How To Keep On Getting The Best Advice For Getting A Great Girlfriend

Before we start today, I need to mention something.
For about ten years now, I’ve been giving it my all
when it comes to teaching men how to attract and
keep a fantastic woman.

Today I’m going to ask if you can do one small thing

for me, that will only take you a few seconds, and it

will help assure the CONTINUED high quality that

you have been receiving since day one from me.

Here’s the situation:

Around ten years ago, I started teaching men how
to approach women, for real, live, on actual women,
and not just in books.

This was long before the book “The Game” came out.

At one point, I was part of the original
hard-core group of 'pick up artists'.

This was even before there were were
so many supposed "dating gurus".

The thing is, I eventually SEPARATED from
this group, which was really the ONLY
group that spoke AT ALL about how to
approach women in public, etc. (This was
before the "dating guru" phenomenon.)

I didn't WANT to separate, I wanted to
teach them what I had learned, the same
way I had learned some things from them.

The reason I separated, was because I noticed that
there was a strong BITTER attitude against women
in the majority of this crowd.  This was not just an
attitude, it was the root of many of the WRONG
teachings about attracting a great girlfriend, and these
wrong teachings were being spread like wildfire. 

Oh sure they "loved women" as long as the
word "love" was limited to sex.

The majority of them put ALL women into the
same basket. It said ALL women are gold-diggers,
that ALL women would cheat on a guy at the drop
of a hat, that ALL women would cheat on a “good
guy” in order to be with “a player”, etc, etc, etc.

They also said that the player games were REQUIRED

in order to attract women.

This attitude DESTROYED all my relationships.

Most of the men on these pick up artist boards
never spoke about real monogamous relationships,
because they were afraid of being called "weak"
or "uncool" even though I suspect that the majority
of the men on these "pick up artist" boards were
indeed trying to get help for getting a great girlfriend.

I know for sure one thing: That it was the only reason
I ever came to that site.  Don't get me wrong, it's
FUN to play around for a while, but once you
meet a great woman who has it all, the "playing
around" isn't as much fun as having something
stronger with a woman, where you feel a
greater connection.

At first, I thought that the fact my relationships kept
getting destroyed was just further proof that women
indeed NEEDED to be ‘gamed’ in order to be attracted.

After all, the more DOMINANT, LESS NEEDY,
and more SEXUAL I behaved, the BETTER it
seemed I did with women, and when I would
go into “nice guy” mode, I always seemed to
LOSE the woman!

It took a LONG TIME for me to see exactly what
was going on, and what I was doing RIGHT and
what was actually HARMING my results.

And I promise you, what I realized was something

that absolutely NO ONE else was speaking about,

or even would ACKNOWLEDGE.

It was a combination of realizing that there are
SEPARATE things here:

1. The skill of how to approach a woman who is
a stranger, in ANY place, whether it’s a bookstore
or a supermarket.

This is a SKILL because if you do it wrong, you
end up CREEPING OUT a woman, or you simply
don’t know what to say and the conversation goes
nowhere.

2. There is also something else, which is the
DEVELOPMENT of behavioral TRAITS that are
attractive from the FIRST MOMENT you interact
with a woman.

These include things like confidence, wit,
and that sense of masculine dominance,
tempered with good taste of course,
i.e. you don’t drag a woman by the hair
to your cave right upon meeting her.

3. The skill of how to TRANSITION to SEX.

This includes all the smooth transitions from
first call to first date to first kiss, to
making out, to sex.

Definitely, important stuff!

4. The DETECTION of the RIGHT kind of woman.

Just because you can GET a girl to get naked
with you, does not mean she will be a great
girlfriend.

There are plenty of reasons why a lot of
women will sleep with a guy but not be
GOOD TO HIM long term.

This is HUUUUUUUUUUUGE! And was totally
IGNORED or MOCKED when I mentioned it.

After all, since they believed all women
were the exact same personality with the
exact same values, there was "no such thing
as a faithful woman".

And believe me, I was tempted to believe
that myself, because MAN did I meet a
lot of the WRONG women!

It took a HUGE step for me to explore
BEYOND the pick up artist world on my
own to find out the TRUTH about women. 


5. The BUILDING OF A DEEPER CONNECTION


This is required for attracting a higher quality
woman that doesn’t sleep with hundreds of guys
and who takes a relationship seriously.


6. The COMMUNICATION SKILLS and behavioral
traits that make for a SUCCESSFUL LONG TERM
RELATIONSHIP.

A lot of men allow themselves to LOSE their
cool vibe when they get into a relationship,
and become the WRONG version of "nice".

It's important to learn how to KEEP being
"The Man" even in a relationship.

So, those 6 areas above are all SEPARATE.

And yet, the pick up artist community was
basically all focused on ONE thing:
GETTING SEX.

The FOCUS on that goal is not a BAD thing.

However, if you FORGET the other FIVE things,
then yes it is a HUGE mistake, unless you
really don’t CARE about what kind of person
she is at ALL.

Also, the focus on the physical actually cancels
OUT a lot of the women who “aren’t getting
with the program" i.e. aren’t willing to go to
bed that fast!  

When it comes to getting a quality woman as a

girlfriend, the focus on SEX at all costs actually

REPELS her.

When it comes to getting a quality girlfriend,

the INITIAL confidence that a man shows

IS attractive, but if he can’t connect on a

deep level, and if he thinks he needs to play

games to keep her attracted, he will LOSE

her.

When the pick up artists went to the media, they
told the media all they teach is "confidence” and

they skip all the stuff they taught about harming

a woman’s self-esteem, and about aggressively
pursuing sex or playing other games just to get
physical.

The bottom line is this:
Back in 2001-2003, I tried to EXPLAIN to the
pick up artist community that NOT all women
are the same.

That NOT all women will cheat on a guy at the
drop of a hat.

That yes, the SKILLS of how to approach a
woman ARE valuable, but that there are
OTHER THINGS THAT MUST BE LEARNED
AS WELL,(as listed above) and that in fact the
polluted attitude that was being preached would
RUIN results for many men if they were trying to
find a real RELATIONSHIP.

I also tried to get into the OTHER
areas that are so important to know
if you want success in actually getting
a great girlfriend!

I can also tell you that the VAST and

OVERWHELMING response to my message

was: "NOOOOOOOOOO! ALLLLLLL WOMEN
WILL CHEAT! ALL WOMEN MUST BE
GAMED OR SOME PLAYER WILL STEAL
HER FROM YOU!"

Also, another message I got a lot from those

guys was:"YUCK! RELATIONSHIP? THAT’S
FOR LOSERS! JUST KEEP SCREWING
AS MANY WOMEN AS POSSIBLE!
WOMEN RESPECT THAT KIND OF MAN!
WOMEN DEEP DOWN ADMIRE THAT
KIND OF MAN, AND THEY WILL WANT
YOU MORE!"

So, it’s not like no one had a CHANCE to
join me back then.

I was SCREAMING my messages out on the
most POPULAR pick up artist board, a board
that saw every single major pick up artist.

This goes WAYYYY beyond the stupidity
of relying on pick up lines, which, by now
have been proven OBSOLETE, and which
I said LONG AGO, that pick up lines were
NOT required and that in fact pick up lines
would limit a man’s thinking and his ability
to ADAPT to any situation.

It wasn’t just PICK UP LINES that I was against.

I was FOR many POSITIVE developments, (as listed above)
but virtually NONE of these "experts" supported my
message, and in fact they OUTRIGHT REJECTED IT.

Not a single major “dating guru” at the time or pick up artist
at the time supported my message.

And I was giving it away for FREE!
I only needed to start charging when teaching took up
all my TIME, and if I didn't charge, I wouldn't be
ABLE to teach!

So why am I bringing this up?

It’s because not a SINGLE dating guru or

pick up artist has given one DROP of credit

to me for basically changing the GLOBAL

LANDSCAPE when it comes to dating advice

for men.

Today, you will be hard-pressed to find even
a SINGLE pick-up artist or dating guru who
FULLY supports the OLD “The Game” approach
to approaching and attracting women.

Again, I invited everyone to be PART of it.
I got REJECTED by this crowd for what I
had to say.

The irony is that it was only when I used MY
approach to women, that I could actually get
CONSISTENT results for myself and for
the guys I was teaching!  Guys were calling
me and emailing me telling me how they
were in the first fantastic relationship of their
LIVES, after trying EVERYTHING else!

Meanwhile, guys using the pick up artist stuff

were wondering why all these women kept

acting WEIRD and nasty around them.

They never put two and two together, that maybe
the pick up artist tactics were actually HARMING
their results with women!

Again, for a drunk woman at a bar who is LOOKING for a one night stand, then maybe acting like an arrogant and sex-focused person is a good strategy. 

I'm not INTERESTED in one night stands, for many reasons, never mind how important it is to also avoid STDs as well.

Today, after changing the PLANET when it
comes to advice on getting a girlfriend, and
on advice when it comes to approaching
women, my materials have truly changed
the ENTIRE GAME to the point it is no
longer a GAME and instead is truly about
a situation where both you AND a woman gain,
and there is no PAIN caused to innocents.

It would be cool if some of these guys could give
CREDIT to me, since after all, they are using my
teachings, then selling poor imitations of it.

The imitations also, by the way, lack the proper
context for full meaning, since they are copying
my teachings without actually UNDERSTANDING
them, so what comes out is a warped version of the
original, (kind of like how Dr. Frankenstein tried to
copy a real human being but created a monster)- and
all the while, these guys pretend they never even
HEARD of me.

The simple proof for how I know it's not their
material is this:

If they really decided that they were going

to change, all on their own, then where

were they for all those YEARS?

I'm speaking all the way back from 2001 (my
message posts on pick up artist boards), 2002,
2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008 (at which
point in 2008 the imitating of me just started to
get strong), 2009 (when it was hard-core copying
of me), 2010 (when it started to get a bit less
because people found out about my site and how
it has been around for years.)

So here’s the thing: The more people that hear

about ‘Get A Great Girl’, the less likely that

these guys will be MOTIVATED to continue

to pretend that they never heard of me.

I’m asking if you can this one thing:

Let ONE person who you think can benefit 
from my programs know about the site.

The site is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com

You can use any tool you like to get the word
out: You can use Twitter, Facebook, YouTube,
or even just send someone an email.

EVERY. ACTION. HELPS.

That’s all.

And I’ll speak with you again soon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Judge A Woman's Character

When it comes to getting a quality woman
as a girlfriend, there are two separate areas
that are crucial to MASTER.

The first is all about YOURSELF.

By this, I mean developing yourself in all
the attractive ways, from conquering fears,
to mastering social skills, to honing your
listening skills, to developing the ability to
spontaneously start compelling conversations
with women who are total strangers, etc, etc.

The SECOND area is all about your ability
to quickly detect all you need to learn about
a WOMAN’S character.

It’s vital to be able to quickly see what kind
of person a particular woman IS.

There are TONS of different KINDS of women
out there, just like there are tons of different kinds
of men out there.

Some women you meet might be good people
but just not compatible. For example, she might
love adrenaline activities like sky-diving while
you might prefer a peaceful hike.

Unfortunately, just like with some men, SOME
women are downright cruel and deceptive.

So I’d like to take this opportunity to give you
a few RED FLAGS to be aware of. Some of
these are things you may notice INSTANTLY
in a conversation, others might only creep up
once you are already dating, but you should
definitely be alert to all of them.

Most importantly, it is the overall PATTERN

that she is exhibiting, so the MORE of the

following traits she demonstrates, the more

likely she indeed is a woman you want to

RUN from.

Many of the following RED FLAGS are documented by
Dr. Robert Hare’s Psychopathy checklist, which has
been further investigated recently by author Jon Ronson.

So this is not just stuff that SOUNDS interesting,
but rather is CRUCIAL if you want to stay away
from the kind of women who can RUIN you, and
instead allow for a TRULY GREAT WOMAN
to be in your life.

1. SHE’S TOO SLICK/ARROGANT

She has an overly simple answer to EVERYTHING,
and it often involves everyone else being inferior
to her.

She has ZERO shyness, even from the first moment.

She cuts off your statements when she thinks what
she has to say is more important, and has no remorse
for it. (And she is not doing this out of enthusiasm
for the conversation, but out of desire to control it.)

Some men mistake arrogance for confidence, and
end up regretting this error massively.

2. SHE GETS BORED QUICK/
(NEEDS CONSTANT NOVELTY)

A woman like this starts new books, never finishes
them. Or she signs up for new classes all the time,
never finishes them.

Women like this don’t work at the same job for long.

I’ll give you one guess why this is a RED FLAG
for any woman if you are seeking a relationship.

That’s right, she’ll get bored of the relationship as well,

no matter HOW exciting you are.

3. PATHOLOGICAL LYING/MANIPULATION

This means she will lie, and truly not feel any remorse.

She lies because it serves her, and she thinks she can
get away with it.

These lies might be quick easy lies, or massively 

complex ones that are designed to make you feel

unwarranted guilt or to lessen your self-esteem so 

that you will think you are not worthy of better 

treatment.

The bottom line is, if you detect a liar in even small
ways at the beginning, you better get off that ship
before it sinks.

By the way, here are some cues for evidence she is
LYING. Keep in mind, that one of these cues might
not be proof, but a combination of SEVERAL of these
cues is STRONG evidence.

These tips are based on information about liars from 
Bill Brown, retired FBI agent (Please feel free to
look him up online for more details!):

*While speaking to you, her tonality SHIFTS

suddenly.

*Her eyes are shifty, looking back and forth when

talking to you.

*After she says something that you think she might

be lying about, she suddenly looks at your eyes,

to see if you have been fooled.

4. LACK OF EMPATHY FOR OTHERS

If a woman has little empathy for others, not only
is this a turn-off in itself, but chances are, she will
have little empathy for you either.

Whether she is making fun of a woman who is

overweight, or she is blaming homeless people for

being homeless, I can assure you that when it

comes time for her to show you understanding,

she WON’T have the slightest empathy for you.

For example, let’s say you are going on a date
with a woman at night in middle of the frigid winter.
A homeless person is resting on the floor inside a
bank that is closed, but the area to the automated
banking machines is open, and providing warmth
from the cold.

This woman blames him, saying that these people
are lazy.

Well, although you could TRY to have a conversation
with her afterward, explaining that there are issues of
mental health and many other issues that are far more
complex than simply being lazy or hard-working,
chances are this is all going to be USELESS, since
you can’t make a cold woman into a warm one.

Here’s what’s even worse: When the woman is
not only attractive, but also very INTELLIGENT
and a high achiever.

Then you get the double ‘halo effect’ of thinking
that somehow this woman is more virtuous than
she is. (It's double, because of her looks AND
intelligence.)

You might start to give excuses for her behavior.

You might think this was just an innocent mistake
on her part, possibly she was the product of poor
parenting and misguided teachings given to her.

You might give her the benefit of the doubt because
this woman is EXTREMELY intelligent, has super-
high grades, and seems to have very civilized and
cultured FRIENDS.

Well, guess what?

HIGH ACHIEVEMENT has NOTHING to do

with GOOD CHARACTER.

In fact, studies show that there is a higher rate
of PSYCHOPATHS among CEOs than among
the general population.

If you think about it, it makes sense:
Most organizations are not smart enough to make
in-depth CHARACTER assessments among personnel,
even though the truth is that without people who know
how to get along with others, a company will implode.

So, the “most selfish” person wins in such an
environment.

Similarly, women who are selfish may very well
be doctors, lawyers, and even Nobel prize winners.

I’m NOT saying that all women who are doctors,
lawyers, CEO’s or Nobel prize winners or millionaires
are cold-hearted beeyotches!

What I AM saying is that you must not allow yourself

to think that this is a sign of KINDNESS or HUMILITY

or EMPATHY.

It has nothing to do with it, and in some cases might
even be the opposite and just another example of
women who are only in a profession for the money.

The same woman who couldn’t care less about
that homeless man won’t care less about your
stomach ache if you are both together out at
some show or event, she will think only about
how you are RUINING her fun and how you
should just suffer as long as she continues to
do what is important to her.

5. SHALLOW EMOTIONAL DEPTH

This is HUGE!
 

Very often, the most COLD women will on the 

SURFACE try to show they are SUPER SOCIAL, 

with tons of friends on Facebook and BIG parties 
with tons of people in attendance.

Guess what? These same women will often have
ZERO depth of feeling for anyone.

You may notice her being cruel or disloyal to her
‘friends’ when her friends aren’t in sight, and this
is another giant red flag.

And if her excuse is, “Trust me, my friends are
doing the same thing to me” well that just tells
you that either ALL her friends are sleaze-bags
and that she has terrible choices for friends,
or they are innocent and she is one heck of
a mean person to them!

Either way, it reflects poorly on her. 

And if you ask her, “Then why do you keep them
as friends?” you will get an equally SHALLOW
answer, such as “Because I need people to
show up to my parties!”

The fact she is having a PARTY is more important
than whether she CARES about anyone at the party
or even whether they care about her!

It’s the PARTY itself that counts, because it is
a “social-proof” to others that SHE must be
popular!

THAT’S the only thing that has emotional power
for her, the thought of having POWER over others,
through every form of power, including ‘social proof’.

6. EXPLOITING OTHERS RATHER THAN 
    WORKING ON IT HERSELF

This is a simple one: If you notice she has a lifestyle
that is based on exploiting other people’s work,
whether it is through using her looks to get ‘favors’
from guys, or using her popularity to get other
women do work for her in exchange for glowing
in the bask of her “social status”, it’s all exploitation.

Gold-diggers are obviously under this one too.

7. EASILY ABUSIVE/CRITICAL

Does she easily spit out abusive words?

Does she get pissed off very quick?

General lack of patience?

Then get the HECK out of there, immediately!

8. PROMISCUITY

Okay, I thought a lot about this. Just because someone
is promiscuous does not mean they are a bad person.

What it does mean, is that they probably have a tough

time forming deep emotional connections.

Therefore, a woman who has several ex-boyfriends
that she all met within the past year, is not a good
sign if you are looking for a stable relationship.

I’m reminded a bit of the Saturday Night Live
skit, where there is a fake commercial for woman
who is wearing RED FLAG perfume, and the
voice-over of a man says:

“…And all her friends are DUDES.”

And then we hear the whispering female voice say:

“RED FLAG!”

9. TOO IMPULSIVE

Does she tend to make impulsive purchases?
Does she often talk about the things she bought but
realizes she doesn’t want and wants to return?

A woman who is too impulsive may indicate a

woman who cannot resist temptation, and that

is a MASSIVE red flag if you are looking for

a LOYAL woman.

10. REFUSES TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY

Does she never apologize when she does something

wrong or hurtful?

Does she deny doing her hurtful or wrongful actions?
Does she try to manipulate others through shirking
off any responsibility for her wrong actions?

RED FLAG!

11. PRIDE IN BEING A CLEVER BEE-YOTCH

This is yet another massive RED FLAG.

Very often, an abusive woman does not only

show zero remorse, but is PROUD of how she

has gotten AWAY with doing something selfish 
that hurt other people.

She might be telling you a story of something mean
she did at work or school to other people, and how
she managed to totally get away with it.

In her mind, this is something to be PROUD of.

As you can probably tell, to me, it has NEVER
just been about “how to get a girlfriend”.

Trust me, it’s EASY to get the WRONG woman.

The WRONG woman will DESTROY you, FAST.

On the FLIP SIDE, the RIGHT woman will ENHANCE
every PART of your life. In fact, it will be as if you were
living your entire life before that point in black and white,
and for the very first time seeing everything in COLOR.

That's what it's like when you get a GREAT girl.

So, it’s not about 'how to get a girlfriend'.
It’s about 'how to get a GREAT girl'.

For my most powerful program on getting a
GREAT girlfriend, go HERE:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This program is an IN-DEPTH series of DVDs

that is all about how to get the RIGHT woman,

a woman who truly is the total package and

would make for a fantastic girlfriend.

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my program
on CONFIDENT HUMOR, then definitely do that
as well:

When you see a gorgeous woman somewhere
who is a total stranger, there is often nothing

better for "breaking the ice" and getting her 

phone number than using CONFIDENT HUMOR.

Get this program right now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/confident-humor.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks