Abundance And Attracting A Knock-Out

Have you ever wondered why so many
women who are stunning and absolute
“knockouts” are with guys that don’t
seem “nice” to women?

It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.

And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.

It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING HER a lot more
than most guys.

In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.

So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?

It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.

And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!

You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!

What do I mean by “abundance?”

What I mean is this:

YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL

This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.

And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?

All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.

It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.

And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.

Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!

It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.

To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.

So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:

“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”

This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:

“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.

The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman, that’s not the problem,
it’s that this NICE BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.

Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.

There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem, there is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.

Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at ‘full tank’. 

And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’.  In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up. 

He just has a desire to PLAY.

When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman. 

Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.

And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:

It's CLEAR to a woman that it's
coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place
of needing to control her or
take from her. 

THAT'S why she melts for such
a man.

Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.

And she's not "scared into submission"
by the malicious teasing or "hard to get"
obnoxious games/behavior of many men.

She's WAY too confident to be fooled
by that kind of behavior, and she
doesn't see the obnoxious behavior
as a sign of value or of guts, but
rather as a sign of over-compensation
and insecurity. 

What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.

The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.

On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”

In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.

This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.

Let me give you an example:

If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!

That means when you see a woman that
strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I make sure that I WIN?”
but rather “LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”

By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting physical and intimate with
a woman.  ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED
AS PART OF THE PROCESS AND FUN.

This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not so focused
on how to make sure you don't 'lose'.

Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.

These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful, feeling aroused,
feeling empowered, masculine,
and dominant.

Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and
playing games on women.

However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.

It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.

I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:

I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.

His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.

He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school, “Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?”

I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.

Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!

This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.

His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.

He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.

He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!

On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.

However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE and the fact that he was
ASLO a genuinely GOOD GUY, who actually
CARED about people.

THIS combo of 'abundance', mixed with being
genuinely caring, is a CRUCIAL KEY to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.

It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant, AND to be GENIUNELY
giving from an emotional place.

There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.

It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.

In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.

Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp. 
 
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:

Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.

Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!

It is true that women have “issues”
in some areas of their lives, such
as their perception of their own bodies.

And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN ARE SOMEHOW
LESS CONFIDENT.

Men tend to think that because of those
issues, that women have LESS confidence
than men, and this results in men being
NAMBY PAMBY AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.

Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.

They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.

Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!

You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED. 

You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be  EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.

I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.

But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.

When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you
don’t NEED her, and that you are only
interacting with her because you ENJOY
it. 

She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you
NEED her too much.

The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.

I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your “game” developed to
the MAX is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL for getting
the kind of women that most men will NEVER
have.  

And if you want to meet and attract a
FANTASTIC woman, and have more choice than
most men will EVER have in getting the
kind of woman YOU want, then I suggest you
go HERE immediately:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This program is ESPECIALLY for men who are looking
to find and keep a fantastic woman to be their
girlfriend for a long term relationship.

Now, if you're just getting 'back into the scene'
of dating, or if you are just STARTING out when it
comes to dating, then you should get experience
dating several DIFFERENT women BEFORE getting
into a long term relationship- and for the best
program on getting this experience with women,
I suggest you get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

This program is all about mastering ATTRACTION
so that you have CHOICE with women.

To find out about ALL my programs for skyrocketing
your success with women, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

Deep Insights Into Finding, Approaching, Attracting, And Keeping A Quality Woman

Alright, so there are a few important things
I need to tell you about getting quality women.

I’ve been really busy lately so this has
been on my mind and it’s cool to finally
be able to tell you.

The first thing is that, as you know,
"Get A Great Girl" is really about that,
how to get a GREAT woman, a woman
who is that total package of being
faithful, beautiful, fun to be around,
health conscious, and woman who
helps you be your best, even if it
means challenging you sometimes
so that you can BE your best because
she BELIEVES in you.

So one question a lot of guys want to
know is where to even MEET such
a woman. Well, here’s one example,
and that is at a Yoga class.  That doesn’t
mean that every woman at the Yoga
class is going to be that woman, but
there’s a lot higher chance of meeting
a woman that has an open mind, that
has a great personality, that is into
improving herself not only physically
but also appreciates the importance
of being in the right state of mind,
and a woman who is not only about
the material things in life, at a yoga
class than at a really smoky deafeningly
loud club.

At the same time, in my Warrior Within
program, you will learn how to QUICKLY
detect a woman’s personality through her
behaviors.  And when I say quickly, I mean
usually in just SECONDS, not days or weeks.

So you can easily be hopping on the bus,
sit next to a woman, strike up a chat with 
her and find out VERY quickly if she has
the characteristics you are looking for.

By the way, ONE of the keys to determining
a woman’s personality very quickly is through
realizing that people give away their picture
of the world and of their perception of what
is right and what is wrong ALL THE TIME.

They do this because this is how they genuinely
feel.  So a woman who enjoys manipulating
other people is often PROUD OF IT.

As long as you are careful not to make her
feel judged, she will reveal EVERYTHING
about herself to you.

So that’s another key: When meeting a
new woman, do NOT give away YOUR
values right away, this way she can feel
free to convey HER values.

This leads me to my next point:

I got into this whole field to help the good guys.
I saw how so many JERKS were successful
with women, and it took  me many years
to realize that it’s not that women are truly
attracted to jerky behavior, it’s that they
are attracted to confidence, to sexuality,
to men who don’t get brainwashed by
stupid social conventions that say
only “bad” people are sexual and only
“bad” people are flirty and only “bad”
people don’t follow all the stupid rules
of society such as being boring to make
sure you don’t offend anyone.

In FACT, the whole reason so many good
guys act boring when they chat up women
is BECAUSE they have been taught that
being GOOD means FITTING IN, and
the only way to ENSURE you fit IN
is by making sure to NOT SHAKE
THE BOAT, to NOT stand out, to
NOT offend anyone even by accident.

And so, this PLAYING IT SAFE
style of behavior ends up making
sure that most men do NOTHING.

The SAFEST way to NOT OFFEND
is to do NOTHING.  That way, you
for sure won’t offend anyone.

Meanwhile, the truth is that inside of
every good guy is an INFINITE fire
of creativity, of spark, of sexuality,
of so much awesome stuff that women
would love if they were just SHOWN
that instead of the “play it safe” stuff.

At the SAME TIME THOUGH, there
is something that GOOD GUYS tend
to do that is a HORRIBLE mistake,
and it truly is BECAUSE they are
so good.

The mistake is FALLING FOR A
MANIPULATIVE AND CRUEL
WOMAN and not even realizing
that she indeed is a terrible person.

The reason so many good guys don’t
realize it when they are with a horribly
behaved woman is because as human
beings, we tend to see OTHERS through
the same perspective which we see
OURSELVES.

So, if we treat others fairly, if we are good
to others, if we have empathy, if we believe
in justice, then we tend to think that OTHERS
do as well.

And so it’s not the FIRST INSTINCT to
think that a woman can possibly be so
horrible.  Instead, we tend to think that
there must be SOMETHING ELSE wrong
with the picture.  i.e. Maybe you feel YOU
did something wrong.  Maybe you feel that
it is YOUR responsibility to “fix” the
situation with a woman.  Maybe you feel
“she must just be having a bad day”.

Of course, this is HORRIFYING MISTAKE
to make, because you now start to justify
all the bad behavior that a woman does to you.

And THEN, you start to backwards rationalize
all the EFFORT you are pouring into her.

You start to think, “Well, she MUST be worth
all this pain, or there is no way I would be
doing all this for her!”    

You start to think that this woman is MORE
special BECAUSE of the very fact you are
SUFFERING for her, when in reality you
are suffering BECAUSE of her.

Then, the next horrifying thing happens:
You start to FEAR the idea of LOSING her.

Oh man, this is the final disaster, because
then there is no LIMIT to the abuse you
will be willing to take. And of course,
since she is a terrible woman she indeed
WILL abuse you as far as she can take it.

And of course, all this suffering will be
backwards rationalized in your mind as
being MORE OF A REASON why she
must be so special, you will think that
the reason  you are taking all this pain
is because she is “so hot” or “so special”
or that “you will never find such a woman”
as if she is somehow a GOOD CATCH.

Your mind will come up with the weirdest
reasons, like finding ONE GOOD THING
about her and then exaggerating that thing
to somehow make her seem noble.

So, I want to make it clear here that
getting a “great girl” is not only about
what you say and do, it’s also about
being able to see how your OWN mind
is communicating with you and what it
is telling you about a woman, and being
able to know when your own mind is
actually making a MISTAKE.

So, as a good guy, it's important to understand 
that if a woman is constantly doing things that 
make you feel BAD, then you need to slap
yourself awake out of your trance and
determine if she is REALLY so special
to begin with, and if she’s not, then you
must rip the cord,  you must pull away,
you must wean yourself off of her no
matter how much you think you can’t
live without her, because she has become
an ADDICTION for you, she is a harmful
substance that you THINK you need to
survive.

Now, at the SAME TIME, I also am
not on some kind of RANT against
all women.  There are MANY good
women out there, and there are even
some GREAT ones out there, that’s
the whole reason I made “Get A Great
Girl”.

So, my next point is, that if you are in
general finding that you think ALL
women are nasty, or that all attractive
women are nasty, or that all attractive
women do not want to be approached,
then I suggest you consider RE-EXAMINING
the facts to see if it’s possible that you
are allowing your own emotions to
negatively filter the truth into something
much worse than it really is with women.

Because even the greatest woman on earth
can’t be expected to JUMP into the arms
of a man who is a total stranger who just
approached her, even if she DOES want
to meet the right man.

People aren’t so quick to trust ANYONE
anymore, and I don’t blame them.  All
you hear about in the news are scandals
about people you are supposed to trust
or people you used to look up to, including
even the NEWS organizations themselves.

Now, if you’re a woman, you ALSO have
to deal with the constant barrage on the
news about rapists, psychos and other
types like that, even if they don’t represent
the majority of the population, it’s a little
frightening to say the least.

And by the way, THIS is PART of why
giving  women COMPLIMENTS as a
way to “pick them up” does NOT work.

Not only does it seem like it’s too easy
for any guy to say that because so many
guys use the same approach of the compliment,
but it has almost come to be synonymous
with SELFISHNESS.

In fact, if you were an attractive woman,
and you got a COMPLIMENT from a
man, the TRUTH is, the FIRST thing
you would be thinking is, “OK, NOW
COMES THE PART WHERE HE
WANTS SOMETHING FROM ME.”

In other words, the compliment is not
a form of giving at all.

It is almost like Pavlov’s dogs where
a bell would ring, and THEN the dogs
would be given food. 

It got to the point that just THE BELL
would cause the dogs to SALIVATE.    

Well, with women, it’s the exact
OPPOSITE feeling when most men
give the compliment, because most
men will give the compliment and
immediately be showing the verbal
and non verbal signs of “I WANT TO
TAKE FROM YOU”.

I know this is hard to understand as being
a bad thing, because I myself as a man
used to fantasize about what it would
be like to have women “chase” and
give compliments and try to “get” me.

But it’s not exactly a great feeling when
every single time a guy starts a conversation
with a woman with something like, “Nice
day today, isn’t it”, she KNOWS it’s really leading
up to, “Can I go out with you?”. 

Women DO want to meet men.
They just need to feel NON-PRESSURED
and SAFE doing it.    

Now, the TRUTH also is, that body language
and tonality says the majority of your message.

Here’s an experiment for you:
Go up to a woman today and give her a
COMPLIMENT, but DO NOT EVEN
TRY TO TAKE THE CONVERSATION
ANYWHERE.

Do not try to get her number.
Do not try to GET anything.

In fact, do this at the most “creepy” time
and location you can think of.

Perhaps late at night in a store that is
not busy.

Go RIGHT UP TO A WOMAN and tell
her a stereotypical compliment. 

Don’t even worry about walking up to
her in some special way.  Just go right
up to her, and tell her she is beautiful.

You will notice two things usually:
She will be a BIT freaked out initially,
and then as she SEES you are totally
not trying to take anything or do anything,
she will actually SMILE and be a bit
speechless looking at you with wonder
and curiosity and INTEREST.

This ONLY works if your MINDSET
is FOCUSED on the fact you are NOT      
taking ANYTHING from her, and is
focused on the fact you are totally
just GIVING.

This is an important experiment to
PROVE to you that most women are
in fact NOT “beeeyotches” and if they
just had a chance to KNOW that you
are NOT going to be the guy who
pressures them into feeling they need
to do something right then and there
like becoming your girlfriend without
even knowing you, they would be
MUCH MORE OPEN to actually
in fact doing that very thing- becoming
your girlfriend!

And if you are reading this right now
and would like to know how to MEET,
how to ATTRACT, and how to KEEP
a fantastic quality girlfriend that is
the “total package” of inner and outer
beauty, I seriously suggest you get my
program “Warrior Within”.

This program goes DEEP. It’s not a
“Band-Aid” superficial solution. Rather,
it transforms you for real on the deepest
level to make you the kind of man that
the most fantastic women on earth can’t
help but fall in love with.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

7 Secrets To "Picking Up" Women

Approaching women seems tough, but
it doesn't have to be.  What I'm going to
do here is share the most important
7 SECRETS with you for approaching
women.  Screwing these up are the 7
most common causes for not attracting
a woman upon approaching her.

So, here are the 7 most common devastating
mistakes, as well as the RIGHT things to
do instead.

1. NOT GETTING INTO "JUICY"
CONVERSATION EARLY ENOUGH

So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be
polite.

You aren't seeing their eyes light up.

Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well.  She knows NOTHING
about you.

And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her. 

So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.

Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.

You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc. 

THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there.  You want to get
her FEELING damn good.  So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your
personality.

So, for example, giving the example of the
woman at the card store, you can go humorous
by telling her that she's just trying to butter
up her dad so he can buy her a Jaguar, or
you can go into the "intriguing" and genuinely
meaningful compliment that raises her self-esteem
by speaking about how girls who get along well
with their dads tend to be the girls who have less
drama issues- and this would PROMPT a
response from her that was a lot more involved
on her part- it wouldn't just be her trying to
get rid of you, since now she is actually engaged
in something meaningful to her.

Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style conversation.
COMBINING emotions is actually a VERY
powerful thing, - imagine if you get a woman
laughing, then feeling intrigued, and then feeling
better about herself, all within a span of just
a few MINUTES.

If you do that, you are going to be MEMORABLE. 

You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.

If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.

2. TOO MUCH PICK UP ARTIST
"PLAY HARD TO GET" BEHAVIOR

This is a huge one.  Most guys are trying
so hard to show they are not interested,
because they are told by the "dating gurus"
and pick up artists that this will make the
woman more interested- so the guys end
up standing way too far from the women,
and talking from too much of a distance,
and the guys try to also avoid ANY type
of comment that might sound like they
are interested. 

The truth is that although you shouldn't
give compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the things
that she really EARNED.

The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.

If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy. 

HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.

So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.

3. INSENSITIVITY TO THE EMOTIONAL
VIBE OF THE SITUATION 
 
This is something that is a MAJOR factor
in screwing up attraction. 

This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.
This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant  ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.

A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's words, then
you are often missing the point. 

Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do.  So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are,  instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.

If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE. 

Look for the bright side of  things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.  

A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember       
how she FELT during it.  So make it feel
GOOD. 

Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.
The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good.  You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are.  Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it    
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.

4. NOT PROGRESSING THE INTERACTION

An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.

Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected- however,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point? 

So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.

Which brings me to the motto:
"He who dares, wins."

So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.

5. NOT BEING FLIRTATIOUS

If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction. 

So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in  your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye. 

6. OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES

This is a HUGE one.  We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about.  So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it.  It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.

If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.

So, for example, let's say you are insecure
about how much money you earn.  Well,
if you very early in a conversation said
something like "superficial things are so
over-rated, I would never be caught working
for a big corporation".  If you're bald, if
you're short, if you're ANYTHING you
are insecure about- the reality is that it's
NOT an issue but if you START with,
"Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.

Same with, "Hi, I work for minimum wage,
but I LOVE my job", that also shows that
you are obsessed with the money issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.

Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all.  There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.

This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are renting
a car because your regular better car is at the
shop, don't say, "This is just a rental- I have
a better car", just DON'T BRING IT UP,
otherwise it comes across as you feeling
inferior worth compared to what you
feel her worth is.

And when YOU feel your worth is low,
that is the ultimate litmus test to a woman
of your worth.  YOU are the one who
has to know what you're worth.  If you
don't feel it, how can she?

7. REVEALING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO EARLY

Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.

So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds, "Man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or,
"I'm so tired,  I was up all night with
my agent on the phone closing a deal"
etc, etc.

It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" "AGENT" "closing
the deal", etc. 

Those are 7 SUPER IMPORTANT
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Secrets To "Picking Up" Women

If you're sick and tired of being CONFUSED
as to what the hell to DO to succeed at pick-up,
then you are in for a TREAT.

So let's get straight to it:

1. BE SUBDUED, IT AIN'T A SPRINT

The single greatest mistake that beginners make
is that they view a pick-up as a SPRINT.

What guys tend to do is work themselves into
a FRENZY in order to get the adrenaline to get
themselves to go up to the girl.

That feeling of seeing a girl and being FROZEN,
it's hard to get out the gates, it's as if it takes the
booster rockets of the space shuttle to launch out.

Then, after all that pressure they exert on themselves,
the tendency is to finally BLURT out something,
whether it's natural or something "canned"
(something memorized). They pray for a good
response, hoping that they have done their
own part of the pick-up, and that maybe
the woman will now carry the rest of
the interaction.

Well, what happens is that this frenetic
approach not only does not look cool,
(because it looks like the guy is not
comfortable with women) but it actually
makes the GIRL nervous as well, since
emotional states are CATCHY.

There's a LOT to know, but the FIRST thing
a woman is judging you on, INSTINCTIVELY,
is your DEMEANOR, the way you seem composed
and calm and cool and collect or the lack of
all this.

And even on THIS point, there are subtleties,
because you COULD enter into a conversation
with higher energy as well, IF the environment
is appropriate for that, like a club, and IF
you are having the high energy from your
own upbeat state as opposed to from being
jittery and nervous.

2. DON'T "EXIT STAGE LEFT"
Then, on top of all this, the guy is looking for
any excuse he can to EXIT the situation because
he feels like a MORON or a CRIMINAL or
UNWORTHY.

He doesn't want to be made fun of, so if the
woman is not doing CARTWHEELS, he
immediately JETS off.

Don't do this.

Sometimes, the woman is only matching
instinctively to the very states you exuded
onto her - i.e. frenzy, nerves, discomfort.

So, if you're not getting the best response,
and you feel NERVOUS, then rather than
EJECT, instead, SLOW DOWN your entire
system, your movements, your thoughts,
your breathing, etc. It WILL help you
calm down and help her calm down as
well.

This will also help you become more resourceful
in terms of being able to be more fun, witty,
secure, etc.

Slow it all d-o-w-n.

3. YOU HAVE TO BE FULLY PRESENT

The problem is that too many guys want to
have to not actually GET "DIRTY" by
getting DEEP INTO THE HEART OF
AN INTERACTION. They would prefer
to just do the whole thing by "remote control",
in the sense of doing this one magic thing
or saying something that then allows
the guy to coast and watch the woman
jump into his arms.

They want to avoid any emotional risk,
(even though most women are NOT
mean, so there really is not a problem
of some kind of bitter rejection or
anything) almost as if they are not really there,
instead some mask is there in the form
of a memorized line, or in the form of
some hyped "one magic move" that appeals
to the lazy tendency of human beings.

But to get good at this stuff, you have to
get into it, you have to be actually listening
and responding, and giving back good energies
to her energies, and not getting frazzled just
because it doesn't always start with a blast.

This takes practice, but it also develops
SPONTANEITY, it develops quick wit,
it develops your ability to respond with
natural stuff very quickly rather than
feeling stuck or at a loss for words. It
enables you to also get a better feel
for what she is EMOTIONALLY
SAYING and not just verbally
saying. All this stuff is HUGELY
important.

4. EYE CONTACT
Do I have to even say this?
Five years of teaching guys in person tells me
YES, I should still mention this.

I've seen guys memorize HOURS of canned
material but fail to actually make solid eye contact
for even 30 seconds, which is far more important.

This doesn't mean non-stop never-breaking eye contact.
It means that you are comfortable looking right into
her eyes. When you need to constantly be darting
around your eyes away from her, it makes her
feel you are either a sketchy character or lacking
self-esteem.

5. TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE SITUATION

Every situation is slightly different, and this is
where GAUGING the situation comes in, a topic I
go into further detail in my advanced materials.

So, for example, doing pick-up at a nightclub
where girls are with their girlfriends means
that the girls are most likely slightly tipsy
from a few drinks, concerned about how
they will appear in front of their friends,
and also concerned with making sure
their friends are having a good time,
and also they are all slightly on guard
against guys even though they do want
to meet guys or they probably wouldn't
be there in the first place.

So, taking this into account means:

You can be MORE playful and sexual because
this is not the workplace or the library. This
is the party zone.

You can make more light physical contact.

You need to not ignore her friends when starting
the conversation with them. You need to understand
that if one of the girls who is her friend is not all
that stereotypically hot, that friend probably
feels BAD that her friend gets all the attention.

So it's cool of you to show that friend some
respect, such as by giving that friend a compliment,
even though you also have to make sure that you
are not trying to lead her on either.

The conversation should start with anything
not too serious, such as who would win in
a fight, Mighty Mouse or Wonder Woman,
whereas in a library you could start a convo
with something that is a lot more intriguing,
such as if you bump into her in the ancient
history section, you could ask her if she
has ever been to Egypt to see the pyramids,
and then get into that if that is a topic you
really know about and are interested in, etc.

There are TONS of other factors to take into
account - is this woman in university? Is
she in her 30s? 40s? 50's, etc? Is she
a party girl? Gauging for all this properly
falls under the topic of social intelligence,
which is another important topic.

6. COMPLIMENTS HAVE TO COME
FROM A PLACE OF GIVING
Too many guys go into these pick-ups after
hearing how to be all alpha and how to be the
boss, in a very confrontational way.

There is this feeling of it's "me against her",
and she has to see who's the boss.

This is LUDICROUS.
You want to be making her feel GOOD.

The reason that most compliments don't work
is that the guy seems to have nothing ELSE
fun, interesting, upbeat, or playful to say.

So a compliment can't be a substitute for
not demonstrating the best aspects of
PERSONALITY.

Also, regarding compliments, if a woman is
showing repeated INTEREST in you, then
of course you should make her feel good
about that.

However:

7. DON'T ACT AS IF IT'S SUCH A BIG
SURPRISE WHEN SHE LIKES YOU

Too many guys have a MELTDOWN
occur when the woman is showing
INTEREST or even just giving good
signals like giggling at your jokes, etc.

The guy becomes TOO AFFECTED by
the fact she is interested.

Now, it's not that you are supposed to
WITHHOLD good emotions from her,
and it's not that you are supposed to 
act cold, it's that if you seem to be
SMILING so intensely in response to
a woman you HARDLY KNOW just 
because she seems to like you, it's 
like acting SURPRISED  that you 
got the job after being interviewed.

If you were interviewing someone for
for a job, and you liked them for the job,
and you then hired them, and suddenly
they seemed to be MELTING DOWN
in thanks, in being ecstatic, you might
wonder if maybe this person had never
been accepted for a job before and you
might start to wonder if maybe you
made a mistake.

Again, LOVE IS A GOOD THING, it's just
that you should wait till she has SHOWN YOU
A REASON TO BE SO ECSTATIC.

So far, all she has done is shown
interest in you, you don't even
KNOW her that well yet.

So, again, by being more SUBDUED,
you are actually showing greater
MATURITY, and showing greater
value on your part as well than if
you were too impacted by the whole
thing.

This is part of where the whole
"be cool" thing came from, and
this idea of being cool has been
totally warped by most people.

8. FORGET THE INSULTS

Man-oh-man, every since day ONE I
was against the use of these "clever
subtle insults" such as, "Is that really
your hair or a wig?" or "What kind
of coat is THAT?" or any type of
rude behavior.

There are so many friggin reasons I was
against this that I can write a whole book
on that alone.

The bottom line is they IMPEDE your progress.
Sure, it might get you some immediate ATTENTION.

But, they send the wrong message to YOUR
mind about women, and they set up the
vibe between the woman and you in
a way that lacks trust, which means
the whole thing is a ticking time bomb.
Sometimes an IMMEDIATE explosion
occurs.

All that stuff comes from lacking the right
understanding of what triggers attraction
in the first place. If you need to use that stuff,
you are only showing what WEAK "game"
you have. I said this years ago even when
it was popular among "experts" to use these
insults. That's me, the rebel who preaches
love and not hate.

9. MINIMIZE CANNED MATERIAL

Man, this is a huge one. I believe that memorized
material should ONLY be used when you are
absolutely STUCK and frozen and have no
clue what to say. The more you rely on it
as a crutch, the weaker your real skills will be.

So yes, I will have a guy memorize some stuff,
but it's his EMERGENCY CHUTE that is
only to be used in an URGENT pick-up crisis,
and ONLY to be used SPARINGLY!

The need for canned material comes from
lacking internal development. From the
wrong thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives
of women and of attraction and emotion
itself, and of your own identity. In my
live programs, this is the FIRST area
I work through with a guy. I find out
what he currently believes and thinks,
and I find out exactly where he is going
off track and then I put on the RIGHT
track.

Again, I said this way back, even years ago
before it became universally accepted as the
truth, which it now is proven to be- the truth.

The typical mistake that a rookie does, it he
learns memorized material, and then starts to
RAPID FIRE all the things he has memorized to say.

Why does he do this?

He does this because he is relying on the words,
and not on his actual skill to enter the specific
combination of states of mind that he needs,
and he is also ignoring the larger context of
the situation, meaning he is not LISTENING
to the woman!
He is too busy trying to get his words out-
and because this all comes out WEIRD to
the woman, she does not give him a
FAVORABLE response-- which makes the
guy feel like he is SINKING, so he
then OF COURSE begins to spurt out
his NEXT memorized line, hoping to
Dear God that maybe THIS will get
a better response, which of course
it doesn't because his entire FRAME
of how attraction works is all wrong.

And of course since all his memorized stuff
isn't working, he then commits two cardinal
pick-up sins by ALSO speaking too fast
since he is nervous, so he now sounds like
a guy literally reading a script, and reading
it FAST. Like a desperate salesman trying
to get something to stick.

At that point, he's totally not listening to her
at all, when listening is what he really needs
to do to get his finger on the pulse of the
moment. He's just ready to fire away
with another memorized line.

And it's not his fault!!!
He has been INSTRUCTED to do this!

10. IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING "DIRECT" EITHER

And by the way, just because memorizing
a script is not the way to attraction, does
NOT mean that the answer is to just
go right up to a woman and say "I like you!".

When you go up to a woman and you go
that fast and that direct, you are FORCING
a woman to make a decision about you on
the SPOT, without having ANY time to
really "feel" your personality, so in that
case you are forcing her to judge you on
superficial things, since that is all she
knows about you.

It's worse actually, she DOES know that
apparently YOU don't need to know much
about HER, and that says a LOT about
you and your personality and your
values and your priorities in life and
your lack of internal development.

So forget that "direct" stuff as well, it's
actually not cool.

You have to instead develop the skills to
create awesome emotions in yourself
and in her, AND you have to learn how to
create that all-important CONNECTION.

And that's where I come in.

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Michael Marks