The Three Pillars Of Attraction: Charisma, Inner Strength, And Heart

Ever since I started in this, my driving passion

has been, "What is the TRUTH about women?"

This is the question that I asked all the 'experts'

who professed to know it all.

This is the question that I stayed up at night

for years struggling to know the answer.

This is the question that I needed to have

answered every time I went out trying

every tactic imaginable when approaching
women, whether it was at a store, the library, 
a club, school, or anywhere else.

Well, the answer that none of these wannabe
"experts" knew, but is the REAL truth, is that 
not all women are the same.  And also, they
forgot to mention, that just because you can
attract a woman, doesn't mean you SHOULD.

In fact, the wrong woman will ruin you
with greater destruction than any other
force on the planet.

You wouldn't want to get "ALL" the women
even if you could.  

You want to get the RIGHT woman.
(There is an irony to this as well,
in that when you decide what it is
that you DON'T want, suddenly it 
becomes available EVERYWHERE,
because you are not needy for it.) 

Most of the dating experts would say things like: 
"All women are untrustworthy, so you
better make sure to "game" them".

Then, there was the opposite extreme,
the guys who lived in LA-LA-LAND
with hogwash advice like "All women are
all dainty creatures who all are just special
souls of virtue" and other nonsense. 

The reality is that there are certain universal 
attractive qualities, yes, I agree, but how these
attractive factors interplay with an individual's
VALUES is a CRUCIAL key to understand
as well- and the way this plays out from woman 
to woman differs GREATLY.    

You will attract that which you truly ARE,

which is different from attracting that which

you WANT.

So it becomes really important to decide 

who you truly want to BECOME, because

it is THAT which you will attract as well.

Most people, men and women included, 

create fantasies and illusions for themselves,

and the one thing these illusions all have

in common is the desire to AVOID 

having to change or to do any work.

So the human instinct is to create all

sorts of FALSE beliefs, such as 

"I will meet a woman because it's all

destiny anyway", and this kind of 

thinking can make you depend on
miracles and take no action, and
just WAIT a lifetime, with no results.

Also, rather than see our own faults,

we tend to make the other person a 

villain, so we resort to black and white

thinking where we are perfect and

the woman must have been some

terrible person, etc, etc. 

And of course, many women do this to

men as well.

I've actually found that when it comes down
to it, most men and women are not trying
to hurt each other, but once they are in
pain, they often then oversimplify things
to make the other the villain, and this
doesn't help men or women, it just
fuels MISTRUST, which is probably
the greatest single destroyer of chemistry
and of relationships between men and
women.

So, this is why it's so important to get
rid of jaded thoughts when interacting
with women. Don't let yourself be a
punching bag or make yourself open
to abuse, but don't be so closed off
and self-protective that you are seeing
threats where they don't even exist.

And when people stay with in abusive
relationships, they often rationalize 
that things can't get any better anyway.

The bottom line is that whatever behavior
seems EASIER IN THE SHORT TERM
is what people gravitate toward, whether
it seems easier to LEAVE someone or
whether it seems easier to STAY with
someone, it's whatever is EASIER 
that allures people to making the
wrong decision.

They forget that the pain of taking this
short-term route will be much GREATER
than the pain of just doing the "harder"
thing right NOW.

This basic TRUTH is what you should
embrace, and you should be looking for
a woman who embraces this truth as
well- the truth that if you want to 
improve at anything, relationships,
business, anything, you have to
embrace that taking SHORT CUTS
is NOT the answer. 

If you truly care about meeting a woman of

FANTASTIC integrity, of high self-esteem, 

a woman who will champion TRUTH rather

than ego, a woman who will not give in

to temptation, then it's crucial to become

such a fantastic person yourself.

This way, you will be so in touch and intimately

familiar with what these fantastic traits look like,

that you will notice them from a million miles

away in the RIGHT woman, and you will ALSO

notice the LACK of these traits right away

in the WRONG woman.

Most of the dating guru advice is SOAKED in

the superficial, because they know that most

men will in fact prefer to believe in that illusion,

but I know that there are some more intelligent

men out there that of course want an attractive

woman, but ALSO will not settle on a woman

JUST because she's attractive.

If you want the kind of woman you can not

only LUST, but also LOVE and RESPECT, 
then you have to be the kind of man that 
SHE will feel these emotions for as well.

And to do that, you must have an IRON-STRONG

grip on what are the important things and what are

the trivial, and you must exude that in your every

action, decision, and the way you spend your

"free" time. (The truth is, your time is anything

BUT free, it is the most precious thing you have.)

You must be able to CAPTURE her emotions

and imagination by making  your life about 
something that INSPIRES you to make every 
moment MEANINGFUL.

How do you do this? 

By combining the following traits:

CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART

The dating gurus and their "pick up women" tactics

lack GENUINE heart, they lack GENUINE 

sensitivity, it's all ENGINEERED and artificial.

The "nice guys" lack CHARISMA.

The jerks are just overcompensating from insecurity.

They lack the magic combo of: 
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART

Now actually HAVING any ONE of these things is 
cool, but it's the COMBINATION that works magic.

If you want a great woman, forget the lies, illusions,

and marketing schemes. 

Instead, get back to: 
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART 

In my materials, it is THIS combination 
that I focus on.

If you haven't yet downloaded my program
"Attraction Accelerators", then definitely 
do that IMMEDIATELY. 

This program will show you the most powerful and 
effective strategies you can apply IMMEDIATELY
when seeing women ANYWHERE, to attract them
QUICKLY.

You can download this program NOW and be using
it TODAY to get the woman you want.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html 

Till next time...

Michael Marks

How To NOT Creep Out Women

Basically, in the first 30 seconds of approaching
a woman, many times the "battle" is already lost,
unless you make sure not to do ANYTHING
that creeps a woman out.

And the biggest creep out of all?
Well, that's when she senses you feel you
need to GET something out of her before
she's even got a chance to know who you
are.

And most of the time, this message of
"wanting to get something from her"
is all delivered SUBCONSCIOUSLY
and it's all conveyed through your
body language and tonality without
realizing it.

Because you are actually FEELING
that you want to get something from
her, it always ends up SHOWING,
(i.e. It looks like you're plugged into
10,0000 watts of electricity, you're
feeling too much of her energy,
you're too excited, etc.) and she
senses this, whether she senses it
consciously, or, more likely, she senses
it subconsciusly, and it registers as a
FEELING of being "creeped out".

So, the question is, how do you get RID of the
feeling of wanting to GET something from
a woman who you clearly ARE interested in?

The answer is to do something where you
KNOW what you are doing is actually
NOT so "clever" and cool!

This is part of the reason I was always against
trying to act like a "super smooth clever"
pick up artist.

So, by doing something that you feel is NOT
a "great line", and in fact is downright random,
you totally DON'T EXPECT anything from her,
you are not expecting her to react positively or
negatively, you don't expect anything much at all.

For example, you can start with:
"Sunshine makes my day."

Yup.

This actually FREES you up to stop WANTING
something from her, because you already figured
there's no chance that THIS is going to get a result,
so when you say this "unclever" thing, you actually
end up NOT TELEGRAPHING NEEDINESS
for a big result from her.

Now, when you do this, no matter WHAT you
actually say, the TONALITY of your voice
and the expressions on your face will all
be delivering the message of  "I'm not
expecting anything from you, so you can
just chill out, alright? I'm just being me
because I know there is nothing for me
to lose here, I actually feel very safe
and secure since I am not even EXPECTING
or HOPING, and I'm not taking anything
from you".

Yup, your tonality and expressions DO say
about 97% of the message, the words are
only about 3%!!  

So, this way, because you in reality ARE feeling
indifferent, you are NOT EXCITED, because you
aren't even hoping to get anything from her.

The other benefit of this, as I've always said,
is that it ALSO makes you realize how powerful
YOUR NATURAL IDENTITY is as an attractant,
this helps nurture your self-concept in the right
way, so that you realize it's truly not about
the pick-up lines.

Now, with time and practice, you get so damn
comfortable, that you are in such a great internal
place emotionally and in terms of state, that you
actually SWITCH into SUPER COMFORTABLE
mode where you ABSOLUTELY DO EXPECT
TO GET RESULTS, but now the difference is
that you KNOW you will get them, as opposed
to HOPING for them.

So THEN, you can actually use some really
powerful openers, that are more advanced,
because you can also BACK IT UP with
the right body language and tonality.

See, it's okay to KNOW you are going to get
results and expect them.  It's just not good to
be going in "hoping".

Every fiber of your being must be saying
"I know you want me" and not, "I hope you do
so I'll just try."

As  Yoda said to Luke:
"Do or do not. There is no try."





But for now, if you are a beginner, just go
up to the woman you want to approach
and LITERALLY say the first thing on
your mind, the FIRST thing that pops
into your head.  Not the second thing,
THE FIRST.  

If it's dumb, it might even work better ;)

Plus, it will do wonders for your  inner game.

Remember, it has to be INSTANTANEOUS,
don't go in with a plan.  

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