Can You Attract Women By Being Yourself?

Have you ever wondered if it's possible to
truly attract a woman by being yourself?

This was always very important to me,
because I hated the idea that I would
have to pretend to be something other
than who I really am, in order to
attract a woman.

Well, the good news is that there IS
a way to attract women and to still
be yourself.

And this is how to do it:

Success with getting a true quality woman
inside and out requires that you destroy
any behaviors in you that are a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.

These overcompensation behaviors are in
fact MISREPRESENTING who you REALLY are,
and the tragedy is that when guys perform
these overcompensation behaviors, they
end up pushing women AWAY.

Today, I want explain this in detail and
share with you how a man has used the
Get A Great Girl materials to change his
LIFE in this way.

One crucial thing to keep in mind is that
when you actually start to GET results,
you will find that it comes from
TRUE DEEP LEVEL change-- something far
greater and deeper than learning superficial
"pick up lines" and "tactics."

Suddenly, you start to notice that you are
getting incredible reactions and results
from the highest quality women, without
even TRYING. But to GET to this level,
you have to get the knowledge, the insight,
and the maturity first.

Here we go:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael, it's a rare occasion when I decide to
sit down and share how my life has changed
because of some of your material.

When I was younger and inexperienced girls
actually flocked to me...before they knew
any better. I hit college bright-eyed and
thinking the world was my oyster. Then
I started getting rejection, after rejection,
and then started looking in the wrong places
and attracting girls that most would claim to
be less than virtuous.

I developed an attitude that women were
scandalous, indecisive game players. It was
like they had all the control, and there was
no such thing as a good woman left.

The one word that would sum up my behavior
during this time is OVERCOMPENSATION.

I tried to act so cool that it seemed I wasn't even
excited to talk to a nice girl. I held my cards so
close to my chest that eventually they lost interest.

It was a vicious cycle. I found material of other
"dating experts" that honestly caused me go
into a downward spiral, but then I found yours.

There is so much to say, and not sure where to
start, but one MAJOR thing I need to mention
is that your material allowed me to relax, to stop
pressuring myself, and I started to focus on having
a good time and meeting new people. And at the
drop of a hat girls really started noticing me.

I'm no longer getting blown off, at all. So now
I can do the choosing. It's almost so simple that
it makes me nauseated to look back at how
incorrect my previous approach was.

Being masculine is just natural for a guy, but
I was pushing it to ridiculous levels, and the
women could smell it from a mile away.

I also want to recommend something else that
has helped me immensely. Burt Goldman has a
website www.theamericanmonk.com, which
involves almost one hundred meditation exercises
that can help you overcome fears, become motivated,
view others as equals, and just gain a positive
outlook on life.

You both come from the set of ideals. There are
good people left in the world and like attracts like.
The only person who ever held me back was myself.
You and Burt have helped me realize this.

Specific examples of what I learned: The best example
is that I reached a point of desperation. Which women
certainly smell on you like a foul odor.

After having my heart ripped to shreds a few times
I decided to change my ways, so I read a few ebooks
from different people about dating. They said, in so
many words, to become Mr. Cool. I became a robot.
Never showing emotion. I overcompensated for my
own insecurities.

Every girl I approached could tell I was approaching
her for a reason. There was awkwardness dripping off
me. I was fearful in every approach, obviously because
I just knew I was about to face another rejection.

I really hit rock bottom. I found your material and
realized that I needed to work on myself first. Number
one was to stop being so hard on myself. Number two
was to learn how to have a good time and take as
many people with me as possible. Trying to be the best,
or funniest, or best looking, or smartest, is just plain BS.

I am who I am, and now I'm perfectly okay with that.
It's not about what you say to a woman, within reason
of course, but more about being sure of yourself and
comfortable with yourself. Being open and honest,
because THEN you gain the confidence to make
eye contact and say things with conviction.

The greatest part of all is that my once huge EGO
is now just a tiny voice. I don't approach women
anymore, things just sort of happen. Single women
are always scanning and they notice me and my
friends having a great time, relaxed and free.

One specific example is at a wedding reception I
got to the bar at the same time as one of the bride's
maids and said "Paper, rock, scissors" to see who
would get to order first. We've had several dates
since then. She has never blown me off, and never
will because I have hidden nothing from her.

She trusts me. When a woman trusts you it really
opens up a whole other realm of connection that
I never got to with women before, because in the
past I was too busy hiding my feelings from them.

My attitude has become very positive and it radiates
from me. I've noticed at work and among friends that
people pay more attention to me when I speak and
laugh more when I'm around. I no longer concentrate
on the details of an encounter with a woman, I just
let myself go, because honestly it's about NOT
GIVING A F&#@ what anybody thinks about you,
but not in an angry way, in a peaceful way.

I think I've rambled on enough michael. I apologize
if I didn't give you enough details, but I honestly just
changed my entire perspective, my entire paradigm
of reality. It's not so important that the next girl I meet
is the one I marry, or is my girlfriend because everyone
else around me has one.

It's about meeting new people and enjoying the
experience. You would be surprised how many people
will give you the reassurance you need just by the
look in their eyes when they are around you.

It's important to remember that we are all equals as
humans, just because you are the new cool guy
on the block doesn't make you any better than
anyone else. Cocky is fake, cocky is crap, arrogant
is just plain retarded. A woman wants to be
loved by a real man who knows that it's just
plain alright to be himself.

Thanks, J.M.
Louisiana

>>>MY COMMENTS<<<

Thank you for sharing your experiences in
applying the materials- what I love best
is how now you are truly CHANGED on
a massive, DEEP level, a level that is truly
YOU that has changed, so that everything
you do now flows from who you have
BECOME, and it all comes out PERFECT.

So you don't need lines, you don't need
to fake, you don't need to do anything
now. You have gone through the
TRUE transformation.

And this makes you extremely RARE.
And of course, this makes you more
VALUABLE.

Women are even better than men at reading
body language, and this ESPECIALLY applies
to a quality woman who is on the lookout for
a REAL MAN who has all the right personality
traits as well.

This is backed up by evidence in a book called
"The Definitive Book of Body Language" by
Allan and Barbara Pease. One very revealing
and interesting point stated inside the book is
that women are much more perceptive about
body language than men. He reasons that this
is so because women have a much more heightened
awareness about body language and facial
expressions because it is a necessary skill for
mothering.

Because infants obviously cannot speak, their
mothers have to be able to read them to know
whether they are happy, cranky, or in distress.
The author goes on to state that this skill is
inherent with women and is used also in
general socializing situations as well, whereas
men tend to be more oblivious to this skill.

So you can see just how MASSIVELY important
it is that you are not a "player" who PRETENDS
or "plays" that he is some type of person that
he is really not, or who is anything other than
an real man of strength, of integrity, of courage.

Human beings follow COURAGE, and women
ESPECIALLY so.

And it takes courage to tell a woman how you
feel, just as it takes courage to also stand up
for what is the RIGHT thing to do, to calmly
SHOW a woman the RIGHT way to behave,
and it takes courage to WALK AWAY from
the WRONG woman, no matter how tempting
it might seem to be.

And yet, you MUST be this type of man, if
you want to attract a woman of EQUAL
courage, of equally strong character, of
true integrity. She is TESTING you to
see how much of a man you are in the
most MEANINGFUL sense of the word-
and this has nothing to do with learning
cheesy lines, magic tricks, or "pick up
artist" routines.

Learning how to have the right body language
has nothing to do with learning "body language"
moves, contrary to popular belief.

It has to do with the way you LIVE, the way you
THINK, the way you FEEL. ONLY by doing it
this way will your body language TRULY show
that you are THE MAN in the greatest sense.

I also want to say a big thanks to Alex regarding
this point- you know who you are!

And another thing she is testing for is to see
how DEVELOPED you are in your ability to
actually listen and understand another person-
not just her but people in general.

It really is amazing how AWFUL most people's
listening skills are- without even realizing it,
most of us are not even properly HEARING other
people's sentences, because we subconsciously
allow our own biases to BLOCK out the words.

There is an incredible experiment where people
in white shirts and black shirts are passing a
basketball, and the group watching is told
to watch for how many passes the white shirted
people are making. Because they are so busy
watching the white shirts, at least 50% of the
people don't even NOTICE that a guy in a
GORRILA suit is walking right AMONGST
the people passing the ball!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Most people have no clue of how biased their
perception is and how they have "tunnel vision".
Now, factor in things like fear, and fear of being
burned by a woman, and things like a bad
experience with one or two women, and now
imagine how MASSIVELY that will distort
your communication with a woman, even if
she is AWESOME.

And imagine now much that will cause you to
REPEL just about all women, but ESPECIALLY
the very best of women who have worked on
this part of themselves and who realize how
damaging this is to any future relationship!!!!
Such a quality woman will have zero tolerance
for this lack of communication skill.

I also want to quickly zero in on an important
insight regarding that total destroyer of
chemistry: OVERCOMPENSATION.

Yes, overcompensation is EXACTLY what most
people and most guys tend to do for any
insecurity, and the irony is that it actually
INCREASES the chance that that very fear
will come true, because overcompensation
behavior tends to attack the other or to
attack yourself:

So by not showing a woman any emotion, you
are showing that you don't trust her, and she
feels this, and now senses that therefore she
shouldn't trust you either.

And if you overcompensate in the other direction,
i.e. "kissing up" well then you are showing that
you have no value, and you are delivering that
message to your own mind and that makes you
very insecure and that leads to you destroying
your natural charisma. And that destroys
your ability to generate humor, to be cool
on every level.

In, fact, black and white thinking, which I
describe in detail in my book, is a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.

In order to create SIMPLICITY and to protect
ourselves from pain and risk, we come up with
these crazy OVER-SIMPLIFICATIONS, that
i.e. "all women are like this" or "all women
are like that". "If you don't learn pick up
artist tactics, then all women will abuse
you and she will cheat with a pick up artist"
which is a favorite FEAR TACTIC the
pick up artist and "dating gurus" love
to use on innocent men--of course,
this FEAR that is bred into men by
these supposed experts actually
DESTROYS these men's charisma.

Black and white thinking is ALWAYS a sign
that a person is OFF the right track. Real life
is never black and white.

And in fact, a great woman will RECOGNIZE
"black and white" thinking patterns in you
if you are exhibiting them- whether they be
black and white perspectives on religion,
on women, on ANYTHING.

All this is a part of MATURITY and of having
the courage to not need to hide under a
psychological blanket of lies that pretends
you can protect yourself if you just tell
yourself "all women are the same" and
thus supposedly avoid all risk.

In real life, there are all kinds of women,
and if you want to get a GREAT woman,
then you have to become a GREAT man,
and you have to be able to detect who is
a quality woman and who isn't.

And if you want to do that, then I suggest
you get my "Inner Game" program on how
to attract the best quality women without
having to 'fake' or put on an 'overcompensation
act'.

This program will show you the things you
need to know to actually GET a quality
woman, and nothing less. And it will
do all this by actually enriching who
YOU are. It has nothing to do with
changing women at all, it has nothing
to do with learning "tactics" to get
a woman to change - that never works.

It has to do with making you about a billion
times more powerful in understanding her,
in unleashing your natural charisma, in
your ability to instantly get people to feel
FANTASTIC in your presence. As the man
who wrote in says, it's about taking
as many people WITH you psychologically
UP to a fantastic place where the truth is,
EVERY HUMAN WANTS TO BE.

And it's all at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my
"Obliterating Approach Anxiety" program,
do that now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/obliterating.html

And I'll see you again here soon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

An Unknown Secret For Attracting Women

Today I want to get to a concept that has
proven itself to be IMMENSELY helpful
in my interactions with women over the
years, ESPECIALLY in getting over that
initial hump from “total stranger she has
NO CLUE about” to “I want to see you again”.

And this concept is:

GIVE THE MOST, TAKE THE LEAST.

Ahhh, if only I had realized the full power
of this when I first started getting interested
in women, but YOU get to take advantage
of what I paid for so dearly in time.

What do I mean by “give the most, take the least”?
What I mean is, for example, do the BEST
approach possible, absolutely, use everything
I teach you, and then JUST ASK FOR HER EMAIL.

This is an example of “give the most, take the least”.

So, let’s say you approach a woman, you get her
laughing, you intrigue her, you lead the interaction,
your tonality shows masculinity and dominance
and sensuality, and she is so into you that she is
putty in your hands…

Well, if she’s THAT crazy about you, sure, you
can ask for more than just an email, but the fact
of the matter is, is that you can’t LOSE by asking
for less, AS LONG AS YOU CONVEYED
MAXIMUM VALUE about yourself. (Or at least
you did your best in your interaction with her.)

See, there’s no trickery involved here.
There’s just GOOD VALUE.

What do I mean by value?
I mean that she is having a BLAST with you,
and that she is experiencing all the awesome
emotions with you, from fun to sexuality to
intrigue.

She may very well DEMAND that you TAKE
her number, if you do all this.

However, let’s say that you are new at this,
and that you did a DECENT job in the
“approach”. You didn't do a BAD job, and
you didn't do the all-time-BEST interaction
either.

So now, by just asking for the EMAIL, you
are not putting her under the same pressure
as asking for a NUMBER.

Plus, she can check her email at any time that’s
GOOD for her. Plus, email gives you the chance
to think about what you are writing so that you
can do yourself some justice in expressing
yourself. That email can now save you and
help you get back to "full power" even
if you didn't do perfectly before that
point.

Also, let’s just say she gave you her actual
HOME address after just two minutes
of talking to her.

So what?
Does anyone actually think this somehow
would mean a guy can now skip all the
STEPS?

The steps would still have to happen!
Rather than trying to be "mr. mack daddy",
with a grand introduction, just get it done,
and move on to the next step.

This kind of reminds me a bit of how
Larry Bird was not the most flashy
basketball player ever, but he sure
was damn good. He just made sure
to get all those lay-ups, pardon
the pun.

See, ALL of the process of going from zero
to having wild monkey-sex with a woman to
having deeply intimate connections, can
SEEM at first like it's hard, or like it's
a LOT to do.

However, if you just break down each step
of the process into little steps, EACH step
on its own is EASY.

To just approach a woman and beat the
“approach anxiety” is something you can
easily learn to do.

To just get her laughing a bit so she is
disarmed and open to chatting to you,
is easily learned.

To show the right tonalities in your voice
is not that hard.

To just build a little connection…
To just go a little deeper.
To just get that first date.
To just get a little physical.
To just start to bond a little deeper.

All these things are just individual STEPS
that can be MASTERED.

It’s not that hard.

So don’t WORRY if you don’t do a
PERFECT initial approach.

Don’t worry if you don’t do any of these
steps PERFECTLY.

Just do it well enough to get to the NEXT
‘baby’ step.

And trust me, each step, on it’s own,
is something you can easily master.

And THIS is the reason I come back to
“give the MOST for the LEAST”.

So you do your BEST, and even if that’s
not PERFECT, you don’t have to worry,
because you are only asking her for the
LEAST.

So, subconsciously, from her perspective,
YOU are still the “better catch”.

At each stage, you are asking for the least.

So, for example, obviously, you don’t ask:
“Can I have wild sex with you?”.

Instead, when making out, you kiss, you
caress, and then STOP. You are not the
starving man here, you are the well fed
man, who doesn’t NEED it.

Ahh, guess what?
You wanted so little?
Now she wants it MORE.

She can tell it’s not all about YOU, so now
she wants MORE of it, because it’s good
for HER.

And of COURSE, giving the most for the least,
means that when it comes time to go all out,
you indeed go all out in bed too, which is
what you probably want anyway.

But at ALL times, for example, when LISTENING,
you become the best LISTENER, and you are
able to show her that you understand her, and yet
you aren’t expecting some immediate reward.

ALL THESE THINGS END UP ACTUALLY
GIVING YOU WAY MORE OF WHAT YOU
WANTED FROM HER...

...MUCH MORE THAN IF YOU CONSTANTLY
TRIED TO TAKE THE MOST.

This is a hard lesson for most men to learn.
Everyone seems ‘hardwired’ to want to take.
As if this is the ‘primal’ survival mechanism.

However, it’s actually NOT the primal
survival mechanism. For example, even
the top male Lion, who seems to do very
little and sleeps a lot and has the woman
doing a lot of the work, well the bottom
line is that he provides MASSIVE VALUE.

He is one hell of a hunter, and protector.
All the other lions know it, so the truth is,
for the value he’s giving, he should get
even MORE!

But he’s pretty happy because he knows
he’s getting plenty of action from the
female lion(s).

My point is, you can’t fool anyone when
it comes to a basic sense of giving vs.
taking.

So, if a woman WANTS to give you more,
she WILL. And trying to FORCE her only
makes her RESIST and want to give you
LESS.

On the other hand, when you give your most,
and ask for the least, you tend to spark a
frenzy of ACTION from her part toward
YOU.

Now let’s go a little DEEPER.
Let’s say you are already going out with this
new woman who really is into you.

And you are starting to feel NEEDY because
she’s so hot, and you’re starting to wonder
if you could ever get a girl like her again,
so now you want to speak to her all the
time.

Well, now you are involved in a very MASSIVE
form of TAKING, even though it is INVISIBLE.

The NEEDINESS is just a FEELING, it is
INTANGIBLE, but it is a VAMPIRE of
ATTRACTION, it slowly SUCKS out all
the attraction she can feel for you.

A vicious never-ending cycle begins, where
you need more and more of her “emotional
validation assurance”, the same way a
drug addict needs a hit of cocaine.

She becomes your “pusher”.
She is the dealer, you are the taker.
And the more you need to take from her,
the less she feels your value is, and the
more she feels that she was cut out for
someone better.

You want to be the OPPOSITE:
You want to DESTROY neediness.
So this way, she can FEEL that you are secure,
strong, and that you feel ABUNDANCE in
your life when it comes to everything, and
doing this makes HER feel good around you,
it make her feel everything will be okay
as long as she is around YOU.

Now, at this point, I need to remind you
of something:

If you are FEELING like “awww, I don’t
LIKE the idea of giving a LOT and taking
the LEAST” then guess what?

This is a SIGN that you need to take this
advice even MORE. It is the INSECURITY
that is afraid of getting “screwed” in a bad
way, of getting into a situation that is unfair.

I was the WORST offender of this wrong
kind of thinking, by the way. And that’s
because when it comes to insecurity, I
think I probably held the all time record
for most insecure guy about women on
earth.

THAT’S why I know how wrong this thinking is.

Go for the OPPOSITE.
I learned to slap myself like a pro wrestler any
time I start to veer away from this principle.
It works. So does pouring cold water over
yourself outside in the snow wearing just
a bathing suit, but ask your doctor before
attempting that one.

Give the MOST.
Ask for the LEAST.

This way, you will QUICKLY advance from
step to step, from walking up to her to make
the approach, to the interaction, to the
connection, to the getting physical, and
so on.

And here’s another COOL thing:
By the time a woman IS getting physical with
you, and has obviously passed through all the
previous steps with you, she will backwards
rationalize that since she put in all these steps
to get to this point, she wants to “claim her prize”
and that prize is you!

So, in fact, the more chilled out you are with
getting physical, and the more steps SHE
has to take in order to get physical with
YOU, the more she will want to get
physical with you.

PLUS, this also allows you the time to really
develop a powerful connection so you yourself
will actually get to know her so much better and
it will make everything far more meaningful
for you as well.

It truly is win-win for both you and her.

So, let the other guys who talk a big ‘game’
go on and on and try to be ‘mack-daddies’
while you end up actually GETTING THE
GIRL you really WANT and they go home
to visit the Palm Sisters.

What you have just read is an example of
how your ‘INNER GAME’ is CRUCIAL
for having the greatest degree of success
with women. ‘Inner Game’ refers to all
the things that are happening INTERNALLY
inside of you regarding the ways you are
thinking and feeling, which ends up massively
affecting your DECISIONS and BEHAVIORS
with women.

Having a super-strong ‘Inner Game’ is CRUCIAL
for having the HIGHEST degree of success
with women and especially for attracting a great
woman long term.

For the BEST program on attracting a fantastic
woman long term and for skyrocketing your
“Inner Game”, I suggest you get my program
‘Warrior Within’, now available on DVD.

This program will BLOW YOUR MIND
and absolutely take you to the next level
of success with women. It will show you
how to apply your "inner game" for all
the different steps of attracting women.   

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my
program, ‘Chats From Scratch’, then do
that now. It will show you powerful,
easy-to-apply strategies for chatting
to women and attracting them
ANYWHERE you see them!

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/chats.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks