messages telling us that men and women
are exactly the same, that the only biological
differences are in terms of GENITALIA
and nothing else.
Now, I am a believer in free speech, but
I also believe freedom of speech carries
a RESPONSIBILITY to try one's best to
tell the TRUTH.
And unfortunately, a lot of what we have
been told has been motivated not by truth,
but the desire by some to achieve their
own agendas.
There is a simple litmus test for truth:
WHAT IS THE EVIDENCE FOR THE
STATEMENT, THE THEORY, ETC.?
Is it weak evidence, or strong?
We are told that the only differences in terms
of emotions and thinking between men and
women are the result of CULTURE, of what
we are TAUGHT. We are taught that there
is no such thing as there truly being male
and female hardwired differences in thinking
and feeling.
This has resulted in the most horrifying reality
for both men and women ever since. It has
resulted in men trying to distort themselves
from who they really are in nature, and it has
resulted in women trying to distort themselves
from who they really are in nature as well.
What I mean by this, is that in the effort to
promote politically-correct hogwash that sounds
nice on the surface but is actually destructive, men
have been told that they are uncivilized animals for
having strong desire for many women, and that
women are somehow “meek” or “not liberated” if
they do NOT also want to have the same amount of
partners as men.
In addition, men are expected by women to
not be so offended if their wives or girlfriends
flirt with some other guys, as long as the women
“don’t touch”, since after all, the women
flirting with some strangers were not “seriously
into those strangers” and were not “emotionally
involved” with those strangers.
And men are expected by women to somehow
view a relationship as primarily EMOTIONALLY
driven, with the physical being important, but not
THAT important.
If only humanity truly cared enough about
REAL SCIENCE, none of this could have ever
happened. And we would not have the insane
degree of disconnect between men and women
today.
So here’s a dose of REALITY.
The fact of the matter is that in EVERY SOCIETY
OBSERVED ON THE PLANET EARTH, that
range from the most politically-correct egalitarian
societies that have gone to the ultimate ends to
try to destroy any trace of male and female
differences, to societies where technology has
not evolved, there is a CONSTANT trend:
MEN WANT AT LEAST (it’s actually much
GREATER than this number in most societies)
THREE TIMES AS MANY FEMALE PARTNERS
AS WOMEN WANT THEIR NUMBER OF MALE
PARTNERS.
In my first book, “The Dating Wizard”, which was
written over TEN YEARS AGO, I gave a way to
understand this.
If you look at the statistics of gay men and gay women,
you get a great insight into the DIFFERENCES between
men and women.
Gay men, on average, have FAR MORE partners than
straight men or any other group including gay women.
Gay women, on average, do not come anywhere
within the same UNIVERSE of the number of partners
that gay men STATISTICALLY have.
Straight men end up having far fewer FEMALE partners
than gay men have male partners not because straight
men want less partners, it’s because women are the
GATEKEEPERS and they are not interested in having
as many partners.
This is NOT culture, this is BIOLOGY.
Think about evolution. A man invests just minutes into
fathering a child. A woman must invest at least nine
months, and if the man leaves her, then she invests
possibly YEARS of her life all on her own, and
she must go through the risk of childbirth, which
has been a dangerous process historically for
women.
That’s a MASSIVE sacrifice from a physical and
evolutionary standpoint for women.
It makes SENSE that a woman wants to be more
SELECTIVE and CAREFUL and more DEMANDING
from the man or men she DOES decide to have
sex with.
Also, since a woman knows that any child she
bears is definitely her own, her effort is at least
not wasted, but a man had no way to know if
a child was truly his own or whether the child
was from another man.
THIS is why men evolved to not only have a
desire for more women than women evolved
to desire in terms of quantity of men, but it is
also why a man gets FAR MORE DISTURBED
at the thought of a woman PHYSICALLY
CHEATING ON HIM.
It is also why women tend to be MORE
DISTURBED by the thought of man
actually FALLING IN LOVE with some
other woman.
Don’t get me wrong. Both men and women
hate the idea of their partner falling in love
with someone else OR physically cheating
on them with someone else, but for a MAN
the thought of his wife or girlfriend
PHYSICALLY CHEATING on him by
sleeping with another man is, in general,
the GREATER pain, whereas for a woman
the greater pain is the thought of her boyfriend
or husband actually falling in love with
another woman.
This is because the woman, from an evolutionary
standpoint, wasn’t losing her entire DNA for
eternity just because her man slept with another
woman. A woman’s child was definitely her own,
and any future children she had would be her
own, so there was no “loss” evolutionarily speaking
if her man happened to sleep with another woman,
UNLESS that man fell in love with that other woman
and gave his resources to help that OTHER woman
feed her child. That would then put the original woman’s
child at risk.
Evolution weeds out traits that don’t help
you reproduce and that don’t help your
progeny survive and reproduce.
But for a man, if a woman slept with another
man only ONCE, that was ENOUGH for
him to possibly be wasting ALL HIS ENERGY
AND RESOURCES on raising someone
ELSE’S child!
As professor of psychology David Buss has pointed out,
the number one predictor of INFIDELITY is promiscuity.
If a woman has slept with a hundred men before you,
there's a SOLID REASON to believe you won't be
the last one she sleeps with either, no matter WHAT
she tells you.
So NO WONDER men ALL OVER THE PLANET
have evolved to be REPELLED by female behavior
that implies these women might CHEAT or have
CHEATED physically, and it’s also no wonder that
women have evolved to be LESS interested in
BEING promiscuous compared to men.
Meanwhile, though, our screwed up society KEEPS
ON TRYING TO TURN WOMEN INTO MEN
by giving FAME and WORSHIP to certain female
celebrities who do nothing but act in promiscuous
ways. Of course, this creates SHOCK which draws
more attention and more success to them.
Now, I didn’t write this to create a rant.
There is a POINT to all this.
The point is for men and women to UNDERSTAND
each other and to make the kind of compromise that
can actually SUCCEED long term and result in the
most overall happiness for everyone.
Women must realize that if a man is willing to
give a woman his full EMOTIONAL commitment,
and if he is willing to give his full PHYSICAL
commitment, these are HUGE sacrifices he is making,
just absolutely MASSIVE sacrifices.
Women must realize that when they go to the clubs
to shake their butts at every guy in the club, that
as a result of this, NO MAN is going to actually
COMMIT to such a woman because it goes against
his PROGRAMMING on the most hard-wired level.
It doesn’t MATTER if the woman hasn’t actually
SLEPT with all those guys, it’s the BEHAVIOR
itself that goes RIGHT TO THE CORE of the male
IMPULSE that says “NO WAY WILL I EVER
COMMIT TO THIS WOMAN”.
Similarly, ANY behavior that smacks of possible
promiscuity will drive any serious man away,
including light-headed attitudes that many women
have toward “hanging out with the boys” as so-called
“platonic” friends.
Men know their own nature. They know their
own desire for infinite female partners. They know
that most men will jump at the chance to get into
bed with women, so a woman that thinks it’s so
perfectly fine to hang out with all kinds of men
is going to find herself with a lack of choices
of good candidates for any serious relationship.
Now, men need to understand women as well.
When a woman says she wants to feel respected,
adored, cared for, etc., she isn’t joking, she doesn’t
just mean the physical stuff. In general (and of course
there are always exceptions to every rule) women
really DO desire WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
more than just sex itself.
It really IS true that the emotional connection is
MASSIVELY important to a woman.
On an evolutionary level, women have been
programmed to care even more about the emotional
connection.
This does not mean that women don’t care about
the superficial stuff. There’s plenty of evidence
to show that they do, but that these superficial
traits are just part of a BIGGER spectrum of
things they are attracted to, including certain male
BEHAVIORS, which means men have more of a
chance to attract a woman if they truly do their
best in ALL the areas that women care about.
In other words, if a guy does NOT look like
Brad Pitt, and if he isn’t a millionaire, there’s
still PLENTY he can do to attract women.
A combination of being the BAD BOY who
still knows when to CARE; knowing how
to LISTEN; and doing your best with whatever
you were born with physically, will take you
VERYYYYYYYYYYY FAR with women.
As a man, it is also important to realize you are
NOT NUTS for finding it difficult to meet a
woman who not only understands all this,
but is not afraid of being RIDICULED by
society for SHOWING you the respect that
a man needs and deserves.
You are being bombarded with messages from
all over telling you that you should be COOL with
the fact that a woman is behaving in ways that you find
REPULSIVE in terms of her lack of fidelity.
But there are wise and brave women out there,
and you must plod through the oceans of
brainwashed women to find those few fantastic
women who are still out there.
And for any woman reading this right now
who happens to be one of those great women
who understands that respect is a two way
street, don’t give up in your search for a great
man. They do exist.
What you have read here is just the tip of the
iceberg. If you are a man, I seriously suggest
you get your hands on ALL of my programs at:
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If you would like to arrange a private consultation
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
