How To Attract Women And Have Infinite Choice

It's been a while since I've hit the email bag,

so here we go:

***EMAIL***

Thank you very much for the super Labor Day
weekend Bootcamp.  I knew I would reach a
higher level, I just did not know how it would
happen.  Now, I am even more aware of what is
happening when I interact with women. 

I seem to have a stronger vibe.  I #closed
this 18 year old the other day with almost
no effort (after having her give me a free
coffee drink one day and a free cookie
the next - she works at a coffee shop
nearby).

Any tips on how to "date" an 18 year old?

If you ever need anything let me know. 
I would be happy to tell prospective clients
about the awesome benefits that will be
gained from spending a weekend with
you on Bootcamp.  And if you are ever
in the USA near Pittsburgh and need
anything, let me know.

Thanks for a very positive reframe. 
Thanks for the Attraction Mastery Program also.
Now I really do not need anything else.  Thanks for
clearing up some confusion I had.

And there is nothing better than in-field
experience! I wish I had not wasted so
much money on other programs over
the past 3 years.

Thanks again,

Paul B.

MY REPLY:

Hey man,

Great reading that email from you, and hearing
about your continued success including the latest
with the 18 year old.  I love it!

Regarding dating an 18 year old, the most important

thing is not to TRY to be 18, she can already GET

that from all the other 18 year old guys out there

with no experience, who tend to be needy and dorky. 

Instead of being someone else, bring her
into your reality and your cool world.

Once in a while, take her out to the

cool places, activities and events,

and hot spots in the city that she

wouldn't even know EXIST from her

own crowd.

Most importantly, it's really about
the time she spends with you because
of who you are and how you behave:

So keep up exactly what you've been
doing, by being THE MAN and being a
dominant, fun, unique, non-needy,
sexual, interesting guy. 

Let me emphasize the DON'T BE
CONTROLLING OR NEEDY elements.

This is even MORE important for

these chicks, because they already

have the inexperienced 18 year

old guys calling them ten times a

day who get all ANGRY and jealous

when she shows them that she

doesn't love their neediness. 

Keep it fun, and of course when she
is ready for deep rapport, give it to
her full blast, but if you don't want
a serious relationship, then don't go
TOOOOOOOOOOOOO deep into 
rapport and creating a "soul to soul" 
connection or she will be in need of
therapy if you suddenly jump ship, and
the idea is to make women feel good,
not bad.

Thanks for the props on the bootcamp
and on the Attraction Mastery Program,
which guys can find out about at: 

Attraction Mastery Program By Michael Marks

And you're right, nothing is better than in-field
experience.  That's why I do the 'Real World
Bootcamps', and also why my home-study programs
were not made until well AFTER I had put in
YEARS of in-field experience, including years
of bootcamps training everyone from total
beginners to very advanced guys.

Great to hear from you again.

Which reminds me, if you are reading this
now and would like to have quality "problems"
like dating 18 year olds who buy you coffee
and cookies, go here:

"PUA" Bootcamp For Approaching Women

You'll get those kinds of 'problems' FAST. 

You'll learn personally from me, the guy who
first started teaching guys years ago how to
create attraction and rapport without using any
lines or routines, and without oversimplifying
this process into "go up and talk to her". 

You'll learn EXACTLY HOW to approach women so
that you attract them efficiently, and you will learn how 
to create a powerful connection with a woman even
if she is a total stranger.

You will not have to memorize pick up lines or any gimmicks.

Some pretty amazing things happen when YOU
know you have CHOICES with women:

Your confidence increases, your sense of humor is
unleashed, you raise your standards in what type
of women you are willing to date, you become
more challenging in a good way, your body language
improves, your self-esteem rises to the point that you
would never stay in a situation where you are being
abused, and you develop an "aura" that attracts a
woman within SECONDS of meeting her.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg.

The other interesting thing is that when WOMEN

know you have choices, they tend to be MORE

attracted to you even though that might mean

you have more choices with whom to possibly

"cheat".

So it's not only the fact that YOU gain confidence

when YOU know you have choices, but there is 
also the fact that when women KNOW you have 
choices it also makes them more attracted to you.

This was a strange thing I learned years ago
that at the time went against everything that
made sense to me.

Many years ago, I used to basically cut off
contact with other women when I would first
meet a woman that I liked and wanted to have
a relationship with. I would try to show her
through this behavior that I would be faithful,
reliable, and dedicated, etc.

The irony was that this always ended up in

women taking advantage of me and doing

the OPPOSITE to me.

In other words, the women I liked made
sure that I did see that they would have
other guys clamoring for their attention.
(Of course when this happens once you
are THE MAN, it is a sign of a woman
trying to prove to you that she is desirable
and often that she is insecure.) 

The other irony was that the whole reason
I did this in the first place was because I
always heard how women complained of
being hurt emotionally by guys and I had
heard women complaining that men are
cheaters, etc.

I wanted to prove that I was a GOOD guy
because in fact I WAS a good guy.

Unfortunately, most human beings do not
appreciate that which comes too easy.

And for a woman who is half-decently attractive,

they DO get guys too easily.

That's part of the secret that jerks know,

and why jerks are hard to get, although you
don't have to be a jerk do do this right as
I explain in detail in my programs.

Women do NOT easily get guys that know
'the game', but they get other typical guys
who like me in the old days are brainwashed
to believe that there is a terrible inequality
and that women have it terrible and that guys
are evil and all women are pristine saints
who are just looking for a good guy.

The reality is that there IS an inequality, but
it's the OTHER way around!!!!!! It's an
inequality in terms of KNOWLEDGE, in
that good guys have had their minds
WIPED BLANK of how to actually interact
with women in a way that triggers
ATTRACTION instead of creepiness or a
feeling in her that the guy is a dork.

Let me give you an example of the power
of having CHOICES that occurred one
weekend while I was conducting my
intensive One-on-One Bootcamp:

An attractive young woman was waiting for
the train at the subway station and I
mentioned to my client that he might
want to apply what he had been learning
earlier in terms of approaches for this
situation.

He asked for me to demonstrate, so I
approached her using all the detailed
concepts I speak about, but my main point
here is not to focus on me or that but
rather to focus on what happened. She
seemed to be a bit less relaxed, as English
was not her first language, and it can be
a bit intimidating sometimes when two
guys are so close to one woman depending
on the time of day, the amount of other
people there, etc.

Anyway, she was slowly getting more into the
conversation, laughing, but I could tell she

was still a bit uncomfortable, so I made it 

clear that I was not there to take advantage

of the situation that she was by herself and I let
her walk in the train as she was still smiling, and
I did not follow her.

As my client and I got in the train, I sat down
beside this other attractive girl, totally laid
back and began a conversation with her, again
using all the principles I speak about.

Now this girl was totally relaxed with it, smiling 
and laughing and having a great time.

Well guess what happened next?

Suddenly, from HALFWAY ACROSS THE TRAIN,
the original woman from the subway platform
starts leaning in toward us from her seat
and joins in the conversation, giving her
opinion about something I had been talking
to her about five minutes earlier!

Normally that would have been a dead
conversation by now. But no, there she is,

smiling and speaking loudly as if we had

never stopped chatting, even though the
whole train could probably hear her. And
trust me, she was not some psycho. She
had just gone from being a shy slightly
nervous woman to wanting to GET WITH
THE PROGRAM!

Pretty soon, we had both women in conversation

with us, competing playfully for our attention,

going from complete strangers to discussing
things like who would be the better girl to
marry depending on which girl was a better
cook and had more money or ambition and was
better with kids had the better education
and who was just more fun to hang with. LOL.

ALL BECAUSE SHE SAW THAT WE
WERE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF
HER, THAT WE WERE NOT DESPERATE,
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, THAT
ANOTHER WOMAN THOUGHT WE
WERE COOL AND FUN TO BE WITH.

This is the power that comes from both
YOU knowing that you have choices, and
from WOMEN knowing that you have choices.

In the example above, by seeing another

woman feel comfortable and trusting us and

having a great time, the original woman felt

a SURGE in all those emotions of attraction

and trust.

This is where things sometimes differ between
men and women. Most guys already KNOW
women have choices, so when a woman keeps
on proving to a guy that she has choices, it can
make him feel that she is trying to be a pain in
the ass and cause problems.

On the other hand, most women who are attractive,
they DON'T think most guys have too many choices,
so when she knows that you have choices, it makes
her feel she is with a good catch.

Of course there are exceptions and once you
both know that each other has value, it's time
for both people to chill out a bit if they are
going to have any peace in a possible relationship

By the way, if getting two women who are
total strangers not only to you but to each
other, can all be having a great time with you
within 5 minutes, think about what can be done
in a longer time frame in malls, bookstores,
cafes, and don't even get me started about
the massive ease of what to do in a club!!!!

I remember how in the old days, girls would
try to make me jealous by talking about how
they were going to a club with their girlfriends,
etc, because in those days I avoided clubs and
because I felt they were all sleezy, I was
uncomfortable in that environment and therefore
didn't have the practice to make it work to
my advantage.

These days however, meeting girls at clubs
is like picking up apples off a tree, where
the branch is at perfect easy to reach height.

Although, to be honest, finding a GREAT GIRL
(great both inside and out) at a club is not
very likely, which is why I suggest finding
women elsewhere.

These days, the last thing any girl

meet wants to do is even mention

the word club to me. Instead, they

want to do things like rent movies

or just have fun together away from

"all the crazy people out there".

Life is ironic.

It's great to know that other good guys
out there are applying what they are
learning here and getting awesome
results too, as this email letter that
I received just a couple of days ago
shows: 

Email From A Reader:

I was reading your website last Friday
and thought the info on there was great.
I even tried some of your tips and stuck
to your advice.

I could not believe the feedback I was
getting. I never get numbers and I am
usually in a corner drinking a beer.

But that night I said, forget that and gave
your teasing method a try. Well, I talked
to almost every woman in the damn place
and ended up with some numbers, it was
great.

Thanks for the help.

Roger T.,

California

My Response:

Thanks for the plug! It's great to hear
from guys who are turning things around
from the way it used to be. It's great to
know that instead of going for some jerk
(who they don't even know is a jerk)
those women in the club are now hoping
to hear from that cool fun guy they met
who is NOT a jerk but instead is THE MAN!!!!

By the way, the talking to a bunch of
women is a great idea, too many guys
get too caught up with one woman,
not only at clubs, but anywhere.

Certainly at a club, I think it's a great
idea to talk to a bunch of women and
find out which ones if any seem to have
the qualities that make them worthy of
spending more time. Other women will
also notice that you have choices and this
only makes them trust you MORE and feel
MORE attracted to you.

(This doesn't mean to make out with

girls at the club, though, and if girls

see you making out with several other

girls it will probably only attract

women that are psychos!)

Knowing you have choices also makes you
naturally do the attractive thing in
other situations, such as internet dating.

For example, if a girl online doesn't
respond to you contacting her, (assuming
you did it RIGHT) then you will move on.

This will often make her wonder what the
heck happened and she will contact YOU
because most guys will send her like ten
messages a day telling her how great she is
without even having MET her. This is
ludicrous of course, but many guys do
exactly that just because they think looks
are everything.

It's interesting to me personally that after
learning these skills, a girl's looks become
just ONE factor to me, and not even the MOST
important factor. Don't get me wrong, of course
I am attracted to looks, but if a girl was a
few pounds more or a few pounds less, if she
was taller or shorter I could care less - if
she had all the OTHER attractive characteristics
that I personally value.

The irony HERE is that often very attractive

girls seem to sense this about me and that

only makes them try harder to prove that

they are indeed quality people. Which is

cool by me.

I truly believe that a quality personality
is actually even more rare to find than
quality looks. Also, I have found that
although attractive girls might be a bit
spoiled in terms of ATTENTION, they
are only spoiled in the sense that a
kid might be spoiled from getting the
toys he wants, but is not necessarily
a bad kid.

In fact, sometimes those kids who were
really showered with attention are also
incredibly giving themselves because
they have not been LACKING and
because they are SECURE in their
own worth.

Also, very often the "hotties" really
DO have awesome personalities.
What I'm saying is don't jump to
conclusions just based on looks alone.

When you know you have choices, you
also tend to have the most effective
PERSPECTIVES on any interactions
you have with women and regarding
women in general. Since you believe
in your own worth, you will not take
anything that women do too personally.

Any kind of rude behavior will reflect
more about them than yourself, and also
you will pass any tests that women throw
at you easily, you will laugh at it the
same way a superhero dude like Batman
laughs as he watches a little kid who has
the nerve to try to steal the hubcaps off
the Batmobile!

In other words, you will feel that her
"nerve" is harmless and laughable and in
fact a testament to YOUR worth that she is
even trying to do it in the first place.

YOU are THE MAN, while the kid, or in this
case the woman, has no  power over you
or your worth.

When you KNOW you have choices, you don't
RUSH into a relationship before you KNOW
who you are dealing with, you don't stay
with a girl that shows she can't be trusted
or who breaks principles that you both agreed
on or who tries to beat down your self-esteem,
and you don't go around being bitter or mean.

One thing I want to say here is that I do

NOT believe in using the methods I teach

to create abusive relationships. 

Like anything else, the point is to just show
that you have worth, NOT to show that the
woman you are with does NOT have worth.

You have to be careful in how you use
this stuff, which also means not pursuing
women that have psychological issues or
otherwise are not good matches for you
even though you know very well how to
attract women. It's not an ego trip here, so
learn to hold out for the right women/woman
who are the right match, and you will thus
avoid all the negative drama that comes
with choosing the wrong women.

Often, people that are most psycho or cruel
deep down believe that no one of worth
REALLY likes the REAL them.

And more importantly, they don't like
themselves. They really feel so needy for
approval that they resort to all kinds of
warped games to get LOTS OF SUPERFICIAL
APPROVAL from others.

Stay away from these types even though
you know how to attract women such as
these, because if you are so needy that
you need to get such approval, you are
on the dangerous path to becoming low
self esteem yourself, and pursuing or
interacting with such a woman will
only DAMAGE your self-esteem.

It will actually make you FORGET everything
you learned about how to attract women.

You ARE your environment, so be damn
careful and make it a good one.

That TOO is a CHOICE.

When you know you have CHOICE, you
suddenly SKYROCKET your skills in
attracting women. You don't need to
be MEAN and you don't need to be this
overly "nice guy", you can basically
do whatever you want because guys that
have choices CONVEY that subconsciously
in things like their body language,
voice tonality, to their sense of
timing and intuition with women,
so that they tend to do the attractive
thing NO MATTER WHAT.

So the question becomes how do you

reach that level where you KNOW you

have choice? The answer of course is

KNOWLEDGE plus PRACTICE.

Knowledge is crucial, you have to
understand the realities of women today
and you have to understand the triggers
of attraction, but PRACTICE is ALSO
CRITICAL because practice hones your
social reflexes, it hones your intuition,
it lets you calibrate the woman in front
of you better, for example it lets you
know exactly how much teasing is right
for her, and how much small talk is right,
and lets you determine how relaxed she is
or how nervous she is, when is the right
time to escalate, to bridge to kissing, etc.

And if are reading this now, I suggest you
IMMEDIATELY download my program
on how to approach women and attract
them QUICKLY, before they can leave
your site and before the moment is gone!

This program is called "Attraction Accelerators"
and it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html

The next step is learning directly from me in PERSON:

"PUA" Bootcamp Program For Approaching Women

To check out all my programs on how to attract women,
click this link below:

How To Attract Women

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. To see ALL my programs for skyrocketing your
success with women, go here:

Programs For Attracting Women

These programs are the great EQUALIZER when it
comes to attracting women, no matter how 'hot'
they are. They are the product of YEARS of
real world "FIELD' EXPERIENCE", and the results
that men have been getting from my coaching
has been featured and verified by several
NATIONAL and well-respected newspapers,
including The Toronto Star:

Newspaper Reports On Michael Marks Teaching How To Approach And Attract Women

Finally, I have been teaching men these skills
since long before the book "The Game" came out,
and long before being a 'pick up artist' was
a trend. My style has never relied on gimmicks
or on pick up lines, and this is why my students
have always been light years ahead of the rest
of the crowd. 

So powerful are the results that my students get

with women, that it has changed the way 'pick up'

is understood and taught today. I'm not just the

guy that the STUDENTS come to, I'm the guy that

the 'pick up' INSTRUCTORS learn from as well.

So, to wrap this up, if you want to ensure
you get the best results with women as fast
as possible, I suggest you take advantage
of ALL my programs.

If this is a matter of money, I have good news
for you.  You don't have to START with my
biggest programs.  You can start ANYWHERE,
as I've made sure that each of my programs
stands on its own as well.

In fact, you can start with my "Attraction Accelerators"
program that will have you getting results with
women TODAY, and this fantastic program is
available at a RIDICULOUSLY easy price.

It's at:

How To Attract Women

Have a great weekend and get yourself a great girl...

Michael Marks

How To Build A Connection With A Woman

One of the important things to me is to constantly
be in touch with “the real thing” of going out
to approach and attract women who are total
strangers, so that I am never just speaking from
the comfort of a computer, but from actually
experiencing it in the real world.

Even more importantly, seeing in real life in
my bootcamps how these tips work not just
for me, but for all kinds of men from all
over the world, week after week.

What I want to focus on today is the power of
CONNECTING to a woman.

There are many important areas when it comes
to approaching and attracting women, such as
humor, wit, and style, but CONNECTION is
one of those areas that is CRUCIAL and yet
is most MISUNDERSTOOD.

A lot of men think that developing a connection

with a woman is the same thing as being a “nice

guy”. As if connection is all about trying to

MAKE yourself GET ALONG with a woman,

so that she will feel that you both connect.

But that is NOT what connection is.

In fact, when a typical guy goes up to a woman
and just tries to get her with compliments and
when he tries to do favors for her, he is actually
HARMING the connection.

This is because women can tell RIGHT AWAY
that the guy is not trying to connect, he is just
trying to get into her pants in this indirect way!

So when a guy acts like that, she will just put
UP an invisible barrier to him, because she will
not WANT to connect with him.

In fact, this is even why some guys think that
“jerks” do better with women.

The “jerk” does not try to HIDE the FLIRTATIOUS
nature of his approach to her.

For example, the “jerk” might jokingly tell a woman
to stop staring at him like he is a piece of meat, and
he might jokingly say that he expects to be taken
to dinner and to be respected for his mind and
not just his body.

Now, although that is not a deep connection, as a
FIRST statement, it is not HIDING the flirtatious
GENUINE sexual tone of his interaction, even if
that sexuality is being expressed PLAYFULLY.

So far, the “jerk” hasn’t done anything that is
“jerky” at all.

In fact, because SHE is a woman with a sexual
side to her personality, the fact that he has shown
he is COMFORTABLE with his sexuality, allows
HER to feel comfortable to ALSO get a little flirty
without fear of being labeled as “cheap”.

