Most Important Thing For Success With Women

One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself when it comes to skyrocketing your success with women is to have something else in your life that gives you a deep sense of meaning and inner peace; something that also requires your full focus and means even more to you at this point in your life than any woman does.

(I say “at this point” because there is a difference when a woman has earned a higher priority to you over time as she, for example, becomes your partner and you raise children together, or you have developed a special relationship over years.  This is very different than just feeling attraction for a woman or for women in general.)

So, for example, if you are involved in some type of organization that helps people in some way. Or if you are an artist or writer or performer.  It can be so many different types of things, but the common thread is that you must connect something that you are good at in your life to something much larger than yourself, so that you are using your talents to connect to humanity in a powerful way.

Let’s call this part of your life the part that gives you a deep sense of meaning.

Now, you might be wondering why having a deep sense of meaning has anything to do with approaching a woman,  starting up a conversation with her, and attracting her.

A deep sense of meaning is so important to your success with women for MANY reasons, and those reasons are probably not what you think.

Some people think it is simply to have something to talk about to a woman, or to show off to a woman about. But those things are NOT the reasons why having a deep sense of meaning is so important for your success with women.

The reason it’s so important is because your STATE OF MIND is the KEY element in attracting a woman. The better of a state you are in, the better you will do. 

This is not only because positive emotions are attractive since states of mind are catchy, it's also because positive emotions help prevent you from seeing things in a distorted light, and prevent you from doing all kinds of things that will sabotage your success with women, be it the initial approach or the relationship long after the initial approach.

So, if you are in negative state of mind, you can interpret all kinds of innocent or even good things in a way that is negative.  You can interpret a woman's words as meaning something bad when they mean something good. 

I'm not saying to wear rose-colored glasses, I'm saying that most human beings tend to have a negative bias, and it is usually the result of negative emotions.  Change the emotion, and the perspective changes. 

Most people think the opposite-that the situation needs to change, and then their emotions can change but the truth is that very often it's the emotion that needs to change first, which then allows the person to see the situation properly. 

And when it comes to attracting women, it's pretty easy to have a negative bias and to start truly thinking and feeling that things are bad even if the truth is they aren't. So it becomes crucial that you are in the best state of mind possible.     

Now, when I say “state of mind” I don’t mean that you have to be feeling ecstatic like you just won the lottery. To be honest with you, that kind of state of mind, which is known as pleasure, is actually NOT the most powerful, deep sense of happiness one can experience.

For example, studies measuring happiness from TONS of perspectives, have clearly shown that people who win the lottery, after only THREE MONTHS, are actually NOT one bit happier than they were before winning the lottery. For more details on this, and on achieving happiness in general, please read the works of Dr. Martin Seligman.

There are deeper levels of happiness than that type of pleasure. For example, when you are totally engaged in some activity, where time seems to freeze because you are so immersed, this is an even more rich state of mind, often known as being in “flow” state.

And yet, there is an even HIGHER level of happiness, a feeling that is deeper, and longer lasting, than simply feeling the ecstasy of a moment, or the taste of sugar or chocolate or an adrenaline rush. It is the feeling that comes from having a deep sense of MEANING and from engaging in what you feel is a deeply meaningful activity.

When you are in this state of mind, you AUTOMATICALLY do the following four absolutely VITAL things for attracting women:

1.  You Come Across As MANLY

A woman picks up on your state of mind. She senses that you are not emotionally fragile, that you are not in desperate need of an emotional boost, that you don’t need her approval.     

This is very attractive because it signals to a woman that you are internally STRONG.

It signals to her that you cannot be thrown off course very easily, since no one can emotionally get you under their control.

So in that sense, it is quite MANLY. And it lets her know that if you are in her life, you will be a positive part of it.

2. It Allows You To Be Chilled Out/Natural And Still Succeed

You’ve probably heard how women say they just want guys to be themselves and not put on an act, but the confusion for men comes from the fact that this doesn’t work for so many guys.

Well, the reason women advise men to be themselves instead of putting on an act is because so many guys try so hard to impress women, that the guys end up trying to act smarter, richer, funnier, more sophisticated, kinder, etc., than they really are- and women can often TELL it’s fake, but they often don’t know that the only reason most guys do this is because they LIKE the woman. 

Women hear so many horror stories about creepy men in the news that it makes many women feel they can’t take a chance with a guy who is a stranger and who is giving off any wrong vibes.  Many women don’t know that most guys who are putting on an act are actually NOT trying to trick or abuse women.

However, you avoid this whole problem altogether when you are in a deeper sense of happiness and inner peace- the kind that comes from having a sense of greater purpose and connection to humanity.

And by the way, if you are an introvert and you think this doesn’t apply to you, the evidence seems to say the opposite- it says it will very likely improve your state of mind on a deep level. So before you give in to doubts, let the science prove itself for you by you trying it out for real. 

 

The reason this works so powerfully to make you chilled out and natural, is because feeling nervous is the result of chemicals in your body that make you feel that way.  But if the natural chemicals that make you feel GREAT are in your system, you perceive the whole act of approaching women in a positive light, and so you are not nearly as nervous, if nervous at all, when you approach a woman. You already know that whatever happens, it won’t make a big difference to your general state of inner peace.

If the interaction goes exactly as you might like, it might ENHANCE your state of mind, but even if it doesn’t go at ALL as you might have planned, it won’t RUIN your state of mind.

So, when you approach a woman anywhere, you aren’t afraid of being yourself. You are so calm, that you are totally COMFORTABLE approaching a woman anywhere, and telling her that you wanted to say hello, or even that you found her attractive and that you wanted to know if there was more to her as well.

Although in general I don’t suggest guys go up to women giving women compliments on their looks, the truth is that your TONALITY and your BODY LANGUAGE really filter everything you say, so you can indeed say something regarding the fact you found her attractive, IF you say it in a way that shows your life does not depend on her approval of your statement or her approval of you.

And by the way, when I say this whole concept of not seeking approval, it doesn’t mean that you are trying to be MEAN and that you don’t care at all what she thinks as if she is your enemy or anything. It just means that you aren’t desperate for that approval because you are already in a very stable and positive place psychologically.

And that too may require my clarification since the whole concept of being positive is mostly misunderstood.  People think it means doing cartwheels and shouting with glee and feeling ecstatic, but the truth is that kind of feeling lasts only minutes or seconds, and does not affect you for long, whereas a sense of meaning and connection affects you virtually all the time in a powerful way.

3. It Helps You Be Congruent

Related to the idea of being natural, being congruent means being consistent on all levels. So for example, it means that the way you are talking matches up to what you are doing, wearing, thinking, etc. 

If a guy is nervous about losing a woman’s interest or is nervous about trying to impress a woman, he will do contradictory things-for example, he might say how much he is into reading books in order to impress a woman, but then when she asks him what the last book he read was and he doesn’t have an answer, it gives off the wrong impression.

Also, if a man is already experiencing a deep sense of inner peace, he can more clearly think about what he wants to do in his life and how he wants to spend his energy and time, and he can be consistent in those decisions.

He has less temptation to lie, since there is very little for him to gain from it. Therefore, he will be completely congruent in his actions and statements with women.  Women sense the congruency in his character and it makes them trust that he is indeed who he says he is.

When a person behaves in a way that is inconsistent, it often triggers alarms in other people, even if the other people can’t fully articulate what it is that makes them not trust that person- it’s because on a subconscious level, they sensed that there were inconsistencies in the person’s behavior.

Also, because you are in a better place internally, you become more congruent in your entire life. You don’t sabotage yourself by going in opposite directions at once.

For example, if you want to improve your fitness levels, you don’t just join a gym, you also start to pay more attention to your diet and to managing stress. You can do this because you are in a more stable place internally, giving you more energy for willpower.  This then results in improvements in your life, which then gives you even more reserve emotional energy to go further in improving your life, in a never ending cycle of positive progress.

4. It Helps You Never Run Out Of Things To Say

Since you are so much calmer and in a good mood, your mind is not in FEAR mode. When you are in FEAR mode, your brain’s transmission kicks into FIGHT/FLIGHT/FREEZE gear. 

When your brain feels there is an immediate emergency or threat, your primal instincts kick in, which are to either fight, flee, or freeze. These were good responses to threats that humans faced all the time many years ago, such as needing to outrun a wild animal or catch a wild animal.

Rather than wasting time on thinking, the body INSTINCTIVELY reacts to those threats by SHUTTING DOWN THE COMPLEX THINKING parts of the brain and putting ALL ENERGY into the PHYSICAL and the EMOTIONAL- forcing us to FIGHT/FLEE/FREEZE without even thinking about it, as an instinctive response.

But approaching a woman is not a situation where you want your brain to SHUT DOWN the ability to think properly.  The last thing you want is to be overwhelmed with fear. Many people drink alcohol to overcome this, but then the alcohol interferes with the ability to think best.

So, if you are already in a state of deep inner peace and meaning, you are pretty calm about the whole idea of the approach when you approach a woman, since there is very little at stake for you. This allows you to get FULL BENEFIT OF YOUR BRAIN instead of freezing up. So you will find it is FAR, FAR EASIER to come up with what to say, how to respond to what she says, etc.

So the big question becomes HOW to do this.

In person, I can work with you and help you figure all this out down to the last detail, as each person is going to be different.

The answer in a nutshell, though, is to think about what your strengths are, and start thinking about all the ways you can connect some or all of them to something larger than just yourself. Join clubs or groups that are all about the strength or strengths that you have.  Maybe you can pool together with others that have your strengths to do something amazing for people. Maybe you can help teach the things you are good at.

The possibilities are MASSIVE.

The REAL challenge is actually not figuring out so much what it is that you love or what you are good at or how to connect it to something larger than yourself. The real challenge is getting over the FEAR that usually is there facing you BEFORE you take that action to put this into your life.

So, for example, the FEAR that expresses itself with a million excuses, saying things like:

“But I have no time.”

“But what if I FAIL?”

“I’m too old.”

“I don’t have the money.”

And so on and so forth.

The reason these things are excuses is because the REAL POINT BEHIND finding that thing or things that give you a sense of inner peace, meaning, and purpose is not just to FIND it, but to DO it- to DO it as much as you can, EVEN IF THAT IS ONLY DOING IT FOR 5 MINUTES A DAY in the beginning.

Ultimately, it’s not about the SUCCESS OR FAILURE OF YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT- it’s what happens to you INTERNALLY WHEN YOU CONSISTENTLY SPEND TIME DOING WHAT YOU FEEL IS MEANINGFUL.

Now, the IRONY is that if you DON’T take the action, you will NEVER experience how MASSIVELY that action IMPROVES YOUR CONFIDENCE, YOUR COURAGE, YOUR INNER SENSE OF PEACE, YOUR STATE OF MIND IN ALL GOOD WAYS.

But if you DO take action in this area, you suddenly find that you are NOT afraid of failure, because it really IS the sense of destiny/mission/meaningful purpose that OVER-RIDES absolutely EVERYTHING ELSE.

It CHANGES YOU, in the most powerful, positive, and helpful ways for yourself and for your effect on others- including of course women.

The moment you STOP taking action, the old fears and doubts and lack of inner sense of calm and happiness start creeping back in and those negative emotions start to EXPAND and they start to try to take up ALL the space in your mind.

The REVERSE is true as well- the second you start to PUSH BACK against the negativity, and you start TAKING SERIOUS ACTION in this area of your life, you start to GET BACK that sense of LARGER THAN LIFE CONFIDENCE, INNER PEACE, PURPOSE, ETC.

And by the way, if you do follow this consistently, chances are pretty high you WILL achieve some pretty cool success in whatever it was you focused on to help humanity- but that is just the ICING on the cake- the real reward is how it makes you FEEL.

Women are very much in touch with their emotions, and they are very good at feeling out the emotions of OTHERS. Women can SENSE when you are in a really solid state of mind, and they are ATTRACTED to it.

When you COMBINE this with your ability to CONVERSE with women and your understanding of certain fundamentals about female sexuality, you become UNSTOPPABLE with women.

This is where I come in- in my live, exclusive, in-person, bootcamp program, I do two things. First, I take care of the whole INTERNAL side of things- how to get your inner state of mind to be at PEAK form.

The next thing I do is teach you the best way to actually APPLY ALL THIS in your interactions with women in the form of DIRECT APPROACHES. I actually demonstrate this for you, and then guide you along every step of the way so that you can do it as well.

By "DIRECT APPROACHES" here, I mean you approach women you see ANYWHERE- women who are TOTAL STRANGERS, and you go right up to them and get them attracted and connected on a deep level.

It gets even better- you will learn how to do all this in a way that LASTS.  You will not have to learn any gimmicks, you will not be using any lies, you will not be doing anything that is inconsistent with who you really are. This way, you will be able to USE what you learn and master in bootcamp for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ALL THE WOMEN YOU MEET.

Congruency is a HUGE priority for me, both in my own approaches and in the way I teach men to acquire these skills and in the way men USE these skills.

Since the things you learn and master will be CONSISTENT WITH YOUR PERSONALITY, you will feel COMFORTABLE using them on women for the rest of your life.  

And of course, the results will be better too, since women can sense the difference in a man who is congruent.

As they say, it’s a free country. You can go to anyone you want to when it comes to your search for someone who can teach you these skills in the most powerful way possible. But if you are looking for the best coach on how to get yourself a woman who is the total package, I am absolutely certain that I am the best coach for you, and here’s how you can be certain as well:

1. My work has been verified by journalists from the largest newspapers in Canada.  

In fact, one of those reports was made over the course of several WEEKS, where the journalist followed the progress of SEVERAL men who took my in-person coaching.  Almost every single report from the men was OVERWHELMINGLY positive, and the men gave their reports directly to her. The men were not paid one cent by me.  In fact, I didn’t even know what they said about me till I read the report myself in the newspaper.

And, also, on top of this, the report was not made by some cherry-picked journalist of my choosing, it was actually written by a woman who had no reason to make me look good.  She was not paid one cent by me, and she was not anyone I knew or had any relationship with whatsoever.

2.  I have never resorted to gimmicks or “sold-out”.

Throughout the years, there have been all kinds of attraction gimmicks, and I have never been a part of it- even though there was quite a bit of money to be made had I done so.

3. You receive EXCLUSIVE coaching in my bootcamp.

I know that every man is DIFFERENT. So I need to focus on ONE man at a time. In an age where everything is about mass-consumption and mass-production to maximize profits, I know the truth- which is that private instruction and private coaching allows me to help you the MOST.

So bootcamp with me is PRIVATE and EXCLUSIVE.  It's only YOU, and that means every second you are  absorbing more and more, getting better and better, and not having one second of your time used on anything BUT making you better.

There is no dividing your time with other students-the entire bootcamp is devoted to you. One client per bootcamp per weekend.

It allows me to take the time and devote it to YOU, to PINPOINT exactly what YOU need to SKYROCKET your success, and it allows YOU to get the results with women AS FAST AS POSSIBLE.

4. I am congruent- the only thing that matters to me is the TRUTH about success with women, and I stick to THAT.  I don’t have a gimmick- my “brand” is one thing only- THE TRUTH IN GETTING SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.

To find out more about my bootcamp program, just email me at:

michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

You can also check out my bootcamp page at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

If you would like to learn more about how I can help you get the success you want with women, visit my website at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Giving Women Pleasure And Sex

The only thing that really counts ultimately
for ANY human being, is how they feel.

And human beings are different from animals
because they have an incredible ability to be
creative and they've devised all kinds of ways
to feel pleasure and experience awesome
emotions, from massive adrenaline rushes to
the super feelings of inner peace and harmony,
to intrigue and wonder, and so much more.

Of course, some of these avenues cause more
pain ultimately like the problems of drug
abuse, etc.  But my point is that all people
really want are the infinite varieties of
cool sensations and emotions, whether it's a
roller coaster or tasty or satisfying foods if
they are hungry, or feeling their sense of
wonder and intrigue stimulated.

And of course, the intense emotions that they get
or feel they can get from SEX in the exact
recipe that helps unlock their inner chemicals-
for some folks that recipe means a serious
relationship, for others it's something else.
And it changes for people as well.

And the thing is, sex is actually one of the
most powerful emotional blasts a person
can experience.  It's not just sex itself
of course,  it's all the stuff you bring
to sex emotionally as well.  Otherwise,
masturbation would be where sex begins
and ends.  And in fact, there is a billion
dollar business that thrives off of ADDING
other emotional stuff to that, it's called
porn.  Clearly, it's not just the act of sex
itself.  It's the PERSPECTIVE the person
has on it- i.e. "I'm with a MODEL!!" or
whatever the person has i.e. "THIS CHICK
LOVES MEEEE!", that enhances the impact.

Do you know why most women aren't into
porn much as much? It's because they don't
need to FANTASIZE about getting sex, they
can have it easily. It's men who fantasize
about being the pizza boy who gets the
sex as he delivers the pizza lol.  I'm not
saying women don't fantasize by the way,
because they absolutely DO, it's just
DIFFERENT because of the different reality
that most women live in.   

The bottom line is that sex, in it's many
forms combined with other emotions,
is one of the most POWERFUL emotions.

And this is true for both men AND women.

Of all the emotions, sex is probably the
most powerful, WHEN mixed with the
right combination other emotions.

If you can give a woman THIS EMOTION,
she will be YOURS.

You can LEARN to do this.

Let me give you a bit of insight into how this works:

When you think of money, do you get EXCITED?
Does it feel as good as listening to awesome MUSIC?
Does it feel as good as SEX?
Does it even feel as good as a great burger????

If it does, it's only because of the things
you have associated with money, i.e.
power, self-esteem, women, sex, etc.

When you think of a woman who is
STRIKING, do you get excited?

If you do, I want you to THINK for a second
about what it IS about a specific type of
woman that makes you feel excited?

What is it SPECIFICALLY about her that makes
you FEEL it?  A specific body part? Her walk?
Her face? The way she looks at you?  All
the above?

If you're like most guys, you probably were
GIRL crazy for LOTS of girls, not just MODELS
when you first got interested in girls. 

That's because you had less conditioning.

I remember when I was in grade school, and
first got interested in girls. You know what
I liked? BOOBS and ASS!  I liked a woman
who LOOKED like a woman.  A cute face
didn't hurt either of course.  I liked "older
girls" lol then, the ones who were getting
their shape from being through puberty.

My point is that you could have showed me
a MODEL then, and I probably would have
been just as happy or even happier with the
girl who was less of a model but had more
of her WOMANLY shape to her.

I wouldn't have thought that supermodels were
"superior". In fact, even today, the supermodels
are not even what's in magazines like Playboy.
So even in our society there are discrepancies
between what is "officially good looking" and
what is actually "sexy" for women.

It took time for be to get bombarded by society
and think supermodels were better. Now I'm
actually liberated again, kinda more flexible,
I'm attracted to lots of things in women, which
makes life a lot more fun by the way and gives
you so many more fun options. For all you guys
who want the supermodels, don't get me wrong
for one SECOND, I PROVE stuff on the "hotties"
week after week, LIVE, in my Bootcamps. 

In fact, what I'm explaining here is a KEY to HOW
this whole attraction thing works.

You see, human PLEASURE associations are
ARTIFICIALLY limited by our environmental
messages.  Don't get me wrong on this either,
there IS a certain amount of attraction that is
pure BIOLOGY, as I actually explain in my
materials as well.  Women's hip to waist RATIOS,
etc, across cultures remain consistent.  

But there is a huge amount of FLEXIBILITY
regarding what triggers attraction in a woman,
(and men as well, but the point here is women)
as long as the PERCEPTION is being FRAMED
properly through factors you CAN control. 
    
And BLASTING through these artificial
LIMITATIONS and the artificial BARRIERS
to feeling PLEASURE, including the SEXUAL
kind, is not really as difficult as it seems if
you understand how pleasure works.

The key to understand is that PLEASURE
is actually a STATE of mind.  Everyone
has the potential to FEEL it independently.

But what happens is we get WEAK in this
area, we get CONDITIONED to only ALLOW
ourselves to experience it if a billion conditions
are present. 

But there is a way to CUT past it all.
And if you understand how to CUT past it
all inside a woman's MIND, you will get
her to BE ADDICTED TO YOU no matter
WHO THE HELL YOU ARE.

It really doesn't matter who you are, as
long as you know how to GET HER
TO UNLEASH THE PLEASURE
CENTER INSIDE HER MIND.

You see, this is why it really IS ridiculous
to try to appeal to women with static things
like money.

Or trying to appeal to women with ANYTHING
besides DIRECTLY going for her MIND
and unleashing her PLEASURE feelings.

So how about this whole thing you hear from
women who keep on saying they want a guy
with money?  That's because they would LIKE
to ALSO have money!!!!!  Also, for a long
term relationship and having kids, having
money helps SECURE things.  But it has
NOTHING to do with SEXUAL ATTRACTION.
Not unless the woman is literally starving,
then it's possible that attraction will really
happen simply from a guy having FOOD!

But that's not going to help most guys
in this world.  The REAL key is to
affect a woman's EMOTIONS, to
make her unleash her own pleasure
centers.

If a guy relies on things like money to
get women and does not work on his
ability to give women the experience
of pleasure, it's really a bad move.

You want a woman to be with you because
she ENJOYS it, not because she feels she
HAS TO.

So the question then becomes:
"How do I get a woman to feel PLEASURE?"

Well, the first thing to realize is that when you
FIRST meet a woman randomly, she is often
PROGRAMMED to avoid even allowing you
a CHANCE to get her into a pleasurable state,
or in fact a chance to do ANYTHING.

This is good.
Otherwise, women would be allowing every
PSYCHO into their lives as well. It would
be too easy.

However, this means you often must know
how to EMOTIONALLY MANEUVER
around the maze she has created so that you
can WORK your "magic".

For example, if a woman you see at the store,
is walking out the store, and she is already
in her car, windows rolled up, and it's
NIGHT time, and it's a pretty DESERTED
parking lot, she is going to be a lot tougher to
open up than if she was at a club with her
friends having a great time. 

In that car, in that deserted parking lot,
at night, her AUTO PROGRAMMING
is keeping her in extreme CAUTION
state.

So if you go in DIRECT, you are going to get
RESISTANCE.  And if you persist with that
directness, the resistance will only get STRONGER.

CONFIDENCE is not enough in such
a situation. It's a fantastic start, but
not enough.

UNDERSTANDING AND KNOW-HOW
so that you know what makes most sense
for that situation is what makes the
DIFFERENCE between success
and failure.  

So you have to find a way in:
For example, if you told her that her license
plate was covered with dirt at the back of her
car, and she came out to check it and then
you started to tease her that she is terrible
at keeping her car maintained, and then
as she sees it's actually fine, you then
bring up a RELEVANT story about the
situation, i.e. something you bought at
the store i.e. the incredible price on
Halloween candy, or you were wondering
what to give kids that is healthy but
not creepy like an apple lol,  and she
starts to INTERACT with you on that
topic, you are NOW in a position to start
getting her laughing, teasing her on her
answers as well showing sexual masculinity
and dominance, and yet getting her into
a happy laughing pleasurable state,
which is one step closer to a sexually
"happy" state.

And regarding the little story you made
up?  She will not only forgive you for it,
she will THANK you for it later.  Otherwise
you two would never have met.  And
besides, she FINDS out the truth within
MINUTES anyway! That story was just
a way to get IN.  It isn't what the attraction
is BUILT on.

Here's what I consider unethical: When
you are doing something that is HARMING
her emotions.  Or harming her physically.
Or being SELFISH and taking without
giving.  Or telling her a made-up story
that won't be revealed to her soon
anyway. NONE of that is present in
the above situation.

It's no different than a chick who wants
to pick you up, and comes up with some
excuse to chat YOU up that is totally
not real. (Hey, I love that pendant,
where did you get it from???") 
Is this BAD?  Would you hate a woman
for that or RESPECT her for it?
And keep in mind, imagine that she
is coming across as highly DESIRABLE.

Obviously in one newsletter, I can't do
FULL JUSTICE to the whole field
of pickup and attraction, because you have
to understand how to create ANY emotion
that is required at the moment, from the
emotion of calm, to the emotion of security,
to humor, etc.

But the point is, many times, in real life,
you can't go directly into PLEASURE,
you have to set up the situation so that
she is RECEPTIVE to that in the first
place.

But once you are there, DEFINITELY,
the key is to UNLEASH her emotions
of pleasure.

At that point, it's definitely about
WARMING UP TO THE PLEASURE
ZONE.

The pleasure zone means LOTS of things,
including AVOIDING all boring
topics, all gross and repulsive topics, etc.

And it also means you must ENGAGE
her in FUN communication, and then
from there bridge to MORE SEXUAL
stuff, but you have to keep the sexual
stuff playful and not too intense in the
beginning as well or you come across
as sexually NEEDY.

Again, this is a newsletter, and in my
materials I go into SUPER HIGH
LEVEL DETAIL on this and
exactly HOW to do this, with
examples as well.

The thing is, what you have to understand
is that women ENJOY pleasure yet at the
same time they can't be EASY.  They
can't be easy or they are allowing psychos
and also uncool guys to come in!

So they will throw you obstacles even though deep
down they WANT to experience more pleasure.

The problem is most guys have such fragile
egos, that the GUY shuts himself down at
the first sign of her supposed "RESISTANCE".

It isn't really a guy's fault since he has been
interpreting everything that women do to him
as being PERSONAL or somehow being an
indication of his own worth or sexual
worth.  

So the first "test" a woman throws at the guy
is enough to OBLITERATE him right there
on the spot.

I'm not talking about physically obliterating
him. I'm not even talking about obliterating
his DESIRE to get her.  I'm talking about
OBLITERATING HIS GREAT STATE
if he was even IN one to begin with,
which is rare for a guy to even be in
the right state to begin with.

It's not about "getting all ALPHA"
on her, and show how "tough" you can be.
That's not tough, that's just REACTING,
that's being CONTROLLED by her.

You can "man up" all you want, but if you
are "manning up" in a way that is not
TOTALLY CONSISTENT WITH A
PLEASURE STATE, you are going
to get NOWHERE with her.  Especially
in a pickup situation, where she has
NO CONNECTION to you.  So what
are you going to do? You are going
to give her a whole "Lesson" on
how to behave with you?  That's
ridiculous as it shows SHE counts,
and more importantly, it changes
the MOOD of the moment to something
NOT fun.      

Don't get me wrong, if a chick does something
that is seriously OUT OF LINE, you don't
sit there ASKING for more, but you don't
let it affect your state.  You don't have
to suddenly become serious, you
can simply OUTWIT her, make her
LAUGH at her own test she threw
at you.

Remember, it's about STATE.
Once she is in a good state, you have
ALREADY achieved the major goal.

Don't change her LOGIC.
Just change her EMOTIONS.
Get her into STATE.

You see, you can't get a woman into
a PLEASURABLE  state if you are in
a really negative state or angry state
or bitter or sad state.

So if a woman throws you some
"resistance" (which of course she
WILL, even and in fact ESPECIALLY
if she likes you but you are a stranger)
your STATE cannot change to anger or
you RUIN her ability to FEEL pleasure
in the moment. 

You can't let your state change
to fear either.  Anger will push
her away out of her desire for
safety.  Your fear will push her
away because it makes you seem
INFERIOR, which is REPULSIVE.

We don't feel attraction to that
which we feel is SUCKING
value, we feel attracted to that
which seems be RADIATING
value, I.E. your GOOD VIBES!!!!

So your AWESOME STATE has
to be IMPENETRABLE.  This
is why the guys who ALREADY
feel great around women, keep
doing even BETTER with women,
because the guys keep getting more
and more PRECISE with what
works, since they have plenty
of interactions to gain useful
feedback on what works and
what doesn't. And since they
are not needy, they aren't afraid
to try and experiment with new
things.

(It's that circular thing in life, which
happens so much, regarding so many
different phenomena in life.  Ever notice
how the people who ADD good emotions
to other people in life are the most
valued people on the planet?  Ever
notice how on the other hand the
TAKERS of this world who ONLY
know how to TAKE, such as lazy
rip-off artists, both emotionally and
physically, are the kind that
NO ONE WANTS around them?

You'd be well advised to learn how
to be an EMOTIONAL GIVER in
general, (without ever taking abuse
of course) and to CUT OFF TIES from
all EMOTIONAL TAKERS.  This
will not only make you better with
women and with everyone, but will
also send a message out to takers
to shape up.)

This is why I was the FIRST guy on
the PLANET to shut down the use
of NEGATIVE strategies to attract
women.  It wasn't just a MORAL
and ETHICAL issue that I believed
in, which I did, but it was also the
fact that the only way the Negative
strategy of "slamming a woman's
self-esteem" could possibly work is
if the guy doing it is experienced enough
and FEELING GOOD enough to do it
in a way where clearly HE is NOT
insecure and he actually is not saying
it out of ANGER or VENOM or
BITTERNESS.  He HIMSELF must
NOT be in a negative state!!!!!!!!!

So in other words, the only thing that
makes the negative strategy work is
the DELIVERY, which is the product
of his state--and in that case, there
was no need for the negative strategy
to begin with!!!! 

The whole theoretical point of the negative
strategy is to show a woman that you are not
some push over needy for approval. 

But ***I*** SAY you don't have to
even WORRY about being considered
a "pushover" if you just get straight to her
FEELING GOOD.

In fact, worrying about not coming across
as a pushover is totally the wrong frame
to be coming from, it is soaking in defensive
thoughts, it will screw up your "chilling-
fun-sexy" vibes.  And that will screw up
HER potential for feeling the pleasurable
state. 

So instead, just go straight for what you DO
want her to feel, rather than focusing on how
to avoid making her feel something negative
about you.

The appropriate vibes must continue
from the first moment all the way to the
bedroom and beyond.

This newsletter, though deep, has actually
just touched on ONE element of approaching
women and attraction. If you want to get
the BIG picture, you really owe it to yourself
to get a hold of my Attraction Mastery Program.
When you hear it, you're going to quickly realize
that this is the MOTHER of all programs for
success with women.

It's at:

The Attraction Mastery Program

Here's an email from another massively satisfied
client who has been putting the Program into ACTION:
(Note: This program is NOW available through
INSTANT download, which means you can use
it even FASTER than if it had to be mailed as CDs!)
    
***LETTER FROM A MAN IN TORONTO***
  
Hello Michael,

Frankly, I don't know where to begin this letter!

I have continued to listen, absorb and breathe the
CDs since I bought them from you. Each time I
listen, I get more and more amazing information
on being the man!

Now hear this:

In the last 2 weeks:

I have met one absolutely gorgeous Woman, who
I am dating. High Class, good manners, etc...and
SHE PICKED ME UP! You got it.
SHE APPROACHED ME!

There are 3 women, ALL attractive and smart,
NOT your average women (Sorry Girls, but you
better be the best to be with this man!) trying to
get with me RIGHT NOW! I am stalling them.....

I will keep them on "hold", as I only want to date
one woman at a time. (You heard it right!)

PLUS: I have two emails from women I met at
******** Mall,  who also rate highly in the
dress well, and looks dept.

I took all the initiatives, and the RISK in each
case....and it paid off in some cases, and in
others it did not, but who cares...there are so
many attractive, beautiful women, it is simple
to move on.

Now, I am going to tell all you guys that read
Michael's newsletters something very simple.

You can read this stuff, listen to the CD's all
you want, till you are blue in the face.....
UNLESS you step out of your comfort zone
and TRY IT,  nothing will change for you.
I mean that. I was like you skeptical, in the
beginning. But I stuck with it, and now can
meet and interact with any GORGEOUS woman,
in any situation. In fact, the plain Janes will stay
away, because they probably think I am out of
THEIR league!!

The kicker: The stuff actually works.

Here is another story for you to learn from
that I would like to share:

My buddy recently dated 3 women off a
popular internet dating site, one of the
largest in Canada, and they advertise like
crazy!

Each time he spent about $50-$100 on
each date (he has a regular job, so that's
fair cash) and guess what? Not one of them
panned out at all! Nope, they did not call
him back, or avoided his calls. I mean,
I hate to be crude, but he did not even get
any action with any of them.

So, he has shelled out close to $300 for
nothing, in my opinion. That is about the
price of Michael's course, which in my
opinion is actually worth $2000 easily.
That would at least have been a better
investment.

With what I now know,  I can go out ANY
day of the week, pick up a hottie, and bed
her if that is what I chose to do..
That is not my style, so I won't. I know how
to do it if I want. I have already had several
offers.

Thank you Michael, you truly are a maverick
in your industry, and keep those newsletters
coming!

Yours Truly

Ted P.
Toronto

***MY COMMENTS***

Awesome stuff.  I love it.  Especially
when guys write in from Toronto, which
supposedly according to some folks is the
COLDEST city in the world regarding women. 
Yeah, supposedly the chicks here are all
"brrrr".  The reality is that I used to
think the SAME thing, I was TOTALLY
convinced that women here were "brrrr".

I played the ridiculous game of trying to
out-do other guys on things that were
really not the MAIN issue of attraction.

Attraction is about PLEASURE.

Think about it, where do single women
love to go when they have FREE time?
When the weekend hits?

They like to dress up in FUN clothes.
They like to go to places where upbeat
MUSIC is playing. 
They like to smell GOOD, and go to
places where everyone smells GOOD.
The lights are flashing in colorful
displays. People are laughing and
joking around, some are getting
intimate, etc, Friends meet. 

All this should be giving you a CLUE
to what MATTERS.

It's not about giving women INSULTS!!!
And it's certainly not about FOCUSING on
that stuff.

It's about creating PLEASURE.
And creating GOOD times.

And it doesn't matter if you meet women
online, you STILL have to understand
how this works.  When you understand
this, you can make ANY medium work
for you, even if you are meeting women
through using MORSE CODE. If you
DON'T understand this, then NO
medium of communication will work.
Not even having women RAIN down
from the sky will be good enough,
because once they rain down, they
will still need to feel the pleasure,
or it's all one big waste of a cool
rain.

So, if you want to learn the TRUTH, and
you want to learn the DETAILS on how to
give women the most AWESOME emotions,
then you owe it to yourself to get this
incredible program NOW at:

The Attraction Mastery Program

And if you haven't yet downloaded my program
called 'Obliterating Approach Anxiety' then
definitely do that as well.  Because even
if you know everything about attraction,
it's crucial that you actually take ACTION
as well, rather than get overwhelmed in
the moment of opportunity.   

It's at:

How To Obliterate Approach Anxiety With Women

Till next time,

Michael Marks