The Arousal-Safety Pendulum

One of the most MISUNDERSTOOD aspects of attraction is the whole BAD-BOY versus “CARING GUY” debate.  The real truth is that BOTH aspects are VITAL if you want a woman to be at MAXIMUM attraction and especially if you want the LONG-TERM success with a woman.

The reason for this is because if a woman feels you don’t care about her at all, then she can’t feel SAFE and COMFORTABLE with you, and that definitely includes her not feeling safe totally letting go and getting wild with you and letting all her inhibitions loose. 

The SAFETY feeling, ak.a. "the warm fuzzies" feeling, IS important.  

Let’s call this the “safety” part of the pendulum.

And YET, at the SAME TIME, if she feels you are SO CARING AND SO LOVING to the extent that you are totally SELFLESS, it can make her feel GUILTY about allowing HERSELF to truly ENJOY getting wild with you. 

This is because pleasure is obviously a SELFISH thing, but selfishness is not always a BAD thing, and in fact in the right place at the right time it can be the PERFECT thing. 

So when YOU demonstrate that YOU are not afraid or uncomfortable to be SELFISH in a sexual way, it allows her to feel FREE to also totally let go and experience that SAME level of pleasure as well.

PLUS, there is also something to be said about the pleasure a woman feels when she knows that you want to totally DEVOUR her and consume her with a SELFISH passion for her. 

She enjoys BOTH sides of your passion, the selfless and the selfish, but for now we are focusing on the selfish side because it is the less understood one in the context of how it is mutually beneficial for the man and the woman in this area. 

Let’s call this the “arousal” part of the pendulum. 

THIS is the reason so many so-called “bad boys” INITIALLY do well with women.  

It at first feels GOOD for a woman to have a man that is so LIBERATED to just BE his natural sexual self. 

It allows HER to indulge in her selfish desire for her man, without her feeling guilty or anything like that.

Also, it can make HER feel very DESIRED, since she feels she is the cause of the man's intense desire, instead of it being some kind of "charity" that the guy is doing for her. 

And, there is also the fact that women are attracted to men who convey "ALPHA-MALE" traits, which tends to mean being more dominant. 

The problem, though, is that EITHER one of these sides, the selfish or the selfless, ALONE, is NOT enough.   

Too much of the bad boy behavior and she will eventually start to feel UNLOVED, and so that can then make the sexual side of things become MEANINGLESS-and, even worse, it can make her feel CHEAP and it can lower her self-esteem. 

And self-esteem is the most PRECIOUS and POWERFUL force anyone has in this world. It must be CHERISHED and it must be RESPECTED.

Too much of the NICE GUY stuff, though, and she starts to feel like she now must be SUPER CAREFUL to please you and be super-nice to you, and then THAT forces her to STOP being able to truly ENJOY her OWN SELFISHNESS.

And again, to a degree, human selfishness is a GOOD thing, otherwise people wouldn’t do a thing to take care of themselves!  

So, the solution is to actually convey BOTH sides.  Things shift between AROUSAL and SAFETY, in what I call the Arousal-Safety Pendulum.

Show warmth in your voice, show empathy, but also show that you have no problems being assertive or comfortable with the sexual, and the way to do this is to playfully bring up the sexual in a conversation with her, once the conversation is going smoothly- but don’t LINGER on this topic either.

Also, when in a relationship with a woman, realize there is actually ROOM for ALL the aspects of your emotions- there are times when actually displaying a bit of jealousy can massively TURN ON a woman, if it is within control.  But if you get consumed with jealousy, it will make her feel CONTROLLED and make her feel she has to constantly attend to your needs more than hers.

There are times when you are going to have to do your UTMOST to restrain yourself from having an emotional reaction to her behavior.

There are times for being sensitive and supportive. And yet, sometimes, just for the EFFECT of letting her know she doesn’t OWN you and that you are still a selfish being, which ironically actually turns her on MORE, you should CONVEY that through your behavior.

For example, OCCASIONALLY, if she is complaining about her day, and it's not really a bad day, sometimes in this situation you might occasionally make a JOKE about it - which is the complete OPPOSITE reaction of what she was expecting--- and she might even say half-hardheartedly that you are so "mean", but then within MINUTES or even SECONDS later she will probably be even CRAZIER about you. 

And if it's seriously something bothering her, then OF COURSE you will be super-supportive- which is what you probably really want to do at INFINITE levels always if you are like a lot of good guys- and the hard part is actually realizing that the sexual dynamic is not the same thing as the regular dynamic you have with other people in your life.

This woman is not just another person, she's not just a female who is a friend.  This is not friendship, this is ATTRACTION.  

One of the toughest things to do here in a newsletter is put everything in context, which is why when you are in an actual boot camp or a private consultation it's so much easier since you get the full context.

Now, all this takes an IMMENSE amount of social intelligence and sensitivity to pull off properly, but the good thing about it is that you can GET THIS SKILL. 

Not only does this work in the initial approach, it gets even better in a long-term relationship, because you get to know a woman so well and if you truly love her and know her, you will KNOW by instinct when is a good time to do what. 

It just takes a little practice. And she will love you all the more for it.

Remember, a woman wants to feel LOVED, and she wants to give love, but she also wants to be able to feel uninhibited and not guilty about indulging in the SELFISH side of sexual feeling- this is an element of all human beings, not just women, of course.

She gets turned on by a man who is the SAME- a man who appreciates all elements of the physical and emotional sides of love, both giving and taking- a man who is not shy or afraid to be selfish and to indulge in his desires with her, and who is also at other times selfless and purely giving in these matters.

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Michael Marks

Moral Intelligence And Finding A Quality Woman

There’s been a great deal written in recent years
about intelligence, and the different categories
of intelligence, including emotional intelligence
and social intelligence.

And no doubt, these ARE super-important
areas of intelligence.

However, it speaks volumes about our current
era that the importance of morals in EVERY
aspect of our lives has gone pretty much
COMPLETELY IGNORED in the discussion.

And yet, without moral compatibility, can
ANY man and woman get along for long?

I believe the reason there has been no discussion
about this topic is because people have thought,
for so long, that morals have nothing to do with
INTELLIGENCE, and that morals don’t benefit
one’s self. 

And yet, was there not a similar under-appreciation
society had regarding social and emotional IQ? It used to
be thought that the only thing that really mattered
to one’s success in life was traditional IQ, until studies
started to show that overall success required even more
social intelligence and emotional intelligence.

Moral intelligence actually includes social intelligence
and emotional intelligence, and much more.  Just
look at the definition of moral:

“Of or concerned with the judgment of right or wrong
of human action and character.”

Now, I realize that DEFINING what is right or wrong
is not always an easy task, however I also believe that
there is far more LOGIC to the morals that most of
humanity has shared world-wide for THOUSANDS
of years, than most people realize.

In fact, I think that one of the greatest TRAGEDIES
that has befallen modern society is that in the effort
to be “FREE” from anyone or anything telling us what
to do and what is right or wrong, we have abandoned
ALL THE VALUES that we used to cherish, when
in fact MANY of those traditional values actually had
INFINITE WISDOM AND VALUE FOR US.

It started in the 1960s. People started to rebel and
question authority, morals, politicians, etc.

So it’s one thing to use one’s THINKING SKILLS
to question things, to logically assess things, etc,
to arrive at TRUTH.

But it’s something ELSE to find some faults with
some things and then to COMPLETELY REJECT
AND ABANDON THE ENTIRE THING without
preserving what may be GOOD about that thing.

It IS important to use one’s MIND.
It IS important to question things and not just be a zombie.

Human history IS filled with corruption.

But human beings also developed morals that
contained great WISDOM as well.

Specifically, many of the MORALS regarding
conservative values contain INFINITE WISDOM.

The value is MASSIVE.
You don’t have to be 90 years old to appreciate and
benefit from the WISDOM in those morals.

I will get to those in just a moment, but I think
it’s important to recognize that one of the consequences
of the “rebellion” of the 1960’s was feminism.

In the 1960’s, in the US and in other parts of the
world, many folks were rebelling against traditional
values, and against many of the accepted institutions
in society. Also, hallucinogenic drugs were something
that became popular with many young people.

It was all about “free love”, and “make love
not war” and about promiscuity, and about
equality for everyone.

Hey, SOME of that message SOUNDS great,
and other parts absolutely not.

But regarding the positive parts, who can argue
against them? Who can argue AGAINST the
idea of treating people fairly?

And I’m not saying that there wasn’t a need
for CHANGE.  There WERE serious issues
that required attention.

But the problem is that what was changed
was not always replaced with something
BETTER, (some of it did lead to improvement) 
and in fact some of those changes resulted in
making certain things WORSE. 

It took DECADES for the full effect of this
to show, it took an entire GENERATION
raised in this world, and who had kids,
and whose kids are now growing up today
experiencing ONLY this new society, a
society that is MASSIVELY different than
society was for ALL OF HUMAN HISTORY
until just a few decades ago.

So let me get right to the morals that I am
referring to – morals that today are UNFORTUNATELY
considered by so many people to be appropriate
ONLY FOR "OLD FARTS" AND FOR DUMB
STUPID PEOPLE "LIVING IN THE PAST",
when in TRUTH these are the morals that make
ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD
to the very CONNECTION between man
and woman since time immemorial.

ONE: COMMITMENT FOR LIFE
 
It’s a great irony that women today are the
ones far less likely to be interested in committing
to a man at any stage in these women’s lives
where the women posses their most attractive
value.

Women are far more interested in pursuing their
own careers, their own education, and in pursuing
multiple lovers who they call boyfriends, (and
sometimes this includes female lovers as well) than
in committing to any man at a point in their lives
where having children is medically wisest and
when men are most interested in them.

I don’t know why the stereotype still exists of
women who "just want to find a good man", when
if anything it’s the complete opposite.

Young men tend to be far more idealistic about
women, and far more willing to sacrifice for them,
than vice-versa. 

It used to be considered morally virtuous
to put an EMPHASIS on COMMITMENT
when it came to the relationships between
men and women.

That COMMITMENT became associated with
virtue for a very LOGICAL REASON:

If a man and woman COMMIT to each other,
they can BOND through SEX, and they can
SUPPORT EACH OTHER- helping each
OTHER emotionally and financially, so they
can ultimately PROSPER and RAISE their
own children together in HARMONY.

From this COMMITMENT FOR LIFE,
come OFFSHOOTS that support this moral,
such as:

TWO: BEING VIGILANT AROUND MEMBERS
OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, ESPECIALLY WHEN
ONE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP
 
Anyone who denies the power of sexual attraction
between men and women is denying REALITY.

So, over the course of MILLENNIA, it became
a MORAL to behave in a way that kept some
DISTANCE between the sexes to prevent
PROBLEMS such as infidelity, promiscuity,
etc., all of which could DESTROY a relationship,
destroy a family, etc.

Today, however, due to the EROSION of
conservative values, and due to the increasing
influence of things like feminism, we
have a society where women think that not
only is it not a BAD thing for women in
relationships to be hanging out in private with
men, but that it’s actually a GOOD THING,
it’s some kind of sign of how mature and evolved
we all are- when in reality, our PHYSICAL
DRIVES are the EXACT SAME they were
thousands of years ago!

Thanks to feminists who claim men and women
are the same, most women actually THINK men are
far more like WOMEN, in the sense that WOMEN
don’t JUMP INTO SEX DRIVE mode at the mere
SIGHT or HINT of what is attractive to them.

A lot of women really DO believe that a man
WOULD enjoy just chatting for hours on end
with some woman he is completely not interested
in physically, in his FREE TIME.

And a lot of women think it is perfectly realistic to
expect that a man just happens to find a woman so
able to perfectly relate to him - better than any
GUY ever could as a fellow man.

But men are NOT this way, for the most part.

Men tend to have more in common with other men
than they have in common with women, but men are
interested sexually in women. Men will also have a
special kind of bond with their wives, girlfriends, etc.

Men hang around women they are INTERESTED IN.

If men were NOT truly this way, corporations would
not spend HUNDREDS OF BILLIONS OF DOLLARS
on using SEX to sell things to men.  For example, did
you know that McDonald’s was going to get rid of their
golden arches logo until an industry specialist showed them
how the arches actually resemble a woman’s mammaries?

Every SECOND of our lives, we are bombarded by
marketing designed to take advantage of the fact
men are INSTANTLY turned on by women they
deem attractive. I’m not saying that men can’t
CONTROL themselves, I’m just saying that men
are MASSIVELY affected by this.

And trust me, corporations don’t spend one PENNY
unless they know they are getting back their money
a hundred times over.

But if you ask a typical woman today, they will
say, SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURE
a man and woman can be platonic friends, of course
a man hanging out with a woman for drinks in private
in NO WAY means AT ALL that the man is INTERESTED
IN HER.

And I’m not saying that a man and woman CAN’T
be friends, I’m just saying that USUALLY when
a man is hanging around a woman in his FREE TIME,
it’s not just to enjoy the beverage of coffee or the drink
in her wonderful platonic presence.

And since women don’t understand this, they
don’t understand how this sets up a toxic environment
for the future, for at some point in the relationship
she has with her boyfriend or husband, there will
be some difficult times, and she will then be vulnerable
to the ploys of her “long trusted platonic guy friend”.

As you can see, these MORALS don’t require any
connection with religion. 

From ALL perspectives, religious or otherwise,
these morals are SMART.

Hence, why I call this area MORAL INTELLIGENCE.

Just these two morals alone, the emphasis on
COMMITMENT, and on VIGILANT behavior
in the presence of the opposite sex, have so many
corollaries, including:

A HEALTHIER PERSPECTIVE ON LOVE

Yes, love is great. And I do think one should
love their partner, but the problem is that this
love business is IMPOSSIBLE to define.

Is lust the same thing as love?

What if you lust someone today, get married,
have children, and don’t lust them tomorrow?

Love IS important, but it’s also important to
think about the difference between SHORT
TERM LOVE and LONG TERM LOVE.

And here’s where things like commitment
and a society where people RESPECT that
commitment by not fostering situations that
lead to relationship-toxic environments (such
as endless platonic friendships) would actually
SUPPORT that LONG TERM perspective on
love, as opposed to DESTROYING that perspective
with the OPPOSITE emphasis on lust and on the
IMMEDIATE MOMENT OF INSTANT SELF-
GRATIFICATION instead.

To quote from the Thornton Wilder play,
By the Skin of Our Teeth:

I didn't marry you because you were 
perfect. I didn't even marry you because
I loved you. I married you because you
gave me a promise.

That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up
for mine. Two imperfect people got
married and it was the promise that
made the marriage. And when our
children were growing up, it wasn't a
house that protected them; and it
wasn't our love that protected them--
it was that promise.

We are currently living in a society where
THEORETICALLY no one is pressuring you
to do anything- religion doesn't play a large
role in telling people what to do, government
doesn't tell people much about morals, and
parental figures are big on giving kids freedom,
to the extent that kids can basically boss their
parents and all other authority figures around
these days. 

And yet, since there was NO GUIDANCE when
it came to morals for so long, it left a VACUUM
that got FILLED by two major forces that absolutely
DO INFLUENCE and DO TEACH morals, just
not the kinds of morals that HELP society, but
rather that lead to its DESTRUCTION.

One of those forces includes the CORPORATE
forces, whose motivations are to sell things by banking
on people being UNAWARE of what is best for their
own lives.  And, since sex sells, we are living in a time
where men and women are taught by the marketing of
these corporations to only value a woman by her
APPEARANCE and NOT by her MORALS.

So men get brainwashed by a woman's looks
to an even GREATER degree than they naturally
would!  The halo effect of beauty is given even
MORE power, since there is no competing CULTURAL
force that also values a woman's morals- although of
course there is that BIOLOGICAL drive in men
that still wants a decent woman, it's just that this
society makes it damn hard for men to not get
CONFUSED. 

And women get brainwashed too, UNDER-ESTIMATING
how important these morals are to men.

Even the most inexperienced man who thinks a
woman is going to be as virtuous as she LOOKS
on account of her physical beauty will soon realize
how important morals actually ARE when he finds
out how she is cheating on him.

The fact that women's looks are given such
value and that their morals are given NO value
by these powerful influences in our culture is
absolutely HORRIFYING to me.

In fact, the whole EXISTENCE of morals
is ignored, since appreciating morals takes
too much THINKING to be a good sales
tactic for corporations - selling works best when
the sales pitch strikes a PRIMAL PRIMITIVE
CHORD, i.e. the sex drive.

Now, of course, if society DID value positive morals
to a higher degree, corporations would then bank on
THOSE emotions, and to a degree, some companies DO
in fact do this. For example, they create commercials
showing people behaving in inspiring humane ways.

Second, another other force that is occupying this
vacuum is feminism. These women don’t represent
the majority of women, but they are nonetheless
BRAINWASHING women into thinking that
it’s good to NOT commit to a man, that it’s
good to NOT treat a relationship as sacred,
that it’s good to pursue career ABOVE family,
above relationships, above all else, etc.

Let me wrap this up by saying that there ARE
some AMAZING women STILL out there,
who UNDERSTAND every last word that
I have written here, but these women are
RARE.

Not so rare as to be impossible to find, but rare
enough that they are not growing on trees.

You will most likely NOT meet these kind
of women overnight- you will have to PERSIST
for a while- but you can make that search
EASIER by screening them for the exact things
I have explained in this newsletter, as opposed
to just randomly choosing women and then
going out with them for weeks or months and
then only LATER finding out what a horrible
mistake it was.

You screen women by observing them, by
listening to the things they say, by being
ALERT for the things I have mentioned
in this newsletter and in my materials and
programs.

I personally feel that it IS worth every bit
of effort to find the right woman. The combination
of the sexual, the moral, and the emotional connection
such a woman adds to your life results in an effect
that is MASSIVE. 

One key to doing this EFFICIENTLY is to work
“finding women” into your regular routine.

So, for example, there may be parts of town
where there are more women than others,
so do your shopping in that part of town,
allowing you to shop and meet women at the
same time.

Similarly, there may be a gym with far more
women than other gyms- go to THAT one.

You may be a book lover- go to a bookstore
where there are MORE women than others. 

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Michael Marks

The Biggest Secret To Understanding And Succeeding With Women Today

If you are a man who has ever wondered
WHY things are the way they are when
it comes to dating and attracting women
today, then I believe this newsletter may
be the most important thing you have
ever read on the topic.

Knowing this “WHY” element is a HUGE
part of being able to do the “WHAT” element
in order to GET the kind of woman you want.

So here we go:

One of the BIGGEST shocks I had when I
started out approaching women for the purpose
of dating them is that almost EVERY SINGLE
WOMAN I would meet, would do at least
SOMETHING very early on that I found
downright DISRESPECTFUL.

I didn’t even know at the time that this is
something that just about EVERY MAN
goes through with women.

So let me give you some examples of things
I am talking about, because I want it to be
really clear. Also, all these women that
I am mentioning were not some kinds of
EXTREME CASES, these were typical
attractive women, with normal jobs
ranging from teachers to lawyers to
secretaries to entrepreneurs to computer
programmers to waitresses etc, etc, etc.

And  in GENERAL, these women were
NOT malicious, not mean-spirited, and
in fact in GENERAL were very warm,
sensitive, and giving people.

On one first date, a particular woman would
start talking about some male celebrity from
TV and ESPECIALLY TRY TO KEEP HINTING
TO ME that she found him very attractive.

This might sound like nothing, but this was
coming from a woman who was EXTREMELY
insecure and actually thought I was possibly
more interested (I wasn’t at all) in other women
crossing the street when we were in the car
stopped at a light at the intersection.

So I say this to make it clear that anyone who
was so insecure about those things would clearly
understand NOT to “press someone’s buttons”
by trying to stir a little jealousy.

Again, I want to make it CLEAR that OTHERWISE,
this woman actually was a VERY SENSITIVE
woman who was thoughtful and caring and
nurturing.

Another woman, early on the very first conversation,
tried to imply she was only interested in men with
certain Titanic-sized anatomical proportions. 

As crazy as this sounds, this woman also turned
out to be a very NON-SUPERFICIAL person
who was extremely WARM and GIVING.

Another two women, who kept on telling me how
IMPOSSIBLE it was to find a loyal guy, shared
a particular thing in common: Right after being
physically intimate (I try to speak with class here)
they started talking about how HOT certain
celebrities were, both MALE and FEMALE.

And both of these women would have been
SEVERELY HURT had I started speaking
about how hot I thought Megan Fox was
or something like that, especially RIGHT
AFTER DOING THE DEED WITH THEM!

I could go on and on with the REAL REPORTS
from OTHER guys who have told me their own
stories. One guy told me how a woman he was
out with, on a first date, everything was going
GREAT, and then she suddenly called him a
NEANDERTHAL, and not in a “cute” or “nice”
way, because he was TALL.

To me, that is really insane, because if
anything, being TALL is supposed to give
a guy an ADVANTAGE, not a DISADVANTAGE,
with women, right?

And no matter HOW PERFECT a guy was,
in terms of his job, his income, his looks,
his age, his background, NO MATTER
WHAT, I would hear from guys how women
would FIND SOMETHING TO TRY TO GET
UNDER THESE GUYS’ SKINS.

So what the F is going on, right?

We all know that as MEN, we do NOT
act this way toward WOMEN we WANT!

This is the kind of stuff that really makes
a lot of men REALLLLLY ANGRY.

So let me explain to you what is going on,
because it is ONE FREAKY, MASSIVE,
SOUL-SEARING REVELATION.

It’s because women want to PRESERVE
their sense of DIGNITY AND POWER
when they FEEL they are going to actually
be getting VERY VULNERABLE and
VERY NAKED and VERY PHYSICAL
with you VERY SOON.

You see, because we are living in an age
of INSANITY (more on this later below)
where LOVE, DEDICATION, FIDELITY,
LOYALTY, COMMITMENT, TEMPERANCE
IN SEXUALITY, and FAMILY VALUES are
often considered UNCOOL (for men and for women)
and a form of IMPRISONMENT, most women
FEEL they can’t be COOL and immediately also
show a high value for LOVE, LOYALTY, AND
OLD-SCHOOL TRADITIONAL VALUES.

They are afraid if they do that, then that is
the same as saying all they want is to be
barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen and
to never have the vote again.

So, because women feel like they are going
to be SURRENDERING everything they have
physically to you, this is their way to RECLAIM
some balance, some power, some dignity.

If a woman REALLY is not interested in you,
she would just GO AWAY, or ignore you,
she would not put in the EFFORT to
ENGAGE you on any level whatsoever.

When you really want to make someone go
away, you IGNORE them, right?

But it's precisely because a woman feels
she is going to get VERY INVOLVED with you
that she DOES this stuff!!!!!

Of course, there should be NO NEED to have to
do this between two people who GENUINELY
love and respect each other, right?

BUT THAT IS THE WHOLE PROBLEM.
LOVE AND RESPECT and BALANCE
AND TEMPERENCE are NOT COOL
ANYMORE.

Everything is on HIGH GEAR, ULTRA
MODE, ALL THE TIME.

It’s part of our culture.
FAST food.
FAST SERVICE.

LOTS OF SUGAR IN EVERYTHING.
LOTS OF FAT.
LOTS OF SALT.
LOTS OF NUDITY.

LOTS OF PROMISES FOR HOW TO
GET RICH QUICK.

LOTS OF NIGHTCLUBS AND ONLINE
DATING SITES WHERE WOMEN AND
MEN CAN FIND AN INSTANT ONE-NIGHT
STAND.

LOTS OF ADS IN YOUR FACE,
AND IN YOUR EARS, EVERYWHERE.

People have become lazy since they are
bombarded in our culture with messages
GLORIFYING PERSONAL INDULGENCE
WITHOUT ANY LIMITS WHATSOEVER.

Of course, in the same way that too much salt,
sugar, and fat are DESTROYERS, so too is
having an imbalance when it comes to sex,
love, and romance. It has to be a BALANCE
between them, it can’t be too much of one.

So, there are two things to TAKE from all this.

One thing is that, if a woman you’ve just met
or approached or recently started dating suddenly
starts to try to get on your nerves and under your SKIN,
to “push your buttons” so to speak, you should realize
that VERY OFTEN this means she actually is VERY
INTERESTED IN GETTING PHYSICAL WITH YOU.

Therefore, you should not be pissed off, or
angry, or upset in any way.  In fact, you
might even want to calmly look at her
lovingly and tell her the truth with
these words:

"You love me."  

At that point, when you say those words
in a calm, loving, confident way, she is
extremely likely to MELT before you.

The second thing to take from all this is that
JUST BECAUSE SHE IS ATTRACTED TO YOU,
DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD GO FOR IT!!!

And THIS is where I take a VERY DIFFERENT
APPROACH than the pick up artist community.

You see, I am not interested in teaching guys
just how to get physical with women, as
that is like teaching people how to find
food in a BUFFET.  Our current society is
a BUFFET when it comes to that stuff.

There is no PROBLEM finding the physical.

The real goal is how to find a QUALITY
woman that is the TOTAL PACKAGE,
a woman that you are attracted to, a woman
that is kind, intelligent, and that will
ENRICH YOUR LIFE, and that will be a
great partner and possibly a great mother
as well.

And even though all these women who
DEEP DOWN don’t really mean to be
nasty when they try to get under your
skin before they get naked with you,
the fact is these kinds of women STILL
DON’T GET IT. 

The fact is, a woman should be STRONG
ENOUGH to RESIST the crazy culture
that we live in, and to VOICE her REAL
THOUGHTS and TO LIVE THE WAY
SHE REALLY BELIEVES.

So if a woman feels she WANTS genuine
love, if a woman WANTS deep respect,
if a woman wants a man who REALLY
cares for her, she should not be afraid to
VOICE THAT, to CHAT ABOUT THAT,
and to put in the work to SEE what you are
like, and BE CAREFUL about who she
dates.

If a woman is TOO WEAK to do the right
things, that the ONLY WAY she can live her
life is by jumping into bed with you before
she really knows you well, but also making
sure to INSULT you first, she is going to be
a woman who has a very big ISSUE in her life
with you whenever it comes to this particular
issue of TREATING YOU AS A MAN WITH
RESPECT.

She may treat you very WELL in just about
EVERY SINGLE AREA, but when it comes
to a very subtle but important area of you
being her MAN, in the greatest sense of
that word, she will falter.

This is why you must TRULY be "THE MAN"
and INSIST on 100% total and absolute RESPECT.
(I'm not saying to be a tyrant or ask for perfection,
but in the general sense of TOTAL RESPECT
for you as HER MAN, yes, you must NOT
compromise on this issue.)    

Because deep down, she has ISSUES
regarding being PROUD to LOVE and
RESPECT AND BE TOTALLY LOYAL
to her man, and what will then happen is
a NEVER-ENDING SERIES OF PROBLEMS
whenever this issue rears its head.

So, for example, because she is not
COMFORTABLE with TRADITIONAL VALUES,
she may very well feel it’s “okay” to flirt with
some other guy at work. She may feel it’s “okay”
to go for “drinks” with some guy who claims
he is just a friend, since, after all, as a “modern
INDEPENDENT WOMAN who is not barefoot
and pregnant” she can “DO WHATEVER SHE
LIKES, she can INDULGE TO NO LIMITS
on whatever she wants to do, since she is
the one in control”, right?

For the pick up artist community that just
wants to get physical, they don’t care about
these things.

But for the men who actually want women
as life-long partners, for the men who have
real love for women, for the men who want
to raise families, such women are going to be
DISASTERS.

The fact that these women may still be
sensitive, caring people in all the OTHER
respects does not help you when she is
off CHEATING with another guy.

But again, to the pick up artist community,
there is no such thing as cheating, there 
is only sex or no sex, that’s it.

This is why I created get a GREAT girl.
It’s about getting the RIGHT woman.

This is why, for example, in my program
WARRIOR WITHIN, I discuss, amongst
MANY, MANY, MANY VITAL THINGS,
I discuss how to DETECT a woman’s values
and her character IMMEDIATELY, so that
you can SCREEN OUT the wrong women
right away and so that you can detect the
RIGHT WOMEN as well.

By the way, it’s an interesting irony that
even the most DIE-HARD pick up artists
seem to “see the light” and eventually end
up not only giving up the whole pick up
artist thing but actually going in the opposite
direction to an EXTREME and talking about
TRUE LOVE and then having children, etc.

I don’t do that.
I don’t believe in TRUE LOVE in the
stereotypical sense.

I believe in a shared PROMISE and a shared
PASSION.

A man and woman who have PASSION
physically for each other, and who SHARE
DEEP CORE VALUES, including of course
the FAMILY VALUES, as nature really
brought men and women together to mate,
and to feel strongly enough about each other
to stick around together to raise the kids,
at least for a little while, and after that,
as human beings we can use our creativity
to maintain the passion. (I get into that
as well as many other important topics in
my book “Get A Great Girl” on my site.)

Now here is the thing:
Life is not perfect.
Human beings are not perfect.
There is no ABSOLUTE perfection.

So you have to use a bit of DISCRETION
in how much of a PURIST you want to be
when applying these principles.

This is also something I incorporate into
my programs and materials, which is
the reason I have so many different
materials, to cover ALL the possibilities
and ALL the strategies.  

So, for example, a woman might be
scoring a 90 percent with you and
just be engaging in a TOUCH of the
problems discussed, and she might
be a woman who can be REDEEMED
with a bit of an education from you.

But I can tell you that if you are finding
yourself having to TEACH A WOMAN all the
time how to behave, she is the WRONG WOMAN,
and also to be honest with you, if you ARE
going to try to show a woman how to behave,
that TOO is an art, because you can’t just
criticize someone, as it comes across as
mean and it also comes across as insecure,
which are both very counter-productive, so
you have to be very gentle, very humble,
very loving, and yet at the same time
you have to be CLEAR.

Now, get ready for THIS:

There ARE a FEW women around who DO
understand alllllllllllllllllllllllll
this stuff that I have written here.

They are RARE, damnnnnnnnnn rare, but
they are not so rare that you will not still
find them no matter where you are, IF
you look hard enough.

And the good news is this: Since there are
so FEW men who UNDERSTAND all this,
you will have NO COMPETITION AT ALL.

In fact, the MORE that the pick up artist
and sex-obsessed culture GROWS, the
MORE PRECIOUS you become to those
super-quality women that are around.

The REAL “underground society” today
is not that society comprised of the
sex-obsessed zombies, but rather is
comprised of those wise men and women
who see our culture for the insanity that
it has morphed into over the past few decades.

(The reasons for this are something I would
gladly discuss another time, but it has
a lot to do with the human tendency
to need more and more stimulation to
get the same emotional effect, so the
solution is to actually get LESS
of the “over-saturation” style stimulation,
which ultimately forces the emotions to
get more sensitive, stronger, and 
require LESS of a “hit” to get stimulated.)  

And if you are reading this right now and
you are serious about getting a QUALITY
woman, then I suggest you get my most
advanced program geared ESPECIALLY
for this goal. 

It’s called WARRIOR WITHIN, because
it’s all about what is INSIDE of you as
opposed to you putting on some ACT.

It contains 8 DVDs and is the LIVE FOOTAGE
of my SEMINAR on this topic where men came
from several different COUNTRIES to attend.
      
It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

If you would like a private consultation
with me, it would be my pleasure to serve
you and give you the very best of all my
experience in this field.

For a consultation, please email me directly at
michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

Similarly, if you would like me to
speak with your organization, just
let me know. 

If you are new here, welcome aboard, and
you can find out about ALL my programs
by going here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Love, Lust, And Your Success In Life

The whole reason I got into this field
had little to do with pure LUST.

It was actually the COMBINATION of love
AND lust, to be honest!

For any guy who just wants to get physical
with a woman who is attractive, the answer
is simple: Find promiscuous women.

What makes it even easier is that there
are PLACES especially designed for finding
promiscuous women, i.e. certain nightclubs,
and to make it even EASIER these women
INTENTIONALLY go to these places where
they know they will consume quantities of
alcohol.

So this kind of thing is not the best formula
for how to find the kind of woman that you can
truly build a LIFE together long-term.

This is why GET A GREAT GIRL was born.
My passion is not about just getting the
physical stuff.

I have always been attracted to something
GREATER, going back all the way to high school.

I wanted the TOTAL PACKAGE, a woman that
was attractive and who ALSO had all the right
personality traits for a great long term
relationship and who would be the right
kind of woman with whom to raise a family.

A woman who was kind, hard-working, loyal,
intelligent, health-conscious, etc.

ONE: BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN IS A GREAT WOMAN

Here's something else:
I've also known and observed for many years that
it is usually TRUE that behind every great man
is a great woman.

It is ALSO true that when a man SCREWS UP
his relationship with a quality woman and
then LOSES that quality woman, his whole
LIFE goes down the drain.

One of the latest examples is TIGER WOODS.

By the way, in my example of Tiger Woods,
it's important not to take this situation and
judge him since it is impossible to know for
sure the kind of pressure and temptation he
was facing.  The point of this example is simply
to show what happens when a man is no longer
with the right woman, the point is NOT to judge
him for what happened.

He is not alone in what occurred to him, and
in fact the same thing happens to millions of
men, albeit on a smaller level because they
are not so famous.

He reaches the top of his field BY FAR.
Behind the scenes is a great woman who
stands by his side and raises his kids.

Then, the temptation of other women and pure
lust takes over, even though his wife is
gorgeous. 

His wife finds out, is devastated, his relationship
is ruined, his career TANKS.

People think he will never recover because his
golf game DROPS so massively.

It takes some serious TIME, but then guess what?
He slowly comes BACK.

But guess what is MOST important to realize about
this?  He is not alone.  He is not screwing around.
He is in a serious relationship with what appears
to be a really dedicated woman who was prepared
to deal with all the hassle she would get from
dating him at this time.

It is NOT a coincidence that his success coincides
with the time he has HARMONY and LOVE rather than
CHAOS and LUST as the only ruling factors in his life.

The same thing happens time and again with all kinds
of men in all kinds of fields from politics to sports
to business and everything else.

If you're a heterosexual man, being with the
right WOMAN is usually a MUST.  There are
always exceptions to the rule, but in GENERAL
this is a FACT.

The reason for this is because the human mind
is COMPLEX.  It is not JUST seeking love, it
is not JUST seeking LUST. It is not just seeking
security, and it is not just seeking adventure
and some adrenaline-stimulating risk.  It is
not just seeking rapport and support, and it
is not just seeking challenge.

It seeks the right BALANCE of all these things.
And this is why it is so important to find the
RIGHT woman.

So let me bring this full circle:

If you are looking to attract a woman, and if
you are looking for love combined with lust
rather than just lust or just love, I suggest
you USE my attraction strategies, but that
you use them on the kind of women who ALSO
have the right characteristics for ensuring
success in a long term relationship.

This way, you are focusing your energies on
the RIGHT kind of woman, who already HAS
all the right personality traits, but you
are now making her ATTRACTED TO YOU, so that
she is not with you simply out of LOGIC
(i.e. that she wants to have a relationship
where no one cheats on each other) but
rather she is ALSO with you out of her
own LUST for you which you INCREASED
because you also know how to MAGNIFY
a woman's attraction to you.

TWO: TAKE ON BODY LANGUAGE AND THE ROLES
OF THE CALM ALPHA

The next thing I want to explain is how
important it is to actually go beyond
your comfort level if you want to GROW.

What I mean in particular is that if you
want to become the "alpha male", a term
that I have mixed feelings about since
the term has often been wrongly used
to describe a jerk, the fact is that
scientific studies have shown that
if you take on the BEHAVIORS and
BODY LANGUAGE of someone who is not
only POWERFUL but who is also CALM
under pressure, you will ALSO begin
to BECOME this way.

I do not just mean this in a poetic sense.
I am talking CHEMICALLY.

You will experience an INCREASE in testosterone,
the chemical that is the ESSENCE of masculinity,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY experiencing a DROP in
CORTISOL, the destructive chemical that is
often released when people experience STRESS.

So you will become the kind of man who is
ASSERTIVE and CONFIDENT and who rises to
the challenge, but who ALSO does not
HARM his HEALTH when he experiences these
challenges.

There are plenty of men out there who are
very successful, but the CORTISOL they experience
from stress is destroying them.

THREE: ANOTHER DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

If you want to succeed with women, it is
important that you realize a fundamental
difference in their views toward sex.

Men basically feel that ATTRACTION is reason
enough to have sex with someone.

Most women however do NOT feel that way.

For a woman, usually, there needs to be
something ELSE involved.  A REASON, if you will.     

In fact, that REASON itself becomes PART
of the attraction.

It is important to realize this. It explains
why even a SUPERMODEL of a guy will quickly
be forgotten by a woman if the guy does not
FOLLOW up with her quickly and take things
to the next level of connection, but a
MAN on the other hand will remember a
HOT WOMAN for YEARS after he met her
even if he only saw her ONCE for a few
moments, AND he would be ready in an
INSTANT to have sex with her the moment
he saw her AGAIN.

This is a HUGE difference between men and women.

So what this means is that you MUST learn
the skills of how to CONVEY a lot about
yourself through CONVERSATION.

And I don't mean telling a woman a list of your
accomplishments like a resume.  Rather, I mean
INDIRECTLY you communicate to her, and you
actually will do this most effectively through
your STATE OF MIND which manifests itself
in your body language and tonality and which
affects your decisions instinctively on what
to say.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, a woman responds to a man
with a sense of PURPOSE and a sense of GENUINE
interest in her.

Remember, women can read your emotions VERY
EASILY, easier than men can read women.

So, it is not important that you have to be
a millionaire or a billionaire, but rather
that you MUST have a strong sense of WHY
you are doing what you are doing with your
life. 

Women are all about sensing EMOTIONS, so if
your emotions are NAMBY PAMBY, she will pick
that up. If you are not REALLY interested
in her, she will pick that up as well.

Women are not super-powered.  They can't tell
whether a man is a nice person or not right
off the bat.  But they CAN tell whether that
man feels POWERFUL and feels MOTIVATED and
feels INTERESTED in them.

A woman MUST have THESE kinds of reasons
to have sex with a man. It is usually
NOT enough of a reason for a woman to have
sex with a man just because she finds him
attractive when she looks at him.

FOUR: PRESSURE OR NO CHANGE

Finally, I want to end on one note:
If you don't put PRESSURE on yourself
to change, you are most likely NOT
going to change.

So, if you want to get good at attracting
women, and especially if you want to attract
a GREAT woman for a real relationship that
satisfies your love AND lust needs, you
MUST put pressure on yourself.

This is just one of the reasons my BOOTCAMP
is so important.  In BOOTCAMP, I will put
JUST the right amount of pressure on you.
I am not there to OVERWHELM your ability,
instead I am there to teach you and to also
PUSH YOU to what your REAL LIMIT really is.

Most people simply will NEVER push themselves
to their limit, it is human nature NOT to want
to work harder than we have to.

This is why throughout history, it has always
been NECESSITY that is the mother of GENIUS.
It was not VOLUNTARY INTEREST that was the
mother of genius.

When you take bootcamp with me, you will be
pushed to the point where you have no choice
but to GROW in skill.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And if you are really serious about getting
a GREAT woman in your life, then get my
most specialized program that is DEVOTED
to this topic.

The name of this program is "Warrior Within",
and it includes 8 DVDs that will SKYROCKET
your success when it comes to getting the
kind of amazing woman who is the "total
package" that most men can only DREAM about.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks