Attraction GENESIS

The most incredible thing to me is witnessing
the BIRTH of attraction.  Seeing how a woman
goes from thinking "you are a stranger" to
"I want to get CLOSER to this stranger".

I call this process Attraction GENESIS,
and I get to help men make it happen with
women in my "Beyond PUA Bootcamps" 
so there are a lot of real-life details that
I can share with you that make all the
difference between success and failure. 

One of the factors that makes the whole process
of triggering attraction in a woman complex is that
our OWN emotions get in the way of us being able
to effectively trigger HER emotion of attraction.

So, for example, the only reason a guy does NOT
approach a woman when he knows he should, is
because of the way it makes him FEEL.

The emotion of "should approach her" is not as strong
as even the POTENTIAL emotion of "feeling like a
LOSER for being rejected".

I say POTENTIAL, because the guy doesn't even know
that he will be rejected, but the POSSIBILITY of it
is enough. IN fact, the IMAGINED POSSIBILITY
of it is actually WORSE than a rejection itself.

Extreme FEAR of things is the REAL enemy, it's
far bigger of a destroyer than whatever thing
itself is being feared.

And that's just talking about making the DECISION
to APPROACH a woman.

But how about the ACTUAL conversation itself?

The success or failure of this is ALSO massively
affected by which emotional state you are in.

You see, EMOTIONS feel more TRUE, more

IMPORTANT than facts.

People like to say that women are more emotional
than men, but the fact is that human BEINGS
are emotional, or none of us would BE human.

Emotions are our evolutionary predecessors
to things like logic, they helped us take
ACTION when we didn't have TIME to think
because we were being chased by some
tiger or whatever else was the urgent issue.

These ancient emotions have not had time to
evolve and adapt to our current realities in the
year 2012.

So, for example, we see THREATS in a lot of
situations where they don't exist. Maybe
a hundred thousand years ago, going up
to a woman and not getting instantaneous
cartwheels and physical action was
a major catastrophe, maybe in those days
since we lived in small tribes, EVERYONE
found out and somehow it really DID
affect your luck with women in the future.

But NOW, it's RIDICULOUS!

It does NOT affect you!
The other 3 BILLION women on the planet
will NOT know about your little fun you
had when chatting to some woman, whether
or not you got her number or got in bed etc.

The GOOD NEWS is that you can CONTROL
which emotions you want to experience,
you can CHOOSE which emotions will
serve you BEST for your goal, and it
all starts with awareness.

The next key, after awareness, is CHANGING 
THE MEANING of the event so that it creates
the RIGHT emotional state in you.

And since you already KNOW that
many of the current meanings you
associate to the various elements
of pick-up are FACTUALLY WRONG
and are ABSURD today, then you
should be very OPEN to the idea
of REFRAMING those situations
to have DIFFERENT meanings,
meanings that are more in tune
with REALITY.

So for example, going up to a woman
to chat with her, no matter what,
should be viewed as an opportunity
to prove to yourself that YOU
control your own actions, and NOT
some outdated programming from
a hundred thousand years ago.

View it as a chance to exercise your FREEDOM.
A CHALLENGE to your own FREE WILL.
Are you a slave to your evolutionary past?
Or can you control your destiny?

Remember too, that on top of any evolutionary
hard-wiring, we have also been brainwashed
to think that in fact we SHOULD be looking at
picking up a woman as something SUPER
SERIOUS, where everything is on the line.

So it's an ENVIRONMENTAL influence that
is also having a huge effect on us, but the
REALLY GOOD news is that we can
TOTALLY change our environment!

Get friends that actually ENCOURAGE
you! Get a personal coach like me
to be there for you! Start ACTIVELY 
filtering the messages you get from people
with the wrong beliefs.

We get the wrong type of brainwashing
from friends, from media, from family,
because the whole "Am I Good with Women"
thing is blown out of proportion so
that we think OUR IDENTITY is based
on it. So of COURSE we become way
too serious about it.

We are FEELING that going up to a woman
is DANGEROUS, and even though it's really
NOT, the fact is that EMOTIONS feel more
TRUE than FACTS!

And the crazy thing, the irony, is that being
SERIOUS in the sense of feeling FEAR is
the WORST emotion for triggering attraction!

It FREEZES up all the OTHER emotional states,
it paralyzes them, and yet it's those OTHER
states that make you SUCCESSFUL with women.

You don't have to BECOME confident.
You just have to get RID of the negative stuff.

Confidence IS the LACK OF INSECURITY.

When you get rid of the DOZENS of variations
of insecurities, all of a sudden you really
FEEL that a DIFFERENT SET OF FACTS
are true. And the only reason you BELIEVE
this is because of the way you FEEL.

And yet, because you FEEL this NEW way,
you are now able to ACCESS those NEW
parts of your emotions that you haven't
felt before in these situations. And you
will behave in a TOTALLY different
way than before, right down to the
tiniest subtleties which count BIG TIME.

If you can FEEL playful, you can also BE
PLAYFUL, because the FEELING actually
CHANGES the way you PERCEIVE reality,
so you will start to SEE THINGS IN A
PLAYFUL AND FUNNIER WAY.

You will REALLY MEAN IT when you
say something funny, it WON'T be
some contrived line. You will be
CERTAIN it's funny, because YOU
will FEEL it to be funny. You will
be convinced that it's funny and
that there is NO WAY anyone can
argue that it's NOT, because again,
you FEEL it, and a FEELING always
SEEMS TRUER THAN ANY FACT!

So the problem is not emotions, it's just
making sure you are feeling the RIGHT
emotions that will serve you productively.

So, if you want to, for example, be more
PLAYFUL and actually be FUNNY, then
the way to GET INTO THAT PLAYFUL 
STATE is for you to start LOOKING AT
THINGS from playful perspectives, for
YOUR OWN AMUSEMENT, not for
GIRLS.

Again, the key is to do this for your OWN
AMUSEMENT, this way, you will actually
FEEL it. And that will make your delivery
PERFECT. You won't seem like the guy
who is nervously trying to be funny.

If you take the train to work, don't just
sit there, think about things you see
in NEW WAYS, ways that are FUNNY.

CHANGE the meaning of the situation
by looking the situation with new
perspectives. Maybe you notice
how many people wear running shoes
even though it's winter and snowing.
Isn't the point of running shoes to be
comfortable? How comfortable is it
to have soaking wet socks from the
snow that leaks in the running shoe?

Now, share that with the woman next
to you!

Your environment gives you INFINITE material.

Learn at first to do this stuff for your
OWN enjoyment.

Then, SHARE it with the woman you want to chat to!

If you want to become more interesting and
intriguing, then YOU YOURSELF HAVE
TO BECOME INTRIGUED with more
things, you have to allow your mind to
open up and you have to start taking in
a better mental and emotional diet when
it comes to what you read, what you watch
on TV, etc. Maybe it's time to visit the
museum again, or the zoo, or the exhibit
on whatever fascinating topic it might be.
Find what intrigues you.

And there are SO MANY important and powerful
emotions that all have their proper place and time
when you are interacting with a woman. From
dominance, to being challenging, to intimacy
and bonding and trust, to sexual arousal, to
playfulness, to moments of seriousness, to
unpredictability, to creating curiosity,
and more.

And beyond ALL THIS STUFF, is how you
STEER the interaction while CHATTING
to a woman, as you gauge HER emotional
state. Because you see, the point is that
you want to lead her into ever better states
as well, from the fun to the appropriately
sexual for the situation, to the intriguing,
to the deeper levels of trust and intimacy.

Of course, to do that, you have to actually
FEEL that it's important, so if you really
just want to USE a woman and you don't
really care about her, then I guess that
type of guy is going to be up a creek
without a paddle.

And to actually get a woman to feel so good
that she becomes ADDICTED to you, you need
to have the deepest understanding of how
your OWN emotions work, as well as how
a WOMAN'S emotions work. Remember,
men and women are not conditioned the same.

If you'd like to learn how to become a
MASTER at creating compelling emotions in
women to the point they are ADDICTED to you,
then get started on that NOW by getting my

Attraction Mastery Program.

If you don't currently have this program,
I can assure you that this program is
LOADED with ESSENTIAL insights on how
to get a woman so deeply attracted to
you, that she will be yours FOREVER.

You can either trust me and enjoy the
results of this program, and have a
woman you are crazy about who is just
as in love with YOU, or you can decide
to spend the next ten years trying to
figure it all out through trial and error.

This program will show you how to unleash
the deepest emotions in women, step by step,
in vivid DETAIL.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

You can't possibly go wrong with this program.
Men all across the planet, in just about
every country, are currently using this
program to get the women of their choice.

And if you are still stuck in that state of
'approach anxiety' where you see a fantastic
woman you'd love to approach, but you just
can't get yourself to take action, then I
SERIOUSLY suggest you also get my program
on OBLITERATING APPROACH ANXIETY,
which is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/approach-anxiety.html

This program is the most well-researched and
proven method for obliterating approach anxiety
that exists ANYWHERE. If you are looking to
BEAT approach anxiety, then NOT getting this
program is sheer INSANITY. 

This program WORKS.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Keep On Getting The Best Advice For Getting A Great Girlfriend

Before we start today, I need to mention something.
For about ten years now, I’ve been giving it my all
when it comes to teaching men how to attract and
keep a fantastic woman.

Today I’m going to ask if you can do one small thing

for me, that will only take you a few seconds, and it

will help assure the CONTINUED high quality that

you have been receiving since day one from me.

Here’s the situation:

Around ten years ago, I started teaching men how
to approach women, for real, live, on actual women,
and not just in books.

This was long before the book “The Game” came out.

At one point, I was part of the original
hard-core group of 'pick up artists'.

This was even before there were were
so many supposed "dating gurus".

The thing is, I eventually SEPARATED from
this group, which was really the ONLY
group that spoke AT ALL about how to
approach women in public, etc. (This was
before the "dating guru" phenomenon.)

I didn't WANT to separate, I wanted to
teach them what I had learned, the same
way I had learned some things from them.

The reason I separated, was because I noticed that
there was a strong BITTER attitude against women
in the majority of this crowd.  This was not just an
attitude, it was the root of many of the WRONG
teachings about attracting a great girlfriend, and these
wrong teachings were being spread like wildfire. 

Oh sure they "loved women" as long as the
word "love" was limited to sex.

The majority of them put ALL women into the
same basket. It said ALL women are gold-diggers,
that ALL women would cheat on a guy at the drop
of a hat, that ALL women would cheat on a “good
guy” in order to be with “a player”, etc, etc, etc.

They also said that the player games were REQUIRED

in order to attract women.

This attitude DESTROYED all my relationships.

Most of the men on these pick up artist boards
never spoke about real monogamous relationships,
because they were afraid of being called "weak"
or "uncool" even though I suspect that the majority
of the men on these "pick up artist" boards were
indeed trying to get help for getting a great girlfriend.

I know for sure one thing: That it was the only reason
I ever came to that site.  Don't get me wrong, it's
FUN to play around for a while, but once you
meet a great woman who has it all, the "playing
around" isn't as much fun as having something
stronger with a woman, where you feel a
greater connection.

At first, I thought that the fact my relationships kept
getting destroyed was just further proof that women
indeed NEEDED to be ‘gamed’ in order to be attracted.

After all, the more DOMINANT, LESS NEEDY,
and more SEXUAL I behaved, the BETTER it
seemed I did with women, and when I would
go into “nice guy” mode, I always seemed to
LOSE the woman!

It took a LONG TIME for me to see exactly what
was going on, and what I was doing RIGHT and
what was actually HARMING my results.

And I promise you, what I realized was something

that absolutely NO ONE else was speaking about,

or even would ACKNOWLEDGE.

It was a combination of realizing that there are
SEPARATE things here:

1. The skill of how to approach a woman who is
a stranger, in ANY place, whether it’s a bookstore
or a supermarket.

This is a SKILL because if you do it wrong, you
end up CREEPING OUT a woman, or you simply
don’t know what to say and the conversation goes
nowhere.

2. There is also something else, which is the
DEVELOPMENT of behavioral TRAITS that are
attractive from the FIRST MOMENT you interact
with a woman.

These include things like confidence, wit,
and that sense of masculine dominance,
tempered with good taste of course,
i.e. you don’t drag a woman by the hair
to your cave right upon meeting her.

3. The skill of how to TRANSITION to SEX.

This includes all the smooth transitions from
first call to first date to first kiss, to
making out, to sex.

Definitely, important stuff!

4. The DETECTION of the RIGHT kind of woman.

Just because you can GET a girl to get naked
with you, does not mean she will be a great
girlfriend.

There are plenty of reasons why a lot of
women will sleep with a guy but not be
GOOD TO HIM long term.

This is HUUUUUUUUUUUGE! And was totally
IGNORED or MOCKED when I mentioned it.

After all, since they believed all women
were the exact same personality with the
exact same values, there was "no such thing
as a faithful woman".

And believe me, I was tempted to believe
that myself, because MAN did I meet a
lot of the WRONG women!

It took a HUGE step for me to explore
BEYOND the pick up artist world on my
own to find out the TRUTH about women. 


5. The BUILDING OF A DEEPER CONNECTION


This is required for attracting a higher quality
woman that doesn’t sleep with hundreds of guys
and who takes a relationship seriously.


6. The COMMUNICATION SKILLS and behavioral
traits that make for a SUCCESSFUL LONG TERM
RELATIONSHIP.

A lot of men allow themselves to LOSE their
cool vibe when they get into a relationship,
and become the WRONG version of "nice".

It's important to learn how to KEEP being
"The Man" even in a relationship.

So, those 6 areas above are all SEPARATE.

And yet, the pick up artist community was
basically all focused on ONE thing:
GETTING SEX.

The FOCUS on that goal is not a BAD thing.

However, if you FORGET the other FIVE things,
then yes it is a HUGE mistake, unless you
really don’t CARE about what kind of person
she is at ALL.

Also, the focus on the physical actually cancels
OUT a lot of the women who “aren’t getting
with the program" i.e. aren’t willing to go to
bed that fast!  

When it comes to getting a quality woman as a

girlfriend, the focus on SEX at all costs actually

REPELS her.

When it comes to getting a quality girlfriend,

the INITIAL confidence that a man shows

IS attractive, but if he can’t connect on a

deep level, and if he thinks he needs to play

games to keep her attracted, he will LOSE

her.

When the pick up artists went to the media, they
told the media all they teach is "confidence” and

they skip all the stuff they taught about harming

a woman’s self-esteem, and about aggressively
pursuing sex or playing other games just to get
physical.

The bottom line is this:
Back in 2001-2003, I tried to EXPLAIN to the
pick up artist community that NOT all women
are the same.

That NOT all women will cheat on a guy at the
drop of a hat.

That yes, the SKILLS of how to approach a
woman ARE valuable, but that there are
OTHER THINGS THAT MUST BE LEARNED
AS WELL,(as listed above) and that in fact the
polluted attitude that was being preached would
RUIN results for many men if they were trying to
find a real RELATIONSHIP.

I also tried to get into the OTHER
areas that are so important to know
if you want success in actually getting
a great girlfriend!

I can also tell you that the VAST and

OVERWHELMING response to my message

was: "NOOOOOOOOOO! ALLLLLLL WOMEN
WILL CHEAT! ALL WOMEN MUST BE
GAMED OR SOME PLAYER WILL STEAL
HER FROM YOU!"

Also, another message I got a lot from those

guys was:"YUCK! RELATIONSHIP? THAT’S
FOR LOSERS! JUST KEEP SCREWING
AS MANY WOMEN AS POSSIBLE!
WOMEN RESPECT THAT KIND OF MAN!
WOMEN DEEP DOWN ADMIRE THAT
KIND OF MAN, AND THEY WILL WANT
YOU MORE!"

So, it’s not like no one had a CHANCE to
join me back then.

I was SCREAMING my messages out on the
most POPULAR pick up artist board, a board
that saw every single major pick up artist.

This goes WAYYYY beyond the stupidity
of relying on pick up lines, which, by now
have been proven OBSOLETE, and which
I said LONG AGO, that pick up lines were
NOT required and that in fact pick up lines
would limit a man’s thinking and his ability
to ADAPT to any situation.

It wasn’t just PICK UP LINES that I was against.

I was FOR many POSITIVE developments, (as listed above)
but virtually NONE of these "experts" supported my
message, and in fact they OUTRIGHT REJECTED IT.

Not a single major “dating guru” at the time or pick up artist
at the time supported my message.

And I was giving it away for FREE!
I only needed to start charging when teaching took up
all my TIME, and if I didn't charge, I wouldn't be
ABLE to teach!

So why am I bringing this up?

It’s because not a SINGLE dating guru or

pick up artist has given one DROP of credit

to me for basically changing the GLOBAL

LANDSCAPE when it comes to dating advice

for men.

Today, you will be hard-pressed to find even
a SINGLE pick-up artist or dating guru who
FULLY supports the OLD “The Game” approach
to approaching and attracting women.

Again, I invited everyone to be PART of it.
I got REJECTED by this crowd for what I
had to say.

The irony is that it was only when I used MY
approach to women, that I could actually get
CONSISTENT results for myself and for
the guys I was teaching!  Guys were calling
me and emailing me telling me how they
were in the first fantastic relationship of their
LIVES, after trying EVERYTHING else!

Meanwhile, guys using the pick up artist stuff

were wondering why all these women kept

acting WEIRD and nasty around them.

They never put two and two together, that maybe
the pick up artist tactics were actually HARMING
their results with women!

Again, for a drunk woman at a bar who is LOOKING for a one night stand, then maybe acting like an arrogant and sex-focused person is a good strategy. 

I'm not INTERESTED in one night stands, for many reasons, never mind how important it is to also avoid STDs as well.

Today, after changing the PLANET when it
comes to advice on getting a girlfriend, and
on advice when it comes to approaching
women, my materials have truly changed
the ENTIRE GAME to the point it is no
longer a GAME and instead is truly about
a situation where both you AND a woman gain,
and there is no PAIN caused to innocents.

It would be cool if some of these guys could give
CREDIT to me, since after all, they are using my
teachings, then selling poor imitations of it.

The imitations also, by the way, lack the proper
context for full meaning, since they are copying
my teachings without actually UNDERSTANDING
them, so what comes out is a warped version of the
original, (kind of like how Dr. Frankenstein tried to
copy a real human being but created a monster)- and
all the while, these guys pretend they never even
HEARD of me.

The simple proof for how I know it's not their
material is this:

If they really decided that they were going

to change, all on their own, then where

were they for all those YEARS?

I'm speaking all the way back from 2001 (my
message posts on pick up artist boards), 2002,
2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008 (at which
point in 2008 the imitating of me just started to
get strong), 2009 (when it was hard-core copying
of me), 2010 (when it started to get a bit less
because people found out about my site and how
it has been around for years.)

So here’s the thing: The more people that hear

about ‘Get A Great Girl’, the less likely that

these guys will be MOTIVATED to continue

to pretend that they never heard of me.

I’m asking if you can this one thing:

Let ONE person who you think can benefit 
from my programs know about the site.

The site is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com

You can use any tool you like to get the word
out: You can use Twitter, Facebook, YouTube,
or even just send someone an email.

EVERY. ACTION. HELPS.

That’s all.

And I’ll speak with you again soon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks