Attraction GENESIS

The most incredible thing to me is witnessing
the BIRTH of attraction.  Seeing how a woman
goes from thinking "you are a stranger" to
"I want to get CLOSER to this stranger".

I call this process Attraction GENESIS,
and I get to help men make it happen with
women in my "Beyond PUA Bootcamps" 
so there are a lot of real-life details that
I can share with you that make all the
difference between success and failure. 

One of the factors that makes the whole process
of triggering attraction in a woman complex is that
our OWN emotions get in the way of us being able
to effectively trigger HER emotion of attraction.

So, for example, the only reason a guy does NOT
approach a woman when he knows he should, is
because of the way it makes him FEEL.

The emotion of "should approach her" is not as strong
as even the POTENTIAL emotion of "feeling like a
LOSER for being rejected".

I say POTENTIAL, because the guy doesn't even know
that he will be rejected, but the POSSIBILITY of it
is enough. IN fact, the IMAGINED POSSIBILITY
of it is actually WORSE than a rejection itself.

Extreme FEAR of things is the REAL enemy, it's
far bigger of a destroyer than whatever thing
itself is being feared.

And that's just talking about making the DECISION
to APPROACH a woman.

But how about the ACTUAL conversation itself?

The success or failure of this is ALSO massively
affected by which emotional state you are in.

You see, EMOTIONS feel more TRUE, more

IMPORTANT than facts.

People like to say that women are more emotional
than men, but the fact is that human BEINGS
are emotional, or none of us would BE human.

Emotions are our evolutionary predecessors
to things like logic, they helped us take
ACTION when we didn't have TIME to think
because we were being chased by some
tiger or whatever else was the urgent issue.

These ancient emotions have not had time to
evolve and adapt to our current realities in the
year 2012.

So, for example, we see THREATS in a lot of
situations where they don't exist. Maybe
a hundred thousand years ago, going up
to a woman and not getting instantaneous
cartwheels and physical action was
a major catastrophe, maybe in those days
since we lived in small tribes, EVERYONE
found out and somehow it really DID
affect your luck with women in the future.

But NOW, it's RIDICULOUS!

It does NOT affect you!
The other 3 BILLION women on the planet
will NOT know about your little fun you
had when chatting to some woman, whether
or not you got her number or got in bed etc.

The GOOD NEWS is that you can CONTROL
which emotions you want to experience,
you can CHOOSE which emotions will
serve you BEST for your goal, and it
all starts with awareness.

The next key, after awareness, is CHANGING 
THE MEANING of the event so that it creates
the RIGHT emotional state in you.

And since you already KNOW that
many of the current meanings you
associate to the various elements
of pick-up are FACTUALLY WRONG
and are ABSURD today, then you
should be very OPEN to the idea
of REFRAMING those situations
to have DIFFERENT meanings,
meanings that are more in tune
with REALITY.

So for example, going up to a woman
to chat with her, no matter what,
should be viewed as an opportunity
to prove to yourself that YOU
control your own actions, and NOT
some outdated programming from
a hundred thousand years ago.

View it as a chance to exercise your FREEDOM.
A CHALLENGE to your own FREE WILL.
Are you a slave to your evolutionary past?
Or can you control your destiny?

Remember too, that on top of any evolutionary
hard-wiring, we have also been brainwashed
to think that in fact we SHOULD be looking at
picking up a woman as something SUPER
SERIOUS, where everything is on the line.

So it's an ENVIRONMENTAL influence that
is also having a huge effect on us, but the
REALLY GOOD news is that we can
TOTALLY change our environment!

Get friends that actually ENCOURAGE
you! Get a personal coach like me
to be there for you! Start ACTIVELY 
filtering the messages you get from people
with the wrong beliefs.

We get the wrong type of brainwashing
from friends, from media, from family,
because the whole "Am I Good with Women"
thing is blown out of proportion so
that we think OUR IDENTITY is based
on it. So of COURSE we become way
too serious about it.

We are FEELING that going up to a woman
is DANGEROUS, and even though it's really
NOT, the fact is that EMOTIONS feel more
TRUE than FACTS!

And the crazy thing, the irony, is that being
SERIOUS in the sense of feeling FEAR is
the WORST emotion for triggering attraction!

It FREEZES up all the OTHER emotional states,
it paralyzes them, and yet it's those OTHER
states that make you SUCCESSFUL with women.

You don't have to BECOME confident.
You just have to get RID of the negative stuff.

Confidence IS the LACK OF INSECURITY.

When you get rid of the DOZENS of variations
of insecurities, all of a sudden you really
FEEL that a DIFFERENT SET OF FACTS
are true. And the only reason you BELIEVE
this is because of the way you FEEL.

And yet, because you FEEL this NEW way,
you are now able to ACCESS those NEW
parts of your emotions that you haven't
felt before in these situations. And you
will behave in a TOTALLY different
way than before, right down to the
tiniest subtleties which count BIG TIME.

If you can FEEL playful, you can also BE
PLAYFUL, because the FEELING actually
CHANGES the way you PERCEIVE reality,
so you will start to SEE THINGS IN A
PLAYFUL AND FUNNIER WAY.

You will REALLY MEAN IT when you
say something funny, it WON'T be
some contrived line. You will be
CERTAIN it's funny, because YOU
will FEEL it to be funny. You will
be convinced that it's funny and
that there is NO WAY anyone can
argue that it's NOT, because again,
you FEEL it, and a FEELING always
SEEMS TRUER THAN ANY FACT!

So the problem is not emotions, it's just
making sure you are feeling the RIGHT
emotions that will serve you productively.

So, if you want to, for example, be more
PLAYFUL and actually be FUNNY, then
the way to GET INTO THAT PLAYFUL 
STATE is for you to start LOOKING AT
THINGS from playful perspectives, for
YOUR OWN AMUSEMENT, not for
GIRLS.

Again, the key is to do this for your OWN
AMUSEMENT, this way, you will actually
FEEL it. And that will make your delivery
PERFECT. You won't seem like the guy
who is nervously trying to be funny.

If you take the train to work, don't just
sit there, think about things you see
in NEW WAYS, ways that are FUNNY.

CHANGE the meaning of the situation
by looking the situation with new
perspectives. Maybe you notice
how many people wear running shoes
even though it's winter and snowing.
Isn't the point of running shoes to be
comfortable? How comfortable is it
to have soaking wet socks from the
snow that leaks in the running shoe?

Now, share that with the woman next
to you!

Your environment gives you INFINITE material.

Learn at first to do this stuff for your
OWN enjoyment.

Then, SHARE it with the woman you want to chat to!

If you want to become more interesting and
intriguing, then YOU YOURSELF HAVE
TO BECOME INTRIGUED with more
things, you have to allow your mind to
open up and you have to start taking in
a better mental and emotional diet when
it comes to what you read, what you watch
on TV, etc. Maybe it's time to visit the
museum again, or the zoo, or the exhibit
on whatever fascinating topic it might be.
Find what intrigues you.

And there are SO MANY important and powerful
emotions that all have their proper place and time
when you are interacting with a woman. From
dominance, to being challenging, to intimacy
and bonding and trust, to sexual arousal, to
playfulness, to moments of seriousness, to
unpredictability, to creating curiosity,
and more.

And beyond ALL THIS STUFF, is how you
STEER the interaction while CHATTING
to a woman, as you gauge HER emotional
state. Because you see, the point is that
you want to lead her into ever better states
as well, from the fun to the appropriately
sexual for the situation, to the intriguing,
to the deeper levels of trust and intimacy.

Of course, to do that, you have to actually
FEEL that it's important, so if you really
just want to USE a woman and you don't
really care about her, then I guess that
type of guy is going to be up a creek
without a paddle.

And to actually get a woman to feel so good
that she becomes ADDICTED to you, you need
to have the deepest understanding of how
your OWN emotions work, as well as how
a WOMAN'S emotions work. Remember,
men and women are not conditioned the same.

If you'd like to learn how to become a
MASTER at creating compelling emotions in
women to the point they are ADDICTED to you,
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You can either trust me and enjoy the
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Approach Women: Seeing INTO Women On A Deep Level

If you're sick and tired of being CONFUSED
as to what the hell to DO to succeed at
attracting women from directly approaching
them, then you are in for a TREAT.

So let's get straight to it:

1. BE SUBDUED, IT AIN'T A SPRINT

The single greatest mistake that beginners make
is that they view a pick-up as a SPRINT.

What guys tend to do is work themselves into
a FRENZY in order to get the adrenaline to get
themselves to go up to the girl.

That feeling of seeing a girl and being FROZEN,
it's hard to get out the gates, it's as if it takes the
booster rockets of the space shuttle to launch out.

Then, after all that pressure they exert on themselves,
the tendency is to finally BLURT out something,
whether it's natural or something "canned"
(something memorized). They pray for a good
response, hoping that they have done their
own part of the pick-up, and that maybe
the woman will now carry the rest of
the interaction.

Well, what happens is that this frenetic
approach not only does not look cool,
(because it looks like the guy is not
comfortable with women) but it actually
makes the GIRL nervous as well, since
emotional states are CATCHY.

There's a LOT to know, but the FIRST thing
a woman is judging you on, INSTINCTIVELY,
is your DEMEANOR, the way you seem composed
and calm and cool and collect or the lack of
all this.

And even on THIS point, there are subtleties,
because you COULD enter into a conversation
with higher energy as well, IF the environment
is appropriate for that, like a club, and IF
you are having the high energy from your
own upbeat state as opposed to from being
jittery and nervous.

2. DON'T "EXIT STAGE LEFT"

Then, on top of all this, the guy is looking for
any excuse he can to EXIT the situation because
he feels like a MORON or a CRIMINAL or
UNWORTHY.

He doesn't want to be made fun of, so if the
woman is not doing CARTWHEELS, he
immediately JETS off.

Don't do this.

Sometimes, the woman is only matching
instinctively to the very states you exuded
onto her - i.e. frenzy, nerves, discomfort.

So, if you're not getting the best response,
and you feel NERVOUS, then rather than
EJECT, instead, SLOW DOWN your entire
system, your movements, your thoughts,
your breathing, etc. It WILL help you
calm down and help her calm down as
well.

This will also help you become more resourceful
in terms of being able to be more fun, witty,
secure, etc.

Slow it all d-o-w-n.

3. YOU HAVE TO BE FULLY PRESENT

The problem is that too many guys want to
have to not actually GET "DIRTY" by
getting DEEP INTO THE HEART OF
AN INTERACTION. They would prefer
to just do the whole thing by "remote control",
in the sense of doing this one magic thing
or saying something that then allows
the guy to coast and watch the woman
jump into his arms.

They want to avoid any emotional risk,
(even though most women are NOT
mean, so there really is not a problem
of some kind of bitter rejection or
anything) almost as if they are not really there,
instead some mask is there in the form
of a memorized line, or in the form of
some hyped "one magic move" that appeals
to the lazy tendency of human beings.

But to get good at this stuff, you have to
get into it, you have to be actually listening
and responding, and giving back good energies
to her energies, and not getting frazzled just
because it doesn't always start with a blast.

This takes practice, but it also develops
SPONTANEITY, it develops quick wit,
it develops your ability to respond with
natural stuff very quickly rather than
feeling stuck or at a loss for words. It
enables you to also get a better feel
for what she is EMOTIONALLY
SAYING and not just verbally
saying. All this stuff is HUGELY
important.

4. EYE CONTACT

Do I have to even say this?
Ten years of teaching guys in person tells me
YES, I should still mention this.

I've seen guys memorize HOURS of canned
material but fail to actually make solid eye contact
for even 30 seconds, which is far more important.

This doesn't mean non-stop never-breaking eye contact.
It means that you are comfortable looking right into
her eyes. When you need to constantly be darting
around your eyes away from her, it makes her
feel you are either a sketchy character or lacking
self-esteem.

Notice, by the way, if you saw the movie 'Avatar',
the constant repetition of the Na'vi greeting
"I see you" which really means "I see INTO you,
I see who you ARE, and I ACCEPT you."

When it comes to women, INDIRECT communication
is much more powerful than just coming right
out and saying "I LIKE YOU!" because indirect
communication causes her mind and emotions
to become much more ENGAGED.

Eye contact that implies "I see and confirm
your SOUL" is COOL. Women DIG it!!!!!!!!!!



When you look into her eyes and give her that
eye contact, you are giving her a powerful
feeling, you are 'seeing her soul' so to speak,
and if you are doing it with good vibes, you
are confirming her identity on a very deep level,
and confirming one's identity is the most
powerful and primal of all forms of human
communication.
   
5. TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE SITUATION

Every situation is slightly different, and this is
where CALIBRATION comes in, a topic I
go into further detail in my advanced materials.

So, for example, doing pick-up at a nightclub
where girls are with their girlfriends means
that the girls are most likely slightly tipsy
from a few drinks, concerned about how
they will appear in front of their friends,
and also concerned with making sure
their friends are having a good time,
and also they are all slightly on guard
against guys even though they do want
to meet guys or they probably wouldn't
be there in the first place.

So, taking this into account means:

You can be MORE playful and sexual because
this is not the workplace or the library. This
is the party zone.

You can make more light physical contact.

You need to not ignore her friends when starting
the conversation with them. You need to understand
that if one of the girls who is her friend is not all
that stereotypically hot, that friend probably
feels BAD that her friend gets all the attention.

So it's cool of you to show that friend some
respect, such as by giving that friend a compliment,
even though you also have to make sure that you
are not trying to lead her on either.

The conversation should start with anything
not too serious, such as who would win in
a fight, Mighty Mouse or Wonder Woman,
whereas in a library you could start a convo
with something that is a lot more intriguing,
such as if you bump into her in the ancient
history section, you could ask her if she
has ever been to Egypt to see the pyramids,
and then get into that if that is a topic you
really know about and are interested in, etc.

There are TONS of other factors to take into
account - is this woman in university? Is
she in her 30s? 40s? 50's, etc? Is she
a party girl? Calibrating for all this properly
falls under the topic of social intelligence,
which is another important topic.

6. COMPLIMENTS HAVE TO COME
FROM A PLACE OF GIVING

Too many guys go into these pick-ups after
hearing how to be all alpha and how to be the
boss, in a very confrontational way.

There is this feeling of it's "me against her",
and she has to see who's the boss.

This is LUDICROUS.
You want to be making her feel GOOD.

The reason that most compliments don't work
is that the guy seems to have nothing ELSE
fun, interesting, upbeat, or playful to say.

So a compliment can't be a substitute for
not demonstrating the best aspects of
PERSONALITY.

Also, regarding compliments, if a woman is
showing repeated INTEREST in you, then
of course you should make her feel good
about that.

However:

7. DON'T ACT AS IF IT'S SUCH A BIG
SURPRISE WHEN SHE LIKES YOU

Too many guys have a MELTDOWN
occur when the woman is showing
INTEREST or even just giving good
signals like giggling at your jokes, etc.

The guy becomes TOO AFFECTED by
the fact she is interested.

Now, it's not that you are supposed to
WITHHOLD good emotions from her,
it's not that you are supposed to act
cold, it's that if you seem to be
SMILING SO CRAZILY from a
woman you HARDLY KNOW
just because she seems to like you,
it's like acting SURPRISED that you
got the job after being interviewed.

If you were interviewing someone for
for a job, and you liked them for the job,
and you then hired them, and suddenly
they seemed to be MELTING DOWN
in thanks, in being ecstatic, you might
wonder if maybe this person had never
been accepted for a job before and you
might start to wonder if maybe you
made a mistake.

Again, LOVE IS A GOOD THING,
it's just that you should wait till she
has SHOWN YOU A REASON TO
BE SO ECSTATIC. So far, all she
has done is shown interest in you,
you don't even KNOW her that well
yet.

So, again, by being more SUBDUED,
you are actually showing greater
MATURITY, and showing greater
value on your part as well than if
you were too impacted by the whole
thing.

This is part of where the whole
"be cool" thing came from, and
this idea of being cool has been
totally warped by most people.

8. FORGET THE INSULTS

Man-oh-man, ever since day ONE I
was against the use of these "clever
subtle insults" such as "Is that really
your hair or a wig?" or "What kind
of coat is THAT?" or any type of
rude behavior such as blowing your
nose right up close to her face.

There are so many fricken reasons I was
against this that I can write a whole book
on that alone.

The bottom line is they IMPEDE your progress.
Sure, it might get you some immediate
ATTENTION.

But, they send the wrong message to YOUR
mind about women, and they set up the
vibe between the woman and you in
a way that lacks trust, which means
the whole thing is a ticking time bomb.
Sometimes an IMMEDIATE explosion
occurs.

All that stuff comes from lacking the right
understanding of what triggers attraction
in the first place. If you need to use that stuff,
you are only showing what WEAK "game"
you have. I said this years ago even when
it was popular among "experts" to use these
insults. That's me, the rebel who preaches
love and not hate.

9. MINIMIZE CANNED MATERIAL

Man, this is a huge one. I believe that memorized
material should ONLY be used when you are
absolutely STUCK and frozen and have no
clue what to say. The more you rely on it
as a crutch, the weaker your real skills will be.

So yes, I will have a guy memorize some stuff,
but it's his EMERGENCY CHUTE that is
only to be used in an URGENT pick-up crisis,
and ONLY to be used SPARINGLY!

The need for canned material comes from
lacking internal development. From the
wrong thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives
of women and of attraction and emotion
itself, and of your own identity. In my
live programs, this is the FIRST area
I work through with a guy. I find out
what he currently believes and thinks,
and I find out exactly where he is going
off track and then I put on the RIGHT
track.

Again, I said this way back, even years ago
when the book The Game was popularizing
the use of memorized material - the problem
of course was that millions of guys THOUGHT
canned stuff was good since before they had
nothing to say at all, but the reality is that just
opening up your mouth to a woman is not going
to attract her. And in fact, most guys that
use canned material do worse than guys
who don't.

For example, the typical thing that a rookie
at this game does when he learns memorized
material is he starts to RAPID FIRE all
the things he has memorized to say.

Why does he do this?
He does this because he is relying on the words,
and not on his actual skill to enter the specific
combination of states of mind that he needs,
and he is also ignoring the larger context of
the situation, meaning he is not LISTENING
to the woman! He is too busy trying to get
his words out--and because this all comes
out WEIRD to the woman, she does not
give him a FAVORABLE response--
which makes the guy feel like he is
SINKING, so he then OF COURSE
begins to spurt out his NEXT memorized
line, hoping to Dear God that maybe
THIS will get a better response, which
of course it doesn't because his entire
FRAME of how attraction works is
all wrong.

And of course since all his memorized stuff
isn't working, he then commits two cardinal
pick-up sins by ALSO speaking too fast
since he is nervous, so he now sounds like
a guy literally reading a script, and reading
it FAST. Like a desperate salesman trying
to get something to stick.

At that point, he's totally not listening to her
at all, when listening is what he really needs
to do to get his finger on the pulse of the
moment. He's just ready to fire away
with another memorized line.

And it's not his fault!!!
He has been INSTRUCTED to do this!
By someone claiming to be an expert!

10. IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING "DIRECT" EITHER

And by the way, just because memorizing
a script is not the way to attraction, does
NOT mean that the answer is to just
go right up to a woman and say "I like you!".

When you go up to a woman and you go
that fast and that direct, you are FORCING
a woman to make a decision about you on
the SPOT, without having ANY time to
really "feel" your personality, so in that
case you are forcing her to judge you on
superficial things, since that is all she
knows about you.

It's worse actually, she DOES know that
apparently YOU don't need to know much
about HER, and that says a LOT about
you and your personality and your
values and your priorities in life and
your lack of internal development.

So forget that "direct" stuff as well, it's
actually not cool.

You have to instead develop the skills to
create awesome emotions in yourself
and in her, AND you have to learn how to
create that all-important CONNECTION.

And that's where I come in.
I just happen to LOVE the ART of creating
ALL AWESOME EMOTIONS and I ALSO
love the science of human communication.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks