Relationship RESCUE

I have a secret to tell you. There’s a
reason I started “Get A Great Girl”
besides the fact that I absolutely do
believe that a great woman in your life
makes EVERYTHING in your life better.

When it comes to "Get A Great Girl", for
me, it’s personal. Many years ago, I was
in an absolutely horrible relationship, with
a woman that I actually thought I was lucky
to be with. Yeah, I know, it’s crazy but
there was a time I really didn’t know
ANYTHING that was actually correct
about dating, women, and attraction.

I don’t want to play the victim card here,
so I’m not going to go on in detail about
that whole relationship, suffice to say that
when I found the courage to finally leave
it, even though I thought I might never
find someone better, I was pretty BITTER
about women.

I had grown up to believe that women DEEPLY
wanted just one man who would never take
them for granted, one man who would not
cheat on them, one man who would make
THEM a priority.

But after being an emotional punching bag
for a woman for several years, I finally came
to the conclusion that what I had grown up
to believe wasn’t necessarily true.

What really made it hard to NOT be bitter
was the fact that on the surface, this woman
seemed to be perfect. Didn’t drink, didn’t
smoke, super-studious, super-intelligent,
super-disciplined. Plus, she was on track
to an extremely well-paid profession, but
money was never something I really sought
out in a woman anyway.

So, the way I looked at it, was that if THIS
woman couldn’t behave in a way that showed
kindness, decency, loyalty in spirit and in action,
and appreciation, then NO WOMAN could.

It was wrong thinking, of course, but at the time
that’s what I thought.

So, I DESTROYED the part inside of me that
believed the stuff that I had been taught about
women just wanting one man who would
appreciate them.

It was pretty hard, since I really was passionate
about my ideals, but I figured there was no point
keeping FANTASIES alive that had just put me
into nothing but an infinite void of depression,
anger, and loneliness.

Well, the IRONY was that I felt that no matter
WHICH woman I spoke to, there was really
very little to GAIN OR TO LOSE, and in fact
I really had no interest investing my emotions
again.

Now, I still had that natural DESIRE for women,
I just didn’t feel ROMANTIC about them.

I actually really DID feel that “Han Solo” attitude
toward women, where a woman could be a total
stunning beauty, and she could tell me whatever
she thought was her claim to fame, and internally
I felt like, “Yeah, whatever you say, Princess”
SARCASTICALLY.

So OF COURSE, I was not going to kiss up.
Of COURSE I had zero INTEREST in proving
myself. The thought of “proving myself” repulsed
me, because I was not going to do a song and a dance
to impress any woman for the rest of my life no
matter what.

Well what do you know?
This attitude, which was not fake, was making
women very attracted. Approaching women and
not being interested, and not kissing up,and
showing zero romantic feeling, was resulting
in women, gorgeous women, suddenly not only
agreeing to go out with me, but when I would
want to politely end things because I didn't feel
we were compatible, every single one of these  
women INSISTED that I continue to give them
a chance.

Suddenly, my attitude, which was not “fake”
was resulting in me having to WORK HARD
to CONVINCE women to NOT CALL ME.

I went from being a guy who was trying so
hard to CONVINCE a woman to have a few
MINUTES for me, to suddenly having gorgeous
women trying to convince ME why they were
the right ones for me, and why I should give
them a chance, etc.

I had to WORK HARD to get women to
STOP contacting me.

Well, all this REALLY upset me, because
it REINFORCED what the grouchy old men
at the gym used to tell me and the other dudes
about women, and I ALWAYS figured those
guys were just bitter old men who never had
any luck with any women.

But then, it all seemed TRUE.
It seemed like the old advice of “never treat
them well or they will abuse you” and “if
you want to get respect make sure you show
them you’re not interested” was right on.

So there I was, with lots of women, but not
feeling CLOSE in an emotional sense, with
any of them, since, after all, it seemed to me
that ANY TYPE OF ACTUAL CARING
shown by ME would result in LOSING all
this, although to be honest, I didn’t really
care about it that much anyway since without
really feeling any true emotion besides lust,
there really is nothing special going on.

