7 Secrets To "Picking Up" Women

Approaching women seems tough, but
it doesn't have to be.  What I'm going to
do here is share the most important
7 SECRETS with you for approaching
women.  Screwing these up are the 7
most common causes for not attracting
a woman upon approaching her.

So, here are the 7 most common devastating
mistakes, as well as the RIGHT things to
do instead.

1. NOT GETTING INTO "JUICY"
CONVERSATION EARLY ENOUGH

So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be
polite.

You aren't seeing their eyes light up.

Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well.  She knows NOTHING
about you.

And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her. 

So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.

Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.

You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc. 

THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there.  You want to get
her FEELING damn good.  So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your
personality.

So, for example, giving the example of the
woman at the card store, you can go humorous
by telling her that she's just trying to butter
up her dad so he can buy her a Jaguar, or
you can go into the "intriguing" and genuinely
meaningful compliment that raises her self-esteem
by speaking about how girls who get along well
with their dads tend to be the girls who have less
drama issues- and this would PROMPT a
response from her that was a lot more involved
on her part- it wouldn't just be her trying to
get rid of you, since now she is actually engaged
in something meaningful to her.

Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style conversation.
COMBINING emotions is actually a VERY
powerful thing, - imagine if you get a woman
laughing, then feeling intrigued, and then feeling
better about herself, all within a span of just
a few MINUTES.

If you do that, you are going to be MEMORABLE. 

You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.

If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.

2. TOO MUCH PICK UP ARTIST
"PLAY HARD TO GET" BEHAVIOR

This is a huge one.  Most guys are trying
so hard to show they are not interested,
because they are told by the "dating gurus"
and pick up artists that this will make the
woman more interested- so the guys end
up standing way too far from the women,
and talking from too much of a distance,
and the guys try to also avoid ANY type
of comment that might sound like they
are interested. 

The truth is that although you shouldn't
give compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the things
that she really EARNED.

The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.

If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy. 

HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.

So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.

3. INSENSITIVITY TO THE EMOTIONAL
VIBE OF THE SITUATION 
 
This is something that is a MAJOR factor
in screwing up attraction. 

This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.
This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant  ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.

A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's words, then
you are often missing the point. 

Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do.  So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are,  instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.

If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE. 

Look for the bright side of  things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.  

A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember       
how she FELT during it.  So make it feel
GOOD. 

Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.
The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good.  You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are.  Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it    
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.

4. NOT PROGRESSING THE INTERACTION

An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.

Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected- however,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point? 

So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.

Which brings me to the motto:
"He who dares, wins."

So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.

5. NOT BEING FLIRTATIOUS

If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction. 

So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in  your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye. 

6. OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES

This is a HUGE one.  We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about.  So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it.  It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.

If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.

So, for example, let's say you are insecure
about how much money you earn.  Well,
if you very early in a conversation said
something like "superficial things are so
over-rated, I would never be caught working
for a big corporation".  If you're bald, if
you're short, if you're ANYTHING you
are insecure about- the reality is that it's
NOT an issue but if you START with,
"Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.

Same with, "Hi, I work for minimum wage,
but I LOVE my job", that also shows that
you are obsessed with the money issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.

Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all.  There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.

This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are renting
a car because your regular better car is at the
shop, don't say, "This is just a rental- I have
a better car", just DON'T BRING IT UP,
otherwise it comes across as you feeling
inferior worth compared to what you
feel her worth is.

And when YOU feel your worth is low,
that is the ultimate litmus test to a woman
of your worth.  YOU are the one who
has to know what you're worth.  If you
don't feel it, how can she?

7. REVEALING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO EARLY

Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.

So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds, "Man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or,
"I'm so tired,  I was up all night with
my agent on the phone closing a deal"
etc, etc.

It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" "AGENT" "closing
the deal", etc. 

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A Crucial Point On 'Picking Up' Women

There's just a quick, but crucial point that
I think you should know when it comes to
approaching women, especially in cold
approaches, often known as 'pick-ups',
a term I don't particularly love but
for now it gets the point across.

Women are attracted to many things in
a man, and one of those things is
DOMINANCE.

Not the kind of dominance that stems from
INSECURITY and needs to CONTROL a woman.

Rather, the kind of dominance that stems
from MASSIVE security and self-belief.
When you feel these awesome emotions,
you simply TAKE THE LEAD because you KNOW
what to do, you don't DOUBT yourself, and
a woman LOVES to be with a man like this.

Now, guess what?

In those FIRST FEW MOMENTS when you meet
a woman, when you approach her as a total
stranger, you have the precious opportunity
to make that incredible FIRST impression.

She knows nothing about you, so everything
you do here will be AMPLIFIED in her mind
and interpreted by her as you being this
way ALL the time.

If your approach shows ZERO dominance, she
will figure that is how you are ALWAYS.

And you can't blame her for this, since
it's only HUMAN to make decisions on the
data we have, and so far, the only data
she has is what she is seeing from you.

But the PROBLEM is that in those first
few moments, most men SCREW IT UP,
because if the woman doesn't start to
do IMMEDIATE cart-wheels and smiling
and showing massive interest, most men
start to feel very QUEASY inside, they
start to hit the PANIC button and they
press the EJECTION button to get the heck
out of there before they 'crash', which
is a fear most men have in their own mind.

By the way, I know all this because I
used to be ONE of those men, okay? So
I ain't judging anyone.

But here's the thing to remember:

The human mind is MASSIVELY effected by the
STATE(S) OF MIND of those INTERACTING with it.

So what happens is that in this fantastic
OPPORTUNITY to show dominance, most men
see any situation with a woman where she
is NOT giving super approval IMMEDIATELY
as ALREADY being a sign that it's NOT
working.

So, the men become MORE NEGATIVE, less
confident, and less dominant, and the
men start to feel AWKWARD.

Well guess what? It makes the WOMEN feel
all those negative emotions as well, and
since they know nothing ELSE about these
men, the women then RATIONALIZE that the
reason they are feeling negative must have
something to do with the GUY, that there
must be something WRONG with him.

And now that the WOMEN aren't thrilled, this
negative state EXACERBATES the situation even
MORE, as the negative vibes the men sent out
to the women are now BOOMERANGING right back
to the men FROM the women, and this makes the
men REALLY drop in state, which of course makes
the women DROP even further, and so on and so
forth in a horrific downward spiral of attraction
destruction--all a result of the 'BOOMERANG EFFECT'.

But you can do the OPPOSITE!
You can go in there, and even if SHE isn't
doing CARTWHEELS right away, you can be
SO MASSIVELY DOMINANT, and so massively
EMPOWERED, and even in fact turned ON,
that you actually IMPACT her state and
you get HER to fall into YOUR emotional
state, where now she starts to feel GREAT
just like YOU do, SHE starts to feel
turned on, she starts to feel sexually
playful, SHE starts to feel adventurous
with YOU.

And of course, THIS then makes YOUR
state get even MORE empowered in
all the right ways, from the sensual
to the dominant, to the playful.

You also become more RESOURCEFUL mentally
as well, because you are in the right state,
which now makes you ALSO able to say all
the RIGHT THINGS on TOP of also being in
the right state!

What you give OFF ends up coming back to YOU.
Truly, this is the BOOMERANG EFFECT.

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Approaching Women: Clubs Vs. "Daytime" Places

Today, I'm going to share with you a ton of  crucial
points on the differences between meeting women
in clubs and normal everyday places like bookstores
and coffee shops.

The most important distinction to understand is that
bars and clubs are DESIGNED for singles to MEET
each other.

This is really the whole POINT of these places.
It's not some kind of secret or conspiracy.

Women who go out to these places usually WANT
to meet men.

Factor in the alcohol, the music, the atmosphere,
and the fact it's the weekend, and you have a
FANTASTIC opportunity to meet women
VERY easily.

The women are HOPING that men will approach them,
if the men have their basic act together.

So, when you approach a woman, or a group of women,
at a bar or night club, it makes SENSE to go in with
a very fun attitude, with your vocal projection loud
to overpower the music, and it also makes sense
that you can establish a lot more physical contact
as well.

WHAT ABOUT THE ONE NIGHT STAND?

I'm not into the one night stand myself, for a
vast amount of reasons, including the fact
that there is no way to know if a woman is
free of STD's and STI's no matter WHAT
she says, and condoms aren't perfect.

On top of that, there are enough ways to
meet a lot of women, and get to know them
over time, so that you indeed have a huge
pool of women at your fingertips at any
time if this is what you really desire.

And on top of all that, I honestly don't
enjoy getting physical with a woman
if I don't also know she is a really
cool person as well.

I don't like rewarding beauty if it has no character.

But I know that this is still an area that a lot
of men are curious about, or want to know
about, so I'll just answer it right here,
as IGNORANCE is never bliss, and
KNOWING the reality actually makes
people less needy for it:

There is a CERTAIN percentage of women
at a nightclub or bar on any given night, that
indeed ARE looking for a one night stand.

The exact percentage depends on the place
and the time, but let's just give a very rough
estimate of 15%-30% of the women at the
bar or nightclub.

They aren't usually going to have a HUGE
SIGN on their shirt or face that SAYS they
are looking for a one night stand, or that
SAYS they want to go home with some guy
that night, but you can find out pretty fast how
receptive a woman IS to a one night stand or
to go home with you that night, by escalating
to the physical level of kissing and making out
relatively quickly in the pick-up.

And if she isn't up for that, you would be
wise to move on to the NEXT woman
who IS- IF you are into that sort of thing.

Now, even the women who ARE looking for
a one night stand, usually aren't going to just
JUMP into your car or cab the moment you
make it clear that you are up for it.

Not at all.

It's pretty normal even for the women who are
indeed up for a one night stand to basically
slow you down. She might stop the making
out, she might decline the suggestion to
go home with you right then and there-
but at the same time she will make it
clear that she is really into you and
she is not leaving your side.

And to ALL of this, if you just permanently
stop, you will not get anywhere.

Instead, you just chill out with her, then
attempt to escalate again with her a few
minutes later, and see if she is up for it
that time. 

And this process can repeat itself several
times till she is totally up for it and she is
smiling about it and nodding and gesturing
to get with you right then and there.

Also, this physical escalation may not happen
in the actual club.  It might happen when you
both leave the club for a bite to eat, at the
cafe/fallafel/pizza joint, for example.

It might happen as you are walking to your
place, which, if you want a one night stand,
better be close by the club or bar, as driving
for three hours in your car or in a cab makes
it a lot harder for a woman to stay in the state
of mind that is conducive to the one night
stand thing or the same-night sex thing.

The hard-core physical escalation might not
happen till you are both alone in your place
or her place.

But the main thing, if a guy wants to have
sex with a woman the same night he met
her at the club, he is going to have to
escalate and progress the interaction at
every opportunity, since there is no time
to just let the pickup stay in "one stage"
for too long, as there are only so many
hours till the night is over.

So you have to keep progressing the
interaction forward as much as possible
and not STALL out of fear of rejection
at ALL. 

And you have to sense if SHE is into it as well,
so that you are not wasting your time. And if
she IS, you may STILL have to be persistent.
And for the love of humanity, at the very least,
MAKE SURE TO USE A CONDOM and
use it PROPERLY.

So that's the women who want to get physical
and want to sleep with a guy on the same night
they met him at the club.

BUT THAT'S NOT ALL WOMEN IN THE CLUB!

So, from my perspective, the one night stand
thing is a lot of work, for very little reward,
and in fact you are opening yourself up to
a host of potential problems as well.

Plus, like I said, I don't like the idea of
rewarding a woman just because she is
beautiful.  I find it contributes to the
problem of certain women thinking
that they can get by just on their
looks alone.

Plus, you can get to know a lot of QUALITY
women over time, who are attractive and have
the character as well, so that if getting physical is
what you want, you will have plenty of options
at any given moment.  

So, that's where the other women come into context.

Some of the women in the club/bar/lounge/pub
really are there to meet men, but not to
neccessarily go home with them that night.

And in fact, if a guy keeps on trying to
escalate with a woman who clearly is
NOT into that, he rightfully deserves
to get his ass thrown out the door.

There's a lot of women, just like a lot of men,
who want to actually MEET the right person,
and since the regular ways of meeting haven't
worked out, they are trying the clubs avenue.

By and large, in clubs, you don't have to worry
about how to CALIBRATE your OPENING.

You can open up a conversation with almost
ANYTHING fun.

BUT HOW ABOUT MEETING IN "REGULAR" PLACES?

Meeting women in "normal" places like bookstores and
coffee shops and even on the city bus or city commuter
train, and right on the street, require MORES calibration
than a club.

So you might be asking, "Then why bother with
"normal" places?"

And the answer is that, unfortunately, usually in the
clubs, the most attractive women tend to be smokers,
drinkers, and wannabe actresses/singers/dancers.

Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be
an actress, singer, or dancer.  And a drink now
and then can be healthy.

HOWEVER, it's not a COINCIDENCE that
so often, the ATTRACTIVE girls decide they
want to become actresses, etc.

It seems to them to be the "easy way" to get
by and to get what they want in life.

"I'm hot, so therefore I will leverage THAT
and will not bother with hard work, developing
my mind, developing my character."

Now, obviously, there ARE some really hard
working actresses who are massively talented,
like Meryl Streep.  But I can assure you that
most of the wannabe actresses at clubs who
are smoking it up and drinking it up and dressing
to the nines aren't USUALLY going to be
"girlfriend" material.

Seriously, a lot of these women WILL sleep with
any guy who can get them ahead, and will cheat
on any guy at the slightest chance of hooking up
with some other guy who they think will get
them ahead.

I also left one other reason why some women
go to clubs: BECAUSE THEY ARE JUST
HORNY, JUST LIKE GUYS!

So, meeting these women, is very different from
meeting women who have potential to be an actual
girlfriend.

Now, this doesn't mean that all the women you
meet in the REGULAR places in life are going
to have great potential for being a girlfriend.

It just means that the fantastic women who ARE
great girlfriend potential have to get out and about
and do all the things that everyone has to do,
like getting groceries, going shopping, getting
a Starbucks, and enjoying the weather.

In addition, the attractive women who also have
the OTHER quality traits of CHARACTER tend
to not be too addicted to the clubs, because
they already KNOW that clubs tend to bring
out the wrong guys to them, and these women
certainly don't need to go to clubs in order
to get ATTENTION from men.

They get plenty of attention ANYWHERE they
go anyway, so the last thing they need to do
is spend the night in a place full of guys who
are drunk and who think they have a license
to now do anything they want.

This is why, I think clubs might be a good place
to PRACTICE for beginners, but the "real world"
is the better place to actually meet the kinds of
women that are the "total package".

And, getting back to my original point, meeting women
in regular places requires MORE CALIBRATION
of your skills.

For example, if a woman is reading a book in the
aisles of a bookstore, and you just go right up
to her head-on, without warning, you will often
catch her off-guard in a way that is NOT cool
and will seem a little creepy.

However, if you first establish your presence there
so she can see you with her peripheral vision,
and you allow a moment or two for her
subconscious or her conscious mind to
detect that you are there, and THEN
you approach her, this is much wiser.

Also, you would be wise to GRADUALLY
build up the proximity and the body language,
and this is NOT because you are trying to
play a "game" on women, but because it
could CREEP her out if you come on too
strong in an environment that is not ESPECIALLY
about socializing.  It's a bookstore, not a club.

So, for example, you might be facing the books
yourself, and she would be to your side.

And rather than turning your whole body to
face her, you would just turn your face toward
her.  Your chest and the rest of your body
would still be facing the stacks of books.

When you start talking to her, she will turn
to see you, and subconsciously she will
feel that you are not some wierdo who
spends his whole day just barging up
on women everywhere.

On top of this, you also want to make your
approach and interaction as LOW-KEY as
possible.  And what I mean by this, is that
you want to ELIMINATE anything from
the interaction that can make it seem in
any way NOT NORMAL.

So, you should be acting as if what you are
doing is the most NORMAL thing in the
world.  If you overcompensate for nerves
with talking too quietly (because you
don't want anyone to hear you do
this 'pick-up') or if you speak too loudly
because you are overcompensating out
of the fear of not seeming manly enough,
all that will do is make it all seem
NOT NORMAL.

If you come into the conversation with
too much of a party attitude, that will
seem out of place as well.

You have to not only calibrate for your environment,
(i.e. a bookstore being quiet and calm, versus
meeting on a loud train) but you have to also calibrate
your "pick-up" around the fact that this is NOT a club,
this is NOT a place designed for meeting.

So since she is not particularly expecting to be
approached at the bookstore, her GUARD is
a bit more on.

At the same time, however, if you DO calibrate
properly and you don't trip her "CREEPY GUY
WARNING ALARMS", well then now you
actually have a much STRONGER chance of
actually getting this woman than you would
at a club, because of the very fact that meeting
at a club is EASIER, and women may be
much more OPEN to chatting, but not
neccessarily that much more open to
ACTUALLY HOOKING UP WITH
A GUY THEY MEET A CLUB.

Things balance out:
In a club, because it's normal to socialize there,
women will be OPEN to chatting.

However, they also give you LESS credit for
the mere fact you approached them to chat,
because that's what all the guys are doing
in the club. 

Mind you, most of the guys in the club are doing
it wrong, but most of them ARE trying to meet
women there.

So there's a bit of "inflation" when it comes to
making the approach in a club.  In a club,
you better do a REAL GOOD JOB because
there's a lot of guys doing the clubs.

Getting back to the bookstore example, you
would only turn to actually FACE her fully
once SHE is really facing you fully first.

This way, she feels more COMFORTABLE
and NOT creeped out by you, since you
are NOT coming on strong, and are thus
NOT putting her under any pressure.

By removing the pressure, you remove the
need for her to have to RESIST your
interaction with her.

In both cases though, whether you meet
a club or in a bookstore or cafe or anywhere
else that is "normal", it's crucial that you
LISTEN to whatever she says in her
response to what you said.

THIS gives you something to PING-PONG
off of, and to reply back to her based on
what SHE said.

By focusing on the PROCESS, and by
LISTENING to her, you become more
RELAXED plus you get to actually
get more INSIGHT into who she is,
so you can have better communication
with her.

And ultimately, the highest compliment
you can give a woman is when you
really understand her and you can
QUALIFY her for a particular character
trait or accomplishment of hers.

So if for example, she is courageous to
go into a field that is dominated by men,
or she is working on making the world
a better place, or even if she is just
the kind of person that is at peace with
herself and the world, all these things
are cool things to compliment her on-
IF you can back it up with evidence
based on what you have learned
about her.

SPONTANEOUS "SITUATIONAL" OPENER,
OR MEMORIZED "CANNED" OPENER?

A lot of guys want to know what's better,
to use a "canned" memorized opener to
start the conversation, or to just actually
find something SITUATIONAL, i.e.
about the SITUATION, the context
of the situation, i.e. if she is in the bookstore
reading in the international relations and
politics section, and you comment to her
how unusual it is to find a woman in
this section.

The truth is that it IS better to use a SPONTANEOUS
conversation starter that is about the SITUATION,
i.e. something she is doing, or something else
about her or even about the immediate environment
around her, this is always better because it
shows you are not using the same line on
every woman you meet.

Plus, because it IS real about the situation, you
actually WILL sound congruent to it, you won't
sound like a liar because you aren't lying.

Now, at the same time, I realize that sometimes
the act of approaching a woman who is a stranger
can seem OVERWHELMING.

So, it's FINE to use something MEMORIZED.
Use a real true story that actually happened to
you, something interesting and hopefully upbeat,
or at least intriguing, to tell her, and then comment
on whatever SHE says as her REACTION to your
story.

This gets the ball rolling in the right direction,
and you can playfully tease her on anything
she says back to you.

Just make sure to STOP the memorized speech
as soon as possible in the interaction.  Once she
is commenting on it to you, you really have the
conversation started and you don't really need
it anymore.

Plus, you will see as you go along that if you
keep on approaching women, using the
memorized story, you will be so calm
because you already KNOW what to
say to get things started, that you now
will finally be in the state of mind to
actually REALIZE AND NOTICE
all the SPONTANEOUS AND
"SITUATIONAL" openers that you
could use instead as your conversation
starters.

TONALITY VS. CONTENT

Obviously, what you SAY does matter to a
degree. If it's interesting, captivating, etc.

But HOW you say it matters a TON.

Now, I'm especially talking about the very
OPENER, as once you are both in a deep
conversation, then you naturally tend to
speak about things in the right tonality
since you are so comfortable.

But the OPENER is a different story.
It's just an OPENER, so what you are
REALLY trying to get across is that
there is POTENTIAL here.

The most important things, therefore, are that
you are not a creep, that you are confident,
that you are in a good state of mind, that
you are masculine, that you are playful,
etc.

So, technically, you can EASILY get away
with even the supposedly "nice-guy" words
of "you are beautiful", if your voice tonality
suggested that you were stating this as a
matter of FACT rather than as a DESPERATE
HOPE SHE WILL LIKE YOU because
you said those words.

In fact, you can say the words "you are
beautiful" in such a way to show flirtyness,
a sense of playfulness, confidence, and
even dominance. Dominance, because
you can say the words in such a way
that it is implied that because YOU
said the words, YOU feel that it is
a GREAT COMPLIMENT because
it comes from YOU, a person of
MASSIVE VALUE.

Tonality is a MAJOR influencing factor,
and in fact, the use of tonality can allow
you to say something very HONEST
and even "nice" and make you NOT
come across as "needy" but rather
as a man who is CONFIDENT,
who is GENUINE, and who she
can let her own guard down with,
and she can let such a man IN.

Now, what you've just read, as detailed
as it is, is just the TIP of the ICEBERG.

I want to show you how to do all this MASTERFULLY,
by coaching you IN PERSON, in real time, on real women.

It all happens in my REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP:
http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

The Real World Bootcamp is exactly what it sounds like:

For two entire days, I will train you from A to Z
in the skill of approaching women ANYWHERE
you find them, and it all takes place in real time
on women who have no clue that you are
on bootcamp.

This is all the absolute real thing, at all times.

I would have given ANYTHING to learn these
skills back in the days when I used to hopelessly
PRAY, often for YEARS on end, that some girl
that I was all obsessed about would reciprocate
my feelings.

ALL that came from NOT knowing the MASSIVE
ABUNDANCE of women that can be at one's fingertips,
if he just masters the SKILLS of how to meet and
attract women.

I was coming from a scarcity mentality, that really
DISTORTS not only one's emotions and perspectives,
but really RUINS one's life.

It's time to STOP the wasted energy, the wasted
time, the wasted emotions, and time to start getting
the ABUNDANCE with women into your life.

What's amazing also, is that once this area of your
life is taken care of, you tend to suddenly also
improve all your OTHER areas as well, because
now that you have broken through this barrier,
it makes you so confident that you know you
can take on the WORLD and that you will WIN.

Get yourself signed up for bootcamp TODAY.

Full details are at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. To find out about ALL my programs
for skyrocketing your success with women,
go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

What Makes You SuperMAN

A super strong sense of positive
and unselfish PURPOSE is the key
to infinite inner game.

The movie "Superman Returns" is
an excellent example of this.



A great man is validated on his own
and does the right thing no matter
what. He does not need approval from
a woman, even if he would love it,
he doesn't become needy for it.

All this internal power comes from
a sense of PURPOSE, and that purpose
is one that CONTRIBUTES to humanity
in the maximum way.

And a great man chooses the right
woman very carefully, being
METICULOUS about her character.

In the movie "Superman Returns",
this was shown brilliantly:

One of the key points is Superman's
CHOICE of woman - Superman is no longer
in love with the kind of woman we used
to know as Lois Lane. The old Lois Lane
was a bi****tchy, selfish woman who is
abusive to those who lack self-esteem.
All she used to care about were her
fascination with Superman for all
the wrong reasons and she was obsessed
with getting awards for her journalism.

But with the new Lois Lane, Superman is
in love with a woman who is a great woman-
a strong woman who is willing to carry a
massive secret with her all her life, a
secret even from Superman, just to protect
her child, and all at the same time
she is assertive and yet kind, never
becoming a beee-yotch and clearly
not a product of Spice Girl's
frivolous meaningless "Girl Power"
hypocrisy and hogwash.

The new Lois Lane is a far more
admirable character.

She shows that a woman is not admirable
just because she is attractive, but
because of her ACTIONS.

Lois in this movie risks HER life to
rescue Superman just as Superman has
risked his own survival to rescue her
as well as their family and friends.

She also thinks of what's best for
her child, rather than being obsessed
with Superman for her own sake or
for superficial glory.

Also, when Superman thinks (mistakenly)
that Lois doesn't love him, he manages
to HANDLE it emotionally, he's clearly
challenged by it at first, but he is a
MAN and can still find his purpose in the
world that is greater than anything else.
And that purpose is a positive one, a
giving one.

Also, the way he GAINS POWER not just
from the sun, but also from the very
fact he is being the man he was BORN
to be, gives him a REBIRTH- a sense
of purpose, of energy, and drive.

Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com

What Is "Minimum Game"?

Sometimes people ask what I mean by "minimum game" when it comes to approaching a woman who is a stranger.

A big part of this is "minimum game" is keeping the energy level to the minimum that is needed to do the job. This is in direct contrast to 99% of the advice out there which supposedly is designed to GET a reaction out of a woman.

The irony is that trying so hard to GET a reaction ends up getting you the worst reaction.

Notice how the first impulse in the mind (when one is new at this) most of the time is try to want to ensure a massively positive response- but the problem is this very attitude stems from insecurity. This insecurity creates overcompensation in all kinds of forms, from weird extra smiley behavior to weird creepy behavior to mean behavior.

The idea is to land the plane smoothly, not to bring the plane in at 1200 miles per hour. This takes nice smooth calibration, keeping the vibe of the conversation stable over a longer course of time, rather than the typical clown style approach which tries to get some big reaction out of a woman right away.

At first, it might seem that it's harder to keep the vibe stable and still interesting for a long period of time than it is to go in there with the "clown jokester" approach, but after a while you will see that it's far more natural and it's actually EASIER to do it the "stable and still interesting" because it's far closer to you, in fact it IS the real you!

So why is it so hard to be ourselves? Because we get brainwashed with bad programming, and learning to "unlearn" all that stuff is the real art, it's where the real work needs to be done.

And I show you EXACTLY how to do that in my WARRIOR WITHIN program, at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

If you're serious about being the best you can be with women,
I suggest you check this program out immediately.

For now, for tommorow, and for always, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

"Canada AM" Interview

Quick news! The crew at "Canada AM"
did a great job with this interview,
which gets into the power of your
"vibe", as well as the importance
of learning powerful listening skills
so that you can have a great conversation
with a woman, all without faking your
personality or memorizing "routines"!

It's at: http://tinyurl.com/cf2ab2

Best,

Michael