Attracting The Right Woman

Attracting the right woman is about channeling
the power of TRUTH when it comes to values
and morals and relationships.

Today, more than ever, the truth is obscured
in lies and distortions, our culture has become
almost SCARED to give good advice, because
it might offend the "cool" (i.e. IGNORANT)
people.

There's no question that things weren't perfect
in the past, but there's also no question that
what's "cool" today in terms of women has
become a little more warped than ever before.

Can you even IMAGINE a female singer
like this TODAY?



And yet, you also know that there is something
inherently GOOD about this song, this performance,
and I daresay that it has something to do with
morals.  Not only the lyrics, but the whole
PRESENTATION AND STYLE is infused
with humility and not arrogance.

This isn't what you get when you turn on
MTV.

This is the unspoken TRUTH that no one wants
to talk about today.

So I say, YELL IT OUT, proclaim it, as it's
something that actually is DESIRED and
wanted, but no one has the guts to do it
since it's not already a "trend" and most
people want to be followers and not take
any chances.

When chatting up a woman who is a total
stranger, the problem most guys run into
is that they come across as cheesy and
not being authentic. It seems like
"here we go again, guy tries to pick
up woman with his one liner".

There is nothing more powerful than
coming across as being for REAL.

In fact, the strongest impact you
can have is when she feels she is
getting TRUTH and that this truth
is coming from a MAN not from a
boy who is still immature.

As a GOOD GUY, this is something that
is very POWERFUL for you.

The crazy thing though, is that there is so much
falsehood that MASQUERADES as the truth, and so
few good guys are even out there CHALLENGING
the lies, so the jerks win by default.

It's like good guys aren't even showing
up to the event, so the jerks win.

So, for example, the book “The Game”
SEEMED like the truth to millions of men.

It exploits the pain that millions of men
feel from how tough it is to meet and
attract a woman who is a total stranger,
and basically says “See? The reason you
couldn’t get a girl was because you weren’t
using these GAMES!”

And the book also seems to promise such
massive and easy results from using these
games and abusive tactics such as making
a woman feel less confident about herself,
etc.

I don't even blame the author!
I honestly think he is a good guy
who himself got brainwashed!

Even in the book itself, Neil Strauss
mentions at the very end that "relationships
are not a game"- and so if you REALLY
believe that, then you know that starting
a relationship with games, or approaching
a woman with using games, is not a
strong FOUNDATION for starting
a relationship on.

Also, even in the book itself, Neil mentions
how the one woman he actually really wanted
more than all the others, NONE of the games
stuff worked on HER.  And in fact, the games
pushed her away and it was only when he
STOPPED the games with her that he actually
got her.

Somehow, this part of the book seems to
have gotten totally lost on guys, because
99% of the book is all about how the
games WORK on women- it just doesn't
make it clear WHICH type of women
it works on, and how quickly the
connection and spark will be ruined
with a woman because the guy was
using those games.

Now, the truth is, of course, that not all
women are angels, that’s for sure.

The women who are not up to par character
wise, well the best thing is to AVOID
them, not to "game" them.

The problem with "The Game" is that it
makes you think that you weren't being
enough of a jerk, or that you were not
undermining a woman's self-esteem enough,
when in reality the solution is to start
having more conviction in yourself
rather than on trying to lower hers.

Also, of course, the other part of the
solution is to find better women.

If you need to play manipulative
mind-games to get a woman, I assure
you that the whole thing is going to
fall apart very quickly. You probably
already know that if you tried those
tactics.

But this is why I created Get A GREAT Girl,
because it’s not about “getting all the women”
it’s about getting the RIGHT one, and becoming
the best MAN you can be.

And what does TRUTH have to do with
getting the RIGHT woman?

The answer is: EVERYTHING.

Allow me to give an example:
If you see a woman, anywhere, there are about
a million things you could open up the conversation
with, that are all COMPELLING, if you just stick
to what is TRUE and what you CARE about.

For me, for example, I want to know what
a woman's values are like, and how mature
she is emotionally, so I might actually ask her
what she thinks of the fact that men and women
are so often not being honest with each other.

I know it will be a great conversation- where
the things she says will show me a lot about
her character, and where I have a lot of
passionate things to say as well.

Truth to me is always extremely important.

I’ve mentioned before for example, how the
show and movie “Sex and the City” was
supposed to all be about some form of
“empowerment” for women because now
these women sleep around all of New York
City and gab about it to their fellow female
friends.

Now, in fact, none of the women are fulfilled
from this- even on the show- and the writers
had to do this because if they showed these
women actually feeling so great from all this
it would FLY IN THE FACE OF REALITY
of all the women who in reality are NOT
FULFILLED FROM ALL THIS.

So the female audience actually RELATES
to the screwed-upness of the situation of
the characters on the show, and yet the
show never makes the OBVIOUS TRUTH
CLEAR- which is that the solution is for
these women to start focusing on finding
the RIGHT man rather than on emulating
the very worst men that are out there.

Recently, I read a book by Michael Coren,
“As I See It”, where he actually points out
that New York City has one of the highest
percentage of people with genital herpes,
ANYWHERE on the planet.

It’s actually one in four people, and women
are even more likely than men to have it
in New York City.

Why does THIS not get shown on the women
Of SEX AND THE CITY????????????????

Why does THIS not get shown in most movies?

That’s because the truth is something that although
is staring us in the face all the time, is also something
that most people will NOT see.

And yet, when the real truth DOES finally
sink in, you want to kick yourself for not
seeing it so much earlier.

So what I’m saying here is that if you want
to be BETTER than average, if you want
to get a GREAT girl, then you have to
become something that is more than just
the mass-production McDonald’s style
of how to approach women with gimmicks,
lines, routines, and games.

Start tapping into TRUTH, it’s soooooooo
much more powerful because so few people
ever use it and so few people are strong
enough to tap into it.

Most people would rather live in the “Matrix”
and fool themselves, and in fact there is a
whole society that has men and women interacting
in the game mode, and it’s all really pathetic
because the whole thing is doomed to failure
since it’s built on a weak foundation devoid
of love, wisdom, and other great elements
of character.

And I’m not saying that LOOKS aren’t important,
I think it’s VERY important to feel physical
chemistry for the woman you are with, I just
think that it’s not enough and that there needs
to be the big picture built on truth.

By the way, all these things in this column
would actually make for a great conversation
with women because it’s about relationships,
it’s about men and women interacting, it’s
definitely all EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT
content.

Another quick point I want to make here
is that in addition to the CONTENT of
what you are talking about, the other
major thing, maybe in fact even MORE
important, is the combination of emotional
states that make up for one fantastic state
of mind- the combination of feeling upbeat,
sexual, dominant, is so crucial for
effectively conveying who you are
to a woman you just met- she will
feel these emotions pulsing through
you by listening to the intonations of
your TONALITY in your voice.

It’s not whether you have a deep pitch or
high pitch or in between, what is important
are the emotions she DETECTS in your
voice, and she does all this subconsciously-
she is not thinking about it.

Again, being in an UPBEAT state while
also feeling dominant and sexual is very
important. You should NOT feel like
you are going into some kind of military
situation when you are approaching a woman.

Being manly does not mean being brooding
like Batman.

In fact, even if you were to ask BOXERS
you would find out that the boxer who is
HAPPY in general, does much better than
the boxer who is all brooding and such.

In fact, Mike Tyson himself said this,
and by the way, the documentary about
him called “Tyson” is a pretty good film,
because it PROVES so many things-
it shows how working TOGETHER and
having true friends is the way to really
accomplish things, as Tyson was going
down a terrible path in life until he met
this man named Cus D’Amato who
became like a father to him-

It shows how losing his discipline when it
came to many things, but especially when it
came to women, actually was a huge part
of his own downfall – the womanizing
clearly brought him down, and he is the
first to acknowledge this.

Instead of emulating the NEGATIVE aspects
of celebrity behavior, we should learn to
AVOID THOSE THINGS and to see how
those negative things are not a sign of
a successful man, but rather the UNDOING
of a successful man.

It also shows how EMOTIONAL STATE
is often the difference between a champ and the
guy who gets DEFEATED.

All this stuff is the TRUTH, and if you want
the FULL truth on how to get a great woman, I
suggest you get my book at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

This book will show you how to SKYROCKET
your results with the best kind of woman, and it
has nothing to do with pick-up lines or sleazy
tactics.

And if you haven’t yet subscribed to my
monthly CD series that gives you my LATEST
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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The Truth About Being Her Man

There's a ton of GOLD I’m about to share with you
regarding what women want you to BE in order for
them to feel WOMANLY.

Ready, set, GO:

NUMBER ONE: MASCULINITY

This is such a huge thing that I started
speaking about even in even in my
very first book years ago, which is
that in order for her to feel like a
WOMAN, you must behave like a MAN.

This has absolutely NOTHING to do
with acting arrogant, or with thinking
that women are less intelligent, less
capable, or with thinking that women
should all be barefoot and pregnant
in the kitchen all the time.

In fact, that kind of thinking comes from
ignorance or insecurity, the opposite things
from being the essence of a man.

What I mean by masculinity is a certain
type of ruggedness in essence. It means not
acting like a PRETTY BOY or being obsessed
with looking in the mirror or being too caught
up in plucking your eyebrows or shaving
your body all over the place, etc, etc.

Grooming and hygiene is EXTREMELY
important, obviously, but being a “pretty boy”
is the antithesis of masculinity.

Seriously, this metrosexual stuff makes
some men seem more FEMININE THAN
THE WOMAN, and this robs a woman of
her feelings of femininity.

That means in bed she will not feel PASSIONATE
as a woman.

Being a MAN is a good thing, regardless of
what some feminists say.

This brings us to the next point, on dominance:

TWO:

DOMINANCE

Dominance is definitely one of the most important
concepts for attraction, but it is misunderstood, and
then gets perverted and distorted, and turned into a
mockery by most people.

The reality is that most women although they
expect to be treated with equality in general,
they want to feel WOMANLY around you,
and especially so in bed, and they want you to
be the MAN.

However, in order for a woman to SUBMIT to
a man’s dominance, she must be able to TRUST him
and ALSO feel he is genuinely worthy and masculine.

This means that you must not only exude
CONFIDENCE in general so that she feels
you are THE MAN, but you must also earn
her COMPLETE TRUST, so that she feels
SAFE in and womanly in submitting to you.

And what I mean by trust is not just the trust that
you will not cause her any actual HARM, what
I mean is that she trusts you on a deep level that
you will still totally respect her and in fact
CHERISH her for all this.

She must know that you do NOT think that women
are ANY less than men, that you do not think she is
less than you in any way, not less intelligent, or less capable,
or less worthy.

This is NOT about being a Neanderthal.

It’s about knowing that a woman is a human
being with all the same rights as a man, but
ALSO knowing that she is WOMAN sexually
and that she naturally wants to FEEL that role,
and she cannot feel that role if you do NOT
act dominant and assertive in bed.

Old fashioned society knew the importance of
masculinity and femininity and preserved those
roles, but it also unfortunately had some screwed
up concepts of women. Modern society has
progressed in some ways, which is good, but
it has also LOST the concept of how important
it is to protect femininity and masculinity and
to cherish and preserve those identities, and losing
that is a great loss as well.

You want to be the BEST of both worlds-
respecting a good woman who has earned
your respect, and ALSO making her feel
like a WOMAN by you being THE MAN.

It’s when you COMBINE this best of both
worlds that you spark the MAGIC in her
known as INSANE ATTRACTION TO YOU!

Show your masculinity through your demeanor,
your tonality, your decisiveness, your conviction
in yourself, and show your respect through being
sensitive to her as a fellow human being as well,
and when it comes to being under the sheets,
be way more assertive than you have been, and
you’ll be surprised to find out that 99% of women
LOVE it when you take control.

This doesn’t mean that she can never take control or
be assertive, of course it doesn’t mean that. And it
doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be that softer
kind of lovemaking as well. Of course it doesn’t
mean that. It means that as a general principle,
being more DOMINANT is key, key, KEY.

I really do believe that this has its roots in our
biological makeup and chemistry, and is not just
a cultural thing, because in fact our culture seems
to imply we should all be identical, and yet that
doesn’t create attraction at all. So that’s why
I think it’s really in men’s and women’s genes
to be this way, to only feel chemistry this way.

THREE:

YOU HAVE TO MEET A LOT OF WOMEN

If you’re not MEETING a lot of women, then
unless you have special connections it’s going to
be impossible to ever meet the RIGHT woman.

So whether you are meeting these women in
person by approaching them as strangers, or
you are meeting on the internet, or through
speed-dating, or whatever other method,
the key is to be meeting MANY women
and checking out their personalities.

Now this has nothing to do with being a
womanizer or with dating several women
at once. I’m not into either of those things,
as you know I’m all about how to find the
RIGHT woman and I actually believe
that if you are dating several women at
once, you will not be able to focus on
the woman properly, which will not only
suck for her, but will prevent you from
properly being able to sense who she
REALLY is and whether she is really
right for you or not.

However, if you want to meet the RIGHT
woman, that means a woman who is not
only attractive but who also shares and
cherishes the same VALUES as you do.

In order to meet a woman who shares the
same “blueprint” regarding your values
and perception of things, you will HAVE
to meet many women, it’s the only way,
anything else is playing the lottery game
which is just plain ridiculous.

Laziness is the ENEMY here.
You will have to WORK it, my man.

If you are deciding to meet women through
cold approaches to strangers, you will have
to do it again and again.

If you're meeting women through social events,
you may have to go to a LOT of them.

If you decide to work the online personals,
then you will have to WORK it there as well.

Don’t expect that the first woman you message
or meet to be the one. Don’t expect to get too far
with a half-assed profile, make your profile as damn
good as possible, and as ACCURATE and consistent
to who you are as possible.  (more on this below)
But if you WORK it, over and over again,
for WEEKS at a time, you WILL get the
kind of results you are looking for.

Now, whether you are meeting in person,
online, or any other way, here’s another key:

FOUR:

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND BE
COMPLETELY CONSISTENT WITH IT

It’s really a turn off to a quality woman who
is looking for the real thing when she sees
MASSIVE INCONSISTENCIES in the
things you are saying, doing, or writing.

Inconsistencies come from trying to be
someone you are not.

And that comes from FEAR that you will
be rejected for who you ARE.

So I have news for you:

PLEASE ALLOW WOMEN TO REJECT
YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Embrace that because trust me, you WANT
to get RID of the women who do NOT want
who you really ARE!

Being with the wrong women wastes precious
TIME that you could be using on finding the
RIGHT woman.

Seriously, the best thing I ever did was when
I stopped trying to be “Mr. Cool” and Mr. Pick Up Artist
and instead realized that I believed in my OWN values
enough to the point that if a woman or even if ALL
women didn’t share those values then I really had
no DESIRE to be with them in the first place,
I would rather be SINGLE.

It’s amazing the crazy things we will do out
of the fear of being alone, as if being alone
was the worst thing that could happen to
a person.

Being alone is like being in HEAVEN compared
to pretending to be someone you are NOT.

But that’s just the tip of the iceberg, because
guess what?

The kind of woman who really IS the right match
for you, the kind of woman who really DOES share
your values, will ONLY be attracted to you if she
can DETECT that you have those values, and she
will NEVER detect them if you are trying to be
someone ELSE.

As long as you are not being true to your values,
you are not A FREE MAN, and that is the most
unattractive thing of all.  You become a slave
to SOCIAL PRESSURE, you don't act like
a man, you are not "your own man".

Start embracing and cherishing and defending your
values and LIVE them, breathe them, let them
exude from your every action and word, and, if
you are doing the online dating thing, then from
your every WRITTEN word.

If you are looking for a real long term relationship,
then make sure to NOT message the girls who
are looking for one night stands.

Inconsistencies end up confusing you on
a subconscious level and make you behave
in ways that are incongruent and that end up
telling the RIGHT WOMAN that you are
WRONG for her!

What kind of man will you be if you aren’t
confident enough in your own values to
BELIEVE they are worth it, that they are
worth the sacrifice of losing some of the
women out there- if you are not ready to
say NO to some women out there, then
you will never really be qualified to say
YES to ANY of them.

FIVE:

LISTENING TO QUALIFY HER

If you are serious about meeting the right woman,
then when you do meet a woman anywhere, I
urge you to get her TALKING about herself
and what’s important to her, and I urge you
to start listening better than ever before.

This is not to “show” you are a nice guy-
it’s to ACTUALLY FIND OUT if she
is right for you!

Now, the thing is, if you DO detect from the
things that she is saying that she DOES have
the right things you are looking for, well then
now you have something extremely POWERFUL
for attracting her, which is that you can
GENUINELY QUALIFY HER.

It’s interesting, because in sales, the best salesmen
on the planet are not the sleazy stereotypes of
a salesman. Nope, rather they are consultative
sales people. They are trying to find out if
what they have is what you are looking for,
and if not they will help lead you in the
right direction so you can find it somewhere
else, because at least then they have STILL
provided VALUE and will be remembered
which helps increase the possibility the
customer will come BACK.

Well, it’s not THAT different when it comes
to being great with women. You should
genuinely be listening to see what it is
she is really about, what she is really looking
for even if she is not conscious of it- and
then if you know you are the MATCH
for her, you now have all the reasons
that she has given you - either she has directly
given them to you through what she has said
or she has indirectly told you, and now you
can qualify her for being the right MATCH
for all the reasons she has actually given to you.

A woman wants to be chosen, not settled for.
and she wants to be with the RIGHT guy,
and she wants to know she is the woman
for that guy.

SIX:

CONFIDENCE WITHOUT ARROGANCE

If you are looking to attract a great woman who is
the total deal – inside and out, well chances
are she knows she’s got VALUE, and yet she’s
also not ARROGANT.

Like attracts like, and similar mindsets attract as well.
It’s incredibly, massively RARE to meet people who
have VALUE and who aren’t spoiled.

Those people who have value and who still keep
themselves GROUNDED and not arrogant are
like the PLATINUM of PERSONALITIES.

So, for example, if you exude confidence and
masculinity and yet you don’t reek of player
infidelity and lack of integrity, a great woman
will pick up on this FAST.

So, in order to accelerate the process of becoming
this kind of man, start asking yourself:

“Is this thing that I am doing or saying or writing
flow from CONFIDENCE, or from ARROGANCE?”

“Does this action I am about to do come from
LOVE or from NEEDINESS?”

Become STRICT with yourself to annihilate
NEEDINESS and ARROGANCE from your
soul, and replace them with the kind of quiet
confidence that is like a Wolverine- quiet, not
seeking attention, yet devastatingly powerful
and resolved to win in all situations.

And if you are reading this right now and
are resolved to getting a GREAT woman,
then I suggest you download my book,
Get A Great Girl, IMMEDIATELY, at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

This book is the ONLY one of its kind that
focuses on how to get and also KEEP a truly
fantastic woman. It will show you exactly
what to do not only for approaching a woman
or meeting women anywhere, but it will also
show you how to deepen the connection
so that you both form an impenetrable BOND
with each other that no other man can match.

And at every step of the way, you will be doing
this in a way that is all about being a MAN,
and not some type of "entertainer" or court
jester.

Being a man is a great thing, it's the very best
gift you can give a woman: 



Till next time,

Michael Marks