Relationship RESCUE

I have a secret to tell you. There’s a
reason I started “Get A Great Girl”
besides the fact that I absolutely do
believe that a great woman in your life
makes EVERYTHING in your life better.

When it comes to "Get A Great Girl", for
me, it’s personal. Many years ago, I was
in an absolutely horrible relationship, with
a woman that I actually thought I was lucky
to be with. Yeah, I know, it’s crazy but
there was a time I really didn’t know
ANYTHING that was actually correct
about dating, women, and attraction.

I don’t want to play the victim card here,
so I’m not going to go on in detail about
that whole relationship, suffice to say that
when I found the courage to finally leave
it, even though I thought I might never
find someone better, I was pretty BITTER
about women.

I had grown up to believe that women DEEPLY
wanted just one man who would never take
them for granted, one man who would not
cheat on them, one man who would make
THEM a priority.

But after being an emotional punching bag
for a woman for several years, I finally came
to the conclusion that what I had grown up
to believe wasn’t necessarily true.

What really made it hard to NOT be bitter
was the fact that on the surface, this woman
seemed to be perfect. Didn’t drink, didn’t
smoke, super-studious, super-intelligent,
super-disciplined. Plus, she was on track
to an extremely well-paid profession, but
money was never something I really sought
out in a woman anyway.

So, the way I looked at it, was that if THIS
woman couldn’t behave in a way that showed
kindness, decency, loyalty in spirit and in action,
and appreciation, then NO WOMAN could.

It was wrong thinking, of course, but at the time
that’s what I thought.

So, I DESTROYED the part inside of me that
believed the stuff that I had been taught about
women just wanting one man who would
appreciate them.

It was pretty hard, since I really was passionate
about my ideals, but I figured there was no point
keeping FANTASIES alive that had just put me
into nothing but an infinite void of depression,
anger, and loneliness.

Well, the IRONY was that I felt that no matter
WHICH woman I spoke to, there was really
very little to GAIN OR TO LOSE, and in fact
I really had no interest investing my emotions
again.

Now, I still had that natural DESIRE for women,
I just didn’t feel ROMANTIC about them.

I actually really DID feel that “Han Solo” attitude
toward women, where a woman could be a total
stunning beauty, and she could tell me whatever
she thought was her claim to fame, and internally
I felt like, “Yeah, whatever you say, Princess”
SARCASTICALLY.

So OF COURSE, I was not going to kiss up.
Of COURSE I had zero INTEREST in proving
myself. The thought of “proving myself” repulsed
me, because I was not going to do a song and a dance
to impress any woman for the rest of my life no
matter what.

Well what do you know?
This attitude, which was not fake, was making
women very attracted. Approaching women and
not being interested, and not kissing up,and
showing zero romantic feeling, was resulting
in women, gorgeous women, suddenly not only
agreeing to go out with me, but when I would
want to politely end things because I didn't feel
we were compatible, every single one of these  
women INSISTED that I continue to give them
a chance.

Suddenly, my attitude, which was not “fake”
was resulting in me having to WORK HARD
to CONVINCE women to NOT CALL ME.

I went from being a guy who was trying so
hard to CONVINCE a woman to have a few
MINUTES for me, to suddenly having gorgeous
women trying to convince ME why they were
the right ones for me, and why I should give
them a chance, etc.

I had to WORK HARD to get women to
STOP contacting me.

Well, all this REALLY upset me, because
it REINFORCED what the grouchy old men
at the gym used to tell me and the other dudes
about women, and I ALWAYS figured those
guys were just bitter old men who never had
any luck with any women.

But then, it all seemed TRUE.
It seemed like the old advice of “never treat
them well or they will abuse you” and “if
you want to get respect make sure you show
them you’re not interested” was right on.

So there I was, with lots of women, but not
feeling CLOSE in an emotional sense, with
any of them, since, after all, it seemed to me
that ANY TYPE OF ACTUAL CARING
shown by ME would result in LOSING all
this, although to be honest, I didn’t really
care about it that much anyway since without
really feeling any true emotion besides lust,
there really is nothing special going on.

Well, well, well, then something happened.
I met this woman. And this woman, although
human and not a saint and not perfect, was
REALLY, REALLY, REALLY amazing to me.

But I figured she was being that way BECAUSE
of the fact that I didn’t seem to care too much.

But unlike the other women, she seemed to know
what had happened to me, without me saying a
word. And she would keep asking me to stop
being so damn cold, to actually let her know
that I cared about her.

I figured this was all a test to see if I was strong
or if I was going to melt. It actually got me upset
that she was trying to, from my perspective, turn
me into the kind of guy that women, including
her, DON’T want.

Anyway, to make a long story short, this woman
KEPT on trying to give me a chance, but I figured
that this was ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
a big TEST to see if I was a “cool pick up artist
kind of dude” or if I was a “pathetic regular guy
who experiences romantic feelings for a woman”.

This woman, for the most part, was a GIVER.
She was not STINGY with her emotions.

She was a true "family values" person as well.
She had a career, but it was not like she felt
that life was all about, or only about, being a
"career woman".  In other words, she had
not been brainwashed by all the insanity in
our culture.  She knew there were other
things in life more sacred.

At the time though, I figured this was just
an act.

Ultimately, this woman just felt she was not
getting the emotional stuff she needed and
the whole thing crashed.

I was sure I had done the right thing by not
“giving in”, but as more and more time came
to pass, I realized that this woman was in fact
a DIFFERENT PERSONALITY WITH DIFFERENT
VALUES AND PRIORITIES than the other
woman I had been with.

My lack of knowledge DESTROYED something
that was not only GOOD, but was also a very
FITTING match. However, because of my previous
experiences, it negatively impacted my perception
of her.

Great women, women who are not interested in
your money, who are not afraid to give you
unbridled passion and love, women who are
honest and who make you the ultimate priority,
are RARE.

These kinds of women are making a MASSIVE
emotional investment in a man, so it makes sense
that they want to be CAREFUL about which
kind of man they get to know.

They are NOT looking for a player.
They are not looking for a jaded man or
a boring dweeb, either, but they are
certainly not looking for a player.

Since that day many years ago, I have devoted
my life to helping men get the kind of quality
woman that really makes all the difference.

I saw the difference that it made in my own
life, to be able to see the difference in
types of women, and to be able to also
become more SELF-AWARE as to all the ways
we can subconsciously DISTORT reality and
thus SABOTAGE what could be awesome relationships
with fantastic women.

One of the areas I have poured years of work
into is learning how to know when the problem
is with the WOMAN you’ve met, i.e. she is
abusive, versus when the problem is actually
your own perception of the situation or the
actions you are doing.

This was really hard work, because for me,
it started with being truly objective and being
able to see where my own insecurities were
WARPING things, and being able to see
EXACTLY how they were doing these
distortions, and being able to see the TRUTH
about a woman and about myself.

After spending so many years learning about
relationships and gaining the ability to see
various perspectives, I became REALLY
good at knowing when a woman really WAS an
amazing person, and when a woman really
was a taker, abuser, etc.

These things are not that easy to detect because
abusive people tend to be very good at masking
their abuse and making the abused person feel
like it is his/her fault.

What I want to say here, is that if you are in
a relationship experiencing problems, I may be
able to help you RESCUE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

I will tell you the TRUTH about the situation.
I will let you know if there is something YOU
need to do to change about yourself, or the way
you are doing things, or if this situation really
is all about the woman you are with, and if she
really is someone you should move on from.

I am very, VERY good at detecting the truth
about relationship situations, and it would bring
me massive pleasure to know I have saved a
relationship that truly DESERVED saving.

And if you are in a truly toxic relationship,
where you really need to just get out of there,
will let you know as well.

By the way, having these skills, and the ability
to understand what is really happening in a
relationship, is in ITSELF massively attractive
to a woman, because it will allow you to be
able to CONNECT with her VERY FAST.

The ability to see things as they really are
in terms of what a woman is saying and meaning
is MASSIVELY important to a woman. She feels
this means not only will you understand her
now and in the future, but also that you will
not fall prey to insecurities that will make
you distort the reality of any future situation
between you and her.

CONNECTION is one of the most
UNDER-RATED yet SUPER SIGNIFICANT
elements of a successful approach, especially
with a really fantastic quality woman.

If you would like a consultation with me about
ANY dating or relationship issue, contact me
by email with a time you would like to speak.

Time is precious, both yours and mine, and
consultations are charged by the hour.

Till next time,

Michael Marks 
http://www/getagreatgirl.com

Sometimes The Best Costs More

There are a few things that I think you’d
like to know when it comes to getting the
best knowledge on self-improvement, on
attracting women, and on getting the kind
of quality woman that would make for
a fantastic girlfriend.

Honesty and integrity are hard things to find.
In fact, when it comes to really important  
things, most people agree that there should
be certain laws, a certain amount of
REGULATION.

So, for example, doctors are not allowed to
turn their practices into typical businesses
with things like “SALE WEEK, ALL
SERVICES 20% OFF!” or anything like
that.

The reason is because we want to prevent
a deterioration of services, where everything
becomes about who is the cheapest, or who
is the best at marketing or fooling people, and
it is no longer about who is truly serving
people’s needs the best.

If you remember the movie ROBOCOP,
the POLICE force became a business,
it was privatized into a corporate entity,
and we can see how dangerous that would
be as well.

CORRUPTION sets into any human endeavor
whenever it CAN.

There needs to be RULES in order to
keep corruption in check.

Everything in life has RULES.
Without it, there is total chaos
and corruption.

When it comes to the FINANCIAL
SYSTEM, we can now see how horrifying
of a mistake it was to allow so many of the
various players in that system to be
SELF-REGULATED, as it is kind of like
allowing DRACULA to be the one to
regulate the RED CROSS.

There was no REAL regulating power to
keep corruption in check.

The bottom line is, BUSINESS is not always
the same as HELPING PEOPLE.

Have you noticed that things don't tend to
LAST AS LONG as they used to, when it comes
to many, many things you purchase?

This is because companies figured out that
CHEAP is the way to go, since most people
won't KNOW how poor the quality is till
it's too late after they bought whatever
it is they bought.

A long time ago, things were made of the
highest quality, ironically, because there
was LESS competition so a GOOD company didn't
have to worry about a competitor creating a
CHEAPER but INFERIOR version, which ends
up creating a RACE TO THE BOTTOM to see
who can create the crappier product for
CHEAPER in order to win the customer
who was ignorant to how inferior it was.  

BUSINESS is about MAKING MONEY.

HELPING PEOPLE is about HELPING PEOPLE,
but being paid FAIRLY for it so that the person
providing the help is still motivated to help rather
than go starving because he or she is helping
people.

Okay, so when it comes to the DATING ADVICE
field, there is basically ZERO REGULATION.

So, all the most shady business practices that can apply
to any other business most definitely apply to the
dating advice field as well.  Strategies like half-truths,
misleading video footage, misleading articles,
manipulative tactics, and preying on those who are
IGNORANT runs rampant.

Trust me, if I cared only about making money I
would be engaging in all the same tactics that
you see out there, from misleading video footage
of pick-ups, to half-truths mixed with lots of
lies, to endless talk about how every day is
somehow the “last day” to get some product of
mine at some “low” price.

I don’t engage in that manipulative b.s.
My programs have pretty much stayed at the same
prices since day one. 

My personal coaching programs stayed at the same
price for a long time, but because my time is extremely
valuable and because of supply and demand, I have
had no choice but to raise the cost of my one-on-one
personal consultations or I would be doing nothing
but consultations, and I actually have other commitments
that I need to give my time toward as well. 

And I gave a long advance notice of this, possibly
a year or two ago, that my live programs would go up,
but that this was not some “sales” tactic or “scare” tactic.  
It was a genuine advance warning for anyone who wanted
To get the benefit of those services while they were still
at the same price.

It is important to also realize that I started helping men
in this field long before it became trendy.  My first book
came out in 2003, and I was being covered in the news
and media long before the vast, vast, vaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaast
majority of any dating coaches out there.  It was
also long before the book “The Game” was ever
even published.
 
What this should signify to you is that this field
is something that  I naturally gravitated toward
because it was my passion, it was not something
that I saw everyone else doing, and it was not that
I thought it would be some type of thing to mimic
for sh*ts and giggles.

The bottom line is this: I don’t engage in the
manipulative b.s.  because I don’t care for it,
I would rather focus on being the BEST.

But not everyone out there can appreciate the
difference between the best and the mediocre.   
It takes some KNOWLEDGE in the first place
to even be able to TELL.  

To a starving person, a Mickey Dee’s CHEESEBURGER
is just as good as a STEAK.

And I understand that most guys are so starving
when it comes to how to be successful with women,
they go for the CHEESEBURGER advice thinking
it is the greatest thing on earth.

So rather than selling a BILLION cheeseburgers,
I instead sell GRADE A STEAKS.

I don’t sell a billion cheeseburgers.
I don’t have 'over one billion served'.
I only sell the best, to people who can TELL
the difference.

And that’s just a small group of people, to be honest.
And for that reason, I need to charge more, because
I am only dealing with the BEST.

I don't sell a TON.
I sell the BEST quality.

A Rolls Royce will cost more than your average car,
but if you can afford it, you will see it is better.

My time is valuable, and there is nobody out there
offering the same quality of my live coaching
programs, including my personal consultations.

Many years of my life went into mastering this
knowledge, and getting the personal private
coaching from me indeed will cost you more
than getting the coaching from some guy
who is trying to imitate me.

If you can’t buy my live coaching programs right
now, you can always get my home study programs,
and if that is also beyond your reach at the moment,
you can always keep on reading my free newsletters,
which tend to contain more golden advice than all
the programs of all my competitors combined.

If you are ready for PERSONAL LIVE COACHING
directly from me to help you with whatever
challenge you are facing when it comes to
dating and relationships, go HERE:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

And if you are ready to get the best home-study programs
on the PLANET for attracting the best WOMEN on the
planet, go HERE immediately:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/

Till next time,

Michael Marks

3 Key Strategies You Must Pursue To Attract Women

Do you care about TRUTH when it comes
to dating advice on how to attract women? 

Great, because that’s what you’re about to get.

ONE: PICK-UPS THAT ARE NOT PICK-UPS

There are plenty of times when a guy gets a
phone number from a woman he approached
but it means nothing, and there are plenty of
times a guy doesn’t get a phone number but
she was attracted.

So, for example, if a woman is drunk, desperate,
confused, unfamiliar with local customs, or just
plain promiscuous, she may very well give a guy
her phone number, but this could hardly be called
the product of a special “skill-set” of a man.  

The internet is FULL of these kinds of “video-recorded”
situations that are supposed to be “proof” of attraction.

On the other hand, a woman might genuinely feel
attraction for a man based on his perfect approach,
his perfect conversation,  his perfect ability to connect
with her, even the way he looks, etc., but she may be
an extra-cautious woman when it comes to giving out
her number, and she may need more time to feel comfortable,
she may be the kind of woman who is very careful and the
complete opposite of promiscuous.

A video of this, of course, would not be “popular” even
though it would have shown a lot MORE of what to
do RIGHT .

But how would you know if she was attracted, if you
were the guy in the situation?

The fact is, you can’t know for sure. All you can
do is use that experience now, which has POLISHED
your skills even further, on the NEXT woman you
meet, to attract HER.

So, if you want to be good at this skill, you must
be more focused on doing the best job you can every
time, rather than just being obsessed about the
outcome.

TWO: SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE

This means your ability to get along with people,
including of course the WOMAN you just
APPROACHED.

Just to get to the point on this one, some people have 
lots of this naturally, some people have very little.

Unless you are only looking for a one night stand with
a woman who is drunk out of her mind, emotional
intelligence is crucial to develop.

To improve your social intelligence, start focusing
your thoughts on how SHE might be perceiving the
situation of your approach.

Although I do NOT suggest asking her a bunch
of QUESTIONS, (this would come across as
interrogative, boring, or creepy), I DO suggest
making HER the focus of the conversation, but
in a non ass-kissing way.  For example, you
can playfully make a comment about her,
whether it is what she is reading, wearing,
eating, etc.

You can then take what she says back to your
playful comment as the MATERIAL for your
NEXT comment about her.

So if you tell her, for example, that she looks
REALLLY hungry as she’s eating, and then
she tells you that she IS, you can tell her that
you like it when a woman isn’t afraid to eat,
or you can tell her that you love how when
a woman is hungry, all the etiquette rules
go out the window, etc.

The fact is, the conversation is about HER,
rather than yourself, although the very fact
you are being PLAYFUL says TONS about
YOU as well, which is very cool.

You can then slowly lead the conversation
toward a more “meaningful” connection,
because as she talks to you she will reveal
some information that you can compliment
her on and THEN you can ask her a related
question about herself, as long as it’s not TOO
deep yet and not too prying, because at that point
you are already well into a conversation.

So for example, if she tells you she is a huge fan
of the particular food she is eating and that she
first tried it when she was vacationing in a certain
part of the world, you can then ask her what her
favorite place to visit in the world is, and why,
and this would then give you MORE information
about her that would help you learn about her
character and provide more fuel for the conversation.

The key is to find the right BALANCE between
humor, connection, sensitivity, showing your confidence
and masculinity, etc.

Finding the right BALANCE is part of social intelligence.

A big part of social intelligence is EMPATHY.
You are socializing with her, and she is a total stranger. 
So be attentive to her.       
     
You can also improve your social intelligence by
learning how to UNDERSTAND the signals she is
giving you. 

This is essential for creating that awesome situation
where the conversation FLOWS. 

In order to do this, pay attention to her
facial expressions, to the actual vocabulary
and tone she is using, and to any other relevant
factors such as her background, her culture,
even her ethnicity. 

All these things help you UNDERSTAND what
she is really trying to convey to you.

A lot of guys UNINTENTIONALLY end up offending
the women they want to attract, and of course
vice-versa as well, but I am here dealing with
how to attract women.

By learning to pay attention to all the cues,
you will be able to understand women better
and make them much more likely to want to
open up to you and get to know you.

Another thing you can do is learn to be
AWARE of your own conditioning or habits
in terms of how you react to things
women say or do. If you have a habit
of blurting things out that are
inappropriate, then learn to pause
and think first.

THREE: CUT PAST THE RED TAPE

One of my favorite things to do when meeting
a new woman is to actually LIBERATE her from
all the conventional “fake” behavior that
people often engage in when they meet someone
new.

I will often tell a woman something like this:
“Okay, let’s cut past all this stuff.  A lot of times
people are always trying to put their best foot
forward when they meet someone new, which
seems nice, but I would rather they put their
best foot forward ALWAYS, so if this is not the
real you, or the real me, we are wasting our time.

So what are your greatest flaws? I have no problem
talking about mine, I’m an open book.”

MANY times, women are so RELIEVED and
happy to hear this from me.  It allows them to
TOTALLY relax and actually open up and I
have no problem doing the same.

Within moments, we go from being strangers to
truly communicating on an intimate level, and
once things are on this level, it is VERY easy
to escalate to physical intimacy if you WANT to,
if you have still been “manly” since the beginning
by initiating the meeting/approach, leading the way,
etc.

It makes total sense because it is so unusual for
a woman to experience that level of sexuality,
trust, and intimacy so FAST.

So while other guys are trying to impress her
with all sorts of superficial stuff, you are actually
getting to the CORE of what gets her going on
the deepest level. 

And if you appreciate the truth of what you have
been reading, I promise you this is just the tip of
the iceberg of what you will find in my programs. 

I have been dedicated to truth in this field since
I started, which was over 12 YEARS ago. Every week 
I receive heartfelt and thankful emails, and they come from
all types of guys in all types of situations. 

They range from guys who are just getting into dating
and who have used my programs to learn how to approach
women who are total strangers and who have used my materials
to get their first girlfriends, to guys who have been using
my materials for years and who have met amazing  women, and
who have even gotten married to fantastic women and have
started families, which is inspiring for me to read as well. 

I don’t like to be arrogant, and I’m not. 
It is a simple fact, however, that my programs
and services are the best on this Earth, period.
They’ve stood the test of time. 

My programs cost more, and they are worth it.
  
If you’d like to learn about my home study programs,
go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Some of you would like private one-on-one coaching.
Please understand that I am extremely busy with coaching,
as I currently am providing coaching services for three
corporations, which means that there will likely be
a small waiting period for any private consultation
request.

For private coaching, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you again soon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks