Secrets of Sparking Attraction In Women

A lot of people wonder if there are
secrets to sparking attraction in women.

The answer is YES, there are actually
MANY secrets. The reason they are secrets
is because most men will never learn the
SUBTLETIES about attracting a woman.

The subtleties, the DETAILS, do in fact matter.
But most men can't be bothered with them,
so they remain a secret.

Men hear things like "don't be needy".

True enough, and this kind of thing is PART of the BIG PICTURE.

But no one statement is enough to explain
all about attraction that a man needs to know.

It's kind of like telling a guy who
wants to learn how to lift weights,
"You have to lift heavy".

But this is just a broad stroke,
it doesn't include the important
DETAILS, the subtleties of success.

HOW heavy?
How many times?
How often?
Which way?
How slow or fast?

While it's true that lifting something
heavy as opposed to lifting a feather
is important, it's really not enough info.

When it comes to attracting a woman,
especially women who are the cream
of the crop, success is the result
of a man who understands the FULL
PICTURE, especially the SUBTLETIES
involved with the actions he must take.

Most guys will NOT ever make it to this
newsletter, instead they will be seduced
by the easy oversimplifications promised
by many wannabe "experts" out there.

Obviously though, those oversimplifications
don’t work, otherwise EVERY GUY would be
getting results!

So you’re in for a treat, as I share with you now
some of the most ESSENTIAL QUALITIES of these
actions, including the important SUBTLETIES.

NUMBER 1: THE TRUTH ABOUT LISTENING

The idea of listening to a woman is NOT
some kind of passive listening, but  rather
PAYING ATTENTION to her so that
you can learn more about WHAT ACTUALLY
EXCITES HER and what actually helps
her feel comfort, trust, etc.

You learn these things not by ASKING her
as a total stranger, because doing that would
just freak her out and make a guy look weird.

Instead, you must hone your skills of listening
without bias (you may have noticed I really
emphasize listening skills) so that you can
LEARN these things by OBSERVING AND
LISTENING and making intelligent inferences,
a bit like Sherlock Holmes.

This is why it’s CRUCIAL to PAY ATTENTION
to what is going on when she’s talking,
including what is happening with her
body language as well as the actual
words she is saying to you.

This way, you can discover not only what
values are REALLY important to her and
which ones she is just paying LIP SERVICE to,
but also so that you can learn what things
she requires to experience different states
of mind, from comfort and arousal to love
and trust.

This is ALSO why if you know how to WORK
with this super powerful instrument called
“her mind”, she will give you complete
instructions on how to attract her.

NUMBER 2:
THE PROFESSIONAL IS EFFICIENT -
AND HOW THIS TRIGGERS MYSTERY,
INTRIGUE AND HER DEEPER DESIRE
TO BE WITH YOU.

The more you hone your listening skills,
the LESS you will need to talk, because
every single WORD you say will be
with a specific INTENT and not
just GUESSWORK.

So every word you say is actually getting
her MORE and MORE interested in you.

And yet, because you are saying very LITTLE,
you come across as a guy who is clearly NOT
trying hard.

This in itself is attractive, but what makes
it DOUBLY attractive is that she now wants
to UNDERSTAND YOU MORE, because you haven’t
provided her all that much info, so there
is SO MUCH she wants to ASK YOU ABOUT,
as opposed to the guy who talks so much
that she knows EVERYTHING about him and
can also infer even MORE things about him,
leaving nothing mysterious or intriguing
LEFT about himself for her to dream about.

That’s ROBBING a woman of the JOY of falling
in deep love and passion as she stays up at night
dreaming about who you may be, and as she
works hard enjoying the process of getting to
KNOW YOU!

Do you want to know part of the reason that
being mysterious is so powerful?

It’s because what a woman does NOT know,
she will IMAGINE. And if the little she DOES
know about you so far is attractive, she will
create an INSANELY CHARISMATIC IDENTITY
of you in her mind that will stay with her FOREVER
unless you work HARD to really SCREW IT UP.

She WANTS this fantasy, and you can so easily
GIVE IT TO HER.

In other words, you DO need to have a strong
inner and outer game, but the idea is that a
perfect approach, a perfect attraction, is actually
accomplished with very few, yet very perfect,
“moves”, which then allow HER to fill in
all the rest as she FANTASIZES.

The EXPERT does very little because he
knows so MUCH, he chooses ONLY what’s
PERFECT for the situation.

No different than how a great chess player requires
less moves than an amateur.

You need LESS because it’s being done RIGHT.

When you do the wrong things, you need a lot
of it, and then it’s still often useless.

It’s not uncommon, certainly in a club, when
running high level expertise, to be talking to a
girl and her friends for only two minutes, and
then already be going off alone with the girl
you want. The girl is attracted fast, so what
happens is she now WANTS a normal conversation
to get to know you, so she starts to do all the work
at that point.

The problem with clubs though is that it is usually
hard to find the kind of woman that would make
for a great girlfriend there.

The other problem with clubs is that so many women
are often drunk or tipsy there, that the whole idea
of interacting with them becomes ridiculous, because
they are not in their right minds, which is yet another
reason why I don't suggest focusing on clubs.

And when approaching women in places like
coffee shops, you certainly can ignite attraction
instantly, but you must slow the intimacy down
to an extent, because the environment is not intended
nor designed to speed up the "man meets woman"
process the same way a club is designed for that.

Women care a lot more about these kinds of
social conventions than most men do.  Most
men just care about getting the woman and
that's it. 

And so, if you try to speed things up in a non-club
environment, you are actually being unaware of the
social context of the situation and showing a lack
of social intelligence, which is not cool at all to
most women.

Nonetheless, wherever you meet a woman, when
you are doing it RIGHT, a LOT gets done quickly,
and in fact the LONGER an approach takes you
to strike attraction, usually the worse it is.

I REPEAT:
In general, less is always more, but this does
not mean you should KNOW less, it means
you should know it ALL so that you can
take the BEST course of action and ONLY
that action.

By doing only what is EXACTLY needed, and
leaving the rest a mystery, you are giving
a woman a chance to create her own fantasy
about you that ultimately will become her
reality, her picture of you, and it
will stay that way no matter what unless
you screw it all up by going against
everything I’ve ever taught you.

It's actually HARD for a guy to screw
things up once she has created this
fantasy of the guy for herself.

This is because FIRST IMPRESSIONS
are EXTREMELY POWERFUL, especially
an impression that SHE CREATED about you!

She will WORK HARD ON HER OWN to
REFRAME anything "negative" about
you as a POSITIVE, since her feelings
about you will be so strong from her
INITIAL IMPRESSION that she created
in that fantasy.

All done with zero lies, zero games,
zero manipulation. All you are doing
here is giving yourself the BEST
POSSIBLE REPRESENTATION OF YOURSELF,
AND SHE IS THE ONE DOING IT FOR YOU.

This doesn’t mean NOT TO TALK, it just means
to only apply what is BEST, and once you see you
have accomplished your goal at each stage, i.e.
opening her up as you approach, attracting her,
building up the connection, you SHUT UP once
it’s done and then wisely move at the right moment
to the next stage.

Any more talk and now you are usually coming
across as trying too hard and also you are
saying things that are chipping away at the
image she has painted of you, you are ruining
her own joy of imagining the rest of your reality.

Let me give you a great example of how just
speaking a LITTLE about something ended up
creating something an entire GENERATION
dreamed about. You know how in Star Wars,
the original movie, ("Episode IV") we learn
about something called the "Clone Wars",
but we barely get ANY info about it?

All we know is that Luke's heritage is
wrapped up in it somehow very strongly,
and that the whole event was a massive
epic struggle that somehow affected
everything, including even what is going
on in the current moment.

The how, the why, is NOT given to us.
In fact, we NEVER SEE ANY OF IT!

But it's the PERFECT way to make us want
to know MORE, so much so that even DECADES
LATER, people came out in DROVES to find
OUT the answer in the sequels.

We barely know anything about the actual
"Clone Wars" from all this, but yet, the
effect is SOOOO powerful.

Our IMAGINATIONS conjure up some pretty
powerful dramatic visuals in our minds,
and we create story lines in our own
heads, since everything ELSE in the story
is so awesome.

We figure it MUST have been something
INCREDIBLY DRAMATIC.

And so the net effect is psychologically far greater
than if they had gone on to actually show us billions
of dollars worth of scenery and special effects.

In fact, when George Lucas many years later decided
to make the movies that actually SHOW us the
“Clone Wars”, it was a huge disappointment, even
though he was applying the most advanced special
effects ever created at that point in time. (There are
actually a LOT of things there that were messed
up, but the fact is, even if he had tried to visually
show us the Clone Wars in as emotionally compelling
a way as possible, NOTHING could match what we
felt in our IMAGINATIONS from just hearing a BIT
about it and NEVER actually SEEING it.)

So often, when it comes to the power of emotions,
using less is more.

A woman can form a powerful impression of
you when you are a stranger, since she
has no HISTORY of you, so anything
you do gets AMPLIFIED subconsciously
in her mind to fill the void and make
up for that lack of information.

Do the BEST things and none of the
WRONG actions, and the fact you are
a stranger now works in your FAVOR.
(More on this in Number 6.)

It's best to allow her to "simmer and cook"
those thoughts and feelings she has about you,
and not interfere with them.

Think of these tools of attraction as possessing
the power of INFINITE COSMIC ENERGY.

You need to use these tools intelligently and ACCURATELY.

THIS is how you operate in the big leagues.

NUMBER 3:
SMILE LESS WHEN MAKING THAT FIRST IMPRESSION

It’s amazing when studies tend to prove
what years of experience approaching women
EVERYWHERE, including going right up to
women walking along the sidewalk, or
in cafes, clubs, lounges, buses, trains,
bookstores, parks, and just about
everywhere else, has already shown me:

“Women find smiling men less attractive
than those with brooding expressions.”

This comes not from some caveman or
Neanderthal report, but is fresh from
Vancouver’s University of British Columbia.

Guess what else it confirmed?
That MEN find women who DO smile to
be MORE attractive.

Which makes sense, as men want FEMININE
women, and women want MASCULINE MEN.

Guess what else?
This study was not even done by MEN!
It was done by female researchers.

So you know this is not exactly the kind
of thing that fits "political correctness",
and is certainly nothing that women would
publish for self-serving purposes, as it actually
goes AGAINST the stereotypical "politically-
correct" agenda.

Guess what else?

A large percentage of the men and women
in these studies were undergraduates who
are clearly in the dating scene and who
experience raging young hormones –
these were NOT a bunch of people in
their 90s saying, “Ohh chemistry does
not matter at all, it’s all about being nice
and compatible and being FRIENDS and just
watching the stars at night”.

These results reflect the PRIMAL preferences
of men and women, which are far more powerful
than just the logical preferences.

We could argue forever about WHY men and
women prefer the opposite gender this way, but
the fact is, these ARE the preferences.

The subtleties, though, are crucial as well.
This does not mean not to laugh, or to never smile.

What it means is that, given ONE expression
amongst all, smiling is NOT the one you
should be focused on, because 99% of the
time, this smile tends to come from a lack
of CONFIDENCE.

Think about classic icons in film who women
LOVE: Whether it was Han Solo, or James Bond,
these guys aren’t known for their SMILES.

The reality is that these characters
occasionally DO smile.

The DIFFERENCE is that when they smile,
it’s a result of coming from their OWN
terms, because they are in the superior
position, they are NOT smiling in order
to seek approval or to get on someone’s
good side---ESPECIALLY NOT TO WIN APPROVAL
FROM THE VERY PERSON THAT HAS THE VALUE
THEY SEEK, WHETHER IT IS A WOMAN WHO
IS GORGEOUS OR ANY PERSON WHO HAS
SOMETHING OF VALUE TO THEM.



Most guys instantly see their confidence
MELT in front of a woman who is a knockout
and THIS is the cause of the smile.

To be perfectly honest, if you could pull off a smile as
a result of feeling EMPOWERED and comfortable,
it would be fine, especially when approaching
women as opposed to just showing a picture, because
of all the messages you convey through your tonality and
body language when you are LIVE IN PERSON in front
of her.

There really IS an important difference between an
approval seeking smile, and a smile of being in
a great state of empowerment and inner peace.

But that’s not 99% of the smiling done by
guys around women- most of it comes from
feeling zero confidence and from guys putting
women in the superior position of value in their
own minds.

This is all the tip of the iceberg about
how to use facial expression, voice tonality,
and how to best apply it to also affect your
EMOTIONAL STATE, that I delve into full detail
for you in my Warrior Within DVD program.

The great news for you, is that although
this might SEEM to confirm that women
fall for "bad boy" types, as you can see
you don’t have to be a BAD BOY to do this,
you just have to be ASSERTIVE.



There is a shortage of GOOD GUYS who understand
how to do things RIGHT, so if you learn these
skills, you will RULE!

Women would rather meet a guy who is
BOTH a good guy AND who understands
attraction, but usually they can't
find such a man.

This leads me to:

NUMBER 4:
LEADERSHIP/ASSERTIVENESS/CLASSY

You must LEAD the conversation towards the
"MALE-FEMALE"  natural vibe without mentioning
it directly.

What I mean here is the flirtatious vibe, i.e. playfully
teasing her, as well as building a connection, getting
the coffee with her, etc.

Yes, you DO have to do this smoothly, but
you can’t AVOID it either.

The MAIN thing to realize about “smooth” in this
respect is not to make her feel cheap. So you have
to be TACTFUL of how you lead this interaction.

She KNOWS what’s going on, but she needs to
ALSO know you are classy.

Otherwise you are making her feel as if you think
she is ‘easy’, which is a DEATHLY BLOW to her
self-esteem, and thus one of the worst things you can
do to a woman.

Along with coming across as INFERIOR, making
a woman feel cheap for being with you is the
biggest mistake you can make. Of course,
coming across as inferior makes her feel low
self esteem as well, for only an inferior woman
would be with an inferior man, right?

So how do you avoid tripping her “defenses”?
Well, you make sure to NOT bring up the physical
stuff DIRECTLY at all in the early stages.

It’s not cute, and it’s not funny.
Sure, sometimes a guy gets away with it, but that’s
IN SPITE of doing it, NOT BECAUSE of it.

And, all along the way, as you LEAD the interaction,
you are making her feel the awesome presence of
being with a confident, masculine guy who is unlike
any other, who is an ORIGINAL.

You show that you KNOW where to take the
interaction, you don’t ask HER.

You bridge the gap from the conversation to the
‘instant date’ by saying something like “this
is an intriguing conversation, let’s continue this over
a tea at the Starbucks across the street, etc”. Your
tonality, your body language, the expression on your
face makes it clear that you MEAN IT, but at the same
time that this is not a big deal for you, that you in fact
EXPECT her to say yes.

NUMBER 5:
VOLUME AND SPEAKING FROM INSPIRATION

Listen, if you have something to say to her, you
may as well say it LOUD AND CLEAR.

Doesn’t matter if it’s going up to a group of women
in the mall who are walking together, or whether
it’s in a club or book store or coffee shop.

I see guys kind of mumbling or talking low so that
they won’t be taken for arrogant. This is where nice
guys get SHAFTED. Because, you see, this mumbling
and quiet talk is hitting the emotional part of her
brain that says “LOSER who knows he is WASTING
my time and who KNOWS he is not worth my time.”

People who DO BELIEVE that what they say is WORTHY,
make sure to make themselves HEARD.
Because it’s important.
So they DON’T MUMBLE.

An EXCELLENT film that shows this is “The King’s Speech”,
particularly the scene where the King is intentionally made so
upset by his coach, till the point he becomes ANGRY that he
finally speaks with the RIGHT power, and utters the words
“BECAUSE I HAVE A VOICE!”



Magnificent film.

Can you imagine a President or Prime Minister mumbling
his or her address to a nation?

Getting into the subtleties, this does not mean
that the whole conversation should sound like
an announcement.

Rather, it should be driven by INSPIRATION or PASSION-
if you feel nothing inside of you, I can assure you that
she will feel nothing from your delivery of what you
say as well. On the other hand, if you FEEL the
inspiration or passion inside, you will be compelling to
her as well.

NUMBER 6:
DEALING WITH HER CONCERN ABOUT THE SITUATION

In those first few seconds of the chat, especially
if you are approaching her as a “cold approach”
a complete stranger, and especially if this is
NOT a dance club or lounge and is not a place
designed for approaching women, you don’t
want to give ANY signs of being “weird”.

There is very little room for error here, because
in these situations, women who are very attractive
have had to develop quick ways to get rid of the
wrong guys—even if this means in the process
they end up accidentally also shutting down
some of the RIGHT guys.

This is not some kind of evil conspiracy against
men, it’s simply the ONLY way for her to deal
with supply and demand- too many of the WRONG
guys interested in her.

Most guys are concerned with not coming across
as a psycho or dangerous person, but the reality
is that this is more of a fiction created in guys
minds than what women are actually worried
about. Usually, most guys could BENEFIT
from being far more forward, assertive, and
decisive in their approaches with women.

The REAL ‘danger’ to a guy’s approach is if he
comes across as NEEDY or SOCIALLY
CLUELESS.

You have many options for starting the conversation
and you don‘t have to rely on some funny teasing
comment that might take you forever to come up
with. Instead, you can often start your interaction
in a very “innocent” way that allows the woman to see
you aren’t insane, but you must then IMMEDIATELY
start REVVING THE ENGINES OF HER EMOTIONS,
you must get her senses and imagination going BIG TIME.

Whether it’s being playful, intriguing, inspiring, or a
combination of these things above, you have to get
to the interesting stuff FAST.

Remember, she has no idea who you are, so every
SECOND you spend with her is ALL the information
she has to UNDERSTAND YOU, which means that
every SECOND is as if it’s a WEEK of real life
time being spent with you.

So if you have gone 90 seconds and it’s been
boring all along, that to her feels like if she
were to spend two YEARS WITH YOU,
it would probably all be exactly like those
90 seconds.

Remember, you’ve given her nothing ELSE
to base her decision or feelings on.

This is why, even if you feel the situation requires you
to start the conversation in a very “innocent” way,
at least make sure your body language and the
non-verbals from tonality to expression are all
delivering the right message of power, intrigue,
and fun, so that she can tell you are about
more than your actual words.

For example, is your voice showing playfulness,
intrigue, mystery, or is just robotic/mumbling/monotone.

You don’t need to spend an hour talking to her about
directions or asking for directions, even if that is what
you used to START the conversation.

NUMBER 7:
THE VIBE OF THE INTERACTION

You DON'T want the vibe to feel anti-septic and
boring and formal.

During the interaction, in a playful, non-invasive way,
whether it’s an instinctive touch as a reaction to
something powerful she said, or to emphasize
something you said, or whether it’s a playful
“high 5”, you can find the right moment to make
contact SPARINGLY.

Of course, don’t be a fool, if a woman
is resisting your advance, you take a step
back metaphorically and wait to see if
this is just a matter of her requiring more
connection with you, i.e. getting to know
you, etc.

Then, it is up to YOU to get you both some
privacy. DON’T expect her to get things
rolling in this direction, although sometimes
women DO give massive hints and so often
guys don't SEE that the women are trying to
give them massive signals.

And when in private, again, it will usually
be up to YOU to get things rolling again,
although, to be honest, if you've done
things extremely well, she will start to
to make "moves" on you.

When you are progressing the interaction,
find a way to do this TASTEFULLY. For
example, you should have a REASON for why you
should both be there, i.e. your incredible photo collection
that you were chatting about over coffee.

And if you would like IGNITE your internal
engines of attraction and UNLEASH your
TRANSFORMATION with women, then
I suggest you get my WARRIOR WITHIN
program immediately.

In this program, you’ll discover how to do
EVERYTHING RIGHT with women, from
first approaching her, to developing deep
rapport and connection, to KEEPING her
attracted, to OBLITERATING all the internal
blocks, anxieties, and doubts, and transforming
them into EMPOWERMENT. And the best
part of all of this, is that you will learn this
in a way that has nothing to do with playing
GAMES on women.

That might sound impossible, but I promise you
that in this program you will see EXACTLY
why and how this is true, and in fact why this
is the MOST POWERFUL way to go with
attracting a woman.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

You can even check out samples of the program
as well as testimonials on this page as well.

You will find that this program contains no
manipulative tactics at all.

Trust really IS the central premise of
human society and all relationships.

I promise you, you can take my word
for it, that when you approach a woman,
who is thinking of considering you for
REAL, the LAST thing on earth you want
to do is make her think you are playing
some kind of GAME on her.

This is a HUGE reason why I believe
Warrior Within is such an important
program, it has NOTHING to do with
games, and everything to do with
BEING the kind of man who understands
and who is the very ESSENCE of attraction.

Again, it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Right now, at this very moment, are fantastic
women that are within 5 MINUTES of where
you live, who are single, gorgeous, and WISHING
they could find the right man.

Now, you can BE that man. The most powerful
step you can take in ENSURING that is right HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Easy Ways To Get Women CRAVING You

Do you want to approach women in a super-easy way?
Then just follow my recipe, it’s called
‘DISARM and CHARM’.

Unless you're talking in a nightclub, where
the atmosphere is already very social, when
you're in normal places like the bus or coffee
shop, women have been conditioned to be a little
cautious for good reasons, after all there are
some men out there who are "less than virtuous",
just as there are some women out there who
are "less than virtuous".

So one of the BEST ideas that WORKS is for
you to draw upon POSITIVE VIBES that she
herself can IMMEDIATELY recognize, feel,
and relate to.

In the same way you wouldn't be able to relate to
a woman talking to you about the finer applications
of lipstick, you shouldn't expect most women to 
identify with demolition derby, Star Trek, or some
obscure Bruce Lee movie. Also, there is no point
in starting a conversation with a woman about
anything BORING, even if she can relate to it.

You can STILL totally be yourself and disarm her
and charm her, and you can do this by playfully
bringing up topics that are both INNOCENT and
FUNNY, and you can give these topics a
flirtatious TWIST.

One idea I love and that works with fantastic
consistency, is to bring up TV SHOWS from
childhood that chances are you both liked,
and then offer a playful sexual perspective
on the show, or even a playful perspective
on the show from the standpoint of male and
female gender roles.

I call it "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV!"

It's important to remember that it must still be
INNOCENT, and yet ALSO be ADULT.
This is a fine line that most people overlook.

I mean, who CAN'T like The Flintstones?
Who CAN'T like Cookie Monster, Oscar the Grouch,
and Ernie and Bert???????????????

Okay fine, maybe some people can't, but
I don't want anything to do with those
people, that's for sure!

If a woman does not "get this", it immediately
screens her OUT, as you don't want a woman
without a sense of humor, or a woman who is
bitter and no fun.

So here's just one EXAMPLE of how "Innocent Adult
Views On Childhood TV" works to disarm her and
charm her:

"Excuse me, I have a very serious question
I need the answer to. Could you help me out?"

(This SERIOUS tonality at the start is done
on purpose because it makes it all the more
FUNNY when she finds out in about three seconds
from the topic that actually this is NOT serious
at all!)

So she nods to you, or says, "Ok sure", etc.

You then go on with:

"See, I was wondering, if you were to choose
one of the two, would you marry Fred Flintstone
or Barney Rubble? This is very serious."

As she starts to crack a smile, you keep a
straight face and give her a sec to answer.

If she laughs, you continue to let her know
this is very important and serious and that
you need the answer.

If she then says that she would choose Fred, you
tell her "Oh man, this would never work out with
you and me, Fred is far too normal, goes to work
every day, very reliable good guy, far too much
pressure for me. I'm more of a Barney Rubble
type dude, I just go for a drive in the morning
but don't actually work anywhere, and I need
a woman like Betty who is more cool and
who can help me in my underground illegal
businesses!"

Chances are, she WILL be laughing by now, and
that is not only because this stuff is funny, but
because the MEMORIES of childhood and of
that show are triggering POSITIVE EMOTIONS
in her, and it's hard to view you as a THREAT
if you are being associated in her mind with
Barney or Fred or the Flintstones.

By the way, if she says she would choose Barney,
you could high-five her and tell her she is SUCH
a cool girl. (Totally over exaggerate, which only
HEIGHTENS the humor because even though she
knows you are kidding, it still feels GOOD for her,
since she feels, even if just playfully, that she
EARNED this respect because of her choice, she
didn't just get this high-five for nothing, but
rather because of her great taste in choosing a
man- BARNEY RUBBLE! People appreciate what they
EARN!)

And you could then go on to tell her why she
is so cool, because she is like Betty, who
was cool with Barney not having a real job
all day and that you plan to do the same
thing and just watch TV all day!

Then you can add the final kicker and say that
you two are TOTALLY GETTING MARRIED asap!

She will NOT think you are needy, she will KNOW
you are being playful.

So there, all at once, you have DISARMED her,
and you have CHARMED her.

This is just ONE example, there about
a BILLION other versions that you could
create, (and you could make them
even MORE powerful by incorporating
into your examples all the OTHER skills
I teach in my programs and materials.)

The first key to remember is to use something
from CHILDHOOD TV, something that is FAMOUS
so that she ALREADY is very familiar with it
so that you don't have to waste time explaining
all the details. You want her to GET IT immediately,
so it's key you use something that she will KNOW.

The second key to remember about this idea is to
give the whole discussion an ADULT twist.

The third key is to remember to NOT GO
OVERBOARD with the adult twist. In other
words, KEEP IT ALL INNOCENT. I see
so many guys going wayyyyyy too far into
the land of the VULGAR and that totally
RUINS the whole effect, the whole point
of the idea in the first place.

And remember to be CONGRUENT with your
own personality. If you never watched the
Flintstones, then don't use that example.
There are so many shows that you could
choose from, it's ridiculous. And the truth
is that it doesn't even have to be TV. It
could be some kind of popular SNACK
that was famous for kids back when you
were a child.

Maybe the snack came with some really LAME
gift, or some offer for a free gift if you
sent in about a "thousand" proofs of purchase,
(exaggerate for effect) that at the time
seemed REALLY cool, that you could discuss
and twist in playful way. For example, you
could tell her that you only like adventurous
girls, and that you are looking for a partner
in crime, to steal the toys from the cereal
boxes in the supermarket. And you can
tease her that she is too much of a wuss
to be up for it, etc. Or you can tease
her that you know she would do it for
some prize from the Strawberry Shortcake
cereal!

From there, now that you have her disarmed and
charmed, it's going to be MUCH easier to get
into rapport with her and to get into a real
conversation of getting to know each other,
now that you both have your "guard" down.

You've displayed guts, humor, charm, and you've
taken her into a receptive state of mind.

Get the idea?
It's gold, and I guarantee you IT WORKS.

As you might guess, I love using TV and MOVIES
because it’s on all over the world, and gives
you a chance to DRAW UPON the emotions and
the times associated with those experiences,
so she feels all THOSE cool emotions as well!

Let’s get into some DEEPER stuff too so
that you can take things to an even
higher level with that hottie!

Let me say, first, that I used to get
EMOTIONALLY DECIMATED by the effects of
many movies on my perception of women.

I would watch as the hero went through
emotional torture and finally got the girl
through PERSISTENCE and LONGING and
PATIENCE and LOYALTY and DEDICATION.

So I figured THAT was what women LIKED, since
after all, not only did I feel, at the time, that this
was "right"- i.e. that women were naturally more
innocent and more virtuous than men, and that
men had to "earn" women's interest, but it
ALSO seemed to me that women LOVED
these movies.

That's how I USED to think.
Now, don't get me wrong.
I was not ONLY into these kinds of movies.
I was all into RAMBO, ROCKY, and all that
stuff. But I ALSO would get affected by
romantic movies.

Then, after YEARS, of finally figuring out the
TRUTH about attraction, and what DOES
work, I HATED all those chick-flicks.

But there was still one question left:
Why the heck do women even LIKE these
movies, if in FACT, women are NOT
attracted to guys that act like that?????

And then one day it finally HIT me:
Even though guys and girls might see the
SAME movie, they are actually seeing two
TOTALLY DIFFERENT movies.

You see, the truth is that once you GET IT
TOTALLY, you actually SEE the full picture.

Let me give you a PERFECT EXAMPLE:
The movie "The Notebook".

Women looooooved this movie.
And in fact it was written by a guy.
And it's actually a pretty well made movie,
even for guys, IF you are ALREADY in
the KNOW. If you are NOT informed about
women and what works, you will NOT
get it AT ALL.

If you are a typical good guy, the story seems
to be about some old guy telling this old lady
about a story about a guy without much money
who falls for a cute girl from a richer
social class and who REALLY DIG each
other but then end up in a fight.

They split, she moves away and eventually
meets some other dude and gets engaged,
and the original guy is depressed for years
till they meet again and the passion reignites
and she realizes HE was the one all along.

We then find out that the old guy and old
lady ARE the characters, and that she has
memory loss and he tells her the story every
day till for a few minutes she remembers who
he is, then forgets him all over again.

It breaks him up to see her forget him,
but it's okay, since he loves her.

SO, if you are a good guy, you get all
the WRONG lessons:

KISS UP, and pine for a girl for your
whole life, and be willing to give up
EVERYTHING even for a FEW SECONDS of
having a woman REMEMBER you.

And get DEPRESSED and DON'T MOVE
ON properly with any other woman.

And you are taught that this is
ROMANTIC and that women LIKE
this stuff, and appreciate such
behavior, since after all the movie
was a MASSIVE HIT.

And the movie shows you that if you just
MOPE AROUND LONG ENOUGH,
the WOMAN will come back, she will
be crazy about you, etc.

DISASTROUS, I say.

BUT!

And there's a BIG but here:
HOW COME THIS FLICK IS A ONE OF THE
BIGGEST BLOCKBUSTERS of all time,
especially considering it’s not a
big ACTION flick?

How come women get all choked up and excited by this???

I'll TELL you why, because they saw a
TOTALLY DIFFERENT MOVIE.

Now, let me tell you the movie they saw, from
the perspective of ATTRACTION:

In practically the first couple of MINUTES of
this movie, the GUY of the movie shows
GUTS, COURAGE, CONVICTION, A
SENSE OF HUMOR, AND EVEN
SHOWS JUST THE RIGHT TOUCH
OF "VULNERABILITY".

Basically, while at the town carnival,
(this story is set during the Second World
War in a small town) he sees this beautiful
girl having the time of her life on the bumper
cars, she seems so totally free and full of
spark. As she gets off the cars and joins
her date for the evening as well as her
girlfriend and the guy she is with,
(so you get the feeling that this is not
something too serious, and more of
a social thing) the guy who is the main
character comes STRAIGHT UP TO HER,
and asks her if she'll dance with him.

He says it relaxed, a confident smile,
and NOT like a jerk at all. He is practically
in her face, yet his demeanor is so calm,
it doesn't seem crazy.

She tells him no.
He calmly says why not, NOT in an
argumentative way, but in a DISARMING
way. She tries to act like "a lady" that
she is not one to just be "taken" especially
while she is OUT with some dude and
her friends, so she tells him she doesn't
WANT to.

He is TOTALLY unaffected, and smiles
as she walks off.

As she goes off with her friends, she
remarks to her girlfriend she can't
BELIEVE the guts the guy had.

She also finds out that this guy is not
NORMALLY like that, so that he
must REALLY like her.

DECODING:
He had GUTS.
He had CLASS.
He was not treating her like a slut, because
he ACTUALLY liked her as opposed to
just her being another woman to use and
discard.
He was SPONTANEOUS and acted on
his OWN desire the way he felt was right.

Allow me to continue:

Minutes later, he sees her on the Ferris wheel
as it's about to start. He hurries over to it
and jumps and grabs her car as it begins to
rise, and he sits himself DOWN beside her
and the dude!

He is very straightforward, introducing
himself again, giving his name, handshake
etc. The girl and the guy think he is nuts.

He wants to know if she'll go out with him.

She says no.
He calmly gets out of car as it is
WAY UP HIGH now above the ground,
hanging on to the rails by his HANDS
only. He asks her again, and she
says no, but then he lets go of the
rails with one arm and is now only
hanging on by ONE HAND.

She yells to him that's she'll go out
with him. He tells her to say it again.

He calmly tells her something like,
"don't do me any favors if you don't
REALLY want to" and she yells back
she "REALLY wants to"!!

So he gives back a COCKY, PLAYFUL
RESPONSE and says "okay okay, I'll go
out with you" as if SHE begged for it.

Then, as he is hanging there, she tries to
MAKE FUN of him and undoes his
pants so he is hanging on by his arms
and his pants are down with only
his underwear on.

He takes it all IN STRIDE, it all SLIDES
OFF HIS BACK, and he tells her he's
going to get for her it, but you know
he is NOT pissed.

Can you say "PASSING THE TEST"?

Then, the next day, he sees her walking by
his work and tries to set the date, she tells
him she changed her mind. He doesn't
ARGUE with her, he DISARMS her
by being CHARMING and giving her
a GENUINE compliment that he likes
her.

But REMEMBER, he has already shown
VALUE through his behaviour and style.

So the COMPLIMENT is FLATTERING.
She then tries to test him again, to see
if he is REALLY serious or not. She tells
him he's a good player. He tells her that's
not it at all, which is the truth, it's not.

At one point, she tells him he's dumb, but
you can tell she LIKES him, from her
TONALITY. He doesn't ARGUE with
her, he even says he can be dumb, it's
something he does too as well as dance, etc.

You see, most guys would only focus on
what he is saying that is self-deprecating, but
they would IGNORE THE REAL STUFF
he did that GOT HER ATTRACTED.

They get a low level "double date" where he
goes to see a flick with her, and his buddy
is there as well accompanying her girlfriend.

He CALIBRATES right, because he can
tell she is enjoying the movie, and he LIKES
THE FACT she is the kind of person who
enjoys life. He likes her not just for her
body, but for her personality as well.

Then something happens after the flick:
He takes her for a walk and DISPLAYS
MORE MASSIVE AWESOME PERSONALITY
and CONNECTS WITH HER AS WELL.

He READS her correctly, even though she
tells him how busy she is with all kinds of
"serious" things, and how every second of
her day is planned, mostly by her parents,
he tells her that it's strange because he
always sensed she was FREE.

She says she IS free, but he senses that she
WANTS to be free, she is the kind of person
that really loves doing her own things, but
that she is NOT doing that for most of her
life.

He UNDERSTANDS HER BETTER than
she understands herself.

He is giving her the GIFT of greater self
awareness and leading her to the path of
inner peace and feeling better about herself.

And then he does something REALLY GOOD:

He doesn't just TALK, he DEMONSTRATES.

He lies down on the STREET, which is empty
and pretty much free of traffic at night in this
small town in those days. He chills out and
enjoys watching the street light change from
red to green etc.

She doesn't want to join him, it's too
socially unacceptable and "crazy".
He tells her that's her problem,
that she's too worried about
what everyone else thinks.

She feels CHALLENGED by this.

HE CHALLENGES HER GENUINELY.

So she joins him, on the ground, looking
up. He also teases her when she asks
what happens if a car comes, playfully
and casually saying "we die".

In that moment, as she chills out and
just enjoys the colors of the lights
changing and TOTALLY chilling out
there at night on the street, she has
NOW ENTERED HIS WORLD.

She is feeling the peace, the joy of it.
And it is PRICELESS even though it costs
nothing.

Then suddenly, they hear a car SPEEDING
so they MAKE A MAD RUSH AWAY FROM
THE STREET onto the sidewalk, and she is
laughing hysterically, because she HAS
NEVER HAD SO MUCH FUN IN HER LIFE.

From here he offers her to dance again, right
there on the street, and they do, and it's
the perfect time for real physical contact.

ATTRACTION has been earned.
RESPECT has been earned.
CONNECTION has been achieved.

He has STOOD OUT.

And it was all done in a NATURAL WAY.
No manipulation.

THIS is the kind of stuff that WOMEN are
seeing in the movie.

And the movie is EMOTIONALLY true as
well, because the dude is not perfect.

He screws up when he LOSES HIS OWN
SELF-ESTEEM when he repeatedly hears
how OTHERS in her social circle look
DOWN on him, including her mom, the
family, the family friends, etc.

Even though SHE STANDS UP FOR HIM,
it's not enough for him, because
HE HAS ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE AFFECTED
BY THEIR STATEMENTS and this has made
him FEEL UNWORTHY of her. He can't stand
to FEEL like HE may be holding her back
from being as great in her social setting
as she could be without him. (This is
his own massive error in thinking,
the result of his damaged self-esteem).

He can't stand to see her parents
yelling at her because of HIM.
He feels UNWORTHY of her, as if
there is no way on Earth she
could want to be with him if it
means all this stress for her.

So HE breaks up with her.

And yet, she gets PISSED at him for
wanting to break up with her. She
tries to convince him not to worry
about what others think, that they
can make it, but he is TOO WEAK to
LEAD THE SHOW OF HIS OWN LIFE, AND
THIS SERIOUSLY PISSES HER OFF even
though she is sad at the same time.

It pisses her off that HE doesn't believe
strongly enough in the GREAT TIMES
that they had and that they can CONTINUE
to have it.

The EMOTIONAL TRUTH of this is
OVERWHELMINGLY ACCURATE.

The biggest enemy most guys have is
THEMSELVES.

Well, I'm not going to go into the ENTIRE
movie here, but let me just say that the way
they DO end up back together is only
AFTER he does the SAME THING that
got HER into him in the FIRST PLACE:
by being THE MAN.

When he first met her, he was operating from
an INTERNAL PLACE OF GOOD VIBES
and a place of EMOTIONAL ABUNDANCE.

He LIKED HER, he wasn't NEEDY FOR HER.
In fact, he ENCOURAGED HER TO ENJOY
LIFE BEING HERSELF.

By encouraging greater INDEPENDENCE
in her, she FLEW FASTER TO HIM.

And it wasn't like he was doing this to be
MANIPULATIVE, it was because he
LIKED her personality, it was about
the JOY for life he saw she had deep
in her that needed to get out and be
free.

And in the end, he does this again, in a
more INTENSE way, when he tells her
regarding her confusion over what to
do, since in her own words the other
guy is a "good man" too, he tells her
to do for once what SHE feels, not
what her PARENTS feel, not what
HE feels, not what the other guy
feels. He practically YELLS at
her. Once again, this is a guy who
is NOT desperate to have a woman.

A woman can only be with him if HE
likes her and if SHE really WANTS
to be there. And also, he really IS
the kind of guy who believes in being
FREE to do what you really believe.

So his words are CONGRUENT
with his personality and actions.
They thus have MAXIMUM EMOTIONAL
IMPACT.

And he DOES get her back.
But really, that's not the point, the point is
HIS IDENTITY, the kind of PERSON he is.

So ALL THE ABOVE ELEMENTS that I've
discussed are what must happen in the
REAL WORLD as well for a guy to get
RESULTS with QUALITY women. I'm
not saying the exact same EXAMPLES
have to happen, but the exact same
PRINCIPLES must be there:

The bringing her into YOUR world, the
enriching HER life, the desire without
the neediness, the connection, challenging
her in a genuine yet heartfelt and good
way, the ability to walk away, the true
level of understanding her world as good
or better than she does herself, and ALL
the other elements above as well.

Some of that is very advanced stuff.

And ALL THOSE EMOTIONS are what women
emotionally get ADDICTED to.

It's UNCONSCIOUS.
It's INSTINCTIVE.
It's NATURAL.

It's not cerebral, women do NOT
go around articulating it.

It's totally something they feel
emotionally and immediately
and NOT consciously or
cerebrally.

And the emotions are true to life, it all
makes perfect sense; in fact women had
no choice. It was HARDWIRED that they
would love this flick.

These are the kinds of things that create in
women when they watch the flick, the emotions
of ROMANCE, TEARS, PASSION, AND THE
TORRID SEXY LOVE SCENE when they reunite.

And you can APPLY ALL THESE THINGS TO
YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN AS WELL!

What you've just read is a GLIMPSE into a
whole different UNIVERSE that no one
else on EARTH is giving you. It's the
FULL TRUTH on the EMOTIONAL DYNAMICS
OF ATTRACTION.

Understanding this universe is the key to
genuinely improving yourself in this area
naturally, and it's also definitely the ONLY
way to attract the true QUALITY girls.

If you'd like to enter this universe, I've

created a special resource over the last

several YEARS, designed to take you there

as quickly as possible:

The Warrior Within Program DVD Set.

This program is massively comprehensive:

You will learn to spontaneously create

the EMOTIONS in women that make LIFE

worth LIVING for them. You will learn

to create MASSIVE attraction, trust,

connection, AND you will learn to do all

this naturally because it will become a

product of who you are, and not just

something you "do".

This program is the only one of its kind

that truly will make you an expert at

EMOTIONAL DYNAMICS especially as it

relates to ATTRACTION.

And it's ALSO got EXPLICIT DETAILED

info on how to smoothly perform pickup

ANYWHERE, from FIRST seeing a woman

all the way to getting physical and beyond,

even long-term if you so desire.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Allow me to also state at this time, that

if you are thinking of BOOTCAMP, then this

is a fantastic time to do it.  It's summer,

and there are more women out and about than

ever, which means more opportunities for

you to hone your skills.

Plus, the good weather means not freezing

your butt off when meeting women outdoors.

Bootcamp goes all year, but this is a damn

fun time to do it.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

An Unknown Secret For Attracting Women

Today I want to get to a concept that has
proven itself to be IMMENSELY helpful
in my interactions with women over the
years, ESPECIALLY in getting over that
initial hump from “total stranger she has
NO CLUE about” to “I want to see you again”.

And this concept is:

GIVE THE MOST, TAKE THE LEAST.

Ahhh, if only I had realized the full power
of this when I first started getting interested
in women, but YOU get to take advantage
of what I paid for so dearly in time.

What do I mean by “give the most, take the least”?
What I mean is, for example, do the BEST
approach possible, absolutely, use everything
I teach you, and then JUST ASK FOR HER EMAIL.

This is an example of “give the most, take the least”.

So, let’s say you approach a woman, you get her
laughing, you intrigue her, you lead the interaction,
your tonality shows masculinity and dominance
and sensuality, and she is so into you that she is
putty in your hands…

Well, if she’s THAT crazy about you, sure, you
can ask for more than just an email, but the fact
of the matter is, is that you can’t LOSE by asking
for less, AS LONG AS YOU CONVEYED
MAXIMUM VALUE about yourself. (Or at least
you did your best in your interaction with her.)

See, there’s no trickery involved here.
There’s just GOOD VALUE.

What do I mean by value?
I mean that she is having a BLAST with you,
and that she is experiencing all the awesome
emotions with you, from fun to sexuality to
intrigue.

She may very well DEMAND that you TAKE
her number, if you do all this.

However, let’s say that you are new at this,
and that you did a DECENT job in the
“approach”. You didn't do a BAD job, and
you didn't do the all-time-BEST interaction
either.

So now, by just asking for the EMAIL, you
are not putting her under the same pressure
as asking for a NUMBER.

Plus, she can check her email at any time that’s
GOOD for her. Plus, email gives you the chance
to think about what you are writing so that you
can do yourself some justice in expressing
yourself. That email can now save you and
help you get back to "full power" even
if you didn't do perfectly before that
point.

Also, let’s just say she gave you her actual
HOME address after just two minutes
of talking to her.

So what?
Does anyone actually think this somehow
would mean a guy can now skip all the
STEPS?

The steps would still have to happen!
Rather than trying to be "mr. mack daddy",
with a grand introduction, just get it done,
and move on to the next step.

This kind of reminds me a bit of how
Larry Bird was not the most flashy
basketball player ever, but he sure
was damn good. He just made sure
to get all those lay-ups, pardon
the pun.

See, ALL of the process of going from zero
to having wild monkey-sex with a woman to
having deeply intimate connections, can
SEEM at first like it's hard, or like it's
a LOT to do.

However, if you just break down each step
of the process into little steps, EACH step
on its own is EASY.

To just approach a woman and beat the
“approach anxiety” is something you can
easily learn to do.

To just get her laughing a bit so she is
disarmed and open to chatting to you,
is easily learned.

To show the right tonalities in your voice
is not that hard.

To just build a little connection…
To just go a little deeper.
To just get that first date.
To just get a little physical.
To just start to bond a little deeper.

All these things are just individual STEPS
that can be MASTERED.

It’s not that hard.

So don’t WORRY if you don’t do a
PERFECT initial approach.

Don’t worry if you don’t do any of these
steps PERFECTLY.

Just do it well enough to get to the NEXT
‘baby’ step.

And trust me, each step, on it’s own,
is something you can easily master.

And THIS is the reason I come back to
“give the MOST for the LEAST”.

So you do your BEST, and even if that’s
not PERFECT, you don’t have to worry,
because you are only asking her for the
LEAST.

So, subconsciously, from her perspective,
YOU are still the “better catch”.

At each stage, you are asking for the least.

So, for example, obviously, you don’t ask:
“Can I have wild sex with you?”.

Instead, when making out, you kiss, you
caress, and then STOP. You are not the
starving man here, you are the well fed
man, who doesn’t NEED it.

Ahh, guess what?
You wanted so little?
Now she wants it MORE.

She can tell it’s not all about YOU, so now
she wants MORE of it, because it’s good
for HER.

And of COURSE, giving the most for the least,
means that when it comes time to go all out,
you indeed go all out in bed too, which is
what you probably want anyway.

But at ALL times, for example, when LISTENING,
you become the best LISTENER, and you are
able to show her that you understand her, and yet
you aren’t expecting some immediate reward.

ALL THESE THINGS END UP ACTUALLY
GIVING YOU WAY MORE OF WHAT YOU
WANTED FROM HER...

...MUCH MORE THAN IF YOU CONSTANTLY
TRIED TO TAKE THE MOST.

This is a hard lesson for most men to learn.
Everyone seems ‘hardwired’ to want to take.
As if this is the ‘primal’ survival mechanism.

However, it’s actually NOT the primal
survival mechanism. For example, even
the top male Lion, who seems to do very
little and sleeps a lot and has the woman
doing a lot of the work, well the bottom
line is that he provides MASSIVE VALUE.

He is one hell of a hunter, and protector.
All the other lions know it, so the truth is,
for the value he’s giving, he should get
even MORE!

But he’s pretty happy because he knows
he’s getting plenty of action from the
female lion(s).

My point is, you can’t fool anyone when
it comes to a basic sense of giving vs.
taking.

So, if a woman WANTS to give you more,
she WILL. And trying to FORCE her only
makes her RESIST and want to give you
LESS.

On the other hand, when you give your most,
and ask for the least, you tend to spark a
frenzy of ACTION from her part toward
YOU.

Now let’s go a little DEEPER.
Let’s say you are already going out with this
new woman who really is into you.

And you are starting to feel NEEDY because
she’s so hot, and you’re starting to wonder
if you could ever get a girl like her again,
so now you want to speak to her all the
time.

Well, now you are involved in a very MASSIVE
form of TAKING, even though it is INVISIBLE.

The NEEDINESS is just a FEELING, it is
INTANGIBLE, but it is a VAMPIRE of
ATTRACTION, it slowly SUCKS out all
the attraction she can feel for you.

A vicious never-ending cycle begins, where
you need more and more of her “emotional
validation assurance”, the same way a
drug addict needs a hit of cocaine.

She becomes your “pusher”.
She is the dealer, you are the taker.
And the more you need to take from her,
the less she feels your value is, and the
more she feels that she was cut out for
someone better.

You want to be the OPPOSITE:
You want to DESTROY neediness.
So this way, she can FEEL that you are secure,
strong, and that you feel ABUNDANCE in
your life when it comes to everything, and
doing this makes HER feel good around you,
it make her feel everything will be okay
as long as she is around YOU.

Now, at this point, I need to remind you
of something:

If you are FEELING like “awww, I don’t
LIKE the idea of giving a LOT and taking
the LEAST” then guess what?

This is a SIGN that you need to take this
advice even MORE. It is the INSECURITY
that is afraid of getting “screwed” in a bad
way, of getting into a situation that is unfair.

I was the WORST offender of this wrong
kind of thinking, by the way. And that’s
because when it comes to insecurity, I
think I probably held the all time record
for most insecure guy about women on
earth.

THAT’S why I know how wrong this thinking is.

Go for the OPPOSITE.
I learned to slap myself like a pro wrestler any
time I start to veer away from this principle.
It works. So does pouring cold water over
yourself outside in the snow wearing just
a bathing suit, but ask your doctor before
attempting that one.

Give the MOST.
Ask for the LEAST.

This way, you will QUICKLY advance from
step to step, from walking up to her to make
the approach, to the interaction, to the
connection, to the getting physical, and
so on.

And here’s another COOL thing:
By the time a woman IS getting physical with
you, and has obviously passed through all the
previous steps with you, she will backwards
rationalize that since she put in all these steps
to get to this point, she wants to “claim her prize”
and that prize is you!

So, in fact, the more chilled out you are with
getting physical, and the more steps SHE
has to take in order to get physical with
YOU, the more she will want to get
physical with you.

PLUS, this also allows you the time to really
develop a powerful connection so you yourself
will actually get to know her so much better and
it will make everything far more meaningful
for you as well.

It truly is win-win for both you and her.

So, let the other guys who talk a big ‘game’
go on and on and try to be ‘mack-daddies’
while you end up actually GETTING THE
GIRL you really WANT and they go home
to visit the Palm Sisters.

What you have just read is an example of
how your ‘INNER GAME’ is CRUCIAL
for having the greatest degree of success
with women. ‘Inner Game’ refers to all
the things that are happening INTERNALLY
inside of you regarding the ways you are
thinking and feeling, which ends up massively
affecting your DECISIONS and BEHAVIORS
with women.

Having a super-strong ‘Inner Game’ is CRUCIAL
for having the HIGHEST degree of success
with women and especially for attracting a great
woman long term.

For the BEST program on attracting a fantastic
woman long term and for skyrocketing your
“Inner Game”, I suggest you get my program
‘Warrior Within’, now available on DVD.

This program will BLOW YOUR MIND
and absolutely take you to the next level
of success with women. It will show you
how to apply your "inner game" for all
the different steps of attracting women.   

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my
program, ‘Chats From Scratch’, then do
that now. It will show you powerful,
easy-to-apply strategies for chatting
to women and attracting them
ANYWHERE you see them!

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/chats.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The 7 Secrets To Approaching Women

Approaching women seems tough, but
it doesn't have to be. What I'm going to
do here is share the most important
7 SECRETS with you for approaching
women. Screwing these up are the 7
most common causes for not attracting
a woman upon approaching her.

So, here are the 7 most common devastating
mistakes, as well as the RIGHT things to
do instead.

1. NOT GETTING INTO "JUICY"
CONVERSATION EARLY ENOUGH

So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be
polite.

You aren't seeing their eyes light up.

Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well. She knows NOTHING
about you.

And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her.

So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.

Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.

You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc.

THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there. You want to get
her FEELING damn good. So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something that is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your personality.

EXAMPLE:
So, giving the example of the woman at
the card store, you can go HUMOROUS
by telling her that she's just trying
to butter up her dad so he can buy her
a Jaguar...

..Or you can go into the INTRIGUING and
genuinely meaningful compliment that raises her
self-esteem by speaking about how girls who get
along well with their dads tend to be the girls
who have less drama issues- and this would
PROMPT a response from her that was a lot
more involved on her part- it wouldn't just be
her trying to get rid of you, since now she is
actually engaged in something meaningful to her.

Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style
conversation.

COMBINING emotions is a VERY powerful thing. 
Imagine if you get a woman laughing, then get
her feeling intrigued, and then feeling better
about herself, all within a span of just a few
MINUTES.

You are going to be MEMORABLE.

You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.

If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.

2. TOO MUCH PICK UP ARTIST
"PLAY HARD TO GET" BEHAVIOR

This is a huge one. Most guys are trying
so hard to show they are not interested,
because they are told by the "dating gurus"
and pick up artists that this will make the
woman more interested- so the guys end
up standing way too far from the women,
and talking from too much of a distance,
and the guys try to also avoid ANY type
of comment that might sound like they
are interested.

The truth is that although you shouldn't give
compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the
things that she really EARNED.

The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.
If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy.

HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.

So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.

3. INSENSITIVITY TO THE EMOTIONAL
VIBE OF THE SITUATION

This is something that is a MAJOR factor
in screwing up attraction.

This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.

This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.

A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's WORDS and not the
full depth of the tonality, expression, and
context behind those words, then you are often
missing what her real message is.

Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do. So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are, instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.

If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE.

Look for the bright side of things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.

A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember
how she FELT during it. So make it feel
GOOD.

Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.
The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good. You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are. Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.

4. NOT PROGRESSING THE INTERACTION

An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.

Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected. However,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point?

So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.

So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.

5. NOT BEING FLIRTATIOUS

If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction.

So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye.

6. OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES

This is a HUGE one. We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about. So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it. It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.

If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.

So, for example, let's say you are insecure
about how much money you earn. Well,
if you very early in a conversation said
something like "superficial things are so
over-rated, I would never be caught working
for a big corporation". If you're bald, if
you're short, if you're ANYTHING you
are insecure about- the reality is that it's
NOT an issue but if you START with
"Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.

Same with "Hi, I work for minimum wage,
but I LOVE my job" that also shows that
you are obsessed with the money issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.

Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all. There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.

This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are renting
a car because your regular better car is at the
shop, don't say "this is just a rental- I have
a better car" just DON'T BRING IT UP,
otherwise it comes across as you feeling
inferior worth compared to what you
feel her worth is.

And when YOU feel your worth is low,
that is the ultimate litmus test to a woman
of your worth. YOU are the one who
has to know what you're worth. If you
don't feel it, how can she?

7. REVEALING TOO MUCH ABOUT
YOURSELF TOO EARLY

Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.

So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds "man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or
"I'm so tired, I was up all night with
my agent on the phone closing a deal"
etc, etc.

It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" "AGENT" "closing
the deal", etc.

Well, those are 7 SUPER IMPORTANT
tips that you can now go out and apply
IMMEDIATELY, and you will notice
a MASSIVE difference, TODAY.

And yet, that is just the TIP of the ICEBERG.
If you want the FULL PICTURE on attracting the
most fantastic quality women, inside and out,
then I suggest you get my Warrior Within DVD Set-
this program is all about how to get a truly great
girlfriend and how to keep her.

This program will show you in EXPLICIT and
CLEAR DETAIL everything you need to know about
getting a woman who is the 'real thing'.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

P.S. To check out ALL my programs for
meeting and attracting the woman of your
dreams, including my live trainings and
the Real World Bootcamp, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Vibes Of Abundance & Attracting A Knockout

Have you ever wondered why so many
women who are stunning and absolute
“knockouts” are with guys that don’t
seem “nice” to women?

It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.

And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.

It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING HER a lot more
than most guys.

In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.

So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?

It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.

And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!

You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!

What do I mean by “abundance?”

What I mean is this:

YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL

This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.

And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?

All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.

It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.

And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.

Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!

It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.

To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.

So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:

“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”

This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:

“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.

The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman, that’s not the problem,
it’s that this NICE BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.

Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.

There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem, there is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.

Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at ‘full tank’.

And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’. In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up.

He just has a desire to PLAY.

When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman.

Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.

And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:

It's CLEAR to a woman that it's
coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place
of needing to control her or
take from her.

THAT'S why she melts for such
a man.

Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.

And she's not "scared into submission"
by the malicious teasing or "hard to get"
obnoxious games/behavior of many men.

She's WAY too confident to be fooled
by that kind of behavior, and she
doesn't see the obnoxious behavior
as a sign of value or of guts, but
rather as a sign of over-compensation
and insecurity.

What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.

The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.

On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”

In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.

This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.

Let me give you an example:

If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!

That means when you see a woman that
strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I make sure that I WIN?”
but rather “LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”

By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting physical and intimate with
a woman. ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED
AS PART OF THE PROCESS AND FUN.

This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not so focused
on how to make sure you don't 'lose'.

Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.

These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful, feeling aroused,
feeling empowered, masculine,
and dominant.

Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and
playing games on women.

However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.

It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.

I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:

I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.

His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.

He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school, “Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?”

I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.

Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!

This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.

His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.

He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.

He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!

On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.

However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE and the fact that he was
ASLO a genuinely GOOD GUY, who actually
CARED about people.

THIS combo of 'abundance', mixed with being
genuinely caring, is a CRUCIAL KEY to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.

It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant, AND to be GENIUNELY
giving from an emotional place.

There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.

It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.

In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.

Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp.

Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:

Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.

Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!

It is true that women have “issues”
in some areas of their lives, such
as their perception of their own bodies.

And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN ARE SOMEHOW
LESS CONFIDENT.

Men tend to think that because of those
issues, that women have LESS confidence
than men, and this results in men being
NAMBY PAMBY AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.

Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.

They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.

Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!

You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED.

You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.

I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.

But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.

When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you
don’t NEED her, and that you are only
interacting with her because you ENJOY
it.

She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you
NEED her too much.

The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.

I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your “game” developed to
the MAX is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL for getting
the kind of women that most men will NEVER
have.

And if you want to meet and attract a
FANTASTIC woman, and have more choice than
most men will EVER have in getting the
kind of woman YOU want, then I suggest you
go HERE immediately:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior

This program is ESPECIALLY for men who are looking
to find and keep a fantastic woman to be their
girlfriend for a long-term relationship.

Now, if you're just getting 'back into the scene'
of dating, or if you are just STARTING out when it
comes to dating, then you should get experience
dating several DIFFERENT women BEFORE getting
into a long term relationship- and for the best program
on getting this experience with women, I suggest you
get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

This program is all about mastering ATTRACTION
so that you have CHOICE with women.

Till next time, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks