The Ultra-Important Traits For "The One"

Today there are some ULTRA-IMPORTANT
things I want to share with you about getting
a fantastic quality woman- "the one" if you will.

In particular, there are FIVE traits that you
should be searching for in a woman, and
ALL FIVE are super-important.

These five traits are:

EMPATHY.

HIGH SELF-ESTEEM.

SELF-DISCIPLINE.

A BELIEF THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE SACRED.

INFINITE FIDELITY.  

And obviously, it goes without saying that
as men, these are just as important for US
to have as well, if we are seeking a woman
that is truly "the one".

What is mind-boggling to me, is how many guys
out there actually DO have these qualities and
have no idea how PRECIOUS they are.

This is where good guys have no clue how
awesome they are, and instead they allow
themselves to be abused by women like
CRAZY, all the while not realizing that
they don't have to be in these abusive
situations, and that in fact there are
some incredible women out there who
would REALLY jump on the opportunity
to be with these guys.

So, let's begin:

1: EMPATHY

Empathy might sound so simple, so obvious,
that you might not even think you have to
make sure a woman HAS this trait.

Nothing could be further from the truth,
however.  A powerful sense of empathy is
not something to take for granted as being
a trait that everyone, or in this case, that
every woman, has. NOT every woman
has it at all.

A lot of people know that it is important, so
they attempt to FAKE having empathy.

If a woman does not have a powerful sense
of empathy, she simply won’t be able to
UNDERSTAND you or CARE about you.

Empathy is greater than sympathy. Empathy
is, to quote “Psychology Today”, “the experience
of understanding another person's condition
from their perspective. You place yourself
in their shoes and feel what they are feeling.”

There is no way to live with a woman long-term
and enjoy the experience of being with her if
she simply does not have the ability, or if she
does not truly make the effort, to feel what you
are feeling.

People talk all day about wanting a partner with
intelligence, but they don’t talk that much about
EMPATHY, and yet the truth is, most people
don’t need an EINSTEIN for a partner, but they
do need someone who has great empathy.

2: HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
 
It is essential that a woman also have high
self-esteem.  I know a lot of guys think
the opposite, that if a woman has high
self-esteem, she will think too highly
of herself and therefore not appreciate
the guy.

But it doesn’t work that way, as high-self
esteem has nothing, in itself, to do with
ARROGANCE or haughtiness, and in
fact, sometimes when someone is feeling
low self-esteem, they feel the need to
overcompensate with arrogance and
haughtiness.

The more high self-esteem a woman feels,
the less likely she feels a need to put YOU
down, IF she ALSO has a great sense of
EMPATHY, which is why I mentioned
EMPATHY first.

So, she has empathy, and therefore does not
want you to feel pain, because if you feel
pain, she feels your pain- and when you
feel good, she feels good, she WANTS you
to feel good.

But when a woman feels LOW SELF-ESTEEM,
she feels THREATENED, she may feel that that
men don’t like her, she may feel that you don’t
like her, she may feel stupid, etc, etc.

And, if a woman feels that men don’t like her,
or that you don’t like her,  she is far more likely
to feel the need to cause you PAIN.  She will
try to make you JEALOUS in order to get you
to like her. She will try to put you DOWN in
order for you to feel like you are LUCKY to
be with her.

She will do all sorts of horrifying things all
because SHE is insecure and feels the need
to make OTHERS including YOU feel LOW
so that they should feel SHE is relatively
HIGH next to them on the totem pole of
being a person who is appreciated by others
for her beauty, intelligence, etc.

Again, the combination of EMPATHY
and high self-esteem is important.  

Someone who JUST feels high self esteem might
feel they are GREAT, and have no particular need
to be mean to you, but also no particular need to
care one way or another, and so to a woman without
empathy who has high self esteem, you might just
not be all that important at all.

But again, if she JUST has high self-esteem,
and she feels she can GAIN somehow by
being cruel to you, she might still engage
in that cruelty because she has no EMPATHY
for you, and she feels SUPERIOR to everyone
else since she has no empathy but she does have
high self esteem, so she figures why not just be
totally selfish.

And if she JUST has empathy, she might care
about you, but be no FUN to hang around with,
since she feels so low about herself she just feels
like moping, she feels kind of dead inside, and
this is really tragic by the way.

Plus, if she has low self-esteem, then even if she
has empathy, she might still refuse to believe that
you really like her, that you really are interested
in her, and she might still feel the need to make
you jealous or do other things in order to try to
placate her sense of inferiority.

So you want that magical combo of empathy
AND high self-esteem in a woman.

3: SELF-DISCIPLINE.

It takes self-discipline to find a better solution to
problems than resorting to drug or alcohol abuse.

It takes self-discipline to live by a moral code and
never fool around on the man she is with.

It takes self-discipline for her to hit the gym,
keep in shape, and follow a healthy diet and
lifestyle.

It takes self-discipline to WORK HARD rather
than sit on the couch and Twitter all day or
Facebook all day (especially when it’s with
other guys!) and flirt with other men (or women)
behind your back all day, or be obsessed with
thoughts of sex with others all day rather than
thinking of how she can help you raise a family
together and how she can help INSPIRE you to
be at your best.

And, just like before, self-discipline ALONE
is not enough. It must ALSO come with the
other traits that I am mentioning.

So, for example, self-discipline alone in a woman
might just mean she is disciplined to do whatever
it takes to just make money or do whatever other
selfish thing she wants to do.

Self-discipline ALONE is not enough to make
a woman worthy of a good man who has the
most pure and long-term intentions.

The FOURTH trait that is VITAL that you should
be seeking in a woman is:

4: A BELIEF THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE SACRED

The bottom line is that making a life together,
especially if you plan to raise a family with
a woman, involves GREAT, MASSIVE HURDLES.

And we are living in a time when NO ONE
is putting the social pressure on anyone to
really give a damn about family values anymore
compared to the past.

So the only force that will keep the relationship
going is the force that is created by the two    
people in that relationship.

And that means that you both must feel that
a relationship is not just something nice or
fun or a way to kill time.

It must be the DEFINING feature of your life.
The love that you two share must be CHERISHED.
The idea of raising a family together must be
something that inspires both of you to be your
best in every way to each other.

And the only way that inspiration can be strong
enough to last a lifetime is if that inspiration is
driven by a belief that what you two are creating
together in your bond is something of DIVINE
significance that can affect the universe.

And when it comes to this issue, people either
FEEL THIS WAY or they DON’T.

So don’t try to teach a woman how to feel this way.

If she thinks this is just about screwing,
or just about having fun, or just about sharing
a pleasant time together, then it is going to
CRASH.

Every DAY has to be inspired, and that can
ONLY happen when she and you realize this
is about MORE than just you and her, it is
about something SACRED.

Finally, the FIFTH trait she must have is:

5: INFINITE FIDELITY

This actually IS something that women need
to learn MORE than men these days, because
in olden days, women would be shunned by
society completely and never get married if they
were seen as even REMOTELY being unfaithful.

This has its roots in our history, because
men had no clue if a woman was pregnant with their
own child or some other guy's kid- i.e. if she was
disloyal. 

This is where the rage, the jealousy, the ZERO
tolerance emotion that men have for women
who cheat, came from. It makes total sense,
because NOT having such strong emotions
on this issue could mean the difference between
having their own DNA wiped OUT from the
gene pool, or having their own DNA continue
by fathering children- their OWN children.

And even though today DNA testing can prove this,
our BRAINS as men are still hardwired the same way
as they were in ancient days, meaning that a man has
absolutely no TOLERANCE for a woman that might
even in the SLIGHTEST way be unfaithful.

It is not like men consciously think about the
evolution/paternity issue at all, it is the fact
that we are HARDWIRED to have very
STRONG emotions about this issue, as men.

Most women today don't understand this issue,
because political correctness has made it so that
any mention of this issue is deemed somehow to
be a form of trying to control a woman, when
in reality it is women who control men by sheer
virtue of biology:

Only women give birth, and only women know
for sure who is the father, unless scientific
testing gets in the way, and only women have
the power over men's emotions in this way.

In fact, the ONLY evolutionary counter
for men would be to literally shack up
with HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of other
women, which, in the ABSENCE of a special
faithful woman, is MEN'S actual nature anyway.

So until we live in a culture where it is politically
correct for men to sleep with thousands of women,
there will be no force to make women think of how
important it is that THEY show men how faithful
that they as women can be, by steering CLEAR
AWAY from all forms of behavior that can raise
EVEN THE SUSPICION of infidelity.

This includes hanging out alone with some dude
she says is just a friend.  99.99% of straight men
have better things to do than just "hang out in
their free time" with some woman they are NOT
SEXUALLY INTERESTED in, in private.

A wise woman who REALLY wants a man
to love her forever will think twice before joining
her fellow "mainstream society women" who
think it is cute to flirt with other men or to play
even the TINIEST games on the side with
other men.

So, do NOT go for any woman who doesn't
understand this TO THE DEEPEST FIBERS
of her SOUL.

And if you are reading this right now and
would like to know more about getting a
truly fantastic woman, then I suggest you
get my book, called Get A Great Girl,
immediately.

This book is packed with how to do things
DIFFERENTLY if you are looking to meet
and keep a truly fantastic woman compared
to just picking up women.

It’s at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

If you have any questions about women, dating,
or relationships, and you would like a personal
consultation with me, just email me directly
at michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com and I will
be in touch with you on the same day.

You should probably also check out my full
line of programs for success with women at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks  

FAST SEX

The title above on fast sex is not some cheap attempt
to get your attention. It's about the fact that today
there are now tons of "get laid" gurus that go around
trying to make it seem that if you DON'T get a woman
into all-out sex within 5 minutes of meeting her,  that
somehow you are not at the "advanced" level of success.

This is an easy thing to clear up:

There are all KINDS of women out there.

And just because a woman is PROMISCUOUS does
not mean she is a BAD person.

However, the fact is, that if you are looking for a
girlfriend who is stable and has the right stuff for
being in a long term relationship and being faithful,
it probably isn't the smartest idea to choose a
woman who jumps from partner to partner
faster than Spiderman jumps from building
to building.

And here at Get A Great Girl, getting a great
girlfriend really IS something we value.

So let me make it clear that absolutely, there
ARE women, just like there are men, who
really just want to party and go wild and
get drunk and have sex as fast as possible
with many different partners.

There is no SKILL involved, not beginner, and
not advanced, to getting sex quickly.

There is simply FINDING the women who are
INTO this, and also feeling NO GUILT about
doing this yourself.  No promiscuous woman
wants to be with a guy who is going to make
her feel WEIRD about it.

The easiest places to find women who are into
drinking, partying, and casual sex tend to be
certain clubs and bars.     

Proceed to enter location, approach women
directly with IMMEDIATE physical contact
that quickly ESCALATES.

Skip over any woman who doesn't want
to get touchy-feely-tasty quickly, and then
when you find a woman who is RECEPTIVE
to the touchy-feely-tasty, you then escalate
the physical contact AGGRESSIVELY at
every opportunity.

That's it, end of story.
That's the beginner, intermediate, and advanced level.

Now, there's nothing WRONG with any of this.

What is wrong is when the people who "teach"
this then go ON to ALSO say that ALLLLLL
women respond to this.

The net effect of saying such a statement is that
it makes men think that there is no point pursuing
a woman who does NOT respond to this method.

It makes men think that the women who do NOT
respond to this method are either "unfriendly women
who are frigid and not sexual", OR it makes men
think that somehow these men are just not
"skilled" enough with the touchy-feely-tasty
method, or otherwise these "frigid" women
WOULD have been attracted to them.

This is a very destructive thing to believe, because
it starts to make you think that ALL women are
laughing behind your back if you don't act like
a "player in the club" and if you don't behave
and live promiscuously.

It makes you think that all women probably also
CHEAT, since after all, you now believe that
ALL women are promiscuous, it's just a matter
of "skill" to get them that way.

So now you start to suspect any woman,
including any new woman you should happen
to meet that DOES become your girlfriend.

You start to suspect that maybe she is really
only looking for a guy who is more of a player,
who is into promiscuity, etc.

You start to wonder how faithful she is, etc, etc.

So, THIS kind of thinking IS wrong, and it very MUCH
is a product of some of the teachings that are STILL
going on in the seduction community.

So you have to make a clear DECISION on what you want:

Do you want to sleep around?
Ok, you can do that.

Do you want to get a girlfriend for a relationship?
You can do that too.

However, just because you can SLEEP with a woman
quickly, does NOT make that woman a good candidate
for being the woman you really want to DATE and
the woman you really want as your GIRLFRIEND.

And for all the talk of the seduction community that
sleeping around doesn't imply anything about anyone,
the statistics imply OTHERWISE.

Remember, it's quite HUMAN and NATURAL to
want to form a BOND when a man and woman
meet and they really like each other.  If someone
KEEPS on meeting the opposite sex in the most
intimate physical way, and can't form BONDS,
this implies a lack of ability to form the kind of
LONG TERM bond required for a thriving
and fulfilling RELATIONSHIP.

So, while I absolutely believe in freedom and the
choice is up to every individual, I do NOT support
telling men LIES such as "if you can sleep with
a woman then you can for sure get a great
GIRLFRIEND" simply because it is not TRUE.

Then again, the seduction community also likes to
hide the truth about other important matters, such
as the MASSIVE rates of STDs and STIs that
are going around, and that even condoms are
not 100% effective.

I was the first one in the seduction community to
try to bring BALANCE to it, but it looks like
BALANCE isn't what grabs people's attention.

FAST SEX is what grabs attention, with truth
coming in a distant second.

So MOST men will never get the truth.

However I want to congratulate YOU on being
different from most men, because you made it
HERE.

And if you would like to know the FULL picture
on getting a GREAT girlfriend for a fantastic
long term relationship, I suggest you go here:

www.GetAGreatGirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks