Attracting Women Through Ethics, Sexual Polarity, Sexual Tension, And Maturity

There are some VITAL strategies and insights
regarding attracting women that I want to share
with you immediately.

ETHICS

The first one is regarding ethics and
attracting women. 

Someone who is immature will say that
ethics do not matter, and that the
only thing that matters is getting
the woman, but the fact is, one who
has experience and emotional maturity
knows that they are part of the same
thing.

The bottom line is that if you want
a woman who is going to treat you right,
long term, she better be a woman who
APPRECIATES the fact that you are
a man who has great ethics himself.

And she better be the kind of woman who
demonstrates awesome ethics in her every
SUBTLETY of her behavior as well.

So you have to be RUTHLESS in this area,
and simply not let women into your life
who demonstrate poor ethics.
 
HOWEVER, the challenge with this is that
when you meet a woman who is a total stranger
you really can’t say for sure what her motivations
are for the things she is doing. 

So, although HONESTY is one of the biggies
when it comes to ethics, it is possible that
a woman might not be TOTALLY HONEST with
you as a total stranger, due to her own
insecurities or due to her misunderstanding
you, etc, etc.

So, you have to allow some room for a woman
to get to KNOW YOU and for you to get to
KNOW HER before totally slamming down
the hammer and the judgement call on her,
and you have to instead make decisions based
on the BIG PICTURE she is giving you.

I would say that one of the most important
skills in life is to be SENSITIVE to other
people’s insecurities and to tread carefully
around those things, and in fact when it
comes to approaching and attracting women,
if you can actually make a woman feel
GREAT about the very thing she is insecure
about, you’ve gone a long way toward having
her MELT for you.

HOWEVER, and this is where attracting women
is not so simple, this does not mean trying to be
a THERAPIST to a woman.  It does not mean
trying to be her GIRLFRIEND.  It does not mean
that you are trying to MANIPULATE her through
ONLY being sensitive to her because you want
to get her in bed but you really don’t care about
her otherwise.

ETHICS really have to permeate through ALL
your actions- because ultimately everything is
built on the foundation you set initially. Set
up a morally screwed up foundation, and
ultimately she will sense it on some level,
and she will feel betrayed, and besides it’s
just creepy anyway and a good guy won’t
want to do that.

So, the idea is that as a MAN, you are ESPECIALLY
showing sensitivity to the things she may be insecure
about in terms of her APPEAL to you as a WOMAN.

In a similar way, a wise woman knows EXACTLY
how to serve her MAN this way, by helping him
FEEL as manly as possible.

This is why a great man and great woman truly
bring out the MASCULINITY AND THE
FEMININITY in each other, and bring out
the best in each other regarding many other
dimensions of their beings as well.

So, for example, if a woman feel she isn’t
attractive enough, or young enough,  or
feminine enough, or WHATEVER it is,
and THIS is what is causing her to hold
back, you as a MAN have the power to
help her UNLEASH herself from the
CHAINS of that fear.

But of course, you can only do so much,
do NOT try to be a therapist.

Again, ETHICS including honesty, kindness,
sensitivity, all of these things are absolutely
VITAL to every step of attracting a fantastic
woman.

Remember, this is not about how to just get
PHYSICAL with some drunk woman at a
nightclub.  I’m talking about how to attract
a fantastic woman for something substantial
long term. 

SEXUAL POLARITY

Now, at the same time, all this “gooey” good
ethics stuff, and all the CEREBRAL logic of
how to behave, as important as it is, is not
ENOUGH to make the FIRE OF ATTRACTION.

The KEY is to mix all of that moral goodness
and all that CEREBRAL LOGIC with a SOLID
UNDERSTANDING of the SEXUAL.

And one of the biggest ways to help a woman
UNLEASH her sexual side is for YOU to
show that you yourself feel that the sexual
is absolutely vital to any relationship as well,
but do this in a very casual manner.

The reason I say “casual” is because if you
start to get all CLINICAL when you talk about
sex, if you start to get all ANALYTICAL and
robotic about it, you DRAIN all the ENERGY
and APPEAL of it.

Instead, when the opportunity to bring up the
topic comes up, don’t shy away from it.  If
she is talking about working out, you might
mention how she wants to look sexy for you,
and you might say this in a flirty way but
with FULL ON confidence and zero apology,
so that you DO NOT SAY “Just Kidding”.

Don’t say “Just Kidding”, because the truth
is you WANT HER TO TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY,
you may be behaving casual about it, but you aren’t
“just kidding”.

Another thing is the SEXUAL POLARITY
that you must help define in the interaction
between you and her.

Human beings need to know what role they
are supposed to play.

If you act feminine, she will act masculine.
You don’t want this, and neither does she.

So, act MASCULINE.
Don’t be whiny asking her if she likes you.
Don’t fish for approval.

Don’t try to be her girlfriend and try to
talk about girly things like shopping-
believe it or not, a lot of guys will do
this in order to try to get rapport with
a woman.

(Instead, get rapport through sincere
conversation, not through pretending
to be a woman! ) 

Take the initiative in terms of setting up
the next date, the next meeting, etc.
(Don’t worry, eventually she will start
contacting you to set things up, but in
the beginning, it is the man’s job.)

One of the great things about sexual polarity
is that you reap the rewards of it not only
in general because a woman is more attracted
to you, so she will treat you better, but also
what happens is when you ultimately do
get physical, it will be so much more
gratifying for both you and her.

This leads me to my next point:

SEXUAL TENSION
When a man and woman WANT to jump
each other’s bones, but can’t, THAT is sexual
tension.  You WANT to have a lot of sexual
tension in your relationship, followed of
course by sexual RELEASES with each
other.

The key to doing this is not to make up
problems that separate you apart, but rather
to do two other things:

SEXUAL TENSION METHOD ONE: 
PLAYFULLY CREATE TENSION

So in this method, you actually playfully
tease a woman by slowing things down
in the bedroom by using a lot of awesome
foreplay, and even BEFORE you get to
the foreplay in the bedroom, you can
create this kind of tension verbally
by making sure a woman never feels
she has totally got you.

So if a woman tells you that she knows
you want her, rather than arguing and
turning something fun into an argument,
you might instead say “And you WANT
me to want you”, or if she says “You
want to rip my clothes off”, you might
say “You WANT me to rip your clothes
off”. 

It’s important, for HER joy, that she
DOES NOT FEEL SHE CAN GET
YOU SO EASILY. 

This is not about some sick psycho game
of mental abuse, it’s about realizing that
without the right degree of tension, there
isn’t the maximum FUN in BREAKING
that sexual tension with the release later.

There is another way to create sexual
tension as well:

SEXUAL TENSION METHOD TWO:
POSITIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION

All human beings have conflict, but the
LUCKY ones RESOLVE that conflict.

No matter how perfect you and the woma
you meet are, you are not going to see
eye to eye on everything.

You can’t just give in to everything to
please a woman, or you will lose your
own self-respect plus she will lose respect
for you. 

You can’t argue about everything either.

The key is to choose your battles wisely,
but ALWAYS battle from a place of
LOVE and NOT NASTINESS OR
NAME-CALLING OR ABUSE.

I promise you this: When you both emerge
from a conflict that you RESOLVED without
abusing each other, you are THEN going to
have some INSANELY WILD TIMES
TOGETHER PHYSICALLY.

Conflict is a part of life, and when you
handle it properly, it creates the natural
tension between the both of you, since
you are by nature of the conflict setting
up BARRIERS between the two of you,
so when it is RESOLVED, you REALLY
want to dive into each other. 

At this point, I want to share a very
important letter I received from a man
using the Get A Great Girl materials,
including my latest program, called
Instant Attraction:


LETTER:

I  thought I'd give you some success
stories, just to make you feel good as
you care about how guys are doing in
this field:

One thing I came to realized how powerful
it is after reading your materials is Brutal
Honesty.

When you say something very genuine,
women respond to that immensely, and
they follow you through the conversation.

(If you remembered that when I told you
that I want to weed out all the pick up words
and lines for good), this was a good way
to start clearing out myself.

Along with the comment of, "You're beautiful"
without any intention of taking from her, and
stopping the conversation right there - I found
that very helpful too, and the tonality of women
changes and becomes very warm, appreciative,
and thankful who receive such comments, as you
say, "from a giving place".  Simply amazing.

Here is the moment of truth, out of all the
women I approached, and applied the knowledge
I stated above, not one of them was not receptive,
not one of them was not smiley, and not one
of them was not willing to further continue the
conversation, perhaps elsewhere.

As a matter of fact, I realized that I can meet
great women almost everywhere I go, I also realized
that there are many good women, whom I began to
feel that they are just waiting for a man to sweep
them off their feet and be with him forever.

More proof just to prove that your programs
"grow in power", is that right now, and I swear
 to you, every single time, every where I go,
I began to realize that women - the beautiful ones –
try to get my attention with everything they got,
either by having "their excuses" of accidentally
showing up in front of my face (supermarket,
work, etc) or treating me really nicely, or (this
is a funny one) trying to find a place to sit
right next to me if I'm on a computer in the
library, and all the other desks around are empty.

And what amazes me the most, is that all this
happens without even me saying a word man.
That's how powerful your stuff is. 

I’ve also worked on having more balance 
in my life, including sleep, good diet, working out, 
and especially weeding out stress - because I 
noticed that it is the ultimate killer of testosterone.”
                                                 
-Lawrence T.

MY REPLY:

Fantastic work, man.  Now I know that
a lot of guys will read your letter and
think, “Oh, so all I need to do is just
be honest with women?” and the answer
is YES, but that this honesty needs to be
coming from a very ENRICHED and
EMPOWERED place inside of you.

To paraphrase Wayne Dyer, you can only
squeeze out of an orange what is IN that
orange.   

So the key is to enrich your understanding
of women and sexuality, and to improve your inner
confidence, and to enrich your understanding of
humanity in general, and THEN the honesty
that comes out of you is ALL VERY POWERFUL
AND ATTRACTIVE.

Because you’ve worked on yourself and
learned so much, so now at this point   
WHATEVER COMES OUT OF YOU
is all ATTRACTIVE.

And I’m so proud, man, because this is
EXACTLY what I MOST desire for the
men who study my materials.  I don’t
want any man to feel the need to FAKE
SOMETHING in order to attract women.

I want men to be able to attract women
simply by BEING.  No gimmicks, no
games, no nonsense.

And throughout the years, I have stayed
true to this approach.

In fact, because I care about the entire field,
I made sure to have the highest standards of
integrity.  So, when I took men out in public
to approach women anywhere, it was all
DOCUMENTED by TONS of witnesses
by one of the biggest newspapers on the
PLANET.

Why did I do this?
Because I knew that there were many folks
in this field who did NOT have integrity
and who were just trying to make a quick
buck.

So, if I DIDN’T have the highest standards
of documentation, proof, and witnesses,
ANYBODY could just FAKE the same
results by getting friends or actors to
POSE as women who are receptive to
the guys’ advances.

Right now, there are probably HUNDREDS
if not THOUSANDS of videos out there
showing guys approaching women, but
how many of them have been VERIFIED
as untouched video by THIRD PARTIES
without a vested interest in doctoring the footage?

Keep in mind, as well, that the men who I
coached were totally free to say the truth
because I had no control over the report,
plus I was chosen as the coach for these
men not ONLY because I could help them
with the APPROACH, but also because I
could help teach them about the important
elements necessary for getting and keeping
the kind of  woman who would also make
for a great RELATIONSHIP.

The coaching was all part of a contest called
The “Get A Relationship Challenge”.

Integrity matters to me.

Always remember that the best is not
the same as the MOST.  So McDonald’s
might sell the MOST burgers, but probably
the CEO of McDonald’s gets his own
dinner somewhere else, right?

If you really want the BEST coaching
for getting the kind of woman you really
want in your life, then it’s time to take
it really SERIOUSLY, and there is no
dating coach more SERIOUS about helping
men learn how to meet, attract, and keep
a truly GREAT woman than myself.

If you haven’t downloaded my latest
program, called Instant Attraction, then
definitely do that now. It really DOES
have my latest powerful insights on
attracting women, and it really WILL
make a BIG difference IMMEDIATELY
in helping you attract the kind of women
you want.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/instant-attraction.html

After you’ve done that, and proven to yourself
just how much you’ve GAINED from that
program, check out all my OTHER programs-
EACH ONE is designed to give you MORE
AND MORE POWER to attract the women
you WANT.

Those programs are at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

And when you are ready for the BIGGEST
STEP, it’s time to take my BOOTCAMP.

Find out FULL DETAILS about this at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And finally, sometimes there is a particular
challenge or urgent dating or relationship situation
that you are facing that may require an immediate
live consultation with me.  This means I stop
everything I am doing and immediately put all
my focus on YOU. 

To arrange a personal consultation, email me
directly and write the words CONSULTATION
REQUEST in capitals in the subject line. 

Till next time,

Michael Marks    

The Unspoken Truth About Being A Man And Attracting Women

I have a very, VERY important newsletter
today, but before we start, I just want to
mention that if you would like to take a
bootcamp with me this summer, (bootcamp
is where you learn how to approach women
in real life with me as your exclusive instructor)
it's a good idea to book it NOW,  to ensure you
get the weekend of your choice.

Bootcamp is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

The following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.

Once you learn the skills of how to do things
properly with women, any guy who knows the
skills for REAL can tell you that the far greater
priority quickly becomes how to screen out
the wrong women.

Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.

And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.

Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.

If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.

Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.

And now, I will begin the main part of this article:

It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.

This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.

For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.

So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.

The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.

I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man. 

The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.

The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.

Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.

In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.

So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.

All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do. 

In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction. 

So, getting women can be EASY.

The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.

And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.

A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.

What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.

Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about  “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.

Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.

Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:

ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU

When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must  
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.

Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….

And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.

It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.

They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.

Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.

So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.

But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo. 

Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance.  And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.  
 
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are 
not attractive.

And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.

I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME  WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.

A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.

Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.

And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.

This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman, 
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.

But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.

The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.

Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.

Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.

Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.

The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.

J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.

Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.

My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.

Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.

Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.

The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.

Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.

That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.

Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.

Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.

As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.

My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.

For my most FAMOUS program on
ATTRACTING WOMEN, a program that
is being used by men from all
over the world, go here:

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I URGE YOU to get this program, because
I KNOW how powerful it is.

Just promise me that you will be SELECTIVE
and not just hook up with ALL the women you
meet from using this program.

I went ALL OUT on this program. 

It contains over TEN HOURS of PRISTINE
STUDIO-RECORDED AUDIO that you can
listen to anytime, anywhere.

It's at:

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I spent YEARS on the development of this
program, and it is JAM-PACKED with TONS
of pure GOLD on what you need to know
about women for success.

If even just ONE of those things you learned
in this program made the difference, would it
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spending even TEN TIMES the cost??????

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Till next time,

Michael Marks