Today, I want to share two BIG points
regarding attracting women.
1. LET HER KNOW LESS
The first point is that it has been PROVEN
that a woman’s attraction grows STRONGER
when she knows LESS about a man.
The reason for this is because what she does
not know is fuel for her imagination to create
her fantasy version of you.
Now, that being said, most guys end up
doing things that indirectly convey LOTS
of BAD information about themselves
even if it is not actually true!
Doing things like qualifying themselves
in order to “prove” they have worth to
the women, or overcompensating in any
other way, from trying to act too cold to
trying to kiss up. All these things end
up making a woman think that she knows
who the guy is, it makes the woman think
she knows he is not a good catch.
But the FLIP side to all this is that it also
means that you as a stranger have a
TREMENDOUS opportunity when it comes
to approaching and attracting women who
are total strangers!
So, while most guys are actually NOT approaching
women who are total strangers because they think
it is ‘too weird’ since they do not know the women,
and since the women do know them, this is all
actually a GREAT thing that HELPS YOU.
So rather than trying to FILL IN EVERY DETAIL
to help ‘convince’ a woman that she should like
you because of reasons a, b, c, and d, etc., etc,
you should instead NOT try to do that at all
and rather make the conversation FUN, and show
some LEADERSHIP and dominance and conviction
in your words.
THAT will tell her the RIGHT kinds of things about
you without telling her any SPECIFICS, which allows
her mind to FANTASIZE and fill in the gaps with her
own ideas about you.
The great thing about this, is that once a woman
really WANTS you from doing all this, she will
then CONVINCE herself later on how awesome
you are, and TRULY FEEL THIS WAY, even if you are
NOT exactly what she originally imagined.
Have you ever REALLY WANTED something as a kid
really badly? Maybe it was a certain toy or something?
And maybe you kept on dreaming about it, or thinking
about what it would be like if you got it, etc, etc.
The ANTICIPATION is so powerful, that by the time
you GET the toy, your excitement is so strong that the
toy would have to REALLLLLLLLLLLLY SUCK
in order for you to not be thrilled with getting it.
And the truth is, that the ANTICIPATION ITSELF is
actually more than HALF THE FUN! Dreaming about
it, thinking about it, looking forward to it, is all a HUGE
part of the fun.
And women are AMAZING at knowing how to increase
their pleasure. As a guy, I’ll just wolf down a chocolate
bar, but women will take their time as if it’s the last one
on earth.
So women APPRECIATE when you allow a little room
for imagination, for mystery, for anticipation. Do NOT
feel the need to answer her every question, and do not
do this with anger, instead do it with a smile or change
the subject.
I’m talking about the initial approach here, obviously if you
and her start going out you will tell her about yourself.
The SECOND major concept I want to share with you
today is a lot more SUBTLE, yet even more important
when it comes to attracting a woman who you just
approached as a total stranger, especially if this
is in a QUIET place like a bookstore.
A lot of women have had guys approach them before.
Even though most guys don’t approach, it only takes
for example one in a hundred men for a woman to
STILL be approached quite frequently in one way
or another.
What this means is that women are actually very good
at sizing up a guy’s ‘inner game’ very quickly, and
sizing up his attitude, his emotions, his confidence,
his familiarity with women, etc, etc.
So, when a man approaches an attractive woman, her
mind subconsciously goes into SUPER-SENSITIVE
DETECTION MODE. She may be QUIET, but there
is a whole friggen MULTITUDE of senses
being activated.
In fact, the BEST analogy I can think of is to compare
her senses in this SPECIFIC way, to those of a DOG.
I mean this ONLY from the perspective that dogs
have incredible senses of DETECTION. They can
tell if you are nervous, scared, happy, confident, etc.
And here is where the analogy becomes REALLY
IMPORTANT:
I recently heard the man known as the ‘Dog Whisperer’
share a valuable insight into how to properly raise
a dog, and how to ensure a dog is behaving properly.
He was saying that so often dog owners get overly
EXCITED around their dog. i.e. “NICE dog,
look at YOU, look at what you did, WHOOO
HOOOO!!!!!” The owners get all excited, loud,
and jumpy.
This does not usually help the dog, but rather
over-excites him.
Now, remember, a dog’s senses are super powerful.
The dog’s hearing is way more powerful than human
hearing. The dog’s sense of smell is way more powerful.
And when you approach a woman, HER senses are
going into OVERDRIVE. This comes from massive
EXPERIENCE with guys approaching her. She has
probably clocked in 10,000 hours of experience
in guys approaching her since she was 15, even if she is
only 25!
It's like she has a 360 degree MONITOR "heads-up"
display, like a fighter pilot who has all this information
being pumped on graphs, monitors, etc., which tell her
EVERYTHING she needs to know about what this
guy is like in terms of ATTRACTING HER or not.
Meanwhile, most guys experience in doing the same
with women probably clocks in at not even a FRACTION
of the same amount of hours.
And what makes it really tragic is that most guys are NOT
even approaching women as their AVERAGE SELVES.
Instead, most men come across as LESS cool than
they really are, because most men when they do the
approach end up doing all sorts of OVERCOMPENSATION
type behaviors in an effort to prevent feeling the pain
of rejection.
And women subconsciously detect that all these
behaviors are forms of giving into fear.
So most men are actually coming across in
a way that does NOT accurately represent
themselves in the big picture, but it might
represent that moment, and women can only
react to the behavior that men present to
them in the moments they are there.
From acting intentionally goofy so that they can have
an excuse for why they failed (i.e. “I know she rejected
me, I wasn’t taking it seriously, I was acting goofy,
so she didn’t reject the real me, because I was
INTENTIONALLY acting goofy, so I don’t have to
take the rejection personally") to acting intentionally
mean, to acting extra-nice in the hopes it will win
some points.
And all this ends up not only being DETECTED by
women, but it is DETECTED so strongly, it is like
a dog hearing a POLICE SIREN!
It really, REALLY strikes the WRONG emotions in women.
On the OTHER hand, if you work on yourself to
become super CALM, super DOMINANT, and cavalier
about the whole approach, then guess what?
Not only is it attractive, but SHE starts to calm down as well.
And this is true with so many dog owners and dogs.
I’m not saying all the time, but it is a pattern you
will notice. Calm, confident owner, calm confident
dog. (Obviously there are exceptions and special
situations that defy this rule of thumb.)
So the analogy has two levels- on one hand, women
have MORE SENSITIVE “antennae” in detecting
men’s inner game compared to most men’s “antennae”
in detecting women’s levels of ‘inner game’.
Then, on top of this, women are ALSO going to be
more influenced by YOUR sense of confidence
and calm than MEN are going to be influenced by
WOMEN’S senses of confidence and calm.
Men are mostly going to be mentally and emotionally
influenced and affected by how women LOOK, at
least in the immediate short-term when dealing
with a woman .
A woman that you meet as a total stranger is on
FULL SENSORY ALERT. If you come in too
LOUD, TOO MUCH ENERGY, TOO MUCH
'TRYING TOO HARD', she is going to emotionally
BURST the same way a dog feels like bursting when
a SIREN is going off because dogs' ears are so
sensitive they can hear things no human ever could.
You don’t want to amplify her HIGH ALERT,
you want to CALM HER DOWN, especially
since she knows she needs to watch out around
men or she will end up getting physical with
every single guy she meets.
So the SECOND point is:
DIAL IT ALL DOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWN
The next time you are about to chat up a
woman who is a total stranger, turn the
DIAL DOWN. Do NOT try to be Mr.
Entertainment. Be CHILL, and then
GRADUALLY build up the energy as
SHE builds up ALONG with you.
Finally, remember that a woman wants to feel
that YOU are in control, that she is safe being
in YOUR hands, that you are leading the show,
and she cannot feel that if she sees that you cannot
handle HER attractive energy that she is radiating.
And if you would like the most powerful program
out there on INNER GAME, I seriously suggest
you get my WARRIOR WITHIN program.
Women are sizing up your inner game the moment
they meet you, and also inner game is JUST as important
long after you have met as well, because getting into
a relationship with a woman will put your inner game
to the ULTIMATE test as you face issues such as
handling ‘competition’ from other guys, handling
jealousy, handling her tests, and dealing with every
other challenge that may arise.
This program is absolutely VITAL if you are serious
about attracting women and keeping them attracted.
It’s at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
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level with the REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP, where
you will be in the ultimate learning environment by
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I will make this experience one that changes the
path of your life forever. Getting this part of
your life handled changes the way you view
EVERYTHING else.
This is because as men, we really are motivated
mostly by our desire to get women, even when we
are with one woman and truly happy and content
with one woman, there is something powerful
about knowing you can get women, and it even
turns on the woman you are WITH.
Bootcamp is at:
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To find out about ALL my different programs
for SKYROCKETING your success with women,
go here:
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One final comment here- I would love to answer
all your questions PERSONALLY in FULL DETAIL.
In order to make this something that I can actually
do, I have set up a CONSULTATION service.
It is the only way, otherwise I could spend
all week on emails and not even scratch
the surface.
CONSULTATIONS are at:
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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7 Secrets To "Picking Up" Women
Approaching women seems tough, but
it doesn't have to be. What I'm going to
do here is share the most important
7 SECRETS with you for approaching
women. Screwing these up are the 7
most common causes for not attracting
a woman upon approaching her.
So, here are the 7 most common devastating
mistakes, as well as the RIGHT things to
do instead.
1. NOT GETTING INTO "JUICY"
CONVERSATION EARLY ENOUGH
So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be
polite.
You aren't seeing their eyes light up.
Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well. She knows NOTHING
about you.
And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her.
So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.
Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.
You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc.
THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there. You want to get
her FEELING damn good. So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your
personality.
So, for example, giving the example of the
woman at the card store, you can go humorous
by telling her that she's just trying to butter
up her dad so he can buy her a Jaguar, or
you can go into the "intriguing" and genuinely
meaningful compliment that raises her self-esteem
by speaking about how girls who get along well
with their dads tend to be the girls who have less
drama issues- and this would PROMPT a
response from her that was a lot more involved
on her part- it wouldn't just be her trying to
get rid of you, since now she is actually engaged
in something meaningful to her.
Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style conversation.
COMBINING emotions is actually a VERY
powerful thing, - imagine if you get a woman
laughing, then feeling intrigued, and then feeling
better about herself, all within a span of just
a few MINUTES.
If you do that, you are going to be MEMORABLE.
You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.
If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.
2. TOO MUCH PICK UP ARTIST
"PLAY HARD TO GET" BEHAVIOR
This is a huge one. Most guys are trying
so hard to show they are not interested,
because they are told by the "dating gurus"
and pick up artists that this will make the
woman more interested- so the guys end
up standing way too far from the women,
and talking from too much of a distance,
and the guys try to also avoid ANY type
of comment that might sound like they
are interested.
The truth is that although you shouldn't
give compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the things
that she really EARNED.
The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.
If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy.
HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.
So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.
3. INSENSITIVITY TO THE EMOTIONAL
VIBE OF THE SITUATION
This is something that is a MAJOR factor
in screwing up attraction.
This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.
This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.
A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's words, then
you are often missing the point.
Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do. So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are, instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.
If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE.
Look for the bright side of things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.
A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember
how she FELT during it. So make it feel
GOOD.
Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.
The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good. You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are. Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.
4. NOT PROGRESSING THE INTERACTION
An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.
Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected- however,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point?
So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.
Which brings me to the motto:
"He who dares, wins."
So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.
5. NOT BEING FLIRTATIOUS
If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction.
So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye.
6. OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES
This is a HUGE one. We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about. So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it. It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.
If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.
So, for example, let's say you are insecure
about how much money you earn. Well,
if you very early in a conversation said
something like "superficial things are so
over-rated, I would never be caught working
for a big corporation". If you're bald, if
you're short, if you're ANYTHING you
are insecure about- the reality is that it's
NOT an issue but if you START with,
"Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.
Same with, "Hi, I work for minimum wage,
but I LOVE my job", that also shows that
you are obsessed with the money issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.
Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all. There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.
This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are renting
a car because your regular better car is at the
shop, don't say, "This is just a rental- I have
a better car", just DON'T BRING IT UP,
otherwise it comes across as you feeling
inferior worth compared to what you
feel her worth is.
And when YOU feel your worth is low,
that is the ultimate litmus test to a woman
of your worth. YOU are the one who
has to know what you're worth. If you
don't feel it, how can she?
7. REVEALING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO EARLY
Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.
So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds, "Man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or,
"I'm so tired, I was up all night with
my agent on the phone closing a deal"
etc, etc.
It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" "AGENT" "closing
the deal", etc.
Those are 7 SUPER IMPORTANT
tips that you can now go out and apply
IMMEDIATELY, and you will notice
a MASSIVE difference, TODAY.
And yet, that is just the TIP of the ICEBERG.
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Till next time,
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it doesn't have to be. What I'm going to
do here is share the most important
7 SECRETS with you for approaching
women. Screwing these up are the 7
most common causes for not attracting
a woman upon approaching her.
So, here are the 7 most common devastating
mistakes, as well as the RIGHT things to
do instead.
1. NOT GETTING INTO "JUICY"
CONVERSATION EARLY ENOUGH
So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be
polite.
You aren't seeing their eyes light up.
Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well. She knows NOTHING
about you.
And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her.
So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.
Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.
You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc.
THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there. You want to get
her FEELING damn good. So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your
personality.
So, for example, giving the example of the
woman at the card store, you can go humorous
by telling her that she's just trying to butter
up her dad so he can buy her a Jaguar, or
you can go into the "intriguing" and genuinely
meaningful compliment that raises her self-esteem
by speaking about how girls who get along well
with their dads tend to be the girls who have less
drama issues- and this would PROMPT a
response from her that was a lot more involved
on her part- it wouldn't just be her trying to
get rid of you, since now she is actually engaged
in something meaningful to her.
Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style conversation.
COMBINING emotions is actually a VERY
powerful thing, - imagine if you get a woman
laughing, then feeling intrigued, and then feeling
better about herself, all within a span of just
a few MINUTES.
If you do that, you are going to be MEMORABLE.
You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.
If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.
2. TOO MUCH PICK UP ARTIST
"PLAY HARD TO GET" BEHAVIOR
This is a huge one. Most guys are trying
so hard to show they are not interested,
because they are told by the "dating gurus"
and pick up artists that this will make the
woman more interested- so the guys end
up standing way too far from the women,
and talking from too much of a distance,
and the guys try to also avoid ANY type
of comment that might sound like they
are interested.
The truth is that although you shouldn't
give compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the things
that she really EARNED.
The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.
If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy.
HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.
So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.
3. INSENSITIVITY TO THE EMOTIONAL
VIBE OF THE SITUATION
This is something that is a MAJOR factor
in screwing up attraction.
This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.
This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.
A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's words, then
you are often missing the point.
Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do. So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are, instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.
If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE.
Look for the bright side of things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.
A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember
how she FELT during it. So make it feel
GOOD.
Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.
The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good. You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are. Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.
4. NOT PROGRESSING THE INTERACTION
An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.
Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected- however,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point?
So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.
Which brings me to the motto:
"He who dares, wins."
So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.
5. NOT BEING FLIRTATIOUS
If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction.
So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye.
6. OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES
This is a HUGE one. We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about. So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it. It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.
If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.
So, for example, let's say you are insecure
about how much money you earn. Well,
if you very early in a conversation said
something like "superficial things are so
over-rated, I would never be caught working
for a big corporation". If you're bald, if
you're short, if you're ANYTHING you
are insecure about- the reality is that it's
NOT an issue but if you START with,
"Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.
Same with, "Hi, I work for minimum wage,
but I LOVE my job", that also shows that
you are obsessed with the money issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.
Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all. There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.
This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are renting
a car because your regular better car is at the
shop, don't say, "This is just a rental- I have
a better car", just DON'T BRING IT UP,
otherwise it comes across as you feeling
inferior worth compared to what you
feel her worth is.
And when YOU feel your worth is low,
that is the ultimate litmus test to a woman
of your worth. YOU are the one who
has to know what you're worth. If you
don't feel it, how can she?
7. REVEALING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO EARLY
Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.
So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds, "Man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or,
"I'm so tired, I was up all night with
my agent on the phone closing a deal"
etc, etc.
It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" "AGENT" "closing
the deal", etc.
Those are 7 SUPER IMPORTANT
tips that you can now go out and apply
IMMEDIATELY, and you will notice
a MASSIVE difference, TODAY.
And yet, that is just the TIP of the ICEBERG.
If you want to be KING when it comes to
attracting the most fantastic quality women,
I suggest you get my program called
WARRIOR WITHIN immediately, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
When a woman sees a man approach her, she
subconsciously is applying TONS of SCREENING
mechanisms to PREVENT the wrong guy from
wasting her time.
She has instinctively learned to do this from
EXPERIENCE.
She can DETECT IMMEDIATELY and instinctively
if a guy "gets it" when it comes to women.
This program will ensure you IMMEDIATELY
give off the right "signals" to women that show
you ARE the kind of man that TOTALLY "gets it"
when it comes to women.
The men who show that they "get it", get the
GREEN LIGHT from women, and they get it
INSTANTLY.
Get this program NOW and start enjoying the
life you DESERVE with women.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
To check out ALL my programs for approaching
and attracting fantastic women, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Friday, September 7, 2012
The Most POWERFUL Way To Up Your "Game" With Women INSTANTLY
There is a great IRONY when it comes to
attracting women. Most men think the FASTEST
way to get success when approaching a woman
and trying to attract her, is to know the
perfect "pick up line".
The irony is that this is the SLOWEST
way to get results with women, and
turns the entire process into a
numbers game where a guy will just
have to sweat it out approaching
woman after woman after woman till
finally something "clicks", i.e.
the woman happened to be in a good
mood, etc, but it wasn't the actual
PICK UP LINE that got him the result.
The REAL FOUNDATION to attracting a woman
is mastering the far DEEPER LEVELS of "game",
so that you are no longer leaving it up to chance
but actually SPARKING ATTRACTION.
And I assure you, most men NEVER learn
this deeper level.
Now, I actually UNDERSTAND why most men
never learn this, because as a guy who
spent over 7 YEARS of his life trying
to get dates, especially with the kind
of women he was interested in, and then
not only not getting results, but also
getting his heart RIPPED to shreds, I
got to the point where I felt it was just
too much pain, and I would rather not
even try.
It got to the point that it genuinely
felt to me like there was some type of
conspiracy or bizarre reality that women
were all together on, as if women really
believed that men were the "enemy".
I felt this way because it really seemed
to me at the time that a lot of women
actually were TRYING to make me feel bad-
as if they enjoyed playing sick mental
"games" on me, etc.
Have you ever felt like this?
Anyway, I know I felt exactly like that, and that
only led to me REINFORCING a lot of horrific
ideas about women, which led me to believe in
a lot of the horrifying advice of so called "experts".
These guys really seemed to UNDERSTAND
just how bad the situation was, so I figured
they had the right advice as well, and I
really soaked in their advice.
The problem was that all this supposed "expert"
advice was built around OVERCOMPENSATING for
fear of REJECTION.
This results in behavior such as
tactics designed to lower a woman's
self-esteem, and tactics to make
you come across as a real cocky
kind of guy.
The mentality behind all this is
that if YOU are the jerk first,
then she will have to be on the
defensive, and that supposedly
she will then try to kiss up
to you.
However, the PROBLEM with all this
is that in REALITY a woman SEES
all this for what it REALLY is-
and what it is, is massive
insecurity.
The better the woman, and the less
of a drama queen she is, the MORE
EASILY she will spot this behavior
for what it is.
Of course, if a woman is massively
low self esteem, this type of behavior
might work, but low self-esteem
women are the kind of women
who will RUIN you faster than
anything on earth, as the low
self-esteem sees THREATS in
everything that YOU say to
her, i.e. she will feel that
you don't could never really
feel love for her, since she
is not "desirable" (her own perception
of herself) and that therefore
she needs to play jealousy games
on you to get your attention, etc.
You end up CREATING the reality you
believe in, and if you believe all
women are crazy and that you need
to play sick games with them to
get their attention, that is exactly
the reality with women that you will
create for yourself.
So let me fast forward here- the bottom line is
that I finally learned, and I learned it the long,
hard way, that the thing that was PREVENTING me
from getting results with women was that I was
in the dark regarding my own INSECURITIES.
Now, I am not ashamed to admit this.
The reality is that 99% of what makes the world
go round is insecurities - it's what makes all kinds
of destructive products, services, and entertainment
sell by the BILLIONS of dollars per year.
If it wasn't for insecurity, the economy would
probably COLLAPSE - it would be a total
joke compared to any issues in recent history.
Breeding infinite insecurities in men
about how women feel about them is
what makes entire EMPIRES thrive.
Insecurities are so powerful that they actually
DISTORT your very PERCEPTION of reality, of truth,
they even distort the way you see the most INNOCENT
and BEAUTIFUL things on earth, and I'm not just
talking about a great woman.
So the truth is, it takes a great MAN, a courageous,
brave, MAN with balls the size of MOUNTAINS, to
get OVER his own insecurities.
You see, once you make the jump, you suddenly
UNLEASH a HERCULEAN WAVE of power from within,
you start to see the REAL reason that everyone
does EVERYTHING, and you start to now become
pretty much the equivalent of a MIND-READER.
Now, imagine you could READ a woman's MIND.
Imagine you could know EXACTLY what she is
feeling, fearing, wishing, hoping, wanting, and
most of all, NEEDING.
Do you think this might be HELPFUL to your
SUCCESS in attracting her?
Hell YES, it would be MASSIVELY helpful.
You ever hear how in martial arts, the greatest
masters win before it even starts? You ever
hear how there is such a thing as PSYCHOLOGICAL
WARFARE where the battle is over before it
barely begins?
It's the same thing when it comes
to attracting a woman. If you
master this deep level, then you
will attract her INSTANTLY- it
will usually SHOW within SECONDS.
But you have to truly MASTER this
deepest level of "game" that is
actually not a game at all. The
real "game" is the game that your
own MIND plays on you to sabotage
your results. WINNING against
this "internal game" allows you
to SKYROCKET your results with
women.
Without mastering this area of your life,
the BEST that you will ever be able to do
with women is FORCE YOURSELF to act a
certain way that resembles confidence.
The problem with having to rely only on ACTING
confident, rather than on truly getting OVER
the internal insecurities, is that these internal
issues will create ILLUSIONS that are so
threatening, that you will feel that it's a
MISTAKE to even ACT confident with a woman,
you will feel that the best thing to do is
AVOID taking action altogether.
When you perceive that a woman is trying to
hurt you or that women will reject you, or that
a woman will somehow cause you massive
pain, then this will make you not even feel
like ACTING confident or acting masculine,
etc.
Telling a man to "be confident" with a woman
when the woman seems threatening or a risk to
our emotions, is the same like telling a man to
BE STRONG and stand in the middle of a
street when a huge TRUCK is roaring down
the road! The idea of standing in middle of
the street suddenly seems INSANE, it seems
like asking to be DESTROYED.
It's the same thing with trying to be confident
when in reality you feel there is a PROBLEM
or possible DANGER with approaching a woman,
trying to get a number, etc, etc, etc.
That's why what I will teach you has nothing,
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with just "going
through motions" or learning "pick up lines" -
because I know that those things AREN'T ENOUGH,
and anyway without the right EMOTIONS in you,
the pick up lines will fail anyway even if
you delivered them a thousand times a day.
The fantastic news is that you have TRUTH
and FACTS on your side. The truth is that
you CAN get the woman of your dreams,
and the other truth is that it's only YOU
who is stopping yourself from making
that happen.
Right now, it's YOU who is sabotaging
yourself and you don't even realize it.
If you don't see yourself as a man who is
successful with women, or with getting
the kind of woman you want, then it's
going to be almost IMPOSSIBLE to
ever get that woman. But the good
news is that you can CHANGE the
way you see yourself, you can CHANGE
the way you are perceiving things,
so that you actually start to see the
TRUTH, and that truth is that there
ARE amazing women out there, and
they DO want to meet you, if you could
just DO THE WORK required to get
RID of your insecurities.
And that is EXACTLY what I am going
to show you how to do, based on the
over TEN YEARS that I have been
IMMERSED in this field, I am going
to show you how to apply this technology
on everything from approaching a woman,
getting her number, getting a date, taking
things to a physical level, and keeping the
attraction burning for as long as you want-
ALL this will be shown to you in my program
called WARRIOR WITHIN.
This is a program that you really, REALLY
want to get. It's the chance to finally
get this area of your life taken care of,
on the deepest level, once and for ALL.
This program will allow your FULL POTENTIAL
with women to be unleashed. 99% of men will
NEVER master this area, at best they will
learn a pathetic "pick up line" or two that
will fizzle out before they know it, and
they will feel that women are just
"impossible" to get in the first place,
and that they are also impossible to
be with long-term.
You, however, can be one of the rare
few men who actually HAVE your choice
of women. This seminar will make you
a natural with women because it will
remove all the internal blocks to your
NATURAL ability to do EVERYTHING from
approaching to taking things to a
physical level and to getting into a
serious relationship and KEEPING
the attraction burning for as long
as you want.
If you want the most powerful way to get
all the skills you need to attract the
women of your choice, then get this
program NOW, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Again, this program is not about learning
"games" or how to act like someone you're
not. This program will show you how to become
the very ESSENCE of ATTRACTION itself.
My work in the field of helping men drastically
improve their dating success has changed the
entire landscape within this field. My work
is often imitated, but the only way to get
the REAL thing is by going to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
attracting women. Most men think the FASTEST
way to get success when approaching a woman
and trying to attract her, is to know the
perfect "pick up line".
The irony is that this is the SLOWEST
way to get results with women, and
turns the entire process into a
numbers game where a guy will just
have to sweat it out approaching
woman after woman after woman till
finally something "clicks", i.e.
the woman happened to be in a good
mood, etc, but it wasn't the actual
PICK UP LINE that got him the result.
The REAL FOUNDATION to attracting a woman
is mastering the far DEEPER LEVELS of "game",
so that you are no longer leaving it up to chance
but actually SPARKING ATTRACTION.
And I assure you, most men NEVER learn
this deeper level.
Now, I actually UNDERSTAND why most men
never learn this, because as a guy who
spent over 7 YEARS of his life trying
to get dates, especially with the kind
of women he was interested in, and then
not only not getting results, but also
getting his heart RIPPED to shreds, I
got to the point where I felt it was just
too much pain, and I would rather not
even try.
It got to the point that it genuinely
felt to me like there was some type of
conspiracy or bizarre reality that women
were all together on, as if women really
believed that men were the "enemy".
I felt this way because it really seemed
to me at the time that a lot of women
actually were TRYING to make me feel bad-
as if they enjoyed playing sick mental
"games" on me, etc.
Have you ever felt like this?
Anyway, I know I felt exactly like that, and that
only led to me REINFORCING a lot of horrific
ideas about women, which led me to believe in
a lot of the horrifying advice of so called "experts".
These guys really seemed to UNDERSTAND
just how bad the situation was, so I figured
they had the right advice as well, and I
really soaked in their advice.
The problem was that all this supposed "expert"
advice was built around OVERCOMPENSATING for
fear of REJECTION.
This results in behavior such as
tactics designed to lower a woman's
self-esteem, and tactics to make
you come across as a real cocky
kind of guy.
The mentality behind all this is
that if YOU are the jerk first,
then she will have to be on the
defensive, and that supposedly
she will then try to kiss up
to you.
However, the PROBLEM with all this
is that in REALITY a woman SEES
all this for what it REALLY is-
and what it is, is massive
insecurity.
The better the woman, and the less
of a drama queen she is, the MORE
EASILY she will spot this behavior
for what it is.
Of course, if a woman is massively
low self esteem, this type of behavior
might work, but low self-esteem
women are the kind of women
who will RUIN you faster than
anything on earth, as the low
self-esteem sees THREATS in
everything that YOU say to
her, i.e. she will feel that
you don't could never really
feel love for her, since she
is not "desirable" (her own perception
of herself) and that therefore
she needs to play jealousy games
on you to get your attention, etc.
You end up CREATING the reality you
believe in, and if you believe all
women are crazy and that you need
to play sick games with them to
get their attention, that is exactly
the reality with women that you will
create for yourself.
So let me fast forward here- the bottom line is
that I finally learned, and I learned it the long,
hard way, that the thing that was PREVENTING me
from getting results with women was that I was
in the dark regarding my own INSECURITIES.
Now, I am not ashamed to admit this.
The reality is that 99% of what makes the world
go round is insecurities - it's what makes all kinds
of destructive products, services, and entertainment
sell by the BILLIONS of dollars per year.
If it wasn't for insecurity, the economy would
probably COLLAPSE - it would be a total
joke compared to any issues in recent history.
Breeding infinite insecurities in men
about how women feel about them is
what makes entire EMPIRES thrive.
Insecurities are so powerful that they actually
DISTORT your very PERCEPTION of reality, of truth,
they even distort the way you see the most INNOCENT
and BEAUTIFUL things on earth, and I'm not just
talking about a great woman.
So the truth is, it takes a great MAN, a courageous,
brave, MAN with balls the size of MOUNTAINS, to
get OVER his own insecurities.
You see, once you make the jump, you suddenly
UNLEASH a HERCULEAN WAVE of power from within,
you start to see the REAL reason that everyone
does EVERYTHING, and you start to now become
pretty much the equivalent of a MIND-READER.
Now, imagine you could READ a woman's MIND.
Imagine you could know EXACTLY what she is
feeling, fearing, wishing, hoping, wanting, and
most of all, NEEDING.
Do you think this might be HELPFUL to your
SUCCESS in attracting her?
Hell YES, it would be MASSIVELY helpful.
You ever hear how in martial arts, the greatest
masters win before it even starts? You ever
hear how there is such a thing as PSYCHOLOGICAL
WARFARE where the battle is over before it
barely begins?
It's the same thing when it comes
to attracting a woman. If you
master this deep level, then you
will attract her INSTANTLY- it
will usually SHOW within SECONDS.
But you have to truly MASTER this
deepest level of "game" that is
actually not a game at all. The
real "game" is the game that your
own MIND plays on you to sabotage
your results. WINNING against
this "internal game" allows you
to SKYROCKET your results with
women.
Without mastering this area of your life,
the BEST that you will ever be able to do
with women is FORCE YOURSELF to act a
certain way that resembles confidence.
The problem with having to rely only on ACTING
confident, rather than on truly getting OVER
the internal insecurities, is that these internal
issues will create ILLUSIONS that are so
threatening, that you will feel that it's a
MISTAKE to even ACT confident with a woman,
you will feel that the best thing to do is
AVOID taking action altogether.
When you perceive that a woman is trying to
hurt you or that women will reject you, or that
a woman will somehow cause you massive
pain, then this will make you not even feel
like ACTING confident or acting masculine,
etc.
Telling a man to "be confident" with a woman
when the woman seems threatening or a risk to
our emotions, is the same like telling a man to
BE STRONG and stand in the middle of a
street when a huge TRUCK is roaring down
the road! The idea of standing in middle of
the street suddenly seems INSANE, it seems
like asking to be DESTROYED.
It's the same thing with trying to be confident
when in reality you feel there is a PROBLEM
or possible DANGER with approaching a woman,
trying to get a number, etc, etc, etc.
That's why what I will teach you has nothing,
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with just "going
through motions" or learning "pick up lines" -
because I know that those things AREN'T ENOUGH,
and anyway without the right EMOTIONS in you,
the pick up lines will fail anyway even if
you delivered them a thousand times a day.
The fantastic news is that you have TRUTH
and FACTS on your side. The truth is that
you CAN get the woman of your dreams,
and the other truth is that it's only YOU
who is stopping yourself from making
that happen.
Right now, it's YOU who is sabotaging
yourself and you don't even realize it.
If you don't see yourself as a man who is
successful with women, or with getting
the kind of woman you want, then it's
going to be almost IMPOSSIBLE to
ever get that woman. But the good
news is that you can CHANGE the
way you see yourself, you can CHANGE
the way you are perceiving things,
so that you actually start to see the
TRUTH, and that truth is that there
ARE amazing women out there, and
they DO want to meet you, if you could
just DO THE WORK required to get
RID of your insecurities.
And that is EXACTLY what I am going
to show you how to do, based on the
over TEN YEARS that I have been
IMMERSED in this field, I am going
to show you how to apply this technology
on everything from approaching a woman,
getting her number, getting a date, taking
things to a physical level, and keeping the
attraction burning for as long as you want-
ALL this will be shown to you in my program
called WARRIOR WITHIN.
This is a program that you really, REALLY
want to get. It's the chance to finally
get this area of your life taken care of,
on the deepest level, once and for ALL.
This program will allow your FULL POTENTIAL
with women to be unleashed. 99% of men will
NEVER master this area, at best they will
learn a pathetic "pick up line" or two that
will fizzle out before they know it, and
they will feel that women are just
"impossible" to get in the first place,
and that they are also impossible to
be with long-term.
You, however, can be one of the rare
few men who actually HAVE your choice
of women. This seminar will make you
a natural with women because it will
remove all the internal blocks to your
NATURAL ability to do EVERYTHING from
approaching to taking things to a
physical level and to getting into a
serious relationship and KEEPING
the attraction burning for as long
as you want.
If you want the most powerful way to get
all the skills you need to attract the
women of your choice, then get this
program NOW, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Again, this program is not about learning
"games" or how to act like someone you're
not. This program will show you how to become
the very ESSENCE of ATTRACTION itself.
My work in the field of helping men drastically
improve their dating success has changed the
entire landscape within this field. My work
is often imitated, but the only way to get
the REAL thing is by going to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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