What SCIENCE Says On Getting The RIGHT Woman Vs. Just Getting The "One Night Stand"

Some SUPER IMPORTANT news for you today
if you care about meeting and attracting
the RIGHT woman for a great relationship.

The first is regarding a message I have
been teaching for many years, which is
now gathering even MORE MASSIVE evidence
for being absolutely true.

In an article by Andrea Bartz, there
is a review of recent research in the
Journal of Social Psychology which examined
how the evolutionary drives of women might
affect how they respond to stereotypical
pick-up artist style approaches.

Here are some of the highlights of this article:

1. Women who were looking for love (or at least
a long-term relationship) favored MEANINGFUL
positive comments, or even something innocuous,
however, pushing the flirty too far conveyed
lower trustworthiness and intelligence.

This falls totally in line with what I have
been saying for years, because a woman who is
interested in something long-term needs to
feel TRUST.

But the reports gets even better:

2. Researchers from the University of Kansas
recently examined who follows pick up artist
methods, and which women actually like it.

Here is more of the report:

"Turns out the offenders are men with a preference
for one-night stands and negative sexist attitudes
towards women. (Lovely.) In response, women
with a preference for no-strings-attached sex who
also have negative attitudes toward other women
tend to respond to dudes' aggressive tendencies.
(Even lovelier.)

So now you know: So-called pick-up
artistry serves an important function. It helps
sexist men and women find each other in
dim and crowded bars."

MY COMMENTS:
As I have been saying for years:
LIKE attracts LIKE.

If you want women who are looking for
one night stands, then do NOT emphasize
the MEANINGFUL, do NOT emphasize the
TRUST, do NOT focus on the deep connection.

Getting too meaningful, too deep, will
SCARE OFF the women who are looking for
one night stands.

On the other hand, if you are looking for
a great GIRLFRIEND, for a true long term
RELATIONSHIP, then you MUST be able to
COMBINE a fun approach without going into
the land of the vulgar, and without getting
too aggressive. 

The REASON for this is SIMPLE:
A woman looking for a genuine, long term,
and thriving great relationship is putting
a LOT on the line:

She is investing her EMOTIONS, her TIME, her ENERGY, her FUTURE.

So she ain't about to RUSH into something just
in order to get the physical gratification
of sex.

So OF COURSE the element known as TRUST
becomes HUUUUUUUUUUGELY important.

And the element known as INTELLIGENCE becomes
VERY important as well.

And I teach the WHOLE thing, the whole big
picture on attraction, which is what you
NEED to know if you want a great girlfriend
for the long term. 

To make a LONG TERM relationship work, you need to have two things in addition to ATTRACTION, you need to have created a strong foundation of mutual TRUST, and you need to have someone who is intelligent.

This is where showing some WIT becomes
very helpful as well.  And you can convey
wit and playfulness together with a
confident sense of humor.

This is also why IN GENERAL night clubs, full
of alcohol and party vibes, are NOT the best
places to meet a great girlfriend, although
it CAN happen, because sometimes a woman
is out at a birthday party at a club, etc.,
and it is not because she is really into
the nightclub lifestyle.

Some, but not all, "pick up artists" like
to pretend that all women are exactly the
same, but the fact is they ARE NOT.

And it is not just about LOCATION in terms
of finding the right woman.  Just because
NIGHTCLUBS usually are not the best place
does not suddenly mean that you are going
to meet your future girlfriend or wife
at a nice grocery store like WHOLE FOODS,
although there is probably a much HIGHER
CHANCE of it happening there.

It is for THESE reasons that I also teach
how to DETECT a woman's character and
her values as well, so that you can
find out quickly what kind of a woman
she is no matter WHERE you meet her.

For one powerful insight into DETECTING
a woman's character, keep THIS in mind:

DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL JUDGED. 
Encourage her to speak her mind.
LET HER REVEAL HERSELF TO YOU. 

Do not make serious opinion statements too fast, or you risk her FEELING that in case her thoughts or values do not match yours, you will judge her negatively.  It is because of this fear that she will then feel the need to HIDE her honest thoughts and feelings.

You don't want that, you want her to SPILL THE BEANS as much as possible about her real self, and the cool thing is that most people love talking about themselves anyway as long as you don't make them feel uncomfortable.

The study also shows that women who DO
only want one night stands are NOT attracted
to personality. They ONLY care about the SEX.

In other words, there really are NO strategies to LEARN when it comes to these types of women who are looking for one night stands, aside from looking your best, being in PARTY MODE, and being persistent.

She's just looking for a little "fun" for the night and she has NO long term thoughts about it at all. She's the female version of a promiscuous guy, that is all there is to it.

And there is nothing wrong with people getting what they want if they are not hurting anyone else, but it is ridiculous to pretend that ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME, as if the women who are drunk every weekend at the club are in the SAME MINDSET as the women looking for a great relationship.  

THIS IS WHY it is so RANDOM, so ARBITRARY when it comes to bars and clubs, and why one woman will ignore a guy and another will think he is great, even if he says NOTHING!

It is because in these environments of clubs and alcohol, there IS no strategy except to be in party mode, aggressive, and persistent by approaching different women, because the women are already liquored up and some of them just need to meet a guy who clearly wants the same thing as badly as they do.

The drunk party girl is not thinking long term, DEDICATION to a guy.

She  is not thinking of the kind of dedication, day-in and day-out, that is required between a man and a woman to make a LIFE for two people, a FUTURE for two people, a FAMILY, etc.

Now, do I think that her article is PERFECT?
No, as I believe that a CERTAIN amount of
dominance IS important and is very attractive
EVEN if you are looking for a great woman
for a long term relationship.

ESPECIALLY in the initial moments when you
are having to approach a woman who is a
TOTAL STRANGER and it is NOT happening in
a place that is particularly socially ENDORSED
for meeting strangers for the purpose of DATING.

In other words, just about EVERY PLACE, whether
it is the bus, the bookstore, the cafe- none of
these places are OFFICIALLY where you are
"supposed" to approach women, but where you
indeed CAN and SHOULD.

I ABSOLUTELY suggest men approach women in these
everyday places, because even the greatest
quality women simply have to get out and about,
they have to go grocery shopping, go to the
post office, take transit, etc. 

So it takes a certain amount of "OOMPH!"
and of DOMINANCE and DRIVE to OVERPOWER
the momentary "strangeness" of it all,
and to come in with an air of AUTHORITY
to OVER-RIDE the initial DOUBTS she may
have about meeting men who are strangers
even though deep down she probably
WISHES she could find the right guy
and it does not matter to her WHERE
that happens. 

And in the name of total honesty, I also
believe that what STARTS out as just
some mild interest in a man from a woman,
even if they just met in a club, can then
be AMPLIFIED, even if a woman is not that
attracted from the start, and even if she
was not thinking long-term from the start.

However, if you are looking for a SERIOUS
girlfriend for a great relationship, you
really want to have EVERYTHING working in
your favor, so you may as well start RIGHT
by having the RIGHT approach and detecting
the right kind of women, and going to the
places that have the higher percentage
chance of meeting the RIGHT woman.

One of the things that I really learned
is to NOT look at things as totally black
or white, so I learned from EVERYTHING
and incorporated it ALL into the most
powerful way of meeting, approaching,
attracting, and keeping a GREAT quality
woman, the kind of woman who is loyal
and would make for a great long term
relationship.

And the fact of the matter is, that if
you want to meet that GREAT woman, the
fact is that if she is a total stranger
somewhere, you do not KNOW her, so you
have to APPROACH her from scratch, without
knowing a thing about her.

At this point, this INITIAL starting
point, you need to SMOOTHLY get past
the potential awkwardness and social
conditioning that she has to AVOID
talking to strangers, even though
deep down she WANTS to find out
about you. 

So this is where it becomes important
to get her mind OFF of the awkwardness,
and instead get her to FEELING GOOD, 
which allows you the opportunity to actually
then convey some personality and for her 
to see that indeed she SHOULD be chatting
with you.

This is where you THEN begin the massive
emphasis on creating a CONNECTION with her,
and on being a genuinely confident man
deep within yourself and not just on the
surface.

Getting the right woman is about REFINING
certain ELEMENTS of pick up artist skills
ALONG with developing a very DIFFERENT set
of skills as well, and I have made it my
mission in life to teach men this COMBINATION
of skills for the purpose of meeting and
keeping the kind of women who are truly
GREAT- who make relationships something
SPECIAL.

And for my most powerful program on how to
get a GREAT girlfriend and how to KEEP her,
go here:

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For my BOOTCAMP program on mastering the skill
of approaching and attracting women who are total strangers,
no matter where you see them, go HERE:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting The Right Woman

Attracting the right woman is about channeling
the power of TRUTH when it comes to values
and morals and relationships.

Today, more than ever, the truth is obscured
in lies and distortions, our culture has become
almost SCARED to give good advice, because
it might offend the "cool" (i.e. IGNORANT)
people.

There's no question that things weren't perfect
in the past, but there's also no question that
what's "cool" today in terms of women has
become a little more warped than ever before.

Can you even IMAGINE a female singer
like this TODAY?



And yet, you also know that there is something
inherently GOOD about this song, this performance,
and I daresay that it has something to do with
morals.  Not only the lyrics, but the whole
PRESENTATION AND STYLE is infused
with humility and not arrogance.

This isn't what you get when you turn on
MTV.

This is the unspoken TRUTH that no one wants
to talk about today.

So I say, YELL IT OUT, proclaim it, as it's
something that actually is DESIRED and
wanted, but no one has the guts to do it
since it's not already a "trend" and most
people want to be followers and not take
any chances.

When chatting up a woman who is a total
stranger, the problem most guys run into
is that they come across as cheesy and
not being authentic. It seems like
"here we go again, guy tries to pick
up woman with his one liner".

There is nothing more powerful than
coming across as being for REAL.

In fact, the strongest impact you
can have is when she feels she is
getting TRUTH and that this truth
is coming from a MAN not from a
boy who is still immature.

As a GOOD GUY, this is something that
is very POWERFUL for you.

The crazy thing though, is that there is so much
falsehood that MASQUERADES as the truth, and so
few good guys are even out there CHALLENGING
the lies, so the jerks win by default.

It's like good guys aren't even showing
up to the event, so the jerks win.

So, for example, the book “The Game”
SEEMED like the truth to millions of men.

It exploits the pain that millions of men
feel from how tough it is to meet and
attract a woman who is a total stranger,
and basically says “See? The reason you
couldn’t get a girl was because you weren’t
using these GAMES!”

And the book also seems to promise such
massive and easy results from using these
games and abusive tactics such as making
a woman feel less confident about herself,
etc.

I don't even blame the author!
I honestly think he is a good guy
who himself got brainwashed!

Even in the book itself, Neil Strauss
mentions at the very end that "relationships
are not a game"- and so if you REALLY
believe that, then you know that starting
a relationship with games, or approaching
a woman with using games, is not a
strong FOUNDATION for starting
a relationship on.

Also, even in the book itself, Neil mentions
how the one woman he actually really wanted
more than all the others, NONE of the games
stuff worked on HER.  And in fact, the games
pushed her away and it was only when he
STOPPED the games with her that he actually
got her.

Somehow, this part of the book seems to
have gotten totally lost on guys, because
99% of the book is all about how the
games WORK on women- it just doesn't
make it clear WHICH type of women
it works on, and how quickly the
connection and spark will be ruined
with a woman because the guy was
using those games.

Now, the truth is, of course, that not all
women are angels, that’s for sure.

The women who are not up to par character
wise, well the best thing is to AVOID
them, not to "game" them.

The problem with "The Game" is that it
makes you think that you weren't being
enough of a jerk, or that you were not
undermining a woman's self-esteem enough,
when in reality the solution is to start
having more conviction in yourself
rather than on trying to lower hers.

Also, of course, the other part of the
solution is to find better women.

If you need to play manipulative
mind-games to get a woman, I assure
you that the whole thing is going to
fall apart very quickly. You probably
already know that if you tried those
tactics.

But this is why I created Get A GREAT Girl,
because it’s not about “getting all the women”
it’s about getting the RIGHT one, and becoming
the best MAN you can be.

And what does TRUTH have to do with
getting the RIGHT woman?

The answer is: EVERYTHING.

Allow me to give an example:
If you see a woman, anywhere, there are about
a million things you could open up the conversation
with, that are all COMPELLING, if you just stick
to what is TRUE and what you CARE about.

For me, for example, I want to know what
a woman's values are like, and how mature
she is emotionally, so I might actually ask her
what she thinks of the fact that men and women
are so often not being honest with each other.

I know it will be a great conversation- where
the things she says will show me a lot about
her character, and where I have a lot of
passionate things to say as well.

Truth to me is always extremely important.

I’ve mentioned before for example, how the
show and movie “Sex and the City” was
supposed to all be about some form of
“empowerment” for women because now
these women sleep around all of New York
City and gab about it to their fellow female
friends.

Now, in fact, none of the women are fulfilled
from this- even on the show- and the writers
had to do this because if they showed these
women actually feeling so great from all this
it would FLY IN THE FACE OF REALITY
of all the women who in reality are NOT
FULFILLED FROM ALL THIS.

So the female audience actually RELATES
to the screwed-upness of the situation of
the characters on the show, and yet the
show never makes the OBVIOUS TRUTH
CLEAR- which is that the solution is for
these women to start focusing on finding
the RIGHT man rather than on emulating
the very worst men that are out there.

Recently, I read a book by Michael Coren,
“As I See It”, where he actually points out
that New York City has one of the highest
percentage of people with genital herpes,
ANYWHERE on the planet.

It’s actually one in four people, and women
are even more likely than men to have it
in New York City.

Why does THIS not get shown on the women
Of SEX AND THE CITY????????????????

Why does THIS not get shown in most movies?

That’s because the truth is something that although
is staring us in the face all the time, is also something
that most people will NOT see.

And yet, when the real truth DOES finally
sink in, you want to kick yourself for not
seeing it so much earlier.

So what I’m saying here is that if you want
to be BETTER than average, if you want
to get a GREAT girl, then you have to
become something that is more than just
the mass-production McDonald’s style
of how to approach women with gimmicks,
lines, routines, and games.

Start tapping into TRUTH, it’s soooooooo
much more powerful because so few people
ever use it and so few people are strong
enough to tap into it.

Most people would rather live in the “Matrix”
and fool themselves, and in fact there is a
whole society that has men and women interacting
in the game mode, and it’s all really pathetic
because the whole thing is doomed to failure
since it’s built on a weak foundation devoid
of love, wisdom, and other great elements
of character.

And I’m not saying that LOOKS aren’t important,
I think it’s VERY important to feel physical
chemistry for the woman you are with, I just
think that it’s not enough and that there needs
to be the big picture built on truth.

By the way, all these things in this column
would actually make for a great conversation
with women because it’s about relationships,
it’s about men and women interacting, it’s
definitely all EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT
content.

Another quick point I want to make here
is that in addition to the CONTENT of
what you are talking about, the other
major thing, maybe in fact even MORE
important, is the combination of emotional
states that make up for one fantastic state
of mind- the combination of feeling upbeat,
sexual, dominant, is so crucial for
effectively conveying who you are
to a woman you just met- she will
feel these emotions pulsing through
you by listening to the intonations of
your TONALITY in your voice.

It’s not whether you have a deep pitch or
high pitch or in between, what is important
are the emotions she DETECTS in your
voice, and she does all this subconsciously-
she is not thinking about it.

Again, being in an UPBEAT state while
also feeling dominant and sexual is very
important. You should NOT feel like
you are going into some kind of military
situation when you are approaching a woman.

Being manly does not mean being brooding
like Batman.

In fact, even if you were to ask BOXERS
you would find out that the boxer who is
HAPPY in general, does much better than
the boxer who is all brooding and such.

In fact, Mike Tyson himself said this,
and by the way, the documentary about
him called “Tyson” is a pretty good film,
because it PROVES so many things-
it shows how working TOGETHER and
having true friends is the way to really
accomplish things, as Tyson was going
down a terrible path in life until he met
this man named Cus D’Amato who
became like a father to him-

It shows how losing his discipline when it
came to many things, but especially when it
came to women, actually was a huge part
of his own downfall – the womanizing
clearly brought him down, and he is the
first to acknowledge this.

Instead of emulating the NEGATIVE aspects
of celebrity behavior, we should learn to
AVOID THOSE THINGS and to see how
those negative things are not a sign of
a successful man, but rather the UNDOING
of a successful man.

It also shows how EMOTIONAL STATE
is often the difference between a champ and the
guy who gets DEFEATED.

All this stuff is the TRUTH, and if you want
the FULL truth on how to get a great woman, I
suggest you get my book at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

This book will show you how to SKYROCKET
your results with the best kind of woman, and it
has nothing to do with pick-up lines or sleazy
tactics.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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