Well, well, well, then something happened.
I met this woman. And this woman, although
human and not a saint and not perfect, was
REALLY, REALLY, REALLY amazing to me.

But I figured she was being that way BECAUSE
of the fact that I didn’t seem to care too much.

But unlike the other women, she seemed to know
what had happened to me, without me saying a
word. And she would keep asking me to stop
being so damn cold, to actually let her know
that I cared about her.

I figured this was all a test to see if I was strong
or if I was going to melt. It actually got me upset
that she was trying to, from my perspective, turn
me into the kind of guy that women, including
her, DON’T want.

Anyway, to make a long story short, this woman
KEPT on trying to give me a chance, but I figured
that this was ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
a big TEST to see if I was a “cool pick up artist
kind of dude” or if I was a “pathetic regular guy
who experiences romantic feelings for a woman”.

This woman, for the most part, was a GIVER.
She was not STINGY with her emotions.

She was a true "family values" person as well.
She had a career, but it was not like she felt
that life was all about, or only about, being a
"career woman".  In other words, she had
not been brainwashed by all the insanity in
our culture.  She knew there were other
things in life more sacred.

At the time though, I figured this was just
an act.

Ultimately, this woman just felt she was not
getting the emotional stuff she needed and
the whole thing crashed.

I was sure I had done the right thing by not
“giving in”, but as more and more time came
to pass, I realized that this woman was in fact
a DIFFERENT PERSONALITY WITH DIFFERENT
VALUES AND PRIORITIES than the other
woman I had been with.

My lack of knowledge DESTROYED something
that was not only GOOD, but was also a very
FITTING match. However, because of my previous
experiences, it negatively impacted my perception
of her.

Great women, women who are not interested in
your money, who are not afraid to give you
unbridled passion and love, women who are
honest and who make you the ultimate priority,
are RARE.

These kinds of women are making a MASSIVE
emotional investment in a man, so it makes sense
that they want to be CAREFUL about which
kind of man they get to know.

They are NOT looking for a player.
They are not looking for a jaded man or
a boring dweeb, either, but they are
certainly not looking for a player.

Since that day many years ago, I have devoted
my life to helping men get the kind of quality
woman that really makes all the difference.

I saw the difference that it made in my own
life, to be able to see the difference in
types of women, and to be able to also
become more SELF-AWARE as to all the ways
we can subconsciously DISTORT reality and
thus SABOTAGE what could be awesome relationships
with fantastic women.

One of the areas I have poured years of work
into is learning how to know when the problem
is with the WOMAN you’ve met, i.e. she is
abusive, versus when the problem is actually
your own perception of the situation or the
actions you are doing.

This was really hard work, because for me,
it started with being truly objective and being
able to see where my own insecurities were
WARPING things, and being able to see
EXACTLY how they were doing these
distortions, and being able to see the TRUTH
about a woman and about myself.

After spending so many years learning about
relationships and gaining the ability to see
various perspectives, I became REALLY
good at knowing when a woman really WAS an
amazing person, and when a woman really
was a taker, abuser, etc.

These things are not that easy to detect because
abusive people tend to be very good at masking
their abuse and making the abused person feel
like it is his/her fault.

What I want to say here, is that if you are in
a relationship experiencing problems, I may be
able to help you RESCUE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

I will tell you the TRUTH about the situation.
I will let you know if there is something YOU
need to do to change about yourself, or the way
you are doing things, or if this situation really
is all about the woman you are with, and if she
really is someone you should move on from.

I am very, VERY good at detecting the truth
about relationship situations, and it would bring
me massive pleasure to know I have saved a
relationship that truly DESERVED saving.

And if you are in a truly toxic relationship,
where you really need to just get out of there,
will let you know as well.

By the way, having these skills, and the ability
to understand what is really happening in a
relationship, is in ITSELF massively attractive
to a woman, because it will allow you to be
able to CONNECT with her VERY FAST.

The ability to see things as they really are
in terms of what a woman is saying and meaning
is MASSIVELY important to a woman. She feels
this means not only will you understand her
now and in the future, but also that you will
not fall prey to insecurities that will make
you distort the reality of any future situation
between you and her.

CONNECTION is one of the most
UNDER-RATED yet SUPER SIGNIFICANT
elements of a successful approach, especially
with a really fantastic quality woman.

If you would like a consultation with me about
ANY dating or relationship issue, contact me
by email with a time you would like to speak.

Time is precious, both yours and mine, and
consultations are charged by the hour.

Till next time,

Michael Marks 
http://www/getagreatgirl.com

How To Deal With Abusive Women

In my work over the years, and in my own
experiences with women, I've seen a certain
mistake that happens so often it's almost
as if every guy has to go through this
at least a few times in his life before
he gets the lesson INGRAINED into his soul.

So here's the lesson, and hopefully you
can save yourself years of pain and
learning it all the hard way:

If YOU are doing the right things in general
with women, that is to say that you're not
being a jerk, you're not giving into insecurity,
you're doing your part to keep things exciting,
etc., then unless you have KIDS with a woman,
there is simply NO REASON to stick with her
if she is being ABUSIVE or DISRESPECTFUL
in any way.

(And even if you do have kids with a woman,
it doesn't mean you should stay with an
abusive woman for the rest of your life,
as it's not even good for kids to see
their parents hating each other.)

And yet, most guys (and for women who are
in similar situations with abusive men)
including myself for many years, would NOT
be able to see things for what they were.

So, for example, I would somehow think that
there must be something I could DO to change
a woman, as if there was something that was
my responsibility to make it work, as if
I was being "lazy" if I didn't try one
trillion tactics to try to make it "work"
with a certain woman.

OR, what was even worse, I would start to think
that all women were so crazy, that I was still
kind of "lucky" to even be with a certain woman
who was at least "not as bad" as all the "OTHER"
crazy women out there.

ALL THIS KIND OF THINKING IS WRONG.

It's wrong because first of all, NO WOMAN is
worth taking ABUSE from.

No matter how needy you think or feel you are,
the truth is that you are STRONGER than you
realize, and you CAN be able to survive
WITHOUT some woman, especially one who
is driving you insane.

The FEAR of being alone is so powerful, that
it distorts our thinking, it makes us think
that the WRONG woman is somehow still the
RIGHT woman.

Also, the IDEA of having to find ANOTHER woman
is, if you don't know how easy it is to meet
women, it can seem VERY SCARY and also it can
seem like SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much work to have to
find ANOTHER woman.

So what happens is that so many men, and I used to be one of these men, end up STAYING with the
wrong woman.  If you do this, she will just RIP APART your self-esteem to the point that you really DO think you are lucky to be with her, even if she IS an abusive woman.

Meanwhile, if most men knew how EASY it can be
to meet other women, and also how much STRONGER
most men are inside than they realize, men would
NOT TAKE ONE OUNCE OF CRAP FROM ANY WOMAN.

(And similarly, good women would not take
crap from any abusive man.)

Here's the other thing: If a woman is making your
life miserable, at the very LEAST you should
realize that meeting THOSE kind of women is
no big deal, so why on Earth be so dedicated
to ONE particular woman who is not even
treating you well?

Another important point: Don't even get dramatic
about this whole thing.  I used to be very
dramatic about it, I would go on for hours
and days and weeks thinking about how on
Earth can some women be so downright cruel,
but then I realized there is a simple solution
that works INSTANTLY.

It's called LEAVING the wrong woman and
moving on IMMEDIATELY.

You can decide to make your own life miserable
as I used to do, by getting all dramatic about
things.  OR, you can STOP the negativity from
any abusive woman by just LEAVING and meeting
OTHER women immediately.

And of course, the SOONER you leave the
wrong situation, the SOONER you leave the
wrong woman, the LESS bitter you will be.

So I suggest that you don't spend years or
weeks or months trying to FIGURE OUT how
to "conquer" some abusive woman's mind,
and that you don't try to WIN some kind
of contest with the wrong woman by trying
to make her SEE what a huge mistake she
is making by not treating you right.

Trust me, though, I understand just how much
we as men really WANT to make a woman
REALIZE what a horrifying mistake she
made. 

But the irony is that the BEST way to
really make a woman learn any lesson
is when she sees that you really HAVE
moved on, and that you are NOT even
bitter and that you are NOT wasting
even one BIT of energy on her.

In other words, the quicker you get on with
ENJOYING your life, and with meeting other
women for real and not for the sake of
getting revenge, is ironically the BEST
way to "teach a woman a lesson".

If you want to teach those women a lesson,
then DON'T waste energy on trying to teach
those women a lesson.

I know, it sounds the opposite of what makes
sense, but it is the TRUTH.

Even though there ARE tactics that can have an
impact on making the wrong women behave
BETTER, you will not be changing these women
on their CORE level.

Just because you CAN attract a certain woman
does not mean you SHOULD.  And what I mean
by this, is you should only try to attract women
who also have the right CHARACTER, because
otherwise it's just a matter of time till the
rotten character of an abusive woman rears it's ugly
head again, and you will forever be burdened
with trying to keep her in check with attraction
tactics.

Instead, focus your energies on meeting MORE
women and on learning how to detect the right
women, so that your attraction efforts truly
reach the ZENITH of their purpose, which is
to make an already great woman actually ATTRACTED
to you rather than just being with you for logical
reasons.

In other words, she's already a good girl, or rather
a GREAT girl.  But you don't want her to only be
with you because of that, you want her to be with
you because she is also ATTRACTED like crazy
to you.  THAT'S the whole point of get a great girl,
it's to truly ATTRACT the great girls.  

The only way to WIN against an ABUSIVE woman
is for you to get OVER her, and the only way to do
that is to focus all your energies on YOURSELF and
on finding ANOTHER woman, A GREAT woman, and
NOT on spending even ONE DROP of your energy on
the abusive woman, not even energy on "how to teach
her a lesson".

The very ACT of trying to teach her a lesson
actually tells your OWN MIND that you feel
she is of HIGH VALUE and that she must be
so hot and so desirable. 

And of course, this will just get you even
DEEPER into wanting her even MORE. 

So again, this will just make HER win.

The real way to WIN is to NOT spend
even ONE DROP of energy on teaching
her anything. 

Taking this path, by the way, also
sends the right message to your OWN
mind, which is the message that you
DON'T NEED HER, that you are worth
MORE than her, that you are so
important that it's not worth your
precious TIME to waste any energy
at all of any sort on her.   

Women can always SENSE when they have the
power or when you have the power, and if
a woman is still wasting your time and
energy with your need to prove anything
to her, it shows her and makes her feel
that SHE is super important, otherwise
why on Earth would you feel the need
to prove anything to her?

Also, for your own peace of mind, your own
happiness, and for your own SUCCESS with
a TRILLION OTHER WOMEN who are of HIGHER
QUALITY, taking the path of NOT wasting
your energy on proving anything to the
abusive women is the way to go.

You "prove" your worth by NOT wasting
time on her (the abusive woman), and by
LEAVING her as fast as possible.

One last point:
There are a TRILLION ways to disrespect someone.
It can be through actually physically cheating.
But it can also be through infinite other ways,
and it DOESN'T matter what the specifics are,
if she is not behaving like a decent person
to you, then DON'T WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE
TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHY

Don't try to become her THERAPIST and cure her
of her JERK behavior.
 
SHE IS A FEMALE JERK and it's not your job
to fix her.

Just MOVE ON right away.

Don't LIE to yourself either and tell yourself
that it's important to change her, the only
reason we tell this to ourselves is because
we WANT her to treat us right and we don't
want to go through the WORK of GETTING
A DIFFERENT WOMAN because we think it
either will be too hard or take too long, etc.

So this is where I come in:
I want to GIVE YOU OPTIONS when it comes to women.

I want to show you HOW to fish, rather than just
GIVE you a fish.

I want you to LEARN HOW to meet and attract
TONS of women, and how to DETECT women's
CHARACTERS and VALUES very quickly so you
can spare yourself the agony of being with
the WRONG women and you can enjoy the
pleasure of being with a great woman who
RESPECTS YOU to the ultimate degree.

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You'll be glad you did.

Till next time,

Michael Marks