The Truth About Being A Man And Attracting Women

The first thing I want to say here is that the
following article is NOT designed to get you
to think all women are problematic; it is to
help you SCREEN OUT the WRONG women
so that you can meet the RIGHT woman.

Most guys, as a result of being brainwashed
that sex is the most important thing, will end
up accepting a woman into their lives who
will cause them MISERY instead of
ENHANCING their lives.

And I do use the word ENHANCE, because
no woman can GIVE a guy happiness.

Inner peace and happiness are things that
each man must work on to have INDEPENDENTLY
of women, and then meeting a great woman
can ENHANCE that happiness, but no
woman can actually GIVE a guy happiness.

If a guy thinks that a woman can give him
happiness, what he might be confused by
is the INITIAL NOVELTY of having
a woman in his life, which distracts him
from other issues, but if he is not a happy
person without a woman, then eventually
he will still not be happy even with a woman,
no matter who she is.

Again, this gets back to making YOURSELF
strong internally, peaceful and happy internally.

And now, I will begin the main part of this article:

It is vital to realize that the idea
of being a MAN in our culture, especially
for young men, has often been equated with
“living the party lifestyle” and being promiscuous
and having sex with many different women.

This idea has been spread by all kinds of
people for all kinds of reasons that have
nothing to do with TRUTH or REALITY.

For one thing, if you are an alcohol or beer
company or clothing company or just about
any company selling things, it sure helps sell
if you can equate sex with their product.

So, whether it is promoting the idea that drinking
their beer will somehow lead to you getting
women and living the life of “the man”, or whether
it is some clothing company telling you that their
clothes will get you to be “the man”, or whether
it is some magazine article telling you that you
are not good enough to attract women unless
you get their product, they all BENEFIT from
you buying into the bullshit lie that somehow
their stuff will make you more of a man, and
more desirable to women.

The insanity of this, is that actually getting
women is EASY.

I could make a hundred times more money by
getting into the "be promiscuous with women"
business, because our environment is already
set up to make men feel that that is the
way to go to be a man. 

The fact of the matter is, that what I teach
is the OPPOSITE of what most companies are
selling- they are trying to HYPNOTIZE you
to think being a man means being a slave
to insecurity and to sex, and I am here
to help guys WAKE UP FROM THAT NIGHTMARE
AND FROM THAT LIE.

The irony is that the slavery to sex
and the slavery to insecurity IS
THE PROBLEM in the first place,
as insecurity is unattractive.

Rather than HYPNOTIZE men, I DE-HYPNOTIZE them
from the INSANITY that they are exposed to on
a daily basis by the majority of the things
they read and hear.

In fact, the more INSECURE a man is, and
the more he buys INTO the lies that in order
to be a man, he has to do all kinds of stupid
things to impress women, the less likely
he REALLY is to attract ANY woman.

So, again, getting women can be EASY,
IF YOU CAN JUST GET 'DE-HYPNOTIZED'.

All you have to do is be in a fun playful state
and show some INTEGRITY and some
confidence, and you have to be willing to
approach women, because even the GREATEST
skilled guy at attracting women can’t ensure he
will get EVERY woman, so he has to approach
many women, which is something that actually
does NOT take long to do. 

In one day, a guy can approach enough women
to get connected with a woman where both he
and the woman feel mutual attraction. 

So, getting women can be EASY.

The HARD part is getting a GREAT woman
who will not DESTROY you over the long-term.

And this is where being a REAL MAN
becomes ever-more important.

A REAL MAN is a man STRONG ENOUGH
to not bow to FOOLISH SOCIAL PRESSURE.

What I mean by foolish social pressure is the
pressure by society to hook up with lots of women
no matter WHAT, simply in order to ‘be a man’,
even if these women are infested with STDs,
even if these women are dishonest, even if
these women will try to crack your self-esteem,
even if these women will waste your time with
endless talking and endless jealousy games
and endless complaints about everything
under the sun regarding who you are.

Yes, I mean all those things.
I find it bizarre that there is so much written out
there about  “how to hook up” and almost NOTHING
on “how to SCREEN women”.

Guys get SUCKED IN all the time by various
devious behaviors that SOME (I didn’t say all)
women engage in.

Here are some of the devious things that guys
NEED to watch OUT for:

ONE: SHE SAYS SHE LOVES YOU
BUT SHE ALSO ABUSES YOU

When I first started meeting women, I thought
that the first woman I met that did this must  
have been one in a million or some other
extremely RARE case.

Then, as I met more and more women, I noticed
that there is a whole CATEGORY of women
who very QUICKLY will start to tell you how
much they LOVE you, and how much they have
waited their entire LIVES for you, and how
DEVOTED they are to you….

And then these are the same women who will
ALSO engage in ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
toward you FAR FASTER THAN ANY
OTHER KIND OF WOMEN.

It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
important to realize that there are a lot of women
who do this as either a conscious or subconscious
STRATEGY of CONTROL.

They figure by GOING ALL OUT ON THE
STATEMENTS OF LOVE, they then somehow
have the RIGHT to demand that you accept all
their abusive behavior.

Keep in mind, that this abusive behavior has
NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you did
NOTHING to deserve it.

So many good guys out there try to RATIONALIZE
a woman’s abusive behavior, because they can’t
believe that a woman who cries her heart out
and professes her love for him could possibly
REALLY BE DOING THE ABUSIVE THINGS
SHE IS DOING.

But it happens a lot, in real life.
It doesn’t matter if the guy is Prince Charming
or Quasimodo. 

Some women out there will profess love to you
and then also belittle you whenever they get the
chance.  And they will belittle you about ANYTHING.
You can be RICH and they will STILL try to find
a way to make you feel not rich enough.  
 
You can be a MOVIE STAR with matinee idol
looks and they will try to tell you that you are 
not attractive.

And they are going to push you into the abysss
of low self-esteem if you LET them.

I don’t believe in trying to get a woman you
are dating to become a DECENT PERSON,
that can NEVER be your job- she must
ALREADY COME  WITH DECENCY
AND MAXIMUM RESPECT TO YOU
INCLUDED.

A real man INSISTS on respect, contrary
to some people who are so obsessed
with getting sex that they will do ANYTHING
to get sex from a woman including sacrificing
their own DIGNITY.

Being a MAN has to do with PRESERVING
YOUR SELF-RESPECT, and it has nothing
to do with women.

And of COURSE, the greatest IRONY is
that the more you KNOW your own moral
code, the more you DON’T NEED A WOMAN
in order to feel GOOD about yourself, the
MORE EASY IT IS to attract a woman.

This is why I have always stated that
if you REALLY want to attract a woman, 
it’s about conquering the demons WITHIN
one’s self, and not about learning ridiculous
and immature pick up lines.

But when one really has NO SELF-RESPECT,
he is willing to sacrifice his own dignity, his
own morals, his own everything for a woman,
and of course a woman senses that and then
is not attracted.

The best thing to do when approaching and
chatting to women you want to attract is
to SHOW RESPECT combined with
CONFIDENCE, and if a woman does
NOT appreciate that, then be happy that
you can get rid of her BEFORE she
enters your life and makes your life
a living hell where you have deeply
invested your emotions in the wrong person.

Also, remember that MUTUAL RESPECT
is key for a long term relationship,
and that women WANT to be shown
respect, but not all women are
prepared to give respect LONG
TERM in the sense of not flirting
with other guys.

Yes, a massive thing to watch out for
are women who just can’t resist the
temptation to keep on inviting attention
from guys even when she is in a relationship.

Some women will try to cover it up with
all kinds of excuses, especially the excuse of
“I need to build contacts for networking”,
but if she is constantly getting new “contacts”
that are men everyday, it is A RELATIONSHIP
CANCER WAITING TO HAPPEN.

The next time a woman tries to excuse her
lack of respect for you as a man with her
need to constantly keep a feed of new guys
on her contacts from Facebook, Twitter,
LinkedIn, and from just somehow magically
meeting guys that are just “new platonic
friends” she meets at yoga, at friends’
houses, at the gym, and at work, just
remember that the GREATEST successes
of all time didn’t spend their day on
Facebook, Twitter, and in general killing
time.

J.K. Rowling, the woman who wrote the
Harry Potter series, somehow managed
to get success without “male contacts
that were platonic friends”, instead she
WROTE FOR YEARS AND YEARS
till she achieved success.

Oprah Winfrey achieved her success
without spending all her time “networking”.

My point is that women who try to excuse
their inability to show sexual restraint are
constantly using the excuse of “but it helps
my work”.

Bullshit. Working hard helps one’s work,
networking is often just an excuse to avoid
real work and to meet more guys.

Usually the women that have lots of idle
time on their hands are the ones who seem
to have the most time for networking and
for “just happening” to meet lots of guys
who become “platonic” male friends.

The next time you go out to meet women,
KEEP THIS ALL IN MIND and remember
that GETTING A WOMAN is not the
big deal, but rather getting a GREAT woman
IS.

Don’t get caught up in the nonsense that
MOST men do, they get caught up thinking
that the big deal is to get drunk, get promiscuous,
and show off about it to friends.

That doesn’t lead to a path of life success.
Don’t be like the masses.

Be SELECTIVE.
Have the highest standards of integrity
for yourself and only allow women of
the same integrity into your life.

Attracting women is EASY when you
RADIATE full CONFIDENCE in yourself,
full CONFIDENCE in your values, in
your integrity, in your way of life.

As soon as you start to ACCEPT some
crap behavior from a woman, as soon
as you start to QUESTION your own value
as a result of something a woman says
or does to you, you actually begin to
LOSE a woman's attraction to you.

My programs focus on making YOU
strong with women, they are NOT
about you doing some song and
dance to impress women.

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and not just hook up with ALL the women you
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Till next time,

Michael Marks 

The Ultra-Important Traits For "The One"

Today there are some ULTRA-IMPORTANT
things I want to share with you about getting
a fantastic quality woman- "the one" if you will.

In particular, there are FIVE traits that you
should be searching for in a woman, and
ALL FIVE are super-important.

These five traits are:

EMPATHY.

HIGH SELF-ESTEEM.

SELF-DISCIPLINE.

A BELIEF THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE SACRED.

INFINITE FIDELITY.  

And obviously, it goes without saying that
as men, these are just as important for US
to have as well, if we are seeking a woman
that is truly "the one".

What is mind-boggling to me, is how many guys
out there actually DO have these qualities and
have no idea how PRECIOUS they are.

This is where good guys have no clue how
awesome they are, and instead they allow
themselves to be abused by women like
CRAZY, all the while not realizing that
they don't have to be in these abusive
situations, and that in fact there are
some incredible women out there who
would REALLY jump on the opportunity
to be with these guys.

So, let's begin:

1: EMPATHY

Empathy might sound so simple, so obvious,
that you might not even think you have to
make sure a woman HAS this trait.

Nothing could be further from the truth,
however.  A powerful sense of empathy is
not something to take for granted as being
a trait that everyone, or in this case, that
every woman, has. NOT every woman
has it at all.

A lot of people know that it is important, so
they attempt to FAKE having empathy.

If a woman does not have a powerful sense
of empathy, she simply won’t be able to
UNDERSTAND you or CARE about you.

Empathy is greater than sympathy. Empathy
is, to quote “Psychology Today”, “the experience
of understanding another person's condition
from their perspective. You place yourself
in their shoes and feel what they are feeling.”

There is no way to live with a woman long-term
and enjoy the experience of being with her if
she simply does not have the ability, or if she
does not truly make the effort, to feel what you
are feeling.

People talk all day about wanting a partner with
intelligence, but they don’t talk that much about
EMPATHY, and yet the truth is, most people
don’t need an EINSTEIN for a partner, but they
do need someone who has great empathy.

2: HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
 
It is essential that a woman also have high
self-esteem.  I know a lot of guys think
the opposite, that if a woman has high
self-esteem, she will think too highly
of herself and therefore not appreciate
the guy.

But it doesn’t work that way, as high-self
esteem has nothing, in itself, to do with
ARROGANCE or haughtiness, and in
fact, sometimes when someone is feeling
low self-esteem, they feel the need to
overcompensate with arrogance and
haughtiness.

The more high self-esteem a woman feels,
the less likely she feels a need to put YOU
down, IF she ALSO has a great sense of
EMPATHY, which is why I mentioned
EMPATHY first.

So, she has empathy, and therefore does not
want you to feel pain, because if you feel
pain, she feels your pain- and when you
feel good, she feels good, she WANTS you
to feel good.

But when a woman feels LOW SELF-ESTEEM,
she feels THREATENED, she may feel that that
men don’t like her, she may feel that you don’t
like her, she may feel stupid, etc, etc.

And, if a woman feels that men don’t like her,
or that you don’t like her,  she is far more likely
to feel the need to cause you PAIN.  She will
try to make you JEALOUS in order to get you
to like her. She will try to put you DOWN in
order for you to feel like you are LUCKY to
be with her.

She will do all sorts of horrifying things all
because SHE is insecure and feels the need
to make OTHERS including YOU feel LOW
so that they should feel SHE is relatively
HIGH next to them on the totem pole of
being a person who is appreciated by others
for her beauty, intelligence, etc.

Again, the combination of EMPATHY
and high self-esteem is important.  

Someone who JUST feels high self esteem might
feel they are GREAT, and have no particular need
to be mean to you, but also no particular need to
care one way or another, and so to a woman without
empathy who has high self esteem, you might just
not be all that important at all.

But again, if she JUST has high self-esteem,
and she feels she can GAIN somehow by
being cruel to you, she might still engage
in that cruelty because she has no EMPATHY
for you, and she feels SUPERIOR to everyone
else since she has no empathy but she does have
high self esteem, so she figures why not just be
totally selfish.

And if she JUST has empathy, she might care
about you, but be no FUN to hang around with,
since she feels so low about herself she just feels
like moping, she feels kind of dead inside, and
this is really tragic by the way.

Plus, if she has low self-esteem, then even if she
has empathy, she might still refuse to believe that
you really like her, that you really are interested
in her, and she might still feel the need to make
you jealous or do other things in order to try to
placate her sense of inferiority.

So you want that magical combo of empathy
AND high self-esteem in a woman.

3: SELF-DISCIPLINE.

It takes self-discipline to find a better solution to
problems than resorting to drug or alcohol abuse.

It takes self-discipline to live by a moral code and
never fool around on the man she is with.

It takes self-discipline for her to hit the gym,
keep in shape, and follow a healthy diet and
lifestyle.

It takes self-discipline to WORK HARD rather
than sit on the couch and Twitter all day or
Facebook all day (especially when it’s with
other guys!) and flirt with other men (or women)
behind your back all day, or be obsessed with
thoughts of sex with others all day rather than
thinking of how she can help you raise a family
together and how she can help INSPIRE you to
be at your best.

And, just like before, self-discipline ALONE
is not enough. It must ALSO come with the
other traits that I am mentioning.

So, for example, self-discipline alone in a woman
might just mean she is disciplined to do whatever
it takes to just make money or do whatever other
selfish thing she wants to do.

Self-discipline ALONE is not enough to make
a woman worthy of a good man who has the
most pure and long-term intentions.

The FOURTH trait that is VITAL that you should
be seeking in a woman is:

4: A BELIEF THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE SACRED

The bottom line is that making a life together,
especially if you plan to raise a family with
a woman, involves GREAT, MASSIVE HURDLES.

And we are living in a time when NO ONE
is putting the social pressure on anyone to
really give a damn about family values anymore
compared to the past.

So the only force that will keep the relationship
going is the force that is created by the two    
people in that relationship.

And that means that you both must feel that
a relationship is not just something nice or
fun or a way to kill time.

It must be the DEFINING feature of your life.
The love that you two share must be CHERISHED.
The idea of raising a family together must be
something that inspires both of you to be your
best in every way to each other.

And the only way that inspiration can be strong
enough to last a lifetime is if that inspiration is
driven by a belief that what you two are creating
together in your bond is something of DIVINE
significance that can affect the universe.

And when it comes to this issue, people either
FEEL THIS WAY or they DON’T.

So don’t try to teach a woman how to feel this way.

If she thinks this is just about screwing,
or just about having fun, or just about sharing
a pleasant time together, then it is going to
CRASH.

Every DAY has to be inspired, and that can
ONLY happen when she and you realize this
is about MORE than just you and her, it is
about something SACRED.

Finally, the FIFTH trait she must have is:

5: INFINITE FIDELITY

This actually IS something that women need
to learn MORE than men these days, because
in olden days, women would be shunned by
society completely and never get married if they
were seen as even REMOTELY being unfaithful.

This has its roots in our history, because
men had no clue if a woman was pregnant with their
own child or some other guy's kid- i.e. if she was
disloyal. 

This is where the rage, the jealousy, the ZERO
tolerance emotion that men have for women
who cheat, came from. It makes total sense,
because NOT having such strong emotions
on this issue could mean the difference between
having their own DNA wiped OUT from the
gene pool, or having their own DNA continue
by fathering children- their OWN children.

And even though today DNA testing can prove this,
our BRAINS as men are still hardwired the same way
as they were in ancient days, meaning that a man has
absolutely no TOLERANCE for a woman that might
even in the SLIGHTEST way be unfaithful.

It is not like men consciously think about the
evolution/paternity issue at all, it is the fact
that we are HARDWIRED to have very
STRONG emotions about this issue, as men.

Most women today don't understand this issue,
because political correctness has made it so that
any mention of this issue is deemed somehow to
be a form of trying to control a woman, when
in reality it is women who control men by sheer
virtue of biology:

Only women give birth, and only women know
for sure who is the father, unless scientific
testing gets in the way, and only women have
the power over men's emotions in this way.

In fact, the ONLY evolutionary counter
for men would be to literally shack up
with HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of other
women, which, in the ABSENCE of a special
faithful woman, is MEN'S actual nature anyway.

So until we live in a culture where it is politically
correct for men to sleep with thousands of women,
there will be no force to make women think of how
important it is that THEY show men how faithful
that they as women can be, by steering CLEAR
AWAY from all forms of behavior that can raise
EVEN THE SUSPICION of infidelity.

This includes hanging out alone with some dude
she says is just a friend.  99.99% of straight men
have better things to do than just "hang out in
their free time" with some woman they are NOT
SEXUALLY INTERESTED in, in private.

A wise woman who REALLY wants a man
to love her forever will think twice before joining
her fellow "mainstream society women" who
think it is cute to flirt with other men or to play
even the TINIEST games on the side with
other men.

So, do NOT go for any woman who doesn't
understand this TO THE DEEPEST FIBERS
of her SOUL.

And if you are reading this right now and
would like to know more about getting a
truly fantastic woman, then I suggest you
get my book, called Get A Great Girl,
immediately.

This book is packed with how to do things
DIFFERENTLY if you are looking to meet
and keep a truly fantastic woman compared
to just picking up women.

It’s at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

If you have any questions about women, dating,
or relationships, and you would like a personal
consultation with me, just email me directly
at michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com and I will
be in touch with you on the same day.

You should probably also check out my full
line of programs for success with women at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks