Create MEANING In Women's Lives

Today's newsletter goes DEEP,
this is not KOOL-AID drink here,
this is ADVANCED FUEL FOR
SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.

One of the coolest things to me is the fact
that a man CAN attract virtually any woman
by the power of his PERSONALITY.

This personality is really a combination of
PSYCHOLOGICAL SKILLS at a supremely
high level, and these skills have nothing to
do with controlling HER, they have to do
with accessing parts of your mind you
mat not even realize you HAVE.

Three fundamental components of
these skills involve:

1. Creating MEANING in her life.

2. Creating HUMOR through emotional
RISK, VULNERABILITY, and TRUTH.

3. Social INTELLIGENCE.

NUMBER 1:

CREATE MEANING IN HER LIFE

Help give a woman MEANING in her life,
and she will be yours forever. Especially
if this meaning is linked to improving her
self-esteem on a very deep level.

Of course, step one in this is practicing
what you preach.

We are currently living in a time where there
is almost ZERO pressure on anyone to have
ANY values whatsoever.

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that more
people are depressed and find their lives
meaningless, ESPECIALLY attractive
women, than ever before, during a time
when there is very very VERY little
moral code being enforced socially.

So, because there is no moral code to live BY,
there is very little for people to life FOR.

Let me be specific:

In previous generations, there was a value
on various different things, for example,
things like FAMILY, things like LOYALTY,
things like FIDELITY, things like EXPERIENCE,
things like INTELLIGENCE.

These were actually promoted.

Today, however the OBSESSION is with
YOUTH. 

Craig Ferguson the talk show host has actually
TALKED about this, which is very cool:



It’s all because of societal changes, and how
everything became about "me" and making
money rather than anything else.

It's not a conspiracy though, it's just business
gone out of control because there aren't any
many competing forces or competing values
anymore. 

Companies know that if they can get the
KIDS, they can have them for LIFE, and
milk them financially for LIFE.  And
a lot of parents are themselves the product
of these values, so they aren't helping.

Also, kids and youth have LESS EXPERIENCE,
are LESS WISE, and are easily manipulated
by their EMOTIONS, especially by appealing
to violence and to the most basic sexual things.

So for example, the vast majority of the movies
that come out are focused on youth, to get the
youth audience, they are also focused on
violence and sex in the most non-creative,
non-artistic, and primitive ways, because
to a bunch of teenagers whose hormones
just kicked in, this appeals to them, it’s
all a new thing to them.

But while in the past this was just one part
of what was available in our culture, now it’s
virtually EVERYTHING.

In the 1950’s, Superman was played by
an actor in his 40’s. A couple of years ago,
Superman was played by an actor in his
20s or 30s.

In the 1950’s, sure, a woman’s beauty was
attractive, but today it’s her YOUTH that is
the main thing. In fact, I would say that if
you took a sample of the women who were
in billboards, movies, tv shows in the 50’s
and 60’s, and 70’s, they were on average
MORE beautiful than the women being
celebrated today, but they weren’t as
young in general.

In even the recent past, Cindy Crawford and Madonna
were hitting their prime only PAST the age of 25, while
today it’s gone nuts with Britney Spears priming at 18,
Miley Cirus, etc.

And the obsession with the sexual,
as soon as any celebrity gets any
fame whatsoever, it’s BOOM
straight to the maximum graphic
display immediately.

It’s not just movies, it’s almost everything that is
being advertised- and that totals BILLIONS of
dollars a year, billions worth of MESSAGES
being bombarded everywhere telling us it’s
only about youth.

So of course women are uptight and nervous,
especially the ones who think they have a chance,
i.e. the attractive ones, because other ones have
to let go of this illusion fantasy and are probably
happier for it, learning the lesson early that
self-esteem is not about being under 20 years old.

This obsession with youth stems from
marketing efforts by companies, and on a
smaller level, there is nothing that is
considered TABOO now- so there are
companies that sell dating sites on cheating
on your spouse with other cheating people,
companies will do whatever they need to
do to SELL, period, regardless of the
moral questions involved, in fact they
will turn things around and try to make
it seem like a morally good thing.

It’s not a coincidence that more women than
ever are on PROZAC. It’s not a coincidence
that relationships are disintegrating while the
obsession with material and youth is on the
rise. People are chasing after what they
hope will bring them MEANING, but
they ain’t getting it no matter how high
they climb.

If you want to attract a woman on the
deepest level, then you need to have
a STRONGER SENSE OF MEANING
than most people have. And this means
a stronger sense of VALUES than most
of our society has.

This requires taking a RISK, it means that
you have to NOT be afraid of going
AGAINST social convention in this
respect and in fact you should be
PROUD of it.

This is part of what I mean by the difference
between a GREAT MAN and a “nice guy”.
“Nice guy” seems to have a weak connotation
to it, while a great man does everything in
his life out of genuine CONVICTION, he doesn’t
do things out of PRESSURE to “fit in”.

Next time, you’re chatting to a woman,
see if you can make a comment or lend
a perspective that ILLUSTRATES that
in fact you HAVE MEANING in your
life and that it shows through the things
you say.

If you’re in a bookstore and a woman
is reading VOGUE in the magazine
section or whatever, maybe TELL
her, with a sense of HUMOR, “I hope
you don’t take those articles seriously.

They’re just trying to make women
insecure, in fact there’s a big conspiracy
where the men’s and women’s magazines
just share the same articles but change
the titles so they can sell them to each
audience!”

And when you say this, COMMIT to it
with your voice tonality, don’t say it
with a namby-pamby attitude. Make
it REAL.

This is TRUTH mixed with HUMOR
mixed with a sense of VALUES,
particularly the value of SELF-ESTEEM!

NUMBER 2:

HUMOR IS RISK, VULNERABILITY, TRUTH

The reality is that humor makes a woman
FEEL good, and women are often MORE
affected by FEELINGS when it comes to
most things than men are. Men DO
get emotional about CERTAIN things,
but not as MANY things as women
do, in general. So humor is VERY
POWERFUL with women.

The irony of making humor work is that
you have to say the very things that most
people would NOT say, and the things
you say have to have TRUTH behind
them, AND the things have to be said
in a way that is not mean-spirited.

Most guys don’t want to take the
emotional RISK that there won’t
be a laugh, they’re too afraid of
their own ego.

But as Robin Williams says, this is
COMEDY, this isn’t about you having
to jump off a building, it’s about TALKING,
the worst thing is that they don’t LAUGH,
so what??????

You can actually learn to get an
adrenaline RUSH from this risk,
and get ADDICTED to it in a
good way, which will make you
VERY FUNNY VERY FAST.

And again, there has to be truth to it.
Like when Robin Williams talks about
how UNREALISTIC beer commercials
are and how people “get sucked into
drinking beer by believing it’s a healthy
thing! All these beer commercials
usually show BIG MEN, MANLY MEN,
doing manly things! ‘You’ve just killed
a small animal, it’s time for light beer!

Why not have a REALISTIC beer commercial
show a REALISTIC thing about beer? –
It’s 5 o’clock in the morning, you’ve just
pissed on a dumpster- IT’S MILLER TIME!’

Or when Dave Chappelle makes the comment,
“Chivalry is dead. And women killed it!”

This is FUNNY, because it takes guts
to say, and it TRUE in many ways
because FEMINISM tried to make
women and men the SAME, thereby
destroying things like chivalry.

So you have to take the comedy RISK,
and you also have to be VULNERABLE,
you can’t be afraid to BRING OUT WHO
YOU REALLY ARE.

Yes, the irony is that being courageous enough
to bring out the perspectives that you see, that
other people won’t say, INCLUDING THE
THINGS THAT MAKE YOU VULNERABLE,
are actually very often the things that everyone
has on their mind but are just afraid to say,
and so now you have her RESPECT as well,
and she sees all this as STRENGTH.

So you are revealing your identity, you are
being strong, you are being vulnerable, you
are being honest, and you are being FUNNY
all at once. No wonder humor is such a
powerful drug when used right.

NUMBER 3:

SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE

This is a HUGELY important concept you
want to put into action when socializing
or interacting with any woman.

The other day I happened to see something
on television. Talk show host Jimmy Fallon
had a certain guest on, she was talking about
one of her many luxurious homes, and how
she was enjoying FISHING from the very
backyard of one of her homes, how it connects
right to a POND, etc, etc.

Now, I know everyone knows these people
are wealthy, but really, do people WANT to
know about all of her homes? Do people
want to hear HER talking about her luxury
life? The answer is NO, it’s not cool to talk
about this and no one is interested really in this-
and Jimmy Fallon KNOWS that this is
not making the audience feel better, so
what does he do?

He says how he just went ICE FISHING
LOCALLY and froze his butt off, and how
he didn’t even HAVE THE TALENT OR
SKILL to make the hole himself and how
he and his friend just froze out in the
cold trying to catch a fish but ended
up getting NOTHING.

Ahhh, now the audience LAUGHS and
feels GREAT. It’s winter now and they
are all freezing their butt off too.

Normally, he won't be so self-deprecating,
but in the MOMENT it was the right thing
to do because he tapped into the VIBE
of the audience and he knew where they
were at emotionally at that moment.

This is exactly what you want to be doing
with women, you have to know what's
going on and how to adjust for the
situation.

And do they think that Jimmy Fallon is a
loser for this?  Of course not.

If anything, they like him even more from
all this, and it’s obvious from the audience
response.

When chatting up a woman, don’t kiss up
to her, but definitely think about HER emotions,
and realize that showing off is basically
NEVER the right thing to do, and I’m not
just talking morally, it’s actually NOT cool.

It makes you seem needy and insecure.

By the way, I’m sure the guest didn’t
intend anything negative at all, and that in reality
she IS a cool person who was just nervous at
the moment. Just like a lot of guys who are
decent guys UNINTENTIONALLY sabotage
their results with women. And I used to be
the KING of these mistakes, thinking to
myself “I really want to impress this woman,
so I’ll tell her the most impressive things
about myself possible”. I cringe to think
about the mistakes I made even if they
were years ago.

And if you’re reading this right now, and
want to learn the RIGHT way to interact
with women, and especially the right way
to get a GREAT quality woman for a
fantastic relationship, then I suggest you
download my book ‘Get A Great Girl’
IMMEDIATELY at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

What you read in these newsletters, as
deep as they get, is still just scratching
the SURFACE compared to what
you'll learn in this book as well as
in my other books and programs.

If you’re just STARTING out in the dating
game, then you should first get my book
‘The Dating Wizard’ at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

I must warn you, though, this book is
designed to REPROGRAM guys who
are "TOO NICE".  If this is not you,
then this book is not for you! I'm not
interested in creating JERKS, and
being a JERK doesn't get you great
results with women.

However, I know that I myself, and many
other men, were BRAINWASHED to put
all women on pedestals and that type
of thinking will get you DEMOLISHED
with THE MAJORITY of attractive women,
so I wrote the THE DATING WIZARD book
to SAVE ALL NICE GUYS FROM BEING
DESTROYED!

For my most ADVANCED program, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Three Pillars Of Attraction: Charisma, Inner Strength, And Heart

Ever since I started in this, my driving passion

has been, "What is the TRUTH about women?"

This is the question that I asked all the 'experts'

who professed to know it all.

This is the question that I stayed up at night

for years struggling to know the answer.

This is the question that I needed to have

answered every time I went out trying

every tactic imaginable when approaching
women, whether it was at a store, the library, 
a club, school, or anywhere else.

Well, the answer that none of these wannabe
"experts" knew, but is the REAL truth, is that 
not all women are the same.  And also, they
forgot to mention, that just because you can
attract a woman, doesn't mean you SHOULD.

In fact, the wrong woman will ruin you
with greater destruction than any other
force on the planet.

You wouldn't want to get "ALL" the women
even if you could.  

You want to get the RIGHT woman.
(There is an irony to this as well,
in that when you decide what it is
that you DON'T want, suddenly it 
becomes available EVERYWHERE,
because you are not needy for it.) 

Most of the dating experts would say things like: 
"All women are untrustworthy, so you
better make sure to "game" them".

Then, there was the opposite extreme,
the guys who lived in LA-LA-LAND
with hogwash advice like "All women are
all dainty creatures who all are just special
souls of virtue" and other nonsense. 

The reality is that there are certain universal 
attractive qualities, yes, I agree, but how these
attractive factors interplay with an individual's
VALUES is a CRUCIAL key to understand
as well- and the way this plays out from woman 
to woman differs GREATLY.    

You will attract that which you truly ARE,

which is different from attracting that which

you WANT.

So it becomes really important to decide 

who you truly want to BECOME, because

it is THAT which you will attract as well.

Most people, men and women included, 

create fantasies and illusions for themselves,

and the one thing these illusions all have

in common is the desire to AVOID 

having to change or to do any work.

So the human instinct is to create all

sorts of FALSE beliefs, such as 

"I will meet a woman because it's all

destiny anyway", and this kind of 

thinking can make you depend on
miracles and take no action, and
just WAIT a lifetime, with no results.

Also, rather than see our own faults,

we tend to make the other person a 

villain, so we resort to black and white

thinking where we are perfect and

the woman must have been some

terrible person, etc, etc. 

And of course, many women do this to

men as well.

I've actually found that when it comes down
to it, most men and women are not trying
to hurt each other, but once they are in
pain, they often then oversimplify things
to make the other the villain, and this
doesn't help men or women, it just
fuels MISTRUST, which is probably
the greatest single destroyer of chemistry
and of relationships between men and
women.

So, this is why it's so important to get
rid of jaded thoughts when interacting
with women. Don't let yourself be a
punching bag or make yourself open
to abuse, but don't be so closed off
and self-protective that you are seeing
threats where they don't even exist.

And when people stay with in abusive
relationships, they often rationalize 
that things can't get any better anyway.

The bottom line is that whatever behavior
seems EASIER IN THE SHORT TERM
is what people gravitate toward, whether
it seems easier to LEAVE someone or
whether it seems easier to STAY with
someone, it's whatever is EASIER 
that allures people to making the
wrong decision.

They forget that the pain of taking this
short-term route will be much GREATER
than the pain of just doing the "harder"
thing right NOW.

This basic TRUTH is what you should
embrace, and you should be looking for
a woman who embraces this truth as
well- the truth that if you want to 
improve at anything, relationships,
business, anything, you have to
embrace that taking SHORT CUTS
is NOT the answer. 

If you truly care about meeting a woman of

FANTASTIC integrity, of high self-esteem, 

a woman who will champion TRUTH rather

than ego, a woman who will not give in

to temptation, then it's crucial to become

such a fantastic person yourself.

This way, you will be so in touch and intimately

familiar with what these fantastic traits look like,

that you will notice them from a million miles

away in the RIGHT woman, and you will ALSO

notice the LACK of these traits right away

in the WRONG woman.

Most of the dating guru advice is SOAKED in

the superficial, because they know that most

men will in fact prefer to believe in that illusion,

but I know that there are some more intelligent

men out there that of course want an attractive

woman, but ALSO will not settle on a woman

JUST because she's attractive.

If you want the kind of woman you can not

only LUST, but also LOVE and RESPECT, 
then you have to be the kind of man that 
SHE will feel these emotions for as well.

And to do that, you must have an IRON-STRONG

grip on what are the important things and what are

the trivial, and you must exude that in your every

action, decision, and the way you spend your

"free" time. (The truth is, your time is anything

BUT free, it is the most precious thing you have.)

You must be able to CAPTURE her emotions

and imagination by making  your life about 
something that INSPIRES you to make every 
moment MEANINGFUL.

How do you do this? 

By combining the following traits:

CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART

The dating gurus and their "pick up women" tactics

lack GENUINE heart, they lack GENUINE 

sensitivity, it's all ENGINEERED and artificial.

The "nice guys" lack CHARISMA.

The jerks are just overcompensating from insecurity.

They lack the magic combo of: 
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART

Now actually HAVING any ONE of these things is 
cool, but it's the COMBINATION that works magic.

If you want a great woman, forget the lies, illusions,

and marketing schemes. 

Instead, get back to: 
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART 

In my materials, it is THIS combination 
that I focus on.

If you haven't yet downloaded my program
"Attraction Accelerators", then definitely 
do that IMMEDIATELY. 

This program will show you the most powerful and 
effective strategies you can apply IMMEDIATELY
when seeing women ANYWHERE, to attract them
QUICKLY.

You can download this program NOW and be using
it TODAY to get the woman you want.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html 

Till next time...

Michael Marks