99% of guys think that if they don't look
like male models or if they aren't rich,
then the hottest of women are somehow
"off limits". And I can't BLAME most
guys for thinking this, as I used to
think it myself in the biggest way,
because it SEEMS that why on earth would
such a woman be INTERESTED, right?
But here is SECRET: The emotion of feeling
SEXUAL, and of feeling ATTRACTION is nothing
but an emotional state that is ALWAYS there
in a woman, it's just sometimes sleeping
and it's up to YOU to BRING IT OUT.
You and no guy is ever CREATING
that sexual emotion in her, it's just
that some guys are able to WAKE
IT UP in her and others can't.
In fact, 99 percent of guys CAN'T.
Most guys will NEVER learn how to
do this, because they are focused on
how to memorize ridiculous tactics
that are supposed to get a certain
RESPONSE from a woman.
But, trying to GET something from
a woman will ALWAYS destroy your
charisma, because the very act of
NEEDING TO TAKE is in itself UNCOOL.
And besides, if you feel ROBOTIC doing
something, you will COME across as robotic
and you will lack any ounce of charisma.
By the way, if you look around, you
will notice that most of the men with
the super female hotties seem like
average guys- but the personality that
attracts these women is so much MORE
than average, it's CHARISMATIC.
And that is something that a woman
EXPERIENCES from INTERACTING with
a charismatic man, not from looking
at his picture or from looking at
his wallet.
They key is to get women into an EMOTIONAL STATE that FEELS SO DAMN GOOD that the woman could not give a RAT'S ASS about anything ELSE about the guy.
In order to get women into
an emotional state where logic
gets thrown out the window and
all they want is to be with you
and to get naughty with you,
you have to BECOME A WIZARD
OF ALL THE MOST FANTASTIC
EMOTIONS WITHIN YOURSELF.
This sounds deceptively simple,
but it's not.
Let me tell you a bit of the way
you have to be thinking if you
want to actually get somewhere
with the most incredible of the
female gender:
ONE:
"I LOVE ALL TYPES OF WOMEN SO
MUCH THAT I AM WILLING TO ABANDON
ALL MY FEARS AND INSTEAD EMBRACE
EVERY "SCARY" CHANCE TO INTERACT
WITH THE WOMEN I AM ATTRACTED TO
AND MAKE THEM FEEL AMAZING."
TWO:
"I do this because I love
how sexy and beautiful they
are and it's worth it to me
and I feel zero guilt about
it."
THREE:
"When I interact with women,
I will let my joy of women,
my sexuality as a man, my
vibe, totally come through
and I will not be APOLOGETIC
for it, and I also will not
be so serious as seriousness
comes from FEAR."
FOUR:
"I will behave with the expectation
that a woman loves me."
Notice how these thought patterns have
nothing at all to do with how you are
going to CONTROL a woman, or how
you are going to "TAKE THE POWER"
- all that stuff comes from FEAR, and
fear will rob your most S-E-X-Y emotions
of their intensity.
Notice this has nothing to do with
showing off, it has nothing to do
with "out-alpha-ing" any guy.
It has far more to do with you taking
back the only TRUE power you have-
and that is the power of your OWN
emotions. THIS is the secret to
unleashing the dam to a woman's
INFINITE ATTRACTION TO YOU.
By PROVING that your own emotions
are on super-charge no matter what,
you now are showing her the way to
do the same for herself, and
that simply feels too incredible
for a woman to ignore.
There is so much crap and negativity
in our society, and it brings everyone
down, including the women you think
have it made. They want to feel
amazing just as much as anyone
else, and you are giving them
that gift with this ability.
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Till next time
Michael Marks
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Sunday, July 29, 2012
Friday, March 23, 2012
To Attract A Gorgeous Woman, Be The Man Who Can HANDLE Her Full Power
The reason why most men don't succeed in attracting
the women they want is because they make these
women feel the need to have to RESTRAIN their
sexual power.
All the ass-kissing behavior toward hot women makes
these women feel the need to be "polite" to men,
which ironically is almost the opposite of all that is
SEXUAL.
All that 'nice' style behavior leads to being in the
FRIEND zone, where you get lots of POLITE
behavior from women.
What you WANT is to actually ENCOURAGE women
to let loose ALL THE POWER that women have, and
then SHOW women that not only can you HANDLE it,
but that you are actually living in an even MORE
powerful emotional plane of existence.
This is a plane of existence that WOMEN will have to
fight to keep UP with, which is what these super
hot women have NEVER experienced before.
Allow me to elaborate on this whole dynamic:
"Every battle is won or lost before it is ever fought."
The above is a famous quote Sun Tsu: The Art of War,
and there are definitely parallels to the art of
attracting women.
Now, I don't like to only look at attraction
and pick up as a "battle" because pick up can
actually be a lot of FUN, and ultimately win-win
for both you and the woman, but the fact is, if
the 'pick-up' has a chance of succeeding in the
first place, then it is usually won or lost before
it even begins.
This is because so much must already be
going on internally before you start, whether
you are new and CONSCIOUS of it at first,
or whether you are experienced and it's all
internalized and automatic.
A woman, just like a man, wants the best.
And immediately, when a guy starts
an interaction with a woman, if he is
controlling the frame and maintaining
the frame that he is superior, even if
done playfully, she will very often TRY
to PUT HER FRAME OF REALITY
onto HIM.
For example, she will try to get him to kiss
up, or she will try to show him she is in the
superior position, whether she does
this playfully, explicitly, or even brutally.
Now, let me say, if a woman ever acts in
a way that is TRULY insensitive, then
I would just SKIP her, but it's important
to realize that in a FIRST encounter with
a total stranger, a woman who is really
attractive can simply NOT make it TOO
easy, or she'd have to go out with
EVERY guy on Earth who talks to her!
PLUS, for a super smoking-hot attractive
woman, being a bit CHALLENGING is simply
her mode of FLIRTATION.
Remember, she is living in a reality where her
FRAME of existence, her PERSPECTIVE
on things is DIFFERENT from most people
when it comes to DATING.
She's not trying to be MEAN. She is coming
from a SUPER SECURE perspective, it's like
she is SUPERWOMAN and can KNOCKOUT
any guy by saying the wrong words unless she is
very careful.
Hence, she is often acting POLITE, with the guys
who kiss her ass. Not sexual, and not honest, but
POLITE.
When she meets a man who seems like he CAN
TAKE HER FULL POWER, she can't WAIT
to unleash and be playful and fun and challenging
BACK to him, but MOST MEN, if these men
even HAVE the guts to START being challenging
with her, these same men usually just BUCKLE
in "defeat" when she CONTINUES to be challenging
back, even in playful flirting form!
You see, SHE HERSELF can TAKE THE FLIRTING,
she can TAKE the challenge, she ENJOYS it all,
she is on a SUPERWOMAN level of confidence.
When it comes to her communication with most men,
she has to "PULL her punches".
She is like a RACE-CAR that ENJOYS
super challenging SPEED, and is actually
MORE COMFORTABLE in that reality
of power and speed, and so when you flirt
back with EQUAL power, you are conveying
the message that you are in the SAME reality.
However, since most guys are only
experiencing an emotional perspective
that is more like a GO-KART than a
FERRARI, they can't psychologically
FATHOM how this type of challenging
behavior is actually an attractive
woman's way of FLIRTING.
So most men resort to GO-KART light style
"kiss ass" communication, and then she responds
with POLITE and NON SEXUAL interest,
as she RESTRAINS her full power.
But if you show a lot more POWER, you
then begin to turn her ON, as she ENGAGES
you as an EQUAL and starts to LET LOOSE
her full power.
For example, a woman may tell a guy, in response
to his challenging comment to her, she may say,
"Does this work for you? This jerk act?"
So, the guy who is in GO KART perspective,
he feels intimidated, or hurt, or insecure.
The FERRARI perspective feels,
"IT'S ON!" with her, the FLIRTATION
dance has begun, the first step toward physical
intimacy is the playful vibes that ping-pong
back and forth between her and the man
who 'GETS' this on a deep internal level.
Here's another example:
Let's say you tease her on something about
her playfully. She may say something
back to you that seems to be in her
favor, i.e. if she is younger, she might
say, "Thanks, but I'm busy and you
are much older than me, bye grandpa!".
But REMEMBER, if she REALLY didn't want
to talk to you, she would SHUT DOWN, she
would not say ANYTHING to invite FURTHER
response from you.
Or she may say something like:
"So are these other girls that you know
(if you were at a club and chatting
with a bunch of women rather than
being a "Nice" guy who is sitting and
waiting for HER to finish talking to
HER entourage of guys) around you to
make you seem more impressive? I
think it's just sleazy."
Do you get the picture here? The basic
idea is that when you do the RIGHT
things to attract a woman, she may not
SHOW it with her WORDS, and in fact she
may RESIST what you are doing, and it's
even possible she might NOT LOVE it
at first.
On one hand, she doesn't LIKE it because
it means she is LOSING ground.
She is used to being the superior.
And it feels COMFORTABLE being
the superior.
She feels COMFORTABLE around the
guys who kiss her ass. She LIKES them.
Yet, you have to REALIZE that
LIKING is not the same as
FEELING ATTRACTION.
Not the same thing at ALL.
You don't want a woman liking you.
You want her attracted to you.
Liking is what she feels for her GIRLFRIENDS.
That's not what you want.
You want to IGNITE THE FLAMES OF ATTRACTION.
And she can ONLY feel attraction to a
man she can RESPECT.
And she can't respect the men who just
MELT for her.
Ultimately, from an ATTRACTION standpoint,
she WANTS you to be the man that FLIPS
the script on her normal routine of,
"I'm the hot woman here, I'm the one
who RULES!".
She wants to feel that YOU are the one
with SUPERIOR power, because only THEN
can she go into FULL FERRARI MODE,
and really feel free to FLOOR the accelerator
and challenge her FULL potential.
With all the guys who MELT around her,
she's forcing herself to constantly
have to RESTRAIN her full power,
to almost act like a GO KART with
all the 'nice guys' and be POLITE
with them, since they are GO KARTS.
With the man who understands all this,
and is emotionally feeling and behaving
even MORE POWERFUL THAN HER,
she can finally LET LOOSE and be
the FERRARI that she really IS!
And that includes being that crazy wild
FERRARI in the BEDROOM with you!
I know, I know, it all sounds politically
incorrect. But keep in mind, this does
NOT mean that she wants you to be MEAN
to her, especially AFTER she falls for you.
It does not mean that you can't show
sensitivity to her. In fact, my book
"Get A Great Girl" is CRUCIAL for
understanding exactly HOW all of THAT
fits into the context of pick up,
dating, and relationships.
But as far as SPARKING INITIAL ATTRACTION,
it's about behaving as one with superior value.
So, it's damn crucial that when she
RESISTS your frame of superiority,
you do not BUCKLE under her pressure.
So, for example, when she says,
"Does this work for you?" your
reply MUST be the REPLY of
a guy who KNOWS HE IS SUPERIOR.
So, if you are superior, I ask you
this - would you even TRY to
answer? If you knew you were
MORE desirable than her, would
you feel NERVOUS, would you
feel a need to prove your worth?
So here's an example of a reply that
shows your superiority:
"Wouldn't you like to know?"
You've FLIPPED it around here,
because the FRAME she was trying
to force on the situation was:
"You, mister, are a loser, because
you are just putting on an act and
in fact are not superior at all."
The non spoken verbal from her, is:
"And by the way, I see this act from
a lot of guys, and they are really little
ass-kissers as soon as I give them a
little attention- I OWN them."
So when you say back to her, with
congruency that flows from your
real beliefs, "Wouldn't you like to
know", you are implying that she
would like to know, and the only
reason anyone wants to know
anything is because they CARE.
And you can't CARE unless something
has VALUE. So the implication is that
she WANTS YOU.
And even if she at first DIDN'T, the fact
is, your CONGRUENCY (which means the level
of ONGOING consistency between the messages
of superiority from your words, your beliefs,
your tonality, your sense of humor, and your
actions at even the most microscopic levels
at all times is 100% ) by KEEPING UP THE
FRAME OF YOUR SUPERIORITY even
under her pressure will cause her to SHIFT
her feelings about you VERY QUICKLY.
This is why if you are needy, you can't
make it work, because if you are needy
for approval and affection, you simply
will buckle in one way or another,
even if it's not in your actual words.
For example, if you are needy for approval,
and she challenges your behavior, you
might start an ARGUMENT with her,
i.e. about how all women will SAY
that they don't want this behavior,
but that in reality they do respond to
this, and that you INSIST this is the
truth, and how it pisses you off that
women don't admit it.
And having such an argument is proof
that you are NOT superior, because it
shows you are losing control and getting
pissed for not getting what you want,
because you want it so badly, because
in fact you are not getting approval
from women. THIS IS WHAT
WOMEN WILL FEEL if you respond
with such a logical argument -they will
feel that you are not superior because
you have proved that they matter
so much as to get you all emotional
and in need of an argument to prove
yourself.
So, notice how the reply of:
"Wouldn't you like to know" is also
BRIEF.
Less words means you put less EFFORT
into it. And that means you are not trying
hard. And that means superiority.
So that's just ONE example of a response
to her question/comment of, "So does this
jerk act work for you".
As opposed to getting all nervous and
laughing nervously and saying ,"Why
not, I'm experimenting with new
things". And even THAT to be honest
CAN work once you understand the
power of delivery and how the words
themselves don't matter because
the delivery implies most of the
message. But still, I think that
understanding the power of the
wording of something like,
"Wouldn't you like to know"
really helps you understand the
GOAL you are shooting for in terms
of the message you want to be
sending.
You will notice an IMMEDIATE change
in her demeanor toward you if you
MAINTAIN your frame of superiority
while under her pressure and efforts to
destroy your frame. Keep in mind,
she is doing most of this subconsciously.
It's as simple as her wanting to cling
to her position of being in charge, which
is what she gets from most guys. And
all that she gets is a feeling of comfort,
but not attraction. But she does not
want to willingly give up the comfort for
attraction.
You MUST truly embrace this fact, she does
not WANT to give up the comfort of having
CONTROL. Human nature is such that
we work harder to prevent loss than we do
to achieve a gain.
So once you understand that she will
NEVER give up power unless she feels
ATTRACTION, and once you realize
that no matter how much you try to
get her to be ATTRACTED to you
by appealing to her sense of NICENESS
all that does is just make her feel even
MORE likely to want to keep you as
a FRIEND for comfort and not as a
MAN for attraction, you are then
ready to now take the RIGHT action.
You MUST realize that there is NO
POINT to trying to make her LIKE
you, (not yet anyway, that comes
after, the liking part comes AFTER
she is attracted, and it's important
then, but that's another topic) as
a method for getting her attracted.
You must instead ONLY focus at first
on getting her ATTRACTED. And that
has nothing to do, at first, with getting her
to LIKE you.
And if you keep up the frame of superiority,
she WILL feel attracted to you, whether she
WANTS TO OR NOT. In fact, she probably
WON'T WANT TO FEEL it and it may even
piss her off that she IS feeling attracted!!!
This is where some of the classic
movies have scenes where the
leading lady says something like,
"I hate you" and then she grabs
the guy and starts making out
with him hardcore.
Similarly, for the other situations
I mentioned, i.e. the "grandpa"
comment, it's crucial to immediately
reframe things by giving the response
that is congruent to the response
of a guy who is superior, which
sometimes is no response at all,
by the way.
But in the grandpa case, you could do
a whole lot of things, like, "Well the
whole reason I came over was because
in that hat you're wearing I thought you
WERE my granny. Anyway, I gotta get going
and eat some prunes, see ya!" And turn
around to walk away.
You see, this is the kind of thing you
would REALLY do if you FELT YOU
HAD THE VALUE. Number one,
you flip the frame around on her
and get her to question HER SELF.
After all, those who can dish it out
should be able to take it right back?
The only reason you previously thought
that you can't dish it back is because
you previously felt she was so precious
and so holy that you felt it was "unthinkable"
to dish it back.
But the part I think is even BETTER is
THE FOLLOW-UP, because when you
say you "have to eat some prunes", you
are TOTALLY SHOWING that you
are NOT AFFECTED at all, (you are
GOING with it rather than trying
to get all defensive) and that
in fact it's kinda FUNNY that she
would even say that to you!
And then, turning around to walk away,
is golden, because you are clearly not
walking away with your tail between
your legs, but rather walking away
laughing as if life is a barrel of fun,
which it IS for you, and you clearly
are on your way to have some more
fun and most likely meet a cooler
chick that GETS it.
And SHE realizes this as well, and I promise
you that in THE VAST MAJORITY
OF CASES, especially if the girl is HOT,
she will then start to chase YOU.
How do I know this stuff?
Because none of what I have mentioned
here in this newsletter is made up-
it's all real stuff that has actually
happened. I'm so absolutely confident
about it, that I urge you to go out
and try it.
You should actually look FORWARD to
situations where women are giving
you the CHANCE to show how awesome
you are by REFRAMING any challenging
comment in such a way that it reflects
YOUR superiority, because it's THIS
"reframing" that turns women ON.
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the women they want is because they make these
women feel the need to have to RESTRAIN their
sexual power.
All the ass-kissing behavior toward hot women makes
these women feel the need to be "polite" to men,
which ironically is almost the opposite of all that is
SEXUAL.
All that 'nice' style behavior leads to being in the
FRIEND zone, where you get lots of POLITE
behavior from women.
What you WANT is to actually ENCOURAGE women
to let loose ALL THE POWER that women have, and
then SHOW women that not only can you HANDLE it,
but that you are actually living in an even MORE
powerful emotional plane of existence.
This is a plane of existence that WOMEN will have to
fight to keep UP with, which is what these super
hot women have NEVER experienced before.
Allow me to elaborate on this whole dynamic:
"Every battle is won or lost before it is ever fought."
The above is a famous quote Sun Tsu: The Art of War,
and there are definitely parallels to the art of
attracting women.
Now, I don't like to only look at attraction
and pick up as a "battle" because pick up can
actually be a lot of FUN, and ultimately win-win
for both you and the woman, but the fact is, if
the 'pick-up' has a chance of succeeding in the
first place, then it is usually won or lost before
it even begins.
This is because so much must already be
going on internally before you start, whether
you are new and CONSCIOUS of it at first,
or whether you are experienced and it's all
internalized and automatic.
A woman, just like a man, wants the best.
And immediately, when a guy starts
an interaction with a woman, if he is
controlling the frame and maintaining
the frame that he is superior, even if
done playfully, she will very often TRY
to PUT HER FRAME OF REALITY
onto HIM.
For example, she will try to get him to kiss
up, or she will try to show him she is in the
superior position, whether she does
this playfully, explicitly, or even brutally.
Now, let me say, if a woman ever acts in
a way that is TRULY insensitive, then
I would just SKIP her, but it's important
to realize that in a FIRST encounter with
a total stranger, a woman who is really
attractive can simply NOT make it TOO
easy, or she'd have to go out with
EVERY guy on Earth who talks to her!
PLUS, for a super smoking-hot attractive
woman, being a bit CHALLENGING is simply
her mode of FLIRTATION.
Remember, she is living in a reality where her
FRAME of existence, her PERSPECTIVE
on things is DIFFERENT from most people
when it comes to DATING.
She's not trying to be MEAN. She is coming
from a SUPER SECURE perspective, it's like
she is SUPERWOMAN and can KNOCKOUT
any guy by saying the wrong words unless she is
very careful.
Hence, she is often acting POLITE, with the guys
who kiss her ass. Not sexual, and not honest, but
POLITE.
When she meets a man who seems like he CAN
TAKE HER FULL POWER, she can't WAIT
to unleash and be playful and fun and challenging
BACK to him, but MOST MEN, if these men
even HAVE the guts to START being challenging
with her, these same men usually just BUCKLE
in "defeat" when she CONTINUES to be challenging
back, even in playful flirting form!
You see, SHE HERSELF can TAKE THE FLIRTING,
she can TAKE the challenge, she ENJOYS it all,
she is on a SUPERWOMAN level of confidence.
When it comes to her communication with most men,
she has to "PULL her punches".
She is like a RACE-CAR that ENJOYS
super challenging SPEED, and is actually
MORE COMFORTABLE in that reality
of power and speed, and so when you flirt
back with EQUAL power, you are conveying
the message that you are in the SAME reality.
However, since most guys are only
experiencing an emotional perspective
that is more like a GO-KART than a
FERRARI, they can't psychologically
FATHOM how this type of challenging
behavior is actually an attractive
woman's way of FLIRTING.
So most men resort to GO-KART light style
"kiss ass" communication, and then she responds
with POLITE and NON SEXUAL interest,
as she RESTRAINS her full power.
But if you show a lot more POWER, you
then begin to turn her ON, as she ENGAGES
you as an EQUAL and starts to LET LOOSE
her full power.
For example, a woman may tell a guy, in response
to his challenging comment to her, she may say,
"Does this work for you? This jerk act?"
So, the guy who is in GO KART perspective,
he feels intimidated, or hurt, or insecure.
The FERRARI perspective feels,
"IT'S ON!" with her, the FLIRTATION
dance has begun, the first step toward physical
intimacy is the playful vibes that ping-pong
back and forth between her and the man
who 'GETS' this on a deep internal level.
Here's another example:
Let's say you tease her on something about
her playfully. She may say something
back to you that seems to be in her
favor, i.e. if she is younger, she might
say, "Thanks, but I'm busy and you
are much older than me, bye grandpa!".
But REMEMBER, if she REALLY didn't want
to talk to you, she would SHUT DOWN, she
would not say ANYTHING to invite FURTHER
response from you.
Or she may say something like:
"So are these other girls that you know
(if you were at a club and chatting
with a bunch of women rather than
being a "Nice" guy who is sitting and
waiting for HER to finish talking to
HER entourage of guys) around you to
make you seem more impressive? I
think it's just sleazy."
Do you get the picture here? The basic
idea is that when you do the RIGHT
things to attract a woman, she may not
SHOW it with her WORDS, and in fact she
may RESIST what you are doing, and it's
even possible she might NOT LOVE it
at first.
On one hand, she doesn't LIKE it because
it means she is LOSING ground.
She is used to being the superior.
And it feels COMFORTABLE being
the superior.
She feels COMFORTABLE around the
guys who kiss her ass. She LIKES them.
Yet, you have to REALIZE that
LIKING is not the same as
FEELING ATTRACTION.
Not the same thing at ALL.
You don't want a woman liking you.
You want her attracted to you.
Liking is what she feels for her GIRLFRIENDS.
That's not what you want.
You want to IGNITE THE FLAMES OF ATTRACTION.
And she can ONLY feel attraction to a
man she can RESPECT.
And she can't respect the men who just
MELT for her.
Ultimately, from an ATTRACTION standpoint,
she WANTS you to be the man that FLIPS
the script on her normal routine of,
"I'm the hot woman here, I'm the one
who RULES!".
She wants to feel that YOU are the one
with SUPERIOR power, because only THEN
can she go into FULL FERRARI MODE,
and really feel free to FLOOR the accelerator
and challenge her FULL potential.
With all the guys who MELT around her,
she's forcing herself to constantly
have to RESTRAIN her full power,
to almost act like a GO KART with
all the 'nice guys' and be POLITE
with them, since they are GO KARTS.
With the man who understands all this,
and is emotionally feeling and behaving
even MORE POWERFUL THAN HER,
she can finally LET LOOSE and be
the FERRARI that she really IS!
And that includes being that crazy wild
FERRARI in the BEDROOM with you!
I know, I know, it all sounds politically
incorrect. But keep in mind, this does
NOT mean that she wants you to be MEAN
to her, especially AFTER she falls for you.
It does not mean that you can't show
sensitivity to her. In fact, my book
"Get A Great Girl" is CRUCIAL for
understanding exactly HOW all of THAT
fits into the context of pick up,
dating, and relationships.
But as far as SPARKING INITIAL ATTRACTION,
it's about behaving as one with superior value.
So, it's damn crucial that when she
RESISTS your frame of superiority,
you do not BUCKLE under her pressure.
So, for example, when she says,
"Does this work for you?" your
reply MUST be the REPLY of
a guy who KNOWS HE IS SUPERIOR.
So, if you are superior, I ask you
this - would you even TRY to
answer? If you knew you were
MORE desirable than her, would
you feel NERVOUS, would you
feel a need to prove your worth?
So here's an example of a reply that
shows your superiority:
"Wouldn't you like to know?"
You've FLIPPED it around here,
because the FRAME she was trying
to force on the situation was:
"You, mister, are a loser, because
you are just putting on an act and
in fact are not superior at all."
The non spoken verbal from her, is:
"And by the way, I see this act from
a lot of guys, and they are really little
ass-kissers as soon as I give them a
little attention- I OWN them."
So when you say back to her, with
congruency that flows from your
real beliefs, "Wouldn't you like to
know", you are implying that she
would like to know, and the only
reason anyone wants to know
anything is because they CARE.
And you can't CARE unless something
has VALUE. So the implication is that
she WANTS YOU.
And even if she at first DIDN'T, the fact
is, your CONGRUENCY (which means the level
of ONGOING consistency between the messages
of superiority from your words, your beliefs,
your tonality, your sense of humor, and your
actions at even the most microscopic levels
at all times is 100% ) by KEEPING UP THE
FRAME OF YOUR SUPERIORITY even
under her pressure will cause her to SHIFT
her feelings about you VERY QUICKLY.
This is why if you are needy, you can't
make it work, because if you are needy
for approval and affection, you simply
will buckle in one way or another,
even if it's not in your actual words.
For example, if you are needy for approval,
and she challenges your behavior, you
might start an ARGUMENT with her,
i.e. about how all women will SAY
that they don't want this behavior,
but that in reality they do respond to
this, and that you INSIST this is the
truth, and how it pisses you off that
women don't admit it.
And having such an argument is proof
that you are NOT superior, because it
shows you are losing control and getting
pissed for not getting what you want,
because you want it so badly, because
in fact you are not getting approval
from women. THIS IS WHAT
WOMEN WILL FEEL if you respond
with such a logical argument -they will
feel that you are not superior because
you have proved that they matter
so much as to get you all emotional
and in need of an argument to prove
yourself.
So, notice how the reply of:
"Wouldn't you like to know" is also
BRIEF.
Less words means you put less EFFORT
into it. And that means you are not trying
hard. And that means superiority.
So that's just ONE example of a response
to her question/comment of, "So does this
jerk act work for you".
As opposed to getting all nervous and
laughing nervously and saying ,"Why
not, I'm experimenting with new
things". And even THAT to be honest
CAN work once you understand the
power of delivery and how the words
themselves don't matter because
the delivery implies most of the
message. But still, I think that
understanding the power of the
wording of something like,
"Wouldn't you like to know"
really helps you understand the
GOAL you are shooting for in terms
of the message you want to be
sending.
You will notice an IMMEDIATE change
in her demeanor toward you if you
MAINTAIN your frame of superiority
while under her pressure and efforts to
destroy your frame. Keep in mind,
she is doing most of this subconsciously.
It's as simple as her wanting to cling
to her position of being in charge, which
is what she gets from most guys. And
all that she gets is a feeling of comfort,
but not attraction. But she does not
want to willingly give up the comfort for
attraction.
This is why no woman wants to have to
EXPLAIN to you how to be the man
that turns her on. If she has to explain
it, she feels you are NOT that man!
You MUST truly embrace this fact, she does
not WANT to give up the comfort of having
CONTROL. Human nature is such that
we work harder to prevent loss than we do
to achieve a gain.
So once you understand that she will
NEVER give up power unless she feels
ATTRACTION, and once you realize
that no matter how much you try to
get her to be ATTRACTED to you
by appealing to her sense of NICENESS
all that does is just make her feel even
MORE likely to want to keep you as
a FRIEND for comfort and not as a
MAN for attraction, you are then
ready to now take the RIGHT action.
You MUST realize that there is NO
POINT to trying to make her LIKE
you, (not yet anyway, that comes
after, the liking part comes AFTER
she is attracted, and it's important
then, but that's another topic) as
a method for getting her attracted.
You must instead ONLY focus at first
on getting her ATTRACTED. And that
has nothing to do, at first, with getting her
to LIKE you.
And if you keep up the frame of superiority,
she WILL feel attracted to you, whether she
WANTS TO OR NOT. In fact, she probably
WON'T WANT TO FEEL it and it may even
piss her off that she IS feeling attracted!!!
This is where some of the classic
movies have scenes where the
leading lady says something like,
"I hate you" and then she grabs
the guy and starts making out
with him hardcore.
Similarly, for the other situations
I mentioned, i.e. the "grandpa"
comment, it's crucial to immediately
reframe things by giving the response
that is congruent to the response
of a guy who is superior, which
sometimes is no response at all,
by the way.
But in the grandpa case, you could do
a whole lot of things, like, "Well the
whole reason I came over was because
in that hat you're wearing I thought you
WERE my granny. Anyway, I gotta get going
and eat some prunes, see ya!" And turn
around to walk away.
You see, this is the kind of thing you
would REALLY do if you FELT YOU
HAD THE VALUE. Number one,
you flip the frame around on her
and get her to question HER SELF.
After all, those who can dish it out
should be able to take it right back?
The only reason you previously thought
that you can't dish it back is because
you previously felt she was so precious
and so holy that you felt it was "unthinkable"
to dish it back.
But the part I think is even BETTER is
THE FOLLOW-UP, because when you
say you "have to eat some prunes", you
are TOTALLY SHOWING that you
are NOT AFFECTED at all, (you are
GOING with it rather than trying
to get all defensive) and that
in fact it's kinda FUNNY that she
would even say that to you!
And then, turning around to walk away,
is golden, because you are clearly not
walking away with your tail between
your legs, but rather walking away
laughing as if life is a barrel of fun,
which it IS for you, and you clearly
are on your way to have some more
fun and most likely meet a cooler
chick that GETS it.
And SHE realizes this as well, and I promise
you that in THE VAST MAJORITY
OF CASES, especially if the girl is HOT,
she will then start to chase YOU.
How do I know this stuff?
Because none of what I have mentioned
here in this newsletter is made up-
it's all real stuff that has actually
happened. I'm so absolutely confident
about it, that I urge you to go out
and try it.
You should actually look FORWARD to
situations where women are giving
you the CHANCE to show how awesome
you are by REFRAMING any challenging
comment in such a way that it reflects
YOUR superiority, because it's THIS
"reframing" that turns women ON.
What you've just read here is important
stuff, and yet it's just the TIP OF THE
ICEBERG.
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Friday, January 13, 2012
Becoming A Better Man To Get Better Women
When I used to play pick up artist games,
I wondered why I got so many women who
played GAMES on me.
It took me a while to realize the problem
was starting with ME.
And when I was a super needy guy, I used
to wonder why women took advantage of me.
It took me a while to realize I was attracting the kind
of women that LIKE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE of
people!
So, if you want to attract a quality woman,
you have to learn how to become the kind
of man that is NOT needy, and also is NOT
a player who needs to overcompensate his
insecurities by playing games that NEVER
work long term, because a woman will
ALWAYS eventually find out the truth.
It's also crucial to learn how to, instead of
playing games that come from insecurity, it's
crucial to learn how to quickly CONVEY
the essence of who you REALLY ARE.
There are TOOLS that you can use to help
SEND OFF ALL THE RIGHT MESSAGES
ABOUT WHO YOU ARE.
From the way you use your voice, to the choices
of what clothing and accessories you wear, to
the kinds of responses you give, and much more.
The crucial thing to realize here is that you are
ALWAYS sending off messages about yourself,
whether you realize it or not, intentionally or
unintentionally.
The question is, are you sending off the RIGHT
messages about yourself, or are you sending out
the WRONG messages about yourself?
I'm not talking about LIES.
I'm talking about doing yourself JUSTICE in
the messages you are giving off about yourself.
Let's start with a clip from a rare film that actually
gets it RIGHT with how things are in reality:
To make a long story short, this guy TRANSFORMED
himself over the course of the story. He started
out truly needy as heck for an ex-girlfriend.
An ex-girlfriend that never even TREATED him
well to begin with!!!!
He eventually worked on himself and improved himself
to the point of meeting a BETTER woman.
When his ex-girlfriend finally comes around and
wants another try with him, (although being who
she is she would probably abuse him again),
HE has already grown and realized he is now
with a much better woman, so it's pretty much
a "no, thank you" to the abusive ex!
But BEFORE this development, he was WEAK.
He would call his ex infinitely, trying to get her back.
He was a VERY insecure guy.
Have you ever had a situation like this, where
you are leaving a voice mail for a woman you
really are CRAZY about and feel insecure about?
By the end of the film, however, he has GROWN.
He is NOT needy.
And yet, he does NOT play the games of the "swingers".
We can tell from the first clip that he was KIND to this
new woman, he helped her CALM DOWN when she
was nervous about her career not taking off.
He didn't try to be a jackass and show how tough
he was by TEASING her on this issue she was
sensitive and nervous about.
At the same time, he was chilled out, he was not
showering her with desperate compliments.
But notice some OTHER things here as well:
His overall demeanor, it's RELAXED and upbeat.
He is not perfect yet, he is not super smooth,
but that's OKAY because he is at least being
REAL and not "playing the pick up artist".
ALSO, he is SECURE enough to "OWN his reality"
and not try to make lies. He does NOT try to
"overcompensate" or show off to try to impress
her with something that isn't true.
He even refers to his apartment as a piece of *&^%,
and she JOKINGLY says, "It suits you", but she says
this because HE has made the joke first, and ALSO
because it's CLEAR that she DOES like him.
ALSO, notice how he GOES WITH IT, which
is another principle of humor when anyone says
a playful teasing remark, he doesn't FIGHT it
when she says her playful comment that the
apartment suits him, he plays along with the
teasing and just tells her to get out of here.
All this is subtle PLAYFULNESS done in a MATURE way.
He is showing CONFIDENCE by this, and
he is also showing social intelligence, because
he understands that her playful response back
means that to her it's still ALL GOOD, the
apartment is not some kind of deal-breaker.
It's a much better response from her than some
hogwash sentimental speech about how it's okay.
She SHOWS it's okay by the fact she can JOKE
about it!
Actions speak louder than words, and her ACTION
of being PLAYFUL about it shows him it's all ok.
If he was INSECURE, he would have for sure
interpreted her words of "it suits him" as an INSULT!
He would have gotten upset and RUINED the
entire vibe.
Have you ever allowed insecurity to make you see
something as an INSULT, which caused you start
an ARGUMENT? Or caused you to sabotage a
situation with a woman in some other way?
Notice also, how when she says she'll "be around", he
TAKES CONTROL. He says, "That's not good enough."
He doesn't WAIT for HER to give him her number.
He is still being a MAN.
In general, women do NOT push their numbers on guys,
even if they LIKE the guy.
That's just not the way it goes.
They figure, if you are serious, then YOU will be a
man and ASK for it, and that YOU will step up
to the plate and MAKE plans to see her again.
If a guy isn't willing to do THAT, then women figure
he's NOT the man for them.
If you are looking to get a GREAT GIRL, a truly
QUALITY woman for a relationship, I suggest you
get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM now.
This program not only teaches you all the ABOVE,
but it ALSO shows you the SMOOTHEST way
to go about APPROACHING women ANYWHERE
and getting all the way to intense intimacy and
getting totally sexual with women as well.
This program goes IN-DEPTH on what to do right now,
this second, when you leave your house or apartment to
go approach women and attract them, ANYWHERE.
Inside this program, you fill find TONS of crucial insights
for attracting women that you will not find anywhere else.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
And if you can make it, I seriously suggest you
sign up for BOOTCAMP as well. Make this one
area of your life that you DON'T IGNORE.
Getting the "women" part of your life handled
makes EVERYTHING else in life that much more
fun and that much more meaningful.
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
P.S. To find out about ALL my programs for
getting a quality woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
I wondered why I got so many women who
played GAMES on me.
It took me a while to realize the problem
was starting with ME.
