Attraction is not a static thing. That's the truth.
A woman is either feeling more and more of it
for you, or she is feeling less and less.
It NEVER stays the same.
So you have to ask yourself a question:
Which do you prefer, a woman feeling she is
"settling" for you for "practical" reasons and
her attraction thus eroding for you day by day,
or a woman feeling that she MUST HAVE you?
In the real world, attraction doesn't care about
the politically correct b.s. definition of it.
Ultimately, REAL attraction feels like a NEED,
it's not some kind of thing that is "nice" to
have. It feels as if you NEED it.
THAT'S what attraction is.
1. Attraction Is Primal, It's Not "Nice"
When you feel MASSIVE ATTRACTION for
a woman, it's not some kind of, "oh that is
nice" feeling. It's A HECK OF A LOT
more than that. And THAT'S what you want
women to feel for you.
So, if you are going to actually make a woman
FEEL this level of attraction, you have to first
understand just where the BAR is in terms of
what IS a confident secure fun intriguing guy.
Because of the ocean of guys who still kiss
up to women, her mind's default setting is set
to politely and quickly vaporize all guys who
approach her. The only way you are going
to overpower that setting is if your behaviour
and style clearly and immediately indicate that
there is something very different about you,
in a cool way.
I want to put an END to any notion that you
can get the kind of results you want with only
a half-assed attitude about this stuff.
2. The Reality Of How An Attractive Woman Thinks
The REALITY of having infinite guys WORSHIP
her and willing to SERVE her and TAKE abuse
from her. And the EFFECT that has on a woman
in terms of what is attractive to her. You have to
be in the same reality to understand it, which is
what actually ultimately happens when you get
good at this stuff.
3. What Women Want Vs. What Guys Want
Guys keep giving WOMEN what GUYS would want,
in the typical guys' frame of scarcity and
desperation.
Bu this is like giving SALTY PRETZELS
instead of water to a man dying of THIRST,
and then wondering why he doesn't seem
to appreciate it.
Women are EMOTIONALY DYING OF THIRST
for some masculine confidence, wit, humor, and
leadership, as well as for some sexual tension,
unpredictability, intrigue, fun, and excitement.
Instead, guys are giving women the opposite,
because as guys they want assurance, permanence,
and reliability, since they have been dunked in
the matrix illusion of "scarcity of women" and
the matrix illusion that as men they don't have
the same intrinsic worth in society as women.
And even when guys DO hear solid advice,
such as "be like women" in the sense of being
hard to get, guys do it wrong, because they are
doing it with the wrong INTENT.
They are doing it almost with a sense of
ANGER. As if they are "getting back"
at women, as if it's tit for tat.
IT'S NOT ABOUT THAT AT ALL.
When you do it like that, you are totally
INCONGRUENT with what attraction IS.
4. The Vibes Of Attraction
Attraction is about giving off the awesome
emotional vibes of having MASSIVE AWESOME
COOL SEXY VALUE. How the heck can someone
have VALUE and yet be the kind of person
who gets UPSET? You can only get upset
if you are LOSING.
Does the GENERAL worry about the
remarks of some guy ranked as just
a private?
That's why although attraction ultimately
IS about perceived superiority, the irony is
that to ACHIEVE this EFFECTIVELY, you have to
not even FEEL there is a power gap between
you and a woman to begin with.
Otherwise, your emotions will give you away
in infinite micro expressions and forms
of body language, and your emotions will
betray you by the way you live your life.
She will see that you are actually bitter, etc.
5. Putting It All Together
Remember, the REAL power of attraction
rests in its SUBTLETIES, from the way you
dress, to the comfort you have with being
sexual, to the sense of humor you have,
to the way your voice projects, to the very
way you MOVE.
Think about it: When you are totally under
control and relaxed and confident, you
speak and move with less hurried rush
and you never run out of "things to say" .
In fact, it seems bizarre to even worry of
"having things to say". You start to realize
that your secure, inspired, or fun mood is
what is fueling your ability to have a great
conversation, enabling you to access all
the parts of your mind that give you infinite
"material".
You also start to realize that this vibe you
are giving off results in "energy-return"
from the woman, as you and her ping-pong
the energy/vibes/conversation back and
forth, each of you enjoying this interaction.
So if you saw a woman you were interested
in, you wouldn't feel it's some kind of
RACE or some kind of CONTEST.
You would roll up casual and laid back, and
your conversation wouldn't be about trying
to MAKE anything happen, but rather about
reflecting your inner vibes, mood, state, etc.
6. Developing Your Identity
One of the most important elements of high level
"game" is simply a byproduct of who you ARE.
Once you are ARE in the right state, quality "game"
is the uninterrupted flow of your own mood and
energy outwards.
7. Women's Psychology, Culture And Human Emotion
Quality "game" however is ALSO about
understanding some important things about
women and female culture so that you
understand the real critical issues they need
to know that you are aware of, and quality
"game" is ALSO about understanding
HUMAN EMOTION in general, including
YOUR OWN emotions.
The result of quality "game" is that you
wouldn't be afraid to say something
NICE to a woman when you FELT it, but
you would also not be NEEDY for a woman
who was hot, so complimenting her on her
LOOKS would instinctively not be the first
thing that you did. This idea of not kissing
up to a woman based on her looks would
be instinctive to you, you would not even
feel the emotional desire or impulse to
focus too much on her looks. It's the
neediness and scarcity and lack of
perspective that creates these wrong
behaviours in the first place.
And if you saw she was really into you, which
she most likely would be as a result of all this,
you wouldn't feel the need to ROB HER
of the pleasure of WONDERING about you,
(which is what needy guys do out of their fear
of losing her) of the pleasure of not knowing
everything about you, and of the pleasure
of wondering if she "had" you or not.
You would UNDERSTAND that once you are
secure in your own value, it's actually FUN
to not know right away that you "have" someone,
and yet you would also know how far to push
this and not to push this into the realm of the
absurd, cruel, or just plain dorkyish.
8. Becoming A True Natural
In fact, ALL of attraction FLOWS from the
way you THINK, which is based on the way
you see yourself and the world.
Let me give you a real life example, of
how REAL CONFIDENCE in your
value is reflected POWERFULLY
and instinctively.
This example actually took YEARS for me
to fully realize the full effect of.
I remember a girl from many years ago,
before I got into this stuff. A girl who
I felt I was "lucky" to be with at the time.
Even though I was getting mistreated,
I thought I was "lucky" because I had fallen
under the brainwashing spell of society
to believe that a woman who was attractive
was scarce, (which isn't even true at all) and
that men had to "work" to "prove themselves"
to women, because women were "innocent"
while men were just sex-hungry animals.
Anyway, not to get into a whole life-story
here, I remember once waking up a BIT
to the reality of what was going on,
but still not GETTING it enough to
rise from the ashes of that life. But I
had managed to come to the conclusion
that her behaviour wasn't very good,
even though I thought I was still "lucky"
to have her because most guys I knew
couldn't get an equally hot woman
EVER.
9. The Rise Of Self-Esteem
Anyway, I basically confronted her with
the fact her behaviour was pretty
atrocious, and politely told her that
after I stripped away the attraction
I felt for her, I honestly couldn't think
of one reason I was with her. I
WANTED to have a reason, and I
even said something like "what are
the good things about you?"
(And of course, by this time, she
had already taken the power for
granted, so this was interpreted
by her not as challenging her, but
as me HOPING for goodness.)
Well, her response was a calm:
"Not much."
This had a profound effect on me,
causing reverberations of learning
that lasted with me for years.
I remember at the time, feeling all this
ANGER, and yet, there was NOTHING
I could do, for, after all, she was not
trying to resist my argument that she
was no good.
In fact, by DOING THIS, she was actually
INDIRECTLY saying "I don't NEED to
prove myself, and I don't CARE to
either. And, in fact, I AM good for nothing
EXCEPT the ONE THING THAT COUNTS-
i.e. ATTRACTION."
And it was very spontaneous.
When was the last time a woman asked
YOU something about yourself and your
reply was that you weren't good for much?
10. Untangling The Matrix
You see, on the SURFACE it sounds like
self-deprecation. And I don't recommend
it for beginners, because beginners are usually
SO congruent with INFERIOR beliefs, that
when they say a self-deprecating comment,
it will be taken SERIOUSLY to mean
inferiority.
But once you GET IT, internally, and your
body language, tonality, lifestyle, and
BEHAVIORS show that you know that
indeed you are VERY desirable, well
if you THEN were to say you were worth
"nothing much" in RESPONSE to
a woman TRYING to get you to
prove your worth to her, the results
would be powerful as hell.
Because you are saying all the right things
about yourself. Now, this doesn't mean
to be abusive, i.e. if a woman is REALLY
feeling HURT by you, and she asks you what
is the good side of you, etc.
Don't be a bastard at a time like that.
But you have to understand the UNDERLYING
message here, which is your BELIEFS about
yourself create your BEHAVIOURS.
The answer of "nothing much" was an
EMOTIONAL communication.
The kind that is EFFECTIVE.
Not the useless kind that is LOGICAL.
At the time, I honestly felt that she really
couldn't help it, i.e. that this was her REAL
personality, but that she still had value.
And I couldn't figure this out at the time.
I figured this was just her personality.
Until one day I couldn't take it anymore.
I finally came to the conclusion that
NO WOMAN on earth was worth being with
if I couldn't get some basic level respect.
Even if "wasn't her fault".
So I didn't get angry, I actually
REALLY thought that this girl
was useless to me, because her
attractiveness was no longer
worth it, and even though she
"couldn't help it" I figured that
it wasn't my job to be her therapist,
and that I had already tried for years
to "rehabilitate" her cold ways.
Well, the interesting thing is that,
because I TOTALLY BELIEVED
that this woman was of NO USE
to me, and because I TOTALLY
BELIEVED it was not her fault, I was
TOTALLY CONGRUENT when
I told her "This is over, and I don't
hate you either."
The thing is, this is actually ATTRACTIVE.
Because it implies that she has no worth
to you, and it robs her of her sense of
superior value. How can she have value
if she is worthless to you? Your relative
value to hers becomes superior.
Boom.
Attraction is born.
11. Beliefs Create Reality
I didn't realize it at the time, but I had
GROWN internally, my beliefs about
my own value and hers had changed.
My beliefs had become more ATTRACTIVE.
It wasn't a "technique" I learned, it was how
I really felt.
Within DAYS, suddenly YEARS
of supposedly INGRAINED behaviours
in her TOTALLY REVERSED themselves.
To say the least, she started behaving the way
a person who respects another person behaves.
I won't go into the details, but suffice to
say, apparently she COULD "help it" a lot
all those years.
She proved she could be the warmest, most
giving woman on the planet, most dedicated,
most COMMITTED woman to making
it WORK.
In fact, I couldn't find a place to HIDE
from her, she found me wherever I was.
This actually didn't make me happy.
What it did do was prove to me that I had
wasted YEARS of my life ACCEPTING
substandard behaviour and heartache and
indignity because I thought that was
"just the way it is", when in reality a woman
could be TOTALLY capable of being every
bit as perfect as a SAINT.
12. The Power Of Learning
The only thing that made it NOT a waste
was the super powerful learning experience
that it was for me.
For the next several YEARS, I totally
started doing WHATEVER I wanted
to with women. My new my beliefs
were cemented, and consequently, my
new behaviours were repeated with
tons of different women, with the same
powerful results, ad infinitum.
Most women were great RIGHT OFF THE BAT,
since my frame was solid before they could possibly
have a chance to doubt it.
But even the few who started off
as trying to be "challenging" in return
to me, eventually melted pretty fast,
if I had repeated chances to interact
with them. My frame took over,
because I REALLY believed
in it, it was not some type of act.
This is NOT ego here.
This is just a FACT.
Go and try it in the real world
and you can confirm this.
I picked up women however *I* wanted to,
never giving them ANY privileges, never
for a SECOND thinking any of them were
"special". I made ALL the decisions,
teased them, didn't take them overly
seriously.
I didn't smile like an approval-seeking
geek around women, because I honestly
didn't think they had superior opinions,
I thought of them as primarily being very
smart and feisty when it came to feigning
superiority, mystique, innocence and value,
and in getting men to chase them because
of this.
13. Letting Go Of The Bitterness
But I slowly let go of the bitterness as I
realized that this was just the way women
learned to work their way through the world
since time immemorial, and that it was men
who had given the extra power to women
without adjusting to this change themselves.
Instead of thinking of what gift to buy
a woman, I focused on my own goals,
my own things, FIRST, and I also
dumped women at the slightest thing,
which ALWAYS resulted in them only
chasing me HARDER.
I ENTERED the same level of reality that
I thought was exclusively reserved for women,
But the power of that reality had become
MY REALITY.
I learned some pretty crazy stuff too, such
as if you REALLY want to stop a woman from
being with you, the best way is to kiss
UP to her.
14. Being Formal Ruins The Vibe
I also started to see how most guys really
act around women, and I could SENSE
the vibe that they were creating, because
I could finally see how RIDICULOUS and
REPULSIVE their behaviour was to
a woman who NEEDED a challenge,
who needed something COMPELLING,
something more emotionally powerful,
something more FUN, as opposed to
all these guys who were so serious!
The only thing that all that serious stuff
ends up doing for a guy, if done in the
early stages at least, is making a woman
think the guy is inferior.
15. The Biggest Things To Learn From Women
The reality is that, if you think about
it, women have in a way given men a
GIFT in terms of the erotic joy that comes
about from actually GETTING a woman
who behaves sexy, hard to get, who is
playful, fun, confident, etc.
It's just gotten a little out of hand these days,
but the reality is that how sexy would it
be if it were the opposite, i.e. if women just
ripped off their clothes for you within minutes
of meeting them, if they acted like typical
desperate GUYS????
The fact of the matter is that women are
damn smart, and throughout history they
trumped the men who thought they could
control women. Men figured they were
in power, but women learned to use sexuality
as the ULTIMATE power. They were
slow to give it away, they knew how to
cloud the secrets to female sexuality in
mystery, making it more appealing and
desirable and adding all kinds of illusions
about it to make it seem more special.
And men FELL for it ALL, they fell for
it GOOD, they fell for it BIG TIME.
And women are not so stupid as to give
all that power away in a world of
"equality". It's more like "yeah,
thanks for making us equals now
but we'll keep the sexual power
superiority thank you very much".
16. Women Want Men Who Know All This
If a woman has to TEACH you this,
then she doesn't want you.
And it's not even CONSCIOUS totally.
It's been INTERNALIZED.
So they are totally CONGRUENT.
The idea of being called a "slut" in public
(it's different in private sometimes!) is
such a negative thing because it strips
away their entire power, i.e. that they
have a "special" sexuality that is only
given to a "rare" guy who "earns" it.
And AGAIN, I repeat, these ideas are
INTERNALIZED to most women, so
they BELIEVE it, so they are
CONGRUENT with it. It's not like
women feel they are using a "technique".
And THIS is what you must pick up
from women, the fact that the beliefs
are INTERNAL. AND you must learn
from women how to present your
entire reality in the most attractive
light, otherwise the reality is that
you are portraying yourself as
INFERIOR, and perception is
reality when it comes to these
things.
17. Internalizing Your "Game"
Now here's the thing, you have to
put in your dues, you can't just
ACT and say the 'right lines'-
women can tell the difference.
If you don't put in your dues, and you don't
work on INTERNALIZING your game,
and if you don't work on your ability
to create COOL EMOTIONS in women,
well then YOUR uncool emotions will
ruin your game no matter how cool your
"lines" are or your memorized "tactics".
Incongruity is always evident to people,
even if they are not consciously aware
of it. So the incongruity in a guy who
is SAYING cool things but hasn't paid
his dues developing the internal stuff,
will never fool most women.
You have to get to the point that your
EMOTIONS really ARE feeling the
same stuff ABOUT YOURSELF that
a hot woman feels regarding HER
intrinsic value.
18. Take Yourself To The Next Level
Now, believe it or not, all this stuff
should be considered part of FOUNDATION
LEVEL understanding. You NEED to have
this understanding to create SOLID and
CONSISTENT attraction with the kind of
women that make most guys' hearts pound.
Beyond this level, rests an even DEEPER
level of understanding and skill. This
level is part of what I like to call the
INFINITE BEYOND. It includes an
understanding of the deepest recesses
of a woman's desire and in fact ALL
her emotions. This is the level where
you are able to understand the nuances
and subtleties of a woman's behaviour
in a way that will give you such power
that you genuinely feel EMPATHY
for the woman in front of you, no
matter who she is.
And you will be congruent with it,
because it will come from your
knowledge that you can give her
the GREATEST gift she has ever
experienced- which is EMOTIONAL
fulfillment. When you KNOW you
have something AWESOME to GIVE,
you are bathed in an infinite sense of
calm and security.
This is MORE than just losing any neediness,
it's about also being able to GIVE a woman
what she EMOTIONALLY NEEDS, for REAL.
This will enable you to not only create attraction,
but also a DEEP sense of connection that most
QUALITY women are looking for. Most guys
don't realize how important it is for a woman
to have both, because they don't understand that
the raw "physical stuff" is easy for a woman to get.
Therefore, ultimate sexual desire in a woman
can only be unleashed when you ALSO know how
to satisfy her other emotions, because they
are ALL connected. One unlocks the door
to the other.
Emotions are the ONLY truth that matters
in this arena.
And you are going to be the biggest GIVER
she ever had, because you are going to be
GIVING her EXACTLY what she NEEDS
to feel INSANELY GREAT.
And believe me, when you can do
THAT to a woman, she won't just
be attracted to you.
She will be OBSESSED with you.
So this is responsibility that you must
take with great sincerity.
And if you are ready to gain the most
advanced level of skill and understanding
with women on the face of this earth,
so that you can attract women at will,
then it's time you booked your BOOTCAMP
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The Bootcamp's official name is
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Having this type of skill with women not
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When you KNOW you have so many options,
you lose all sense of neediness, you
become more fun, more compelling, more
dominant, more charming, and women
flock to you even MORE, which just
gets you in an even MORE powerful
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Now, that doesn't mean that you have
to date all those women! In fact,
most of the men who take the bootcamp
really just want to be with a great
woman for a great relationship-
and this bootcamp will make that
goal happen for you FAST.
When you have so many options, with
so much attraction from women, you
can start to take your PICK, and
be selective.
Most men search their LIVES for
the right woman, hoping to get
lucky, but being PASSIVE or just
going through life without the
SKILLS and just depending on
LUCK does NOT work.
It's like hoping to win the lottery,
instead of learning a useful SKILL
that PAYS.
Learning the SKILL of how to approach
and attract will translate into you
having TONS of women at your fingertips
for you to choose from.
It's that simple.
To find out more about the Real World
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If you're just starting out, then definitely
start with my eBook "The Dating Wizard", at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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How To Create A Connection With A Woman
Creating a connection with a woman is
the secret to attracting her, because the
emotional impact of this is MASSIVE,
and when emotions are burning strong,
OTHER EMOTIONS LIKE ATTRACTION
COME FLOODING IN LIKE AN OCEAN.
Emotions work in tandem with other emotions,
that's why a great movie gets you feeling
MANY things, not just action but also
drama, romance, mystery, suspense,
and several other compelling emotions.
Also, ever notice how stores play music?
They do this because it works, it gets
people EMOTIONAL even if they
aren't thinking about it.
So let's get to the power of CONNECTING
to a woman, which is the greatest emotional
impact you can create.
Have you ever realized something
after YEARS of not actually
UNDERSTANDING that thing?
It might have been something MAJOR,
like realizing that actually someone
had done something MASSIVELY good for you
but that you never realized HOW massive
until a certain moment years later?
Or even something SMALL like realizing
a certain line of a song you really liked
that you had the words wrong initially.
There's a feeling of OH MAN, THAT WAS IT!
NOWWWWWWWWWWW I GET IT!!!!
Now, when it comes to human relationships,
and explaining something that goes against
another person's viewpoints, guess what?
MOST PEOPLE ARE TOTALLY DISTORTING
WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING
OR EXPLAINING.
I'm talking about when it comes to
explaning something the other
person doesn't agree with- studies show
that communication is just plain
terrible, even when people are
trying to understand each other!
And this is because people don't
see how their own biases are
BLOCKING their own understanding
and actually preventing them from
actually allowing the other person's
words to truly enter their own
CONSCIOUS mind!
That's right- people will instinctively
actually BLOCK OUT what they disagree
with and often even NOT REMEMBER
the parts of what the other person SAID
if they disagreed with it!
They will actually reinterpret what was
originally said by the other, and they will
do this reinterpretation in a way that
only fits THEIR OWN BIAS, to the
point that the distortion could be 100%
the OPPOSITE of what the original
message was.
And yet, if they really DID take the
effort to understand each other, they
almost ALWAYS end up finding out
that they actually AGREE on about
99% of what they thought they were
totally at ODDS about!!!
You might already be way ahead of me
and be seeing the next point:
Imagine how much WORSE this problem
becomes when it comes to men and women
who are total STRANGERS interacting with
each other!!!
And yet, the feeling of being understood
by someone, and of them understanding you,
is MASSIVELY REWARDING, it's really the
key to a quality of life- the quality of
your life is the quality of your relationships.
I'm not talking about understanding the
trivial things, but understanding the
BURNING THOUGHTS that are in her mind.
And I promise you, she HAS them, every
human has SOMETHING or even A FEW
MAJOR THINGS that are DRIVING
their emotions and thoughts, and
it also drives us NUTS that
no one REALLY understands what
we're experiencing or thinking
or feeling.
Well, imagine if YOU could show a woman
that YOU understood HER, completely.
You would be standing out from EVERY GUY
SHE HAS EVER KNOWN, on a very powerful
level that connects to the core of her EMOTIONS.
This has nothing to do with PRETENDING
to understand her, it's with actually
UNDERSTANDING for real.
If you see a woman somewhere who you
think is "just too beautiful" for you
to approach, I want you to consider
the following FACT:
Most people fail to truly CONNECT
to other people, and I'm not even
talking about with strangers!
Most people fail to even truly connect
with a lot of the people they already
KNOW!
And what I mean by 'connect' is simply
the ability to truly make another person
feel you understand them, and also to
allow them to understand you.
However, it's even more important in your
initial conversation with a woman to make
HER feel that YOU understand HER.
Now, you might think that it's impossible
to get this level of understanding in a
casual chat, but the reality is that it's
not so much a matter of you having to
"go deep and profound and serious" as it
is a matter of learning to remove your
own BIAS.
As humans, we naturally form biases and
perceptions of things that come from our
OWN perspective but are not neccessarily
the only way of looking at things or
even true sometimes at all!
So let's say for example that a woman
you're chatting to tells you something
about her hobbies, or a trip she went
on, or an experience she had- if it's
something that you would NOT NORMALLY
BE INTERESTED IN, or something that
you don't enjoy, or even something
that you don't agree with, don't
pretend that you DO like it or that
you DO understand it, but GENUINELY
ASK HER ABOUT IT so that you CAN
understand it.
And here's what is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT:
Make sure your question in ITSELF
doesn't show massive bias- so for
example lets say she plays an instrument
that you've never heard of, and she
has been playing it for sixteen years,
and it's not something that is particularly
TRENDY like playing the guitar, the
piano, or anything like that.
You might think to yourself "Why would
someone want to devote so many years to
THAT instrument?????"
Now, rather than asking her that question,
you might want to INSTEAD realize that
OBVIOUSLY there is something she CHERISHES
about it, so make sure your vocal TONALITY
CONVEYS THAT YOU UNDERSTAND SHE IS NOT
CRAZY OR WIERD OR SOMEHOW LESS NORMAL.
A lot of guys might think they are
doing a great thing by asking right
away "What made you choose THAT?"
But that kind of question in that
tonality already implies a lack
of understanding.
It's just one example, but it could
be her views on relationships, on
sexuality, on ANYTHING- it could
be her views on what is THE MOST
EXCITING THING IN LIFE or the
WORST thing in life-watch your
own internal bias and notice how
your emotions might be affecting
your own responses.
The reality is that when most guys
try chatting up a woman who is a complete
stranger they end up creating the feeling
in her mind that this guy doesn't "get"
her, and yet he COULD have if he had
learned the art of effective conversation.
It's tough enough to even communicate
properly with another DUDE, never
mind to do it properly with a woman
who will not only have her own individual
perspectives that are different from
anyone elses, but also different from
a man's based on her female experience.
In my book, Get A Great Girl, I go into
full detail on how to SKYROCKET your
communication with a woman so that
you achieve a real connection.
And what's really an EYE OPENER is that
the reason most women put guys into the
"friend" zone is because she fails to
really CONNECT to the guy. Guys who
get put into the "friend" zone sometimes
think this is because she feels something
for him but not enough ATTRACTION.
Well, when it comes to women,
attraction is far more complex
than with men, and CONNECTION
is the missing link that takes
guys from the friendship zone
to the INTIMATE zone.
Think about it- a lot of unlikely
couples on the surface actually
made a lot of SENSE when you
get down to it:
Remember when Angelina Jolie was
with Billy Bob Thornton?
They may have seemed like an unlikely
couple on the surface, but in reality
they were connected on MANY levels
including their eccentric and
almost gothic ways.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher?
Seems unlikely on the surface,
but in reality Ashton was
BOMBARDED for years by immature
teenage girls from his fandom from
"That 70's Show" so the last thing
he needed was an immature girl-
so he is attracted to Demi Moore
who probably was a breath of fresh
air with no drama and someone who
also was a bit more an intellectual
challenge, and of course she was
attractive as well.
And for her, she had been with Bruce
Willis and Bruce was going with
younger women, and I'm sure Ashton
validated her sense of self.
Now, what's AMAZING is that if you
can UNDERSTAND and get to the CORE
of what's going on with a woman
internally, you then know WHAT
EXACTLY TO DO TO GET HER TO
RESPOND MASSIVELY TO YOU.
And she will LOVE you for this, like
a woman on a MISSION, and of course
she too will be fueled to understand
YOU and give you what you want,
- and yet all you have to learn to do this
is the skill and art of effective communication
with women.
This will allow you to learn everything
you need to know about her to acheive
understanding and attraction.
So rather than trying to act like
some 'player', you instead
ENCOURAGE HER TO TALK EVEN MORE,
and by also not allowing your own
biases to distort your perceptions
and your communication, you keep
getting closer and closer-
this is the true definition
of 'intimacy' that 99% of
men never understand.
Every bit of convo you have with
her will get you further into her
explaining herself to you, and of
course everyone would rather talk
about themselves than anything else,
so you also come across as NOT arrogant
from all this, and yet she is giving
you the RECIPE for attracting
her the more she talks!
And if you'd like to learn the FULL
picture on attracting a woman of quality,
download my book NOW at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
I also have a very special interview coming
up for my next Actions For Attraction CD,
(it's still a secret and it's gonna ROCK)
so if you haven't already subscribed,
do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/actions.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
P.S. And for access to the FIRST YEAR
of Actions For Attraction, go to:
http://getagreatgirl.com/ActionsForAttraction.html
the secret to attracting her, because the
emotional impact of this is MASSIVE,
and when emotions are burning strong,
OTHER EMOTIONS LIKE ATTRACTION
COME FLOODING IN LIKE AN OCEAN.
Emotions work in tandem with other emotions,
that's why a great movie gets you feeling
MANY things, not just action but also
drama, romance, mystery, suspense,
and several other compelling emotions.
Also, ever notice how stores play music?
They do this because it works, it gets
people EMOTIONAL even if they
aren't thinking about it.
So let's get to the power of CONNECTING
to a woman, which is the greatest emotional
impact you can create.
Have you ever realized something
after YEARS of not actually
UNDERSTANDING that thing?
It might have been something MAJOR,
like realizing that actually someone
had done something MASSIVELY good for you
but that you never realized HOW massive
until a certain moment years later?
Or even something SMALL like realizing
a certain line of a song you really liked
that you had the words wrong initially.
There's a feeling of OH MAN, THAT WAS IT!
NOWWWWWWWWWWW I GET IT!!!!
Now, when it comes to human relationships,
and explaining something that goes against
another person's viewpoints, guess what?
MOST PEOPLE ARE TOTALLY DISTORTING
WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING
OR EXPLAINING.
I'm talking about when it comes to
explaning something the other
person doesn't agree with- studies show
that communication is just plain
terrible, even when people are
trying to understand each other!
And this is because people don't
see how their own biases are
BLOCKING their own understanding
and actually preventing them from
actually allowing the other person's
words to truly enter their own
CONSCIOUS mind!
That's right- people will instinctively
actually BLOCK OUT what they disagree
with and often even NOT REMEMBER
the parts of what the other person SAID
if they disagreed with it!
They will actually reinterpret what was
originally said by the other, and they will
do this reinterpretation in a way that
only fits THEIR OWN BIAS, to the
point that the distortion could be 100%
the OPPOSITE of what the original
message was.
And yet, if they really DID take the
effort to understand each other, they
almost ALWAYS end up finding out
that they actually AGREE on about
99% of what they thought they were
totally at ODDS about!!!
You might already be way ahead of me
and be seeing the next point:
Imagine how much WORSE this problem
becomes when it comes to men and women
who are total STRANGERS interacting with
each other!!!
And yet, the feeling of being understood
by someone, and of them understanding you,
is MASSIVELY REWARDING, it's really the
key to a quality of life- the quality of
your life is the quality of your relationships.
I'm not talking about understanding the
trivial things, but understanding the
BURNING THOUGHTS that are in her mind.
And I promise you, she HAS them, every
human has SOMETHING or even A FEW
MAJOR THINGS that are DRIVING
their emotions and thoughts, and
it also drives us NUTS that
no one REALLY understands what
we're experiencing or thinking
or feeling.
Well, imagine if YOU could show a woman
that YOU understood HER, completely.
You would be standing out from EVERY GUY
SHE HAS EVER KNOWN, on a very powerful
level that connects to the core of her EMOTIONS.
This has nothing to do with PRETENDING
to understand her, it's with actually
UNDERSTANDING for real.
If you see a woman somewhere who you
think is "just too beautiful" for you
to approach, I want you to consider
the following FACT:
Most people fail to truly CONNECT
to other people, and I'm not even
talking about with strangers!
Most people fail to even truly connect
with a lot of the people they already
KNOW!
And what I mean by 'connect' is simply
the ability to truly make another person
feel you understand them, and also to
allow them to understand you.
However, it's even more important in your
initial conversation with a woman to make
HER feel that YOU understand HER.
Now, you might think that it's impossible
to get this level of understanding in a
casual chat, but the reality is that it's
not so much a matter of you having to
"go deep and profound and serious" as it
is a matter of learning to remove your
own BIAS.
As humans, we naturally form biases and
perceptions of things that come from our
OWN perspective but are not neccessarily
the only way of looking at things or
even true sometimes at all!
So let's say for example that a woman
you're chatting to tells you something
about her hobbies, or a trip she went
on, or an experience she had- if it's
something that you would NOT NORMALLY
BE INTERESTED IN, or something that
you don't enjoy, or even something
that you don't agree with, don't
pretend that you DO like it or that
you DO understand it, but GENUINELY
ASK HER ABOUT IT so that you CAN
understand it.
And here's what is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT:
Make sure your question in ITSELF
doesn't show massive bias- so for
example lets say she plays an instrument
that you've never heard of, and she
has been playing it for sixteen years,
and it's not something that is particularly
TRENDY like playing the guitar, the
piano, or anything like that.
You might think to yourself "Why would
someone want to devote so many years to
THAT instrument?????"
Now, rather than asking her that question,
you might want to INSTEAD realize that
OBVIOUSLY there is something she CHERISHES
about it, so make sure your vocal TONALITY
CONVEYS THAT YOU UNDERSTAND SHE IS NOT
CRAZY OR WIERD OR SOMEHOW LESS NORMAL.
A lot of guys might think they are
doing a great thing by asking right
away "What made you choose THAT?"
But that kind of question in that
tonality already implies a lack
of understanding.
It's just one example, but it could
be her views on relationships, on
sexuality, on ANYTHING- it could
be her views on what is THE MOST
EXCITING THING IN LIFE or the
WORST thing in life-watch your
own internal bias and notice how
your emotions might be affecting
your own responses.
The reality is that when most guys
try chatting up a woman who is a complete
stranger they end up creating the feeling
in her mind that this guy doesn't "get"
her, and yet he COULD have if he had
learned the art of effective conversation.
It's tough enough to even communicate
properly with another DUDE, never
mind to do it properly with a woman
who will not only have her own individual
perspectives that are different from
anyone elses, but also different from
a man's based on her female experience.
In my book, Get A Great Girl, I go into
full detail on how to SKYROCKET your
communication with a woman so that
you achieve a real connection.
And what's really an EYE OPENER is that
the reason most women put guys into the
"friend" zone is because she fails to
really CONNECT to the guy. Guys who
get put into the "friend" zone sometimes
think this is because she feels something
for him but not enough ATTRACTION.
Well, when it comes to women,
attraction is far more complex
than with men, and CONNECTION
is the missing link that takes
guys from the friendship zone
to the INTIMATE zone.
Think about it- a lot of unlikely
couples on the surface actually
made a lot of SENSE when you
get down to it:
Remember when Angelina Jolie was
with Billy Bob Thornton?
They may have seemed like an unlikely
couple on the surface, but in reality
they were connected on MANY levels
including their eccentric and
almost gothic ways.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher?
Seems unlikely on the surface,
but in reality Ashton was
BOMBARDED for years by immature
teenage girls from his fandom from
"That 70's Show" so the last thing
he needed was an immature girl-
so he is attracted to Demi Moore
who probably was a breath of fresh
air with no drama and someone who
also was a bit more an intellectual
challenge, and of course she was
attractive as well.
And for her, she had been with Bruce
Willis and Bruce was going with
younger women, and I'm sure Ashton
validated her sense of self.
Now, what's AMAZING is that if you
can UNDERSTAND and get to the CORE
of what's going on with a woman
internally, you then know WHAT
EXACTLY TO DO TO GET HER TO
RESPOND MASSIVELY TO YOU.
And she will LOVE you for this, like
a woman on a MISSION, and of course
she too will be fueled to understand
YOU and give you what you want,
- and yet all you have to learn to do this
is the skill and art of effective communication
with women.
This will allow you to learn everything
you need to know about her to acheive
understanding and attraction.
So rather than trying to act like
some 'player', you instead
ENCOURAGE HER TO TALK EVEN MORE,
and by also not allowing your own
biases to distort your perceptions
and your communication, you keep
getting closer and closer-
this is the true definition
of 'intimacy' that 99% of
men never understand.
Every bit of convo you have with
her will get you further into her
explaining herself to you, and of
course everyone would rather talk
about themselves than anything else,
so you also come across as NOT arrogant
from all this, and yet she is giving
you the RECIPE for attracting
her the more she talks!
And if you'd like to learn the FULL
picture on attracting a woman of quality,
download my book NOW at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
I also have a very special interview coming
up for my next Actions For Attraction CD,
(it's still a secret and it's gonna ROCK)
so if you haven't already subscribed,
do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/actions.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
P.S. And for access to the FIRST YEAR
of Actions For Attraction, go to:
http://getagreatgirl.com/ActionsForAttraction.html
Saturday, March 27, 2010
How To Get A Woman To Chase You
If you get a woman to chase you, you know
she's attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you start to chase HER,
you usually tend to LOSE the woman, as she
loses the attraction she felt for you.
The question though, a question I spent YEARS
figuring out the hard way, is:
How do you START a conversation with a woman
WITHOUT making it obvious that you are “chasing her”?
After all, the fact you started talking to her
makes it clear you have at least some interest
in her.
Well, some people like to think the answer is
to give women a series of backhanded
compliments, which is really a series of subtle
insults.
For example, the guy will say something
nice to the woman, like “nice smile” and then say
something like “but you have weird hair” or
whatever other insult they could come up with.
The idea behind all this, is that this way supposedly
you don’t validate her, so now she will pursue you in
her quest to get validated.
Unfortunately, this is NOT ENOUGH, for the simple
reason that a woman has to feel some ATTRACTION
to begin with, before she will care about whether you
are validating her or not.
So the REAL ANSWER to, “How do I approach
a woman without making it seem that I am chasing her?”
is to get her MESMERIZED with you as fast
as possible so that she stops THINKING about
the fact you approached her, and is instead more
more concerned with her OWN interest in YOU
and how to ensure that she gets YOU!
In her mind, the fact you approached her
only means that you are CONSIDERING her,
not neccessarily CHASING her.
Now, at that point, of course you can lean back and
chill out and let her chase you.
If she's attractive, you can be sure she will
enjoy chasing you, (don't go overboard, and
don't get abusive, ever, of course) since she
usually gets things too easily and that bores her.
So, instead of looking at value from a negative standpoint,
and giving women insults and then hoping they
will want to get validated by you, the best way to
go is to actually CONVEY REAL VALUE –
so that she WANTS to chase you.
By “real value” I mean getting her FEELING
A SERIES OF INTOXICATING EMOTIONS
THAT GET HER HEART PUMPING.
From a chemistry/romance/attraction point of view,
that’s the highest form of value you can give a woman.
In fact, women will become ADDICTED to you
if you can do this, because emotions are addictive,
and the more you can give her, the more she will
become obsessed with you.
This is when a woman doesn't just want you,
but wants you BAD!
As the rock group "Foreigner" said, she will
call you on the phone and tell you it's URGENT
that you meet her right now:
So now, I’m going to give you some of the WAYS
to convey value and attract her, all of which have
nothing to do with harming her self-esteem or
any other negative stuff.
ONE: THE PARTY IS WITH YOU
This was one of the first “holy *&^%” moments
when I discovered this. Basically, what this is,
is that you adopt the mentality that there IS
a party going on, a GREAT PARTY in fact, and
that you are the CENTER of this party!
And you do this no matter what the heck is
“really” going on- you behave like everyone
around you is VISITING this party or has
just arrived.
And, you behave as if they are all super-friendly
and admirers of you- wishing that you would chat
them up too, in addition to all the other cool people
who you were chatting to before them.
This means ANYWHERE you are, you now
have the LICENSE to do all kinds of fun
playful and even risqué stuff, because it’s
all perfectly fine in the name of the PARTY.
You could get away with more sexual comments,
you could make fun of anything, you could make
any joke, you could SAY anything, if you are really
FEEELING THIS PARTY VIBE.
The key to making this work, is to not even
leave your ROOM or the house or building
until you have gotten yourself into this PARTY
state of mind.
You need to do whatever it takes to get the
PARTY inspiration, but don’t use alcohol
or drugs obviously as that is not only not
healthy but will screw up your performance –
so I suggest you listen to PARTY MUSIC
that you love instead.
The other thing to making this work is that
you have to anticipate BEFOREHAND that
you might meet a woman ANYWHERE
and so this way you are READY for the
moment when the moment comes- whether
it be in the coffee shop, bookstore, elevator,
bus, or school, ANYWHERE.
You have to be ready BEFORE it happens,
not just when it happens, or it’s too late.
Say you’re getting off the elevator and a
gorgeous creature happens to be right in
front of you- you can do something like this:
Give her this look, up and down, and
DON’T DO IT WITH SHAME, do it
like a MAN, and then give her a bit of
a nod, as if you’ve just given her your
stamp that she qualifies, and you could
even say “the party is this way” and
gesture toward where you’re going,
or you could even say "The party is
HERE!" and point to yourself.
Again, this stuff requires you to be
in FULL party state, the reason it works
is because since YOU are in that state
and showing it, it makes it EASY for her
to join this state as well, because the reality
is that EVERYONE wants to be having
MORE FUN, no one wants to get more
depressed and formal and official, and
here you are having a great time ALREADY
and just inviting her to playfully join.
Again, the key is that you are ALREADY
in this state of mind BEFORE you meet her,
so this way she gets to actually feel MORE
comfortable to join your “party” since she
doesn’t have to feel it’s all about HER,
rather it’s about the chance to FEEL GOOD.
And guess what?
If a woman is feeling good and sexual around
you, and the other guys in her life are boring her,
guess who she’s going to BE with?
YOU.
This feeling GOOD stuff is so powerful, and
yet 99% of people prevent themselves from
feeling this by getting caught up in all kinds
of negative emotions.
Make yourself the one guy on earth who IS
her drug, the source of feeling intoxicatingly
awesome.
And the irony is that you will do this best by
NOT doing it for HER, but by already being
in this state BEFORE you bump into her.
Yeah, I know you might say it's the same
thing because you are doing it for her, but
once you do this, you will actually FEEL
way more awesome anyway, and you
really WON'T be doing it just for her!
This is why so many of the most beautiful
women in real life are with men who have
a LIFESTYLE that is compelling/fun/intriguing.
By LIFESTYLE, I mean they way they live
their lives from day to day, how much of that
time is spent feeling awesome emotions
compared to boring ones or negative ones.
You don’t have to be in this state 24/7, but you
definitely want to be in this state if you are out
trying to meet and attract women.
TWO: CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE
Clothing is something we all have to wear most
of the time – and it covers us from almost head
to toe- it’s LIKE AN ADVERTISING BILLBOARD,
but the “ad” that most guys are wearing is saying:
“I’m boring and not social and not looking to
have any fun, ever.”
So you should definitely be pushing the envelope
to find clothing that has STYLE, and that reflects
some of your OWN personality as well- whether
it’s leather with some shiny metallic on it,
whether it’s an unusual but cool denim,
you want to be STANDING OUT and not
wearing the thing that makes you blend in
as one of a billion other guys.
This is a huge topic in itself, but the key
is to remember that no matter what your
environment, whether it’s work or a club
or a party, you can always find the thing
that you can get away with that pushes
the envelope without being ridiculous
in each environment.
Another thing to remember is that most guys
tend to avoid upbeat colors, and it’s a good idea
to incorporate some more color, even if it’s just
a BIT of bright color to offset what is mostly
dark colors.
This was the hardest thing for me to do at first,
because I actually felt so gloomy and angry, I
liked dressing more like Batman, all brooding,
so it took a while for me to have some more range
with some color as well.
No one is saying you have to wear pink and yellow,
or look “gay”, there are a lot of other options besides
that.
You may want to ask the most attractive female
clerk at the clothing store for her help, and while
you’re at it, go for her number as well.
THREE: USE YOUR VOICE
Start things off RIGHT.
When you initially say the first WORD (and after
as well, but especially when you start, to get her
attention the first time) to a woman who is a total
stranger, it’s important that you don’t come across
as weak or without conviction in your decision to
talk to her.
Say it with FULL AUTHORITY in your voice,
whether it’s “Hi” or “Hey” or “I’m on my way to
the King Tut exhibit at the museum”, say it with
TOTAL AUTHORITY, and this way she won’t
question WHY you are talking to her and it will
also get her attention in a receptive way, so that
now you can actually get into the more juicy fun
or interesting stuff you were going to talk about
to her.
FOUR: THE WAY IT BEGINS IS THE WAY IT ENDS
Now, it’s important to realize regarding the above
things, that whatever you do in the beginning will
set up the DYNAMIC of how things will go till the
END.
If you set up the dynamic as highly sexual but without
any deeper connection going on, then your relationship
will likely become sexual but then explode and self-destruct
quickly.
If you tease a woman too much, she will end up
teasing you back hardcore as well, and this might
get out of hand and become annoying after a while.
If you keep the dynamic too “anti-septic” and safe
and free of sexual vibe, you will end up as friends only,
and you don’t want that.
If you play games too much in the beginning, the relationship
will end as a result of these games as well.
So you must strike the right BALANCE in your
interactions with women, and you must do this
right especially at the BEGINNING, so that
things are established immediately and flow
in the direction you want.
What you have read is just the tip of the iceberg
of ALL the incredible things you can do to
SKYROCKET a woman's attraction to you,
and if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE,
I suggest you get my MASTERY PROGRAM.
This program will show you in full detail
the MASTERY level for APPROACHING
WOMEN ANYWHERE and triggering
INTENSE ATTRACTION in women.
It’s at:
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And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book
“Get A Great Girl”, do that now at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
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GREAT GIRL for a LONG TERM relationship.
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that one incredible woman and have a
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and getting dates. It’s packed with dozens
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
she's attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you start to chase HER,
you usually tend to LOSE the woman, as she
loses the attraction she felt for you.
The question though, a question I spent YEARS
figuring out the hard way, is:
How do you START a conversation with a woman
WITHOUT making it obvious that you are “chasing her”?
After all, the fact you started talking to her
makes it clear you have at least some interest
in her.
Well, some people like to think the answer is
to give women a series of backhanded
compliments, which is really a series of subtle
insults.
For example, the guy will say something
nice to the woman, like “nice smile” and then say
something like “but you have weird hair” or
whatever other insult they could come up with.
The idea behind all this, is that this way supposedly
you don’t validate her, so now she will pursue you in
her quest to get validated.
Unfortunately, this is NOT ENOUGH, for the simple
reason that a woman has to feel some ATTRACTION
to begin with, before she will care about whether you
are validating her or not.
So the REAL ANSWER to, “How do I approach
a woman without making it seem that I am chasing her?”
is to get her MESMERIZED with you as fast
as possible so that she stops THINKING about
the fact you approached her, and is instead more
more concerned with her OWN interest in YOU
and how to ensure that she gets YOU!
In her mind, the fact you approached her
only means that you are CONSIDERING her,
not neccessarily CHASING her.
Now, at that point, of course you can lean back and
chill out and let her chase you.
If she's attractive, you can be sure she will
enjoy chasing you, (don't go overboard, and
don't get abusive, ever, of course) since she
usually gets things too easily and that bores her.
So, instead of looking at value from a negative standpoint,
and giving women insults and then hoping they
will want to get validated by you, the best way to
go is to actually CONVEY REAL VALUE –
so that she WANTS to chase you.
By “real value” I mean getting her FEELING
A SERIES OF INTOXICATING EMOTIONS
THAT GET HER HEART PUMPING.
From a chemistry/romance/attraction point of view,
that’s the highest form of value you can give a woman.
In fact, women will become ADDICTED to you
if you can do this, because emotions are addictive,
and the more you can give her, the more she will
become obsessed with you.
This is when a woman doesn't just want you,
but wants you BAD!
As the rock group "Foreigner" said, she will
call you on the phone and tell you it's URGENT
that you meet her right now:
So now, I’m going to give you some of the WAYS
to convey value and attract her, all of which have
nothing to do with harming her self-esteem or
any other negative stuff.
ONE: THE PARTY IS WITH YOU
This was one of the first “holy *&^%” moments
when I discovered this. Basically, what this is,
is that you adopt the mentality that there IS
a party going on, a GREAT PARTY in fact, and
that you are the CENTER of this party!
And you do this no matter what the heck is
“really” going on- you behave like everyone
around you is VISITING this party or has
just arrived.
And, you behave as if they are all super-friendly
and admirers of you- wishing that you would chat
them up too, in addition to all the other cool people
who you were chatting to before them.
This means ANYWHERE you are, you now
have the LICENSE to do all kinds of fun
playful and even risqué stuff, because it’s
all perfectly fine in the name of the PARTY.
You could get away with more sexual comments,
you could make fun of anything, you could make
any joke, you could SAY anything, if you are really
FEEELING THIS PARTY VIBE.
The key to making this work, is to not even
leave your ROOM or the house or building
until you have gotten yourself into this PARTY
state of mind.
You need to do whatever it takes to get the
PARTY inspiration, but don’t use alcohol
or drugs obviously as that is not only not
healthy but will screw up your performance –
so I suggest you listen to PARTY MUSIC
that you love instead.
The other thing to making this work is that
you have to anticipate BEFOREHAND that
you might meet a woman ANYWHERE
and so this way you are READY for the
moment when the moment comes- whether
it be in the coffee shop, bookstore, elevator,
bus, or school, ANYWHERE.
You have to be ready BEFORE it happens,
not just when it happens, or it’s too late.
Say you’re getting off the elevator and a
gorgeous creature happens to be right in
front of you- you can do something like this:
Give her this look, up and down, and
DON’T DO IT WITH SHAME, do it
like a MAN, and then give her a bit of
a nod, as if you’ve just given her your
stamp that she qualifies, and you could
even say “the party is this way” and
gesture toward where you’re going,
or you could even say "The party is
HERE!" and point to yourself.
Again, this stuff requires you to be
in FULL party state, the reason it works
is because since YOU are in that state
and showing it, it makes it EASY for her
to join this state as well, because the reality
is that EVERYONE wants to be having
MORE FUN, no one wants to get more
depressed and formal and official, and
here you are having a great time ALREADY
and just inviting her to playfully join.
Again, the key is that you are ALREADY
in this state of mind BEFORE you meet her,
so this way she gets to actually feel MORE
comfortable to join your “party” since she
doesn’t have to feel it’s all about HER,
rather it’s about the chance to FEEL GOOD.
And guess what?
If a woman is feeling good and sexual around
you, and the other guys in her life are boring her,
guess who she’s going to BE with?
YOU.
This feeling GOOD stuff is so powerful, and
yet 99% of people prevent themselves from
feeling this by getting caught up in all kinds
of negative emotions.
Make yourself the one guy on earth who IS
her drug, the source of feeling intoxicatingly
awesome.
And the irony is that you will do this best by
NOT doing it for HER, but by already being
in this state BEFORE you bump into her.
Yeah, I know you might say it's the same
thing because you are doing it for her, but
once you do this, you will actually FEEL
way more awesome anyway, and you
really WON'T be doing it just for her!
This is why so many of the most beautiful
women in real life are with men who have
a LIFESTYLE that is compelling/fun/intriguing.
By LIFESTYLE, I mean they way they live
their lives from day to day, how much of that
time is spent feeling awesome emotions
compared to boring ones or negative ones.
You don’t have to be in this state 24/7, but you
definitely want to be in this state if you are out
trying to meet and attract women.
TWO: CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE
Clothing is something we all have to wear most
of the time – and it covers us from almost head
to toe- it’s LIKE AN ADVERTISING BILLBOARD,
but the “ad” that most guys are wearing is saying:
“I’m boring and not social and not looking to
have any fun, ever.”
So you should definitely be pushing the envelope
to find clothing that has STYLE, and that reflects
some of your OWN personality as well- whether
it’s leather with some shiny metallic on it,
whether it’s an unusual but cool denim,
you want to be STANDING OUT and not
wearing the thing that makes you blend in
as one of a billion other guys.
This is a huge topic in itself, but the key
is to remember that no matter what your
environment, whether it’s work or a club
or a party, you can always find the thing
that you can get away with that pushes
the envelope without being ridiculous
in each environment.
Another thing to remember is that most guys
tend to avoid upbeat colors, and it’s a good idea
to incorporate some more color, even if it’s just
a BIT of bright color to offset what is mostly
dark colors.
This was the hardest thing for me to do at first,
because I actually felt so gloomy and angry, I
liked dressing more like Batman, all brooding,
so it took a while for me to have some more range
with some color as well.
No one is saying you have to wear pink and yellow,
or look “gay”, there are a lot of other options besides
that.
You may want to ask the most attractive female
clerk at the clothing store for her help, and while
you’re at it, go for her number as well.
THREE: USE YOUR VOICE
Start things off RIGHT.
When you initially say the first WORD (and after
as well, but especially when you start, to get her
attention the first time) to a woman who is a total
stranger, it’s important that you don’t come across
as weak or without conviction in your decision to
talk to her.
Say it with FULL AUTHORITY in your voice,
whether it’s “Hi” or “Hey” or “I’m on my way to
the King Tut exhibit at the museum”, say it with
TOTAL AUTHORITY, and this way she won’t
question WHY you are talking to her and it will
also get her attention in a receptive way, so that
now you can actually get into the more juicy fun
or interesting stuff you were going to talk about
to her.
FOUR: THE WAY IT BEGINS IS THE WAY IT ENDS
Now, it’s important to realize regarding the above
things, that whatever you do in the beginning will
set up the DYNAMIC of how things will go till the
END.
If you set up the dynamic as highly sexual but without
any deeper connection going on, then your relationship
will likely become sexual but then explode and self-destruct
quickly.
If you tease a woman too much, she will end up
teasing you back hardcore as well, and this might
get out of hand and become annoying after a while.
If you keep the dynamic too “anti-septic” and safe
and free of sexual vibe, you will end up as friends only,
and you don’t want that.
If you play games too much in the beginning, the relationship
will end as a result of these games as well.
So you must strike the right BALANCE in your
interactions with women, and you must do this
right especially at the BEGINNING, so that
things are established immediately and flow
in the direction you want.
What you have read is just the tip of the iceberg
of ALL the incredible things you can do to
SKYROCKET a woman's attraction to you,
and if you would like to get the FULL PICTURE,
I suggest you get my MASTERY PROGRAM.
This program will show you in full detail
the MASTERY level for APPROACHING
WOMEN ANYWHERE and triggering
INTENSE ATTRACTION in women.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book
“Get A Great Girl”, do that now at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
This book will show you the way to get a
GREAT GIRL for a LONG TERM relationship.
Most men out there would like to find
that one incredible woman and have a
fantastic relationship with her, and
this is definitely the book for that.
And if you are JUST STARTING out with
dating, then IMMEDIATELY download my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is your foundation for attraction
and getting dates. It’s packed with dozens
of ideas you can use to meet women the same
day you get the book!
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Friday, October 30, 2009
The Real Thing
"The Real Thing" is always going to have copy-cats
That means it takes time to do it right.
When Cameron was making The Abyss, of course there
So why do I bring this all up?
I bring it up to make it clear that if you want
a woman who is the real thing, and you want
to become the kind of man that is the real thing,
it's not about the overnight success, it's about
REAL DEVELOPMENT.
I'm working on something called WARRIOR WITHIN,
it's taken years and it's almost ready....
There will be all types of imitators though...
They'll come and go, and quickly be forgotten.
If imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, then I'm blushing.
trying to imitate it. For example, James Cameron, the
man who made Terminator, True Lies, Aliens, The Abyss,
and Titanic, pours his heart and soul into everything
man who made Terminator, True Lies, Aliens, The Abyss,
and Titanic, pours his heart and soul into everything
he does.
That means it takes time to do it right.
Years. So of course, trying to cash in off of him, are
pathetic "imitators" who make crap that no one
remembers or gets inspired by or that cause
any true positive change in the world. So, for
example, there have been tons of films that were
trying to rip off Terminator, but that no one remembers.
pathetic "imitators" who make crap that no one
remembers or gets inspired by or that cause
any true positive change in the world. So, for
example, there have been tons of films that were
trying to rip off Terminator, but that no one remembers.
When Cameron was making The Abyss, of course there
was the copy cats making other ocean movies. After Titanic,
there were all kinds of movies that suddenly had sinking ships
as part of the main plot. No one remembers these imitations
.
there were all kinds of movies that suddenly had sinking ships
as part of the main plot. No one remembers these imitations
.
In fact, sometimes, because they know that Cameron's movies
take time to make, the imitators find out what he is making
then try to quickly make a crap movie that will be on the
same general topic, hoping to cash in on the general
anticipation, and release it into theaters before Cameron's
great films.
The same thing happened with Cameron's upcoming AVATAR.
No one even talks about the imitators. Avatar, on the other hand,
will likely revolutionize the entire film industry.
will likely revolutionize the entire film industry.
So why do I bring this all up?
I bring it up to make it clear that if you want
a woman who is the real thing, and you want
to become the kind of man that is the real thing,
it's not about the overnight success, it's about
REAL DEVELOPMENT.
I'm working on something called WARRIOR WITHIN,
it's taken years and it's almost ready....
There will be all types of imitators though...
They'll come and go, and quickly be forgotten.
If imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, then I'm blushing.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Reclaim Your Attractive Power With Women
One of the greatest TORTURES to me is seeing
a guy who is a good guy RUINING it for himself
with a woman. It's torture because I remember
how it felt, and I also know how absolutely
DOES NOT have to be this way!!!
There is a BETTER way, a way that actually
ATTRACTS a woman, and all without ever
having to lie or play games.
So let's get straight down to some hard-core
ACTION STEPS that you can use right now:
1. BE A MILLION-DOLLAR ATTORNEY
FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF AGAINST
YOURSELF
When you meet a woman who does not know
you, all she has to go on is the information
and the vibes that YOU are giving her.
And yet, when guys meet women, men often
CUT THEMSELVES DOWN incessantly.
They cut themselves down in a number of
ways- from the way they describe their
life, their lifestyle, their choices in life,
their hobbies, and most importantly,
their own opinions of themselves.
Sometimes also, men cut themselves
down by making self-deprecating
jokes in the hopes that by
making fun of their selves
first, the woman won't do it
later.
This does not mean to act arrogant,
as arrogance grows out of insecurity,
but so too does constant self-deprecation
grow out of insecurity.
It's one thing to make jokes
when you are clearly SECURE,
it's something else when these
jokes are coming out of insecurity.
Here's the difference- when the
Karate champ of the world says
he's scared of the dark, that's
ok. When the smartest man on
the planet says he's bad at
math, that's ok too.
When a guy feels he really IS
those things, however, and
the woman has a strong reason
to believe it, then it's not
cool at all.
Listen, you only live once, so
you might as well give yourself
the BEST chance each time you
meet a woman.
And this should be coming from
withIN, the way you feel about
your SELF.
Stop living as if you are going
to live forever.
You have every RIGHT to be your own best
friend and be as supportive and positive
about yourself as possible.
Be your own best friend, and I mean
that in the deepest sense of the word-
you should support yourself emotionally
as much as possible, give yourself credit,
and you will ultimately end up giving
more to others as well as a result.
In our culture, it's perfectly fine for
women's products to say messages like
"because I'm worth it", and yet for men,
so many good guys end up saying through
their body language and through their
tonality and through the way they dress
and groom, so many men end up saying the
message "I am NOT worth a woman's time."
All this comes from your own self-perception
about your social status- in fact this is proven
by psychologists. This past weekend at the
Warrior Within Seminar, one of the cool
guys at the event brought the entire
dissertation on this fact that backs it
all up with evidence.
So, if you don't BELIEVE that you HAVE
the social status, you will simply NOT
wear COOL clothing. You will simply
NOT behave in the way of a man who
feels he IS worth it. You will think
that this stuff is simply NOT for
you. You will think that you will
be "found out" to be a "fake", as if
you have no right to be a man who
gets the woman he wants and other
things in life as well.
This stuff is crazy powerful, and I promise
you it all starts with belief.
As sexy and beautiful that so many women
are, the GREATER rewards of developing
yourself in this area called "attracting the
women of your choice" is that you will
learn the TRUTH of who YOU can be
and who you really are- you are so much
different and so much more than you
think "you" are. In fact, right now,
you have no idea of who you really
are, I can make a billion dollar bet on
that.
So the next time a woman asks you
ANYTHING about yourself, I want
you to answer that question as if you
were the most fantastic attorney on
earth for yourself, an attorney who
was getting paid millions of dollars
to ensure that his client was going
to get the very BEST outcome.
The key is to do this without telling a lie.
You do not have to lie, you simply have
to give the damn BEST portrayal of
yourself as possible, ALL the time.
No more "well, I kinda suck at this and
that, and I'm so-so at that, and I'm not
really that great at anything" and no
more "well, my plan for life is kinda
this and that, and maybe so er well"
FORGET THAT STUFF, FOREVER.
This brings me to point number two:
2. START DRESSING THE WAY YOU
WOULD IF YOU KNEW YOU WERE
A SUPERSTAR
So you think you're just Joe Average?
Then you will always BE Joe Average.
In fact, one of the invisible forces that keeps
men imprisoned in the social status of
"not cool to a woman" is the BELIEF
that you don't belong higher up.
And the people who are already there
will NOT have the time or the energy
to stop their lives and try to FIND you
and help you get up there. They don't
even know you exist. And let's face it,
they also know that if someone doesn't
want to change, they never will anyway,
so they don't see why they should be
trying to change people when it's a free
world.
So you have to push your envelope to
reach out of your "comfort zone" - you
have gotten comfortable with seeing
yourself as lower than others only because
you have done it for so long- but FROM
THIS MOMENT ON, THIS ENDS-
NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm serious about this, go out today and
FORCE yourself to put on cooler clothing
than you think "fits" right for you. I'm not
saying that if you are 75 that you should
go and get a skateboard and dye your
hair purple, what I am saying is that you
know very well that you can be dressing
and grooming far cooler than you are
right now, and the only reason you are
not doing it is because you think that
you are not "supposed" to- and the
only reason you think THAT is because
you've had a lifetime of PRACTICE
thinking the wrong thoughts.
So let's start CHANGING those thoughts
by also changing your ACTIONS.
3. BEWARE OF YOUR RISING VOICE PITCH
Notice how when you are talking to a woman
you are attracted to, your voice will often
rise up- this happens because you feel too
much energy and that too much is at stake.
It's as if a billion volts of electricity is surging
through your system.
So for now, you have to CONSCIOUSLY
bring your vocal pitch back to normal.
This will not only get you better results, but
it will change your state of mind as well and
get you into the proper perspective that is
far more empowering as well.
4. BEWARE OF THE FEAR-INDUCED SMILE
Very often, when a woman is talking to you,
you will be smiling in a way that is OVERDOING
it.
Yes, a natural smile is great, but when you are
smiling as if the GREATEST THING ON EARTH
has happened to you, when all that has happened
is a stranger has agreed to chat with you, then
it's actually too much.
Yes, a woman liking you is a great thing, but
it's even more important for YOU to feel pretty
awesome already, and if you felt that way, a
woman who was a stranger would not be able
to pump your smile up THAT much.
See, it's not that women are attracted to jerks, it's
that jerks happen to be doing one thing right-
even if they are only acting, and that is that they
are not behaving as if a woman is the source
of their own self-esteem.
Nothing jerky about having your own self-esteem.
That's just good stuff for all guys to have.
So if you are smiling like the smile is plastered on
your face like the Joker, then stop it.
Of course, I know all this stuff from personal
experience, so it's not like I'm on some high
horse here, I just want to make sure you benefit
from what I learned the hard way.
5. TAKE THE LEAD
Man, if more men only realized how much women
APPRECIATE the fact that YOU are a man and
that YOU have a plan on where to go for the date,
on what to do with your life, and if you had a
strong perspective on how to make your life
meaningful, and on how to handle issues and
stress and challenges, rather than just hope
for things to go right, - or even worse, to hope
that SHE will have the answers to all this
stuff.
In life, whoever has the stronger frame will
win, and that's not a bad or good thing, it's
just the truth. It simply means whoever has
the greater discipline to persevere and to live
with passion and not give in to laziness or
negativity, will WIN.
This is why some bizarre CULT leaders can
get women even though the cult leader is
preaching absolute lies and absolute hogwash
and total crap. Yet, he has managed to get
HIMSELF to believe in his own lies, and
he has generated enough passion in himself
from within and he is his own best friend
and never cuts himself down.
So if TOTAL INSANE CRAZY PEOPLE
can attract women, then I can assure you
that ANY MAN can do this, without telling
a single lie, if he is SERIOUS about learning
how attraction really works.
So, now that you know this is the truth,
can you imagine how badly a guy will
do on a date if he seems like he is LOST
in life, and lost regarding what to do with
her, what to say, etc?
Women do not want a man that is lost in
any way, whether it is lost on how to
deal with her, or lost on how to deal with
his own life.
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to have the kind of
woman you dream about in your
arms, and even more importantly,
know that you have triumphed and
defeated all the internal blocks that
have been holding you back with
women and with so much else in life,
then I suggest you speak to me about my
Real World Bootcamp.
In Bootcamp, I will take you on the
most important journey of your life
as you defeat the INTERNAL obstacles
that have been holding you back and
you ALSO learn the most powerful
"EXTERNAL" strategies for approaching
women successfully and for getting dates
that actually lead to getting physical and
getting a fantastic relationship.
You will learn "hands on" as I coach you
in real venues where you will actually be
putting what you learn into practice on
women. You will be guided by me as
I keep you on course the entire time.
To find out more, go to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then definitely do that
immediately, by clicking here.
Till next time,
Michael
a guy who is a good guy RUINING it for himself
with a woman. It's torture because I remember
how it felt, and I also know how absolutely
DOES NOT have to be this way!!!
There is a BETTER way, a way that actually
ATTRACTS a woman, and all without ever
having to lie or play games.
So let's get straight down to some hard-core
ACTION STEPS that you can use right now:
1. BE A MILLION-DOLLAR ATTORNEY
FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF AGAINST
YOURSELF
When you meet a woman who does not know
you, all she has to go on is the information
and the vibes that YOU are giving her.
And yet, when guys meet women, men often
CUT THEMSELVES DOWN incessantly.
They cut themselves down in a number of
ways- from the way they describe their
life, their lifestyle, their choices in life,
their hobbies, and most importantly,
their own opinions of themselves.
Sometimes also, men cut themselves
down by making self-deprecating
jokes in the hopes that by
making fun of their selves
first, the woman won't do it
later.
This does not mean to act arrogant,
as arrogance grows out of insecurity,
but so too does constant self-deprecation
grow out of insecurity.
It's one thing to make jokes
when you are clearly SECURE,
it's something else when these
jokes are coming out of insecurity.
Here's the difference- when the
Karate champ of the world says
he's scared of the dark, that's
ok. When the smartest man on
the planet says he's bad at
math, that's ok too.
When a guy feels he really IS
those things, however, and
the woman has a strong reason
to believe it, then it's not
cool at all.
Listen, you only live once, so
you might as well give yourself
the BEST chance each time you
meet a woman.
And this should be coming from
withIN, the way you feel about
your SELF.
Stop living as if you are going
to live forever.
You have every RIGHT to be your own best
friend and be as supportive and positive
about yourself as possible.
Be your own best friend, and I mean
that in the deepest sense of the word-
you should support yourself emotionally
as much as possible, give yourself credit,
and you will ultimately end up giving
more to others as well as a result.
In our culture, it's perfectly fine for
women's products to say messages like
"because I'm worth it", and yet for men,
so many good guys end up saying through
their body language and through their
tonality and through the way they dress
and groom, so many men end up saying the
message "I am NOT worth a woman's time."
All this comes from your own self-perception
about your social status- in fact this is proven
by psychologists. This past weekend at the
Warrior Within Seminar, one of the cool
guys at the event brought the entire
dissertation on this fact that backs it
all up with evidence.
So, if you don't BELIEVE that you HAVE
the social status, you will simply NOT
wear COOL clothing. You will simply
NOT behave in the way of a man who
feels he IS worth it. You will think
that this stuff is simply NOT for
you. You will think that you will
be "found out" to be a "fake", as if
you have no right to be a man who
gets the woman he wants and other
things in life as well.
This stuff is crazy powerful, and I promise
you it all starts with belief.
As sexy and beautiful that so many women
are, the GREATER rewards of developing
yourself in this area called "attracting the
women of your choice" is that you will
learn the TRUTH of who YOU can be
and who you really are- you are so much
different and so much more than you
think "you" are. In fact, right now,
you have no idea of who you really
are, I can make a billion dollar bet on
that.
So the next time a woman asks you
ANYTHING about yourself, I want
you to answer that question as if you
were the most fantastic attorney on
earth for yourself, an attorney who
was getting paid millions of dollars
to ensure that his client was going
to get the very BEST outcome.
The key is to do this without telling a lie.
You do not have to lie, you simply have
to give the damn BEST portrayal of
yourself as possible, ALL the time.
No more "well, I kinda suck at this and
that, and I'm so-so at that, and I'm not
really that great at anything" and no
more "well, my plan for life is kinda
this and that, and maybe so er well"
FORGET THAT STUFF, FOREVER.
This brings me to point number two:
2. START DRESSING THE WAY YOU
WOULD IF YOU KNEW YOU WERE
A SUPERSTAR
So you think you're just Joe Average?
Then you will always BE Joe Average.
In fact, one of the invisible forces that keeps
men imprisoned in the social status of
"not cool to a woman" is the BELIEF
that you don't belong higher up.
And the people who are already there
will NOT have the time or the energy
to stop their lives and try to FIND you
and help you get up there. They don't
even know you exist. And let's face it,
they also know that if someone doesn't
want to change, they never will anyway,
so they don't see why they should be
trying to change people when it's a free
world.
So you have to push your envelope to
reach out of your "comfort zone" - you
have gotten comfortable with seeing
yourself as lower than others only because
you have done it for so long- but FROM
THIS MOMENT ON, THIS ENDS-
NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm serious about this, go out today and
FORCE yourself to put on cooler clothing
than you think "fits" right for you. I'm not
saying that if you are 75 that you should
go and get a skateboard and dye your
hair purple, what I am saying is that you
know very well that you can be dressing
and grooming far cooler than you are
right now, and the only reason you are
not doing it is because you think that
you are not "supposed" to- and the
only reason you think THAT is because
you've had a lifetime of PRACTICE
thinking the wrong thoughts.
So let's start CHANGING those thoughts
by also changing your ACTIONS.
3. BEWARE OF YOUR RISING VOICE PITCH
Notice how when you are talking to a woman
you are attracted to, your voice will often
rise up- this happens because you feel too
much energy and that too much is at stake.
It's as if a billion volts of electricity is surging
through your system.
So for now, you have to CONSCIOUSLY
bring your vocal pitch back to normal.
This will not only get you better results, but
it will change your state of mind as well and
get you into the proper perspective that is
far more empowering as well.
4. BEWARE OF THE FEAR-INDUCED SMILE
Very often, when a woman is talking to you,
you will be smiling in a way that is OVERDOING
it.
Yes, a natural smile is great, but when you are
smiling as if the GREATEST THING ON EARTH
has happened to you, when all that has happened
is a stranger has agreed to chat with you, then
it's actually too much.
Yes, a woman liking you is a great thing, but
it's even more important for YOU to feel pretty
awesome already, and if you felt that way, a
woman who was a stranger would not be able
to pump your smile up THAT much.
See, it's not that women are attracted to jerks, it's
that jerks happen to be doing one thing right-
even if they are only acting, and that is that they
are not behaving as if a woman is the source
of their own self-esteem.
Nothing jerky about having your own self-esteem.
That's just good stuff for all guys to have.
So if you are smiling like the smile is plastered on
your face like the Joker, then stop it.
Of course, I know all this stuff from personal
experience, so it's not like I'm on some high
horse here, I just want to make sure you benefit
from what I learned the hard way.
5. TAKE THE LEAD
Man, if more men only realized how much women
APPRECIATE the fact that YOU are a man and
that YOU have a plan on where to go for the date,
on what to do with your life, and if you had a
strong perspective on how to make your life
meaningful, and on how to handle issues and
stress and challenges, rather than just hope
for things to go right, - or even worse, to hope
that SHE will have the answers to all this
stuff.
In life, whoever has the stronger frame will
win, and that's not a bad or good thing, it's
just the truth. It simply means whoever has
the greater discipline to persevere and to live
with passion and not give in to laziness or
negativity, will WIN.
This is why some bizarre CULT leaders can
get women even though the cult leader is
preaching absolute lies and absolute hogwash
and total crap. Yet, he has managed to get
HIMSELF to believe in his own lies, and
he has generated enough passion in himself
from within and he is his own best friend
and never cuts himself down.
So if TOTAL INSANE CRAZY PEOPLE
can attract women, then I can assure you
that ANY MAN can do this, without telling
a single lie, if he is SERIOUS about learning
how attraction really works.
So, now that you know this is the truth,
can you imagine how badly a guy will
do on a date if he seems like he is LOST
in life, and lost regarding what to do with
her, what to say, etc?
Women do not want a man that is lost in
any way, whether it is lost on how to
deal with her, or lost on how to deal with
his own life.
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to have the kind of
woman you dream about in your
arms, and even more importantly,
know that you have triumphed and
defeated all the internal blocks that
have been holding you back with
women and with so much else in life,
then I suggest you speak to me about my
Real World Bootcamp.
In Bootcamp, I will take you on the
most important journey of your life
as you defeat the INTERNAL obstacles
that have been holding you back and
you ALSO learn the most powerful
"EXTERNAL" strategies for approaching
women successfully and for getting dates
that actually lead to getting physical and
getting a fantastic relationship.
You will learn "hands on" as I coach you
in real venues where you will actually be
putting what you learn into practice on
women. You will be guided by me as
I keep you on course the entire time.
To find out more, go to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then definitely do that
immediately, by clicking here.
Till next time,
Michael
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Love And Trust Vs. Dog Eat Dog
There are a lot of people out there
who think the way to get a great
woman is to be "Mr. Cool" and that
you should try to act like a "player",
etc, and that you should play all kinds
of manipulative games to get a
woman to respect them, etc.
The irony is that this whole
perspective of manipulation is
actually what creates problems
in the first place.
And the even greater irony is
that they try to justify all this
in the name of 'evolution' that
somehow evolution backs up all
this selfish behavior.
Well, a cool guy on the Get A Great Girl
forum just put forth a fantastic comment.
It came up in a discussion of Slumdog
Millionaire the movie.
Here is his comment, and you
might want to check the forum
for all the other awesome
content that's there - it's
like a cool brotherhood
we've got going on, all
the men there have one
thing in common- great
values and integrity, and
the desire to improve
from deep within.
Here are his words:
"Actually, it was the poverty
of it all that kind of made me
wonder something.....
Materialism and social influence
really only started after civilization
started (eg, Mesopotamia onwards)
b/c you needed to be able to pass
on information for social trends
and influence to exist and be
passed on.
We tend to think that the "higher"
emotions such as love, and trust
and romance were likely more
developed in the context of
civilization and weren't so
paramount in the wild.
Mesopotamia started about 6000
years ago, but our hominid
lineage existed for about 2.5
million years. so over 99.9%
of human evolution took place
before any civilization started.
since the most accurate simulation
of life in the wild on modern earth
are places of poverty (where people
are forced to live as much like
animals more than anywhere else
just to survive), it's nice to
think that in such a basic state
of human living (by modern
western standards) ideals such
as love and trust can still
be predominant.
that's what this movie made me
ask...
so, my point........ since 99%
of the history of our species was
spent in the wild, like animals,
you wonder how much of our
interpersonal interactions even
back then were ruled by emotions
such as LOVE and TRUST, and not
simply by the DOG EAT DOG
mentality that the pickup artists
promote as the cornerstone of
evolution (because all they do is
preach evolution as the rationale
for their "principles").
that would mean that for our
species, even as basic animals
clinging to life, love and trust
may actually have been just as
important and as powerful as EAT,
SLEEP, BE SELFISH, and SCREW 20
WOMEN AT ONCE LIKE a RABBIT."
***MY COMMENTS***
Awesomely beautiful.
If all the people who were using
evolution as their basis for
justifying manipulative
or superficial or lowly
behavior, if they suddenly
saw the TRUTH about our
evolutionary heritage,
they would suddenly have
to be a lot more virtous
to be in tune with 'nature'!
And it's true.
The reality is that our human
nature can actually be FANTASTIC
and in fact in it's natural state
it's pretty damn good.
It's just the bad programming we
get from so many places that distorts
our thinking and our emotions.
That's why it's only in modern
times that we've become so
good at things like genocide
and feeling like life is terrible
because the pizza wasn't delivered
on time while at the same time we
totally dismiss the fact that
other people are starving
or going hungry or homeless
even in our own cities, never
mind only in lands far away.
Finding a great woman has a lot
to do with finding a woman who
is not a slave to the modern mess,
and with helping her to see this
fact as well by WE AS WELL as men
not being slaves to the modern
mess.
To learn more, visit the forum at:
http://forum.getagreatgirl.com
And to learn all the details on how
to get a great woman, go to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
Till next time,
Michael
who think the way to get a great
woman is to be "Mr. Cool" and that
you should try to act like a "player",
etc, and that you should play all kinds
of manipulative games to get a
woman to respect them, etc.
The irony is that this whole
perspective of manipulation is
actually what creates problems
in the first place.
And the even greater irony is
that they try to justify all this
in the name of 'evolution' that
somehow evolution backs up all
this selfish behavior.
Well, a cool guy on the Get A Great Girl
forum just put forth a fantastic comment.
It came up in a discussion of Slumdog
Millionaire the movie.
Here is his comment, and you
might want to check the forum
for all the other awesome
content that's there - it's
like a cool brotherhood
we've got going on, all
the men there have one
thing in common- great
values and integrity, and
the desire to improve
from deep within.
Here are his words:
"Actually, it was the poverty
of it all that kind of made me
wonder something.....
Materialism and social influence
really only started after civilization
started (eg, Mesopotamia onwards)
b/c you needed to be able to pass
on information for social trends
and influence to exist and be
passed on.
We tend to think that the "higher"
emotions such as love, and trust
and romance were likely more
developed in the context of
civilization and weren't so
paramount in the wild.
Mesopotamia started about 6000
years ago, but our hominid
lineage existed for about 2.5
million years. so over 99.9%
of human evolution took place
before any civilization started.
since the most accurate simulation
of life in the wild on modern earth
are places of poverty (where people
are forced to live as much like
animals more than anywhere else
just to survive), it's nice to
think that in such a basic state
of human living (by modern
western standards) ideals such
as love and trust can still
be predominant.
that's what this movie made me
ask...
so, my point........ since 99%
of the history of our species was
spent in the wild, like animals,
you wonder how much of our
interpersonal interactions even
back then were ruled by emotions
such as LOVE and TRUST, and not
simply by the DOG EAT DOG
mentality that the pickup artists
promote as the cornerstone of
evolution (because all they do is
preach evolution as the rationale
for their "principles").
that would mean that for our
species, even as basic animals
clinging to life, love and trust
may actually have been just as
important and as powerful as EAT,
SLEEP, BE SELFISH, and SCREW 20
WOMEN AT ONCE LIKE a RABBIT."
***MY COMMENTS***
Awesomely beautiful.
If all the people who were using
evolution as their basis for
justifying manipulative
or superficial or lowly
behavior, if they suddenly
saw the TRUTH about our
evolutionary heritage,
they would suddenly have
to be a lot more virtous
to be in tune with 'nature'!
And it's true.
The reality is that our human
nature can actually be FANTASTIC
and in fact in it's natural state
it's pretty damn good.
It's just the bad programming we
get from so many places that distorts
our thinking and our emotions.
That's why it's only in modern
times that we've become so
good at things like genocide
and feeling like life is terrible
because the pizza wasn't delivered
on time while at the same time we
totally dismiss the fact that
other people are starving
or going hungry or homeless
even in our own cities, never
mind only in lands far away.
Finding a great woman has a lot
to do with finding a woman who
is not a slave to the modern mess,
and with helping her to see this
fact as well by WE AS WELL as men
not being slaves to the modern
mess.
To learn more, visit the forum at:
http://forum.getagreatgirl.com
And to learn all the details on how
to get a great woman, go to:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
Till next time,
Michael
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