Mastering "Zero Game" In Attracting Women

The most effective "pickups", or
what I prefer to call situations of
"approaching and attracting women"
are done when you convey all the
right things about yourself in the
LEAST amount of time, using the
LEAST amount of energy, and using
zero cheesy or corny tactics.

Now, I fully understand that sometimes
as a beginner, it can feel good to
have some pick up lines memorized,
to feel confident through knowing
you have some story memorized to
tell her that is supposed to convey
that you are cool, or is supposed
to be funny, etc., etc.

But you really want to wean yourself
off of those things as soon as possible,
or if at all possible to avoid using
them altogether.

(Again, though, I do understand how
it can sometimes be useful for a guy
who simply feels too overwhelmed
without them at first. I just suggest
a guy gets OFF them as soon as he can.)

The problem with all these things
is that they prevent you from being
your best, because they end up becoming
crutches that you can become addicted
to using.

And the use of those crutches actually
WEAKENS your inner game, because you
are sending the message DIRECTLY to
your mind through ACTION that you
do NOT believe you can pull off
attracting the woman you want
UNLESS you use those superficial
tactics.

Now, on the other hand, when you
force yourself to use ZERO GAMES,
you then have to MASSIVELY rely
on your OWN ABILITY to attract
women.

And when I say your own ability, this
is referring to the MULTITUDE of skills
that are already in your DNA, but are
currently ASLEEP, lying dormant, waiting
to be AWOKEN.

What I am all about is helping men to
bring these elements of themselves that
are ALREADY THERE, but are sleeping,
to LIFE.

And trust me, what you have got already
in your system, from a billion years of
evolution, is A TRILLION TIMES MORE POWERFUL
than any pick up line or memorized material.

The human mind is powerful not only this
way, but also in the sense that women can
TELL if you are using SUPERFICIAL TACTICS.

That does not mean they always MIND, but
it definitely means that you will come
across as FAR MORE ATTRACTIVE if the
woman senses that you generated every
single element of the pickup on your
own, based on the actual real life
spontaneous moment that you saw her.

In a recent bootcamp, a client had mentioned
to me that he was interested in learning
how to master the pick up without using
anything external to himself. 

That meant no pick up lines at all.
No subtle but funny insults to 
make her feel insecure.
No fake compliments to kiss up.

So the entire bootcamp ran without so
much as even one tiny single SUPERFICIAL
tactic.

Instead, his inner game was taken to
new heights, his spontaneous conversation
skills soared, and he learned to convey
sexuality without saying a single dirty
joke or making any innuendos.

And he turned his entire "game" around
in just a few approaches, and the most
amazing thing about it is that he was
suddenly getting women laughing and
melting and opening up for him
without saying MUCH.

In fact, once he got them going, he
leaned back and they pretty much did
the rest of the work!

By the way, one of the coolest things
to me is when the woman is giving off
MASSIVE signals of interest, but a guy
is learning so fast that he doesn't
think it is for real.

So for example, this cool guy, he got
this woman melting for him, and I am
watching this from a bit away so she
cannot see, and he then walks away
from her, he tells me that he did
not take her number because he
was not sure if she was really into
him or not.

I knew with a trillion percent certainty
that she was into him MASSIVELY or she
would not have been asking him questions
such as, "So what are your plans for
Saturday night?", which he told me that
she asked him.

So I told him to go BACK and find her
and take her number, which is kind of
interesting since the pick up was in a
way over, but I knew she was INTO him.

Not only that, but since I knew she
was into him, I knew that she would
be even MORE attracted this time,
since the human mind tends to get
DEEPER INTO an emotional experience
when you stimulate the emotion,
then pause the stimulation, and
then later continue the stimulation.

This is known as FRACTIONATION, and
is also a great idea to use when
making out with a woman when in
foreplay as well. 

(Kissing her, then stopping,
then kissing again later. Petting,
then stopping, then some more,
stopping, then some more, till
she is heating up and starting to
rub on you like crazy.)  

But, I do NOT recommend that guys
break up the initial approach this
way, because you can end up really
losing her if she happens to leave
the area.

So he finds her in another aisle of the store,
and calls her name out with TOTAL CONFIDENCE.

I am changing her name for the sake of
privacy, but he does not say to her
"Uhm, Jeniffer?"

Instead, he sees her from a bit away,
and says:
"JENNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! What are you DOING??????"

He TOTALLY commits to the delivery,
with a trillion percent conviction.

No namby-pamby weak style.
Instead, he puts it ALL out there.

This is cool, because a woman senses this
man MEANS BUSINESS.

Her body language opened up to him
so wide, and she smiled so warmly,
it was as if in a movie a woman had
thought she had lost the love of her
life and then FOUND him again.

So of course, he got the number, and
they chatted more, and if it weren't for
the bootcamp itself, he could have left
with her right then and there, but he
had further training since the bootcamp
was still on.

And I honestly do not like to obsess
about women who are hot and young,
but it just so happens she was an
attractive younger woman.

PICK UP IS NOT SUPPOSED TO TAKE FOREVER.
I don't even like the term "pick-up"
but I use it since it seems to be
the most common way to refer to it.

One of the reasons I don't love the
term "pick-up" is because it sends
a message to your own mind that this
is some kind of ACT, some kind of
fake thing where you have to pull
the wool over women's eyes, when
in reality it is ACTUALLY about
unleashing the MAN in you in all
the right ways and at the moment
when it COUNTS when you see the
woman you want to meet.

And it is about doing all this while
STILL having tons of warmth in your soul
and STILL being a sensitive person who
cares about others.

It's not about being a jerk or being fake
or being manipulative.

And when it is done right, it all happens
VERY QUICKLY, and with very LITTLE
talking, and with very little effort.

If a stranger were to walk by within
a MINUTE of the conversation starting,
he would think FOR SURE this guy and
girl MUST already be boyfriend and
girlfriend or have already known
each other a LONG TIME.

It is when a guy is NOT doing it
properly, that it takes forever,
and that you will notice the guy
is making all kinds of exaggerated
actions, over the top jokes,
and other forms of overcompensation.

When you have the conversation skills,
and when you understand the right things
about women, and when you also are in the
RIGHT STATE OF MIND, you actually end up
doing MILLIONS of subtle things with your
expression, your tonality, your timing,
your body language, that ALL COMMUNICATE
THE RIGHT THINGS about yourself to a woman.

And THAT is what I teach you to DO.
I do not waste your time trying to teach
you a TRILLION pick up tactics so that you
can IMITATE what the right thing is supposed
to look like.

Instead, I focus on BRINGING TO LIFE that
part of you that is deep within that will
AUTOMATICALLY DO ALL THE RIGHT THINGS
when you interact with women!

It is not about my special pick up tactics,
I do not HAVE any special cheesy tactics,
instead what I have is TEN YEARS EXPERIENCE
in teaching you how to REVIVE that billion-years-in
the-making part of your mind that ALREADY
knows how to attract women INSTINCTIVELY.
(It just has been BURIED DEEP under endless
misguided social conditioning.)

The honest truth is that I was teaching this
advanced method even way back when pick up
lines were all the rage. And the other truth
is that since then, I've taken the training
to an even DEEPER level where you will not
only be able to initially attract women but
you will understand what to do at every stage
including the long-term attraction as well.

The most powerful way to learn is THE REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP, and it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Now here's the thing: I know some of you
might think that since Michael just said
that the best way to attract women is
to just not use any tactics at all, then
what the heck does he teach?

What I teach is all about the SUBTLETIES.

It is like saying, everyone knows that
to get big muscles, you need to lift
weights and eat right.

But at one point, it is ESSENTIAL to
learn HOW to do this, and even though
working out is a real thing, the body
was meant to exercise, that does not
mean we all know how to do it PROPERLY,
especially since we tend to live in
societies where we do not get a lot
of exercise.

It is the same thing with my programs.
I teach you the best way to use your
REAL SELF to get you RESULTS with
women.

For my most powerful home-study program on
learning how to unleash your inner game,
and on how to attract and keep a quality
woman, I seriously suggest you get my
program called "Warrior Within".

You can check it out here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

To find out about ALL my different programs for
skyrocketing your success with women, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

If you have ANY question about dating
or relationships, you can arrange personal
phone consultations with me by going here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

"Real World" Truth On Getting Quality Women

Before I start today, I just want to make
one thing really clear, and that is the
difference between FANTASY and REALITY
when it comes to getting women.

The more you get the REAL THING, the
less you care about the FAKE thing.

Most men figure they will NEVER get the
kind of women they want.

So it is the most natural thing in the
world to then really, REALLY enjoy
things like Playboy or Penthouse.

The women there are touched up with makeup,
they are presented in certain angles and
lighting, and they have certain expressions
on their faces, etc.  All designed to enhance
the fantasy.

Similar thing with strippers at strip clubs.

Now, like I said, fantasy is NORMAL when
the REALITY is not there.

For example, I LOVE the Star Wars original
movies with Luke Skywalker, etc.

Part of the fantasy is the POWER of the "Force",
(which is not clearly defined, which makes it
even easier to believe in, for one can define it
in a way that is real to themselves).
 
And of course, there is the fact that I LOVE the idea of flying an "X-Wing" spacecraft but  I probably will NEVER actually fly an X-Wing fighter spacecraft, probably never get to battle Darth Vader with a lightsaber, and probably not get to go on the same adventures with R2D2 and C3PO.

So I LOVE the FANTASY of it!
When I fantasize about it when watching the
movie, I FORGET it is a fantasy and I get
to actually FEEL the fantasy for a while.

But when it comes to WOMEN, when you actually
GET the kind of attractive woman or women you
like for REAL, you simply don't feel the same
DESIRE for the FANTASIZING elements.

It is like being Superman for real and then
fantasizing about flying.  You are doing it
for REAL so you do not fantasize about it.

But there is one MORE element to this that
most men never realize:

REALITY is far MORE powerful than FANTASY.

And what I mean by this, is that, let us say
you meet a woman who is a genuine NINE in
terms of her looks, and a genuine TEN in
terms of her personality.

And you have her, bent over the couch,
she is panting your name in obsessive
lust for you, she is begging for your
body, she is totally yours, crazy for
you in every way.

You see the beads of sweat on her QUIVERING body, you behold the contours of her every curve, and again it strikes you- she is totally YOURS.
 
I can ASSURE YOU that this is going to
be a TRILLION TIMES more ELECTRIFYING
than fantasizing about a woman who is
in a magazine or video, even if the
magazine and video has all the lighting,
makeup, and specially chosen angles
for photo or video recording.

The REAL THING CRUSHES the fantasy thing
by a ratio of about a TRILLION to one.

That is one of the reasons my "Real World
Bootcamp" is called "The Real World Bootcamp".

Until one experiences the real thing, it
is very hard to even FATHOM how powerful
it is, because until that point, FANTASY
is the only thing that exists.   
 
And most men will never even TRY to learn
the REAL THING.  This is why porn is a
BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.

Most men DO NOT KNOW HOW to get the real thing.

And now, I would like to give you EIGHT super powerful tips on how to GET the REAL THING, how to not only get an attractive woman, but a woman who is also a fantastic quality woman who would be a great
girlfriend.

These tips will work for you even if
you don't know ANY women or have ANY
"connections" to a social network at ALL.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 1:
GET INTO THE "JUICY" CONVERSATION RIGHT AWAY!

So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be polite.

You aren't seeing their eyes light up.

Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well. She knows NOTHING
about you.

And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her.

So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.

Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.

You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc.

THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there. You want to get
her FEELING damn good. So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something that is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your personality.

EXAMPLE:
So, giving the example of the woman at
the card store, you can go HUMOROUS
by telling her that she's just trying to butter
up her dad so he can buy her a Jaguar...

..Or you can go into the INTRIGUING and
genuinely meaningful compliment that raises her
self-esteem by speaking about how girls who get
along well with their dads tend to be the girls
who have less drama issues- and this would
PROMPT a response from her that was a lot
more involved on her part- it wouldn't just be
her trying to get rid of you, since now she is
actually engaged in something meaningful to her.

Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style
conversation.

COMBINING emotions is a VERY powerful thing.
Imagine if you get a woman laughing, then get
her feeling intrigued, and then feeling better
about herself, all within a span of just a few
MINUTES.

You are going to be MEMORABLE.

You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.

If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 2:
SHOW A BIT OF INTEREST WHEN SHE HAS EARNED IT.

Be down to earth and real.

This is a huge factor in being successful
when it comes to how to get a girlfriend.

Most guys are trying so hard to show they
are not interested, because they are told
by the "dating gurus" and pick up artists
that this will make the woman more interested-
so the guys end up standing way too far from
the women, and talking from too much of a
distance, and the guys try to also avoid ANY
type of comment that might sound like they
are interested.

The truth is that although you shouldn't give
compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the
things that she really EARNED.

The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.
If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy.

HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.

So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 3:
BE AWARE OF THE EMOTIONAL VIBE OF THE SITUATION

Ignoring this is a MAJOR factor in screwing up attraction.

This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.

This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.

A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's WORDS and not the
full depth of the tonality, expression, and
context behind those words, then you are often
missing what her real message is.

Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do. So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are, instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.

If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE.

Look for the bright side of things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.

A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember
how she FELT during it. So make it feel
GOOD.

Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.

The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good. You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are. Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 4:
PROGRESS THE INTERACTION!

An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.

Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected. However,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point?

So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.

So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 5:
BE FLIRTATIOUS!

If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction.

So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 6:
DON'T "OVERCOMPENSATE" FOR INSECURITIES

This is a HUGE one. We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about. So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it. It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.

If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.

For example, if you very early in a
chat said something like "superficial
things are so over-rated, I would never
be caught working for a big corporation",
that would be an example of this.

If you're bald, if you're short, if you're
ANYTHING you are insecure about- the reality
is that it's NOT an issue but if you START
with "Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.

Same with, "Hi, I make peanuts, but
I LOVE what I do" that also shows that
you are obsessed with the issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.

Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all. There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.

This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are
renting a car because your regular better
car is at the shop, don't say, "This is
just a rental- I have a better car". 

Just DON'T BRING IT UP, otherwise it comes
across as you feeling inferior to her.

And when YOU feel inferior, that is the
ultimate litmus test to a woman of
how desirable you are. YOU are the one
who has to know how desirable you are.

If you don't feel it, how can she?

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 7:
TAKE IT SLOW. DON'T RUSH IT AND REVEAL
TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO EARLY!

Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.

So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds "man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or
"I'm so tired, I was up all night with
my agent on the phone" etc, etc.

It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" and "AGENT".

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 8:
ADD EMOTIONAL DEPTH TO THE CONVERSATION.

What this means is that a quality woman
who is looking for a real relationship
is seeking someone who has an appreciation
for more than JUST sex.

This does NOT mean to BORE her with some
lecture crammed with statistical data.

Instead, what this means, is to incorporate
an element of INTRIGUE into your conversation
that has powerful emotional RELEVANCE to
her life.

For example, asking her the following question,
even as a conversation starter, would be great:

"What do you think of the phrase,
'Don't die with the song still in  you?' "

This is the kind of question (by the way, I got this from a great woman, so it comes right from the source) that gets the EMOTIONAL GEARS WORKING, and has MEAT to it that can provide the fuel for a great conversation, and then you can THEN sprinkle in some playfulness LATER.

For example, let's say you are both
chatting about this topic for a few minutes,
you can then say, "Wow this is pretty deep,
look what you caused here! Instead of having
a meaningless conversation, you got me going
deep! That's it, from now on, we are talking
about Justin Bieber and Beyonce!"

This way, you get her laughing and feeling
that you have a full personality, the kind
of man that she can see herself with in
all the various contexts of a long term
relationship.

Those are 8 SUPER IMPORTANT tips on how to
get a girlfriend that you can now go out
and apply IMMEDIATELY, and you will notice
a MASSIVE difference, TODAY.

And if you are reading this right now and
would like to get the FULL PICTURE on
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I’m talking from TOTAL SCRATCH all the way to
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It's at:

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And if you've been reading these newsletters,
you probably already know about my Real World
Bootcamp program where I not only demonstrate
how to do all this for you in person on women
in real life, but I also provide the expert
personal coaching for you on your approaches
on women as well.

The benefit of this program is that it saves
you TIME because you have me there to fine-tune
your approaches, and to immediately eradicate
any errors you are making, thereby skyrocketing
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Most men NEVER get these skills, even after
a LIFETIME of guessing.  Bootcamp gives
you the skills in just 2 DAYS.

Over ten years, I have tweaked this program so
that it is the ultimate program for mastering
the skills to attract quality women.  

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks