Attracting Women: Validation And The Frame

Before I start this newsletter, I must
add a warning:  Success with women
is not just about the dynamics of
validation in the sense of being "nice"
or being "not nice".

Success when it comes to pick up and
attraction is about CREATING ALL KINDS
OF AWESOME EMOTIONAL IMPACT. 

From her feeling giddy, to laughing, to
excited, to sexually turned on, to
intrigued, etc.

The thing is, there is a way to use the
dynamics of validation and the way you
frame your own value and hers (including
knowing when and how to make HER
feel VALIDATED) to actually CREATE
all those emotions I just mentioned
above.

Keep this in mind as you read the article,
as understanding this stuff is also a big key
to ensuring that you never come across
as some kind of CLOWN, or some kind of
UNDERLING as you are giving women
these emotions. 

Ya feel me here?
OK, cool, let's begin then:  

Sex is great, but validation is even better.
And that has EVERYTHING to do with
being successful at pick up and long term
attraction.

The basic idea is actually quite simple to
understand. So before we get complex,
let's explain the fundamentals:

If you had women who were STRIKINGLY
beautiful knocking down your door every day,
I can GUARANTEE you that the ONE chick
that you'd be MOST CRAZY about would be
the ONE who DID NOT bang down on your door.

Why?

The answer is because those other chicks might
in REALITY be just as great, but because of the
way the mind works, you would wonder why the
heck you couldn't get the ONE who was NOT so
crazy about you.

It would eat at your soul.

You might start to ask "Am I not hot enough for
her?" or, "Does she find something about me
repulsive?" or, "Is she special or something?"
or, "What is her problem???!! I'm going to
MAKE her like me, damn it, if it's the last
thing I do!!!"

And you might go through great lengths to
get her. You might find out what she's into,
you might find out where she hangs out, etc.
All that time, you would be passing UP the
infinite sex you could be having with all the
hotties at your DOOR.

Because VALIDATION is GREATER than sex.
It's MORE fulfilling. You would most likely start
to feel there is something SUPERIOR about that
ONE chick, and you would feel the NEED to get
HER approval.

You would feel the need to get VALIDATED by her.

And almost the MOMENT you GOT that difficult
chick, (if you got her, because all that chasing, if
she found out, would turn her off!) you would
start to appreciate her LESS. You would start to
notice her faults, etc.

It might seem awesome at FIRST, and the sex
might even seem greater than it really is with
her, because you would be getting VALIDATED
by the act. At first. But once you got it, you
no longer need to get it, right?

If all this sounds hard to believe, trust me,
it's TRUE. It's hard for most guys to fathom
this, because it seems so far out of their
reality. But it's CRUCIAL to realize all this.

Now, if you just realize that for a hottie,
most of them anyway, they have spent
their LIVES getting validated based on
their looks alone.

That's why a guy that kisses up to them
based on their looks is so meaningless
to them. Yet at the same time, for a
woman, if a guy DOES NOT seem to be
into her looks, it's like pulling the earth
out from under her feet.

It's a totally INVALIDATING experience
for her, and for women who are attractive,
in general. Makes them feel like they are
not worthy to be on this earth.

Most hotties start to go nuts when
this happens. It's like you are shaking
apart their entire reality, the reality they
have so firmly believed for all of their
life until NOW.

This is SO DISORIENTING for most chicks,
that they will immediately start to try to
make reality "make sense again" by
trying to PLEASE you, so that you WILL
kiss up to them, so that things can go
back to "normal".

And in fact, a woman will AUTHENTICALLY
start to desire you, because she REALLY
does value your approval now!

Remember, VALIDATION is GREATER
than sex.

For many chicks, when they break up,
they are too lazy and spoiled to deal with
the negative emotion in a productive way-
They feel a lack of validation, and so they
go and hook up with a few guys immediately,
making almost ZERO effort at screening him
for quality values, simply because they want
to get VALIDATED as fast as possible.

I've spoken with lots of girls about this-
I'm not saying every girl is like this, and in
fact some arent, but in general, the typical
chick is, if she is hot, this is what she does,
and I quote the term for this: "shedding old
skin".  Especially true for the younger
hotties.

Yup.
Isn't that sweet.

These are really just euphemisms, or
rather CODEWORDS for: "DESPERATE
NEED TO BOOST LOW SELF ESTEEM"

AKA: Desperate need to get RE-VALIDATED.

Now, at this point, I want to make something
clear: I do not hold all women in contempt for
all of this.

Our society has allowed this to happen, a
combination of the fact that guys have
become slaves to beauty and forgotten
that character is just as important, guys
have forgotten their own value, most
guys have given over all their dignity to
women, guys have been brainwashed to
think that it's normal to kiss up to a woman
just because she is attractive, etc.

I also want to clearly point out that there
are a rare handful of women who are
exceptions, but they are EXTREME
EXCEPTIONS and not the rule.

Also, as guys, we definitely have our
share as well of bad apples, guys who
are dumbasses and abusers of women, etc.  

But in general, you must learn to DANGLE
the carrot of validation to a woman without
giving it to her completely. Once you give
it to her completely, she no longer needs
you and will stop treating you as she did
prior to getting validation from you.

This might sound Machiavellian, but
it's the truth.  At least in the beginning
of the "courtship". And to an extent,
even later.

A woman will tell you she is MADLY in
love with you, and MEAN IT, and be
the sweetest woman on earth. Then,
if you give her full validation, it will
quickly all disappear.

Also, once you have a woman in
private, better help her unleash
her repression!

This is REALPOLITIK.

Now, here's the thing.  This is all
sounds really harsh, right?

But here's the thing you have to REMEMBER:
ALL THIS STUFF ONLY FEELS STRANGE
because you have been put in a very
"UN-NATURAL"  position in today's
society with women: As a man, if you
accept the current PARADIGM of men's
roles, THAT is the real "un-natural" role.

Think about it:

MEN supposedly have to buy
women things, like dinner.

MEN are supposed to be  "gentlemanly".

MEN have to "prove" themselves and
their character over the dating process.  

MEN supposedly have a duty to show
that they are going to look out for
the chick's long term interest and
thus assure her that she will never
be dumped no matter what she does,
and also that they are available
at her beck and call at any moment.

MEN have to show they have financial
security, etc.

Okay, I have one question:

In return for any of this, or dare I say
ALL of this even, ALLL this stuff that
men have to do, what the *&^% do
WOMEN have to do?

Answer is, according to the social rules
of today: ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

So, you see, THIS is the REAL insanity.

It pours into every aspect of your
interaction with a woman you are
picking up.

And THEREFORE, to COUNTER this
insanity, you have to do BALANCE
the forces to create some SANITY
out of it all.

THIS is why you need to withhold
validation, etc.

But it's NOT because you should
be MEAN.

First of all, I don't believe in being
"mean" anyway, but also because
being MEAN is actually a sign of
INFERIORITY. 

So all this withholding validation,
breaking rapport, etc, all this stuff
has to be done from a place inside
of you that is very calm, playful,
and feeling good, upbeat, and
dominant, and yes, sexual as well.

And yes, once a woman is attracted
after all this, you have to show that
you are genuinely interested, just
not that you are inferior or needy
in any way whatsoever.  

And without realizing it, most guys
ARE showing inferiority when they
think they are only showing genuine
interest, and that is because their
inner game is still plagued by
weak beliefs.  Those weak beliefs
generate actions and statements
that give off the vibe of inferiority.

Or to put it simply - he comes
across as boring, needy, and
a little creepy. 

So in fact, all we're doing by what
**I'M** advocating, is restoring the
BALANCE to the dynamics between
men and women. Helping fill in the
gaps (no pun intended) and actually
help women get some balance back
in THEIR lives.

A BALANCE that was lost in the last few
decades. (although there were a couple
of good things that happened too.) 

This BALANCE is what WOMEN need as
well to feel the JOY of attraction!!!!!!

BALANCE is always a good thing. I'm
not for causing pain to women, I'm for
causing harmony between men and women.

I must say it clearly again, once a woman
is attracted, it's important that you also
show kindness and respect.  You just have
to also know how to keep just the right
amount of sexual tension on. 

Keep the flame alive kind of thing.

Once a woman is ATTRACTED seriously
to you, THEN the GREATEST gift you can
give her is your validation- that you feel
she is WORTHY of you.

But guess what???
Most guys give this validation over to a
woman before the woman even CARES
about the GUY.

It's in guys' body language, and their tonality,
down to the most microscopic details, it's all
given away before they even approach the
woman.

Can you imagine that?
Giving over your GREATEST GIFT to a woman
before you even know a THING about her?????
And before she knows a thing about  you???
Before she could even VALUE your
validation????  

That's INSANE!!!

Of course, at one point or another, we were
all guilty of doing this, we had no idea what
was really going on. The world of women isn't
all like those cute Teletubbies on TV if you
know what I mean.

So let's talk a bit about the practical
side to all this:

As soon as you meet most women who are
attractive, I can GUARANTEE you that
she will be trying to CONTROL THE FRAME
between you and her. She will immediately
begin attempting to do everything on
HER TERMS.

And I DO mean AS SOON AS YOU MEET HER.

Yup.
And it really will never stop completely.

Let me give you some examples:
She might tell you where to sit if you've
invited her to join you for coffee.
She might tell you she doesn't give
emails or numbers out, but she'll take
yours.

She might tell you to "be a "sweetie"
and bring her x,y,z from the counter".

She might tell you SHE wants to do this
or that, and if you suggest something
else, she might put it down.

If you are have just approached her,
and started to chat her up, she might
tell you "are you a player?" i.e.
controlling the frame that she is
immaculate and you are a "dog",
or "a typical GUY", in order to
get you to become all apologetic
and kiss her butt type of thing.

That last one above is really funny,
because women hang out at clubs
and shake their butt and tell everyone
they just want to dance, and that
guys are pigs, meanwhile the reality
is that if there were no guys at the club,
women wouldn't ever go.

Because then there would be NO VALIDATION---
no guys to OGLE and WATCH them shake
their butts!!!!!

If you ever approach a woman in a club,
withhold all the validation stuff, instead
just strike up a fun conversation, or
tease her on her outfit, and in fact if she
seems to be treating you great, don't act
all so surprised and happy as if this never
happens to you.  If you act like she is
doing you a massive favor, you'll quickly
find yourself out of a conversation. 

And if she tells you that you could be a
real "sweetie" if you bought her and her
friends some drinks, you should just laugh
and tell her "you're not that type of guy"
but that she could buy YOU and YOUR
FRIENDS some drinks.  And you can
tell her, "of course, just because I might
accept the drinks for me and my buddies,
don't think we're going to hook up just
because of this".  ;)

But enough about clubs, because women
are EVERYWHERE. The fact is, no matter
where you meet a woman, and no matter
what stage you are in with her, you MUST
control the frame.

Ahhh, I can hear someone asking. "You mean
you can NEVER EVER EVER let a woman have
things her way?"

No, don't get paranoid, but in general, the
overall frame, yes, you should be a little
more dominant, because she is ALREADY getting
the validation and confidence PUMPED up in
her from all of the rest of society.

Especially when you are doing the pickup. 
Later on, you can divide up the responsibilities
if you ever get into some serious relationship.

When you finally give a woman what she wants,
create a NEW need for validation by showing her
in a fun way that you don't kiss up: i.e. you give
her the present she wanted, and then you bust
on her about something else.

Be smooth about taking control- women are
VERY smooth at ensuring they do get things
done their way, simply because they feel
it is so NATURAL for things to be that way.

I'll give you an example- let's say a woman
wants to go to x restaurant and you want to
go to y café. She might say something to
you like "So do you want to go to x
restaurant at 8 or at 7:30?" In other words,
a loaded question- she is pretending that
no other options exist.

Yeah, this happens all the time with
most women, if you are giving a
WEAK FRAME to begin with. 

It won't happen though nearly as often
if you just establish the right frame to
begin with.

You have to learn to speak UP, and STOP
smooth moves like this from surreptitiously
taking over your frame. You might think
that a woman would LIKE it when you give
her what she wants. You might think that
a woman would LIKE to be validated.

Well, she might like it, for a second,
but she is not ATTRACTED to the man
that feels the insecure NEED to give
her this validation in the hopes that
she will then like him more for it.

Guys forget that once someone HAS
something, they don't appreciate it.

AND once someone has something,
they tend to want MORE. So giving
women every trivial thing they want
so easily, only digs you deeper into
the abyss of abuse.

Not only that, but women are SICK
of guys who just want to do what
women want- because the reality is
that women who are hot often really
have never had a chance to think
about what they really want, since
everyone keeps GIVING them everything!

Ask a woman what she wants:
She'll tell you a nice guy. And then see
what type of men she has actually gone with.

These are the men who provide them with a
CHALLENGE, who are able to hold their OWN
self-esteem without the approval of any
woman.

Women need men who have very CLEAR ideas
of what the MEN want.

So be even SMOOTHER than women
are, for both women's benefit and
your own.

By the way, don't get me wrong:
I don't advocate being a JERK with
women. If you saw or heard me speaking
with a woman, you'd notice that both she
and I were probably laughing more than
anything, and also just having an interesting
conversation and sometimes just kicking
back and not saying anything at all.

It's impossible in the space of these
newsletters to convey all the subtle details
of how everything works. There is a ton
more that I explain in my book, and of
course in my advanced programs.

Let me wrap up by saying that I also believe
that guys need to learn to NOT REQUIRE
validation from anyone, ESPECIALLY not
from chicks.  I know this goes against the
whole notion of romantic fairy tales, but
then again those things kind of screwed
us all up, especially since THESE DAYS we
don't even get the nice feminine part of
romance. 

In the days of the romantic tales, women
gave men a certain amount of automatic
respect.  Romance today is impossible
until you regain more power.  And that
can only happen if you follow the stuff
I teach, seriously.

And if you would like to learn EXACTLY
how to reclaim your attractive power as
a man, and also learn how to MASSIVELY
SKYROCKET your INNER GAME, and also
learn EXACTLY how to APPLY this all when
you encounter women ANYWHERE, then I
seriously suggest you get my Attraction
Mastery program.

It's the finest program on this topic, anywhere.
The culmination of years of my exclusive
dedication to it.

And it can now be at your fingertips, 24/7.

It's at:

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For the BOOTCAMP experience, where
I will take you under my exclusive wing
and TRAIN you for TWO FULL DAYS AND NIGHTS
as we do it all on women in real time, go to:

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And if you haven't yet downloaded my latest
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Till next time,

Michael

Becoming A Better Man To Get Better Women

When I used to play pick up artist games,
I wondered why I got so many women who
played GAMES on me.

It took me a while to realize the problem
was starting with ME.

And when I was a super needy guy, I used
to wonder why women took advantage of me.

It took me a while to realize I was attracting the kind
of women that LIKE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE of
people!

So, if you want to attract a quality woman,
you have to learn how to become the kind
of man that is NOT needy, and also is NOT
a player who needs to overcompensate his
insecurities by playing games that NEVER
work long term, because a woman will
ALWAYS eventually find out the truth.

It's also crucial to learn how to, instead of
playing games that come from insecurity, it's
crucial to learn how to quickly CONVEY
the essence of who you REALLY ARE.

There are TOOLS that you can use to help
SEND OFF ALL THE RIGHT MESSAGES
ABOUT WHO YOU ARE.

From the way you use your voice, to the choices
of what clothing and accessories you wear, to
the kinds of responses you give, and much more.

The crucial thing to realize here is that you are
ALWAYS sending off messages about yourself,
whether you realize it or not, intentionally or
unintentionally.

The question is, are you sending off the RIGHT
messages about yourself, or are you sending out
the WRONG messages about yourself?

I'm not talking about LIES.
I'm talking about doing yourself JUSTICE in
the messages you are giving off about yourself. 
 
Let's start with a clip from a rare film that actually
gets it RIGHT with how things are in reality:

Getting Digits
Swingers at MOVIECLIPS.com

To make a long story short, this guy TRANSFORMED
himself over the course of the story. He started
out truly needy as heck for an ex-girlfriend.

An ex-girlfriend that never even TREATED him
well to begin with!!!!

He eventually worked on himself and improved  himself
to the point of meeting a BETTER woman.

When his ex-girlfriend finally comes around and
wants another try with him, (although being who
she is she would probably abuse him again),
HE has already grown and realized he is now
with a much better woman, so it's pretty much
a "no, thank you" to the abusive ex!

But BEFORE this development, he was WEAK.
He would call his ex infinitely, trying to get her back.

He was a VERY insecure guy.
Have you ever had a situation like this, where
you are leaving a voice mail for a woman you
really are CRAZY about and feel insecure about?

Mike Leaves a Message
Swingers at MOVIECLIPS.com

By the end of the film, however, he has GROWN.
He is NOT needy.

And yet, he does NOT play the games of the "swingers".

We can tell from the first clip that he was KIND to this
new woman, he helped her CALM DOWN when she
was nervous about her career not taking off.

He didn't try to be a jackass and show how tough
he was by TEASING her on this issue she was
sensitive and nervous about. 

At the same time, he was chilled out, he was not
showering her with desperate compliments.

But notice some OTHER things here as well:

His overall demeanor, it's RELAXED and upbeat.
He is not perfect yet, he is not super smooth,
but that's OKAY because he is at least being
REAL and not "playing the pick up artist".

ALSO, he is SECURE enough to "OWN his reality"
and not try to make lies. He does NOT try to
"overcompensate" or show off to try to impress
her with something that isn't true.

He even refers to his apartment as a piece of *&^%,
and she JOKINGLY says, "It suits you", but she says
this because HE has made the joke first, and ALSO
because it's CLEAR that she DOES like him.

ALSO, notice how he GOES WITH IT, which
is another principle of humor when anyone says
a playful teasing remark, he doesn't FIGHT it
when she says her playful comment that the
apartment suits him, he plays along with the
teasing and just tells her to get out of here.

All  this is subtle PLAYFULNESS done in a MATURE way.

He is showing CONFIDENCE by this, and
he is also showing social intelligence, because
he understands that her playful response back
means that to her it's still ALL GOOD, the
apartment is not some kind of deal-breaker.

It's a much better response from her than some
hogwash sentimental speech about how it's okay.
She SHOWS it's okay by the fact she can JOKE
about it!

Actions speak louder than words, and her ACTION
of being PLAYFUL about it shows him it's all ok. 

If he was INSECURE, he would have for sure
interpreted her words of "it suits him" as an INSULT!

He would have gotten upset and RUINED the
entire vibe.

Have you ever allowed insecurity to make you see
something as an INSULT, which caused you start
an ARGUMENT? Or caused you to sabotage a
situation with a woman in some other way? 

Notice also, how when she says she'll "be around", he
TAKES CONTROL.  He says, "That's not good enough."

He doesn't WAIT for HER to give him her number.
He is still being a MAN.

In general, women do NOT push their numbers on guys,
even if they LIKE the guy.

That's just not the way it goes.
They figure, if you are serious, then YOU will be a
man and ASK for it, and that YOU will step up
to the plate and MAKE plans to see her again.

If a guy isn't willing to do THAT, then women figure
he's NOT the man for them.



If you are looking to get a GREAT GIRL, a truly
QUALITY woman for a relationship, I suggest you
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This program goes IN-DEPTH on what to do right now,
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Inside this program, you fill find TONS of crucial insights
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And if you can make it, I seriously suggest you
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Getting the "women" part of your life handled
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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Great Women, Morals, And Rough Sex

One of the most important things to understand
about attracting women is that so much of it
SEEMS on the surface to go completely AGAINST
all logic. It in fact seems PARADOXICAL.

For example, the fact that women so often
fantasize about rough sex, and about being
dominated and taken. And yet, at the same
time, women want a guy who will respect
them and treat them special.

Here's a great informative and entertaining
look at this reality:



The truth though is that NONE of this is
crazy, wierd, or paradoxical, once you
see the BIG picture.

In the big picture, this is actually TOTALLY
logical. Women love sex as much as men.
Women are hardwired to want MEN, not sissies.

At the same time, women want to know that
they are ULTIMATELY deep down SAFE with
a man they have chosen to be with.

And women don't want to have to EXPLAIN all
this to a man, or it RUINS the fantasy for
them, the sexual fantasy.

Plus, when you factor in the reality that
"good girls" are somehow expected to NOT
be so sexual, this only makes good girls
want to be sexual even MORE!

And to be honest, aren't sexual women
what men WANT??? Don't we WANT a
great girl who is also really sexual?

Of course we do.
There's nothing moral about NOT loving sex.

So, you see, when you understand the
BIG picture, it all makes TOTAL SENSE.

Now OBVIOUSLY, you should NEVER attempt
to have sex with a woman who is NOT
100% completely consensual.

The key though is to understand that
your VIBE and behavior should be MANLY
and DOMINANT. You should not be
submissive and you should not be
constantly seeking approval from
her as if you needed her permission
for every last detail.

This is ESPECIALLY true when it comes
to the sexual, when it's clear she
wants you in a sexual way.

And yet, at the same time, this is not
a license to do anything less than
FULLY RESPECT and CHERISH her.

Understanding the FULL PICTURE to all this
is CRUCIAL if you want to ATTRACT a woman,
especially a woman who is "in demand".

And if you really want the FULL PICTURE on
how to be successful with women, I seriously
suggest you get my WARRIOR WITHIN program
on attracting the very BEST women out there.

It's at:

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And if you haven't yet got my ATTRACTION MASTERY
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Attraction Facts

Today, there’s a lot I want to share
with you about the facts of what
actually works to attract a woman.

However, before I do that, I need
to get something out of the way,
and it’s about the importance of
facts vs. lies.

If you were to enter a bookstore right now,
and you were to check out just about any
topic that involves advice, you’ll notice
one thing immediately:

There’s a heck of a lot of supposed ‘experts’
on certain topics, such as how to get women,
how to be a good parent, how to get fit, how
to get rich, etc, etc, etc.

If you start to think about it, the subjects that
have tons of different books written about them
tend to have three things in common:

1. Opinions
They’re about opinions, yet they’re all
stated as if they are facts.

2. Most People Don’t See The Lies
(So The Authors Aren’t Ridiculed)

Even though these books are presented
as facts and the authors act all “authoritative”
(now we know where that word comes from)
the reality is that even if they are proven
wrong, they don’t have to be accountable
for saying these lies and distortions,
and they also know that they won’t be
ridiculed by society for saying endless
stuff that is not true.

That’s because most people are confused
themselves.

3. The Topics Are Emotional Ones

In fact, the topics are so loaded with painful
emotion as well as euphoria, and the marketers
tend to add fuel to the emotional fire, to the
point that many, many people (and I don’t blame
human nature for being human) will flock to the
lies rather than the truth since the lies tend to
appeal to their sense of gaining pleasure or
preventing more pain.

And when I say lies, I mean lies.
So, for example, an “expert” will go on record
and say the BEST way to be healthy and fit is
to eat lots of fat! He will PROMISE this is
the way, to eat endless fat as long as you
avoid carbs.

One day, carbs are GREAT.
The next day, another expert PROMISES
they are TERRIBLE. Sometimes, it’s
even the SAME “expert”, who has finished
selling his books on the old advice, and now
needs a new angle.

When it comes to parenting advice,
one day the experts tell us, ‘DON’T
TRY TO STIMULATE a child too early,
his infant mind is growing so fast
that stimulation is traumatic and
DANGEROUS!

But then the experts say…NOPE,
YOU MUST TRY TO STIMULATE
THE CHILD AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE
SO HIS MIND WILL GROW!

It’s so obvious that they can’t all be RIGHT!

Lies can be extreme, they can be anything that
works to get one’s attention.

The same thing happens in the dating field.
"Be a nice guy" was what women experts told men.
"Be a player" was what pick up artists told men.

EXTREMES and OVERSIMPLIFICATIONS
are what catch attention.

TRUTH, though, can only be itself.
Sometimes it’s emotional, sometimes it’s not.

Now, let’s take a trip to the other side of
this universe, allllllll the way to the
land of facts, truth, science, and evidence.

By the way, I love emotional stuff, I just think
that it needs to be applied to the truth, not to
promote lies.

In the land of evidence, facts, truth, science,
math, etc, there isn’t nearly the same market
or audience.

Have you heard of the latest bestselling math book?
How about the New York Times bestseller,
Grade 12 Science by Houghton Mifflin?

I haven’t heard about it either.

See, when it comes to areas that most
people don’t get emotional about, and where
telling lies like 2+2=5 will get the author
instantly ridiculed, and where the truth on
the subject isn’t all that emotional, there
isn’t the same amount of books or material
being published.

Here’s the other thing:

Dealing with the truth often requires some
real work, which is a lot harder to get excited
about than the idea of getting a knockout of
a woman to want to jump you because you
said the right thing to her.

The bottom line:
Truth doesn’t sell, unless it’s dramatic.

Truth usually only becomes dramatic when
the lies finally start to cave in on a mass
scale.

When people thought the world was flat, for
thousands of years, and then finally they
heard the world was round, that was probably
pretty dramatic.

So, when I say, for example, that my Warrior
Within program will show you things like the
most scientific, statistically-tested method for
obliterating approach anxiety, I mean it, and
it’s the truth.

In fact, what I learned from an incredible friend
about overcoming approach anxiety is so important,
and no dating guru had ever spoken a word about it
before me, that the truth is this single thing alone
is more effective and actually backed up by science
than the entire “seduction dating advice” has ever
offered since day one.

But because I don’t dress it up as THIS IS THE
WAY THE PENTHOUSE MODELS COME
CRASHING DOWN YOUR DOOR, some
folks just let this gold pass them by.

When I say that, for example, in my Actions
For Attraction CD Set, I interview a man who
I personally witnessed in real life as being
not only a professional comedian, but also
fantastic with women, and has truly combined
the two things and is a golden interview
for learning how to be funnier and more
effective at the same time with women,
I mean it.

But due to fact that lies have inflated the
promises that everyone gives or implies,
I would need to say something like
BARRY’S INTERVIEW WITH ME IS
THE SECRET FOR PANTIES GETTING
WET ACROSS THE COUNTRY, HE’S
GOT THE SECRETS FOR WOMEN’S
PANTIES TO GO FLYING OFF AT THE
INSTANT A WOMAN SEES YOU AND
SHE HEARS YOU UTTER A FUNNY
WORD TO HER. IN FACT, IF PANTIES
DON’T GO FLYING THE MOMENT
YOU USE THIS, IT’S BECAUSE SHE
IS TOO IN LOVE WITH YOU AND
IS AFRAID OF REJECTION.

The real truth, is that everything matters,
and everything counts. It’s all this TOGETHER
that makes the results.

Including something called social intelligence,
which is the ability to detect the “emotional vibe
requirements” of the situation:

Let me give an example:
Seth McFarlane, creator of family guy, recently
was at a comedy roast of Donald Trump. There
were several other people there, including a
striking woman who was a sharp comedian
herself.

Seth introduced her by teasing her in the following
way: “She’s got the body of a crack wh*re, and
the razor sharp wit of (pause)…a crack wh*re.”

She was LAUGHING out of her seat so hard.

The reason it was so funny and not hurtful, is
because first of all, the comment about her
body and the crack ***** is not an insult
since the point is that she’s slim and not fat.

Second, the comment about her razor sharp
wit being NOT sharp is so OBVIOUSLY
not true since after all she IS a professional
comedian, whose very career is reliant on
her wit. It’s obviously not true, and also
even if it WAS true, it’s the kind of thing
that someone in her position is clearly
insulated against or would never have
been in that line of work (that is all about
this type joking behavior) to begin with.

The proof is that she was laughing DEEP,
She was not just giving a superficial polite
smile.

In many ways, he gave her a compliment and
also he conveyed social intelligence by showing
that he was not afraid to ACKNOWLEDGE
her fantastic looks, which are so much a clear
part of her identity, but at the same time he
showed that she was part of the group and
that her looks would not make her somehow
“beyond the comfortable reach” of anyone.

He made her comfortable, he made everyone
comfortable, he made her laugh, he made
everyone laugh.

If ever there was a right time to say this,
everyone was….Winning! ?

I’m sure you can see that this interacting
with women stuff actually DOES have
a science behind it.

So, let me share with you some more FACTS
on what actually HELPS to attract women:

1. VOICE

Worried about the right pick-up lines?
Forget that, focus on your voice instead.

In fact, the less “try hard” your opening words
are to a woman you meet, the more cool you
will be, the more trust you will make her feel,
and the more you will be conveying that you
are comfortable in your own skin - IF your
words are delivered with the right TONALITY.

Tonality, and by this I don’t mean whether
your voice is more like Darth Vader or
Mickey Mouse, but rather that your voice is
conveying the RIGHT COMBINATION
OF EMOTIONS.

One great mix of emotions to be present
in your voice is UPBEATNESS, mixed
with DOMINANCE, and SENSUALITY.

You can be asking for something as simple
as THE TIME, but if your voice shows these
emotions, it’s going to do far more for you
than the most “clever” speech or line that
you could give delivered with the wrong
emotions in your voice.

The great thing about this is that it’s not
an act! You can’t PUT THESE EMOTIONS
INTO YOUR VOICE without actually
FEELING it for REAL!

So this brings you another benefit as well!

It puts you in the PERFECT COMBINATION
OF EMOTIONAL STATES so that you can
now also ACCESS those parts of your mind
to now SAY all the right things that are
CONSISTENT WITH THOSE EMOTIONS!!!

As you might guess, it’s a lot easier to be
FUNNY when you are actually FEELING
LIKE JOKING AROUND!!!!!

It’s a lot easier to be DOMINANT with a
woman when you are FEELING dominant!

So this strategy with using your voice is
applying the science of PHYSIOLOGY
in your FAVOR!!!

The mind and body work together, and
this is a great way to put that truth to
GOOD USE!

2. THE COUNTER-CAMPAIGN

Listen, if you really want results with
women, it means you have to change
what you are doing right now.

Well, the problem with change is that
for a LIFETIME now, you’ve been getting
the WRONG advice from within- and by
WITHIN, I mean EMOTIONALLY.

Let’s fact it, if we all felt GREAT about
approaching women, we’d all do it.

Because we feel all kinds of NEGATIVE
emotions and fears, we DON’T do it.

To COUNTER this “FEAR CAMPAIGN
FROM WITHIN”, YOU NEED TO
WAGE A MASSIVE “COUNTER-CAMPAIGN”!

Plaster your walls with messages and signs
and posters, and make voice recordings that
play in the background, even while you sleep,
MAN, YOU HAVE TO GO BIG TIME
IF YOU WANT BIG CHANGE AND
BIG RESULTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Remember, you must counter a LIFETIME
of a “SMEAR CAMPAIGN” FROM WITHIN
THAT HAS BEEN TELLING YOU TO NOT
APPROACH!

As cool as this is, this is honestly just scratching
the surface, I seriously suggest you get my
Warrior Within program and my Actions For
Attraction CD Set to get the big picture.

3. POSITIVE THINKING? I DON’T THINK SO!

Screw positive thinking! Positive thinking
is MUCH MORE POSITIVE when you can
deal internally with the WORST CASE SCENARIO.

In fact, by NOT being able to internally deal
with the worst case scenario, we tend to
be much more fearful of taking the positive
action, because, after all, we will think
BUT WHAT IF I SCREW UP????
WHAT IF NO WOMAN LIKES ME?????

The key is to learn how to CONQUER
this internal crap so that indeed we CAN
become the positive thinking person!

Again, I promise you, in my programs,
you will learn the details on HOW to do this!

4. LISTEN WITHOUT INSTINCTIVE DISTORTION

What I mean by this, is that the vast majority
of people, even good people, don’t realize
how they are not really listening to what
a person is saying. They are not trying to
NOT listen, they just aren’t aware of
how their own emotions are FILTERING
the message that is coming in from
another. And this has BIG TIME ramifications
when chatting and interacting with women.

Part of the reason many women say that it’s so
hard to find a man they can CONNECT with,
is that they are forgetting all the men that
CAN connect with them that they aren’t
attracted to (that’s me being honest again)
but the OTHER reason is that even when
a man DOES attract a woman, he often
LOSES her attraction within MINUTES
when she says something to him, and
he distorts her message without even
REALIZING IT.

Here’s one way to avoid this problem:
If you sense that you are getting emotional
about something, especially if it’s negative,
ask yourself what is it that you both AGREE
ON and see if you can work your way from
THAT POINT to getting less emotional, and
see if NOW you understand her in a different
light.

This doesn’t mean to brainwash yourself
into agreeing with her, not at all. What
it means is that you now actually
UNDERSTAND what she is saying,
and a woman would much rather have
a man who UNDERSTANDS her than
agrees with her on everything.

And if you’re reading this right now, I can
absolutely assure you that there is a whole
UNIVERSE of crucial information on the
topic of getting a fantastic quality girlfriend,
and that universe can be found in my
program called WARRIOR WITHIN.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

I also suggest, if you haven’t already
been getting my Actions For Attraction
series since day one, that you go HERE
immediately:

http://getagreatgirl.com/ActionsForAttraction.html

By the way, if you’re still reading this,
and wondering, “Hmmm, should I really
get this material? Is it REALLY useful?
Will it REALLY CHANGE MY LIFE?”, I’d
like to share another fact with you:

Years ago, a book came out, called THE GAME.
It was a huge hit, which for a lot of people
was the same thing as being proof that it
was the way to go to attract women.

It pretty much summed up the popular dating guru
and pick up artist “strategies” for how to get
women.

There was a MASSIVE focus on pick up lines,
memorized routines, how to come across as
hard-to-get so that a woman should value
the guy more, etc, etc, etc.

It was also SWORN by the endless streams
of followers as the ABSOLUTE TRUTH.

Fast forward a few years, and now
the information in that book is
considered ANTIQUATED, pick up
lines are NOT "cool", and memorized
routines are NOT considered "cool"
now even by ANYONE'S standard.

Hmmm, what happened to all those
methods as being the BIBLE OF TRUTH
ABOUT ATTRACTION?

Wasn’t it POPULAR?
Wasn’t the fact it was so POPULAR a
form of proof that it must be TRUE????

At that same time, a lot of MY material was
mocked by a lot of "experts" and followers
of these "experts", who never TRIED my
programs.

Meanwhile, the guys who DID use my
programs were getting such fantastic
results with women, that eventually
the entire "dating guru" field had
to CHANGE.

Some of them, on the surface, even
seem a bit like me. That's because
they spend a lot of their time reading
and taking my material, but then,
they distort the whole thing, by
inserting HOGWASH to make it
"more commercial".

This distortion from the outset
is even worse than "broken radio",
where by the time you finally get the
message, it's so distorted, it doesn't
represent the truth of the original
information anymore. That's because
they are intentionally distorting
the material from the first moment
they take it, in order to sell more.

If you are genuinely interested in
getting a quality woman for a fantastic
relationship, come to the source,
where the info is legit:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

By the way, the reason I never promoted
the "games" style approach to attracting
a woman is not only because it usually
doesn't work, but in those rare times
when it DOES work, what it does is
it attracts a woman not to YOU, but
to the GAME you've played on her.

So you must KEEP UP THOSE GAMES
in order to keep her.

Also, I noticed that the "games" style
approach to attracting women tends
to bring out the "games" and the worst
behavior in women, which should come
as no surprise considering that women
aren't so stupid, so when they see they
are being "gamed" they tend to give
"games" back.

And of course, eventually, the real you
always ends up showing, so the game
always ends up a total loss for everyone
pretty quickly.

This is why my programs are about
learning things that actually have value
for REAL, as opposed to it being a
trick, a game, or an act.

I was never interested in being a
dancing monkey for ANYONE, including
any woman. In fact, the very idea
revolted me from any woman that
was of that type who could even
go for that kind of guy.

By the way, I also learned a lot of
these things the hard way. At one
point, I myself was brainwashed by
the dating guru advice, and it
really screwed up my relationships
with the very best women I had
met!

In fact, the more that a woman was
the kind of woman that was a genuine
person who valued loyalty, who was
a fun person who didn't play games
herself, the MORE repulsed she
would be by the "games" promoted
by so called experts and dating gurus.

It took me YEARS to learn what I now
teach, and to organize it all into
effective programs that actually work.

Hence, the birth of Get a GREAT Girl.

To me, it's ALL about quality.

If you’re looking for a true quality woman,
the kind of woman who would be a fantastic
girlfriend, go here IMMEDIATELY:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And don't forget to also check out my
Actions For Attraction CD Set, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/ActionsForAttraction.html

To find out about ALL my programs,
or to read my other articles, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/

Till next time,

Michael Marks

So, What's The Whole Deal With "Get A Great Girl"?

As you may know, I'm pretty passionate about
those rare women who are truly great women,
especially inside, and when they have it going
on outside as well, it's really remarkable.

I say this today because more than ever,
it seems that dating gurus tend to put
all women in one box.

The truth is, however, that it's not about
just "getting" a woman, it's about getting
the RIGHT woman.

The wrong woman will destroy a man
faster than anything else. 

And yet, most men are so concerned about
"how do I GET a woman" before even
finding out if this is the kind of woman
they really WANT!

The media does not tend to report on the truth
about how many women abuse men, so it's
no wonder that guys think the focus should
all be on just GETTING a woman, when
in reality the focus should be on SCREENING
a woman, and finding out if she IS a quality
woman in the first place.

The irony is that most women are actually
CAREFULLY checking you to see if you
are seriously thinking about what kind of
person she is, and so the biggest irony of
all is that part of attracting a woman is the
very ACTION of NOT trying to get her
so fast, and rather to focus on finding out
if she IS even a good woman or not.

THAT is actually part of what attracts a
woman to a guy- the action of QUALIFYING
her!  But it has to be real, it can't be just
a game played to try to impress.

And if there are any doubts as to just how
much ABUSE is going on by women to men,
and how important it is to SCREEN a woman
and to make sure you are getting a GREAT
woman as opposed to an ABUSIVE woman,
just check out this article that is based on
legitimate psychological research and not on
sensationalism like the National Enquirer.

http://tinyurl.com/3tw2wze

And when you're done there, you'll
probably want to to know how to
get a GREAT girl, and to do that,
I suggest you get my Warrior Within
program IMMEDIATELY, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Why Women Aren't Attracted To 'INNOCENT' Guys - And What To About It

Getting past certain old beliefs is
one of the keys to attracting an
amazing woman, but for most men,
these beliefs are rooted so deep,
they NEVER get past them- and
never get the woman they want.

It took me many years (and many women
that slipped through my fingers!) to realize
just how FREAKY POWERFUL you can
become if you can just get PAST these old
beliefs about what is "good" behavior to a
woman and what is "bad".

Allow me to share with you a recent email
that will show you exactly what I mean:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Hi Michael Marks,

I don’t know what the hell I’m doing wrong
but it seems that when I’m out and about,
I make eye contact with a female and I’m
not looking too hard, just an innocent look,
and for some reason they shoot a “OMG why
the hell is he looking at me?”,or the “What
the hell you looking at?” look!

I know I’m not an ugly guy so what am I
doing wrong and what books or CD's you
have that deal with this subject matter?

>>>MY REPLY<<<

First of all, thanks for sharing your story
and being so up front.

Guess what?

You keep thinking, like most men, that
this should not happen because you
are giving a look that is so “INNOCENT”.

However, the REASON this is happening
is actually BECAUSE your look was so
“innocent”.

“Say WHAT Michael??????”

Stay with me here, and let’s look at all
this from the perspective of a woman
who is attractive, and has a lot of choice,
and ALSO has high standards in terms
of personality:

Every single time she steps out into the
public eye, ANYWHERE, guys are giving
her “innocent” looks.

The thing is, these looks, although quite
normal and an instinctive reaction from
most guys, are not exactly as “innocent”
as they seem.

For one thing, 99% of these “innocent”
looks would all like to do some very
naughty things with her.

And that’s still all fine and good, except,
INNOCENT is not NAUGHTY.

And so, it’s kind of being DISHONEST!

So WHY is it that 99% of men are
being this way that is less than honest?

It's because of FEAR that it’s “inappropriate”
to be so honest.

It's because of FEAR that if she knows that
we are thinking NAUGHTY thoughts, then
she’s gonna get upset or something and
we’re going to lose her approval.

On a subconscious level, she can SENSE
all this.

And this is all a massive DESTROYER of
attraction.

Instead of being a turn ON, it’s a turn OFF.

Again, this is where guys get confused about
why some JERKS do well with women.

It’s not the JERKINESS part of him, it’s the
CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM AND ZERO
GUILT IN HIS OWN SEXUALITY AND IN
BRINGING OUT HER SEXUALITY.

There is no reason on earth why any GOOD
guy cannot or should not do this.

And in fact, the good guys who know this,
are the guys who get the BEST women,
because they are giving the ultimate
combination that ignites ATTRACTION
in a woman.

Try it as an experiment to prove what
I’m saying:

Try going out and getting RID of the
INNOCENT look when checking out
and approaching a woman, vs. the
“innocent” look.

You can still have a warm smile and not
look so antiseptic, so innocent, so sterile
of masculinity. Or you can even not smile
at all.

You can look “NOT SO INNOCENT” because
in fact, you really want to be a little more
NAUGHTY, right?

It’s was pretty mind-blowing for me to first
discover all this, but from a “certain point of
view”, to quote Obi Wan Kenobi, this is
actually more TRUE, more HONEST, more
SEXUAL, more MASCULINE, and more
ATTRACTIVE, and it also shows more
INTEGRITY!

And it’s a billion times more of a TURN-ON
for her!

It’s really a form of FEAR that makes us
act all “squeaky anti-septic clean” around
women, mixed with a brainwashing that
tells us it’s “polite” to be this non-sexual
man.

And of course, FEAR is not attractive to
a woman, and not believing you have the
VALUE is also not attractive either, and
acting non-sexual is also BORING.

And what really makes my blood boil is
when virtually the ONLY GUYS that get
this and understand it intuitively and
apply it and get any results are the
JERKS!

If only the GOOD GUYS would understand
this and apply it, good guys would RULE.

This is why in real life there are so few
JAMES BONDS and so many STIFFLERS!

(If you remember the guy from the movie
"American Pie" who just wants to get into
women’s pants using ANY means, his name
was "Stiffler.")

Stiffler has ZERO GUILT about ANYTHING
he does to get into women’s pants, even
if he DOES have to lie, but BOND is so
EXPLODING with confidence and self-esteem
that he EXPECTS women to want to be with
the REAL him no matter what.

This is why the Stiffler’s of the world at least
get some SHORT-TERM results, but of course
they never get to KEEP a woman attracted.

It’s the BOND combination of DEPTH, WARMTH,
AND THROUGH-THE-ROOF CONFIDENCE,
that keeps a woman craving a man LONG TERM.

Now obviously, I am only interested in women
who are single, so James Bond isn't the perfect
example, but his BEHAVIORS in terms of
confidence and intelligence as demonstrated
in the tonality and body language by Daniel Craig
here are extremely useful for learning purposes.

You'll find this in the clip included below, where with
just one LOOK, and just a FEW words, in the right
tonality, he is communicating the following:

1. That he is totally comfortable with being sexual.
2. That he is also being classy, and rather than try to put her
down, he goes right with it, giving her a compliment that
she can't help but take the right way.

Also, notice how by saying LESS, he also conveys
MORE power, and it's clear he isn't "trying hard".

This is his "INNER WARRIOR" manifesting itself
naturally in his EXTERNAL expression, tonality,
and behavior.

This drives a woman into OVERHEATING,
often to the point of temporarily LEAVING
because she feels so attracted that she is scared
of her own emotions since they are more intense
than she has ever felt for any other man before. 

Of course, these emotions are ADDICTIVE,
and after temporarily leaving to "catch her breath",
a woman will quickly return with even MORE
desire and passion.

Finally, in the clip, also notice how his intelligence gives
him the insight to understand her on a deeper level
than most men would ever achieve, and how he
doesn't get fazed by her initial defensiveness:



This type of power of PERCEPTION to really
be able to "read" a woman, to know her inside
out from even the most subtle things she is saying,
is a SKILL. 

This skill is really a combination of two skills:

1. The ability to extract far more meaning
from what a woman is saying than 99%
of what most men are able to get from
listening to her.

2. It's also about the ability to understand
what her words, no matter what they are,
actually imply about HERSELF - which
is another skill that most men will NEVER
aquire.

Now, there’s yet ANOTHER level to all this:

When you act or look all “innocent”, you
are actually making a woman feel LESS
feminine.

This is because since you are acting so
“innocent”, she knows the only way this
could ever lead to the sexual is through
HER having to make it all happen, and
that is simply NOT the role that 99% of
women prefer.

She wants YOU to be THE MAN, and HER
to be THE WOMAN.

In her mind, a desirable woman does not
have to plead with a man to act masculine,
and does not have to tell him to have
confidence, and does not have to help him
to approach her, and to create sexual vibes,
and to have to make up for the lack of his
comfort with being sexual by HER being
overtly sexual, unless SHE feels she is a
tramp or desperate for attention!

By being THE MAN, and a little less “innocent”
(and you know that this is really not a
bad thing, as I explained above) you allow
her to fall into the role of being “the woman”
and you into the role of being “the man”
who just “made it all happen” so she feels
it wasn’t like she was this desperate tramp.

Women are still socially programmed to
feel awkward about being the ones to
LEAD the show when it comes to the
whole sexual thing.

By you behaving more as THE MAN, she
can be more of THE WOMAN.

And there’s yet ANOTHER level to all this:

When a guy checks her out looking “all
innocent”, it’s telling her that he feels he
isn’t good enough, because if he KNEW
HE WAS THE “REAL DEAL”, then he wouldn’t
need to cover his tracks, cover up his desire
to flirt, cover up his masculinity, etc.

So why on earth would a woman want
to get involved with a man who HIMSELF
thinks he’s not good enough? How is
SHE supposed to feel about him if
HE doesn’t feel he has value himself?

Notice how so much of this problem is
INTERNAL, it’s all part of the “inner game”.

In fact, even things like wearing COOL
CLOTHING and accessories, the reasons
they can help your success with women
are more to do with the MESSAGES being
sent to your mind and to hers about how
YOU PERCEIVE YOURSELF than to do with
the clothing actually having such a great
“look”.

For example, you might even be in
a store that has COOL clothing, but
you figure it’s not for you, because
you aren’t COOL ENOUGH to wear
that kind of clothing.

This, by the way, is one way that SEPARATES
different groups in society- the people who
feel COOL about themselves and the people
who DON’T.

And the irony is that it’s this self-fulfilling
prophecy, because if you haven’t ever been
wearing cool stuff, you start to feel that you
are not ALLOWED to, as if you simply don’t
have the RIGHT to be a cool guy.

So it’s not only the way it makes you LOOK,
it’s the MESSAGE you are giving off to yourself
and to women that says whether you do NOT
or whether you DO HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE
DESIRABLE.

When you give yourself PERMISSION
to be THE MAN, the world of women
opens up at your feet.

Until then, the doors remain SHUT.

Try it- try going to the mall, to the
coolest clothing stores, and notice
how it even FEELS when you try on
clothing and accessories that are
“cooler” than you think is really
“you”.

Your mind will say “this is not my thing.”

That is your MIND playing games on you.

WEAR it long enough, and you start to
think DIFFERENTLY of yourself
INTERNALLY.

It’s not so much the clothes, it’s what the
clothes did to your MIND.

Ultimately, it’s all in the power of your MIND,
from being able to understand women's behavior
on the deepest level, to exuding infinite charisma,
these are the skills WITHIN.

It's your INTERNAL world that is calling the shots
 in the OUTER WORLD as well.

The VIBES that you are feeling inside of
yourself are actually being sent out in
your expressions, your voice tonality,
and in every subtlety of your mannerisms,
and because emotions and vibes are CATCHY,
she will feel the SAME emotions that YOU
feel, IF YOU feel them strong enough yourself.

If YOU throw her these vibes that are sexual
and playful and fun, these same emotions come
BACK to you from her, just like a BOOMERANG.

SHE WILL FALL INTO the SAME emotional frame
as well, if you do this right.

However, if you feel nervous and unsure,
she will then feel THAT way, and she
will quickly become nervous and just
want to get away as quick as she can.

What you want to do is give off the right vibes
of flirtatiousness, sexuality, masculinity,
and genuine connection. And if you would like
to learn the best way to do this so that women
MELT for you, I suggest you download my program,
"The Boomerang Effect", immediately.

This program works on women on a very PRIMAL
and sexual level that they can't control, and it works
in a way that women FANTASIZE about, because
it is so rare for women to meet men who can have
this intoxicating effect on them.

This important program is at:

How To Sexually Vibe And Attract Women To Turn Them From Strangers Into Girlfriends

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Being A "Nice Guy" Is Mean To Women

Being a nice guy is mean to women.
This all has to do with where this
"nice" is coming from in the first place.

It comes from this fact:
Most guys are nice to beautiful women because
subconsciously guys think that being "nice" might
make up for what guys THINK is their own massive
LACK of value.

Most men can't believe that they can attract
a gorgeous woman, never mind a woman who
is gorgeous and also a good person as well. 

The reason guys don't believe it is because
they are so obsessed with a woman's looks,
which ironically BLOCKS them from actually
getting a woman with those looks. This is
because the obsession with her looks
causes the following problems that
destroy attraction:

1. It makes him NEEDY, because he feels
she is "above" him as he falls for the "halo-effect"
(The halo effect is when people somehow feel
that people who are attractive or powerful
or "distinguished" must somehow also be
"better" people just because they SEEM
that way from their accomplishments or
their looks.)

No woman wants to be with someone who
is of LESSER value, and yet the halo effect
makes men believe they are of lesser value
than the woman!  It comes across in a guy's
tonality, his expressions, his behaviors with her.

So in effect, he is telling a woman that she
should be with a LOW VALUE guy, and
that's kind of MEAN when you think about
it. Imagine someone told you that you should
get something that is really NOT worth it,
but always smiled around you as a form of
compensation- you might even HATE the
smiling, as you looked at it as a form of
trickery!

2. The neediness also DRAINS his sense of fun
and his sense of sexuality, so that his approach
and conversation with her ends up coming
across as very ANTI-SEPTIC, very boring,
and in fact the whole vibe is a DOWNER.

3. Of course, this results in a lot of "rejection"
which then makes a guy feel CONVINCED
that in fact he IS somehow "cursed" with
women, and that he doesn't have a chance,
which further erodes his charisma, confidence,
sexuality, his sense of fun and vitality.

4. On a subconscious level, 99% of women
are attracted to a subtle DOMINANCE
from men. This has nothing to do with
mistreating women, in fact, in order to
truly be dominant with a woman, a man
must also earn TRUST from a woman
so that she can feel safe by totally
submitting to him sexually.

However, you can see how IMPOSSIBLE
it would be to give off the vibes of dominance
when feeling inferior and feeling submissive
to a woman.

So you see, attracting women has nothing to
do with being a JERK, it has to do with destroying
NEEDINESS, it has to do with letting your natural
male dominance exude through your pores and
every subtlety of your behavior, it has to do with
unleashing the REPRESSED yet   COOL part
of your IDENTITY!

Yet, because most guys are way too submissive
with women, guys start to think the answer is
to become a JERK, because in their view,
being "submissive" was nice, and not being
submissive is being a jerk---all this only
feels this way when you are under the
influence of INSECURITY.

Insecurity is the great destroyer of your results
with women.

Recently, I received an email from a reader
of my Dating Wizard eBook that shows just
how important these skills are in the greater
perspective of things. This email was not even
meant for the newsletter. However, I believed that
it was so important for other guys to read this,
that I requested permission to reprint it here,
and he agreed that indeed this would be
important for guys to see and encouraged
me to print it:

***LETTER FROM A READER OF THE BOOK***

Michael, I just had to write to you and share
with you my thoughts on your “Dating Wizard”
book.

Potential buyers need to know; “This stuff works”.
Ok, let me start with a little Bio. I will be 34 in
October. God has blessed me with decent looks
and the ability to put my body into good shape.
In my early years I have portrayed myself as
“The Man” without even knowing it.

Here is the kicker though: The women I did this
with were mostly more like “Mopeds” (you know,
mopeds are fun to ride but don’t let your friends
see you on them) and EVERY time I met a girl
who was HOT, I was like the pathetic man you talk
about in your book (NOT the man). I always wanted
to be the nice guy, much like you explain “why don’t
nice guys finish first”.

I remember losing a chick who was the HOTTEST
thing to a 19 year old when I was 23 and making
all sorts of money! I had a house, a corvette,
money and no matter what I did, she kept going
back to this “Thug” that treated her like sh**.

Hell, I could not even get her in bed, yet she would
go over to this guy’s house and f*** his brains out.

How do I know, cause he was my best friend’s
little brother, so him and I were friends while all
this was going on. I never, let me repeat, never,
understood what happened all these years until I
read your book!!!!! It has been an eye opening
experience for me.

Now I know to treat ALL women just like I treated
the FAT ones and OH MY GOD is it working!
EVERYTHING you talk about in your book is
happening EXACTLY the way you said it would,
down to the very instance!

Let me give you a bit more history; I am in the middle
of a divorce, all because I was trying to be the NICE
GUY, you know; what women say they want out loud.

Dude, even when I met her it was the same. When we
met, I went to her house, made her dinner, and just all
around KISSED HER ASS! It got me no place! Except
used to watch her dogs while she drove all the way
from Dallas to Oklahoma to f*** some guy.

Well I am only nice for so long, then I was like “F*** her”
and cut her off from my life, well within weeks she was
calling “what happened to you”, I blew her off, she kept
calling.

Finally, within a couple months to make a long story
short, we moved into a house as roommates only.
I ignored her even still, this drove her nuts.

She would come in to my bathroom while I
would take a bath and plop down and talk to me
while I bathe. I just did my thing and ignored her
still. Getting out of the tub, “hand me that towel”
in all my glory… I did not give a sh**, and acted
like it. Finally I got my nipples pierced, I was in the
tub, she came in as usual, when I got out, I laid on
the bed, facing the ceiling, she started to look
at my nipples and then touched them, I told her
word for word, “touch them again and you will
get fu**ed”.

Well you can imagine what happened from there…

Ok, the ass kissing did not startup again for a while,
but it started back up again as I thought this was how
to be a “Good husband”.

Let me tell you, was I wrong!

It got me right back into the same position! Needless to
say, I caught her in her third affair, and now in the
middle of seeking custody of my 4 year old. It is all
good though Michael, it has taught me a HUGE lesson.

Along with your book, it has opened my eyes more than
I can tell you man!!!!!!!!!!! I am now back to always
being the MAN.

I met a HOT chi*k the other day, we went out for the
first time last night and all I did was practice being
THE MAN. I have been laughing ever since. This
woman is already SPRUNG on me. And this is after
talking a good game, she is just as vulnerable as any
other FEMALE I have ever met, FAT, or HOT.

She is melting in my hands like butter, I even got an email
from her today saying “You are so sexy” and I have
not done a damn thing.

Now I learned a long time ago the power of teasing
women about or with sex, or you can call it foreplay.
I have very good control in that area and I think that
does make you SEXY as hell to women.

I was so COOL last night, I gave her a hug and walked
away. She ran over to me and tried to kiss me, then I
just moved my head to the side and kissed her on the
cheek and then kissed her hand like Don Juan would do.
She is on me like WHITE ON RICE and I am laughing
all the way to the bank…… I can’t seem to get this
grin off my face 

Any way I just wanted to say thank you for opening my
eyes and other men really really really need to understand
this stuff and apply it to their life and they WILL NEVER
feel like the wussy man again. Thanks Michael!

John T.

Dallas, TX


****My Comments****

Thanks for the props on the book. And my respect
to you for truly having the powerful attitude that
converts past pain into PRESENT AND FUTURE
POWER and PLEASURE. I agree with you that
by learning some lessons the hard way, it truly
becomes a lesson never forgotten.

What's making women attracted to you here is
the fact that you are in reality giving women what
actually TURNS THEM ON.  It does not turn
a woman on to ASK her what turns her on,
it turns her on to KNOW what turns her on
and then GIVE THAT BEHAVIOR to her.

What makes your letter especially useful for readers
is the SPECIFIC DETAILS of things you did that
show the ATTRACTION MECHANICS in ACTION,
(Including the part of you not handing over to her
the "goods" so fast, making her CRAVE you even
more - which is actually what any guy who feels
they have HIGH WORTH would do, because
you don't give over great value to someone before
they EARN it.)

What is also valuable is the way you describe the
mistakes you made, because it lets other guys who
I’m sure have made the exact same mistakes
(we've all done the same mistakes) know that
they are NOT alone.

The level of detail you included rings very true.

You mention that you have been blessed with
decent looks and that you are in good shape.
IMPORTANT, this.

Too many guys think that learning these skills
is a sign of “weakness” or a sign in some other
way of not being a cool guy. In truth, it’s actually
the sign of SECURITY and strength and intelligence.

It means you are secure enough in yourself to realize
that knowing all this stuff about women has
NOTHING to do with who you are, nothing to do
with your “worth” as a person.

Being successful with girls simply has to do
with whether or not a guy was lucky enough
to have LEARNED how to do this stuff from
someone.

In our current brainwashed culture, the ONLY
way to know these skills is if someone shows
someone, either formally or informally if the
guy happened to have had friends who had these
skills. (And those friends had someone who showed
them, you can be sure.)

If you yourself are a logical guy, you would
THINK that having all these things like money,
looks, success, would be the MAIN thing
for being successful with women.
But although those things often DO work,
they WON'T work if a guy doesn't have
the "inner game" down.  And if a guy
DOES have rock-solid inner game,
then even if he DOESN'T have ANY
of those other things like looks, success,
fame, money, etc, he can STILL have
MASSIVE success with women.

In fact, if you have STRONG LOGIC
in all OTHER AREAS of life, then chances
are that same logic becomes a WEAK point
when dealing with women, unless you’ve
learned the skills of attraction.

This is because attraction is an emotion,
and in order to create this emotion, you
have to learn to STOP thinking in STANDARD
LOGICAL ways, and get used to a whole
NEW type of logic that is VERY DIFFERENT
than what you would EXPECT.

Emotions are not always rational, (although on
a deeper level, most emotions DO have logical
roots based on survival) so what triggers emotions
is not the standard rational thinking.

Rational thinking is good for programming a robot,
not for igniting attraction in a woman.

REGULAR LOGIC WILL DESTROY
ANY HOPES IN HELL OF CREATING
ATTRACTION WITH A WOMAN.

You can have a BILLION reasons why a woman
should be with you, but if you haven't triggered
ATTRACTION, it's all pointless.
However, the logical guys ultimately get the
sweetest rewards, as logic leads them eventually
to the conclusion that they need to adopt a
strategy that WORKS. And what better
way to find what works than by learning
from someone who is proving it for clients
in real life in front of their faces.

You mention you had a house, a corvette, and money,
all at only 23. And who did this woman keep going
back to? This “Thug” that treated her like sh**.

I hope every guy is reading this twice.

Now, I personally don’t go so far as to ABUSE
any woman ever, (not even the ones who are
very abusive, I would suggest just LEAVING any
abusive woman and save your energy for positive
things) but the principle of maintaining the superior
edge and never kissing up is ETERNAL.

For all we know, this “thug” guy in reality was
not a thug at all and had Spiderman Underoos and
wet his jammies every night but gave HER her the
emotional rollercoaster of ups and downs and kept
her excited and not knowing what was going to
happen next.   It's possible he is just a great actor,
but most likely he wasn't acting when it came
to one thing- his self-concept regarding his
INTRINSIC VALUE to a woman.

The behaviors that FLOW from this sense of value
are a whole OCEAN of behaviors in a man that
end up making women CRAVE that man in a sexual sense.

You mentioned “EVERYTHING you talk about in
your book is happening EXACTLY the way you
said it would, down to the very instance!”

The reason for this is that the sequencing of
behaviours that flow from attraction as well
as from LOSS of attraction are VERY predictable,
and it took me YEARS to see EXACTLY the
pattern. I appreciate you confirming this, and
I’m willing to bet thousands of guys were nodding
their head as they read your email, as if to say
“damn, that’s EXACTLY what happened to me”.

It’s as if all women follow the exact same script,
and the exact same sequence of behaviours.

The next point in your letter that really got me:
“middle of a divorce, all because I was trying to
be the NICE GUY, you know; what women say
they want out loud.”

Exactly, out loud that is what they say.
But actions speak louder than words.

Props to you for pointing this out to everyone from
a real life hard core example.

Man, it hurt to read the part “It got me no place!
Except used to watch her dogs while she drove
all the way from Dallas to Oklahoma to f***
some guy.”

But you know what? I wonder how many
guys are so COMPLETELY FOOLED BY
WOMEN that they don’t even have a CLUE
what is going on and probably NEVER WILL.

So at least you knew what was going on.
You weren't clueless.

A lot of guys that think everything is actually going FINE.
THAT IS REALLLY SCARY.

Now, I’m not trying to get guys to panic.
And HONESTLY, not all women are horrible,
in fact, this is why I wrote my other book,
Get A Great Girl, which is all about those
fantastic women and what to do to get
a great woman like that, and to keep her.

The 'Get A Great Girl' book builds on the
foundation set in The Dating Wizard book.

It’s crucial to know the full picture, and understand
the psychological HARDWIRING of attraction,
because with a great woman, you still must trigger
that carnal level of lust in her for you, while ALSO
having the deep level of trust and intimacy that
cements your connection with her on a
level which no other guy can ever compete.

It’s also well worth it to have the skills so you can
detect IMMEDIATELY if a woman is playing you,
and that way you can dump her pronto. (And not
take her back, EVER.)

Also, the same skills will enable you to better
tell if a woman is TRULY a good woman,
who if you are THE MAN, will respect you
without INCESSANT testing all the time.

Now, although I’m not sure why you were still
together with her at all after this point, still
there was a very enlightening point that came
up with her later in your email:

“Well I am only nice for so long, then I was like
“F*** her” and cut her off from my life, well within
weeks she was calling “what happened to you”, I
blew her off, she kept calling.”

THIS KIND OF THING HAPPENS ALL THE TIME.
The results are IMMEDIATE.

You use the words "blew her off", but in reality, you
were not being mean at all, because this is a woman
who NEEDED that in order to correct the PREVIOUS
picture of yourself that you had drawn for her.

In fact, this kind of thing used to get me even
ANGRIER because it "proved" that indeed these
women DID KNOW how to behave, they just
didn’t WANT to, they weren’t attracted to the
good guy.  Now I realize that there's nothing
"good" about conveying LOW VALUE
about yourself, and none of us would do it
if we felt HIGH VALUE and if we didn't
fall for things like the halo effect.

Ignoring her while you bathed?
LOL.
Classic.

Then, you did something very SPECIFIC when she
she started touching you. You LAID DOWN
THE LAW with a woman who doesn’t understand
any other way.

You didn’t give big speeches, you didn’t act all happy
she was touching you, you didn’t VALIDATE HER
just because she was INTERESTED or even
TOUCHING you. You didn’t MELT DOWN.

You TOOK CONTROL OF THE SITUATION LIKE
A MAN, when you told her, “touch them again and you
will get fu**ed”.

Now, normally, this kind of statement with a NEW
woman would make her feel uncomfortable or make
her feel like a slut, but in this case, she was anything
but a stranger, so this had nothing to do with her being
easy, she knew that responding to you positively after
your statement would NOT brand her a slut, it would
simply be her ACKNOWLEDGING that you are
THE MAN who is usually calm but takes no bullshit.

And she KNEW internally that she needed to
be put in her place, and it TURNED HER ON
that you did exactly that instead of act all
happy about her touching you.

BRAVO.

But then, alas, as you already mentioned, you
eventually melted:

“Ok, the ass kissing did not startup again for a while,
but it started back up again as I thought this was how
to be a “Good husband”.

Let me tell you was I wrong!”

Yeah, I can feel you there.
The inner desire to sometimes go back to the ideas
implanted by some cartoons, movies, songs, shows,
in our childhood and even adulthood is strong.

I’ve never been married but I have been in several
long term relationships and all my ideas about
romance have been tempered by two concepts:

1:DO WHAT WORKS.
2:Never do anything out of a need for validation.

Women have made the message loud and clear:
“NICE” GUYS (LOW VALUE) WILL NOT BE REWARDED.

In fact, they will be punished.
And as crazy mean as that sounds, it actually
makes SENSE from an evolutionary survival
point of view, (a low value guy might have low
value children) and ALSO it’s very LIBERATING,
as it means you GET TO ENJOY BEING
THE MAN YOU WERE BORN TO BE
INSTEAD OF SUPPRESSING THAT
INSTINCT THAT IS STILL BURNING
DEEP INSIDE OF YOU!

And remember, you CAN still be very good
to a woman, you can treat her GREAT,
but this MUST come from a place of
MASSIVE CONFIDENCE, and never
from neediness or weakness or insecurity.

The difference is MASSIVE, as when you
are coming from an internal place of strength
and empowerment mixed with warmth, there
are INFINITE subtle nuances that are different
in your tonality, your expression, and your behaviors
compared to when the behaviors are the result
of INSECURITY.

A few litmus tests of whether it's coming from weakness
or strength is asking yourself these four questions:

1 ."What has this woman done for YOU?"
   (In other words, has she EARNED your approval?)

2. "Would you do this nice thing for her if she
DIDN'T look that hot?"

3. "How much of your self-confidence depends
on what SHE says to you, i.e. on her validation
of you?"

4. When you talk to her, does your voice
pitch RISE? If it does a lot, then you are
probably feeling SHE has higher value
than you.

As you become “The Man”, you start
to realize that a lot of that nice guy stuff that
we wanted to do in the past was simply the result
of us being brainwashed to need validation.

Once you realize you don’t need to get it,
you realize you don’t need to give it, it’s
something that just happens naturally when
you really like someone for who they are,
and not just for the validation they can give
you.

That doesn’t mean you can’t be a GOOD guy,
and show a woman affection and have good
times with her. A woman DOES want a good
guy, she wants a good guy who is coming from
an internal place of LIKING her, NOT from an 
internal place of NEEDING her.

Success is about being a good guy and ALSO
realizing that all bets are OFF when it comes to
doing things for a woman “just because” she is
a woman.

Those days are OVER.

It also means that you have to OVER-RIDE
her verbal or non-verbal requests for you to
be a wuss.

You must override those requests and be a
man anyway, regardless of her protests.

I believe that great relationships and marriages
are very possible, it’s just crucial that guys
make sure that they are THE MAN at all
times. If a guy can’t handle that, then better
NOT to get into a relationship or get married
or even do pick up. Basically, be THE MAN
or find a sealed off island away from women
and away from everyone actually.

Good to see you have the game in your hands now,
and enjoying life. (I do want to make one point
though regarding the “mopeds” analogy, which
was pretty funny, and I know you were mostly
joking, but seriously though, for anyone out there
who may really be in a situation like that, if YOU
are attracted to a woman, and you like her, then who
cares what anyone ELSE thinks? You are your own
man, so if you are attracted to a woman and she’s
good to you, that’s all that matters. This all gets
back to not needing external validation.

If I like a woman, I don't care what ANYONE thinks
of her, especially not the brainwashed masses!)

And yes, it is interesting how some women “talk a
good game”, yet they are NO DIFFERENT than
any other women. In fact, a woman who is “talking
a good game” is usually just giving another sh*t test
before she allows herself to go wild for you. (This is
a critical topic that as you know is explained in
the book.)

Awesome stuff with giving the new woman a hug
and walking away, and then when she ran over to
you, and tried to kiss you, you moving your head
to the side and kissing her on the cheek and hand
like Don Juan. A lot of guys probably don’t get
what you did here, and might misinterpret this as
weak.

However, I know what you did here was
done with total DON JUAN CONGRUENCE of
smooth control. It was ALREADY made
TOTALLY CLEAR by her that she was INTO you,
so obviously there was no emotional risk on your
part if you kissed her full on. So, by NOT GOING
FOR THE EASY CHOICE, you did not come across
as weak, you came across as EVEN STRONGER.

Props, man!

Personally, I think I would have taken it further
at that moment unless I was experimenting, and I
think you could have done the same without harming
your future chances with this woman, but I see the
angle you went for here, and it’s cool as well.

And now, let me close this newsletter with your
words:

“Other men really really really need to understand
this stuff and apply it to their life and they
WILL NEVER feel like the wussy man again.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself.
And if you would like to make the JUMP to a whole
new level of success with women, then it’s time to
take action NOW. Don’t wait for your friends or
peers to help you on this, because the chances are
they don’t know how, and they would probably be
jealous of you if you did get success in this area,
so they won’t encourage you in this either.

It’s ALL UP TO YOU to take ACTION.
No one else gives a damn.

I suggest you get yourself a copy of my
Actions For Attraction CD Set,
which will arm you with the most
IMMEDIATELY-applicable strategies
for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE you see them.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/ActionsForAttraction.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook,
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women,
do that IMMEDIATELY.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Ultimately, almost every man wants to get and keep a
fantastic woman for a great relationship, and the best
way to go about that is to download my book,
‘Get A Great Girl’.  This book will show you
TONS of crucial insights for getting the woman
of your dreams, and it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

For today, for tomorrow, and for always,
be THE MAN.

Michael Marks

P.S. To see ALL my programs for getting
a great woman, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html