If you are ready for the truth, you are about to get a BOAT LOAD of it regarding women, dating, and relationships.
ONE: A Bit Of FEAR Is Required
What I mean by this, is that in ANY situation where
someone VALUES something, there is a bit of
FEAR regarding losing that thing.
Anyone who tells you otherwise is full of crap.
Even great martial artists have SOME fear in them,
but they learn to HARNESS their fear and use it
to their advantage.
A bit of FEAR regarding being IMMORAL is a
DRIVING force for EXCELLENCE and prevents
CORRUPTION as well. (In ALL areas of life,
not just in dating.)
Similarly, if a woman has ZERO FEAR of losing you,
if she feels SOOOOOOOO at ease around you that she
feels NOTHING could possibly be bad about LOSING
you, she is going to be a HORRIBLE GIRLFRIEND
OR WIFE.
There NEEDS to be a bit of fear to keep the human
traits of WEAKNESS, LAZINESS, and COMPLACENCY
at bay.
Usually, the greatest performers in their respective fields
feel the same way. I believe Steven Spielberg has mentioned
that he STILL feels a bit of fear every time he gets on set
to direct a movie. He also feels that this is a GOOD sign
that the movie will turn out right.
Great fighters often will tell you that it is not true that they
have NO FEAR, it is just that they have learned to USE
their fears.
Similarly, a QUALITY WOMAN is the kind of woman
who APPRECIATES a GOOD MAN so much, that she
has just a BIT of FEAR inside her regarding wanting to
NOT SCREW THINGS UP WITH THIS GOOD MAN,
which makes her VERY ALERT TO BEHAVING PROPERLY.
Now how many attractive women like this are there out there?
They do exist, and you ABSOLUTELY CAN find them with
persistence and know-how, but the answer to the question is
that these kinds of women are VERY RARE.
This is because things like morality, family, long-term thinking,
dedication, and sensitivity are not as popular as promiscuity,
selfishness, and thinking only about the short-term.
There are very few men and women who really CARE
ABOUT THIS STUFF.
So, as SOON as you detect a woman is a little TOO
CONFIDENT around you, I suggest you get the heck
OUT of that situation. (Obviously if you are married
or have kids with this woman or if you have been
together for a long time, I would suggest you try
to fix the situation first.)
I don’t mean to say that a woman should be shivering
around you in fear.
What I DO mean is, that the same way YOU would
not want to screw things up with a great woman,
so too SHE should show some signs of this caution
as well.
Here’s something else I need to tell you:
THE MOMENT YOU START PAYING ATTENTION
TO THIS STUFF, AND TRYING TO PUSH THE
WRONG WOMEN AWAY, THESE SAME WRONG
WOMEN WILL TRY HARD TO WIN YOU BACK
BUT YOU SHOULD IGNORE IT.
The REAL TRUTH is that most people, both men and
women, KNOW when they are mistreating someone,
but CORRUPTION sets in when there is too much
power, and those who are corrupted will try to
PUSH THEIR LUCK AS FAR AS THEY CAN.
So, with women who are spoiled, they will PUSH
THEIR LUCK AS FAR AS THEY CAN, and
when YOU call them on their CRAPPY BEHAVIOR,
especially if you do this with TOTAL CONFIDENCE
and with TOTALLY BEING PREPARED TO WALK
AWAY, they will SUDDENLY FEEL A VACUUM
IN THEIR LIFE-FORCE.
Suddenly, such a woman, for the first time in her LIFE,
is being told in no uncertain terms that she is behaving
in a WRONG WAY, by a man who has NO FEAR in leaving her.
This is FRIGHTENING for a spoiled woman, and
it also TEMPORARILY sets her BACK ON THE
PATH OF DECENCY.
She will then TRY TO APOLOGIZE OR GET
YOU BACK IN SOME OTHER WAY.
To all this, I say SCREW IT, DON’T GO THERE,
AND GET THE HECK AWAY, unless she did something
SUPER MINOR that cannot be considered an insult,
and even then, you should still call her on it.
So many men, they take my materials, they use them
only a DROP, and they see how women IMPROVE,
but they don’t take my FULL ADVICE, which is
to F-ING FORGET THESE WOMEN and move
on IMMEDIATELY to BETTER WOMEN.
When I talk about BEING THE MAN and not
taking B.S. from women, I really MEAN IT,
it is not some TEMPORARY TACTIC just
to get a woman into bed. If you use it as a
TACTIC and are somehow willing to sleep
with a woman just because calling her on
her b.s. was enough to get her to have sex
with you, you still haven’t learned the
BIGGER LESSON, which is that this is
not about tricks to get women into bed,
it’s about STAYING AWAY FROM THE
WRONG WOMEN, and MAKING YOUR
MIND STRONG to not get involved with
the WRONG women.
Just because you CAN get a woman who is
attractive into bed does not mean you SHOULD.
You will lose your CONVICTION AND DEEP
SEATED BELIEF in the VALUE of only being
with quality, trustworthy, decent women if you
allow yourself to also be in the circle of corrupt
women.
And then, when you lose your INNER GAME
In this sense, you lose EVERYTHING, including
your ability to even get the selfish and corrupt
women.
So, to get back to the main point, you WANT
a woman who indeed has just a bit of fear
around you in the sense that she does not
want to SCREW THINGS UP.
She does not and should not feel this fear
ALL THE TIME, and it should not be
overwhelming, but she MUST have some
of this fear, or the relationship WILL be
headed for DESTRUCTION.
Now, even a good woman is human, and she might
do something super MINOR, and in those situations,
you should just call her on her behavior, tell
her it was wrong, and she should immediately
improve permanently on that issue. If she
does not, then she is not a quality woman
and you should leave her.
Next:
TWO: FAITHFULNESS IS ABOUT MAKING
THE CHOICE
There are endless debates about whether it is
possible or natural for a man and woman to
be faithful to each other for life.
The truth is, on one hand, it is NOT natural.
We will always feel SOME attraction to
gorgeous members of the opposite sex,
no matter how much we love and are
attracted to the person we are with.
On the other hand, it IS natural, in the same
sense that human beings have succeeded in
doing all kinds of challenging things.
So, for example, plumbing and toilets are NOT
natural. Should we, therefore, crap on the floor?
Instead, human beings make the CHOICE to
elevate themselves, through philosophy, through
science, through spirituality, and through discipline,
to IMPROVE THEIR LIVES.
Going to the MOON is not natural, but most
people would argue that human beings exploring
space is something that human civilization
SHOULD do.
And to really focus in on the issue of faithfulness,
there really is one key question, which is HOW
to do it, right?
And the answer to the HOW is simple:
One makes the CHOICE.
If you want to become a DOCTOR, you are
going to have to do a lot of studying. More
studying than might feel “natural”.
But if one makes the CHOICE to become a
doctor, they ACCEPT all the studying they
will have to do, and suddenly it no longer feels
like a BURDEN, but rather a way of LIFE
that is meaningful.
It is the same thing with FAITHFULNESS
and monogamy.
I’m not telling anyone they shouldn’t date
more than one woman, and I’m not telling
any woman they shouldn’t date more than
one man.
What I AM saying is that if you are already
the kind of man who knows HE can be faithful
to one woman, you need to meet a woman who
already has made the CONSCIOUS CHOICE
to live a life of faithfulness.
If she has never thought about these things,
you should NOT date her. You CANNOT
make someone faithful or feel that fidelity
is right for them.
Instead, THEY MUST MAKE THAT CHOICE
LONG BEFORE THEY EVEN MET YOU.
It has to be the way they APPROACH the
whole CONCEPT.
A woman should make it clear to you
through conversation and through actions
that she has already made that choice.
This concept goes back to the concept of
EXISTENTIALISM, which in a nutshell
means that an individual can DEFINE his
own reality by CHOOSING what meaning
he gives to his own reality or situation.
Faithfulness can be looked at as a burden,
or it can be looked at as a special act of love,
a joyful form of giving, a reflection of one’s
character, and a constantly growing bond
between a man and a woman.
But you can’t go around trying to TEACH
a woman any of this. She must already BE
that woman.
If you have any questions, I do have a personal
consultation service, and I do have the most
powerful programs on the planet for helping
you meet and attract a quality woman.
Consultations are at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
A catalogue with all my special programs for
meeting and attracting quality women is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Saturday, September 22, 2012
How To Reclaim Your Attractive Power With Women
One of the greatest TORTURES to me is seeing
a guy who is a good guy RUINING it for himself
with a woman. It's torture because I remember
how it felt, and I also know how absolutely
DOES NOT have to be this way!!!
There is a BETTER way, a way that actually
ATTRACTS a woman, and all without ever
having to lie or play games.
So let's get straight down to some hard-core
ACTION STEPS that you can use right now:
1. BE A MILLION-DOLLAR ATTORNEY
FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF AGAINST
YOURSELF
When you meet a woman who does not know
you, all she has to go on is the information
and the vibes that YOU are giving her.
And yet, when guys meet women, men often
CUT THEMSELVES DOWN incessantly.
They cut themselves down in a number of
ways- from the way they describe their
life, their lifestyle, their choices in life,
their hobbies, and most importantly,
their own opinions of themselves.
Sometimes also, men cut themselves
down by making self-deprecating
jokes in the hopes that by
making fun of their selves
first, the woman won't do it
later.
This does not mean to SHOW OFF, or
to qualify yourself.
It also does not mean to act arrogant,
as arrogance grows out of insecurity,
but so too does constant self-deprecation
grow out of insecurity.
It's one thing to make jokes
when you are clearly SECURE,
it's something else when these
jokes are coming out of insecurity.
Here's the difference- when the
Karate champ of the world says
he's scared of the dark, that's
ok, since it's clearly a joke.
When the smartest man on
the planet says he's bad at
math, that's ok too, since
it's obvious he is smart.
When a guy feels he really IS
unworthy, however, and the woman
has a strong reason to believe his
statements of unworthiness, then
it's not cool at all.
Listen, you only live once, so
you might as well give yourself
the BEST chance each time you
meet a woman.
And this should be coming from
withIN, the way you feel about
your SELF.
Stop living as if you are going
to live forever.
You have every RIGHT to be your own best
friend and be as supportive and positive
about yourself as possible.
Be your own best friend, and I mean
that in the deepest sense of the word-
you should support yourself emotionally
as much as possible, give yourself credit,
and you will ultimately end up giving
more to others as well as a result.
In our culture, it's perfectly fine for
women's products to say messages like
"because I'm worth it", and yet for men,
so many good guys end up saying through
their body language and through their
tonality and through the way they dress
and groom, so many men end up saying the
message "I am NOT worth a woman's time."
All this comes from your own self-perception
about your social status- in fact this is proven
by psychologists. In the live taping of the
Warrior Within program, one of the cool guys
at the event brought the entire dissertation
on this fact that backs it all up with evidence.
So, if you don't BELIEVE that you HAVE
the social status, you will simply NOT
wear COOL clothing. You will simply
NOT behave in the way of a man who
feels he IS worth it. You will think
that this stuff is simply NOT for
you. You will think that you will
be "found out" to be a "fake", as if
you have no right to be a man who
gets the woman he wants and other
things in life as well.
This stuff is crazy powerful, and I promise
you it all starts with belief.
As sexy and beautiful that so many women
are, the GREATER rewards of developing
yourself in this area called "attracting the
women of your choice" is that you will
learn the TRUTH of who YOU can be
and who you really are- you are so much
different and so much more than you
think "you" are. In fact, right now,
you have no idea of who you really
are, I can make a billion dollar bet on
that.
So the next time a woman asks you
ANYTHING about yourself, I want
you to answer that question as if you
were the most fantastic attorney on
earth for yourself, an attorney who
was getting paid millions of dollars
to ensure that his client was going
to get the very BEST outcome.
The key is to do this without telling a lie.
You do not have to lie, you simply have
to give the damn BEST portrayal of
yourself as possible, ALL the time.
No more "well, I kinda suck at this and
that, and I'm so-so at that, and I'm not
really that great at anything" and no
more "well, my plan for life is kinda
this and that, and maybe so er well"
FORGET THAT STUFF, FOREVER.
This brings me to point number two:
2. START DRESSING THE WAY YOU
WOULD IF YOU KNEW YOU WERE
A SUPERSTAR
So you think you're just Joe Average?
Then you will always BE Joe Average.
In fact, one of the invisible forces that keeps
men imprisoned in the social status of
"not cool to a woman" is the BELIEF
that you don't belong higher up.
And the people who are already there
will NOT have the time or the energy
to stop their lives and try to FIND you
and help you get up there. They don't
even know you exist. And let's face it,
they also know that if someone doesn't
want to change, they never will anyway,
so they don't see why they should be
trying to change people when it's a free
world.
So you have to push your envelope to
reach out of your "comfort zone" - you
have gotten comfortable with seeing
yourself as lower than others only because
you have done it for so long- but FROM
THIS MOMENT ON, THIS ENDS-
NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm serious about this, go out today and
FORCE yourself to put on cooler clothing
than you think "fits" right for you. I'm not
saying that if you are 75 that you should
go and get a skateboard and dye your
hair purple, what I am saying is that you
know very well that you can be dressing
and grooming far cooler than you are
right now, and the only reason you are
not doing it is because you think that
you are not "supposed" to- and the
only reason you think THAT is because
you've had a lifetime of PRACTICE
thinking the wrong thoughts.
So let's start CHANGING those thoughts
by also changing your ACTIONS.
3. BEWARE OF YOUR RISING VOICE PITCH
Notice how when you are talking to a woman
you are attracted to, your voice will often
rise up- this happens because you feel too
much energy and that too much is at stake.
It's as if a billion volts of electricity is surging
through your system.
So for now, you have to CONSCIOUSLY
bring your vocal pitch back to normal.
This will not only get you better results, but
it will change your state of mind as well and
get you into the proper perspective that is
far more empowering as well.
4. BEWARE OF THE FEAR-INDUCED SMILE
Very often, when a woman is talking to you,
you will be smiling in a way that is OVERDOING
it.
Yes, a natural smile is great, but when you are
smiling as if the GREATEST THING ON EARTH
has happened to you, when all that has happened
is a stranger has agreed to chat with you, then
it's actually too much.
Yes, a woman liking you is a great thing, but
it's even more important for YOU to feel pretty
awesome already, and if you felt that way, a
woman who was a stranger would not be able
to pump your smile up THAT much.
See, it's not that women are attracted to jerks, it's
that jerks happen to be doing one thing right-
even if they are only acting, and that is that they
are not behaving as if a woman is the source
of their own self-esteem.
Nothing jerky about having your own self-esteem.
That's just good stuff for all guys to have.
So if you are smiling like the smile is plastered on
your face like the Joker, then stop it.
Of course, I know all this stuff from personal
experience, so it's not like I'm on some high
horse here, I just want to make sure you benefit
from what I learned the hard way.
5. TAKE THE LEAD
Man, if more men only realized how much women
APPRECIATE the fact that YOU are a man and
that YOU have a plan on where to go for the date,
on what to do with your life, and if you had a
strong perspective on how to make your life
meaningful, and on how to handle issues and
stress and challenges, rather than just hope
for things to go right, - or even worse, to hope
that SHE will have the answers to all this
stuff.
In life, whoever has the stronger frame will
win, and that's not a bad or good thing, it's
just the truth. It simply means whoever has
the greater discipline to persevere and to live
with passion and not give in to laziness or
negativity, will WIN.
This is why some bizarre CULT leaders can
get women even though the cult leader is
preaching absolute lies and absolute hogwash
and total crap. Yet, he has managed to get
HIMSELF to believe in his own lies, and
he has generated enough passion in himself
from within and he is his own best friend
and never cuts himself down.
So if TOTAL INSANE CRAZY PEOPLE
can attract women, then I can assure you
that ANY MAN can do this, without telling
a single lie, if he is SERIOUS about learning
how attraction really works.
So, now that you know this is the truth,
can you imagine how badly a guy will
do on a date if he seems like he is LOST
in life, and lost regarding what to do with
her, what to say, etc?
Women do not want a man that is lost in
any way, whether it is lost on how to
deal with her, or lost on how to deal with
his own life.
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to have the kind of
woman you dream about in your
arms, and even more importantly,
know that you have triumphed and
defeated all the internal blocks that
have been holding you back with
women and with so much else in life,
then I suggest you get my program
WARRIOR WITHIN immediately.
In this program, I will take you on the
most important journey of your life
as you defeat the INTERNAL obstacles
that have been holding you back and
you ALSO learn the most powerful
"EXTERNAL" strategies for approaching
women successfully and for getting dates
that actually lead to getting physical and
getting a fantastic relationship.
This special program is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
I would like to also mention a word here
about my BOOTCAMP program.
In my "Real World Bootcamp", you will learn
"hands on" as I coach you in real venues where
you will actually be putting what you learn
into practice on women. You will be guided
by me as I keep you on course the entire time.
To find out more, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
a guy who is a good guy RUINING it for himself
with a woman. It's torture because I remember
how it felt, and I also know how absolutely
DOES NOT have to be this way!!!
There is a BETTER way, a way that actually
ATTRACTS a woman, and all without ever
having to lie or play games.
So let's get straight down to some hard-core
ACTION STEPS that you can use right now:
1. BE A MILLION-DOLLAR ATTORNEY
FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF AGAINST
YOURSELF
When you meet a woman who does not know
you, all she has to go on is the information
and the vibes that YOU are giving her.
And yet, when guys meet women, men often
CUT THEMSELVES DOWN incessantly.
They cut themselves down in a number of
ways- from the way they describe their
life, their lifestyle, their choices in life,
their hobbies, and most importantly,
their own opinions of themselves.
Sometimes also, men cut themselves
down by making self-deprecating
jokes in the hopes that by
making fun of their selves
first, the woman won't do it
later.
This does not mean to SHOW OFF, or
to qualify yourself.
It also does not mean to act arrogant,
as arrogance grows out of insecurity,
but so too does constant self-deprecation
grow out of insecurity.
It's one thing to make jokes
when you are clearly SECURE,
it's something else when these
jokes are coming out of insecurity.
Here's the difference- when the
Karate champ of the world says
he's scared of the dark, that's
ok, since it's clearly a joke.
When the smartest man on
the planet says he's bad at
math, that's ok too, since
it's obvious he is smart.
When a guy feels he really IS
unworthy, however, and the woman
has a strong reason to believe his
statements of unworthiness, then
it's not cool at all.
Listen, you only live once, so
you might as well give yourself
the BEST chance each time you
meet a woman.
And this should be coming from
withIN, the way you feel about
your SELF.
Stop living as if you are going
to live forever.
You have every RIGHT to be your own best
friend and be as supportive and positive
about yourself as possible.
Be your own best friend, and I mean
that in the deepest sense of the word-
you should support yourself emotionally
as much as possible, give yourself credit,
and you will ultimately end up giving
more to others as well as a result.
In our culture, it's perfectly fine for
women's products to say messages like
"because I'm worth it", and yet for men,
so many good guys end up saying through
their body language and through their
tonality and through the way they dress
and groom, so many men end up saying the
message "I am NOT worth a woman's time."
All this comes from your own self-perception
about your social status- in fact this is proven
by psychologists. In the live taping of the
Warrior Within program, one of the cool guys
at the event brought the entire dissertation
on this fact that backs it all up with evidence.
So, if you don't BELIEVE that you HAVE
the social status, you will simply NOT
wear COOL clothing. You will simply
NOT behave in the way of a man who
feels he IS worth it. You will think
that this stuff is simply NOT for
you. You will think that you will
be "found out" to be a "fake", as if
you have no right to be a man who
gets the woman he wants and other
things in life as well.
This stuff is crazy powerful, and I promise
you it all starts with belief.
As sexy and beautiful that so many women
are, the GREATER rewards of developing
yourself in this area called "attracting the
women of your choice" is that you will
learn the TRUTH of who YOU can be
and who you really are- you are so much
different and so much more than you
think "you" are. In fact, right now,
you have no idea of who you really
are, I can make a billion dollar bet on
that.
So the next time a woman asks you
ANYTHING about yourself, I want
you to answer that question as if you
were the most fantastic attorney on
earth for yourself, an attorney who
was getting paid millions of dollars
to ensure that his client was going
to get the very BEST outcome.
The key is to do this without telling a lie.
You do not have to lie, you simply have
to give the damn BEST portrayal of
yourself as possible, ALL the time.
No more "well, I kinda suck at this and
that, and I'm so-so at that, and I'm not
really that great at anything" and no
more "well, my plan for life is kinda
this and that, and maybe so er well"
FORGET THAT STUFF, FOREVER.
This brings me to point number two:
2. START DRESSING THE WAY YOU
WOULD IF YOU KNEW YOU WERE
A SUPERSTAR
So you think you're just Joe Average?
Then you will always BE Joe Average.
In fact, one of the invisible forces that keeps
men imprisoned in the social status of
"not cool to a woman" is the BELIEF
that you don't belong higher up.
And the people who are already there
will NOT have the time or the energy
to stop their lives and try to FIND you
and help you get up there. They don't
even know you exist. And let's face it,
they also know that if someone doesn't
want to change, they never will anyway,
so they don't see why they should be
trying to change people when it's a free
world.
So you have to push your envelope to
reach out of your "comfort zone" - you
have gotten comfortable with seeing
yourself as lower than others only because
you have done it for so long- but FROM
THIS MOMENT ON, THIS ENDS-
NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm serious about this, go out today and
FORCE yourself to put on cooler clothing
than you think "fits" right for you. I'm not
saying that if you are 75 that you should
go and get a skateboard and dye your
hair purple, what I am saying is that you
know very well that you can be dressing
and grooming far cooler than you are
right now, and the only reason you are
not doing it is because you think that
you are not "supposed" to- and the
only reason you think THAT is because
you've had a lifetime of PRACTICE
thinking the wrong thoughts.
So let's start CHANGING those thoughts
by also changing your ACTIONS.
3. BEWARE OF YOUR RISING VOICE PITCH
Notice how when you are talking to a woman
you are attracted to, your voice will often
rise up- this happens because you feel too
much energy and that too much is at stake.
It's as if a billion volts of electricity is surging
through your system.
So for now, you have to CONSCIOUSLY
bring your vocal pitch back to normal.
This will not only get you better results, but
it will change your state of mind as well and
get you into the proper perspective that is
far more empowering as well.
4. BEWARE OF THE FEAR-INDUCED SMILE
Very often, when a woman is talking to you,
you will be smiling in a way that is OVERDOING
it.
Yes, a natural smile is great, but when you are
smiling as if the GREATEST THING ON EARTH
has happened to you, when all that has happened
is a stranger has agreed to chat with you, then
it's actually too much.
Yes, a woman liking you is a great thing, but
it's even more important for YOU to feel pretty
awesome already, and if you felt that way, a
woman who was a stranger would not be able
to pump your smile up THAT much.
See, it's not that women are attracted to jerks, it's
that jerks happen to be doing one thing right-
even if they are only acting, and that is that they
are not behaving as if a woman is the source
of their own self-esteem.
Nothing jerky about having your own self-esteem.
That's just good stuff for all guys to have.
So if you are smiling like the smile is plastered on
your face like the Joker, then stop it.
Of course, I know all this stuff from personal
experience, so it's not like I'm on some high
horse here, I just want to make sure you benefit
from what I learned the hard way.
5. TAKE THE LEAD
Man, if more men only realized how much women
APPRECIATE the fact that YOU are a man and
that YOU have a plan on where to go for the date,
on what to do with your life, and if you had a
strong perspective on how to make your life
meaningful, and on how to handle issues and
stress and challenges, rather than just hope
for things to go right, - or even worse, to hope
that SHE will have the answers to all this
stuff.
In life, whoever has the stronger frame will
win, and that's not a bad or good thing, it's
just the truth. It simply means whoever has
the greater discipline to persevere and to live
with passion and not give in to laziness or
negativity, will WIN.
This is why some bizarre CULT leaders can
get women even though the cult leader is
preaching absolute lies and absolute hogwash
and total crap. Yet, he has managed to get
HIMSELF to believe in his own lies, and
he has generated enough passion in himself
from within and he is his own best friend
and never cuts himself down.
So if TOTAL INSANE CRAZY PEOPLE
can attract women, then I can assure you
that ANY MAN can do this, without telling
a single lie, if he is SERIOUS about learning
how attraction really works.
So, now that you know this is the truth,
can you imagine how badly a guy will
do on a date if he seems like he is LOST
in life, and lost regarding what to do with
her, what to say, etc?
Women do not want a man that is lost in
any way, whether it is lost on how to
deal with her, or lost on how to deal with
his own life.
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to have the kind of
woman you dream about in your
arms, and even more importantly,
know that you have triumphed and
defeated all the internal blocks that
have been holding you back with
women and with so much else in life,
then I suggest you get my program
WARRIOR WITHIN immediately.
In this program, I will take you on the
most important journey of your life
as you defeat the INTERNAL obstacles
that have been holding you back and
you ALSO learn the most powerful
"EXTERNAL" strategies for approaching
women successfully and for getting dates
that actually lead to getting physical and
getting a fantastic relationship.
This special program is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
I would like to also mention a word here
about my BOOTCAMP program.
In my "Real World Bootcamp", you will learn
"hands on" as I coach you in real venues where
you will actually be putting what you learn
into practice on women. You will be guided
by me as I keep you on course the entire time.
To find out more, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
The Attraction Equalizer
There's an important film out there,
it's one that I think EVERY GUY
should watch.
It's NOT an EASY film to watch.
It's called The Curious Case of
Benjamin Button.
It is actually disturbing, yet that
is the very reason for its merit.
Sometimes disturbing is worth it
if it drives home a worthy POINT.
Without giving the story away,
it shows you the value of TIME.
No matter who you think out there has it
"ALL" the truth is, he doesn't.
NO ONE DOES.
No one has enough TIME.
I'm not here to depress you, I'm here to
EMPOWER you to let you know that
if getting a great woman is something
you CARE about, then there is NO
EXCUSE ON THIS PLANET to not
be TAKING CARE OF THIS ISSUE.
You CAN get it, and the ONLY thing
holding you back is your perception
that you have something to LOSE
by taking action.
The reality is that you have nothing to
lose, because the ONLY losing strategy
is NOT taking action.
People behave as if they are going to be
on this planet forever, as if there is
something so precious that can be LOST
by taking action, but the truth is, one
day we are going to have to PART
with EVERYTHING, so why not
MILK THIS LIFE AND ENJOY IT
FOR EVERY LAST DROP????????
You have NOTHING to lose, except precious
TIME if you DON'T take action.
It's time to change your perception to the
CORRECT perception, and the perception
that actually gets you results.
You know, there is one major TRAIT that
some guys have that gets them the woman
they are interested in.
The guys withOUT this trait only get the woman
that happens to ALREADY "come on" to them,
(which is usually NOT the woman that the guy
WANTS) so for those guys, it's all a matter of
LUCK.
This one magical TRAIT that GETS guys results
is responsible for a "domino" effect, a chain reaction
of events and learned skills that lead to ultimately
GETTING the girl.
What is this trait?
It's GLADLY ACCEPTING ANY EMOTIONAL
"PRESSURES" that MAY be involved in GETTING
the GIRL, because the REWARD OUTWEIGHS
all the rest.
Yes, accepting and ENJOYING ALL the
emotional RISKS/PRESSURES/CHALLENGES
is then considered WORTH IT, and in fact the
FUN becomes the primary focus, not
the emotional "cost".
The "price" becomes a JOKE compared to
the price of NOT taking action.
You have to decide which track of thinking
you want to travel on.
You can't be in two tracks, or two places, at once.
You are either focused on the good stuff about
attraction and meeting a woman or you are focused
on your fears.
But most guys end up focusing on the
endless fears. The fear that the girl might
make FUN of them, or the fear that the girl
might reject them, or the fear that the girl
might look DOWN on the fact he isn't
wealthy or even have a "decent" or
"cool" job.
Or even the fear that the girl might LIKE him
and the ENSUING fear that he might not be
able to deal with a possible BREAK-UP if it
doesn't work LONG TERM!
Or the fear that his "FRIENDS" might not approve
of the girl, or that his "friends" might not approve
of the fact he even HAS the skill to pull the kind
of women he desires. (This is usually just the
"friends" being jealous, of course.)
Or the fear he might GET her into bed,
but that he might not be able to "do magic"
to her satisfaction, and the fear she will
think lowly of him or that she will feel
sorry for him or whatever.
It's amazing, because the reality is that
it's no wonder most guys don't go for
it, and also that even if they do go for it,
they stop trying to LEARN how to get
better as soon as they encounter the tiniest
bit of emotional pain.
Most guys have WAY MORE FEARS
attached to GETTING the girl, than they
have associated with AVOIDING the girl!
The worst thing that happens from AVOIDING
getting the girl is that he simply doesn't get the
girl, but at least he gets a heck of a lot of
SECURITY!!!! He is PROTECTED.
And he focuses on THAT which he has gained.
"Security from emotional pain".
And of course, you ARE what you THINK
and DO. So if you want to be ruled by
your FEARS, just FOCUS on them.
This is why it's not a coincidence that most
guys will just keep talking or thinking about
how doing pick up is just "too tiring", "too time
consuming", and how "all women are flaky"
or "b****es", and about a million other
reasons why it's not worth it.
It's because they've focused on all the things
they want to AVOID. And haven't focused
on what they can GAIN.
The reality is, whether you think it's worth
it, or you think it's not, you are RIGHT.
So while one guy is happily thinking of
how awesome it's going to be getting
to know her, getting her clothes off and
having her laughing and kissing him,
and having great times, the other guy is
just in the land of darkness, fear, and
desolation.
If you focus on why it's NOT worth it
to get the girl, then you will REALLY
feel it's not. And if you focus on why
it IS worth it, you will feel it most
definitely IS.
Another thing: The reasons that guys
give as excuses for why it's not worth it
to get the skills with women, well those
reasons unfortunately tend to all boil down
to wanting to AVOID any emotional pain.
The thing is you can't get ANYTHING
worthwhile in life without putting something
INTO IT!!!!
Seriously, you can't get ANYTHING in
life without INPUT.
You want to get in shape?
Forget the late night ads that promise
you otherwise, you have to haul your
butt into the gym. You have
to watch what you eat.
You want to excel in school?
You have to do your damn homework,
you have to study.
You want to get somewhere in your
business or work? You have to put
IN thought, work, effort, time.
Why the heck would being GREAT with
women be any different????
The greatest hogwash we were sold as kids
was the idea that you will get a woman that
you find attractive just because you are a
good guy. As if being a good guy came with
a free ticket for at least one awesome woman.
But being a good or a bad guy has nothing to
do with it. It's about having the development,
END OF STORY.
The other thing regarding all this "wanting
to avoid emotional pain" is that it's mostly
A LOAD OF BULL anyway.
It's a load of bull because part of the skills
of attracting the kind of women you want
involves BUILDING UP YOUR RESISTANCE
to all that crap, and all those fears, so that
in fact pretty soon you ENJOY the process,
and it's more of an ADRENALINE rush
than anything else.
Just like after you get into working out, it's
something challenging and INTENSE but that
you ENJOY in an exhilarating way rather than
something that is PAINFUL.
And, just like working out, you don't always
feel like JUMPING into the gym, but you're
always glad you did it on the way OUT.
You feel like you can't believe you were
thinking of NOT working out. And by
regularly working out, the weights feel
LIGHTER, and you want MORE
resistance, more challenging pressure,
you look FORWARD to it.
The challenges of life are what make
it FUN and exciting. Otherwise, you'd
be BORED.
Developing this stronger version of yourself
is GOOD FOR YOU anyway.
This is simply the kind of reality that
you will eventually want when you've
built yourself up to EMBRACE these
emotional "risks" with women. You
become so emotionally strong in this
area that you NEED the "emotional risks'"
or you would get BORED. Without these
"risks" or "challenges" it would be like
going to the gym and lifting paper clips!!
It would be ABSURD and boring as heck.
You would feel like a nerd if the situation
with women DIDN'T involve these
"challenging" elements.
This is a PIVOTAL first step to make
on your journey to becoming AWESOME
with women. It is a major change of
PERSPECTIVE.
EMBRACE THE EMOTIONAL "CHALLENGES"!
It's necessary in order for you to stick around
long enough to get GREAT at these skills, it's also
good for you in general, and it also is attractive
to women in and of itself!
And once you make this change, you will
start finding more and more reasons that
prove that gaining the skills to attract the
women of your choice is the BEST decision
you've ever made in your LIFE.
Think about it:
The biggest reason why MOST guys want
to make loads of cash is to impress WOMEN.
The biggest reason why most guys act
competitive is to impress WOMEN.
The biggest reason why guys spend their
LIFE trying to accumulate wealth and fame
and prestige and titles ultimately is to impress
WOMEN.
What if you could BYPASS all that stuff and
just go STRAIGHT to getting the women???
Imagine how much more FUN and EFFICIENT
and RELAXING life would be!!!!
If you would like to do exactly that and bypass
all the other stuff that guys spend their LIFE
on and instead just get STRAIGHT to attracting
the kind of women you really want, then I suggest
you get my program WARRIOR WITHIN immediately, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my
ATTRACTION MASTERY program, then do
that FIRST, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
Both of these programs are ESSENTIAL for your
total success with women.
And if you haven't already downloaded my book,
'The Dating Wizard' then start THERE first, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
it's one that I think EVERY GUY
should watch.
It's NOT an EASY film to watch.
It's called The Curious Case of
Benjamin Button.
It is actually disturbing, yet that
is the very reason for its merit.
Sometimes disturbing is worth it
if it drives home a worthy POINT.
Without giving the story away,
it shows you the value of TIME.
No matter who you think out there has it
"ALL" the truth is, he doesn't.
NO ONE DOES.
No one has enough TIME.
I'm not here to depress you, I'm here to
EMPOWER you to let you know that
if getting a great woman is something
you CARE about, then there is NO
EXCUSE ON THIS PLANET to not
be TAKING CARE OF THIS ISSUE.
You CAN get it, and the ONLY thing
holding you back is your perception
that you have something to LOSE
by taking action.
The reality is that you have nothing to
lose, because the ONLY losing strategy
is NOT taking action.
People behave as if they are going to be
on this planet forever, as if there is
something so precious that can be LOST
by taking action, but the truth is, one
day we are going to have to PART
with EVERYTHING, so why not
MILK THIS LIFE AND ENJOY IT
FOR EVERY LAST DROP????????
You have NOTHING to lose, except precious
TIME if you DON'T take action.
It's time to change your perception to the
CORRECT perception, and the perception
that actually gets you results.
You know, there is one major TRAIT that
some guys have that gets them the woman
they are interested in.
The guys withOUT this trait only get the woman
that happens to ALREADY "come on" to them,
(which is usually NOT the woman that the guy
WANTS) so for those guys, it's all a matter of
LUCK.
This one magical TRAIT that GETS guys results
is responsible for a "domino" effect, a chain reaction
of events and learned skills that lead to ultimately
GETTING the girl.
What is this trait?
It's GLADLY ACCEPTING ANY EMOTIONAL
"PRESSURES" that MAY be involved in GETTING
the GIRL, because the REWARD OUTWEIGHS
all the rest.
Yes, accepting and ENJOYING ALL the
emotional RISKS/PRESSURES/CHALLENGES
is then considered WORTH IT, and in fact the
FUN becomes the primary focus, not
the emotional "cost".
The "price" becomes a JOKE compared to
the price of NOT taking action.
You have to decide which track of thinking
you want to travel on.
You can't be in two tracks, or two places, at once.
You are either focused on the good stuff about
attraction and meeting a woman or you are focused
on your fears.
But most guys end up focusing on the
endless fears. The fear that the girl might
make FUN of them, or the fear that the girl
might reject them, or the fear that the girl
might look DOWN on the fact he isn't
wealthy or even have a "decent" or
"cool" job.
Or even the fear that the girl might LIKE him
and the ENSUING fear that he might not be
able to deal with a possible BREAK-UP if it
doesn't work LONG TERM!
Or the fear that his "FRIENDS" might not approve
of the girl, or that his "friends" might not approve
of the fact he even HAS the skill to pull the kind
of women he desires. (This is usually just the
"friends" being jealous, of course.)
Or the fear he might GET her into bed,
but that he might not be able to "do magic"
to her satisfaction, and the fear she will
think lowly of him or that she will feel
sorry for him or whatever.
It's amazing, because the reality is that
it's no wonder most guys don't go for
it, and also that even if they do go for it,
they stop trying to LEARN how to get
better as soon as they encounter the tiniest
bit of emotional pain.
Most guys have WAY MORE FEARS
attached to GETTING the girl, than they
have associated with AVOIDING the girl!
The worst thing that happens from AVOIDING
getting the girl is that he simply doesn't get the
girl, but at least he gets a heck of a lot of
SECURITY!!!! He is PROTECTED.
And he focuses on THAT which he has gained.
"Security from emotional pain".
And of course, you ARE what you THINK
and DO. So if you want to be ruled by
your FEARS, just FOCUS on them.
This is why it's not a coincidence that most
guys will just keep talking or thinking about
how doing pick up is just "too tiring", "too time
consuming", and how "all women are flaky"
or "b****es", and about a million other
reasons why it's not worth it.
It's because they've focused on all the things
they want to AVOID. And haven't focused
on what they can GAIN.
The reality is, whether you think it's worth
it, or you think it's not, you are RIGHT.
So while one guy is happily thinking of
how awesome it's going to be getting
to know her, getting her clothes off and
having her laughing and kissing him,
and having great times, the other guy is
just in the land of darkness, fear, and
desolation.
If you focus on why it's NOT worth it
to get the girl, then you will REALLY
feel it's not. And if you focus on why
it IS worth it, you will feel it most
definitely IS.
Another thing: The reasons that guys
give as excuses for why it's not worth it
to get the skills with women, well those
reasons unfortunately tend to all boil down
to wanting to AVOID any emotional pain.
The thing is you can't get ANYTHING
worthwhile in life without putting something
INTO IT!!!!
Seriously, you can't get ANYTHING in
life without INPUT.
You want to get in shape?
Forget the late night ads that promise
you otherwise, you have to haul your
butt into the gym. You have
to watch what you eat.
You want to excel in school?
You have to do your damn homework,
you have to study.
You want to get somewhere in your
business or work? You have to put
IN thought, work, effort, time.
Why the heck would being GREAT with
women be any different????
The greatest hogwash we were sold as kids
was the idea that you will get a woman that
you find attractive just because you are a
good guy. As if being a good guy came with
a free ticket for at least one awesome woman.
But being a good or a bad guy has nothing to
do with it. It's about having the development,
END OF STORY.
The other thing regarding all this "wanting
to avoid emotional pain" is that it's mostly
A LOAD OF BULL anyway.
It's a load of bull because part of the skills
of attracting the kind of women you want
involves BUILDING UP YOUR RESISTANCE
to all that crap, and all those fears, so that
in fact pretty soon you ENJOY the process,
and it's more of an ADRENALINE rush
than anything else.
Just like after you get into working out, it's
something challenging and INTENSE but that
you ENJOY in an exhilarating way rather than
something that is PAINFUL.
And, just like working out, you don't always
feel like JUMPING into the gym, but you're
always glad you did it on the way OUT.
You feel like you can't believe you were
thinking of NOT working out. And by
regularly working out, the weights feel
LIGHTER, and you want MORE
resistance, more challenging pressure,
you look FORWARD to it.
The challenges of life are what make
it FUN and exciting. Otherwise, you'd
be BORED.
Developing this stronger version of yourself
is GOOD FOR YOU anyway.
This is simply the kind of reality that
you will eventually want when you've
built yourself up to EMBRACE these
emotional "risks" with women. You
become so emotionally strong in this
area that you NEED the "emotional risks'"
or you would get BORED. Without these
"risks" or "challenges" it would be like
going to the gym and lifting paper clips!!
It would be ABSURD and boring as heck.
You would feel like a nerd if the situation
with women DIDN'T involve these
"challenging" elements.
This is a PIVOTAL first step to make
on your journey to becoming AWESOME
with women. It is a major change of
PERSPECTIVE.
EMBRACE THE EMOTIONAL "CHALLENGES"!
It's necessary in order for you to stick around
long enough to get GREAT at these skills, it's also
good for you in general, and it also is attractive
to women in and of itself!
And once you make this change, you will
start finding more and more reasons that
prove that gaining the skills to attract the
women of your choice is the BEST decision
you've ever made in your LIFE.
Think about it:
The biggest reason why MOST guys want
to make loads of cash is to impress WOMEN.
The biggest reason why most guys act
competitive is to impress WOMEN.
The biggest reason why guys spend their
LIFE trying to accumulate wealth and fame
and prestige and titles ultimately is to impress
WOMEN.
What if you could BYPASS all that stuff and
just go STRAIGHT to getting the women???
Imagine how much more FUN and EFFICIENT
and RELAXING life would be!!!!
If you would like to do exactly that and bypass
all the other stuff that guys spend their LIFE
on and instead just get STRAIGHT to attracting
the kind of women you really want, then I suggest
you get my program WARRIOR WITHIN immediately, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my
ATTRACTION MASTERY program, then do
that FIRST, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
Both of these programs are ESSENTIAL for your
total success with women.
And if you haven't already downloaded my book,
'The Dating Wizard' then start THERE first, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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