So, in a way, he HAS connected already to her in
a much more GENUINE and effective way than
the supposedly “nice” guy has!

In fact, now that the “jerk” has clearly made this
interaction a SEXUAL one in it’s tone, he can,
if he is SMART, then continue to BUILD the
connection with her in OTHER ways as well,
including the MENTAL, the EMOTIONAL,
the SPIRITUAL, etc.

I’m going to stop using the word “jerk” here,
since as you can see, none of this so far is
JERKY.

CONNECT THROUGH INTELLIGENT LISTENING

After flirting with her a bit, the key is to REALLY
LISTEN WELL to anything she says to you,
so that you are detecting and LEARNING things
about her personality that can FURTHER help
you CONNECT to her in a genuine way.

Yes, a genuine way.
If you DON’T find anything about her that you
feel you can genuinely connect with, i.e. that you
can genuinely appreciate, respect, or admire, then
why the heck would you want to BE with such
a woman unless you were NEEDY?

And if you are feeling needy, you need to slap
yourself silly to snap out of that!

The art and skill of connecting to a woman is
something that will help you not only attract
a woman in the first place, but also as you
build deeper and deeper connections, it will
KEEP her attracted to you long term and
it will INCREASE the intimacy between
you and any woman.

Never underestimate the power of LISTENING.
Even if she says something as simple to you
like the fact she is cooking CHICKEN for
dinner, can be a great window into a deeper
connection.

For example, you can find out if she enjoys

cooking, and if she does, you can find out if

it is because she is creative, or if it’s because

she is health-conscious, or if it’s just a form

of relaxation for her because it is one of the

few things that humans can still do slowly

that resembles our ancient past the way things

were meant to be, instead of ordering it all

instantly via fast food.

Whatever her answer IS, it tells you MORE about
her actual PERSONALITY, and this gives you
more opportunities to discover if there are things
about her that you genuinely CONNECT with.

For example, maybe you've never cooked at all,

but you also have your own hobby that is

all about you escaping from the modern

world of rush and hustle-bustle and allows

you to slow it down and enjoy life in

a more 'present' state of mind instead

of always worrying about the future.

This might lead to a common appreciation for
enjoying the moment and making the most out
of life's little pleasures, and you might
even give her a relaxation exercise right
then and there in the store, perhaps
describing a winding staircase that goes
down, down, down, and you tell her to
visualize the staircase, and how as
she visualizes each descending, winding
layer of stairs, she is getting more
and more relaxed.

Or perhaps have her visualize a candle,
that is slowly burning, and as the wax
slowly melts, so too are her thoughts,
and concerns, just melting away....

By doing this together with her, you
have just BONDED as well, since you
both SHARED an activity together,
PLUS you connected on this shared
VALUE of escape from the mundane
worries or the hustle-bustle of life.

THE ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

One of the great tragedies of our time is that many
men and women have made ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS
between the genders in a way that causes men and
women to see each other as the enemy, or even as
just “too different”.

Yes, men and women are DIFFERENT.

That is part of the whole attraction!

The being different is part of why men and women 

were also meant to be TOGETHER.

The difference is what provides the BALANCE.

So whether it is extreme feminists who go around
trying to make men feel guilty for even LOOKING
or ADMIRING the beauty of a woman, (even though
women look at men as well), or whether it’s some
pick up artists who go around trying to tell men
they must NOT connect their REAL SELVES
to women but rather must use pick up lines
or memorized routines or manipulative tactics,
all this serves to SEPARATE men and women
in a very UNHEALTHY WAY.

It’s enough to make any GOOD man so self-conscious
that when he sees a woman he’d LIKE to approach,
he ends up doing NOTHING, for fear of doing the
WRONG thing.

The extreme feminists make him worry he might
be committing some form of sexual harassment.

The sleazy cheesy pick up artists make a man feel
that he didn’t learn enough “control” tactics to
make sure a woman gives him the desired response.

And all a man wants is to just be a man!
No desire to harass her, no desire to control her
with sleazy tactics, etc.

The GOOD NEWS is that just because millions
of people are ‘brainwashed’ and victims of
‘GROUP THINK’, (which is the effect of being
particularly INFLUENCED by an idea if one
sees that many OTHER people believe) you
don’t have to be a victim of this brainwashing!

If you are reading this right now, then WAKE UP

from the spell!!!!

The TRUTH does not change just because millions

of people subscribe to a LIE.

No matter how many people subscribe to the
extreme feminists OR the sleaze promoted by
some men, the TRUTH is that men and women
were made to be to TOGETHER!!!

So the great news is that a lot of the work has
already been DONE for you by NATURE!

This is why even some of the biggest feminists
of all time ended up getting married to some
of the most traditional and masculine MEN.

And it’s why even the biggest players of all
time like Hugh Hefner have gotten married,
often again and again and again!

Obviously, men and women WERE made to
CONNECT, and not just in superficial one
night stands, but in deeper connections,
mentally, spiritually, physically, and yes
sexually as well, because there are different
levels of sexual intimacy that stem from
different levels of connection.

This is one of the reasons I try to wean guys
OFF of pick-up lines, because I want men
to learn the best ways to connect with women,
and it’s impossible to connect your real self
to her if you are pretending to be someone else
or saying words that are not consistent with
your core personality.

THE DISTORTION OF THE TERM "ALPHA MALE"  

I want to make it clear that all these matters
of CONNECTION don’t make you a “nice
guy” in that “nice guys finish last” sense
or “weak” sense, but rather it makes you
the STRONGEST ‘ALPHA’ THERE IS.

You’ll notice over the years, I have almost
NEVER used the term “Alpha Male”.

It’s because the term has been so MISUNDERSTOOD.

Some people think the man who gets the

woman or his choice of women is the man

who goes around bossing everyone else

around and basically being in charge of

everything.

Well guess what?

This is B.S.!!

The real truth is that in order to GET to be
in such a position of power, one must actually
BE SERVING the rest of the community.

Just being SELFISH doesn’t work long-term,
unless you want to become EXTINCT.

Deer, for example, when they must go for
water, are making a complex set of decisions.
Go to early, or go to fast, and some deer
get left behind or don’t need water yet and
won’t drink much and will then die later
when they DO need water but there is
none around. Go to late, and similar
disasters happen.

And do you want to know who decides
when the herd of deer should go to the
watering area?

It’s NOT the big bad “Alpha Deer”.

Nope.
Rather, it’s a GROUP decision, a
democratic process!

Yup.
Similar democratic GROUP decision making
processes happen among fish and birds.

Even in human society, it’s a known fact that
corporations that focus on making their employees
happy and giving them what they need are the
ones who tend to flourish.

In other words, if you want to SUCCEED, you must CONNECT.

If you want to FAIL and become EXTINCT, then become an Alpha Jackass.

THE FREAKY CONNECTION TO CONNECTION

The importance of CONNECTION goes even FURTHER,
and here’s where it gets a bit FREAKY.

It seems that not only does it “feel good” and SERVE
our own interests when we CONNECT, but even down
to our most SUBATOMIC PARTICLES, science is
showing us that the entire UNIVERSE is connected
in the most POWERFUL and MIND-BOGGLING ways:

Subatomic particles possess a trait called 'spin'. 

When two particles are separated, even by TRILLIONS of kilometers, determining the spin of one SIMULTANEOUSLY and INSTANTLY sets the exact SAME spin of the other! 

This is true, INSTANTLY, even if the distance is way too far for the SPEED OF LIGHT to reach instantly!

And CERTAINLY, men and women were DESIGNED
TO CONNECT, and I don’t just mean physically,
but we ENJOY each other’s company as well.

YOUR BELIEFS ABOUT WOMEN AND ATTRACTION

So the next time you see a woman you want to approach,
don’t think, “She’s DIFFERENT. She lives in ANOTHER
reality. She is so attractive she doesn’t even realize
what it’s like to have challenges.”

The BELIEFS you have will affect the ACTIONS you take.

So it's CRUCIAL that you have the RIGHT beliefs, the RIGHT perspectives about approaching and attracting women.

The truth is that no matter how beautiful she is,
she HAS her own challenges. She still needs
that connection- remember this is NOT THE
SAME THING as compliments, kissing up,
or just ‘getting along’ and agreeing with
everything she says.

In fact, to think that any person has no problems,
is to DEHUMANIZE that person and SEPARATE
that person, and it’s not even TRUE. Every human
being has some challenges, it’s part of BEING
human. New challenges step in with every good
thing in life as well.

Beautiful women sometimes wonder if anyone
really digs the REAL version of themselves,
and beautiful women are BOMBARDED
by the WRONG guys, and beautiful women
often wish they could meet a guy who was
CHALLENGING in all the RIGHT ways
and none of the wrong ones. In other words,
a man who can stimulate her and challenge
her to be her best, a man who also has high
standards and is a challenge himself, a
man who is not needy and yet is a man who
can also be intimate, honest, and open with her.

So the next time you see a woman, see her
as another part of you that you don't know
yet, but that you would like to FIND OUT
about, because you know that there IS a
connection, it's just up to you to find it.


Feel free to use the tips, insights, and examples
in this newsletter for MAKING that connection!

And remember, just because you make that
connection and a woman likes you, doesn't mean
that you have to turn her into your girlfriend.

You might decide that you want a woman with an
even stronger connection to you.     

And if you’re reading this right now, I can
assure you this is just the TIP of the iceberg.

You can MASTER the ENTIRE art and skill
of approaching and attracting women of
particularly high quality inside and out,
by taking my real life BOOTCAMP.

