality
women, it's called 'The Quality Man', and
it's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/thequalityman.html
If you would like to book a private
consultation with me regarding any
dating or relationship issue, simply
email me with the best time that works
for you, and I will get back to you
asap.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Do Nice Guys REALLY Finish Last With Women?
Do nice guys REALLY finish last with women?
You are about to get the SOLID EVIDENCE to
answer this question once and for all!
Since day one, the biggest thing to me has
been to stay AWAY from all gimmicks.
In fact, if you read my very first book,
The Dating Wizard, which was published
in 2003, you can see that I was against the
use of all sorts of gimmicks back then, and
that this book teaches how you can truly
BECOME the man that women want instead
of how to put on an "act".
One of the biggest things I have been teaching
throughout the years are things that fly in the
face of "accepted practice", and that is because
"accepted practices" such as smiling at women
and showing them how NICE I could be got me
NOWHERE with women.
On the other hand, as I started to become far
LESS NICE, and did a LOT LESS SMILING, I
noticed way, way, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY
better results.
This used to drive me nuts, and I could not figure
it out, as I used to think women loved MEAN men.
Then, I finally realized that it was all about a
tiny SUBTLETY; it was about the SUBTLE
messages being given off by all that smiling
and niceness.
The message was:
"I HAVE LOW VALUE AND STATUS AND WILL
KISS YOUR BUTT JUST FOR THE CHANCE
TO BE WITH YOU."
And women, across ALL cultures and geographic
regions of the PLANET, are not attracted to men
who behave with LOW confidence, men who
behave as if they have no POWER.
In other words, men with no PRIDE.
So, you COULD smile at a woman, but the fact
is, the way MOST men smile at women who
are hot is a SUBMISSIVE smile.
It is not the kind of smile that says YOU want ME.
It is a smile that says the following:
"I want YOU but I don't have the value to be
WORTHY of you. Therefore, I am going to SHOW
you through this smile how much I will SERVE
you, be submissive to you, and do whatever
you want, because I feel that is a fair deal
since YOU have the value and I don't'."
And, ultimately, a woman feels far more DESIRABLE
when the desire is coming from a man who KNOWS
he is wanted and who ALSO wants HER.
After all, if a man feels he has no value, then his
desire for her is NOT as flattering as it would be
if he KNEW and FELT and BEHAVED like he
was the ULTIMATE man.
Yes, women DO want to be lusted after, but it has
to be by a man who isn't behaving as if HE has
no worth.
So, for example, you could even TELL a woman
a compliment IF that compliment is delivered
in a way that shows you BELIEVE she will be
FLATTERED by it, rather than if you believe
you NEED to do those kinds of things to
get her to "agree" to be with you.
And I received an email from a cool guy
with yet even MORE RESEARCH that PROVES
every thing I have been saying.
In fact, not only is PRIDE and CONFIDENCE something
that is viewed as making men MORE attractive, but
it makes women seem LESS attractive, and in fact
when women behave in a somewhat FRIENDLIER
and even slightly SUBMISSIVE way, women are
viewed as MORE attractive.
This is UNIVERSAL across cultures.
So much for what SOME feminists say, i.e. that
"it is just a matter of "culture" and environment that
makes men prefer women who DO smile, who DO
behave friendly."
Men do NOT get turned on by the same behaviors
in women as women get turned on by in MEN.
Men should exhibit PROUD expressions and
women should exhibit FRIENDLY expressions
IF they want to be at their "sexiest".
Here are some quotes from a recent study by
Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall from the
University of British Columbia concerning
"The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual
Attraction."
"Across two studies using different images
and samples ranging broadly in age (total N _ 1041),
a large gender difference emerged in the sexual
attractiveness of happy displays: happiness was
the most attractive female emotion expression,
and one of the least attractive in males.
In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern;
it was the most attractive male expression, and
one of the least attractive in women."
The study also goes on to say that while smiling
may be SOCIALLY the right thing to do for
both men and women, it HARMS the initial
attractiveness of men to women, but it INCREASES
the attractiveness of women.
This is why for MEN, not exactly trying to "fit in"
is often PART of what makes a man attractive, even
though it costs him some social points with the
rest of society.
So now you can understand why so many women
LOVE "bad boys" but why most men don't find
"bad girls" to be sexy.
But you do not HAVE to be a "bad boy", you just
have to behave with DOMINANCE.
