There are some really important insights
I want to share with you today on attracting
women, and rather than give you a whole
long introduction, I am going to get right
to the CORE of the matter immediately:
The FIRST insight is this:
The ATTITUDE In Your VOICE Is A KEY Factor
In Your Success When Approaching Women
To Attract Them
In that first INSTANT that you approach
a woman, she has no IDEA who you are,
but she can tell a LOT from the ATTITUDE
in your TONALITY.
So, right now, imagine what you would SOUND
like if your attitude was a combination of the following:
1. I was doing well even before I met you.
2. I prefer to make things FUN, rather
than being NEEDY.
3. I know you love me, even if you are not
supposed to.
4. Even though I am having fun, and not taking
this too seriously, I am also confident enough
to not have to be a CLOWN to get your attention.
5. I am pretty chilled out even as I have some
fun here.
So take those five attitudes, and imagine how you
would SOUND no matter WHAT you said.
In fact, just THINKING about these ATTITUDES
will often SPARK the right KINDS of things to be
saying to a woman.
So let us say she is pouring sugar into her coffee at
Starbucks.
You might say something like, "You know, they say
that three cents from every coffee goes to help kids
in other countries, so you ought to get back there and
buy about a hundred coffees right now."
She might laugh, or smile and turn to you and say,
"Yeah, you're right, but how about you?"
And you might say back something like:
"Hey, with you on all that caffeine, SOMEBODY is
gonna have to be calm around here!"
And if she laughs, you can continue with this:
"Don't laugh! With all the caffeine in your system, you'll probably build the school, dig the wells, and teach them English! See, now I am admiring you already for all the hard work you did!"
And when she responds to that, you can play a bit more, by saying:
"Hey, you know, you really ought to thank me, it was my idea in the first place!"
At THIS point, the energy is HIGH, and you have
DEFINITELY conveyed the right attitude, and
at that point, you can lean back and take things
to a more "getting to know you" level and
start building the CONNECTION.
The KEY here is the combination of
ATTITUDES that are behind the words
that are being delivered.
As long as your tonality is CONSISTENT with
those attitudes, the words you say will be in the
right zone, and she will INTERPRET your
attitudes first and foremost.
This is just ONE of the key principles for
NOT needing to memorize pick-up lines
and for being able to be spontaneous to the
EXACT SITUATION in front of you.
And now, onto the next point, which is regarding
something totally different, but JUST AS IMPORTANT
when it comes to making the right decisions with
women.
Insight Number Two:
You Cannot Tell If A Woman Is Truly Special
Unless You Have Other Super Attractive Women
Right Up In Your Face.
And allow me to add to the above, these
other women must want you badly, and only
THEN if you STILL think that one woman
is special, is she actually special.
Until you actually have SEVERAL fantastic
women pursuing you at ONCE, you usually
cannot accurately judge how SPECIAL a
woman is.
So I get quite a few emails a day from men
all across the planet, and one of the most
popular questions revolves around the
following situation:
There is this ONE woman who they really like.
And this ONE woman is REALLY special.
So I read these emails and I read them with
a truly sincere desire to help.
So I then re-read the emails, and I look for
some sign of EVIDENCE for why these
particular women are so special.
And usually I see zero actual solid reasons.
In fact, usually I see nothing.
Now, do not get me wrong, I UNDERSTAND
that one may FEEL a particular woman is
SPECIAL, but FEELING does not mean it
actually IS the truth.
I know this because I went through it, so I am not judging anyone here. I made the worst form of this mistake and spent years in the wrong relationships. It's a big part of why I ended up in this field, it is because I needed and wanted to learn these skills so badly after realizing how TOTALLY brainwashed I was by the forces of attraction.
We are DESIGNED to be MIGHTY ATTRACTED
to women, especially women that visually
trigger all the right HARD-WIRED impulses
in the male brain.
And FEELING is much stronger than LOGIC.
So once you FEEL attraction to a woman, your
mind will RATIONALIZE all kinds of stuff,
to make you feel that your FEELING is
JUSTIFIED.
After all, none of us wants to feel we are being
CONTROLLED by our hormones; in fact the
very thought of it, if one is unaware of how
this works, can feel depressing.
But it is NOT depressing once you realize the
TRUTH, and the TRUTH is that we do not
HAVE to be slaves to our emotions, we can
make our emotions work FOR us.
But the FIRST thing to do in order to gain
control over our emotions and turn our emotions
into our allies, is to accept the TRUTH:
And the TRUTH is that, most of the time that
a man is focused on trying to get ONE particular
woman who is not giving him back the same attention
that he is giving her, the truth is that if this same
woman was UNATTRACTIVE he would not feel
that she is so special.
Because, if she REALLY is SO SPECIAL,
then why the heck does she NOT appreciate
the guy right NOW???????????????????
I mean, if she is REALLY just SO SPECIAL, right?
So this brings me round to the next point:
IT IS ABSOLUTELY CRUCIAL TO LEARN HOW
TO GET OPTIONS WITH WOMEN.
And it is essential to actually GO OUT with these
women, and not just tell yourself that you could if
you WANTED to.
Actually GETTING many options with women that
are truly options in the real sense, and not just in
some theoretical sense, is the only way to get your
mind to STOP playing tricks on you.
I have had guys that have spent years of their lives
obsessing and truly BELIEVING that certain women
were truly special, women who were not giving them
the time of day, and THEN after taking my bootcamp,
in just 48 HOURS they had their entire FRAME
OF REALITY turned upside down.
They realized not only how NOT SPECIAL these
previous women were compared to the NEW women
they met, but also realizing how LUCKY they were
to NOT have been tied up with some woman who
actually was NOT that special at ALL.
There is a reason why I teach what I teach, and it
is because I believe it is HUGELY important in
LIBERATING men from the chains of fear, of
loneliness, and of BRAINWASHING.
When you learn how to get women, you are
FREED from the brainwashing effect that any
one woman can have on you.
Now, onto the THIRD insight:
IF SHE IS YOUR FIRST LOVE, YOU
ARE ALMOST GUARANTEED TO THINK
SHE IS MORE SPECIAL THAN SHE REALLY IS,
EVEN MORE THAN WHAT YOU READ ABOUT
ABOVE IN THE FIRST POINT.
Everything you just read in the second insight applies even MORE so, if you are dealing with a woman
who is a first love.
Any woman who is the FIRST woman that
you are truly CRAZY about, head over heels
in love with, is going to have a MASSIVE
power over your emotions.
This has NOTHING to do with her character.
She MIGHT be the nicest, most noble, most
virtuous woman on Earth, but it would be
DAMN HARD FOR YOU TO KNOW because
you are being hit HARD, for the FIRST time,
with INFATUATION.
There is a saying and a song and it goes like this:
"The first cut is the deepest."
It is famous because it is TRUE.
It is based on a PSYCHOLOGICAL FACT
that FIRST impressions, when it comes to
emotional things, COUNT.
In fact, they count MASSIVELY.
Now, allow me to make it clear that you CAN feel love for another woman, even MORE love than for the first.
HOWEVER, you have to know HOW to get over the first, and getting OTHER women is a very powerful force, and will eventually free you from the anguish of thinking that some woman is special when in reality she is not giving you what you want.
But first, I want to make it clear just how POWERFUL a first experience actually is, REGARDLESS of who she REALLY is.
The real key is that she was the FIRST.
Not the first woman you got physical with,
but the first woman you really LOVED.
Listen, for all the BILLION Pepsi commercials,
COKE IS IT.
Now, although we all know we should avoid
sugary drinks (and Coca-Cola sells plenty of
healthier alternatives including filtered water),
my point is simple:
COKE IS IT, not because of the superior ad
campaign, (which they may very well have),
but COKE IS IT because they were FIRST.
All else being equal, NO cola can create
a FEELING through an advertisement that
is going to be MORE POWERFUL in people's minds
than the feeling of SUBCONSCIOUSLY knowing
that Coke is the original real thing.
And no matter what Pepsi does, everyone
knows Coke is IT, Coke is CLASSIC, Coke is
THE REAL THING, the original, etc.
The fact that Pepsi manages to get as much
sales as IT does, boils down to other things,
such as innovative marketing, ads, etc.
But Coke is the FIRST LOVE.
All Coke needs to be is consistent to
what it IS: It is THE FIRST.
And feeling LOVE and LUST for a woman
who is your FIRST, will carve an IMPRINT on
your MIND and your EMOTIONS that is going
to play wicked games on your mind, even if
this woman IS an actual SAINT and is TOTALLY
INNOCENT.
But if this woman happens to be NOT SO NICE,
or happens to be a selfish, twisted, warped, she-devil,
that is when the REAL NIGHTMARE happens:
What happens is that your STRONG EMOTIONS
for this woman will end up making you RATIONALIZE
every single terrible thing she does.
You will come up with excuses for why she is not
treating you well, you will allow yourself to get
abused and meanwhile you will think that this
is somehow NORMAL.
And even if this woman is a GOOD woman,
the fact is, because she is the one who is the
FIRST, what will happen is that you will
PERCEIVE her as being a lot MORE than she
actually IS.
So you will likely feel NEEDY.
You will likely SPOIL her.
You will likely STOP being a challenge at all,
if you even ever were a challenge for her at all.
You will want so much time with her, that she
will start to feel she needs more space, and that
she wants less time together.
And of course, all this will only make you
want her even MORE because it will make
you more NEEDY and more insecure.
Your NEEDINESS will become a bottomless PIT
that sucks the life-force, the fun, the
challenge, the ATTRACTION completely OUT
of the equation, and it will likely destroy
the relationship.
How do I know all this? Because I learned
it all the HARD WAY.
I am trying to SPARE YOU the anguish.
So, if even a GREAT woman is going to be
a problem if you do not have LOTS of women
to go out with first, you can imagine how
horrifying an experience it will be if you
happen to fall hard for the first time and
it turns out to be a wicked woman, and
I do not mean wicked in a positive sense.
This is why even if a guy DOES meet a
great woman who he is ready to MARRY,
I would say that if he has not dated at all,
he SHOULD first date some other great
women, if for no other reason than to PREVENT
himself from becoming a NON-ATTRACTIVE
personality who worships her, who is too
needy for her, who puts her on a pedestal
she does not deserve, etc, etc, etc.
Alright, now for the FOURTH insight:
IT IS OKAY AND GOOD TO APPROACH
WOMEN EVEN IF YOU ARE SCARED
Obviously, the BEST way to approach is
WITHOUT FEAR.
When you are not feeling fear, women
DETECT it, and also when you are not
feeling fear, you yourself are more likely
to be in that more PLAYFUL and fun
frame of mind which helps you socialize
a trillion times more effectively with
women who are total strangers.
But if you wait for the PERFECT time, or
if you wait till you think you can get
into a perfect state where you do not
feel any fear before you make your
first approach, you may very well NEVER
approach often enough to actually
GET OVER the fear.
So you do not have to have the PERFECT
approach to BENEFIT from approaching
women.
When you approach women regularly, (not
just once or twice) the fear GOES AWAY.
Now, successfully attracting women is about
more than just NOT FEELING FEAR, but even
just getting over the fear by making enough
approaches is IN ITSELF going to help a LOT.
And here is the FIFTH insight:
DO NOT WASTE TIME TRYING TO HYPNOTIZE
YOURSELF THAT EVERYTHING IS PERFECT
What I mean by this, is that too many men
waste energy on trying to make absolutely
certain that they are in the perfect state
of mind, that they are going to say the
perfect pick-up line, that they have somehow
come up with a way to absolutely avoid
all and any chance of rejection, etc.
SCREW THAT KIND OF THINKING!
Now, obviously, my materials will MASSIVELY
improve your results, and in fact one of the
things I teach is how to GET OVER THE ENDLESS
CHATTER IN YOUR MIND THAT PREVENTS
YOU FROM TAKING ACTION!
And one of the BIG THINGS is to do the absolute
OPPOSITE of common so-called wisdom:
Instead of trying to pump yourself UP, just
write down ALL YOUR FEARS about approaching
women, and then next to them you have to be
able to JUST SAY ONE THING:
I GET TURNED ON BY WOMEN, SO IT IS
WORTH IT TO ME ANYWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I really DO mean it like that.
It's time to BITCH SLAP yourself if you are
being a WUSS when it comes to this part of
your life.
GO AND APPROACH WOMEN!
Who CARES how they RESPOND?
Ultimately, it is not even about what women THINK.
There is something SUPER LIBERATING about
being a MAN who not only ENJOYS women, but
who is not afraid to EXPRESS it through ACTION.
Getting a thumbs up or a thumbs down is
BESIDES THE POINT!!!!!!!!
We live in a society that on the SURFACE somehow
PRETENDS that a man approaching a woman who
is a stranger is not normal, when in REALITY
it is this ANIMAL ATTRACTION that is the
DRIVING FORCE of the entire mainstream
culture.
And I do mean that, from movies to music to the
FACTS on how just about every man who has the
POWER to get women actually USES that power.
By the way, this does NOT mean in any way that
I am against monogamy! I truly DO think that
meeting a woman who is GENUINELY special
can be one of the most REWARDING connections
a man can have with any woman, ever.
What I am saying is that the REALITY points
to the FACT that we all know that approaching
women is the most NORMAL thing in the world,
and is simply a sign of having a healthy interest
in women.
Look, if a woman is not available or not interested,
that is TOTALLY COOL! That is TOTALLY up
to HER, that should NOT be something you are
WORRIED about.
Your job is to do YOUR job, that is it.
And that job is to make the best approach possible.
What happens after that is really not the main thing.
(But if it does go well, then obviously you have
the great pleasure of being with her.)
And if you like what you have just read, I assure you
it is just the tip of the ICEBERG of what you will find
in my DVD program called "Warrior Within".
This program is PACKED with pure GOLD on
attracting women of the absolute highest quality.
Just the sections on overcoming FEARS with women,
including overcoming the fear of the approach, would
be worth the entire cost of this program.
And yet, this program has so much MUCH more, including the most effective ways of approaching and having conversations with women, the most effective ways of creating a powerful CONNECTION with women, how to create powerful intimacy with a woman so that she feels completely uninhibited with you and is open to going totally wild with you in bed, the most effective way to convey power as a man, plus learning how to DETECT the character of a woman, plus learning how to KEEP a woman attracted LONG term, and much, MUCH more.
This program is an absolute ESSENTIAL if you
are serious about having the power of CHOICES
with women, and if you are serious about learning
how to approach, attract, and keep the highest
quality women.
It is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
After that, the FINAL step is taking my
Real World Bootcamp. This is where your
skills with women will be taken to the
NEXT LEVEL as I go with you into approach
after approach after approach on real women
in all types of places, from cafes and
lounges to bookstore, public transit,
supermarkets, malls, and just about
everywhere else.
In this program, I will not only demonstrate for you, but
I will also coach you directly as you approach women,
and I will detect any and all errors you make and immediately
erase these errors from your game- you will notice a
MASSIVE IMPROVEMENT IMMEDIATELY.
After that, I will then tweak, polish, and fine-tune your skills, and I will also work with you directly on a deeper level as well to skyrocket your confidence, help you eradicate anxieties, and super-charge your inner game.
The Real World Bootcamp will transform your life.
Many of the men who have taken my program have
told me it is the single greatest decision they have
ever made.
Find out more by going here:
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Let me close by saying one last thing:
NOT taking action is the EASY way out.
It is so easy to just NOT LEARN how to approach women,
and to instead just DREAM about it, or fantasize about it.
Most men will just try to fantasize about some way
they can get the women they want withOUT having to
actually DO anything to make it happen.
Human beings will always try the path of least resistance.
The easiest path. And I understand that, there is no point
making things HARDER than they have to be.
I have spent the last ten years designing programs
to make this process of getting AMAZING with women
as EASY as possible.
It will not get any EASIER than this.
Take this moment to make SURE you get the women you want, by taking action IMMEDIATELY. Get my DVD program on attracting the highest quality women immediately. It's called "Warrior Within", and it's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And for the final step to mastery with women,
take my My Real World Bootcamp, which is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Friday, May 4, 2012
The "Graphic Equalizer" Method Of Attracting Women
Today is an EXTREMELY important
lesson, possibly the BIGGEST ONE
EVER, when it comes to creating
attraction.
If I were to ask you now, which is
truly a more MASCULINE color:
PINK or BLUE???
Which one would you say???
I'm willing to bet that 99% of
guys will say BLUE, of course!!
I mean, doesn't it FEEL more
MASCULINE than PINK?????
I mean, isn't that just so
OBVIOUS, and INSTINCTIVE??
Well, guess what?
The TRUTH is that, in Western
culture, from the 1920s until
the 1940s, pink was considered
appropriate for boys because
being closer to RED, it was
considered the more MASCULINE
color, while blue was associated
with GIRLS because it was considered
the more "delicate and dainty color",
or related to the purity of the
biblical figure of the Virgin Mary.
Things changed in the 1940s, with
pink for girls and blue for boys.
An entire culture and civilization
that now feels that "of course"
blue is masculine, pink is feminine,
etc.
The most powerful force on human
emotion and thought is often the
force of SOCIAL PROOF.
If enough people SAY AND DO something,
then suddenly we actually FEEEEEEL
that this is the RIGHT thing, the
good thing, the DESIRABLE thing.
What is DESIRABLE is NEVER in STONE.
It's MALLEABLE, things can be CHANGED.
What we DESIRE is massively controlled
by our ENVIRONMENT, which WE can control.
This psychological phenomenon happens
ALL THE TIME in your interactions with
women.
But guess what else?
You don't have to have a MILLION people
saying something or doing something to
create this effect.
The same effect can be achieved if
there is even just ONE person doing
it, IF that person is coming across
as an AUTHORITY, and has CONVICTION.
This happens all the time as celebrities
or anyone else that society thinks has
authority or value SAYS or DOES anything.
Styles, values, choices, are created,
others are destroyed, considered
"uncool", etc, etc.
Now, guess what happens when most
guys talk to a woman they like?
They act as their own WORST form of
social proof. They THEMSELVES are
trying to impress HER, they are
coming from a frame that they
themselves have no value, so
what do you think this triggers
in a woman's EMOTIONS?
It triggers NOTHING good.
The guy automatically loses all
authority, for SHE becomes the
authority.
He has made it clear this is
such, by his attitude and
by his demeanor.
KABOOM - goodbye to any social
proof for yourself.
You YOURSELF must be the greatest
force of social proof FOR yourself.
Forget about walking around with
girls on your sleeves showing how
cool you are, because if YOU don't
believe it, you'll never even get
ONE woman to believe it.
PART TWO:
But there's an even BIGGER level
to all this:
In our society today, as you can notice,
MESSED UP VALUES are more common than
EVER. The more they are around, the
more PERSUASIVE they seem to be.
This leads to drug abuse, alcohol abuse,
rampant STDs (often given to INNOCENT
people who were lied to buy others),
teenage pregnancies, and horrific
relationships full of mistrust and
lack of respect.
But it's almost IN STYLE now, to be
like that.
See, a lot of guys will only apply
1% of this advice, and try to act
"more confident" with women.
But that is not enough to get a great
woman. Today, so many women are confused
as well, even some really good women, that
YOU NEED TO LEAD THE WAY in terms of morals
as well.
YOU must become the social proof for
your good values. And what I mean by
this is that YOU must have total conviction
in them, and not act APOLOGETIC for them,
or as if they are something to HIDE
or be ashamed of today.
Yes, many women are actually SCARED to
be considered UNCOOL to speak out against
all kinds of insanities, whether it's
the kind of feminism that says it's evil
to love a man, or whether it's considered
uncool to be in a long term relationship
rather than shaking your ass at the clubs
or whether it's a joking matter to be
cheating and flirting with every guy
in sight.
The truth is that most women really DO
want a great guy, and a great relationship,
and most men want this as well, but because
our society says this is not COOL, everyone
ends up feeling that the other gender is
hopeless, and they feel they must play
games because the other gender is hopeless.
This "playing games" causes massive
destruction to their own happiness.
As a man, you must speak not only without
APOLOGY to a woman when you approach her,
but also you must have total CONVICTION
in your values as well, from the moment
you meet her till the rest of your life.
You must come across as having
AUTHORITY as well, and I mean
authority in EVERY sense- authority
to be chatting to her, authority for your
values, authority in what you are saying.
PART THREE - AN EXAMPLE OF THIS:
That means no more, "Excuse me, I'd like
to talk to you" to women! Why EXCUSE
yourself? You did nothing wrong!
The "excuse me" thing will get you
DEMOLISHED.
By the way, be PREPARED for when a
woman does NOT necessarily JUMP ONTO
you and do cartwheels the moment you
say something to her- be prepared for
even something that might seem a bit
harsh, because maybe she is being
defensive against the ocean of men who
ogle her and she has no idea of the
difference between you and them
until you speak MORE to her.
So even if she gives you the equivalent
of "buzz off", stay calm, and GO WITH
THE FLOW.
If she tells you that she doesn't talk to
men who approach her, then tell her
that THIS IS A GOOD THING that
you respect in her, and that you
appreciate her being so selective,
and that is why you knew she was
the right kind of girl in the first place.
See how this turns it around?
No matter what she says, interpret it as
a MUTUAL compliment, i.e. in this
case above by saying 'this is a good
thing she is so selective and that you
knew she was the right kind of girl',
you are saying she has high standards
and so do you.
By the way, regarding having AUTHORITY
and CONVICTION in everything you say,
this doesn't mean you can't grow and
evolve your perspectives with time,
but you must be your own best form
of 'social proof'.
Don't try to act "cool" and pretend you
are into certain kinds of music or movies
or entertainment if you're not.
Don't try to name drop the names of all
the local clubs to show how "in the know"
you are about what is so "hip".
Drop the showing off attempts, drop the
fake identity.
PART FOUR:
USING YOUR INTERNAL 'GRAPHIC EQUALIZER'
Being the "real you" is actually one of
the HARDEST things to do when meeting a
new and hot feminine creature! It's
actually a SKILL to learn to be able
to bring out your REAL best self
instead of the "act", because it's
almost an impulse to want to overcompensate
out of insecurity.
One of the important ways to let the
BEST version of the REAL you show,
is through the various COOL EMOTIONS
that she can detect in your TONE OF VOICE.
When you speak, you reveal a TON of
what you are FEELING, and you can
actually get YOURSELF to feel more
things by ADJUSTING your own
GRAPHIC EQUALIZER OF EMOTIONS.
There are MANY cool emotions, it's not
JUST about being playful or confident,
there is also sexuality, sensuality, intrigue,
excitement, calm serenity, and much more.
Think of these emotions as being present
in different degrees and in different amounts
the same way different SOUNDS are present
in different degrees and different amounts
when you use a GRAPHIC EQUALIZER
on your stereo system.
You can AMPLIFY the SENSUALITY in your
voice, your can bring up the notch on the
sense of CALM or CONVICTION or
AUTHORITY or PLAYFULNESS in your voice.
If you start to ADJUST your voice and USE
it to full power to EXPRESS these different
awesome emotions, you will notice a
MASSIVE difference from the VERY
FIRST INSTANT you talk to a woman.
You'll see the difference in the way her
eyes light up and her ears perk up.
The irony of course is that THIS is
all YOU, THE EMOTIONS ARE
COMING FROM YOU, this is the
way to unleash your full power in
a way that is unique to you.
Just like every person has a different
fingerprint, so too every man has a
unique expression through his internal
"graphic equalizer" that makes you
stand out from every other guy.
The problem is that most guys ignore this
and just come across as robotic, monotone,
caveman types who say, "Uhhh, excuse me,
can I talk to you?" and in fact very few
guys even do THAT, to be honest.
Don't forget also, that "neediness"
is actually a sign of having no
belief in your OWN value.
Liking a woman is fine, but being
NEEDY for her, when you have no idea
of her actual internal value, is
purely a product of lack of self-belief.
Every great man who stands up and has
conviction in his values and is passionate
about them, will have more IMPACT than
a THOUSAND "I'm trying to be Mr. Cool"
guys.
It will show in your voice, your mannerisms,
your words, the topics you choose to chat
about.
And it will seem just as OBVIOUS to her
that YOU are the man she wants as it
is obvious to her that PINK is more
girly than BLUE.
AND if you are reading this right now,
and would like to get some PURE GOLD
on IMMEDIATELY applicable strategies
you can use to attract women the very
SECOND you see them ANYWHERE, then
DEFINITELY go download my program
ATTRACTION ACCELERATORS right NOW, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
To find out about ALL my programs for
getting a fantastic quality woman,
go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
lesson, possibly the BIGGEST ONE
EVER, when it comes to creating
attraction.
If I were to ask you now, which is
truly a more MASCULINE color:
PINK or BLUE???
Which one would you say???
I'm willing to bet that 99% of
guys will say BLUE, of course!!
I mean, doesn't it FEEL more
MASCULINE than PINK?????
I mean, isn't that just so
OBVIOUS, and INSTINCTIVE??
Well, guess what?
The TRUTH is that, in Western
culture, from the 1920s until
the 1940s, pink was considered
appropriate for boys because
being closer to RED, it was
considered the more MASCULINE
color, while blue was associated
with GIRLS because it was considered
the more "delicate and dainty color",
or related to the purity of the
biblical figure of the Virgin Mary.
Things changed in the 1940s, with
pink for girls and blue for boys.
An entire culture and civilization
that now feels that "of course"
blue is masculine, pink is feminine,
etc.
The most powerful force on human
emotion and thought is often the
force of SOCIAL PROOF.
If enough people SAY AND DO something,
then suddenly we actually FEEEEEEL
that this is the RIGHT thing, the
good thing, the DESIRABLE thing.
What is DESIRABLE is NEVER in STONE.
It's MALLEABLE, things can be CHANGED.
What we DESIRE is massively controlled
by our ENVIRONMENT, which WE can control.
This psychological phenomenon happens
ALL THE TIME in your interactions with
women.
But guess what else?
You don't have to have a MILLION people
saying something or doing something to
create this effect.
The same effect can be achieved if
there is even just ONE person doing
it, IF that person is coming across
as an AUTHORITY, and has CONVICTION.
This happens all the time as celebrities
or anyone else that society thinks has
authority or value SAYS or DOES anything.
Styles, values, choices, are created,
others are destroyed, considered
"uncool", etc, etc.
Now, guess what happens when most
guys talk to a woman they like?
They act as their own WORST form of
social proof. They THEMSELVES are
trying to impress HER, they are
coming from a frame that they
themselves have no value, so
what do you think this triggers
in a woman's EMOTIONS?
It triggers NOTHING good.
The guy automatically loses all
authority, for SHE becomes the
authority.
He has made it clear this is
such, by his attitude and
by his demeanor.
KABOOM - goodbye to any social
proof for yourself.
You YOURSELF must be the greatest
force of social proof FOR yourself.
Forget about walking around with
girls on your sleeves showing how
cool you are, because if YOU don't
believe it, you'll never even get
ONE woman to believe it.
PART TWO:
But there's an even BIGGER level
to all this:
In our society today, as you can notice,
MESSED UP VALUES are more common than
EVER. The more they are around, the
more PERSUASIVE they seem to be.
This leads to drug abuse, alcohol abuse,
rampant STDs (often given to INNOCENT
people who were lied to buy others),
teenage pregnancies, and horrific
relationships full of mistrust and
lack of respect.
But it's almost IN STYLE now, to be
like that.
See, a lot of guys will only apply
1% of this advice, and try to act
"more confident" with women.
But that is not enough to get a great
woman. Today, so many women are confused
as well, even some really good women, that
YOU NEED TO LEAD THE WAY in terms of morals
as well.
YOU must become the social proof for
your good values. And what I mean by
this is that YOU must have total conviction
in them, and not act APOLOGETIC for them,
or as if they are something to HIDE
or be ashamed of today.
Yes, many women are actually SCARED to
be considered UNCOOL to speak out against
all kinds of insanities, whether it's
the kind of feminism that says it's evil
to love a man, or whether it's considered
uncool to be in a long term relationship
rather than shaking your ass at the clubs
or whether it's a joking matter to be
cheating and flirting with every guy
in sight.
The truth is that most women really DO
want a great guy, and a great relationship,
and most men want this as well, but because
our society says this is not COOL, everyone
ends up feeling that the other gender is
hopeless, and they feel they must play
games because the other gender is hopeless.
This "playing games" causes massive
destruction to their own happiness.
As a man, you must speak not only without
APOLOGY to a woman when you approach her,
but also you must have total CONVICTION
in your values as well, from the moment
you meet her till the rest of your life.
You must come across as having
AUTHORITY as well, and I mean
authority in EVERY sense- authority
to be chatting to her, authority for your
values, authority in what you are saying.
PART THREE - AN EXAMPLE OF THIS:
That means no more, "Excuse me, I'd like
to talk to you" to women! Why EXCUSE
yourself? You did nothing wrong!
The "excuse me" thing will get you
DEMOLISHED.
By the way, be PREPARED for when a
woman does NOT necessarily JUMP ONTO
you and do cartwheels the moment you
say something to her- be prepared for
even something that might seem a bit
harsh, because maybe she is being
defensive against the ocean of men who
ogle her and she has no idea of the
difference between you and them
until you speak MORE to her.
So even if she gives you the equivalent
of "buzz off", stay calm, and GO WITH
THE FLOW.
If she tells you that she doesn't talk to
men who approach her, then tell her
that THIS IS A GOOD THING that
you respect in her, and that you
appreciate her being so selective,
and that is why you knew she was
the right kind of girl in the first place.
See how this turns it around?
No matter what she says, interpret it as
a MUTUAL compliment, i.e. in this
case above by saying 'this is a good
thing she is so selective and that you
knew she was the right kind of girl',
you are saying she has high standards
and so do you.
By the way, regarding having AUTHORITY
and CONVICTION in everything you say,
this doesn't mean you can't grow and
evolve your perspectives with time,
but you must be your own best form
of 'social proof'.
Don't try to act "cool" and pretend you
are into certain kinds of music or movies
or entertainment if you're not.
Don't try to name drop the names of all
the local clubs to show how "in the know"
you are about what is so "hip".
Drop the showing off attempts, drop the
fake identity.
PART FOUR:
USING YOUR INTERNAL 'GRAPHIC EQUALIZER'
Being the "real you" is actually one of
the HARDEST things to do when meeting a
new and hot feminine creature! It's
actually a SKILL to learn to be able
to bring out your REAL best self
instead of the "act", because it's
almost an impulse to want to overcompensate
out of insecurity.
One of the important ways to let the
BEST version of the REAL you show,
is through the various COOL EMOTIONS
that she can detect in your TONE OF VOICE.
When you speak, you reveal a TON of
what you are FEELING, and you can
actually get YOURSELF to feel more
things by ADJUSTING your own
GRAPHIC EQUALIZER OF EMOTIONS.
There are MANY cool emotions, it's not
JUST about being playful or confident,
there is also sexuality, sensuality, intrigue,
excitement, calm serenity, and much more.
Think of these emotions as being present
in different degrees and in different amounts
the same way different SOUNDS are present
in different degrees and different amounts
when you use a GRAPHIC EQUALIZER
on your stereo system.
You can AMPLIFY the SENSUALITY in your
voice, your can bring up the notch on the
sense of CALM or CONVICTION or
AUTHORITY or PLAYFULNESS in your voice.
If you start to ADJUST your voice and USE
it to full power to EXPRESS these different
awesome emotions, you will notice a
MASSIVE difference from the VERY
FIRST INSTANT you talk to a woman.
You'll see the difference in the way her
eyes light up and her ears perk up.
The irony of course is that THIS is
all YOU, THE EMOTIONS ARE
COMING FROM YOU, this is the
way to unleash your full power in
a way that is unique to you.
Just like every person has a different
fingerprint, so too every man has a
unique expression through his internal
"graphic equalizer" that makes you
stand out from every other guy.
The problem is that most guys ignore this
and just come across as robotic, monotone,
caveman types who say, "Uhhh, excuse me,
can I talk to you?" and in fact very few
guys even do THAT, to be honest.
Don't forget also, that "neediness"
is actually a sign of having no
belief in your OWN value.
Liking a woman is fine, but being
NEEDY for her, when you have no idea
of her actual internal value, is
purely a product of lack of self-belief.
Every great man who stands up and has
conviction in his values and is passionate
about them, will have more IMPACT than
a THOUSAND "I'm trying to be Mr. Cool"
guys.
It will show in your voice, your mannerisms,
your words, the topics you choose to chat
about.
And it will seem just as OBVIOUS to her
that YOU are the man she wants as it
is obvious to her that PINK is more
girly than BLUE.
AND if you are reading this right now,
and would like to get some PURE GOLD
on IMMEDIATELY applicable strategies
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SECOND you see them ANYWHERE, then
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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