In Bootcamp, you will learn and be coached
one-on-one by me in real time on tons of different
women, for two days of TOTAL IMMERSION.

Ten years of experience has allowed me to
refine this program to give you accelerated
results: In just TWO DAYS, you will have
the skill to successfully approach and attract
women ANYWHERE.

Does this mean you will get EVERY SINGLE
WOMAN????

Only a liar would tell you that.
What it DOES mean, is that with these skills,
you could get up at any time, anywhere, and
get yourself a new girlfriend in ONE DAY.

So let’s just say you completed Bootcamp on Saturday.
That means by Sunday night you could EASILY get
yourself a brand-new fantastic girlfriend by going
out and approaching women for ONE day, and
applying what you learned in Bootcamp.

To a lot of guys who haven’t seen this in real life,
this sounds IMPOSSIBLE.

But I can tell you, and SHOW you, that it’s absolutely
REAL and happens ALL THE TIME to guys who take my Bootcamps.

To find out more, go here:

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Most men will NEVER learn these skills.
They will spend their ENTIRE LIFE just HOPING
to somehow MAGICALLY meet the right woman.

And I can tell you, life doesn't work that way
for the vast majority of men.

Stop waiting for MAGIC and instead learn the SKILL
from someone who's devoted ten YEARS to teaching it.

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Every single one of my programs is UNIQUE and
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results in attracting the women of your choice, and
every single program features tons of crucial content
that you won’t find in any of my OTHER programs.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Create A Connection With A Woman

Creating a connection with a woman is
the secret to attracting her, because the
emotional impact of this is MASSIVE,
and when emotions are burning strong,
OTHER EMOTIONS LIKE ATTRACTION
COME FLOODING IN LIKE AN OCEAN.

Emotions work in tandem with other emotions,
that's why a great movie gets you feeling
MANY things, not just action but also
drama, romance, mystery, suspense,
and several other compelling emotions.

Also, ever notice how stores play music?

They do this because it works, it gets
people EMOTIONAL even if they
aren't thinking about it.

So let's get to the power of CONNECTING
to a woman, which is the greatest emotional
impact you can create.

Have you ever realized something
after YEARS of not actually
UNDERSTANDING that thing?

It might have been something MAJOR,
like realizing that actually someone
had done something MASSIVELY good for you
but that you never realized HOW massive
until a certain moment years later?

Or even something SMALL like realizing
a certain line of a song you really liked
that you had the words wrong initially.

There's a feeling of OH MAN, THAT WAS IT!
NOWWWWWWWWWWW I GET IT!!!!

Now, when it comes to human relationships,
and explaining something that goes against
another person's viewpoints, guess what?

MOST PEOPLE ARE TOTALLY DISTORTING
WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING
OR EXPLAINING.

I'm talking about when it comes to
explaning something the other
person doesn't agree with- studies show
that communication is just plain
terrible, even when people are
trying to understand each other!

And this is because people don't
see how their own biases are
BLOCKING their own understanding
and actually preventing them from
actually allowing the other person's
words to truly enter their own
CONSCIOUS mind!

That's right- people will instinctively
actually BLOCK OUT what they disagree
with and often even NOT REMEMBER
the parts of what the other person SAID
if they disagreed with it!

They will actually reinterpret what was
originally said by the other, and they will
do this reinterpretation in a way that
only fits THEIR OWN BIAS, to the
point that the distortion could be 100%
the OPPOSITE of what the original
message was.

And yet, if they really DID take the
effort to understand each other, they
almost ALWAYS end up finding out
that they actually AGREE on about
99% of what they thought they were
totally at ODDS about!!!

You might already be way ahead of me
and be seeing the next point:

Imagine how much WORSE this problem
becomes when it comes to men and women
who are total STRANGERS interacting with
each other!!! 

And yet, the feeling of being understood
by someone, and of them understanding you,
is MASSIVELY REWARDING, it's really the
key to a quality of life- the quality of
your life is the quality of your relationships.

I'm not talking about understanding the
trivial things, but understanding the
BURNING THOUGHTS that are in her mind.

And I promise you, she HAS them, every
human has SOMETHING or even A FEW
MAJOR THINGS that are DRIVING
their emotions and thoughts, and
it also drives us NUTS that
no one REALLY understands what
we're experiencing or thinking
or feeling.

Well, imagine if YOU could show a woman
that YOU understood HER, completely.

You would be standing out from EVERY GUY
SHE HAS EVER KNOWN, on a very powerful
level that connects to the core of her EMOTIONS.

This has nothing to do with PRETENDING
to understand her, it's with actually
UNDERSTANDING for real.

If you see a woman somewhere who you
think is "just too beautiful" for you
to approach, I want you to consider
the following FACT:

Most people fail to truly CONNECT
to other people, and I'm not even
talking about with strangers!

Most people fail to even truly connect
with a lot of the people they already
KNOW!

And what I mean by 'connect' is simply
the ability to truly make another person
feel you understand them, and also to
allow them to understand you.

However, it's even more important in your
initial conversation with a woman to make
HER feel that YOU understand HER.

Now, you might think that it's impossible
to get this level of understanding in a
casual chat, but the reality is that it's
not so much a matter of you having to
"go deep and profound and serious" as it
is a matter of learning to remove your
own BIAS.

As humans, we naturally form biases and
perceptions of things that come from our
OWN perspective but are not neccessarily
the only way of looking at things or
even true sometimes at all!

So let's say for example that a woman
you're chatting to tells you something
about her hobbies, or a trip she went
on, or an experience she had- if it's
something that you would NOT NORMALLY
BE INTERESTED IN, or something that
you don't enjoy, or even something
that you don't agree with, don't
pretend that you DO like it or that
you DO understand it, but GENUINELY
ASK HER ABOUT IT so that you CAN
understand it.

And here's what is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT:

Make sure your question in ITSELF
doesn't show massive bias- so for
example lets say she plays an instrument
that you've never heard of, and she
has been playing it for sixteen years,
and it's not something that is particularly
TRENDY like playing the guitar, the
piano, or anything like that.

You might think to yourself "Why would
someone want to devote so many years to
THAT instrument?????"

Now, rather than asking her that question,
you might want to INSTEAD realize that
OBVIOUSLY there is something she CHERISHES
about it, so make sure your vocal TONALITY
CONVEYS THAT YOU UNDERSTAND SHE IS NOT
CRAZY OR WIERD OR SOMEHOW LESS NORMAL.

A lot of guys might think they are
doing a great thing by asking right
away "What made you choose THAT?"

But that kind of question in that
tonality already implies a lack
of understanding.

It's just one example, but it could
be her views on relationships, on
sexuality, on ANYTHING- it could
be her views on what is THE MOST
EXCITING THING IN LIFE or the
WORST thing in life-watch your
own internal bias and notice how
your emotions might be affecting
your own responses.

The reality is that when most guys
try chatting up a woman who is a complete
stranger they end up creating the feeling
in her mind that this guy doesn't "get"
her, and yet he COULD have if he had
learned the art of effective conversation.

It's tough enough to even communicate
properly with another DUDE, never
mind to do it properly with a woman
who will not only have her own individual
perspectives that are different from
anyone elses, but also different from
a man's based on her female experience.

In my book, Get A Great Girl, I go into
full detail on how to SKYROCKET your
communication with a woman so that
you achieve a real connection.

And what's really an EYE OPENER is that
the reason most women put guys into the
"friend" zone is because she fails to
really CONNECT to the guy. Guys who
get put into the "friend" zone sometimes
think this is because she feels something
for him but not enough ATTRACTION.

Well, when it comes to women,
attraction is far more complex
than with men, and CONNECTION
is the missing link that takes
guys from the friendship zone
to the INTIMATE zone.

Think about it- a lot of unlikely
couples on the surface actually
made a lot of SENSE when you
get down to it:

Remember when Angelina Jolie was
with Billy Bob Thornton?

They may have seemed like an unlikely
couple on the surface, but in reality
they were connected on MANY levels
including their eccentric and
almost gothic ways.

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher?

Seems unlikely on the surface,
but in reality Ashton was
BOMBARDED for years by immature
teenage girls from his fandom from
"That 70's Show" so the last thing
he needed was an immature girl-
so he is attracted to Demi Moore
who probably was a breath of fresh
air with no drama and someone who
also was a bit more an intellectual
challenge, and of course she was
attractive as well.

And for her, she had been with Bruce
Willis and Bruce was going with
younger women, and I'm sure Ashton
validated her sense of self.

Now, what's AMAZING is that if you
can UNDERSTAND and get to the CORE
of what's going on with a woman
internally, you then know WHAT
EXACTLY TO DO TO GET HER TO
RESPOND MASSIVELY TO YOU.

And she will LOVE you for this, like
a woman on a MISSION, and of course
she too will be fueled to understand
YOU and give you what you want,
- and yet all you have to learn to do this
is the skill and art of effective communication
with women.

This will allow you to learn everything
you need to know about her to acheive
understanding and attraction.

So rather than trying to act like
some 'player', you instead
ENCOURAGE HER TO TALK EVEN MORE,
and by also not allowing your own
biases to distort your perceptions
and your communication, you keep
getting closer and closer-
this is the true definition
of 'intimacy' that 99% of
men never understand.

Every bit of convo you have with
her will get you further into her
explaining herself to you, and of
course everyone would rather talk
about themselves than anything else,
so you also come across as NOT arrogant
from all this, and yet she is giving
you the RECIPE for attracting
her the more she talks!

And if you'd like to learn the FULL
picture on attracting a woman of quality,
download my book NOW at:

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I also have a very special interview coming
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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