Going too far with being a "bad boy" will
DESTROY your relationships. Ultimately,
if your behavior makes her feel WORSE
rather than better, then you're going
too far.
And if you haven't yet downloaded my program
"Attraction Accelerators" then definitely do
that NOW.
This program shows you strategies you can
put into use IMMEDIATELY to start attracting
women TODAY.
And of course, you will find this program
is BURSTING WITH TONS OF NEW material that
is not in any of my other programs. I make
sure that ALL my programs are this way,
they all give you IMPORTANT NEW MATERIAL
for giving you MAXIMUM SUCCESS with women.
I know you are going to absolutely LOVE this
program.
It's also an INSANE price, seriously.
It is only $19.97 and you can download it
IMMEDIATELY and be using it on women today.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
You are about to get the SOLID EVIDENCE to
answer this question once and for all!
Since day one, the biggest thing to me has
been to stay AWAY from all gimmicks.
In fact, if you read my very first book,
The Dating Wizard, which was published
in 2003, you can see that I was against the
use of all sorts of gimmicks back then, and
that this book teaches how you can truly
BECOME the man that women want instead
of how to put on an "act".
One of the biggest things I have been teaching
throughout the years are things that fly in the
face of "accepted practice", and that is because
"accepted practices" such as smiling at women
and showing them how NICE I could be got me
NOWHERE with women.
On the other hand, as I started to become far
LESS NICE, and did a LOT LESS SMILING, I
noticed way, way, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY
better results.
This used to drive me nuts, and I could not figure
it out, as I used to think women loved MEAN men.
Then, I finally realized that it was all about a
tiny SUBTLETY; it was about the SUBTLE
messages being given off by all that smiling
and niceness.
The message was:
"I HAVE LOW VALUE AND STATUS AND WILL
KISS YOUR BUTT JUST FOR THE CHANCE
TO BE WITH YOU."
And women, across ALL cultures and geographic
regions of the PLANET, are not attracted to men
who behave with LOW confidence, men who
behave as if they have no POWER.
In other words, men with no PRIDE.
So, you COULD smile at a woman, but the fact
is, the way MOST men smile at women who
are hot is a SUBMISSIVE smile.
It is not the kind of smile that says YOU want ME.
It is a smile that says the following:
"I want YOU but I don't have the value to be
WORTHY of you. Therefore, I am going to SHOW
you through this smile how much I will SERVE
you, be submissive to you, and do whatever
you want, because I feel that is a fair deal
since YOU have the value and I don't'."
And, ultimately, a woman feels far more DESIRABLE
when the desire is coming from a man who KNOWS
he is wanted and who ALSO wants HER.
After all, if a man feels he has no value, then his
desire for her is NOT as flattering as it would be
if he KNEW and FELT and BEHAVED like he
was the ULTIMATE man.
Yes, women DO want to be lusted after, but it has
to be by a man who isn't behaving as if HE has
no worth.
So, for example, you could even TELL a woman
a compliment IF that compliment is delivered
in a way that shows you BELIEVE she will be
FLATTERED by it, rather than if you believe
you NEED to do those kinds of things to
get her to "agree" to be with you.
And I received an email from a cool guy
with yet even MORE RESEARCH that PROVES
every thing I have been saying.
In fact, not only is PRIDE and CONFIDENCE something
that is viewed as making men MORE attractive, but
it makes women seem LESS attractive, and in fact
when women behave in a somewhat FRIENDLIER
and even slightly SUBMISSIVE way, women are
viewed as MORE attractive.
This is UNIVERSAL across cultures.
So much for what SOME feminists say, i.e. that
"it is just a matter of "culture" and environment that
makes men prefer women who DO smile, who DO
behave friendly."
Men do NOT get turned on by the same behaviors
in women as women get turned on by in MEN.
Men should exhibit PROUD expressions and
women should exhibit FRIENDLY expressions
IF they want to be at their "sexiest".
Here are some quotes from a recent study by
Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall from the
University of British Columbia concerning
"The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual
Attraction."
"Across two studies using different images
and samples ranging broadly in age (total N _ 1041),
a large gender difference emerged in the sexual
attractiveness of happy displays: happiness was
the most attractive female emotion expression,
and one of the least attractive in males.
In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern;
it was the most attractive male expression, and
one of the least attractive in women."
The study also goes on to say that while smiling
may be SOCIALLY the right thing to do for
both men and women, it HARMS the initial
attractiveness of men to women, but it INCREASES
the attractiveness of women.
This is why for MEN, not exactly trying to "fit in"
is often PART of what makes a man attractive, even
though it costs him some social points with the
rest of society.
So now you can understand why so many women
LOVE "bad boys" but why most men don't find
"bad girls" to be sexy.
But you do not HAVE to be a "bad boy", you just
have to behave with DOMINANCE.
Going too far with being a "bad boy" will
DESTROY your relationships. Ultimately,
if your behavior makes her feel WORSE
rather than better, then you're going
too far.
And if you haven't yet downloaded my program
"Attraction Accelerators" then definitely do
that NOW.
This program shows you strategies you can
put into use IMMEDIATELY to start attracting
women TODAY.
And of course, you will find this program
is BURSTING WITH TONS OF NEW material that
is not in any of my other programs. I make
sure that ALL my programs are this way,
they all give you IMPORTANT NEW MATERIAL
for giving you MAXIMUM SUCCESS with women.
I know you are going to absolutely LOVE this
program.
It's also an INSANE price, seriously.
It is only $19.97 and you can download it
IMMEDIATELY and be using it on women today.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Should You Smile When You Approach Women?
I want to share something very important
for your success when it comes to approaching
and attracting women who are total strangers.
There are a LOT of people out there who
SWEAR that it is super important for men
to SMILE at women when the men approach
these women to chat them up.
There are ALSO a LOT of people out there
who SWEAR that smiling at women makes
the men seem weak, desperate, and not
dominant.
It's because of these kinds of conflicting
views that I had to spend YEARS of my own
life actually GOING OUT THERE and approaching
thousands of women who were total strangers in
just about EVERY kind of situation and environment,
from seeing a woman on a frozen winter day
walking along the sidewalk, to approaching
women in malls and cafes, to approaching
women in bars and clubs and lounges,
to approaching women on public transit,
and even in places like hotel lobbies
and airports and tons of other places
as well.
So let me CLEAR UP this whole question on
whether men should smile or not when they
approach women.
There are two levels to this answer.
The first level goes DEEP:
There are literally hundreds of thousands of
SUBTLETIES that are implied in the varied
NUANCES of any human expression.
So, it is very possible to SMILE at a woman
in a way that STILL conveys confidence
and power and sensuality.
And yet, in a MICROSECOND, that smile
can transform into a smile that is soaking
with desperation and approval-seeking.
The best kind of smile FLOWS from being in the
right STATE of mind to begin with, a combination
of being upbeat, dominant, and a touch sensual.
That state of mind then MANIFESTS itself in the
perfect facial expressions and the perfect
inflections in your voice that communicate
indirectly to a woman that you indeed are
THE MAN.
However, sometimes, it is very difficult for
a guy to FEEL that perfect state of mind,
so one TIP to help GET into that state of
mind is to not only CHANGE YOUR PHYSIOLOGY
and actually try to create the right
facial expressions, but to also practice
your VOICE TONALITIES as well, saying
even the most basic things but saying
them with your voice now INFUSING
confidence, upbeatness, and sensuality
into your words.
This is why, for example, a guy CAN say
something as simple as:
"How are you?"
And he can PACK those words with so much
of the right EMOTIONS that a woman can
get wet just from his delivery.
And before you think I am joking around,
try this out.
Try SLOWING down the delivery of your words.
Try adding some BREATH into the sound.
Think of how the PHYSICAL sensations are
often implied when a person speaks about
a certain FOOD they love, such as heavenly
hash ice cream, or sinfully rich chocolate,
etc, etc.
You can often HEAR the passion in their
voice.
This is often referred to as accessing
the KINESTHETIC state of mind, meaning
the FEELING state of mind.
The KINESETHETIC state is often accompanied
by SLOWER vocal delivery.
Now, all this so far has been the DEEP level.
There is a SIMPLER yet equally important level
to this whole question on whether to smile or not
when approaching women and chatting them up
for a pick up.
And this level boils down to one simple question:
ARE YOU APPROACHING HER IN A PARTY ENVIRONMENT
OR IN AN ENVIRONMENT THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO
WITH PARTYING?
So, if you are approaching a woman at a dance
club, or even a lounge, or at a party, the
whole POINT of being there in the first place
is to have a great time!
If a guy is in such a place and NOT HAVING
a great time, then why is he there?
Is he there ONLY to try to meet women but he
is really NOT enjoying the environment?
If so, that is NOT cool, because it's putting
TOO MUCH EMPHASIS and TOO MUCH PRESSURE on
the whole topic of picking up women.
Now, this might seem ironic, since the truth is,
if it were NOT for the social angle to these
party environments, no one would go, but it has
to be done in a way where meeting the opposite
sex is just a BYPRODUCT of having a great time
at the venue/party location.
Also, a guy forcing himself to do something that
is mostly not fun means he is not in a great state
of mind, and that in itself will weaken the success
of any approach he makes on women in the environment
where he is not having a good time.
So, in a PARTY venue, smiling makes a LOT of sense.
And it's the PARTY atmosphere that really is the
defining trait here, because for example, a guy
can be out on Saturday night NOT in the actual
club or lounge, but in the general vicinity of
the fun/club/party/entertainment district area
of town, and now ALL THESE ACTUAL locations
have become party atmospheres, and a guy
can go approach a group of women walking along
the sidewalk as IF he were IN the club and
just start with a smile right away.
On the OTHER hand, if it is Monday in the
business part of town smack in middle of
the day, and a guy sees a gorgeous woman
walking beside him, starting off with a
big party smile is NOT a good idea at ALL.
It seems OUT OF PLACE.
It also seems as if the guy is ASSUMING
he is already SOMEWHERE with her when
he is not, and this is not interpreted
as CONFIDENCE by a woman because it
becomes more an issue of SAFTEY
and CREEPINESS.
Now, as you know, I DO advise men to
NOT worry about coming across as
PSYCHO, and to MAKE the approaches
on total strangers. I ALSO suggest
that a very SIMPLE way to not come
across as psycho is to NOT start
with this big smile that comes right
out of nowhere if the environment
is NOT a party atmosphere, i.e.
like meeting on the sidewalk in
middle of a Monday.
This is ESPECIALLY true if a woman is
really attractive, because she has
probably seen quite a bit of strange
smiles, normal smiles, ogling eyes
on her, etc, etc.
So you want to AVOID flipping her
PROTECTION SWITCH, which is basically
her turning all her attention OFF
from any guy who just comes out of
the blue and comes up to her with
this big smile or perhaps even
ANY smile.
By NOT STARTING with a smile, you
help PREVENT telegraphing to her that
you have already fast-forwarded in
your mind to the part where you both
take your clothes off before she
even knew you EXISTED.
You don't want her thinking that, as most
women are not as immediately ready to jump
into the physical act as most men are.
By NOT smiling right away, or at least not
giving that party smile right away, you
are showing that you RESPECT THE PROCESS
of actually FIRST GETTING TO KNOW HER.
RESPECT THE PROCESS.
It is what separates the boys from the men.
Get the conversation rolling first, with
something that MAKES SENSE for that
environment, whether it is looking for
directions or something else.
And then, use WHATEVER SHE SAYS BACK TO YOU
as your FUEL for THEN getting into flirty
mode, i.e. you can playfully tease her
on the directions she gave you, or you
can playfully tease her on something else.
You do not even have to playfully tease at all.
You can find something that is happening
in the immediate environment, such as
a particularly unique cafe or live music
venue or museum or anything else that is
compelling, and you can ask for directions
to it, and even if she doesn't know, it
gives you a chance to talk about it and
this now becomes a conversation topic
that is likely to get her asking you
about it as well.
You don't need to talk to a woman for
an hour to get her number. If you are
chatting her up for 10 minutes, that
can be a very strong conversation
leading to a number that is very real
and to a very real date where she is
looking forward to meeting you again.
Now, as you can see, the things I teach
and discuss are not just things I came
up with that sounded nice. They come
from REAL TESTING in the REAL WORLD.
THAT is how I learned the things that
I teach.
That is also why men come from all over
the world to learn from me directly in
my Real World Bootcamps where all learning
happens in real time on tons of women
in tons of venues.
This is not theory or hypothesis.
It's the REAL THING.
For Bootcamp, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
I also have two MAJOR different programs that
are VITAL to your success with women.
The first program, called ATTRACTION MASTERY,
is all about mastering the skills of attraction
to get experience with LOTS of women.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
You can even check out new samples of this
program on that page.
The second program, called WARRIOR WITHIN,
is all about mastering the deepest levels
of INNER GAME, which is absolutely ESSENTIAL
if you want to meet, attract, and KEEP
a fantastic girlfriend.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
You can also check out what guys who actually
attended the live recording of this program
had to say about this program, by going to
the page above.
I've spent over ten YEARS teaching programs
that CLEAR UP all the confusion and that
ANSWER all the questions you have about
attracting women, and most of all, that give
men the SKILLS for attracting women of
the highest quality.
And I don't just talk the talk, I continue
to teach these skills LIVE to men from
all over the world, and I continue to
prove these concepts in the real world.
To find out about ALL my programs for
skyrocketing your success with women,
go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
for your success when it comes to approaching
and attracting women who are total strangers.
There are a LOT of people out there who
SWEAR that it is super important for men
to SMILE at women when the men approach
these women to chat them up.
There are ALSO a LOT of people out there
who SWEAR that smiling at women makes
the men seem weak, desperate, and not
dominant.
It's because of these kinds of conflicting
views that I had to spend YEARS of my own
life actually GOING OUT THERE and approaching
thousands of women who were total strangers in
just about EVERY kind of situation and environment,
from seeing a woman on a frozen winter day
walking along the sidewalk, to approaching
women in malls and cafes, to approaching
women in bars and clubs and lounges,
to approaching women on public transit,
and even in places like hotel lobbies
and airports and tons of other places
as well.
So let me CLEAR UP this whole question on
whether men should smile or not when they
approach women.
There are two levels to this answer.
The first level goes DEEP:
There are literally hundreds of thousands of
SUBTLETIES that are implied in the varied
NUANCES of any human expression.
So, it is very possible to SMILE at a woman
in a way that STILL conveys confidence
and power and sensuality.
And yet, in a MICROSECOND, that smile
can transform into a smile that is soaking
with desperation and approval-seeking.
The best kind of smile FLOWS from being in the
right STATE of mind to begin with, a combination
of being upbeat, dominant, and a touch sensual.
That state of mind then MANIFESTS itself in the
perfect facial expressions and the perfect
inflections in your voice that communicate
indirectly to a woman that you indeed are
THE MAN.
However, sometimes, it is very difficult for
a guy to FEEL that perfect state of mind,
so one TIP to help GET into that state of
mind is to not only CHANGE YOUR PHYSIOLOGY
and actually try to create the right
facial expressions, but to also practice
your VOICE TONALITIES as well, saying
even the most basic things but saying
them with your voice now INFUSING
confidence, upbeatness, and sensuality
into your words.
This is why, for example, a guy CAN say
something as simple as:
"How are you?"
And he can PACK those words with so much
of the right EMOTIONS that a woman can
get wet just from his delivery.
And before you think I am joking around,
try this out.
Try SLOWING down the delivery of your words.
Try adding some BREATH into the sound.
Think of how the PHYSICAL sensations are
often implied when a person speaks about
a certain FOOD they love, such as heavenly
hash ice cream, or sinfully rich chocolate,
etc, etc.
You can often HEAR the passion in their
voice.
This is often referred to as accessing
the KINESTHETIC state of mind, meaning
the FEELING state of mind.
The KINESETHETIC state is often accompanied
by SLOWER vocal delivery.
Now, all this so far has been the DEEP level.
There is a SIMPLER yet equally important level
to this whole question on whether to smile or not
when approaching women and chatting them up
for a pick up.
And this level boils down to one simple question:
ARE YOU APPROACHING HER IN A PARTY ENVIRONMENT
OR IN AN ENVIRONMENT THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO
WITH PARTYING?
So, if you are approaching a woman at a dance
club, or even a lounge, or at a party, the
whole POINT of being there in the first place
is to have a great time!
If a guy is in such a place and NOT HAVING
a great time, then why is he there?
Is he there ONLY to try to meet women but he
is really NOT enjoying the environment?
If so, that is NOT cool, because it's putting
TOO MUCH EMPHASIS and TOO MUCH PRESSURE on
the whole topic of picking up women.
Now, this might seem ironic, since the truth is,
if it were NOT for the social angle to these
party environments, no one would go, but it has
to be done in a way where meeting the opposite
sex is just a BYPRODUCT of having a great time
at the venue/party location.
Also, a guy forcing himself to do something that
is mostly not fun means he is not in a great state
of mind, and that in itself will weaken the success
of any approach he makes on women in the environment
where he is not having a good time.
So, in a PARTY venue, smiling makes a LOT of sense.
And it's the PARTY atmosphere that really is the
defining trait here, because for example, a guy
can be out on Saturday night NOT in the actual
club or lounge, but in the general vicinity of
the fun/club/party/entertainment district area
of town, and now ALL THESE ACTUAL locations
have become party atmospheres, and a guy
can go approach a group of women walking along
the sidewalk as IF he were IN the club and
just start with a smile right away.
On the OTHER hand, if it is Monday in the
business part of town smack in middle of
the day, and a guy sees a gorgeous woman
walking beside him, starting off with a
big party smile is NOT a good idea at ALL.
It seems OUT OF PLACE.
It also seems as if the guy is ASSUMING
he is already SOMEWHERE with her when
he is not, and this is not interpreted
as CONFIDENCE by a woman because it
becomes more an issue of SAFTEY
and CREEPINESS.
Now, as you know, I DO advise men to
NOT worry about coming across as
PSYCHO, and to MAKE the approaches
on total strangers. I ALSO suggest
that a very SIMPLE way to not come
across as psycho is to NOT start
with this big smile that comes right
out of nowhere if the environment
is NOT a party atmosphere, i.e.
like meeting on the sidewalk in
middle of a Monday.
This is ESPECIALLY true if a woman is
really attractive, because she has
probably seen quite a bit of strange
smiles, normal smiles, ogling eyes
on her, etc, etc.
So you want to AVOID flipping her
PROTECTION SWITCH, which is basically
her turning all her attention OFF
from any guy who just comes out of
the blue and comes up to her with
this big smile or perhaps even
ANY smile.
By NOT STARTING with a smile, you
help PREVENT telegraphing to her that
you have already fast-forwarded in
your mind to the part where you both
take your clothes off before she
even knew you EXISTED.
You don't want her thinking that, as most
women are not as immediately ready to jump
into the physical act as most men are.
By NOT smiling right away, or at least not
giving that party smile right away, you
are showing that you RESPECT THE PROCESS
of actually FIRST GETTING TO KNOW HER.
RESPECT THE PROCESS.
It is what separates the boys from the men.
Get the conversation rolling first, with
something that MAKES SENSE for that
environment, whether it is looking for
directions or something else.
And then, use WHATEVER SHE SAYS BACK TO YOU
as your FUEL for THEN getting into flirty
mode, i.e. you can playfully tease her
on the directions she gave you, or you
can playfully tease her on something else.
You do not even have to playfully tease at all.
You can find something that is happening
in the immediate environment, such as
a particularly unique cafe or live music
venue or museum or anything else that is
compelling, and you can ask for directions
to it, and even if she doesn't know, it
gives you a chance to talk about it and
this now becomes a conversation topic
that is likely to get her asking you
about it as well.
You don't need to talk to a woman for
an hour to get her number. If you are
chatting her up for 10 minutes, that
can be a very strong conversation
leading to a number that is very real
and to a very real date where she is
looking forward to meeting you again.
Now, as you can see, the things I teach
and discuss are not just things I came
up with that sounded nice. They come
from REAL TESTING in the REAL WORLD.
THAT is how I learned the things that
I teach.
That is also why men come from all over
the world to learn from me directly in
my Real World Bootcamps where all learning
happens in real time on tons of women
in tons of venues.
This is not theory or hypothesis.
It's the REAL THING.
For Bootcamp, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
I also have two MAJOR different programs that
are VITAL to your success with women.
The first program, called ATTRACTION MASTERY,
is all about mastering the skills of attraction
to get experience with LOTS of women.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
You can even check out new samples of this
program on that page.
The second program, called WARRIOR WITHIN,
is all about mastering the deepest levels
of INNER GAME, which is absolutely ESSENTIAL
if you want to meet, attract, and KEEP
a fantastic girlfriend.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
You can also check out what guys who actually
attended the live recording of this program
had to say about this program, by going to
the page above.
I've spent over ten YEARS teaching programs
that CLEAR UP all the confusion and that
ANSWER all the questions you have about
attracting women, and most of all, that give
men the SKILLS for attracting women of
the highest quality.
And I don't just talk the talk, I continue
to teach these skills LIVE to men from
all over the world, and I continue to
prove these concepts in the real world.
To find out about ALL my programs for
skyrocketing your success with women,
go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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