And when I was a super needy guy, I used
to wonder why women took advantage of me.
It took me a while to realize I was attracting the kind
of women that LIKE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE of
people!
So, if you want to attract a quality woman,
you have to learn how to become the kind
of man that is NOT needy, and also is NOT
a player who needs to overcompensate his
insecurities by playing games that NEVER
work long term, because a woman will
ALWAYS eventually find out the truth.
It's also crucial to learn how to, instead of
playing games that come from insecurity, it's
crucial to learn how to quickly CONVEY
the essence of who you REALLY ARE.
There are TOOLS that you can use to help
SEND OFF ALL THE RIGHT MESSAGES
ABOUT WHO YOU ARE.
From the way you use your voice, to the choices
of what clothing and accessories you wear, to
the kinds of responses you give, and much more.
The crucial thing to realize here is that you are
ALWAYS sending off messages about yourself,
whether you realize it or not, intentionally or
unintentionally.
The question is, are you sending off the RIGHT
messages about yourself, or are you sending out
the WRONG messages about yourself?
I'm not talking about LIES.
I'm talking about doing yourself JUSTICE in
the messages you are giving off about yourself.
Let's start with a clip from a rare film that actually
gets it RIGHT with how things are in reality:
To make a long story short, this guy TRANSFORMED
himself over the course of the story. He started
out truly needy as heck for an ex-girlfriend.
An ex-girlfriend that never even TREATED him
well to begin with!!!!
He eventually worked on himself and improved himself
to the point of meeting a BETTER woman.
When his ex-girlfriend finally comes around and
wants another try with him, (although being who
she is she would probably abuse him again),
HE has already grown and realized he is now
with a much better woman, so it's pretty much
a "no, thank you" to the abusive ex!
But BEFORE this development, he was WEAK.
He would call his ex infinitely, trying to get her back.
He was a VERY insecure guy.
Have you ever had a situation like this, where
you are leaving a voice mail for a woman you
really are CRAZY about and feel insecure about?
By the end of the film, however, he has GROWN.
He is NOT needy.
And yet, he does NOT play the games of the "swingers".
We can tell from the first clip that he was KIND to this
new woman, he helped her CALM DOWN when she
was nervous about her career not taking off.
He didn't try to be a jackass and show how tough
he was by TEASING her on this issue she was
sensitive and nervous about.
At the same time, he was chilled out, he was not
showering her with desperate compliments.
But notice some OTHER things here as well:
His overall demeanor, it's RELAXED and upbeat.
He is not perfect yet, he is not super smooth,
but that's OKAY because he is at least being
REAL and not "playing the pick up artist".
ALSO, he is SECURE enough to "OWN his reality"
and not try to make lies. He does NOT try to
"overcompensate" or show off to try to impress
her with something that isn't true.
He even refers to his apartment as a piece of *&^%,
and she JOKINGLY says, "It suits you", but she says
this because HE has made the joke first, and ALSO
because it's CLEAR that she DOES like him.
ALSO, notice how he GOES WITH IT, which
is another principle of humor when anyone says
a playful teasing remark, he doesn't FIGHT it
when she says her playful comment that the
apartment suits him, he plays along with the
teasing and just tells her to get out of here.
All this is subtle PLAYFULNESS done in a MATURE way.
He is showing CONFIDENCE by this, and
he is also showing social intelligence, because
he understands that her playful response back
means that to her it's still ALL GOOD, the
apartment is not some kind of deal-breaker.
It's a much better response from her than some
hogwash sentimental speech about how it's okay.
She SHOWS it's okay by the fact she can JOKE
about it!
Actions speak louder than words, and her ACTION
of being PLAYFUL about it shows him it's all ok.
If he was INSECURE, he would have for sure
interpreted her words of "it suits him" as an INSULT!
He would have gotten upset and RUINED the
entire vibe.
Have you ever allowed insecurity to make you see
something as an INSULT, which caused you start
an ARGUMENT? Or caused you to sabotage a
situation with a woman in some other way?
Notice also, how when she says she'll "be around", he
TAKES CONTROL. He says, "That's not good enough."
He doesn't WAIT for HER to give him her number.
He is still being a MAN.
In general, women do NOT push their numbers on guys,
even if they LIKE the guy.
That's just not the way it goes.
They figure, if you are serious, then YOU will be a
man and ASK for it, and that YOU will step up
to the plate and MAKE plans to see her again.
If a guy isn't willing to do THAT, then women figure
he's NOT the man for them.
If you are looking to get a GREAT GIRL, a truly
QUALITY woman for a relationship, I suggest you
get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM now.
This program not only teaches you all the ABOVE,
but it ALSO shows you the SMOOTHEST way
to go about APPROACHING women ANYWHERE
and getting all the way to intense intimacy and
getting totally sexual with women as well.
This program goes IN-DEPTH on what to do right now,
this second, when you leave your house or apartment to
go approach women and attract them, ANYWHERE.
Inside this program, you fill find TONS of crucial insights
for attracting women that you will not find anywhere else.
It's at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
And if you can make it, I seriously suggest you
sign up for BOOTCAMP as well. Make this one
area of your life that you DON'T IGNORE.
Getting the "women" part of your life handled
makes EVERYTHING else in life that much more
fun and that much more meaningful.
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
P.S. To find out about ALL my programs for
getting a quality woman, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
How Internal Strength Gets You The Girl
Maybe you've heard that it's not cool to be
NEEDY with women. And maybe you've even
tried to "act" not needy.
Well, it's important to understand the FULL POWER
AND THE FULL TRUTH BEHIND THE REASONS
FOR ALL THIS.
This way, you will realize this has nothing
to do with ACTING, and you will start to
do it from the most EFFECTIVE place within
you, it will be REAL.
Nothing compares to being something for REAL.
Not only can a woman tell the difference, but
it also makes it easier for you when you are
not having to put on an "act."
So I'm going to cover this, and I'm also going to share
with you here some other crucial tips for approaching,
attracting, and KEEPING a fantastic woman.
1. Let's start with point ONE:
IF A TOTAL STUNNER, A COMPLETE KNOCKOUT,
LANDED ON YOUR DOORSTEP, COULD YOU
HANDLE IT?
This is one of the most Earth-shattering concepts
that most people will never even realize exists:
It's not about someone being "lucky" by having
a great girl being GIVEN to him somehow.
You have to become the kind of man inside that
CAN GET her, and then you can repeat this
over and over again.
If you are not this kind of man, you will do the
things that sabotage your results over and over
again.
Most people think that the hard part about GETTING
a woman, or KEEPING a woman has to do with
mastering certain “tactics” or “strategies”.
Now, while it’s true that some of these tactics
and strategies can be HELPFUL, they are more
like superficial things that can “tweek” an already
SUCCESSFUL situation. They will do NOTHING
however, if the FOUNDATION is missing, and
that FOUNDATION is your self-concept.
Do you SEE yourself as a guy who really CAN have
a fantastic woman in his life and who can KEEP her?
Do you have a picture in your mind of what such
a man IS? How he THINKS? How he FEELS?
What would be the first thoughts and emotions
that would come to mind if this DID happen?
Picture it right now:
Pay careful attention to the thoughts and emotions
going through your mind right now.
Compare these thoughts and emotions to what
you know you should be thinking and feeling
as we proceed here.
Let me give you a very FACTUAL example of how
this concept applies in real life:
There are TONS of people who win lotteries, and end
up with NOTHING very quickly.
How can this happen?
Often, these were poor people who truly must have
APPRECIATED the value of money, right????
Just like a guy who really wants a great woman
would really APPRECIATE that, right???
And THAT my friends, is the EXACT PROBLEM.
THE NEEDINESS FOR IT IS WHAT DRIVES
IT AWAY.
Power, with women, with money, with ANYTHING
really stems NOT from getting the money, and it
stems NOT from getting the woman.
It stems first from WITHIN.
This is not mumbo-jumbo at all, and I’ll explain
exactly why, with full logic and evidence:
This is not just something that sounds interesting
on PAPER. It’s a FACT.
You see, it takes INFINITE STRENGTH to have the
SELF-DISCIPLINE to RESIST OUR OWN URGES.
So, for example, a guy gets a million dollars, and if he
didn’t have self-DISCIPLINE in this area before, he now
will INDULGE his own weaknesses to WANT endlessly, and
he will spend and spend and spend, kind of like a guy who
had no water in the desert and now sees water and over-drinks,
making himself sick. At least the guy in the desert really
HAD a need for water, just not that much.
Now, in the following example, obviously it was not
these victims’ fault, because the brutal physical realities
of starvation mixed with not knowing the right way to eat
when finally presented with food are beyond comprehension,
but this actually happened at the end of WWII when some
concentration camp survivors were liberated, and were
provided with food.
STARVING for food, these victims had TINY stomachs
from not eating for so long, and physically their stomachs
could not TAKE more than just a morsel of food, but the
HUNGER was so strong upon smelling the food that
many DIED from eating what would otherwise be normal
portions of food.
Medical teams were trained to make sure that from then
on, all these newly liberated prisoners would be given
tiny rations and then gradually greater quantities of food,
and the right kinds of food, so that slowly their digestive
systems would adjust back to normal.
I bring this extreme point only for purposes of clarity:
WHAT OUR EMOTIONS INITIALLY WANT ARE NOT ONLY
NOT ALWAYS GOOD INDICATORS OF WHAT WE NEED...
BUT FOLLOWING OUR EMOTIONS CAN OFTEN LEAD TO
THE VERY DESTRUCTION OF THAT THING WHICH WE SEEK!
What does this mean?
It means that NEEDING a woman, in the same way
that overwhelming feeling of NEEDING endless money,
that feeling of NEEDING it so badly, WEAKENS you
AND PREVENTS YOU FROM ACTUALLY BEING ABLE
TO HOLD ONTO THAT MONEY, or, in this case, the
neediness for a woman makes one unable to keep
a woman even if she is put right in his face as a gift
by a generous angel.
NEEDINESS.
It weakens your decision making capability.
It makes you VULNERABLE to exploitation.
This applies both with women and with money.
So for example, a gorgeous woman can land on your
doorstep, and she will tell you about all her friends
who need favors, and you will feel that you must
OFFER to help them all, after all you VALUE this
woman so much, right???????????????????????
Even though she didn’t tell you to do anything,
you might end up becoming a martyr with your
time and energy, since you feel otherwise you
might be a “bad” guy, and you might lose her
otherwise.
And by spending all your energy and time on
these favors, you have very little energy and
time for yourself or for having fun with your
girl.
Plus, all this neediness to make others happy
makes you seem uncool and weak, especially
as it deprives you of fulfilling your REAL talents
and your real ambitions that make you feel
great, and so all this results in the woman
LEAVING YOU.
Also, feeling too needy for her might cause you
to become jealous and start a fight over every little
tiny innocent thing, which will also cause her to leave.
NEEDINESS causes us to make POOR decisions,
and it WARPS our perception of things, and it
plain feels bad as well.
Financially, it’s similar.
Without being STRONG, without realizing that we
all really only need very LITTLE money, a sudden
influx of a million dollars can go flying out the door
and be gone in a heartbeat.
The desire to spend to “GET” all kinds of things you
don’t really NEED can get rid of half your money
in a blink. There is really no end to wanting
“things” and the more you get, the more you want
anyway. Suddenly, you feel like you NEED to get
a mansion, you need to get a fancy car, you NEED
to go to fancy restaurants, etc, etc.
People who earn their money realize the only way
to have more than they spend is to buy the IMPORTANT
things and not EVERYTHING.
People who earn their wealth the hard way HAVE
to have mastered this discipline, or they would
have lost it all. Notice that they also INVEST
their money, in the same way a smart guy
INVESTS in the right woman for a powerful
and strong relationship in the future.
There’s nothing wrong with spending your emotions
on a woman, in fact you MUST do this for a thriving
relationship, the key is to do it wisely, and with the
right woman, and to never come from a place of neediness.
The IRONY is that this attitude actually EMPOWERS
you to be more resourceful, because when you are
feeling empowered, and you know you have choices,
you are able to be more efficient, more creative, and more
convincing. All of which help you with WOMEN as well:
When you are NOT feeling NEEDY for a woman,
you don’t make stupid decisions that come from
FEAR OF LOSING HER.
Decisions like over-spending to impress her.
Decisions like calling her too much to make sure
she’s “happy”.
Decisions like doing too many favors for her or
her friend or family, favours that you really
can’t afford time wise, energy wise, or emotionally.
And of course, the fear of losing her comes from
thinking that you really NEED her.
Now don’t get me wrong.
I LOVE the idea of being with a quality woman.
It’s, from all the various pleasures out there,
one of the most MEANINGFUL, for sure.
And if you eventually want to raise a family,
then if you are with any other kind of woman
besides a truly fantastic woman, you are
going to be in HELL. A great quality woman
who you can trust and who is a positive person
and who is giving is an absolute MUST.
And yet, to get this kind of quality woman,
you must not be WEAK, you must not be needy,
you must not think that she is the one providing
you with all the awesome emotions.
Otherwise, the neediness will make you EASY PREY
for the kind of VULTURE type women out there
who know how to ACT nice but who aren’t really
good people. If you were STRONG EMOTIONALLY
and NOT NEEDY, you would be able to SEE
THROUGH THE ACT! (Especially if you also learn
the skills I teach in DETECTING a quality woman!)
But if you are needy, you start to become blind
to her bad behaviors and you even start to see
good things in her that don’t even EXIST in reality.
This is why an AUTHENTICALLY GOOD WOMAN
who has the right character INSISTS on a man
who is STRONG, so that he can see the difference
between HER and a woman who is a FAKE.
Being strong emotionally really is the number
one ingredient in being THE MAN.
Otherwise, you become like the guy who won
the lottery and is TOOOO in LOVE (TOO NEEDY
FOR THINGS) with the idea of GETTING THINGS
from this money, (WHEN REALLY, MOST OF WHAT
YOU NEED IS INSIDE YOU ALREADY) and who is also
TOO WEAK to know how to HOLD ON to the money
he’s GOT, how to invest, etc.
Same thing with a woman, you want to know
how to invest in her PROPERLY, so that it actually
brings back MORE of her energy, commitment,
and love. And the irony is that in order to do this,
you have to be STRONG ON YOUR OWN without
her.
Okay, so that’s part one:
IF YOU’RE FEELING NEEDY, GO OUTSIDE IN THE
SNOW RIGHT NOW IN A BATHING SUIT AND POUR
A BUCKET OF COLD WATER OVER YOU!
(Get a doctor’s approval first, though, to make sure
you can handle it! No snow in your area? Then
just do the cold bucket of water without the snow!
Get a doctor's approval first, of course!)
Then run inside and repeat these words ten times:
My power comes from WITHIN!
Part TWO:
OBSERVATIONS SKILLS/HUMOR/THE APPROACH
There is INFINITE potential and power in honing your
OBSERVATIONAL SKILLS of reality.
You don’t have to MAKE UP anything!
In life, and in your conversations with women, become
more OBSERVANT of reality. See the things that
most other people never see or think about.
For example, one thing that I’m really
NOT a huge fan of is “Reality TV”,
especially where there is nothing to learn.
So I’ll make an exception for an occasional episode
of The Apprentice, where you at least see people
authentically trying to come up with various strategies
and plans for teamwork, for leadership, for marketing,
etc, etc.
But otherwise, the vast majority of “Reality TV”, to me,
is the most UNREAL thing ever! I’d much rather
watch a show or movie made by the very best
writers, actors, and creative teams, because the
point of all great art is to make something that
is EMOTIONALLY TRUE and that has a point
that IS relevant for real life.
Instead, “Reality TV” has a bunch of non-professional
actors, who are pretending to NOT be acting, but
are acting anyway, as they know the camera is on them,
so of course they are trying to act in a way that they think
is cool, except the only problem is they aren’t professional.
They don’t even have a script to help distract us from
the non-professional acting.
I actually heard a comedian named Gould who
spoke about this, but when I first thought about
"Reality TV" years ago, I was not even trying to
be funny, it was just my feelings and observation
on the situation.
What makes these kinds of comments great for
conversation is that they are TRUE, and in a way
kind of funny as well.
That combo makes for a very compelling chat
with a woman who is a total stranger.
Another version of OBSERVING REALITY that
I like to use is PLAYING WITH FAMOUS TERMS/WORDS
to create something that feels MORE EMOTIONALLY
RELEVANT for the situation, or is MORE POWERFUL
than the original words.
So, for example, while waiting at the bus stop,
if it’s taking forever for the bus to come, and
you're both shivering waiting for the bus, you
can joke with the girl waiting there as well that
the initials for the transit system stand for
something else.
So if the real name was “Martian Commission Transportation”
and it's known by its initials as, “M.C.T.”, you might tell her,
“Hey, you know what MCT stands for?”
And she says, “Martian Commission Transportation, no?”
You give a smug smile and say, “Massively Cold Time!”
You can make INFINITE versions of this.
Similarly, and on an even MORE powerful level, I love
to take the mundane and ADD VALUE to make it
MEANINGFUL.
So, for example, in that very conversation, I might
speak about how we are at least both saving the
environment by taking public transit, and might
start singing a song about the environment like
Michael Jackson’s “Earth” song, and then actually
TAKE HER HANDS AND START DANCING WITH
HER RIGHT THERE AT THE BUS STOP!!
Turn the whole thing into a CAUSE, a movement,
even PLAYFULLY, and in fact ESPECIALLY
when done playfully, it’s VERY HARD for a
woman to resist doing something as POSITIVE
as a playful dance for the ENVIRONMENT!
It also shows what a cool guy you are in
LEADING THE WAY in this interaction
as THE MAN, and it gives you two something
to BOND over, it also gets her thinking that if
you are this fun and passionate at the BUS stop,
then how much MORE fun must you be in BED!!!
By the way, when you do this, it’s important
you pull her into YOUR physical space, and
not that you go into HERS, as this way you are
far more dominant, sexual, and cool.
While we’re on the topic of playing with words
so that they actually have more meaning than
the original words, is there a better song that
illustrates this point than the hit song
'ONE LIFE STAND'????
This song is a kick-ass positive song
that is all about the OPPOSITE of the
term 'ONE NIGHT STAND'.
By making just a minor change in the title,
it almost SOUNDS the same and yet it
is TOTALLY DIFFERENT and FAR
MORE MEANINGFUL!
By the way, that’s ANOTHER thing you can do,
just ask a woman randomly if she’s heard the
song “One Life Stand”, and if she hasn’t, you
can tell her about it, and if she has heard of
it, you can ask her what she thinks of it.
This is a fantastic way to lead the conversation
in the right direction that is upbeat, fun, sexual,
and meaningful.
And if you’d like to get the FULL PICTURE on
how to meet, attract, and keep a woman of
exceptional quality, I suggest you get my
most advanced program – it’s called
WARRIOR WITHIN.
Deep within you right this very second, so deep
in fact that they are practically "buried alive", are
all the right INSTINCTS on what to do when
it comes to approaching, attracting, and keeping
a fantastic woman. The problem is all these
instincts have been "brainwashed" and are
now HIDDEN to you, due to endless layers of
ridiculous modern social conditioning.
This program will BRING BACK ALL THE
RIGHT INSTINCTS, AND RESTORE YOU
TO THE MAN YOU WERE MEANT TO BE.
It will IGNITE the primal warrior within you, in a way
that naturally attracts the very best women and keeps
them attracted to you.
This program will ALSO show you the very BEST
strategies that you can apply to make it even EASIER
to meet and attract women anywhere you see them in
real life as well as online. You'll also learn the skills for
skyrocketing your humor, and you'll discover the most
powerful strategies for developing a deep connection
with a woman so that you can spark fireworks in the
bedroom, and much, MUCH more.
This program is an investment that will pay you dividends
for the rest of your LIFE.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior
Change your life with women by getting this program NOW.
For today, for tomorrow, and forever, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
NEEDY with women. And maybe you've even
tried to "act" not needy.
Well, it's important to understand the FULL POWER
AND THE FULL TRUTH BEHIND THE REASONS
FOR ALL THIS.
This way, you will realize this has nothing
to do with ACTING, and you will start to
do it from the most EFFECTIVE place within
you, it will be REAL.
Nothing compares to being something for REAL.
Not only can a woman tell the difference, but
it also makes it easier for you when you are
not having to put on an "act."
So I'm going to cover this, and I'm also going to share
with you here some other crucial tips for approaching,
attracting, and KEEPING a fantastic woman.
1. Let's start with point ONE:
IF A TOTAL STUNNER, A COMPLETE KNOCKOUT,
LANDED ON YOUR DOORSTEP, COULD YOU
HANDLE IT?
This is one of the most Earth-shattering concepts
that most people will never even realize exists:
It's not about someone being "lucky" by having
a great girl being GIVEN to him somehow.
You have to become the kind of man inside that
CAN GET her, and then you can repeat this
over and over again.
If you are not this kind of man, you will do the
things that sabotage your results over and over
again.
Most people think that the hard part about GETTING
a woman, or KEEPING a woman has to do with
mastering certain “tactics” or “strategies”.
Now, while it’s true that some of these tactics
and strategies can be HELPFUL, they are more
like superficial things that can “tweek” an already
SUCCESSFUL situation. They will do NOTHING
however, if the FOUNDATION is missing, and
that FOUNDATION is your self-concept.
Do you SEE yourself as a guy who really CAN have
a fantastic woman in his life and who can KEEP her?
Do you have a picture in your mind of what such
a man IS? How he THINKS? How he FEELS?
What would be the first thoughts and emotions
that would come to mind if this DID happen?
Picture it right now:
Pay careful attention to the thoughts and emotions
going through your mind right now.
Compare these thoughts and emotions to what
you know you should be thinking and feeling
as we proceed here.
Let me give you a very FACTUAL example of how
this concept applies in real life:
There are TONS of people who win lotteries, and end
up with NOTHING very quickly.
How can this happen?
Often, these were poor people who truly must have
APPRECIATED the value of money, right????
Just like a guy who really wants a great woman
would really APPRECIATE that, right???
And THAT my friends, is the EXACT PROBLEM.
THE NEEDINESS FOR IT IS WHAT DRIVES
IT AWAY.
Power, with women, with money, with ANYTHING
really stems NOT from getting the money, and it
stems NOT from getting the woman.
It stems first from WITHIN.
This is not mumbo-jumbo at all, and I’ll explain
exactly why, with full logic and evidence:
This is not just something that sounds interesting
on PAPER. It’s a FACT.
You see, it takes INFINITE STRENGTH to have the
SELF-DISCIPLINE to RESIST OUR OWN URGES.
So, for example, a guy gets a million dollars, and if he
didn’t have self-DISCIPLINE in this area before, he now
will INDULGE his own weaknesses to WANT endlessly, and
he will spend and spend and spend, kind of like a guy who
had no water in the desert and now sees water and over-drinks,
making himself sick. At least the guy in the desert really
HAD a need for water, just not that much.
Now, in the following example, obviously it was not
these victims’ fault, because the brutal physical realities
of starvation mixed with not knowing the right way to eat
when finally presented with food are beyond comprehension,
but this actually happened at the end of WWII when some
concentration camp survivors were liberated, and were
provided with food.
STARVING for food, these victims had TINY stomachs
from not eating for so long, and physically their stomachs
could not TAKE more than just a morsel of food, but the
HUNGER was so strong upon smelling the food that
many DIED from eating what would otherwise be normal
portions of food.
Medical teams were trained to make sure that from then
on, all these newly liberated prisoners would be given
tiny rations and then gradually greater quantities of food,
and the right kinds of food, so that slowly their digestive
systems would adjust back to normal.
I bring this extreme point only for purposes of clarity:
WHAT OUR EMOTIONS INITIALLY WANT ARE NOT ONLY
NOT ALWAYS GOOD INDICATORS OF WHAT WE NEED...
BUT FOLLOWING OUR EMOTIONS CAN OFTEN LEAD TO
THE VERY DESTRUCTION OF THAT THING WHICH WE SEEK!
What does this mean?
It means that NEEDING a woman, in the same way
that overwhelming feeling of NEEDING endless money,
that feeling of NEEDING it so badly, WEAKENS you
AND PREVENTS YOU FROM ACTUALLY BEING ABLE
TO HOLD ONTO THAT MONEY, or, in this case, the
neediness for a woman makes one unable to keep
a woman even if she is put right in his face as a gift
by a generous angel.
NEEDINESS.
It weakens your decision making capability.
It makes you VULNERABLE to exploitation.
This applies both with women and with money.
So for example, a gorgeous woman can land on your
doorstep, and she will tell you about all her friends
who need favors, and you will feel that you must
OFFER to help them all, after all you VALUE this
woman so much, right???????????????????????
Even though she didn’t tell you to do anything,
you might end up becoming a martyr with your
time and energy, since you feel otherwise you
might be a “bad” guy, and you might lose her
otherwise.
And by spending all your energy and time on
these favors, you have very little energy and
time for yourself or for having fun with your
girl.
Plus, all this neediness to make others happy
makes you seem uncool and weak, especially
as it deprives you of fulfilling your REAL talents
and your real ambitions that make you feel
great, and so all this results in the woman
LEAVING YOU.
Also, feeling too needy for her might cause you
to become jealous and start a fight over every little
tiny innocent thing, which will also cause her to leave.
NEEDINESS causes us to make POOR decisions,
and it WARPS our perception of things, and it
plain feels bad as well.
Financially, it’s similar.
Without being STRONG, without realizing that we
all really only need very LITTLE money, a sudden
influx of a million dollars can go flying out the door
and be gone in a heartbeat.
The desire to spend to “GET” all kinds of things you
don’t really NEED can get rid of half your money
in a blink. There is really no end to wanting
“things” and the more you get, the more you want
anyway. Suddenly, you feel like you NEED to get
a mansion, you need to get a fancy car, you NEED
to go to fancy restaurants, etc, etc.
People who earn their money realize the only way
to have more than they spend is to buy the IMPORTANT
things and not EVERYTHING.
People who earn their wealth the hard way HAVE
to have mastered this discipline, or they would
have lost it all. Notice that they also INVEST
their money, in the same way a smart guy
INVESTS in the right woman for a powerful
and strong relationship in the future.
There’s nothing wrong with spending your emotions
on a woman, in fact you MUST do this for a thriving
relationship, the key is to do it wisely, and with the
right woman, and to never come from a place of neediness.
The IRONY is that this attitude actually EMPOWERS
you to be more resourceful, because when you are
feeling empowered, and you know you have choices,
you are able to be more efficient, more creative, and more
convincing. All of which help you with WOMEN as well:
When you are NOT feeling NEEDY for a woman,
you don’t make stupid decisions that come from
FEAR OF LOSING HER.
Decisions like over-spending to impress her.
Decisions like calling her too much to make sure
she’s “happy”.
Decisions like doing too many favors for her or
her friend or family, favours that you really
can’t afford time wise, energy wise, or emotionally.
And of course, the fear of losing her comes from
thinking that you really NEED her.
Now don’t get me wrong.
I LOVE the idea of being with a quality woman.
It’s, from all the various pleasures out there,
one of the most MEANINGFUL, for sure.
And if you eventually want to raise a family,
then if you are with any other kind of woman
besides a truly fantastic woman, you are
going to be in HELL. A great quality woman
who you can trust and who is a positive person
and who is giving is an absolute MUST.
And yet, to get this kind of quality woman,
you must not be WEAK, you must not be needy,
you must not think that she is the one providing
you with all the awesome emotions.
Otherwise, the neediness will make you EASY PREY
for the kind of VULTURE type women out there
who know how to ACT nice but who aren’t really
good people. If you were STRONG EMOTIONALLY
and NOT NEEDY, you would be able to SEE
THROUGH THE ACT! (Especially if you also learn
the skills I teach in DETECTING a quality woman!)
But if you are needy, you start to become blind
to her bad behaviors and you even start to see
good things in her that don’t even EXIST in reality.
This is why an AUTHENTICALLY GOOD WOMAN
who has the right character INSISTS on a man
who is STRONG, so that he can see the difference
between HER and a woman who is a FAKE.
Being strong emotionally really is the number
one ingredient in being THE MAN.
Otherwise, you become like the guy who won
the lottery and is TOOOO in LOVE (TOO NEEDY
FOR THINGS) with the idea of GETTING THINGS
from this money, (WHEN REALLY, MOST OF WHAT
YOU NEED IS INSIDE YOU ALREADY) and who is also
TOO WEAK to know how to HOLD ON to the money
he’s GOT, how to invest, etc.
Same thing with a woman, you want to know
how to invest in her PROPERLY, so that it actually
brings back MORE of her energy, commitment,
and love. And the irony is that in order to do this,
you have to be STRONG ON YOUR OWN without
her.
Okay, so that’s part one:
IF YOU’RE FEELING NEEDY, GO OUTSIDE IN THE
SNOW RIGHT NOW IN A BATHING SUIT AND POUR
A BUCKET OF COLD WATER OVER YOU!
(Get a doctor’s approval first, though, to make sure
you can handle it! No snow in your area? Then
just do the cold bucket of water without the snow!
Get a doctor's approval first, of course!)
Then run inside and repeat these words ten times:
My power comes from WITHIN!
Part TWO:
OBSERVATIONS SKILLS/HUMOR/THE APPROACH
There is INFINITE potential and power in honing your
OBSERVATIONAL SKILLS of reality.
You don’t have to MAKE UP anything!
In life, and in your conversations with women, become
more OBSERVANT of reality. See the things that
most other people never see or think about.
For example, one thing that I’m really
NOT a huge fan of is “Reality TV”,
especially where there is nothing to learn.
So I’ll make an exception for an occasional episode
of The Apprentice, where you at least see people
authentically trying to come up with various strategies
and plans for teamwork, for leadership, for marketing,
etc, etc.
But otherwise, the vast majority of “Reality TV”, to me,
is the most UNREAL thing ever! I’d much rather
watch a show or movie made by the very best
writers, actors, and creative teams, because the
point of all great art is to make something that
is EMOTIONALLY TRUE and that has a point
that IS relevant for real life.
Instead, “Reality TV” has a bunch of non-professional
actors, who are pretending to NOT be acting, but
are acting anyway, as they know the camera is on them,
so of course they are trying to act in a way that they think
is cool, except the only problem is they aren’t professional.
They don’t even have a script to help distract us from
the non-professional acting.
I actually heard a comedian named Gould who
spoke about this, but when I first thought about
"Reality TV" years ago, I was not even trying to
be funny, it was just my feelings and observation
on the situation.
What makes these kinds of comments great for
conversation is that they are TRUE, and in a way
kind of funny as well.
That combo makes for a very compelling chat
with a woman who is a total stranger.
Another version of OBSERVING REALITY that
I like to use is PLAYING WITH FAMOUS TERMS/WORDS
to create something that feels MORE EMOTIONALLY
RELEVANT for the situation, or is MORE POWERFUL
than the original words.
So, for example, while waiting at the bus stop,
if it’s taking forever for the bus to come, and
you're both shivering waiting for the bus, you
can joke with the girl waiting there as well that
the initials for the transit system stand for
something else.
So if the real name was “Martian Commission Transportation”
and it's known by its initials as, “M.C.T.”, you might tell her,
“Hey, you know what MCT stands for?”
And she says, “Martian Commission Transportation, no?”
You give a smug smile and say, “Massively Cold Time!”
You can make INFINITE versions of this.
Similarly, and on an even MORE powerful level, I love
to take the mundane and ADD VALUE to make it
MEANINGFUL.
So, for example, in that very conversation, I might
speak about how we are at least both saving the
environment by taking public transit, and might
start singing a song about the environment like
Michael Jackson’s “Earth” song, and then actually
TAKE HER HANDS AND START DANCING WITH
HER RIGHT THERE AT THE BUS STOP!!
Turn the whole thing into a CAUSE, a movement,
even PLAYFULLY, and in fact ESPECIALLY
when done playfully, it’s VERY HARD for a
woman to resist doing something as POSITIVE
as a playful dance for the ENVIRONMENT!
It also shows what a cool guy you are in
LEADING THE WAY in this interaction
as THE MAN, and it gives you two something
to BOND over, it also gets her thinking that if
you are this fun and passionate at the BUS stop,
then how much MORE fun must you be in BED!!!
By the way, when you do this, it’s important
you pull her into YOUR physical space, and
not that you go into HERS, as this way you are
far more dominant, sexual, and cool.
While we’re on the topic of playing with words
so that they actually have more meaning than
the original words, is there a better song that
illustrates this point than the hit song
'ONE LIFE STAND'????
This song is a kick-ass positive song
that is all about the OPPOSITE of the
term 'ONE NIGHT STAND'.
By making just a minor change in the title,
it almost SOUNDS the same and yet it
is TOTALLY DIFFERENT and FAR
MORE MEANINGFUL!
By the way, that’s ANOTHER thing you can do,
just ask a woman randomly if she’s heard the
song “One Life Stand”, and if she hasn’t, you
can tell her about it, and if she has heard of
it, you can ask her what she thinks of it.
This is a fantastic way to lead the conversation
in the right direction that is upbeat, fun, sexual,
and meaningful.
And if you’d like to get the FULL PICTURE on
how to meet, attract, and keep a woman of
exceptional quality, I suggest you get my
most advanced program – it’s called
WARRIOR WITHIN.
Deep within you right this very second, so deep
in fact that they are practically "buried alive", are
all the right INSTINCTS on what to do when
it comes to approaching, attracting, and keeping
a fantastic woman. The problem is all these
instincts have been "brainwashed" and are
now HIDDEN to you, due to endless layers of
ridiculous modern social conditioning.
This program will BRING BACK ALL THE
RIGHT INSTINCTS, AND RESTORE YOU
TO THE MAN YOU WERE MEANT TO BE.
It will IGNITE the primal warrior within you, in a way
that naturally attracts the very best women and keeps
them attracted to you.
This program will ALSO show you the very BEST
strategies that you can apply to make it even EASIER
to meet and attract women anywhere you see them in
real life as well as online. You'll also learn the skills for
skyrocketing your humor, and you'll discover the most
powerful strategies for developing a deep connection
with a woman so that you can spark fireworks in the
bedroom, and much, MUCH more.
This program is an investment that will pay you dividends
for the rest of your LIFE.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior
Change your life with women by getting this program NOW.
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Thursday, January 14, 2010
Creating Attraction From SCRATCH
What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
No one gets enough of this thing,
and anyone that can GIVE IT
rules the world.
It boils down to the release of
endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them who Homer Simpson or
Bart Simpson is, and you'll get an
INSTANT answer.
Same thing if you ask the last word
to the name of the band called
The Rolling ______ .
Think of your favorite movie or song
or singer, and I bet you can list the lyrics,
or what the story is about down to the details,
etc, etc. All because it's FUN for you.
It FEELS GOOD.
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like “oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a “you’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
"Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN.
GUTS.
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILY
TOOTHY KISSING UP IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE.
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
week in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
That's just OPENING her up.
You must COOK this INTERACTION till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say “Hi, I’m Joe (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
"You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a YES ladder
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the dial even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING, I suggest you
get my WARRIOR WITHIN program at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is the very FIRST
thing every guy needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
No one gets enough of this thing,
and anyone that can GIVE IT
rules the world.
It boils down to the release of
endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them who Homer Simpson or
Bart Simpson is, and you'll get an
INSTANT answer.
Same thing if you ask the last word
to the name of the band called
The Rolling ______ .
Think of your favorite movie or song
or singer, and I bet you can list the lyrics,
or what the story is about down to the details,
etc, etc. All because it's FUN for you.
It FEELS GOOD.
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like “oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a “you’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
"Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN.
GUTS.
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILY
TOOTHY KISSING UP IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE.
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
week in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
That's just OPENING her up.
You must COOK this INTERACTION till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say “Hi, I’m Joe (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
"You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a YES ladder
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the dial even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING, I suggest you
get my WARRIOR WITHIN program at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is the very FIRST
thing every guy needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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