The Untold Truth: How To Approach Women

Today, I’m going to share with you the UNTOLD
TRUTH on how to approach women.

It’s all based on real-world research and testing, and I’ve been using this for YEARS, including in my live workshops with guys as we approach women just about everywhere.

In order to fully understand how to use the
strategy I am about to show you, it is crucial
to understand one thing:

Being a powerful, dominant man is the strongest
force when it comes to attracting women, and in
fact to women, the form of power known as
DOMINANCE is particularly important when
they instinctively and subconsciously size
up a man.
 
Let me go even further to make this even more clear:
Superficial types of attraction, such as a guy having
“good looks” simply doesn’t mean the same thing
to women as a woman being “good looking” means
to men.   Sure, great looks do indeed appeal to
women, but the good looks really means FAR LESS
to women than it means to men.

The proof of this is all around us.  How many male
models can women name?  How many female
models can men name?  How many strip clubs
are there for women where men take their clothes
off?  How many strip clubs are there for men
where women take their clothes off? 

The massive imbalance here tells you something
right away: Women simply aren’t as COMPELLED
to chase a man because he is “good looking” as
MEN are compelled to chase a woman because
she is good looking.

Ahh, but now, let’s flip this around to POWER.
See, good ol Brad Pitt, before he became a
movie star and a famous celebrity and thus
“a power broker”, actually had a HARD TIME
with women, according to his own words in
countless interviews.

In other words, he actually didn’t have it much
different than other guys when he was doing
regular guy things like being a waiter, etc.

And let’s take this even further:
How many men chase women who are powerful?
How man WOMEN chase MEN who are powerful?

This is why women care more about the fact that a
man has POWER, STATUS, and DOMINANCE
than the fact he is super good looking, etc.

And here’s the thing: Just like men can’t help it
but go crazy for women who give off the signs
of beauty, women can’t help it but go crazy for
men who give off the signs of DOMINANCE.

In fact, it’s a bit more complicated than that,
because it’s not exactly like women get immediately
attracted by power and status OR by great looks,
it’s more like women immediately feel the primal
need to GET CLOSER with this man and learn
more about him. 

Female sexuality takes a little more “warming up”
than male sexuality. Male sexuality is “ready to go”
at any moment.  Women become OPEN to the
idea of escalating physically with such a man.

This actually all makes a lot of sense on an
evolutionary level. Women are the ones that
have to carry a baby for nine months, women
are the ones that can only have a limited
amount of children, women have a LOT
invested in making the RIGHT CHOICE
for their reproductive partner.

So that man has to display the traits of power,
status, and dominance in society to show that
his DNA will produce another child that will
ALSO be a survivor and who will thrive in
the crazy jungle of life. Also, this man’s
power and status and dominance probably
also mean he has access to the resources
like food and shelter for survival of the
family unit.

Meanwhile, male sexuality is a little different.
Men, in evolutionary perspectives, didn’t have
as much invested in any ONE woman, and
also could never know for sure if their woman
was faithful, so to ensure that they DID have
their own offspring, they evolved to impregnate
many women, thus increasing the chances for
actually having a child of their own.

By the way, none of this should be taken as
a MORAL imperative for today.  I’m simply
speaking about the way attraction works.

So, now that it’s totally clear how important
DOMINANCE and POWER and STATUS is, let me show
you how to convey all these things in the very
FIRST MOMENTS you approach and meet a woman.

DO NOT ALLOW YOUR VOCAL TONALITY TO FLUCTUATE!

Think about how your voice sounds when you
are feeling an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to
something. 

Whether it’s HAPPY, SAD, ANGRY, FEARFUL,
HOPEFUL, or any OTHER emotion!

What happens is your TONALITY changes!

For example, when you are feeling FEARFUL,
your pitch tends to RISE, right? When feeling
depressed, it tends to lower and get faded. 
When feeling happy, it gets more energy.

Now, imagine a monitor was TRACKING the
way one’s voice changed if that voice kept on
showing a TON of emotional reactions.

Imagine it looked like a line on a graph, and
the line kept jumping up and down, like an
erratic heartbeat on a monitor.

Well, what you want to do with your tonality
is actually stay on a STRAIGHT LINE.

Unlike the heartbeat monitor, where a straight
line means the worst thing, a straight FLAT
LINE when it comes to your VOCAL TONALITY
when approaching a woman is actually the
BEST thing.

This is because the LACK of fluctuation, the lack
of CHANGING tonalities, the lack of movement
from the STRAIGHT baseline, shows that you
are NOT having ANY emotional reactions to
the conversation.

On a subconscious level, this shows that you
believe that YOU have massive value and
as such, the CONVERSATION WITH THIS
WOMAN is not a big deal to you.

You can ONLY have an emotional reaction
to something if you believe that thing is
IMPORTANT.

Happy, sad, ecstatic, angry, or depressed, you
simply can’t have these emotions and NOT             
feel that indeed things are important enough
to either get depressed about, happy about,
angry about, etc.

Now, most guys, when they approach a
woman they like, they tend to have their
voices going all over the place – the voices
FLUCTUATE a lot.

So, for example, they may be really HAPPY
the woman is talking to them. Then, they
may be FEARFUL that the woman doesn’t
like them.  Or, they may be DISAPPOINTED
if the woman isn’t immediately showing
signs of massive interest. 

All these emotions show in the VOICE.

The flip side of all of this is that if you DON’T
HAVE EMOTIONS in your voice, then clearly
NOTHING too important is going on OUTSIDE
of you.

In other words, you don’t feel OUTBALANCED
by the IMPORTANCE of this woman.

Now, from a woman’s standpoint, this makes
you a GIVER, and the holder of HIGHER
value.

Most guys she meets, she can’t help but feel
SHE is the superior value, and that the guy
is an INFERIOR value.  After all, this is
the message the guys are giving off in
their TONALITY.

They are REACTING to something very
IMPORTANT, to something that’s a
BIG DEAL—THE WOMAN.

A woman would rather meet a guy who
is a “big deal” to HER!  She’s sick and
tired of meeting guys who she ISN’T
interested in but who are all so interested
in HER.

So make no mistake about it, this is not about
making the woman UNIMPORTANT, it’s
about making sure that YOU don’t come
across as YOU being unimportant.

And the way most men behave when they
approach and interact with a woman who is
attractive simply makes the men come
across as UNIMPORTANT because they
are having EMOTIONAL REACTIONS
that are so evident in their TONALITY.

So, the way to ensure this is not happening
is to make sure that your voice tone does
not fluctuate.  Each fluctuation is a sign
of an emotional reaction, and each emotional
reaction is a sign that you feel she is so
important compared to you.

This does not mean that you should come across
as a lifeless, boring robot, as your voice tone can
still show resonance, sensuality, and confidence,
all without fluctuating much from the baseline.

And if you want to master the skills of attracting
women, and of detecting a woman's CHARACTER
immediately as well, I seriously suggest you
IMMEDIATELY get my DVD set, called
WARRIOR WITHIN.

This program is the result of YEARS of
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place you can imagine, and my particular
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women who are not only beautiful but who
also have the CHARACTER to make a great
long term relationship. 

So you will learn not only how to attract
women, you will ALSO learn how to detect
the RIGHT women, immediately, so that you
do not waste any energy on the wrong women,
and instead you only attract the gorgeous
ones that are also going to ENHANCE your
life.

The right woman will make you feel more
ALIVE than anything else, and yet the
WRONG woman will destroy you in a heartbeat.

This is why my program focuses on how to
attract women who are not only gorgeous,
but who are also going to ENHANCE your
life.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

When It Comes To Attracting Women, Your Looks Mean Almost NOTHING

There's a really important discussion going on at the
Forum explaining how your looks mean almost
NOTHING when it comes to attracting women.

I highly suggest you check it out at:

http://forum.getagreatgirl.com/user/Discussion.aspx?id=229871

Plus, here's an important video that was chosen as a "Top-Pick"
by CanadaAM, and it's all about how if you really want to
"Pick-Up" women, then you must "pick-up" ON what
women are saying to you:

http://watch.ctv.ca/news/top-picks/dating-tips/#clip137950

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Women And "Looks, Money, Power"

Looks.
Money.
Power.

If you’re like most guys, you probably think
that unless you have THOSE things, you
can’t attract a beautiful woman.

So let me be the guy who gives you the
TRUTH on these things.

The reality is that if you are a man, you
can make UP what you lack in one area
by being really awesome in ANOTHER
area.

In fact, even if you DON’T have “looks” “money”
or “power” you can attract a woman based
on something else:

A CHARISMATIC, UNSTOPPABLE IDENTITY

This is how to attract a woman, through using
"Identity Based Attraction."

And most guys never realize that this stuff is REAL.
It WORKS.

Now, the crazy thing is, that once you have
THIS identity developed, you actually become
far more empowered, creative, and resourceful,
and soon you’re making money and gaining power
as well, all as a by-product of this personality
development.

It's not a coincidence that guys that do well
with women can easily make money if they
ever decide to apply that part of their brain,
because it all boils down to the same traits.

The positive sexual energy you get from being
with a woman you are attracted to, it's like suddenly
your entire internal being is CHARGED with
electricity and you can do anything, and it doesn’t
even take being a jerk to do it, in fact this is
another secret, that you can succeed without
being a jerk, all as a byproduct of this charisma.

That’s the way life works, things are all connected.

So let’s get into HOW TO DISPLAY THESE
CHARISMATIC TRAITS, AND ALSO HOW
TO DEVELOP THEM IN YOURSELF FOR
REAL.

These are the CORE COMPONENTS of what
it takes to be successful with women, even if
you DON’T have looks, money, power, etc.

NUMBER 1:
"BRING IT ON"

The number one thing is that your attitude
must FLIP from “how do I avoid PAIN here
from approaching her, or from being rejected,
or from anything else” to “BRING IT ON!!!”

BRING ON THE "PAIN"
because the "pain" is BULLSHIT.

Trust me, next to the REAL kinds of
pain in this world, that kind of pain
is a JOKE.

Ninety-nine percent of guys want to avoid pain
so badly that even if they happen to look like
MALE MODELS WITH LOTS OF MONEY
they will do almost ANYTHING to avoid
the possibility of pain. That’s why they don’t
tend to APPROACH women, they’d rather just
take whichever women happen to come THEIR
way.

Think about it, it’s just human nature to always
take the path of LEAST RESISTANCE.

LAZINESS.

So, if you are willing to RESIST that temptation,
you already bring yourself into a WAY HIGHER
category of gains for yourself when it comes to
women.

Stallone said it best in his latest Rocky- “Life isn’t
about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you
can GET hit, and keep on moving forward”.



So, while it is ABSOLUTELY TRUE that women
who are attractive get “hit on” a LOT, a lot of this
“getting hit on” happens in very pathetic ways, i.e.
on the internet, where it takes less guts to approach
a woman, and why most women who are attractive
don’t take the internet seriously for dating because
they get overwhelmed with THOUSANDS of
responses from guys, (the last survey reported
1296 hits a DAY for a new woman) so the reality
though is:

In REAL LIFE, IT’S NOT SO EASY
FOR WOMEN WHO ARE ATTRACTIVE TO
ACTUALLY MEET GUYS WHO ARE COOL,
WHO HAVE THEIR ACT TOGETHER, WHO
ARE FUN TO BE WITH,  WHO ARE MASCULINE,
ETC.

So, this BRING IT ON attitude is extremely important
and it also attractive in and of itself!!!

Let me give you another example of how the
BRING IT ON attitude is a huge key to being
successful with women.

For the reason I just mentioned before, a woman
who is attractive already gets a lot of attention,
mostly by guys who do NOT have the attractive
identity- and I assure you, that all the money
and power in the world will not go very far
with a woman who is attractive if the guy
doesn’t ALSO have the charismatic personality.

So, if you chat her up, and you ask for her
number, or her email, or you are about to meet
for your first date, you have to EXPECT that
she is going to test you to see if you are truly
“THE MAN” or not. What I mean by this,
is that she gets so much attention, she needs
to know if you really mean business or not.

She needs to determine if she is just the latest
woman you’ve done this on, and you’re not
really serious about pursuing HER, or if
you ARE indeed interested in pursuing HER,
as opposed to every woman you meet.

So, she might give you a bogus email.

You have to expect she might do this,
so if you actually TELL HER “hey, is this
a REAL email?” that in itself shows that
you are not afraid of checking to make sure
that you are not being treated like a fool,
you are also showing that you have
EXPERIENCE which itself shows that
you are NOT A QUITTER, etc.

Remember, if this woman is attractive, she is
BOMBARDED with the wrong attention.

She needs to screen guys OUT, and if you’re
the weak type who avoids all potential pain,
then you’ll never get a CHANCE even.

And it’s not her fault.
It’s NOT the same thing for men and women.
For whatever reason, a woman who is attractive
Gets BOMBARDED with attention, most of it
UNQUALIFIED and UNWANTED.

It’s also part of the culture that men actively
do the pursuing in the initial stages of the
dating process. So if you complain to the
gods above that life isn’t fair, this isn’t
going to help you, this is just the way it
is.

Things even out though, later, because
HOLDING ONTO A GREAT GUY is
really hard for women, so a great woman
will work hard to keep a great guy as well.

The problem for her is FINDING a great
guy and SCREENING him out from the
THOUSANDS of guys pursuing her.

So, as a man, you have to EMBRACE the
"emotional risk” of approaching a woman,
you have to EMBRACE the risk of looking
“stupid” or whatever else your mind is
making you FEAR or think about a lot.

The truth is, in my years of approaching
women, I’ve had approaches that went
wrong. And there were times that I had
ALL THE FEARS and MORE that every
guy out there can THINK of, from thinking
that everyone on the train was watching
me, to thinking that maybe somehow the
cops were going to arrest me for chatting
to a woman.

And I actually over the YEARS had a few
really nasty women that clearly had issues
of their own.

But I EMBRACED IT ALL because any negative
reaction only FUELED ME TO WANT SUCCESS
EVEN MORE, and the reality also is that one
interaction has ZERO to do with the next. This
really happened so many times in personal experience
and even in bootcamps it’s not funny.

So for example one approach CRASHES, then
the VERY NEXT approach with a different group
of women that are even more attractive LIGHTS UP
and goes AMAZING , where the women are so into it,
that it ends up WE have to get going because we still
have more bootcamp training to do (of course, first
we get the numbers of the women and plan for a
future meet-up of course.)

Imagine if we had decided to quit after the
first time things didn't go right.

So change your attitude from “How do I avoid
this emotional risk?” to BRING IT ON.

IT’S THE ONLY WAY TO GET RESULTS
WITH WOMEN, AND IT’S AN ATTRACTIVE
TRAIT AS WELL

NUMBER 2:
"REACT PROPERLY TO INITIAL SET-BACKS"

Related to the above, if a woman who you barely
know and just met does any of the following
things, DON’T FORGET HER SO FAST.

So for example, she gives you a real number
and she talks to you on the phone, and then she
doesn’t show up for the first date.

REMEMBER, you’re a TOTAL stranger who
managed to get her interested enough to give
her real number to you.

By the time the date came around, it’s possible
she’s wondering if she’s crazy for doing this.

This is why you should always CONFIRM
the meet-up the night before, so that she sees
you are taking it genuinely, and it also gives
you more leverage, after all she doesn’t want
to seem like a flake in case you ARE that
cool guy she initially thought you were.

CONFIRMING this also shows a bit of leadership
that you are not just waiting back passively.
It also allows you to give her another dosage
of your personality by having an emotionally
relevant message that you left on her email
or voice mail, etc, to refresh her mind of
how cool of a guy you are. (especially if
it's compelling or humoros as I explain
how to do in my materials).

If you don’t confirm, she will often take this
to mean you are not serious about meeting
up with her.

Here’s another example:

When a woman meets a guy who is a total stranger,
she may give him an old email address, in case he
turns out not to be a cool guy, this way she can
ignore him later – (remember, she’s dealing
with HUNDREDS of strangers who are trying
to get into her pants, okay? And she has no real
solid idea bout you yet, she just met you)

So if the email bounces or whatever, don’t hit the
roof just yet. If you meet her again, calmly bring
it up. Make fun of it, telling her that she’s a great
actress or that she must be a criminal with several
identities and aliases and that you’re a NARC
undercover, and she’s under arrest.

Keep it playful, this shows you indeed ARE
THE MAN who has other things going on in his
life besides framing his whole schedule around one
woman’s email, a woman who is a total stranger.

You will probably notice that indeed NOTHING
nasty was meant by it, and that she didn’t even
know that your messages were getting bounced.

The thing to be KEEPING IN MIND is that until
a woman really KNOWS you, you are just one
of MANY MANY GUYS out there, many of
whom are CREEPY GUYS. So if you get
UPSET at any of this process, you’ll just
seem like yet another one of those creepy guys.

However, if you stay totally UNAFFECTED and
in fact have a sense of humor about it, then this
in ITSELF shows her that indeed you are probably
a desirable guy with many options with women
yourself, and that you just happened to find HER
a little more interesting than perhaps some of
the other women you already know.

THAT makes her feel a lot more attracted to
you, knowing that you have already been
screened out as DESIRABLE by other women.

So you have to know how important it is to
have the RIGHT REACTIONS internally
and externally to the initial things that
don’t go “smooth” in the very beginning of
the dating process.

BE THE MAN WHO PLOWS RIGHT AHEAD
THROUGH THE BARRIERS AND DOES NOT
LET ANYTHING STOP HIM.

It’s very DIFFERENT once she already knows
you and you know her- at that point, you should
both be treating each other the way you treat
a real friend. And more, of course, if you’re
getting intimate and physical with each other.

NUMBER 3:
"MAKE YOUR LIFE COMPELLING"

If you’re not living a compelling life,
then you need to change that right now.

Think about the things you care about,
and start IMMERSING yourself in those
things.

This doesn’t have to be limited to your career.
If it is, that’s great, but if it isn’t that’s fine too.

Whether it’s a fascination with art, science,
literature, even cooking, the reality is that
ALL THESE THINGS CAN BE COMPELLING
IF YOU YOURSELF FIND IT COMPELLING.

In fact, if you are immersed into anything
that you are passionate about, you BECOME
that thing to others.

So for example, if you love comedy, then
it’s not just that you say jokes, it’s that you
yourself actually BECOME an entity of
good vibes.

If you love cooking desserts, you can probably
talk about some chocolate soufflé in a way
that makes her mouth water.

If you are into helping the planet earth, that’s
cool too of course. The thing is, that you must
truly ENJOY IT, don’t just do it for brownie
points with her- that would not work and in
fact is a form of kissing up and making yourself
inferior. The idea is to be so compelling that you
actually suck her into a VORTEX of your reality,
a reality that is so charged and feels so good,
so exciting, so different, that she doesn’t want
to ever leave.

If you feel you have very few things you're interested
in, then definitely it's time you started exploring different
hobbies.  Keep an open mind, an open mind is also
something more women wish men had.

This way, you’ll have tons of things to talk
about that separate you from everyone else.

NUMBER 4:
"SLOW IT DOWN"

It’s often a knee-jerk reaction when seeing
a woman who is so beautiful you feel like
you’re being connected to a billion volts
of electric energy, that you just start talking
too fast.  

So SLOW YOURSELF DOWN on purpose
if you have to. You’ll find this helps you
not only SOUND better, but also helps you
regain EMOTIONAL CONTROL over your
own state of mind.

This way, you also won’t end up saying things
that make absolutely no sense (which is what
guys actually do very often when talking to
a woman who is attractive, the guy loses
half his mental capacities and starts to
actually screw up the grammatical
syntax of whatever he’s talking about).

Believe me, it’s much much better if you
can avoid the “tongue tied because she’s
so beautiful” thing.

NUMBER 5:
"FIND OUT WHO SHE IS"

YOU are the MAN.
The last thing she wants is to feel SHE is
the one who must lead the show or to help
YOU calm down.

So here’s another thing to help you stay calm:

Realize that as beautiful as she is, you really
have NO IDEA about the rest of her.

And as a man with STANDARDS, YOU SHOULD
GENUINELY WANT TO KNOW IF THIS WOMAN
IS EVEN WORTH YOUR TIME.

You have no idea if she has an interesting
personality. You have no idea if she is
a gold-digger, you have no idea if she
is incompatible with you in so many ways.

So why approach her as if she’s PERFECT when
in reality she’s probably not PERFECT. No one
is perfect, so knowing this should help you speak
to her like she’s a real person and not an angel
sent from heaven to rescue you from anything.

In fact, if you need “rescuing” from anything,
you’ll have LESS chances of succeeding with
her. When I finally got rid of ALL my neediness
for women’s attention, it helped me so much
because I knew that women were just one
part of life, and that they could not give me
all the other things I value.

No woman wants to be THE MEANING of your
entire life, as if you would be a VACUUM of
nothingness without her, and I mean a vacuum
emotionally, internally, and a vacuum externally,
where you have not developed a lifestyle for
yourself that you find interesting and compelling.

The more unique you are, the better.

Think about the celebrities who captured our
imaginations the most- it was always and is
always the ones who were DIFFERENT, they
were not just carbon-copy cookie-cutter cutouts,
from Michael Jackson to Elton John.

Is it any wonder “Lady GaGa” is currently
smoking out the likes of Britney Spears?
It’s because LG is DIFFERENT.

Green Day, same thing, they aren’t the same
cookie-cutter boy’s band.  They are DISTINCT.



So, once you learn how to project your best self,
your unique qualities will then serve you to make
you BETTER than any other guy.

And if you’re reading this right now, you’re
just seeing the tip of the iceberg. To be at your
BEST and put it all into action, it really helps
to get all the DETAILS on what to do, so that
you have an exact PLAN for what to do when
you meet that striking woman, anywhere, and
for what to do to KEEP her interested in you.

The first thing I suggest is that you get my
MASTERY PROGRAM. This program includes
over ten HOURS of my cream-of-the-crop strategies
for approaching women anywhere, and for
skyrocketing your inner game, as well as for how
to KEEP a woman attracted to you long term as well.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book,
“Get A Great Girl”, then do that immediately at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S.
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